I used to have a lot of friends but realized that they were not friends. They were envious and dramatic people. Some of them are users too. I got too exhausted from them. I’m in my 30s. I consider others as acquaintances. I only have my family, bf and dogs. I’m an introvert too. Not everyone is blessed to have good friends
Same only I'm in my 20s. Family, husband, cats. I tried to do the socializing and having friends thing as a teen but found I was way happier without them.
@@emilyc4351 im an introvert to to me it sucks because people expect to be yourself and then i wonmder it is so stupid to even mentioned that it is no true if im extrovert that means im going against my personality and it is sickening that people accept extrovert more often than introvert we can be fun to hang out to but no extrovert always get the better end .
thanks for this video, and for saying there’s nothing wrong with being an introvert. it’s an important message - for the longest time i was convinced it was impossible to get a job as an introvert and that i would be a failure, but it’s not true at all. embracing being an introvert is the best! i do feel alone sometimes and that’s okay too, i think finding balance is the healthiest thing to do :)
Kudos for talking about this. I have had a lot of friends and recently celebrated a birthday and the only people there were my mom and dad. Life is not always what it seems to be.
Same. The difference is that I am 32 and never had any friends. I even never had a girlfriend. I am completely alone. With my night shift job I am completely isolated.
Great thing about of being alone is you can do virtually whatever you want and go anywhere you want. I need some social interaction, but I also NEED to be alone here and there.
I'm glad you've realized what kind of a person you are and good with it.I can definitely relate to how you feel cause I'm the exact way.I'm 44 and never been big on having friends or anyone to talk to cause I myself enjoy being alone and doing whatever I want, how I want,and when I want.Thats the best thing about being alone is that you're in control of your life,living environment,and your money.Plus you got nobody to bother you or to argue with or share anything with and best of all nobody to spend your money on! A word of advice since you're still young and still have your whole life ahead of you,Stay how you are and find a good career to keep you busy and distracted from loneliness and depression cause believe me it can catch up to you as you age. And one more thing Don't Have Kids! It saves you alot of stress, problems,and money! Good Luck
I don’t have many true friends. about 3 people plus my partner and mum. I believe in quality not quantity and I keep my circle small and supportive. You have a beautiful soul and deserve people who match it. I’m sensitive too and Many emphathic people are exhausted by other peoples vibes. Aloneness can be a huge gift and I do find other people very very draining. I love my alone time. Being happy is about being yourself….Enjoy💕💕💕Sending love🙏🏽💛💛💛🌈✨💫
I know that feeling. I'm introverted asf. I depend on myself. Sometimes you just need to do you. If you are happy the way you are embrace it. I'm in the same boat. I wear it as a badge of honor. The funny thing about it. It gets people bent out of shape 😅. If it works for you. Be proud of it!!
I had friends, i was social, i was never shy, i moved from my country to another country when i was 13, its been almost 6 years, im now almost 19, and i was not able to build a social life,not ONE friend, mainly bcz of language barrier that makes me feel embarrassed, i for some reason even ghosted my friends in my home country and I don’t think we are friends anymore lol, now I literally know NO ONE, LITERALLY, with covid 19 lockdown I developed social anxiety lmao now I can’t even make friends bcz i spent all my day at home, besides school home and the gym I don’t go anywhere, I don’t have experiences to talk about
Many young people nowadays just like being akone. Some were ruin by the phones and others just had the same old bad experiences throughout their youth that made them that way.
I'm too very introverted. I absolutely love my time i spend by myself. In my class, or any other places, i usually stay alone and do my thing, with peace, and i enjoy that..until some of my classmates and other people say that being introverted is just a "double-faced" thing, and that it's not even a thing, you shouldn't be quiet and act all introverted, and i don't even know that where did they get it from¿..and they'd just constantly force me to keep talking and interacting (though at the same time, won't even listen or care to what i say)..though still i try to maintain my peace even then, this had let me to think a lot that why am i like the way i am.. much later i realized it's totally normal to be that way
Anyone with the charisma to do a video like this ain’t gonna be short of friends. Remember, people that you’ll never see again love you and think of you.
Y'know, I used to think there was something wrong with me because I DIDN'T make the effort to hang out with people outside of work and school. I like people, I generally get along with everyone, and have no problem with making conversation, but...never, and I mean NEVER, made the effort to actually build a long-lasting friendship. I just never wanted to become disappointed if they let me down. True friends are hard to find and most people in your life are gonna come and go. I just saved everyone the trouble and never tried. Yes, I do have days where I become envious of the friend groups I see out in public, but as soon as I get home, those feelings go away. 💨 I thrive on being alone and having a better relationship with myself. I think having enough alone time is necessary for everyone.
@@Banzo_ either way it was not my intention to try and come off as "different" I guess I must have worded my comment poorly, I was simply just trying to state that I hate going out and seeing the "normal" kids of my generation and their friend groups because they remind me of what I don't have, I hope that helps clear things up
Im in 20s and im going hell,, and im active person but sadly i find my self no friends no familly to trusted... I feel lonely... But inside me i love life and but people dont accept me the way iam they think iam terrible person but iam not... But the hard part when my family comparing me to other people then i started losing myself the real me... I dont know how to make myself happy anymore...
introvert here, having friends is mentally draining for sure but with all its fun and giggles its honestly worth it. but i cant hangout everyday tho otherwise i'd die lol
Criticism coming from a place of love: Having no friends sucks. But I get what you're saying. I think you should reconsider what 'friends' 'and 'socializing' mean to you. I mean, making a big ass UA-cam video is definitely a kind of socializing. Coming out of school, a lot of people have ideas that you have to comform to some kind of norm, that socializing means you need to like parties or do whatever is popular. What I'm saying is you shouldn't give up on other people. But you should start looking for connections in other places, that are more in your element. For a lot of people, that's college and a career, where things start to get a lot less dumb, as you start to find more people on a similar path to you. There's also romance, which is awesome, again, once you find the right kind of people and the right paradigm.
thanks, I appreciate this! since making this video I have found a few “friends,” who I met in clubs/organizations at my college. so yeah we share some common interests/values and they’re dope people. my time is the most valuable thing to me, so I’m very picky about how I spend it. i do enjoy their company very much, but I only have it in me to hang out here and there. I’ll always prioritize that me time. i do have a special partner and we both are similar in that regard, so we lay low together :) I think my main point is that sometimes it’s really hard to find the right people. and until then, or if you simply don’t mind being alone, it’s okay to do that.
My son is similar to you. In fact he is quite successful because he began creating products which began from always being alone which he says helps and grows his imagination and creativity. Especially when there are no distractions or any other people he needs to explain himelf to or whom perhaps would of spoken unkindly and negatively toward him at times when some ideas or new products didn't work out or fair well. His main residence/home has a gym, indoor sport field and a creative floor with machines such as 3d printers and cnc machines to even t-shirt design nd making stuff all just for his own fun wearables and he finds not even having to travel and be in a gym around other people much better for him and far less draining and taxing on his system. Its kinda like ironmans cave where he builds things, my point beside what seems like the humble brag 🙄 sorry, is that being alone can be a really positive experience, which leads to a fulfilling and rewarding life. He says he just wishes he could meet a lady similar to him who likes and needs her own space as much as he does. Most woman he dated seemed more interested in trying to move the relationship along fast and some after just a few short months even insisted on living together to move into his place. So now he feels most women sadly see him as a means to an end and he finds it hard to trust or date anymore. Now my son often says he has had many fond days instead on his own because at the end of those days he felt it was filled with purpose and productivity, and continues to have days like those. Best of wishes to you and all the introverts and sigmas. My son to me is more a sigma male than anything else actually asI realised over the years trying to research why he was (well is), so different but happily unfazed or unaffected by being so different and on his own
I do have friends back day fake people nowadays. me and god best thing that happened to me got save when mom pass-way my friend never call me or check on me roll one deep I have pace in life
My daughter is 15 and extremely intelligent. High IQ. Has had friends but not many. She finds it difficult to maintain friendship because she really enjoys her alone time. Also, anytime we go on vacation she loves going away but will require a few days to decompress afterwards. Any tips?
I still find it difficult at times, so I can’t offer much. I actually found out two years later that I’m autistic. I really relate to the needing hours/days to decompress after big events, social or otherwise. I don’t think it’s a bad thing - she sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders!
It's not a bad thing tbh when I was younger I thought I had lots of friends now I'm 35 and realise I have 2 real friends , you have figured it out early 👍👌
Why I look to god for friend. At lest he ain't going stab you in the back or drop you like you're nothing. Lonely darn road it is but I am willing to take because I'm at the point in my life that only one I could trust and knows loves me is God and my Kitten cats.
I became really sad and depressed for not having any friends to call or talk to at all and I actually feel somewhat better that there are other people out there who can relate to what I’m going through right now.
@@brisbreathing Thing is though, I don’t know whether I’m just not meant to have any friends?that’s what I always wonder and ask my self sometimes too.
@@darkstar7128 I get that. I know I personally used to feel like I was too different, too this or too that, and that meant I was supposed to be alone. But these are limiting beliefs my friend. You can be what ever you want to be. And know that there are people out there like yourself. Sometimes it’s just harder to find them.
As same as you are really sad ; will you want to get along with me ? You can write down your instagram and we can have a good chat or your instagram , hangout or any chat websites
I'm an introvert and I haven't any friends either. I grew up thinking something was wrong with me, too. But I only learned about introversion in the last decade and have embraced my solitude with great relief. You are an AMAZING young lady!
@@iiCounted-op5jx im an introvert and i have social interaction every single day, being introvert doesnt always means that ur shy. it just a personality term, u rather grow up introvert or extrovert
as 28 i can relate. ive had few friends back when i was in military but ive lost them and now i live alone having contact with no one and to be honest its much great than being with toxic people or being involved in drama every single time, so its not really as bad as i thought it would be.
Hang in there... I'm 34 years old. People have come and gone throughout my whole entire life.. whilst others lasted for many years. When I went no contact with my toxic family.. and they turned on me. So I've been socializing with others.. but for the past 2 years I have had no friends in real life. But I know that is going to change.. and I will have the right friends. May you be blessed in everything you do.. including finding a loving partner, if you want one.
I have 0 friends. I get really sad about it but I know I will be ok. It just sucks not having anyone to call or hang with. I wish I had at least someone to vent to in life but I don’t have that. On the plus side, I can relate to you a lot, I like being alone sometimes too and when I used to go out with my “group” I got really bored and tired and just wanted to go home and chill. But I still get upset about not having anyone anymore since I’m out of school and everyone moved on in life and now I’m just a single guy that works with nobody to talk to.
and hey, if you’re really down about it you can work to put yourself out there. it’s hard at first, but it’ll get easier with practice. either way you got this :)
@@brisbreathing that’s a good point cuz I’m a huge introvert and I just feel awkward talking to people but at the same time I want someone to vent to and talk to and it’s really hard at first. And also thank you!!
I'm going through this too . Do you have instagram or hangout ;you can drop them and I will contact you so we can express our emotions and share moments together
im going 19 this year i have no friends, i dont have anyone to talk to and the people i did just stopped talking to me, i do have social anxiety but i want to socialize because im lonely but going out with people makes me exhausted and irritated i dont like people but i want to like people
This video has been recommended to me when I'm in the exact phase of my life. I had friends..??! But being with them I couldn't be myself I mean I was afraid they wouldn't like me for who I was so i pretended to be someone else not the real me. I cried a lot, almost every night and sometimes tears would just come down when I was alone..in my deep thinking. I always wished for a not many friends but only one best friend.But now I'm at home it's been a month I've graduated from high school and I'm planning on changing everything, like new life new friends new everything. And i don't even want to have any connection with them therefore I'm not using any social media now not even whatsApp because I just don't wanna be in that environment again. YT is the only social platform that I spend my time on and enjoy. This video and all the comments down here have really got me to think that I'm not the only one without friends and it's really ok without having friends. I think it's healthy. And I find peace being on my own and talking to God especially when I'm on the roof of my house staring at the night sky. This is really beautiful. Indeed the best feeling in the entire world.
i’m actually convinced that i’m the loneliest person alive. i have literally nobody and i fucking mean it..i also have an inability to connect with people, i used to have one good friend in high school but i never felt like i could trust her on a personal level. 2 of my cousins were also kinda close to me but everything changed in 2019-2020, everything fell apart, i just want to have a genuine connection with someone :/
Sorry to hear about that. But I understand where your coming from I have no one besides myself and it’s been like that since my teenage years. I tried to connect with people and make friendships but no one seems interested in making a connection. Its gotten to the point where I do everything alone and somehow it doesn’t bother me as much anymore. From time to time I realize I’m lonely but I tend to distract my mind from it with something else. I just have a set schedule I follow on a daily basis and it’s been that way for years I just know when someone does want to make my acquaintance and tries to make me attend a social gathering I just feel completely thrown off and feel weird. I guess I feel that way because I just have completely given up on making friends and I prefer on being alone since it’s always been that way. It wasn’t a choice of mine I picked but that’s the path I followed since then
I don't think it's healthy to have no friends but the definition of "friend" can be rather fluid. Some people think that friends are the people you hang out with regularly and you go shopping or clubs or whatever the kids are into these days. For an extroverted person, that's actually a reasonable definition. For an introvert the definition could just be somebody that you trust and you can tolerate sharing a space with even if just briefly. You should have at least someone you trust and can confide in outside of your immediate family.
And here we go. The one extrovert who goes "That's not healthy" whenever someone makes a video about living life on their own. Gotta be at least one of 'em.
@@yeayeayeah933 Well every extrovert thinks that way. Extroverts think they know everything and they love that they "know" everything so they have to tell everyone everything they "know" because they love the sound of their own voice. So glad I don't have to feed off people's presence in order to survive like an extrovert.
wooooow it so hard to go through life with no friends. i have never had a friend, and im 40. omg i feel so hurt, lol. grow up. you dont need friends >.>
For me, it is the opposite. I would like to talk to people, approach people, but I am too shy and anxious. But I do not like shallow people with no depth. I am not in for superfical relationships.
It's ok. For me I don't really care and it doesn't bother me at all. You'll see that later people tend to annoy, irate us and drain you and also take from you. I usually enjoy the comfort of my own peace and solitude.
I’m 20 and I have yet to find a friend. I’m in cosmetology school and had a mental breakdown from having social anxiety. I’m trying to embrace being alone and being okay with that. Hopefully therapy will get me the help I need be able to not stress over it.
I have no friends too. It's terrible and feels so painful. But i have never given up. I thought something is wrong with me. I thought I am not sane however i am keeping on going on my life. I love being alone but i hate to know that i could be alone forever. I wish I could have a good friend.
I like being alone too and I'm 55. I really was never the type of person that has to be in a crowd. I like to think, have peace of mind, imagine, create, and it can be fun. My social life ended when I was in my thirties. God Bless everyone and everything!
I am at that stage since the last 5 years and its great not having to emotionally support anyone anymore and listen to them go on and on...The last woman I dated kept talking about her dead bf and got upset if her daughter didn't reply her texts immediately...So off putting...
@@rodfrancis9160 Sometimes, friends can bring a person down. Not always though. Through my years of experience I find that friends who don't listen, or its all about them, no one deserves that baggage in their life. Good friends give moral support, and they listen. I have been in situations before where I've mentioned some things, and my friends were like "why didn't you tell me"? It seems like the only thing that matters is them. When I am a good friend to someone, they know it. Sometimes, people can suck the life outta ya if you let them! Emotional vampires.
@@rodfrancis9160 That would be terrible! I don't really care for cell phone communication in a restaurant unless it's an emergency. Stuff like that can wait. You know? Many people are missing opportunities cause they could me married to their phones. Why not look a stranger in the face and just say hi? I live in Tennessee and my parents taught me southern manners years ago. Either that, or get my butt tore up. Lol!
@@karladuncan4026 So true,I was in the London underground tube network and every single passenger was looking into their cell phone, apart from myself and I was able to look at my surroundings and it was a lovely sunny day,quite rare for Englands climate .
Hey girl 👋 I want to say you're beautiful 💟 ... sometimes Just go with flow n enjoy the smallest things of your life you have a worl to explore ahead you universe doesn't revolves around school and college
At 19! lol reminds me when I was this young, I used to be dramatic and actually care what people think and that I should have a million friends and party and bla bla. I should live the LIFE, right? Dear, step 1: None of that is important, forget it. If someone considers this "losing" in life... Well, I feel sorry for them, and chances are they're describing themselves. Too much of friends and craziness and trips and whatnot is a waste of VALUABLE time at this golden age of energy and productivity. Which brings me to step 2: Make money. Focus on making money, and you're automatically a winner. Money brings happiness, friends, health, traveling the world, etc. MONEY MONEY MONEY. Focus on it, ONLY 😂 But maybe you're already rich... doesn't matter. Still make money. Work is awesome. Life is work. But friends?! They can come at ANY stage in life, there's no rush. All the best! Edit: wrote my comment before watching - I like your confidence, and it's awesome that you're good with that. Because it's true; there really is NOTHING wrong with that. People can have fantastic social skills, exceptional charisma, etc. and still choose to not have friends. Perfect! Family is enough, and friends can come at anytime, lol. It's a massive world filled with infinite people.
I have friends, but I have two other friends who I consider my brothers. You can have a big group of friends but you’ll always have either one or two of those people to be your best friends, the closest ones to you.
There indeed is nothing wrong with you. There are a lot of people who prefer to be alone on a Saturday night as opposed to hanging out with others and always doing stuff in group settings. You're not "lonely" by any stretch when you're by yourself reading a book or something to that extent. I'm a lot older than you but still very similar. The irony is that people perceive me as a super affable, funny, flirty, socially dominant and confident person, when in reality I prefer quiet time by myself instead of hanging out in large groups - even if I can be the life of the party for lack of a better word.
Same! 29F no friends. No boyfriend, no kids. Can be a bit lonely sometimes but luckily I have my sister and my introversion. I also have social anxiety. But, I do feel okay and “content” not having friends. Despite occasionally being lonely and thinking “oh I wish I had someone to go kayaking with”. I think the societal part is hard. Like when my boss asks me “hey, did you hang out with your friends this weekend?” It’s a triggering question. I feel a jolt since it’s so “expected.” All I can answer is “….no….I was busy working on my house anyway….”
You are not alone, God preserves those who are precious to him. Most people don't deserve to have you in their life to be completely honest. You are loved and CHOSEN by GOD. Jeremiah 29.11/ Proverbs 3.5/ Psalm 23/ Isaiah 54.17/ Romans 8.28. 💫😘
i have no firends by choice, most people are just in your life to use you one way or the other. i used to have many friends when i was in high school but i realised that with many friends you save no money and most likely to develop a bad habit like drinking,drugs and smoking.
see for me, i have a lot of acquaintances and long lost friends. and ppl who are my age are focused on career, marriage, kids. i mean come onnn. im not worried. or hurt. im an extrovert and introvert.
I had friends, life took us our separate ways. I'm a sworn enemy of slave masters and pedo pimps and like Shaft, its a lonely life. Even now I'm being spied on; I got an eye in the sky, storm clouds too.
When I was a teen, my peers were so flaky and shit, it was hard to make meaningful friends. What I did is to hang out to international kids, not only were I interested in learning their culture, food, customs etc. but I also made fantastic close friends and I hang out with.
hey bri :) thank you so much for sharing these words. it's so soothing to hear you being so unapologetically honest and self-loving in spite these traits being stigmatized. it's so beautiful and helpul (:❤as a child, my mom made me think that being this way = i'm a very bad person, which made me hate myself really badly. i grew up with extreme attachment issues and self-hatred, which resulted in me feeling like i wasn't even there for the past 10 years, that i didn't deserve to be a person and that there was danger in all friendships. today, i'm 18, and it was extremely painful for me to realize that in the past 10 years i wasn't able to form any safe attachment, and that i'm still living by the extremely rigid mechanisms as a result of feeling unsafe. for me (as you mentioned it at some point), my loneliness stems from a disorder (borderline personality disorder) ; i have severe attachment issues and am doing everything i can and more to heal ❤which is very hard and painful. but i remind myself that whatever happens to any child is never their fault, and that i am fighting so so hard. thanks again bri for sharing
Can't believe I just discovered your channel. I've been through several phases when I yearned for friends, suffered depression because of it, and sometimes I just couldn't care less. Now, I do enjoy my company and prefer not to make any friends, but sometimes I do wish that I had someone in my life.
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I used to have a lot of friends but realized that they were not friends. They were envious and dramatic people. Some of them are users too. I got too exhausted from them. I’m in my 30s. I consider others as acquaintances. I only have my family, bf and dogs. I’m an introvert too. Not everyone is blessed to have good friends
Same only I'm in my 20s. Family, husband, cats. I tried to do the socializing and having friends thing as a teen but found I was way happier without them.
@@emilyc4351 im an introvert to to me it sucks because people expect to be yourself and then i wonmder it is so stupid to even mentioned that it is no true if im extrovert that means im going against my personality and it is sickening that people accept extrovert more often than introvert we can be fun to hang out to but no extrovert always get the better end .
you're in your 30's and have an anime pfp?
Dogs are worthless mutts who create unnecessary noise pollution and only care because you feed it food
It's far better to be alone than have "friends" who might bring drama to your door. I admire the courage it took to tell your story.
thanks for this video, and for saying there’s nothing wrong with being an introvert. it’s an important message - for the longest time i was convinced it was impossible to get a job as an introvert and that i would be a failure, but it’s not true at all. embracing being an introvert is the best! i do feel alone sometimes and that’s okay too, i think finding balance is the healthiest thing to do :)
Kudos for talking about this. I have had a lot of friends and recently celebrated a birthday and the only people there were my mom and dad. Life is not always what it seems to be.
Same. The difference is that I am 32 and never had any friends. I even never had a girlfriend. I am completely alone. With my night shift job I am completely isolated.
You matter, and I hope you know it.
I have no friends too like why is that?
@@lovemakeup3520 Are u a gurl?
@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 yes and 16 years
@@lovemakeup3520 Okay. What are you wishes for life?
Great thing about of being alone is you can do virtually whatever you want and go anywhere you want. I need some social interaction, but I also NEED to be alone here and there.
I'm glad you've realized what kind of a person you are and good with it.I can definitely relate to how you feel cause I'm the exact way.I'm 44 and never been big on having friends or anyone to talk to cause I myself enjoy being alone and doing whatever I want, how I want,and when I want.Thats the best thing about being alone is that you're in control of your life,living environment,and your money.Plus you got nobody to bother you or to argue with or share anything with and best of all nobody to spend your money on! A word of advice since you're still young and still have your whole life ahead of you,Stay how you are and find a good career to keep you busy and distracted from loneliness and depression cause believe me it can catch up to you as you age. And one more thing Don't Have Kids! It saves you alot of stress, problems,and money! Good Luck
I don’t have many true friends. about 3 people plus my partner and mum. I believe in quality not quantity and I keep my circle small and supportive. You have a beautiful soul and deserve people who match it. I’m sensitive too and Many emphathic people are exhausted by other peoples vibes. Aloneness can be a huge gift and I do find other people very very draining. I love my alone time. Being happy is about being yourself….Enjoy💕💕💕Sending love🙏🏽💛💛💛🌈✨💫
3 is enough 🙃
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i feel you, im going trugh the same stuff rn, im 19 also
I know that feeling. I'm introverted asf. I depend on myself. Sometimes you just need to do you. If you are happy the way you are embrace it. I'm in the same boat. I wear it as a badge of honor. The funny thing about it. It gets people bent out of shape 😅. If it works for you. Be proud of it!!
Haha it really does! I was surprised at how many people were upset about it.
I had friends, i was social, i was never shy, i moved from my country to another country when i was 13, its been almost 6 years, im now almost 19, and i was not able to build a social life,not ONE friend, mainly bcz of language barrier that makes me feel embarrassed, i for some reason even ghosted my friends in my home country and I don’t think we are friends anymore lol, now I literally know NO ONE, LITERALLY, with covid 19 lockdown I developed social anxiety lmao now I can’t even make friends bcz i spent all my day at home, besides school home and the gym I don’t go anywhere, I don’t have experiences to talk about
Many young people nowadays just like being akone. Some were ruin by the phones and others just had the same old bad experiences throughout their youth that made them that way.
I'm too very introverted. I absolutely love my time i spend by myself. In my class, or any other places, i usually stay alone and do my thing, with peace, and i enjoy that..until some of my classmates and other people say that being introverted is just a "double-faced" thing, and that it's not even a thing, you shouldn't be quiet and act all introverted, and i don't even know that where did they get it from¿..and they'd just constantly force me to keep talking and interacting (though at the same time, won't even listen or care to what i say)..though still i try to maintain my peace even then, this had let me to think a lot that why am i like the way i am.. much later i realized it's totally normal to be that way
Anyone with the charisma to do a video like this ain’t gonna be short of friends. Remember, people that you’ll never see again love you and think of you.
Y'know, I used to think there was something wrong with me because I DIDN'T make the effort to hang out with people outside of work and school. I like people, I generally get along with everyone, and have no problem with making conversation, but...never, and I mean NEVER, made the effort to actually build a long-lasting friendship.
I just never wanted to become disappointed if they let me down. True friends are hard to find and most people in your life are gonna come and go. I just saved everyone the trouble and never tried.
Yes, I do have days where I become envious of the friend groups I see out in public, but as soon as I get home, those feelings go away. 💨 I thrive on being alone and having a better relationship with myself. I think having enough alone time is necessary for everyone.
which is why I never go out in public, can't stand being mogged by the normies of my generation
@@iiCounted-op5jx Oh wow you're so different and superior.
@@Banzo_ did I ever say that? No, stop putting words into my mouth
@@iiCounted-op5jx that is what you said
@@Banzo_ either way it was not my intention to try and come off as "different" I guess I must have worded my comment poorly, I was simply just trying to state that I hate going out and seeing the "normal" kids of my generation and their friend groups because they remind me of what I don't have, I hope that helps clear things up
My dear, unfortunately we are far away, and I would have been your friend and I would make up for you. You look nice. I wish the best for you.
Same and it’s worse when u have sisters that have lots of friends to go out with. Then they always ask me abt my friends too 💀
This is very relatable 🤦🏾♂️
Im in 20s and im going hell,, and im active person but sadly i find my self no friends no familly to trusted... I feel lonely... But inside me i love life and but people dont accept me the way iam they think iam terrible person but iam not... But the hard part when my family comparing me to other people then i started losing myself the real me... I dont know how to make myself happy anymore...
introvert here, having friends is mentally draining for sure but with all its fun and giggles its honestly worth it. but i cant hangout everyday tho otherwise i'd die lol
My friends are whatever animal I come across cats dogs Blue Jays robins a deer came right up to me 😁 animals do not judge at all
I am here. I am the same way the happiest feeling. Ur beautiful
Criticism coming from a place of love:
Having no friends sucks. But I get what you're saying. I think you should reconsider what 'friends' 'and 'socializing' mean to you. I mean, making a big ass UA-cam video is definitely a kind of socializing. Coming out of school, a lot of people have ideas that you have to comform to some kind of norm, that socializing means you need to like parties or do whatever is popular.
What I'm saying is you shouldn't give up on other people. But you should start looking for connections in other places, that are more in your element. For a lot of people, that's college and a career, where things start to get a lot less dumb, as you start to find more people on a similar path to you. There's also romance, which is awesome, again, once you find the right kind of people and the right paradigm.
thanks, I appreciate this! since making this video I have found a few “friends,” who I met in clubs/organizations at my college. so yeah we share some common interests/values and they’re dope people. my time is the most valuable thing to me, so I’m very picky about how I spend it. i do enjoy their company very much, but I only have it in me to hang out here and there. I’ll always prioritize that me time. i do have a special partner and we both are similar in that regard, so we lay low together :) I think my main point is that sometimes it’s really hard to find the right people. and until then, or if you simply don’t mind being alone, it’s okay to do that.
@@brisbreathing awesome!
Keep getting recommended this. UA-cam knows me too well.
My son is similar to you. In fact he is quite successful because he began creating products which began from always being alone which he says helps and grows his imagination and creativity. Especially when there are no distractions or any other people he needs to explain himelf to or whom perhaps would of spoken unkindly and negatively toward him at times when some ideas or new products didn't work out or fair well. His main residence/home has a gym, indoor sport field and a creative floor with machines such as 3d printers and cnc machines to even t-shirt design nd making stuff all just for his own fun wearables and he finds not even having to travel and be in a gym around other people much better for him and far less draining and taxing on his system. Its kinda like ironmans cave where he builds things, my point beside what seems like the humble brag 🙄 sorry, is that being alone can be a really positive experience, which leads to a fulfilling and rewarding life. He says he just wishes he could meet a lady similar to him who likes and needs her own space as much as he does. Most woman he dated seemed more interested in trying to move the relationship along fast and some after just a few short months even insisted on living together to move into his place. So now he feels most women sadly see him as a means to an end and he finds it hard to trust or date anymore. Now my son often says he has had many fond days instead on his own because at the end of those days he felt it was filled with purpose and productivity, and continues to have days like those. Best of wishes to you and all the introverts and sigmas. My son to me is more a sigma male than anything else actually asI realised over the years trying to research why he was (well is), so different but happily unfazed or unaffected by being so different and on his own
I'm 64 and very few humans are worthy of the title "Friend."
I like you just from watching this video. Especially the glasses is a plus for me
I do have friends back day fake people nowadays. me and god best thing that happened to me got save when mom pass-way my friend never call me or check on me roll one deep I have pace in life
Who needs friends? They are all strangers anyway. Your only friend is yourself. And you can believe that guys
My daughter is 15 and extremely intelligent. High IQ. Has had friends but not many. She finds it difficult to maintain friendship because she really enjoys her alone time. Also, anytime we go on vacation she loves going away but will require a few days to decompress afterwards. Any tips?
I still find it difficult at times, so I can’t offer much. I actually found out two years later that I’m autistic. I really relate to the needing hours/days to decompress after big events, social or otherwise. I don’t think it’s a bad thing - she sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders!
At this point being a loner is normal
This video summed up: “Ohaaa poor me! Look at me! Feel sorry for me! Give me attention! Give me validating comments!”
this just hit the algorithm for me it might blow up
It's not a bad thing tbh when I was younger I thought I had lots of friends now I'm 35 and realise I have 2 real friends , you have figured it out early 👍👌
I have no friends at 34
I want to be your friend!!
19 years old I have no friends and I want to make videos like you
Do it! Follow your heart friend
@@brisbreathing Y I already did it without caring about my physique, whatever has to happen happens.
I love this girl
You're just a kid......you have ALOT to learn about life. It's a cruel world. Learn wisely.
Why I look to god for friend. At lest he ain't going stab you in the back or drop you like you're nothing. Lonely darn road it is but I am willing to take because I'm at the point in my life that only one I could trust and knows loves me is God and my Kitten cats.
❤❤❤
why i have no friends at 26
You must be an empath! It's ok you are perfectly normal.
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Also....you are fuckin adoreable
I became really sad and depressed for not having any friends to call or talk to at all and I actually feel somewhat better that there are other people out there who can relate to what I’m going through right now.
you’re never alone, and sometimes you deserve to be your own best friend. ❤️
@@brisbreathing Thing is though, I don’t know whether I’m just not meant to have any friends?that’s what I always wonder and ask my self sometimes too.
@@darkstar7128 I get that. I know I personally used to feel like I was too different, too this or too that, and that meant I was supposed to be alone. But these are limiting beliefs my friend. You can be what ever you want to be. And know that there are people out there like yourself. Sometimes it’s just harder to find them.
As same as you are really sad ; will you want to get along with me ?
You can write down your instagram and we can have a good chat or your instagram , hangout or any chat websites
@@darkstar7128 so... Do you wanna be friends?
I'm an introvert and I haven't any friends either. I grew up thinking something was wrong with me, too. But I only learned about introversion in the last decade and have embraced my solitude with great relief. You are an AMAZING young lady!
thank you for sharing and for your kind words. :)
you still have social interaction once in a while though right?
@@iiCounted-op5jx im an introvert and i have social interaction every single day, being introvert doesnt always means that ur shy. it just a personality term, u rather grow up introvert or extrovert
as 28 i can relate. ive had few friends back when i was in military but ive lost them and now i live alone having contact with no one and to be honest its much great than being with toxic people or being involved in drama every single time, so its not really as bad as i thought it would be.
Hang in there... I'm 34 years old. People have come and gone throughout my whole entire life.. whilst others lasted for many years. When I went no contact with my toxic family.. and they turned on me. So I've been socializing with others.. but for the past 2 years I have had no friends in real life. But I know that is going to change.. and I will have the right friends. May you be blessed in everything you do.. including finding a loving partner, if you want one.
I have 0 friends. I get really sad about it but I know I will be ok. It just sucks not having anyone to call or hang with. I wish I had at least someone to vent to in life but I don’t have that. On the plus side, I can relate to you a lot, I like being alone sometimes too and when I used to go out with my “group” I got really bored and tired and just wanted to go home and chill. But I still get upset about not having anyone anymore since I’m out of school and everyone moved on in life and now I’m just a single guy that works with nobody to talk to.
and hey, if you’re really down about it you can work to put yourself out there. it’s hard at first, but it’ll get easier with practice. either way you got this :)
@@brisbreathing that’s a good point cuz I’m a huge introvert and I just feel awkward talking to people but at the same time I want someone to vent to and talk to and it’s really hard at first. And also thank you!!
@@jaceallen4985 absolutely relatable
I'm going through this too . Do you have instagram or hangout ;you can drop them and I will contact you so we can express our emotions and share moments together
brutal, how do you even cope?
im going 19 this year i have no friends, i dont have anyone to talk to and the people i did just stopped talking to me, i do have social anxiety but i want to socialize because im lonely but going out with people makes me exhausted and irritated i dont like people but i want to like people
Me too
Same
This video has been recommended to me when I'm in the exact phase of my life. I had friends..??! But being with them I couldn't be myself I mean I was afraid they wouldn't like me for who I was so i pretended to be someone else not the real me. I cried a lot, almost every night and sometimes tears would just come down when I was alone..in my deep thinking. I always wished for a not many friends but only one best friend.But now I'm at home it's been a month I've graduated from high school and I'm planning on changing everything, like new life new friends new everything. And i don't even want to have any connection with them therefore I'm not using any social media now not even whatsApp because I just don't wanna be in that environment again. YT is the only social platform that I spend my time on and enjoy.
This video and all the comments down here have really got me to think that I'm not the only one without friends and it's really ok without having friends. I think it's healthy. And I find peace being on my own and talking to God especially when I'm on the roof of my house staring at the night sky. This is really beautiful. Indeed the best feeling in the entire world.
thank you for sharing and thank you for bringing these beautiful words ❤️
i’m actually convinced that i’m the loneliest person alive. i have literally nobody and i fucking mean it..i also have an inability to connect with people, i used to have one good friend in high school but i never felt like i could trust her on a personal level. 2 of my cousins were also kinda close to me but everything changed in 2019-2020, everything fell apart, i just want to have a genuine connection with someone :/
To me teachers and parents say to talk to others but it never works and everyone mock me
I could be your friend if you ever want to talk
Sorry to hear about that. But I understand where your coming from I have no one besides myself and it’s been like that since my teenage years. I tried to connect with people and make friendships but no one seems interested in making a connection. Its gotten to the point where I do everything alone and somehow it doesn’t bother me as much anymore. From time to time I realize I’m lonely but I tend to distract my mind from it with something else. I just have a set schedule I follow on a daily basis and it’s been that way for years I just know when someone does want to make my acquaintance and tries to make me attend a social gathering I just feel completely thrown off and feel weird. I guess I feel that way because I just have completely given up on making friends and I prefer on being alone since it’s always been that way. It wasn’t a choice of mine I picked but that’s the path I followed since then
I don't think it's healthy to have no friends but the definition of "friend" can be rather fluid. Some people think that friends are the people you hang out with regularly and you go shopping or clubs or whatever the kids are into these days. For an extroverted person, that's actually a reasonable definition. For an introvert the definition could just be somebody that you trust and you can tolerate sharing a space with even if just briefly. You should have at least someone you trust and can confide in outside of your immediate family.
years of loneliness literally makes you go insane
@@iiCounted-op5jx It ain't that bad if you're comfortable with yourself. There's a difference between being alone and feeling lonely.
@@brisbreathing In Brazil you would have many friends just because of your good physical appearance
And here we go. The one extrovert who goes "That's not healthy" whenever someone makes a video about living life on their own.
Gotta be at least one of 'em.
@@yeayeayeah933 Well every extrovert thinks that way. Extroverts think they know everything and they love that they "know" everything so they have to tell everyone everything they "know" because they love the sound of their own voice. So glad I don't have to feed off people's presence in order to survive like an extrovert.
Im in the same boat as u, im also 19 with very little to no friends
some times it can be your high functioning adustic. lots of friends drains your sensory issues
thank you, from another friendless human :)
keep your head up :)❤️
Absolutely relatable
wooooow it so hard to go through life with no friends. i have never had a friend, and im 40. omg i feel so hurt, lol. grow up. you dont need friends >.>
For me, it is the opposite.
I would like to talk to people, approach people, but I am too shy and anxious.
But I do not like shallow people with no depth.
I am not in for superfical relationships.
go to the gym lift weight
This helps me realise being a natural introvert is okay.. thankyou...
I relate to being drained by people. My energy gets taken from humans.
love this!! words can’t explain how grateful I am to be seeing this video today. it was motivational and on point!
Because you got all C’s in high school?
maybe I have no friends... but I have a motorbike!!!
oh, wait, I don't have it anymore xd
it's a joke
It's ok. For me I don't really care and it doesn't bother me at all. You'll see that later people tend to annoy, irate us and drain you and also take from you. I usually enjoy the comfort of my own peace and solitude.
I’m 20 and I have yet to find a friend. I’m in cosmetology school and had a mental breakdown from having social anxiety. I’m trying to embrace being alone and being okay with that. Hopefully therapy will get me the help I need be able to not stress over it.
actually i only have aquaitences 🤓☝
I have no friends too. It's terrible and feels so painful. But i have never given up. I thought something is wrong with me. I thought I am not sane however i am keeping on going on my life. I love being alone but i hate to know that i could be alone forever. I wish I could have a good friend.
well that's how i feel now at 29 life sucks
I like being alone too and I'm 55. I really was never the type of person that has to be in a crowd. I like to think, have peace of mind, imagine, create, and it can be fun. My social life ended when I was in my thirties. God Bless everyone and everything!
I am at that stage since the last 5 years and its great not having to emotionally support anyone anymore and listen to them go on and on...The last woman I dated kept talking about her dead bf and got upset if her daughter didn't reply her texts immediately...So off putting...
@@rodfrancis9160 Sometimes, friends can bring a person down. Not always though. Through my years of experience I find that friends who don't listen, or its all about them, no one deserves that baggage in their life. Good friends give moral support, and they listen. I have been in situations before where I've mentioned some things, and my friends were like "why didn't you tell me"? It seems like the only thing that matters is them. When I am a good friend to someone, they know it. Sometimes, people can suck the life outta ya if you let them! Emotional vampires.
@@rodfrancis9160 That would be terrible! I don't really care for cell phone communication in a restaurant unless it's an emergency. Stuff like that can wait. You know? Many people are missing opportunities cause they could me married to their phones. Why not look a stranger in the face and just say hi? I live in Tennessee and my parents taught me southern manners years ago. Either that, or get my butt tore up. Lol!
@@karladuncan4026 So true,I was in the London underground tube network and every single passenger was looking into their cell phone, apart from myself and I was able to look at my surroundings and it was a lovely sunny day,quite rare for Englands climate .
how does it feel being old?
Hey girl 👋 I want to say you're beautiful 💟 ... sometimes Just go with flow n enjoy the smallest things of your life you have a worl to explore ahead you universe doesn't revolves around school and college
If I saw you in person, I'd think your some popular girl that I wouldn't get along with but your super chill. You got nothing to worry about.
At 19! lol reminds me when I was this young, I used to be dramatic and actually care what people think and that I should have a million friends and party and bla bla. I should live the LIFE, right? Dear, step 1: None of that is important, forget it. If someone considers this "losing" in life... Well, I feel sorry for them, and chances are they're describing themselves. Too much of friends and craziness and trips and whatnot is a waste of VALUABLE time at this golden age of energy and productivity. Which brings me to step 2: Make money. Focus on making money, and you're automatically a winner. Money brings happiness, friends, health, traveling the world, etc. MONEY MONEY MONEY. Focus on it, ONLY 😂 But maybe you're already rich... doesn't matter. Still make money. Work is awesome. Life is work. But friends?! They can come at ANY stage in life, there's no rush. All the best!
Edit: wrote my comment before watching - I like your confidence, and it's awesome that you're good with that. Because it's true; there really is NOTHING wrong with that. People can have fantastic social skills, exceptional charisma, etc. and still choose to not have friends. Perfect! Family is enough, and friends can come at anytime, lol. It's a massive world filled with infinite people.
I have friends, but I have two other friends who I consider my brothers.
You can have a big group of friends but you’ll always have either one or two of those people to be your best friends, the closest ones to you.
Speak your truth, Bri!! 👏 You are not alone. Let's dismantle the stigma.
There indeed is nothing wrong with you. There are a lot of people who prefer to be alone on a Saturday night as opposed to hanging out with others and always doing stuff in group settings. You're not "lonely" by any stretch when you're by yourself reading a book or something to that extent. I'm a lot older than you but still very similar. The irony is that people perceive me as a super affable, funny, flirty, socially dominant and confident person, when in reality I prefer quiet time by myself instead of hanging out in large groups - even if I can be the life of the party for lack of a better word.
Same! 29F no friends. No boyfriend, no kids. Can be a bit lonely sometimes but luckily I have my sister and my introversion. I also have social anxiety.
But, I do feel okay and “content” not having friends. Despite occasionally being lonely and thinking “oh I wish I had someone to go kayaking with”. I think the societal part is hard. Like when my boss asks me “hey, did you hang out with your friends this weekend?” It’s a triggering question. I feel a jolt since it’s so “expected.” All I can answer is “….no….I was busy working on my house anyway….”
would you say that your sister is the only reason you haven't gone insane from loneliness yet?
you are so beautiful with your pretty smile and your pretty long hair and you are so lovely
ooh why thank you, I hope you have a great day!
You are not alone, God preserves those who are precious to him. Most people don't deserve to have you in their life to be completely honest. You are loved and CHOSEN by GOD. Jeremiah 29.11/ Proverbs 3.5/ Psalm 23/ Isaiah 54.17/ Romans 8.28. 💫😘
Friend is a title other people give themselves as an excuse to abuse you.
That's a really negative comment, way beyond anything bri said. But if that's the consensus here then there's no way that this is healthy.
Not always true
Who hurt you
Some people just make you THINK that they like you, they just want to find out your personal business and gossip
i have no irl friends and i’m 23 so…🥲
I'll Be Your Friend Shwourty😄
I loved the way you explained that young lady, that is exactly how I view the situation.
i have no firends by choice, most people are just in your life to use you one way or the other. i used to have many friends when i was in high school but i realised that with many friends you save no money and most likely to develop a bad habit like drinking,drugs and smoking.
friends accept who u are, what u do and shit, u meet , do the business and walk away ur way, friends don't demand anything of u.
see for me, i have a lot of acquaintances and long lost friends. and ppl who are my age are focused on career, marriage, kids. i mean come onnn. im not worried. or hurt. im an extrovert and introvert.
No friends either . It gets me down for periods of time but I come out of it feeling ok . I go lone but not lonely
A lot of people don’t want to be friends. It’s strange when I offer my friendship and it gets declined by a person with no friends.
why do I keep getting recommended these "i have no friends and i'm ......" videos
Congrats, you found out that you're a slightly different kind of human.
I'm 25 and I'm in the same boat & it makes you feel so lonely❤️
check your friend zone. you could have plenty of friends
I'm depressed because I have no friends
I had friends, life took us our separate ways. I'm a sworn enemy of slave masters and pedo pimps and like Shaft, its a lonely life. Even now I'm being spied on; I got an eye in the sky, storm clouds too.
When I was a teen, my peers were so flaky and shit, it was hard to make meaningful friends. What I did is to hang out to international kids, not only were I interested in learning their culture, food, customs etc. but I also made fantastic close friends and I hang out with.
hey bri :) thank you so much for sharing these words. it's so soothing to hear you being so unapologetically honest and self-loving in spite these traits being stigmatized. it's so beautiful and helpul (:❤as a child, my mom made me think that being this way = i'm a very bad person, which made me hate myself really badly. i grew up with extreme attachment issues and self-hatred, which resulted in me feeling like i wasn't even there for the past 10 years, that i didn't deserve to be a person and that there was danger in all friendships. today, i'm 18, and it was extremely painful for me to realize that in the past 10 years i wasn't able to form any safe attachment, and that i'm still living by the extremely rigid mechanisms as a result of feeling unsafe. for me (as you mentioned it at some point), my loneliness stems from a disorder (borderline personality disorder) ; i have severe attachment issues and am doing everything i can and more to heal ❤which is very hard and painful. but i remind myself that whatever happens to any child is never their fault, and that i am fighting so so hard. thanks again bri for sharing
thank you so much for sharing. i am so very glad this reached you. your words inspire me + give me strength. keep being you. ❤️ :)
Oh yeah. And most people just try to socialize with their own race lol
Join the club! Welcome to the friendless world😢
Can't believe I just discovered your channel. I've been through several phases when I yearned for friends, suffered depression because of it, and sometimes I just couldn't care less. Now, I do enjoy my company and prefer not to make any friends, but sometimes I do wish that I had someone in my life.