I been on the same timing bro, I finally accepted certain things and now my focus has been completely been on growing into that ideal version of myself
I've been doing it for a while now, disappeared off social media for months and stopped texting certain people, and just grinding and improving myself in every aspect, it gets lonely but stay locked in!
I genuinely have no one. Employers, “friends”, no one cares about me. I’ve finally realized this but the empty and loneliness that come with it is the most challenging part, I’ve been tested this year to really put myself first and recognize the toxic people in my life and cut them off no matter how much it hurts, it hurts more trying to be there for people who don’t care about me. Everyday is a blur and it’s the same.
I relate to this! I felt that way last year and you soon enough, you will find yourself in places you hoped to be in and you will be able to look back and see that doors have been opened for you! trust that it will happen in time, and accept that the time might not be what you think it is
Don’t seek any emotional validation from employers or you’ll end up disappointed. They are using you for work and you are using them for money. It’s a mutually agreed use of each other, that’s it. Sometimes you find coworkers that care too, but in the end it’s business first. The company isn’t going to not fire you if you stop working because they care. Would you continue working if they stopped paying you? This doesn’t need to be a bad thing. In personal relationships care for people and they will usually care back. If they don’t, you need to cut them. Seek relationships with no strings attached, friends. not at work.
It’s a beautiful truthful message. We can’t make a fool of ourselves. Also we remind to not keep people hostage for there old version, a change can happen so quickly, even not with us anymore . If some people reject you you help them close the door, not begging, they miss a blessing in disguise. Always going forward god bless us all with wisdom and love 🦋
As a black man, I’m extremely proud of how eloquent you are with your thoughts and love content like this especially as a young black person an feel out of place being align with my emotions and being a critical thinker
@@Sawako-v1xi’m assuming you’re not a black person with this comment. black people have faced many hardships throughout history which have caused the inaccessibility to mental health. seeing other black people prioritize mental health and express their feelings without judgement is breakthroughs for the rest of us. hope this helps u understand x
@@idamensah6901 Come on now, let’s not make this about race. I get that you’re proud, but bringing up race or color here is unnecessary. Your race shouldn’t be a factor in discussing your struggles. Everyone faces hardships, and it’s important not to frame your experiences as unique or more difficult solely because of your race. We all deal with challenges, and it’s crucial to address them without playing the victim card based on race. ☠️
Man i feel like my whole high school year has been like this, earned very few friends but the rest in my class just didn’t accept my vibes and i even tried to change to be accepted, please anyone reading this dont change for people!
I think it was Nipsey Hussle’s mother who said “we don’t own people, we experience people” and that quote has always stuck with me. It hurts, but it’s essential to not hold on to people to our own detriment.
I was there. You have to find yourself and build respect for yourself first, then you can confront your family about what they been doing and they wont be able to dismiss you. I now have a true connection to my family that is built on mutual love and respect. I only got there by detatching and investing in what I care about.
Sometimes, the greatest act of self-love is stepping back. 🌱 As Plato said, "Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something." Let your absence create value-those who truly matter will always find their way back. 💡✨
Thanks for your comment. I truly appreciate the sentiment "let your absence create value." I need to get out of the begging business. Even if that begging is internal, that needs to stop. That reinforces the idea that I'm not worthy of attention and respect.
This happened with my mother. No matter who it is in your life, no matter what their title or role is, if they do not respect you, banish them to the shadow Realm.
Yep I been seeing sign from the universe informally basically informally that why I stay solo by myself I don’t even engage with my cousin now whom is married lol informally he got a child with no certificate identification!!! Iv been removing myself from everyone distance is the best way !!! People are just in body in mindest boy and little girl
“People will get comfortable with whatever you normalize.” At my first job I was the youngest and I normalized an older coworker micromanaging me because I felt that I needed to earn her respect or support. Once I started setting boundaries it became a huge problem for her because she saw it as disrespect. Eventually it got so bad that I decided to quit. So yeah, boundaries over everything and normalize respect from the beginning.
People falling out is real… I was recently made to realize that these things happen… You just have to learn and accept so you can carry on… Kinda sad that most times its the one you thought who’d stay that leaves. 💔
Man I disrespected myself so much by trying to get my ex back over the last 3 months. I’ve done things that I’m not proud of n as a result, I begged n showed up n over offered a lot of things that she constantly told me she didn’t want. Told me that nothing I did would allow her to see me differently bc she wanted space n to eventually see what’s out there. Even after she told me that she wouldn’t see me differently I proceeded to try until last week. No more. I’m not going to allow myself to continue to lose my own self respect by trying to gain hers anymore. I’m taking this time to forgive myself n learn boundaries so that I can be different in the future. But no more so I am now choosing to disappear n pull back bc ik it’s the best thing to do
Just broke up with my long term on again/off again partner after 3 years of trying to force things to work out. Literally last night was the final straw and this was the exact message i needed to hear. Word for word you said everything i have been too weak to tell myself. Thank you man. I hope you know how many people this video has helped. God bless you.
Been in the same situation and I just wanted to let you know it gets better. Letting go even when you know it's hard and you don't know how things are going to be, that's the best thing you can ever do to yourself. I'm proud of you and I pray things eventually work out for you. God bless you
It’s sad we have to be like this with so-called “friends” and “loved ones.” People treat you weird and then act like you’re the one being weird when you call them out on it
I was diagnosed with breast cancer at 34 this year and when i tell you ive learned who loves and cares about me through this experience. I have about 3 ppl in my corner that truly care and guess who they are lol my 2 kids and mom. Everyone else either i ask for the help or they feel bad. Its wild, but i know now where i stand with ppl and im grateful ❤
i hope youre doing well and i wish you a good recovery. i pray for you and i feel you. sometimes its better to have only a few but real people than fake ones. anyways i hope youre making it. all the best :)
@@FlavioSolero thank you, I appreciate your well wishes. For sure, Ive always had a small circle but after this experience, it will get much smaller, I rather stay true to myself. Yes, Im doing great and healing everyday. Coming back stronger for sure.
it’s 5am couldn’t sleep. been overthinking abt all the ppl in my life that have left me or ik they abt to. then i click on YT and this the first video.. Thank you bro. i’m abt to go ghost and just grid..
I really needed to hear this. I was dating someone who had a whole perfect idea of me inside of their head and I would try to live up to their expectations so they would accept me as that version because deep down I knew they wouldn’t accept me the way I truly am, therefore I decided to cut them off and I feel so much better about myself.
omg😭i cried the entire time watching this. I have an anxious attachment so i always find myself doing things to keep ppl from leaving me. i get so attached & then when they leave, i don’t know what to do. i crash out !!!! But i’m learning that people come and go & as hard as it is i’m trying to understand. i give out so much love and constantly get hurt by ppl i thought “loved” me. BIGGEST lesson is to love myself first.
If they dont wanna be in your life why would you force them to stay? If they wanna leave let them leave. If their meant to be in your life they will be back. Dont force it
bro is so crazy bc the people in my life would freak if i sent them this video, ive slowly realized everyone is emotionally unstable. when you call em out for their shit, youre the crazy one, but again its a way for them to continue to cross those boundaries. I AM A GOOD PERSON I TAKE IT TO THE CHIN, BUT AS OF LATELY IVE BEEN GETTING FED UP AND ALTHOUGH IF I ACT LIKE THEM ILL JUST LIKE THEM BUT ITS TEMPTING. WHEN I DO BREAK. I WILL BREAK. AND IT WILL BE UNPRECEDENTED
@@andrewcuevas3221oh you might be going through some awakening or just starting to take the blinders off. When that happened it’s harder for your spirit to sit and pretend you don’t see or feel people treating you a certain way. Protect yourself and don’t let anyone make you feel invisible or crazy. I had that experience so I get it ✨
its good to let people miss you and think about you. this only works if the person has more positive memories of you and associates you to positivity we dont miss people who we associate to negativity. i knew a guy who i havent talked to i a while and he said he missed hanging out with me but i actually did not miss this person because i associated him to negativity. so there is this saying people dont always remember what you did or what you said but people will always remember they way you made them feel. its better to just let people choose you or let people come to you with out force or control.
This hit real hard for me. Over the past month or so I've gone through a roller-coaster of emotions regarding a girl. We dated for about 8 months previously, and we were still on good terms until today. I had thought that after we broke up (which was about 1 or 2 months ago) she had found a new bf. When I asked her about it, she claimed that she was never with him and that it was just a rumor. Today I found out from a friend that she was and probably still is with him. I cut her out of my life about an hour ago. It was devastating, knowing that this person that I had put on a pedestal lied to me so easily, but it also felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I didn't lose her, she lost me. Thanks for making this video man, it really helped ❤❤❤
I'm glad you valued yourself and your happiness. Trust. When real love comes you won't have to look over your shoulder at all. I'm proud of you stranger 🙏🏾
“I cannot live in this world without you.”. As someone who’s a man of God, I refuse to say that to anyone I know who can leave me, be it by choice or death moving forward. The time we have is finite, and people have reasons and seasons for being a part of our stories. It’s best we make that decision now via respectful boundaries, before someone makes it for us. Thank you for this. You’ve earned a sub.🤝💯
I definitely went through this phase earlier in my life (early 20s). Spent 4 years in the dark. No friends, family, romance, etc. Became a truck driver who drives overnight for the past 6 years. So all that garbage is done and over with now. All I can say is that in that solitude, I literally lost my mind and became incredibly stronger going through what I was going through. But I'm back around people now, mainly my family doing my local work, and now I'm treated with the utmost respect because they know I will fold they a$$ real quick if they start getting on my nerves. Lol. However, humans will ALWAYS be flawed. Even the best of them. You have to have boundaries but you also have to have grace to allow people to be who they are, whoever that is. And then YOU decide how much you'll engage moving forward. It doesn't always have to be a full cut-off. Just make sure your self respect is apparent in everything you do.
This is very true, like when i started my UA-cam channel earlier channel even my closest friends could not support me, saying that i didn't have enough or proper gadgets to do it and my English was bad therefore they didn't want to associate themselves with me.Thats when i learnt to believe in my self cause deep down i knew what i wanted to do even thought i wasn't prepared technically...7 months here I am they are back praising me for the tremendous work.
Wow I feel like this video was for me!! Just disappointed my best friend of four years and she completely lost it on me. Had to reevaluate the friendship. Much appreciated🙏🏼
So real bro. 2 years ago I made a realization that I was disrespecting myself and once I realized that it hurt me but it gets better once you realize it and want people to respect you
This video made me cry . 😔 I can’t date my ex anymore because everytime I put my foot down or walked away I was called the bad guy. It was never about what he did to make me react that way. And this video kind of gives me a sense of relief, or reassurance, or self confidence. Not everyone is gonna be happy of the boundaries, they lack respect of others. Why do I need to set so many boundaries with someone in the first place…..
This was clarification for me. I left my friend group of 10+ years, constantly criticizing my spiritual beliefs and testing my flesh like you mentioned, people will push you and see how far you will let them. Constantly belittling me that I had to separate myself because I kept bypassing all their offenses. You decide when enough is enough. God bless you brother.
Came to me at the right time, I'm going to enforce my own boundaries and I'm scared to lose my relationship, but sometimes, it's simply not worth it. As you said, they might let you do this or that but the other stuff they do just make me feel worse, I will see whether we're fit for each other or not, thank you man.
I’m trying to detach from someone who said the no longer wants but still contacts me. We don’t see each other, but he abruptly ended things and told me I must have manifested it. I pray god heals me and give me the strength to cut him off completely. I take responsibility for not doing the cutting it’s just hard.
A lot of times, we overdo the loyalty thing. Thinking that being giving and supporting “your ppl” is a duty but ppl often get too comfortable with kindness.
I appreciate this message. Found this at the right moment, too. I"ve outgrown people closest to me and it's tough being around them because I'm holding back what I really have to say. I just use my actions now and keep my distance instead of letting those disrespectful people in my space.
And remember when we change and get better, we attract better. And we start thriving while those who doubted you are watching knowing you’ll never go back. (Daily motivation I was at the gym watching this)
This was so good. Most times people don't forgive you as a means of control - forgiving you would mean they have nothing to hold over you head and control you with, let these ppl go.
Such a great reminder! Calling someone out can be super uncomfortable but it is necessary because otherwise you are just denying your own happiness. I went for it today and posted my first UA-cam video :)
for me it was my younger brother, for a long time. when I reciprocated his energy, he didn’t like it. so we’ve grown apart now because if I don’t put in effort, he won’t. it’s better off this way probably
Man this opened my eyes fr, my ex friendgroup got very racist so quickly and I(only black person in the group) never said anything and it just got worse and worse, but hearing this made me accept the fact that there's people better out there for me and sometimes its just not meant to he
This is exactly I’m removing myself from anyone who devalues me. It’s requires your whole brain trying to get someone to value you or see the value you 😢
wow this really hit hard for me. i’ve been dealing with a long term friendship breakup and it’s exactly how you described. it always felt like i owed this person something but it was at the expense of my own mental health and respect for myself. i’m glad i realized sooner than later that it was not worth the negativity or stress of being around this person, to finally let them go and accept that we are no longer the same people as we were 16 years ago. a sad but also very freeing realization.
I went through this with a friend of 53 years. I called her out for an unexpected personal attack on me after she blindsided me with a list of grievances we could have worked through. I had let some bad comments she had made over the years slide because I didn’t want to cause an upset- turned out I did myself a disservice in the long run. Good Work you’re doing here
I allowed so many people to cross my boundaries because I did not see my self worth. It wasn’t until I left a relationship with someone that I truly love because they did not respect me and my boundaries and realized I was not living my life because I wanted him in my life so much. It hurts now but I believe the pain is worth the healing that has come into my life and will deepen as I grow to love and respect myself more. Peace, blessings, and love to everyone here ❤
This video was amazing bro. I started to stop letting people disrespect me and I lost a lot of people and “friends” in my life. I found my new group of people, and I met my girlfriend and she is truly amazing. Genuine love is what my heart was craving for the longest time and I learned to be patient and God willing I found her. Trust the process and stay true to your self. Love life and be thankful for every opportunity and every chance given to you. ❤
Forgive and love everyone even if they don’t respect you. Don’t keep a tally of peoples wrongs towards you. It made me a lot happier to love and forgive people even if they disrespected me or hate me.
He started hating me ( verbal abuse - total disregard & respect) & let it go on too long bc he said he was joking - it’s NO JOKE ! He hates himself Im OUT ! Not getting treated like that anymore! Not losing my self respect😢 He brought NO VALUE to my life ! And wouldn’t take responsibility for HIS BAD BEHAVIOR! Thank you for the video
My anxious attachment was triggered, letting go of someone I thought was it. I definitely lost myself. It’s not normal for me to do that, grateful for this message
Wow just come up on my feed and what a powerful message. Been going through this phase where im beginning to let people miss me, ive taken myself away from groups which dont bring positive vibes into my life. I cut them off and now they're chatting shit about me and try to find out why ive withdrawn my presence. Its confirmed my decision was right thing to do.
It hurt when I had recently come to terms with the fact that I didn't have any friends in high school despite being around at least two or more people at all times. I'm now in college, I have another opportunity to make it up to myself. I don't hesitate to confront or completely drop people who so much as slightly disrespect me, even if it's a passing comment. One month into the semester and I've filtered out more than 10 people. Enough is enough. I'm over the passive aggression, envy, two-facedness, and poor communication skills from both my male and female peers. I don't expect any less from them. I expect that I act accordingly towards their behavior. I'm introverted, I don't fear being alone.
I just don’t understand why now in the society it’s so hard to make friends or be in a relationship, in order for you to truly attract somebody’s attention you have to look good or have money and I feel like that’s BS, I miss the classic days when love was all about just flowers and candy nothing more nothing less. Socializing has gone to hell and people now normalize cutting conversations short, it’s not how it was 15 years ago when things were more exciting, everyone gets easily bored talking to you or there just lazy Asf 😔 Just speaking facts .
I agree with you but don’t give up 🫶🏽don’t lose hope. One day it will happen the friendship or the relationship or maybe both and when it does it will be good because you waited and you are looking for a genuine connection, you will meet people on the same frequency level as you. Those will be your people❤give it time
@@PoeticVirgo Thank you so much for your sweet words, I really appreciate it, you’re wonderful and same to you, I feel like now more than ever the only way to truly have good friends and a good partner is to seek the Lord and pray every day and he will give ❤️
Facts but don’t confuse conversations with connecting. Me and my ex would talk for hours about mostly stuff she liked and still end up fighting somehow. Some people only talk to trauma dump or get out of their toxic heads
I realized I was allowing my boundaries to be crossed when I said “don’t” and he responded before I could even finish my sentence “did you just tell me not to-“ actually yes I did.
This randomly popped up on my recommended but this is what I needed so badly. I have these “friends” that will take take take and when I need something rarely I have no idea if they’ll even come through for me. Most of the time it’s a no. But when it comes to females I tend to lower my respect because I want her to like me . But the video is awesome and I’ll check out more
People are temporary. Damn😳 This really gave me closure on someone who would never reciprocate the energy I put into the relationship. I would always be the first to initiate any conversation.. I finally put my foot down and let the relationship die naturally and I was always wondering why they couldn’t have just been honest or communicate. But this is all I needed.
Thank you so much for this I always tell myself to show self-loyalty. Loyalty should always be shown to your self we shouldn’t allow ourselves to be comfortable what we are uncomfortable with doing if it doesn’t feel right.
Needed to hear this today. I’m starting to accept the fact that growth can be uncomfortable, people evolve, and outgrow others. Change can only lead us to our next chapter of life,and where we are meant to be. Thank you for your positive outlook on growth, sending love ✨🦋
Normally I’m not someone who leaves comments, but I really wish for you to become successful, this is a majestical message delivered by a opulent character.
You earned my respect bro. What you said is so relatable to me I mean I sometimes put people I really like on a pedestal. Gotta have my self respect love you bro if you see this have a great day and so on.
A great way to stop this is to limit how close people get to you. Me personally I never let folks come to my house. It might sound small but I dont deal with alotta disrespect because of that...
I love this so much. My mom was the person who would ask for money and when I would say no she would cuss me out. I will feel so bad and give her the money. Now that I’m older and wiser I don’t feel like I should lower myself to keep her happy for her addiction
It's true. An apology is enough. If they don't accept it over a trivial matter, its their problem as far as I am concerned. Never ever devalue yourself to "fit in" because I used to be a people pleaser and I learned this the hard way!
"Don't disrespect yourself tryna earn the respect of others." 🔥📌👌🏼💯
Man, this is my sign to disappear for a bit and grind my shit out. Love to you brother!!!
Man been thinkin bout it for a coo min den dis video popped up think it’s a sign
I been on the same timing bro, I finally accepted certain things and now my focus has been completely been on growing into that ideal version of myself
I've been doing it for a while now, disappeared off social media for months and stopped texting certain people, and just grinding and improving myself in every aspect, it gets lonely but stay locked in!
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gl man
I genuinely have no one. Employers, “friends”, no one cares about me. I’ve finally realized this but the empty and loneliness that come with it is the most challenging part, I’ve been tested this year to really put myself first and recognize the toxic people in my life and cut them off no matter how much it hurts, it hurts more trying to be there for people who don’t care about me. Everyday is a blur and it’s the same.
I relate to this! I felt that way last year and you soon enough, you will find yourself in places you hoped to be in and you will be able to look back and see that doors have been opened for you! trust that it will happen in time, and accept that the time might not be what you think it is
I felt this JJ. Almost like continuous rain
It’s going to be okay❤
Don’t seek any emotional validation from employers or you’ll end up disappointed. They are using you for work and you are using them for money. It’s a mutually agreed use of each other, that’s it. Sometimes you find coworkers that care too, but in the end it’s business first. The company isn’t going to not fire you if you stop working because they care. Would you continue working if they stopped paying you? This doesn’t need to be a bad thing. In personal relationships care for people and they will usually care back. If they don’t, you need to cut them. Seek relationships with no strings attached, friends. not at work.
@@nickwaters2802 facts
It’s a beautiful truthful message. We can’t make a fool of ourselves. Also we remind to not keep people hostage for there old version, a change can happen so quickly, even not with us anymore . If some people reject you you help them close the door, not begging, they miss a blessing in disguise. Always going forward god bless us all with wisdom and love 🦋
facts!
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Amen
Damn that hit 🤍
So true, young man!
3 years gone man … ive disrespected myself to long . Its time to lock in and truly find my higher self . Im tired of people playing me like a fiddle .
lets get it bro!
try 5. wasnt a ex fwb nothing. i kept thinking hed leave her for me😒
@@chlochlo8207 if he wouldve left her for you then he would have left you for somebody else. good for you that you acknowleged it
“People are wants, people aren’t needs”🙌🏽
I went off the grid and worked on me for 6 months, came back and kinda regretted only taking 6 months. Take it day by day fellas 🙏
Man this hard ngl
@@richardsarkisyants6969 lmao appreciate you, and wish you the best
I did it for five years❤
Motivational bro hope your doing well now ❤
Any advice for trying to do this?
As a black man, I’m extremely proud of how eloquent you are with your thoughts and love content like this especially as a young black person an feel out of place being align with my emotions and being a critical thinker
what does being black even have to do with anything cmon now☠️
@@Sawako-v1xi’m assuming you’re not a black person with this comment. black people have faced many hardships throughout history which have caused the inaccessibility to mental health. seeing other black people prioritize mental health and express their feelings without judgement is breakthroughs for the rest of us. hope this helps u understand x
@@idamensah6901 Come on now, let’s not make this about race. I get that you’re proud, but bringing up race or color here is unnecessary. Your race shouldn’t be a factor in discussing your struggles. Everyone faces hardships, and it’s important not to frame your experiences as unique or more difficult solely because of your race. We all deal with challenges, and it’s crucial to address them without playing the victim card based on race. ☠️
@@idamensah6901 y’all just love bringing race into everything and then complain about people doing it☠️
@@Sawako-v1x Youre not black unfortunately for you. Let's learn to speak on topics you know about!
Man i feel like my whole high school year has been like this, earned very few friends but the rest in my class just didn’t accept my vibes and i even tried to change to be accepted, please anyone reading this dont change for people!
facts! you're gonna find your people for sure bro 💯
thats how its gonna be bro everybody dont gotta like u and they not gonna
ZAZA_822: That was me exactly when I went to a new country. Still feel like an outsider after many years but won’t change myself for no one.
I think it was Nipsey Hussle’s mother who said “we don’t own people, we experience people” and that quote has always stuck with me. It hurts, but it’s essential to not hold on to people to our own detriment.
It was Lauren London, the mother of his kids!
@@SinaTedros-d1y oh, ok. Thanks for the clarification!
it happened to me, trying to earn the heart of this guy. But i lost mine instead.
Same but the other way around trying to earn the heart of a damaged girl...
My own family walk all over me so I forgot what self respect is man this video made me cry 😢😭😭😭
Same. Self respect
@@mightyobserver12 you can messge me if you wanna talk, you got like instagram or something ?
I was there. You have to find yourself and build respect for yourself first, then you can confront your family about what they been doing and they wont be able to dismiss you. I now have a true connection to my family that is built on mutual love and respect. I only got there by detatching and investing in what I care about.
@@ynpavo thank you man .
Me too 😢
so true! it's easy to lose yourself chasing after others and you end up missing out on finding who you are, and what you want
facts
Sometimes, the greatest act of self-love is stepping back. 🌱
As Plato said, "Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something."
Let your absence create value-those who truly matter will always find their way back. 💡✨
Thanks for your comment. I truly appreciate the sentiment "let your absence create value." I need to get out of the begging business. Even if that begging is internal, that needs to stop. That reinforces the idea that I'm not worthy of attention and respect.
This happened with my mother. No matter who it is in your life, no matter what their title or role is, if they do not respect you, banish them to the shadow Realm.
LMAO 🤣. You are right but the way you stated this is hysterical.
To the shadow realms!
Yep I been seeing sign from the universe informally basically informally that why I stay solo by myself I don’t even engage with my cousin now whom is married lol informally he got a child with no certificate identification!!! Iv been removing myself from everyone distance is the best way !!! People are just in body in mindest boy and little girl
“People will get comfortable with whatever you normalize.”
At my first job I was the youngest and I normalized an older coworker micromanaging me because I felt that I needed to earn her respect or support. Once I started setting boundaries it became a huge problem for her because she saw it as disrespect. Eventually it got so bad that I decided to quit. So yeah, boundaries over everything and normalize respect from the beginning.
The timing of this video is crazy
It’s amazing how this video came across on my feed the day I needed it, God works in mysterious ways
Right🥹
People falling out is real… I was recently made to realize that these things happen… You just have to learn and accept so you can carry on… Kinda sad that most times its the one you thought who’d stay that leaves. 💔
This speaks to me rn ❤
Deadass been a doormat my whole life, it’s time to change. 💯
Man I disrespected myself so much by trying to get my ex back over the last 3 months. I’ve done things that I’m not proud of n as a result, I begged n showed up n over offered a lot of things that she constantly told me she didn’t want. Told me that nothing I did would allow her to see me differently bc she wanted space n to eventually see what’s out there. Even after she told me that she wouldn’t see me differently I proceeded to try until last week. No more. I’m not going to allow myself to continue to lose my own self respect by trying to gain hers anymore. I’m taking this time to forgive myself n learn boundaries so that I can be different in the future. But no more so I am now choosing to disappear n pull back bc ik it’s the best thing to do
Just broke up with my long term on again/off again partner after 3 years of trying to force things to work out. Literally last night was the final straw and this was the exact message i needed to hear. Word for word you said everything i have been too weak to tell myself. Thank you man. I hope you know how many people this video has helped. God bless you.
Going through the same thing. It’s really hard but i hope it’ll be better soon
Been in the same situation and I just wanted to let you know it gets better. Letting go even when you know it's hard and you don't know how things are going to be, that's the best thing you can ever do to yourself. I'm proud of you and I pray things eventually work out for you. God bless you
That why I don’t believe in love at time or relationship and marriage something will happen at the end
im tired of giving and not getting respect and effort reciprocated
It’s sad we have to be like this with so-called “friends” and “loved ones.” People treat you weird and then act like you’re the one being weird when you call them out on it
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People are temporary 💯
Yep even family member whom never stood by yourself from the beginning
I was diagnosed with breast cancer at 34 this year and when i tell you ive learned who loves and cares about me through this experience. I have about 3 ppl in my corner that truly care and guess who they are lol my 2 kids and mom. Everyone else either i ask for the help or they feel bad. Its wild, but i know now where i stand with ppl and im grateful ❤
i hope youre doing well and i wish you a good recovery. i pray for you and i feel you. sometimes its better to have only a few but real people than fake ones. anyways i hope youre making it. all the best :)
@@FlavioSolero thank you, I appreciate your well wishes. For sure, Ive always had a small circle but after this experience, it will get much smaller, I rather stay true to myself. Yes, Im doing great and healing everyday. Coming back stronger for sure.
@@damaris2085 im glad to hear that. keep your head up!!
I wish you the best.Hoping you’ll recover as soon as possible.God bless you.
🙏 By his stripes
If negativity out weighs the positives then stop what ever that is.
facts, always leave people who bring you more chaos than peace
it’s 5am couldn’t sleep. been overthinking abt all the ppl in my life that have left me or ik they abt to. then i click on YT and this the first video.. Thank you bro. i’m abt to go ghost and just grid..
stay strong keep going
I really needed to hear this. I was dating someone who had a whole perfect idea of me inside of their head and I would try to live up to their expectations so they would accept me as that version because deep down I knew they wouldn’t accept me the way I truly am, therefore I decided to cut them off and I feel so much better about myself.
You definitely have to set boundaries.
I honestly wish I learnt this earlier, I never learnt to stand up for myself I was always caught off guard when someone disrespects me..😢
Same 😢
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omg😭i cried the entire time watching this. I have an anxious attachment so i always find myself doing things to keep ppl from leaving me. i get so attached & then when they leave, i don’t know what to do. i crash out !!!! But i’m learning that people come and go & as hard as it is i’m trying to understand. i give out so much love and constantly get hurt by ppl i thought “loved” me. BIGGEST lesson is to love myself first.
If they dont wanna be in your life why would you force them to stay? If they wanna leave let them leave. If their meant to be in your life they will be back. Dont force it
I feel this ❤ it’s okay to feel what you are. Feel it. People meant to stay you shouldn’t have to disrespect yourself to make them stay.
@@madam_ruby_ you’re right 🥺 thank you
@@SnowStarks yes !!! you are sooo right
bro is so crazy bc the people in my life would freak if i sent them this video, ive slowly realized everyone is emotionally unstable. when you call em out for their shit, youre the crazy one, but again its a way for them to continue to cross those boundaries. I AM A GOOD PERSON I TAKE IT TO THE CHIN, BUT AS OF LATELY IVE BEEN GETTING FED UP AND ALTHOUGH IF I ACT LIKE THEM ILL JUST LIKE THEM BUT ITS TEMPTING. WHEN I DO BREAK. I WILL BREAK. AND IT WILL BE UNPRECEDENTED
I also act and do things on purpose sometimes to see people contradict themselves and then i stay quiet and act accordingly
@@andrewcuevas3221oh you might be going through some awakening or just starting to take the blinders off. When that happened it’s harder for your spirit to sit and pretend you don’t see or feel people treating you a certain way. Protect yourself and don’t let anyone make you feel invisible or crazy. I had that experience so I get it ✨
its good to let people miss you and think about you. this only works if the person has more positive memories of you and associates you to positivity we dont miss people who we associate to negativity. i knew a guy who i havent talked to i a while and he said he missed hanging out with me but i actually did not miss this person because i associated him to negativity. so there is this saying people dont always remember what you did or what you said but people will always remember they way you made them feel. its better to just let people choose you or let people come to you with out force or control.
This hit real hard for me. Over the past month or so I've gone through a roller-coaster of emotions regarding a girl. We dated for about 8 months previously, and we were still on good terms until today. I had thought that after we broke up (which was about 1 or 2 months ago) she had found a new bf. When I asked her about it, she claimed that she was never with him and that it was just a rumor. Today I found out from a friend that she was and probably still is with him. I cut her out of my life about an hour ago. It was devastating, knowing that this person that I had put on a pedestal lied to me so easily, but it also felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.
I didn't lose her, she lost me.
Thanks for making this video man, it really helped ❤❤❤
I'm glad you valued yourself and your happiness. Trust. When real love comes you won't have to look over your shoulder at all. I'm proud of you stranger 🙏🏾
@daisykitiibwa1211 Lol thanks. You have the same name as her btw 😂 (if that's ur real name in ur handle)
@@IMC_Grunt Daisy? it is. Damn 😭
@@IMC_GruntDaisy is manifesting you, that’s why you seen her name lol
perfect timing, just got finished crying gang. i appreciate you.
LISTEN!! You hit it dead on the nail on with one. People are absolutely testing you! Never heard it explained this way, it’s facts!
“I cannot live in this world without you.”.
As someone who’s a man of God, I refuse to say that to anyone I know who can leave me, be it by choice or death moving forward.
The time we have is finite, and people have reasons and seasons for being a part of our stories.
It’s best we make that decision now via respectful boundaries, before someone makes it for us.
Thank you for this. You’ve earned a sub.🤝💯
I think I’m gonna cry.This video was just right for me, thanks man.
Man I just turned 25 yesterday I needed to hear that wisdom gosh damn that was facts
I definitely went through this phase earlier in my life (early 20s). Spent 4 years in the dark. No friends, family, romance, etc. Became a truck driver who drives overnight for the past 6 years. So all that garbage is done and over with now.
All I can say is that in that solitude, I literally lost my mind and became incredibly stronger going through what I was going through.
But I'm back around people now, mainly my family doing my local work, and now I'm treated with the utmost respect because they know I will fold they a$$ real quick if they start getting on my nerves. Lol.
However, humans will ALWAYS be flawed. Even the best of them. You have to have boundaries but you also have to have grace to allow people to be who they are, whoever that is. And then YOU decide how much you'll engage moving forward. It doesn't always have to be a full cut-off.
Just make sure your self respect is apparent in everything you do.
Thank you for this ❤
This is very true, like when i started my UA-cam channel earlier channel even my closest friends could not support me, saying that i didn't have enough or proper gadgets to do it and my English was bad therefore they didn't want to associate themselves with me.Thats when i learnt to believe in my self cause deep down i knew what i wanted to do even thought i wasn't prepared technically...7 months here I am they are back praising me for the tremendous work.
Wow I feel like this video was for me!! Just disappointed my best friend of four years and she completely lost it on me. Had to reevaluate the friendship. Much appreciated🙏🏼
So real bro. 2 years ago I made a realization that I was disrespecting myself and once I realized that it hurt me but it gets better once you realize it and want people to respect you
Don’t be afraid to redefine your life, what you stand for and what is worth your time and effort
This is so valuble to share and to learn as early as you can, because if you don't put boundiers, life will teach you in hard way
This video made me cry . 😔 I can’t date my ex anymore because everytime I put my foot down or walked away I was called the bad guy. It was never about what he did to make me react that way. And this video kind of gives me a sense of relief, or reassurance, or self confidence. Not everyone is gonna be happy of the boundaries, they lack respect of others. Why do I need to set so many boundaries with someone in the first place…..
Never try to keep somebody that doesn't want to be kept. The biggest thing i think I've learned when it comes to relationships.
This is definitely directed towards my ex. Thanks for the gem man💪🏾
i never had respect from a friend group of 9 years i gave and gave and got nothing in return i am now free and i respect myself again
Your voice is so calm to listen too
UA-cam Algorithm did some good work bringing this video to my home page, nice job on this my dude
Appreciate that bro
Be you and don’t force what’s not
This was clarification for me. I left my friend group of 10+ years, constantly criticizing my spiritual beliefs and testing my flesh like you mentioned, people will push you and see how far you will let them. Constantly belittling me that I had to separate myself because I kept bypassing all their offenses. You decide when enough is enough. God bless you brother.
Came to me at the right time, I'm going to enforce my own boundaries and I'm scared to lose my relationship, but sometimes, it's simply not worth it. As you said, they might let you do this or that but the other stuff they do just make me feel worse, I will see whether we're fit for each other or not, thank you man.
Just found out I was cheated on. The lies and deceit. The heartbreak. Countless hours crying. It’s time to level up!! 💯💯
Just happened to me also 3 weeks ago! Keep your head up and push forward.
@@cookie_crisp I’m sorry. 🥺 thank you. 🥹🙏🏻
This video help me understand that even when you dont wanna let go... Sometimes you have too 💔 no matter how bad it hurts... But life goes on
I’m trying to detach from someone who said the no longer wants but still contacts me. We don’t see each other, but he abruptly ended things and told me I must have manifested it. I pray god heals me and give me the strength to cut him off completely. I take responsibility for not doing the cutting it’s just hard.
A lot of times, we overdo the loyalty thing. Thinking that being giving and supporting “your ppl” is a duty but ppl often get too comfortable with kindness.
what a true video bro thanks needed that. real one fr. to anyone struggling, i pray for you, you got this
I appreciate this message. Found this at the right moment, too. I"ve outgrown people closest to me and it's tough being around them because I'm holding back what I really have to say. I just use my actions now and keep my distance instead of letting those disrespectful people in my space.
And remember when we change and get better, we attract better. And we start thriving while those who doubted you are watching knowing you’ll never go back. (Daily motivation I was at the gym watching this)
This was so good. Most times people don't forgive you as a means of control - forgiving you would mean they have nothing to hold over you head and control you with, let these ppl go.
Such a great reminder! Calling someone out can be super uncomfortable but it is necessary because otherwise you are just denying your own happiness. I went for it today and posted my first UA-cam video :)
for me it was my younger brother, for a long time. when I reciprocated his energy, he didn’t like it. so we’ve grown apart now because if I don’t put in effort, he won’t. it’s better off this way probably
Man this opened my eyes fr, my ex friendgroup got very racist so quickly and I(only black person in the group) never said anything and it just got worse and worse, but hearing this made me accept the fact that there's people better out there for me and sometimes its just not meant to he
This is exactly I’m removing myself from anyone who devalues me. It’s requires your whole brain trying to get someone to value you or see the value you 😢
had a whole class being jealous of my successes, and making fake accounts of me on twitter and make me look racist etc ... needed that fr ;)
Too underrated, timing is perfect thank you 🙏🙏
no problem bro, thanks for the support
wow this really hit hard for me. i’ve been dealing with a long term friendship breakup and it’s exactly how you described. it always felt like i owed this person something but it was at the expense of my own mental health and respect for myself. i’m glad i realized sooner than later that it was not worth the negativity or stress of being around this person, to finally let them go and accept that we are no longer the same people as we were 16 years ago. a sad but also very freeing realization.
can someone pray for me im hurt faithfully and emotionally.
I pray that the Lord gives you the peace that your soul needs and the healing you deserve 🤲🏽
Amen
Now this is REAL & I love the way you presented the message. Not in a judgmental way, just a real deep message. Damn ❤
I went through this with a friend of 53 years. I called her out for an unexpected personal attack on me after she blindsided me with a list of grievances we could have worked through. I had let some bad comments she had made over the years slide because I didn’t want to cause an upset- turned out I did myself a disservice in the long run. Good Work you’re doing here
I allowed so many people to cross my boundaries because I did not see my self worth. It wasn’t until I left a relationship with someone that I truly love because they did not respect me and my boundaries and realized I was not living my life because I wanted him in my life so much. It hurts now but I believe the pain is worth the healing that has come into my life and will deepen as I grow to love and respect myself more. Peace, blessings, and love to everyone here ❤
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How wonderful that you've learnt this at such a young age such wise counsel
This video was amazing bro. I started to stop letting people disrespect me and I lost a lot of people and “friends” in my life. I found my new group of people, and I met my girlfriend and she is truly amazing. Genuine love is what my heart was craving for the longest time and I learned to be patient and God willing I found her. Trust the process and stay true to your self. Love life and be thankful for every opportunity and every chance given to you. ❤
Forgive and love everyone even if they don’t respect you. Don’t keep a tally of peoples wrongs towards you. It made me a lot happier to love and forgive people even if they disrespected me or hate me.
He started hating me ( verbal abuse - total disregard & respect) & let it go on too long bc he said he was joking - it’s NO JOKE !
He hates himself
Im OUT ! Not getting treated like that anymore!
Not losing my self respect😢
He brought NO VALUE to my life ! And wouldn’t take responsibility for HIS BAD BEHAVIOR!
Thank you for the video
Damn did we date the same guy
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Ikr ! I will be very picky who I pick to date next!
@@vixter28Yeap
I watched because the vid is 11 minutes & 27 seconds. I was born 11.27 ❤❤❤
needed this & not even searched 4 it!! just randomly showed up in my feed! God bless u❤
My anxious attachment was triggered, letting go of someone I thought was it. I definitely lost myself. It’s not normal for me to do that, grateful for this message
Wow just come up on my feed and what a powerful message. Been going through this phase where im beginning to let people miss me, ive taken myself away from groups which dont bring positive vibes into my life. I cut them off and now they're chatting shit about me and try to find out why ive withdrawn my presence. Its confirmed my decision was right thing to do.
It hurt when I had recently come to terms with the fact that I didn't have any friends in high school despite being around at least two or more people at all times. I'm now in college, I have another opportunity to make it up to myself. I don't hesitate to confront or completely drop people who so much as slightly disrespect me, even if it's a passing comment. One month into the semester and I've filtered out more than 10 people.
Enough is enough. I'm over the passive aggression, envy, two-facedness, and poor communication skills from both my male and female peers. I don't expect any less from them. I expect that I act accordingly towards their behavior. I'm introverted, I don't fear being alone.
Found out my “friends” backchat about me. Needed this
You ate wit this one bro 💯💯🔥
I just don’t understand why now in the society it’s so hard to make friends or be in a relationship, in order for you to truly attract somebody’s attention you have to look good or have money and I feel like that’s BS, I miss the classic days when love was all about just flowers and candy nothing more nothing less. Socializing has gone to hell and people now normalize cutting conversations short, it’s not how it was 15 years ago when things were more exciting, everyone gets easily bored talking to you or there just lazy Asf 😔 Just speaking facts .
I agree with you but don’t give up 🫶🏽don’t lose hope. One day it will happen the friendship or the relationship or maybe both and when it does it will be good because you waited and you are looking for a genuine connection, you will meet people on the same frequency level as you. Those will be your people❤give it time
@@PoeticVirgo Thank you so much for your sweet words, I really appreciate it, you’re wonderful and same to you, I feel like now more than ever the only way to truly have good friends and a good partner is to seek the Lord and pray every day and he will give ❤️
Facts but don’t confuse conversations with connecting. Me and my ex would talk for hours about mostly stuff she liked and still end up fighting somehow. Some people only talk to trauma dump or get out of their toxic heads
I realized I was allowing my boundaries to be crossed when I said “don’t” and he responded before I could even finish my sentence “did you just tell me not to-“ actually yes I did.
This randomly popped up on my recommended but this is what I needed so badly. I have these “friends” that will take take take and when I need something rarely I have no idea if they’ll even come through for me. Most of the time it’s a no. But when it comes to females I tend to lower my respect because I want her to like me . But the video is awesome and I’ll check out more
“All that depends on the respect you have for someone based off the boundaries they have set for themselves.”
did keep it real. thank you for speaking man. never stop using your words to inspire people.
the music behind your words is perfect. this is a whole experience listening to you speak and enter into a world of reflection. thank you
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@@Pierre-AugusteMaurais name?
People are temporary. Damn😳 This really gave me closure on someone who would never reciprocate the energy I put into the relationship. I would always be the first to initiate any conversation.. I finally put my foot down and let the relationship die naturally and I was always wondering why they couldn’t have just been honest or communicate. But this is all I needed.
Thank you so much for this I always tell myself to show self-loyalty. Loyalty should always be shown to your self we shouldn’t allow ourselves to be comfortable what we are uncomfortable with doing if it doesn’t feel right.
Needed to hear this today. I’m starting to accept the fact that growth can be uncomfortable, people evolve, and outgrow others. Change can only lead us to our next chapter of life,and where we are meant to be. Thank you for your positive outlook on growth, sending love ✨🦋
Title caught my attention so fast its so true some of my friends have really distanced themselves from me so ill just disconnect right back
Normally I’m not someone who leaves comments, but I really wish for you to become successful, this is a majestical message delivered by a opulent character.
You earned my respect bro. What you said is so relatable to me I mean I sometimes put people I really like on a pedestal. Gotta have my self respect love you bro if you see this have a great day and so on.
A great way to stop this is to limit how close people get to you. Me personally I never let folks come to my house. It might sound small but I dont deal with alotta disrespect because of that...
I get you it's not like you meet your friends really in your house.
I love this so much. My mom was the person who would ask for money and when I would say no she would cuss me out. I will feel so bad and give her the money. Now that I’m older and wiser I don’t feel like I should lower myself to keep her happy for her addiction
Young man you speak so well and from the heart !! Thank you for this video
It's true. An apology is enough. If they don't accept it over a trivial matter, its their problem as far as I am concerned. Never ever devalue yourself to "fit in" because I used to be a people pleaser and I learned this the hard way!