I'm infp, final year medical student. Similar experience with me. Simply chose science without a second thought because I am good at it. Parents wanted me to be a doctor. I'm like 'sure! It's a noble profession. You get to help people, cure their suffering' Reality: constantly surrounded by people in pain, illness etc and I can't help but be empathetic. I can Feel them. It had been painful to see all these people having a hard life and I just having fun learning new things. It has been depressing. I now have developed my personal mechanisms to cope with it. I am choosing to continue in my profession after I graduate as it does not go against my morals and principles and I get this fulfilling energy when someone prays for you genuinely with smile on their face because you became a source of their relief. I'm a writer, artist, these things comes first for me. Studies and other stuff has to wait. Thanks for the video. Related it completely.
Thank you for sharing your story! I'm glad you could relate. I can definitely say that I relate as well, because as a future therapist I'm torn between being exposed to people suffering, and at the same time, being able to help them. I guess we can easily be reached by this suffering. It's good to know that you successfully developped coping mechanisms :) Thank you for being here!
Hi Michael! I’ve just stumbled on to these personality types and wish I had known more about them (and myself) back when I was 18...A lot of things make sense in hindsight now. I’m apparently an infp as well. Like you, I was good at math, thought of myself as a logical type, and eventually became an airline pilot. As far as flying went, it turned out that I really liked flight instructing more than working for an airline. The view was great, but I hated that I had very little control over my schedule. The reward just wasn’t worth the sacrifice. So, when the airline I worked for went out of business, I didn’t go to work for another one. I have done some homeschooling & traveling with my kids, worked a little as a therapeutic riding instructor (which I really liked), and am learning to be a beekeeper. I’m still looking for something though....Anyway, good job making the move to a more fulfilling life and good luck. I think it would be so good for young people starting out in life to learn more about themselves. Although, I don’t know if I would have believed or listened back when I was 18. I think I may have needed to live it, like you said, and go down those wrong roads to understand.
INFP aged 54 and I've finally found my true path. I've been training to become a therapist for a few months and finally found my vocation. It's never too late.
Michael Simone, after hearing your life story, i can confirm that we went through very similar ups and downs, and the same subsequent relevation at each milestone: 1. Started early stages of life being really good at math and science, and unusually good at English/language. - Check 2. Being a jack of many trades and therefore unable to decide what career to aim for. - Check 3. Socially-pressured to enter the STEM field cus that's what our communities wanted and expected of us. - Check 4. Engineering. (You were in mech eng, i was in chem eng. I guess we both figured that of all the STEM majors, BEng offered the most creative options.) - Check 5. Becoming slowly disillusioned during and post-college with the dawning realization of how wrong we were. - Check 6. Going into the actual industry, and winding up in a soulless, depressing job. Waking up one day in a cold sweat asking yourself "****, is this what i really want to do for the rest of my life?" - Big Fat Check 7. Quitting Engineering. Going on a spree of exploration for what feels like the first time ever, bilaterally probing within and outside the self for what that ultimate dream career could be. - Check 8. Actually contemplating/going back to university - Check. 9. Realizing that another 4-5 yrs for a 2nd degree is a waste of time and money. Took a fast-course instead (you as a therapist, i as a digital artist). - Check 10. Finding it to be a craft that you cared wholeheartedly about, and deciding to devote yourself to it for the rest of time. You found psychology, and i found digital art, both avenues of which allowed us to explore and create value indefinitely - and proceeded to make careers out of it. // I think for INFPs, life is one big process of elimination. Becus we are so deeply experiential, we HAVE to go thru trial-and-error, it is absolutely crucial that we try and fail repeatedly so that we can gain breaking, life-changing insights each time we do so. Additionally, we are cursed with having an internal reality that is abnormally blended with external reality, and thus defend our principles fearlessly but foolishly, and take all our failures extremely personally - which is a real pain to be sure, but it's also leads us to become individuals who can relate to and want to create positive change on an impossible scale. We're mad. No one else will ever get us. And therefore, the greatest challenge for INFPs might not actually be the attainment of our goals, but the attainment of peace within ourselves, that we may never get our ideals out into the world, or even be understood by the world, and that's okay.
@@Chuck.Mast3r oh no, haha Are you good at it, though? do u enjoy it..? I was a lousy chem engr. I couldnt keep up with my peers, was generally listless but didnt know why, working super hard but getting no results, and eventually only graduating with 3rd class honors. I shldve woken up there and then, but i didnt, i still wanted to give the field a chance. But this is just me; i dont know what's your situation, or whether u have an alternate skill that you can re-pivot yourself towards. As such, im afraid of saying what u should or shouldnt do.
@@antiday I relate a lot with what you wrote. I already got disillusioned with my flied of work, and quit my job. I've been trying other stuff but so far I'm still very lost. The difference is I studied design, hoping to have a creative job that could make something good, and instead was just a streak of soulless jobs, mindless spending day after day at a desk staring at a screen. I also was never amazing at it, and after a while neither did I care about being great at it because it just felt meaningless to me anyway. I don't know what else to try, and which path to take, I hope I start figuring something out soon.
@@tombocai are you an INFP as well? What if you tried doing your own personal work after work hours, and see if you can grow your very own art into a business?
@@antiday I think I am an INFP, from the tests and what I've researched it all seems to match. I've actually been trying to do what you suggested for a little over two years. But whenever I have free time to work on my personal stuff I just end up being apathetic and without motivation. A mix of lack of confidence, depression and anxiety. And then a lot of guilt and shame for not using that time for my future and for something good. And that just leads to more depression and apathy. I need to find a way to break the cycle, but I don't know how.
This video is Soooo important.. this is the biggest struggle for INFPs right? I`d love to have all those carreers.. Musician, teacher, psychologist.. I have been to university for 3 times, but felt miserable.. So now I work at a,supermarket, but I love it, I love the customers and team work!
Im currently in Uni and it sucks, Idk what to do really. I keep failing and my parents keep pushing me and i keep asking for break so i can figure things out but im still being pushed
@@Isaac-ul8yz that is just so awful!.. I guess I was in a depression in I was at the Uni.. And then my mom said "Stop, you`re not going anymore" and I just remember this relief so deeply. And then I just asked myself "but what the hell am I gonna do with my life now?".. I took the time to figure it out.. My advice would be,do not take a degree if you don`t passionately love it.. authenticity is very important for INFP`s and we are not driven by money. Remember, college is just the first step to the rest of your life.. take your time to decide wherr you really want to.invest your time in.. Life goes by so quickly, do what you love.. At least study what you love, otherwise, you`ll be miserable..
@@eduardahollanda9858 i felt the same.. I knew I didn`t belong there.. Don`t stay there then.. this is the beggining of the rest of your life, and you still have the opportunity to change. take your time (for me it took years, and I am still figuring out) but don`t stay in a current situation that you are not passionate about. You have the opportunity to study what you love now.. get to know yourself truly.. just don`t settle.. ❤❤
Thank you so much, merci beaucoup! I take away from it: 1. Focus on what YOU want. 2. Experience it to find out! (Even being on the wrong path eventually leads to the right path.) It feels encouraging being part of this comment section.
After 8 years of working in a sales department for saving money I finally started my new journey as a counselling trainee, and I feel so right every day because everything that I have learnt from this course is so ethically and morally right to me. It also explains lots of things that I struggled with. When the word therapist came out in the video I was like : OMG this is so me.
Take it from an INFP who did not do what you did and start with a logical career. It might be better to try the conventional way firstly. Stop saying you made a mistake, you needed this experience to realise what is valuable and important to you. I studied Philosophy firstly, and have been working low-paid, low-skill jobs only. People think I am unambitious and lazy. I am now considering to return to study for a "normal" job, and maybe, I will pursue it and eventually accept that it will not suit me. And I will arrive to the same realisation as many of you but even later in life and even more indirectly. I will include a quote by Hegel below (translated to English) that I think is really relevant to those who consider past decisions mistakes and not essential. “The bud disappears when the blossom breaks through, and we might say that the former is refuted by the latter; in the same way when the fruit comes, the blossom may be explained to be a false form of the plant’s existence, for the fruit appears as its true nature in place of the blossom. The ceaseless activity of their own inherent nature makes these stages moments of an organic unity, where they not merely do not contradict one another, but where one is as necessary as the other; and constitutes thereby the life of the whole.”
I have 100% the same story. I did my Bachelor in Computer Science. I worked very hard for it and was doubting if it was the right desicion for me all the time. I didn't fit in, and in my free time I didn't do anything related to my studies, but spend my time with theater, dancing and painting. I finished my studies just becuase I didn't know what else to do and somehow I still got a good degree. Now I travelled a bit through Portugal and think a lot about what to do next. I just applied to a master's programm in Cognition Psychology, it applies the logical knowlegde to psychology. Maybe thats also something for you, if you dont want to start from scratch in a completely new field. Anyway, it is nice to hear that there are people struggelling and having the same thoughts as me.
hey Clara! thanks for sharing this. I'm an INFP doing my final year bachelor's in Physics but idk it doesn't feel satisfying enough. I want to do something that will bring out the artistic and empathetic side of mine.
@@devikarani.m Hey Devica! Your bachelor is a great base and you could search for more interdisciplinary topics if you like :) I can tell there are many possibilities you can combine psychology and physics, like eyetracking and HCI. Wish you the best and good luck for your last year!
Hey, I'm also doing my bachelor in computer science and I was thinking if I could persue masters in psychology. Thanks for your comment now I'm confident in my decision 😃
I think the most painful part of choosing a career is when you have dreams of your own and have a clear path for you to take but your parents (or maybe other people) wanted something different from you and you were not even given a chance to pursue what you want.
This video really resonates with me, I'm a 26 year INFP from London. I study maths science and art in school but I've always been more of a creative type but have never had the confidence explore it as a career. This video has confirmed that i need make a change now. Where there any books you read that transform your mindset on living your life for you?
i might be able to help in this one. No, it wasnt a book. It was actually a couple of quotes (by tony robbins, a motivational speaker dude), on a sticker, pasted on the side of the train window as i was returning home from a hollow, depressing day of night shift at my semiconductor manufacturing plant. // "A real decision is measured by the fact that you've taken real action. If there's no action, you havent truly decided." "The only thing that's keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself." "No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow your progress, you're still way ahead of anyone who isn't trying." "It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do constantly." // Im not sure how helpful they'd be to you, but in the moment, sth clicked in my heart, and it was made up, i was done with excuses, and the gnawing prospect of dying in my grave wishing i couldve done sth about it. I resigned from my job a few mths later, and explored new options fanatically. I'm now a fulltime digital artist, and i've never looked back (except to say it really sucked back then XD hahaha)
Great video ^^ I'm an engineering student as well. But I still want to work in that field, 'cause I need to make money for my family. As you said, INFP really enjoy simplicity. So maybe, after I gathered enough money, I will go to countryside near the mountain and living in peace. But it's just a plan for now. Who knows if I will change my mind about that tomorrow hahaha. Let's see what the future will do to me ^^ Hope all my INFP fellas to be happy today
Thanks for this! I'm 57 years old...10 years at University...still trying to find the right fit for me! I ended up deep diving into psychology just to understand myself and relationships and I love it! I'm attracted to spiritual and personal growth, people and what makes them tic. Loving myself these days...allowing missteps in the process.
I'm 57 too and looking for round 2 career wise after teaching 20 years. Love psychology as well but dread going back to school not only the classroom but incurring a bunch of debt at my age. Best wishes to you!
It shows a lot about the INFP personality in all these thoughtful comments. Each person here has so much to say about their experience, and frankly have been starved of platform and outlet in their daily lives. Their tendency to be misunderstood, leads to external demands and averages to eat away to this personality. The recessive NE (extroverted intuition) leads to becoming trapped inside ones own comfort zone; mentally, environmentally, in relationships, etc. because they need to understand their experience, new things are energy expensive to the INFP-T. The T stands for turbulent as opposed to -A as assertive. This turbulence can lead one to be dragged behind a fast-paced society, and becoming highly critical of themselves for this.
Hi! I can relate to this video on a personal level. I'm 29 and an INFP. I have spent my life going back and forth between careers. I have worked in childcare, veterinary medicine, welfare, and banking - they were all so unfulfilling. I was also good at science in high school, so I initially went to school for quantum physics. Although it was interesting, I couldn't imagine sitting in an office while creating mathematical equations to try to create a new theory day in and day out. I love European medieval history, but I always received negative comments about going to school for that. As if "just being a teacher" with that degree was a low when I had the potential to "do so much more" (insert eye roll here). I ended up quitting university, had a child, and worked various jobs while trying to find meaning or fulfillment behind them. But now Covid is here and with everything being shut down, I had a lot of time to think. This thinking made me feel as though it was time to get back to school. So, I'm back in school and working on my Bachelors in European medieval history, while on the track for the Master's program to teach higher education. Teaching is something I have always wanted to do and to have the ability to share my knowledge with others is something I'm looking forward to. Your video inspired me to keep going, even though friends and family think an education in history is pointless. Thank you!
I’m an INFP-T too and I could relate to this video and so many of the comments here! I feel like it’s so hard to know what my passion is because so many things interest me. But I’m not sure I’ll stick with one thing for the rest of my life because I’d like a change at some point or many points in the future. I thought about being a psychologist but my issue is that I feel drained after talking to people and if I do this a as my main job, I’m afraid I’ll feel very exhausted everyday. However I’m basing this on conversations I’ve had with people who are incorrigible and don’t listen and keep playing the victim all the time. So I don’t know what to do.
I agree with this, I’m a nurse, and thought about going back for LCSW. I get burned out as a nurse about twice a year, and I mean just done and want to quit. Probably because I let other ppl dump on me and then I don’t properly take care of my own needs, poor coping skills, ect. I get to the point of emotional and mental exhaustion, cry and question my existence and life purpose for a few days; and then I get back to it. At 40 ive accepted this is just how I’m wired. But I still have a passion to help people, so I stick with it. It’s a tough road, and we are always in this self giving relationship with the world. Fulfilling and draining all at the same time. I often look around and wonder why I can’t be as selfish as others with their career paths. Anyway...Best of luck with your decision.
I am being shocked reading ur cmnt. cz this is exact the same what i feel. I am an INFP-T, want to go into psychology, but i think after listening to ppl's depressing stories i will get drained out everyday. IDK what to pursue. can u help me?
The Art world is a very competetive place and can be a quite hostile environment, extremly stressful for INFPs. It's Hypercapitalism. It doesn´t comply with a lot of values of INFPs at least not for me. The creative part yes but not the socialising /performative part that allows you to sell your art. The Art world is not about authenticity. The art you make might but the rest is not. I found that really frustrating. I think it is important to be aware of that.
😳😳😳😳 I’m five minutes in & this is my EXACT story, except that I was in healthcare admin instead of IT. Just quit my unethical work environment 2 months ago & I really just want to enjoy simplicity & travel. So refreshing & kind of emotional seeing someone else who understands it.
I decided on horticulture because I can see myself playing with plants if my art dreams explode in my face. It's also a useful life-skill as far as gardening (heck yeah veggies). In my country, marijuana is legal in a lot of states so there's a lot of farms who need people like me, not to mention the current demand for horticulturalists in government and agriculture as it is. I like plants and I'm excited to breed and play with them all day for a job, no matter where it is. I've been watching these kinds of videos trying to help me decide because I dreaded the idea of an art degree when I can take those classes as electives and I wanted to get a different degree that's far more employable. I desperately need back up plans. My biggest fear was shooting for my dreams and woefully missing the mark and spending my time struggling to find an art job to make someone else's dreams come true; there are a lot of horror stories in the art community that made me even more anxious about an art degree. I didn't want to be mistreated and made to "crunch" 50 hour shifts just to be paid pennies for my efforts. I just decided on horticulture a few days ago after soul searching for over a year and I'm excited for my future again. However, it is a science field so I'm nervous for the coursework but it won't be a bunch of math and that'll be nice lol. Good luck, my fellow INFPs, there is a place for every one of us and I hope you find yours soon. Shoot for your dreams but don't forget to pack a parachute, just in case
So I am an infp And I did psychology I completely hate it It’s very draining mentally and emotionally. It is still all about money, I have to meet KPIs daily as to how many hours of service I provide to people. Some people need more help but don’t have the government funding or money to pay for our service. Day in and out is about dealing with peoples mental issues and problems. Which is not enjoyable at all! And is very very draining. Mentally sick people take their anger out on you! It’s at a point where I don’t care about people or their issues. I just want to be left alone. It’s horrible, absolutely horrible. I would love to do something creative, in solitude Still trying to work it out
That is so true about trying to figure out what is right by thinking/feeling about it rather than experiencing it. My career path has been very varied. I am now becoming an art educator, and confident this aligns with my values and gives me a sense of purpose. Hopefully I can guide all those INFP (and other) art students to be true to themselves and just go for it!
My way looks the same until now. I am very good in physics, mathematics and chemistry, but also love being creative. I love drawing and playing the piano. I am doing my A levels ( in Germany Abitur) this year and after that I want to study physics. But I also was standing in front of the problem to agree my job and my values. My plan is to go into regenerative energies, to do something good for the climate. I want to give the society something back. When I am dying I want leave something over my death behind. I also like Art, Psychology and Music. But I hope to stay on my actual path. One goal is also to make a road trip trough the USA (I am living in Germany) for one year. But I am not old enough to rent a car, so I am waiting.
Merci beaucoup tes vidéos vont probablement m'aider ! J'ai terminé ma licence de biologie (3 ans), mais je ne suis toujours pas sûre et n'ai jamais été sûre de ce que je voulais vraiment. Le côté musicienne / psychologiste je m'y suis bien reconnue. J'ai dû faire le choix en entrant en 1ère entre littéraire et scientifique, j'ai énormément hésité et j'ai suivi la voie la plus "confortable" et logique du point de vue des gens qui m'entouraient. Il m'arrive souvent de regretter ce choix, c'est tellement tôt pour déjà savoir ce qu'on voudra faire plus tard ! Je me reconnais complètement dans tes vidéos pour la personnalité INFP, merci pour le partage de tes recherches ! Et grâce à ton léger accent français j'arrive à tout comprendre haha !
I'm a bit late, but this is incredibly helpful. I too am an INFP. I recently gave notice at my current job so may find myself unemployed soon. I find the corporate world to be a constant struggle. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but feel that I've learnt a lot about myself through my life experiences and hope to be one step closer to following the ideal career path. It's awesome to be able to connect with like-minded individuals. Thank you for the content.
thanks for sharing your story; i'm also INFP (i've just found it out recently), and i've been really struggling with accounting career because all the companies I'm working for are profit oriented and don't give a sh* about people, and I have to follow too many rules & deadlines almost every day. I was good in math, had As in school and uni, loved economics, but due to poverty had to choose accounting major because it allowed me to get good paying job right away.
Ooof, I feel you. I’ve been a nurse for almost 2 decades, and in my own disbelief, ended up in the same situation as you. Feels like health care is totally profit driven. We HATE that! I remain a nurse, bc I still believe in the principles of loving and caring for people, but damn it’s hard to make our ideals happen in this money driven world.
My writing is probably the biggest thing for me that I have discovered. I am very natural at it and it feels really good to write. I am also interested in counseling. I have a strong ability to listen to people and I enjoy listening to people, I love psychology and I love people and I feel that counseling would be a good career. Right now I am trying tutoring but it seems more like a teacher and I feel like it is over my head right now. I still feel like I need to explore this to see if this a good fit for me. I have never been a teacher before so its new.
As an INFP, this is where I'm at now. I currently dropped out at my current course and now I am really struggling and getting frustated in what kind of degree/course should I really take, that's why I am learning more about myself and discovering mbti really helped me alot especially your video about INFP's career. Thank you so so much for being kind and telling us your experience
THANK YOU! I'm 17 years old and I'm definitely confused about what to do in my future and I should choose what career path will I continue with and it's really difficult specially when I'm good at maths and logical sciences but my personality indicates I better go for other career paths and I'm pressured to make my decision now. And then I came across your video and it is like light for me so thank you a looooot for sharing your experience it's very helpful and I hope you do more videos like these!🙏❤
I can relate. I got higher marks for maths and science and because of that, my mom wants me to choose something related to those two subjects but I don't think those are the right choice for me... I already have something I love to do but they don't want me to choose it lol
Ill be turning 17 in a few months and similar to you, I've always been "better" towards more academic subjects. However, based on personality tests, it says otherwise. I hope that both of us can get to the path we feel the most comfortable with without sacrificing too much. I wish you the best ❣️
With all due respect to you being 17... I genuinely would like you think about what I'm about to say... "5 years ago you were 12" You can't hold a 17year old accountable for decision making for a future life based on certain childlike cognitive foundations that started to form at the age of say 12! Your total life experiences is 5 years. People usually need 10 to 15 years to get a decent understanding of their personality, characteristics disposition in the world. Explore, experiment and experience as much as you can untill you feel a tug a slow pull towards a direction will take place. When that happens your on your way to the center of the universe. You'll know what do next at the point. Try to delay college if you can as that will keep you safe and far away from realm of debt. Unless you are going in for technical training then there is no two ways about it.
I had almost the same experience.. I had good grades in school I have done engineering like every body else I suffered in that but when I've graduated I spent two years in finding out what I realy wanted so I have chosed teaching I'm a teacher now.. I'm happy with it..the one problem is that I'm different with my methods and my thoughts people don't easily understand me and I always want that everything is well done
Thank for sharing this video! Being a INFP is tough and we always struggle to fit in the society’s rules, try to follow up what teachers and parents say. After watching this video , I have learned a lot how to strive in this world. Thank you for sharing your own story and give us advice. Hope every INFP can be loved by the world and the same ourselves.
This video felt like me listening back to a recording of myself, so very similar for me, although I'm still early in that journey, only now realising I dont like what I do and it doesn't align with my values. Thanks for the inspiration
My goal is to not have to work so I am selling out and becoming a medical professional with minimal education and high pay. Long term goal is to invest my money and retire early so I can become an inventor, filmmaker, and/or entrepreneur. Maybe join local government and volunteer as well. I just want to do things that make me happy.
As an infp i entered trying civil engineering but with the starting of classes i just felt off n my mind didnt seem motivated. So i planned to stop before i go to lengthy years of studying but wont feel happy on what id be doing. N now i still feel bad cause i seem to be lost i really want to do art n at the same time help the people. It also sucks to be an asian at some point because of the the peer pressure of entering into a must of entering a high paying job.
Gladys Villero same here I’m so conflicted between science and art because i thought i wanted to be a doctor. are you planning on switching career paths?
@@sonjay2149 yep i've been planning to. But it seems like i doubt my choices, worrying for something that i cant somehow put into words. Didnt knew the road to adulthood was this hard. huhuhu
@@footballsocialmediareactio8363 I still continued studying. I went unto an academic hiatus 😂 for more than a year. Regret, sadness, and all sorts of negative emotions played within those times. But in the end i came to conclude that i should follow my passion which is cooking. There is still pressure tbh, cause my family still aspire me to be in a more recognizable job.
Analysis paralysis. Be careful of it. Good advice to just get out and try it, test the waters before feeling like it’s right. Otherwise you may not get anywhere.
Before 2020 I was in a Biology Degree for two years then took a year off because of major depression. I’ve recently started a Psychology degree through 2020/21, still going haha. Anyways, your story brought a little peace to my step if that makes any sense haha. Online school has been killing me and I’m worried I’ve screwed up my whole life. My extended family has always made a point to tell me how dumb I am and that they no longer support me as a person if I am not like making $100 000 a year yet, have a “real” job, am successful etc. I know I’m lucky in my circumstances to be pursuing education, I don’t dismiss that. Was recently searching diplomas (as I do often at stressful times in life haha). I think I’ve been living life so much for others that I forget who I am. I don’t have cohesive thoughts right now. I just hope to please find meaning and come to clarity. I just want a meaningful life and work, which there are many ways to do that haha. Another discussion lol. Anyways what the heck the point is your video was helpful. I’m going to continue. I like how you said a wrong step is even helpful along the way. So long I wished to be just someone who can suck it up and get a job for the pay-check and continue on, I think I pretended to be that for the last few years, but now I’m maybe re-realizing how much I do value work that aligns with me. Hoping to find it along the way. Best wishes to everyone here. I hope your journey becomes lighter and you find encouragement to carry on. I hope we all make it 🙏🏻🤍🤍
Good for you my friend I did 2 years in the preparatory school the I became an electronic engineer but I'm not happy and I'm infp currently searching for passion you are helping a lot thank you thank you thank you from the depths of my heart
I'm brasilian, and I have 16. I love your channel, you help me a lot!! Thank tou so much, and i hope tou kepping doing your beautiful job. (Sorry for my bad english)
I too was also studying psychology, but I wasn't commited it then i dropped out and now I'm studying environmental technology hoping to help a lot of people in some way or another but part of me wants to go back and finishing a psych degree in the future
While I thought of programming as kinda boring working as a psychologist consumed all the energy I had in my life (and more) for Family, Friends and selfcare. It might be a noble Job but it is clearly not for me even thow there are many people way more introverted than I am. Still recovering from that experience.
I'm a therapist as well and often feel very emotionally drained.. I'm also considering software engineering. It seems appealing to do something like that during the day and then do what I love (writing music) afterwards.
I am an INFP with ADHD. I feel like I am playing my life at ultra hard mode sometimes, lol. I am professionally a programmer and i like to code. But I have a lot of interests in everyfield like art, philosophy, psychology, maths, science, cosmos, etc. I often question the existence of universe and I dont feel like there is any ultimate reason for what we do , what we are searching for . Everything seems senseless. That was the last conclusion I could reach after I thought a lot in my whole life until now. I overthink a lot, i am not stable emotionally. I dont think I am gifted or something. But I feel good that I exist. I think there is no sense in anything in the world and existence. But still I like the feelings, even if they are good or bad. And I am keeping on running in the hunt of happy harmones. Thats how I am going to and want to complete my journey of life.
This video was uploaded on my birthday, and now coming back to this, I feel like I am getting closer and closer to the right track. Thank you so much for the advice!
Here's my infp life story...accepted to prestigious architecture school.. not actually good at it. Too technical for me.. depression.. managed to graduate. Went to work in d field anyway for about 8 years. Finally change field, at 30++. Study early childhood edu and open a preschool with partners. Hope to open my own preschool!!!
Hello Michael! This video resonated so much with me!! Although I've never been exceptionally good at Math and Science, I always knew I had a knack for languages and that's what I decided to pursue. I've enjoyed most aspects of it but if I could change what I did at university, I would add in something like Management or maybe Economics or idk, something a bit more "useful" (I majored in Latin American Studies). Anyway, I taught English to non English speakers (including in France ! When I heard your accent it made me smile....I love Toulouse ❤️) but now I am just burned out from teaching. I'm currently doing some studies in Human Resource Management but I'm really worried I made a wrong decision because where I live, it's a really small Caribbean island so the market is saturated and I'm here again, feeling very depressed about the future etc. Sighs! Unfortunately, I'm still trying to figure out what's the best option for me, only knowing what isn't for me but never quite figuring out what career does resonate with me. I suppose I need to do some deeper digging. Anyway, sorry for the really long message ! I'm sorry that I only just saw this video as well! It would've helped me so much back when the pandemic was just hitting and I was returning from my very last teaching stint in Spain. For now, I have a job that pays the bills but I know I need to leave soon!
Thank you very much for doing this video. I really resonated wit it, probably because I'm a 3rd year Electronics engineering student now, and I also experienced aiming for a "good job, good salary....etc". I'm gonna be honest, whenever I accomplish something in this path, I am happy but it doesn't really last long. It's like just a sigh of relief because I survived and didn't fail, not because I'm happy and I worked hard for it. I had dreams of my own but my parents won't support me so I was kinda forced to pursue this. I think what keeps me motivated by now is similar to what you said that even if I committed a mistake and took the wrong path, it will me closer to the right path. I really hope that the future me would be happy and enjoy what she's doing in her life because how are things now don't sit well with me even though the cards I have rn ain't really bad.
Holala! Je tombe au bon moment sur ta vidéo, tu retraces toutes mes pensées du moment, j’ai l’impression que c’est moi qui s’exprime. Merci pour ton expérience 🙏🏽❤️
Michael Simone Voilà un vrai INFP, attentionné et soucieux du bien-être des gens. J’espère que tu vas rester comme ça tout au long de la progression de ta chaîne mais sachant comment tu es constitué, je pense que ça sera le cas. ;-) pas de soucis je n’hésiterai pas à te contacter si besoin, merci encore.
Just happened to come upon your video and saw it was for INFPs. Also drawn to your accent so I began to listen to a couple of them. I'm much older and have had many jobs from assembly work( hated so much) to ice cream shop, retail clothing, submarine shop, waitress at BBQ joint, house cleaner, tutoring kids, daycare and finally teaching in elementary and middle school for 20 years and having a family. I'm currently going through a nadir of my life after a traumatic loss of my only son, Michael 6 years ago and moving from one state to another after loss of personal relationship so quite tumultuous and turmoil times. Need my second coming so to speak.round two, a second career. So many points you made really resonated with me about knowing what you like what is meaningful and satisfying and enjoyable but that also helps people..and the world needs. I really enjoyed teaching in the classroom for many many years until I didn't because I disliked the rules regulations and all the stipulations being demanded from district and state legislatures..those Who've never been in the classroom or know anything about childhood development and the joy of lifelong learning...watching a child's eyes light up when they created or learned something that fascinates them. It became so much record keeping and paperwork and structured to where all the teachers per grade level had to meet daily and confer about what they're teaching and having to be on the same lessons or page in math and so on.. The freedom to be creative and be student driven curriculum was taken away and was made more mechanical and as you know classrooms are very unique with their own personalities and different cultures and I happened to usually get all the ELL kids ( English language learners) because of my foreign background and coming to America having to learn the English language. I was better able to relate to them...but I hated having to keep up with the teachers next door. It seemed to get more competitive instead of collaborative. And I felt the testing was crazy much! And not beneficial for the children...they were not as excited about learning anymore. So in effect I felt the values and focus changed in American education system about 2011 in my opinion. Anyway I'm anxious about going back to the "regular" classroom for all the aforementioned reasons and also because everything seems computer/electronic driven and focused and not so much experiential and hands on like it used to be. So I appreciate your grains of wisdom from your experience. Thank you for sharing and I live what you said about trying something instead of just contemplating or thinking about it to really know and that any path you take even if it's the wrong path is better than no path at all because it c can get you closer and lead you to the right path for you...for me for each of us INFPs! I just need to overcome my fears of the unknown and work on my confidence and find my passion again.
Luckily for me I was always encourge to do what I want, not what other tell me to do. During school, My "what I wanna study" went from Veterinarian, to Astronomy, to something related to Writing, to Psicology, to Art. When I finish school I knew that I wanted to go to Art or Graphic Design, I ended up with Graphic Design and I liked it! Even if the teachers were damanding, I was liking what I was doing. I just have this problem of being eseally distracted and I didn't dedicated my time the way I should. So I left, but just to reorganize-myself to be present in the moment when I go back. This year I was determinated to made some changes to do things to be better, but the virus appeared and kinda ruined everything... I've been doing nothing this whole time and even I I'm starting to get tired of it... And one of the thing I coinsidered (because someone tell me) but didn't think much with which I was like "hmm... I- I don't know..." was Tourism I could learn more and also maybe travel around the world (something that is my main dream), I really wish I could just travel meet new People and their Belives, Cultures, History, etc, but sadlly I need money for that, so well, I need to do a first step. Note: What actully helped me to start to move to action was my Psicologist, she had help me find things about myself and helped me to be more decisive in what I want. I feel so much better since I started to go with her, I went to other two Psicologist before her, but none has helped me the way she did uwu
Thank you Michael, the video is very useful to me. I’m teaching Japanese about 1 year and I like but I prefer when is one-one class haha. Sometimes I feel bad because I don’t like that the school sells book overpriced, you can found on internet, text book, examen, everything (and they don’t pay me haha) :( so I just want to quit but idk still can’t find what I good at, I’d like to be kindergarten teacher :T
after listening to your story i got inspired and i am now i will emphasize on my dreams and what i feel i am of 17 now and was thinking to choose a career which my parents wants thanks!
This was very insightful, thank you!! Glad you found the thing you love, it is so important for us. I'm 29 and thinking about going back to University to get a teaching degree (I want to teach my mother tongue German to foreigners), because I came to the same conclusion as you, that I want to do something that helps people and is aligned with my values. I've always been interested in learning languages myself and helping others learn, so I feel like teaching German could be the right path for me.
Wow, I could see myself in your situation, a few years ago. I shifted to teaching 5 years ago and now I'm a language teacher. It did really work for me. I think you have to pursue it. Good luck! 😍
Attempted medical entrances 2 times....and its a nightmare. I never really paid attention to what i want . I'm thinking about graphic designing....i hope i get clear about my ideas more.
Here’s the thing.... I feel like pursuing psychology/counselling could be my calling, but I want to find a way to try out the experience first before spending $45k on graduate school. Is there a way to do this?
I'm 26, I've known I'm an INFP for about 6 years now and I have no idea what I want to do. I've had a bunch of jobs, all factory or industry jobs if anything to have money. I've recently decided to move to a state with my family for a fresh start and I have absolutely no idea what to do.
If you are unsure if you're intp or infp, somebody said to me if when you're younger you wanted to work in science fields then you are an INFP, if you wanted to work in art and psychology things/fields then you are an INTP
I'm in a same boat as you :( I'm an engineering student and stuck after graduation and dk what to do... i enjoy what I learn truly, but for a long term I don't wanna involve in engineering industry bcos I find it how unethical it is in terms of work ethic. now im still clueless... initially wanna be a vet but people said it doesn't have good market where I live...
Thank you a lot for the advices❤️ your life path is surely rich and I'm happy to hear that you are finally exploring yourself! I'm in a similar situation...but I'm in the first year of high school :) i know we choose courses next year but i can't stop thinking about the right professional choice...i get good grades and i study a lot in both courses (maths, science ans human studies for ex history, language etc) however i don't seem to fit in. I like writing, philosophy and of course whatever has to do with art! Though i can't say that I'm soo talented in painting and they disencourage me from going to an ary school for practical reasons... The thing is I know what i like bur i can't really think of an ideal profession because apparently there is no 😅. I'm also interested in understanding human behaviour and i value human moralities. I'm thinking of attending a multicultural school (which i have to pass an interview and sth like an examination to get into) because it may bring md closer to the ideal. However I'm in a really bad place with my mental health... I even go to a phycologist amd I'm sure i will find it unbearable to go to a foreign country and leave everything behind at 16... I'm sorry for the long talk 😅 it's just that I'm so lost and drained from all this thoughts. Again thanks for the video! Good luck with your new plan :) may you accomplish your dreams! Take care everyone ❤️
Thank you for making this video. It's really inspiring and reassuring, and it gave me hope... Namely, I am a third year pharmacy student (INFP, of course) and I want to quit it, because I really don't want to work in a retail pharmacy (where most end up) and I don't think anymore that I would like to work in the industry either, even though I find the science interesting and I like understanding it, I have come to realize that beyond just feeling good about myself for understanding it, I don't really feel like doing anything concrete with it... Besides, I think that patients don't deserve someone dispassionate about the job providing them service... Anyway, right now I am thinking of starting over and this time pursuing either English (as a second language) psychology (I think I would enjoy being a child psychologist especially, but either way I would be fine), directing (as a theater director) or switching to chemistry, where maybe I would have to start over (but I don't think I would enjoy it as much as the other stuff listed, only maybe if I took the environmental path, or the teacher path)... The only thing I know for sure, and which doesn't need a degree, is that I want to be a writer and I want to get good at writing plays and hopefully someday see them on stage... For this reason I think maybe the most sensible thing would be to get a degree in directing, but, when is it ever sensible to into theater? ...If anyone has advice, I would very much appreciate it 😅
I graduated last yeah w/ a degree in psychology and started my masters in Industrial psychology. But here I am confused as ever. It really really sucks. I was super passionate about this field and followed it through from 16-21 but now that I’m here I just don’t feel like it’s what I really want to do. I’m just so lost now.
Merci pour cette vidéo J'ai beau savoir au fond de moi ce qui est juste (pour moi), en entendre la validation reste très apaisant.. Merci pour tout ces conseils et le partage de ton expérience
Damn man ! you managed to literally explain my issue straight to the point ! i'm actually struggling to find the right path for me, and i keep blaming myself for choosing the wrong studies field which was environmental engineering in my case. But thanks to your video, i feel much more better now, so thank you so much, and keep up the good work !
Glad to hear it! If you're interested, have a look at the book "so good they can't ignore you". It's really bringing a new perspective on careers, and it relieved me from a lot of doubts!
Très utile oui et très bons conseils ! Effectivement j’aurais voulu entendre cela plus tôt... mais est ce que je l’aurais aussi bien compris sans avoir fait l’expérience du contraire 🤔 en tout cas j’apprécie énormément tes contenus et je me reconnais trooop... c’est flippant 😅 Je suis en reconversion et dans le développement personnel aussi. Tu as parlé de communauté et si jamais t’es curieux, il y a une coach Infp, Laura Nathalie que j’aime bien. Elle a un groupe Fb qui rassemblent de nombreux Infp (les Badass créatifs et secrètement ambitieux). C’est cool ce que tu fais 🤜🤛 Bonne continuation 😉
Merci beaucoup ! En effet je pense qu'il est important de se faire ses propres idées et sa propre expérience, je ne regrette pas de l'avoir fait, mais ça aurait pu accélérer le processus pour moi ^^ C'est cool de voir que je suis pas le seul à avoir vécu ça et que ça te parle :) Okay cool je la connais pas, j'irai jeter un oeil ! Merci d'être là et merci pour ton commentaire ! Je te souhaite bonne continuation aussi, bon courage et bonne chance !!
I think being in my interiors course right now is the correct one for me because if I think about all the other careers out there, I really think I'll find it boring or tiring and just draining. And yet, here I am, still continuing to doubt whether this course will actually make me happy in the future. It doesn't help that this career's competitive nature scares me so much. I still find myself happy doing it and I sometimes enjoy parts of it thoroughly despite the great stress and lack of sleep everyday brings me. Then again, it's exactly this difficulty I face that confuses me sometimes, all these challenges in school that will definitely become even worse once or if I graduate, if it's all even something I can really put up with my whole life. I understand there is no single course or job that doesn't come with stress and challenge, but I feel scared.. I'm not confident I can handle the hard roads of this course. So I don't know if I'm really happy where I am...
10:39 you want a different job. but I see your point right off the bat. I think it deserves a whole new name but I see the related term. so basic term for youth was a plus.
This is my senior year of high school and I feel so negatively pressured to know what I want to do in life because it seems like the only ways I can be successful are by going against my values and tiring myself out. It seems like everyone else is capable of having a standard 9-5 job and I'm just not. I want a job where I can help people and also be able to express myself creatively. I was thinking about studying audiology, speech pathology, psychology, or art. But I don't know what to choose or how to apply my studies into the real world, especially when it comes to art.
I, as an INFP, was also in that exact frame of mind at the end of high school. I studied Music Therapy for those very reasons; helping people and expressing myself. It seems fitting, but there is a lot of struggle involved. It's easy to feel drained. My real passion is writing music, but my job wears me out, doesn't pay the best and is creative in ways I don't necessarily derive considerable meaning from. You may want to consider something that is, perhaps, more boring; but, something that pays well so that you can sustain your passions outside of work. I can definitely see the appeal of that now!
Thank you for the insight 😊 great video, very informative, insightful and helpful! I’m an INFP and have struggled with finding the ideal career. However, the things you mentioned in your video such as helping others, time for introspection, working one on one, etc I find to be true and can relate to it. If only high schools would devote more time to helping students figure their type out and what would naturally suit best in terms of career as well as individual counseling for each student. I think something like that would have spared me the last 11 years of mistakes since high school :( I’m still stuck though with wanting to earn a decent salary. I would be happy to be a therapist or psychologist but it seems like quite a bit of money to pursue education and starting salary’s aren’t great. What do you think about being a Psych Nurse Practitioner? I thought I read some where that Psych Nurse Practitioners can legally provide some therapy in addition to addressing the medical needs of people. Thoughts?
Merci beaucoup ! Je suis également passée par la phase prépa, hésité entre info et mécanique, choisi info et je dois finir mes études cette année. Je sens que mon futur ressemblera à ton expérience, donc merci des conseils !
What is the most important breakthrough you had regarding finding your path? Share below!👇
I'm infp, final year medical student. Similar experience with me.
Simply chose science without a second thought because I am good at it. Parents wanted me to be a doctor. I'm like 'sure! It's a noble profession. You get to help people, cure their suffering'
Reality: constantly surrounded by people in pain, illness etc and I can't help but be empathetic. I can Feel them. It had been painful to see all these people having a hard life and I just having fun learning new things. It has been depressing.
I now have developed my personal mechanisms to cope with it. I am choosing to continue in my profession after I graduate as it does not go against my morals and principles and I get this fulfilling energy when someone prays for you genuinely with smile on their face because you became a source of their relief.
I'm a writer, artist, these things comes first for me. Studies and other stuff has to wait.
Thanks for the video. Related it completely.
Thank you for sharing your story! I'm glad you could relate. I can definitely say that I relate as well, because as a future therapist I'm torn between being exposed to people suffering, and at the same time, being able to help them. I guess we can easily be reached by this suffering. It's good to know that you successfully developped coping mechanisms :)
Thank you for being here!
@@whome5881 I feel u
Hi Michael! I’ve just stumbled on to these personality types and wish I had known more about them (and myself) back when I was 18...A lot of things make sense in hindsight now. I’m apparently an infp as well. Like you, I was good at math, thought of myself as a logical type, and eventually became an airline pilot. As far as flying went, it turned out that I really liked flight instructing more than working for an airline. The view was great, but I hated that I had very little control over my schedule. The reward just wasn’t worth the sacrifice. So, when the airline I worked for went out of business, I didn’t go to work for another one. I have done some homeschooling & traveling with my kids, worked a little as a therapeutic riding instructor (which I really liked), and am learning to be a beekeeper. I’m still looking for something though....Anyway, good job making the move to a more fulfilling life and good luck. I think it would be so good for young people starting out in life to learn more about themselves. Although, I don’t know if I would have believed or listened back when I was 18. I think I may have needed to live it, like you said, and go down those wrong roads to understand.
@@mlvickery yes I wish I knew it before especially in college days ...
Being an INFP feels like playing life on hard mode XD
Ahaha true!!
Yeeeeessss!!!
IcePumpkin wow yes it does
Can't relate more hahaha. This is too true
Yes! I can totally relate!
INFP aged 54 and I've finally found my true path. I've been training to become a therapist for a few months and finally found my vocation. It's never too late.
That's great!!!
that's so cool! what kind of therapist?
Congrats, i hope to tell the same story at your age.
may i ask you what jobs you ve done so far?
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You can’t figure out things by just thinking, you have to experience them.
Agree
But u dont have your entire life to experience them, u need money fast to feed your family.
This I needed to hear this 👌
Michael Simone, after hearing your life story, i can confirm that we went through very similar ups and downs, and the same subsequent relevation at each milestone:
1. Started early stages of life being really good at math and science, and unusually good at English/language. - Check
2. Being a jack of many trades and therefore unable to decide what career to aim for. - Check
3. Socially-pressured to enter the STEM field cus that's what our communities wanted and expected of us. - Check
4. Engineering. (You were in mech eng, i was in chem eng. I guess we both figured that of all the STEM majors, BEng offered the most creative options.) - Check
5. Becoming slowly disillusioned during and post-college with the dawning realization of how wrong we were. - Check
6. Going into the actual industry, and winding up in a soulless, depressing job. Waking up one day in a cold sweat asking yourself "****, is this what i really want to do for the rest of my life?" - Big Fat Check
7. Quitting Engineering. Going on a spree of exploration for what feels like the first time ever, bilaterally probing within and outside the self for what that ultimate dream career could be. - Check
8. Actually contemplating/going back to university - Check.
9. Realizing that another 4-5 yrs for a 2nd degree is a waste of time and money. Took a fast-course instead (you as a therapist, i as a digital artist). - Check
10. Finding it to be a craft that you cared wholeheartedly about, and deciding to devote yourself to it for the rest of time. You found psychology, and i found digital art, both avenues of which allowed us to explore and create value indefinitely - and proceeded to make careers out of it.
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I think for INFPs, life is one big process of elimination. Becus we are so deeply experiential, we HAVE to go thru trial-and-error, it is absolutely crucial that we try and fail repeatedly so that we can gain breaking, life-changing insights each time we do so. Additionally, we are cursed with having an internal reality that is abnormally blended with external reality, and thus defend our principles fearlessly but foolishly, and take all our failures extremely personally - which is a real pain to be sure, but it's also leads us to become individuals who can relate to and want to create positive change on an impossible scale.
We're mad. No one else will ever get us. And therefore, the greatest challenge for INFPs might not actually be the attainment of our goals, but the attainment of peace within ourselves, that we may never get our ideals out into the world, or even be understood by the world, and that's okay.
ChemE here too at point 5 rn 😭
@@Chuck.Mast3r oh no, haha
Are you good at it, though? do u enjoy it..? I was a lousy chem engr. I couldnt keep up with my peers, was generally listless but didnt know why, working super hard but getting no results, and eventually only graduating with 3rd class honors. I shldve woken up there and then, but i didnt, i still wanted to give the field a chance. But this is just me; i dont know what's your situation, or whether u have an alternate skill that you can re-pivot yourself towards. As such, im afraid of saying what u should or shouldnt do.
@@antiday I relate a lot with what you wrote. I already got disillusioned with my flied of work, and quit my job. I've been trying other stuff but so far I'm still very lost. The difference is I studied design, hoping to have a creative job that could make something good, and instead was just a streak of soulless jobs, mindless spending day after day at a desk staring at a screen. I also was never amazing at it, and after a while neither did I care about being great at it because it just felt meaningless to me anyway. I don't know what else to try, and which path to take, I hope I start figuring something out soon.
@@tombocai are you an INFP as well? What if you tried doing your own personal work after work hours, and see if you can grow your very own art into a business?
@@antiday I think I am an INFP, from the tests and what I've researched it all seems to match. I've actually been trying to do what you suggested for a little over two years. But whenever I have free time to work on my personal stuff I just end up being apathetic and without motivation. A mix of lack of confidence, depression and anxiety. And then a lot of guilt and shame for not using that time for my future and for something good. And that just leads to more depression and apathy. I need to find a way to break the cycle, but I don't know how.
This video is Soooo important.. this is the biggest struggle for INFPs right?
I`d love to have all those carreers.. Musician, teacher, psychologist..
I have been to university for 3 times, but felt miserable.. So now I work at a,supermarket, but I love it, I love the customers and team work!
Im currently in Uni and it sucks, Idk what to do really. I keep failing and my parents keep pushing me and i keep asking for break so i can figure things out but im still being pushed
@@Isaac-ul8yz Summer is coming up, I hope you can take a break then.
... the way those are my three top career choices AHAHA infps 〰️〰️
@@Isaac-ul8yz that is just so awful!.. I guess I was in a depression in I was at the Uni.. And then my mom said "Stop, you`re not going anymore" and I just remember this relief so deeply.
And then I just asked myself "but what the hell am I gonna do with my life now?".. I took the time to figure it out.. My advice would be,do not take a degree if you don`t passionately love it.. authenticity is very important for INFP`s and we are not driven by money. Remember, college is just the first step to the rest of your life.. take your time to decide wherr you really want to.invest your time in.. Life goes by so quickly, do what you love.. At least study what you love, otherwise, you`ll be miserable..
@@eduardahollanda9858 i felt the same.. I knew I didn`t belong there..
Don`t stay there then.. this is the beggining of the rest of your life, and you still have the opportunity to change. take your time (for me it took years, and I am still figuring out) but don`t stay in a current situation that you are not passionate about. You have the opportunity to study what you love now.. get to know yourself truly.. just don`t settle.. ❤❤
Thank you so much, merci beaucoup!
I take away from it:
1. Focus on what YOU want.
2. Experience it to find out! (Even being on the wrong path eventually leads to the right path.)
It feels encouraging being part of this comment section.
After 8 years of working in a sales department for saving money I finally started my new journey as a counselling trainee, and I feel so right every day because everything that I have learnt from this course is so ethically and morally right to me. It also explains lots of things that I struggled with. When the word therapist came out in the video I was like : OMG this is so me.
Ur an infp, I think
Take it from an INFP who did not do what you did and start with a logical career. It might be better to try the conventional way firstly. Stop saying you made a mistake, you needed this experience to realise what is valuable and important to you. I studied Philosophy firstly, and have been working low-paid, low-skill jobs only. People think I am unambitious and lazy. I am now considering to return to study for a "normal" job, and maybe, I will pursue it and eventually accept that it will not suit me. And I will arrive to the same realisation as many of you but even later in life and even more indirectly. I will include a quote by Hegel below (translated to English) that I think is really relevant to those who consider past decisions mistakes and not essential.
“The bud disappears when the blossom breaks through, and we might say that the former is refuted by the latter; in the same way when the fruit comes, the blossom may be explained to be a false form of the plant’s existence, for the fruit appears as its true nature in place of the blossom. The ceaseless activity of their own inherent nature makes these stages moments of an organic unity, where they not merely do not contradict one another, but where one is as necessary as the other; and constitutes thereby the life of the whole.”
I have 100% the same story. I did my Bachelor in Computer Science. I worked very hard for it and was doubting if it was the right desicion for me all the time. I didn't fit in, and in my free time I didn't do anything related to my studies, but spend my time with theater, dancing and painting. I finished my studies just becuase I didn't know what else to do and somehow I still got a good degree. Now I travelled a bit through Portugal and think a lot about what to do next. I just applied to a master's programm in Cognition Psychology, it applies the logical knowlegde to psychology. Maybe thats also something for you, if you dont want to start from scratch in a completely new field. Anyway, it is nice to hear that there are people struggelling and having the same thoughts as me.
hey Clara! thanks for sharing this. I'm an INFP doing my final year bachelor's in Physics but idk it doesn't feel satisfying enough. I want to do something that will bring out the artistic and empathetic side of mine.
@@devikarani.m Hey Devica! Your bachelor is a great base and you could search for more interdisciplinary topics if you like :) I can tell there are many possibilities you can combine psychology and physics, like eyetracking and HCI. Wish you the best and good luck for your last year!
Hey, I'm also doing my bachelor in computer science and I was thinking if I could persue masters in psychology.
Thanks for your comment now I'm confident in my decision 😃
I think the most painful part of choosing a career is when you have dreams of your own and have a clear path for you to take but your parents (or maybe other people) wanted something different from you and you were not even given a chance to pursue what you want.
My life is this literally
This video really resonates with me, I'm a 26 year INFP from London. I study maths science and art in school but I've always been more of a creative type but have never had the confidence explore it as a career. This video has confirmed that i need make a change now. Where there any books you read that transform your mindset on living your life for you?
i might be able to help in this one. No, it wasnt a book. It was actually a couple of quotes (by tony robbins, a motivational speaker dude), on a sticker, pasted on the side of the train window as i was returning home from a hollow, depressing day of night shift at my semiconductor manufacturing plant.
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"A real decision is measured by the fact that you've taken real action. If there's no action, you havent truly decided."
"The only thing that's keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself."
"No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow your progress, you're still way ahead of anyone who isn't trying."
"It's not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives, but what we do constantly."
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Im not sure how helpful they'd be to you, but in the moment, sth clicked in my heart, and it was made up, i was done with excuses, and the gnawing prospect of dying in my grave wishing i couldve done sth about it. I resigned from my job a few mths later, and explored new options fanatically. I'm now a fulltime digital artist, and i've never looked back (except to say it really sucked back then XD hahaha)
A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle! & Vipassana meditation
Great video ^^ I'm an engineering student as well. But I still want to work in that field, 'cause I need to make money for my family.
As you said, INFP really enjoy simplicity. So maybe, after I gathered enough money, I will go to countryside near the mountain and living in peace.
But it's just a plan for now. Who knows if I will change my mind about that tomorrow hahaha. Let's see what the future will do to me ^^
Hope all my INFP fellas to be happy today
Thanks for this! I'm 57 years old...10 years at University...still trying to find the right fit for me! I ended up deep diving into psychology just to understand myself and relationships and I love it! I'm attracted to spiritual and personal growth, people and what makes them tic. Loving myself these days...allowing missteps in the process.
I'm 57 too and looking for round 2 career wise after teaching 20 years. Love psychology as well but dread going back to school not only the classroom but incurring a bunch of debt at my age.
Best wishes to you!
It shows a lot about the INFP personality in all these thoughtful comments. Each person here has so much to say about their experience, and frankly have been starved of platform and outlet in their daily lives. Their tendency to be misunderstood, leads to external demands and averages to eat away to this personality. The recessive NE (extroverted intuition) leads to becoming trapped inside ones own comfort zone; mentally, environmentally, in relationships, etc. because they need to understand their experience, new things are energy expensive to the INFP-T. The T stands for turbulent as opposed to -A as assertive. This turbulence can lead one to be dragged behind a fast-paced society, and becoming highly critical of themselves for this.
This!
Hi! I can relate to this video on a personal level. I'm 29 and an INFP. I have spent my life going back and forth between careers. I have worked in childcare, veterinary medicine, welfare, and banking - they were all so unfulfilling. I was also good at science in high school, so I initially went to school for quantum physics. Although it was interesting, I couldn't imagine sitting in an office while creating mathematical equations to try to create a new theory day in and day out. I love European medieval history, but I always received negative comments about going to school for that. As if "just being a teacher" with that degree was a low when I had the potential to "do so much more" (insert eye roll here). I ended up quitting university, had a child, and worked various jobs while trying to find meaning or fulfillment behind them. But now Covid is here and with everything being shut down, I had a lot of time to think. This thinking made me feel as though it was time to get back to school. So, I'm back in school and working on my Bachelors in European medieval history, while on the track for the Master's program to teach higher education. Teaching is something I have always wanted to do and to have the ability to share my knowledge with others is something I'm looking forward to.
Your video inspired me to keep going, even though friends and family think an education in history is pointless. Thank you!
How are you doing? This is so cool, because it is so specific. Greetings from a 27yo INFP! :)
I’m an INFP-T too and I could relate to this video and so many of the comments here! I feel like it’s so hard to know what my passion is because so many things interest me. But I’m not sure I’ll stick with one thing for the rest of my life because I’d like a change at some point or many points in the future. I thought about being a psychologist but my issue is that I feel drained after talking to people and if I do this a as my main job, I’m afraid I’ll feel very exhausted everyday. However I’m basing this on conversations I’ve had with people who are incorrigible and don’t listen and keep playing the victim all the time. So I don’t know what to do.
I agree with this, I’m a nurse, and thought about going back for LCSW. I get burned out as a nurse about twice a year, and I mean just done and want to quit. Probably because I let other ppl dump on me and then I don’t properly take care of my own needs, poor coping skills, ect. I get to the point of emotional and mental exhaustion, cry and question my existence and life purpose for a few days; and then I get back to it. At 40 ive accepted this is just how I’m wired. But I still have a passion to help people, so I stick with it. It’s a tough road, and we are always in this self giving relationship with the world. Fulfilling and draining all at the same time. I often look around and wonder why I can’t be as selfish as others with their career paths. Anyway...Best of luck with your decision.
I am being shocked reading ur cmnt. cz this is exact the same what i feel. I am an INFP-T, want to go into psychology, but i think after listening to ppl's depressing stories i will get drained out everyday. IDK what to pursue. can u help me?
The Art world is a very competetive place and can be a quite hostile environment, extremly stressful for INFPs. It's Hypercapitalism. It doesn´t comply with a lot of values of INFPs at least not for me. The creative part yes but not the socialising /performative part that allows you to sell your art. The Art world is not about authenticity. The art you make might but the rest is not. I found that really frustrating. I think it is important to be aware of that.
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I’m five minutes in & this is my EXACT story, except that I was in healthcare admin instead of IT. Just quit my unethical work environment 2 months ago & I really just want to enjoy simplicity & travel.
So refreshing & kind of emotional seeing someone else who understands it.
May i ask what aspect you didnt like about that job, i see alway that healthcare is a field loved by INFPS since its people oriented?
I decided on horticulture because I can see myself playing with plants if my art dreams explode in my face. It's also a useful life-skill as far as gardening (heck yeah veggies). In my country, marijuana is legal in a lot of states so there's a lot of farms who need people like me, not to mention the current demand for horticulturalists in government and agriculture as it is. I like plants and I'm excited to breed and play with them all day for a job, no matter where it is. I've been watching these kinds of videos trying to help me decide because I dreaded the idea of an art degree when I can take those classes as electives and I wanted to get a different degree that's far more employable. I desperately need back up plans. My biggest fear was shooting for my dreams and woefully missing the mark and spending my time struggling to find an art job to make someone else's dreams come true; there are a lot of horror stories in the art community that made me even more anxious about an art degree. I didn't want to be mistreated and made to "crunch" 50 hour shifts just to be paid pennies for my efforts. I just decided on horticulture a few days ago after soul searching for over a year and I'm excited for my future again. However, it is a science field so I'm nervous for the coursework but it won't be a bunch of math and that'll be nice lol. Good luck, my fellow INFPs, there is a place for every one of us and I hope you find yours soon. Shoot for your dreams but don't forget to pack a parachute, just in case
Most importantly we need to cultivate a hard mind to support our kind and soft hearts! 💜
So I am an infp
And I did psychology
I completely hate it
It’s very draining mentally and emotionally.
It is still all about money, I have to meet KPIs daily as to how many hours of service I provide to people. Some people need more help but don’t have the government funding or money to pay for our service.
Day in and out is about dealing with peoples mental issues and problems. Which is not enjoyable at all! And is very very draining. Mentally sick people take their anger out on you!
It’s at a point where I don’t care about people or their issues. I just want to be left alone.
It’s horrible, absolutely horrible.
I would love to do something creative, in solitude
Still trying to work it out
That is so true about trying to figure out what is right by thinking/feeling about it rather than experiencing it. My career path has been very varied. I am now becoming an art educator, and confident this aligns with my values and gives me a sense of purpose. Hopefully I can guide all those INFP (and other) art students to be true to themselves and just go for it!
My way looks the same until now. I am very good in physics, mathematics and chemistry, but also love being creative. I love drawing and playing the piano. I am doing my A levels ( in Germany Abitur) this year and after that I want to study physics. But I also was standing in front of the problem to agree my job and my values. My plan is to go into regenerative energies, to do something good for the climate. I want to give the society something back. When I am dying I want leave something over my death behind. I also like Art, Psychology and Music. But I hope to stay on my actual path. One goal is also to make a road trip trough the USA (I am living in Germany) for one year. But I am not old enough to rent a car, so I am waiting.
Merci beaucoup tes vidéos vont probablement m'aider ! J'ai terminé ma licence de biologie (3 ans), mais je ne suis toujours pas sûre et n'ai jamais été sûre de ce que je voulais vraiment. Le côté musicienne / psychologiste je m'y suis bien reconnue. J'ai dû faire le choix en entrant en 1ère entre littéraire et scientifique, j'ai énormément hésité et j'ai suivi la voie la plus "confortable" et logique du point de vue des gens qui m'entouraient. Il m'arrive souvent de regretter ce choix, c'est tellement tôt pour déjà savoir ce qu'on voudra faire plus tard ! Je me reconnais complètement dans tes vidéos pour la personnalité INFP, merci pour le partage de tes recherches ! Et grâce à ton léger accent français j'arrive à tout comprendre haha !
I'm a bit late, but this is incredibly helpful. I too am an INFP. I recently gave notice at my current job so may find myself unemployed soon. I find the corporate world to be a constant struggle. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but feel that I've learnt a lot about myself through my life experiences and hope to be one step closer to following the ideal career path. It's awesome to be able to connect with like-minded individuals. Thank you for the content.
thanks for sharing your story; i'm also INFP (i've just found it out recently), and i've been really struggling with accounting career because all the companies I'm working for are profit oriented and don't give a sh* about people, and I have to follow too many rules & deadlines almost every day. I was good in math, had As in school and uni, loved economics, but due to poverty had to choose accounting major because it allowed me to get good paying job right away.
Ooof, I feel you. I’ve been a nurse for almost 2 decades, and in my own disbelief, ended up in the same situation as you. Feels like health care is totally profit driven. We HATE that! I remain a nurse, bc I still believe in the principles of loving and caring for people, but damn it’s hard to make our ideals happen in this money driven world.
My writing is probably the biggest thing for me that I have discovered. I am very natural at it and it feels really good to write. I am also interested in counseling. I have a strong ability to listen to people and I enjoy listening to people, I love psychology and I love people and I feel that counseling would be a good career. Right now I am trying tutoring but it seems more like a teacher and I feel like it is over my head right now. I still feel like I need to explore this to see if this a good fit for me. I have never been a teacher before so its new.
Wow thank you for this. I’m an accountant switching to social work and I needed this validation
I’m an INFP as well. I just finish college and your video helps a lot!!
As an INFP, this is where I'm at now. I currently dropped out at my current course and now I am really struggling and getting frustated in what kind of degree/course should I really take, that's why I am learning more about myself and discovering mbti really helped me alot especially your video about INFP's career. Thank you so so much for being kind and telling us your experience
THANK YOU! I'm 17 years old and I'm definitely confused about what to do in my future and I should choose what career path will I continue with and it's really difficult specially when I'm good at maths and logical sciences but my personality indicates I better go for other career paths and I'm pressured to make my decision now. And then I came across your video and it is like light for me so thank you a looooot for sharing your experience it's very helpful and I hope you do more videos like these!🙏❤
I can relate. I got higher marks for maths and science and because of that, my mom wants me to choose something related to those two subjects but I don't think those are the right choice for me...
I already have something I love to do but they don't want me to choose it lol
Ill be turning 17 in a few months and similar to you, I've always been "better" towards more academic subjects. However, based on personality tests, it says otherwise. I hope that both of us can get to the path we feel the most comfortable with without sacrificing too much. I wish you the best ❣️
With all due respect to you being 17... I genuinely would like you think about what I'm about to say...
"5 years ago you were 12"
You can't hold a 17year old accountable for decision making for a future life based on certain childlike cognitive foundations that started to form at the age of say 12!
Your total life experiences is 5 years. People usually need 10 to 15 years to get a decent understanding of their personality, characteristics disposition in the world.
Explore, experiment and experience as much as you can untill you feel a tug a slow pull towards a direction will take place. When that happens your on your way to the center of the universe. You'll know what do next at the point.
Try to delay college if you can as that will keep you safe and far away from realm of debt. Unless you are going in for technical training then there is no two ways about it.
Difference is I'm in first year of Uni doing Civil engineering was forced to by my mum and I dont like it really don't know what to do now
I had almost the same experience.. I had good grades in school I have done engineering like every body else I suffered in that but when I've graduated I spent two years in finding out what I realy wanted so I have chosed teaching I'm a teacher now.. I'm happy with it..the one problem is that I'm different with my methods and my thoughts people don't easily understand me and I always want that everything is well done
Thank for sharing this
video! Being a INFP is tough and we always struggle to fit in the society’s rules, try to follow up what teachers and parents say. After watching this video , I have learned a lot how to strive in this world. Thank you for sharing your own story and give us advice.
Hope every INFP can be loved by the world and the same ourselves.
This video felt like me listening back to a recording of myself, so very similar for me, although I'm still early in that journey, only now realising I dont like what I do and it doesn't align with my values. Thanks for the inspiration
My goal is to not have to work so I am selling out and becoming a medical professional with minimal education and high pay. Long term goal is to invest my money and retire early so I can become an inventor, filmmaker, and/or entrepreneur. Maybe join local government and volunteer as well. I just want to do things that make me happy.
As an infp i entered trying civil engineering but with the starting of classes i just felt off n my mind didnt seem motivated. So i planned to stop before i go to lengthy years of studying but wont feel happy on what id be doing. N now i still feel bad cause i seem to be lost i really want to do art n at the same time help the people. It also sucks to be an asian at some point because of the the peer pressure of entering into a must of entering a high paying job.
Gladys Villero same here I’m so conflicted between science and art because i thought i wanted to be a doctor.
are you planning on switching career paths?
I feel you. I gave up a music education career because of this kind of subtle pressure from my parents... and I feel like that was a huge mistake
@@sonjay2149 yep i've been planning to. But it seems like i doubt my choices, worrying for something that i cant somehow put into words.
Didnt knew the road to adulthood was this hard. huhuhu
@@villerogladys1368 Where did you reach after two years ?
@@footballsocialmediareactio8363 I still continued studying. I went unto an academic hiatus 😂 for more than a year. Regret, sadness, and all sorts of negative emotions played within those times. But in the end i came to conclude that i should follow my passion which is cooking.
There is still pressure tbh, cause my family still aspire me to be in a more recognizable job.
Analysis paralysis. Be careful of it. Good advice to just get out and try it, test the waters before feeling like it’s right. Otherwise you may not get anywhere.
Before 2020 I was in a Biology Degree for two years then took a year off because of major depression. I’ve recently started a Psychology degree through 2020/21, still going haha. Anyways, your story brought a little peace to my step if that makes any sense haha. Online school has been killing me and I’m worried I’ve screwed up my whole life. My extended family has always made a point to tell me how dumb I am and that they no longer support me as a person if I am not like making $100 000 a year yet, have a “real” job, am successful etc. I know I’m lucky in my circumstances to be pursuing education, I don’t dismiss that. Was recently searching diplomas (as I do often at stressful times in life haha). I think I’ve been living life so much for others that I forget who I am. I don’t have cohesive thoughts right now. I just hope to please find meaning and come to clarity. I just want a meaningful life and work, which there are many ways to do that haha. Another discussion lol.
Anyways what the heck the point is your video was helpful. I’m going to continue. I like how you said a wrong step is even helpful along the way. So long I wished to be just someone who can suck it up and get a job for the pay-check and continue on, I think I pretended to be that for the last few years, but now I’m maybe re-realizing how much I do value work that aligns with me. Hoping to find it along the way.
Best wishes to everyone here. I hope your journey becomes lighter and you find encouragement to carry on. I hope we all make it 🙏🏻🤍🤍
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Thanks you for this video, it really helps. I'm a lost INFP
Good for you my friend I did 2 years in the preparatory school the I became an electronic engineer but I'm not happy and I'm infp currently searching for passion you are helping a lot thank you thank you thank you from the depths of my heart
I'm brasilian, and I have 16. I love your channel, you help me a lot!! Thank tou so much, and i hope tou kepping doing your beautiful job. (Sorry for my bad english)
I've been struggling lately with my career path and thank God I watched this. Thank you so much for sharing your story.
I too was also studying psychology, but I wasn't commited it
then i dropped out and now I'm studying environmental technology hoping to help a lot of people in some way or another
but part of me wants to go back and finishing a psych degree in the future
While I thought of programming as kinda boring working as a psychologist consumed all the energy I had in my life (and more) for Family, Friends and selfcare. It might be a noble Job but it is clearly not for me even thow there are many people way more introverted than I am. Still recovering from that experience.
Yes I get you. That's what happened to me as well actually, it was too much for me! Now I'm back into software engineering >
I'm a therapist as well and often feel very emotionally drained.. I'm also considering software engineering. It seems appealing to do something like that during the day and then do what I love (writing music) afterwards.
I am an INFP with ADHD. I feel like I am playing my life at ultra hard mode sometimes, lol. I am professionally a programmer and i like to code. But I have a lot of interests in everyfield like art, philosophy, psychology, maths, science, cosmos, etc. I often question the existence of universe and I dont feel like there is any ultimate reason for what we do , what we are searching for . Everything seems senseless. That was the last conclusion I could reach after I thought a lot in my whole life until now. I overthink a lot, i am not stable emotionally. I dont think I am gifted or something. But I feel good that I exist. I think there is no sense in anything in the world and existence. But still I like the feelings, even if they are good or bad. And I am keeping on running in the hunt of happy harmones. Thats how I am going to and want to complete my journey of life.
Thanks for sharing! I went through very similar processes and it's good to hear about the experiences of another INFP :)
This video was uploaded on my birthday, and now coming back to this, I feel like I am getting closer and closer to the right track. Thank you so much for the advice!
Here's my infp life story...accepted to prestigious architecture school.. not actually good at it. Too technical for me.. depression.. managed to graduate. Went to work in d field anyway for about 8 years. Finally change field, at 30++. Study early childhood edu and open a preschool with partners. Hope to open my own preschool!!!
my chest hurts because of how much i relate to your journey
Hello Michael! This video resonated so much with me!! Although I've never been exceptionally good at Math and Science, I always knew I had a knack for languages and that's what I decided to pursue. I've enjoyed most aspects of it but if I could change what I did at university, I would add in something like Management or maybe Economics or idk, something a bit more "useful" (I majored in Latin American Studies). Anyway, I taught English to non English speakers (including in France ! When I heard your accent it made me smile....I love Toulouse ❤️) but now I am just burned out from teaching. I'm currently doing some studies in Human Resource Management but I'm really worried I made a wrong decision because where I live, it's a really small Caribbean island so the market is saturated and I'm here again, feeling very depressed about the future etc. Sighs! Unfortunately, I'm still trying to figure out what's the best option for me, only knowing what isn't for me but never quite figuring out what career does resonate with me. I suppose I need to do some deeper digging.
Anyway, sorry for the really long message ! I'm sorry that I only just saw this video as well! It would've helped me so much back when the pandemic was just hitting and I was returning from my very last teaching stint in Spain. For now, I have a job that pays the bills but I know I need to leave soon!
This music playing in the background is typical chillin music for INFPs:) Thank you, Michael!
Thank you very much for doing this video. I really resonated wit it, probably because I'm a 3rd year Electronics engineering student now, and I also experienced aiming for a "good job, good salary....etc". I'm gonna be honest, whenever I accomplish something in this path, I am happy but it doesn't really last long. It's like just a sigh of relief because I survived and didn't fail, not because I'm happy and I worked hard for it.
I had dreams of my own but my parents won't support me so I was kinda forced to pursue this. I think what keeps me motivated by now is similar to what you said that even if I committed a mistake and took the wrong path, it will me closer to the right path.
I really hope that the future me would be happy and enjoy what she's doing in her life because how are things now don't sit well with me even though the cards I have rn ain't really bad.
Holala! Je tombe au bon moment sur ta vidéo, tu retraces toutes mes pensées du moment, j’ai l’impression que c’est moi qui s’exprime. Merci pour ton expérience 🙏🏽❤️
Super ! Je suis content que ça te serve ! N'hésite pas si tu veux en savoir plus :) Merci d'avoir regardé !
Michael Simone Voilà un vrai INFP, attentionné et soucieux du bien-être des gens. J’espère que tu vas rester comme ça tout au long de la progression de ta chaîne mais sachant comment tu es constitué, je pense que ça sera le cas. ;-) pas de soucis je n’hésiterai pas à te contacter si besoin, merci encore.
@@loveusekate Merci pour ton commentaire ça fait plaisir ! Content de t'avoir parmi nous :)
Just happened to come upon your video and saw it was for INFPs. Also drawn to your accent so I began to listen to a couple of them. I'm much older and have had many jobs from assembly work( hated so much) to ice cream shop, retail clothing, submarine shop, waitress at BBQ joint, house cleaner, tutoring kids, daycare and finally teaching in elementary and middle school for 20 years and having a family.
I'm currently going through a nadir of my life after a traumatic loss of my only son, Michael 6 years ago and moving from one state to another after loss of personal relationship so quite tumultuous and turmoil times. Need my second coming so to speak.round two, a second career.
So many points you made really resonated with me about knowing what you like what is meaningful and satisfying and enjoyable but that also helps people..and the world needs. I really enjoyed teaching in the classroom for many many years until I didn't because I disliked the rules regulations and all the stipulations being demanded from district and state legislatures..those Who've never been in the classroom or know anything about childhood development and the joy of lifelong learning...watching a child's eyes light up when they created or learned something that fascinates them. It became so much record keeping and paperwork and structured to where all the teachers per grade level had to meet daily and confer about what they're teaching and having to be on the same lessons or page in math and so on.. The freedom to be creative and be student driven curriculum was taken away and was made more mechanical and as you know classrooms are very unique with their own personalities and different cultures and I happened to usually get all the ELL kids ( English language learners) because of my foreign background and coming to America having to learn the English language. I was better able to relate to them...but I hated having to keep up with the teachers next door. It seemed to get more competitive instead of collaborative. And I felt the testing was crazy much! And not beneficial for the children...they were not as excited about learning anymore. So in effect I felt the values and focus changed in American education system about 2011 in my opinion. Anyway I'm anxious about going back to the "regular" classroom for all the aforementioned reasons and also because everything seems computer/electronic driven and focused and not so much experiential and hands on like it used to be. So I appreciate your grains of wisdom from your experience. Thank you for sharing and I live what you said about trying something instead of just contemplating or thinking about it to really know and that any path you take even if it's the wrong path is better than no path at all because it c can get you closer and lead you to the right path for you...for me for each of us INFPs! I just need to overcome my fears of the unknown and work on my confidence and find my passion again.
Thank you so much, your advice was on the point and useful, I'm definitely going use your advice
INFPs are perrrrrrfecttttt😊😊😊😊😊you are so kind...actually we are soooo kind😁😁😁😁😁😁
Don’t get stuck on a thought too long in the midst of your hustle; learn to note them to later think deeper at a more appropriate time
Luckily for me I was always encourge to do what I want, not what other tell me to do. During school, My "what I wanna study" went from Veterinarian, to Astronomy, to something related to Writing, to Psicology, to Art. When I finish school I knew that I wanted to go to Art or Graphic Design, I ended up with Graphic Design and I liked it! Even if the teachers were damanding, I was liking what I was doing. I just have this problem of being eseally distracted and I didn't dedicated my time the way I should. So I left, but just to reorganize-myself to be present in the moment when I go back. This year I was determinated to made some changes to do things to be better, but the virus appeared and kinda ruined everything... I've been doing nothing this whole time and even I I'm starting to get tired of it...
And one of the thing I coinsidered (because someone tell me) but didn't think much with which I was like "hmm... I- I don't know..." was Tourism I could learn more and also maybe travel around the world (something that is my main dream), I really wish I could just travel meet new People and their Belives, Cultures, History, etc, but sadlly I need money for that, so well, I need to do a first step.
Note: What actully helped me to start to move to action was my Psicologist, she had help me find things about myself and helped me to be more decisive in what I want. I feel so much better since I started to go with her, I went to other two Psicologist before her, but none has helped me the way she did uwu
Thank you Michael, the video is very useful to me. I’m teaching Japanese about 1 year and I like but I prefer when is one-one class haha. Sometimes I feel bad because I don’t like that the school sells book overpriced, you can found on internet, text book, examen, everything (and they don’t pay me haha) :( so I just want to quit but idk still can’t find what I good at, I’d like to be kindergarten teacher :T
Great video! Your perspective is great. As I am an infp myself. I'm very interested in self development, psychology and teaching :)
Thank you! I'm happy you found it useful :) so you're hesitating between these careers?
after listening to your story i got inspired and i am now i will emphasize on my dreams and what i feel
i am of 17 now and was thinking to choose a career which my parents wants
thanks!
Thank you for sharing! Excellent advice!
This was very insightful, thank you!! Glad you found the thing you love, it is so important for us. I'm 29 and thinking about going back to University to get a teaching degree (I want to teach my mother tongue German to foreigners), because I came to the same conclusion as you, that I want to do something that helps people and is aligned with my values. I've always been interested in learning languages myself and helping others learn, so I feel like teaching German could be the right path for me.
Wow, I could see myself in your situation, a few years ago. I shifted to teaching 5 years ago and now I'm a language teacher. It did really work for me. I think you have to pursue it. Good luck! 😍
@@ynaesl6779 Thank you! I hope so.😊
This is another great piece for me. My story is somewhat similar to yours. I hope I will soon be settled in the most appropriate career.
Attempted medical entrances 2 times....and its a nightmare. I never really paid attention to what i want . I'm thinking about graphic designing....i hope i get clear about my ideas more.
Here’s the thing.... I feel like pursuing psychology/counselling could be my calling, but I want to find a way to try out the experience first before spending $45k on graduate school. Is there a way to do this?
Is it something that you enjoy doing with your friends for example?
Love that you have figured it out!
Thank you!
Im a vet student. I looked the link and it's the second career for INFP and I know Im in my correct path ❤
Funny thing: I like practically all the professions that you mentioned, now is to find out if I really want to be a musician or one of those
Great video, I felt like I was lost and this video helps me to understand many things. Thank you for sharing bro.
I'm 26, I've known I'm an INFP for about 6 years now and I have no idea what I want to do. I've had a bunch of jobs, all factory or industry jobs if anything to have money. I've recently decided to move to a state with my family for a fresh start and I have absolutely no idea what to do.
1st thousand like☺️ that was really helpful, thx for sharing that!
Thank you very much, Michael. Greetings from Germany!
If you are unsure if you're intp or infp, somebody said to me if when you're younger you wanted to work in science fields then you are an INFP, if you wanted to work in art and psychology things/fields then you are an INTP
Been watching your videos... all the topics u have been uploading are quite relevant to where I am. Thanks for making these videos. Keep it up!
Thank you! I'm glad to hear that it's helpful to you! What kind of topics would you like to see in next videos?
I'm in a same boat as you :( I'm an engineering student and stuck after graduation and dk what to do... i enjoy what I learn truly, but for a long term I don't wanna involve in engineering industry bcos I find it how unethical it is in terms of work ethic. now im still clueless... initially wanna be a vet but people said it doesn't have good market where I live...
Thank you a lot for the advices❤️ your life path is surely rich and I'm happy to hear that you are finally exploring yourself!
I'm in a similar situation...but I'm in the first year of high school :) i know we choose courses next year but i can't stop thinking about the right professional choice...i get good grades and i study a lot in both courses (maths, science ans human studies for ex history, language etc) however i don't seem to fit in. I like writing, philosophy and of course whatever has to do with art! Though i can't say that I'm soo talented in painting and they disencourage me from going to an ary school for practical reasons...
The thing is I know what i like bur i can't really think of an ideal profession because apparently there is no 😅. I'm also interested in understanding human behaviour and i value human moralities. I'm thinking of attending a multicultural school (which i have to pass an interview and sth like an examination to get into) because it may bring md closer to the ideal. However I'm in a really bad place with my mental health... I even go to a phycologist amd I'm sure i will find it unbearable to go to a foreign country and leave everything behind at 16...
I'm sorry for the long talk 😅 it's just that I'm so lost and drained from all this thoughts. Again thanks for the video! Good luck with your new plan :) may you accomplish your dreams! Take care everyone ❤️
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Congratulations and thank you so .much for sharing your thoughts👍👏🙏
Sooo many parallels with my life! I can relate to it all :)
Thank you for making this video. It's really inspiring and reassuring, and it gave me hope... Namely, I am a third year pharmacy student (INFP, of course) and I want to quit it, because I really don't want to work in a retail pharmacy (where most end up) and I don't think anymore that I would like to work in the industry either, even though I find the science interesting and I like understanding it, I have come to realize that beyond just feeling good about myself for understanding it, I don't really feel like doing anything concrete with it... Besides, I think that patients don't deserve someone dispassionate about the job providing them service... Anyway, right now I am thinking of starting over and this time pursuing either English (as a second language) psychology (I think I would enjoy being a child psychologist especially, but either way I would be fine), directing (as a theater director) or switching to chemistry, where maybe I would have to start over (but I don't think I would enjoy it as much as the other stuff listed, only maybe if I took the environmental path, or the teacher path)... The only thing I know for sure, and which doesn't need a degree, is that I want to be a writer and I want to get good at writing plays and hopefully someday see them on stage... For this reason I think maybe the most sensible thing would be to get a degree in directing, but, when is it ever sensible to into theater? ...If anyone has advice, I would very much appreciate it 😅
Loved it Michael! Thanks,
oh I'm also an infp therapist -- cool!
This is such a wonderful video 🤗 everything was spot on. Including the change to therapy/counseling. Thank you so much for your work. Subscribed 😁
I graduated last yeah w/ a degree in psychology and started my masters in Industrial psychology. But here I am confused as ever. It really really sucks. I was super passionate about this field and followed it through from 16-21 but now that I’m here I just don’t feel like it’s what I really want to do. I’m just so lost now.
Merci pour cette vidéo
J'ai beau savoir au fond de moi ce qui est juste (pour moi), en entendre la validation reste très apaisant..
Merci pour tout ces conseils et le partage de ton expérience
Thank you so much for sharing your experience and this video!
Damn man ! you managed to literally explain my issue straight to the point ! i'm actually struggling to find the right path for me, and i keep blaming myself for choosing the wrong studies field which was environmental engineering in my case. But thanks to your video, i feel much more better now, so thank you so much, and keep up the good work !
Glad to hear it! If you're interested, have a look at the book "so good they can't ignore you". It's really bringing a new perspective on careers, and it relieved me from a lot of doubts!
Très utile oui et très bons conseils ! Effectivement j’aurais voulu entendre cela plus tôt... mais est ce que je l’aurais aussi bien compris sans avoir fait l’expérience du contraire 🤔 en tout cas j’apprécie énormément tes contenus et je me reconnais trooop... c’est flippant 😅 Je suis en reconversion et dans le développement personnel aussi. Tu as parlé de communauté et si jamais t’es curieux, il y a une coach Infp, Laura Nathalie que j’aime bien. Elle a un groupe Fb qui rassemblent de nombreux Infp (les Badass créatifs et secrètement ambitieux). C’est cool ce que tu fais 🤜🤛 Bonne continuation 😉
Merci beaucoup ! En effet je pense qu'il est important de se faire ses propres idées et sa propre expérience, je ne regrette pas de l'avoir fait, mais ça aurait pu accélérer le processus pour moi ^^
C'est cool de voir que je suis pas le seul à avoir vécu ça et que ça te parle :)
Okay cool je la connais pas, j'irai jeter un oeil ! Merci d'être là et merci pour ton commentaire ! Je te souhaite bonne continuation aussi, bon courage et bonne chance !!
As a say, there are things that are nice to study but not nice when you get the job, and vice versa.
OMG thank you so much or articulating what I went through in my life!
I think being in my interiors course right now is the correct one for me because if I think about all the other careers out there, I really think I'll find it boring or tiring and just draining. And yet, here I am, still continuing to doubt whether this course will actually make me happy in the future. It doesn't help that this career's competitive nature scares me so much. I still find myself happy doing it and I sometimes enjoy parts of it thoroughly despite the great stress and lack of sleep everyday brings me. Then again, it's exactly this difficulty I face that confuses me sometimes, all these challenges in school that will definitely become even worse once or if I graduate, if it's all even something I can really put up with my whole life. I understand there is no single course or job that doesn't come with stress and challenge, but I feel scared.. I'm not confident I can handle the hard roads of this course. So I don't know if I'm really happy where I am...
Really helpful brother! Really can connect and resonate with you ❤
Thank you I have times of depersonalization and you help me a lot :) ( I am Polish so sorry for mistakes if I made )
10:39 you want a different job. but I see your point right off the bat. I think it deserves a whole new name but I see the related term. so basic term for youth was a plus.
This is my senior year of high school and I feel so negatively pressured to know what I want to do in life because it seems like the only ways I can be successful are by going against my values and tiring myself out. It seems like everyone else is capable of having a standard 9-5 job and I'm just not. I want a job where I can help people and also be able to express myself creatively. I was thinking about studying audiology, speech pathology, psychology, or art. But I don't know what to choose or how to apply my studies into the real world, especially when it comes to art.
I, as an INFP, was also in that exact frame of mind at the end of high school. I studied Music Therapy for those very reasons; helping people and expressing myself. It seems fitting, but there is a lot of struggle involved. It's easy to feel drained. My real passion is writing music, but my job wears me out, doesn't pay the best and is creative in ways I don't necessarily derive considerable meaning from. You may want to consider something that is, perhaps, more boring; but, something that pays well so that you can sustain your passions outside of work. I can definitely see the appeal of that now!
That was so helpful for me. Thank you ☁️
Thank you for the insight 😊 great video, very informative, insightful and helpful! I’m an INFP and have struggled with finding the ideal career. However, the things you mentioned in your video such as helping others, time for introspection, working one on one, etc I find to be true and can relate to it. If only high schools would devote more time to helping students figure their type out and what would naturally suit best in terms of career as well as individual counseling for each student. I think something like that would have spared me the last 11 years of mistakes since high school :( I’m still stuck though with wanting to earn a decent salary. I would be happy to be a therapist or psychologist but it seems like quite a bit of money to pursue education and starting salary’s aren’t great. What do you think about being a Psych Nurse Practitioner? I thought I read some where that Psych Nurse Practitioners can legally provide some therapy in addition to addressing the medical needs of people. Thoughts?
Merci beaucoup ! Je suis également passée par la phase prépa, hésité entre info et mécanique, choisi info et je dois finir mes études cette année. Je sens que mon futur ressemblera à ton expérience, donc merci des conseils !
Hey, I love your content. I'm currently on similar journey. INFP too!