Hey lady! So sad but true! So many little moments when safety is on your mind in cases it would not be on men's mind: coming home alone, renting an Airbnb alone in a new city, taking a cab alone. Sure every woman has been though moments when you question: am I going to be ok though this? Thank you for sharing this! So important!
Most of my clients are women. So glad for your explanation. It helps me create a safer place while helping them in there already uncomfortable situation. Home Repair. Please create some more suggestions on how to create a sense of safety and assurance.
I don't know how I got here but I'm really blown away by what you're saying, really amazing, thoughfull, and beautiful, and I would like to add a subtle, we really need this kind of speech in the Arabic word, thanks.
I'll always protect my woman ...I'd never but a woman in any sort of danger but any man that harms a woman he's not a man he's a monster ...i would not or could not lift my hand to a woman...I'm full of love for women so it's sickening to think there's monsters like that out there
Thank you for rising this topic, it's o important. Feeling safe is indeed the most important things for women! And the freezing, dissociation and feeling numb that is coming as an effect of it, is so commun, and we don't even realise. I see that so many time in sessions that I give, and helping women to get out of that state is a importante 1st step.
The funny thing is, the woman that robbed me kept preaching that very same thing before our date. How I needed to make her feel safe, how vulnerable she was, how scary I am... and it all blind sided me as I tried every way to make her feel comfortable right before she sprung the trap on me. But who cares?
Thank you so much for talking about this topic so clearly. I have tried to explain this to many men and they just dont get it!! But il be sharing this video with them. Thank you! X
1:44 I've had a woman set me up to be robbed. I've had a woman threaten to report me for rape unless I gave her money. I've known a guy who was setup and got killed. Saying men don't understand women and then saying the worse thing that can happen to a man is he gets bored is... idk, ironic?
Wouldn’t you agree that the way the masculine polarity can help the feminine to feel safe is to stay centered and calm? So for example, if your feminine energy was feeling unsafe in that large crowd, the masculine-energy response would be to not freak out with you, share your fear, or fight the crowd. That’s insecure masculine. The secure masculine would calmly and confidently walk out of there with you, acknowledging your worry but maintaining humor and confidence, chest out, heart lifted, totally unphased.
fully agree with you. the safety in fact comes from the masculine energy, and I do recognize that in women, we haven't really developed it. we've been in a way expecting that from men. and how our masculine is, projects outwards and can impact how others approach us.
Magda Kay Oh, don’t get me wrong... I agree with your video that more men should be supporting feminine energy... it’s a wonderful gift from masculine to feminine and there’s far too little divine masculinity in the world these days. I just meant that it should come from centered, calm energy and not fight-flight energy. Men, especially, need to develop this centeredness these days. Everyone would be happier ;)
Very good, I drive a Taxi and I am male, so starting a conversation is relatively easy and most times it just happens naturally and spontaneously. But sometimes you get the cold shoulder and nothing is said for the whole trip. So I Just wanted to put a male perspective to this. And it ties in with what Magda is saying. Some women will be very aburpt and dismissive from the getgo. So sensing this as a male somewhat annoys me a bit and makes me shutdown emotionally as well. Because I am being sterotyped and I can fully understand why. The Taxi industry has a very checkered history and doesnt have a good rep and recieves some bad Media PR. I understand. There are some bad bad actors out there. And they need to be put back into the food chain ASAP. So yes the discrimination is very real. But it disrupts what might be a good connection and well meaning benign interaction. So after saying this, I realise most blokes dont and would not even give this a second thought and would have no clue about any sensitivity needed from both sexes in order to bring about some harmony. And it will probably never happen. Because Mother Nature is a very hard Task Master. imho.
Thank you so much for this explanation, Magda. It makes absolute sense. Will try to be even more protective of my wife - I already am, but your explanation is really good and clear. And you are beautiful, so I really like listening to you!
Thank you for letting me know more about how women feel about things I didn't know about this . Maybe it would be helpful to talk about how a man can show a woman he is not going to hurt her ,. As some of us don't know how to express our intensions
That's really a bummer that most women feel it's safe. However you do realize that males on their own by themselves when they're in a foreign area or in a different part of town and they're not familiar with fear pretty much the same way
@@MagdaKay Blows to confidence. Gold diggers. Nutcases sabotaging/lying about contraception. Being misread as a creep, while knowing the initiative expectation is almost certainly on me so I have to risk it at some point anyway. Being much less likely to be raped doesn't make you a tank, nor it makes you perceive yourself as one. Our perception of interacting with strangers in any context doesn't depend first and foremost on what's in our pants or what's our body mass but levels of trust we have towards average person.
What a great video! I try to keep this in mind, and do my best to help women feel safe around me. One woman I dated, after the first time we had sex, said something like, "I slept with you because I felt safe with you". That really made me feel good...
Big topic. The danger of being raped unfortunately doesn't come only from strangers on a first or second date, but also from people we know, and we know well. I experienced it myself at university with my groupmate, whom I actually considered a close friend. We were at a party, no strangers, just people from our uni -- so you assume you could feel safe. I got quite drunk (but still completely conscious, having fun dancing) and he dragged me to the toilet, did what he wanted -- despite me saying NO and despite the fact that I did have a boyfriend at that time, and he knew about it! -- and I just run away from there crying. He didn't face any consequences because I didn't act upon it -- "he was a friend", and I was too young and too uneducated on the topic to fully embrace the impact of the situation. If it happened today -- it would be a different ball game.
@@CheekyYogaClub You’re welcome. Actually I just, snooped your channel. Way to go yoga lady! I liked the one with the winter scenery, and you look great! I’m glad you’re enjoying yoga! I decided to subscribe, not sure if I can do yoga but I do know it has many benefits, even very old, ancient benefits . I hope it has helped you a lot I’m sure it has!
I see Your point so clearly. Also beautiful women just drive us guys crazy. Of course many men are not gentlemen. I enjoy Your vidios,You are very beautiful and enchanting. Happy Holidays and all the best!!👍😎
I listened, and I noticed about myself that I was listening with a man's mindset. That is, we men are trained to fix problems. Women talk to talk and to share. Men talk so as to solve. Understanding where you're coming from may be fine, but as man, I have a few responses to this video: I need to... Determine if the statement(s) brought up are true. Determine if they represent a problem. Determine if the problem is of any real consequence TO ME. Determine if a solution to the problem can be found. Implement the solution, and if that doesn't work, find another potential solution and implement that, lather, rinse, repeat until the problem goes away. Determine if the problem won't go away or can't be solved will continued complaining of the problem be of any value. If not, then stop complaining or stop listening to the complaints. From my perspective, the problem is that women (according to Magda) tend to freeze up. I can't do anything to solve that except advise women to learn martial arts for self defense and/or to carry a firearm for self defense. If women won't be responsible for their own safety, then that problem is THEIR problem. Life is hard. It's harder if you're stupid. Life doesn't have to be harder.
Matt Tillman I think it’s not just about physical safety and more about a woman trusting your masculine core. Is a man grounded, centered, and unfazed by the power of her emotions? Can she trust him to be her rock (emotionally) or does he freak out or not listen when she tests him? You are correct, men try to fix things. But, very often, all women want is for you to be steady and centered when they are emotional. You don’t have to “fix” anything, just stay totally centered. If we can do that, it creates a sense of safety, and safety creates openness, and openness creates attraction.
-+Thanks Magda, for reminding me about how women feel, I sort of knew this but you explained it more clearly so I could understand better. I've watched a few of your interesting videos. I've been in relationships with women before. I've been single for 3 months now after ending a 4 year relationship. I feel I need to be on my own to work on interesting projects. A relationship is quite time consuming. But I miss the company of a woman. Is there some middle ground where a man can casually date for shared company? I'm not talking about sex, that's another issue. Do most women want to settle down into a full relationship or is there space for something different? I'm over 65.
I am sorry Magda, as a man, I never felt safe even with women. Everyone can be afraid, wounded, fearful. Probably I have been a woman in anither life and am I conscious about it (and sometimes women resent me for this). Confidence and courage have to be acquired by everyone if love must be felt completely.
Thanks for explaining the feelings of women folks clearly. Not all men are demanding. Gentlemen do exist. They understand the cues of better half and keep cool. With the type of men folks who dominate their bitter half, she can very well find a way out and handle the situation. Women are imaginative and innovative in finding solutions. As the couple grow older, women rule men in general. This is a fact. You may do your research and find the truth for your self.
I wish I would have known this when I got married. the result of my ultimatum to only get married if she would have sex with me was a sexless marriage, and it got only better when I stopped to ask for intimacy twenty years ago, after my vasectomy. It's all my fault. But we are still married, 42 years after our wedding. MS
you'll be able to express your feelings to a women if you know she likes you and you her..and that doesn't always happen .heartbreaking will go on till the end of time...couples who both know are the lucky ones ..don't waste too much time on vids..no situation always has to do with yours..so I ask you : do yu have someone who really cares for you and you to them???
While being prepared is a good thing, always, this topic goes deeper to a simple but very real difference between men and women I've observed over the years. An example might help. My wife's relative had her house robbed - she was not there at the time - and went to a local self-defense master to learn some hand to hand defense techniques. He looked up at her 6 foot 3, 320 lb frame of mostly muscle and asked, "Why?" Her size and physical strength were more than enough as it was. She said to him, "I feel afraid." He nodded and enrolled her, understanding that the need for training, in her case, was not due to a lack of physical stature/strength. Magda has done well to speak out about something that intrinsically us men just don't experience in general (some men are damaged or have been beaten but usually, especially when younger, we feel like we could take on the World with one hand tied behind our back - and win! :-) ...I know I did :-) ). In my old age I might need two hands. The priority for a feeling of safety for women is much, much higher than with us and it is good to be reminded of that. I do love that old saying, "God made all men and Mr. Colt made all men equal!" Especially in the case of women who are generally much smaller than men, in jurisdictions where self-defense by firearm is allowed, it is a powerful self-defense tool, IMHO.
Why resort to Frmenism and blaming men instead of speaking of these fears and showing vulnerability. The more feminist behavior women display on media and real life the more men go their own way. Women have made men not care anymore. Your perspective was reasonable. You also admitted that your fears usually don't have backbone to them. I look these insecurities as childish mostly. Great message tho.
Actually, the worst thing that can happen to a man on a date is that he takes the stupid advice of the woman he's out with to go to a bad area to hear some live music and then get shot in the leg when they got mugged, because they were in a bad area. So......... I think I might rather be raped than shot.
Hey lady! So sad but true! So many little moments when safety is on your mind in cases it would not be on men's mind: coming home alone, renting an Airbnb alone in a new city, taking a cab alone. Sure every woman has been though moments when you question: am I going to be ok though this? Thank you for sharing this! So important!
So sad . Thank you for sharing this.
May I ask what is your advice to a man on this ?
Your right ...always make a woman feel very safe and protect them from harm
Of all the videos I’ve watched about understanding women this one has been the most helpful so far, that explains a lot, I’m glad you posted it
Thank you for posting this, very insightful!
That was very well articulated. Thank you for this video and your perspective.
Most of my clients are women. So glad for your explanation. It helps me create a safer place while helping them in there already uncomfortable situation. Home Repair.
Please create some more suggestions on how to create a sense of safety and assurance.
I don't know how I got here but I'm really blown away by what you're saying, really amazing, thoughfull, and beautiful, and I would like to add a subtle, we really need this kind of speech in the Arabic word, thanks.
I'll always protect my woman ...I'd never but a woman in any sort of danger but any man that harms a woman he's not a man he's a monster ...i would not or could not lift my hand to a woman...I'm full of love for women so it's sickening to think there's monsters like that out there
Omg I'd never, ever harm a lady/women ....I'd protect them ❤️ 💙
Thank you, Magda
How a man could hurt a woman like this is beyond understanding.
Thank you! This is so true
As a man I understood it long ago, that women live in fear. So I will do my part to make women feel comfortable and safe.
you have no idea how much I love reading it!!
@@MagdaKay I will genuinely help you on your journey to educate the masses
Thank you for rising this topic, it's o important.
Feeling safe is indeed the most important things for women!
And the freezing, dissociation and feeling numb that is coming as an effect of it, is so commun, and we don't even realise.
I see that so many time in sessions that I give, and helping women to get out of that state is a importante 1st step.
The funny thing is, the woman that robbed me kept preaching that very same thing before our date. How I needed to make her feel safe, how vulnerable she was, how scary I am... and it all blind sided me as I tried every way to make her feel comfortable right before she sprung the trap on me. But who cares?
Thank you so much for talking about this topic so clearly. I have tried to explain this to many men and they just dont get it!! But il be sharing this video with them. Thank you! X
1:44 I've had a woman set me up to be robbed. I've had a woman threaten to report me for rape unless I gave her money. I've known a guy who was setup and got killed. Saying men don't understand women and then saying the worse thing that can happen to a man is he gets bored is... idk, ironic?
GOOD WORK DARLING KEEP IT UP DARLING..I LOVE U❤🎉
thanks Magda, very cool
This is really enlightening the way you have presented this subject and you should consider doing a Ted Talk.
Wouldn’t you agree that the way the masculine polarity can help the feminine to feel safe is to stay centered and calm?
So for example, if your feminine energy was feeling unsafe in that large crowd, the masculine-energy response would be to not freak out with you, share your fear, or fight the crowd. That’s insecure masculine. The secure masculine would calmly and confidently walk out of there with you, acknowledging your worry but maintaining humor and confidence, chest out, heart lifted, totally unphased.
fully agree with you. the safety in fact comes from the masculine energy, and I do recognize that in women, we haven't really developed it. we've been in a way expecting that from men. and how our masculine is, projects outwards and can impact how others approach us.
Magda Kay Oh, don’t get me wrong... I agree with your video that more men should be supporting feminine energy... it’s a wonderful gift from masculine to feminine and there’s far too little divine masculinity in the world these days.
I just meant that it should come from centered, calm energy and not fight-flight energy. Men, especially, need to develop this centeredness these days. Everyone would be happier ;)
Very good, I drive a Taxi and I am male, so starting a conversation is relatively easy and most times it just happens naturally and spontaneously. But sometimes you get the cold shoulder and nothing is said for the whole trip. So I Just wanted to put a male perspective to this. And it ties in with what Magda is saying.
Some women will be very aburpt and dismissive from the getgo. So sensing this as a male somewhat annoys me a bit and makes me shutdown emotionally as well. Because I am being sterotyped and I can fully understand why. The Taxi industry has a very checkered history and doesnt have a good rep and recieves some bad Media PR. I understand. There are some bad bad actors out there. And they need to be put back into the food chain ASAP.
So yes the discrimination is very real. But it disrupts what might be a good connection and well meaning benign interaction. So after saying this, I realise most blokes dont and would not even give this a second thought and would have no clue about any sensitivity needed from both sexes in order to bring about some harmony. And it will probably never happen. Because Mother Nature is a very hard Task Master. imho.
thank you so much for this video
Always loving my woman and to protect her
CONGRATULATION YOUR PRIZE . DARLI G. KEEP IT UP..❤🎉😢😅😅😊
Thank you so much for this explanation, Magda. It makes absolute sense. Will try to be even more protective of my wife - I already am, but your explanation is really
good and clear. And you are beautiful, so I really like listening to you!
Thank you for letting me know more about how women feel about things I didn't know about this . Maybe it would be helpful to talk about how a man can show a woman he is not going to hurt her ,. As some of us don't know how to express our intensions
thats a good point. i'll try to cover it in my next months AskMagda
That's really a bummer that most women feel it's safe. However you do realize that males on their own by themselves when they're in a foreign area or in a different part of town and they're not familiar with fear pretty much the same way
1:53 You actually think that man's BIGGEST concern before a date with a stranger is whether or not he will get bored during it?
what's your biggest concern?
@@MagdaKay Blows to confidence. Gold diggers. Nutcases sabotaging/lying about contraception. Being misread as a creep, while knowing the initiative expectation is almost certainly on me so I have to risk it at some point anyway.
Being much less likely to be raped doesn't make you a tank, nor it makes you perceive yourself as one. Our perception of interacting with strangers in any context doesn't depend first and foremost on what's in our pants or what's our body mass but levels of trust we have towards average person.
so how do we deal with this as men? how do we make her comfortable and not fearful ? 6
mins in and not addressed
What a great video! I try to keep this in mind, and do my best to help women feel safe around me. One woman I dated, after the first time we had sex, said something like, "I slept with you because I felt safe with you". That really made me feel good...
oh, wow. amazing
Big topic. The danger of being raped unfortunately doesn't come only from strangers on a first or second date, but also from people we know, and we know well. I experienced it myself at university with my groupmate, whom I actually considered a close friend. We were at a party, no strangers, just people from our uni -- so you assume you could feel safe. I got quite drunk (but still completely conscious, having fun dancing) and he dragged me to the toilet, did what he wanted -- despite me saying NO and despite the fact that I did have a boyfriend at that time, and he knew about it! -- and I just run away from there crying. He didn't face any consequences because I didn't act upon it -- "he was a friend", and I was too young and too uneducated on the topic to fully embrace the impact of the situation. If it happened today -- it would be a different ball game.
Just read your comment, that’s so sad, glad it would be a different ball game now
@@shaneanderson4177 Thank you Shane, I appreciate it.
@@CheekyYogaClub You’re welcome. Actually I just, snooped your channel. Way to go yoga lady! I liked the one with the winter scenery, and you look great! I’m glad you’re enjoying yoga! I decided to subscribe, not sure if I can do yoga but I do know it has many benefits, even very old, ancient benefits . I hope it has helped you a lot I’m sure it has!
Good job darling❤😂🎉😢
I see Your point so clearly. Also beautiful women just drive us guys crazy. Of course many men are not gentlemen. I enjoy Your vidios,You are very beautiful and enchanting. Happy Holidays and all the best!!👍😎
I listened, and I noticed about myself that I was listening with a man's mindset. That is, we men are trained to fix problems. Women talk to talk and to share. Men talk so as to solve.
Understanding where you're coming from may be fine, but as man, I have a few responses to this video:
I need to...
Determine if the statement(s) brought up are true.
Determine if they represent a problem.
Determine if the problem is of any real consequence TO ME.
Determine if a solution to the problem can be found.
Implement the solution, and if that doesn't work, find another potential solution and implement that, lather, rinse, repeat until the problem goes away.
Determine if the problem won't go away or can't be solved will continued complaining of the problem be of any value.
If not, then stop complaining or stop listening to the complaints.
From my perspective, the problem is that women (according to Magda) tend to freeze up. I can't do anything to solve that except advise women to learn martial arts for self defense and/or to carry a firearm for self defense. If women won't be responsible for their own safety, then that problem is THEIR problem.
Life is hard. It's harder if you're stupid. Life doesn't have to be harder.
Matt Tillman I think it’s not just about physical safety and more about a woman trusting your masculine core. Is a man grounded, centered, and unfazed by the power of her emotions? Can she trust him to be her rock (emotionally) or does he freak out or not listen when she tests him?
You are correct, men try to fix things. But, very often, all women want is for you to be steady and centered when they are emotional. You don’t have to “fix” anything, just stay totally centered. If we can do that, it creates a sense of safety, and safety creates openness, and openness creates attraction.
I wish women knew about men seriously.
-+Thanks Magda, for reminding me about how women feel, I sort of knew this but you explained it more clearly so I could understand better. I've watched a few of your interesting videos. I've been in relationships with women before. I've been single for 3 months now after ending a 4 year relationship. I feel I need to be on my own to work on interesting projects. A relationship is quite time consuming. But I miss the company of a woman. Is there some middle ground where a man can casually date for shared company? I'm not talking about sex, that's another issue. Do most women want to settle down into a full relationship or is there space for something different? I'm over 65.
I am sorry Magda, as a man, I never felt safe even with women. Everyone can be afraid, wounded, fearful. Probably I have been a woman in anither life and am I conscious about it (and sometimes women resent me for this). Confidence and courage have to be acquired by everyone if love must be felt completely.
Thanks for explaining the feelings of women folks clearly.
Not all men are demanding. Gentlemen do exist. They understand the cues of better half and keep cool.
With the type of men folks who dominate their bitter half, she can very well find a way out and handle the situation. Women are imaginative and innovative in finding solutions.
As the couple grow older, women rule men in general. This is a fact. You may do your research and find the truth for your self.
I wish I would have known this when I got married. the result of my ultimatum to only get married if she would have sex with me was a sexless marriage, and it got only better when I stopped to ask for intimacy twenty years ago, after my vasectomy. It's all my fault. But we are still married, 42 years after our wedding. MS
Magda Kay you are my fond
you'll be able to express your feelings to a women if you know she likes you and you her..and that doesn't always happen .heartbreaking will go on till the end of time...couples who both know are the lucky ones ..don't waste too much time on vids..no situation always has to do with yours..so I ask you : do yu have someone who really cares for you and you to them???
Consider a Smith & Wesson, or Colt, with lots of training & ammo. ... And don't forget the 'Second Abendment'.
While being prepared is a good thing, always, this topic goes deeper to a simple but very real difference between men and women I've observed over the years. An example might help. My wife's relative had her house robbed - she was not there at the time - and went to a local self-defense master to learn some hand to hand defense techniques. He looked up at her 6 foot 3, 320 lb frame of mostly muscle and asked, "Why?" Her size and physical strength were more than enough as it was. She said to him, "I feel afraid." He nodded and enrolled her, understanding that the need for training, in her case, was not due to a lack of physical stature/strength. Magda has done well to speak out about something that intrinsically us men just don't experience in general (some men are damaged or have been beaten but usually, especially when younger, we feel like we could take on the World with one hand tied behind our back - and win! :-) ...I know I did :-) ). In my old age I might need two hands. The priority for a feeling of safety for women is much, much higher than with us and it is good to be reminded of that. I do love that old saying, "God made all men and Mr. Colt made all men equal!" Especially in the case of women who are generally much smaller than men, in jurisdictions where self-defense by firearm is allowed, it is a powerful self-defense tool, IMHO.
This is such gold!
Why resort to Frmenism and blaming men instead of speaking of these fears and showing vulnerability. The more feminist behavior women display on media and real life the more men go their own way. Women have made men not care anymore. Your perspective was reasonable. You also admitted that your fears usually don't have backbone to them. I look these insecurities as childish mostly. Great message tho.
Great video ! Teal Swan also has some great videos on this!
Like the accent.
Actually, the worst thing that can happen to a man on a date is that he takes the stupid advice of the woman he's out with to go to a bad area to hear some live music and then get shot in the leg when they got mugged, because they were in a bad area.
So.........
I think I might rather be raped than shot.
Protect women or die trying
I was in dessert storm I would fight army
Want to hookup ? If so maybe let me email you 😁