Why You Should Talk Less | The Power Of Silence
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****** Silence comes naturally to some people. They understand its power and feel comfortable when silent. But not everyone is like that, despite the huge benefits silence offers. There is so much distraction in the world, and smart people realize early on that they need less noise to maintain their focus in life. Luckily, silence is an art that can be learned. This video will expose you to main reasons why silence is powerful and worth practicing.
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" Practicing silence can teach us not to overshare too much...the less people know about us...the better."
Totally agree
Fact. It's impossible to ever give your full story. Those in your corner will fill the gaps with complimentary details, but the vast majority will paint a less than favorable picture.
Yes, silence is necessary because the more "people" know about you, the more they become jealous of what you have that they don't and never will have.
@@georgiafrancis9059 Such a true statement georgia, I agree with you !
100%
Proverbs 17:28, ESV: Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.
Yes indeed
Especially when we’re in a time when most people aren’t listening…❤️🩹🙏🏽
@@iamtaliba.divine.love1322
But if Donald Trump was silent, not a lot of people would listen to him.
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I should definitely have kept my gob shut more often.
I hate being too talkative. I dont even realise i talk ALOT, i just do it on impulse. Now is the time to change
It's interesting to actively practice being silent. I am phasing into a new job now where no one knows me and I know I need to STFU. I'm usually a yakker, but have withheld lots of information and personal details I would have normally blurted out in the past. At times it's physically uncomfortable for me. The dialogue running in my head is endless. 😂
Being older now, I know people will size you up and use any information you provide to plot against you if necessary. However, another benefit to being older is that I've come to care very little about what people personally think of me now. So I don't really sweat things or think-stress on situations as much as I used to.
I do 'play the how to win friends and influence people' game to an extent though to see how people respond/react. It doesn't take long and need to size them up as well for my own senses and defenses in this superficial societal construct we are all living in.
If I find individuals are more silent than not I don't really try to talk to them anymore besides dealing with the task at hand and getting that over with. I fill my own air/mind with podcasts and YTube via an earbud.
Most people are selfish pieces of shite come to find out after decades of real-life data collection.
Me, too
Yes that's me. Changing that😮💨
You have something to work on
@@wmluna381same here
The fewer people I talk to the more I like it
Me too!
You don't feel lonely?
@@TheCelticsAREboss nope
ABSOLUTELY !
Yes I always hated people they are so annoying
I practice silence all the time. But I always attract chatty people. They think i’m a great listener. Truth is I don’t want to hear it. Excellent video!
😂😂😂😂😂
Sounds way to familiar!
Bro I can’t relate to this 100%. I will literally have a conversation of my own inside my head while throwing in the occasional yes or no 😂
I have the same problem.
Yep! 😂 Me too. It's draining. I was nicknamed "The Psychiatrist" in high school because of my listening ability. Ever notice that when a great listener needs to be heard, there's no one around who can be bothered to listen? 😢 I love my daily journal. I tell it everything, rather than depend on someone to really listen. It's better than a therapist. There are many benefits to journal keeping: one of my favourites is that it won't be blabbing all your private business everywhere. You process things, get them out of your system and move on, without the stress of wondering how long it takes for someone to blab your confidences.
And here am I at the age of 40 thinking I’m just weird. I enjoy solitude and fully embrace silence.
im 18 got any advice
Same here 40+ and I've been like that all my life. However, crowds give me anxiety and I do better in smaller spaces.q
@@iamnobodyy_keep away from irrelevant conversations and only comment with factual and meaningful statements. Do not indulge with idiots or they will bring you down to their level and beat you
@@thejareer6429ty
No what is weird talking too much or letting ppl into your personal space ,so no that don't feel weird cause that's not weird too me
I once asked my Mom, how can I be a better person and be respected by people and she said, just be quiet, only say what needs to be said and listen to people, more than talk, no one ever learnt anything by talking, people learn by listening. My father in law is also a very quiet man , and I respect him more than anyone.
❤❤
SILENCE IS GOLDEN…🙏🏾
Wait - let me write that down.
@@Paul-rp5rs Talking is cheap,people follow like sheep.Write that down ,also!!!
@@clairejohnson6522 Are you referred to as "Poor Claire?"
@@Paul-rp5rsPoor Claire !? What?I can't see any correlation between what i wrote and your reply.You will have to explain that please as what you have wrote has gone right over my head.Thank you.
@@Paul-rp5rs Com'on, Paul, no need to be snoddy here. We've all heard that saying.
As an introvert I am born with this superpower. I just cannot control it and use it all the time. 😅
Same actually lol
One persons super power is another persons emotionally cold. I think overly quiet people, who do it as a strategy are cold, and potentially psychopaths.
I’m an introvert, but I’m also shy which I hate.
@@xenaareyoukittenmerightmeo7564 just take baby steps, life gives you a lot of challenges. My two adopted daughters where super shy when they where younger, if you met them now you'll never knew it cause we took baby steps. Start with simple "Hi." to new people and then walk away and/or go back what you are doing. That's how I started my daughters, and then they slowly started to open up when they came around. And if you feel overwhelmed, it's ok to let that person know that you need time and space because your overwhelmed. But baby steps first, and then it will slowly open up your independence and individual qualities. And it's ok to get excited about it, also be true to yourself and love yourself no matter what people may say. You know yourself better then anyone, and don't think you need to change that for anyone BUT for yourself.🤗💖
Lol😂 Me too
Almost (70) years old and Silence is a Blessed part of my Day.
Pray More 🙏🏿🛐🙏🏿
Talk Less 🙏🏿🛐🙏🏿
Is a Beautiful place to be 🙏🏿🛐🙏🏿
It's "POWER"💪🏾💪🏾
Silence also keeps your blood pressure down.❤
❤💯💯
Amen🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I learned this with my mom when she use to fuss all the time and I fussed back....that stressed me and raised my pressure, but when I learned that it takes TWO FOOLS TO FUSS....I started shutting up! Hon-taaay, I'm stress free!!! And it feels Awesome!!
People are intimidated by quietness. Whenever im in a group setting im normally quiet. I always get singled out. They always think im acting stuck up when in reality im just in my own world. It actually gets pretty annoying.
I’m the same way
I have this extremely chatty friend who talks so much, she doesn't even recognise that I'm saying nothing at all hours later. In the pockets of silence where I'm digesting her words, she fills up that space with wordy nothingness. It's enough to give one a headache.
One day, I asked her: "Are you uncomfortable with silence? I've noticed that you keep a busy narrative going nonstop, as if avoiding the absence of noise." She thought about it, then said, "You know what? I AM uncomfortable with silence. Silence scares me because it means someone is plotting against me."
Okay, paranoia. 😢
That was heartbreaking.
I'm not sure how excessive chattiness stops someone who might be plotting against you. I told her that not everyone who is silent is plotting against her -- I cannot speak for others, but I can for myself. If I'm not plotting an agenda, others like me who enjoy the quiet exist. It made her think, and be more self aware that she tends to have a motormouth, and that silence can be so peaceful. I had to teach her not to interrupt people midsentence, because she misses the entire context. Most people hear the first 8 words out of your mouth before they are already forming an inner dialogue, so they miss most of what people tell them.
My family is a lot like me, appreciative of quietude. We are all really active listeners. My beloved nephew and I are both INFJs, as happy as two clams when we simply embrace the beauty of silence together. It's comforting. People who talk all time miss out on such a peaceful, regenerative calm.
Saaaaame 😂 oh well they just don’t understand. You’re not misunderstood by us queen
Same here. I’d rather hang out with other introverts or no one at all than put up with that lol.
People always say I’m SHY because I don’t talk. Really I have social anxiety & I love the quiet. People be talking way too much about NOTHING!
Same bruh
Actually they don't say i am shy, but they say what's wrong with her? She never share her feelings. Period.
You're an awkward person
If youre silent you cant be misquoted
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Thank you❤
thank you very much dear ❤️
❤️🙏
Thank you.
Tkanki you
I was always extremely quiet and as I grew older I talk more now but I’m learning to be more quiet for my well-being.
Christianity isn't perfect religion
Why silence
It gives us poisonous
Love isn't everything.
Don't be silent especially about unfair Christianity
Yes!!! Me too
Yes I never talk during my childhood same
Me too. As a child I was always asked "why are you so quiet?" therefore I thought there was something wrong with me. I learnt to talk more as an adult, but now I talk less and listen more. Back to normal
Talk when required and when you talk, keep everything non-judgemental. Don’t offer opinion, let others talk. When conversing, talk in a way that is general and not specific in nature.
It's also great for combat and competition. The less you speak the less your enemy will know about you and your plans and intentions to win against them.
I totally agree
My dad always told me if anyone ask u where ur going tell them where you come from.
Thank you for that. I needed to hear that.
@@msdecemberloveangel8236 Always re-direct people to where you want them to go. Sometimes we have not perfected this, but the best way to perfect this is always remember not everyone is your friend, so tell them what you want them to know but keep the main things under the ocean like a iceberg.
So true, even your trusted "friend" could steal ideas from you.
The 48 Laws of Power: Always Say Less Than Necessary. Yep.
this is machiavellian. saying only what is necessary is fine, but saying less than necessary is merely deception and/or an expression of contempt for others.
Controlling how to react, especially when really being triggered, has got to be the most difficult of things to do.
I think there are times to speak and times to remain silent. The world can be so.....cruel to silence but also to noise. Its a choice
Better to remain silent and only believed a fool, than to open one's mouth and remove all doubt.
I've learned that silence is Powerful. Silence helps to keep your peace when you are surrounded by fools 😅
James 1:19 ESV,
"19 Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;"
Amen!
Being silent doesn’t work neither does speaking your mind…people choose who they will cooperate with period …no matter what attitude you may have.
Silence and speaking up for myself these are yielding the same results.
I concur
That’s right
exactly this🙏
Silence has many health benefits.
Exactly. Better advice would be to choose your friends more carefully. You don’t have to change for people who already don’t like you or vibe with you.
I find these days that many people over talk about themselves and won’t let anyone else talk about themselves. You learn a great deal about other people if you just listen. Often very helpful.
This is why I’ve always admired shy people & introverts. You never know they’re there & you don’t have to worry about them being in competition with you to get others attention. They could care less. I’ve al always been the friendly give me a few minutes & I’ll know everyone in the room. Friendliness can be a gift. However, I’ve learned over time ( I’m chatty too) it’s good to be quiet. Get a feel for people. Many times they reveal who they are when you’re quiet & unfortunately it’s too late when you realize you shouldn’t of told them your business. I’ve found great peace too when I work on being quiet. 🙏🏽🌷
I am a naturally silent person & I dont trust people that gossip. So I have always been careful with whom I talk to and wat I say to them...I have always thort about wat I'm going to say to a person b4 I even say it, & I have always been careful of my surroundings. Silent people are masters at observing people, & silence is so powerful ull draw attention ur way always😊
That's beautifully said
Same here!! Some people wonder why I don't talk much around them....because I've seen how you talk about others behind their backs. 😕
@@Blessed_DayeExactly.
Yess.. That's how I am.. I'm a big Observer! I dont like gossip. I'm very quiet at 60 yrs old and always have been. Everything you have said it is me. Thanks. I'm not the only one❤
Yess! And I am very to pick up Energy around me!.. it's that Spiritual Desernment!🎉❤🙏🙌
I've done both.. silence gets you the life you want
Practicing silence,has increased my overall mental health and physical well-being
Silence and the lack of emotional reactions can display a genuine interest in listening to what someone else has to say.
Silence is golden.
Two ears to listen more, two eyes to see and observe and one mouth to talk less 😊
In Islam, it’s highly important and recommended by our prophet to practice silence and think 🤔 before we speak. Thanks for this video 😊
Abu Hurairah narrated that Prophet Muhammad SAW said: “Whoever believes in God and the Last Day should speak a good word or remain silent” [Al-Bukhari] Hence, silence is considered as the meaningful thing because when a person has not something effective or good to say then he/she should remain silent.
It is very easy to be silent, Specially when you don't have any to say to anyone 😊
I live in nyc and it's a place where most people have a short attention span because so much is happening around you. I've noticed most people I talk to will check out within 2 mins of me speaking, they'll start checking their phone or just straight up looking away from me. Seeing that made me become silent. I don't think anyone wants to listen anymore but rather hear themselves talk
I agree, it's stupid. Humans don't like to have conversations anymore, don't let that change you. I'd you're talkative you'll find someone that appreciates that. Stay that way, it's important
@@mikeliamsrt8558
You can talk all you want. But at least have something of substance to say.
People who are quiet, talk a lot in there mind. I’m one of them. The is so much power in being silent it’s not even funny. Once u remove your ego, and be silent that’s it game over you have the power.
The problem is some idiots have created a stereotype thinking that those who talk less are ‘complicated’ or ‘bad’ people. This is the reason many introverts feel self loathe under the pressure.
This is really true. I regret being a noisy person, from sharing my plans and dreams.
The more we say, the less power our words become..
Being silent has helped me avoid so much drama that it has changed my life
Talking a lot of has put a lot of people into troubles.
God bless
Thank you...
Them....ABSOLUTELY !!!
Silence is not only golden, at times it's priceless.
Amen
I am 37 with high bp since I was 19, I noticed after a phone call my bp will go up high. I’m trying to learn to utilize bring silence and take time out to rest and have quiet time, I TAKE MY BP AND IT GOES DOWN TO A NORMAL LEVEL! I loyalty just figured this out within the past year! Thank you for this video!
I been a silent person all my life and I found that being pressure to be more vocal hasn’t brought me any peace. This video makes solid points I can attest to. I feel detached from myself when I have to speak and preform for others, but I feel connected to self again when I’m just being silent. Great video!
Oh man, you clarified it for me! I feel detached from myself the more I talk
Only say what you don’t care keep important to you
I spend a lot time with God, in his beautiful presence of the holy spirit, It helps me to learn to be calm, to shut off the world outside, and be filled with his holy peace. And I agree that we need to listen more then we speak, Probably the reason why we have 2 ears and 1 mouth. =)
I was very silent person when I was out with groups and strangers, I was ignored sometimes. Being silent at work was considered a lack of confidence, at work it was not an asset to me. I had to get verbal to be recognized. I think it depends on the circumstances. I am trying to work on different areas of my communication. The problem is people have different mind sets of how others should behave and communicate. I have gained much more respect by speaking up more.
It sounds like you were being overlooked because ppl at work though you were ignoring them by your silence but you weren't!
Pppl thought you lack confidence not because you didnt speak, but rather your body language, when you start to talk more you got comfortable at work and your body klanguage change. I don't speak much at work, but people respect me and fear because of my body language is very open, sometimes they even think I'm being rude or I'm too good for them to talk to me, that's how insecure people are.
I think the issue is choosing silent in the appropriate situations
Not just being silent all the time long but is also abt choosing when , what and to whom to talk
@@zkennedy5671 where can I learn that kind of body language please
I tend to be so cheerful and I can't have other than a happy face even i feel so confident and i hd a part ov silence but i feel that people see me deeply vulnerable weak and spoiled i wanna change that point especially at work
Thank you
@@lamagiedevivre2006 are you happy? Why do you care so much about what others think of you? What are you trying to prove? Do you see what am I getting at? You are seen as a happy person the one who always tries to lift others, and that's a good thing, it's rare nowadays to see someone who cares about others. If you want others to respect you, the only thing you can do is to set boundaries, if you hear someone disrespecting you step you immediately, don't let them get away with it. "Hey, I didn't like what you said, if I hear it again we gonna have a problem." Never, ever let others bs you. Also, your body language plays a big role, If you are skinny is going be hard for people to respect you, unless you have some power over them (like a manager or boss) so my advice is to put on some muscle, I'm 5'9 168 pounds, as I said before I don't like to talk too much, and that's my superpower when I do talk is because I have something of value. It's a thin line tho, ppl who don't know me think I'm arrogant but I don't give a damn about them. I know who I am and who's at my side, those people are very dear to me and they know it. Good luck brother.
Words are dangerous because they mean different things to different people at different times
"When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less." -Law #4 from The 48 Laws of Power.
You can talk to people who are on the same frequency as you. Unfortunately you don't find people who are in the same frequency as you
do silent people have high frequency?
Makes sense
When there's a patron/Customer trying to be rude and arguing, I just shut up, like It drains my energy and don't really entertain it. I don't wanna talk.
I normally when I used to work for cashier/customer service would simple just say "I'm sorry you have an bad day, but I'm just relaying a message." and/or "I'm sorry that you have a bad day, but why am I getting the full blunt of it when I'm just doing my job?" And then I'll listen to their reasoning, and if it's rude/racist/etc. I'll just say "Well that's your opinion, and I'm not sorry that my opinion doesn't match with yours. I'm my own person, and you are your own person. If you don't want to give respect about it and/or understand it, then you don't have to talk to me nor be in my line to cash out. I don't kiss a** and I don't do anything wrong for your attitude today.... Have a nice day."
But silence can also be rude because when you ask someone a question and they don’t respond they’re giving you the silent treatment or they are upset and expect you to be a mind reader and figure it out that comes across as rude and having lack of manners and the other person wants to control you with silence
The purpose of being silent is not to be rude. The polite response is I don’t feel like talking right now or I have nothing to say. It is rude to ignore someone unless their actions and behavior warrant being ignored.
I agree with that. Very true.
If you ask a question and they refuse to give an answer, then they have dug a hole for themselves. Especially if that question is about trying to work out an issue, problem or unethical action. Silence actually can show the other person that they’re failure to explain means it is agreed. Silence in the wrong moments does not work. Silence is good if it’s not trying to convince or confirm something. Silence on its own is in actual fact a bad thing especially if it’s allowed someone to do the wrong thing.
@@devinedarkdivaDivine isn't spelt devine. You may wanna change your name.
Or it could mean if you don't have anything nice to say then I don't say anything at all.
Silence is dangerous too. Imagine you have children who don't share their concerns with you and then go ahead to commit suicide. People need to know that there's time to talk and there's time to keep silent. Also, if you're a teacher, you must be a talker.
Amen.
Yes, and be able to project and talk slowly.
Really? Obviously this video was meant for a different point of view. My god not to be silent where your kids can’t communicate with you!
You don’t need to be a “talker” to teach. You just need to know how to communicate at work. That does not have to spill over into your personal life.
You do not have to be a "talker" to teach. 😒
A few drawbacks are after staying silent for so long, you retreat to your imagination and the longer you stay there, the harder it is to come back.
On the topic of secrets, quiet people tend to be honest and cant handle social situations like social people can so secrets are not okay with us like people think it is.
We also live in a social world so we cant always be silent and need to know how to communicate.
I always get described as quiet. People around me love me but I don’t believe that anyone thinks I’m particularly intelligent. Everyone says I’m kind and such a great listener but I don’t feel as though I’m seen as intelligent to spite being quiet my entire life
Silence is so welcoming in this hectic, crazy world, where everyone seems to be in a mad rush these days.
I think that being silent is a good thing because when you quiet things can go and end up better and not worse .😊😊😅
👍
I heard an interesting perspective on the idea of being silent and it's benefits...
...basically that the aim is to be silent and still within one's own mind not to actually always be silent. From the silence and stillness of your thoughts you can conquer them and then when you choose to speak the words will be not wasteful or unkind.
I found that a helpful perspective! 🙏🏽
It not only give you respect, but also gives you the knowledge to give correct information to people thats willing to learn. Some people will ask so many questions and not care about your experience, you can debunk thous who are willing to give the time to listen themselves. Or even the ones that just give you stress, you can throw them out without too much stress without any guilt. "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make the horse drink the water." That's what my biological family and some of my adopted family say all the time, and it works a lot.
Not always. People often take silence as micro-aggression. I’ve been doing old by a manger that I was angry bc I’m quiet. I was really just focused on my work.
You got that right. I agree 100 percent with you. Myself I am a silence kind of guy. I am a sigma guy Silence is gold
I was part of a generation That could speak to other women, an They had all good intents for their children, spouse, An everything going on… NOW, having to Keep my feelings Bound, Feel untrusting of anyone, This is the reason I Love this. I’m a Very outgoing person around a room full of silence, I Speak to people, an I live w others that are quite? Not sure if I belong, but after 22 yrs. An lots of Physical Healing, I’ve Seen what I have been allowing, Id everything, Husband works, an Cuts grass, An The rest is Mine, THANK YOU, I’m making it Just Scared, I have left before, an I could not Work, or had a House, lived w my mother, I’m 50, NO. Ik I have exhausted all of life for this, an Now my mindset is different. Now, I’m being Quite, an there is so much Tension, Strength Lord, Grace an Mercy 🦋🙏
Prayers 🆙 For Me Because Sometimes I Talk To Much Self Control
Faith 🆙 I Need Help Jesus Christ God & To Have More Patience
Amen
Silence is golden Speaks for itself
I’ve always told my son to sit back and observe especially people
SO glad I came upon this video.
Family have gossiped about a family member who is going through so much
I feel so sick that they are bored enough to talk about someone who couldn’t attend an event cos that person is really not in a good space. I shall pray for them it’s so toxic.
Our society is always wanting noise. Great video 🙏
Silent but deadly‼️😊
Silence has no power in the workplace, it makes you look timid and weak. Assertiveness is what wirks.
Idk about this one. Being quiet isn't a good thing. Speak when you want and share what you want to share. Dont live afraid. Try to be balanced.
Good video with interesting thoughts. The only missing items I would have liked to see is methods to resist speaking when you feel the urge to, aka how to actually practice silence more. It’s not always as simple as telling someone to be more quiet.
Law #3 from the 48 Laws - “Always say less than necessary”
I was expecting the comments section be empty 😊
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It’s not always good to be silent. It can help like speaking up for yourself helps but as a whole. I just tell ppl what i want them to hear. Control what comes out of your mouth and you can be as social and talk as much you want. Most of the ppl i know ask me for advice. I’m a leader so i talk frequently
I noticed.
@@marymartinez1672 You must be a petty Betty wanting a moment. You need some milk😂💪🏽😜
Silence gives you time to collect more information ( even while you swim in murky waters ) to collect more data and filter right information for processing and also the time to do correct processing; resulting in correct / right decision making.
This is the true test of :
" Comparing An Apple With An Apple ".
Sometimes it's good to be silence in front of certain ppl such as narcissist
/\/\ (Narc summoned, Lol)
@@Jaxxonian123 silence can be just as narcissistic as constant talking. you have never experienced malevolent silence?
Silence is a Great Learning Experience ✨️
Please teach balance
Always remember perception and the power of experience and it’s affect
Quantity and quality plus complete awareness of your words plus body language
Picture the world / total population always meditating and never communicating or interacting🤔 The vocal chords and ability to speak is a magnificent gift that could end wars and fill people’s hearts and souls with immense warmth and love 🥰 ⚖️🥰
As an introvert lm always very quiet 🤫.
I know it's power but it's still sad that I became silent naturally, it's because I'm never heard and even if I spoke I'm not taken seriously, it reached a point where I open my mouth and close it as fast, it gives me peace not gonna lie but I feel like many things would have changed if we spoke em
i hear you. the "lets all find our power" outlook is actually a misleading oversimplification that can be quite harmful and dissatisfying. compassion, connection and integrity should be the goal. dont be silent, and dont drone on. extremes are almost never advisable for a human. its not always easy, but the best course of action is to strive to balance listening and speaking with thoughtfulness and care.
When I want information from someone, I talk to them a lot and it works every time. I gain there trust and they tell me there whole life. This is why I’m very quiet in the presence of those who are talking too much.🤷🏽♀️
Silence is beautiful ❤️
_Really_ glad I ran across this video. Have been trying to make a conscious effort to learn how to avoid being nudged into a defensive stance by someone's perceived negative ideas about what they think I "must have thought" or "must have meant by that." I am almost 40 and I am very conscientious about what I say and how I present myself, but darn it, it is simply not possible to win a positive validation check ✅ from everyone nowadays. It takes more energy and time to formulate long, well-detailed explanations and context to people, instead of simply 😶 taking a moment to ask myself if a response is _truly necessary,_ and then 🤷🏾♀️ acknowledging that I truly didn't mean to offend anyone and as long as I know who I am and what I meant, I don't truly need to spend more time apologizing and explaining to them than they did thinking about how they wanted to "clap back" at me and not caring whether they were even right or wrong. Self-control is a true prize.
Depeche Mode's "Enjoy the Silence" is a beautiful song about the silence needed in love for bonding.
I don't mean to minimize this to something as trivial as this but....this is why I had it pretty easy with girls in club or lounge setting when we went out. Growing up I just was naturally a silent person, but yet I don't look unapproachable or mean about it. I have a bit of a scowl but I smile a lot lol. And I'm not shy, I just speak when spoken to or needed. I grew up in Watts and long beach, my family has a history if gang banging I'm sad to say but, I know a lot of them. And I remember when I was young one of them looked at me and told me "man you know why I like you? because you stay quiet and speak when spoken to". Since that day I never forgot this and found it better to keep silent. And I have never been approached when some ones secret was told to me, and it got out and accused for being the one to give it away. They know it was not told by me. 😂😂
Diggi...as far as you being quiet....you could have fooled me.
"He who knows, does not speak. He who speaks, does not know." - Lao Tzu ☯️
The power of truth gets people to want to say the truth as well.
I see what you mean. I knew a friend who was pretty much how you described silent people. I will try to be more silent. Thanks
After watching this video, I would like to give a few words, but never mind.
There's a time for silence. Don't get it twisted ❤
I agree 👍
Speach is silver and silence is golden but I always forget to do so. Thank you for the advice!
According to the situation I am in, if I keep silent I cry so I decided to talk talk and talk so as I can get tired once and sleep since silence makes me remember what I am going through and make me shed tears😢😢
My problem is Im quiet and hardly speak up, yet will over share when my anxiety kicks in .. Silence because of being timid is not the same of silence because of discipline 😩
Ditto...I'm quiet in group settings..I'm a loner but to associates I can ramble due to anxiety (depending on the topic)
I felt so odd always feeling silence is better....even though everyone likes me. Now I feel better lol. I guess I am normal. Thank you
I’ve weaponized my silence, I use it to intimidate my adversaries and haters.
…and yes, it works.
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this lacks integrity. haters is one thing - but adversaries? you mean people who disagree with you. staying silent because you are tempted to say something horrible that you might regret is one thing. using it as a weapon to "intimidate" people who have differing opinions and are trying to engage you in good faith conversations is disrespectful and cowardly.
@@noahyes
Wrong answer.
You don’t know me or my circumstances.
I do what I do because slapping the shit out of people is mostly frowned upon.
So, I handle matters *my* way. 👑
Im guilty as charged, much needed information thank you.
It's just not easy for a bubbly person that I am but its necessary for myself and those around me. Been told too many times just this week. 😔
Omg!! You tooooo!!! You got this. We got this.
Over the years I’ve come to realise I have a super power. Not fast than a locomotive and not able to fly; but even more powerful; I can keep my moth shut
Silent People can be very boring to hang around with. Also, many people don’t trust silent people. It’s like they’re constantly trying to hide something.. Who they truly are.
i agree. overly silent people are generally self absorbed, anti social, insecure, and untrustworthy, same as people who talk too much. extremes are never good.
@@noahyes
Agree 👍🏻
Some silent people can be kind and have interesting personalities, they’re just choosing their friends carefully. They can’t please everyone and they’re not obligated to entertain others which is okay. Please don’t assume that all silent people are the same :-)
Truth listen more talk less wish I was like this more I am working on being more silent and having silence in my life
I married into a family of people who tried to "out-silence" each other, because they thought that the quietest person in the room was the smartest. So the winner could be perceived as brilliant without offering a shred of evidence.
1. It wins you attention
2. Allows for effective listening
3. Achieve awareness
4. Patience
5. Regain focus
6. Inspires creativity
7. It helps you choose your words
8. Increased observation
9. Improved social circle
10. You gain trust
11. Great planning
12. Politeness
13. Releases stress
14. Connect deeply with others
15. Empower others
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The irony of listening to someone drone on and on about the power of silence.