Why INTJs are attractive
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- I only thought it fair to make this video, seeing as I made a "why INFJs are attractive" video.
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Who is else is here to stroke their own ego and see if they will learn more about what about us attracts people?
J'onn J'onzz that's what I'm aiming for. Instill extra confidence in people......or, maybe stroke their ego a bit... but HEY that's cool too!!!!!!!!!!
I think it's mainly the overall sense of self confidence, even though were reserved, we're not trying to impress anyone... either you're going to like me or not it's that simple, at least in my INTJ mind lol
Ego booster!!!
that's not the problem.
the problem when people want to get to know us and get close to us.
the real question here.
will they handle you Mr. Robot or handle your silence and will they accept you changeable and being anti-social often ?
Sorta wish I had married an ENFP rather than an INFP who loved her ENTJ brother more than me and abandoned me without warning after 5 years of marriage. It perhaps is rather interesting to hear what an ENFP thinks of INTJs generally.
INTJs hold solid standards. People find that attractive in general.
I've noticed this too.
You know you're in the INTJ corner when all of the UA-cam comments are well structured, perfectly punctuated with correct spellings and good vocabulary.
EDIT: spelling.
Haha!!
*the
The comments tend to not be combative for the sake of disagreement, but instead for the pursuit of understanding.
Elmohead was probably typing this on a phone which makes it forgiveable to make spelling errors.
elmohead *spelling
Hate talking to most people, but when I find a good person, I hold on to them.
Same
Yes, same.
Me to.
FACTS
Yep!!!
Gosh, if people is attracted by me they hide it quite well...
Edit: OMG never got so many likes, thank you :)
Oxidae Nitros 😆😆😆😆 lol
Rather, we just SUCK at seeing how people feel.
show more confidence in yourself and you'll get all the ladys/men.
Easier said than done :(
The funny thing is that rationally I know I have a lot of qualities, but apparently it's not enough, plus in the glbt world there's so much shallowness and guys only look for the a&f model (though I'm not ugly!!)
Oxidae Nitros haha maybe your right, it's easier for me because as a intj that lives with 3 enfps I have learned how to function with others and been able to show my confidence, also even though women show interest in me most are shallow people so.... that's my Dilemma.
*Why INTJs are attractive* Real answer: *They have the potential to build Giant Robots.*
Lin Yen Chin - Big O
That would be awesome 😂
‘Potential’? You mean you haven’t built your first robot yet.
Indeed...
Gundam?
It's weird if you have just met an INTJ they can seem super plain and simple. But then you find out that they have like 10,000 thoughts going on in their mind and are thinking WAY ahead it can make them very mysterious and intriguing. They're basically always thinking ahead. Constantly. Like even if they don't want to, they just do it naturally. So you probably will only really know like 1% of who they really are. Which makes them interesting and a challenge.
I agree with you completely!
You just described me
Sometimes those thoughts are and can be a curse. As a real INTJ ( tested by a psychologist) I allow my thoughts to overpower a moment, and it makes me appear aloof around other people.
I have even been accused of just walking away from people in mid conversation without saying anything. Lol. Which, I don't mean to do so, it's just...I'm consumed by my own analyzing thoughts on what the person is saying to me which usually has no substantial weight in interest. Or I'm analyzing the underlying real meaning of what they're saying and concluded it to be bullcrap.
Co-workers compare me to a cat. Lol.
Very true. Not so great when I cant sleep though.
INTJ here. For damn sure, continual thoughts, non stop. Most always revolving about future possibilities..... Sucks
Why are INTJ's so attractive?.....Well that's simply because you're an ENFP - lol
- PowerRedBull - IM DEAD 😂
I keep hearing that they make the best couples!
I’m an INTJ and all of my friends(3, exactly) are ENFPs!Also my boyfriend is an ENFP and we really get along so..I guess it’s not just plain coincidence?
Really? Only you like you all? That’s extremely odd 😂
Diana Alexandra I know an ENFP but she’s a little to wacky for me
My ENFP sister bawled her eyes out watching that movie about Stephen Hawking. Your mutual attraction is fascinating - I had to watch this.
You're very observant! Especially because you picked up on the fact that INTJs kind of enjoy when people don't get their jokes. I feel like most people would be frustrated that no one got the joke but I think it makes it even funnier for some reason
Haha yeah it's almost like their own secret language or something... sometimes I feel like INTJs think they are much more intellegent than the general public (which they usually ARE lol!) and therefore they almost seem smug when others don't comprehend their humor!! It makes them feel inferior! (All my own perceptions of course! When I observe 2 of my brothers who are INTJs!) but I do feel smug too because I usually understand their humor whereas most OTHER people do not get it!
Yeah, it's fun when people don't get our jokes. We're smug little douchebags.
Mary Is Awake wow I didn’t even know this was a thing. I’m an INTJ and I do this too, i thought everyone did this.
Time released jokes are great.
When people finally get it I know they reached a point I'd like to engage further. It saves me much headaches and keeps their free will in tact as they have to want to find the underlying meaning.
Yes! The problem is that I don’t care that people don’t get it to the point of... perhaps... hypothetically.... making a group of people think I’m an antivaxxer and never correcting them because me being against vaccines is ridiculous.
As an INTJ, I can safely say the ENFPs are one of the few types around whom I can completely be my awkward self. Great vid!Nicely done:)
Ajay Ramanathan Aww hahahhahaa that's wonderful to know! And thank you :D
Most everyone else hates us... :/
Not necessarily true.
Ajay Ramanathan im an intj i agree with this !
I second this. An INFP girl was the only one reached to the deepest layer, the core.
every INTJ needs a friend like you
INTJ attractiveness by an INTJ
Smooth Operator : Charming and graceful
Adaptable : Able to fit into any social situation
Eloquence : Beguiling and succinct
Sophisticated : Worldly, Awake and Self Aware
Attentive: Paying attention and anticipating.
Intelligent : Astute, sharp and insightful
Congruent : True to our values and beliefs
Controlled : Can't be rushed or fazed
Mysterious : Strange and unfathomable
Non attention seeking : We let you shine
Independent : We don't follow the herd
Self contained: We have an inner life
Dignified : Never embarrass ourselves
Competent : We make things look easy and effortless
Well Groomed : Pride in our appearance
Stylish : What suit us rather than follow fashion trends.
Reliable : Deliver as promised
Helpful : Offer useful advice if asked
Empathetic : We feel you. (reserved for our inner circle)
Tolerant : Of other opinions and behaviors
Wary : Impossible to fool or exploit.
Witty : Dry, Subtle or ironic.
Phlegmatic : Calm disposition. A magnet for cats and kids.
Edits : spelling : -Woke- > Awake : Empathetic: caveat added
You are quite self-aware. My INTJ friends fit this list to a tee, except perhaps for empathetic. I know they are empathetic, but they are only empathetic to a chosen few, it seems (i.e., "empathetic" would not be one of the first words used to describe them by acquaintances, where as I and other INFP's have been described that way even upon initial interactions).
Controlled Empathy. It has an an off on switch.
Yes it (true empathy. Honest, genuine empathy) is. Its reserved for my family and closest friends in my life.
these are kinda middle of the ground words, that one could apply to a lot of types..not really specific. It just matters how people define them. People like Mary like INTJ's for those more specific INTJ things which are not "universally positive things", but are actual TYPICAL things that other types may dislike. It's all about opposing forces with attraction *in* MBTI and while ENFPs are extremely lively, kinda youngish in behaviour, somewhat naive, the INTJs are the opposite with being are more oldish in behavior, take life extremely serious, are way more about work than play etc etc....those are specific things
This sounds like my INTJ crush
It's weird how you think INTJs are attractive because of their independence, whereas for me at school (btw, I'm INTJ), because I only ever hang out with a small group of two friends and I'm not more outgoing and don't open up to people really easily, people just think I'm weird. Some people think I'm lonely on my own, but it just lets me think, it's nice when it's quiet.
changes as you get older I think.
A name. That's nice :) honestly, that sounds really calm and nice. If you're cool with it, then kudos to you! That sounds chill.
We are basically twins
Yeah, I don't really mind people thinking I'm weird, really, I don't believe there's anyone that's not weird in some way. It is pretty chill and quiet. I like it.
Kiwi AustEcon Oh yes, I was definitely a little more extroverted until I started middle school, it was pretty nerve racking, not having any of my friends there. I made only two friends in three years. I'm pretty picky about friends, they have to be as intellectual as me or more, funny, interesting, and give me something in return, I don't usually stay friends with people who don't give me any profit, I don't know how else to put it without sounding like a total jerk. 🤣
As a lifelong INTJ who's starting his 30's, it's been a lonely world even with friends. It's nice to know we're noticed at all.
Awww!!!
Such is the life.
The only thing I'm attractive to is people asking me why I'm so quiet.
Blue Squirtle people don’t understand that sometimes you just don’t feel like talking and you just want to be left alone with your thoughts.
you like that?
4:05 "i think they enjoy when people don't understand them"
To an extent, its almost a test of wits to see if they can keep up. A little way we like to figure someone out to judge whether or not we will tolerate them.
As an INTJ I can thoroughly say that being perceived as attractive is not really too big of a concern of ours.
It is, indirectly, through our very human need for affection and finding a partner
It is for me, because I'm a sex nerd that has no social life :/
yeah i only care about achieving my goals, finishing my studies and start doing something significant with my life. i don't not really care about boyfriends. love. only my future
One of my goals is to have a long-term healthy, fulfilling relationship and to have children. So, being perceived as attractive is important for my goals. Therefore, I care about it ;)
Øk For me it is
I know right? I'm an INTJ and I think ENFPs just have an awesome aura about them, I instantly feel at home and at ease around them, I dont know why, they're just adorable I love having their company. Theyre bubbly and fun without being too pushy and forceful. I think they balance out INTJs pretty well, they are the yin to our yang
Kajakev nice!!! ✨👏🏼👏🏼😆
2 introverts in the same house is boring thing, and as future look it's not wise to find introvert partner.
i thought to myself i won't go against my nature, instead of trying to make balance in yourself find an extrovert partner.
and here all you need to do is working on your skills and improve it (if i have partner or when i find one x) ).
Agree, but they'll eventually (maybe decades later) get annoyed with INTJs. We're too boring overall since we're not good partiers.
As an INTJ myself I must say thank you, that was a bit of confidence and self-esteem boost that I needed. So yeah, thank ya kindly :P
RegdarKhrast yay! That's a success in my book! I'm happy to hear that. Thank you :)
If you needed a confidence and self-esteem boost you are NOT an INTJ.
@@RoopaDudleyPaintings Is that so? What if an INTJ had a crummy childhood or an experience that ruined their confidence?
@@yerboyharry6139 Then it will not be an INTJ but rather an ISFJ or an INFP. Not EVEN GOD almighty himself can ruin an INTJ's confidence. INTJs have worked hard in building themselves up through severe adversity. There is a reason why there are only so few of us in this world. It is not a shallow confidence like most ESTJs or ESTPs have. If you were an INTJ you would not be asking me this rather obtuse question and since you are OBVIOUSLY NOT an INTJ you will not understand what it is like to be one and with that been said -- now go and find that "Safe Space" and ask yourself this question -- "What made me ask this question without doing my proper homework on an INTJ type?" Perhaps that is where you will get the REAL answer that you are seeking about yourself. (wink)
@@RoopaDudleyPaintings I hate safe spaces 😂
As an INTJ, I've always known I was very attractive. I just didn't expect anyone else to notice.
Well you know others' thinking is so flawed they can't see reality for what it is.
enfp's are great. youre so.... real.
normally i cant stand "bubbly" types, but ive just now realised thats because most are faking their bubbliness. its just a mask. they want you to perceive them that way.
enfp's though, youre actually experiencing the emotion right in front of people. just putting yourselves out there. being... real. its the best.
sh1t tier scrub wow this was cool to read- thanks so much :) I think I agree. It's weird to watch myself on camera because I suppose I can see why I'd come off as "bubbly" but for me it just feels like I'm just talking... in other words, I am not trying to come off any sort of way other than by being a (hopefully) positive influence or positive energy..
yep. you can tell :)
That's TOO funny. I can't stand it either, and almost flipped the video. At some that I've come across do that bubbly thing, then give just long enough of a pause, like "go ahead and laugh at me", that mentally and physically sucks my energy dry. The worst is when they WANT to hang out. NO! I can't miss root canal, without sedation, that day...DARN!
THIS ONE, though, actually made me giggle a little, once I got past the hair flipping and fidgeting. LOL.
Just playing, kind of...you are cute.
I can't stand most bubbly people but there is one guy I know who is outgoing and totally genuine. He has a serious, pious side too. The liveliness and goofball antics are somehow attractive on him while with most others ppl, I just want to shout "grow up!"
I think she's an ENTP.
As an INTJ male in his 20s who's never been in a relationship, I find it reassuring and gratifying that there are people who adore us.
Awww 🥰 that’s wonderful to hear :)
INTJ female who’s quickly approaching 30, I’m in the same boat.
26 myself and never been in a relationship. But not from a lack of interest from women. More like due to my own lack of trying, living in my own head, and being very judgemental of others and myself.
INFP Sapiophile (sometimes ENFP or INFJ?) Met my INTJ 3 months ago .. I am enamored 😍
INFPs and ENFPs are putty in an INTJs hands. The depth, intrigue, mystery and intelligence is irresistible.
"INTJs are sturdy in their head". Great description!
INTJ Traveller haha 😄 thank you!
I experienced INTJ people as often being quite insecure and agreeable, can't call that being sturdy.
@@Daniel_Rood ditto to every single word. Maybe us INTJ's find the social pressures while still in school too strong to really be ourselves.
Michael Freed
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Intjs dont care if you find them secure. Can be intimidating and cause you to lash out by insulting them. Thanks, uni.
I also think that ENFPs feel completely understood by INTJs. Perhaps not on a specifics level or in relation to some interests but on a deeper level.
"Wow this person is so weird. Just like me. But in a completely different way but I get it and understand. I can appreciate this" I think thinking along these lines are common to both INTJs and ENFPs when they have an encounter.
Munzir Ali exactly!!!!!! Yes. Definitely.
I love her
That’s the Fi and Ne working in tandem. 😉
For me personally as an INTJ you got it pretty spot on.
April LaRae aw yay! ^_^
Intj debate section is always interesting
It's always a confidence boost when an attractive woman lists desirable qualities you ACTUALLY have. Thanks for doing this!
Thanks for the nice comment!!
INTJ's only have two "real" emotions, passion and hate... all other's are kind of made up to suit whatever situation we are in, in pursuit of what works... in our favor(*blank lol!)
X21 I wouldn’t quite say hate... maybe loathe with a passion but not quite at hate.. 🤔
Damn that is pretty accurate actually....
@@nathaliewallander1540 you are right, but I think it's a case of we only hate when we remember what it is that we hate....which is rare because our mind is too busy with more important matters.
totally agree
This was true until i realized i have major depressive disorder, and seasonal affectiveness, and general anxiety, and, and... lol. Antidepressants brought color into my black and white world, like apparently I can be quite bashful when people actually "get" me. The boost in mood brings cheerfulness, and when needed, a sense of calm. It's a stark contrast to prior years. And just to note, anger, loathing, even rage, still there, still has hot tempered as it was, it's just better managed XD
Hey girl!! Great video! 😄🙌🏻 I'm an ENFP and married to an INTJ, and it's the BEST match in my humble option 😇. They are intriguing, interesting onions and you have to peel back all the layers...but it's so worth it! And being an ENFP, they help us get things done because the Lord knows we are bad at doing that🙈 haha! Anyways! Keep up the great vids!
“Ogres are like onions.” ......
You know the INTJ well.
As an INTJ I can say that I’m completely objective driven. “Live in the moment” is completely alien to me. I like to travel so long as it parallels an intellectual pursuit or a historical interest but I’d never travel somewhere just to experience a new culture or a new area(unless I thought that might benefit one of my objectives). Of course, life experience plays a huge role into how these cognitive stacks function in a real world setting so I can’t speak for ALL INTJs.
So true
I think another aspect of the INTJ that might appeal to an ENFP is our willingness to entertain those zig-zag ideas of yours (even if we don't seem like it on the outside, we're paying close attention and mulling them over), where others might only humor you superficially when you gush them out rapid fire. We'll listen to the ideas and one or more will ping our introverted intuition and that starts the mutual brainstorming that quickly gets very deep. And because we share extraverted thinking, we have a mutual fluency in that regard, which speeds up the development of those ideas even more. The ENFP can feel validated by the INTJ's interest in what they say and think, and since they're taking our own input very seriously, that is also validating to the INTJ, and the two can easily become wrapped up in a dizzying display of intellectual attraction. The only caveat is that the INTJ can be very dismissive about those ideas they quickly assess as lacking promise, which isn't meant to be taken personally, but the ENFP usually does take it VERY personally. I've developed more tact over the years, but sometimes I still lapse and forget that my bluntness can seem hurtful to others, even though I totally didn't mean it that way.
Incredibly accurate. Almost chilling
That’s amazingly put! I agree completely. Makes me want to run out and find an ENFP so we can mentally swirl around each other.
This is spot on. Now I know why my enfp friend appreciates me so much, love them too
I’m INTJ and I don’t really like anyone.
At least you're not a racist, if you hate everyone equally.
+Dwayne Dibbly lol...what a humour
@@btsismylifeline9194 wasnt funny at all
Mood
Interesting... Everything you said is basically 95% accurate. And NFP types always seem to end up being my closest friends. (Even when I'm not trying to be that close to them, they just magically become close for some weird reason.)
SamuraiJo1 hahaha 😄 that's awesome lol and that's a good point.. I don't know how it happens either!
right? my best friend of 12 years was an NFP. The poster is also very comfortable to listen to.
Base chemistry in the personality. From my experience NFPs are incredibly thought provoking/curious minds which leads to all kinds of adventures. The connection goes beyond superficiality.
You never fail to make this INTJ smile and lol with your stream of consciousness delivery of ideas. This time it was the comment about if INTJs were nervous- like around kids. It was not what I expected, but it wasn’t wrong either. I think you surprised yourself when you said it as well.
Haha ;) 💟
INTJs are reserved because we want to understand how the situation or environment works before responding to it.
We are also extremely logical even if we sometimes appear reckless or risky.
By the way: loved the video!
Waw thank you so much for that. I'm an INTJ and so far I've only seen videos and blogs saying how weird, anti-social we are and how we lack charisma. Feels good to hear something good about us and not about our (supposed) intelligence for once :)
As an INTJ, I find ENFPs very attractive. Opposite polarities on their intuition (Ni vs. Ne) with matching judging preferences (Te and Fi) in different places in their cognitive stack (complementary) means instant chemistry.
You love us for our reserved, mysterious "what's happening behind those eyes" intrigue, and we love you for your outward bubbly "let me hug you" emotive expression.
Opposite, yet somehow, we speak the same language.
Awwww ^_^ well said (well written)
INTJ here, my quirkiness usually comes out only when I know you will laugh with me, or at least won't laugh at me. 😁
The way you talk about INTJ, it validates you are an ENFP.
As an INTJ, most people describe me as intense, intimidating, reserved, competent, confident, cold and ________. The blank space is that thing they can't define. "There is just something different about him, I don't know what it is."
I think people just think I'm weird.
just found out my personality type... if that vid title is true..
then WHY ON EARTH AM I CONSTANTLY REJECTED!?!?!??!?!
*LOVE ME!!*
Super Kamehameha! love from other INTJ's
Because not everyone finds attractive what this girl thinks is attractive. She's one person.
Big reason is because we dont give a shit about talking about dumb shit and small talk or even bullshit. Probally to honest to.
Interestingly enough we probally have the capability to get anyone but its against out nature and you basically have to take the long way around instead of the efficient way.
Because (sharing field notes here, all from my viewpoint) what they feel it mostly isn't love, but admiration.
Actually, sometimes they adore you like their personal god, and HOW can you take seriously someone that adores you...?
Also, daddy issues magnet.
And if you have trouble finding someone, the main trick is to bite the bullet and socialize enough to be seen, i know, feels like a waste of time but the failure of not having a nice pet to cuddle with is worse.
Feeling you're aging and not finding a partner that's up to your "seemingly basic standards but somehow too hard for most" is way worse than going out and let them see you a little bit.
Also, don't chase.
Don't chase, interact, engage, check if it's a suitable partner or at least useful person. Let them do the legwork, meanwhile you can work on your psychoanalysis skills or something.
You don't hunt, you're a trapper.
Sorry for my engRish, btw, not the language i'm most comfortable with.
zahrim bizarre word, my friend.
I’m an INFJ and my husband is an INTJ. I’m attracted to his mind and sense of humor.
I'm an INTJ. I've only ever known one other INTJ. It warms the reactor that replaced my heart and does my circuits good to see so many of my kind here on this secondary digital reality in which we exist as pure consciousness. As to the video thank you for giving me a bit of outside perspective. It will be useful in my mental simulations.
I thought the same . Welcome brother
As an another INTJ I find your use of big words and little bit more complicated grammar as pretentious
(English is not my first language and I can see it)
This has been fun, having a pretty girl fawn over your personality for 10 minutes.
love the bubbly energy Mary! thanks for making the video!
Michael Holley thanks Mr. Holley!!!! :)
Everything you said applies to me, but I just thought those exact points are keeping people away. I appreciate what you said that these features can be positive:)
It's cool to have INTJs around for advice, knowledge and their unqiue takes on stuff. But in a close relationship with INTJs can be difficult because they feel better alone, have their unique hobbies that most ppl don't interested in, and care more about logic than emotions.
I absolutely love your energy
ichbin sehrfun thank you ichbin!! ^_^
INTJ here. You did an excellent job explaining this and you've confirmed what a lot of my other ENFP friends say 😁
I have to thankyou ,this was a pleasant confidence boost
As an INTJ you got this nailed really. I think logically, do what needs to be done and I cut the crap. My friends know not to come to me for emotional support (not in a mean way) but I’ll give them advice rather than sit and sob and mull things over. Just do this and move on. I’m also always right, like that sounds big headed but I am. Always.
As a INTJ I would say that you are very much spot on with your points! I think I recognized everything you said and thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this personality type! I can say that I had a girlfriend who is ENFJ and I discovered the strong combination of when her feelings overwhelmed her because of a situation we both were in I was not struggling with feelings (because I'm not as much attached to feelings as she is), and this enabled me to encourage and be a support for her. The feelings would hit me a later point and at that point she had dealt with her feelings and was able to help me. (y) The thing with having a hidden side is also very true. I open myself up more to people that I'm comfortable being around and that I know very well.
I am an INTJ, mistaken for Asperger and going on 51 years-old without being in a relationship. Hope that attitude towards us changes.
You ENFP people are what I call luscious, and squishy. INTJ's like because you experience emotion in ways that boggles our minds. That is no easy feat, shine on you crazy diamond.
Dick White lol 👏🏼 💎
My coworker for the past two years is an ENFP. I help her harness all her boundary free ideas and focus and she has pushed me to see a value to emotions. It has been a hard two years of growth on my end, but I respect her greatly, and have added her to my list of friends. I now have two friends.
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Well said white dick
carletouk i was already laughing when I saw his name, was on my way to post this comment.. and now I see yours and I now I can’t stop laughing .. that was well said white dick!
Haha intj woman here. I hate watching women vlogers but immediately felt good / comfortable about you once you started talking... then you said your Meyers brigg type and it made sense. So bizzare how it's "pseudoscience" but still so accurate. We really have types we mesh well with. My bf is the same type as you and it's great.
I'm an INTJ and hubby is an ENFP too!
It's been funny learning that ENFPs are compatible with INTJs (me). ENFPs are the types I meet and I think 'aw you're so lovely!' And tend to have great natural chemistry with.
Aw! That's how I tend to feel when I meet INTJs too! A natural attraction and interest/respect
So true! Most of the population doesn't understand my humor.
Thank you for your words!! It's so difficult to be an INTJ.
Well y’all are awesome and I’m so happy you exist on this planet!
This comment may or may not be weird for you to read, but I am an INTJ and I’ve read all the comments on here about how every other INTJ took to your realness as far as bubbly behavior goes. I took to it as well and saw, for another time since I know a few ENFPs, that it’s so raw. My bf is your type as well. I teared up at the end because even your smile at the end was completely genuine..
Wow ok I thought this was going to be another mean comment but I was pleasantly surprised- thank you for saying this. ❤️✨❤️❤️
I wouldn’t call myself as “different” or “unique”. It puts me in a category that is grossly reserved by regs of all kinds. I like you.
Okay, you won me over when you said “you can seem them being nervous when... playing with kids.” 😆 I never understood why that is. I like watching kids play and observing how they connect and learn about the world but interacting with them makes me a little uneasy.
Our hearts get a little nervous.
That was the cutest thing I've ever heard.
Just watching this to boost my already over confident self
Ego boost! Folks need to make more videos praising this personality type instead of trying to make us (especially us women) change who we are...instead of trying to understanding us.
I'm an INTJ, and I have never, ever had a problem getting a girlfriend. Why? Because I was pushed very heavily into being an extrovert growing up, so i picked up a lot of extrovert traits. I played a shit load of sports growing up, and I always had the confidence to just be myself. If you're an INTJ, remember that you need to also be physically fit, and have social skills, to get a girlfriend. If you're so introverted that you have crippling social anxiety, then you have no reason to ask why you're not getting a girlfriend. As an INTJ, MY ADVICE IS "FIGURE IT OUT." INTJ'S are good at learning new things because we focus and learn well. We are scientific minded people. Learn how to be a better introvert, or learn to live with yourself. It's an easy choice to make, friend.
I'm married to an INTJ and everything is pretty spot on. This girl hit everything that caught my eye with him.
Awww yay!!! 😍
INTJ's, because of their intelligence, can be very witty. Always an attractive trait.
This is so different from the stereotypical reactions to INTJs. I know that often I'm lost in thought and strangers come up to ask if I'm ok (which I appreciate), when I'm really just taking a break to sit outside and think. It's comforting to know that there are those that understand this tendency and are even intrigued by it.
I’m an INTJ and I LOOOOVE learning about the other types and I think it’s to help me understand people
The more I look at her face the more attractive it gets.
Oompa Loompa that's cool
She is very beautiful
I totally agree. I think it has more to do with what she was saying. When I first started watching the video, a first thought was, hmm, she's pretty. And as the character builds she gets deeper and more beautiful because she's not "just a pretty face". At least that was my experience.
Her physical beauty is the cherry on top to her inner beauty
Casey Riley 😂😂😂
This video made my day a million times better, I appreciate your kind words. I must admit you are brave and very on point with your observations. I smiles for more than 30 secs. Thank you.
Awwwww 🥰🥰🥰🥰☺️ oh my goodness! Thank you!!!
As an INTJ I love watching your ENFP charm in the vide.
Omg! As soon as Mary is Awake started this video I was like ENFP! I'm an INTJ-A female and I love ENFPs. I really appreciate this perspective that looks at our positive and realistic qualities. Also, Mary is Awake, you're awesome!
THANK YOU!!!!!!
It’s very nice to hear this! Haha! I’ve had a hard time connecting to people. I don’t think people know how to relate to me... maybe they’re nervous? My conversations are not of a typical nature so I don’t think people know how to carry on a conversation with me as I’m rather philosophical and deep.
We INTJ s are attractive because at least we have a purpose in life.
I’m an INTJ and it’s funny that even though I’m extremely reserved and private, I’m attracted to women who are just the opposite. I’m absolutely fascinated by women who are warm, enthusiastic and open. I just feel like “wow-I don’t understand this, but I like it. I could really go for having this in my life all the time”.
"hey, you do you, I'm gonna do me" sounds like my girlfriend and me. We really like each other! It just doesn't seem that way sometimes. Which is also super funny.
I needed this self-esteem boost :)
I'm an INTJ and I find your personality very attractive. As long as ENFP lets the mastermind do his/her thing, they can enjoy each other from time to time.
Very interesting, I am an INTJ too, I actually enjoyed the video. Not only because of how you made me feel (good), but because of how you said it as well. The way you conveyed the information is mysteriously fun and pleasing to me. I found as an INTJ, if you spend time to develop your weaknesses (like your feelings) and you get help with it, you will grow into a person that people really really like. You will also feel a lot more in control of yourself and may even have peace within yourself. Great video.
So true about humor. I'm very reserved at first, but internally I'm constantly amused by the absurdity of the world, and my humor is a reflection of that: absurd ironic and wry. I realized I do this out of habit to test people, and if they get my humor, I feel I can relax and show my goofier side. I also am more relaxed and free in comfortable and predictable environments
I love that! Fun to read about- thanks for sharing :) ✨💠
Love this vid! My boyfriend is an INTJ and I couldn’t help but smiled through the whole vid!
I think you are very talented and accurate at observing people, well done!
Aw :) thank you for writing this! It warmed my soul!!! ✨✨✨✨✨✨☄️✨✨✨
Love this cute, bubbly girl. Often, extroverts deem us as boring, nerdy, don't belong, but I like me. I never knew how girls see me on a deeper level...cool! I never knew in what ways I'm liked. Thanks!
And yes we are stable and productive . We are reserved and goal oriented.
Everything that you have commented about what makes INTJ attractive is what most of the world has said are unattractive about them lol.
Me and my Fiancé have been doing personality tests all week and have discovered that she's ENFP and I'm INTJ. It now makes a lot of sense why we get along so well, it always puzzled us how two very different people "clicked" so well.
We push and encourage each other to do things in a way that is just right for us respectively. She just seems to know what to do and how to say it, to get me to push my boundaries, we have both changed our careers since being together.
It hasn't all been plain sailing though. My coldness is something she has really struggled with and we have two very different approaches to arguments. We continue to work on that and we're getting better at it. Now during fall outs, we just have to remember how each of us processes and evaluates information and I'm pleased to say it's working. I have to say that I'm usually the one in the wrong though but she does appreciate that I'm willing to accept that, even if it does take me a day of thinking to realise it.
Great video though, gives me a bit of a confidence boost and does explain why people seem to like and are drawn to me, even though I make no effort in return. I have a lot of acquaintances but a very number of people who I call friends.
1:31: the word you are looking for is "practical."
This girl is a scatter brained ball of sunshine that is worthy on my study. Approved.
- An INTJ
Gotta love the random voice changes for emphasis. Do ENFP realize they're that cute or is it innate?
Whoa, I am flattered 😂 I think most of what you say is true and the thing about me (or it can be for other INTJs too) is that I'm actually an introvert but I love talking, especially about certain subjects that I love... I also like meeting new people and just sharing stuffs with them, I think INTJs are one of those introverts who are actually talkative, but when I'm alone I can adjust pretty well, like I enjoy being alone, in fact I need some alone time or "me time" cause I just like to zone out and plan some stuffs or just think about something or learning something by myself, I guess INTJs are eager to learn, that's why they know about a lot of things from different subjects... Anyway, thanks for this video, it makes me love being an INTJ even more
We are very unique in the sense that we are like no-non-sense talk.. Avoid Gossiping... Like to look for nitty-gritty and not shallow
this is perfectly true, im an enfp and having an intj is extremely like this, the desc are mostly incredibly trueee
btw who are those people that you described as intj? friend? bf?
I certainly enjoy when others don't understand my humor, it is so comical.
Just so that you know we die for ENFPs inside ourselves without you knowing 😊
Seems you have an excellent grasp on the enigmatic INTJ personality. Some people can sure be hard to figure out can’t they lol? Nice job
Thanks for this video. It was very refreshing to hear your perspective and I love your enthusiasm and quirkinesses ☺️
I just took the "test" about a month ago, and have been watching almost every video I can on the subject of INTJ personality. I was very surprised to find so many about why we are "attractive". It's nice, but I also find it odd.
Orange Nassau ahhh good, I'm glad you found this! INTJs are fascinating ☄️
Thank you for helping an INTJ love herself! 🧠
as u r an ENFP that's what i love in NFPs whether In or Ex they are sooo full of sweet. very sweet adorable people .i call (INFPs) human angels