What if you’ve been backstabbed by your ex? Smh But you still want them back… he still loves me & I still love him but emotionally, I’m tired. I told him last night I’ve accepted he’s not ready, I can’t force him, I’m not waiting and I refuse not to be a side chick. So I told him I’m letting go & detaching. Energetically too. I’ve got to heal ❤️🩹from what he did to me. He said it was a mistake but he’s still dealing with the girl so I’ve walked away. It hurts, it’s hard but I’m tired. Will the no contact still work for me?
Remember this, there will always be a point in life that they regret leaving you... ALWAYS! stay strong, stay focus, stay yourself, work hard, be gentle with yourself and trust the universe and the proces. Much love from Amsterdam ❤
@@madeleineramilo5926After 1 week of during no contact, my ex-girlfriend texted me, "Do you still love me or not? Do you still have feelings?" I replied "No, I respect you and about the decision and I'm happily busy doing with my life(I do have feelings for her) and she just reacted heart emoji to my text and didn't respond. So what now? did I make a mistake by saying no? Will she reach out to me again?
Yah becuz then ppl think u stalking or obsessive....I'm working on him tho he broke no contact ....i didn't I just kept on texting lol except for a week or so when he then broke contact
@@maemaez9749After 1 week of during no contact, my ex-girlfriend texted me, "Do you still love me or not? Do you still have feelings?" I replied "No, I respect you and about the decision and I'm happily busy doing with my life(I do have feelings for her) and she just reacted heart emoji to my text and didn't respond. So what now? did I make a mistake by saying no? Will she reach out to me again?
My ex actually just came back today and wanted to see how I'm doing. I've been doing NC for over 5 months now. It's been a struggle at first, but you have to focus on your dreams and goals and get to a place mentally where it doesn't matter what happens in the future. Focus on yourselves Kings and Queens!
Let them go if they are not invested in you. I’ve learned the hard way by allowing myself to be used and abused and hoping they will change and see all the good things I’ve have done but they didn’t change. So let them go. There will be better someone out there that will appreciate and respect you as a person.
I've experienced the same and I decided to finally let him go… Yes, it hurts like hell and I'm healing every day but I needed that hurt to open my eyes…
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 yes they will find other person but they will not reflect their shortcomings and accountability for what they have done. So be it.
Does anyone really want a person who is emotionally immature, inconsistent, unable to communicate feelings and thoughts back to their life? The road is long! Long term relationship or marriage is tough, if someone who can’t address problems and face difficulties head on, the best thing to do is to just let them go, and wish them good luck. Value your own happiness and look for an emotional stable person.
Listen, let your presence evaporate from their life and keep elevating yourself. They ALWAYS come back and when they do you may not even want them at that point. Trust me!
That's my current situation now we broke up like 2 month ago but we later reconnect back and he told me that he still love me but he has someone else he's dating right now that I should put everything in God's hands, so I realized that he doesn't love me again, he even swear with the name of God that he still love me,so I now ask him if it can't work anymore because he's giving me too much attitude, but he told me yesterday that it can't work anymore that it's over again, but I drop him voice note and walk away but when I post he will be checking my status, omo I no dey care again
Crazy we all have to go through this, crazy and terrible people play these type of games when communicating could fix 90% of these problems…. Our society is hit folks lol
Well said. I've really tried to understand why he felt anxious last month, but he couldn't explain it and told me it was too late, that he sees me like that now. It's absurd and I'm not even sure if I want him back in my life.
Coach Blac, I truly mean this from the bottom of my heart. You're words were exactly what I needed to hear in this video. I've been in no contact for a year now. I was it's her for 6 years. I've lost 64 pounds from being 302, and I've spent hours in the gym thinking what I would say to her. When she saw me. Honestly, there is nothing new I can say. She knew how much she meant to me. I would tell her that she was beautiful every single day. I would always make sure we would never go to bed angry. I kept my word that I would never leave her. I think I've done enough, my love has always belonged to me. It has never left, and sometimes I forget that. I'm going to take the extra steps to my future and myself. I still have 30 more pounds to get rid of and a new life ahead. I hope everyone out there does find there person. I'm on the journey of fulfillment. God bless you all and Amen
Sorry to say. Your problem started when she knew how you felt about her. second you always told her how beautiful she was. You can't do that! The more you do those things the more women will think you are not worth anything. Be what they call a bad boy show that you don't care and then they will love you more. Been there done what you did , and got me nowhere. My suggestion to you is run like hell away from this person. Good luck.
My friend told me if you can love the wrong girl that much think how much you will love the right one Grow through with what you go through Improve adapt overcome If she really cares/cared about you if she loves/loved you then she will comeback but don't stop your life for her just go with time there are 7+ billion people on earth
That’s good because after six months, it sounds like the other person has moved on. I mean every time I broken up with someone I didn’t want them back.
@@Troy12-fitnessmodel She hit me up in September then she ghosted me then texted me again in November. Then in January she asked to hang out and we did 3 weeks ago. Haven’t heard from her since even though she said she wanted to plan another day to hang out. I’m not chasing, at this point it’s up to her to fix things. Anyways, I think after a year or a few months, we’re better off without them. Keep on going 🙏🏼
Ive asked my ex for closure even if its a no, which it was (I ended the relationship but regretted it, then she didnt want it anymore. cried for 2 hours this morning and now I’m moving on. she still has a nice message to answer, that’s enough investment.
4 days for me i ignored her last msg u got this buddy if u didnt do anythin let her chase you she da one who broke up with you so she da one who gon do the efforts
Almost two months of no contact, three months of completely separating… she just asked a mutual friend if I’m dating anyone… the steps are true, she’s getting curious.
Guys, i have been in no contact 2.5 month AND omg I healed , get my confidence back, give my self closure and learnt from it. And i dont even want my ex to come back. Wow it feels so great. The pain will go away Go no contact lol
This is really helpful and so true. I know someone who broke up with her ex even got into a relationship with someone else, then broke up with that person is now living with her ex again so that gives me hope that mine will come back.
My ex is beyond sure that she wants the breakup because she is so mad that I found out about her dude that she was cheating on me with and he she lost that new situation and thinks that I'm the cause ......the narcissistic behavior is beyond phantomable
Just for your info I got my ex back, and found out she was the biggest narcissistic snake I’ve ever met in my life and then tried to play victim. When people say be careful what you wish for it’s not from a place of hate my brother, it’s from a place of care, we don’t want another brother to go through what we had to, I know it’s damn near impossible but move on my dawg. All love, we got you
The wisdom he is giving is spot on but remember the work this is for people who desire and want each other but somewhere tooken one for granted so this vis time for them to build this isn't for people who don't really want it from the get go or. People that is over see some people just can't handle to much without them first seeing you ..
When I found his channel I had success last time me and my ex broke up not this time though . This is what I did though I went no contact she didn’t block me at all she started trying to say hi o comment on my pics I ignored I started posting pics of me going out and having out with other women she posted pics of her with friends I went no contact again, she reached out and saw a video where I talked about smashing a super hot chick she got mad af I told her she’s got some never bout getting mad when she ended the relationship we started talking little by little then on the phone we met up instantly great date and got back together made her work for it she put a ring on my finger I put one on her wee came back stronger than before she moved in lasted. Week guess she didn’t like what she saw and her kids the older one didn’t wana be there and would make it hard she then seemed distant and sad after moving out and finding out something bad that happened in her family she then dumped me said she didn’t wana be with anyone just focus on her kids I’m Blocked now she still keeps tabs if I say I love you she says it back 1 week no contact again but this time it feels like it’s over for good
Out of the sea of breakup coaches on the internet yours stands as a ray of sunlight amidst so much dross. I commented this on another one but your videos have been IMMENSELY more helpful than anything else I have seen or heard thank you from my soul to yours 🤜🏽🤛🏿
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Coach Blac… glad you put a time-limit on no contact, Sir. Why? All of my lady friends eventually reach-out after a number of months. And, (in my experience) ex-girlfriends eventually reach out at a minimum but as an acquaintance. They test the waters to see your love-life status. Intimate partners who are ex-girlfriends, always will have a special connection with you. The key is when to let go and you nailed it! The holiday season is a great time to reach out after 4-6 months of no contact, and when you do not get a response, you have to let it go. That’s the tough part, letting go. Thank you Coach for helping me.
No contact shows strenght. It takes em by surprise when you don't reach out. I remember my ex from years ago telling me she thought i would reach out and her impression was 'wow, he doesn't need me'.
Plan amd simple, just move on,, it's never the same and heart break sucks. Just figure out what blame is yours, learn from it and give the rest to God.. sending yall love and prayers..
Keep making this type of video to make people see things clear coach! It releases my anxiety a bit more watching this video. Thank you for this knowledge
4 months NC now. It feels more for me than her. I guess thats it? Btw this is one of the best videos ive seen on what to do after NC not working. Thankyou
Just finding your videos now. I wish I had of found them 2 months ago as I was embarrassing myself by trying to force contact and then ending up in name calling fights again!! We have been constantly messaging on and off (him when drinking) and as of a few days ago via messaging we are completely off again no contact. I’m going to follow your strategies this time around. ❤
I brock up with my ex last week coz she cheeted on me with someone ,its now a week doing no contact ,today she called n saying she miss me n she just wanted to hear my voice i just said thank you. The fact is i love her but i cant forgive her for what she did to me i hate her so much that i dont wish to see her again my no contact its forever 😡😡
Get back with her and cheat yourself hurt her either she will leave or stay heart broken by the guilt she had for cheating will be split and plan she caused you will be split it can either improve o ya will both leave
Thank you for the sound advice you give. Everything you say makes perfect sense to me. The thing is to love yourself first. If you can do that it’s easier to leave someone or something that no longer serves you. Blessings to everyone going thru it
My ex unfollowed me everywhere so she can't even see me improving every day. We don't have any shared friends, the relationship was too short for that.
It really depends on why they left you. If they left you for normal reasons, you can probably get them back. But if they left you for someone else, there's ZERO chance. It doesn't matter how strong your love, bond or connection was, the moment they got butterflies for that other person, all of the attraction and interest they had for you evaporated in an instant, and will never come back. It's devastating to accept that the years you spent together mean less to her than a guy she met less than a week ago, but let it be a reminder that NO girl is different, special, or incapable of up and leaving you without warning. Because no matter how hard she's worked to make you believe those things, EVERY girl is capable of losing all attraction and interest for you in an instant, and leaving without a care that you'll never see each other again.
Umm...so got a missed call from my ex and a text where he went on a rant of blame and shame ! Then said he had called out of "concern" and went off the radar . So basically breadcruming me but thanks to these youtube videos , i am one step ahead of such childish mind games .
I was doing pretty in no contact, but my ex reached out to me last week via text. In the text, she asked me did I think about her during our break up. We've been broken up for 18 months and she has been in a new relationship for over 1 year. Now this gets crap gets crazier. LOL My ex reached out to me on Father's Day to wish me Happy Father's Day, and we texted back and forth all day. The texts were pleasant. However I reached out to her the following day, but she didn't respond. Matter of fact she ghost me. This crap is crazy!! I kick myself for breaking no contact!!
Thank you so much for doing these videos. They are getting me through a rough breakup. I was deep in depression and didn't take care of myself or the relationship. She left me just as I was getting help. I have gotten myself together and am doing well. I want to try to make a relationship work with her. But I have to let go and your advice helps.
I got a happy Father’s Day text 3 months in NC. After 2 days I decided I should say something, as coach Lee says NC say you should never initiate contact, but if they do you shouldn’t ignore as they will be afraid to reach out more than a couple times. But I saw it really as a breadcrumb, but also a sign it may be killing her inside. 4 years on and off and incredible intimacy. How can she not be feeling it to some degree. I decided to say thank you, and said I’m sure that took courage. She asked me if I saw my daughter ( my ex- wife keeps her from me) I said no, but on a happier note….. Then I sent her a picture of me driving my car on the tail of the dragon in Tennessee. She replied great! Makes me so happy to see that! I went to bed and said nothing else.. So I was cordial, but would not engage in a long conversation as if she’s just breadcrumbing, I wanted to keep it short to let her know I wasn’t going to pretend all is ok, since she dumped me… Is this approach ok coach black? Or should I have totally ignored her? I’m thinking she will reach out again
Don’t send pictures or let her know what you’re up to in any way looks like you wanna prove that you’re doing fine. Be cordial like you would a neighbor they don’t need to know what you’re doing with your life unless they’re part of your inner circle
Thank you man! I get don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Believe that if they left you there is another out there. Just give thanks now for meeting them.
Thank You for your advice, I'm on almost 5 months of no contact. It gets hard but since we were together for 8 years and have a daughter together. I know there will likely come the day of a second chance.
The happier I am the more I don’t care about her or whether she comes back and I just wanna meet new girls but if I hit a slump and feel a bit fed up, then the thoughts of her come back.
Let them go away, if someone leave you he/she is not urs. The thurh is if someone really love they will never ever leave you. I got dumped but i was very loving person to my ex, and her overprotecrive mother brainwashed her. So on door to my life opens only ones, doesbt matter how strong i loved her. Stay strong fellas.
He’s right.. he helped me with my breakup.. when I first came across his videos it was 4mts ago and I was distraught.. Now I feel like I can careless.. he came back and then I decided not to see him anymore.. to this day we chat every now and then.. but I don’t rush to him and make him wait..
5 weeks no contact! Soon 6 weeks (next week). Im fine, happy eating, hang out, etc. hes slowly out of my mind, often during the day I dont even think about him 😂 on previous break ups i also did no contact but tbh this recent break up hit me hard cuz it was too sudden n we were super close. But its okay, it happened many times before so now im the pro at it 😹😹😹 cuz i only sad for few days. I didnt cry at all. I have been eating well (normal) since the break up til now. Maybe i got used to it already (broken hearted too many times)
Any time I start to feel how much I miss him, I'm reminded of his last words he texted me that stung my heart so deeply, "I've told you for the 100th time. I don't want a relationship with you now or ever." This was 24 hrs after he told me how much in love with me he was and we had made plans & promises for a future together. This was after I texted him, "I miss us laughing so hard our cheeks hurt." His reply was cruel and heartless. I will forgive him, but I will never trust him again!! 😢🤬
We are at a time in history where everyone needs to focus on SELF. Love comes from within. When the collective has healed, then we can unite and share love. But until then..... Heal yourself and stop lookingbfor love anywhere else.
Well said it’s painful wondering who’s zooming who but if that’s all you had rather it’s because of a lack of communication or anything else than in reality there’s nothing to lose.
Thank you for your words of wisdom and I love the music in the back round. Your voice and the music, can't find the words for it. I guess I can say the soothing music makes the message seems more touching to my inner self. Thank you 👍🏾❤️💯
I am going through a recent break up. I was not valued in the relationship. I was putting 100 percent and he was putting 10 percent. We both ended the relationship and he said can I send you messages and once I find someone else I will know longer will be contact with you. Good bye! Forever on my end!
I broke NC and he reached out and ended up cheating all over again. We broke up the first time he was abusive, and he just disrespected me again verbally. I'm going NC again for my kids and I we deserve so much better I was desperate to have "a family" picture. Now I'm in therapy and wanna be a happier and better mom and person and meet the new me :)
PLEASE tell me how to get my girl back, we got back on speaking terms then got into a petty argument and she re blocked me. She hates me, she’s blocked me everywhere, the only way I could contact her is through a restricted number, what is your advice? I love this girl and want to give her a good life and for us to have a fresh start. But I’m so lost in what to do since I can’t contact her.
@@dillo5881if she did all that there’s nothing you can do but leave her alone if she comes to you then there’s a chance I was in this situation yrs ago we are both single parents now hadn’t seen her in 11 yrs she’s blocked me the whole time to
My ex wife and I live together with 3 children… so I keep my distance and conversations to a minimum… she broke up with me about 3 weeks ago… but she talks about plans for the house as if we’re going to live together in the same house 🤔🤔🤔🤔☀️☀️ I’m giving her space and time… basically buying myself some time.. and figuring out what my next move is… I tried to make it work 3x and she keeps braking it 12:46 off to pursue a long distance relationship with someone she’s never seen visually or physically… I’m done trying to get her back… She made her decision and it wasn’t me so now I’ll accept it and make my decision..
Hi just wondering How your doing? With your emotions etc? I’m Going through the same situation. She went cold 3x and that was the final Straw. Hurts so much when you love them and settle down. But they don’t love You back. We were gonna be 9 Years together this Valentine’s Day. We have two Kids
He threw me away like yesterday's garbage without warning after being together for 4 years and his last words were I love you yet he's with another woman
even if they dont want you theyll still break no contact out of curiosity. Your ex might be behind that fake page following you/in your request or getting info by a mutual. No contact works!
Another great video. It sucks that butterfly is something else and that your wife of over decades would leave her family but I am practicing smart contact as we have a child and working on myself. In one of my best physical conditions for years.
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 yeah it was truly evil. The things she said as well as doing something blatant whilst we live under the same roof was shock, hurtful and deeply wounding. Luckily my family helped me through and working on my life as well people that do love me. It is a blessing really.
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What if you’ve been backstabbed by your ex? Smh But you still want them back… he still loves me & I still love him but emotionally, I’m tired. I told him last night I’ve accepted he’s not ready, I can’t force him, I’m not waiting and I refuse not to be a side chick. So I told him I’m letting go & detaching. Energetically too. I’ve got to heal ❤️🩹from what he did to me. He said it was a mistake but he’s still dealing with the girl so I’ve walked away. It hurts, it’s hard but I’m tired. Will the no contact still work for me?
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@@MrGuestie77 257.00 an hour?? THOH!! That'll be the day I'd pay a UA-camr that much,🤣🤣
Remember this, there will always be a point in life that they regret leaving you... ALWAYS!
stay strong, stay focus, stay yourself, work hard, be gentle with yourself and trust the universe and the proces.
Much love from Amsterdam ❤
Couldn't say any better than this!!
It has to work and everything will be the best!❤❤❤
Amen
I get my seeds from amsterdam seed center. I been messing with amsterdam genetics a lot and royal queen seeds. FIRE
Not true. You don't know every single person's thoughts
4 months no contact and I’m willing to go forever. Life goes on and someone better is out there for me.
Or may be not if he or she is the one then go back and make things right
nah dont listen to this goof above me, never go back, never reach out to your ex
@@marcGOAT1why is that?
They contact u 1st stay in no contact till then
Great Marcus, i support you
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Actually there is a quote like
If you chase butterflies, they will go away; but if you build a beautiful garden, they will come.
I love this!!!
And even if they don’t come atleast you have a beautiful garden
Yeah you said it right
Be patient
@@atyomommahouse9249and many other butterflies ❤
@@madeleineramilo5926After 1 week of during no contact, my ex-girlfriend texted me, "Do you still love me or not? Do you still have feelings?" I replied "No, I respect you and about the decision and I'm happily busy doing with my life(I do have feelings for her) and she just reacted heart emoji to my text and didn't respond. So what now? did I make a mistake by saying no? Will she reach out to me again?
It’s been no contact for 40 years. It should be any time now
In those 40 years she thought about you many times . But yeah it’s over
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This!
And lovers that come back is bad news... allways.
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Stick to your guns. Don’t chase your ex.
They left the relationship and if they want you back let them chase you and fix what they broke !!
Yah becuz then ppl think u stalking or obsessive....I'm working on him tho he broke no contact ....i didn't I just kept on texting lol except for a week or so when he then broke contact
@@maemaez9749After 1 week of during no contact, my ex-girlfriend texted me, "Do you still love me or not? Do you still have feelings?" I replied "No, I respect you and about the decision and I'm happily busy doing with my life(I do have feelings for her) and she just reacted heart emoji to my text and didn't respond. So what now? did I make a mistake by saying no? Will she reach out to me again?
If they dont want you, don’t wait around for them
Move on. They aren’t smart enough to see your value.
No Contact as long as it takes, let the person who did the breaking up reach out first. I was in in No contact for 18 months, until she reached out.
Wow. That's deeeeeep
18mths! Jeepers. Update?
Damn! 😢 mines gone two weeks….
nahhh😂😂.. at that point im already healed and looking for another chick
@@impogi832yeahhhhh... Tbh 18 months would be too long. At that point can't she just move on herself lol
My ex actually just came back today and wanted to see how I'm doing. I've been doing NC for over 5 months now. It's been a struggle at first, but you have to focus on your dreams and goals and get to a place mentally where it doesn't matter what happens in the future. Focus on yourselves Kings and Queens!
How did you react if you reacted?
Let them go if they are not invested in you. I’ve learned the hard way by allowing myself to be used and abused and hoping they will change and see all the good things I’ve have done but they didn’t change. So let them go. There will be better someone out there that will appreciate and respect you as a person.
Very true
I've experienced the same and I decided to finally let him go… Yes, it hurts like hell and I'm healing every day but I needed that hurt to open my eyes…
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 yes they will find other person but they will not reflect their shortcomings and accountability for what they have done. So be it.
Be yourself ❤
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Does anyone really want a person who is emotionally immature, inconsistent, unable to communicate feelings and thoughts back to their life? The road is long! Long term relationship or marriage is tough, if someone who can’t address problems and face difficulties head on, the best thing to do is to just let them go, and wish them good luck. Value your own happiness and look for an emotional stable person.
No contact works by definition. Focus on yourself and improving your life 💯
Listen, let your presence evaporate from their life and keep elevating yourself. They ALWAYS come back and when they do you may not even want them at that point. Trust me!
If they date someone block them for good. Leave them alone, dont go back.
💯 once you’ve touched someone else’s goods you ain’t coming back to mine I wouldn’t allow it!
That's my current situation now we broke up like 2 month ago but we later reconnect back and he told me that he still love me but he has someone else he's dating right now that I should put everything in God's hands, so I realized that he doesn't love me again, he even swear with the name of God that he still love me,so I now ask him if it can't work anymore because he's giving me too much attitude, but he told me yesterday that it can't work anymore that it's over again, but I drop him voice note and walk away but when I post he will be checking my status, omo I no dey care again
@@OluwafumikeRachealhes trying to keep you around as an option an orbiter
I totally agree 100%
Absolutely, especially if they leave you FOR someone else.
If they wanted you theyd never have thrown you away in the first place
Crazy we all have to go through this, crazy and terrible people play these type of games when communicating could fix 90% of these problems…. Our society is hit folks lol
So true communication is the key frfr no contact on no I guess
Well said. I've really tried to understand why he felt anxious last month, but he couldn't explain it and told me it was too late, that he sees me like that now. It's absurd and I'm not even sure if I want him back in my life.
when it's the love of your life, there is no replacement.
Coach Blac, I truly mean this from the bottom of my heart. You're words were exactly what I needed to hear in this video. I've been in no contact for a year now. I was it's her for 6 years. I've lost 64 pounds from being 302, and I've spent hours in the gym thinking what I would say to her. When she saw me. Honestly, there is nothing new I can say. She knew how much she meant to me. I would tell her that she was beautiful every single day. I would always make sure we would never go to bed angry. I kept my word that I would never leave her. I think I've done enough, my love has always belonged to me. It has never left, and sometimes I forget that. I'm going to take the extra steps to my future and myself. I still have 30 more pounds to get rid of and a new life ahead. I hope everyone out there does find there person. I'm on the journey of fulfillment. God bless you all and Amen
I don't think its practical to continue hoping after 1 year. You are solely responsible for your happiness , not anyone else.
Good job bro!
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Sorry to say. Your problem started when she knew how you felt about her. second you always told her how beautiful she was. You can't do that! The more you do those things the more women will think you are not worth anything. Be what they call a bad boy show that you don't care and then they will love you more. Been there done what you did , and got me nowhere. My suggestion to you is run like hell away from this person. Good luck.
@@edwardperez7665 wtf, let people love and live their life
It worked! Thanks coach.She just came crying and asking for forgiveness but I said get lost kindly
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How long did it take for her to come back
@@runout10136 months
My friend told me if you can love the wrong girl that much think how much you will love the right one
Grow through with what you go through
Improve adapt overcome
If she really cares/cared about you if she loves/loved you then she will comeback but don't stop your life for her just go with time there are 7+ billion people on earth
6 months in no contact. I think at this point I’m just better off on my own
That’s good because after six months, it sounds like the other person has moved on. I mean every time I broken up with someone I didn’t want them back.
I'm feeling that now after 4 months
@@Troy12-fitnessmodel She hit me up in September then she ghosted me then texted me again in November. Then in January she asked to hang out and we did 3 weeks ago. Haven’t heard from her since even though she said she wanted to plan another day to hang out. I’m not chasing, at this point it’s up to her to fix things. Anyways, I think after a year or a few months, we’re better off without them. Keep on going 🙏🏼
Anything after 6 months they rent coming back
aww
Love yourself. Improve your routine, dress well, nice perfume, talk to people, learn new things
Today is 11 days with no contact and it really tough. I think the hardest part is no closure 😢but I’m trying to listen to you Coach !
Ive asked my ex for closure even if its a no, which it was (I ended the relationship but regretted it, then she didnt want it anymore. cried for 2 hours this morning and now I’m moving on. she still has a nice message to answer, that’s enough investment.
any news?
I slipped up and messaged him after two days. I shouldn't have not for him but for me.
Today’s day 1 .. I ended it prematurely and regret it … let’s see how this goes 😅
4 days for me i ignored her last msg u got this buddy if u didnt do anythin let her chase you she da one who broke up with you so she da one who gon do the efforts
Almost two months of no contact, three months of completely separating… she just asked a mutual friend if I’m dating anyone… the steps are true, she’s getting curious.
I'm not chasing anyone, and I'm never going to be an option. If I feel I am an option, I will remove myself from the equation.
Dont break no contact no matter what!
Guys, i have been in no contact 2.5 month AND omg
I healed , get my confidence back, give my self closure and learnt from it.
And i dont even want my ex to come back.
Wow it feels so great.
The pain will go away
Go no contact lol
Hoping to get to this point
I’m looking forward to feeling this way again.
@@monicajoao5031me too
This is really helpful and so true. I know someone who broke up with her ex even got into a relationship with someone else, then broke up with that person is now living with her ex again so that gives me hope that mine will come back.
Your cadence, tone and vibration radiates wisdom, love and compassion. This is nourishment for my soul. 🙏
No one should be chasing anyone
Yes, “attract”, don’t chase
How about The DUMPERS???
This is the best video ever.. thank you for your words.. "No contact is forever"
My ex is beyond sure that she wants the breakup because she is so mad that I found out about her dude that she was cheating on me with and he she lost that new situation and thinks that I'm the cause ......the narcissistic behavior is beyond phantomable
Then let her have it, she chose someone else over you, as far as a relationship goes, that’s the end of it for me personally
Just for your info I got my ex back, and found out she was the biggest narcissistic snake I’ve ever met in my life and then tried to play victim. When people say be careful what you wish for it’s not from a place of hate my brother, it’s from a place of care, we don’t want another brother to go through what we had to, I know it’s damn near impossible but move on my dawg. All love, we got you
I very rarely see success stories here just people still waiting and hoping. It's sad for all of us.
The wisdom he is giving is spot on but remember the work this is for people who desire and want each other but somewhere tooken one for granted so this vis time for them to build this isn't for people who don't really want it from the get go or. People that is over see some people just can't handle to much without them first seeing you ..
When I found his channel I had success last time me and my ex broke up not this time though . This is what I did though I went no contact she didn’t block me at all she started trying to say hi o comment on my pics I ignored I started posting pics of me going out and having out with other women she posted pics of her with friends I went no contact again, she reached out and saw a video where I talked about smashing a super hot chick she got mad af I told her she’s got some never bout getting mad when she ended the relationship we started talking little by little then on the phone we met up instantly great date and got back together made her work for it she put a ring on my finger I put one on her wee came back stronger than before she moved in lasted. Week guess she didn’t like what she saw and her kids the older one didn’t wana be there and would make it hard she then seemed distant and sad after moving out and finding out something bad that happened in her family she then dumped me said she didn’t wana be with anyone just focus on her kids I’m
Blocked now she still keeps tabs if I say I love you she says it back 1 week no contact again but this time it feels like it’s over for good
The next step is continue living your life and trying to improve yourself.
Out of the sea of breakup coaches on the internet yours stands as a ray of sunlight amidst so much dross. I commented this on another one but your videos have been IMMENSELY more helpful than anything else I have seen or heard thank you from my soul to yours 🤜🏽🤛🏿
I totally agree!
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Akunna, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is Father Akunna, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked Father Akunna online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
Coach Blac… glad you put a time-limit on no contact, Sir. Why? All of my lady friends eventually reach-out after a number of months. And, (in my experience) ex-girlfriends eventually reach out at a minimum but as an acquaintance. They test the waters to see your love-life status. Intimate partners who are ex-girlfriends, always will have a special connection with you. The key is when to let go and you nailed it! The holiday season is a great time to reach out after 4-6 months of no contact, and when you do not get a response, you have to let it go. That’s the tough part, letting go. Thank you Coach for helping me.
No contact shows strenght. It takes em by surprise when you don't reach out. I remember my ex from years ago telling me she thought i would reach out and her impression was 'wow, he doesn't need me'.
😊 I have no plan of waiting for him
Im moving on now. Thank you.❤
Plan amd simple, just move on,, it's never the same and heart break sucks. Just figure out what blame is yours, learn from it and give the rest to God.. sending yall love and prayers..
You’re fine and educated ; thank you for these needed words of advice. I’m happy I came across your channel ❤
Been 12 years of no contact and still going strong. Any day now, she’ll come crawling back
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😂 omg
It's safe to say she's gone bro
OMG this made me laugh, please tell me you’re joking and not still waiting for her
You just gotta trust the process bro
Let them go, bet on your own future.
Keep making this type of video to make people see things clear coach! It releases my anxiety a bit more watching this video. Thank you for this knowledge
4 months NC now. It feels more for me than her. I guess thats it?
Btw this is one of the best videos ive seen on what to do after NC not working. Thankyou
There's alot of fish in the sea. Move on. Enjoy life.😊
Screw these dumb exes move on and work on yourself. Blac is right though, whatever you chase eludes you and whatever you leave alone comes to you.
Just work on yourself you get the time to now so just think about you and let your ex see you in a different light
I love youuuuu . I needed to hear that ✨✨✨✨✨✨ clarity that I needed
Got you! 🙏
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Only God has the last word but thanks for this advice 😢🙏
I've been in nc for a year now. All I got was breadcrumbs
Just finding your videos now. I wish I had of found them 2 months ago as I was embarrassing myself by trying to force contact and then ending up in name calling fights again!!
We have been constantly messaging on and off (him when drinking) and as of a few days ago via messaging we are completely off again no contact. I’m going to follow your strategies this time around. ❤
Shes found someone else. Let her go. Work hard and prosper.
I brock up with my ex last week coz she cheeted on me with someone ,its now a week doing no contact ,today she called n saying she miss me n she just wanted to hear my voice i just said thank you. The fact is i love her but i cant forgive her for what she did to me i hate her so much that i dont wish to see her again my no contact its forever 😡😡
So so so hard. I feel for you. 🙏
Get back with her and cheat yourself hurt her either she will leave or stay heart broken by the guilt she had for cheating will be split and plan she caused you will be split it can either improve o ya will both leave
@@Jewel_Screaming_Chango8387 2 wrongs don't make a right God will bless him with the woman he has made special for him
Thank you for the sound advice you give. Everything you say makes perfect sense to me. The thing is to love yourself first. If you can do that it’s easier to leave someone or something that no longer serves you. Blessings to everyone going thru it
My ex unfollowed me everywhere so she can't even see me improving every day. We don't have any shared friends, the relationship was too short for that.
It really depends on why they left you. If they left you for normal reasons, you can probably get them back. But if they left you for someone else, there's ZERO chance. It doesn't matter how strong your love, bond or connection was, the moment they got butterflies for that other person, all of the attraction and interest they had for you evaporated in an instant, and will never come back.
It's devastating to accept that the years you spent together mean less to her than a guy she met less than a week ago, but let it be a reminder that NO girl is different, special, or incapable of up and leaving you without warning. Because no matter how hard she's worked to make you believe those things, EVERY girl is capable of losing all attraction and interest for you in an instant, and leaving without a care that you'll never see each other again.
Work on yourself in every way, focus on improvement, stay in no contact no matter what! Great advice coach :-)
Umm...so got a missed call from my ex and a text where he went on a rant of blame and shame ! Then said he had called out of "concern" and went off the radar . So basically breadcruming me but thanks to these youtube videos , i am one step ahead of such childish mind games .
I was doing pretty in no contact, but my ex reached out to me last week via text. In the text, she asked me did I think about her during our break up. We've been broken up for 18 months and she has been in a new relationship for over 1 year.
Now this gets crap gets crazier. LOL
My ex reached out to me on Father's Day to wish me Happy Father's Day, and we texted back and forth all day. The texts were pleasant. However I reached out to her the following day, but she didn't respond. Matter of fact she ghost me. This crap is crazy!!
I kick myself for breaking no contact!!
But she reached out no you. The matter is you’re too happy too thirsty and that turned her off
@@encyclopediagalactica the example of answer you wrote helps me progress on my communication skills
@@benithacalloway8286^^^
Text all day y she realized she could get anything she wants from you so she ghost you again until next year
@@merrickcampbell4303 I'm done with her!
Thank you so much for doing these videos. They are getting me through a rough breakup. I was deep in depression and didn't take care of myself or the relationship. She left me just as I was getting help. I have gotten myself together and am doing well. I want to try to make a relationship work with her. But I have to let go and your advice helps.
I got a happy Father’s Day text 3 months in NC. After 2 days I decided I should say something, as coach Lee says NC say you should never initiate contact, but if they do you shouldn’t ignore as they will be afraid to reach out more than a couple times. But I saw it really as a breadcrumb, but also a sign it may be killing her inside. 4 years on and off and incredible intimacy. How can she not be feeling it to some degree. I decided to say thank you, and said I’m sure that took courage. She asked me if I saw my daughter ( my ex- wife keeps her from me) I said no, but on a happier note….. Then I sent her a picture of me driving my car on the tail of the dragon in Tennessee. She replied great! Makes me so happy to see that! I went to bed and said nothing else.. So I was cordial, but would not engage in a long conversation as if she’s just breadcrumbing, I wanted to keep it short to let her know I wasn’t going to pretend all is ok, since she dumped me… Is this approach ok coach black? Or should I have totally ignored her? I’m thinking she will reach out again
Because you sent pic means you’re chasing. Step back few feet
I dont think it appeared you were chasing it shows you are happy without her.
It was to ease her conscience I'm afraid she obviously cares but not enough
Don’t send pictures or let her know what you’re up to in any way looks like you wanna prove that you’re doing fine. Be cordial like you would a neighbor they don’t need to know what you’re doing with your life unless they’re part of your inner circle
Sad but true. Thank you coach
This is the best explanation I’ve heard of no contact as a matter fact I thought I understood no contact, but not an extent in what you just explained
Soothing voice ❤
Thank you man! I get don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Believe that if they left you there is another out there. Just give thanks now for meeting them.
I can tell if you have a new video, based on what you are wearing……..but on the serious side I enjoy listening to your reflections on relationships.
I need to do this and work on myself. Started going to the gym so that's in the right direction.
This clear, simple advice is what so many people need. Thank you
Great advice dude. Seriously spot on. Love your work, it's helping me a lot.
Thank You for your advice, I'm on almost 5 months of no contact. It gets hard but since we were together for 8 years and have a daughter together. I know there will likely come the day of a second chance.
Any update ?
The happier I am the more I don’t care about her or whether she comes back and I just wanna meet new girls but if I hit a slump and feel a bit fed up, then the thoughts of her come back.
so you dont like her like that fr, shes just your security blanket
I just pray to God this works
Let them go away, if someone leave you he/she is not urs. The thurh is if someone really love they will never ever leave you. I got dumped but i was very loving person to my ex, and her overprotecrive mother brainwashed her. So on door to my life opens only ones, doesbt matter how strong i loved her. Stay strong fellas.
Same case
@@lemilem3453 this is really hard my friend, I know what ur feels, still hurting time to time
This is a hard pill to swallow. I was ghosted by a male friend. Amazingly I’m not doing too bad.
You are very pleasant person and I’m also very thankful that you are sharing this informations with us.Thankeyou!!!
He’s right.. he helped me with my breakup.. when I first came across his videos it was 4mts ago and I was distraught.. Now I feel like I can careless.. he came back and then I decided not to see him anymore.. to this day we chat every now and then.. but I don’t rush to him and make him wait..
5 weeks no contact! Soon 6 weeks (next week). Im fine, happy eating, hang out, etc. hes slowly out of my mind, often during the day I dont even think about him 😂 on previous break ups i also did no contact but tbh this recent break up hit me hard cuz it was too sudden n we were super close. But its okay, it happened many times before so now im the pro at it 😹😹😹 cuz i only sad for few days. I didnt cry at all. I have been eating well (normal) since the break up til now. Maybe i got used to it already (broken hearted too many times)
Same
why did you guys breakup? what were the reasons behind?
Day 3 no contact. It's tough but I'm trying to push through
Good luck, fam. It's my 2st day of no contact. Night(s) are the worst
I’ve had people return to me out of curiosity due to my no contact rather than because they want to be with me . Then they go again
Any time I start to feel how much I miss him, I'm reminded of his last words he texted me that stung my heart so deeply, "I've told you for the 100th time. I don't want a relationship with you now or ever." This was 24 hrs after he told me how much in love with me he was and we had made plans & promises for a future together. This was after I texted him, "I miss us laughing so hard our cheeks hurt." His reply was cruel and heartless. I will forgive him, but I will never trust him again!! 😢🤬
We are at a time in history where everyone needs to focus on SELF. Love comes from within. When the collective has healed, then we can unite and share love. But until then..... Heal yourself and stop lookingbfor love anywhere else.
Well said it’s painful wondering who’s zooming who but if that’s all you had rather it’s because of a lack of communication or anything else than in reality there’s nothing to lose.
Thank you for your words of wisdom and I love the music in the back round. Your voice and the music, can't find the words for it. I guess I can say the soothing music makes the message seems more touching to my inner self. Thank you 👍🏾❤️💯
I am going through a recent break up. I was not valued in the relationship. I was putting 100 percent and he was putting 10 percent. We both ended the relationship and he said can I send you messages and once I find someone else I will know longer will be contact with you. Good bye! Forever on my end!
After 60 days block them
Im all for it coach ..................................Right On .........................................
I broke NC and he reached out and ended up cheating all over again. We broke up the first time he was abusive, and he just disrespected me again verbally. I'm going NC again for my kids and I we deserve so much better I was desperate to have "a family" picture. Now I'm in therapy and wanna be a happier and better mom and person and meet the new me :)
PLEASE tell me how to get my girl back, we got back on speaking terms then got into a petty argument and she re blocked me. She hates me, she’s blocked me everywhere, the only way I could contact her is through a restricted number, what is your advice? I love this girl and want to give her a good life and for us to have a fresh start. But I’m so lost in what to do since I can’t contact her.
@@dillo5881if she did all that there’s nothing you can do but leave her alone if she comes to you then there’s a chance I was in this situation yrs ago we are both single parents now hadn’t seen her in 11 yrs she’s blocked me the whole time to
Its been 3 hour of No contact... lets see if she come back..😢
Bro relax .. Drink water and save ur tears🤣🤣🤣🤣
Amen I had to actually change my cell number. It’s crazy that I had to change to get away.
Your ex has to choose you. Doesn’t matter how nice, good looking, rich etc you are. If they don’t choose you then walk away.
I am willing to never talk to her again
My ex wife and I live together with 3 children… so I keep my distance and conversations to a minimum… she broke up with me about 3 weeks ago… but she talks about plans for the house as if we’re going to live together in the same house 🤔🤔🤔🤔☀️☀️ I’m giving her space and time… basically buying myself some time.. and figuring out what my next move is… I tried to make it work 3x and she keeps braking it 12:46 off to pursue a long distance relationship with someone she’s never seen visually or physically… I’m done trying to get her back… She made her decision and it wasn’t me so now I’ll accept it and make my decision..
Hi just wondering
How your doing? With your emotions etc? I’m
Going through the same situation. She went cold
3x and that was the final
Straw.
Hurts so much when you love them and settle down. But they don’t love
You back. We were gonna be 9
Years together this Valentine’s Day. We have two
Kids
He threw me away like yesterday's garbage without warning after being together for 4 years and his last words were I love you yet he's with another woman
even if they dont want you theyll still break no contact out of curiosity. Your ex might be behind that fake page following you/in your request or getting info by a mutual. No contact works!
I got dumped by an abusive women, tbh I don't care if she comes back at this point I know there's way better out there than being abused
Well, then she did you a favor
Im sorry you went through that.. you deserve someone better
Today is my official day one of no contact. We broke it off today. 😞😞😞
Did he come back?
@@Ruth_04970 yes, yes he did but it was complicated because a lot had happened between the breakup.
You going through a breakup?
@@pris_pris yes
It’s really hard to
I understand I can stay away getting better for myself
Great delivery and message, thanks coach!
Another great video. It sucks that butterfly is something else and that your wife of over decades would leave her family but I am practicing smart contact as we have a child and working on myself. In one of my best physical conditions for years.
What is smart contact?
@@EmilyGloeggler7984 yeah it was truly evil. The things she said as well as doing something blatant whilst we live under the same roof was shock, hurtful and deeply wounding. Luckily my family helped me through and working on my life as well people that do love me. It is a blessing really.
It's working if you stay in ...no contact...because you should never go back 😎