Except for COVID you were probably right to start prepping 😭🤌🏾 Sometime worrying can save your ass in the long run like over crowded grocery store during an announcement
@@marsbarzartNah, I worked in a hospital and went an entire year without catching it. Did every precaution to the T. Then BOOM, I caught covid. I stopped being so careful afterwards. Things are gonna happen whether we prep for them or not. The key is to be able to adapt and adjust to what life throws at us(confidence), not prepare for every possibility (worrying).
@@randomcharacter6501 I wasn’t talking about catching it, I was talking about making sure you had food water toilet paper once the announcements go off! No matter what you’re worrying about as long as it’s a reasonable worry, preparing yourself for worst case scenarios will never be wrong!!! I’d rather be that hypochondriac worrier w mountains of supplies Vs happy go lucky carefree “that shit isn’t happening to us” mentality with nothing besides hopes, dreams and candy canes. As long as you don’t make that your life purpose to prepare for everything . I’m going through and making sure that you have peace of mind for anything is over all important . Your piece of mind is not my peace of mind My peace of mind is not your peace of mind So do as you please
"Anxiety hinders intelligence" is something that my counselor told me that I keep in mind every day. Looking back, if you take stress and anxiety from your decision making, you're more likely to make a good decision. Bad decisions are usually made from the place of fear. So trust your logic, it goes a long way!
You don't really know the future and as he says we are generally terrible at predicting what's going to happen long term. Where today may seem dark there is so much potential in the future
Yes! It’s funny because it’s so simple that when you suggest it to people as a tool to help them they almost always disregard it thinking that their problems need a much more complicated fix.
I have beaten social anxiety recently. For years I was afraid of what people thought of me or I was afraid I was in the wrong place and time, I was afraid I would be judged for the most simple things, especially when I do things alone. Last week it was really hot in my city and I decided I wanted to go swimming in a local community pool to cool down and normally going to a pool where other people would be in the pool would cause me to feel so much anxiety over fear of being made fun of for being at the pool on my own without a friend with me. Well the other day for some reason, I had absolutely ZERO social fears around all of the other people in the pool. It's almost like my desire to cool down outweighed my social fear. Since that day though, I have NO social anxiety anymore because I realized that everything I was afraid of wasn't actually true, my mind was just creating a false story that wasn't the truth at all. I ended up having an amazing time at the pool and it was great. Now I find I can actually talk to people without any fears of what they think. Anxiety can be helpful if you allow it to inspire the right change in you! I'm continuing to work on keeping my social anxiety down, it helps me so much to just not be afraid of what others think! This is a great video!
Your journey through social anxiety is incredibly inspiring. It’s remarkable how a simple desire, like cooling down on a hot day, can shift our mindset and dissolve long-held fears. Your experience at the pool demonstrates how confronting our anxieties, even unintentionally, can lead to profound personal growth. Realizing that our fears are often unfounded stories our minds create is liberating. By continuing to challenge these fears, you're not only reducing anxiety but also expanding your comfort zone and enriching your social experiences. Keep embracing these moments of courage!
@@whohoo-sz2uv It actually goes away faster than you expect. Not instantly, but within a few days or weeks, you forget about whatever bothered you about it to begin with. Then it just becomes specific things, like not wanting to go to the public pool. But since you've built momentum, you can more easily engage those moments. For me, one of the best things I did for my social anxiety was get an office job doing customer service calls. I was smart, stupid, fearless, knowledgeable, compassionate, and curt every single day to both customers and coworkers. By the time I left that job, I wasn't afraid to talk to anyone. Hope this helps!
I once had a nurse who once suggested that when your brain has you in the grips of anxiety, try thanking it. Thank your brain for keeping you safe and move on. The internet may tell me it isn't foolproof but that won't make it any less of a useful tool for somebody.
What a fascinating approach to anxiety! By thanking your brain for its protective intentions, you acknowledge the role it plays without letting it dominate your actions. This simple yet powerful gesture can shift your mindset from one of conflict to cooperation with your own mind. While it may not be foolproof, it's a valuable tool for many people. Embracing such techniques highlights the importance of self-compassion and mindfulness in managing anxiety. It's a reminder that even small mental shifts can make a big difference in how we experience and respond to our thoughts.
Here's the list + Timestamps: 1. Anxiety is not a bad thing... It's an important thing 0:08 2. If you're anxious about unimportant things, it means you lack an important thing in your life 0:23 3. Anxiety will convince you that things are bigger and more unmanageable than they actually are 0:37 4. Practice Negative Visualisation 1:09 5. You're terrible at predicing the future 1:49 6. Most social anxiety is secretly codependence in disguise. 2:19 7. Nobody f*cking gives a shit. 3:07 8. Your comparisons are terrible. 3:31 9. You should get off your screens. 4:13 10. Go talk to people face-to-face 4:35 11. Focus on what you control,and ignore what you can't. 6:06 12. Create a "F*ck it List" 6:32 13. Drink less caffeine,get more sleep,drink more water,eat more vegetables. 6:53 14. Exercise more. 7:21 15. Regulate your breathing. 7:41 16. Anxiety is just an emotion 8:03 17. Ampliment a routine. 8:30 18. You are just like the greats of History 8:49 19. High performers have a different orientation towards stress and anxiety 9:38 20. We're all wrong about everything. 9:58 21. There's a little bit of success and failure in every experience that you have. 10:19 22. Imagine you're on your deathbed. 10:46 Good luck! 11:08
Reading Mark Manson since 2009 and his fuck-ridden advice has been there for me through everything. Heartbreak, joy, fear, a billion stupid mistakes - I always go back to this loveable dickhead. Thank you, dude, I love you
Point #2 (0:24) hit me... when I'm finding importance in something in my life, little things don't bother me. Big goals that I work at daily are necessary.
Anxiety has been in my head my whole life after a very sad incident when I was a 3 year old baby. I was present in bombing over my hometown Baghdad. I thought my whole life that I had other diseases but now I realized what's the issue. I am very blessed to have this disease because you can manage it and if you Overcome it, you can literally be the king of the world. I will finally read your books man. Keep on not giving a fuck ❤.
Hey. There is hope! I used to have CRIPPLING anxiety. Once I got things figured out I honestly just don’t get it anymore. I get anxiety once or twice a year now. If you put in the effort, you’ll make it! You will get through to the other side. you can do it, I believe in you!
Getting over the fear of failure was my biggest hang-up. Did some things that put me way out of my comfort zone, playing music in front of groups of people was one of mine, and trust me when I say it scared the hell outta me at first and I did fuck up a lot. Just like our guy said though, nobody really noticed or cared, they just wanna see you having fun up there. Made a lot of new friends doing that. Helped me learn to love myself and others despite all the flaws. Oh yeah, and quitting the drugs and exercising, drinking a lot of water, eating better food, and working outside really helped too lol Good luck my friend! It ain't easy, but nothing worth doing is!
I hear ya, I felt this I’m currently having anxiety from my job and just feeling unfulfilled. It’s all about finding the things that you can look forward to and I learned things I enjoyed when I was a kid helps a lot. I hope you enjoy the day you’re not alone
I wish i knew this when i started having them There is a way to completely avoid having to deal with them And that is - wanting them to happen, during the buildup to it when ure stressed and ur heartrate goes crazy, imagine that: i want it to happen, give me all you got, actively thinking this will trick your brain that there is no danger, i have it from a reddit post titled 'how to stop panic attacks' or something like that, it helped me immensely.. I wanted to share this because i know how fucked it can be and many people dont know this trick
When I had daily panic attacks and nothing ever seemed to help, I took the Linden advise (there was this "linden method" for anxiety etc., i just pirated the pdf somewhere and there it was) - "always ask for it". When I was panicky, I started to taunt anxiety for more, and I stopped getting any panic at all...
Love you like the big brother I never had. God bless you and thank you for your work. 5 years now transforming myself thanks to your guidance. All the best Mark ❤
Watching this while being with hangxiety, it is so true how we think that everybody is judging our behaviors while they’re wondering the fucking same about themselves, it is never that important, everyone is dealing with their own shit at their own pace, my advice: be happy and spread love
Thanks for this Mark. Been battling a lot of anxiety while navigating a divorce. These points are simple and powerful. Focusing on what I can control is a big one for me.
it's interesting how you ended this with the person on his death bed. I had a conversation with my father on his and he lamented about all the stuff he didn't do and such. I told he had a full life and raised 3 really nice humans, and I thought he was a great success. And he left me the single best piece of advice I have every got. He said, "look after your family" and that has been a guiding principle of mine ever since. thanks for the segment keep them coming very insightful and helpful.
I suffer from anxiety daily I stopped drinking in Jan. I used alcohol a lot to calm worries and anxieties. Anyway a few days ago I pushed myself out of my comfort zone. I went to a karaoke night I knew no one there. When I sung karaoke in the past I always I thought I can never sing sober. Come this weekend I thought bugger it I'm getting up in front of these people sober and I'm gonna sing and I did. I'm so glad I did. Moral of the story no one cares if u can sing or not even if they did who cares not worth worrying about cos I guarantee they don't think about the next day.
Your story is incredibly inspiring and a testament to the power of pushing through discomfort. The transition from using alcohol as a crutch to facing your fears head-on, sober, is a monumental step. Karaoke might seem trivial to some, but it symbolizes confronting vulnerability and societal judgment. Your realization that people's opinions are fleeting and inconsequential is liberating. By prioritizing your personal growth and enjoyment over fear of judgment, you're embracing a more authentic and courageous way of living. Keep celebrating these victories!
Anxiety is the bi-product of uncertainty. An important test at school for example, can give people anxiety. The next day, you go to class and the teacher is putting everyone's test results upside down on their desk. You're sure you passed, but a few of those questions sounded like trick questions to get you to second guess yourself, and now your stress and anxiety is through the roof. You turn the test over and in big red writing you see 💯 Great Job! Just 10 seconds before that, you were worrying, and nothing else mattered, and now you are elated and excited.
For some reason, your advice always finds me when I need it the most, be it your books or videos.. Thank you so much sir for making this video. I needed to hear this big time. ❤
Fighting to shift the negative narrative was the biggest thing to help change my life. Finally feel like I’m moving forwards and no longer completely defined by the sins of my family that I used as an excuse and justification for holding me back.
Shifting the narrative we tell ourselves can indeed be life-changing. Overcoming the limiting beliefs and negative stories tied to our past, especially those influenced by family, is a significant achievement. It’s empowering to realize that we have the agency to redefine our paths and not be confined by inherited trauma or past mistakes. Your journey forward, breaking free from these constraints, is a powerful reminder of resilience and self-determination. Each step you take towards a positive future is a testament to your strength.
1:58 golden lines bro !. We predict that shits will happen to us but why can't we predict that even good things can also do happen. I mean if we are so good at predicting things then why it's not balanced prediction between good and bad. Why it's only dominant towards bad prediction. Great Thought bro
Idk how the universe always showing your videos at the right time. Because lately I got a lot of pressure in work that gives me anxiety and weight gaining.. anyway thanks Mark for saving my sanity
Wow, i wasnt expecting to see Devin Townsend in one of your videos! Thank you for your content man. Helps me a lot. I recently got one of your books. Saludos desde Argentina. 🇦🇷
Imagine a business saying we will help you with your mental health, just tell us all your most privet info and than they sell all those most privet info about you to big companies so that they can target you personalized ads @@AfonsoMiranda22
@@AfonsoMiranda22more than half are not licensed supposedly, there is supposedly no process to confirm that the therapists are licensed, they have supposedly sold data to third parties like your depressed and depressed people like weighted blankets so Instagram will then sell you weighted blankets. This being the best case worst case private information that you would not want people knowing would be given to these third parties that could be scary if it got into the wrong hands. They also supposedly make it difficult to change therapists despite claims it is easy. There are many more supposed issues that better help as done.
Lol, my mental game changer was a ruptured spinal disk. 8 months of excruciating pain, but since I got my life back together I walk around with an involuntary grin in my face most of the time.
So much great advice here.. And getting the tail of this demon really is essential for better living for those of us so afflicted - Thanks for compiling and posting all this Mark!
tight and somewhat tense (hello ice cream) presentation of some solid truths that need to be heard again and again because when I'm in the mix I forget.
Waaait!!! I see Devin Towndend at 9:37. That's awesome! I've been hoping people like Mark or Tim Ferriss interviewed Devin for a long time. Get on it, Mark! :) Great video, by the way. I wonder if you watched Inside Out 2; would be interested in hearing your thoughts on it (anxiety is the main emotion portrayed in this film).
I would agree with all of this, except then I had children, and I worry constantly that I'm not doing enough or doing too much or not doing things the right way and they will be adversely impacted. But then I tell myself just by having those thoughts I'm probably a decent parent and it'll most likely be fine!
Totally! Been sleepless about "Monkey Problems" lately but then I tell myself to STFU and figure out new ways of making money. Yeah sure its easier to just drink alchohol and let go but that doesn't eliminate anxiety it just pauses it for later and gives you a bigger headache. Instead, I am just using my anxiety for good instead of stressful fear. I find you do more when fueled by fear then by hope.
You're a legend. I've suffered from social anxiety for a while now. I'm taking steps to just get out there and be normal lol. P.s that icecream looks delish!
Well, I think I've seen many of your videos and read some of your books, and I believe this is the best summary you could have made. It's a daily struggle, but it can be won
Anxiety is a tool, not a crutch. It’s a gift from primal nature to analyze things when we don’t know how. They are free flow thoughts that are not actually ours. They’re just ideas and thoughts passing through your head, it’s your decision to accept and embrace them or to disagree and disregard them.
I’ve had extreme anxiety in the past and all these are good tools. Especially the breathing technique. It doesn’t even have to be exactly 4, 7, 8. It works very well even the first time. Humming or ohming works too. I am a really happy person if I work out regularly and if I don’t I am extremely depressed.
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"Worrying works! 95% of the time, nothing ever happens" 😅
Except for COVID you were probably right to start prepping 😭🤌🏾
Sometime worrying can save your ass in the long run
like over crowded grocery store during an announcement
@@marsbarzartNah, I worked in a hospital and went an entire year without catching it. Did every precaution to the T. Then BOOM, I caught covid. I stopped being so careful afterwards. Things are gonna happen whether we prep for them or not. The key is to be able to adapt and adjust to what life throws at us(confidence), not prepare for every possibility (worrying).
@@randomcharacter6501 I wasn’t talking about catching it, I was talking about making sure you had food water toilet paper once the announcements go off!
No matter what you’re worrying about as long as it’s a reasonable worry, preparing yourself for worst case scenarios will never be wrong!!!
I’d rather be that hypochondriac worrier w mountains of supplies
Vs happy go lucky carefree “that shit isn’t happening to us” mentality
with nothing besides hopes, dreams and candy canes.
As long as you don’t make that your life purpose to prepare for everything .
I’m going through and making sure that you have peace of mind for anything is over all important .
Your piece of mind is not my peace of mind
My peace of mind is not your peace of mind
So do as you please
@@marsbarzart if nobody worried everyone would have had toilet paper.
I used to be in the habit of worrying just so what I was worrying about would not happen
"I've lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” - Mark Twain
"Anxiety hinders intelligence" is something that my counselor told me that I keep in mind every day. Looking back, if you take stress and anxiety from your decision making, you're more likely to make a good decision. Bad decisions are usually made from the place of fear. So trust your logic, it goes a long way!
What if your in a place/situation in life that you dont see a future where its worth it to keep going
You don't really know the future and as he says we are generally terrible at predicting what's going to happen long term. Where today may seem dark there is so much potential in the future
@@jshbld6582 Number 20: We're all wrong about everything. I used to think that way a year and a half ago, after decades of depression. I was wrong.
Right on point. You are my favorite modern day philosopher!
Buddy be my therapist 😂😂😭 this shit actually helped me lol thanks
This is peak Mark! Please stop interviewing attention seeking grifters Mark. We are here for this
Fuckin' A.
exactly
Heck yeah!!!
Yessss someone finally said it.
Exactly!!! This is Mark Manson we want!!!!!!❤
Exercise has been the single best thing i have ever done.
Adding breathing on top of it makes it even better.
Yes! It’s funny because it’s so simple that when you suggest it to people as a tool to help them they almost always disregard it thinking that their problems need a much more complicated fix.
Man, I wish it worked better for me. Personally, exercise helps a lot when I'm feeling depressed, but it doesn't do much for my anxiety.
@@Mitchp93👏
it had no efect at all for me.
I have beaten social anxiety recently. For years I was afraid of what people thought of me or I was afraid I was in the wrong place and time, I was afraid I would be judged for the most simple things, especially when I do things alone. Last week it was really hot in my city and I decided I wanted to go swimming in a local community pool to cool down and normally going to a pool where other people would be in the pool would cause me to feel so much anxiety over fear of being made fun of for being at the pool on my own without a friend with me. Well the other day for some reason, I had absolutely ZERO social fears around all of the other people in the pool. It's almost like my desire to cool down outweighed my social fear. Since that day though, I have NO social anxiety anymore because I realized that everything I was afraid of wasn't actually true, my mind was just creating a false story that wasn't the truth at all. I ended up having an amazing time at the pool and it was great. Now I find I can actually talk to people without any fears of what they think. Anxiety can be helpful if you allow it to inspire the right change in you! I'm continuing to work on keeping my social anxiety down, it helps me so much to just not be afraid of what others think! This is a great video!
Your journey through social anxiety is incredibly inspiring. It’s remarkable how a simple desire, like cooling down on a hot day, can shift our mindset and dissolve long-held fears. Your experience at the pool demonstrates how confronting our anxieties, even unintentionally, can lead to profound personal growth. Realizing that our fears are often unfounded stories our minds create is liberating. By continuing to challenge these fears, you're not only reducing anxiety but also expanding your comfort zone and enriching your social experiences. Keep embracing these moments of courage!
Is your anxiety go away immediately? Or is there something you did?
@@whohoo-sz2uv It actually goes away faster than you expect. Not instantly, but within a few days or weeks, you forget about whatever bothered you about it to begin with. Then it just becomes specific things, like not wanting to go to the public pool. But since you've built momentum, you can more easily engage those moments.
For me, one of the best things I did for my social anxiety was get an office job doing customer service calls. I was smart, stupid, fearless, knowledgeable, compassionate, and curt every single day to both customers and coworkers. By the time I left that job, I wasn't afraid to talk to anyone.
Hope this helps!
You have beaten your anxiety by simply visiting the public swimming pool once?
I once had a nurse who once suggested that when your brain has you in the grips of anxiety, try thanking it. Thank your brain for keeping you safe and move on. The internet may tell me it isn't foolproof but that won't make it any less of a useful tool for somebody.
I've been doing this lately. It's been working temporarily.
Knowledge is always useful somewhere! Thank you for sharing.
What a fascinating approach to anxiety! By thanking your brain for its protective intentions, you acknowledge the role it plays without letting it dominate your actions. This simple yet powerful gesture can shift your mindset from one of conflict to cooperation with your own mind. While it may not be foolproof, it's a valuable tool for many people. Embracing such techniques highlights the importance of self-compassion and mindfulness in managing anxiety. It's a reminder that even small mental shifts can make a big difference in how we experience and respond to our thoughts.
When my brain tries to mess with me, i remind myself that is not always my friend.
This is from the Buddha. It's called "having tea with Mara." Google it to learn more.
Here's the list + Timestamps:
1. Anxiety is not a bad thing... It's an important thing 0:08
2. If you're anxious about unimportant things, it means you lack an important thing in your life 0:23
3. Anxiety will convince you that things are bigger and more unmanageable than they actually are 0:37
4. Practice Negative Visualisation 1:09
5. You're terrible at predicing the future 1:49
6. Most social anxiety is secretly codependence in disguise. 2:19
7. Nobody f*cking gives a shit. 3:07
8. Your comparisons are terrible. 3:31
9. You should get off your screens. 4:13
10. Go talk to people face-to-face 4:35
11. Focus on what you control,and ignore what you can't. 6:06
12. Create a "F*ck it List" 6:32
13. Drink less caffeine,get more sleep,drink more water,eat more vegetables. 6:53
14. Exercise more. 7:21
15. Regulate your breathing. 7:41
16. Anxiety is just an emotion 8:03
17. Ampliment a routine. 8:30
18. You are just like the greats of History 8:49
19. High performers have a different orientation towards stress and anxiety 9:38
20. We're all wrong about everything. 9:58
21. There's a little bit of success and failure in every experience that you have. 10:19
22. Imagine you're on your deathbed. 10:46
Good luck! 11:08
Thanks 🙂
Last one...??? 🤔🤔🤔
wow thank you💚
bless u for this brother
this is amazing
Reading Mark Manson since 2009 and his fuck-ridden advice has been there for me through everything. Heartbreak, joy, fear, a billion stupid mistakes - I always go back to this loveable dickhead. Thank you, dude, I love you
Since 2009 means you have been following him at the time when he was focused on how to pick up girls and get one night stands at the bar.
@f50koenigg oof😂. Side note, I'm a big admirer of the Ferrari F50 and Koenigsegg!
@@f50koenigg there's a reason why the F word is being used alot 👀
You literally help people every day. We are so glad to have you on this platform. Keep up the amazing work. Love the ice cream bit.
It’s incredibly true. Everything matters to me. And it took me years to realize that other people don’t give a shit.
Anxiety is the body's way of saying,"pay attention."
Focus, 😂
Taking "Don't talk while eating" to an another level...
My mom is disappointed in you but I'm not because I have anxiety and I want you talking...
❤❤
Point #2 (0:24) hit me... when I'm finding importance in something in my life, little things don't bother me. Big goals that I work at daily are necessary.
Anxiety has been in my head my whole life after a very sad incident when I was a 3 year old baby. I was present in bombing over my hometown Baghdad.
I thought my whole life that I had other diseases but now I realized what's the issue. I am very blessed to have this disease because you can manage it and if you Overcome it, you can literally be the king of the world.
I will finally read your books man. Keep on not giving a fuck ❤.
Gonna have to rewatch this because unlearning the bs from unhinged anxiety is brutal man ugh 😫
Hey. There is hope! I used to have CRIPPLING anxiety. Once I got things figured out I honestly just don’t get it anymore. I get anxiety once or twice a year now. If you put in the effort, you’ll make it! You will get through to the other side. you can do it, I believe in you!
Getting over the fear of failure was my biggest hang-up. Did some things that put me way out of my comfort zone, playing music in front of groups of people was one of mine, and trust me when I say it scared the hell outta me at first and I did fuck up a lot. Just like our guy said though, nobody really noticed or cared, they just wanna see you having fun up there. Made a lot of new friends doing that. Helped me learn to love myself and others despite all the flaws.
Oh yeah, and quitting the drugs and exercising, drinking a lot of water, eating better food, and working outside really helped too lol Good luck my friend! It ain't easy, but nothing worth doing is!
I hear ya, I felt this I’m currently having anxiety from my job and just feeling unfulfilled. It’s all about finding the things that you can look forward to and I learned things I enjoyed when I was a kid helps a lot. I hope you enjoy the day you’re not alone
Same!
I agree, I have a few videos, including this one that I go back to all the time to reiterate it
It is hard to see out of the forest of anxiety when you are deep in a bad anxiety place, but all of these reasons will help you get out quicker.
If the 4/7/8 technique doesn't help in a panic attack I've found that looking around the room and identifying all blue items has helped immensely.
Sunlight and fresh air
Ill try that, cheers
What if there's nothing blue in the room though? 😬 lol anxiety levels 📈
Put an icecube in your mouth, made my panic attack go from an hour to less than 1 min
I wish i knew this when i started having them
There is a way to completely avoid having to deal with them
And that is - wanting them to happen, during the buildup to it when ure stressed and ur heartrate goes crazy, imagine that: i want it to happen, give me all you got, actively thinking this will trick your brain that there is no danger, i have it from a reddit post titled 'how to stop panic attacks' or something like that, it helped me immensely.. I wanted to share this because i know how fucked it can be and many people dont know this trick
That ice cream gave me anxiety
😂😂😂
Me too
Same. The way he is eating it
Just made me want n’ ice cream 🍦
Misophonia. Allegedly the highly intelligent and or autistic struggle with this. Welcome to hell my friend
When I had daily panic attacks and nothing ever seemed to help, I took the Linden advise (there was this "linden method" for anxiety etc., i just pirated the pdf somewhere and there it was) - "always ask for it". When I was panicky, I started to taunt anxiety for more, and I stopped getting any panic at all...
Yep! You tell it “ I dare you” That helped me too. You taunt it lol
that's a great method, I guess it's called "paradoxical intention"
Really???
Love you like the big brother I never had. God bless you and thank you for your work. 5 years now transforming myself thanks to your guidance. All the best Mark ❤
Just finished taking all my notes and digesting all the information. It's amazing how it aligns with many Eastern philosophies. I love it! Thank you.
Watching this while being with hangxiety, it is so true how we think that everybody is judging our behaviors while they’re wondering the fucking same about themselves, it is never that important, everyone is dealing with their own shit at their own pace, my advice: be happy and spread love
My anxiety is so high, I've had this video in a tab since it got released without being able to watch it...
Please watch it... It is really helpful..
LIterally, this guy! Really do appreciate Mark being here and just giving out these messages. Really does help. Thank you.
Thanks for this Mark. Been battling a lot of anxiety while navigating a divorce. These points are simple and powerful. Focusing on what I can control is a big one for me.
it's interesting how you ended this with the person on his death bed. I had a conversation with my father on his and he lamented about all the stuff he didn't do and such. I told he had a full life and raised 3 really nice humans, and I thought he was a great success. And he left me the single best piece of advice I have every got. He said, "look after your family" and that has been a guiding principle of mine ever since. thanks for the segment keep them coming very insightful and helpful.
Very true points. I live with multiple people with social anxiety. I see their anxiety holding them back in life for no good reason at all.
Useful 11 minutes! Thank you!
I suffer from anxiety daily I stopped drinking in Jan. I used alcohol a lot to calm worries and anxieties. Anyway a few days ago I pushed myself out of my comfort zone. I went to a karaoke night I knew no one there. When I sung karaoke in the past I always I thought I can never sing sober. Come this weekend I thought bugger it I'm getting up in front of these people sober and I'm gonna sing and I did. I'm so glad I did. Moral of the story no one cares if u can sing or not even if they did who cares not worth worrying about cos I guarantee they don't think about the next day.
Your story is incredibly inspiring and a testament to the power of pushing through discomfort. The transition from using alcohol as a crutch to facing your fears head-on, sober, is a monumental step. Karaoke might seem trivial to some, but it symbolizes confronting vulnerability and societal judgment. Your realization that people's opinions are fleeting and inconsequential is liberating. By prioritizing your personal growth and enjoyment over fear of judgment, you're embracing a more authentic and courageous way of living. Keep celebrating these victories!
The "Good Luck" at the end 😂😂😂
You all are spreading so much joy. Thank you for being so wonderful!
I love this video! You really put how stupid anxiety is into perspective. Just like your book about caring what people think.
Mark is built different. Thank you for this quality of videos.
Anxiety is the bi-product of uncertainty. An important test at school for example, can give people anxiety. The next day, you go to class and the teacher is putting everyone's test results upside down on their desk. You're sure you passed, but a few of those questions sounded like trick questions to get you to second guess yourself, and now your stress and anxiety is through the roof. You turn the test over and in big red writing you see 💯 Great Job! Just 10 seconds before that, you were worrying, and nothing else mattered, and now you are elated and excited.
Yes but those sensations like your heart has just stopped are terrifying.
This is fabulous and I can’t believe you filmed in one piece while eating an ice cream! Saved. Thank you💞
man thats so cool .... in kenya currently 😂😂 you'd be all tears
For some reason, your advice always finds me when I need it the most, be it your books or videos.. Thank you so much sir for making this video. I needed to hear this big time. ❤
Fighting to shift the negative narrative was the biggest thing to help change my life. Finally feel like I’m moving forwards and no longer completely defined by the sins of my family that I used as an excuse and justification for holding me back.
Shifting the narrative we tell ourselves can indeed be life-changing. Overcoming the limiting beliefs and negative stories tied to our past, especially those influenced by family, is a significant achievement. It’s empowering to realize that we have the agency to redefine our paths and not be confined by inherited trauma or past mistakes. Your journey forward, breaking free from these constraints, is a powerful reminder of resilience and self-determination. Each step you take towards a positive future is a testament to your strength.
Most important lesson from this video: we should all go get some ice cream.
Not feeling resentful about the feeling of anxiety is really helping me with my self-compassion.
Mark, you should write a book on this topic of anxiety. Many great points here.
Excellent thoughts. I've had high anxiety my whole life. I just discovered your channel and I look forward to watching more of your stuff.
1:58 golden lines bro !. We predict that shits will happen to us but why can't we predict that even good things can also do happen. I mean if we are so good at predicting things then why it's not balanced prediction between good and bad. Why it's only dominant towards bad prediction.
Great Thought bro
It's something like you are anxious and a elder brother come in and giving you some practical advice.
Thanks, Mark
I actually needed this today. Thanks, Mark!
Here he comes with another "FUCK IT" video. I really need to hear this shit, Thanks mark
Idk how the universe always showing your videos at the right time. Because lately I got a lot of pressure in work that gives me anxiety and weight gaining.. anyway thanks Mark for saving my sanity
You absolutely showed me hints to solve my problems that I mentioned in your survey form. Thanks a lot Mark
This video is much more insightful than any therapy I've attended.
Wow, i wasnt expecting to see Devin Townsend in one of your videos! Thank you for your content man. Helps me a lot. I recently got one of your books. Saludos desde Argentina. 🇦🇷
24. Don't use betterhelp.
Now this made me giggle.
Why, is it bad?
Imagine a business saying we will help you with your mental health, just tell us all your most privet info and than they sell all those most privet info about you to big companies so that they can target you personalized ads @@AfonsoMiranda22
Didnt help me one bit @SpitFogo
@@AfonsoMiranda22more than half are not licensed supposedly, there is supposedly no process to confirm that the therapists are licensed, they have supposedly sold data to third parties like your depressed and depressed people like weighted blankets so Instagram will then sell you weighted blankets. This being the best case worst case private information that you would not want people knowing would be given to these third parties that could be scary if it got into the wrong hands. They also supposedly make it difficult to change therapists despite claims it is easy. There are many more supposed issues that better help as done.
You just speak from my heart. You hit mi opinions on the spot here. Tho thankful that you are here and doing your work 🙏🏽💪🏽
this is fking good bro, don't even need the betterhelp after watching this video
Lol, my mental game changer was a ruptured spinal disk. 8 months of excruciating pain, but since I got my life back together I walk around with an involuntary grin in my face most of the time.
Didn't know Mark was a Devin Townsend fan! That's awesome
Thank you so much 👍🏼 I needed this
Great video, very insightful and informative... Keep up the good work!
I very much appreciate your blunt honesty! No stupid sugarcoating or pseudo-spiritual delusions. Keep up this channel! :)
I needed this. I needed Mark Manson to explain it as well 😂 thank you man, you helped me through a mega panic attack
#13 is VERY true. It took me many years until I linked how eating well makes you feel so much better.
So much great advice here.. And getting the tail of this demon really is essential for better living for those of us so afflicted - Thanks for compiling and posting all this Mark!
Thank you sir. This really boosted my day.
The sad thing is that you will never know how much your books and videos have changed my life. All I can say is THANK YOU! You rock! 👊 😃
Seeing Devin Townsend mixed in with the "high performers" was so great.
THE PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS SUCK - NAUSEA, FATIGUE, SADNESS, ACHES ETC. Love this though! :)
Your book was a better therapy than any of the doctors I’ve seen Mark
Important basics teached in a very cool and entertaining way, love it
Thank you Mark! I am one of social anxiety people who try to be better everyday. I hope this video can help
tight and somewhat tense (hello ice cream) presentation of some solid truths that need to be heard again and again because when I'm in the mix I forget.
Awesome video Mark. It’s easy to get wrapped up in things and emotions, videos like this keep my mind in check.
You nailed, Manson, yet again.
More people need to see and apply this.
This actually helps. Thank you❤
Love this! Thanks for presenting the info on this topic in such an effective and real way. I just subscribed to your channel.
Dude, Mark!
I can see your new level of knowledge here.
Way to go my guy! Congrats!
On the not drinking ands the new perspectives. 🤘
That was really good.
I'm going to keep and rewatch, its so easy to forget.
Waaait!!! I see Devin Towndend at 9:37. That's awesome! I've been hoping people like Mark or Tim Ferriss interviewed Devin for a long time. Get on it, Mark! :) Great video, by the way. I wonder if you watched Inside Out 2; would be interested in hearing your thoughts on it (anxiety is the main emotion portrayed in this film).
I would agree with all of this, except then I had children, and I worry constantly that I'm not doing enough or doing too much or not doing things the right way and they will be adversely impacted. But then I tell myself just by having those thoughts I'm probably a decent parent and it'll most likely be fine!
Gosh
Mark you've done it again. Excellent video dude, this is going to help me and many others as well. Thank you!
Totally! Been sleepless about "Monkey Problems" lately but then I tell myself to STFU and figure out new ways of making money. Yeah sure its easier to just drink alchohol and let go but that doesn't eliminate anxiety it just pauses it for later and gives you a bigger headache. Instead, I am just using my anxiety for good instead of stressful fear. I find you do more when fueled by fear then by hope.
You sound miserable
Interesting information For people that suffer from Anxiety.
Thanks Mark, really needed to hear this.
Listening to you reminding me of listening to Alan watts....because I can sense the sincerity.
Absolutely brilliant advice. 100% on point 👍
You're a legend. I've suffered from social anxiety for a while now. I'm taking steps to just get out there and be normal lol.
P.s that icecream looks delish!
i really love you mark. from the bottom of my heart.. from iran
Right upload at right time!
Thanks Mark Manson :)
That was powerful. Thank you
straight talking no bullshit advise, great job love it. Just what I needed. I actually swore on UA-cam and I don't really give a fcuk
Thanks for a quick to the point list.
Always happy to get some super cool knowledge! Makes my brain happy!!! 🎉🎉 Thanks as always.
Well, I think I've seen many of your videos and read some of your books, and I believe this is the best summary you could have made. It's a daily struggle, but it can be won
Anxiety is a tool, not a crutch. It’s a gift from primal nature to analyze things when we don’t know how. They are free flow thoughts that are not actually ours. They’re just ideas and thoughts passing through your head, it’s your decision to accept and embrace them or to disagree and disregard them.
Good one. Awesome insight on anxiety. Great alternatives. Ice cream abuse was intense....
That was awesome. I ate ice cream while watching. Cool down nerves.
Nice video! Especially because you chose to insert Devin Townsend into it. :)
Thank you.
I’ve had extreme anxiety in the past and all these are good tools. Especially the breathing technique. It doesn’t even have to be exactly 4, 7, 8. It works very well even the first time. Humming or ohming works too. I am a really happy person if I work out regularly and if I don’t I am extremely depressed.
This is probably the wisest channel on UA-cam right now