I just want to tell you thank you because this is something that I've always been preaching from the pulpit. So I just want to tell you once again thank you
Here's the real reason they do so. This is more so for younger men than men along in their years. Generally, if a man starts unloading his feelings or traumas onto a woman who wasn't ready for it even though she implied that she was, he becomes unattractive to her if he isn't physically stunning. Not even necessarily sexually unattractive, but just not perfectly pleasant company; it's treated like he's just whining and is refusing to get over it. In regards to budding relationships, unloading to a woman too soon is romantic suicide for a man, whereas he is expected to not judge her for her emotional baggage no matter what, or else he's just an insensitive jerk. Women feel objectified or spiteful towards men who don't want to hear about every single problem because they feel like the man is being selfish or toxically masculine. However, when a man is like this, it is usually because he has opened up before and been berated or shamed. So it isn't that he doesn't care about her, he just doesn't feel like she knows what treating him like an equal means. Unless she wants help solving her problem, he doesn't really want to hear about it. Because the only reason he would open up, is because he wants help. So the real problem, is a early engraining of the assumption in men that opening up is a good way to make things worse. Mean while, it is engrained in women to assume that if opening up to him doesn't make things better even though she doesn't want him to fix it, then he is insensitive. Basically, people are trained based on sex to expect differing results from the same behavior that isn't exclusive to sex.
I paused the video to truly appreciate the thought that went into your comment. I hope you are the type that reads comments to your comments. I am really curious about the background it takes to pull back, see and understand an overlooked and unappreciated subject. What do you do for a living? If it's of a psychologist profession, then I would expect such an understanding. Anything less of a psychological profession then I'm even more intrigued.
@@dazedapparition7845 Substitute teacher, aspiring author. Always wanted to box though; didn't have the time or familial help to get started in high school, now I just don't have the time or money to both lift weights and pay for lessons. Can't have your cake and eat it too.
a Man's silence is the most powerful thing you can observe from a man. When let alone with his thoughts, those thoughts will eventually get the best of him.
You're overlooking the fact that Men "vent" their emotions but through their actions, not words. Men totally DO vent, its just invisible to most people.
This is true. Suffering in silence means we don't expose our grief to everyone. We still talk about it and ventilate. I can talk to a close male friend about how my mom's death disrupted my life. I won't cry to him about it though, I'll do that in private.
I once asked my wife, what are you thinking about? She said nothing. I then asked, how? If a man is quite, he is suffering and trying to figure out what to do.
I love using Strategy of Diversion to stave it off long enough to use Strategy of Reflection, since often I have no one to talk to usually (life screwed my social life over), and need to give myself time.
Honestly, who gives a shit about men's emotions and sufferings? Not a lot of people. Some man will shame other men who show sensitivity and call them pussies. On the other side you have women who will tell you that they want man to show their emotions but the sad reality is that when they show vulnerability, women gets overwhelmed or scared. At best some will tell you to get over it and at worse they'll look down on your experiences or mock you. Of course I'm not saying this is all women who acts this way but a lot of them do
men suffer in silence because of how we know we’ll be perceived. no one cares so whats the point of opening up about our issues when nothing could be done to help
Lets be honest. When you suffer in silence you put off non-useful reactions in order to continue to be productive. It can be harmful if never addressed but if you put it off until its more convenient then you'll be fine in my experience. The trick is to eventually make time to come to terms with your feeling and emotions resulting from the suffering.
My wife says I should marry UA-cam cuz I watch too much nonsense about marriage cheating acting sus I told her it’s to defend my self from women like her trying to her me I suffer from abandonment adhd anxiety depression and she doesn’t understand I show her to understand me and she doesn’t want me the way I m she wants me to be a ruthless cold hearted man she can love I told her no so I started getting physically abused emotionally abused and mentally abused I don’t know what to do I filed for divorce and I got abused for it
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The real question is who fucking cares? Men are only good for vacations, furniture, and being an ATM. That is all.
Men suffer in silence because nobody cares anyway, so we just don't waste our breath telling most people what's going on with us!
I just want to tell you thank you because this is something that I've always been preaching from the pulpit. So I just want to tell you once again thank you
Here's the real reason they do so. This is more so for younger men than men along in their years. Generally, if a man starts unloading his feelings or traumas onto a woman who wasn't ready for it even though she implied that she was, he becomes unattractive to her if he isn't physically stunning. Not even necessarily sexually unattractive, but just not perfectly pleasant company; it's treated like he's just whining and is refusing to get over it. In regards to budding relationships, unloading to a woman too soon is romantic suicide for a man, whereas he is expected to not judge her for her emotional baggage no matter what, or else he's just an insensitive jerk.
Women feel objectified or spiteful towards men who don't want to hear about every single problem because they feel like the man is being selfish or toxically masculine. However, when a man is like this, it is usually because he has opened up before and been berated or shamed. So it isn't that he doesn't care about her, he just doesn't feel like she knows what treating him like an equal means. Unless she wants help solving her problem, he doesn't really want to hear about it. Because the only reason he would open up, is because he wants help.
So the real problem, is a early engraining of the assumption in men that opening up is a good way to make things worse. Mean while, it is engrained in women to assume that if opening up to him doesn't make things better even though she doesn't want him to fix it, then he is insensitive.
Basically, people are trained based on sex to expect differing results from the same behavior that isn't exclusive to sex.
Well said 🤝
I paused the video to truly appreciate the thought that went into your comment. I hope you are the type that reads comments to your comments. I am really curious about the background it takes to pull back, see and understand an overlooked and unappreciated subject. What do you do for a living? If it's of a psychologist profession, then I would expect such an understanding. Anything less of a psychological profession then I'm even more intrigued.
@@dazedapparition7845 Substitute teacher, aspiring author. Always wanted to box though; didn't have the time or familial help to get started in high school, now I just don't have the time or money to both lift weights and pay for lessons. Can't have your cake and eat it too.
The real question is who fucking cares? Men are only good for vacations, furniture, and being an ATM. That is all.
a Man's silence is the most powerful thing you can observe from a man.
When let alone with his thoughts, those thoughts will eventually get the best of him.
You're overlooking the fact that Men "vent" their emotions but through their actions, not words. Men totally DO vent, its just invisible to most people.
This is true. Suffering in silence means we don't expose our grief to everyone. We still talk about it and ventilate. I can talk to a close male friend about how my mom's death disrupted my life. I won't cry to him about it though, I'll do that in private.
I once asked my wife, what are you thinking about? She said nothing. I then asked, how? If a man is quite, he is suffering and trying to figure out what to do.
I love using Strategy of Diversion to stave it off long enough to use Strategy of Reflection, since often I have no one to talk to usually (life screwed my social life over), and need to give myself time.
Honestly, who gives a shit about men's emotions and sufferings? Not a lot of people. Some man will shame other men who show sensitivity and call them pussies. On the other side you have women who will tell you that they want man to show their emotions but the sad reality is that when they show vulnerability, women gets overwhelmed or scared. At best some will tell you to get over it and at worse they'll look down on your experiences or mock you. Of course I'm not saying this is all women who acts this way but a lot of them do
men suffer in silence because of how we know we’ll be perceived.
no one cares so whats the point of opening up about our issues when nothing could be done to help
Have you considered therapy?
The real question is who fucking cares? Men are only good for vacations, furniture, and being an ATM. That is all.
@@sighidk786 pay money for zero results, it's a quack "science"
Lets be honest. When you suffer in silence you put off non-useful reactions in order to continue to be productive. It can be harmful if never addressed but if you put it off until its more convenient then you'll be fine in my experience. The trick is to eventually make time to come to terms with your feeling and emotions resulting from the suffering.
The real question is who fucking cares? Men are only good for vacations, furniture, and being an ATM. That is all.
This is me currently with my health I feel like I'm just being a disappointment and I can't get help
Thank you. What platform did you use to create your video?
A man has to earn a cry.
More like, a Society has to earn a man's cry. Men don't cry easily but when we do, its for a very good reason.
People blame society but us men PREFER to suffer in silence. It's the best way for us to deal with our troubles.
The video blaming society is wrong.
But you're a cow though
Definitely not the best way considering all the unhinged a**holes walking around.
The real question is who fucking cares? Men are only good for vacations, furniture, and being an ATM. That is all.
My wife says I should marry UA-cam cuz I watch too much nonsense about marriage cheating acting sus I told her it’s to defend my self from women like her trying to her me I suffer from abandonment adhd anxiety depression and she doesn’t understand I show her to understand me and she doesn’t want me the way I m she wants me to be a ruthless cold hearted man she can love I told her no so I started getting physically abused emotionally abused and mentally abused I don’t know what to do I filed for divorce and I got abused for it
I would rather have my homie suffer then go to his funeral
Btw way I am a boy on moms account
Pov: your a woman that can relate to this