Ladies listen to him! I came back here to say that all the things this man said in the years are true! Ive finally met the right one after 28 years of no relationship because i did not settle for less then what Tony said is right. I never have to worry about my mans intention.
Watched ALL of your videos on how to date after going back and forth with grown boys for about 5 years. Met my new guy in 2022, followed your advice, got engaged after 16 months of dating, and now we’re getting married next month❤
My husband is quiet and he pursued me to the nth degree. Tony is right. My husband contacted me everyday and wanted to see me everyday even if it was for a few minutes to an hour. I was floored. I never had this happen before. It was so clear. He also said he wanted to be exclusive in the first week. Never has a man been so clear and intentional. I knew he was my husband. He made me and my family a priority. He enjoyed me. Every other relationship prior to him made me question where I stood. With my husband, there were no questions. I knew he was into me and that he wanted me. He asked me to be his wife, and I said yes. I can't imagine my life without him. God sent him to me and made him just for me.
@@BashaerB-h2c Thank you! It's a miracle. First marriage for me at 46. I honestly thought I would never get married. If you desire marriage, God can do it for you too! Keep living for Him and He will surprise you with your husband when you least expect it!
My daughter is non-verbal and I understand most of what she relays. If you are confused about a man and his behaviors, that's on purpose. He doesn't want you.
“If you have to wonder if he is serious he isn’t”. That was a whole sermon!!😮I have met so many moms and friends and still had my time wasted. Ladies listen to this message 5xs
This. I believe women get massively misinformed on a daily basis. Like, they hear all that BS about: "Oh this man is shy, you should reach out to him", "Oh, he is just a busy person, so many obligations at work and stuff". Well, sister, I can bet that when this guy meets another chick he's interested in, he WILL pursue her.
Everything you said is true. I remember when o first started listening to you a few years back. The guy I was with, we were together for over 7 years. I was listening to you about marriage. I had him listening to you. He became immediately defensive about you, which was a red flag. Any how, that relationship ended and I got married to my now husband for almost 2 years. It took him less than a year to propose, and we married immediately after. Thanks again Tony from Toni!
I dated a man who used to click me into his phone calls that came in when we were talking...it was long distance and I loved the way he built that trust between us.
100% Tony, my man pursued me to the nth degree when we met, there was no question in my mind that he wanted me and he still shows it everyday. There will be no question ladies! None. Intentions are clear as day, consistent, and communicated.
My fiancée is in the Marines…even if he’s in the mountains he finds a way to reach out to me in the day or let me know when I’ll hear from him next. It’s the best feeling ever.
a man will be like “i want you to be my wife”. they will look you in the eye and be serious and they will also show you and make efforts to please you. and if you tell them your concerns, they will try to fix it. men are quite simple, we women then to be complicated
That’s why I don’t take men seriously unless they do a lot to prove themselves. If he doesn’t do that he is just looking for a woman to be the flavor of the month. They are not serious.
Like Mr Tony said..."if Barrack has time for Michelle...your man should have time for you". If you ever have to wonder if your man wants you or not...he don't want you.
@@Michellemybell739 Yes ok but as President he still made time for her despite the fact he had millions of people to check for. Again...men give and show interest to anything or person that he's interested in...if a President can find time who is our regular everyday boyfriend with regular jobs that can't find time? I stand on what I quoted from Mr Tony....and I stand tall and strong.
This is on point and this is how my husband was! Intentional from the beginning. No confusion, no run around, never had to guess because there was a pursuit and a declaration. Other men before played every game in the book and left me wondering and guessing!
"If you ever have to wonder if a man is serious about you, he isn't" Tony, I've heard SO many men, including Pastors, ATTEMPT to answer this & your statement is #1 & leaves NO ROOM for confusion! 💯🎯🔥❤️🙏🏽
💯‼️agree Mr. Gaskins “When we want something we go after it” If you’re it you’ll be it, and if not you’re just not. Sometimes we get so caught up in the nos we miss out on God trying to send us our yes(the husband)
Video ideas: how to let a man know you are giving grace without him thinking you're weak bc you are talking it through instead of having a hard punishiment for non life threatening situations?
I have 3 sons and I told them do NOT bring a lot of different girls or women to my house. One women is enough. And if it's not a serious relationship I don't want to me her. I must say they understood well. I'm listening very well ❤
Too many women are in the permanent engagement arrangement. If you have been dating a man for 18 months, and he gets around to proposing, don't wait another 18 months or more for the actual marriage to take place.
@@HunnyBunnyBaby20 He’s buying more time to make an excuse or to dangle the carrot further. What you’re referring to is called a “ shut up ring”. It’s a ring that promises marriage that’ll never happen just so you can stop complaining about it. It’s up to us women to walk away because people will use you until you leave
9:49 - My now fiancé asked me to be his girlfriend 4 months after meeting. We got engaged 3 years into dating and will be married by our 5 year anniversary. ❤
We became official Boyfriend and Girlfriend after 6 months and I was feeling insecure why it took him so long. We got engaged after 3 years and I was insecure as well why it took him so long. Now I am wondering when he’s ready to marry and he says marrying is not going to change anything but he’ll do it because it’s important to me and that He’s not ready to marry right now because he wants to be more financially stable. I’m feeling like I need to make my Plan B after I graduate from nursing school in 1 year in a half to move on . If he still thinks this way , I’m gone. I wish he would marry me because he wants to , not because it’s important to me
It sounds like you are a great woman, and your boyfriend knows this, but he doesn't want to marry you. If he wanted to marry you, he would earn the money he says he needs and not make excuses. You don't have to settle. Marry a man who is excited to marry you and not one who says they are doing you a favor. You can do better.
I could be wrong but i agree with your plan b your having to wonder to much as tony said in the video and he said in another money dont stop them tony was flat broke when he married his wife
I don't think you should move on if he is a good man and actively working towards his goals. Sometimes we have to mature in one area in order to take a step in another area, if that makes sense. But he seems to really love and care about you so trust God's timing! ❤
Thank you Brother TG!! I will listen to this video many more times. I’m not currently dating, but I know my husband is on the way. I’m trusting God, and staying out of His way. He doesn’t need my help; all I need to do is be obedient to Him.
The way Tony G. Said "How many times have you failed a diet" "How many times you said you were gonna lose 20 and gained 10" 😮 Tony u aint playing. He was so serious about it. I felt that in my spirit.
Thank you for this message. Single is not a curse just arrived in the mail. I believe I’m on page 6. I look forward to making those necessary changes and also putting the knowledge to work!!! Best wishes to you and your wife with the new business.
There are just too many men in the world to be trippin' over one lol!!! But, definitely, a guy who'd be my husband is a guy with "husband" energy. If that guy doesn't have a husband's energy, he's not my husband, point blank, period!!!! lol 😈😈😈🤣🤣🤣😍❤️🙏🤪
I have always felt sorry for women in these 5-10 years + relationships. It doesn't take that long to know if you want to marry someone, unless the couple started dating in middle school!
What do you mean? Long term relationship is a marriage, a marriage is a union that God(Jah) invented/ forms, it’s basically an unbreakable bond.. so a ring is not a requirement it’s about the love, and trust , and commitment plus every relationship is different no need to compare.
@@ashleykathryn9038 Yeah I told him sorry and no lol I’m married now. That man is probably still in and out of jail till this day since I was 23. I’m 33 now lol
Yes this video could have been 10 seconds long. If a man wants to be with/ marry you wouldn’t have to ask which is the short answer. However I prefer the long answer with all the details and caveats. Knowing the why and how just makes more sense and helps me to apply what I need to because I know why I’m doing it. Thank you Tony for the wisdom!
It's actually very simple and easy to know if a man is serious about you as a women or not. Just by having boundaries and simple principles. All you have to do is letting them know on day one, they will have to show proof on employment, incomes, marital status, be ready to met and be introduced to your dad and parents after a few dates. The most important one is that no sex , touching , kissing would be involves , before engagements , family unions and marriage.
Hi Tony, I've listened to my favorite video from you and it changed my life. When I wake up, I read my Bible, go straight to the gym, journal, and focus on my day. Thank you for that advice! 💜
Big Sean announced earlier he wasn’t ready to MARRY Jhene Aiko when she’s been with him for at least 6 years and they have a baby together. I would be embarrassed for her because life’s tooooo short, but to string a woman along and she had your baby too!? Nah…he ain’t ever gonna be husband material. Smh. Keep it movin. 💯
Thank you Tony for the input . I’m in my 60,s and I’m listening. Thank you .. married Once, Husband and I separated,, years later separated then he passed 3 years ago. So now here I am dating again 🤷🏽♀️
Thank you SOOOOOOOOO very much for posting this video. My bf and I transitioned from a 10-hr LDR (17mo) to a 45min drive [within same state's metro limits] We are GROWN-GROWN, career-holding, bills-paying adults. However, after much deliberation & prayer, I bit the bullet and moved (10hours), uprooted everything, and I am believing by Faith for our futures to be bright, merged, etc. I am very thankful for this video, as it provides a reality check for why one's desired outcome may take longer. While I won't wait forever, I have not walked away despite not being engaged. My hope & sincere prayer is for God to bless us to be engaged sooner than later (especially given my most recent efforts). My prayer is that he proposes SOON, and that he is ready for and desires marriage with me.
My mother’s coworker, a man, quit his job and proposed to his girlfriend. I think they were at the two year mark. Apparently, he found a job where she was living. 👀😂 I do not believe she relocated to get a reaction out of him either. Like you she saw a lucrative opportunity, and she took it! I believe they have been married for several years now. God’s Blessings to you.
My ex was the same way, exactly, down to asking me to marry him. Found out he was sleeping with transgenders and flirting with all the new women at his job and he confessed he slept with someone on me and I had no clue because we were good friends, and in love love. These men are slick, they will do all of thee above and still cheat
😂😂😂on the moon on mars in a submarine !!! Ok sir that leaves no excuses !!!! I appreciated this so much ! My bf literally makes times NO MATTER what he’s doing ! He’s let his intentions be known in the first 3 months . He’s such a good man . When he pops that question An unequivocal YES will be given !
I’ve listened to Cindy trimm speak on her relationship in the dating season. He lived in the Bahamas or something and was still faithful it takes maturity. As far as a long distance if the person is like 3 hours away to me is not long distance. Long distance is if that person lives in another state
Tony, I just want to praise you for doing the Lords work. I have been quite upset recently yet again with a person who I thought I was going to date. You have many many videos on relationships but I like when there are those videos that are 🎯 clear reminders and to recap so that the enemy doesn't reel you back in to what you've asked the Lord for deliverance from. 🙏🏽
A man will want to marry you, of course, for his own benefit, he sees your good heart, and he knows it will benefit him.Yes, he wants to be married with you , he is even going to push for marriage because you have everything he doesn't. He didn't amount to anything all his life, but 6 children with 5 different women. Not to judge, but yes, he sees in you his salvation for the older years. I don't know, you all forgive me, now. I consider marriage to be the most important and the biggest decision in your life. Be careful... don't ruin your life!
maramaria, I think this is so true and needs to be definitly considered and a woman should factor in what he really wanting from me. alot of guys these days are opportunistic and will rush and blind side a women into marriage before the woman realize she is being bamboozled.
Man oh Man ! Everything this man is saying in true ! Dude been on my hip from our first date … told me straight up .. I’m going to marry you ! I said WHAT ! And laughed to myself… it’s been two months and I just met his family ……he makes time … he will work a double and still make time for ME ! ❤..
Tony is right. I remember one time and one time only, I called my then boyfriend's mom, crying my eyes out about something that had happened, something he refused to do. Yea, she listened, but hindsight she was absolutely oblivious to my emotions. At the end of day, her loyalty was with her son. Yea, she talked to him, but it was only to ask him, "Are you okay...tell me what happened." Coddling behavior. Smh. But like I said, that was one time AND ONE time only. Lesson learned. But now that I have a son I understand 😂 Cause heffa...why you telling me what my son did....or didn't do. I don't wanna hear it! 😂 Nah, Nah, I tease, we're raising him right. Thanks Tony!!! Keep dropping the gems.
Your videos are great and I take them very seriously. Could I kindly request something from you if you do get to read this message - I’m 39, female, never married, no kids, but I’m praying for a Godly man and hoping I can one day have a child of my own God willing. Can you please do a video on women that are around my age and what to expect from both sides.. do men go for women my age based on your expert knowledge? If you could help, I’d really appreciate it 🙏🏼 thanking you kindly and God Bless 😊
Thank you Tony, this helped me in many ways than one. I’ve been dating this man for almost 3 months now & he’s exhibiting all of these traits & behaviors . I’m very hopeful of this ☺️
Tony you did not have to stare into the camera like that. I feel attacked 😂😂😂😂😂😂. That’s how my daddy used to look at me when I did something silly 25:30
I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday because we've been together for 2.5 years and he refuses to even talk about marriage. We're both 30 years old. I was fed up with his lack of commitment especially since I've been nothing but good to him.
Tony don’t agree with those who oppose your message. Your message is your message and if they don’t like it then they aren’t ready for a marriage because marriage is work. If women aren’t able or willing to show her potential husband that he can trust her then they simply aren’t ready for marriage because these practices will still need to happen while in marriage if not divorce will be in their future. Thanks for sharing your experiences and stay encouraged. Ignore those who aren’t willing to grow.
I’m glad that you elaborate because you gave us diff scenarios which is good because everyone’s situation isn’t the same. Some may not like it because you may have said something they didn’t like or want to hear. 🤷🏽♀️
How do you know in dating at the beginning stages "before it's exclusive" (first 2 months) When a man is making adjustments bc he's trying to be the best version for you so you can let your guard down and he can take advantage of you vs a man trying to be his best version and who is really adjusting and changing for you so that you can let your guard feel safe and secure with him?
The first few months, he can adjust all he wants. Don't sleep with him. His actions should be clear. You shouldn't be confused by his behavior or actions, if so, he's not ready to be in a relationship with you.
You simply observe. Wait till 4 months, you will know and see his true colors. You don't really know anyone, Including friends at 2 months, so vet people for atleast 4 months.
For the ladies and gentlemen that have been following Mr. Gaskins advise and are now engaged or married please share your testimonies to encourage those of us that are still praying and believing for marriage. Thank you ❤
Thanks for your straight forward advice. You had my full attention the whole time n had me cracking up. I feel better about my new relationship because everything you stated is on track. He’s been a sweetheart and told me how he’s felt but I’ve got my own fears that tell me it’s to good to be true.
Wow well I finally found my person after dating so many narcissist’s. He makes time for me every day & he is currently in the Military. When we first met & started talking he was already calling me his wife. ❤
Ladies listen to him! I came back here to say that all the things this man said in the years are true! Ive finally met the right one after 28 years of no relationship because i did not settle for less then what Tony said is right. I never have to worry about my mans intention.
Watched ALL of your videos on how to date after going back and forth with grown boys for about 5 years. Met my new guy in 2022, followed your advice, got engaged after 16 months of dating, and now we’re getting married next month❤
Congratulations 💗✝️😊
Congratulations!!!! 🎊🍾🎉🎈
🎉🎉🎉 Congratulations 🎊 👏 💐 🥳
Congratulations
Wow! Congratulations 🎈🍾🎉🎊😁
My husband is quiet and he pursued me to the nth degree. Tony is right. My husband contacted me everyday and wanted to see me everyday even if it was for a few minutes to an hour. I was floored. I never had this happen before. It was so clear. He also said he wanted to be exclusive in the first week. Never has a man been so clear and intentional. I knew he was my husband. He made me and my family a priority. He enjoyed me. Every other relationship prior to him made me question where I stood. With my husband, there were no questions. I knew he was into me and that he wanted me. He asked me to be his wife, and I said yes. I can't imagine my life without him. God sent him to me and made him just for me.
God bless! This is soooo cute and makes me hopefully 😭 I hope for you a happy and long lasting marriage. We need more happy examples in this world.
@@BashaerB-h2c Thank you! It's a miracle. First marriage for me at 46. I honestly thought I would never get married. If you desire marriage, God can do it for you too! Keep living for Him and He will surprise you with your husband when you least expect it!
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But was it love at first sight for you? or did his pursuing you make you fall in love?
God bless you and your union ❤
My daughter is non-verbal and I understand most of what she relays.
If you are confused about a man and his behaviors, that's on purpose. He doesn't want you.
True💯…. actions speak 🗣️
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😂 right
That's deep. 💯
🤣 FACTS
“If you have to wonder if he is serious he isn’t”. That was a whole sermon!!😮I have met so many moms and friends and still had my time wasted. Ladies listen to this message 5xs
This. I believe women get massively misinformed on a daily basis. Like, they hear all that BS about: "Oh this man is shy, you should reach out to him", "Oh, he is just a busy person, so many obligations at work and stuff". Well, sister, I can bet that when this guy meets another chick he's interested in, he WILL pursue her.
This video is now etched in my brain, I’m going to chuck those pics of my ex I’ve been holding on to, wondering what went wrong 😂😅
Ladies men are simple they know what they want period. If your'e confused, move on Sis.
100% . My man is a INTROVERT and im an extrovert. He STILL asked me out on dates and asked if we could be exclusive. No excuse!
Mines is an Introvert as well. But he gave me clarity.
Once you meet a good man that truly loves you, it becomes very easy to see what a man really loving you looks like
“He will REMOVE all doubt”….thats how you no 💯 👏🏽👍🏽
As good as the video is (I’m 18 mins in) that was really all we needed😂👏🏽
@@itsbeeva Ooh weeee 😂
*know but yesss 👏🏾
Exactly 👍 mine gave me clarity
My husband said he knew in the first conversation we had that I was his wife. He still pursues me.
100% I got engaged 6 days ago and all of the things Tony has said my fiancé did to show me he is serious.
Congratulations 🎉 I got engaged 7/11/24
Congratulations! God Bless!
Everything you said is true. I remember when o first started listening to you a few years back. The guy I was with, we were together for over 7 years. I was listening to you about marriage. I had him listening to you. He became immediately defensive about you, which was a red flag. Any how, that relationship ended and I got married to my now husband for almost 2 years. It took him less than a year to propose, and we married immediately after. Thanks again Tony from Toni!
I dated a man who used to click me into his phone calls that came in when we were talking...it was long distance and I loved the way he built that trust between us.
Ues inquiring minds want to lnow....
“For lack of a better term, shut up.” …This tickled me😂😂😂
know too x* much
I hollered 😂😂😂
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100% Tony, my man pursued me to the nth degree when we met, there was no question in my mind that he wanted me and he still shows it everyday. There will be no question ladies! None. Intentions are clear as day, consistent, and communicated.
Facts!!!
Exactly my fiancé did the same exact thing
My fiancée is in the Marines…even if he’s in the mountains he finds a way to reach out to me in the day or let me know when I’ll hear from him next. It’s the best feeling ever.
a man will be like “i want you to be my wife”. they will look you in the eye and be serious and they will also show you and make efforts to please you. and if you tell them your concerns, they will try to fix it. men are quite simple, we women then to be complicated
❤I agree with you.
That’s why I don’t take men seriously unless they do a lot to prove themselves. If he doesn’t do that he is just looking for a woman to be the flavor of the month. They are not serious.
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…and that is the majority of them💅🏾
About 15+ years ago, my dad introduced me to TG. So glad that he did!
Like Mr Tony said..."if Barrack has time for Michelle...your man should have time for you". If you ever have to wonder if your man wants you or not...he don't want you.
That’s kinda different. Michelle and Barack were already married by the time he became President.
@@Michellemybell739 Yes ok but as President he still made time for her despite the fact he had millions of people to check for. Again...men give and show interest to anything or person that he's interested in...if a President can find time who is our regular everyday boyfriend with regular jobs that can't find time? I stand on what I quoted from Mr Tony....and I stand tall and strong.
@@Michellemybell739right that's true
This is on point and this is how my husband was! Intentional from the beginning. No confusion, no run around, never had to guess because there was a pursuit and a declaration.
Other men before played every game in the book and left me wondering and guessing!
"If you ever have to wonder if a man is serious about you, he isn't" Tony, I've heard SO many men, including Pastors, ATTEMPT to answer this & your statement is #1 & leaves NO ROOM for confusion! 💯🎯🔥❤️🙏🏽
💯‼️agree Mr. Gaskins “When we want something we go after it” If you’re it you’ll be it, and if not you’re just not. Sometimes we get so caught up in the nos we miss out on God trying to send us our yes(the husband)
1000% agree with everything being said. That man is gonna let you know! Women like to overthink. Just take that man’s word and look at his actions!
And it's almost gotta be the OTHER WAY AROUND these days.... look at his actions first, THEN take his word 👀👀
@@10ille99 exactly!
"Show more than you tell." I love that advice! I've been practicing that in a lot of areas of my life. It makes so much sense. ❤
“Can a dog speak?” Alright sir…you preaching.
Video ideas: how to let a man know you are giving grace without him thinking you're weak bc you are talking it through instead of having a hard punishiment for non life threatening situations?
❤❤❤ Good Topic
THIS.
Yes please touch on this.
I have 3 sons and I told them do NOT bring a lot of different girls or women to my house. One women is enough. And if it's not a serious relationship I don't want to me her. I must say they understood well. I'm listening very well ❤
Too many women are in the permanent engagement arrangement. If you have been dating a man for 18 months, and he gets around to proposing, don't wait another 18 months or more for the actual marriage to take place.
@@susanstewart5194 yup. He’s just buying more time. The excuse I heard was that they need to buy a house first
@@charlinecharlostin3188more time for what? Why do men ask us to marry them if they don’t mean it??
@@HunnyBunnyBaby20 He’s buying more time to make an excuse or to dangle the carrot further. What you’re referring to is called a “ shut up ring”. It’s a ring that promises marriage that’ll never happen just so you can stop complaining about it. It’s up to us women to walk away because people will use you until you leave
9:49 - My now fiancé asked me to be his girlfriend 4 months after meeting. We got engaged 3 years into dating and will be married by our 5 year anniversary. ❤
We became official Boyfriend and Girlfriend after 6 months and I was feeling insecure why it took him so long. We got engaged after 3 years and I was insecure as well why it took him so long. Now I am wondering when he’s ready to marry and he says marrying is not going to change anything but he’ll do it because it’s important to me and that He’s not ready to marry right now because he wants to be more financially stable. I’m feeling like I need to make my Plan B after I graduate from nursing school in 1 year in a half to move on . If he still thinks this way , I’m gone. I wish he would marry me because he wants to , not because it’s important to me
It sounds like you are a great woman, and your boyfriend knows this, but he doesn't want to marry you. If he wanted to marry you, he would earn the money he says he needs and not make excuses. You don't have to settle. Marry a man who is excited to marry you and not one who says they are doing you a favor. You can do better.
I could be wrong but i agree with your plan b your having to wonder to much as tony said in the video and he said in another money dont stop them tony was flat broke when he married his wife
@@godisgood7334 I can imagine walking down the aisle getting married looking at him like he’s only being forced to marry me . Not a good feeling.
Don't let your boyfriend stop you from meeting your husband🧐
I don't think you should move on if he is a good man and actively working towards his goals. Sometimes we have to mature in one area in order to take a step in another area, if that makes sense. But he seems to really love and care about you so trust God's timing! ❤
Please don’t go back and forth with the negative people. You are a blessing to those of us who are willing to to learn and grow.
Thank you Brother TG!! I will listen to this video many more times. I’m not currently dating, but I know my husband is on the way.
I’m trusting God, and staying out of His way. He doesn’t need my help; all I need to do is be obedient to Him.
Tony described my mama and me perfectly, my brothers and my son were not allowed to run through women or bring every woman around
The way Tony G. Said "How many times have you failed a diet" "How many times you said you were gonna lose 20 and gained 10" 😮 Tony u aint playing. He was so serious about it. I felt that in my spirit.
Thank you for this message. Single is not a curse just arrived in the mail. I believe I’m on page 6. I look forward to making those necessary changes and also putting the knowledge to work!!! Best wishes to you and your wife with the new business.
There are just too many men in the world to be trippin' over one lol!!! But, definitely, a guy who'd be my husband is a guy with "husband" energy. If that guy doesn't have a husband's energy, he's not my husband, point blank, period!!!! lol 😈😈😈🤣🤣🤣😍❤️🙏🤪
This comment is abit….all over the place maybe immature. Respectfully
Yes Tony, moms do reinforce “grown boy behavior”. My mom does this with my brother. She had no problem meeting multiple girlfriends. 😣
I used to envy woman in long term relationship but now knowing what I know I feel sorry for them and I hope they have the courage to walk away. ❤
I have always felt sorry for women in these 5-10 years + relationships. It doesn't take that long to know if you want to marry someone, unless the couple started dating in middle school!
What do you mean? Long term relationship is a marriage, a marriage is a union that God(Jah) invented/ forms, it’s basically an unbreakable bond.. so a ring is not a requirement it’s about the love, and trust , and commitment plus every relationship is different no need to compare.
@@Diamond_InTheRufflong term relationships is marriage what on earth 😅
@@Didi-fr5icThey’re living in delulu land…
@@Diamond_InTheRuff It's not a marriage it's a waste of time, there's no benefits from it.
The last time a man wanted to marry me, he told me so. He made his feelings known ❤.
What was your response? I'm curious.
Yep I experienced the same thing but found it was because he knew he was about to be in jail again soon and wanted a place holder lol
@ashleycbla Ooof I'm sorry ❤️
@tchanell218 what was your response?
@@ashleykathryn9038 Yeah I told him sorry and no lol I’m married now. That man is probably still in and out of jail till this day since I was 23. I’m 33 now lol
Tony will kick you out of the comments so fast...lol...Love it!
Yes this video could have been 10 seconds long. If a man wants to be with/ marry you wouldn’t have to ask which is the short answer. However I prefer the long answer with all the details and caveats. Knowing the why and how just makes more sense and helps me to apply what I need to because I know why I’m doing it. Thank you Tony for the wisdom!
Right !
It's actually very simple and easy to know if a man is serious about you as a women or not. Just by having boundaries and simple principles. All you have to do is letting them know on day one, they will have to show proof on employment, incomes, marital status, be ready to met and be introduced to your dad and parents after a few dates. The most important one is that no sex , touching , kissing would be involves , before engagements , family unions and marriage.
Hi Tony, I've listened to my favorite video from you and it changed my life. When I wake up, I read my Bible, go straight to the gym, journal, and focus on my day. Thank you for that advice! 💜
THIS IS YOUR BEST VIDEO YET!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH TONY 🤍
I’m glad you mentioned that Tony, I been seeing a lot of bashing of females on social media lately. It’s crazy smh 🤦♀️
Big Sean announced earlier he wasn’t ready to MARRY Jhene Aiko when she’s been with him for at least 6 years and they have a baby together. I would be embarrassed for her because life’s tooooo short, but to string a woman along and she had your baby too!? Nah…he ain’t ever gonna be husband material. Smh. Keep it movin. 💯
I’ll do a video on it.
She played herself because she gave him everything what incentive does he have to propose at this moment
She is a place holder to a dead woman ! The woman he wanted to marry died and he simply is with her bc she’s allowing it
Yep Tony...I met the fam and friends after 3 months and still got played. Realized later, his mom was an enabler to his grown boy behavior.
Hey Tony Speech Therapist here I love this video❤
Thank you Tony for the input . I’m in my 60,s and I’m listening. Thank you .. married Once, Husband and I separated,, years later separated then he passed 3 years ago. So now here I am dating again 🤷🏽♀️
Thank you Tony... we are hear to learn and understand..
not here.... to argue and complain and debate..... keep preaching please..
Please listen to what Tony is saying because it is 💯 the truth!
Thank you SOOOOOOOOO very much for posting this video. My bf and I transitioned from a 10-hr LDR (17mo) to a 45min drive [within same state's metro limits] We are GROWN-GROWN, career-holding, bills-paying adults.
However, after much deliberation & prayer, I bit the bullet and moved (10hours), uprooted everything, and I am believing by Faith for our futures to be bright, merged, etc. I am very thankful for this video, as it provides a reality check for why one's desired outcome may take longer. While I won't wait forever, I have not walked away despite not being engaged. My hope & sincere prayer is for God to bless us to be engaged sooner than later (especially given my most recent efforts). My prayer is that he proposes SOON, and that he is ready for and desires marriage with me.
My mother’s coworker, a man, quit his job and proposed to his girlfriend. I think they were at the two year mark. Apparently, he found a job where she was living. 👀😂
I do not believe she relocated to get a reaction out of him either. Like you she saw a lucrative opportunity, and she took it! I believe they have been married for several years now. God’s Blessings to you.
😭😂😭I am that woman who takes everything literally 😭😭😭😭
And yes I do not have any male figures lol😭😭😭
You really have true discernment Mr.Gaskins
My ex was the same way, exactly, down to asking me to marry him. Found out he was sleeping with transgenders and flirting with all the new women at his job and he confessed he slept with someone on me and I had no clue because we were good friends, and in love love. These men are slick, they will do all of thee above and still cheat
“I don’t know if that’s a word but it sounds good”’LMAO I love Tony 🤣🤣
😂😂😂on the moon on mars in a submarine !!! Ok sir that leaves no excuses !!!! I appreciated this so much ! My bf literally makes times NO MATTER what he’s doing ! He’s let his intentions be known in the first 3 months . He’s such a good man . When he pops that question An unequivocal YES will be given !
Thank you for keeping us accountable & reminding us that it takes time to change
Wow, Tony! I’m sitting listening to you really take the time to help heal the injured. I thank GOD for you! GOD Bless you!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THiS😊. EVERY WOMAN SHOULD WATCH THiS.
I’ve listened to Cindy trimm speak on her relationship in the dating season. He lived in the Bahamas or something and was still faithful it takes maturity. As far as a long distance if the person is like 3 hours away to me is not long distance. Long distance is if that person lives in another state
Long distance is if the distance is long. The distance makes it more difficult to see someone.
Tony, I just want to praise you for doing the Lords work. I have been quite upset recently yet again with a person who I thought I was going to date. You have many many videos on relationships but I like when there are those videos that are 🎯 clear reminders and to recap so that the enemy doesn't reel you back in to what you've asked the Lord for deliverance from. 🙏🏽
Yes! Say it Tony! You are articulate!
A man will want to marry you, of course, for his own benefit, he sees your good heart, and he knows it will benefit him.Yes, he wants to be married with you , he is even going to push for marriage because you have everything he doesn't. He didn't amount to anything all his life, but 6 children with 5 different women. Not to judge, but yes, he sees in you his salvation for the older years. I don't know, you all forgive me, now. I consider marriage to be the most important and the biggest decision in your life. Be careful... don't ruin your life!
@@maramariajarvis3425 “ He sees you as salvation for the older years.” SOOO GOOD !
maramaria, I think this is so true and needs to be definitly considered and a woman should factor in what he really wanting from me. alot of guys these days are opportunistic and will rush and blind side a women into marriage before the woman realize she is being bamboozled.
Man oh Man ! Everything this man is saying in true ! Dude been on my hip from our first date … told me straight up .. I’m going to marry you ! I said WHAT ! And laughed to myself… it’s been two months and I just met his family ……he makes time … he will work a double and still make time for ME ! ❤..
I had to come here for confirmation. Thank you for honesty. ❤
Tony is right.
I remember one time and one time only, I called my then boyfriend's mom, crying my eyes out about something that had happened, something he refused to do.
Yea, she listened, but hindsight she was absolutely oblivious to my emotions. At the end of day, her loyalty was with her son.
Yea, she talked to him, but it was only to ask him, "Are you okay...tell me what happened." Coddling behavior. Smh.
But like I said, that was one time AND ONE time only. Lesson learned.
But now that I have a son I understand 😂 Cause heffa...why you telling me what my son did....or didn't do. I don't wanna hear it! 😂 Nah, Nah, I tease, we're raising him right.
Thanks Tony!!! Keep dropping the gems.
3:00-3:20 😅hit harder than Tupacs opening line to "Hit 'em up" 😅😅😅
lol… u silly 😂😂😂
@@beefaye18 girl, I almost choked🤣
Your videos are great and I take them very seriously. Could I kindly request something from you if you do get to read this message - I’m 39, female, never married, no kids, but I’m praying for a Godly man and hoping I can one day have a child of my own God willing. Can you please do a video on women that are around my age and what to expect from both sides.. do men go for women my age based on your expert knowledge? If you could help, I’d really appreciate it 🙏🏼 thanking you kindly and God Bless 😊
Thank you for sharing. I got a lot out of this. I appreciate your time. Blessings to you and all the beautiful souls out there 🩵💙🕊🪽
Thank you Tony, this helped me in many ways than one. I’ve been dating this man for almost 3 months now & he’s exhibiting all of these traits & behaviors . I’m very hopeful of this ☺️
"Doctorate degree....and BROKE"😩🥴🤣🤣🤣 He said it so eloquently, I almost missed it😂
Tony you did not have to stare into the camera like that. I feel attacked 😂😂😂😂😂😂. That’s how my daddy used to look at me when I did something silly 25:30
Lol right
@@marilynking527 right 🤣🤣
Right! The pause was so long I had to go back and make sure the video was still playing 😂
😂😂😂😂
Me too😭😭
This is true. I dated my ex husband for 3 months. Then we moved in together. That relationship lasted 10 years.
I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday because we've been together for 2.5 years and he refuses to even talk about marriage. We're both 30 years old. I was fed up with his lack of commitment especially since I've been nothing but good to him.
I love all your books and youtube videos 😊
Tony don’t agree with those who oppose your message. Your message is your message and if they don’t like it then they aren’t ready for a marriage because marriage is work. If women aren’t able or willing to show her potential husband that he can trust her then they simply aren’t ready for marriage because these practices will still need to happen while in marriage if not divorce will be in their future. Thanks for sharing your experiences and stay encouraged. Ignore those who aren’t willing to grow.
You better speak 🗣️ brother !!
Teach Tony...I'm here to learn...thank you for your time
I’m glad that you elaborate because you gave us diff scenarios which is good because everyone’s situation isn’t the same. Some may not like it because you may have said something they didn’t like or want to hear. 🤷🏽♀️
I don’t have any clue anymore to much complications today is ridiculous
Thank you Tony for keeping me out of delulu🙏🏾
Hi Tony ! Great video!! I bet a book from you about this topic would be great💕💕💕
Yes, Grace is key.
Thank you for the advice
Great info Tony… I never understand why content creators give energy to the negative commentors… there’s soooo much positive to highlight…ijs ❤❤
Tony can you do a topic more on long distance relationships? In the past, you've always said long distance relationships aren't real.
😂😅 you got me there 6:15😅 for real
Great info, including the part about keeping it positive for those seeking growth.
Facts!!!! I'm a witness!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🤸🏾♀️🤸🏾♀️🤸🏾♀️👐🏽👐🏽👐🏽
How do you know in dating at the beginning stages "before it's exclusive" (first 2 months) When a man is making adjustments bc he's trying to be the best version for you so you can let your guard down and he can take advantage of you vs a man trying to be his best version and who is really adjusting and changing for you so that you can let your guard feel safe and secure with him?
Same This Is Where Iam Now As Im Healing I Noticed Guys Doing That aand It Just Feels Fake‼️ But So Hard To Tell
The first few months, he can adjust all he wants. Don't sleep with him. His actions should be clear. You shouldn't be confused by his behavior or actions, if so, he's not ready to be in a relationship with you.
..as long as you keep your legs closed till marriage, that shouldn’t affect you 🙏🏾
@@DaintyAbby Exactly! As soon as we open our legs everything just becomes confusing and we stop thinking clearly
You simply observe. Wait till 4 months, you will know and see his true colors. You don't really know anyone, Including friends at 2 months, so vet people for atleast 4 months.
This is so helpful Mr. Gaskin’s. I appreciate you!
This is very informative.
For the ladies and gentlemen that have been following Mr. Gaskins advise and are now engaged or married please share your testimonies to encourage those of us that are still praying and believing for marriage. Thank you ❤
Can you make it shorter? or with these bulllet point moments? because it’s too long but Imma check it up now
Powerful teaching Mr. Gaskins thank you for your grace and patience Sir blessings to you and your family 🙏♥️
Thanks for your straight forward advice. You had my full attention the whole time n had me cracking up. I feel better about my new relationship because everything you stated is on track. He’s been a sweetheart and told me how he’s felt but I’ve got my own fears that tell me it’s to good to be true.
My husband persued me but NOT doing what it takes to keep me.
Wow well I finally found my person after dating so many narcissist’s.
He makes time for me every day & he is currently in the Military.
When we first met & started talking he was already calling me his wife. ❤
This was a good and informative video. Thank you!