Why you should end situationships?
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A situationship is a total waste of time, effort, and energy if you're seeking something real. It will drain you, have you overthinking, & clueless.
Amen
Yes Sis..we be playing ourself to be in stupid stuck..🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
True story
🎤🎤🎤🎤🎤🎤💯💯💯💯
So true
We always build him up for the next woman BUT let him tear US down for the next man. 💅🏽
True, that's why I stopped the build up
Wow!
Shaking my head... brutal
Whispering Acts yup this happen to me and oh this girl thought she was the “prize” but he also put her through hell also and told her she was a waste of time and called her a ho but I tried to warn her but she didn’t wanna listen, she thought she was better than me 🙄 she would try to make things up about me and wanted to fight me over a grown boy that was still trying to talk to me🙄🤦🏽♀️ they didn’t last and their relationship got so bad she had to move 5 hours away from him that’s how bad it was
Whispering Acts Girl he ain’t changed. He’s still the same just with a different woman.
i am a man and he is stating the truth
Thank you for your honesty
Thank you
Thank you
Thanks for the honesty!😊
Thank you also
"Waiting on him to come tell you a lie" Jesus!! That's the whole truth
Facts 💯
when a man tells you he doesnt want a relationship/marriage/children etc. it means he doesnt want a relationship/marriage/children etc. WITH YOU. when he says he doesnt want a elationship/marriage/children etc. that is your cue to walk away immediately because he just told you that YOU are not good enough and you are just a place holder until he decides to get married to somebody else.
So what about him telling you that he wants you to have his babies and to be his wife but still cheats like hell, and still engages to you??
@@carlenemorgan8755 It doesn't really matter what he's saying if he's treating you like crap.
I need to read this every morning till i move on
That is @Carlene Morgan, that is my dilemma now. He says he wants me to be his wife n the mother of his kids, yet he’s ghosting n coming back like nothing happened, and asking me to give him time...
@@wendyworgu1368 block and travel💃
“Unless you’re willing to become a better man, you’re not going to find a better woman”. Word.
LinzToMySoul Say that Sis!! ❤️
That's the point they don't want a better woman because that means they have to do better which is not hard at all.
Love it!
The most important keywords in the video is "HE UNDERSTANDS." So many women continue arguing, lecturing & nagging men to death, assuming there's no way these men are aware of the damage they're causing. Ladies THEY know. They just don't care. Their love for meeting their own selfish needs outweighs any respect or love they may have for you. These men aren't powerless, clueless beings that are unaware of the damage they're causing. THEY KNOW. Accepting that hurts so bad, but it'll set you free a lot quicker. Why? B/c when you think a man is doing something b/c he doesn't know any better, it's in a woman's natural nature to spend the time to break it all down & go to great lengths to make a man understand. Problem is, 99% of the time, you're just preaching to the choir. These men are fully aware of what they're doing & to a degree, can we blame them? For every fuckboy, there's always a low self-esteem having chick who's chasing him, wants him or refuses to let him go. Those men have no reason to evolve or change b/c there's always gonna be a "you" around that enables them to continue being fuckboys with no real long term or life-altering consequences. And yes staying with a fuckboy is not only enabling him, it's REWARDING him for bad behavior. Just remember ladies, when a man betrays or disrespects you, it's not b/c they're not aware of what they're doing. Oh they know. It's just that our pride & egos struggle to admit that the man knew of the possible consequences & yet took the risk of losing us anyway. OUCH! That kinda raw truth hurts but it's necessary if you wanna take the blinders off, see a man/situation for what it truly is and heal. You can't heal unless your heart, pride & ego is ready to hear, acknowledge & accept some raw but ugly truths. Ladies, THEY KNOW!
hard to hear, but oh so right you are!
Bruised ego😏but you’re so right ‼️
Amen! This is so true. The truth can be devastatingly painful, but it doesn't change that it is truth.
They wont change, especially as they love what they do and are enabled to continue to do so..
And, honestly, I admit that I had a difficult time understanding that they MEAN it. I thought they did not know! But they do.... And when mine told his son to not do the things he does because they are WRONG (while claiming he no longer acts that way, but most certainly does) that struck me. He knows what he does is wrong - he just does not care. Ouch.
Time to move on....
*There are NO BENEFITS TO BEING FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS🗣
Not for women
The only person that benefits is the man
I enjoy mine. Probably because I’m not seeking a relationship with him. He fills a need. I will drop him like a bad habit if I meet someone worthy of a relationship which he is not. Good for sex though. I don’t expect a man to be what he’s not. Looking to make those type of men more is what got me hurt. I treat him and all men in accordance with our relationship. No love without reciprocation.
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@@indicajane4721 No offense but why would a real man respect a woman who entertains situationships? He will be looking at you like you are weak and have low self esteem.
Him leaving for good was the best thing he could have done for me
Yes mam he her issue I'm feeling myself in my beyonce voice
True
Hope he stays gone and you stay strong.
Terrasse Berry, I am glad you are listening!
Terrasse Berry totally agree with you girl!! GOOD RIDDANCE FOOL!! More power to you girly!! Muah❣️‼️❣️😚👸🏻👑💁🏻♀️💋💖💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
U need to have a whole man or a whole woman or have nothing at all. Powerful message
keish Palmer ‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
Exactly
Let me say this! Situationships is something I can’t do. I hate dating and I’m not about to give myself to someone who can’t commit. It’s so confusing... yuck.
Agreed but for me we were in a relationship, I figured out year one after moving in w him for 4 months he wasn’t my husband. From there spent the next 3 years in a relationship/situationship ... I always said never! But it’s happened... I learned a lot... one. Trust myself cause although he improved over the years... he just need TOOOOOO MUCH HELP! 🤣
Just got out of one what a train wreck that was
Im with you.. Dating is Crazy!!
@@angeleyes3386 but what if it's your bd that you in a situation in with? He's a good supportive man to his child but he gives me the bare minimum it's so confusing 😕
This Message Here...
Some women don’t believe they deserve better! How can you pray to God and NOT trust HIS design for your life?
Lisa Ross Right?!!🤨🤔
Right
Amen 🙏
Lisa Ross TRUE
Preach sis ❤
😂😂😂😩 I wish I found all this 7 years ago but it’s never too late to hit that 78mph
#BlessedTribe
What she☝🏾 said! At least the next Generation have the tools.
I wished I'd known this 20+years ago...u lucky you got it at 7...be strong sis....💜
😂 😂 😂 😂 😂
@@lerhondajones-bates3324 me too. 20 years ago I would have bypassed the fools and be married to the best man for me right now.
Tony had me laughing out loud.When people walk away from you let them walk.Your destiny is not tied to anyone that left.Mans rejection is God's protection.God bless you and your family.
That is a verse by TD Jacks.
Me too! Good stuff right there
Amen
Latoya Gentles TD Jakes is right.
He said Jesus told Mary “women no ye NOT” 😂😂 when he said that 😂
" You better laid and played! Listen to me naw! " 😂😂TG voice. He is not lying!
What the hell is wrong with men,? this is crazy, seem like something just wrong with y’all, all this damn mess we gotta go through, it’s just too much, the hell with it
I swear it’s so much to have to worry about! It does make u feel like! Just forget it all 🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
Neil Butcher are you a good catch? Or no
EXACTLY @ Nikkie_
Naw hun. We can no longer blame men . We attract who we are raise your standards and God will send a man who will rise to your standards. But you have to abstain from sex until marriage. Everyone won't have the same grace and be as fortunate to find love like Tony and his wife
I was in a relationship for 9 yrs.... I thought that was it. I thought we would be together forever. He started staying out late giving me all kinds of excuses. I started checking his phone and sit enough there were other woman.... I even called one of the number s and spoke to her...I just couldn’t believe he would do this to me. He tried to come back but he had lied so much. He married some girl he barely met and told me .... see now you’ll be sorry!
Tony I think you win the award of the funniest relationship coach there is. You win hands down🤣🤣🤣
Yeah I think he could've. been a great comedian
great comedians tell the truth
Girl his too much 😂😂😂...this wisdom is equally so great. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
agreed
🤣🤣🤣when he was saying "breaking news" I was cracking up! 😂
So glad you said it...especially when he does the voices 🤣
I was in a very dark place with a narcissist christian situationship were I wanted to kill myself. Really drain you & is not worthy. Learning to heal & love myself 💖
I was there 3yrs ago. Im still healing. I pray for your continued healing as it is a PROCESS.
@@musicmaker1311 same
I would MUCH rather accept that another woman has him than to hold on to him and never receive my blessing. I've seen the promised land!!! Nothing else will do. I don't feel like that at all. I sincerely thank you Tony. Be blessed.
Be Blessed.
This is a reminder to many women to not get bored with life and start re-connecting with grown boys that was once a thorn in their side!
Be blessed!
KT Robi wow! That’s a good way to put it! Out of boredom we will entertain old situations 😩😩😭🤦🏽♀️
Tony you cut-up with this message. I'm at the 24min mark. Tony God spirit is on you so continue to make your videos how long you want it to be.
😂😂😂😂 he did, I bursted out laughing. He stay cracking me up. I enjoy the long videos im Learning its over for these clowns.
Yes, please! We all the knowledge!
He hasn't change nothing he just tired.
AMEN!!!
Yep! Lol
Let that piece of a man go so God can send you a whole man ...you blessed me right there ..Tony you on 🔥🔥🔥🔥
See this happening at my work place. No relationship only situationship. Women need to love themselves more. Raise their expectations and stick to it.
This is why I will never build a man he should already have what it takes to have me
Amen, he should already be a WHOLE man by himself before finding a woman. A "Mr. Right" will make sure HE IS before finding his "Mrs. Right".
No, truly sorry
Love is a mutual building ❤️
He must be a godly Man
@@truthseeker7211 Finances is only 1/10 of the equation. Ck the foundation
Beginning year of a decade is 01
This is the End of the current one
A man that I was interested in told me he wasn't ready to have a girlfriend and settle down but still wanted to do boyfriend things with me (no cookies were given). After he told me that I never took him seriously and dated and got engaged to someone else.
Tony is a big brother to us for real❤️👍🏽👑👏🏾, he looks right at us and say: "Lissen ta mi nah" the next words bout to be REAL" 💯
Vee Cee ❤
🤣😂country self.
It's great to hear an enlightened male perspective. I love the "grown boy" reference. We have a lot of unhealed "boys" wearing men's suits. Be blessed.
Be blessed. I'm not competing with Casper and no one else.
So hard to swallow truth sometimes. I've felt a little sad/disappointed watching, But Wisdom is better than foolish pain. Growth is necessary!!!
Thanks for this long video ... I love it. I am so glad I walked away because he never would have. All the gray areas, lies and inconsistencies got out of hand. A lot of times men don't leave good women they will stick around and still do everything else outside the relationship that they want. You have to walk away. When they really get out here they'll figure it out just don't allow them to come back. Focus on yourself Life is too short.
Manipulative men almost teach/train us over time to hold onto for dear life and appreciate those little pieces/morsels they occasionally give us by making all the other times so bad, that even the smallest bit of love/affection they give us seems so monumental, that we start living in limbo, constantly looking forward to those moments. I think they call this trauma bonding? 🤷🏻♀️
HotMessMom TV What is trauma bonding?
Preaching! U know it took me to look at videos like this and learn about different love styles to learn just that!!! That’s exactly what it is!
The story of my life. Pretty much my last situation ship. After almost six months I decided that I deserved better.
@@thediabolicalempath7246 the best way I can think to explain it is when one partner (typically a narcissist) initially sweeps you off your feet, then over time, as they reveal that they can be really hateful, those instances when they're nice become so few and far between, that it naturally and probably subconsciously manipulates/"trains" us to treasure even the slightest bit of niceness they give us, that we might otherwise view as inadequate. I hope that makes sense. There are def a wealth of online resources/videos about trauma bonding/narcissistic or toxic relationships.
God has a whole man for me if I let go of the little piece of a no-good man I’m trying to hold on to. When he let me go, l should have let him go...l’ll speak this on repeat until etch into my soul. Thank you Mr Gaskins. God bless
Thanks for this 👏🏾 I needed this today. The red flags we choose to ignore at the beginning are the reasons it ends. I’m guilty
I wished I discovered this man when i was 20! Im 41 now and now suffering from a breakup.... Situationship........
Me too😮
At least you are not 62!
Let him go, so you can explore and find you. That right real love does not end.
just ended it with my fwb and did a quick lil youtube search to see if i could find a divine message. i skipped past every video except this one. thank you so much for the guidance. i feel immensely better
No more Bob the builder men ladies
AGREED 1 000 000 000
I was catching up with my great great aunt who is 95 soon to be., 96 .., where she shard one of her many stories with me ...she was married to a man for many years ..a man who had nothing ..and I mean nothing ...he apparently had hurt himself on the job and couldn't work ..she owned a lot of real estate at the time ...she said she didn't mind that he didn't work because he was good company ....and she was doing well .. 🤔🤔🤔 ...what could I say ..... Women had been doing this crap for a long time
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@@anointedstilettos Be Blessed !!
@@laronsnead1696 Be Blessed 💛
😂😂😂👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾
Love is the greatest gift of ALL TIME,,, I CAN'T WAIT TO EXPERIENCE IT 😔
I don't go past a couple of months, if he doesn't put effort into getting to know me, or knows what he wants from me, then he is history. Just let him go, it hurts but it will pass. The right man will move mountains to be with me, because I am an awesome strong beautiful woman. Was married to a narcissist for way too long but collected all my powers to leave despite all my fears.
I have learned to walk tall, walk away and value my feelings.
Dont be Lot's wife----looking back. You gonna keep on being salty.
Right! lol
Very profound
OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOH!
Silver Forestt amen I needed that . Just got dumped by my ex and I’m noticing he wants a situation-ship because he doesn’t want anyone to have me. What we are not going to do is have me in shackles while he is test driving other women. I had to let it go because I it’s only hurting me
Good play on words 😃
That “rest stop” analogy is everything. Be Blessed
When he started speaking in tongues i lost it😂😂 please stop interceding for people who don’t want to change 🗣
Thank you.
My last relationship broke me.
I only had courage to block this person today.after over9 months of no contact. I never loved this way before.
I kept my self for 16 years only to think I found love.
I need prsyer intersetion to heal and live again.
Thank you Tony.
You truly are walking in your purpose. This message is 100% accurate.
The parts I lost it on....
"He tied. He hungry. He thirsty. He look a mess, he stankin'"
"Come to Jesus moment, on the road to Damascus."
'"God did Not give them authorization! They doing it for click-bait!"-🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂
Facts if God dont approve it I dont want it
Brother Ton said listen 2 me now
“Seek first to understand, then be understood” ~Stephen Covey!! I am impressed with you, Tony 😊
Ended my situationship after a fake 3yrs and he came and tried to break in NYD. Funny because he said everything I had said “ I gave you almost 3 yrs, my heart was in this etc etc... 👋🏾
You're doing amazing sweetie...keep going
Monica Gibson girl i understand.... I ended mine after 3 years in a relationship and the last 6 months in a situationship. I’m so glad I let him go! Now he is chasing after me at least once a week. I ignore him and I’m giving my time and attention to the next one who is on the same page as me! Girl ignore him!
He's probably 'mirroring'. Refuse to be confused!
My friend just ended a fake 3 year union with a narcissist. Future-faking and cheating is all she received. Women can be in severe denial wanting what is fiction to be real.
Lace front needa be Laid & played 😭😭😭 Man you be cracking me up!!!
Love how you incorporate Humor too!😂😂😂
This is priceless! I am in this situation. It's been four months of him trying to meet with me and I have resisted mainly by listening to you. Thank you so much!
Excellent subject matter. Not only in a Love relationship, but in every ‘ship’ you have. 2020 although it’s been incredibly challenging , it has served to be a year of discovery, purge and reset.
"Rewind that! Listen to me"
Lawwwd! I got stuck on repeat! Took me about 7 times to hear ya! 🤣💯💀
I just died laughing 😂 when he started speaking in tongues
This man Tony helps me so much holy shit
So true. Ended my situation of two years with a married man that couldn't love ,thought he could control. Finally woke up seeing a pattern that just benefits him.
speaking in tongues praying he come back😂😂😂I'm too done..Tony, Lord I'm laughing so hard...TELL IT TONY
Thank You Tony... Sent this to my Daughter... She is in a very toxic, Trauma bond relationship.... Told her to get out of it today !!! Liked and Shared.... Be Blessed y'all 💜💙💔💋💋😘
Stay blessed. You better believe I'm on my second time listening to this from start to finish! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💯
Chenal A definitely a good message! 💕
The end of this video had me in tears . You are a blessing to us
"I din popped my back"
Can you do a video on situationships vs dating. After what period of time are you starting to cross the line from getting to know someone/dating into a situationship
Tony Gaskins can you speak on this?
I wish I would entertain another situationship in my mid 30's🙄
Mickema Miller 30’s 40’s ever please be very clear! NOT EVER!
I came across this message today while feeling heartbroken 😞 from a door that I had closed that was recently reopened. I’ve Thank you for being bluntly honest because it’s essential to heal. God bless you for doing this!!! 😊🙏🏾❤️
I hope mentally and emotionally your now in a better place xx❤️
Doors can be closed again my love. Be blessed my love.
@@kristenmcnair6278 you’re right. Amen 🙏🏾 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Thank you for the encouragement! ☺️
Please do not shorten your video! I appreciate every minutes of your wisdom and knowledge please
Hey Tony PLEEEZ ignore the ppl who “say” your videos are too long!!!!🙄 bcuz we all have this thing called the off button!! Trust and believe for all of us whos lives are being changed by your videos, we APPRECIATE your long videos and more importantly we appreciate your Free99 TIME! Point blank period!!!!
Ain’t that the truth 2020 get paid not played
man I needed to hear this for real. i been in a situationship for years now. He always wanna say we need to work on this or work on that and i am so over it
Be blessed!! Speaking truth about the demotion!!!
Preach!🙌🏽👏🏽🙏🏾 Continue to let the Lord use you. Speaking nothing but the raw truth, God bless you MOG.
Hello Mr. Gaskins, I just love myself some “Tony!” Your messages are so refreshing. Because it’s the truth sometimes it hurt sooo good! You hit right to the core of the matter and you can make joy come out of the most difficult pain with the kind of “phrases” you use! Your video about “Situationships” was very inspiring how you explain as in a real sports game the coach or the grown boy would have the women sitting on the bench, in line for his next option in how to use her. Tony these are crucial points that you make in how these rules are played out in real life! More power to you Tony. Be blessed!
This has been a blessing. I've listened to it about 3 times. I love it.
What a perfect example “ on the road to destiny”
Thanks Tony, I am stepping on gas today. Just can’t do this anymore!
Be blessed🙌🏾
This is a tough pill to swallow at 24 but it's for the best.. am just tired, been stagnant not recieving the same effort. I have failed myself and i know it is not easy to move on in the first few months but eventually i'll get there. I did what i could, listening to you and having these feelings of i have failed myself really hit hard for me, no more tears if that man is not my husband. Enough is enough. Thank you Uncle Tony gaskins🙂 the acting makes it funny even when sad😂😂. I really appreciate 😊
I’m so glad I got to hear this message it was right on time ...I’m only a senior this year in high school but everything he said in this video I needed to hear and hopefully I can use this to get myself together and do what God has been calling me to do..Thanks Tony Gaskins I really appreciate your divine word.
I'm new to the Channel and you already changed my life in 2 weeks
Tryna tell u sista...i had to rewind 2 or 3x chile...whoooo💃💃💃💃💃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃🏃
@@rozh8321 Sista??
Im so sorry...got finger happy..blessings 2 ya❤❤❤
@@rozh8321 blessings
🤣😩😩🤣 Listen Linda!!
😅 I be laughing so hard…. at Mr. Gaskins.. he been telling the truth and spitting knowledge! Thank you TG!!!
I have grown so much in the last two weeks since I ended my situation-ships
I love that you make these videos long. It’s more insightful this way!!! Great point!
Be Blessed ✨ I got my message I am relieved because I left him and made the right choice ❣️
This is good Tony... the entire car scenario, on point. When you drive off, floor it and don’t look back!
Yes indeed! Let Go & Let God you deserve better Sis🙏❤
Amen Amen Amen
18 years of time of ignorance on my behalf to a grown boy...with all the videos from Tony...I'm learning and growing
Be Blessed! Tony you have been an angel sent from the Lord to tell me what I needed to hear. So grateful for your ministry 🙏🏻👏👸🏻
Never in my life have I needed to hear something as much as I needed to hear this. And literally at the minute I needed to hear it! Thank You Tony Gaskins for making these videos free to the public. I feel soo Blessed to have accidentally found such a Motivational Godly outlet to turn to! 💖😊
Be Blessed! I love the long posts. Worth every minute. Thank you.
Tony “I just popped my back” 😂🤣 I’m cryin
You spoke to us like you know us personally, like we your little sister. ❤️
Hey Tony bro these videos keep getting better and better. Keep up great work and dont mind that says video is to long
Well they say how u got him is how u lose them. And that is a true saying👌🏾and yes these kind of relationship are a total waste of time for anyone.
Falling in love with the Idea of Love... yep
Tony is Speaking. This is cutting me. But I’m loving it because it’s real!
He’s is very RIGHT! But funny I’m cracking up 😂 broke busted and disgusted “.
Thank you..getting ready to move on..Jesus led me to listen, I know
This is like the convo I needed from my dad. Or if I did have my dad active in my life, probably wouldn't need this convo. Thank you, if I needed a sign, you said it was the 7th of day in the month 2020, the day I found out he had just had a baby with another women was just recently January 7th 2021. It was a whole decade of BS with him since 2011. And I'm gone! Even thinking about moving out of state Connecticut is so boring anyway. But thank you for doing what you do cause it really does help.
Oh goodness Tony, you let the liquid dry out from my oxtail on the stove. Truth, but so funny. Let them go and find yourself. Pray and sincerely seek God. He will give you peace, He will send the Comforter, and additionally the mate He has for you.
Thank you, Tony, for this one it was for me 20 years got the engagement ring, but it is getting close to the date May he nutted up and yell at me finally I left. Because am tried some people quickly and some people slowly, yes everything you said was hurtful but it was the truth. Yes, I am mad at me but let me say this not to put him on a paddle stone this guy was not all that bad he been telling me asking me why you keep staying here with him. I am in so much pain because I put so much time in. But guess what this video will be played every day for my healing. I will be 59 next month and I still believe someone out there will love me the way it should be.
Thats why its better to be single 😂😂 i am with many relationships because i cant settles less than i deserved if a guy doesnt treat me and care me well i just walk away
AMAZING video!!!! Real Saint Spirit talking and that’s exactly what I need now. Thank you!!!!❤️
You can’t give from an empty well 👌🏽