THIS is WHY Your EX Can Miss YOU BADLY and Yet Still be Silent
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- THIS IS why your ex can miss you badly but still be silent
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Open your mind. My ex and I met when our worlds were so stressful and hectic, after the most amazing relationship she ended it with me and honestly, all my own fault. She stuck in there for me but I missed the signs she needed a lot more support. I went NC for 150+ days, then out of nowhere she reached out. A few weeks we meet up for a coffee and dog walk. After a slow reintroduction to each other, we were both fixed, the 6 months time apart, with no contact was enough to solve our issues which were both work and financial related. This time we were both ready for the love we still carried inside. Now 5 years on we have a beautiful daughter, our love and relationship is stronger than ever and next year we are getting married. STAY opened minded to the timing of your life.
Awwww congrats I’m glad everything worked for you 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽
Wow this spoke to my situation so much. In day two of no contact after she decided it was time to break things off after 2 years. We both expressed we love one another deeply but my pursuit to clean my life put a strain on us. She told me she always felt I was her person. Not holding on to hope but nice hearing this worked for you.
@@pspT61 Bro you can follow many tips and advises from all over UA-cam. The truth, its a timing thing, if she is the one, she will come back. It's hard to make peace with this, and boy I had to but to have got her back by being patient, not needy and stronger. Have faith my brother, trust the timing.
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Congratulations thankyou for thisn
I miss my ex a lot, BUT the self respect I have for myself won't EVER allow me to lower myself to reach out to him. The hurt he caused runs deep & I'm working on healing that through therapy & prayer. The only way we'll ever talk is if he reaches out to me, which I doubt he ever will🤷🏾♀️
How long were you together? And how long NC?
I agree and that is why I’m also doing similar things. I just can’t help having these feelings. Not to mention we see each other in a daily even if we don’t talk.
Do you not believe people can prosper into greater endevours and growth of self?
Same it has been 8 months now and I am still resisting and I ll keep it that way until I fall in love with somebody else 🤭 it is what it is
They usually do reach out at some point
The more I really think about my ex, the more I think I can do better.
💯❤️
Any break up can be fixed providing that respect is kept between partners. Nothing damages a relationship like disrespect
Teach!!!!!🔥
When adult children interfere in the relationship between the paternal mother and non paternal boyfriend…..that seems insurmountable….especially when there are grandchildren in the picture, and the Grandmother does not want to lose contact with the grandchildren
Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him
It's incredibly hard to let go of someone you love. I was in a similar situation when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't let him go, so I did everything I could to get him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who assisted me in reuniting with him.
That's amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I reach him?
His name is Father Abulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can help bring your ex back.
Thank you for this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and he seems impressive.
How are you healing? I’m going through something similar I just want the pain to end😢
He texted me today asking how was work going…. When you pull back & stay focus oh they definitely will miss you.
How long did it take
I think he breadcruming you
@@danilaroche1156 Right I pulled my energy back I no longer deal with him. It’s crazy how when you no longer in someone life they start looking and doing bad. It’s be your presence and energy, your light the whole time that kept that person grounded.
@@Qwani11_11whys that a bad thing?
@@sadhours2 It’s not.. But You just have to use discerment. That blocking then unblock will get you outta my life for good.
Ppl play too many games.
I’m above 3 months now.
I feel less obliged to try reach out, it’s her job. I still wish she would, but if she doesn’t then… it is what it is.
It’s tough as F guys. I only started feeling normal around the 3 month mark. But hang in there. Start MMA, go gym, read that book, study for that paper, watch that video, feel those emotions, cry if you need to, speak to that friend, go see that psychologist, go listen to that song, go speak to your mom, go for that walk, go out to the mall, apply for that new job, let out that anger, go take those photos, go meditate, go learn how to cook, go on that stress food binge… but always do it for YOU.
“My heart is at ease knowing that what is meant for me will never miss me, and that what misses me was never meant for me.”
Hang in there guys. It’s hard for them too, and sometimes it may take years for them to see that. Still hang in there.
We aren’t broken hearted, our hearts are healing. Try see things from a positive side and you got this.
Peace and love.
Thank you I needed this ❤
❤❤❤thank you
"What's meant for me won't miss me" sure if that helps you sleep well, we all have choices
Thank you
Did you end the relationship or her?
My ex has started texting me again. They ALWAYS come back!!!!!
@@mollyoneill9309
Narcissists Do
They Need To Be Blocked
They Do Nothing But Destroy
No they don't
After a year and 5 months, she has been texting me. It’s when you truly let go, they feel that, that’s when they’ll test the waters.
I didn’t chase or text him! If a man pulls away, good riddance. If he doesn’t see us together, then it’s a blessing! He broke our engagement to be single or rebound. It doesn’t matter, trust is broken. I forgive you, I will never forget. I’ll give my heart away for the other girls/boys to play. Best of karma to you! Self love beautiful Queens!💯🧿✌🏼Make that money, stay healthy & always keep it real to self!!!✨🧚🏻🫶🏻
They may come back, but what's to stop them from leaving again later on? And what kind of relationship is a revolving door commitment.
Been there, done that - it's never the same.
I cheated on my ex and she forgave me. I made jokes out of it later on and I regretted it. I was so immature and toxic 😪 but i did this to myself and I’m accepting the consequences. She broke up with me 4 months ago and I begged for her. Then finally I left her alone. 1 month ago, I saw her at the gym and tried to talk to her so I can apologize. It was probably my mistake to say hi in the first place because she left the gym without me knowing. Ever since then, I just been leaving her alone. I’ve been working on myself everyday and getting closer to God. It still hurts and feels like I’ll never forgive myself😪 I guess we live and we learn. I know if this breakup didn’t happen, then I wouldn’t be focusing on growth and becoming a mature person.
“If your name isn’t on the lease…you better keep the peace” 😮💨🤣 Fr that’s why I advocate for people having their own place so they don’t get kicked out during a break up. It’s a cold world 🥶
I agree. My ex was cheating with his ex. I was so mad. I kicked him out. Then he tried to blame me for him being homeless because his mom also kicked him out. 😂😂😂
True
Tru dat.
My wife had an affair and left me and two young kids for her lover. When she eventually see's that the grass isnt greener on the other side, and regret sets in, regret wont unlock my heart.
But im pretty much in agreement that I as well am done with woman, its not worth it anymore, sadly.
hugs
This happened to me too. Two kids involved.. how are you getting on with things? Would be interesting to know..
Happened to me too, we had twins and she just one day left and went to NJ, this was August 4th. We stayed in touch now it’s September 1st I’m going no contact starting today, I caught her cheating numerous times,
I am so sorry. ❤
Thank you so much Coach. My ex came back and your wise words helped me through a tough 3 months. I am so grateful ❤
So happy for you
@@ehiemobigoziem767 Thank you so much, and it is better than ever 😍
Damn 3 months is really tough how did you do it I’m on 3 weeks and my heart burns
Be patient @runout1013 and know your worth ❤
Now he came back, how is it going now? Can it ever be the same?
I'm an emotional man that showed a lot of love and care for my lady. Day 3 of no contact after staying in communication for 6 weeks after the breakup. Jesus please help me, I want her back 💔
I'm emotional too , I hope we get over soon bro
Edit : it's been 6months since my NO CONTACT, she never reached out , I did reached out to her many times as I completed my 2months NC , in my case it didn't work , she has lost respect for me , and keep ignoring my text for hours days weeks , until I break the silence once again , i did it continuously since Feb 2024 till may , its over and now I'm filling with resentment I don't even care anymore, anyone who is suffering take it one day at a time , you might be suffering now ,but a time will come where the pain will become lesser and lessee each day , now I'm focusing on my healing, try not to go to places where you would see her , that's the biggest mistake I made , it spoil your NC , especially if u see her....Goodluck...I'll try to heal and move on for good
4 months later, how things are going, man?
what ended up happening? its been 6 months
Update?
It was quite a journey and it's still going! Around December, I did the dreaded thing and broke no contact to my dumper but she was really nice about communicating. We met up around Christmas time and I showed way too much interest and it scared her off. January 1st rolled around and we had a heart to heart conversation where she said the relationship was not gonna happen. I respected her wishes, gave her the breakup and walked away. I started really working hard on myself and in April, a little over 3 months later, her brother reached out and then she broke no contact reaching out. We reconnected and began talking for 1 month until again, I made the mistake to show too much interest and she basically admitted that she "has not changed her mind" without really stating it. I understood it by face value and I went into no contact again. Almost 1 month later, she reaches out to wish me a happy birthday to which I was polite and told her thank you. That was a little over 2 weeks ago. Mind you, ever since I showed her I can walk away when I'm not settling for a "no-romance friendship' while she's possibly talking to other men and exploring other options, she has not left my social media alone. She watches all of my stories and that was how she reached out to me on my birthday. It's a battle y'all but I'm just gonna keep focusing and working on myself and not sweat these things. I'm doing a whole lot better now. I still miss her and the relationship, but I'm open to exploring the possibilities of new relationships and finding somebody else whereas before in the past, it was not even an option because I wanted her back so bad. I'm sure this was a lot to read but moral of the story: if you were dumped, you DO NOT break no contact. Work on yourself. If you release someone from you past and forgive them, you will begin to feel better. If it's meant to be, it'll be. If not, you'll find somebody better. We'll see where things go from here. See you in another 6 months lol.
Some people fear the feeling you feel when being broken up with.
5 months later and i do miss him and i can feel he misses me to, we were a good match and were friends for years before becoming intimate, and it felt beautiful for both. I am giving him all the time he needs and I'm also working on my own goals, but that ache i feel for him is still there. Time is the only answer.
I'm in exactly the same place as you. Friends for 4 years before we dated. I'm at almost 7 months post breakup, 3 months since we last spoke to each other 😢 I waited too long to start no contact but I hope it will still work
I went NC in February of this year. She contacted me on Easter asking how I was? We briefly texted. I figured it was an indirect way of getting me to text her again. But I haven't heard from her since. I didn't text her for her birthday last month even though it almost killed me not to do it. I miss her so much. I want to reach out to her but im trying to be strong.
Reach out to her
@@johnhypnoplease I need help we broke up one week NC he texted then I do ignore him because he has another girl but yesterday he texted me to call him but he still blocked me on WhatsApp what will I do I missed him so much
@@johnhypno are u talking to me ?
3 months of no contact and she didn't reach out. I still miss her, but my hopes that she will reach out are close to zero.
I wish the best for all of you guys!❤
Did she reach out to
@@deethomasblack6487 no, she didn’t. I found out that she left me for another man. I feel like a clown for all the things I did for her, and the way that I begged to stay with me and work things out. I still have some triggers that makes me sad but I do not wish to contact me anymore. I know my worth and I know that I was loyal and loved her with all my heart. I wish you all the best!
@@deethomasblack6487 No she didn’t reached out. But in the meantime I found out that she left me for another dude. That explains a lot why she didn’t even listen when I begged her to try to make things right and she showed no emotion. Sad that I had to found out on late December, because it would have helped me with closure. I still think about her from time to time. But I know my worth and I know that I tried my best and I would have never leave her. I was prepared to do anything for this girl
Hope you're doing better now.
No she didn't reached out.
But in the meantime I found out that she left me for another dude. That explains a lot why she didn't even listen when I begged her to try to make things right and she showed no emotion. Sad that I had to found out on late December, because it would have helped me with closure. I still think about her from time to time. But I know my worth and I know that I tried my best and I would have never leave her. I was prepared to do anything for this girl
Reminder guys, you don’t miss your ex. You just miss being in a relationship.
Naw I definitely miss her. She was an amazing person and the most compatible person I've ever met. She just had bad jealousy problems which led to our fights, which broke our relationship
@@Nismoloverwhy would you mess something good up making her jealous you men like to check other women out while together, following and liking girls pictures is a relationship killer too
Lol
This is me sooo much lol
If someone you love dies, then you don't really miss them, you just miss the fact that they were alive??
Silence is for ourselves. It is super hard when we’ve only been in NC for a couple of weeks. It will gradually get better. We need to do our work too. There’s no point if we do not embrace the goodness in ourselves and what life has to offer.
Let go and let God ❤
I didn’t chase.. I told him love him enough to let him go.. and I did and doing just that..
Yes...he said, " its great to be with you but i cannot take the toxicity"... so im not expecting us to be together again.
I can say now with meaning it I am 5 months no contact. She’s got a new boyfriend but I have accepted the break up and to move on with life. I love her dearly but I can’t make her have feelings for me or want me back so I’m choosing to respect myself and move on.
In the same boat. It’s so hard. But what can you do. 😔
Ahh idk how to do this. My ex and I were together 10 years, married for 2-3 and I made the mistake of breaking up. I asked him to reconcile but he said no. He started dating immediately after we got separated and he is now married. In the last 7-8 months he dated, got married, traveled and moved on to his life and meanwhile I spend 6 months depressed and now barely starting to find joy in activities but the pain and the longing for him is still there. I have no interest in dating or sleeping around. I hope he is healthy and happy but I wish one day we could be together again.
@@RainingTinglesASMRyou want him back after his love is connected to someone else?
@@RainingTinglesASMR why did you break up with him?
I know im late to the video, but youre helping me so much. Ive been watching your videos religiously.
My guy left me when he said i hurt him. Thing is, i dont even know how i hurt him. He wont tell me, and ive reflected for the last week, and nothing has come to me. Ive began to focus on bettering myself, caring for myself, and so on. But no contact, gods is it so hard. But listening to you has helped me so much. You make so much sense, and frankly, i probably wouldnt have made it this far emotionally without these vids. Thank you so much
I’m a Scorpio. When I left, I burned the whole thing down.. with my words🫤. Told him my new man was calling… yeah I know I regret it deeply. He reached out to me today & I missed the chance. Didn’t know he reached out to me till later on & I was blocked again. We both hurt each other’s feelings & I was ultimately the one who put the nail in the coffin. I don’t care if he has other women or his flaws, I spoke in a moment of anger. I do miss him & wish I had saw his text as soon as he sent it but who knows maybe it’s the way things should be rn. Hoping he try’s again…
He literally blocked me after I broke contact 5 months into it. I only reached out about business. I’ve moved on already, I chuckled. I’m now working on my Master’s and once that’s done I’ll try to apply for Doctoral candidacy.
He fumble you where u at I need you lol
@@Devdesmond1313don’t simp
men don't care about women's master’s and doctoral candidacy.
So why you here lol
@@TrueWisdom992 I never said I didn’t care.
I like this gentleman advise. He is always honest.
Anyone ever think the UA-cam algos are showing your ex the same videos?
Im two months into this breakup and let me say I’m feeling okay….don’t get me wrong I still miss my ex I’m at the point of letting her go and moving on?
Now let me say when she first ended everything and jumped into a relationship right after me I was soooooo fucken broken. 5 years down the drain, I chased her told her we can work this out I got ghosted by her but I understood my place in her life. After talking to some older people who are wise and been through this part of life as well. I came out understanding that my ex showed her true colors towards me. I went on a trip last week and out of nowhere my ex text me that she heard I was on a trip and for me to have a nice time and sent me a smiley face. I replied thanks and went on with my day. But this time was different when she text me it was like oh who this random number texting me when I realized it was her and was like oh. I didn’t react how I reacted before which was open it and reply back right away. I’m learning to put my energy where it’s appreciated and wanted rather than in the garbage where it’s not appreciated.
OK, this is the second time I am commenting on this bloke. His delivery is first class, clear , succinct and to the point. But I think the content here has wonderfully explained to me what I have just witnessed. My ex, seven months no contact has in the last six weeks started looking at ‘ my stories ‘ at random but two days before Christmas she went through 40 of them in one go, then New Year’s Eve looked again and then on the 2 Jan repeated this. Then she stopped, it made no sense to me, but does now. It is an internal battle of memory and emotion of which I have no role to play. Thank you for this video.
My ex broke up with me 2 months ago, and we work together , I tried to beg him but he told me categorically that he doesn't want me, I packed my broken pieces and moved on , tried the no contact rule but now he is complaining every day how I am the cause , how I flirt around, how I don't care about him and many other things 😂😂😂😂 now he is disturbed meanwhile I don't care anymore about him
The nerve!!!
The toxic thing is I know my ex is super torn up about dumping me. Because she’s in her favorite coping mechanism- jumping into a new fling. Instant rebound, just a matter of days. Doesn’t make me feel any better about myself though.
Same. Coach...helps!
Im proof. Listen 2 coach =good. Everyone of my way s= no bueno
Doesn't seem torn up if she's already with a new guy
@@haitiansensation7693 she is a traumatized assault survivor with BPD. Rebounding is the exact sign she’s crying herself to sleep at night. My only comfort is that she hates herself.
@@dannycolwell8028Deep but very relatable.
My ex girlfriend broke up with me 3 weeks ago. We had a great relationship, we got engaged last year in Mauritius and we were gonna get married next year. We still live together and im doing the NC best i can. We don't argue and keep it civil. She has snapped at me few times but i don't bite back i keep it pleasant and then walk away. I was devastated but am not showing any emotions to her. I did cry my eyes out when we broke up and the day after as I just wanted to chat and see what was going on. Since then ive kept my distance (off the radar) best i can. I love your video mate your very wise. I have liked and subscribed. I hope things go well... she even said i was the best boyfriend as i did anything to make her happy but she said she needs to find herself.
After the breakup, all I have found is crap. I feel lost most of the time and it’s been a year and counting. Sometimes I think I’m going to remain this way forever
People who choose to break up with you are usually the ones to regret it.
Nah she doesn’t miss me. She got someone else after around a month or two after we broke up. All good tho, I’m not even mad or surprised just disappointed. I really thought she was different🤣🤡
He's a rebound watch wen they don't work out she's gonna try run back to u
@@KendraWalker-z4t And that's a fact
That feeling when u think she's different
She got married 4 days later
@@KendraWalker-z4t I agree because this my situation right now
He wasn’t treated me right. Always about him. Now we broke up because he disrespectful and he didn’t value me. I decided to be silent but it is hurt so much but I have to value myself and make sure he realizes that it wasn’t right what he has done. I miss him but I need to chest up and stand up for myself. We been together over a year. I was the one who invested so much in the relationship but narcissistic was getting much higher and higher. He has been seeing the phycologist for a while but it seemed that won’t work; or not enough. I was walking on an egg shells around him.
I know how you feel l give him so many chances time after time l dealing with him for 12 years l tell how much l love him and everything l just can't deal with the disrespect at all differently come from a bad relationship before him l see the all the red flags and when l want to talk to him about he get so angry what to cuss me all out knowing he is wrong in the first place l just don't understand it yes l do be walking on eggshells around him. I'm not going to lie l do miss him and still love him things have to change big time. I thought l was only one dealing with someone like this. Keep your head it going to get better l know it will. ❤
I’ll treat you right 😊
@@ShawnWiley-r4h time will makes you feel better. If you find another person, you can then know,if you should I continue or cut them off. I guess, at least we have learned a lesson. Move on and keep being busy. X
I’ve done the walking on eggshells, and it’s not worth it. Soon you will be needing the therapy for dealing with that. Pray, heal and spend time to yourself to figure out what you need..🪷✨
@@Joylove329 you need me 😊
No Contact since 400 Days❤
And you're still counting the days?😢
@@kikhazz no☺️ just to motivate you guys!
Is it easier? Do you still want them back?
@@kikhazzNo disrespect, but I was thinking the same thing like "Why are you still counting" 😂 I hope to God I don't even be thinking about my ex after 400 days or even 250 days after 😂
@@thekellyvlog.depends on how long the relationship lasted. I still miss my ex and its been over a year since our breakup. He's with someone new but we were together 22 years and share 5 children together. I still have good days and bad ones but I definitely still think of him
I wanted to thank you brother your video truly helps a lot I'm still trying to get mine back and I fucked up did the begging and let her walk all over me but I just gave her the no contact for 4 months and she said she missed me I'm trying to take it slow and not pressure her so fingers crossed
What can I say? I want her back to treat her they way I should have.but she doesn't want it🤷♂️so now I'm listening to coach.
I’d love you to make a video about Ex’s that come back but go back away, as I’ve been NC since January and had them come back crying and freaking out several times just to back out again.
Sounds very like borderline or avoidant
Thanks so much Coach Blac for putting this message across because that is what happened to me I had was mad at my ex as well as hurting because I felt like he was always disregarding my feelinga so with that being said I wanted him to feel the heat just like me which caused the break up- whereas now I miss him and want things to truly work out, but he is not speaking to me/ cut off contact with me, so I'm tired of trying but hope things will kindle for us.. thank you for your encouraging words. it has helped to ease the pain.
But I have blocked him on EVERYTHING all social media and on my phone!! Although if he was really interested, he could find a way via email or snail mail or even using another phone to reach out so I take it that he’s not interested but the truth is he’s not ready for something real anyway! Just wasting my time!!
Hey it'll work out for you and before you know it, you will start living again time will heal you
you block someone on every platform but hope him for reach out hahaha, that must be female psychology
You just want him to chase you...
Those are not real feelings
Feelings change like the weather. I’ve heard all those things multiple times & we’ve gotten back together 2x since. Currently apart but it was a different situation and I walked away- but I still love her & wish to reunite but it may not happen this time.
I hate that I’m back here ❤😭
It can never be the same now 😢
I had changed my number and I don’t do social media so no contact is forever. Period.
Bear in mind this happened to me after an argument with a friend not a partner
We fell out and both parties were guilty of the breakdown of the friendship. After some time we didnt exchange a word for several months. In the end we got back in touch as we went to the same concert and caught up on old times
We spoke a few days later and explained how what you/I did was wrong upsetting etc and how we wanted to re-establish contact but thought the other didn't or would get angry. Neither of us wanted the stress of dealing with an argument on top of the friendship loss.
Im glad it worked out and hope it does for all reading myself included. Have a great weekend and thabks for the videos coach from Dublin Ireland 🇮🇪 ☘️ 💚
And what if the quality was toxic from her perspective, and she has a whole wrong view of me. For her the quality was bad, but it was mostly her narcissistic behaviour. So when the quality was bad, there is no chance?
I dont plan on coming back at all...this man has exhausted me to no end in which i knew would happen and i told him that it would. I didnt want it to happen, but i guess he did. Maybe he didnt see this coming, but i most certainly did. He hurt me so bad, I just want to stay gone forever...return for what? Absolutely NOTHING
In 7 yrs relationship gave him 2 kids and he up and leaves us marry old women half his age and she has a baby for him out daughter diagnosis with AML Leukaemia been in REMISSION 3 yrs
Honestly...this was gold.
Coach black ..one of my preferred coaches !! Thanks for all your suggestions 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻..
I am on day 6, It's not easy but i have turned my Focus to myself. Getting better physical and mentally. She wanted space and i was needy, i pushed her away. i suffocated her. I did all the wrong things but i am growing. i will be a better man in the end. She wants to be friends after we get a few weeks to heal.
you'll be alright be patient and focus on GOD
Nope, do not be friends or be in the friend zone, you will be hurt even more. Just stay in no contact and continue to work on yourself. Its tough, but being silent is you're greatest strength. If she truly cares for you she will make the effort. Remember, she must be the one to contact you first..
Don’t settle for less my man take the time to heal of course but don’t let her keep you in the friend zone otherwise it’ll create more confusion and pain for you. Give her time to miss you as a boyfriend and make it clear that’s all you can ever be to her if you really want her back. There’s plenty of people you can be friends with, less people you can be on a fulfilling relationship with
My fear is that she found someone else and if she hasn’t she will. It’s been a few days and I’ve been committed to NC, but she hasn’t reached out at all. The break up was weird because I pleaded and begged and it almost seemed like it didn’t affect her much about throwing away a 2 year relationship. There were toxic traits in both of us, most of them exemplified by myself, taking responsibility but I hit my last straw with our last argument. Idk man…
Update: we are back together and taking things slow. She ended up reaching out during NC.
@@miamibrando3471good luck man. Mine hasn’t reached out but it’s all good. Doubt she will 😅
@@guywithahelmet9597 Don’t doubt yourself bro. I watched a lot of these videos after the breakup and had so much doubt until she came back. She will, trust the process. Just don’t give in. Trust the NC because it does work and sometimes it does take a bit longer but you’ll see.
@@miamibrando3471 I’ve been so close to breaking NC. I know her and I’m 99% sure she’s not coming back. I’m glad it worked out in your favor tho! I really do wish you both the best. I gotta move on 🤙🏼
@@guywithahelmet9597 thanks bro, how long has it been since you’ve been on NC?
This is my first video of yours. Bravo!
What should our first date back after a breakup be ? I made dinner reservations? Is that ok?
Thanks coach! I left him a couple times for disrespect and your videos helped me so much ❤ I feel nothing anymore and he texted me the other day 🙃😅
I'm trying to get in your place where i feel nothing
@nerva39 Focus on your health and happiness within, once you stop missing them they will start 💯
@@victoriaxox0 unless they start dating someone else and change there phone number.
@@victoriaxox0wanna go to Costa Rica with me?!?
You never loved him really deeply that’s why you don’t feel anything anymore
The fact is if you love a person really deep you have feelings they never go away what ever happens!.
HE STALKS me everyday , views my profile 3x or more a day and ive gone NC for 2 years now. He dumped me for another woman . I didnt fight him i just left and went NC.
I don't coming running that's too much work when a person made it clear that their not interested
I have been in No Contact only 11 days. I am hanging in there.
You are just getting started, hang in there bro
@@blacademic Thanks man. My girlfriend broke up with me. It was all my fault. I did not beg either.
@@rodney1279TheFlip ur fault!? She is gone for good
@@rodney1279TheFlipyour fault? What did you do?
@@blacademic I did not spend time with her on her birthday week. I think it was more than that but that was why.
I went through quite a lot for 3 months but then I kept giving clarity to my thoughts and now I’ve moved on such a way that the only feeling I have is “kicking on her a** and telling to f**k off forever”😂
Coach Blac. I find it interesting that you bring up attachment styles. My relationship lasted 14 years (5 kids), and even though I now know that my ex was avoidant, I also know that my baseline is secure but I _turned_ anxious by being with her. This is also something I’ve had a while to overcome and gone back to being secure in myself. However, if she perceived it as toxic, then how come it lasted so long? I mean sure, it was on the rocks a few times and she tried to end it several times. But doesn’t the fact that we still lasted as long as we did, count for nothing?
Hes thinking or fighting, just be silence
Brilliant video again. You explain the process better than any one else on line. 👍
After he cheated .. and dumped me for another woman.. i would definitely don’t want him back.. i don’t trust I can’t do it … he behaves perfectly for 6 months and behind my back he just cheats and stuff.. No thanks… is has been 1 week… he is looking at my stories 😂.. i don’t understand why would you block me on instagram and facebook but not on what’s up and phone.. .. I m better than this …. I won’t take him back no way… better be alone!! I m so traumatised..
I reli don’t care anymore. Life is too short for no contact. If you love each other it is worth fighting for. You have to decide to leave the building if this person is not investing what is the point. It’s not worth the stress.
Some people don’t want to be had. It doesn’t matter what you do.
Does anyone else miss their exes family more than their ex? I want my ex back but I’m on the fence about it. She did me DIRTY. I love her and she loves me but part of me feels like I can do better. Maybe by doing no contact she’s becoming better and that is where I will do better. I’m not going to settle for the old her. Anyways, I can resent her for what she did but her family are some of the best people I ever met and I miss them so much. If I got back with my ex part of it would be because of her family. Does anyone else feel this way?
Update: it’s been 3months and I am so much better now. I no longer want her and her mom reached out to me which I shut down in an awesome text😎 I know I can do better and that I’ll have the relationship that I and everyone else dreams of. I won’t have to worry about getting cheated on, she’ll be kind, loving, good with kids, the most beautiful woman, love my family, enjoy similar hobbies, adventurous, smart, funny, and takes excellent care of me while I take amazing care of her. I want everything in my relationship to be reciprocated. I was taken for granted and it won’t happen again. I’m better than that and I’m only becoming better. I’ve seriously never been so dialed in and driven. I have so many goals and awesome things coming up in my life. Skydiving and vacations with the boys are a couple of them. I look forward to my next relationship but right now I’m just becoming a better version on myself so I can match my partner but also enjoying my life. Enjoying my life without that cheating bitch boyyyy
This... I really connect with this. I am an anxious attachment and he is an avoidant.
My ex came back after 2 months. I did the no contact thanks to your videos. We're going to start slow with one date night a week instead of him moving back in right away. 💕
@@chloegibson9504 he text asking to speak face to face says in the silence he got over his resentment and since we have years of dating thinks we should try work on our communication before throwing in the towel. We are attending therapy and dating on weekends. He hasn't moved back in but that's OK. Were seeing how we get along on these dates for now. Communication is still rocky though so this isn't in the bag.
That was excellent and very helpful. Thanks
We had a great relationship (well I thought) we spent a lot time together have fun great convos.. but he still cheated.. 4yrs for nothing.. I’m in NC.. and I know he miss me..
Same way for mine..she did the same thing 4 years for nothing too
How do you know he misses you? Did he come back?
Hmmm this video just made know I’m never getting her back……. You said everything accurately and also you made honest assumptions good enough for me to evaluate the whole relationship.
Thanks coach
Try having language barriers on top of all of this 🤦🏾♀️ ..... 😂 i must conquer speaking Spanish 💪🏆🙏
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@@Davideagen-k8yyou are kidding?
He blocked me after a silly argument and unblocked me after 7 months of no contact but didn’t communicate till now what that suppose to mean
✋🏼I am not reaching out like NEVER EVER
Bringi g up attachment styles is very imporzant to understand. Thank u Coach Bac ❤
Thank you Coach, im in a healing process now. Not doing to well at it but you made what im currently going through make sense. The no contact, I was wondering if I was doing the right thing by no contact and revaluating if this was love or him just using me. I'm still processing but thank you.
you got this i'm sure you'll figure it out
When they don’t act right leave them and tell them don’t come back until they change because there is a woman somewhere that has told that man she is tired a million times and always went back to him but this time she is never coming back
This is a good one coach Blac. However i know that my ex will never be the one to reach out even if she's suffering. For all the reasons you mentionned and more.
My ex was definitely my person. We are complete opposites but complemented each other well. Out of the blue (3 months in), he ended things, no agreement or disagreement. I'm definitely giving him space and no contact. I miss us together, but I respect his decision 😒 what's meant to be will be .This process sucks😢
I feel so attacked thank you so much for what you do..
Solid gold, Coach! Solid gold!!!
He told me he loved me but was living with his new woman. He needs a place to stay so he is pretending to be in love with her. She is 12 years older than he is. She washes his clothes, cook for him and she is an alcoholic. He drinks too. I don’t do those things. I am living at home with my sickly mother…so I wasn’t able to entertain him like that. Oh well.
Some times they won't cause they have others talking to them and they pride sticks in the way
I was in no contact but he was circling my social media, started texting to see what I was doing and showing interest. I responded and had some communication. Then cold again. I had to send him a message that I can’t do this hot and cold. It’s confusing and if he doesn’t want to be in my life consistently, I don’t want it. That’s my boundary. I don’t expect a response. I don’t think he’s capable of expressing himself. Now I’m deciding if I should block him on FB because I need to move on but I feel guilty. Help!
My ex told me he still loved me and that he cared when he ended it. Said we just aren’t compatible in values ( absolutely not true ). It’s been 8 weeks tomorrow and 2 weeks no contact. We have a child and he doesn’t even reach out for our son which hurts so much. Our son is 2.. I love him and miss him so much but I won’t be reaching out to him.
Dealing with the exact samething. It really sux
@@BeautifulCreature90it really does. I’m sick of crying, I’m sick of hurting.
I’m sorry you’re also going through this.
It will be a year in November and I still haven’t heard from my ex but he watches my stories 💁🏻♀️
Maybe you should try reaching out to him if you still feel that you would like to try again and he isn’t in a relationship
Don't reach out to him move on. He will only end up hurting u d more if u do.
Or just lie. I left, he rebounded, and both of them stalked me and then tried to get my support, then tried to attack me. Cut off and living life. After all those years made no sense, but now I'm beyond relieved. I was lost, not anymore.
Thank you for giving me Hope.
Indeed each time I try to tell my ex how he can do certain things that will make me feel better he says am trying to control him
I'm the relaxed loving don't disrespect me though type but soon as she ghosted me.and flipped my workd upside down I went into anxious panic mode and now it's like she dgaf after 3yrs of always wanting to be under me and yes I allowed and appreciated her presence but now I don't know who she is
One week into No Contact because she likes playing mind games. If she hits me up with better energy fine. But if not, its a win as well.
Me and my DA ex had a fantastic relationship...Full of fun and laughter with zero arguments. We made plans for the future and she said we are so lucky to have each other. Our last date in January was THE BEST!
A week after that, a very close friend of hers sadly passed away, so understandably,.she was cut up about it. The following week she text me and said, the romantic vibe had gone!! I initially text her, (probably too much), too try and get some answers, but i was mindful about the death of her friend so was calm.
She blocked me in April and i found out yesterday, she's dating someone else.
I still want her to know that im here for her as a friend but i only have her address and done wanna over step the mark. So i was thinking of writing a short letter telling her this and to contact me if and whenever she wants to. Maybe as a DA, she pulled away when her feelings for me became strong. (We only went out for 3 months, so i think we can slip back to being good friends for each other).
Its nice to ne nice.
Her alcoholic son, and her pot head daughter interfered in our relationship. She was a mother that would defend her 30 something year old children, no matter what the toxic children did. Even when her son went to the beach with us, drank 12 beers, then another 3 at my house, then he put his children in his car for a 2 hour drive home. That was not even wrong in the mother’s eyes. It gets more complicated. Bottom line, her children ruined happiness for their mother, mostly due to their addictions
Does no contact work, when you were dumped for some one else.
Ofcourse, your partner will see the difference. It’s exactly why they usually brake up for no reason. The grass isn’t greener. Time will tell for her and the tides will change because you won’t want the person anymore when you improve. Hit the gym! Make money, go out with friends!
All this is true, im still confused on why but its been 3 months and nothing. We were compatible everyone say i did nothing wrong it was him. But he decided to monkey branch. 😢
She chose him and then got dumped and wanted to run back to me , the second time I choose me
What does it mean if I hurt her in the past and as time went of she randomly hits me up and we hang out? Things like going to the fair, going out to drink and just chills I don’t ask or mention is. I’ve worked hard to better myself. The other day she said she doesn’t want to be more than causal friends but her actions say otherwise? I wonder if she means what she said or if she started catching feelings and shit down or if she’s afraid of being hurt again by me. I prayed and made a promise to god if he blessed me with another chance with her I’ll do right and better by her. I just was scared in the past to show her I love and cared for her because of my past hurt
Don’t chase her. Don’t express your feelings (yet). Always go a little slower pace than the woman. It’s hard, but it keeps her chasing you. The minute you start to over-pursue her, she will feel smothered and her feelings will dry up. Just stay fun and chill. Don’t bring up the relationship. That’s her job. You simply create the dates where you hang out. Don’t spend long time on the phone or texting. The phone is for setting dates with her.
I just had to send a text to my guy (who ended things or sabotaged to avoid getting hurt). He’s been hot and cold. Reaches out and wants to what I’m doing etc…then silence again. I had to ask what he wants from me. I don’t want passive interest. It’s confusing and unfair. If he can’t answer this question I need to block him on FB. It’s too hard.
he put so much effort into finding an engagement ring and I'm sick of all this i want him i don't wanna say yes to someone new but i wanna try so hard but he doesn't want me, he still tries cuddling me but idk if it's for him or if he just does that for me
But what if i ended it & its been 2yrs since… i can’t stop thinking about him.
I ended it bc he lied to me & i knew he wasn’t ready for a relationship at the time & i didnt want a FWB. He apologized a few months ago, then blocked my number a few weeks/months(?) after. Im guessing he is in another relationship 🤷🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️