How to Beat Procrastination Like It Owes You Money
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- Опубліковано 6 січ 2024
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Every problem of inaction comes down to a problem with emotions. Your procrastination actually comes from you not feeling like doing something, it has nothing to do with Mercury retrograde or your under-diagnosed ADHD.
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STAY HARD!
Thank you Mark
@@fuegoredlego and the logs?
That's what she said
Your ideas sure do keep me erect. Thank you Mark!
That´s what I thought@@muxi0121
I watch this video while procrastinating
Doing that now. 😂
😂😂😂
Classic lol
So I am not alone
Yessir
So smart people procrastinate more, that’s the excuse I’m gonna use from now on. Thanks, Mark!
Anxious people or ones with a lot of trauma do too. Hiding under that perfectionism requirement.
@@Onthe9thlife3730 yup
Stay hard!
Bro.. you are too smart..
i laugh so hard
"Dont celebrate victories in a way that prevents further victories." That hit hard
STAY HARD
STAY HARD
I will watch this later.
Lol
LOL
Oh, i found this video on "watch later" playlist...
🤣
Lol
I just love how Mark talks to "real" people and not just purely experts or professionals who are already at the top of their career.
Yes mate. That's because real people are his target consumers.
She did great. It's easier when you have someone who believes in you.
And actively supporting you. Who you can bounce ideas off of.
Just believe in your self. No one other them you can make you move. I know you can, I believe in you. 😎
@@leandrotuao1 i really hope it is that easy 😢
congrats, you just found a bs excuse.
it is not. it's like motivational media. if you need motivation you already lost. move on. it's better to have an end in shock than having a shock without end.
Equally as good to have people that don’t believe in you and your motivation be to prove them wrong. What you’ve just said sounds like an excuse. This message probably sounds rude but it’s not entirely what’s intended
The social pressure thing really doesn't work for me. In fact it kind of does the opposite. If I don't keep up with what I said and someone calls me out on it, it tends to make me just give up entirely. I found that it's better to tell no one and feel no pressure. Then just do it, and it feels nice when people comment about your success later.
May be an introvert thing
Me too! That follows stoic philosophy
Yeah that's me too.
Instead of telling them that your goal is to have the weight of 180 lb by the end of the year, tell them you are working out to be healthy and fit.
I think that has to do with the dysfunctional beliefs that failure is bad, and the overpowering shame that comes with it. If you can get someone who isn't going to think less of you for failing, but will stay by ur side and help you get back up again, and you can learn that take on that same mindset, I think their form of social pressure is very healthy. Unfortunately, it's rare to find someone such as that on your life.
00:01 Mastering emotions and manipulating environment are key to beating procrastination.
01:32 Create an environment that makes change inevitable
03:01 Smart people procrastinate more due to overthinking
04:26 The Do Something principle: take action to spur motivation and lead to progress.
05:48 Start with small actions to create a chain reaction.
07:15 Utilizing social pressure to take action
08:38 Utilizing social pressure for motivation
10:11 Failure moves us forward
Thank you for the breakdown 🙂
@@dcunningham6692 you are welcome
Thank you.
Heavy ADHD, attempts to escape by stimulating with substances with a thousand projects waiting in the queue...
Your videos help me reset the bullshit cycle in my mind. And that always leads to a degree of hope.
"it's not the thing you're chasing that makes you feel good. It's the chasing itself." - 100% agree. This is along the lines of Dr. Srikumar Rao's suggestion to invest in the process, not the outcome. Thanks for sharing.
I cried while watching this. The change in her mood, pure joy. It's cliché but it's about the ride and not the destination
I’m a grown ass dude and I had wet eyes as well at the end of this lol 🤷♂️ amazing video!
You don't want to celebrate your victories in such a way that It prevents further victories! This is advice is gold!
Save this video to “Watch Later”
😂😂😂
😂 me too
Or watch it now and do the thing you need to do later
It’s Only 11:45 minutes , but it feels like a whole course full of information and motivation . I am taking action. Thank you Mark
that David Goggins alarm cracked me up 😂, stay hard stay hard 💪. Environment influences humans greatly 💯 %
I’m not procrastinating, I’m in bed watching this video
Mark I love how you make videos to help people with their productivity since these tips can mean the difference between being poor or rich
dude hes helped me get so much more productive in the psst month
The difference between happy and miserable too
saved for watch later.
This is the real deal! This video goes into the science of procrastination without overwhelming people.
Procrastination is quite simple. It involves tweaking your surroundings, a system of rewards and punishments that makes bad decisions challenging and good decision fun, breaking down big tasks into smaller, manageable steps, and, lastly:
JUST. DOING. IT!
((Also, not being smart 🤣🤣))
OMG YOURE HERE TOO
I read this "do something principle" in Mark's blog years ago and it changed my life. I'm glad to see it in the video
"it's taking action that makes you feel good"
Real asf!!🔥🔥
I NEED this STAY HARD alarm sound! That's so sick bro!
Mark - That was a good clear and concise video with a lot of meat and no extra fluff. Your communication skills and authenticity are much appreciated. I will always make time to watch your videos.
This felt like a trailer for Jiwon's story. Can't get enough MM helping people and I want to see more! 👍
“Do something” 100%, my personal experience that backs that up is I’ve had to do big jobs at work and I’ve done a small portions them. After finishing the first small portion I’ve decided to do another small portion and not long after I’ve found that I have completed the big jobs which seemed overwhelming!.
I love this so much because I am myself a master procrastinator. I push everything off because I overthink it that doesn’t get me anywhere this video gave me a different insight about failing and how it’s not really considered a failure because you’ve tried and you’ve learned from the experience!
Really loving this new style of videos where you help and interact with other people ! The podcast style episodes are great as well, but these are definitely on a whole other level !
Keep up the good work Mark !
My semester starts back up tomorrow, this came at a fantastic time
"the more you motivate other , the more you find motivate in return" so true ! Cant wait for the Korean videos!
"Just do it. it's not big of a deal. Just by doing anything, you learn something."
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. There are a few changes I wish for my life, including finally doing more for my business than building a fancy homepage and then dream of having success with it 😅
I love it how you put environment as first. It truly is. Sadly it gets relegated to the middle of the list in most self-help videos.
I'm reminded of a quote by Charles Bukowski: "The problem with the world is that intelligent people are full of doubts, while stupid people are full of confidence." Not that I'm saying that you have to be stupid to get anything done, naturally. I'm just saying that when you're smart, you tend to second guess yourself and put things off by "studying" the matter as long as possible to feel like you're actually doing something. I have this problem myself.
10:36 failure moves us forward. what an impactful.
"not feel like doing it"
yea you're so right 😂 as a content creator, there's always times when i hit that, even though i like what i'm doing.
i usually playing online games when procrasinate.
hmmm...
so the point is, just "do something else" that still align with your goal, right?
then, the motivation will be started when you take that action.
okay, noted. i will try to avoid gaming when procrasinate, and do other stuff instead 😂
thank you for the video!
What videos you make man..... Haha,
What age is yours
One more thing. Don't rely on motivation to get work done. It's short term and won't get you anywhere. Build and maintain discipline.
Failure is the pillar of success
This video hit differently. I've felt very stuck at work, and procrastination has been a major reason for it, coming out of the holidays. I feel like I can use a lot of this to move forward.
Awesome video, Mark. I like Robin Sharma's take on this too: ideation without execution is a delusion.
Hands down the best and most down to earth self-help content on Yt
I love that video! So motivating! Your "do something principle" has helped me a lot in the past and still does!
This is the final line of truth I needed to read. Thank you, Mark! "Every problem of inaction is ultimately a problem of emotion". I've got so many things to do on my fifo list, that it's just insane to think of it. And that is allways getting emontionaly in the way and stopping me.. So that finally is THE core reason, WHY I am procrastinating so often, yet I am successfull and could achieve so much more (selfemployed for 10 years allready). Thank you, Mark, from the depths of my dark and anxious soul for this golden line of truth. Only the best wishes to you!
4:00 Overthinking it's not a luxury , it's a burden !
마크 맨슨으로 부터 꾸준한 도움을 받아 점점 성장해가는 지원님을 보면서 많은 저도 덩달아 함께 힘내게 되네요!! 앞으로도 건강한 미래를 위해 파이팅 하십쇼!!
Been putting off a lot of things in my life lately. This video really came at the right time. Every video has been a banger lately, Mark. Thank you.
Dude the "Stay Hard" alarm clock killed me!
As soon as i saw your video i just put it in watch later to just procastinate to watch your video about procrastinating 🙂
I watched the whole video and he has some great ideas…I just haven’t gotten around to doing it yet
Love seeing how you help people in live situations. It’s heartwarming to see a bit of kindness in this world…
Thanks, Mark. I really appreciated this one. A lot of insights. Thanks a lot.
I love how Ali Abdaal puts it in his book: "It's not a failure, it's a datapoint". If you think about your whole life as a set of experiments, where there is no such thing as failure, but just a data for learning, it changes perspective entirely.
5:30 the do something overcomes my particular procrastination issue, related to perfectionism, especially with the rumination of my introvert self, but never really thought about it that way. I spend so much time thinking about how to do it that it becomes a cost and I don’t want to waste the time I spent and have it go wrong. I started working out and rather than focusing on a deadline or specific target (size, aesthetic), I focused on getting better, iterative improvement. Now, instead of focusing on getting it perfect out of the gate, or having every workout be ideal, I just focus on getting into the gym that day because once I get dressed, shoes on and get there, nothing to do but go to work and even if I don’t work as hard that day, it’s still progress and ACTION TOWARD MY GOAL!
I procrastinated before watching this and I'm watching this while procrastinating my homework
Booyah! Released a non-podcast video! Love this format. Packed full of content and only 11 minutes in length. Thank you 🎉
I work as a business mentor, so motivating people and I didn’t find it motivated me because I saw all the hard work they had to do. However I have now been motivated to write a book because I’m tired to repeating myself thousands of times so hopefully all my new clients will be coming to me after reading the book so I can do what I do best rather than repeating basic concepts
Definitely going to watch this next week
😋😻😻😻😂
Cleanest video I've watched in a while. Nothing but straight facts. Love brother x
Great video! Not sure about the incentive take tho. I recall that Huberman says that you should avoid getting used to incentives every time you accomplish something. You can utilize the flipping coin method. If you win you get an incentive, if you lose you don't. The point is that internal motivation is the strongest drive for our actions, the best results come from enjoying the process of what you are doing. If you get used to get a reward you will be less motivated because you're doing that for external reasons. (I hope my english was understandable enoungh 😅)
This is only like the best video i seen in long time on the topic. Funny shxt lol very well done. Didn't know Edison was tweaking off the white girl. If we didn't have cocaine we wouldn't have electricity
Mark love your work and love all the recent long form content! You're making a huge difference in the world and I'm so proud of you! Keep it going!
because we are all Gen Z watching this (mostly) we expect gen z self-improvement content with stupid memes and shit. and I'm saying that being part of Gen Z. your content is so authentic it makes me want to laugh and do 100 pushups at the same time! I've read your book and it really helped me and is still helping me with social skills so I'm very grateful for everything you provide the world mark. thanks so much!
Seems like an important video, I’ll add it to watch later
Thanks mark!
Man your videos are building me piece by piece.
Every video brings me one step forward, and don't worry, I'm starting to do, not just enjoy this self-help rush and then do nothing.
You're currently the best, and most honest, for real.
Great video and exactly what I needed to see at exactly the right time! I’ve been procrastinating starting exercising and now, I’m ready to start with the smallest step. Thanks Mark!
An excellent summary of how to overcome procrastination. Thanks for sharing
Hey Mark, If you could do this coaching video series (on international level apart from USA) just like for jiwon, you not only help/assist a little with lot of people's problems but also get to know a lot about the many countries cultures just like you said in the video you also end up helping/assisting lot of people' s problem (maybe like almost half the planet earth i guess)
from various countries (especially from various cultures).
Thank you!! I needed this encouragement to get myself moving. Love you Mark for your wisdom 😘
You don't just talk the talk Mark. You walk the ducking walk 🦆 and you help other people do it, too. Love watching you help others!
Dude, we need to see you train for your marathon! :)
People with ADHD are prone to struggle with procrastination *because* it is, absolutely, a feelings thing.
It is thought that their brains find it harder to work past and with the *feeling* of "not wanting to do it" because of the way they are wired.
They find it more challenging to force themselves to focus on things that are not, in the moment, the most stimulating option ("I'm bored" or "this isn't urgent enough right now") Specifically it's the way ADHD impacts emotional regulation (and the dysregulation of the brain's dopamine reward/motivation system).
A lot of the advice is universal, but it can be challenging! And people with brains that are far enough over on the spectrum to hit the 'clinical diagnosis' threshold will probably wrestle more with it, even as the same tips and principles to combat procrastination apply.
(I do not have time to watch the vid right now; apologies if this is already covered).
(Editing for clarity)
It's so much worse than that. Because our dopamine systems don't work correctly, there is no satisfaction in a job well done. There is no reward, ever.
I don't feel pride when I complete a project, even if it's something I'm really into, I'm just glad it's finally over.
The only real thing covered was perhaps environmental adjustments that make things easier for the target.
Not an example used in the video but a goal to keep dirty clothes off the bedroom floor can be managed by changing your environment to have the dirty clothes hamper in the bedroom or bathroom rather than the laundry.
Still no happy brain chemical rewards as such but less obstacles in the home.
Did you ever get around to watching it in the end 😂
@@oliflemmer I had some food and watched a youtube reaction video of the movie Perfect. And then some of the actual movie Pitch Perfect. and now I'm baaack for another go 😂
how to know if a person has ADHD?
I have severe procrastination issues
I marked this video as "watch later" a month ago. Just now watching it.
Love the editing and timing, spot on. The advise is also great!
Whenever I feel demotivated, or feel like giving up the grind and just waste my time, one of your videos pops up on my YT feed and it helps a lot. Thank you!
When I was 15, I only had one goal. To secure a hundred percent in my final exams.
Yep, it was so silly and childish as anything, but that's something that had me all excited at that age. And I also had a good plan that had worked for many toppers before that. And I remember that was probably one of the most productive years of my life. I had a goal, and a reliable plan that could almost guarantee success.
(Bad that the exams got cancelled due to covid later lmao.)
After that, I lost the hold of everything because I had goals but no ways to achieve them. Like there was no one to tell me, do this and you'll achieve it. And in fact whoever did achieve those goals before me that I had aimed for, had started much earlier. So, that brought a sense of being too late in my mind. Demotivating af.
Lost all my time procrastinating to think about it and plan everything for myself.
I still don't have a lot of clarity about how can I achieve all that I want. And I keep procrastinating figuring out a way to it. Hope I do figure it out soon. 🙂
2 ways:
1)do research specifically into how to accomplish each goal. Of course you’ve tried already. Do more. Do something different.
2)do anything. See if it brought you closer or farther away, and proceed accordingly. Remember the children’s party game where the one kid looks for the hidden keys while the others yell “hot, cold”. The only way to fail this game is to stand still
@@M_SCYep. I tried the first point already, in fact since the past 3 years, I've been in that loop. I tried searching for one clear way, like a clear path to everything that I wanna achieve. But the conclusion, that I know I realised way too late because of procrastinating all the time was only that there's no specific guaranteed way. It's like a lot of luck is involved there and doesn't matter how hard I or anyone tries, no one can figure out a plan that can guarantee success.
And that only made me realise that real life is so different from schools and exams. There's no time table that can guarantee success. Real life is in fact like a chess game, where I can't plan all the moves in the beginning of the game, there's a lot that I will have to figure out as I keep playing. That requires me to be mentally alert and use my analysation skills everytime like we do before a nee move.
It's the only way and there's no magical plan that I can blindly follow like a bunch of books for school exams.
Tough realisation, but that's a fact and I have to accept it.
Lmao, that's similar to my story. The difference between us is that covid postponed our exams and I did really well, topper of 7 districts in my state. But the aftermath is not so good. I procrastinated a lot, don't have any kind of goal, got some personal issues and now I feel like shit.😊
@@nothingbuttamil8988I feel you, mate. 🤝
My takeaways:
- Procrastination is mainly an emotional problem-we’re avoiding things we don’t want to do, and we can dream up a ton of reasons why we don’t want to do them.
- “Smart” people tend to procrastinate the most since they can dream up tons of reason why they shouldn’t be doing something.
- Humans are awful at taking action on something unless the pain of inaction outweighs the pain of action.
- **Use the DO SOMETHING Principle-just start doing something small to build momentum.**
- **The perfect first step is writing down the problem you’re working on. Then rewrite it. Writing it down will help you make sense of the situation.**
- Action is the CAUSE of motivation, not the vice versa.
- Start with something so small that you can’t help not do it.
- 4 Steps to Taking Action
- Tailor your environment for success
- Create incentives
- Leverage social pressure
- **Recognize that failure moves us forward**
- The point of your goals is not your goals-it’s to get you to take action
That one about forcing yourself to walk the distance at the start is so true cause the only times I’ve ever done a 1/2 marathon ruck march was when I walked from my house into town or vise versa because I have no way of Quito h especially if I’m like 3/4s of the way there it would be faster for me to just finish it than walk back and that giving you to do it makes it 1000000x easier
hey mark i need videos like these. condensed and on point. please try making more videos like these. I watch these kind of videos more than podcasts. i will try your podcasts and thanks for this one.
i maybe take a few of these words back
Maybe try doing something actually?
For those of you who haven’t read Atomic Habits, this is all you need to possibly know about it.
This advice is obviously a general way to beat procrastination. For those of us with ADHD and mood disorders, this isn't simply not enough.
If I wait until a few hours before Deadline I finally have an environment that forces me to work. Thanks Mark!
This is the kind of video we want . We want to see you man.....Don't the f**king podcasts with some unknown persons giving solutions in a boring way . Love You Mark
00:57 🌍 The most crucial factor in behavior change is your environment; set it up to make your desired change inevitable.
02:24 🏆 Create incentives for yourself by setting up rewards and punishments for your behaviors to enhance motivation.
05:48 📝 Embrace the "Do Something" principle: take small, simple actions today to move towards your goal, as action is the cause, not the result, of motivation.
08:14 👥 Leverage social pressure positively to achieve goals, recognizing its power in motivating and influencing action.
10:40 🔄 Embrace failure as a tool for learning and progress; the point of goals is not just achieving them but the continuous process of taking action.
This is brilliant! I’ve been struggling with procrastination for over a year, and I haven’t managed to break the cycle;I just feel I can “get away with it”
You put so much value out there thanks Mark 😃
On the next episode: Why I left my wife to live with Jiwon
My ADHD makes this a bit tricky
Best video you've ever done Mark! Love the storytelling part!
Been watching lots of your videos lately and have to say, that there's so much good advice and actually helpful views and points made!
Great job and thanks a lot, man!
My mind is blown. Never would have thought environment played a part. I make mine too comfortable for myself. Thank you!
Okay lets all take a moment to laugh hard at that Goggins Alarm sound, its killing me😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I just have to say, this video is excellent. The editing and your delivery is so good
You’re the best, mark! STAY HARD.
I procrastinate because im smart, thank you lol
As always - amazing tips! Will implement them! Big fan here! A lil constructive feedback: the editing is really unnecessary and distracts from the message. All the added clips are interruptions. It would be great if you'd just speak. No editing/production necessary. Pressing record on your camera is enough. Nothing else needed. Thanks!
I agree, less is more.
yes! the over editing is made for 12year olds.
Wow didn't expect this video to be that helpful and interesting to watch. Thank you Mark!
I am such a perfectionist that many times it is difficult for me to settle on a plan because I always come up with a better plan a better idea
This video seems cool
*saves to watch later*
The editing on this is S tier
STAY HARD
I was looking for something like this..
And I started my journey from yesterday!
This video is gonna be my teacher.
Will watch this video everyday!
To remind myself.
Journey is the happiness.
Thank you Mark for making this video.
wow powerful video, love this!!