Something I noticed in the clip is that you were very hesitant to ask the question, so much so that you even mentioned you wouldn't dare to look behind at all the people in the back, and yet you had the courage to tell the truth and confront your fears in public. Well done my friend! That is the way to success and you took a brave step forward. Best wishes from Costa Rica to wherever you are reading this.
You might of been afraid to look behind you, but in front of you is where you focused that night which was more important. Well done! When the force gets too much, get out. There's no shame in it. Now is a good time as there's plenty of other things you can do. Your own mental health should be priority one. And it's seriously not worth the destruction that comes with hanging in there too 'not let the team down'. You first, family second, the job somewhere after donuts... Lol
Thank you for asking him this question. His answer hit me right in the feels. And I pray that you get what you need from his suggestions. God bless you.
He’s also saying he’s an active duty POLICE officer who just got out of a mental hospital. This person is a menace for becoming a cop w this mental instability. Every day more and more citizens are given complex ptsd FROM THE POLICE. Cops are important, but if you are mentally fragile you’re an asshole if you choose to be a cop.
When I had to go to a domestic abuse shelter they thought I may have had a stroke because I had such difficulty talking. When you are so traumatized you can hardly speak and you no longer trust your percepetions it is a frightening place. Thank God for a wonderful counselor at the domestic abuse shelter in Shreveport la in 2014. She saved my life.
Hey I was in a shelter too. We are the voice for those in need of safety and pause. I get sad when they don’t want to be trapped in rules then we get what we got. Take your rules follow them to your safe space.
Is this suggesting to read Ordinary Men. I attempted it. Ugly read that seemed to repeat the same things. I couldn't finish reading it much as I wanted to. I liken it to "Pack Mentally." These Ordinary men did filthy violent things to people because they all did it. Whose going to stand up and say, "Stop it." Especially to the men giving the orders? People are cruel fucked up beings and if...if you are lucky enough to meet a decent human being be grateful.
What do you mean? What was wrong with him that he had to get healthy? I don’t know his story but listening to him mesmerizes me. He’s so deeply intelligent and never used average words. I have to really focus to understand him. 😅
@@Dsiegel7he definitely has a story and I’m not sure exactly where he’s shares it. But he’s been through a lot which can explain why and how he’s able to touch so many others
@@Dsiegel7he was struggling with an addiction to doctor prescribed benzo's to the point he was hospitalized to detox and get off of them. He was prescribed them while he was caring for his wife while she was suffering with a cancer treatment.
@@Dsiegel7 I think it's fair to say that he was "thrust into the national/global" spotlight very rapidly - which was not something he had intended (imo). After 2-3 years of touring/speaking globally (his wife accompanied him in most all these travels), writing another book or two - he became known/famous - to a point that his every word/action was scrutinized. He became a large (social/political) target. As a result, his health/well-being began to slip a bit and he became dependent on a prescription medicine. Getting off that medicine (per his and his daughter's comments) nearly literally killed him. As someone who valued his humanity from the beginning, my opinion of him (and his wife Tammy) were increased via his weakness. He'd been publicly 'pouring himself out' for others for well over 4 years and I suspect his "tank ran dry" temporarily. (ie: He had nothing left to give at that moment). I was genuinely worried for him and his family and I'm proud and happy FOR them that he/they've managed to work through it. Keep in mind, he owes no man anything. Sorry for the "TLDR".
Because he wants to help people become more focused on their own sovereignty. Not so much dependant on governmental programs, corporate schemes and collectivist ideologies.
It's the shadow part of themselves those critics don't want to acknowledge. They want to think they're purer than others and he tells them frankly that they're not. And worse, that their self confident stances are actually for the manipulation and control of others, so not pure at all. They detest him for the truth he always brings.
That dragon line is soo true. I had anxiety and depression problem last year and my psychologist gave me excercises at home. To bring up the things in my mind that made me sick (literally sick too my stomach) instead of avoiding them. And by doing that the anxiety and stress fades away. Avoiding the things you think will give you anxiety actually give you a lot more anxiety and stress.
FACE YOUR FEARS. Running away from them festers the Problems even more. We all have to eventually BEAR OUR CROSS. Bear it in the Present, when it is still manageable instead of Procrastinating it to the Future. If the Problem is Overwhelming, BREAK IT DOWN into Small but Concrete Targets. Face them Independently & Crush them. How do you devour a Shark - One bite at a Time.
True, I went from being an outgoing, be out and about kind of gal to someone who has high social anxiety and now stays home all the time to 'escape'. I have no friends, barely any family, no life, this is what trauma has done to me.
@@Voicesunstoppabletrauma comes from somewhere ,either self inflicted or outside influence, going back to realize which affected you will allow you to adjust your outlook. If you are stuck in a self inflicted loop you will never realize it if you think it's from an outside influence. Likewise if it's an outside influence and you think you're doing it to yourself,you will never distance yourself from the source of your issue.
@@Voicesunstoppableit means that the human mind that has endured trauma due to extreme evil or “bad”, has a difficult time understanding and conceptualizing that someone can be this bad, something can happen this bad. We have difficulty processing the evil/the travesty/the bad event because it is literally beyond our comprehension. When we understand that in the world as a reality we can then assign a sense of “normalcy” to it, in the way that we stop assigning blame to ourselves because of it. When we understand that these things happen to other people, we can make more sense of it in our own lives..and therefore begin to heal. I hope this makes sense. ❤
Sitting at hospital right now. My wife and I went through 3 years of fertility treatment. January brought happy news of pregnancy. She started feeling I'll 4 days ago. 2 days ago my son was born with cesarian. 24+4 weeks of gestation... He's a warrior. I want to scream.
For short: healing needs a guided autobiography, then a process of active engagement (the opposite of involuntary stress), and then read a few malevolent books that universalize malevolence (if you don't have an advanced philosophy of good and evil, you have no place to put the content of malevolence) cuz people with trauma has usually touched some sort of malevolence.
I just wanted to take a moment to express my admiration and appreciation for his work. The insights and teachings on personality and the human condition have been incredibly valuable to me, helping me gain a deeper understanding of myself and the world around me. His ability to convey complex ideas in a clear and relatable way is truly remarkable, and his lectures and books have been an inspiration to me. His dedication to helping others and being a shining example of what it means to be a great teacher. He is exactly the type of MAN the world needs today.
My Dad just passed away this week, I'm at my absolute lowest. He said he doesn't want me to be lonely and that he doesn't want me to waste my life. That's kind of a pressure, how to not waste your life? He said he just wants me to be happy. He's the best father I could have ever asked for and everything he did he done for us, his kids. I love you Dad! And I'm sorry, I thought we had more time.
I am very, very, very sorry for your loss, my friend. He'd want you to live the best life that you can. I hope you can take much solace in that as time goes on. Keep strong and be kind to yourself. I wish you all the best and everyone here who is struggling. God Bless. *Nods*
Thankyou everyone! I'm adapting to this new chapter in my life. All he ever cared about was that we're okay and happy. I wouldn't wish this on anyone! I'm just reminding myself how truely lucky I am to have even met him AND get to know each other, we were so close. He's with his parents now and he lives on through his children. Here's to family! 🙏❤
I've been in my own hell for years now and there seems to be no end to it. Men like Dr. Peterson have kept my head above water just enough to hold onto some hope I'll get there some day.
I held the dead body of my best friend Tyler Nixon on May 16th of 2007 too early in life to be able to deal with it properly. He overdosed in secret right next to me and he died while we were sleeping. He didn’t mean to I am convinced. But he did. And when I found him was hours later and he was blue with bubbles coming up out of his mouth and when I grabbed him and tried to help he was long cold and even stiff. That was the beginning of many horrible events in my own life. And almost my entire family died. And as I speak this text through my fingers if not for my own children I have only my mom left. All other family members have been destroyed. All known family are gone. Except my mom who is currently in hospice and not long to go away herself. It’s GOD who saved me via His Son who just so happens to be the Core and Source of all the art and beauty in my entire life.
It's what's pissing off the psychologists!! It's funny how attached to money left wingers are. I was raised left wing. Jordan is correct. Don't put yourself in a box.
Yes even if you apply a little, you can really see positive results. The woke wants to embrace your demons but Jordan is the one that gives concrete and effective advice on how to confront them day by day.
JBPeterson: "My message to the Hungarians Do not rebel against your PM Your leader is trying to restore the metaphysical foundation of the 1000 years old Hungarian empire I would like to tell you a secret about Jesus and a secret about your PM. Another name for Jesus is Viktor"
Awhile ago I repented to God then begged for help, "I was until then an Atheist." I then had a dream of Jesus coming before God and he spoke of the Tabernacle in perfect context, "A word I didn't know existed.", and what I felt from Jesus when I held him was unlike anything I've ever felt before - A lifetime of Love every second - It brought me to sobbing and it changed my life, forever. I've had other experiences since, "Several witnessed", one was seeing a bright orb of light pass across my face in the dark, hours before a major surgery the second I gave up in my heart. Know that God and Jesus ARE real and that they Love us. Let go of your hatred and Imagine yourself holding the people who've hurt you. Tell them you Love them. Always have hope, I believe prayer, following God's laws & Love is the answer, and through that, becoming humble, merciful, welcoming, giving, and forgiving, To All.
Recently while logging my past traumas to find the root cause of my CPTSD I've found out my childhood was more traumatic than the entirety of my military service I conflict zones. That was a pill to swallow but it helped me to be clearer about where it all came from. I can accept those things that happened to me then, I was a boy, I didn't make these choices for these events as I had with military service. Writing down from childhood to now helped immensely on my road to mental health. Thank you. I have shared this with my entire VWF post and prior service buddies. Thank you Thank you 🙏
I read “ordinary men” in college and to this day I reference it as the book that changed my entire life. I could barely read the pages through all of my tears. It’s a must read, I can’t believe he referenced it here. I’ve never heard anyone else speak about this book. Thank you Jordan!
Was it too much to bear? I wanna read it but I am scared that it might be too heartbreaking for me, I already get depressed seeing the moderate suffering around me. I don't know if I should take this book up.
Steve Hi! I was that man and I can tell you: I was blindsided by his generosity. He is a prophet and a wonderful human being. To be honest, I was so nervous that I asked DW to upload this so I could watch it time and again haha. More content on my recovery on my youtube - non monetized. Thank you for your amazing observation and comment Steve.
@@Dar2live I hope you are still holding On and feeling much better. Thank you for being so brave. Lots of love from a stranger, all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤
Dr. Peterson , I’m sure this won’t be seen. But you truly have given me something that was buried and hidden so deep… it’s sad to say but these videos sometimes keep me going. Thank you
Life is hard, but we can and must find ways to keep going. Listening to Dr. Peterson biblical series helped remind me that regardless of our religious beliefs, we all have intrinsic value and are all capable of making the world a better place🙏
@@helentaylor1222 I’ve been watching his content from the beginning, I stumbled upon it right before he challenged the Canadian Law C16. It’s truly been a journey seeing him basically with a webcam, to now where he has such a powerful platform and guests and his new stuff on daily wire as well. Watching a blue collar type man go from that, to now being such a force… because he espouses Righteousness and The power of Aiming High along with answering really the big question for my generation and below…. If we are giving up God , then we replaced it. And all the things we replaced it with are completely hedonistic and we’re left feeling completely empty and without encouragement or direction…. Jordan peterson came along and spoke to a deep part of my generation. He doesn’t realize how even if he changed one man’s life, it would ripple and cause good. He has changed so many peoples lives and the effect is my generation finally sees purpose, and there is no amount of gold that anyone would trade for meaning and purpose. He’s such a net good. Sometimes I think he doesn’t realize it lol
Years in therapy, and the approach of all my therapists has been the opposite of what he said, and the opposite of what I asked them for in therapy. I got worse, thanks to therapy. I knew why. I knew what therapy did wrong, and how they wronged me and hurt me. In the end they judged me as hopeless case, too much damage, and telling the insurance that I was not willing to heal. Since I stopped therapy, I got much better.
Me too. They don't know what Trauma is or how to help the traumatized person. I was judged a hopeless case also, but I knew they didn't know what they were talking about. It was clear to me they were doing the WRONG things to me and SERIOUSLY HURTING ME. I stopped trying therapy and got Better too. We won the battle. They lost.
@evelynmonro7342 I've learned more from Peterson's lessons than I ever learned in therapy. To be fair, I didn't go to therapy very often, but I think some of that had to do with getting very little resolution from it. Therapists seemed to be more concerned with having you tell them how you feel about things and prescribing medication to get you through the day, rather than outlining a path towards self improvement. It's as if simply talking about your problems will draw all the conclusions we need for healing, while medication reduces the anxiety stemming from them. In some sense, that is how it works, but it takes far longer to draw any sort of long-term conclusions without offering methodology guidance. Becoming more familiar with Peterson's work has allowed me to catch up on years of painful mistakes and, at the very least, begin to work my way towards overcoming their effects. If I can offer any advice, it's to educate yourself (in your case, a focus on PTSD), as gaining insight on any topic will increase the likelihood that you'll be able to process your current situation and proceed in a positive direction.
Therapy can and does work if your therapist has extensive training in treating trauma. Big bonus points if they have had their own PTSD; THOSE are the ones that know it from the inside out and can speak the same language.
Yep. If you’re struggling in life, it usually means there is something you’re supposed to be learning. When We get burned, we tend to focus our attention on possible external factors. Then immediately blame others, before we think to examine what our own actions might have been to create the burn.
Woah the fking obvious 😂😂😂 Do whats needed not what your thoughts and feelings tell you like a animal Stop being weak simple as but yall don't care unless society pretends to care 😂😂😂 People are zombies braindead
Jordan looks like an angel sitting there .. dad for us all 😢😭 most of the times, am unable to stop tears when jordan talks with such empathy and in equally encouraging comforting manner.. a dad i never had..
This brought tears to my eyes just by seeing the pain in the gentleman’s eyes. I love Dr Peterson on so many levels. His compassion, integrity, intelligence and his gift of sharing to others in order to help others~brings me to my knees. I’m entirely grateful for the good in him, it brings peace to my spirit in troubled waters. Thank you Dr. Peterson.❤️❤️❤️
I was there that night sitting in the audience when this question was asked. Being a survivor of childhood trauma and having PTSD myself this really resonated with me and in my times of darkness these videos give me hope. F.J
Thank you Jordan for helping so many broken men. The world certainly needs more love, understanding and compassion. Men and women need to love and respect each other. Love and respect go hand in hand. ✝️❤️🙏🏻🕊
Awhile ago I repented to God then begged for help, "I was until then an Atheist." I then had a dream of Jesus coming before God and he spoke of the Tabernacle in perfect context, "A word I didn't know existed.", and what I felt from Jesus when I held him was unlike anything I've ever felt before - A lifetime of Love every second - It brought me to sobbing and it changed my life, forever. I've had other experiences since, "Several witnessed", one was seeing a bright orb of light pass across my face in the dark, hours before a major surgery the second I gave up in my heart. Know that God and Jesus ARE real and that they Love us. Let go of your hatred and Imagine yourself holding the people who've hurt you. Tell them you Love them. Always have hope, I believe prayer, following God's laws & Love is the answer, and through that, becoming humble, merciful, welcoming, giving, and forgiving, To All.
Whoever chose the color scheme for this speech was a genius. As an artist myself, I couldn’t take my eyes off it. The grayed whites of his suits makes his flesh look more alive by comparison, and the backlight illumination outlines him and sets him apart from the shaded red and blue in the background. It gives the impression of intelligence and clarity, all while illuminating him in white light that makes him seem all the more pure and trusting. Simply magnificent, I’m gonna have to draw or maybe even paint him.
In another clip he talks about his 2 coloured suit, red and blue. a "heaven and hell suit". adds more meaning when the red surrounding the blue is supposed to be evil surrounding the good, and he's placed himself in the blue.
for what it's worth, he was such a good listener in person that I still use him as a sounding board in my imagination. When I try to make sense of a new idea that is still a little beyond my grasp, I try to make my case to him (in the theatre of my imagination). It's because I know he's really listening, I know he'll consider sideways ideas, and I know he will not be easily duped. I'm not bragging or something, (it's not that easy to wired like me honestly), my point is that he's that good of a therapist in person. For what it's worth he treated my daughter who was helping me with respect and kindness, besides asking me all about myself, my art, etc. I think I'll have to write a blog post or something some day about being in his company.
@@downeybill I checked out that website- you are really good! My grandmother was a classical oil painter- she is my inspiration. I mainly do charcoal for portraits nowadays, but when I can I’d like to mess around some more with oils and acrylics. Thank you for your reply!
@@goodtimberfarm I was thinking the same thing, but only after I wrote my comment. I watched a clip from his joe organ appearance and noticed the suit, and that made me think of this again.
Engage with the Dragon that Burned You-wow Jordan that is a message I will mediate on today. Praying for your health and continued strength and courage. You have been called for such as time as this-and those of us who follow and respect you know it is not without personal consequence. I hope you can find comfort in knowing how much we appreciate your voice in this world today.
I once saw someone describe Jordan Peterson as _"You're new stepdad, who actually loves you"_ As I went on to watch his videos I'd come to see why they said that. This video is a good example of that ✨
This is the kind of content that hooked me to Peterson, and hope we can have a lot more like it. I will sit and listen to politics or religion to kill time, but what I, and I think others too are really looking for deep down is therapy in some form or another. We're all broken and we all feel we are less than we could be, and this is speaking directly to that extremely deep desire for purpose or towards a better life.
I know that the man had studied and read a lot but the way he expresses thoughts, feelings and knowledge, the way that reaches any human brain understanding so that people can feel seen and understood is something to fall in love with. Fall in love with a human brain is beyond everything.
Indeed. I suffered a fraud by a “friend” in a business that caused me to lose everything and then to fall in depression and PTSD, distrusting people in general. It wasn’t until I randomly saw the story of slavery on TV that I understood how evil was universal, as Jordan says. This had a curative effect: I wasn’t special, I was actually being entitled by feeling that bad, compared to those people. The progress started since there and now I am now fully recovered.
Im so sorry to hear what happened to you. I lost an executive career, my home and mental health all at the same time. Was bullied by my employer for questioning the ethics of a policy, and “performance” managed to termination. The shock, grief and anger and despair has been coming in waves for over 18 months now. I read Viktor Frankl,s book : Man’s search for meaning, and had the same experience you describe, except it wears off after a week or so, and I’m back in the deep black hole. At the end of my tether
I think the gut reflex of someone dealing with trauma is to avoid anything that reminds them of it, but that only contributes to a heightened fear response. This is why voluntary exposure therapy is so useful for people with anxiety. You're gradually confronting the thing that scares you and that (hopefully) creates a desensitization effect.
thats why mushrooms should really be used for that your fear is just gone and youll face eveything that you need to face at that moment because the mushrooms just guide you there .. if thats the real problem ..
@@L4Nigav Mushrooms are not the golden answer to healing. In fact such generalizations can seriously harm people. I don’t know about you but I certainly had a lot of fear when I took mushrooms and had I not already had control over my emotions and the clarity of self to bring myself through those emotions. I believe it could’ve been a very destructive experience. The only true one size fits all answer to restoration and redemption is found in Christ.
@@Steven-ez7uk I agree with you that mushrooms might not be a solution for everyone. But you lost me when you then claimed that the only answer that fits all is Christ. Would you care to elaborate on that?
@@Steven-ez7uk steven so u reject shrooms as general application but then offer religion? Sonin ur view hindoes, chinks, spicks, sand niggers and 100mil other people are all going to hell cause they believe in some other deity and thats ur best advice?
God is currently working in me to heal my ptsd from a chronic illness with no cure. I also have to give credit to Dr. Peterson as well, his insight and compassion really struck me and I'm so very grateful for all that he does.
I've been struggling a few years now. I was at a place of no hope care or answers for existence. Getting some help from my Dr and a lot of your videos and others have brought me to a place of hope and purpose. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I truly needed to hear things that may seem common sense to you. The world needs more people like u. I may have continued that path and it would have led to death. I was brushing past it's door. Forever great ful.
Jordan is the most empathetic Psychologist I have ever heard! He really takes the time to help so many people, especially with this kind of outreach. We are lucky to have someone like him to help keep things in perspective. Thank you sir! ✨🙏🇺🇸
Wow. This is the first time I've ever even heard of someone else who sees the lines. The ones I see are vertical and they run up and down, looks like energy currents.. I've also been diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder and PTSD from years of abuse leading up to an assault where I was taken to ICU at a trauma center and narrowly survived. Dr. Peterson is so valuable. And he's right, also, writing has been one of the best forms of therapy for me. It's hurts and it's hard sometimes, but I think leaving the bitter roots buried deep in my core would rot me from the inside out. Facing the dragon is definitely necessary. And I feel validated hearing that maybe seeing the "lines" didn't mean I was crazy. Maybe I was just traumatized!! God bless you Jordan.🙏
@@jkileel I know because I went to this event in thousand oaks sunday this last week. its 371 for a front-row seat and Q&A. He didnt take extra time out for this guy. Its part of the deal to be able to ask him a few questions.
@@howiefelterup329 and now this guy's life has probably been changed forever. I'd say it was worth it. JP does this for a living, I don't get why people think it's a slant to reprimand people for charging for their services. We all do it. Plus, millions of people around the world watch his stuff on UA-cam for free. You'd be foolish to expect to not pay a premium to see him live and engage with him. I saw him in Philly for $80 last year, the venue has a say as well.
@@officialthomasjames I never said anything negative about him charging. I paid more than 4x as much as you to see him, so id be foolish to say anything negative about charging this fee. Who in this thread said he shouldn't be charging for his service? You are making shit up. I was merely pointing out that this question wasnt being answered simply out of the goodness of Peterson's heart. It was paid for. That's a fact, a fact that you seemed to be triggered by. The venue is rented for a price paid for by the daily wire. They have no say in the price of the tickets beyond the asking price of the rent. If they charge 5000 to rent the venue, Peterson has to set the price of the tickets to make sure he makes that 5000 dollars back and then some profit. they dont actually set the price of the tickets themselves.
Remarkable man! Edifice of humanity. Tower of compassion rooted in true love. Meaning of love = willing the good of others. This is what this wonderful human being is all about.
What a gem of a mind JP has, just wondering what a trip it must be for any ordinary Joe to live 1hr in JPs mind, so extraordinaly well arranged in a depth and breadth of knowledge and insights with such a fast brain. Im in awe everytime i listen and so thankful to be able to listen to this man.
The girl in the story is similar to mine. I was an adult who lost a child to the bully. It fragmented my perceptions a long time, pointless trying to express this to a person who has narcissistic personality disorder, he had me thrown in jail repeatedly for 8 hours the maximum holding time for when pathological liars convince police you are guilty of their crimes to cover their tracks. I felt infantile and defenceless against all these authorities meant to protect victimised women and kids, social work failed to look beyond the theatre or the fact my psychologically alienated son was saying what he was terrorised to say, despite saying the opposite four times to police when interviewed with me at his original home. I fear the magnitude of soul crime will never be acknowledged. I suffer cptsd and i have drug dependency on the horror of benzodiazepines, im going through that hell while at the same time totally impossible to express any of my feelings without being shamed and blamed for"ruining the family meeting with my son and narcy in a lot of ways or should I say just completely lacking empathy other supposed family. I really don't have a family in the traditional sense, narcissists make short work of destroying every connection to the scape goat. Despite the cheating etc he was this great family guy who seems untouchable despite the obvious destruction. A dragon so fierce and malevolent it will destroy the strongest consciousness, I was hearing my name called, I had delusional and invasive thoughts, none of which I'd ever had before the cptsd or the drug dependency on benzos. I was beside myself as any mother would be being told it was 18 months before a case hearing and no access to a kidnapped child being cavorted in front of me by my supposed replacement mother, no regard for my sons feelings or mine. I lost everything. A perfect question and answer for my situation, stuck in freeze response to ambient abuse that never ends. Bullied doesn't cover it, soul murder might.
♥️❤️♥️ Sending you big hugs! Take it a day at a time. Take your power back. Take care of you! Whatever that means for you! Lay all that to rest. Your son deserves to rest in peace. He would want you to be strong and rise above it all and live glorified in his Name! Take your power back!!! You can do this and you will! People will be whom they are, you can choose to separate yourself. You are not like them. Give this no more of your soul. Live free and happy! I truly believe your son wants you to! God bless you~
Thank you for being so open with suggestions. I truly appreciate you. You are a gift to many people. They don't want any of us to better ourselves. They want us to stay asleep. You are waking people up. You are a blessing.
I just love doctor Peterson he's so dang good with everybody so down-to-earth with his amazing abilities I'm sure he'll go down in history is one of the all-time greats
Thank you, Dr. Peterson. Just found this response 3 23 24. Your time, devotion, and depth in your answer brought on the tears. Thank you for your compassion for helping this human among all your fellow humans you have helped, including me.
This is a great response. This falls line with my recovery process. It is so reassuring to hear validation of the moral injury that PTSD actually is. It has been an important practice to reimagine myself in this world. Learning to see reality for what it is and how it relates to the “dream” most people are living in. I recently heard someone describe reality as the reflection of your relationship with your physical body. Dealing with trauma can make me feel alienated, dissociative and alone. I have to take ownership of my narrative to continue to grow to be the person I am called to be. Sometimes it’s as simple as taking inventory of my senses.
We are so fortunate to have Jordan! Just listen and you can be guided in a better direction, his observations and tools to move forward with are priceless☆☆☆☆☆
Voluntary confrontation Yes. I'm my current job i am required to operate a scissor lift to maintenance and install equipment in the ceiling. (Bay four is 30 feet high). It has taken four years, and I have very little problem now, working with heights. Before I was extremely intimidated nearly to the point of inability. I faced it by considering it the dragon I must slay. You CAN slay dragons.
Humility is a virtue, you were humble and courageous to share with us .. and acceptance of what happened to you ... good and evil are experienced in life. As you heal, we all heal.
The man who asked this question has a really really unique spirit and I’m very impressed with his ability to understand and work through his ptsd. I also have ptsd and it’s a war you absolutely can win. Stay strong 💪
I have cptsd and at some point struggled severely.. especially to read and form verbal words. I would sometimes sit with what happened and make sure I feel what it is I needed to feel until one day it had no effect on me anymore. This is when I realised that other trivial things that used to bother or trigger me, doesn't have any effect on me either. Thank you 🙏🌻
I've had a similar experience. Putting things into words just wasn't an option for a long time (and trying to actually made things worse, especially since there was deep and wide ranging paranoia in the mix). Allowing myself to feel is what gradually dissolved a lot of issues (and, in my case, it's taken some mind altering substances to even be able to get past all the solid defenses). We live in a world that's very focused on the intellectual mind, and therapy involving word processing just doesn't work for everyone, at least not in the initial phases.
Such a thoughtful and compassionate response- real tools for real suffering.... as well as long term ways to engage with coming to grips with realities of evil in the world and in self
It is funny that alot of what Jordan Peterson says is something I knew long before I ever heard him speak. Only I couldn't say it in this professional manner. But I do believe we all know as humans what's up and we would be able to analyze the problems. However alot of people refuse to do so and rather live in their comfy bubble of lies, alot of people are also damaged beyond repair by what happend to them and they simply need somebody else to tell them what to do. It's fascinating that every one of us has the right answer in him, yet so few people can actually dig it out.
Thank you Dr Peterson for this wonderful explanation of evil. I was naive for a long time and was done in when confronted by malevolence. By realizing that we all have evil in us, I'm not as shocked when I see people act in what I perceive to be hateful ways.
same here, i could" withstand tragedy" but malevolence nearly did for me. im my own way i think i"Engaged with the Dragon that Burned you" by trying to face it. Now i understand it better and know it doesnt come with" horns and a pointy tail' what we were told evil was as kiddies but in forms that can appear as benevolent.
Wow. Simply wow. @vetandsirens - SO GLAD you asked that question...with your background and experience...giving JP the opportunity to engage with your situation...and...with so many of the rest of us needing to hear something of his response, too. Sooo grateful. And, I hope you find the supports you need or that you can mine the insights offered you here, as you continue your recovery. Best, nj
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
The things you touched on are things I have told my counselor. The mirror, evil, chaotic thinking, fear of people. I have come a long way in many areas and even recently finding out I have trigger words. My recovery process is at maslow's 3rd tier. I havent found belonging. I have accepted I am a nomad. In my 2 churches that has put me in a strange place because I wont join either as a member. God has shown me that I am like Paul, I dont belong to anyone. I will be baptized and serve both. I have bonding issues and can not get over what I see in people . I see them, not just their physical presence. Maybe self authoring would help, I do own the book ordinary men, I haven't read it yet. Thanks for this help
I know that this man holds himself to the work he suggests as a solution. He is who he is because of his own experiences, but he makes us all feel capable of reaching this inner peace.
As a fellow Vet I am happy you asked. You did a lot of as a great service with your courage. You spoke for a lot of us who would not have gotten the chance to…..
@@zurechtweiser what was done to me. It was not the original injury that really caused the issues, shit happens. It was the absolute hell and poor treatment waiting for me when I got back home. You become a disabled man without family and become a second class human.
@@zurechtweiser how kind of you to assume I was the problem or I created the issue. But I understand that mindset. Do more, be smarter, work harder. When you become disabled brother you can’t always do more without help. You can do even less when people are not held accountable for not even doing the job they are paid for. I hope your life stays exactly the way it is so you never have to know what I am talking about. I would not wish what I have experienced on anyone….
God I wish I would have found Jordan Peterson years ago!!! Maybe I could have had a life worth living. My 21 year old son is all I live for. Love you Jordan Peterson
This is excellent advice. I strongly recommend the self authoring program, it’s not expensive and I found it extremely helpful to come to terms with a whole lot of trauma from my past. Narrating your own story gives a chance to digest it better and also identify things you missed before. I wouldn’t suggest a war veteran is “to blame” for their experiences, but it’s still helpful to think deeply about “why that happened and why it affected me so much”. Very grateful for Dr Peterson’s wisdom, the level of insight in these impromptu Q&A segments of his recent tour was astounding.
I suffered a LOT in my live and still do, my final conclusion to all this is life is beautiful, short, worth of living, I'm strong, I forgave everyone, I don't take it personal anymore, I move on...and I DONT CARE.. DRAGON IS THERE, LET IT BE, IT GETS TIRED and bored of teasing you...I'll die as an OLD being... happy with my sword down
Femininity: 1 - Accepting; receiving: YOU ARE THE DIVINE FEMININE. YOU ARE THE QUEEN. 2 - Communicating your needs. Speaking Up. RADICAL HONESTY. 3 - Choosing a partner who wants the same Life objectives/values... If you're avoidant, you most likely have said to family members - who had a major role in your childhood: "You only accepted me or liked me when I was happy/obedient/emotionless." This one simple statement fits with ALL the core symptoms of avoidant attachment: 1. Being overly self-reliant (and in doing so, you hide your needs, emotions, problems, and acute illnesses) 2. Pushing down anger until it explodes and manufactures the boundaries you crave but can't always ask for 3. Not wanting to burden others with your problems 4. Wanting to fix your own issues to avoid looking incompetent or even getting bullied and teased/mocked 5. Numbing out emotions with self-soothing behaviors that are either totally unhealthy or pseudo-healthy (like getting addicted to working out and healthy eating) Remember ALWAYS this process is all about YOU!!! Not him. He is just a catalyst. Consider, he may be your twin flame. Look into that. After he initiated your trauma, you're now left to deal with and to heal: all that has come to the surface. GOOD! This is a blessing. Albeit painful. A necessary blessing, nonetheless. HUGE-HUGE gift! Major advice!!! Listen closely!!! NEVER ever CHASE HIM. He will run further and you will lose yourself more. You are the feminine. You are the divine goddess. You just be and approve (or disapprove) whoever comes along. It's a yes: you meet my requirements, or: it's a no, you do not. Be clear on whom you're accepting as a partner and DO NOT settle for less (or you just delay what's meant for you). Accept your struggle, anxiety, fear, sadness. Whatever comes up. It's all human, and in need of your attention. If you push it away, block it, or run from it... You will just have to deal with it later... 1) Put yourself first and foremost! 2) Fall in love with yourself. Be your own dream girl. Glow up and level up. Be the best version of yourself. 3) Rejection is redirection. Embrace the energies of miraculous possibilities. And, Any time you have a painful thought/memory/flashback/worry/belief: 1. Find the belief... 2. Write 11 DISADVANTAGES to having the belief 3. Write 11 ADVANTAGES to having the belief If you can NOT find advantages then that’s EXACTLY why you're stuck!! When you finally see both sides... Your mind will STOP thinking about it 'cause your brain will be rewired. So you gotta keep at it, until you find the positive to the negative... And therefore, ultimately rewire your brain! AND REMEMBER: STOP making it all about manifestation when really, it's actually all about VIBRATION! If you haven't heard today... You are so very loved and you are so very worthy of love. The hardest part is learning to love yourself and to know: it's not all your fault, and to see: that you're beautiful; wonderfully perfectly brilliantly created. You're stronger than most; a true leader/warrior in the making. Keep going and keep thanking. Remember Jesus was an outcast and he suffered more than any human being could ever endure... And the most important message here is to forgive them and to forgive yourself and to love all. Keep walking in truth. One of the great poems of the Zen tradition ends with this description of the awakened state: “To be without suffering over imperfection(s).” AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER: I am one with the Divine. I experience, peace, BLISS, love, and joy: CONSTANTLY AND CONSISTENTLY. I experience everything as grace AND AS LOVE. I am at peace. I honor the Divine within me.
Thank you for this.just had a particularly nasty verbal attack from my ex partner in tears right now 😢 thank you for your advice I have screenshot your comment so I can read it whenever I feel low
Finally someone with real understanding! Every medical person treating PTSD should listen to this! I had severe, treatment resistant, complex PTSD from a lot of stuff overseas including 2 assassination attempts. Multiple independent psychiatric assessments and full medical board said I had no hope of any meaningful recovery and I was classified as Total and Permanently Disabled. My life now is very different but it is genuinely awesome. If you’re currently wrecked by PTSD - you have a future and it CAN be awesome too. Dr Peterson highlighted 2 of the things that helped me. Deliberately facing things that triggered me every day - wisely! Small, gradual, deliberate, exposure to things and then reflecting a little bit on that. Being in a supermarket aisle eventually didn’t tell my brain I was back being hunted and trapped. We’re constantly told discomfort is bad. That is the most destructive thing you can believe. Discomfort is our friend. Without discomfort we can’t grow, adapt, re-program in any way mentally or physically. Coming to understand general malevolence / evil and de-personalising it was also huge for me. One critical thing I would add, which Dr Peterson didn’t mention, is coming to understand my true identity and where my self worth truly comes from. Only the creator can attribute actual worth to a creation, so understanding that fundamental truth transformed me. The infinite Gd who created everything that exists out of nothing wants personal relationship with me, and you. He took on human flesh and died horrendously in my place, and yours, to allow that eternal relationship. That is what truly defines our worth. The fact that we have the free will to choose to ignore or accept that is a mind-boggling revelation about who God is. I’ve done some self authoring in the past which was helpful but am going to buy the self authoring course he mentioned so I can work more on that aspect.
I told a bit of my story and received a complimentary personality test from JBP !!! Sadly I didn’t see the email, and didn’t do the test. 😂 I really should have. That was some time ago too. Before his books. 😂 I’ve always enjoyed his work though.
Peterson’s approach to healing & growth is accurate, but also it’s important to include the kind of service and hard work that you can orient yourself toward, or aim at, that also can put the past way into the past & move you forward. In my experience, you’ve got to be slaying both the inward dragon as well as the dragons out in the world. After a while it becomes a rhythmic thing and as it changes you for the better, it changes the world around you for the better.
Excellent answer ! My father, that lives with us , has had agoraphobia and panic disorder for my entire life. I have been with him on many visits to the psychiatrist office as a child. Understanding for the most part the problem, but not their solution, cause non of them address the issue spirituality, but only with meds like Paxil and clozapam. They didn't display the virtuous Understanding that you have and one that he visited for 15 years eventually committed suicide himself! And that was my final proving point with my father. He now calls me first instance he feels bad. To talk. Works everytime! He still takes the meds tho.
Incredible. I was doing this today just to experiment. Thank you Jordan Peterson for teaching me to think properly, for there is a lot more to work on. Thank God
I had an 'ah ha' moment of insight as I listened to this, realising that I very regularly have dreams that involve many people from highschool. Perhaps some of my struggles are because there is a part of me who is still stuck in that age, that part of my self concept has not yet grown to where I am now Perhaps willingly and actively looking at that part of me before bed could be a way to move through what has been stuck, rather than just experiencing the intrusive feelings, thoughts and memories of shame that plague me throughout the day I'm going to try it! Thank you Jordan :)
I dream about high school and grade school often. Terrified of seeing those girls and has made me hyper sensitive and paranoid. Thank you for your comment.
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Thank you, Jordan, for answering my question so generously. I’m grateful I’m alive while you’re here. Long life to you, sir.
All the best to you Sir!
Something I noticed in the clip is that you were very hesitant to ask the question, so much so that you even mentioned you wouldn't dare to look behind at all the people in the back, and yet you had the courage to tell the truth and confront your fears in public. Well done my friend! That is the way to success and you took a brave step forward. Best wishes from Costa Rica to wherever you are reading this.
I'm glad you're here. I needed to hear your question and answer you prompted. Thank you
You might of been afraid to look behind you, but in front of you is where you focused that night which was more important. Well done!
When the force gets too much, get out. There's no shame in it.
Now is a good time as there's plenty of other things you can do.
Your own mental health should be priority one. And it's seriously not worth the destruction that comes with hanging in there too 'not let the team down'.
You first, family second, the job somewhere after donuts... Lol
Thank you for asking him this question. His answer hit me right in the feels. And I pray that you get what you need from his suggestions. God bless you.
The guy who asked this question is so brave. I pray he prevails.
He’s also saying he’s an active duty POLICE officer who just got out of a mental hospital. This person is a menace for becoming a cop w this mental instability. Every day more and more citizens are given complex ptsd FROM THE POLICE. Cops are important, but if you are mentally fragile you’re an asshole if you choose to be a cop.
Improving every day, hopefully 🤞 thank you and you too.
Agreed way to go!
Yes i agree..Jesus christ son of God help us all.❤
His question helps me! Absolutely
When I had to go to a domestic abuse shelter they thought I may have had a stroke because I had such difficulty talking. When you are so traumatized you can hardly speak and you no longer trust your percepetions it is a frightening place. Thank God for a wonderful counselor at the domestic abuse shelter in Shreveport la in 2014. She saved my life.
Hey I was in a shelter too. We are the voice for those in need of safety and pause. I get sad when they don’t want to be trapped in rules then we get what we got. Take your rules follow them to your safe space.
Is this suggesting to read Ordinary Men. I attempted it. Ugly read that seemed to repeat the same things. I couldn't finish reading it much as I wanted to. I liken it to "Pack Mentally."
These Ordinary men did filthy violent things to people because they all did it. Whose going to stand up and say, "Stop it." Especially to the men giving the orders?
People are cruel fucked up beings and if...if you are lucky enough to meet a decent human being be grateful.
I am so happy to hear about your survival skills. I have just been frozen. Head in the sand.
💯💯💯💯
I have just left my partner and I'm just in a state of shock,like a shell please tell me it gets better
May the guy with PTSD trauma finds his way back to peace in his life. Prayers for you buddy
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Humanity is so damn lucky this man got himself healthy and stepped back into the spotlight to help all of us.
What do you mean? What was wrong with him that he had to get healthy? I don’t know his story but listening to him mesmerizes me. He’s so deeply intelligent and never used average words. I have to really focus to understand him. 😅
There are many of us.Thank you God!
Amen❤
Good and evil
Throughout all of human existence.
@@Dsiegel7he definitely has a story and I’m not sure exactly where he’s shares it. But he’s been through a lot which can explain why and how he’s able to touch so many others
@@Dsiegel7he was struggling with an addiction to doctor prescribed benzo's to the point he was hospitalized to detox and get off of them. He was prescribed them while he was caring for his wife while she was suffering with a cancer treatment.
@@Dsiegel7 I think it's fair to say that he was "thrust into the national/global" spotlight very rapidly - which was not something he had intended (imo). After 2-3 years of touring/speaking globally (his wife accompanied him in most all these travels), writing another book or two - he became known/famous - to a point that his every word/action was scrutinized. He became a large (social/political) target. As a result, his health/well-being began to slip a bit and he became dependent on a prescription medicine. Getting off that medicine (per his and his daughter's comments) nearly literally killed him.
As someone who valued his humanity from the beginning, my opinion of him (and his wife Tammy) were increased via his weakness. He'd been publicly 'pouring himself out' for others for well over 4 years and I suspect his "tank ran dry" temporarily. (ie: He had nothing left to give at that moment). I was genuinely worried for him and his family and I'm proud and happy FOR them that he/they've managed to work through it. Keep in mind, he owes no man anything. Sorry for the "TLDR".
Jordan is a man of great compassion. He really wants to help people.
I can't understand any of the hate he gets.
Because he wants to help people become more focused on their own sovereignty. Not so much dependant on governmental programs, corporate schemes and collectivist ideologies.
It's the shadow part of themselves those critics don't want to acknowledge. They want to think they're purer than others and he tells them frankly that they're not. And worse, that their self confident stances are actually for the manipulation and control of others, so not pure at all. They detest him for the truth he always brings.
@@barbarasherman4870 Wolves not wanting to admit they have teeth.
Jealous, insane NPC's are the ones who hate him.
Totally agree.
That dragon line is soo true. I had anxiety and depression problem last year and my psychologist gave me excercises at home. To bring up the things in my mind that made me sick (literally sick too my stomach) instead of avoiding them. And by doing that the anxiety and stress fades away. Avoiding the things you think will give you anxiety actually give you a lot more anxiety and stress.
FACE YOUR FEARS. Running away from them festers the Problems even more. We all have to eventually BEAR OUR CROSS. Bear it in the Present, when it is still manageable instead of Procrastinating it to the Future.
If the Problem is Overwhelming, BREAK IT DOWN into Small but Concrete Targets. Face them Independently & Crush them. How do you devour a Shark - One bite at a Time.
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Had never thought about that. But makes complete sense. Thanks for sharing
True, I went from being an outgoing, be out and about kind of gal to someone who has high social anxiety and now stays home all the time to 'escape'. I have no friends, barely any family, no life, this is what trauma has done to me.
What exercises?
Wow I felt it when he said “ almost everyone, who’s been traumatized, has been touched by their own malevolence or by someone else’s”
What does that mean?
@@Voicesunstoppabletrauma comes from somewhere ,either self inflicted or outside influence, going back to realize which affected you will allow you to adjust your outlook.
If you are stuck in a self inflicted loop you will never realize it if you think it's from an outside influence.
Likewise if it's an outside influence and you think you're doing it to yourself,you will never distance yourself from the source of your issue.
@@Voicesunstoppableit means that the human mind that has endured trauma due to extreme evil or “bad”, has a difficult time understanding and conceptualizing that someone can be this bad, something can happen this bad. We have difficulty processing the evil/the travesty/the bad event because it is literally beyond our comprehension. When we understand that in the world as a reality we can then assign a sense of “normalcy” to it, in the way that we stop assigning blame to ourselves because of it. When we understand that these things happen to other people, we can make more sense of it in our own lives..and therefore begin to heal. I hope this makes sense. ❤
Sitting at hospital right now. My wife and I went through 3 years of fertility treatment. January brought happy news of pregnancy. She started feeling I'll 4 days ago. 2 days ago my son was born with cesarian. 24+4 weeks of gestation... He's a warrior. I want to scream.
For short: healing needs a guided autobiography, then a process of active engagement (the opposite of involuntary stress), and then read a few malevolent books that universalize malevolence (if you don't have an advanced philosophy of good and evil, you have no place to put the content of malevolence) cuz people with trauma has usually touched some sort of malevolence.
Thank you for summary.
I just wanted to take a moment to express my admiration and appreciation for his work. The insights and teachings on personality and the human condition have been incredibly valuable to me, helping me gain a deeper understanding of myself and the world around me. His ability to convey complex ideas in a clear and relatable way is truly remarkable, and his lectures and books have been an inspiration to me.
His dedication to helping others and being a shining example of what it means to be a great teacher. He is exactly the type of MAN the world needs today.
Wow, I really like the way you write!!! Keep up the awesome work!!! 😁😄😎
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Your sentiments are echoed the world over!
Yes! Excited to see him speak live soon!
@@shaileshwaniya2581 NO. Really?
My Dad just passed away this week, I'm at my absolute lowest.
He said he doesn't want me to be lonely and that he doesn't want me to waste my life. That's kind of a pressure, how to not waste your life? He said he just wants me to be happy.
He's the best father I could have ever asked for and everything he did he done for us, his kids.
I love you Dad! And I'm sorry, I thought we had more time.
I thought we had more time too I miss ma and pa fiercely. Life went by so fast .
The Meditations by Marcus Aurelius (Gregory Hayes edition) will help you greatly. It's what helped me overcome the grief of losing my own father 🙏
I am very, very, very sorry for your loss, my friend. He'd want you to live the best life that you can. I hope you can take much solace in that as time goes on. Keep strong and be kind to yourself. I wish you all the best and everyone here who is struggling. God Bless. *Nods*
Thankyou everyone! I'm adapting to this new chapter in my life. All he ever cared about was that we're okay and happy.
I wouldn't wish this on anyone!
I'm just reminding myself how truely lucky I am to have even met him AND get to know each other, we were so close. He's with his parents now and he lives on through his children.
Here's to family! 🙏❤
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I'll check that out, I love the works of Marcus Aurelius!
I wish we had a leader like him nowadays.
I've been in my own hell for years now and there seems to be no end to it. Men like Dr. Peterson have kept my head above water just enough to hold onto some hope I'll get there some day.
May I also suggest to watch Fr Mike schmitz on UA-cam. Jordon Peterson and Fr Mike are two people I constantly listen for growth and better living
You will get there 100%
Hi, how are you holding up? Hope all is well.
@@thesoundofmellow2915 I'm alive. Thanks for asking. Hope you're well, too
Keep on keeping on. It works if you work it.
I held the dead body of my best friend Tyler Nixon on May 16th of 2007 too early in life to be able to deal with it properly. He overdosed in secret right next to me and he died while we were sleeping. He didn’t mean to I am convinced. But he did. And when I found him was hours later and he was blue with bubbles coming up out of his mouth and when I grabbed him and tried to help he was long cold and even stiff. That was the beginning of many horrible events in my own life. And almost my entire family died. And as I speak this text through my fingers if not for my own children I have only my mom left. All other family members have been destroyed. All known family are gone. Except my mom who is currently in hospice and not long to go away herself. It’s GOD who saved me via His Son who just so happens to be the Core and Source of all the art and beauty in my entire life.
YHWH bless you and keep you in Yeshua's mighty name of Nazareth!
Big soft 💜 comfort hug ❤
Amen 🙏
Same here.
Hope you’re doing ok mate. ❤
Dream interpretation is an excellent way of discovering the ghosts within.
To anyone reading this, the advice Jordan is giving works, I promise you. Thank you, Jordan. God bless you.
It used to
It's what's pissing off the psychologists!! It's funny how attached to money left wingers are. I was raised left wing. Jordan is correct. Don't put yourself in a box.
@@LukeSeeleygamertagisV3XChintzy this stuff is s lifelong process. feels like having to live 4 lives in one.
@@TheKlink what?...
Yes even if you apply a little, you can really see positive results. The woke wants to embrace your demons but Jordan is the one that gives concrete and effective advice on how to confront them day by day.
Jordan is such a good psychologist and a such a empathetic person🙏🏼
It is a LOT simpler than he suggests.
The ANGER is the Disease.
I love him ❤
People like him are really rare in our society which is kind of sad in a way
JBPeterson: "My message to the Hungarians
Do not rebel against your PM
Your leader is trying to restore the metaphysical foundation of the 1000 years old Hungarian empire
I would like to tell you a secret about Jesus and a secret about your PM. Another name for Jesus is Viktor"
Is he a vegatarian?
God bless this man does so much for us all 🙏🏻🙌🇮🇪💪🙌
Not for me, this whining McCarthy-era throwback and depressing Canuck mule braying his Judeo-Christian-Jungian dreck does NOTHING.
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Awhile ago I repented to God then begged for help, "I was until then an Atheist."
I then had a dream of Jesus coming before God and he spoke of the Tabernacle in perfect context, "A word I didn't know existed.", and what I felt from Jesus when I held him was unlike anything I've ever felt before - A lifetime of Love every second - It brought me to sobbing and it changed my life, forever.
I've had other experiences since, "Several witnessed", one was seeing a bright orb of light pass across my face in the dark, hours before a major surgery the second I gave up in my heart.
Know that God and Jesus ARE real and that they Love us. Let go of your hatred and Imagine yourself holding the people who've hurt you. Tell them you Love them.
Always have hope, I believe prayer, following God's laws & Love is the answer, and through that, becoming humble, merciful, welcoming, giving, and forgiving, To All.
@@narsakucanada154 Absolutely. Wonderful testimony
@@narsakucanada154 You were never a true atheist if you believe that tomfoolery
I have PTSD. The thing about knitting back together your idea of the world and yourself has been very helpful.
Yes that was so insightful for me as well. The idea that our internal narrative needs coherence as our view to the external world 3:13
How do you do it
Recently while logging my past traumas to find the root cause of my CPTSD I've found out my childhood was more traumatic than the entirety of my military service I conflict zones. That was a pill to swallow but it helped me to be clearer about where it all came from. I can accept those things that happened to me then, I was a boy, I didn't make these choices for these events as I had with military service. Writing down from childhood to now helped immensely on my road to mental health. Thank you. I have shared this with my entire VWF post and prior service buddies. Thank you Thank you 🙏
I read “ordinary men” in college and to this day I reference it as the book that changed my entire life. I could barely read the pages through all of my tears. It’s a must read, I can’t believe he referenced it here. I’ve never heard anyone else speak about this book. Thank you Jordan!
Was it too much to bear? I wanna read it but I am scared that it might be too heartbreaking for me, I already get depressed seeing the moderate suffering around me. I don't know if I should take this book up.
I just requested the book from my library
@@xo7454 what's was the name of the other book he suggested?... Can't seem to get him clearly...
@bst 911 49NT The Rape of Nanking... I also requested for this book from the library.
@bst 911 49NT There is an audiobook of Ordinary Men here on UA-cam. And there are some videos on the Rape of Nanking, but no audiobook.
The man was unsure you would give him the time of day with his question but you nailed a perfect reply, very cool..
Steve Hi! I was that man and I can tell you: I was blindsided by his generosity. He is a prophet and a wonderful human being. To be honest, I was so nervous that I asked DW to upload this so I could watch it time and again haha. More content on my recovery on my youtube - non monetized. Thank you for your amazing observation and comment Steve.
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I was just thinking this exact thing. He was compassionate and gave a wonderfully detailed reply.
@@Dar2liveI hope u are doing better, I will pray for you
@@Dar2live I hope you are still holding On and feeling much better. Thank you for being so brave. Lots of love from a stranger, all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤
Dr. Peterson , I’m sure this won’t be seen. But you truly have given me something that was buried and hidden so deep… it’s sad to say but these videos sometimes keep me going. Thank you
Thats not sad, thats wonderful. I hope you find the strength to keep going and enjoy it. Glad you're with us.
God bless you Justin; keep fighting 🙏
Life is hard, but we can and must find ways to keep going. Listening to Dr. Peterson biblical series helped remind me that regardless of our religious beliefs, we all have intrinsic value and are all capable of making the world a better place🙏
They really are great insights I can't stop watching and learning from them too.
@@helentaylor1222 I’ve been watching his content from the beginning, I stumbled upon it right before he challenged the Canadian Law C16. It’s truly been a journey seeing him basically with a webcam, to now where he has such a powerful platform and guests and his new stuff on daily wire as well. Watching a blue collar type man go from that, to now being such a force… because he espouses Righteousness and The power of Aiming High along with answering really the big question for my generation and below…. If we are giving up God , then we replaced it. And all the things we replaced it with are completely hedonistic and we’re left feeling completely empty and without encouragement or direction…. Jordan peterson came along and spoke to a deep part of my generation. He doesn’t realize how even if he changed one man’s life, it would ripple and cause good. He has changed so many peoples lives and the effect is my generation finally sees purpose, and there is no amount of gold that anyone would trade for meaning and purpose. He’s such a net good. Sometimes I think he doesn’t realize it lol
Hello, Jordan B Peterson. I am your New Subscriber and i liked your video, because it's full of Kindness. You're very Kind and Justice ✝️❤️
Years in therapy, and the approach of all my therapists has been the opposite of what he said, and the opposite of what I asked them for in therapy. I got worse, thanks to therapy. I knew why. I knew what therapy did wrong, and how they wronged me and hurt me. In the end they judged me as hopeless case, too much damage, and telling the insurance that I was not willing to heal. Since I stopped therapy, I got much better.
Me too. They don't know what Trauma is or how to help the traumatized person. I was judged a hopeless case also, but I knew they didn't know what they were talking about. It was clear to me they were doing the WRONG things to me and SERIOUSLY HURTING ME. I stopped trying therapy and got Better too. We won the battle. They lost.
Me too I am stuck in this torture ATM and my medical PTSD is being getting worse, due to ongoing medical bullying gaslighting and actual malevolence 😢
Therapy gave me a severe trauma and PTSD.
@evelynmonro7342 I've learned more from Peterson's lessons than I ever learned in therapy. To be fair, I didn't go to therapy very often, but I think some of that had to do with getting very little resolution from it. Therapists seemed to be more concerned with having you tell them how you feel about things and prescribing medication to get you through the day, rather than outlining a path towards self improvement. It's as if simply talking about your problems will draw all the conclusions we need for healing, while medication reduces the anxiety stemming from them. In some sense, that is how it works, but it takes far longer to draw any sort of long-term conclusions without offering methodology guidance. Becoming more familiar with Peterson's work has allowed me to catch up on years of painful mistakes and, at the very least, begin to work my way towards overcoming their effects. If I can offer any advice, it's to educate yourself (in your case, a focus on PTSD), as gaining insight on any topic will increase the likelihood that you'll be able to process your current situation and proceed in a positive direction.
Therapy can and does work if your therapist has extensive training in treating trauma. Big bonus points if they have had their own PTSD; THOSE are the ones that know it from the inside out and can speak the same language.
Yep. If you’re struggling in life, it usually means there is something you’re supposed to be learning. When We get burned, we tend to focus our attention on possible external factors. Then immediately blame others, before we think to examine what our own actions might have been to create the burn.
Woah the fking obvious 😂😂😂
Do whats needed not what your thoughts and feelings tell you like a animal
Stop being weak simple as but yall don't care unless society pretends to care 😂😂😂 People are zombies braindead
Jordan looks like an angel sitting there .. dad for us all 😢😭
most of the times, am unable to stop tears when jordan talks with such empathy and in equally encouraging comforting manner..
a dad i never had..
Literally my first thought
Me too...
@Kyra the only BEST!
This comment brought the tears just now because I agree, yes, exactly! I feel the same way.
@@theoriginalwaterbaby we all too, just like you !
Sending best wishes to the vet who asked this question. Hope it’s helped and he’s doing better. He seemed like a genuine, nice person.
X
The same to you.
This brought tears to my eyes just by seeing the pain in the gentleman’s eyes. I love Dr Peterson on so many levels. His compassion, integrity, intelligence and his gift of sharing to others in order to help others~brings me to my knees. I’m entirely grateful for the good in him, it brings peace to my spirit in troubled waters. Thank you Dr. Peterson.❤️❤️❤️
I was there that night sitting in the audience when this question was asked. Being a survivor of childhood trauma and having PTSD myself this really resonated with me and in my times of darkness these videos give me hope. F.J
Thank you Jordan for helping so many broken men. The world certainly needs more love, understanding and compassion. Men and women need to love and respect each other. Love and respect go hand in hand. ✝️❤️🙏🏻🕊
Trust me, there’s plenty of us women who appreciate and support his work too.
@@cosmo588 Yes 👍🏻
Awhile ago I repented to God then begged for help, "I was until then an Atheist."
I then had a dream of Jesus coming before God and he spoke of the Tabernacle in perfect context, "A word I didn't know existed.", and what I felt from Jesus when I held him was unlike anything I've ever felt before - A lifetime of Love every second - It brought me to sobbing and it changed my life, forever.
I've had other experiences since, "Several witnessed", one was seeing a bright orb of light pass across my face in the dark, hours before a major surgery the second I gave up in my heart.
Know that God and Jesus ARE real and that they Love us. Let go of your hatred and Imagine yourself holding the people who've hurt you. Tell them you Love them.
Always have hope, I believe prayer, following God's laws & Love is the answer, and through that, becoming humble, merciful, welcoming, giving, and forgiving, To All.
@@narsakucanada154 Welcome to the family. No one can ever take the love of God away from you. Romans 8:31 ✝️🙏🏻🕊👍🏻
Whoever chose the color scheme for this speech was a genius. As an artist myself, I couldn’t take my eyes off it. The grayed whites of his suits makes his flesh look more alive by comparison, and the backlight illumination outlines him and sets him apart from the shaded red and blue in the background. It gives the impression of intelligence and clarity, all while illuminating him in white light that makes him seem all the more pure and trusting. Simply magnificent, I’m gonna have to draw or maybe even paint him.
In another clip he talks about his 2 coloured suit, red and blue. a "heaven and hell suit". adds more meaning when the red surrounding the blue is supposed to be evil surrounding the good, and he's placed himself in the blue.
Having OCD you tend to notice and think about these things continously. Nice to see others think about it too and in better detail.
for what it's worth, he was such a good listener in person that I still use him as a sounding board in my imagination. When I try to make sense of a new idea that is still a little beyond my grasp, I try to make my case to him (in the theatre of my imagination). It's because I know he's really listening, I know he'll consider sideways ideas, and I know he will not be easily duped. I'm not bragging or something, (it's not that easy to wired like me honestly), my point is that he's that good of a therapist in person. For what it's worth he treated my daughter who was helping me with respect and kindness, besides asking me all about myself, my art, etc. I think I'll have to write a blog post or something some day about being in his company.
@@downeybill I checked out that website- you are really good! My grandmother was a classical oil painter- she is my inspiration. I mainly do charcoal for portraits nowadays, but when I can I’d like to mess around some more with oils and acrylics. Thank you for your reply!
@@goodtimberfarm I was thinking the same thing, but only after I wrote my comment. I watched a clip from his joe organ appearance and noticed the suit, and that made me think of this again.
Engage with the Dragon that Burned You-wow Jordan that is a message I will mediate on today. Praying for your health and continued strength and courage. You have been called for such as time as this-and those of us who follow and respect you know it is not without personal consequence. I hope you can find comfort in knowing how much we appreciate your voice in this world today.
I like it when JP talks about dreams. TY.
This man is phenomenal
This couldn't have come at a better time. I really needed to hear this today. Can't begin to thank you enough🙏
I think the knowledge that it helped you is likely thanks enough.
Good luck.
Same!!! Very much needed! Have an awesome amazing and spectacular day!!!!! You are amaaaaaazing!!!😁😁😄😄😎
I once saw someone describe Jordan Peterson as _"You're new stepdad, who actually loves you"_
As I went on to watch his videos I'd come to see why they said that.
This video is a good example of that ✨
This is the kind of content that hooked me to Peterson, and hope we can have a lot more like it. I will sit and listen to politics or religion to kill time, but what I, and I think others too are really looking for deep down is therapy in some form or another. We're all broken and we all feel we are less than we could be, and this is speaking directly to that extremely deep desire for purpose or towards a better life.
This, exactly this
Very well said. It’s so true!
I know that the man had studied and read a lot but the way he expresses thoughts, feelings and knowledge, the way that reaches any human brain understanding so that people can feel seen and understood is something to fall in love with. Fall in love with a human brain is beyond everything.
He is a mega genius, taught at Harvard and Univ Toronto, etc.
Indeed. I suffered a fraud by a “friend” in a business that caused me to lose everything and then to fall in depression and PTSD, distrusting people in general. It wasn’t until I randomly saw the story of slavery on TV that I understood how evil was universal, as Jordan says. This had a curative effect: I wasn’t special, I was actually being entitled by feeling that bad, compared to those people. The progress started since there and now I am now fully recovered.
Im so sorry to hear what happened to you. I lost an executive career, my home and mental health all at the same time. Was bullied by my employer for questioning the ethics of a policy, and “performance” managed to termination.
The shock, grief and anger and despair has been coming in waves for over 18 months now.
I read Viktor Frankl,s book : Man’s search for meaning, and had the same experience you describe, except it wears off after a week or so, and I’m back in the deep black hole. At the end of my tether
The end part about PTSD and malevolence is spot on.
I think the gut reflex of someone dealing with trauma is to avoid anything that reminds them of it, but that only contributes to a heightened fear response. This is why voluntary exposure therapy is so useful for people with anxiety. You're gradually confronting the thing that scares you and that (hopefully) creates a desensitization effect.
This is exactly right. In fact, it is true for most negative emotions. Whatever you attempt to suppress will come back with a vegance
thats why mushrooms should really be used for that
your fear is just gone and youll face eveything that you need to face at that moment because the mushrooms just guide you there .. if thats the real problem ..
@@L4Nigav Mushrooms are not the golden answer to healing. In fact such generalizations can seriously harm people. I don’t know about you but I certainly had a lot of fear when I took mushrooms and had I not already had control over my emotions and the clarity of self to bring myself through those emotions. I believe it could’ve been a very destructive experience.
The only true one size fits all answer to restoration and redemption is found in Christ.
@@Steven-ez7uk I agree with you that mushrooms might not be a solution for everyone. But you lost me when you then claimed that the only answer that fits all is Christ. Would you care to elaborate on that?
@@Steven-ez7uk steven so u reject shrooms as general application but then offer religion? Sonin ur view hindoes, chinks, spicks, sand niggers and 100mil other people are all going to hell cause they believe in some other deity and thats ur best advice?
I’m so glad he was able to heal! What a horrible thing! I had ptsd, but managed to overcome it. For most purposes.
Massage can help you.
God helped me with my ptsd. All the misery inside me miraculously went away.
Thank you
God is currently working in me to heal my ptsd from a chronic illness with no cure. I also have to give credit to Dr. Peterson as well, his insight and compassion really struck me and I'm so very grateful for all that he does.
I've been struggling a few years now. I was at a place of no hope care or answers for existence. Getting some help from my Dr and a lot of your videos and others have brought me to a place of hope and purpose. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I truly needed to hear things that may seem common sense to you. The world needs more people like u. I may have continued that path and it would have led to death. I was brushing past it's door. Forever great ful.
Jordan is the most empathetic Psychologist I have ever heard! He really takes the time to help so many people, especially with this kind of outreach. We are lucky to have someone like him to help keep things in perspective.
Thank you sir! ✨🙏🇺🇸
Wow. This is the first time I've ever even heard of someone else who sees the lines. The ones I see are vertical and they run up and down, looks like energy currents.. I've also been diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder and PTSD from years of abuse leading up to an assault where I was taken to ICU at a trauma center and narrowly survived. Dr. Peterson is so valuable. And he's right, also, writing has been one of the best forms of therapy for me. It's hurts and it's hard sometimes, but I think leaving the bitter roots buried deep in my core would rot me from the inside out. Facing the dragon is definitely necessary. And I feel validated hearing that maybe seeing the "lines" didn't mean I was crazy. Maybe I was just traumatized!! God bless you Jordan.🙏
I so appreciate your generosity, sir!
Beautiful how Jordan takes the extra time to help this man. I hope he gets the full healing that he needs
The guy payed 350 bucks to ask that question. Everyone around him did too
@@howiefelterup329 !!!!
@@jkileel I know because I went to this event in thousand oaks sunday this last week. its 371 for a front-row seat and Q&A. He didnt take extra time out for this guy. Its part of the deal to be able to ask him a few questions.
@@howiefelterup329 and now this guy's life has probably been changed forever. I'd say it was worth it. JP does this for a living, I don't get why people think it's a slant to reprimand people for charging for their services. We all do it. Plus, millions of people around the world watch his stuff on UA-cam for free. You'd be foolish to expect to not pay a premium to see him live and engage with him. I saw him in Philly for $80 last year, the venue has a say as well.
@@officialthomasjames I never said anything negative about him charging. I paid more than 4x as much as you to see him, so id be foolish to say anything negative about charging this fee. Who in this thread said he shouldn't be charging for his service? You are making shit up. I was merely pointing out that this question wasnt being answered simply out of the goodness of Peterson's heart. It was paid for. That's a fact, a fact that you seemed to be triggered by.
The venue is rented for a price paid for by the daily wire. They have no say in the price of the tickets beyond the asking price of the rent. If they charge 5000 to rent the venue, Peterson has to set the price of the tickets to make sure he makes that 5000 dollars back and then some profit. they dont actually set the price of the tickets themselves.
Remarkable man!
Edifice of humanity.
Tower of compassion rooted in true love.
Meaning of love = willing the good of others.
This is what this wonderful human being is all about.
It's so beautifully uncanny, how JP can articulate experiences of people who've gone through bad stuff with such empathy! 🙌
I struggle to explain my own trauma. He explains my own trauma than myself and it makes me appreciate him so much.😊
This clip brought tears to my eyes. The persecution JP faces today reminds me of someone else's who many of us have read about. Stay strong!
I love when you show a way of dealing with psychological problems that you used in your clinical practice, its so enlightening. Thank you, Jordan!
What a gem of a mind JP has, just wondering what a trip it must be for any ordinary Joe to live 1hr in JPs mind, so extraordinaly well arranged in a depth and breadth of knowledge and insights with such a fast brain. Im in awe everytime i listen and so thankful to be able to listen to this man.
Jordan=
You have no idea, how many times you've helped me find A WAY- to carry on.
You are a voice of sanity- in a very dark world.
Thank you sir.
To know that what has caused my suffering is not about me, but created by "causes and conditioning", itself frees and liberates. Thank you sir.
So much love for you JP...
The best description of trauma and how to address it that I have ever heard.
The smartest speaker out there !
The girl in the story is similar to mine. I was an adult who lost a child to the bully. It fragmented my perceptions a long time, pointless trying to express this to a person who has narcissistic personality disorder, he had me thrown in jail repeatedly for 8 hours the maximum holding time for when pathological liars convince police you are guilty of their crimes to cover their tracks. I felt infantile and defenceless against all these authorities meant to protect victimised women and kids, social work failed to look beyond the theatre or the fact my psychologically alienated son was saying what he was terrorised to say, despite saying the opposite four times to police when interviewed with me at his original home. I fear the magnitude of soul crime will never be acknowledged. I suffer cptsd and i have drug dependency on the horror of benzodiazepines, im going through that hell while at the same time totally impossible to express any of my feelings without being shamed and blamed for"ruining the family meeting with my son and narcy in a lot of ways or should I say just completely lacking empathy other supposed family. I really don't have a family in the traditional sense, narcissists make short work of destroying every connection to the scape goat. Despite the cheating etc he was this great family guy who seems untouchable despite the obvious destruction. A dragon so fierce and malevolent it will destroy the strongest consciousness, I was hearing my name called, I had delusional and invasive thoughts, none of which I'd ever had before the cptsd or the drug dependency on benzos. I was beside myself as any mother would be being told it was 18 months before a case hearing and no access to a kidnapped child being cavorted in front of me by my supposed replacement mother, no regard for my sons feelings or mine. I lost everything. A perfect question and answer for my situation, stuck in freeze response to ambient abuse that never ends. Bullied doesn't cover it, soul murder might.
I’m so sorry this happened to your son
♥️❤️♥️
Sending you big hugs! Take it a day at a time. Take your power back. Take care of you! Whatever that means for you!
Lay all that to rest. Your son deserves to rest in peace. He would want you to be strong and rise above it all and live glorified in his Name! Take your power back!!! You can do this and you will!
People will be whom they are, you can choose to separate yourself. You are not like them. Give this no more of your soul. Live free and happy! I truly believe your son wants you to!
God bless you~
Thank you for being so open with suggestions. I truly appreciate you. You are a gift to many people. They don't want any of us to better ourselves. They want us to stay asleep. You are waking people up. You are a blessing.
I just love doctor Peterson he's so dang good with everybody so down-to-earth with his amazing abilities I'm sure he'll go down in history is one of the all-time greats
I love how he ends this with putting good and evil in context. Thank you Dr. Peterson for bringing awareness and conversation around the Word of God.
I was utterly blown away from his answer to my question. I've had some beautiful moments since, including presence of 'spirit'.
Thank you, Dr. Peterson. Just found this response 3 23 24. Your time, devotion, and depth in your answer brought on the tears. Thank you for your compassion for helping this human among all your fellow humans you have helped, including me.
This is a great response. This falls line with my recovery process. It is so reassuring to hear validation of the moral injury that PTSD actually is. It has been an important practice to reimagine myself in this world. Learning to see reality for what it is and how it relates to the “dream” most people are living in. I recently heard someone describe reality as the reflection of your relationship with your physical body. Dealing with trauma can make me feel alienated, dissociative and alone. I have to take ownership of my narrative to continue to grow to be the person I am called to be. Sometimes it’s as simple as taking inventory of my senses.
We are so fortunate to have Jordan! Just listen and you can be guided in a better direction, his observations and tools to move forward with are priceless☆☆☆☆☆
Happy Friday Mr Peterson. Wishing you and the family well
Voluntary confrontation
Yes. I'm my current job i am required to operate a scissor lift to maintenance and install equipment in the ceiling. (Bay four is 30 feet high). It has taken four years, and I have very little problem now, working with heights. Before I was extremely intimidated nearly to the point of inability.
I faced it by considering it the dragon I must slay.
You CAN slay dragons.
You don't have to slay them though. Dragons aren't inherently evil. They are a bit tired of constantly being cast in that limiting role actually...
Humility is a virtue, you were humble and courageous to share with us .. and acceptance of what happened to you ... good and evil are experienced in life. As you heal, we all heal.
The man who asked this question has a really really unique spirit and I’m very impressed with his ability to understand and work through his ptsd. I also have ptsd and it’s a war you absolutely can win. Stay strong 💪
So much respect for what Dr Peterson is doing. This is one of my favourite clips.
I have cptsd and at some point struggled severely.. especially to read and form verbal words. I would sometimes sit with what happened and make sure I feel what it is I needed to feel until one day it had no effect on me anymore. This is when I realised that other trivial things that used to bother or trigger me, doesn't have any effect on me either.
Thank you 🙏🌻
I've had a similar experience. Putting things into words just wasn't an option for a long time (and trying to actually made things worse, especially since there was deep and wide ranging paranoia in the mix). Allowing myself to feel is what gradually dissolved a lot of issues (and, in my case, it's taken some mind altering substances to even be able to get past all the solid defenses). We live in a world that's very focused on the intellectual mind, and therapy involving word processing just doesn't work for everyone, at least not in the initial phases.
Such a thoughtful and compassionate response- real tools for real suffering.... as well as long term ways to engage with coming to grips with realities of evil in the world and in self
It is funny that alot of what Jordan Peterson says is something I knew long before I ever heard him speak. Only I couldn't say it in this professional manner. But I do believe we all know as humans what's up and we would be able to analyze the problems. However alot of people refuse to do so and rather live in their comfy bubble of lies, alot of people are also damaged beyond repair by what happend to them and they simply need somebody else to tell them what to do. It's fascinating that every one of us has the right answer in him, yet so few people can actually dig it out.
Thank you Dr Peterson for this wonderful explanation of evil. I was naive for a long time and was done in when confronted by malevolence. By realizing that we all have evil in us, I'm not as shocked when I see people act in what I perceive to be hateful ways.
same here, i could" withstand tragedy" but malevolence nearly did for me. im my own way i think i"Engaged with the Dragon that Burned you" by trying to face it. Now i understand it better and know it doesnt come with" horns and a pointy tail' what we were told evil was as kiddies but in forms that can appear as benevolent.
Prayers with u & your family I am hear a lot is going on in your life. Thank you for your work over the years. You are an amazing person Jordan.
Wow. Simply wow. @vetandsirens - SO GLAD you asked that question...with your background and experience...giving JP the opportunity to engage with your situation...and...with so many of the rest of us needing to hear something of his response, too. Sooo grateful. And, I hope you find the supports you need or that you can mine the insights offered you here, as you continue your recovery. Best, nj
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.sporesss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is. dr.sporesss
Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
Wow! This gentleman is incredibly brave to have asked this.
Thank you Dr Peterson.
The things you touched on are things I have told my counselor. The mirror, evil, chaotic thinking, fear of people. I have come a long way in many areas and even recently finding out I have trigger words. My recovery process is at maslow's 3rd tier. I havent found belonging. I have accepted I am a nomad. In my 2 churches that has put me in a strange place because I wont join either as a member. God has shown me that I am like Paul, I dont belong to anyone. I will be baptized and serve both. I have bonding issues and can not get over what I see in people . I see them, not just their physical presence. Maybe self authoring would help, I do own the book ordinary men, I haven't read it yet. Thanks for this help
I know that this man holds himself to the work he suggests as a solution. He is who he is because of his own experiences, but he makes us all feel capable of reaching this inner peace.
As a fellow Vet I am happy you asked. You did a lot of as a great service with your courage. You spoke for a lot of us who would not have gotten the chance to…..
Can you give an example for the kind of trauma you go through? Is it about what was done to you, done to others that you witnessed, that you did?
@@zurechtweiser what was done to me. It was not the original injury that really caused the issues, shit happens. It was the absolute hell and poor treatment waiting for me when I got back home. You become a disabled man without family and become a second class human.
@@robgoins3672 Having a family might not have helped you either. Ultimately it is about your own efforts to solve your issues.
@@zurechtweiser how kind of you to assume I was the problem or I created the issue. But I understand that mindset. Do more, be smarter, work harder. When you become disabled brother you can’t always do more without help. You can do even less when people are not held accountable for not even doing the job they are paid for. I hope your life stays exactly the way it is so you never have to know what I am talking about. I would not wish what I have experienced on anyone….
@@robgoins3672 That is not what I wrote.
God I wish I would have found Jordan Peterson years ago!!! Maybe I could have had a life worth living. My 21 year old son is all I live for. Love you Jordan Peterson
Mr Peterson Thank you for clarifying, and teaching us to deal with difficulties in life 😊
I have listened to JP for a long time. This was one of his best responses.
That was brilliant Jordan Peterson! I could have listened to you the rest of my evening 😅
This is excellent advice. I strongly recommend the self authoring program, it’s not expensive and I found it extremely helpful to come to terms with a whole lot of trauma from my past. Narrating your own story gives a chance to digest it better and also identify things you missed before. I wouldn’t suggest a war veteran is “to blame” for their experiences, but it’s still helpful to think deeply about “why that happened and why it affected me so much”. Very grateful for Dr Peterson’s wisdom, the level of insight in these impromptu Q&A segments of his recent tour was astounding.
Yep definitely going to do this soon! Well done its a brave thing to do, to even want to understand yourself is an awesome exercise.
Such a bloody good man. With a bloody big heart and mind.
Beautiful human Jordan Peterson
I suffered a LOT in my live and still do, my final conclusion to all this is life is beautiful, short, worth of living, I'm strong, I forgave everyone, I don't take it personal anymore, I move on...and I DONT CARE.. DRAGON IS THERE, LET IT BE, IT GETS TIRED and bored of teasing you...I'll die as an OLD being... happy with my sword down
God bless him he has helped me when I here him talk its so emotional it hits me in my soul
This man is helping so many people Amen🙏
Femininity:
1 - Accepting; receiving: YOU ARE THE DIVINE FEMININE. YOU ARE THE QUEEN.
2 - Communicating your needs. Speaking Up. RADICAL HONESTY.
3 - Choosing a partner who wants the same Life objectives/values...
If you're avoidant,
you most likely have said to family members
- who had a major role in your childhood:
"You only accepted me or liked me
when I was happy/obedient/emotionless."
This one simple statement fits with ALL
the core symptoms
of avoidant attachment:
1. Being overly self-reliant
(and in doing so, you hide your needs, emotions, problems, and acute illnesses)
2. Pushing down anger until it explodes
and manufactures the boundaries you crave
but can't always ask for
3. Not wanting to burden others with your problems
4. Wanting to fix your own issues to avoid looking incompetent
or even getting bullied and teased/mocked
5. Numbing out emotions with self-soothing behaviors
that are either totally unhealthy or pseudo-healthy
(like getting addicted to working out and healthy eating)
Remember ALWAYS
this process is all about YOU!!!
Not him.
He is just a catalyst.
Consider,
he may be your twin flame.
Look into that.
After he initiated your trauma,
you're now left to deal with
and to heal: all that has come to the surface.
GOOD! This is a blessing.
Albeit painful.
A necessary blessing, nonetheless.
HUGE-HUGE gift!
Major advice!!!
Listen closely!!!
NEVER ever
CHASE HIM.
He will run further
and you will lose yourself more.
You are the feminine.
You are the divine goddess.
You just be
and approve (or disapprove)
whoever comes along.
It's a yes: you meet my requirements,
or: it's a no,
you do not.
Be clear
on whom you're accepting as a partner
and DO NOT settle for less
(or you just delay what's meant for you).
Accept your struggle, anxiety, fear, sadness. Whatever comes up.
It's all human, and in need of your attention.
If you push it away, block it, or run from it...
You will just have to deal with it later...
1) Put yourself first and foremost!
2) Fall in love with yourself. Be your own dream girl.
Glow up and level up. Be the best version of yourself.
3) Rejection is redirection. Embrace the energies of miraculous possibilities.
And,
Any time you have a painful thought/memory/flashback/worry/belief:
1. Find the belief...
2. Write 11 DISADVANTAGES to having the belief
3. Write 11 ADVANTAGES to having the belief
If you can NOT find advantages
then that’s EXACTLY why you're stuck!!
When you finally see both sides...
Your mind will STOP thinking about it
'cause your brain will be rewired.
So you gotta keep at it,
until you find the positive
to the negative...
And therefore, ultimately
rewire your brain!
AND REMEMBER:
STOP making it all about manifestation
when really, it's actually all about VIBRATION!
If you haven't heard today...
You are so very loved
and you are so very worthy
of love.
The hardest part
is learning to love yourself
and to know: it's not all your fault,
and to see: that you're beautiful;
wonderfully perfectly
brilliantly created.
You're stronger than most;
a true leader/warrior in the making.
Keep going
and keep thanking.
Remember Jesus was an outcast
and he suffered more
than any human being
could ever endure...
And the most important message here is to forgive them
and to forgive yourself
and to love all.
Keep walking in truth.
One of the great poems of the Zen tradition
ends with this description of the awakened state:
“To be without suffering over imperfection(s).”
AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER:
I am one with the Divine.
I experience, peace, BLISS, love, and joy:
CONSTANTLY AND CONSISTENTLY.
I experience everything as grace AND AS LOVE.
I am at peace. I honor the Divine within me.
Thank you for this.just had a particularly nasty verbal attack from my ex partner in tears right now 😢 thank you for your advice I have screenshot your comment so I can read it whenever I feel low
Finally someone with real understanding! Every medical person treating PTSD should listen to this!
I had severe, treatment resistant, complex PTSD from a lot of stuff overseas including 2 assassination attempts. Multiple independent psychiatric assessments and full medical board said I had no hope of any meaningful recovery and I was classified as Total and Permanently Disabled.
My life now is very different but it is genuinely awesome. If you’re currently wrecked by PTSD - you have a future and it CAN be awesome too.
Dr Peterson highlighted 2 of the things that helped me. Deliberately facing things that triggered me every day - wisely! Small, gradual, deliberate, exposure to things and then reflecting a little bit on that. Being in a supermarket aisle eventually didn’t tell my brain I was back being hunted and trapped.
We’re constantly told discomfort is bad. That is the most destructive thing you can believe. Discomfort is our friend. Without discomfort we can’t grow, adapt, re-program in any way mentally or physically.
Coming to understand general malevolence / evil and de-personalising it was also huge for me.
One critical thing I would add, which Dr Peterson didn’t mention, is coming to understand my true identity and where my self worth truly comes from. Only the creator can attribute actual worth to a creation, so understanding that fundamental truth transformed me. The infinite Gd who created everything that exists out of nothing wants personal relationship with me, and you. He took on human flesh and died horrendously in my place, and yours, to allow that eternal relationship. That is what truly defines our worth. The fact that we have the free will to choose to ignore or accept that is a mind-boggling revelation about who God is.
I’ve done some self authoring in the past which was helpful but am going to buy the self authoring course he mentioned so I can work more on that aspect.
I told a bit of my story and received a complimentary personality test from JBP !!! Sadly I didn’t see the email, and didn’t do the test. 😂 I really should have.
That was some time ago too. Before his books. 😂 I’ve always enjoyed his work though.
Peterson’s approach to healing & growth is accurate, but also it’s important to include the kind of service and hard work that you can orient yourself toward, or aim at, that also can put the past way into the past & move you forward. In my experience, you’ve got to be slaying both the inward dragon as well as the dragons out in the world. After a while it becomes a rhythmic thing and as it changes you for the better, it changes the world around you for the better.
Excellent answer ! My father, that lives with us , has had agoraphobia and panic disorder for my entire life. I have been with him on many visits to the psychiatrist office as a child. Understanding for the most part the problem, but not their solution, cause non of them address the issue spirituality, but only with meds like Paxil and clozapam. They didn't display the virtuous Understanding that you have and one that he visited for 15 years eventually committed suicide himself! And that was my final proving point with my father. He now calls me first instance he feels bad. To talk. Works everytime! He still takes the meds tho.
I had a horrible childhood and suffered for most of my life with complex PTSD, I went to a therapist for QEEG and EMDR and it worked wonders!
Peterson = great humanitarian & legend
Incredible. I was doing this today just to experiment. Thank you Jordan Peterson for teaching me to think properly, for there is a lot more to work on. Thank God
Thank the maker for him being on the planet while we are here!
I had an 'ah ha' moment of insight as I listened to this, realising that I very regularly have dreams that involve many people from highschool. Perhaps some of my struggles are because there is a part of me who is still stuck in that age, that part of my self concept has not yet grown to where I am now
Perhaps willingly and actively looking at that part of me before bed could be a way to move through what has been stuck, rather than just experiencing the intrusive feelings, thoughts and memories of shame that plague me throughout the day
I'm going to try it!
Thank you Jordan :)
i had that same aha moment reading your comment. so, thank you. 🙏🏼
I dream about high school and grade school often. Terrified of seeing those girls and has made me hyper sensitive and paranoid. Thank you for your comment.
Same