its really hard and you just want to take a break from all this that is running on your head but try to find yourself and if you use all this its really really strong and good at all aspects (friends , job , reliationship)
I feel like there's millions of spongebob inside my head and when i tell them to shut up... they won't -.- it's overwhelming. Having so many ideas but don't know where to start how to start and would it really make an impact would it make me happy.....hshsys7av
Isabel Stephanie well first make sure you are with people you trust and feel good being with them and then try doing whatever you think just keep doing something and you will find something you like and then be the best on that , well SpongeBobs inside you means that you are thinking and that means you are clever use it
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Being an INFP, I am not easily satisfied with any job that I do. I feel like I'm not doing what I'm supposed to do. I feel like I'm not making the impact that I was born to make. It's like there's a missing piece of puzzle and I'm in a constant search of it.
? Something .... I experience this too. Other types take issue with INFPs just for us existing. We are different. Which I love. It's their issue if they can't deal with it. Lol. 😉 When I do something nice for someone and it incites a negative reaction, I believe it is the same analogy as when Snow White and her love and generosity set off the wicked queen. Some people can't handle goodness. Don't ever change. We will always get the last laugh in the end. That's how we roll. 😉
*wants to be an electric violin-playing fantasy writer who produces, directs and acts in films, tv shows, and theatre productions where I also make all the costumes and build the sets, as well as make my own music videos with the band I'm in (which plays every genre you can think of) so I can live happily with my wonderful husband in the hobbit hole (that I built myself) where I keep a very lovely garden and raise my 7 home-schooled kids and numerous pets where we have marvelous movie nights and Halloween parties and enjoy nature frequently* LOLOLOL
I'm an INFP as well and I have jumped between music and poetry to Naturopathy and Psychology. I want to dip my finger in every pie but struggle to stay focused on one thing at once!
Being INFP IS SO EXHAUSTING. I took interior major, then 2 years later change to Archi, halfway through, learning how to play piano as a side hobby, as i just got curious and on an impulse buy. Then thought of making my own music, and be a musician instead. Good thing i keep it as a hobby.. after graduating archi, working in the themepark industry, it was good for 1 year plus until i was into cinematic next. Quit my job to study cinema & movies but half the year through i was interested in making games after watching random youtuber's live stream. Now im 7 months in studying to become game designer.. and oh yeah and at the side hobby writing stories... oh gawd.
Dang, that’s a lot of career changes. I’m honestly kind of stuck, but it’s kind of reassuring to know you can change your mind about what you want to do.
I'm a tradesman, which is as far removed from my authentic INFP self as I can be. This caused internal conflict for years, wishing I had a more fulfilling vocation. In my late thirties, I came to the realisation that job and passions don't have to be intertwined. I could seperate the two. I could work hard at my job which would support me and ultimately my family, whilst still pursuing my passions and fullfilling my INFP needs. It was upon this realisation that thing's finally started falling into place. Now I see my job not as a hindrance, but a foundation, from which my passions can grow wings take off and fly!!!
Magique Oracle glad I'm not in this alone 😂 But I've always noticed that I've more or less have a passion for languages and other cultures and anything artistic. Funny enough, listening to A LOT of kpop made me realize that 😂😂😂 So I'm planning on majoring in global studies and maybe down the line become an interpreter or tanslator. So anything you have an interest in might motivate you to pursue a career in that area! Is there any interests or hobbies that you like or do in your free time? 👀
Oh yeah Im sure Anthropology or language translating would be amazing for others, you know you can go to most other countries with just any old bachelors degree and teach English, if you know other languages you'll be a few steps ahead and be able to travel and teach other people! Always thought that would be interesting I'm just not passionate about it, but its supposed to be quite easy from what I've read :P The only things I like is research about interpersonal relationships and how people interact so Psychology but I dont know if I can do that sciences and maths and histories etc that college forces you to take. Id love to study "Love" and how couples and friends can work together, but the major thing Im passionate about it painting! Its what Im pretty strong at, and Im hoping I can travel and sell stuff... So Im probably gonna be a starving artist ...Goody me😓😋
I had the great fortune of having someone tell me I was not smart enough to get an engineering degree... So, I set out and proved them wrong. I have worked in software for 35 years - developing new products. I have been a bit of an oddity at work, but the job allowed me to travel, play the violin and write.
I am INFP and want to be a programmer/designer. However, I heard you need a really high IQ to work in this field. Mine is about 109 and I do not know if I should even try and it drives me crazy.
Basically, my life as an INFP is pretty much the same as you described. A big mess. Mostly, a big mess of dreams not truly followed. I've always been interested in the arts. All of it. Dance, Music, Singing, Acting, Performing, Writing (of stories, screenplays) and direction. As well as painting, drawing, creating. I tried some of them each for a year. Mostly as a young child and teen. But, after that, without any push from parents or guardians, I never tried or continued those things, because I was so very absorbed my finding my value system, and not trusting my intuition. I had a host of mental problems that were not addressed properly until my twenties; bipolar depression, autism spectrum disorder, borderline personality disorder, and now fibromyalgia. Now, as an adult, I can see more clearly, and my behavior and mental health is better, but at the time, it was dibilitating. Add that to my normal Extroverted Intuition that makes me want me see anything as possible for me to do well in. For example, if I go to a doctors office or hospital, i get super inspired about working in that field, but i never follow through, excepting that I wouldnt be good at it, for what ever reason. Or if I see people in a dance competition, i get inspired to dance again and get lessons....but i never follow through. I just get wrapped up in work, or trying to find energy to even check on simple things, like my health and wellness. Im sad that Ive let so many oppurtunities pass me by. Thing is, I would do great in any of those things, but since there are so many options, I HATE OPTIONS, i cant ever make a decision. Also, just like you, I think about writing or being a writer all the time. It was my favorite part of middle, highschool, and college. I loved writing about things I cared about, like the environment, people, sociological issues, and the human mind, and all its darkest parts. I liked to write about things people want to read, but dont because it takes too much effort. Im not a novelist, or fiction writer, never have been. Everything had to be about real, life things, with a heart beat, with a soul. I love writing motivational, real, contemplative topics and quite often use myself as a subject. But, that idea that I want to do so many things, makes it difficult for me to understand what my passion is, or to narrow it down. Thats what people tell me to do...Narrow it down.,..which is ok if I wanted to share it as a bigger concept, but to actually narrow down passions, that are not on the same level, is difficult. Its not like, this part of medicine or psychology I would like to study, or this part of the arts...its the whole damn tree....my other fuctions, tell me to become an expert in an area, become a guru of sorts, and then I will be successful, but that doesnt seem to be a possibility for me.
+1 let's all keep it up. Just think that we are not trapped in a "cage" just following routine. Hey at least we are actually trying, even just by thinking. We'll make it, I know it.
I found out how to save the world... it just doesn't pay any money. I want to put alllll my energy into just this.. because for the first time in my life I found deep satisfaction and I have a reason to wake up everyday.. But i need to find a non stressful job to support my basic needs ... and I'm stressed out about that.
I just discovered your channel, right after I finally realized I'm an INFP. Thank you very much for sharing your life experiences with us. It not only comforts me, it is also very inspiring. In this world we live we are taught we have to be assertive, choose fast and right. That we don't have the time to truly reflect on anything. Like a machine, you're supposed to graduate and keep improving and work work work and earn money and marry and have kids, and if you question any of that and say: "You know what, life is simply too short for me to just follow the system like a zombie. I want, I actually need a life of purpose! " people will call you a dreamer, unresolved, maybe mentally ill... The world can be a hard place for INFPs. So yeah, thank you very much once again
Let me tell you guys something that I just learned and I hope this can help you. As a INFP I've always looked for a purpose, a way to change the world, well, I'm 18, but since 3 years ago, so I decided tu study medicine (what I wanted for 9 years) because I wanted to to work with an altruist organization y to do what I love: travel and help others. And my plan was also becoming a neorologist because of a great interest in our brain, a spiritual or philosophical interest as well. These were my reasons, but I never was shure, because I love social and political sciences, history, culture, languages and writting essays, poetry and stories. I was so confused because I'm so curious and I believed that I wasn't going to find my passion, but just temporary interests. So in less than 2 months of starting the career I couldn't more. We can't study something just for ONE purpose. I felt like I wasn't my self, I had lost the joy of living and my creativity (a sensation so common in us) and I started exploring so deeply my self, finally I thought in 3 careers: history, sociology and antrophology. After thinking about it too much I decided social anthropology, because it doesn't matter if I'm doing a transcendental investigation or not, I'll enjoy it because I love all of this science that also gives me the oportunity of studying a graduate degree in sociology or biological anthropology or history. If you find an activity that you really enjoy, you don't need to find a purpose, you create your own purposes, and that's what an INFP personality needs, freedom. I also recommend you a creative activity, I started writting again and I feel so happy. Music, theater, painting, all what let us to express the intense emotion that we have. We don't have the things easy with this system, but let's use our talent, idealism and optimism to make a little or a great change, but first we have to be happy.
Same, basically a freshman at college with many credits from the Air Force and many attempts of college over the years. Making around a 100k now as a civilian and still not fulfilled and have never found my purpose. It's not even about the money, I would be fine as a minimalist if I were single and didn't have children, maybe it's time to start a business. I've been thinking of ideas that can support the homeless or elderly, just haven't made the jump due to procrastination.
I don’t think college is for me like choosing one particular major I just like going what I’m feeling at the moment Sometimes I feel philosophy, sometimes psychology, sometimes literature yea the list goes on But like I don’t like the education system too so yea well
I’m an INFP who’s turning 50 this year, and I don’t know what I’m truly passionate about. I’ve had a successful sales career (which I hated) evening winning an award for salesperson of the year. I felt like such an imposter, though. Now I’m starting over and I’m petrified. I don’t need to make the kind of money I was making before, but I do have a family I help support and retirement to think about. Anything I’m remotely interested in would require multiple years of additional education, and sadly, I don’t have the time to pursue it 😔. I’m obviously not sure what to do.
I'm really sorry you feel lost -- that is a feeling I can definitely identify with, especially after having kids and feeling like I didn't know myself anymore, obviously still loving my kids to bits. You're 50 though, wow!! You look amazing, and radiant!! A therapist I used to see, an INFP who was your age too was in the exact same boat as you. I remember talking to him about how I was struggling to find purpose in my life, and he could relate in the sense he only really started his perfect career in his late 40s after trying out other vocations which didn't suit him all that much. He told me that it is never too late to change careers and that he felt better for it. I understand retirement funds are very important, and that's why I find its important to focus on financial aspects as well, of course. What is it that you would like to do may I ask?
Lex Morningstar first, thanks for the compliments! I believe my biggest issue is I haven’t found my true purpose yet. There are plenty of hobbies I’m ok at like drawing, writing, ballet, etc. I am passionate about animal welfare. If I could, I’d rescue and care for all the abused and neglected animals in the world, I would. My dog and I are going to train to become a therapy team for people which I’m excited about. A pattern I’ve noticed is what makes me fulfilled and happy tend to be volunteer positions. My guess is this is common for INFPs? If only money wasn’t so important, right? Unfortunately, I’m unable to spend all my time volunteering.
I'm a male INFP/INTP in the exact same boat, except I'm currently jobless. I could probably get another crappy sales job pretty easily, but I feel like I can't do it again, because I've been stuck in this same crappy loop for 8 years now and don't feel like I can do it again. And yet I also have a family that is relying on me and am progressively getting deeper into debt. I'm not sure what to do...
At some point, you need to ask yourself - Do you want to die thinking: "I spent my career feeling like an impostor, but at least I can afford a nice hospital room", or die in a crap hospital room thinking: "At least I spent my life doing what I loved."
I’m an INFP and chose a career in medicine as a doctor. In college I had considered being a writer but ultimately chose to go into healthcare. I think it’s a perfect field for some INFP’s. First I chose this field because I wanted to help people but also wanted to force myself to interact with people on a daily basis. Medicine is also said to be part science and part art which is true. There’s always gaps in knowledge with medicine and filling in those gaps require intuition and creativity. You also have to look beyond obvious facts and dig deep into why things are happening. I’m still introverted and have issues with procrastination but those have improved over the years out of necessity.
Thank you. I’m about to start med school as an infp. I’ve had my reservations but I’m starting to realise it’s the perfect career for an infp if can find your own passion and purpose in it. The possibilities of what you can do are endless and you’re truly able to make a difference whilst being financially secure. I have very specific dreams and goals that I know I can realistically achieve and I’m so excited for what the future holds.
@@JBRitchie8 I actually recently discovered I'm an ENFP 3w4. Although it all comes down to the individual at the end of the day, I do 100% agree that the traditional healthcare/medicine career is not well suited for an XNFP. Fortunately, with a medical degree and the subsequent training, you're not actually limited to any one conventional route and you can always pave a unique career that works for your ideal lifestyle, and aligns with our need to express creativity and empathy in a meaningful and impactful way. While I could never see myself working in a hectic, critical environment like a hospital or a highly competitive specialty like surgery (both are better suited to XSTJs), my dream career for a while has been to work as psychiatrist and to branch into alternative medicine and/or counselling. I'd ultimately love to work freely and independently, from the comfort of my own home or small practice. This is what I would say is the 'perfect' career for me. I've also read the accounts of several INFPs, ENFPs, INFJs and ENFJs who pursued psychiatry, counselling or alternative medicine and have highly recommended it to other fellow XNFXs in the medical/healthcare field.
silentstorm 52 Beautiful comment, my fellow INFP💖 You sound like you've found your calling and had some great experiences in getting there, that's wonderful! Don't overwhelm yourself with school, take it slow and only take as many courses as you can handle at one time. We tend to get overwhelmed with school and life and quit if it gets to be too much. So be easy on yourself and take an extra year or two to get your degree. No one is judging, it's your life. I wish I had had this advice when I was in school, I had no idea what being an INFP was or why I was so different and ruled by my emotions. You are well on your way to being your best self and better the world as only INFP's can! Btw, your English is flawless (languages -another INFP strength😊). Take care and good luck!💓
Hola, espero entiendas mi español, no sé cómo decirlo muy bien en inglés, pero espero te vaya muy bien en la vida. A ver intentaré: I hope you have a good life. You are a nice person.
I recently took the test, and I just found out that I'm an INFP. But I've already decided that I want to make an impact in the world by being a stay-at-home mom in the future and raise my children well. Then my 'legacy' can be passed on. Currently I'm working as a preschool teacher so that I can build up on my skills hehe.
I love how honest, open, and real you are. Such an INFP. I have been called "intense" multiple times the past few weeks, but I don't think I am and it is sad how that is perceived, I am talking with conviction. It scares the hell out of people, because people are terrified of anything real. That is why we are lonely. I am so glad I met you online.
Yep...I'm currently enrolled in my 5th College program. At 38! Also struggling with insomnia and anxiety, and feeling like I'm not living the life of my dreams yet. My attention is everywhere else, always curious, and feeling unfulfilled in the moment.
Karen S. I have a feeling I will be in the same boat. I cant find what is right for me. It's so frustrating... and depressing. Seeing my friends moved on.. and here i am .. *sigh*
Isabel Stephanie don't worry too much. Your career doesn't define you or consume your life as it does for others. I've had 30+ jobs. It's a great feeling knowing you have a choice. If your not enjoying what your doing, just do something else. I think most people feel trapped.
The INFPs are driven by Exploration-Authenticity, do new things always you can, is the only way we feel good, exploring, learning new things by our own way is just to take risks altough if we feel fear, if the school or studying is not for you, take some course about business in your area of interest to be frelance, you really dont need a title por paper yo do What you really love, the real purpose of Life is to be happy and i think that there's no job that can make that happen, only creating what we are good at can acomplish that! Greetings and have faith on your path, just belive in your hearth It can't be wrong.
@@DOOMxISxINSANEx , i know this but i tend to not finish what i started. I've started editing pictures, videos, doing excel, etc but i never got to the point i can do them proficiently to earn a living. What can i do?
Thank you for making this! I'm in my junior year of high school and I'm trying to figure out my career, thinking about it stresses me out and this helped me get my focus back to what is important. 😊
I'm INFP and I couldn't decide what I wanted to study, it was SO hard to pick something in so little time... Finally I got into the economics career, and I'm already in second year doing good! I know it's hard but you'll find something that suits you, belive me 💛
This is so insanely accurate to the INFP condition. I’ve been in the military as a logistics specialist for 5 years and it’s given me so much insight into how I function in relation to purpose, and satisfaction, and what I do and don’t stand for. I’m separating from the navy in about two years and plan on pursuing a degree and career in supply chain management not even because it’s apparently supposed to make me a decent amount of money but from realizing that it’s overall rather satisfying. I hate the bureaucracy and confinement of being in the military but am thankful for the structure and routine it’s shown me that I need to feel content. At least in the civilian world I have a better chance of choosing to apply for businesses that I value. But the work is never an issue, because deep down, once I (and I feel like most INFP’s) have a cause, we can become so loyal to projects and have our own unique perspectives on solving problems and we make great additions to any team or career.
infp who LOVES science. struggling with my college major now though, other people keep telling me to just switch to engineering: “it’s so easy to get a job and make a lot of money!” But that’s not me. I need a purpose, I need a reason, and I need to have a real passion for the thing I’m pursuing. It’s hard but I’m glad there’s people out there that get me.
It's funny, you don't think a creative career is really possible, while I see it as my only option at this point in my life. I have experienced first hand I can't do less creative careers for longer than five years. I'm tired of throwing my years away, so I have decided to just make it work no matter what.
Thank you so much for your time. I just recently discovered my personality type and your channel. I was an unhealthy INFP for 8 years and thought it was normal. Lately I have been discovering more and more about myself and a big help from you, expressing yourself and thoughts. Iv been able to connect to my inner self and find inspiration to pursue my dreams. I'm 28 years old and a police officer, I feel like I am stuck in never ending cycle of depression doing this career. I'm still searching for that career that has everything I want from life, that will let me spread my wings and be free. You inspire your viewers and I appreciate every second of time you give to us. Follow your heart always and it will lead you to happiness.
Thank you so much for your wonderful comment. I am so sorry you feel stuck!! I can identify with that feeling wholeheartedly. I like to describe it as "seeing grey", or seeing things as though they are streaming through a black and white filter. I wish you the best of luck on your quest of life. I'm on the journey with you too :) You will find solstice, you're already half way there knowing your job doesn't grow your corn anymore.
My struggles as an INFP correlate with growing up in a family household that scoffed at artistic careers. Sad but true. "Theres no money in that! Get a "real" job." Go to school they said, get a degree and fix computers. Not stimulated, quit. Join the military, be a police officer! Failed a drug test on purpose to end my contract when I had 6 years in. I was miserable. Physical therapy! Two semesters in, not stimulated. Quit. Now, it's on to nursing. And what do you know, I'm already having those same feelings again of quitting before I waste more time and money. I've literally caged my creative and artistic ability to impersonate other job titles to satisfy and please my family with a successful "job" choice. If they are happy, I would be happy. Thank you for your content Lex! It takes courage to break free from this cycle, and your content has been heartwarming 😊
I'm an INFP too and I can relate to what you say and what everyone else is saying here. I used to draw when I was a kid. I used to draw so extensively I wanted to go to art school (age 15). But my parents didn't support the idea because there was no money to be made. I am now 38 and struggling everyday to get to this one heartfelt dream to become a fulltime artist. I have tried many art forms with a lot of passion but the one (drawing) art form that really is in my veins, keeps away because of the little voice in my head (my parents). Now I continuously feel like I am wasting my time with other art form, with passion! I feel I coud accomplish so much more!After seeing your video I realized all these artforms trigger me and I'm not (or should not be) fixed to one medium only. My passion is all over the place and hard to keep up. if my mind feels like doing sculptures, I do sculptures with great passion. if my hart says painting, I paint with great passion too. But it is also hard to enjoy. Joy usually comes afterwards when I look back at things. Then I can say: "That gave me great pleasure". but in the moment my mind and heart is sooooo occupied to feel practically anything. It is an addictive feeling, this feeling of rush when an idea gets made to reality.Just writing down my thoughts after seeing this video (I usually don't think when writing). Thanks Lex!just a side note to all INFP's struggeling:if all is overwhelming, insist on taking (extensive) time alone, for the good of everybody. This does miracles to me!I had a hard time applying this in my life but it is really worth it and most of all: necessary! without time alone, I lose control over myself...
Thank you for this video! I too have struggled for years to find a career path because I am so many things at the same time. I'm swimming in a world of creativity, so I felt I should be sharpening skills and pursuing film or creative writing in Uni. Simultaneously, I have an obsessive drive to collect facts and understand systems like within historic events, languages, and political movements. I desire to synthesize this material, adding layers of meaning/messages in my creative work. I worried myself when I started pursuing Liberal Studies (Humanities History of Culture [interdisciplinary theology, philosophy, and literature]) in Uni. This major required skills not in my constitution -- "I'm not good at all the left-brained analysis and interpretation day after day after day. This won't lead me to a career I'm good at. The grind is getting to me," I thought. But by sticking to it, that after a six months, I've learned procedures to better analyze and interpret, and I've strengthen my logic through the repetitive hardwork. I've been learning how to set goals, grow, improve, ask for help, and now I am motivated more than ever to pursue Liberal Studies because it's making me a more balanced human being. It's balancing me out, like you mentioned, through developing introverted sensing, and external logic. I've only increased my appreciation for the arts and human nature. It's given me mountains of inspiration for personal projects. Who knows where I'll end up, but for now I am flourishing.
Your passion is truly beautiful! Your communication skills are very powerful, because you speak from your heart. Thank you so much for all your videos. I believe you can incorporate several of your passions into one field. You are creative, because you are a vivid dreamer, and dreamers change the world!
I'm just hoping that someone say to me that "It's okay, just follow your heart journey". But, having pathetically empathic thinking, is holding me badly. It's like : "hey dude, you should think more about your future, your financial security, this world is becoming harder and harder to be survived in it. Your parent didn't pay your school tuition to be stupidly thinking that you can do everything and then get paid from it" Also my family had given me a such discouragement too that actually worked to drag me away from what I want to do. I won't blame them to do that, but they were the reason that I suffered from this metaphorical anxiety for a long time. Why even my beloved familiy had to do that. I feel like want to die, sometime.
Lex, you are amazing. I've known that I'm an infp for years now, but only just started delving. I have to say, your knowledge on the subject of this personality is extremely refreshing to my sense of self. Thank you. You're doing a lot of good for a lot of people.
Fae Verte Wow, thanks so much. I needed to hear this today (had a bad day). Comments like this are what keep me making content 👍❤ thanks for supporting and watching.
Thanks so much for pouring your heart out and sharing your life this way. I'm 39 now and I've finally reached that point in life where I'm quitting the pursuit of trying to "fit the mold"and I'm terrified that I'm too old to keep going on this way! I truly want to find my purpose and I feel like God has stripped away all the distractions for me so that I can center myself and focus on my true purpose. I am so grateful for that yet I am so terrified that I will continue to waste more time searching and still not finding my purpose and it is such a giant in my life! It's the main source of my discontentment and I feel so fulfilled in my home life but I need to make income and I don't want to fall into the trap again of taking meaningless jobs for the sake of a dollar and hating every minute of it! I just always thought or felt like I was the only one going through this, but your opening up the way you did honestly makes me feel so comforted because I don't feel like such an alien anymore. I've been so utterly disappointed in myself for this inconsistency in my career life, and I don't know if I will ever truly forgive myself for it, but from the bottom of my heart, thank you for your story. You gave me a bit of peace and comfort about it (and during a terrible bout of insomnia). God bless you and the good work you've done and the good work that is to come for you sister!
Finally found my vocation at the age of 55. I’ve loved the journey to get to this point and all those other occupations have all finally come together. So as I look back now at the age of 60 I would say go down all those rabbit holes, test out all your ideas and when you finally find the right thing all those experiences will suddenly appear as exactly the right ones to support you. Whether it makes money I’m still not sure.
Thank you for this video!!!🙏🏻💖👏🏻I’ve been needing to hear this for awhile! I’m 41 and I’m finally feeling confident enough to share my passions for art with others! Such a challenge as an introvert, but hearing your experience is an inspiration!🙏🏻🙏🏻✨
This is really helpful. I'm in my first year of university, and decided to major in biology kind of on a whim. Bio has always been interesting to me even though my grades aren't spectacular. However, it requires a LOT of chemistry at times, which is something I have always struggled with. There are times when I feel so stupid for not understanding something that everyone else seems to get. My assignments have started piling up from being put off. I just get so tired of doing it. Recently I've been thinking about changing majors to liberal arts. I've always done really well in those kinds of classes and at this point I am so exhausted of pushing my brain to do back-flips that I can't handle it anymore. This video seriously helped me kind of solidify that decision. It showed me that there are other options and my way of thinking isn't crazy. I've always wanted to create, whether through painting, sculpting, acting, writing etc, and I think a big source of anxiety is that I will ultimately fail in the end and die poor and unsuccessful. But the fact of the matter that it's these things that make me happy. Maybe it wouldn't be so bad to pursue some of them, especially now while I don't have much to lose. Idk. Being an INFP is not helping haha
As I child I didn't enjoy school. I was very introvert. I was fantastic in Art. Then it wasn't until I finished Uni studying business, I was even more confused and felt lost. I job hopped very much going from one thing to another, I got bored quickly. I then got into IT as work was plentiful and more reliable. But found I've got bored now after 10+ years in this industry, even though it pays well. I have an urge to do something creative and make a living in this. In between the healing arts, Massage therapist, writing, acting, dabbled in music creation, creating jewellery, Logo designing and making clothes. My current challenging is bring up 2 children with challenge behaviour, which is exhausting and it feels that blocks me too. So I'm more confused now about what path to follow. This makes me feel dizzy so I do't even dare get started for fear of many things, raising family, mortgage, debts to cover and very little time to feel creative. It feels like I need to be in the mood to do my fave hobbies.
I've never felt so understood than I have watching this video! As a 28 year old, her story almost completely mirrors my own and I'm hoping to find somewhere to place my passion, talents and ultimately make it a career. It's been quite difficult but I'm hopeful!
Thank you M'am you just saved me ... I saw few videos on INFP but you are the best ... You just said what mattered the most ... Certainly you learnt from your experiences that helped me ... Thank you you for making this video ... I can't be more grateful ... I wish I could be able to share that emotion ... Thank you again ... 🕉️✝️... 🕉️ Shree ramkrishana paramhansa ... 🕉️...
I'm 40, and just now giving more thought to my personality type I know me, but didn't feel I needed to classify myself to a type. I'm Christian I lean more on who God says I am. I didn't even know I am in INFP-T until about a week ago. I went through a lot of career fields sales, construction, timber industry, clerical, retail, business contractor through my 20's, but more and more God led me into care giving for sick family. For the last 6 years I've been supporting people with disabilities during the overnight shift 11pm-7am. It's rewarding I love it, and God promoted within the first year. The overnight shift gives me time by myself to read, and write as well. It doesn't pay well, but I've managed to hold this job longer than any other, and my commute time is minutes.
You are too on point..you are making me cry..I am a teacher now and it's draining me so I'm looking for that thing am passionate about and fulfilling my purpose..I need to move but being socially anxious is stalling me..I love you..you are a true INFP
I’ve definitely done this as well. I’ve gone to school for pharmacy, nursing, general science, and now I’m 28 and have a 9 year old daughter, and I’m back in school for psychology. I want to help others, but id like to find a niche in psychology that’s a bit different... not just counseling... I also love playing music and writing on the side, although as passionate as I am about those things, I don’t believe I have enough natural talent with those things to make it a career. I completely understand where you’re coming from though. I appreciate this video. Ps: Kind of random, but I’m pretty sure I have the same keyboard as the one in the background of this video.
Melbourne Target that would be great start a organization that travels around the world and plant food in countries with food scares and dig clean water wales. and volunteer at orphanages to hold kids a baby that don’t get held because it to many babies and kids.
I'm sorry to hear about your GAD. I've had bad bouts with anxiety and panic attacks as well. I've found a few things that really work. In the middle of an attack, start walking and keep walking for at least 10 minutes or so (if it's night time, then walk around your house if you have to). Don't run, just walk a steady pace. This will force your breathing into a relaxed, normal breathing pattern so you will stop hyperventilating and your lightheadedness will go away. This really helps to calm you down. THEN, wrap yourself up tightly in a warm, snuggly heated blanket. A therapist told me this is called "bundling" and it helps because it mimicks the safety we felt in the womb. It stops the trembling which is such a relief. Also, remind yourself that a panic attack peaks after about 10-15 minutes and then the waves get smaller. So remind yourself that you can survive for 15 minutes and then will start feeling some relief. And tell yourself, via chanting, "this too shall pass" "this too shall pass" or something like that. Another thing I found helped was while I was bundling late at night, I read a sweet, funny book about a dog called "Marley and Me". It was such a positive and fun book that it made me laugh and helped me interrupt my invasive thoughts. I used that book for about a year whenever I had anxiety and it was a lifesaver. Of course, do your box breathing technique too. Also, I've found it helps to do 5-4-3-2-1 game. You think of 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can smell, 2 things you can feel and 1 thing you can taste in the PRESENT MOMENT. It really helps to block your invasive thoughts and brings you back into the present moment. Also, get yourself some magnesium citrate powder and drink it in a glass of water. The first time I tried it, after about 45 minutes, when it hit my system, all of a sudden I went from being in a severe anxiety bout to all of a sudden feeling a heavenly, still, quiet, peacefullness come over me. It was almost like a soft wave through my body as the tension dissipated and my shivering stopped. I have never gone a day without having a teaspoon of magnesium in my water bottle ever since. It's really nice to have at night because it makes you feel so peaceful and easier to calm down and fall asleep. I hope these things help you. And of course, figure out what is at the root of your anxiety so you can work on that as well. Thank you for your videos and take good care.
Spot on . Artist ? Nope . Writer..?? One day . Sign language teacher ..failed the exam . Reflexologist..I am now qualified . But ... I am now writing a children's book . Keep feeling fascination ( The Human League . And a favourite song for this INFP ) ♡ 👍
I want to sing and make music. But I need stability in my every day life, because I'm. Very sensitive. So I choose my second interest, which is create, communicate and organise cultural events and projects. I just need to trust more that I Can succeed!!! 😅😉🌺🌺🌺
I'm INFJ and I help people find career paths based on their type. INFP make amazing teachers in just about any subject matter from English to math to sciences.
Thank you so much for this video, it aplies to me so much. The Last months of 2017 where really tough for me, i quit my Job as a nurse, which i really enjoyed, but i felt Like i couldnt make the differance that i could make, i couldnt stay there. Then i was in a kinda Phase of depression where i locked my self in and did'nt make contact With anyone that i was Close With. I Just came Out of this in december, i got a Job in a Mail Transfer thingie to atleast Pay the Bills. But im following also my big Dream now, to become a Artist. I Always had that Feeling that i should make more Out of myself because i can.
Wow, that's awesome!! You should be so proud of yourself, that is a big thing! When you've dedicated a good portion of your life to a certain discipline to then say, you know, it doesn't grow my corn anymore and I'm deciding to be happy and do what makes me happy... that's totally awesome. I understand the depression too. That's how I felt when I decided to quit uni. Good luck with it all
I am exactly the same position as you with the nursing and I am just pushing past the depression phase at the moment and applying for more ‘menial’ jobs just to get me through and I feel like I should be doing something more creative but I don’t feel as though I am really good enough at anything to make a career out of it. I am really glad that you have found something that you really want to do and I wish you all the best x
Ahhhhhh...... but nursing has paid the bills over the years and allowed me some flexibility to be me! Unfortunately, my bosses didn’t appreciate my insight nor the great job I did - some, I’m sure felt threatened (but I did not want their job! - coworkers told me that). Many view me as intelligent which means I can pick up skills easily. So, since nursing basically has no retirement, unless you stay at one place for decades, I still have to work well beyond retirement age. I will be taking a real estate course! Hopefully, flexible hours, interacting with people in a more positive way and certainly not the continued stress from potential life & death situations in nursing!!! I also discovered a new type of “painting” that I can’t wait to try! I love many types or art mediums and art and color and plan on making time to create!
I feel the same.. just a big mess in my head! with all of the career paths that come to mind that I feel I can do so good on! I get so excited over one career type, then leave it alone and pick up the next.. Time to be more focused!
Lexi I can relate to everything your saying and I am just now finally understanding myself so much more. I'ts just so amazing for me to hear your speak about yourself and how you think, because I never come across anyone like me in my life and I have always felt so in conflict with myself. And I feel you are almost exactly like me. It's seems weird to say this but it's such a relief to feel I am not alone.
i can totally relate to this! i thought about teaching too (both early years & secondary), but don't think i could cope with all of the paperwork/lesson planning/marking that comes with it...that and it seems like most teachers work well beyond the 40 hours a week to get all that done.
I know a male INFP who taught drama but not sure how much grading and paperwork involved beyond 40 hours for him. I'm one of the few female ISTJ's who teaches technology courses. My students are allowed to be very creative within guidelines. I've mastered the art of strategic grading that's quick and accurate! It's nice having a relaxing weekend again.
I think the purpose we choose here in this lifetime is to enjoy life itself and experience everything that we love. We are free-spirited. We're just resisted by doing that because of the society, the system that people created, the opinion of others, and the lack of funding to enjoy a thing called life.
You just brought everything in my mind out through your mouth so flawlessly and plainly . I really enjoyed your explanation and advice . Can you teach me too to explain things like you do ..I'm your kind 110/110.
😃Hi Lex, new subscriber! Being an INFP myself, your video has helped break down the concept of passion and purpose in a way that I better understand. Seriously, I've watched so many videos on INFPs seeking guidance because I know TONS of things that are NOT suited for me, but feel stuck and frustrated in finding what I DO like. I have interest in many things, but nothing to the level of "passion". I look forward to combing through all of your videos!
I'm a french INFP, i love your channel, i find my vocation, i knew it a long time but in the past i didn't follow, my vocation is writing ^^ i'm actually doing a training of community manager that require write things and i love it, i love writing fictions too, i began to write fiction when i was young when i was 11, in high school, i studied litterature but when i went to university, i didn't study litterature but languages and i didn't like read books because of schools that gave me books that i didn't like xd, i thought i can take care of children because i love them but i realized that it's not for me, i don't want to be teacher too so when i was graduated, i didn't know what to do as jobs, i applied for every jobs, then i realized what kind of jobs i don't want to do, in the past, i didn't really listen myself so i took time to listen myself and then i realized that i knew what kind of job i want and what is my vocation that is writing, i knew it but i was too realistic to follow my dreams and now i do a training for community manager to win money and i like this job and in the same time, i want to be author too, a blogger too and a corrector in french ^^
I was a professional musician and amateur photographer for 35 years. When it started feeling like 'just a job', I quit performing. Now I teach music and photography to the developmentally disabled by day and work as a concert photographer and jazz promoter at night. At the age of 52, it feels like a better fit. ps. where did that "Purpose" Venn diagram come from. That's cool.
being a INFP shut in really sucks it takes forever to figure out anything if at all. I feels like I went into a black hole after high school with no direction to go, lost and confused. Doesn't feel like anyone around me has a vision for their life, they are just pleased doing the most basic of things to get by. I can't stand jobs where I am stuffed into a warehouse for hours on end it feels so suffocating and that's the only kind of job I was able to get after high school. It feels like the world and everything is closing in around me and my opportunities are disappearing. Sometimes it's really overwhelming and upsetting I end up shutting down just to start the self defeating cycle over again. I really worry for my mental health sometimes it feels like this cycle with time will drive me mad. I am trying to change it but it is really hard to know where to start and how.
I came to your channel late. But this myers briggs stuff is amazingly correct and it is so lovely to know their are other people like me out there. Thank you for your videos
I really like this video, Lex. I'm currently making up for lost time by pursuing my degree in hospitality management. Like you, when I was younger, I wanted to do a number of things such as make video games or get into acting. I think the more we can test ourselves, the more we can grow.
Sadly, I had to leave my hospitality job, because I'm already working another job plus I had started back up with school. International travel and hospitality sounds good. I like the idea of food travelling, because there is a real sense of adventure. I'm not sure how I would be able to transition to that path, but I will need to figure things out in time. In hospitality, it's always important to have a service-oriented mindset. I need to be able to channel my extraverted intuition to promote possibilities to guests, and that can help me connect with them.
Thanks for speaking out (: As a kiwi INFP, it's always nice to see fellow comrades shining (: How do you feel about the INFP in NZ's Tall Poppy Syndrome?
I was struggling for 5 years trying to understand myself and who really I am as a person. I have this urge to find my purpose then I've learned about Community Development cos it is one of my major subject back from the Uni and I said to myself this is it... Before that I was already volunteering to a community or do outreaches. After I graduated from the Uni, I was in a hurry to find a job in another place but my mom told me to take things slow... Eventually, it feels like a blessings in disguise cos that's when I started to learn about personality test and also astrology... I'm fascinated because everytime I read about those, I can relate it to myself.... Personality Test and Astrology leads me to self-discovery... for how many months I cut my connections with most people, I begin to meditate and analyze everything that went before and plans that I'll be taking after my gap months... Now, I'm working on my way to achieve this, I'm planning to do further studies and get a Masters Degree in DevComm or Globalization... This is my calling and passion in life to help other people... I feel like I'm so lucky to be an INFP.
I'm 29, and I'm still trying to figure it out. I'm so different from I was last year and so very different from when I was a teenager. That being said, I would really like to choose a career and follow it please. I'm so tired of the guessing, the low pay.
ohh..i feel exactly same..!! i feel so much good after watching this video..😆😆 but i regret my career decision.. i had to choose engineering as career becoz-- 1)here in india, everyone(society) thinks that only engineering, doctors etc. are good,respectful careers.. 2) lack of knowledge about other careers..i didn't had anyone to guide me. my parents are less educated and 8 years ago here internet was not considered as that useful for such important decisions.. now i regret my decision becoz-- 1)i dont like to work for IT companies..technology field.. i want to work in nature related field like meteorology,environment etc. i love music and i can play indian instrument-'Tabla' means i can also play drums and octopad etc. and want to and i would love learn violin, flute..i like to write as well..! i love watching movies and series..acting and directing,cinematography.. i love photography and i am little bit good at it😛 i love treking,hiking,travelking and tourism.. BUT* very little chance or risky for choosing all this as career for money point of view.. 2) IT/Engineering profession needs good english communication skills .. BUT* english is my third language and i am not comfortable to talk in english AND* i have *social* *anxiety* and i cannot perform well in group discussions and job interviews, future meetings etc. i will complete my engineering degree next year successfuly but it will be very hard to get a good job.. even if i do get, but i will hate my life.. i hate my life decisions..!
You look amazing for having insomnia and anxiety disorder! I had it for a year and my appearance became unpresentable. In my case I had to resort to Lexipro for a couple of months. After healing, it took another few months before I realized what caused my trouble to begin with....which was a traumatic event that I suppressed and forgot about. Anyway, however you're dealing with it, it must be working. You seem in top shape and good spirits. I love your accent, too!
Jesus Cristo thank you so much, that's quite relieving to hear -- makeup has been helping with the dark circles. I don't wear makeup much, but it makes me feel "presentable" for the camera 😂 I have a good skincare routine too. I moisturize like it's going out of fashion and make sure I eat a good amount of fruit/vegetables/water. Every third night I seem to sleep solidly, but a few days a week I get about 3 hours at the moment 😢 it's taking a toll on my mental health though -- I'm moody as hell. I'm sorry to hear about your insomnia, it sucks so much, it's torture. What do you find works for you, if anything?
Lex Morningstar I had to take 10 mg a day of a med called Lexipro, and after about 30 days my anxiety and depression went away, which allowed me to sleep again. Since then I've slept well, but part of that involved also leaving the toxic relationship that started the depression in the first place. Yes, moisturizing is awesome. My favorite is warm coconut oil. It makes the skin feel so supple. Thank you for the response, and the great video!
Jesus Cristo Thank you. I was just talking to my partner about medication. I've been putting it off because I'm scared, but I do indeed have postpartum anxiety and cyclothymia. I just want to sleep 😂 I love coconut oil. I love making my own moisturizer. I recently made a blend of coconut oil, beeswax, vitamin E, shea butter, lavender, rose-geranium. I love it. I'm lucky my mum is a massage therapist, so I steal all of her essential oils 😂😍
Lex Morningstar , yes meds were my last resort so as to not commit suicide. Luckily this med went to the heart of the problem, which was a decreased production of seritonin in my brain. For me, the first med prescribed only made me foggy, so luckily there were other options. Hang in there and you will find the answer. 😘
Wow, this video really speaks to me! I ached for years over what I wanted to do with my life because I had so many passions that it seemed impossible to narrow it down to one. At the end of the day I chose nursing because I am fascinated by more of the patho-pharm aspect of it, but I also have a strong drive to make a difference in people's lives. I also love how working at the hospital gives me a lot of free-time with my schedule to pursue other passions; right now I'm taking a ceramics class and I love it! Of course, I've only been a nurse for a year, so who knows where my life will go in the future, but for now, I'm happy. :)
I'm an INFP from France, I've been growing up in France and lived in China for 10 years as an expat since my childhood, moving back and forth with my family and my sister cause of my fathers job. I have been struggling with Tourette Syndrome since I was 7 and have always been passionate about videography, photography and time-lapses and still am. But i was met with tons of challenges on the way. I started in a French school system for the first 7 years in China and that was tough because the french system is much more draconian in a way, and since this is was international they expected even more out of us. Teacher were almost abusive, they were allowed to scream at you if you did something wrong, rarely you would see somebody raise their hand to ask a question du to fear of ridicule by peers . Anyway after failing I was oriented to an international school that looked somewhat better and had more artistic courses in their IB program. They teachers were not screaming at least but you pretty much had no freedom and lot more workload. After 2 years there i gave up, it was too much homework and study I didnt want to do it. With the help of my dad, we found a film school that accept student with no graduation in Paris which was good. So I booked a ticket and left Shanghai. This was a very depressing phase for me as I was missing China a lot, was getting used to interact with coldhearted parisians again and was feeling very lonely. Also was going through a break up with my ex. But I managed to graduate this school at least, my parents were happy and I went back to china for a little, to take a rest. Which was pretty much staying in my room for 4 months straight haha after sometime though I decided it would be good to at least take a trip somewhere to experience something different. So went to Thailand first which was great, and then Sedona, AZ and there I met the love of my life in the plane on my return flight. We travelled asia together for 2 months and I decided I wanted to move to the USA. And here I am now, it's been almost 3 years and I am still working on my career , I haven't found any clients yet Idk if this is the way for me but it's what I love and now I have support from my wife and my new friends which I didnt have back then.
I have all these creative interests and no talent or drive (ideally I would work for myself, but if left alone I just watch videos on youtube and scroll through tumblr). Art & Humanities were always downplayed in my home (and I was homeschooled). It's frustrating because I'm 24 and feel stuck being a perpetual disappointment... Every second I'm jobless feels like I'll never have a retirement fund. I don't want to be a failure though... I KNOW I need to be responsible and DO SOMETHING, but I'm scared I'll get stuck working a retail job for 15 years because I wouldn't know how to quit a job even if I hated it. And there's so many job titles out there that I don't know what they mean or what kind of experience I need to have. I think I could write at least one book, or even a series... I have ideas... but I never sit down and write because my Fe spins out of control without ever choosing a path and my Fi is scared to put my thoughts on the page. I am also interested in film (writing scripts and/or editing), but I have no desire to spend money learning a trade on the off chance it can be profitable... nor would I ever want to work in hollywood or vancouver (where the film industry resides), even if I knew how to get a job there. I took one year of elementary education and enjoyed the philosophical theory of education, but then I ran out of money and ended up back at home, and in the years since, I've realized I'd have to teach so many topics I'm uninterested in (like science and math) and plan so many lessons in my me-time, and put up with bratty kids and bratty parents and I'm not equipped for that. I think I might be more interested in teaching a single topic I'm passionate about like high school literature/English... but even that is daunting because kids these days are tyrants. I'm a bit scared of doing something hard, but I want to do something rewarding. I would probably love a job like book editing, but I have no idea how to accomplish that... Let's say I did settle on something... I think I could pick any one of those and manage to find contentment or purpose... I still have no Se to accomplish anything or lay out plans. I also have no money to invest in learning or entrepreneurial pursuits (like starting a freelance proofreading service, which I also considered), and I'm not keen to take out a loan... even if I had a job to pay it back. Anyone have any ideas on how to make a change??? Also, I know I need to get out of my comfort zone, but I don't like pushy people.
ohifonlyx33 What you’re saying resonates so much. All I have to offer is a virtual hug and a suggestion of focused alone time, meaning make a chart of : 1 what you’re good at & what you love about them 2 what you’re passionate about & why 3 which offers the best livelihood (varies by state) & your priorities Give in depth answers
Sometimes being an INFP makes me so tired. I feel like I'm always searching for a way to make an impact and it drives me crazy.
its really hard and you just want to take a break from all this that is running on your head but try to find yourself and if you use all this its really really strong and good at all aspects (friends , job , reliationship)
I feel like there's millions of spongebob inside my head and when i tell them to shut up... they won't -.- it's overwhelming. Having so many ideas but don't know where to start how to start and would it really make an impact would it make me happy.....hshsys7av
Isabel Stephanie well first make sure you are with people you trust and feel good being with them and then try doing whatever you think just keep doing something and you will find something you like and then be the best on that , well SpongeBobs inside you means that you are thinking and that means you are clever use it
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True, and if you do some research you would find that infp are most likely increase the rate of suicidal
Being an INFP, I am not easily satisfied with any job that I do. I feel like I'm not doing what I'm supposed to do. I feel like I'm not making the impact that I was born to make. It's like there's a missing piece of puzzle and I'm in a constant search of it.
I love reading the comments. Knowing others feel the same.
Hey, I know what's missing; Jesus. Without him I'd be so depressed.
Hey, how're you doing now???
Jordan Illevacs amen
Indeed
“Going from wanting to be an actress (actor), to a nutritionist, to a writer..” oh my that’s literally all things I’ve wanted to do and I can’t decide
So true
Brendan B totally get that. It is annoying sometines
Ich glaube, dass du mit dem Schauspieler versuchen solltest.
Yes, me too! That's what brought me to this channel 🙏🤗❤️
The thing that hurts me the most is when someone treats me bad for no reason, especially when i’m trying to do something nice for that person.
fuck them...
Well...
It's easy to come across as needy
We're perfect narc bait. So yeah, it gets worse.
If i see a slightest sign of arrogance, i walk away.
? Something .... I experience this too. Other types take issue with INFPs just for us existing. We are different. Which I love. It's their issue if they can't deal with it. Lol. 😉 When I do something nice for someone and it incites a negative reaction, I believe it is the same analogy as when Snow White and her love and generosity set off the wicked queen. Some people can't handle goodness. Don't ever change. We will always get the last laugh in the end. That's how we roll. 😉
As an INFP I think my purpose is to create. By dabbling in my imagination and creating new worlds I feel both closer to God and the universe.
Jacob omg yes i feel ya
god? what?
Yess
*wants to be an electric violin-playing fantasy writer who produces, directs and acts in films, tv shows, and theatre productions where I also make all the costumes and build the sets, as well as make my own music videos with the band I'm in (which plays every genre you can think of) so I can live happily with my wonderful husband in the hobbit hole (that I built myself) where I keep a very lovely garden and raise my 7 home-schooled kids and numerous pets where we have marvelous movie nights and Halloween parties and enjoy nature frequently*
LOLOLOL
The Accuracy
We should collab (; jk
As if I wrote this.. XD
Add violin playing to the list of accomplishments I'm sad I never learned. But yes. THIS minus the garden.
Fuck that i feel attacked
At this point, we INFPs are meant to be entrepreneurs. To have the freedom to express ourselves without restrictions. We ALL yearn to create
This 🔥
felt, felt this one so in my core.
@@aquaae I am glad to hear it 💯💙
Yep. I think we are all Bohemian at our core.
I'd have to disagree
I’ve never found people who actually understand me... until I found out me personality type
Same!
It's weird and lovely 💗
Same
Opino igual :)
@@rayp5339 muy agradable conocer a otros tan similares 😂
I'm an INFP as well and I have jumped between music and poetry to Naturopathy and Psychology. I want to dip my finger in every pie but struggle to stay focused on one thing at once!
Feel ya here
what was the one you stick to in the end? im curious on psychology
What fulfills you now?
Girrrl, the struggle is REEEEAL.
Being INFP IS SO EXHAUSTING.
I took interior major, then 2 years later change to Archi, halfway through, learning how to play piano as a side hobby, as i just got curious and on an impulse buy. Then thought of making my own music, and be a musician instead. Good thing i keep it as a hobby.. after graduating archi, working in the themepark industry, it was good for 1 year plus until i was into cinematic next. Quit my job to study cinema & movies but half the year through i was interested in making games after watching random youtuber's live stream. Now im 7 months in studying to become game designer.. and oh yeah and at the side hobby writing stories... oh gawd.
Dang, that’s a lot of career changes. I’m honestly kind of stuck, but it’s kind of reassuring to know you can change your mind about what you want to do.
how many careers have you done? i wanna start one by 28 but i feel old
Oh my god same i have changed career goals so many times
Wow!!! That was some major changes!!!
I'm supposed to study Architecture 😂😂😂👋👋
I must be the most procrastinating INFP ever...
I'd argue with you...but who has the time.
It’s like you’re reading my mind! Lol
I'd beat you when it comes to procatination lmao
Let's face off and see who wins, shall we?
Facts me too
I'm a tradesman, which is as far removed from my authentic INFP self as I can be. This caused internal conflict for years, wishing I had a more fulfilling vocation. In my late thirties, I came to the realisation that job and passions don't have to be intertwined. I could seperate the two. I could work hard at my job which would support me and ultimately my family, whilst still pursuing my passions and fullfilling my INFP needs. It was upon this realisation that thing's finally started falling into place. Now I see my job not as a hindrance, but a foundation, from which my passions can grow wings take off and fly!!!
omg gang, i didnt know this was a generalized issue in the infp realm
'It's about mastering one thing and having all others floating in the background' I like that one!
I'm 24 and still have no idea what to do as a future career 😕
Same! :( Any ideas? All my talents are pretty much not aligned with society much
Magique Oracle glad I'm not in this alone 😂 But I've always noticed that I've more or less have a passion for languages and other cultures and anything artistic. Funny enough, listening to A LOT of kpop made me realize that 😂😂😂 So I'm planning on majoring in global studies and maybe down the line become an interpreter or tanslator. So anything you have an interest in might motivate you to pursue a career in that area! Is there any interests or hobbies that you like or do in your free time? 👀
Oh yeah Im sure Anthropology or language translating would be amazing for others, you know you can go to most other countries with just any old bachelors degree and teach English, if you know other languages you'll be a few steps ahead and be able to travel and teach other people! Always thought that would be interesting I'm just not passionate about it, but its supposed to be quite easy from what I've read :P The only things I like is research about interpersonal relationships and how people interact so Psychology but I dont know if I can do that sciences and maths and histories etc that college forces you to take. Id love to study "Love" and how couples and friends can work together, but the major thing Im passionate about it painting! Its what Im pretty strong at, and Im hoping I can travel and sell stuff... So Im probably gonna be a starving artist ...Goody me😓😋
I'm 33 and I have narrowed it down to three options 😂 none of which are sure things.
Shana Mathew As it pertains to your career goals, 24 is young for an INFP!
Oh my god comments i feel like i wrote it all
LOL
I had the great fortune of having someone tell me I was not smart enough to get an engineering degree... So, I set out and proved them wrong. I have worked in software for 35 years - developing new products. I have been a bit of an oddity at work, but the job allowed me to travel, play the violin and write.
I am INFP and want to be a programmer/designer. However, I heard you need a really high IQ to work in this field. Mine is about 109 and I do not know if I should even try and it drives me crazy.
@@OrehBelich92 just do it. You can
Always interrupt those that say impossible by making it possible!
Walter Sigtermans but do you like coding?
Heeey! I was told I wouldn’t be any good at web coding, and I have held two jobs now as a web manager! 😁
Basically, my life as an INFP is pretty much the same as you described. A big mess. Mostly, a big mess of dreams not truly followed. I've always been interested in the arts. All of it. Dance, Music, Singing, Acting, Performing, Writing (of stories, screenplays) and direction. As well as painting, drawing, creating. I tried some of them each for a year. Mostly as a young child and teen. But, after that, without any push from parents or guardians, I never tried or continued those things, because I was so very absorbed my finding my value system, and not trusting my intuition. I had a host of mental problems that were not addressed properly until my twenties; bipolar depression, autism spectrum disorder, borderline personality disorder, and now fibromyalgia. Now, as an adult, I can see more clearly, and my behavior and mental health is better, but at the time, it was dibilitating. Add that to my normal Extroverted Intuition that makes me want me see anything as possible for me to do well in. For example, if I go to a doctors office or hospital, i get super inspired about working in that field, but i never follow through, excepting that I wouldnt be good at it, for what ever reason. Or if I see people in a dance competition, i get inspired to dance again and get lessons....but i never follow through. I just get wrapped up in work, or trying to find energy to even check on simple things, like my health and wellness. Im sad that Ive let so many oppurtunities pass me by. Thing is, I would do great in any of those things, but since there are so many options, I HATE OPTIONS, i cant ever make a decision. Also, just like you, I think about writing or being a writer all the time. It was my favorite part of middle, highschool, and college. I loved writing about things I cared about, like the environment, people, sociological issues, and the human mind, and all its darkest parts. I liked to write about things people want to read, but dont because it takes too much effort. Im not a novelist, or fiction writer, never have been. Everything had to be about real, life things, with a heart beat, with a soul. I love writing motivational, real, contemplative topics and quite often use myself as a subject. But, that idea that I want to do so many things, makes it difficult for me to understand what my passion is, or to narrow it down. Thats what people tell me to do...Narrow it down.,..which is ok if I wanted to share it as a bigger concept, but to actually narrow down passions, that are not on the same level, is difficult. Its not like, this part of medicine or psychology I would like to study, or this part of the arts...its the whole damn tree....my other fuctions, tell me to become an expert in an area, become a guru of sorts, and then I will be successful, but that doesnt seem to be a possibility for me.
Gaia YOU ARE ME.
Know you are not alone.
Stop stealing my mind please
Hah..You're stealing my mind too! Thank you for being a relatable human to me..I so get you!
+1 let's all keep it up. Just think that we are not trapped in a "cage" just following routine. Hey at least we are actually trying, even just by thinking. We'll make it, I know it.
Well your comment was written out beautifully so you have loads of talent there!
I found out how to save the world... it just doesn't pay any money. I want to put alllll my energy into just this.. because for the first time in my life I found deep satisfaction and I have a reason to wake up everyday..
But i need to find a non stressful job to support my basic needs ... and I'm stressed out about that.
Ta tum I can't relate. Stress is our enemy..as INFP
Same here girl
*Spiderman meme intensifies*
Exactly it a pain and a hard trade off
So anyone having an idea what a non stressful job might be? :D
I just discovered your channel, right after I finally realized I'm an INFP. Thank you very much for sharing your life experiences with us. It not only comforts me, it is also very inspiring. In this world we live we are taught we have to be assertive, choose fast and right. That we don't have the time to truly reflect on anything. Like a machine, you're supposed to graduate and keep improving and work work work and earn money and marry and have kids, and if you question any of that and say: "You know what, life is simply too short for me to just follow the system like a zombie. I want, I actually need a life of purpose! " people will call you a dreamer, unresolved, maybe mentally ill... The world can be a hard place for INFPs. So yeah, thank you very much once again
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Let me tell you guys something that I just learned and I hope this can help you. As a INFP I've always looked for a purpose, a way to change the world, well, I'm 18, but since 3 years ago, so I decided tu study medicine (what I wanted for 9 years) because I wanted to to work with an altruist organization y to do what I love: travel and help others. And my plan was also becoming a neorologist because of a great interest in our brain, a spiritual or philosophical interest as well. These were my reasons, but I never was shure, because I love social and political sciences, history, culture, languages and writting essays, poetry and stories. I was so confused because I'm so curious and I believed that I wasn't going to find my passion, but just temporary interests. So in less than 2 months of starting the career I couldn't more. We can't study something just for ONE purpose. I felt like I wasn't my self, I had lost the joy of living and my creativity (a sensation so common in us) and I started exploring so deeply my self, finally I thought in 3 careers: history, sociology and antrophology. After thinking about it too much I decided social anthropology, because it doesn't matter if I'm doing a transcendental investigation or not, I'll enjoy it because I love all of this science that also gives me the oportunity of studying a graduate degree in sociology or biological anthropology or history. If you find an activity that you really enjoy, you don't need to find a purpose, you create your own purposes, and that's what an INFP personality needs, freedom. I also recommend you a creative activity, I started writting again and I feel so happy. Music, theater, painting, all what let us to express the intense emotion that we have. We don't have the things easy with this system, but let's use our talent, idealism and optimism to make a little or a great change, but first we have to be happy.
I feel like i just read about myself when i look at your comment!!
Thank you!
Thank you so much
This is me 100%
This explains why I’ve been to 8 colleges for 8 different things none of which I got a degree in 😩 and worked over 15 jobs lol I’m 31
feel u, struggle hard at college ♥ am 31 too :|
Same, basically a freshman at college with many credits from the Air Force and many attempts of college over the years. Making around a 100k now as a civilian and still not fulfilled and have never found my purpose. It's not even about the money, I would be fine as a minimalist if I were single and didn't have children, maybe it's time to start a business. I've been thinking of ideas that can support the homeless or elderly, just haven't made the jump due to procrastination.
I don’t think college is for me like choosing one particular major
I just like going what I’m feeling at the moment
Sometimes I feel philosophy, sometimes psychology, sometimes literature yea the list goes on
But like I don’t like the education system too so yea well
@@kcansellit6285 wow I’ve been thinking of the same thing just don’t know we’re to start. Something to help the homeless
Have you found your dream job yet?
I’m an INFP who’s turning 50 this year, and I don’t know what I’m truly passionate about. I’ve had a successful sales career (which I hated) evening winning an award for salesperson of the year. I felt like such an imposter, though. Now I’m starting over and I’m petrified. I don’t need to make the kind of money I was making before, but I do have a family I help support and retirement to think about. Anything I’m remotely interested in would require multiple years of additional education, and sadly, I don’t have the time to pursue it 😔. I’m obviously not sure what to do.
I'm really sorry you feel lost -- that is a feeling I can definitely identify with, especially after having kids and feeling like I didn't know myself anymore, obviously still loving my kids to bits. You're 50 though, wow!! You look amazing, and radiant!! A therapist I used to see, an INFP who was your age too was in the exact same boat as you. I remember talking to him about how I was struggling to find purpose in my life, and he could relate in the sense he only really started his perfect career in his late 40s after trying out other vocations which didn't suit him all that much. He told me that it is never too late to change careers and that he felt better for it. I understand retirement funds are very important, and that's why I find its important to focus on financial aspects as well, of course. What is it that you would like to do may I ask?
Lex Morningstar first, thanks for the compliments! I believe my biggest issue is I haven’t found my true purpose yet. There are plenty of hobbies I’m ok at like drawing, writing, ballet, etc. I am passionate about animal welfare. If I could, I’d rescue and care for all the abused and neglected animals in the world, I would. My dog and I are going to train to become a therapy team for people which I’m excited about. A pattern I’ve noticed is what makes me fulfilled and happy tend to be volunteer positions. My guess is this is common for INFPs? If only money wasn’t so important, right? Unfortunately, I’m unable to spend all my time volunteering.
I'm a male INFP/INTP in the exact same boat, except I'm currently jobless. I could probably get another crappy sales job pretty easily, but I feel like I can't do it again, because I've been stuck in this same crappy loop for 8 years now and don't feel like I can do it again. And yet I also have a family that is relying on me and am progressively getting deeper into debt. I'm not sure what to do...
At some point, you need to ask yourself - Do you want to die thinking: "I spent my career feeling like an impostor, but at least I can afford a nice hospital room", or die in a crap hospital room thinking: "At least I spent my life doing what I loved."
Heather Elzinga I’d say keep pushing for now until retirement. Then you have ample to work on art and things like that without worrying about money
I’m an INFP and chose a career in medicine as a doctor. In college I had considered being a writer but ultimately chose to go into healthcare. I think it’s a perfect field for some INFP’s. First I chose this field because I wanted to help people but also wanted to force myself to interact with people on a daily basis. Medicine is also said to be part science and part art which is true. There’s always gaps in knowledge with medicine and filling in those gaps require intuition and creativity. You also have to look beyond obvious facts and dig deep into why things are happening. I’m still introverted and have issues with procrastination but those have improved over the years out of necessity.
So you’re a doctor now?
Thank you. I’m about to start med school as an infp. I’ve had my reservations but I’m starting to realise it’s the perfect career for an infp if can find your own passion and purpose in it. The possibilities of what you can do are endless and you’re truly able to make a difference whilst being financially secure. I have very specific dreams and goals that I know I can realistically achieve and I’m so excited for what the future holds.
@@FuntoKomolafe1111 idk if there's a perfect career for an infp and personally healthcare and medicine would be one of the worst fields for me.
@@JBRitchie8 I actually recently discovered I'm an ENFP 3w4. Although it all comes down to the individual at the end of the day, I do 100% agree that the traditional healthcare/medicine career is not well suited for an XNFP. Fortunately, with a medical degree and the subsequent training, you're not actually limited to any one conventional route and you can always pave a unique career that works for your ideal lifestyle, and aligns with our need to express creativity and empathy in a meaningful and impactful way. While I could never see myself working in a hectic, critical environment like a hospital or a highly competitive specialty like surgery (both are better suited to XSTJs), my dream career for a while has been to work as psychiatrist and to branch into alternative medicine and/or counselling. I'd ultimately love to work freely and independently, from the comfort of my own home or small practice. This is what I would say is the 'perfect' career for me. I've also read the accounts of several INFPs, ENFPs, INFJs and ENFJs who pursued psychiatry, counselling or alternative medicine and have highly recommended it to other fellow XNFXs in the medical/healthcare field.
Im going back to school to teach music
Charles Benson YAAASSS👏🏼
Hey Lex :) I just discovered your channel and I love it so much
silentstorm 52 Beautiful comment, my fellow INFP💖 You sound like you've found your calling and had some great experiences in getting there, that's wonderful! Don't overwhelm yourself with school, take it slow and only take as many courses as you can handle at one time. We tend to get overwhelmed with school and life and quit if it gets to be too much. So be easy on yourself and take an extra year or two to get your degree. No one is judging, it's your life. I wish I had had this advice when I was in school, I had no idea what being an INFP was or why I was so different and ruled by my emotions. You are well on your way to being your best self and better the world as only INFP's can! Btw, your English is flawless (languages -another INFP strength😊). Take care and good luck!💓
Crystal Rolfe I just read your lovely answer on my comment
Hola, espero entiendas mi español, no sé cómo decirlo muy bien en inglés, pero espero te vaya muy bien en la vida. A ver intentaré: I hope you have a good life. You are a nice person.
@@crystaljean522 The wiseness in you is very beautifull to see, my fellow INFP......
You don't know how much I needed this video. Thank you so much!! I am in first year university, and I am questioning everything...
I know the feels. Good luck with your quest of finding your purpose ;)
I recently took the test, and I just found out that I'm an INFP. But I've already decided that I want to make an impact in the world by being a stay-at-home mom in the future and raise my children well. Then my 'legacy' can be passed on. Currently I'm working as a preschool teacher so that I can build up on my skills hehe.
I love how honest, open, and real you are. Such an INFP. I have been called "intense" multiple times the past few weeks, but I don't think I am and it is sad how that is perceived, I am talking with conviction. It scares the hell out of people, because people are terrified of anything real. That is why we are lonely. I am so glad I met you online.
Yep...I'm currently enrolled in my 5th College program. At 38! Also struggling with insomnia and anxiety, and feeling like I'm not living the life of my dreams yet. My attention is everywhere else, always curious, and feeling unfulfilled in the moment.
Karen S. I have a feeling I will be in the same boat. I cant find what is right for me. It's so frustrating... and depressing. Seeing my friends moved on.. and here i am .. *sigh*
Isabel Stephanie don't worry too much. Your career doesn't define you or consume your life as it does for others. I've had 30+ jobs. It's a great feeling knowing you have a choice. If your not enjoying what your doing, just do something else. I think most people feel trapped.
The INFPs are driven by Exploration-Authenticity, do new things always you can, is the only way we feel good, exploring, learning new things by our own way is just to take risks altough if we feel fear, if the school or studying is not for you, take some course about business in your area of interest to be frelance, you really dont need a title por paper yo do What you really love, the real purpose of Life is to be happy and i think that there's no job that can make that happen, only creating what we are good at can acomplish that! Greetings and have faith on your path, just belive in your hearth It can't be wrong.
Always filling unfulfilled when it comes to finding a career I enjoy. 31 here
@@DOOMxISxINSANEx , i know this but i tend to not finish what i started. I've started editing pictures, videos, doing excel, etc but i never got to the point i can do them proficiently to earn a living. What can i do?
Thank you for making this! I'm in my junior year of high school and I'm trying to figure out my career, thinking about it stresses me out and this helped me get my focus back to what is important. 😊
Sabrina Veliz Hey there. I'm really glad it helped. Good luck with it all ❤ I bet you'll do brilliantly xx
I'm INFP and I couldn't decide what I wanted to study, it was SO hard to pick something in so little time... Finally I got into the economics career, and I'm already in second year doing good! I know it's hard but you'll find something that suits you, belive me 💛
This is so insanely accurate to the INFP condition. I’ve been in the military as a logistics specialist for 5 years and it’s given me so much insight into how I function in relation to purpose, and satisfaction, and what I do and don’t stand for. I’m separating from the navy in about two years and plan on pursuing a degree and career in supply chain management not even because it’s apparently supposed to make me a decent amount of money but from realizing that it’s overall rather satisfying. I hate the bureaucracy and confinement of being in the military but am thankful for the structure and routine it’s shown me that I need to feel content. At least in the civilian world I have a better chance of choosing to apply for businesses that I value. But the work is never an issue, because deep down, once I (and I feel like most INFP’s) have a cause, we can become so loyal to projects and have our own unique perspectives on solving problems and we make great additions to any team or career.
infp who LOVES science. struggling with my college major now though, other people keep telling me to just switch to engineering: “it’s so easy to get a job and make a lot of money!” But that’s not me. I need a purpose, I need a reason, and I need to have a real passion for the thing I’m pursuing. It’s hard but I’m glad there’s people out there that get me.
It's funny, you don't think a creative career is really possible, while I see it as my only option at this point in my life. I have experienced first hand I can't do less creative careers for longer than five years. I'm tired of throwing my years away, so I have decided to just make it work no matter what.
The Vegan Celiac I’ve just come to that realisation at age 38
ok listen bros. my goals (/DREAMS/) are: self employed in making and selling games, movies, series, and leisure activities.
whoh liked me????
Nape Lazam I'm with you!
Thank you so much for your time. I just recently discovered my personality type and your channel. I was an unhealthy INFP for 8 years and thought it was normal. Lately I have been discovering more and more about myself and a big help from you, expressing yourself and thoughts. Iv been able to connect to my inner self and find inspiration to pursue my dreams. I'm 28 years old and a police officer, I feel like I am stuck in never ending cycle of depression doing this career. I'm still searching for that career that has everything I want from life, that will let me spread my wings and be free. You inspire your viewers and I appreciate every second of time you give to us. Follow your heart always and it will lead you to happiness.
Thank you so much for your wonderful comment. I am so sorry you feel stuck!! I can identify with that feeling wholeheartedly. I like to describe it as "seeing grey", or seeing things as though they are streaming through a black and white filter. I wish you the best of luck on your quest of life. I'm on the journey with you too :) You will find solstice, you're already half way there knowing your job doesn't grow your corn anymore.
I am an INFP and I suffered someone important pass away and also depressed for a long period of time. Thanks for sharing your exp.
My struggles as an INFP correlate with growing up in a family household that scoffed at artistic careers. Sad but true. "Theres no money in that! Get a "real" job."
Go to school they said, get a degree and fix computers. Not stimulated, quit. Join the military, be a police officer! Failed a drug test on purpose to end my contract when I had 6 years in. I was miserable. Physical therapy! Two semesters in, not stimulated. Quit.
Now, it's on to nursing. And what do you know, I'm already having those same feelings again of quitting before I waste more time and money.
I've literally caged my creative and artistic ability to impersonate other job titles to satisfy and please my family with a successful "job" choice. If they are happy, I would be happy.
Thank you for your content Lex! It takes courage to break free from this cycle, and your content has been heartwarming 😊
You are my kindred spirit...narrating the last 20 years of my life like you were there.
What if you're not sure about what your passion/purpose is? :(
lababaski try everything, dabble in everything that interests u
Same here, I've done alot but I want to do everything and that's kinda not possible in this world...
I feel so lost T_T
@@kaddac3095 some times it's good to take some time not thinking about it then come back to it refreshed and clear headed.
I'm an INFP too and I can relate to what you say and what everyone else is saying here. I used to draw when I was a kid. I used to draw so extensively I wanted to go to art school (age 15). But my parents didn't support the idea because there was no money to be made. I am now 38 and struggling everyday to get to this one heartfelt dream to become a fulltime artist. I have tried many art forms with a lot of passion but the one (drawing) art form that really is in my veins, keeps away because of the little voice in my head (my parents). Now I continuously feel like I am wasting my time with other art form, with passion! I feel I coud accomplish so much more!After seeing your video I realized all these artforms trigger me and I'm not (or should not be) fixed to one medium only. My passion is all over the place and hard to keep up. if my mind feels like doing sculptures, I do sculptures with great passion. if my hart says painting, I paint with great passion too. But it is also hard to enjoy. Joy usually comes afterwards when I look back at things. Then I can say: "That gave me great pleasure". but in the moment my mind and heart is sooooo occupied to feel practically anything. It is an addictive feeling, this feeling of rush when an idea gets made to reality.Just writing down my thoughts after seeing this video (I usually don't think when writing). Thanks Lex!just a side note to all INFP's struggeling:if all is overwhelming, insist on taking (extensive) time alone, for the good of everybody. This does miracles to me!I had a hard time applying this in my life but it is really worth it and most of all: necessary! without time alone, I lose control over myself...
It’s been an absolute blessing stumbling upon your channel. What an inspiration. Just what I needed to watch/hear.
Wow! Thank you very much. Is frustrating going in the opposite direction of our nature and dreams, goals, It's truly sickenning many INFPs.
Thank you for this video! I too have struggled for years to find a career path because I am so many things at the same time. I'm swimming in a world of creativity, so I felt I should be sharpening skills and pursuing film or creative writing in Uni. Simultaneously, I have an obsessive drive to collect facts and understand systems like within historic events, languages, and political movements. I desire to synthesize this material, adding layers of meaning/messages in my creative work. I worried myself when I started pursuing Liberal Studies (Humanities History of Culture [interdisciplinary theology, philosophy, and literature]) in Uni. This major required skills not in my constitution -- "I'm not good at all the left-brained analysis and interpretation day after day after day. This won't lead me to a career I'm good at. The grind is getting to me," I thought. But by sticking to it, that after a six months, I've learned procedures to better analyze and interpret, and I've strengthen my logic through the repetitive hardwork. I've been learning how to set goals, grow, improve, ask for help, and now I am motivated more than ever to pursue Liberal Studies because it's making me a more balanced human being. It's balancing me out, like you mentioned, through developing introverted sensing, and external logic. I've only increased my appreciation for the arts and human nature. It's given me mountains of inspiration for personal projects. Who knows where I'll end up, but for now I am flourishing.
Your passion is truly beautiful! Your communication skills are very powerful, because you speak from your heart. Thank you so much for all your videos. I believe you can incorporate several of your passions into one field. You are creative, because you are a vivid dreamer, and dreamers change the world!
I'm just hoping that someone say to me that
"It's okay, just follow your heart journey".
But, having pathetically empathic thinking, is holding me badly.
It's like :
"hey dude, you should think more about your future, your financial security, this world is becoming harder and harder to be survived in it. Your parent didn't pay your school tuition to be stupidly thinking that you can do everything and then get paid from it"
Also my family had given me a such discouragement too that actually worked to drag me away from what I want to do.
I won't blame them to do that, but they were the reason that I suffered from this metaphorical anxiety for a long time.
Why even my beloved familiy had to do that. I feel like want to die, sometime.
Don't mind them, break the rules ,have courage. We, the other infps are here doing the same so it's okay.
Same this is what I wanted to say
It's okay, just follow your heart journey
You have no Idea how hard I felt that.. really no Idea. I resonate really hard on this one, wow.
Lex, you are amazing. I've known that I'm an infp for years now, but only just started delving. I have to say, your knowledge on the subject of this personality is extremely refreshing to my sense of self. Thank you. You're doing a lot of good for a lot of people.
Fae Verte Wow, thanks so much. I needed to hear this today (had a bad day). Comments like this are what keep me making content 👍❤ thanks for supporting and watching.
Thanks so much for pouring your heart out and sharing your life this way. I'm 39 now and I've finally reached that point in life where I'm quitting the pursuit of trying to "fit the mold"and I'm terrified that I'm too old to keep going on this way! I truly want to find my purpose and I feel like God has stripped away all the distractions for me so that I can center myself and focus on my true purpose. I am so grateful for that yet I am so terrified that I will continue to waste more time searching and still not finding my purpose and it is such a giant in my life! It's the main source of my discontentment and I feel so fulfilled in my home life but I need to make income and I don't want to fall into the trap again of taking meaningless jobs for the sake of a dollar and hating every minute of it! I just always thought or felt like I was the only one going through this, but your opening up the way you did honestly makes me feel so comforted because I don't feel like such an alien anymore. I've been so utterly disappointed in myself for this inconsistency in my career life, and I don't know if I will ever truly forgive myself for it, but from the bottom of my heart, thank you for your story. You gave me a bit of peace and comfort about it (and during a terrible bout of insomnia). God bless you and the good work you've done and the good work that is to come for you sister!
Finally found my vocation at the age of 55. I’ve loved the journey to get to this point and all those other occupations have all finally come together. So as I look back now at the age of 60 I would say go down all those rabbit holes, test out all your ideas and when you finally find the right thing all those experiences will suddenly appear as exactly the right ones to support you. Whether it makes money I’m still not sure.
Thank you for this video!!!🙏🏻💖👏🏻I’ve been needing to hear this for awhile! I’m 41 and I’m finally feeling confident enough to share my passions for art with others! Such a challenge as an introvert, but hearing your experience is an inspiration!🙏🏻🙏🏻✨
This is really helpful. I'm in my first year of university, and decided to major in biology kind of on a whim. Bio has always been interesting to me even though my grades aren't spectacular. However, it requires a LOT of chemistry at times, which is something I have always struggled with. There are times when I feel so stupid for not understanding something that everyone else seems to get. My assignments have started piling up from being put off. I just get so tired of doing it.
Recently I've been thinking about changing majors to liberal arts. I've always done really well in those kinds of classes and at this point I am so exhausted of pushing my brain to do back-flips that I can't handle it anymore. This video seriously helped me kind of solidify that decision. It showed me that there are other options and my way of thinking isn't crazy.
I've always wanted to create, whether through painting, sculpting, acting, writing etc, and I think a big source of anxiety is that I will ultimately fail in the end and die poor and unsuccessful. But the fact of the matter that it's these things that make me happy. Maybe it wouldn't be so bad to pursue some of them, especially now while I don't have much to lose.
Idk. Being an INFP is not helping haha
I am turning 40 and still trying to figure out! Love your accent by the way.
Same.
Right xD
Tom H. 100% Feel that
As I child I didn't enjoy school. I was very introvert. I was fantastic in Art. Then it wasn't until I finished Uni studying business, I was even more confused and felt lost. I job hopped very much going from one thing to another, I got bored quickly. I then got into IT as work was plentiful and more reliable. But found I've got bored now after 10+ years in this industry, even though it pays well. I have an urge to do something creative and make a living in this. In between the healing arts, Massage therapist, writing, acting, dabbled in music creation, creating jewellery, Logo designing and making clothes. My current challenging is bring up 2 children with challenge behaviour, which is exhausting and it feels that blocks me too. So I'm more confused now about what path to follow. This makes me feel dizzy so I do't even dare get started for fear of many things, raising family, mortgage, debts to cover and very little time to feel creative. It feels like I need to be in the mood to do my fave hobbies.
I've never felt so understood than I have watching this video! As a 28 year old, her story almost completely mirrors my own and I'm hoping to find somewhere to place my passion, talents and ultimately make it a career. It's been quite difficult but I'm hopeful!
Thank you M'am you just saved me ... I saw few videos on INFP but you are the best ... You just said what mattered the most ... Certainly you learnt from your experiences that helped me ... Thank you you for making this video ... I can't be more grateful ... I wish I could be able to share that emotion ...
Thank you again ... 🕉️✝️... 🕉️ Shree ramkrishana paramhansa ... 🕉️...
I'm 40, and just now giving more thought to my personality type I know me, but didn't feel I needed to classify myself to a type. I'm Christian I lean more on who God says I am. I didn't even know I am in INFP-T until about a week ago. I went through a lot of career fields sales, construction, timber industry, clerical, retail, business contractor through my 20's, but more and more God led me into care giving for sick family. For the last 6 years I've been supporting people with disabilities during the overnight shift 11pm-7am. It's rewarding I love it, and God promoted within the first year. The overnight shift gives me time by myself to read, and write as well. It doesn't pay well, but I've managed to hold this job longer than any other, and my commute time is minutes.
I took a hobby working in photography and audio/video and turned it into work as a media production professional.
You are too on point..you are making me cry..I am a teacher now and it's draining me so I'm looking for that thing am passionate about and fulfilling my purpose..I need to move but being socially anxious is stalling me..I love you..you are a true INFP
I’ve definitely done this as well. I’ve gone to school for pharmacy, nursing, general science, and now I’m 28 and have a 9 year old daughter, and I’m back in school for psychology. I want to help others, but id like to find a niche in psychology that’s a bit different... not just counseling...
I also love playing music and writing on the side, although as passionate as I am about those things, I don’t believe I have enough natural talent with those things to make it a career. I completely understand where you’re coming from though. I appreciate this video.
Ps: Kind of random, but I’m pretty sure I have the same keyboard as the one in the background of this video.
Maybe consider music therapy
Well I seriously want to save the world but how? 😂 Turned 36 this year.
Start to help someone in need, it may can't save the world but it can save someone's world or make their life a little bit better
Melbourne Target that would be great start a organization that travels around the world and plant food in countries with food scares and dig clean water wales. and volunteer at orphanages to hold kids a baby that don’t get held because it to many babies and kids.
I'm sorry to hear about your GAD. I've had bad bouts with anxiety and panic attacks as well. I've found a few things that really work. In the middle of an attack, start walking and keep walking for at least 10 minutes or so (if it's night time, then walk around your house if you have to). Don't run, just walk a steady pace. This will force your breathing into a relaxed, normal breathing pattern so you will stop hyperventilating and your lightheadedness will go away. This really helps to calm you down. THEN, wrap yourself up tightly in a warm, snuggly heated blanket. A therapist told me this is called "bundling" and it helps because it mimicks the safety we felt in the womb. It stops the trembling which is such a relief. Also, remind yourself that a panic attack peaks after about 10-15 minutes and then the waves get smaller. So remind yourself that you can survive for 15 minutes and then will start feeling some relief. And tell yourself, via chanting, "this too shall pass" "this too shall pass" or something like that. Another thing I found helped was while I was bundling late at night, I read a sweet, funny book about a dog called "Marley and Me". It was such a positive and fun book that it made me laugh and helped me interrupt my invasive thoughts. I used that book for about a year whenever I had anxiety and it was a lifesaver.
Of course, do your box breathing technique too. Also, I've found it helps to do 5-4-3-2-1 game. You think of 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can smell, 2 things you can feel and 1 thing you can taste in the PRESENT MOMENT. It really helps to block your invasive thoughts and brings you back into the present moment. Also, get yourself some magnesium citrate powder and drink it in a glass of water. The first time I tried it, after about 45 minutes, when it hit my system, all of a sudden I went from being in a severe anxiety bout to all of a sudden feeling a heavenly, still, quiet, peacefullness come over me. It was almost like a soft wave through my body as the tension dissipated and my shivering stopped. I have never gone a day without having a teaspoon of magnesium in my water bottle ever since. It's really nice to have at night because it makes you feel so peaceful and easier to calm down and fall asleep. I hope these things help you. And of course, figure out what is at the root of your anxiety so you can work on that as well. Thank you for your videos and take good care.
Spot on . Artist ? Nope . Writer..?? One day . Sign language teacher ..failed the exam . Reflexologist..I am now qualified . But ... I am now writing a children's book . Keep feeling fascination ( The Human League . And a favourite song for this INFP ) ♡ 👍
I want to sing and make music. But I need stability in my every day life, because I'm. Very sensitive. So I choose my second interest, which is create, communicate and organise cultural events and projects. I just need to trust more that I Can succeed!!! 😅😉🌺🌺🌺
OMG I want to do that kind of work as well! What is exactly that you do ???
I'm INFJ and I help people find career paths based on their type. INFP make amazing teachers in just about any subject matter from English to math to sciences.
Thank you so much for this video, it aplies to me so much.
The Last months of 2017 where really tough for me, i quit my Job as a nurse, which i really enjoyed, but i felt Like i couldnt make the differance that i could make, i couldnt stay there.
Then i was in a kinda Phase of depression where i locked my self in and did'nt make contact With anyone that i was Close With. I Just came Out of this in december, i got a Job in a Mail Transfer thingie to atleast Pay the Bills. But im following also my big Dream now, to become a Artist.
I Always had that Feeling that i should make more Out of myself because i can.
Wow, that's awesome!! You should be so proud of yourself, that is a big thing! When you've dedicated a good portion of your life to a certain discipline to then say, you know, it doesn't grow my corn anymore and I'm deciding to be happy and do what makes me happy... that's totally awesome. I understand the depression too. That's how I felt when I decided to quit uni. Good luck with it all
I am exactly the same position as you with the nursing and I am just pushing past the depression phase at the moment and applying for more ‘menial’ jobs just to get me through and I feel like I should be doing something more creative but I don’t feel as though I am really good enough at anything to make a career out of it. I am really glad that you have found something that you really want to do and I wish you all the best x
Ahhhhhh...... but nursing has paid the bills over the years and allowed me some flexibility to be me! Unfortunately, my bosses didn’t appreciate my insight nor the great job I did - some, I’m sure felt threatened (but I did not want their job! - coworkers told me that).
Many view me as intelligent which means I can pick up skills easily. So, since nursing basically has no retirement, unless you stay at one place for decades, I still have to work well beyond retirement age. I will be taking a real estate course! Hopefully, flexible hours, interacting with people in a more positive way and certainly not the continued stress from potential life & death situations in nursing!!!
I also discovered a new type of “painting” that I can’t wait to try! I love many types or art mediums and art and color and plan on making time to create!
I'm 41 and still not sure what I am doing career wise
I feel the same.. just a big mess in my head! with all of the career paths that come to mind that I feel I can do so good on!
I get so excited over one career type, then leave it alone and pick up the next..
Time to be more focused!
Lexi I can relate to everything your saying and I am just now finally understanding myself so much more. I'ts just so amazing for me to hear your speak about yourself and how you think, because I never come across anyone like me in my life and I have always felt so in conflict with myself. And I feel you are almost exactly like me. It's seems weird to say this but it's such a relief to feel I am not alone.
even though i want to pursue a vocation, i still need a full time job so i can live comfortably and have health insurance
i can totally relate to this! i thought about teaching too (both early years & secondary), but don't think i could cope with all of the paperwork/lesson planning/marking that comes with it...that and it seems like most teachers work well beyond the 40 hours a week to get all that done.
I know a male INFP who taught drama but not sure how much grading and paperwork involved beyond 40 hours for him. I'm one of the few female ISTJ's who teaches technology courses. My students are allowed to be very creative within guidelines. I've mastered the art of strategic grading that's quick and accurate! It's nice having a relaxing weekend again.
Everything you said and the struggles touches my heart because I am an INFP and still struggling to find my purpose and it is killing my inside
I think the purpose we choose here in this lifetime is to enjoy life itself and experience everything that we love. We are free-spirited. We're just resisted by doing that because of the society, the system that people created, the opinion of others, and the lack of funding to enjoy a thing called life.
This is literally the best career advice I've heard in a very long time. Thank you so much!
You just brought everything in my mind out through your mouth so flawlessly and plainly . I really enjoyed your explanation and advice . Can you teach me too to explain things like you do ..I'm your kind 110/110.
Great video! It's so wonderful to know that I am not the only one who has struggled with all this, based on some of the comments :)
😃Hi Lex, new subscriber! Being an INFP myself, your video has helped break down the concept of passion and purpose in a way that I better understand. Seriously, I've watched so many videos on INFPs seeking guidance because I know TONS of things that are NOT suited for me, but feel stuck and frustrated in finding what I DO like. I have interest in many things, but nothing to the level of "passion". I look forward to combing through all of your videos!
I'm a french INFP, i love your channel, i find my vocation, i knew it a long time but in the past i didn't follow, my vocation is writing ^^ i'm actually doing a training of community manager that require write things and i love it, i love writing fictions too, i began to write fiction when i was young when i was 11, in high school, i studied litterature but when i went to university, i didn't study litterature but languages and i didn't like read books because of schools that gave me books that i didn't like xd, i thought i can take care of children because i love them but i realized that it's not for me, i don't want to be teacher too so when i was graduated, i didn't know what to do as jobs, i applied for every jobs, then i realized what kind of jobs i don't want to do, in the past, i didn't really listen myself so i took time to listen myself and then i realized that i knew what kind of job i want and what is my vocation that is writing, i knew it but i was too realistic to follow my dreams and now i do a training for community manager to win money and i like this job and in the same time, i want to be author too, a blogger too and a corrector in french ^^
I was a professional musician and amateur photographer for 35 years. When it started feeling like 'just a job', I quit performing. Now I teach music and photography to the developmentally disabled by day and work as a concert photographer and jazz promoter at night. At the age of 52, it feels like a better fit.
ps. where did that "Purpose" Venn diagram come from. That's cool.
This is so spot on. I've always known my purpose but have never known how to achieve it so I've basically spent the last 10 years blowing in the wind.
being a INFP shut in really sucks it takes forever to figure out anything if at all. I feels like I went into a black hole after high school with no direction to go, lost and confused.
Doesn't feel like anyone around me has a vision for their life, they are just pleased doing the most basic of things to get by. I can't stand jobs where I am stuffed into a warehouse for hours on end it feels so suffocating and that's the only kind of job I was able to get after high school. It feels like the world and everything is closing in around me and my opportunities are disappearing.
Sometimes it's really overwhelming and upsetting I end up shutting down just to start the self defeating cycle over again. I really worry for my mental health sometimes it feels like this cycle with time will drive me mad. I am trying to change it but it is really hard to know where to start and how.
I came to your channel late. But this myers briggs stuff is amazingly correct and it is so lovely to know their are other people like me out there. Thank you for your videos
I really like this video, Lex. I'm currently making up for lost time by pursuing my degree in hospitality management. Like you, when I was younger, I wanted to do a number of things such as make video games or get into acting. I think the more we can test ourselves, the more we can grow.
I am also thinking about that path. but international travel and hospitality. How is it from your experience?
Sadly, I had to leave my hospitality job, because I'm already working another job plus I had started back up with school. International travel and hospitality sounds good. I like the idea of food travelling, because there is a real sense of adventure. I'm not sure how I would be able to transition to that path, but I will need to figure things out in time. In hospitality, it's always important to have a service-oriented mindset. I need to be able to channel my extraverted intuition to promote possibilities to guests, and that can help me connect with them.
Thanks for speaking out (: As a kiwi INFP, it's always nice to see fellow comrades shining (: How do you feel about the INFP in NZ's Tall Poppy Syndrome?
Thank you for sharing so richly of yourself! Amazing insights and wisdom! Thank you so much 💓
I was struggling for 5 years trying to understand myself and who really I am as a person. I have this urge to find my purpose then I've learned about Community Development cos it is one of my major subject back from the Uni and I said to myself this is it... Before that I was already volunteering to a community or do outreaches. After I graduated from the Uni, I was in a hurry to find a job in another place but my mom told me to take things slow... Eventually, it feels like a blessings in disguise cos that's when I started to learn about personality test and also astrology... I'm fascinated because everytime I read about those, I can relate it to myself.... Personality Test and Astrology leads me to self-discovery... for how many months I cut my connections with most people, I begin to meditate and analyze everything that went before and plans that I'll be taking after my gap months... Now, I'm working on my way to achieve this, I'm planning to do further studies and get a Masters Degree in DevComm or Globalization... This is my calling and passion in life to help other people... I feel like I'm so lucky to be an INFP.
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I'm 29, and I'm still trying to figure it out. I'm so different from I was last year and so very different from when I was a teenager.
That being said, I would really like to choose a career and follow it please. I'm so tired of the guessing, the low pay.
This video wasn't exactly what I thought it was going to be when I started watching it... it turned out to be so much more helpful!
(INFP, 43)
PS I’ve had chronic insomnia and GAD my entire life. I empathize with you ❤️
Heather Elzinga me too!
Heather Elzinga if she would have said she has diarrhea and GURD, you would have said you it too? Lol!
+GodmindNY NYC It's GERD.
@@satomi7415 thanks. Lol!
I feel you with my every single bone.
ohh..i feel exactly same..!! i feel so much good after watching this video..😆😆
but i regret my career decision..
i had to choose engineering as career becoz--
1)here in india, everyone(society) thinks that only engineering, doctors etc. are good,respectful careers..
2) lack of knowledge about other careers..i didn't had anyone to guide me. my parents are less educated and 8 years ago here internet was not considered as that useful for such important decisions..
now i regret my decision becoz--
1)i dont like to work for IT companies..technology field..
i want to work in nature related field like meteorology,environment etc. i love music and i can play indian instrument-'Tabla' means i can also play drums and octopad etc. and want to and i would love learn violin, flute..i like to write as well..! i love watching movies and series..acting and directing,cinematography..
i love photography and i am little bit good at it😛
i love treking,hiking,travelking and tourism..
BUT* very little chance or risky for choosing all this as career for money point of view..
2) IT/Engineering profession needs good english communication skills ..
BUT* english is my third language and i am not comfortable to talk in english AND* i have *social* *anxiety* and i cannot perform well in group discussions and job interviews, future meetings etc.
i will complete my engineering degree next year successfuly but it will be very hard to get a good job..
even if i do get, but i will hate my life.. i hate my life decisions..!
You look amazing for having insomnia and anxiety disorder! I had it for a year and my appearance became unpresentable. In my case I had to resort to Lexipro for a couple of months. After healing, it took another few months before I realized what caused my trouble to begin with....which was a traumatic event that I suppressed and forgot about. Anyway, however you're dealing with it, it must be working. You seem in top shape and good spirits. I love your accent, too!
Jesus Cristo thank you so much, that's quite relieving to hear -- makeup has been helping with the dark circles. I don't wear makeup much, but it makes me feel "presentable" for the camera 😂
I have a good skincare routine too. I moisturize like it's going out of fashion and make sure I eat a good amount of fruit/vegetables/water. Every third night I seem to sleep solidly, but a few days a week I get about 3 hours at the moment 😢 it's taking a toll on my mental health though -- I'm moody as hell. I'm sorry to hear about your insomnia, it sucks so much, it's torture. What do you find works for you, if anything?
Lex Morningstar I had to take 10 mg a day of a med called Lexipro, and after about 30 days my anxiety and depression went away, which allowed me to sleep again. Since then I've slept well, but part of that involved also leaving the toxic relationship that started the depression in the first place. Yes, moisturizing is awesome. My favorite is warm coconut oil. It makes the skin feel so supple. Thank you for the response, and the great video!
Jesus Cristo Thank you. I was just talking to my partner about medication. I've been putting it off because I'm scared, but I do indeed have postpartum anxiety and cyclothymia. I just want to sleep 😂
I love coconut oil. I love making my own moisturizer. I recently made a blend of coconut oil, beeswax, vitamin E, shea butter, lavender, rose-geranium. I love it. I'm lucky my mum is a massage therapist, so I steal all of her essential oils 😂😍
Lex Morningstar , yes meds were my last resort so as to not commit suicide. Luckily this med went to the heart of the problem, which was a decreased production of seritonin in my brain. For me, the first med prescribed only made me foggy, so luckily there were other options. Hang in there and you will find the answer. 😘
THe image/chart at 4.45 sums this up perfectly, with everything pretty much revolving round "purpose"
Amazing! The only time I've every heard it put into words. Absolutely spot on.
Wow, this video really speaks to me! I ached for years over what I wanted to do with my life because I had so many passions that it seemed impossible to narrow it down to one. At the end of the day I chose nursing because I am fascinated by more of the patho-pharm aspect of it, but I also have a strong drive to make a difference in people's lives. I also love how working at the hospital gives me a lot of free-time with my schedule to pursue other passions; right now I'm taking a ceramics class and I love it! Of course, I've only been a nurse for a year, so who knows where my life will go in the future, but for now, I'm happy. :)
I'm an INFP from France, I've been growing up in France and lived in China for 10 years as an expat since my childhood, moving back and forth with my family and my sister cause of my fathers job. I have been struggling with Tourette Syndrome since I was 7 and have always been passionate about videography, photography and time-lapses and still am. But i was met with tons of challenges on the way.
I started in a French school system for the first 7 years in China and that was tough because the french system is much more draconian in a way, and since this is was international they expected even more out of us. Teacher were almost abusive, they were allowed to scream at you if you did something wrong, rarely you would see somebody raise their hand to ask a question du to fear of ridicule by peers . Anyway after failing I was oriented to an international school that looked somewhat better and had more artistic courses in their IB program. They teachers were not screaming at least but you pretty much had no freedom and lot more workload. After 2 years there i gave up, it was too much homework and study I didnt want to do it.
With the help of my dad, we found a film school that accept student with no graduation in Paris which was good. So I booked a ticket and left Shanghai. This was a very depressing phase for me as I was missing China a lot, was getting used to interact with coldhearted parisians again and was feeling very lonely. Also was going through a break up with my ex. But I managed to graduate this school at least, my parents were happy and I went back to china for a little, to take a rest. Which was pretty much staying in my room for 4 months straight haha after sometime though I decided it would be good to at least take a trip somewhere to experience something different. So went to Thailand first which was great, and then Sedona, AZ and there I met the love of my life in the plane on my return flight. We travelled asia together for 2 months and I decided I wanted to move to the USA. And here I am now, it's been almost 3 years and I am still working on my career , I haven't found any clients yet Idk if this is the way for me but it's what I love and now I have support from my wife and my new friends which I didnt have back then.
That was really detailed and well presented. I admire your unicity and that such independancy of yours. Keep it up
So relatable. Can't believe I'm 37 and just working this out.
I have all these creative interests and no talent or drive (ideally I would work for myself, but if left alone I just watch videos on youtube and scroll through tumblr). Art & Humanities were always downplayed in my home (and I was homeschooled). It's frustrating because I'm 24 and feel stuck being a perpetual disappointment... Every second I'm jobless feels like I'll never have a retirement fund. I don't want to be a failure though... I KNOW I need to be responsible and DO SOMETHING, but I'm scared I'll get stuck working a retail job for 15 years because I wouldn't know how to quit a job even if I hated it. And there's so many job titles out there that I don't know what they mean or what kind of experience I need to have.
I think I could write at least one book, or even a series... I have ideas... but I never sit down and write because my Fe spins out of control without ever choosing a path and my Fi is scared to put my thoughts on the page. I am also interested in film (writing scripts and/or editing), but I have no desire to spend money learning a trade on the off chance it can be profitable... nor would I ever want to work in hollywood or vancouver (where the film industry resides), even if I knew how to get a job there. I took one year of elementary education and enjoyed the philosophical theory of education, but then I ran out of money and ended up back at home, and in the years since, I've realized I'd have to teach so many topics I'm uninterested in (like science and math) and plan so many lessons in my me-time, and put up with bratty kids and bratty parents and I'm not equipped for that. I think I might be more interested in teaching a single topic I'm passionate about like high school literature/English... but even that is daunting because kids these days are tyrants. I'm a bit scared of doing something hard, but I want to do something rewarding. I would probably love a job like book editing, but I have no idea how to accomplish that...
Let's say I did settle on something... I think I could pick any one of those and manage to find contentment or purpose... I still have no Se to accomplish anything or lay out plans. I also have no money to invest in learning or entrepreneurial pursuits (like starting a freelance proofreading service, which I also considered), and I'm not keen to take out a loan... even if I had a job to pay it back.
Anyone have any ideas on how to make a change??? Also, I know I need to get out of my comfort zone, but I don't like pushy people.
ohifonlyx33 What you’re saying resonates so much. All I have to offer is a virtual hug and a suggestion of focused alone time, meaning make a chart of :
1 what you’re good at & what you love about them 2 what you’re passionate about & why 3 which offers the best livelihood (varies by state) & your priorities
Give in depth answers
Thanks for the video! Feels so good to hear stories about this topic from other INFPs. Awesome DBZ stuff too!
Andrew Smith DBZ? where?