I don't like being rushed to do something. If I'm warned ahead of time that something needs to be done in this specified amount of time, or by this day, I'm fine. However, when I'm working on something and someone keeps bothering me like, "You're not finished yet?!?" I just want them to go away.
I could relate to that as well, because I like to be prep ahead of time before that something or task is happening, not just physically, but mentally as well. If not then I get irritated.
Agree with all of these: Unannounced visitors, private numbers, people invading my personal space, shop assistants pouncing, over stimulating environments, micro-managing, social anxiety, need for freedom and flexibility, forcing us to be someone we're not. Basically, we leave other people alone so please leave us alone. ❤️
When I read "micro managing" I felt my blood pressure rise! Seriously! I am so blessed that in my career, I am basically left alone and am allowed to do whatever I want to do as long as a couple of things are accomplished.
I don’t feel totally the same way. I like being talked to, just not called on the phone lol I don’t want everyone to leave me alone all the time, just when I want space.
The one thing I hate the most , is that I can't find real friends. Although I see so many beautiful people over the internet . But in real life , I just can't find them.. Does anyone have this..? I think it's just because of we don't go out very much (me atleast), and if we do. It are quiet places with none around..
the world has moved to becoming faster paced and people expecting instant gratification ...in general I think INFPs are terrible in this environment where our qualities are deeper and more oblique and NOT quickly or easily recognised
legit thought I was just a weirdo who had some kind of extreme phone anxiety but apparently this is pretty common for our personality type lol the more you know
itspurdybig SAME!!! Can't stand phone calls, door bells, OH AND ELEVATORS (Seriously I pick climbing the stairs EVERY TIME unless I'm sure there is no one around) Feels nice to find out that it's actually not that weird 😂
It can feel lonely at times, being INFP. But lonely isn't a big problem put into perspective! At least I have one irl friend who is a fellow INFP... and that's like 20 % of my friendlist :)
Johan Ribelles Definitely.... but you feel like you can't say anything to them because sometimes it's easier to keep the peace than to create tension and conflict
I am an INFP and I can completely relate to all of these! I feel like I need a weekly therapy group to sit in a room and talk about life with other INFPs and talk about our struggles and annoyances together and help each other through life haha
Very relatable. I'm an INFP, and what ticks me off is when people don't show consideration for each other on the sidewalks. That really bothers me! Also manipulation disguised as love. Ugh. The worst. And people taking charge and controlling a situation without listening to the opinion of the other people involved. Very frustrating to witness.
I'm an INFP, and I really DO NOT like people telling me that I can't do something. It makes me think that they think that I'm delicate or I'll break under pressure, when I actually work better under pressure, and they make me feel useless. So I try to prove to everyone like that that I can handle anything I put my mind to. Awesome video btw. :)
Green Gamer I tried to volunteer at a woman's center once and the manager told me she thought I had too much going on in my life to be effective as a volunteer. This was after she was very kind and had asked me questions that made me answer honestly and open up to her. I so regret telling her anything personal about me.
Kora G ISFP and same. But it will only make me want to do it Even more. There’s nothing i love more than proving people wrong. It gives me this satisfaction and this Air of superiority later
I definitely dig my feet in whenever under pressure and will work harder. However. I put myself into my silent mode until whatever it is, is done. Our silent mood can be used for things like this if/when we learn to use it. I've always thought of it as some sort of chakra routine. Lol. Like we shut down our senses and open up the ones we need to get done. (Mainly our brain/our focus.) For me it came from constant pressure through work and life, eventually leading myself to figuring out that I could do this. And in doing this I can get through anything. Its like... going to a silent place. But doing so whilst remaining in whatever environment we're in. It's often connected with the darker INFP's... yet, it's steal higher level INFP strategy. (Or so I've noticed in my study of peoples.)
Related so much to your video. Growing up INFP as a child is pretty tough. At least it was for me, surrounded by Sensors and Extroverts. Ever since I was 4 years old I was criticised for being too quiet, too different.... I remember trying to change myself but it drained me so much, and I felt so fake! I'm so glad I had loving supportive parents, even if they also didn't completely understand me. A big plus is that I've grown up to be desensitised to those kinds of non-insightful criticisms..
I have a question for you. As an INFP we obviously don't like to be the center of attention, but how come when I zone out and drift off to dream Land (which is most of the day), I have some fantasies in which I'm the center of attention? Most of daydreams revolve around a show I've watched, or I'm currently watching, and I picture myself on the show; having that lifestyle. I would NEVER disclose this around any of my friends or family, well..... One family member who knows me better than anyone in the world. He once me I was a great starter, but a horrible finisher!!
Some of my biggest pet peves as an INFP. Who can relate? 1. When someone calls/texts you over and over after you didn't answer the first time. This would piss ANYBODY off, but it can send us INFP's into full blown panic attacks! 2. When people, who know you have problems with the answering the phone, call instead of text. 3. When someone acuses me of lying. We work so hard for our integrity, when someone questions mine it feels lime the ultimatd offense. 4. Being rushed. I can barely keep my mind on task when it's just me trying to hurry, the minute it even feels like the other person is rushing me I practically dissociate from the stress of it.
Chitra Jain ugh same, but then they say " your so worked up about it, I must be right" when your just getting upset because you aren't lying and they keep persisting. I hate so much when someone says something about me that's not true. It just feels like a personal attack on my character / morals. It's definitely one of the most offensive things someone can say. 🙄
@@m0r614 ya esp for me because I have a hard time as is standing up for myself and then when someone denies my reality it feels personal. Like I never do that to anyone I wonder why people can't extend the same courtesy to me.
I just want it remind people here to be careful to not “adopt” characteristics in order to feel like the INFP label, or any three label, fits you. We are FAR too complex to be able to described and defined by another’s experience or verbal habits of a personality. Of course it’s nice to see others who share some of the same traits as you, just don’t believe you can’t become anything different later on, or feel like you must be like everyone else here. Be you.
SO if we take the test and the result is a confirmed INFP....and we feel relief for the first time in our lives becaise we realize we aren't weird...it's actually a unique and wonderful thing....why am i buying into something that would need to be changed later. True people can change but the statement felt a little off as if i might want to change completely because some how i won't like myself....not sure what you meant there?? (Lol spoken like a truly defiant INFP). I'm surrounded by people all the time that are jealous because i DO walk to my own beat, doing what i truly want. It's only when i do what others think i should that it becomes a disaster.
The result is 90% accurate but theres more of us.. There r findings that r not soo me.. So yeah, Its true.. No need to adopt just to be called one.. Though its cool to find people who thinks the same as u
As long as I feel like I accepted the label for myself, because I wanted to, I'm fine with it. As soon as somebody starts to put me underneath a label or pictures me like the stereotype of that label or even uses me to stereotype everyone who is similar to me, then I am truly pissed and feel like an animal being forcefully pushed into a cage and then it's not okay no more
Adelle Ramcharan I used to have a friend who would always show up to my house uninvited and he would come over to my house every single day after school and would want me to spend the night at his house every night on the weekends. But most of the time, I just wanted to sleep in my own bed and not have school the next day, so I would often turn him down. It got so bad that I would try to avoid him at times just because I needed some alone time lol.
Adelle Ramcharan, I had an uncle who could be quite abrasive at times ( to say the least), lolBut after parties or family events at his house he would just literally tell people something like, ok everyone it's time to leave, bye! lol
This is me. I'm glad I see that others feel the same. I'm not imagining that I need space, time & honesty from people, plus so much more you've mentioned. Thank you!
Adelle Ramcharan - I am an INFP landlord and ALWAYS let my tenants know if I need to visit and ask when it's convenient for them. I'd never just turn up unexpected.
Yoga Junkie Oh, me too and oftentimes the phone either. I hate being interrupted. Ppl who know me text me. (when I was a kid sometimes my mom wouldn't answer the door and I'd be like Are You Crazy? See What They Want! I thought it was So devious, lol. I hate that I'm turning into my mom...
I totally agree bashing people behind their back, while being sweet to their face, extremely bothers my spirit. I know if they do it about someone else, they will do it to me, which makes them automatically untrustworthy. Unfortunately, most of the World does this. I did, to some extent , as a younger person, and hated the way it made me feel. Ick! I will not open up to person who has shown me they can’t control their tongue.
Im an infp. Most of the time I can't lash out. But if it bothers me enough I will tell them. I have to be in a very certain mindset that I hate being in though. I hate having to do it
I think social media is the #1 thing on my list. Especially media like instagram, where people post photos with captions and they are...idk...so fake and totally not authentic, just to seem "cool". It's hard to describe but it just piss me off really, haha. Also I must say I really agree on the last one aswell, top 100 lists at spotify etc annoys me somehow. (INFP)
YES. I hate like...all forms of social media. Tumblr is the only place I like to go (it's not technically social media) because I choose what I get to see, basically (my feed is always nothing but plants and like...Harry potter). But literally EVERY SINGLE OTHER form of social media gets on my nerves. I absolutely hate snapchat with a fiery passion, Twitter is pointless and stupid, Instagram is very fake and pointless, and Facebook...omg Facebook. I got a Facebook primarily because I wanted to play this game, and now the game is gone forever....but my family would all whine and complain if I deleted my account so I'm stuck with one for all eternity. And I hate it so much.
hahahahaha yea, pisses me off too... especially when they treat ME like i'm the loser for not having social media....its like nah nah nah... dont turn your weird habit into my problem your the self absorbed one
Recently someone said I was wearing a mask based on my posture. I looked at him and said: "I don't, I just don't like you. And saying what you just did, no wonder I don't." He tried to explain that "the mask is what we show to people", to which I replied: "My mask is honesty, then. Bye." Whenever people try to tell me what I am like I'm wrong about myself, I want to mangle faces.
I'm a infp and I feel I do tend to wear a mask to hide my emotions because I hate explaining how I feel. I have no problem showing if I like or dislike something. I like to struggle with my problems on my own.
I definently change my demeanor depending on who I'm with but it's not like I really do it consciously. I can be aware of it but for me I also dislike the assumption of fakeness attributed to "the mask". To me these are just different part of myself, they aren't any less real just because they are different. That being said I do have a "mask" of sort sometimes or hold back my "real self" sometimes but it's for my safety and security. I think this is normal. I don't care about being disliked. I am comfortable with myself, what gets me a bit down is being misunderstood but even that I get. I often don't even understand myself.
I hate being told to shut-up by anyone (family or acquaintances-my friends never do that) especially when I've finally worked up the nerve to share what's really on my mind. It feels like I'm being stifled or rejected out of hand. Most people get one strike. After that, I no longer want anything to do with you or your ostracism. I'll show up but I won't have sh*t to say to you. (This especially happens at work and with my brother and sister)
Perfectly relatable. That is what has caused me to build walls around my heart, but that turned out to be an extremely unwise decision. I'm currently in the process of tearing that wall down and replacing it with something much more flexible as a means of protection.
Does anyone else feel like they could NEVER physically hurt someone? I feel like even if I owned a gun and someone was about to kill me, I would never be able to pull a trigger. I'd rather be killed than have to live with that guilt. Idk if that is just me, or if it has to do with the personality type.
Mikayla I think it might be both. I'm an INFP and I love fighting, UFC, boxing etc. so I have no problem hurting someone in the ring, but out of it, I wouldn't hurt a fly
I can relate. The only situation I might do something like pull the trigger would be in the case where someone were about to kill someone else. I'd be willing to use a weapon to try and prevent it. But I'd also strive to minimise damage to the aggressor as much as I can. Then I'd probably say sorry, as well 0_0. But that, of course, is provided I can keep it together. That may not be a given.
Mikayla I was in an abusive marriage for 3 very long years (physical, mental and emotional, oh my!). I showed mercy and did not receive it in kind until the dam burst and I fought back. It was very unpleasant; but the results were favorable and I was able to escape. I do not have violent tendencies either, but there are circumstances in which mercy needs to take a hike. There would be no hesitation on my part to light someone up, guy or gal, if they invite that kind of attention by putting my family, friends or me at risk. Life's too precious and time waits for no one. Beyond that, yes, I let trapped moths out of my house....but all cockroaches must die!
I can relate, because I hate politics and have little to no respect for those who follow and worship politicians and partisan groups; especially adult children who mindlessly bash on people from the opposing party and slanderously make unsubstantiated blanket statements about them. In my opinion, there should be a country for everyone who hates politics where they can do what they want as long as it doesn't negatively affect the lives of everyone else. Let the masses police themselves with no assigned magistrate or ruling party. Politics do nothing but oppress the ones they rule over.
People constantly lay guilt trips on me like "ohhh I thought I'd done something to upset you" and I'll be sitting there thinking to myself "its not all about you" or "what about my feelings?" I'm sure if I ever tried explaining myself people wouldn't understand and I'd end up hurting their feelings
It depends, if it is truly respecting space no. If it's telling us we need to give you space no though I would likely be sad and just deal with how I feel. If it's neither of these I would feel you just don't like me because ignoring someone is the defacto stance for indifference. After three decades you learn not to take any of it personally. In time I would become indifferent to you and then we can be strangers again as before. It seems that strangership is winning out over friendship these days. Thank you social media for your gift.
The one about people looking over your shoulder is so true for me... When I try to explain that I function better with no pressure, and no person looking over my shoulder and bothering me every ten minutes, it's like they don't understand that I could possibly NOT play while the cat's away. Sheesh.
I'm 32 years old, and I only found out about this whole business a couple of days ago. I got INFP as the result at 16personalities.com, and I have been reading and now starting to youtube this information, and I have to say that I identify completely with the descriptions I've seen so far. Of course I know I'm an introvert, but all of this just puts everything into place for me. Some of the things that resonates with me: - I also hate people coming to my home unanounced, and I especially hate people standing in the streets with stands approaching me, starting to talk away about their stuff, especially if they are selling stuff or preaching, but also even if its for a charity. It makes my blood boil :P - The micro managing thing also resonates enormously with me. If someone is literally looking over my shoulder on what I'm doing, I actually cannot continue what I'm doing. I hate everything about hieracrchy and micro-managing, expectations from people higher up we don't know with uninformed expectations about things. It really upsets me if I am confronted with something, and the person doing it doesnt actually have an understanding about the realities of the situation. - I stopped watching TV completely a couple of years ago, partly because I can't watch the news, but also because I just think most TV shows are mundane and soul sucking. Oh, and I was also fascinated that you mentioned the Pleiadeans and aliens. I was super obsessed with ufology and aliens for most of my 20's. Do you think thats a typical thing for this personality type? Looking forward to find out more about INFP :)
Love how you brought up charities. I try to avoid them when they are at Walmart. I want to help but I'm not in a position to and I feel really guilty when I am going there to shop and say sorry I'm broke. I feel like a liar but they are just begging.
I can, and do watch the news - being fully aware of the bias, misinformation, and straight up lying. I feel I can better discuss world issues if I understand what the world is being spoon fed.
We are interested in mythical creatures 🤗. You're not alone. I pretty much relate to all you stated. I'm 22 going on 23, and I hate when random men walk up to me to say hi...🤔 I make a scary face or a possessed face 😅. I did that on Saturday to a young man who hurried away in fear. When I walk on the streets I make sure I block my ears with music. My taste in music is really weird. I hate mainstream so I do my research for music from unpopular places of the world and I love to share them with people. My mom said that I am contrary to popular demand, although she doesn't fully understand me. 🙂
Bullies really tick me off. I'm strange. It's like I will take a lot of b.s. from people, but if you mess with my family, friends the elderly, the disabled, children or anyone who can not defend themselves. Then I will go off a lil loud (to surprise n stop) n get between that person (s) n the underdog, friends and or family. I do it without thinking. I still will try for a peaceful solution n it always works esp if I can talk to the perpetrator one on one. Win win. :) INFP -a. Many yrs. I was a psychiatrist nurse with bachelor of Science n a minor in psychology. Now I am a lone landlord of 4 mobile homes in Ms, U.S.
I would say that it's OK for someone to ask why you do a certain thing, such as in your example colouring your hair blue if you're an introvert so long as they are asking because they are genuinely interested as opposed to mocking and condescending. Is that what you meant?
Jody Stoll Yes definitely. The woman used to say things to her friends like "oh, she won't want to you out because of her "social anxiety" even though she has blue hair"
This list actually makes me feel less strange. I can relate to all of these so much. Thanks for posting your videos. I used to hate myself so much for not being like others. But now I understand why I do what I do. And why I get so irritated with the outside world. I can't watch the news at all. Most days I can't do FB either. I hate the dips of low energy and lack of inspiration. I very rarely like anything mainstream. Hate labels and name brands. Lately I've come to the point where I won't spend time with toxic family members on holidays, just because it's a holiday. It's been freeing. I feel grateful to be in a creative career. Although it is a very social field. It's very unlikely for me to answer the phone even when it's a friend. I have to really have some energy and time for a phone call. I really want to give 100% of my attention while talking to people I love.
I always completely relate to INFP descriptions, but this was scarily accurate and relatable 😳 Not just the pet peeves, but the fact that I'm an INFP w/ social anxiety & bipolar II (similar to cyclothemia) who had her hair dyed blue recently (and was hounded by family members about why I wanted to stand out with my anxiety). Crazy!!! It got to a point towards the end where I could predict what your next few words would be whenever you paused. 😂 So anyway, wonderful video!
People wana question u when u may act contradictory to the box they mighta put u in based on sumthin like outside appearance that's captain obvious stuff to me how dumb people are but unfortunately it's typical lotsa ass-u-me-ing too what u are thinkn, feelin, why u look how u do or do what u do. THAT is my biggest pet peeve -ain't nobody inside my head!!!!!
I absolutely loved your video and I subscribed to your channel! I am also INFP, 27 years old, and there are aspects that I really value in my personality (creativity, empathy, social justice, independence, sensitivity, curiosity ...) but I have behaviors that are hurting me and I can not overcome them. I say it here because I need the guidance of other INFPs, or at least to feel less strange or guilty with myself. These last weeks a person whom I considered a great friend has stopped talking to me for totally selfish and vain reasons. I have been very offended, I have been really hurt, but in the moment of facing her and pointing out her behavior I have realized that I am not able to speak with enough hardness or anger. I said what I think, but I am not able to scream or make a scene like people sometimes deserve. I really feel that I'm betraying myself, that I'm not able to defend myself as I deserve in a situation of stress. Is any INFP in this position? I am really self-critical, and it really hurts me not to be able to express my emotions of anger in an explosion like most people. I fear the rest will see me as weak, complacent, stupid or submissive. Which I am not in any case. Do you have any advice? How do you see this? Sorry for the long message and if for lack of spelling, English is not my native language :)
Beatriz Vera Hi, I think any INFP can relate to you, remember we are 'mediators/healers' and that makes it difficult at times to reply without emotions, basically to say what needs to be said. - One thing that works for me, besides recognizing the problem and seek to solve it, is to practice this type of conversations, difficult conversations, w/o letting your emotions get involved. There's something in the brain called 'the mirror neuron system', this allows your to model the behaviors of the people that are around you, use this info to get audiobooks or UA-cam video of people who overcame these adversities. - on the other hand, 'adversity is the first path to truth.', 'behave your way onto a new way of thinking', 'introverts have to act extroverted at times', 'you can say whatever you want so long you say with respect', 'if you believe in the cause, believe in the vision, and believe in the presented scenario, say what you have to say'. Remember, knowledge is power, but 'execution' trumps knowledge every time. Take action on some of these today, and practice. You go be awesome as always!
The solution is in the problem. You said you can't scream or get angry. Aggression is one of the suites of emotion we have to practice, because it's so hard to get angry. My self-criticalness diminished when I used my objectivity to determine what went wrong with the situation. You have to practice to develop your critical thinking skills this will aleviate all the undeserved self criticism. Mind you self-criticism is important for us to keep growing.
Me too..i'm infp. One of my best friend was put an anger to me too much to handle. Actually i dont mind it as the time goes on we will actually get over it. Infp is a peace maker. That is our pron and cons. But, lately she crossed the line too much. She hurt me by blaming me for smthg i didnt do, she even didnt believe me although i can prove that i was not wrong. Later, she didnt even feel bad and always playing victims. I hate it. For me, as a friend it is common when we have an argue or have a fight. But if she cant believe me, than sorry, i need to remove her from my life. I hurt so much but i can't tolerate her anymore. I feel lost my idealism, lost my self if i keep her near to me. So i made a decision to let her leave to find new friend. I open my heart to find new friend that will appreciate me more than her. Hard but really give me a breath.
I rarely if ever answer a phone call. I first want to imagine why the person is calling me and prepare.. haha =O. A phone call is just so fucking drastic.
Is that a Goku tattoo? That is so awesome! This resonates with me as an INFP on such a deep level. Thank you for sharing this. As an INFP, I hate being rushed. I get flustered and start making so many mistakes. I enjoy taking my time to figure things out, and come up with a creative solution to certain issues or tasks.
One of my favorite things from my teen years is being at home with just my mom, and when the phone would ring, we would just pause the tv and stare at it til it stopped ringing lol
I can relate to that feeling - I sometimes feel quite 'judgmental'. Most people I encounter in my day-to-day life either make me inwardly disgusted or make me cringe.
Hi, Lex. I'm an INFP and I had rough week. It was so intense that I found myself looking online for what's wrong with me. I'm 45 and I've known that I'm an INFP for years, but never looked into it. You're blowing me away. I'm used to being the weirdo and alone in my sentiments, so you can imagine how surprising it has been to watch a stranger absolutely nail 11 things that define me.Thank you for this video and for your ministry. You really helped me.
I totally agree with the overstimulation thing. My mum is an extrovert and will always have the TV or radio on in the background all the time and I just can't concentrate! I like a bit of silence!
Oh my god I had a flatmate who liked to come into my room and just sit on the floor. Or on my bed. And I was like eeeeeeee please go please I don't want you here this my personal space (without saying anything of course)
Watching this made me feel so much better. Especially the part about changing your haircolor. I’ve always been confused at myself at why I love body modification so much but hate the attention that comes with it. But the way you described feeling like an individual I won hundred percent understand that and it helped me understand that about myself so thank you💜
I'm INFP and talking to the screen throughout the video as if we're having a conversation. "Yes! Exactly! And you know what really bothers me... Wait, I'm just watching a video..."
Every single point you made is exactly how I feel on a daily basis. Thank you for giving me some more understanding of who I am and what holds me back in life! You’re an inspiration.
I always knock on doors and txt people. I always feel weird just walking into people's houses even if they are expecting me. over stimulation only happens when I'm at a loud bar. I'm comfortable with my peeps and I'm a musician so I'm used to noises but loud noises for the sake of being loud anger me but synchronized loud noises like a band are different. But I agree on micro managing too I work better alone because I don't get stage fright. But I don't like being told to change hence my long hair beard and I'm weird and I do hate mundane routine. Great points I don't like egos either I like people to be real so yeah the video is pretty on point.
Loved this and completely, completely resonated with ALL of these...wow...unbelievable how much this stroke a chord! So glad there is other people like me in the world. Please, keep being you. Sending you much love and respect!
I would be a duck...who in the world could hate a duck? Plus they can walk on land, fly, float on water and dive underwater...just avoid ending in a duck a l'orange
Yes, I've always thought about what it would be like to be a cat or bird. Soaring freely through the sky or walking around gardens and stuff. Both are so free
I've learned about 16 personalities theory recently. I'm an INFP. For a long time I've been struggling with misunderstanding. All that things you're mentioning in this video are 100% true. I finally understand that nothing is wrong with me. It's just some features of my personality type. Now I finally know that there are plenty of people who are like me. It's so inspiring! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings about INFP's struggles.
How do you speak so well... I have a hard time articulating my words, most of the time I even create my own words that people do understand ... I have an infp friend who is so good at communicating that he would translate what I'm saying to people... when I'm struggling to communicate what I really want to say, an idea or even what I'm feeling..it was like magic ..like he is in my head.. but how come he can do it and I can't..and we both INFP..
Lex your ability to articulately describe exactly how I feel in these situations, completely blows my mind. If only I could put my feelings to words even if half as eloquently. Keep up the amazing work! ✊✊
Unannounced visitors or even a visitor when I'm just not in the mood ...uh hate! And I as well will not answer the door to anyone that I don't know :) related to all your points! Micromanaging and big egos + any sense of fake! Er.
Low Carb Leah wow, you must be so in tune. I actually dressed as Monroe for Halloween when I was 16. I had short platinum blonde hair and a hairdresser sister. I wish I could share a photo on here. thank you for the compliment
"It's either one day or day one." This line alone just blew my mind. Currently questioning all of my life decisions right now. ...thank you though. I really needed to hear that line.
Wow, great observations; I agree with ALL of the points you made! Micromanagement, bitchy gossip, people with big egos...yes, all of those are big turn offs. And shop assistants who stare at you, lol! A pet peeve for me is when you're trying on something in a clothes shop and the assistant starts hovering and telling you how GREAT you look in that dress because they think empty flattery and pushiness will increase the probability of a sale. I find it has the opposite effect and I'm more likely to buy if I'm given a bit of space and allowed to decide for myself without distractions.
Thank you Lex!!!!! Your tattoo is beautiful :) I feel like posting this as a PSA. All of these are absolutely accurate. The moment that the INFP has pet peeves, it seems to be beyond other's comprehension. I would like people I love to please STOP trying to get me to have phone conversations, keep the phone near me, answer the phone or to take my disinterest in phone calls to mean I don't care. It's not it. It's awkward and taxes my energy. I love deeply therefore not feeling anything superficial and cliche at all. Even more importantly, I will not discuss religion or politics. I value all opinions and will be objective.
I have taken a few personality tests and have been really trying to decipher whether I'm INFJ or INFP, but I relate so closely with each video I've seen of yours. Every single thing you have listed in this video absolutely will drive me bananas! Thank you so much for sharing!
I'm an INFP but I love watching the news, I get so many ideas and a lot of inspiration from it. Every time I see a war zone I just want to go and help drop everything and just leave with a one way plane ticket! But for some reason I never do it. Anyone relate to this?
Hey Anthony, Yes I can really relate to that.. When ever I watch news or programs related to the suffering of others, wars and situations of injustice in the world. I always feel very deeply about it. I feel I want to do something to help that and if I had the money to give more to causes that can help people in these situations. Also another aspect from that is feeling and thinking deeply about ideas that could help people and change the world.
Anthony Sugaaa yesssss, that is exactly me , to the point that when I finish university I'm dropping everything to live and work in humanitarian aid specifically around Latin America.
I was like that when I was younger. I started avoiding the news in the wake of the Boxing Day tsunami... After a couple of years I started watching again and reading the paper but mostly because my ex did. Now... Sometimes I have it on as background noise but as soon as I start paying attention I can't change the channel fast enough
This totally describes me as an INFP person. I study visual arts and I love it, but it is so frustrating when a teacher sends a homework that just won't fit with what I would love to express... it makes me so sad and right now I'm just feeling that I won't do that project, instead I'll stick to what I truly want to do. But even wanting to do that, the fact of thinking that I shouldn't makes me feel so frustrated that limits my progress...!! I think I'll be a disaster the day of the presentation because of the misunderstanding of the society...! hahaha! Great video btw!!! :)
LaClau I completely relate to you! I am an INFP and recently did awful in my art exams because little was completed. However, this wasn't due to laziness; I felt stifled by the projects and didn't feel as if I was able to express myself in my own way that was meaningful to me. I've now decided to make art an out of school interest. :)
It's always so beautiful to listen to a healthy INFP. One who has a strong self-esteem. I was raised by an ESTJ and ISTJ and they fractured my sense of identity and authenticity so much that I ended up pretty much behaving like them in many situations. I like your video very much. :)
Thank you for sharing about yourself. I too am an INFP. Your description is exactly me. I hate feeling trapped. I really hate being micro managed. In fact it is counterproductive to micro manage me. I work best alone, but can also be a team player, and need to be trusted. Another big one is "don't tell me what I can or cannot do". A very big hot button for me. In my life this has caused me great distress...even clouding my ability to feel I am making the best decision for myself. Keep the great insightful videos coming. Thank you again. 👍❤
When people say "You can't be creative." That sort of thing makes my blood boil so much that it makes me listen songs based on that emotion because I value creativity not just from myself, but from other people as well either if the stuff they make is in my taste or not.
Lex you made my day ahahah :) totally saw myself in this video. I'm still on my first steps to find out who I am and how to use my creativity in the best direction, I often feel lost in where to invest my time, stuck with my work that is totally not mundane but not yet interesting enough. Thank you!
I thought I was the only one who gets overstimulated so easily. It crossed my mind that maybe there's something wrong with me not being able to keep up with my nieces' energies. I can relate to you... I assist my aunt babysitting her granddaughters but I feel like she's constantly getting surprised with me leaving the kids out of nowhere after a few minutes of playing with them, especially when they are doing different things at the same time and they ask for your attention. I run off to the powder room to sort out my thoughts and declutter every once in a while before coming back to them. I'm terrible at babysitting.
Great video. Every single item on your list is on mine, especially micromanaging. I've already picked this thing (whatever it is) apart in order to make sure what I present is of the highest quality. I don't need you hovering & questioning. I see it as a lack of trust which burns my soul because trust is a huge value of mine
i totally agree with you an people who tell my i have to be harder on my son because he doesn,t have a job, i realy hate that , they think i am weak but it,s not being weak but i believe he will do things in his live the way he wants to do.
I'm really glad i find this channel. I thought i was a such a freak for doing many things you're talking about in this video. But now i know that it's not wrong, and it's ok to be myself even though i'm different from what the society expect me to be :)
I will have to look into it in more depth but I think I got this type. I had never heard of these personality types until recently. Hearing this video was truly eye opening because I could have been listening to myself...I mean even down to very particular scenarios and how they made me feel. I have long been trying to adapt and curb the way I speak (or don't), I have tried to stop analysing things, coming up with solutions when people have problems, that are obvious but that I have learned people don't want, and to realise that thinking it's odd not to want to solve something that is damaging to you apparently is not odd. I've learned to pretend I'm interested in this week's soap. aIve accepted that opinions are logically and based on sound thinking sand usually some learning but that if they happen total different or not popular, They will not be met with the acceptance or understanding of consideration that every opinion (not being fact) would need to be given if any kind of productive or interesting conversation. I may believe that 2 different perspectives can both be correct but many others believe there is just a right view and a wrong one) I've learned that I go on way too much and never can get my thoughts across concicly or easily. (As you can tell!) I now know that other people still think about that small mistake that they didn't have to make even months later I may be reminded of and wishing I'd have probe thus or said that. I get why I found it so hard the one time I had problems with my boss. ...I was misunderstood, not trusted, micro managed for the first time ever and found it so bad that It consumed and upset be beyond reason. I felt judged and I knew this person had no depth and was never going to see 'me' my previously highly regarded and near perfect work(for a charity...helping people with some serious issues) actually did begin to suffer and when that happened I lost all the love and price in my work and left (I have since realised that although it is uncomfortable,, there were ways I could have dealt with the situation early on without my boss losing face and without me having to let her opinion and treatment of me go unchallenged for so long that I almost felt I had to go along with it in the end. 'tote my tongue when I want to talk about something of interest . I now know why I'm a perfectionist, hard on myself in that I find myself constantly 'working Inn myself' I be stopped expecting people to think outside of there immediate needs or that the world has not become a scary and sometimes ridiculous place.. I've seen that fitting in and being yourself can sometimes not be possible and that this causes me much inner emotional conflict because there is no entirely satisfactory solution when I don't find many people who are as follows as me. I see that my high and my understanding and perceptiveness of things and people can actually be a source of unhappiness. I know I need to see my friends more instead of doing my own thing but at least now I know I'm not alone in my endless learning about this subject or that until I feel like I understand it and why I am forever starting projects at home that don't get finshed as well as why I try to put off starting some. I know I am not' special' and I now do not think that there's something wrong with me . I simply gave a particular type of personality. For whatever reason it just happens to be that this particular type is less common that's all. Knowing this puts different light on things and makes it easier for me to deal with situations where previously I have been, hurt, angry, unsure and less likely to compromise who I am uneccessarily. I can also ask others or look up ways I can help with the particular issues that come up all the time for me. The bank you so much for sharing what for me was some really enlightening stuff. Things are beginning to make sense!!
"she had told me i can't do writing, i can't -- i basically can't do any thing creative. that i have to do a mundane job." GIRL SAME. Fortunately for me, I found a job that is mundane and practical but I am still passionate about. My soul was crushed when my parents disagreed of my choice to pursue arts. I want to become an animator and work at Pixar (yea, i know. i'm very ambitious haha). 2 years ago, we had a pet puppy and that is when I remembered my love for animals which was very evident ever since I was a kid. I'm sorry I just felt like sharing when I heard that line hahaha I relate to it so much.
Yes, even though kids like me, I usually don't like them because they always test adults I think. They'll try triggering me which doesn't help with anxiety, dunno. But I can probably easily spend time with introverts kids though
I find it difficult to spend time with kids and babies because I ultimately don't know how to handle them or know a concrete way of engaging them to like me. Other than that I wish I was more "fluent" in working with kids. I envy those who can do it easily. Is this anything similar to you?
I avoid phone calls sometimes, I rarely answer the door and I almost always cancel hang-out plans, except when it's family. Once, two friends came over to my house without informing me beforehand. And boy did I freak out. Thankfully I had my best friend/cousin with me, who is one the very few people I'm totally comfortable with and who's more or less like me, and we somehow got through the day. It wasn't that bad though, but it was stressful af. I don't know whether anyone can relate to this.
I just found your channel yesterday. Omg! I can totally relate to what you said! I only recently found out that I was INFP. It’s good now understand why I am the way I am. It is hard finding people who accept it. Thank you for putting yourself out here with the information. ❤️
I really hate backstabber peoples. I'm suffering from "those" type of peoples until now. I can't trust anyone or I just won't. I just discovered I'm INFP yesterday... N now I know why I'm rarely different from others, why I'm having extreme mood swing n stuff. LOL
At 6:00 Lex, I know how you feel. I'm usually a peace maker but one time my boss kept asking me why about an honest mistake. So I freaked out with some sort of Martin Luther King speech, questioning her intentions saying "do u expect me to be a computer and execute every line of your commands perfectly?" She looked like as if I was going to slaughter her. But after that, we got along very well. So hey, maybe next time you just need to explain a bit more of yourself for others to understand :)
Class 2D yeah I have also learned to put my foot down more. Especially in job hierarchies. It helps especially for extrovert judging boss-types it seems. Hate to have to do it though.
He'll I sorta did that same thing and now I'm looking for a job....since my boss said I don't listen mind you she fires me via text after I just informed her I had a Dr note excusing me from work for the next 3days due to a sever concussion from ⚾...and when I asked for her to explain to me a time when I didn't listen to her I never heard back from her to this day and that was in late oct!!( it was a shock and the last thing I expected and right before the holidays even!!(&I've grown up with the chic... !( but I hated the job anyways bc it was just way too much stress and negative energy so I'll just count it as a blessing!!!)... still looking to get another job tho!!(🤔😎😁
Hi Lexie, just came across your video. I totally recognize myself in your description, especially the manager looking over your shoulder :-S Thank you for your videos about INFP. Lots of love from Belgium !
What is called?? When you hit a dip and just want to stay in bed. You said it's like a mild form of bipolar. I get that too!! My doctor wants to put me on anti depressants for it and I don't want to take 'em. Getting pressure from the family to do it though :'-(
Noise overwhelms me very quickly. I need to have headphones all the time if I'm in a crowded place. School is a nightmare lately... Never thought other people were like this, though.
Loved the video, all points resonated with me as INFP. My worst experience was in clothing retail when they were forcing us to ask customers to go online and fill a feedback survey about how good the service was on the till/around store. I always hated asking that and avoided doing it deliberately because the way I saw it people would just think I'm helpful to them so I can ask them to do the survey when in reality I was helping because i liked to help and it was part of my job... so this authenticity and idealism got me in trouble with my manger because although I was doing everything else well, I wasn't complying with that one thing they wanted and I got caught 😒 so I only did it when they were around and it resulted in awkward conversations which I still cringe at when remembering
May I ask you about your astrological chart? I recently found out that I am an INFP but have also found astrology quite reliable in getting to know myself. I have my Sun in Capricorn but I'm right on the cusp of Aquarius and my Ascendant is in Pisces as well as my Moon and Venus. I feel Pisces very strongly and I just wondered if you or anyone else who's INFP are similar astrologically. Loved this video!
M.A.C. idk anything about astrology except for the fact that I'm a Cancer (July Birthday) and INFP. I know one other person who is the same so I'm wondering if that is a coincidence or..
Mikayla+ Cancer another water sign that's highly intuitive and deeply sensitive. Thank you, I definitely think there's a connection with water signs and INFP as well as INFJ'S. :)
I'm an INFP too and very into astrology. I'm a Scorpio sun and ascendant with Aquarius moon. I think I relate to both signs equally. I also agree about the connection between water signs and being highly intuitive/sensitive. :)
Kat Webb Thank you for responding. I've just recently started getting into Vedic astrology which is supposed to be more accurate. Most everything in my Vedic chart is the same except my Venus is now in Aquarius instead of Pisces and my Mars is in Pisces instead of in Aries. I also have my Neptune in Scorpio. Nice to know another INFP into astrology. If you haven't looked into Vedic astrology yet I would highly recommend. It seems much more detailed and you can get free birth chart online just like western astrology. Astromitra.com is really good. :)
I am also an INFP and very interested in astrology as well. I actually have no water in my chart at all haha, but I am definitely a dreamer! I'm also intuitive and creative (writer and artist) despite not having any planets in a water sign, so I am here to say that I am not sure there is a connection between water signs and being an INFP. Gemini sun, Libra moon, and Capricorn ascendant :)
I absolutely hate when people come over as well!! As well as people knocking, people calling, and everything like that. I can also relate to not wanting to be invaded, and not wanting to invade others. As for overstimulation, I often find myself alone with my thoughts and in depth with conversations in my own head that I didn't even realize I had been sitting in silence for like hours. As much as I love exploring, I can't stand crowds and people. I hate when people micromanage. As another independent person I can relate to hating when people nitpick at things I do. When I was working in retail I could not stand the coworkers that I had to work with closely. I felt nervous, I felt irritated constantly. People have always told me I need to change. To be more social, to go against my own values. My family is super religious, and I have kept just a bit of that religion but not as much as they would have liked for me to be. INFPs develop their own morals, values, skill sets. I don't like being told I need to do anything, especially change. I agree, we are birds. Whenever I am upset, I oftentimes wish that I was a bird. So I could just fly away and be alone. I hate fake people. I hate people with big egos and I hate that there are still people who are out there and are faking people out. Throughout my life I have learned to try not to shit talk people. Because I have been shit talked soooo much. I can not stand other girls most times. I hate drama, I hate being back stabbed, I hate seeing other people back stab others. Like you said, there is a difference between the feelings of the situation and then just straight up throwing people under the bus for no reason. I hate news, politics, the shit that is going on in the world. The stupid stuff going on. Again this plays on the fact that I am always in my own head and always creating the perfect situations. I have almost always been without inspiration and I have been depressed the entirety of my life. I do blame this on my family and childhood because I was so often misunderstood about who I was. So I was not given the attention and compassion to help shape who I could have been. Thank you for making these videos. You are an advocate that we need. xoxox
Yay fellow Kiwi! Hearing your accent surprised me so much, I just assumed you were gonna be American like most of UA-cam. Relating to all of this REAL hard, and I'm not surprised you're a musician too.
thank you so much for doing this video. I found myself in almost everything you said - you are me :D I wish I had the eloquently you have to express my feelings or character. thank you
Whenever someone knocks on my door, I just freeze in the middle of whatever I'm doing, and peer out from behind a corner and wait until they leave
Interesting you have a ferret...as an INFP myself, I have one too...had ferrets since 1986. Cheers
aaaahaaaaa. Me toooo
Yeah, anybody but the mail man. I don't want a conversation with Jehovah's witnesses.
Just like that song..."Who can it be now?"
Same 😂😂😂
I don't like being rushed to do something.
If I'm warned ahead of time that something needs to be done in this specified amount of time,
or by this day, I'm fine.
However, when I'm working on something and someone keeps bothering me like, "You're not finished yet?!?"
I just want them to go away.
Yessss!!!!!
YESSS !!!!
@@justanotherloser2572 metoo
I could relate to that as well, because I like to be prep ahead of time before that something or task is happening, not just physically, but mentally as well. If not then I get irritated.
True
Agree with all of these: Unannounced visitors, private numbers, people invading my personal space, shop assistants pouncing, over stimulating environments, micro-managing, social anxiety, need for freedom and flexibility, forcing us to be someone we're not. Basically, we leave other people alone so please leave us alone. ❤️
When I read "micro managing" I felt my blood pressure rise! Seriously! I am so blessed that in my career, I am basically left alone and am allowed to do whatever I want to do as long as a couple of things are accomplished.
I had a boss say to me that what they liked about me most was if no one f#$%d with me, I didn't f#$k with them. I was taken aback but had to agree.
Social anxiety it's the worst for me, feel so damn nervous just buying a snack xDD
I don’t feel totally the same way. I like being talked to, just not called on the phone lol I don’t want everyone to leave me alone all the time, just when I want space.
The one thing I hate the most , is that I can't find real friends. Although I see so many beautiful people over the internet . But in real life , I just can't find them.. Does anyone have this..? I think it's just because of we don't go out very much (me atleast), and if we do. It are quiet places with none around..
the world has moved to becoming faster paced and people expecting instant gratification ...in general I think INFPs are terrible in this environment where our qualities are deeper and more oblique and NOT quickly or easily recognised
You ain't alone🤘
Bro didnt even find friends till i was 16
1000% feel like you. Interesting and deep conversation are hard to find, but when I do... Wow! I can speak to someone for hours and hours
I can definitely relate
WE DON'T ANSWER THE PHONE !
Adam S hate being on the phone.. id rather just text
wish I could communicate telepathically to people
legit thought I was just a weirdo who had some kind of extreme phone anxiety but apparently this is pretty common for our personality type lol
the more you know
I think its very common for INFPs to hate using phones to speak
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SAME!!! Can't stand phone calls, door bells, OH AND ELEVATORS (Seriously I pick climbing the stairs EVERY TIME unless I'm sure there is no one around)
Feels nice to find out that it's actually not that weird 😂
I keep watching infp videos and it doesn't stop amazing me how there are people who are literally exactly like me (like you) lol
Chris Hunt same. its pretty freakin' cool!
It can feel lonely at times, being INFP. But lonely isn't a big problem put into perspective! At least I have one irl friend who is a fellow INFP... and that's like 20 % of my friendlist :)
hahahaha, my very same thoughts! Exactly!!! I'm also an INFP...i'm in awe! this video totally describes me!
SAME HERE! :D
Chris Hunt same here
The number one thing I can't stand is " double standards ", like the kind of people who allow themselves to do something, but you can't. Same for you?
Johan Ribelles Definitely.... but you feel like you can't say anything to them because sometimes it's easier to keep the peace than to create tension and conflict
Johan Ribelles UGH I LOATHE THAT :/ especially when it's a figure of authority, like a parent, so you can't do anything
Johan Ribelles I can relate to that!
Aye sir!
I've also been lambasted for not trusting someone to do something.... And then they fucking don't! Like hello?
I am an INFP and I can completely relate to all of these! I feel like I need a weekly therapy group to sit in a room and talk about life with other INFPs and talk about our struggles and annoyances together and help each other through life haha
Melanie Griesemer. Actually. That's a fantastic idea! :)
That'd be awesome! 😉
I would also like too. Dats a great idea
I'm in... Let's do this
So true
Very relatable. I'm an INFP, and what ticks me off is when people don't show consideration for each other on the sidewalks. That really bothers me! Also manipulation disguised as love. Ugh. The worst. And people taking charge and controlling a situation without listening to the opinion of the other people involved. Very frustrating to witness.
I'm an INFP, and I really DO NOT like people telling me that I can't do something. It makes me think that they think that I'm delicate or I'll break under pressure, when I actually work better under pressure, and they make me feel useless. So I try to prove to everyone like that that I can handle anything I put my mind to.
Awesome video btw. :)
Green Gamer I tried to volunteer at a woman's center once and the manager told me she thought I had too much going on in my life to be effective as a volunteer. This was after she was very kind and had asked me questions that made me answer honestly and open up to her. I so regret telling her anything personal about me.
YAS
Kora G ISFP and same. But it will only make me want to do it Even more. There’s nothing i love more than proving people wrong. It gives me this satisfaction and this Air of superiority later
Wow I do NOT work better under pressure lol I freeze up
I definitely dig my feet in whenever under pressure and will work harder. However. I put myself into my silent mode until whatever it is, is done.
Our silent mood can be used for things like this if/when we learn to use it. I've always thought of it as some sort of chakra routine. Lol. Like we shut down our senses and open up the ones we need to get done. (Mainly our brain/our focus.)
For me it came from constant pressure through work and life, eventually leading myself to figuring out that I could do this. And in doing this I can get through anything. Its like... going to a silent place. But doing so whilst remaining in whatever environment we're in.
It's often connected with the darker INFP's... yet, it's steal higher level INFP strategy. (Or so I've noticed in my study of peoples.)
Related so much to your video. Growing up INFP as a child is pretty tough. At least it was for me, surrounded by Sensors and Extroverts. Ever since I was 4 years old I was criticised for being too quiet, too different.... I remember trying to change myself but it drained me so much, and I felt so fake! I'm so glad I had loving supportive parents, even if they also didn't completely understand me. A big plus is that I've grown up to be desensitised to those kinds of non-insightful criticisms..
I have a question for you. As an INFP we obviously don't like to be the center of attention, but how come when I zone out and drift off to dream Land (which is most of the day), I have some fantasies in which I'm the center of attention? Most of daydreams revolve around a show I've watched, or I'm currently watching, and I picture myself on the show; having that lifestyle. I would NEVER disclose this around any of my friends or family, well..... One family member who knows me better than anyone in the world. He once me I was a great starter, but a horrible finisher!!
same!
i also do not dare to let anyone close to me know about my fantasies
this is a REALLY good question. I have the same thing, i don't like attention but in my daydreams i do. Please let me know if you find an answer
Oh my God. This is what I exactly do.
GodmindNY NYC 😂😂😂 same or participate in video games I dream about that too 🙄
Some of my biggest pet peves as an INFP. Who can relate?
1. When someone calls/texts you over and over after you didn't answer the first time. This would piss ANYBODY off, but it can send us INFP's into full blown panic attacks!
2. When people, who know you have problems with the answering the phone, call instead of text.
3. When someone acuses me of lying. We work so hard for our integrity, when someone questions mine it feels lime the ultimatd offense.
4. Being rushed. I can barely keep my mind on task when it's just me trying to hurry, the minute it even feels like the other person is rushing me I practically dissociate from the stress of it.
I agree with all, especially #3. If someone is questioning something I've said again and again as if I've lied about it, it sends me into a rage.
Chitra Jain ugh same, but then they say " your so worked up about it, I must be right" when your just getting upset because you aren't lying and they keep persisting. I hate so much when someone says something about me that's not true. It just feels like a personal attack on my character / morals. It's definitely one of the most offensive things someone can say. 🙄
@@m0r614 ya esp for me because I have a hard time as is standing up for myself and then when someone denies my reality it feels personal. Like I never do that to anyone I wonder why people can't extend the same courtesy to me.
AHH you get me!! I think I have found my people in this comment section
I just want it remind people here to be careful to not “adopt” characteristics in order to feel like the INFP label, or any three label, fits you. We are FAR too complex to be able to described and defined by another’s experience or verbal habits of a personality. Of course it’s nice to see others who share some of the same traits as you, just don’t believe you can’t become anything different later on, or feel like you must be like everyone else here.
Be you.
SO if we take the test and the result is a confirmed INFP....and we feel relief for the first time in our lives becaise we realize we aren't weird...it's actually a unique and wonderful thing....why am i buying into something that would need to be changed later. True people can change but the statement felt a little off as if i might want to change completely because some how i won't like myself....not sure what you meant there?? (Lol spoken like a truly defiant INFP). I'm surrounded by people all the time that are jealous because i DO walk to my own beat, doing what i truly want. It's only when i do what others think i should that it becomes a disaster.
The result is 90% accurate but theres more of us.. There r findings that r not soo me..
So yeah, Its true.. No need to adopt just to be called one.. Though its cool to find people who thinks the same as u
As long as I feel like I accepted the label for myself, because I wanted to, I'm fine with it. As soon as somebody starts to put me underneath a label or pictures me like the stereotype of that label or even uses me to stereotype everyone who is similar to me, then I am truly pissed and feel like an animal being forcefully pushed into a cage and then it's not okay no more
Agree!
Yeah... I just hate people coming over, announced or no. lol!
Ugh..landlords. Hate. lol
Great vid :)
- fellow INFP
Adelle Ramcharan I used to have a friend who would always show up to my house uninvited and he would come over to my house every single day after school and would want me to spend the night at his house every night on the weekends. But most of the time, I just wanted to sleep in my own bed and not have school the next day, so I would often turn him down. It got so bad that I would try to avoid him at times just because I needed some alone time lol.
Adelle Ramcharan, I had an uncle who could be quite abrasive at times ( to say the least), lolBut after parties or family events at his house he would just literally tell people something like, ok everyone it's time to leave, bye! lol
This is me. I'm glad I see that others feel the same. I'm not imagining that I need space, time & honesty from people, plus so much more you've mentioned. Thank you!
Adelle Ramcharan - I am an INFP landlord and ALWAYS let my tenants know if I need to visit and ask when it's convenient for them. I'd never just turn up unexpected.
Haha, I love company, but not always unexpected company. Depends on what's going on. 😊
I just don't answer the door...LOL!
Yoga Junkie Same. Lol. I pretend I don't hear it. I feel shameful for it, but it's like "Don't just drop by like that. You don't know what I'm doing."
Yoga Junkie Oh, me too and oftentimes the phone either. I hate being interrupted. Ppl who know me text me. (when I was a kid sometimes my mom wouldn't answer the door and I'd be like Are You Crazy? See What They Want! I thought it was So devious, lol. I hate that I'm turning into my mom...
Holy shit. I do this as well. Hahaha
Oh god i thought i’m the only one who does that xD
I have signs on my road, and WILL build a WALL with gates if needed. Lol Text me people, with lots of warning
I totally agree bashing people behind their back, while being sweet to their face, extremely bothers my spirit. I know if they do it about someone else, they will do it to me, which makes them automatically untrustworthy. Unfortunately, most of the World does this. I did, to some extent , as a younger person, and hated the way it made me feel. Ick!
I will not open up to person who has shown me they can’t control their tongue.
Im an infp. Most of the time I can't lash out. But if it bothers me enough I will tell them. I have to be in a very certain mindset that I hate being in though. I hate having to do it
INFP watching from Rwanda. We are basically the same person wearing different skin suits.
Nineteen Orwell that’s an interesting analogy...but super true
How poetic. As an INFP usually are
The good thing about people telling us we can’t do something is that we will ALWAYS make sure we prove them wrong :) ;)
I think social media is the #1 thing on my list. Especially media like instagram, where people post photos with captions and they are...idk...so fake and totally not authentic, just to seem "cool". It's hard to describe but it just piss me off really, haha. Also I must say I really agree on the last one aswell, top 100 lists at spotify etc annoys me somehow. (INFP)
hanna karlström hahahahahha yes !!!!
YES. I hate like...all forms of social media. Tumblr is the only place I like to go (it's not technically social media) because I choose what I get to see, basically (my feed is always nothing but plants and like...Harry potter). But literally EVERY SINGLE OTHER form of social media gets on my nerves. I absolutely hate snapchat with a fiery passion, Twitter is pointless and stupid, Instagram is very fake and pointless, and Facebook...omg Facebook. I got a Facebook primarily because I wanted to play this game, and now the game is gone forever....but my family would all whine and complain if I deleted my account so I'm stuck with one for all eternity. And I hate it so much.
hahahahaha yea, pisses me off too... especially when they treat ME like i'm the loser for not having social media....its like nah nah nah... dont turn your weird habit into my problem your the self absorbed one
oh my fcking god i know!!!!!! i keep off insta and stick to tumblr
I once took a picture of my dirty dishes just to be "authentic" on social media. Lol
Recently someone said I was wearing a mask based on my posture. I looked at him and said: "I don't, I just don't like you. And saying what you just did, no wonder I don't." He tried to explain that "the mask is what we show to people", to which I replied: "My mask is honesty, then. Bye." Whenever people try to tell me what I am like I'm wrong about myself, I want to mangle faces.
I'm a infp and I feel I do tend to wear a mask to hide my emotions because I hate explaining how I feel. I have no problem showing if I like or dislike something. I like to struggle with my problems on my own.
I definently change my demeanor depending on who I'm with but it's not like I really do it consciously. I can be aware of it but for me I also dislike the assumption of fakeness attributed to "the mask". To me these are just different part of myself, they aren't any less real just because they are different. That being said I do have a "mask" of sort sometimes or hold back my "real self" sometimes but it's for my safety and security. I think this is normal. I don't care about being disliked. I am comfortable with myself, what gets me a bit down is being misunderstood but even that I get. I often don't even understand myself.
I'll just act happy when I'm not, no mask, just trying to be polite to others and not worry em.
@@horchatatee5407 this is me.
I hate being told to shut-up by anyone (family or acquaintances-my friends never do that) especially when I've finally worked up the nerve to share what's really on my mind. It feels like I'm being stifled or rejected out of hand. Most people get one strike. After that, I no longer want anything to do with you or your ostracism. I'll show up but I won't have sh*t to say to you.
(This especially happens at work and with my brother and sister)
Very true! I struggle with the because I assume they don't think it's that big a deal but emotional rejection is major for me
You feel invalidated and it does make you not want to open up to them any more.
Perfectly relatable.
That is what has caused me to build walls around my heart, but that turned out to be an extremely unwise decision.
I'm currently in the process of tearing that wall down and replacing it with something much more flexible as a means of protection.
Does anyone else feel like they could NEVER physically hurt someone? I feel like even if I owned a gun and someone was about to kill me, I would never be able to pull a trigger. I'd rather be killed than have to live with that guilt. Idk if that is just me, or if it has to do with the personality type.
Mikayla I think it might be both. I'm an INFP and I love fighting, UFC, boxing etc. so I have no problem hurting someone in the ring, but out of it, I wouldn't hurt a fly
Honestly just learn how to defend yourself, so that you don't have to hurt the person...
I can relate. The only situation I might do something like pull the trigger would be in the case where someone were about to kill someone else. I'd be willing to use a weapon to try and prevent it. But I'd also strive to minimise damage to the aggressor as much as I can. Then I'd probably say sorry, as well 0_0. But that, of course, is provided I can keep it together. That may not be a given.
Mikayla I was in an abusive marriage for 3 very long years (physical, mental and emotional, oh my!). I showed mercy and did not receive it in kind until the dam burst and I fought back. It was very unpleasant; but the results were favorable and I was able to escape. I do not have violent tendencies either, but there are circumstances in which mercy needs to take a hike. There would be no hesitation on my part to light someone up, guy or gal, if they invite that kind of attention by putting my family, friends or me at risk. Life's too precious and time waits for no one. Beyond that, yes, I let trapped moths out of my house....but all cockroaches must die!
if i had a gun and someone was about to kill me, i'd shoot them in the leg or something. i could never kill them, that would destroy me.
I'm INFP and I pretty much detest all politicians :/
YES! Because the skill of selling yourself is the exact opposite of the skill of running governments.
Cuz they're all liars cheaters and simply fugazi. We don't like fake people.
I can relate, because I hate politics and have little to no respect for those who follow and worship politicians and partisan groups; especially adult children who mindlessly bash on people from the opposing party and slanderously make unsubstantiated blanket statements about them. In my opinion, there should be a country for everyone who hates politics where they can do what they want as long as it doesn't negatively affect the lives of everyone else. Let the masses police themselves with no assigned magistrate or ruling party. Politics do nothing but oppress the ones they rule over.
Do other Innies find that Outies are offended when you 'respect their space' as though we're ignoring them or something?
People constantly lay guilt trips on me like "ohhh I thought I'd done something to upset you" and I'll be sitting there thinking to myself "its not all about you" or "what about my feelings?" I'm sure if I ever tried explaining myself people wouldn't understand and I'd end up hurting their feelings
Yes, some judge us "snob"...
It depends, if it is truly respecting space no. If it's telling us we need to give you space no though I would likely be sad and just deal with how I feel. If it's neither of these I would feel you just don't like me because ignoring someone is the defacto stance for indifference. After three decades you learn not to take any of it personally. In time I would become indifferent to you and then we can be strangers again as before.
It seems that strangership is winning out over friendship these days. Thank you social media for your gift.
The one about people looking over your shoulder is so true for me... When I try to explain that I function better with no pressure, and no person looking over my shoulder and bothering me every ten minutes, it's like they don't understand that I could possibly NOT play while the cat's away. Sheesh.
I'm 32 years old, and I only found out about this whole business a couple of days ago. I got INFP as the result at 16personalities.com, and I have been reading and now starting to youtube this information, and I have to say that I identify completely with the descriptions I've seen so far. Of course I know I'm an introvert, but all of this just puts everything into place for me.
Some of the things that resonates with me:
- I also hate people coming to my home unanounced, and I especially hate people standing in the streets with stands approaching me, starting to talk away about their stuff, especially if they are selling stuff or preaching, but also even if its for a charity. It makes my blood boil :P
- The micro managing thing also resonates enormously with me. If someone is literally looking over my shoulder on what I'm doing, I actually cannot continue what I'm doing. I hate everything about hieracrchy and micro-managing, expectations from people higher up we don't know with uninformed expectations about things. It really upsets me if I am confronted with something, and the person doing it doesnt actually have an understanding about the realities of the situation.
- I stopped watching TV completely a couple of years ago, partly because I can't watch the news, but also because I just think most TV shows are mundane and soul sucking.
Oh, and I was also fascinated that you mentioned the Pleiadeans and aliens. I was super obsessed with ufology and aliens for most of my 20's. Do you think thats a typical thing for this personality type?
Looking forward to find out more about INFP :)
Bendik Hjaltason I also went through an alien-obsessed phase a few years ago. Probably related to our love of the supernatural and mysterious ;)
Love how you brought up charities. I try to avoid them when they are at Walmart. I want to help but I'm not in a position to and I feel really guilty when I am going there to shop and say sorry I'm broke. I feel like a liar but they are just begging.
I can, and do watch the news - being fully aware of the bias, misinformation, and straight up lying. I feel I can better discuss world issues if I understand what the world is being spoon fed.
This shit is spooky because I am very familiar with the alien phase
We are interested in mythical creatures 🤗. You're not alone. I pretty much relate to all you stated. I'm 22 going on 23, and I hate when random men walk up to me to say hi...🤔 I make a scary face or a possessed face 😅. I did that on Saturday to a young man who hurried away in fear. When I walk on the streets I make sure I block my ears with music. My taste in music is really weird. I hate mainstream so I do my research for music from unpopular places of the world and I love to share them with people.
My mom said that I am contrary to popular demand, although she doesn't fully understand me. 🙂
you're really good at explaining what it's like to be INFP. I 100% relate to all of these! Hope you keep making videos :)
Meg T. wow thank you. I really appreciate that. it's comments like yours which keep me going
Bullies really tick me off. I'm strange. It's like I will take a lot of b.s. from people, but if you mess with my family, friends the elderly, the disabled, children or anyone who can not defend themselves. Then I will go off a lil loud (to surprise n stop) n get between that person (s) n the underdog, friends and or family. I do it without thinking. I still will try for a peaceful solution n it always works esp if I can talk to the perpetrator one on one. Win win. :) INFP -a. Many yrs. I was a psychiatrist nurse with bachelor of Science n a minor in psychology. Now I am a lone landlord of 4 mobile homes in Ms, U.S.
Yes people who cannot defend themselves are the number one people i want to protect
I would say that it's OK for someone to ask why you do a certain thing, such as in your example colouring your hair blue if you're an introvert so long as they are asking because they are genuinely interested as opposed to mocking and condescending. Is that what you meant?
Jody Stoll Yes definitely. The woman used to say things to her friends like "oh, she won't want to you out because of her "social anxiety" even though she has blue hair"
Ugggg that woman sounds like the epitome of what annoys me really b*tch what's one got to do with the other- NOTHING & thank u 🙄
This list actually makes me feel less strange. I can relate to all of these so much. Thanks for posting your videos. I used to hate myself so much for not being like others. But now I understand why I do what I do. And why I get so irritated with the outside world. I can't watch the news at all. Most days I can't do FB either. I hate the dips of low energy and lack of inspiration. I very rarely like anything mainstream. Hate labels and name brands. Lately I've come to the point where I won't spend time with toxic family members on holidays, just because it's a holiday. It's been freeing. I feel grateful to be in a creative career. Although it is a very social field. It's very unlikely for me to answer the phone even when it's a friend. I have to really have some energy and time for a phone call. I really want to give 100% of my attention while talking to people I love.
I always completely relate to INFP descriptions, but this was scarily accurate and relatable 😳 Not just the pet peeves, but the fact that I'm an INFP w/ social anxiety & bipolar II (similar to cyclothemia) who had her hair dyed blue recently (and was hounded by family members about why I wanted to stand out with my anxiety). Crazy!!! It got to a point towards the end where I could predict what your next few words would be whenever you paused. 😂 So anyway, wonderful video!
People wana question u when u may act contradictory to the box they mighta put u in based on sumthin like outside appearance that's captain obvious stuff to me how dumb people are but unfortunately it's typical lotsa ass-u-me-ing too what u are thinkn, feelin, why u look how u do or do what u do. THAT is my biggest pet peeve -ain't nobody inside my head!!!!!
I absolutely loved your video and I subscribed to your channel! I am also INFP, 27 years old, and there are aspects that I really value in my personality (creativity, empathy, social justice, independence, sensitivity, curiosity ...) but I have behaviors that are hurting me and I can not overcome them. I say it here because I need the guidance of other INFPs, or at least to feel less strange or guilty with myself.
These last weeks a person whom I considered a great friend has stopped talking to me for totally selfish and vain reasons. I have been very offended, I have been really hurt, but in the moment of facing her and pointing out her behavior I have realized that I am not able to speak with enough hardness or anger. I said what I think, but I am not able to scream or make a scene like people sometimes deserve. I really feel that I'm betraying myself, that I'm not able to defend myself as I deserve in a situation of stress. Is any INFP in this position?
I am really self-critical, and it really hurts me not to be able to express my emotions of anger in an explosion like most people. I fear the rest will see me as weak, complacent, stupid or submissive. Which I am not in any case.
Do you have any advice? How do you see this?
Sorry for the long message and if for lack of spelling, English is not my native language :)
Beatriz Vera Hi, I think any INFP can relate to you, remember we are 'mediators/healers' and that makes it difficult at times to reply without emotions, basically to say what needs to be said. - One thing that works for me, besides recognizing the problem and seek to solve it, is to practice this type of conversations, difficult conversations, w/o letting your emotions get involved. There's something in the brain called 'the mirror neuron system', this allows your to model the behaviors of the people that are around you, use this info to get audiobooks or UA-cam video of people who overcame these adversities. - on the other hand, 'adversity is the first path to truth.', 'behave your way onto a new way of thinking', 'introverts have to act extroverted at times', 'you can say whatever you want so long you say with respect', 'if you believe in the cause, believe in the vision, and believe in the presented scenario, say what you have to say'. Remember, knowledge is power, but 'execution' trumps knowledge every time. Take action on some of these today, and practice. You go be awesome as always!
The solution is in the problem. You said you can't scream or get angry. Aggression is one of the suites of emotion we have to practice, because it's so hard to get angry.
My self-criticalness diminished when I used my objectivity to determine what went wrong with the situation. You have to practice to develop your critical thinking skills this will aleviate all the undeserved self criticism. Mind you self-criticism is important for us to keep growing.
Me too..i'm infp. One of my best friend was put an anger to me too much to handle. Actually i dont mind it as the time goes on we will actually get over it. Infp is a peace maker. That is our pron and cons. But, lately she crossed the line too much. She hurt me by blaming me for smthg i didnt do, she even didnt believe me although i can prove that i was not wrong. Later, she didnt even feel bad and always playing victims. I hate it. For me, as a friend it is common when we have an argue or have a fight. But if she cant believe me, than sorry, i need to remove her from my life. I hurt so much but i can't tolerate her anymore. I feel lost my idealism, lost my self if i keep her near to me. So i made a decision to let her leave to find new friend. I open my heart to find new friend that will appreciate me more than her. Hard but really give me a breath.
As a screaming infp I can tell you it doesn't work.
I rarely if ever answer a phone call. I first want to imagine why the person is calling me and prepare.. haha =O. A phone call is just so fucking drastic.
Is that a Goku tattoo? That is so awesome!
This resonates with me as an INFP on such a deep level. Thank you for sharing this.
As an INFP, I hate being rushed. I get flustered and start making so many mistakes. I enjoy taking my time to figure things out, and come up with a creative solution to certain issues or tasks.
One of my favorite things from my teen years is being at home with just my mom, and when the phone would ring, we would just pause the tv and stare at it til it stopped ringing lol
Is it bad that I actually hate everyone in my life? I am an INFP
I can relate to that feeling - I sometimes feel quite 'judgmental'. Most people I encounter in my day-to-day life either make me inwardly disgusted or make me cringe.
Lol I find myself saying that a lot so no you’re good...it’s natural
of all i hate myself most :) yes very normal
tsum tsummm same 💕
I can relate..sometimes i do feel like i just want to be away from all people that I’ve ever know
Hi, Lex. I'm an INFP and I had rough week. It was so intense that I found myself looking online for what's wrong with me. I'm 45 and I've known that I'm an INFP for years, but never looked into it. You're blowing me away. I'm used to being the weirdo and alone in my sentiments, so you can imagine how surprising it has been to watch a stranger absolutely nail 11 things that define me.Thank you for this video and for your ministry. You really helped me.
I totally agree with the overstimulation thing. My mum is an extrovert and will always have the TV or radio on in the background all the time and I just can't concentrate! I like a bit of silence!
This whole video is so spot on. Finally someone who views things the same way!!
Oh my god I had a flatmate who liked to come into my room and just sit on the floor. Or on my bed. And I was like eeeeeeee please go please I don't want you here this my personal space (without saying anything of course)
Watching this made me feel so much better. Especially the part about changing your haircolor. I’ve always been confused at myself at why I love body modification so much but hate the attention that comes with it. But the way you described feeling like an individual I won hundred percent understand that and it helped me understand that about myself so thank you💜
I'm INFP and talking to the screen throughout the video as if we're having a conversation. "Yes! Exactly! And you know what really bothers me... Wait, I'm just watching a video..."
Every single point you made is exactly how I feel on a daily basis. Thank you for giving me some more understanding of who I am and what holds me back in life! You’re an inspiration.
I always knock on doors and txt people. I always feel weird just walking into people's houses even if they are expecting me. over stimulation only happens when I'm at a loud bar. I'm comfortable with my peeps and I'm a musician so I'm used to noises but loud noises for the sake of being loud anger me but synchronized loud noises like a band are different. But I agree on micro managing too I work better alone because I don't get stage fright. But I don't like being told to change hence my long hair beard and I'm weird and I do hate mundane routine. Great points I don't like egos either I like people to be real so yeah the video is pretty on point.
Loved this and completely, completely resonated with ALL of these...wow...unbelievable how much this stroke a chord! So glad there is other people like me in the world. Please, keep being you. Sending you much love and respect!
you know, i always wanted to be a bird
I would be a duck...who in the world could hate a duck? Plus they can walk on land, fly, float on water and dive underwater...just avoid ending in a duck a l'orange
that was my answer when i was asked what i wanted to be in a class
I just wanna be the wind😂😂😂
Yes, I've always thought about what it would be like to be a cat or bird. Soaring freely through the sky or walking around gardens and stuff. Both are so free
I've learned about 16 personalities theory recently. I'm an INFP. For a long time I've been struggling with misunderstanding. All that things you're mentioning in this video are 100% true. I finally understand that nothing is wrong with me. It's just some features of my personality type. Now I finally know that there are plenty of people who are like me. It's so inspiring! Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings about INFP's struggles.
How do you speak so well... I have a hard time articulating my words, most of the time I even create my own words that people do understand ...
I have an infp friend who is so good at communicating that he would translate what I'm saying to people... when I'm struggling to communicate what I really want to say, an idea or even what I'm feeling..it was like magic ..like he is in my head.. but how come he can do it and I can't..and we both INFP..
Lex your ability to articulately describe exactly how I feel in these situations, completely blows my mind. If only I could put my feelings to words even if half as eloquently. Keep up the amazing work! ✊✊
Unannounced visitors or even a visitor when I'm just not in the mood ...uh hate! And I as well will not answer the door to anyone that I don't know :) related to all your points! Micromanaging and big egos + any sense of fake! Er.
Listening to you makes me feel so comfortable with myself, thank you for your videos! Best INFP videos imo
Random, sorry, but you could really pull off a marilyn monroe for halloween. It's the hair line, forehead and eye lid shape.
Low Carb Leah wow, you must be so in tune. I actually dressed as Monroe for Halloween when I was 16. I had short platinum blonde hair and a hairdresser sister. I wish I could share a photo on here. thank you for the compliment
"It's either one day or day one."
This line alone just blew my mind. Currently questioning all of my life decisions right now.
...thank you though. I really needed to hear that line.
Wow, great observations; I agree with ALL of the points you made! Micromanagement, bitchy gossip, people with big egos...yes, all of those are big turn offs. And shop assistants who stare at you, lol! A pet peeve for me is when you're trying on something in a clothes shop and the assistant starts hovering and telling you how GREAT you look in that dress because they think empty flattery and pushiness will increase the probability of a sale. I find it has the opposite effect and I'm more likely to buy if I'm given a bit of space and allowed to decide for myself without distractions.
Thank you Lex!!!!! Your tattoo is beautiful :) I feel like posting this as a PSA. All of these are absolutely accurate. The moment that the INFP has pet peeves, it seems to be beyond other's comprehension. I would like people I love to please STOP trying to get me to have phone conversations, keep the phone near me, answer the phone or to take my disinterest in phone calls to mean I don't care. It's not it. It's awkward and taxes my energy. I love deeply therefore not feeling anything superficial and cliche at all. Even more importantly, I will not discuss religion or politics. I value all opinions and will be objective.
I've Been Soaking 🌞 Your INFP Wisdom✨👑✨ ALL Day!! Thank You!! ⛅⛅⛅⛅🍃⛅⛅⛅⛅
I have taken a few personality tests and have been really trying to decipher whether I'm INFJ or INFP, but I relate so closely with each video I've seen of yours. Every single thing you have listed in this video absolutely will drive me bananas! Thank you so much for sharing!
I'm an INFP but I love watching the news, I get so many ideas and a lot of inspiration from it. Every time I see a war zone I just want to go and help drop everything and just leave with a one way plane ticket! But for some reason I never do it. Anyone relate to this?
Hey Anthony, Yes I can really relate to that.. When ever I watch news or programs related to the suffering of others, wars and situations of injustice in the world. I always feel very deeply about it. I feel I want to do something to help that and if I had the money to give more to causes that can help people in these situations. Also another aspect from that is feeling and thinking deeply about ideas that could help people and change the world.
Anthony Sugaaa yesssss, that is exactly me , to the point that when I finish university I'm dropping everything to live and work in humanitarian aid specifically around Latin America.
Something like that. More like hating my work life and waiting for some big break to roll in on the breakers.
Completely!! I'm always watching BBC CNN local news or the news on the radio in my car!
I was like that when I was younger.
I started avoiding the news in the wake of the Boxing Day tsunami... After a couple of years I started watching again and reading the paper but mostly because my ex did. Now... Sometimes I have it on as background noise but as soon as I start paying attention I can't change the channel fast enough
Does anyone else feel like you’re so genuine that most people actually confuse it for sarcasm and fakeness..?
This totally describes me as an INFP person. I study visual arts and I love it, but it is so frustrating when a teacher sends a homework that just won't fit with what I would love to express... it makes me so sad and right now I'm just feeling that I won't do that project, instead I'll stick to what I truly want to do. But even wanting to do that, the fact of thinking that I shouldn't makes me feel so frustrated that limits my progress...!! I think I'll be a disaster the day of the presentation because of the misunderstanding of the society...! hahaha!
Great video btw!!! :)
LaClau I completely relate to you! I am an INFP and recently did awful in my art exams because little was completed. However, this wasn't due to laziness; I felt stifled by the projects and didn't feel as if I was able to express myself in my own way that was meaningful to me. I've now decided to make art an out of school interest. :)
It's always so beautiful to listen to a healthy INFP. One who has a strong self-esteem. I was raised by an ESTJ and ISTJ and they fractured my sense of identity and authenticity so much that I ended up pretty much behaving like them in many situations. I like your video very much. :)
People coming over unannounced.... perhaps my biggest annoyance
Thank you for sharing about yourself. I too am an INFP. Your description is exactly me. I hate feeling trapped. I really hate being micro managed. In fact it is counterproductive to micro manage me. I work best alone, but can also be a team player, and need to be trusted. Another big one is "don't tell me what I can or cannot do". A very big hot button for me. In my life this has caused me great distress...even clouding my ability to feel I am making the best decision for myself. Keep the great insightful videos coming. Thank you again. 👍❤
When people say "You can't be creative." That sort of thing makes my blood boil so much that it makes me listen songs based on that emotion because I value creativity not just from myself, but from other people as well either if the stuff they make is in my taste or not.
Lex you made my day ahahah :) totally saw myself in this video. I'm still on my first steps to find out who I am and how to use my creativity in the best direction, I often feel lost in where to invest my time, stuck with my work that is totally not mundane but not yet interesting enough. Thank you!
I thought I was the only one who gets overstimulated so easily. It crossed my mind that maybe there's something wrong with me not being able to keep up with my nieces' energies. I can relate to you... I assist my aunt babysitting her granddaughters but I feel like she's constantly getting surprised with me leaving the kids out of nowhere after a few minutes of playing with them, especially when they are doing different things at the same time and they ask for your attention. I run off to the powder room to sort out my thoughts and declutter every once in a while before coming back to them. I'm terrible at babysitting.
Awesome. I have social anxiety disorder but I dyed my hair blue when I was younger! I can so relate!
Being an INFP guy is hard.
Great video. Every single item on your list is on mine, especially micromanaging. I've already picked this thing (whatever it is) apart in order to make sure what I present is of the highest quality. I don't need you hovering & questioning. I see it as a lack of trust which burns my soul because trust is a huge value of mine
i totally agree with you an people who tell my i have to be harder on my son because he doesn,t have a job, i realy hate that , they think i am weak but it,s not being weak but i believe he will do things in his live the way he wants to do.
I'm really glad i find this channel. I thought i was a such a freak for doing many things you're talking about in this video. But now i know that it's not wrong, and it's ok to be myself even though i'm different from what the society expect me to be :)
I will have to look into it in more depth but I think I got this type. I had never heard of these personality types until recently. Hearing this video was truly eye opening because I could have been listening to myself...I mean even down to very particular scenarios and how they made me feel.
I have long been trying to adapt and curb the way I speak (or don't), I have tried to stop analysing things, coming up with solutions when people have problems, that are obvious but that I have learned people don't want, and to realise that thinking it's odd not to want to solve something that is damaging to you apparently is not odd. I've learned to pretend I'm interested in this week's soap. aIve accepted that opinions are logically and based on sound thinking sand usually some learning but that if they happen total different or not popular, They will not be met with the acceptance or understanding of consideration that every opinion (not being fact) would need to be given if any kind of productive or interesting conversation. I may believe that 2 different perspectives can both be correct but many others believe there is just a right view and a wrong one) I've learned that I go on way too much and never can get my thoughts across concicly or easily. (As you can tell!) I now know that other people still think about that small mistake that they didn't have to make even months later I may be reminded of and wishing I'd have probe thus or said that. I get why I found it so hard the one time I had problems with my boss. ...I was misunderstood, not trusted, micro managed for the first time ever and found it so bad that It consumed and upset be beyond reason. I felt judged and I knew this person had no depth and was never going to see 'me' my previously highly regarded and near perfect work(for a charity...helping people with some serious issues) actually did begin to suffer and when that happened I lost all the love and price in my work and left (I have since realised that although it is uncomfortable,, there were ways I could have dealt with the situation early on without my boss losing face and without me having to let her opinion and treatment of me go unchallenged for so long that I almost felt I had to go along with it in the end. 'tote my tongue when I want to talk about something of interest .
I now know why I'm a perfectionist, hard on myself in that I find myself constantly 'working Inn myself' I be stopped expecting people to think outside of there immediate needs or that the world has not become a scary and sometimes ridiculous place.. I've seen that fitting in and being yourself can sometimes not be possible and that this causes me much inner emotional conflict because there is no entirely satisfactory solution when I don't find many people who are as follows as me. I see that my high and my understanding and perceptiveness of things and people can actually be a source of unhappiness. I know I need to see my friends more instead of doing my own thing but at least now I know I'm not alone in my endless learning about this subject or that until I feel like I understand it and why I am forever starting projects at home that don't get finshed as well as why I try to put off starting some.
I know I am not' special' and I now do not think that there's something wrong with me . I simply gave a particular type of personality. For whatever reason it just happens to be that this particular type is less common that's all.
Knowing this puts different light on things and makes it easier for me to deal with situations where previously I have been, hurt, angry, unsure and less likely to compromise who I am uneccessarily. I can also ask others or look up ways I can help with the particular issues that come up all the time for me.
The bank you so much for sharing what for me was some really enlightening stuff. Things are beginning to make sense!!
"she had told me i can't do writing, i can't -- i basically can't do any thing creative. that i have to do a mundane job." GIRL SAME. Fortunately for me, I found a job that is mundane and practical but I am still passionate about. My soul was crushed when my parents disagreed of my choice to pursue arts. I want to become an animator and work at Pixar (yea, i know. i'm very ambitious haha). 2 years ago, we had a pet puppy and that is when I remembered my love for animals which was very evident ever since I was a kid.
I'm sorry I just felt like sharing when I heard that line hahaha I relate to it so much.
I find it really difficult to spend time with kids and babies.I usually tries to avoid them.It is so strange.
Anyone else like me here.
Yes, even though kids like me, I usually don't like them because they always test adults I think. They'll try triggering me which doesn't help with anxiety, dunno. But I can probably easily spend time with introverts kids though
I find it difficult to spend time with kids and babies because I ultimately don't know how to handle them or know a concrete way of engaging them to like me. Other than that I wish I was more "fluent" in working with kids. I envy those who can do it easily. Is this anything similar to you?
@@mazugui18 same
I avoid phone calls sometimes, I rarely answer the door and I almost always cancel hang-out plans, except when it's family. Once, two friends came over to my house without informing me beforehand. And boy did I freak out. Thankfully I had my best friend/cousin with me, who is one the very few people I'm totally comfortable with and who's more or less like me, and we somehow got through the day. It wasn't that bad though, but it was stressful af. I don't know whether anyone can relate to this.
I like what I like, I don't care if it's trendy or the lamest thing in the universe. But I do also avoid things that "everyone loves" like GoT :P
I just found your channel yesterday. Omg! I can totally relate to what you said! I only recently found out that I was INFP. It’s good now understand why I am the way I am. It is hard finding people who accept it. Thank you for putting yourself out here with the information. ❤️
I really hate backstabber peoples. I'm suffering from "those" type of peoples until now. I can't trust anyone or I just won't. I just discovered I'm INFP yesterday... N now I know why I'm rarely different from others, why I'm having extreme mood swing n stuff. LOL
How did you get into my head?! I have absolutly thought/felt all of these gripes passionately!
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Lex, I know how you feel. I'm usually a peace maker but one time my boss kept asking me why about an honest mistake. So I freaked out with some sort of Martin Luther King speech, questioning her intentions saying "do u expect me to be a computer and execute every line of your commands perfectly?"
She looked like as if I was going to slaughter her.
But after that, we got along very well.
So hey, maybe next time you just need to explain a bit more of yourself for others to understand :)
Class 2D yeah I have also learned to put my foot down more. Especially in job hierarchies. It helps especially for extrovert judging boss-types it seems. Hate to have to do it though.
Omg!! On the mlk speech I used to pound out his quotes when I was annoyed with people n pass them all out on his bday lolz
He'll I sorta did that same thing and now I'm looking for a job....since my boss said I don't listen mind you she fires me via text after I just informed her I had a Dr note excusing me from work for the next 3days due to a sever concussion from ⚾...and when I asked for her to explain to me a time when I didn't listen to her I never heard back from her to this day and that was in late oct!!( it was a shock and the last thing I expected and right before the holidays even!!(&I've grown up with the chic... !( but I hated the job anyways bc it was just way too much stress and negative energy so I'll just count it as a blessing!!!)... still looking to get another job tho!!(🤔😎😁
Fellow INFP and professional artist here, and EVERY single one of these things I relate to!! Thanks for sharing! Shine on!
oh, it's an INFP thing. I'm not alone in being "weird". yay :)
Hi Lexie, just came across your video. I totally recognize myself in your description, especially the manager looking over your shoulder :-S Thank you for your videos about INFP. Lots of love from Belgium !
What is called?? When you hit a dip and just want to stay in bed. You said it's like a mild form of bipolar. I get that too!! My doctor wants to put me on anti depressants for it and I don't want to take 'em. Getting pressure from the family to do it though :'-(
I am a INFP and you are describing exactly the way I am and feel. Thank you so much.
That settles it! I'm an INFP...no doubt.
Thank you so much beautiful lady ‼️❤️ I feel SO understood and calm 🙏🏻 that truly is the greatest gift! I am grateful for you and your work 🤩❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Noise overwhelms me very quickly. I need to have headphones all the time if I'm in a crowded place. School is a nightmare lately... Never thought other people were like this, though.
Loved the video, all points resonated with me as INFP. My worst experience was in clothing retail when they were forcing us to ask customers to go online and fill a feedback survey about how good the service was on the till/around store. I always hated asking that and avoided doing it deliberately because the way I saw it people would just think I'm helpful to them so I can ask them to do the survey when in reality I was helping because i liked to help and it was part of my job... so this authenticity and idealism got me in trouble with my manger because although I was doing everything else well, I wasn't complying with that one thing they wanted and I got caught 😒 so I only did it when they were around and it resulted in awkward conversations which I still cringe at when remembering
May I ask you about your astrological chart? I recently found out that I am an INFP but have also found astrology quite reliable in getting to know myself. I have my Sun in Capricorn but I'm right on the cusp of Aquarius and my Ascendant is in Pisces as well as my Moon and Venus. I feel Pisces very strongly and I just wondered if you or anyone else who's INFP are similar astrologically. Loved this video!
M.A.C. idk anything about astrology except for the fact that I'm a Cancer (July Birthday) and INFP. I know one other person who is the same so I'm wondering if that is a coincidence or..
Mikayla+ Cancer another water sign that's highly intuitive and deeply sensitive. Thank you, I definitely think there's a connection with water signs and INFP as well as INFJ'S. :)
I'm an INFP too and very into astrology. I'm a Scorpio sun and ascendant with Aquarius moon. I think I relate to both signs equally. I also agree about the connection between water signs and being highly intuitive/sensitive. :)
Kat Webb Thank you for responding. I've just recently started getting into Vedic astrology which is supposed to be more accurate. Most everything in my Vedic chart is the same except my Venus is now in Aquarius instead of Pisces and my Mars is in Pisces instead of in Aries. I also have my Neptune in Scorpio. Nice to know another INFP into astrology. If you haven't looked into Vedic astrology yet I would highly recommend. It seems much more detailed and you can get free birth chart online just like western astrology. Astromitra.com is really good. :)
I am also an INFP and very interested in astrology as well. I actually have no water in my chart at all haha, but I am definitely a dreamer! I'm also intuitive and creative (writer and artist) despite not having any planets in a water sign, so I am here to say that I am not sure there is a connection between water signs and being an INFP. Gemini sun, Libra moon, and Capricorn ascendant :)
I absolutely hate when people come over as well!!
As well as people knocking, people calling, and everything like that.
I can also relate to not wanting to be invaded, and not wanting to invade others.
As for overstimulation, I often find myself alone with my thoughts and in depth with conversations in my own head that I didn't even realize I had been sitting in silence for like hours. As much as I love exploring, I can't stand crowds and people.
I hate when people micromanage. As another independent person I can relate to hating when people nitpick at things I do. When I was working in retail I could not stand the coworkers that I had to work with closely. I felt nervous, I felt irritated constantly.
People have always told me I need to change. To be more social, to go against my own values. My family is super religious, and I have kept just a bit of that religion but not as much as they would have liked for me to be. INFPs develop their own morals, values, skill sets. I don't like being told I need to do anything, especially change.
I agree, we are birds. Whenever I am upset, I oftentimes wish that I was a bird. So I could just fly away and be alone.
I hate fake people. I hate people with big egos and I hate that there are still people who are out there and are faking people out.
Throughout my life I have learned to try not to shit talk people. Because I have been shit talked soooo much. I can not stand other girls most times. I hate drama, I hate being back stabbed, I hate seeing other people back stab others. Like you said, there is a difference between the feelings of the situation and then just straight up throwing people under the bus for no reason.
I hate news, politics, the shit that is going on in the world. The stupid stuff going on. Again this plays on the fact that I am always in my own head and always creating the perfect situations.
I have almost always been without inspiration and I have been depressed the entirety of my life. I do blame this on my family and childhood because I was so often misunderstood about who I was. So I was not given the attention and compassion to help shape who I could have been.
Thank you for making these videos. You are an advocate that we need. xoxox
I woulda said "I dyed my hair because I l i k e I t."
What a great video, I found it was really spot on. I'm pretty new at this, but I find a lot of accuracy in what you said. Thanks for clarifying
You have a very interesting future ahead of you. The world is your oyster honey. Go get it :)
Nicky Two Bears Thank mum x
Oh God yes, as a fellow INFP I agree with everything you said. Thank you for putting words to what I've experienced.
What MBTI is your partner? :)
sorry to answer for her, but he is an ENFP
Adelle Ramcharan what means MBTI ?
I'm an INFP fell in love with an ENFJ ._.
SaintNomad ohh thank you. I did the test already. I'm an INFP. But I didn't know what MBTI means^^
ENFP :)
Yay fellow Kiwi! Hearing your accent surprised me so much, I just assumed you were gonna be American like most of UA-cam. Relating to all of this REAL hard, and I'm not surprised you're a musician too.
Tryhards are often invasive... Please, let me think for a bit. I can judge for myself.
thank you so much for doing this video. I found myself in almost everything you said - you are me :D I wish I had the eloquently you have to express my feelings or character. thank you