#1 Quality I Find Most Attractive (as an INTJ Female)
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- Опубліковано 27 лип 2024
- The level of satisfaction I get from trolling the MBTI community with these video titles... is high. But seriously, the premise of this video couldn't be any more honest in terms of my perspective on this subject ... as an INTJ female.
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INTJ: I'm attracted to the fortitude of adaptability, the wisdom of patience, and the temperance of pragmatism.
Everyone else: Wat?
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Ummm, I mean, defying one's intrinsic programming to effect fundamental transformation of one's default psyche is cute and all, but what if the person is still kind of an uggo? Like, what if they have that weird chicken soup body odor? ISFP ain't havin' it.
@@Siansonea Chicken soup? Maybe season with paprika? A superficial problem usually has a superficial solution.
0.0 fortitude of adaptability? didn't realize one would need that much courage to adapt oneself to a situation. I think it's much more imp to have fortitude to fight for people with less privilege than oneself. :\
The wisdom of patience 🖤
Great job of explaining why INTJs are known for their passion for self-improvement.
You know I've heard a few people mention that before ... it's so interesting how that anecdote exists within the type.
INTJs...Sapiosexuals, the entire lot of us.
One thing I find so fascinating about INTJs is their capacity for moral good. I find it so odd how they have the stereotype of evil, scheming, people-hating sadists, when in reality they are the most caring because they get right to the point about what matters. I have such a profound respect for you guys. You mystify me to no end.
You understand us 😭🖤
Finally, someone has said it, thank you.
I second that, no one seems to understand us 😭
That doesn't go for all intjs. I am intj(did the test 2 times and got intj) and i don't care much about morals.
It is because we are more rational and always tend to go with evidence
(Which is the best thing to do)
I'm going to use that pick up line next time: "I had low expectations of you but you managed to beat them, wanna go on a date?"
😄 😂
Make sure you video that, I'll get some popcorn.
That could go either way tbh.
Taking risks, I like it.
I've actually said this to a human, and it went over very well. People typically enjoy forthrightness more than they think.
@@AlextheENTP I wouldn't consider that a risk compared to the other shit I do. Sometimes I wonder if I am an INTJ at all. Maybe an unhealthy one
The most attractive quality I value as an intj is loyalty. Most of the things I do and like others to do go against the mainstream or popular narrative. So when I see someone sticking with the unpopular , often with my suggestion as apposed to what they have been spoon fed through media and close minded individuals. This shows that they are willing to go against the ideas that were forced on them by the other sheep. More on that note , Knowing that a person is reliable and has that steadfast and unwavering quality towards you is really good.
Yep you are right
This is something that I often feel
So self-improvement is a turn-on for an NT... why did I come here expecting to be surprised?
To say i turn myself on would look wrong but hey lol.
Mentally: We need someone similar to us.
Physically: We need someone our opposite.
Emotions can adapt.
The qualities that I find the most attractive are definitely self sufficiency, self improvement and the will to push yourself for more despite the odds. I also usually have very low expectations (or even no expectations at all) of people, I think this is probably an INTJ thing. Due to this, I've rarely ever felt disappointed of someone before. I'm perfectly self sufficient, so whenever I hear someone saying "omg I don't think I would be able to live without him/her in my life", I'm instantly disgusted. This might be a strong reaction but this is honestly what's going through my mind. With time, I'm learning how to be more mature and understanding regarding the way other people are wired but I know this is not something I could ever find attractive. Nothing excites me more than self-growth, improvement, learning, all of this just brings me this sense of satisfaction and achievement on such a deep level, nothing else can make me experience something similar. Everything else feels kind of dull or empty; I could be doing something else for fun, have a good time and a nice memory of it, but a part of me would still feel a lingering sensation of emptiness, like what I just did didn't bring me anything meaningful. So if I ever were to meet someone with those qualities (never did yet), I think this person would probably be the most cognitively attractive person I would ever get to meet.
Yess absolutely.
Who is John Galt?
Pride. Pride is what I find most fascinating. Because there is no group who has more self-confidence and pride than INTJs. But likewise, there is no other group who can calculate the detriment and inefficiencies of pride as well as we can. So when I see this symbolic tug of war, it's intriguing to say the least.
I enjoy a good suffering, I got addicted to sugar and gained 100 pounds just so I could battle the addiction and lose weight for fun
Lol 😆
@@InternetLiJo no joke got addicted to nicotine (just vaping so i could reduce potential health affects) just so I could see what it was like and better see how truly hard it is to overcome nicotine addiction and feel superior to people who cant do it.
long story short nicotine addiction fucking sucks lol don't do it. I totally feel for people who suffer from it now
@@markshamp3699 I did it for fun, knowing the pros and cons, I enjoyed becoming unaddicted. It was pretty easy thou, weed was definitely harder then nicotine but really it wasn't that hard
😄 Very sexy of u
@@lulu7304 😳
"Good character is not formed in a week or a month. It is created little by little, day by day. Protracted and patient effort is needed." - Heraclitus
You're right on 2:08
My biggest achievement was recovering from a Class A drug addiction by myself. I was just tired of being used and preyed upon by others.
I'm an ENFP and I couldn't agree more with your analysis of what makes a human being admirable and attractive. You couldn't have said it any better.
Thanks so much Teddy, it couldn't be any more of the truth.
This made sense to me. I want to be with someone who has mental strength to overcome life's challenges (many of which are just mental / personal challenges) and wants to be better. People like that seem hard to find though, within friendships but even more so in romantic relationships. As an INTJ I want people to make sense but they rarely do. If they can articulate to me how they work or why a thing happened then that's a good start.
Yes :)
@@InternetLiJo I find a lot of my FP friends tend to be good at this. I'm not sure if that makes sense according to their personality stack or not though 🤔
Ironically, for an INTJ this attitude means following your main conscious function. So your desire for self growth or change in others merely means lack of change in yourself..
XNFPs have a Te too, which is why perhaps you can relate to them. Except using Te for them is more of an actual achievment.
@@NJ-wb1cz I wouldn't say that's true for me. I'd say I am experiencing A LOT of personal change and growth, which is why I expect it in others. If I'm going to the trouble of doing it and seeing the rewards/dividends then I expect others to do it too. "Are you with me?" I cry. The wind whistles across a barren landscape in response.
Okay bye. 😂
"if they can articulate to me how they work or why a thing happened then that's a good start"!!!! YYYYYESSS
Yep, people are predictable. If you can see the patterns of past behaviour, then you can predict future behaviour.
Intuition knows the majority of people do not change. They do not have a growth mind set, as they prefer to be in their comfort zone. This makes them predictable.
The people who show my intuition to be false, who do change. Wow, that is so amazing and attractive. The drug addict who stops taking drugs etc.
Great video and message!
Yess you get it 🖤
For me, this can be actually considered a bias like any other - to suffer in order to change and improve, again and again. It forms a loop, basically the same expected pattern, just with INTJ flavour. The exit, I think, is to suffer to transcend it and realise there is nothing to be improved upon (aka unconditional awakening) but... that brings me back to my bias ;)
I had this exact same thought.
I swear to God, it's as if you took a USB key and took the file out of my head and translated it into yours. I think the exact. same. way. On point my love 👌
Isn’t it so nice to hear your own language? I feel the same way talking to other INTjs 👽
I am an INTJ my self and I cannot agree more.
Human nature is not that complicated.
Even tho this is a video about what you found attractive,,
I unintentioanlly use this vid as a motivation to get better.
Thanks LiJo
This was my real intention 🖤
I thought that was the actual meaning.
I'm always aiming for self-improvement which is why I look into MBTI but I don't get very far with it. I'm not even sure what my type is anymore so don't know how to use it. Or are you saying that MBTI is not valid? I'm not sure what I should be doing differently and I don't know what I do. People online seem to think I'm all different types. Do you know what I do and how I can overcome it?
It took me a while to get the meaning of this video is solely to motivate others.
It does not matter what your type is because our goal here is to use all 8 functions in a balanced manner. Your MBTI type only tells you which function is developed for you but thr goal for every type still remains the same.
I am working really really hard for the future. I hope I can attract a super smart INTJ cutie OwO
Yesss get it.
hello Lijo
as and INTJ Male I too find girls that are being good or successful at their life attractive and also they make me better cos I can learn from them and be proud of them to be as friend or boyfriend
I'm an INTJ and I did that.That by which I mean in high school I was alone in class and was shown some explicit stuff by a group of humans that affected my psyche and mental control.I lost the ability of my mind that seeked pleasure and comfort.As an INTJ I could see the problem and needed a way to go against the mind to take charge of it. thanks to Nofap, team fearless and discplinary actions like working out, no sugar no unhealthy food based diet, no bad habits of any kind.I managed to stop it from taking over my mind but not completely.Its hard with relapses and requires consistency and repetition.
Unfortunately since my problem is linked to sexual pleasure. I had to completely distance and cut off women from my life because they seem to be toxic and prefer hanging out with the same human boys that got me into this mess in the first place. Girls with their skimpy outfits is a trigger that's best avoided completely.
I hope that one day I'll be able to find a safe space where I could get back to interacting and building relationships with women that are good and have character.
I once had this experience as a child when I tried to lick my icecone and the icecream fell off. I acted like it didn’t matter but it did and I felt miserable all day. It thought me how valuable it is to talk about my feelings even though I am an introverted feeler, and now I am a much better human as a result.
I'm 44 years old and it still bothers me that I didn't hold onto my MIckey Mouse helium balloon well enough, and because of that, I watched it fly away high up into the sky, unable to get it back again. And, nobody seemed to care about my plight. Sigh. I didn't cry, or talk about it either. I think I was about 6 years old then. I can imagine you felt the same way about that ice cream cone. I'm an INTJ, and I understand. :-)
what i think you are getting at IS well-roundedness. most people realize what theyre good at and/or comfortable with and; they just, simply do that thing without ever really challenging themselves.
BUT, someone who truly seeks to be a better person recognizes what they are poor at and, they seek to improve those lesser developed qualities.
AND, in improving those lesser qualities, they raise themselves as well as the rest of humanity overall with them.
This is pretty intriguing... Listening to it, I wonder why I feel ticked with some of the things you said.
Maybe because I'm one of those who heavily rely on past experiences (yes, Si-dom here). Sometimes, if I often recall one particular event as something that made me "as I am now", most likely is because it greatly shook everything I previously knew and believed for so long, so that it suddenly changes the way I think, behave and make decisions.
I agree though, that change and growth is an eternal, lifelong process, since I never know what life's throwing at me in the future. And, if I have to say, one of my INTJ friend is very amusing in her natural tendency to pull me towards uncomfortable, albeit necessary, new methods and approaches. It sometimes tire me out, but I do see the positive purpose behind it, so trying to understand and open up to her perspectives and ideas is still giving me delight.
As an INFJ watching her this is absolutely magical with such an honesty and I really hope I meet an INTJ in the future when I am fully developed, since the life I want requires me to consistently look in certain details, leaps of faiths, and public relations once Im recognized, but seriously, if this is the general look of INTJs I can see the appeal, so logical, its amazing.
Absolutely! Put yourself in an uncomfortable place or push yourself to do better, be better for you and others... so hot
YESSS
Yes, as you mentioned, you see that with people recovering from addiction. At my internship, a few years ago, I co-facilitated a DBT group for people suffering from addiction and mental health issues. By the time they got to the DBT group, they were further along in their recovery so there was also a lot of opportunity for growth. DBT is all about the experience of discomfort and using it to grow. The transformations you would often see were remarkable!
I find self-knowledge attractive i.e. when people understand their limitations and when they are not obsessed with something that is considerably better than themselves.
I find it attractive when people know what they can and what they cannot do.
I find it attractive when people are attracted to people who are similar to them and in similar situation as they are.
Basically, I find it attractive when people are comfortable with who they are (regardless of who they are in reality.)
The number one quality that I find attractive is self-respect.
You cannot successfully change yourself towards the better unless you previously understand who you are in the present.
I also find people who want to cooperate (and thus divide labor) more attractive than those who don't want to cooperate and who want to be independent (i.e. do everything on their own.) This is quite simply because independence of that sort is an unrealistic goal. Independent thought is very attractive, independence of the absolute (or merely close-to-absolute) kind very unattractive.
Interesting and appreciated angle on humans. I tend to hold most of humanity in contempt, but I like the idea of just not being disappointed a lot more. I'll bet it takes less energy, too.
It's the difference between knowledge and wisdom imo. Because there are very capable people addicted to their one way of seeing and doing things.
Wow, you worded it perfectly "acts against cognitive biases and mental programing to expand their own mind"
Although I do think single experiences can have a drastic effect on somones cognitive function i.e
Exposed to violence from early in life, enacted it out through childhood/adolecence.
Saw two people punching eachother in the face (One knocked unconcious) the first time I had experimented with psychedelics, It disgusted and confused me (psyde note: psyche meaning the mind/delic meaning to open: Greek)
This caused a complete paradigm shift and life changing epiphany. Suppose thats an example of how one experience changed not only the way I saw and approached situations but the trajectory of my life.
These days I try use my words and my brain.
i used to read a lot of books (now thanks to internet, barely read),
i finished a university in a foreign country,
i work out everyday, look very athletic with 8pack
i have a great work ethic. I try to perfect and routinize boring tasks like when i worked at a warehouse and in a landscape crew.
And i dont think ive done a lot to "overcome" to achieve these things, it happens in an organic way and studying/working out/learning is just fun. And when i say something like "i need to hangout with people around me" people dont even recognize how much effort i have to put to do so, or organize a party(pure horror). Fellow INTJ.
Nailed it! First part of the video is going to be hard to digest for most non-intj"s :)...you've just exposed us LOL but hey it is the truth.
It is 😉
As an intj female, I am attracted to kindness and thoughtfulness (with regard to people’s feelings) because I think I am lacking in those areas.
Actually same
To a certain extent, I agree. But sometimes I judge people as being "too nice." I do admire people who have figured out the social system, though.
Same here. INTJ male
Thats what is confusing about me, i am an INTJ but sometimes i come out as an INFJ. Most of the time i just turn of my feelings, but when i see someone in need, my feelings will surface and i will care. I dont think all INTJs fit in a mould and there are different variance among us.
In my case, as an INTJ, I search for someone to share ideas with
The INTJ trait I like best is creative thinking. I like seeking solutions and working with another problem solver is like having super powers!
As an ENFP, INTJs are naturally very attractive. I seem to turn them off because the two (and it's only two) INTJ women I met that I wanted to date had a couple conspiracy theories/philosophies I couldn't follow and they lost respect.
Spectacular video, Lindsey!
My new favorite channel (as I shed a few tears ) . We INTJ’s rock.
Glad you made it here Richy!
Great video! Best one yet!!
Yes, that is what life is all about. It can be tough to change your reality this way but this why we’re here
Soo what your saying is in order to develop inferior Se all I need to do is leave my room??? I'll think about it. Haha tertiary Ti is such a troll.
Haha yes
lmao
Love it that the introduction is .. An introduction. The general feeling I get from it is "this needs to be done" "it's an unfortunate necessity". As soon as those words are spoken, you can see you can't wait to come down to business.
That's some insightful feedback, thank you!
Glad to see I'm stumbling in the right direction 😁
That’s all it takes
@@InternetLiJo maybe I'll stumble into a nice girl who is on the same path and we can stumble along together.
@@BREAKOUT444 when ya find, be sure to ask her "can you poop?"
I love you. As an infj, I appreciate you and what you appreciate. 🌸
Omg yes. That particular quality combined with incredible crisis response and management 🔥💥
Your everything I expect of an INTJ. We are different even though we share 3 out of 4 of the MBTI traits. You have an impressive view of yourself. I feel that I am of little consequence unless I am helping others with no expectations. What does that T stand for in your mind? I am somewhat new to this MBTI thing. I am a 51 year old male INFJ 4w/5 which I just found out a year ago. So for 50 odd years I slogged through life thinking I belong to another world. In my experience prior to MBTI, there are two types of people. Selfish and the selfless. The latter is the rare people as the vast majority of humans are quite centric in their views. I have the ability to look through others eyes and I don't expect anyone to change except by their own effort or need. I don't accept the stereotype that INTJ's are incapable of helping others when there is no personal gain to be had. I really don't like that concept that people can be like that, but over 50 years that seems the norm. I am literally trying to learn about the other groupings, if I am misguided let me know. If I offended you please forgive me. Keith
As an INTJ, seeking some sort of self-growth at most times, yes! I can go all the way with you there! We can help each other grow! It’s why I’m researching all of this because my lesser functions are important to me. And seeing someone else try to improve with us is beautiful! It’s hard, but your videos are helping me isolate my issues and while I might not be there, I am getting there. I am seeing that a majority of my issues come from willfully ignoring my tertiary and inferior functions. It’s just so hard for me to unwind and relax because it’s a waste of valuable time. But, I’m learning it’s necessary to keep a balance. Thank you for all you do. Also, hello to Fi and Se as I have had beer and contemplate the deeper meaning in my cognitive existence and betterment. I feel like most people usually choose different activities during this time. Such is life. Lol 🤷🏻♀️
ENTJ comment: I fully agree with this. Meeting people with the crazy stories how they overcame the odds, it's not only attractive it's inspiring and gives that person a bombshell of dignity.
Now the question ramains: how would you spot them and track them down most efficiently? ;)
INTJ answer. You don’t try and track them down. You carry through with your personal master plans and then look to your left and right and see who’s beside you. :)
@@InternetLiJohmm, this gave a moment of reflection.
What you are describing is a full stack human :)
Hopefully your perspective is shared more widely by those of all types who have sufficiently matured (granted, INTJs hold independence in especially high esteem).
Those who have the humility to see their own faults and the constitution to resume working on them after each relapse are very attractive to me (INTP Male) too. The more cognitive functions a person develops, the more resources they have at their disposal to not just survive, but thrive - it's logically the best thing to do.
In a society at large which seems to encourage people to be servile and comfortable, seeing people who liberate themselves is a joy.
Thank you Jono, that means a lott 🖤
I found this video interesting. I was a heroin attic in my early 20s (been clean for 6 years) but I never thought of me pulling myself out of that experience as an appealing quality about my character. Which I understand you were using drug addiction as an example to get your point across. Either way this video definitely invoked some thought of a perspective I didn't know existed. Good video
to add to this (I've still been pondering on it) I wonder if It's an Ni thing (Im an Ni dom but not INTJ) to find this kind of positive change in a person attractive because of the futuristic picture that's always being created in our minds. Hard to explain.
Holy smokes, that video was 6mins, felt like 1min
😍
incredibly well put
This was interesting and it resonated. I have to process this a bit.
Baby steps in the right direction... I hope. Sometimes it's just hard to tell if I'm doing it Fi/Se right because I'm really good at over compensating with my saviors. (Who isn't? But at least I can recognize that... ) But I am trying to push myself to be better at sensory skills and going with the flow, gathering and just doing what I want not what I should... But sometime the Ni wins and over organizes and plans for the sensory so I don't have to think about it... 🤦
Like I said... Baby steps lol
Great video Lindsay, very attractive 😂😉
To go with the flow; focus on breath and correlation with posture as you engage in physical activity. This will focus all levels of your psyche into observation mode. Not scolastic steam of add but concise grasp of the present moment in movement.
Omg this is ! Love his about people getting out of their comfort zone for self growth...omg. and wow.
What you want demands frequent ego death, the next most frightening thing after biological death. To get a sense of the pain, kill your own ego with this exercise: go out with someone you don't admire and spend one hour listening to her, while trying to explain her reality as consequences of feelings, not thoughts. BTW, this necessity you feel is similar to the anecdotal "feminin" desire for "masculin" divinity in being free from death. Develop your empathy: (0) practice identifying the positive that comes with each negative you see (e.g., messy, but creative; pedantic, but reliable, etc.); (1) establish a plausible causality based on their personality; (2) see it through their perspectives; (bonus) look at it through "the eyes of love" (come up with a benevolent alternative explanation for the seemingly bad behavior (e.g., the mother saying that her son will be a detective when he picks the nose in front of visitors)).
I know someone that was vulnerable with me when they first met me, they were in a tough spot, they asked for my opinion, and they came back and said “Your opinion helped me make this big choice because you made it make sense” then they grabbed those situations by the balls and turned their life around in about a month. They refused to stay down or mope, they just acted to change the situation, had a plan A-B in case the situations did not go as planned and did not get discouraged the first time something didn’t go as planned. It impressed the HELL out of me.
Heya LiJo, glad to see you still actively posting. I always love the stuff you put out there. In this video you ask a question about humans, or as you used to say, other humans. Which was basically why do 'other humans' have this seemingly unconquerable need to rely on other people for various aspects of their life, learning, growth, etc. You mention that it feels like cognitive weakness, though you cringe at putting it so bluntly.
I think I have an answer for you, if you'll stick with me on this. All of the four elements of an INTJ are entirely cognitive. As opposed to the polar opposite the ESFP which are entirely social. That means that from an ESFP's perspective everyone one else has this annoying tendency to overthink everything. And so too, an INTJ has the perspective that everyone else has a tendency to over feel/socialize everything. Does that make sense? It is not cognitive weakness that drives a person toward social interdependence. Just as it isn't being anti-social for a person to be driven toward more cognitive pursuits. It is an element of their personality that drives them in the direction they choose to go.
Also I'm not sure if you know this or not, if so please forgive me for covering this. And I'm not one hundred percent assured that this is correct. However it fits so well with my observations that I think that it is pretty accurate. Introverts are introverted due to an over sensitivity to acetylcholine, a reward endorphin. With this being on sliding scale where the more introverted a person, the higher the sensitivity. In extroverts, or mid range 'other humans' the reaction to acetylcholine tends to be weaker than to dopamine, the other reward endorphin. Acetylcholine it is believed, or perhaps proven, I don't actually know, to be strongly associated with memory. Or to put it another way, any strongly introverted person, can from memory manifest the biochemistry needed to feel happy spontaneously. With no more effort than recalling a fond interaction. As INTJs, I think we learn early on how to harvest this response naturally. We lack any of the more socially focused traits as featured in every other personality type on the planet. And as a result, I think it's only natural that we default to what works for us. Speaking in aggregate of course.
However, this isn't true for everyone else. Once you introduce even a single socially focused personality element, the response to social interactions will be naturally overwhelming by comparison. This is due to empathy. Empathy is the single defining behavior differentiation between reptiles and mammals. And I'm sure you can surmise the various physiological reasons for this. And so it's only natural to conclude that we, as human beings in aggregate, are heavily weighted towards social behaviors. In fact, for any personality, that has any social element of the ESFP, empathy becomes the primary way in which happiness, or to put it more clinically, emotional self regulation, is made manifest. As an INTJ, this was a very hard thing for me to get my head around. What do you mean no one else can do what we do? It seems almost incomprehensible. But it is unfortunately for us INTJs a reality of our world.
And so in closing I'd like to say that what really gets you feeling steamy. Are basically other INTJs. Thanks for reading my thoughts on this. Ciao for now, and I hope your day treats you well. And if you've read this far I challenge you dear reader to the following: #endhatrednow
That really is an inspiring person that can do what you describe, I'd wanna talk to that person for sure
I do it! So do many people on this channel. It's not really THAT hard lol
"The human experience"
you mean life?
There are other lofe forms... you slow.
Lmao Lin 😂
JUAN 5OLO I like “human experience” better, because it’s actually a privilege to be born in this lifetime at the “top of the food chain” if your mean “Life” in general there are many different experiences that living things have a flower, a goldfish , a chicken , all apart of LIFE but not human.
Wisdom, courage, temperance and justice - consistently, over time, which is rare. And I think when you see them in real life they stick out as different, swimming upstream, trying.
This is one of the best general life purpose explanations,
hidden under the veil of "what a pretty smart girl finds attractive".
Thanks LiJo! :D
Spot on!
Goddamn, that's some hot, steamy, intellectual talk right there
Right? I’m saying...
When people act against their own biase, wow! That is truly admirable... You're right Lindsey.
!! It's so true isn't it
@@InternetLiJo as true as my sense of awe when I see your beauty and wittiness. Hopefully I won't be tagged as harrassing you for speaking my mind.
Guillermo Cuadra i preferred to be both worshiped and feared so you’re doing fine. 😆
Well, everytime I now don't want to engage my demon Si, I'm just going to remember "Lindsay finds it attractive". That should be motivation enough 😌
Yeeee my plans at work 😉
omg me too! not an intj but watching someone grow like that makes me so proud and motivated in a way like im watching a protagonist in a story...especially if they were like an underdog.
Started off with something that was almost soul touching, then I think you changed the direction and now I gotta watch this a couple more time's, in order to follow...
It was defined by coherent lines of intent, all the way through.
For years, I was unaware of these inferior parts (the Fi and Se), and since I was not developing them, I had to tax myself, by giving access to others, who couldn't handle my core OS, even if I gave them the instructions, on how to do it. So, by identifying the inferior one, the Se, I am very close to total independence of outsourcing clocking mechanism to keep my core operating system in tune with the true meaning of a developed INTJ. Your videos are inspiring me a lot. Thanks.
I was just waiting for you to say intelligence 😍😘
Couldn’t agree more!!
I find it smart to answer men when they ask what turns me on with ‘self-improvement’, firstly it’s something to be observed over long term that they cannot pretend, secondly even if someone manage to pretend they do actually need to put in effort, so it’s for their own good in the end
You managed put this into words for me
The smile you put on when you said "cognative weakness" was pure gold. I don't know if I've seen you smile bigger. Anyone making a concerted effort to ACTUALLY human better gets points. Anyone helping others do that in the process gets more points. Anyone jammin deep didge while simultaneously busting out the sick symetric forms gets mad points. But...shredding the 6 string bass... instant winning. Fun vid, bud. Hope you, hubs and furry child are well.
Makes a lot of sense, I like people that are constantly trying to improve (or learn) something from themselves or their environment, and the worst thing you can say to me is "that's how it always has been done".
Yes I totally agree with what it s attractive, because it s like destiny against free will . Hoping that free will will prevail despite the destiny cognitive pattern inside us that s already programmed - GREAT PERSPECTIVE - It totally resonate with me too. I want to be proof wrong that destiny won't prevail at the end of the day , that restore the dignity of human free will with the gained real independence
To me, it's as simple as someone who wants to solve their problems. That's all
When we said “weakness” at the same time I automatically subscribed we’re ALIKEEEE INTJ STAND UP
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You are so write
I do think every body is working for there desire wellbeing etc
Very nietzschean 🙂. This might be THE ONLY long term trait that makes a human being attractive. I’ve also come to this conclusion. But there is also a multiplier to attraction value here, which is innate talent in that person. What I found paradoxical though is that by seeking pain for the desire to grow I developed in time no desire for pleasure and comfort at all and even avoid it by habit. Also when I do find a person attractive due to their drive and relative hight innate talent, I deconstruct their path to their success, emulate it, surpass it and therefore find it no longer attractive or “magical”. Which is just sad in the end... It’s a byproduct of never admitting or succumbing to defeat. Unfortunately love is admitting defeat in some way I guess, or at least passionate love is...
Its hard to make yourself better and improve as a person when you only have bad reinforcement in your life, i always want it to play the guitar and paint and be good at that but the toxic and abuse comments of my family and people around make it harder to feel that i was good enough and being capable to get to be a great guitar player or painter, the question of how to overcome this awful childhood experiences and develop miself and feel good doing it still haunts me til this day.
I get what you mean, but it takes a lot of education and discipline. You have to know your worth and live with purpose. If music and art is what you’re good at, then you have those for a reason no matter what anyone says, therefore, use them. Try finding some books, podcasts, and other things to answer your questions, motivate you, help you know your worth, and help you practice your skills. Find yourself. Ask yourself the big questions, if you know what I mean. Never let negative people intoxicate your life. If you love doing something, do it. Let others continue to insult people in their own discontentedness.
I was smiling the whole time watching this video because if you knew how I grew up you would see how far I have come in life. -ISTJ
I just love INTJ women... 😌😌😍😍
My ESFP heart just melts down😏
I'm an INFJ and I can also agree with this. It might be proving our Ni pattern recognition wrong. But maaaan can I not stand people who are predictable which is why I like ENFPs so much
As infj i agree intelligence and willing to live authentically and willing to grow...
I like that too. People that throw themselves against difficult, uncomfortable things that can change them is amazing to watch. Seeing someone overcome self imposed adversity is an attractive spectacle. As a heterosexual INTJ man, the thing I find most attractive is that quality. But I set a gauntlet for them to run through. I enjoy seeing them pass the benchmarks as they go. The first thing I notice is your integrity. I get along with people that can make decisions and stick to them. I like people who can make up their mind and decide things for themselves. Not only that, I like to see them stand for it. Speak out and stand firm even if they stand alone. I like people that lead by example. They live what they speak and believe. Fickleness and mercurial attitudes are a huge turn off for me. Whether its friendship or some other communicative association, if I can't depend on you to be consistent then I can't choose to associate with you.
I love seeing integrity in others!
@@InternetLiJo You know, sometimes when I write down the things I think they really don't sound as good as they did when I thought them. I don't think there's enough context to determine whether or not I just showed an incredibly negative display of myself. In my personal experience, it's best to build a labyrinth around myself. If people want to be close associates with me, then I need them to find their way into the center. I put up obstacles and tests so I can find out quickly how the people around me really are. The most attractive thing for me is witnessing someone accomplish that task. Social interaction is an opportunity for me to design and erect this construction I've developed in my mind. I get to see my labyrinth in use. I'm not sure how much better that explains what I meant but it was an attempt.
Speaking of predictable relapses into recurring life patterns, INTJ over here started by saying it was gonna get hot and steamy and ended up talking about self-improvement
Lmao
True
I like or admire someone who is willing to get uncomfortable, open question themselves, yet remains confident in whatever the outcome may be. --to step out on that ledge and enter into the abyss for truth.
I currently like questioning these days but I didn't when I was other mbti personality(infj isfj estp) so I think questioning on things is the quality that intj have. For example it begins like 'why is this working? Why isn't this working? Why is he doing like this? ..'
I paused the video before you gave your answer and thought what quality I find attractive as an INTJ, intellectual curiosity.
People: *bAsIc HUmAn natUrE iS tHe WaY*.
Me, a motivated INTJ: sies.
Entp female and I agree with everything you said, maybe because we are shadow partners for each other after all 😀
There are some anomalies, even though 99% of occurrences of patterns, everything has been foreseen by an INTJ. But anomalies, are really weird. It seems that the code behind life, sometimes wants to open a new door, by closing some other doors.
hahaha wow. i think you are smarter than me. ive never said that before.. perhaps i should get out more.. hahaha i crack myself up.
Discipline and growth :)