Seducing the 16 types - INTP
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The introvert to end all introverts.. of all the 16 types, INTPs love life's are the most ugh.. comedy-movie-inspiring? If you're trying to seduce an INTP, then you might want to listen up. Knowledge bombs incoming.
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Fellow INTPs: What's your "love language"? I'm curious.
1.Physical touch
2. quality time
3. Acts of service
4. Gift giving
5. Words of affirmation
Physical touch, combined with intelectual interest
Heather Bryant Quality Time and Words of affirmation are my top two. Physical affection is third because if I’m in love with someone I will want them to be close to kiss, cuddle, hug...
Exclaiming how much my partner is a super babe. And general affirmation of rude desire.
@@zatt4086
Intellectual interest would fall under 'quality time'.
"INTPs don't need to feel alone - they need to feel unbothered by you." Yes!
@@NathanJGlass I try to explain to people that introversion/extroversion is not shyness/gregariousness. This really nails the distinction.
It's the best explanation I've heard for it. I've attempted to explain it to my husband but in a far clunkier way - that I enjoy the company of people I find quirky, intelligent, or interesting, but find the company of people who make too much small talk or require a lot of emotional coddling to be draining.
@@thescowlingschnauzer to the point right
So true
@@thescowlingschnauzer like a cat
And here i am procrastinating again watching how to seduce myself
Lol
Can relate
Same... 😅
lol x2
Yep :I
As an INTP I react with skepticism if anyone gets flirty with me. Makes me wonder what you really want?
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Especially when people around you have attempted flirting simply on a bet.
Yes, OMG! Which is why I'm attracted to ISTPs and other introverted/thinking types! They are not about games!
I don't really know when someone is flirting with me and it's quite frustrating when I look back and notice the signals someone was trying to give me and me just straight out being oblivious to it.
@@iamlordstarbuilder5595 true, reject guy I had crush on, bcs of this, he's talker so no thanks
BE BLUNT
we intp’s are terrible at picking up obvious “hints” you drop. We appreciate honesty and even if we do not share the same feelings, we will respect you more for your honesty.
While i agree with the message, i'm not sure i'd say we are terrible at picking up hints. I believe we're actually great at it since we can analyze everything, but then we get anxious and start convincing ourselves that it's all in our imagination and they're just being nice and we're the ones jumping to conclusion. I'm pretty sure about this theory because i've also started noticing hints people throw at others and i've been a bit more successful without the emotional attachment.
EDIT: more successful my ass, the people "throwing hints" were just being friendly. Yeah ok we're bad at picking up hints.
YESS
@@bonogiamboni4830 F
Yes... sorry but YES
@@bonogiamboni4830 exactly. I recommend never forgetting the hint.
Personally as an INTP, I've experienced that I'm only romantically attracted to people that are less quiet than me, more outgoing, more approachable, talkative and pretty cheerful in general. I like decisive people since I'm very doubtful, as I always see things from many different points of view and can't take a decision for fear of being wrong. Of course intelligence has to be on top of the list and sensitivity and emotional intelligence too, in order to outbalance the fact that I'm not so good at dealing with emotions. Other essential qualities are having a good sense of humour without getting offended by even the darkest jokes aaaand of course sarcasm
Holy shit this describes my taste exactly as well. Through personal experience its an ENFJ that youre looking for, and i got lucky in the fact that she decided to initiate conversation cuz im shit at that
I am an INTP and I agree 100% with this.
I disagree, I prefer people who are similar to me. The more similar someone is to me the better, in my opinion.
Is it that you look for people who make up for what you perceive as your deficiencies or is it that you know what it's like when people impose on you and annoy you and you're subconsciously worried about being that imposing person to someone who's quieter than you?
Just thinking in keystrokes.
Since I've learned to get along with many personality types (studied body language, learned good eye contact habits, studied personality types and conversation styles, did a lot of theater, etc.) I can generally manage/adapt in most social situations even if it draining.
My husband is perhaps more introverted than I am. I think he is an ISTP, but I'm not positive. Oddly, some site I read once said INTPs and ISTPs would be a terrible match in love, though they might make good friends. But in pre-marriage counseling we apparently matched well on the test we did and the Pastor called us a "vitalized couple" - apparently the healthiest balance you can get. I think it helps that we have similar ethics and communication styles. In five years of marriage, we haven't even fought yet. Sometimes I think it would be nice if he could join me in a brainstorm, but I love how stable and calming he is and his slightly dark sense of humor.
I also find it amusing that we drive strong F types nuts by not talking for ten minutes at a time or that we don't constantly say "I love you" to each other (maybe a few times a month at most, as both of us want it to be meaningful and not a platitude.)
Also listen to them. INTPs have a lot of cool things to talk about and a lot of theories to share with you, but they'll only do that if they're sure that you actually listen to them, give feedback and ask questions. If you value their interests, they'll value yours 10 times more. If you want to seduce an INTP, just listen to them. It's a double win, you learn stuff and seduce them at the same time.
Indeed. There is nothing I hate more than people who only listen to themselves and that don't use knowledge to deal with their problems. Too much spontaneity (some is ok) and not reasoning enough are huge let downs for me, especially when I am interested in that person.
He said that in the video...
But yes, i agree 100%
That is so true, if you really listen they can talk for hours. My ex is an INTP and we used to talk on the phone literally for hours (I most listen than talk). Such a brain.
He mentioned that.
I can confirm that because sometimes I feel like my thoughts are annoying so I try really hard to keep what I say in a sentence. But if someone actually wanted to hear me talk.....just wow.
step one: be unobtrusive.
step two: be interesting.
there you go.
What if someone is obtrusive to talk about things that an intp finds interesting or useful?
🤣🤣🤣
Akiyama Joji hm.... well, I would welcome that.
But it better be an interesting topic lol-
@@freshprince69 you mean ENTP? We'll allow it - me, INTP
Step 3:dont say anything stupid
My first impression towards the statement “how to seduce an INTP” was “don’t”
Eh, we can be creative and skilled in bed. I remember when I first started having sex, I was stunned how bad some people were at it. It's like when you are super nervous you're going to look incompetent at a new job, so you study really hard, and then the first day you slowly realize everyone there is an idiot, and the job isn't nearly as hard as they led on.
@@Virtuoso80 I haven't done the s thing but I believe I'm above average bcs I care more on my partner satisfaction
Elza Shinta Honestly, just that, that we're interested in more than just us getting off ourselves (because really, if that's all we want why would we need them?), is I think why I've literally never met someone dating and sexually active with an INTP who was even a little bit unhappy with how they were in bed. After all, isn't it the other person that makes it interesting in the first place?
Or as my first boyfriend said "It's you quiet ones. Where did you…?"
"I read a lot of erotica. A LOT."
HOWEVER. If someone you're sleeping with asks you how they stack up and encourages you to be honest, unless you can *honestly* GUSH about how great it was, or you're EXCEPTIONALLY confident in your close-quarters lying skills, SHUT UP.
SHUT UP SHUT UP *SHUT UP.* I don't recommend ANY kind of verbal concrit *AT ALL.* If you want/need them to change something, just *physically* show them, seduce them into it (while making sure to check for consent beforehand where necessary, obviously). If you aren't invested in their improvement for whatever reason and they didn't really impress you, *change the subject.* Claim you need to gather more data and screw them to sleep or until they forget it.
But don't TELL anyone they could do better in bed. It NEVER ends well.
@@elzashinta753 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 #ENFP here.. lol
This is the best comments discussion ever! 😂😂😂
Who else is here to pick up tips on seducing oneself? 🙋🏽♀️
Me lmao
How to seduce an INTP
Be INFP.
Meeee, I figured no one else would try it on me so I figured I’d mentally seduce myself
💀🤣💀🤣💀
@@condotiero860 loll 😂 I'm weak
We’re cats...if you can’t take cats as pets, you won’t be able to handle a relationship with an INTP.
Truth!
Lu
EXCELLENT description!
c n 😂 half the time to hook up with an INTP all you'd really need to do is say "I am sexually attracted to you but don't want to make any emotional demands of your person. If you reciprocate, let's find a time and place"- unambiguous, direct, unemotional, and somehow full of distance.
Same way you can lure a stray cat with a one-off pleasure like foot or being petted but you can only lure them into your home by like, leaving the door open and being somehow both unobtrusive and available when we randomly and apropos of nothing want affection 😂
This is how I'm going to simplify it for people from now on. We're just cats.
@@ellieb.1231 you have so much right
💀😅💀😅💀
The only quick decisions I make is when I have to figure out how to kindly get rid of company
Seducing an INTP via an INTJ = intellectual engagement.
Talk about ideas, theories, facts & dreams.
They will be puddy in your hands if you keep them intellectually curious..
not like they want you to know that tho...
The brain is always the gateway to the INTP soul!
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also, yes.
Ande Andrea ahaha krieger come here
Ande Andrea And then you get friend zoned.
I don’t know what that means. I’m the one that friendzones people not the other way around. I never like anyone anyhow so everyone is always friend zoned lol
Ande Andrea That’s exactly my point. When I befriend and try to seduce in INTP by having stimulating intellectual conversations, we get along great, spend most days together, and then she wants to be friends.
Oh yes well, in all honesty it can be hard to tell when an intp to very interested. I usually pay attention to subtle ques, I would say go into all female interactions assuming friends unless she shows interest otherwise
And also, don't be too serious with all the intellectual stuff. Good to be curious and explore many interesting ideas, but it's also important to be self aware. We hate confrontational arguments. That's why I think I hit it off so well with ENTPs. Me and my ENTP best friend would talk and argue about various things, but not for the sake of being right but because it is very energizing for us to come up with different ideas and perspectives to see where it leads us.
As an INTP with an ENTP best friend I agree with this. The key is that both of us are healthy/mature and know when the other is making sense and when they’re not. We both take the good parts of the other’s ideas and add our own parts to create our own similar but different idea. I also think it’s important that we both think about the bigger picture so when one of us starts talking about the bigger picture the other doesn’t get frustrated because they want to keep talking about the details.
@@dtho8542 That is exactly the case with my friend. It's cool that we don't have to worry about little things like hurting each other's feelings. Because we don't have any. 😄
I also have an ENTP best friend, and I agree.
damn, I wish I had an entp friend
We are like clams. Except, you can't pry us open. You have to make us comfortable enough to voluntarily open up to you.
Very well said! ~ Nathan
Heavy amounts of sarcasm work too!...
Hell yeah. Sarcasm tends to hit me critically.
As an INTP, yeah I find sarcasm is annoying, and I prefer honest statement from people... In the othe side, I intentionally always use sarcasm in my daily life 😅
@@maelstrom_13 You do all the things that you hate in other people. Isn't that why you kinda hate yourself? Y/N
~Fellow INTP
Harshita Joshi
Wow.....thats deep. Im an intp as well and Im impressed. You know, if someone said that to me I’d pretty much be seduced all ready😂
@@littlesadeo
*Bows*
Thank you, thank you. I do love paise.
Why many INTPs watch this??
They have neverbeen seduced successfully ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@NathanJGlass I wish you well!
I'm quite annoyed that I never got to read his comments down here 🙄
To protect ourselves 😊
overkill, better to just assume that we're a couple.
It will not work if I'm not interested. Otherwise it's a good idea.
ROFL
It could work if you're our type. Or introverted as well. But if you're not then it could just be annoying.
Are you an INTJ?
Honestly, since my best male friend at uni told me AT GRADUATION that he'd been interested in me for years (to my uteer ignorance), even though most of me is like
"If I don't want you and you impose yourself on me, I WILL CUT YOU."…
Actually, no, it's just that. If you're already going to assume you're with an INTP, why not ensure they're on the same page and explicitly say "So, we're dating."
Honestly they'll probably be surprised, look at you for a minute, and if remotely amenable (or just curious) eventually say "…huh. Sure, why not."
Boom. No ambiguity, and no STALKING.
Yep, can confirm all of this as an INTP. If you can manage to be present without being bothersome or imposing, then that's definitely a huge step on its own. We usually prefer to be alone i think. But on rare occasion we'll come across a person that makes us feel the comfort of being alone mixed with the "fun" (for lack of a better term) of being with another person. That's a big winner 🏆
INTP here. I dated an INFP for a while. His mind was fascinating. I was never bored around him.
I would like to know too
What was dating an infp like?
@SHUBHANKAR SHARMA 💭💭💭💭💭
Also wondering why it didn't work
She didn't give an answer but an important factor beyond personality type is the level of maturity of each one. Or sometimes the goals and feelings just don't align. Two mature INFP guys might have totally different views of the world and objectives so there are a lot of factors.
Sorry if you ppl were looking for a simple, end-all, defining answer lol
ENTJ here.
I love INTPs! Their intelligence is the sexiest thing and i also find their social awkwardness very charming.
Especially seeing the people around them being soo scandalized.
But i gotta admit, i am not so sure how to approach them without them jumping out the window.
I am afraid that my natural forwardness will push them away, because they sometimes have the asexual vibe goin on (maybe that's what makes them attractive? ).
I respect ENTJ's, they make the best bosses and leaders and I find they can handle my style of humor and give back equally much :)
My boyfriend is an ENTJ (pretty sure; he hasn't given enough craps about the MBPTI to take it) and he basically approached me through a proxy 😂. But he could have been direct, too.
If you're interested in an INTP it's best to just tell them. If you say "I'd like to know if you're interested or not, and if not it won't change our friendship-- get back to me" (and that's consistent with your behavior so they can believe you), that's probably enough.
You may be met with skepticism just because most INTPs' first reaction to compliments is to see if the person needs visual aid 😂. Of course nothing about a personality stops someone from being pretty or handsome naturally but since a lot of INTPs aren't putting effort into attractiveness-sometimes the exact opposite- we generally don't anticipate OR trust compliments of appearance.
We so cerebral that we can DEFINITELY give off that ace vibe, but in my experience, it's kind of the opposite. Like, stupid levels of horny, which we CONTROL in public because… because public? But I understand your confusion. My friends and family have often been surprised I have urges (or act on them) at all. My boyfriend has had to adjust to me at random during a three hour discussion on X nerdy thing or a gaming session just… straddling him without warning.
He hasn't complained though 😜
Which is how you approach them. "I want to share experiences and interests with you. I want to know what you think. I also have a physical *and* romantic interest (no we are not likely to assume the one with the other) in you and want to try dating and see where it goes. How much of that do you also want to do?"
We don't like hints or games or lies or hyperbolic compliments or anything ungenuine. Socialization is difficult enough without knowing what people mean, and romantic relationships are among the most complicated no matter what. Make it easiest for us AND you by being as open, honest, and direct as you can, and giving us the space and time toto come to you, if that makes sense.
We are simple to approach and we will give you an honest answer. If we say we need to think about it or get back to you that is NOT a rejection- it means we need to think about and get back to you. But I think you'll find once we're in, we're in.
Also we tend to be naturally monogamous just because there is a STRICT LIMIT to how and how much we generally like to deal with people. I'm not saying we can't be poly if that's your thing, but if infidelity is a worry, I've literally never heard of an INTP doing that who wasn't in an abusive relationship.
Another comment said we're like cats. We seem aloof and like we love nothing and are easily misunderstood. But when we are loyal it's for life, even though our love can look more like randomly meeting your needs and knowing EVERYTHING YOU HAVE EVER TOLD US ABOUT YOU than, like, roses 😂
We don't make it obvious but we would easily give our lives for people we love. We fall in love with someone, we will do *everything* in our power to make them happy and healthy and prosperous and safe. Like, if an INTP loves you, and you get cancer, or lose all your money, they'll still be right there. You get old, you get scarred, you suffer tragedy, they'll be right there.
We aren't doormats. People often get exactly one opportunity to betray us and we may never trust them again. But I don't think it's so difficult to not betray your INTP, and if you just love them in return I doubt you'll find a more (quietly) devoted partner. Often awkward AF expressing it, but we FEEL a good deal more deeply than we seem to.
This video is a pretty good guide. Honest, blunt, don't demand an immediate answer (or we WILL default to our basic social setting of "NO"). Like a cat jumping on to the one person not constantly reaching to pet them, if we know you like us and we can like you back on our own terms, intermittently, judged neither for choosing to be affectionate not happening to appear distant…
Well, at that point your issue may be getting RID of the INTP 🤣
(though that is also as simple as a direct and honest discussion)
Good luck! And if you find your INTP just literally never considered you in a romantic or sexual way, that is not a rejection either! It's just like, you don't make assumptions about what kind of driver everyone you meet is, right? Or what dance moves they'd have? If we've never considered you in a context it doesn't mean we've made some assumption that you don't belong in that context, just that we literally haven't thought about it. It honestly just makes it better that you've introduced the idea of "You: Romantic Interest" to the INTP because they might literally NEVER have gotten there and made the first move.
Believe it or not but we need an upfront person because we're realist and it balances us a bit since we're like a recluse. We appreciate honesty as long as you don't talk too much or become emotionally draining.
@Sans Gaming I don't think sensing types should be cyber-bullied at all, they're fascinating and realistic individuals. In what platform of the internet cyber-bullied you?
- entp
@Sans Gaming Im talking about you being cyberbullied, backread your previous reply.
-entp
Here is my experience with the INTP female, and I am an ENTJ male.
We both are engineering majors, so we have had quite a few classes together. I met her after she solved a complicated math problem on a board in my math class. She gained my respect and admiration, and we became really good friends after that. We use to spend time together in between classes. Yes she struggles to make decisions, and basically always tells me to make them for her. The following semester we took all of our classes together. I relied on her for a lot of academic help because I am kinda lazy sometimes, and she relied on me in other classes. She is competitive, but it's not really transparent. She didn't like being beaten. For instance I scored higher than her on a few exams where I put in less effort studying than she did, and it annoys her so much. I tease her about it to annoy her from time to time. Hahah. We also talked about our futures together, and how we would start a company together. She LOVED the idea. Basically we were around each other ALL the time, and I started to catch feelings for her. I use to call her "love" so that she would get the hints, but she didn't at all. Then i started calling her "baby" and "babe", but she still didn't catch on. I got her multiple presents that she wanted, wrote her sweet notes..and she thought I was just being nice. Fast forward like a few months and she mentioned she was going on a date with someone, and I was caught offguard.. So I let her know about my feelings, and she said that she never really saw us in that way and that she doesn't want to lose me, and all this bs and etc. Well now I'm in this very weird position cause I LOVE her as a friend, and I have romantic feelings towards her because we are so freaking compatible and she is literally good at everything I suck at.. her brain is amazing. I guess I need to end the friendship even though there is such great connection, but sometimes I think the exact opposite and wish to remain friends.
Advice: If you like an INTP and you guys are friends initially.. let them know about your feelings sooner that way you won't waste too much time. Else you will be stuck in the friendzone like I am..
Edit: I've moved ago quite some time ago..probably been around 2 years or so. I found myself an INFP girl, and I can't put into words how much I cherish her! Will type up the story here once I get a chance!
Hang in there, don't eliminate her from your life completely but at the same time don't wait on her and find others to date. Don't get mad at her for dating someone else, keep being positive around her and show her that she'll have positive and fun experiences when she's around you and when she talks to you. Keep seeking out her advice. INTPs love it when they feel like their advice and help is appreciated. Let her come to the conclusion that you're the best match for her on her own. INTPs hate feeling like we're being rushed into decisions without given time to analyze and think it through, especially big decisions like whether she should date you or not.
@@Anon123anon You can always find someone new, and who knows maybe even better. Time makes everything pass, if you let it go in about a year you'll have forgotten the feels at most. Hang on :) Of course, it will seem like no one else can match her because love is like a fixation. As soon as it's gone you'll clearly see there are other options and maybe in some time your preferences will have changed and aligned to like another type of person. Then Maybe, when you fall in love with someone else in an entirely different way thats more wholesome you'll finally understand why she didn't see that you guys had a romantic connection. Maybe she's right.
What I have learned in my life is that feelings are never constant. I don't give much thought or credit to them because of that, and im an INFP(ithink) lol
I’m INTP. Try to look at the relationship as a friendship first. It doesn’t have to be all (relationship) or nothing (no interaction), there is some value with a grey (friendship) area even if it’s not ideal. Then if it evolves into a relationship someday then that’s great. If you just gain a good friend that’s good too.
Don't try to sell her on it with "feelings." She will think that's flaky. Make an argument for long-term compatibility, but keep it light, no pressure. The part about being there while being quiet... golden. If you can do that plus show her how you can take care of a lot of the day-to-day things so she can focus uninterrupted on her inner mind's pet project... invaluable.
-- INTP married to an ESTJ.
@@Anon123anon I once told my now-husband that I didn't think we were all that compatible... but 2 years later things changed as I got older and wanted different things in life. INTPs tend to marry late in life, if at all. We are P not J, and so take FOREVER in making decisions, but once the decision is made we rarely second guess it. You can't pressure us into making a decision either because unfortunately, it's a turn-off... we are still in the info-gathering stage and just aren't ready. It could be she's not rejecting you per se, she just doesn't have all the information she needs to make a decision yet... thus, she is still dating other people. STAY FRIENDS with this girl. And see my other comment in this thread re: how my ESTJ husband has made himself invaluable to me and why I never want to be without him.
I'm an INTP and I've notice that every guy I like are quiet ones, like,,, I rarely hear them talk.
Same 😭
Hehe We love the mystery, but I don’t think that’s the kind of person we often end up with bc someone of us gotta speak up sometime and we know that’s not gonna happen haha
@@windshieldlaugh7411 tru tho. I've never ended up with any of them lmao
This wasn't so much about seduction as it was about how to be tolerated by an INTP.
Ikr , should change the title
INTPs are tolerant to everyone though
@@readerofareader Are we? I'm not.
@@SpaceCattttt so much they can tolerate . They will not speak to you
@@Moodboard39 I'm an INTP. Does that mean I should tolerate fools?
That would be......foolish.
Now thinking what would seduce me..
I'm attracted to smart, honest, fun people. I actually like a little physical contact here and there although it's a bit of an odd feeling at first.
What gets my attention is things like life hacks. Little practical solutions that people come up with when the item(s) they would normally use aren't there. Ingenuity/thinking on your feet.
Other than that, people who are direct. Say what they mean/want. People.that just say 'I like you'. As dating mind games are not my thing. I dont wanna guess if you like me, I'm bad at it.
R R , is that because you are yourself like that (with the life-hacks) or you desire someone to be like that? I'd say it sounds like Ti+Ne combination
@@PowerRedBullTypology Why is it Ti+Ne? Why couldnt it be Te+Ni?
@@NicoleQuimper
Te Ni would more likely frame those activities as making just the right solution to the particular little problem for which there wasn't a specific tool, until now, or as the best way to make a particular tool given a set of materials.
The solutions for regular stuff made out of random things when the regular tool isn't available view is typical of the Ti Ne mindset.
Practical and direct... i think you are into slavs bro
IevaBailar what’s a “slavs”?
as an intp, maybe you can relate: so your walking a girl home and she asks if your wanna come in for a coffee and you respond "sry i dont like coffee" and walk off, only realizing years later what she actually meant. naturally, we are so clueless at this kind of thing, you have to be REALLY blunt at some point, else we might not get it.
Yuup (but for me it was a Guy,I did ens Up going into His apartment but only after he xlarified that he just wanted to spend more time with me alone lol
This made me chuckle. INTP's are fun.
This actually happened to me too 😅 The guy asked me if I wanted to have some coffee together and my reply was "I just had one" and got back to my business. Some hours later after talking with a friend I realized that he just wanted to hang out with me. Intps are just clueless sometimes and we seem rude when we're actually just stating facts
IS THIS A SEINFELD REFRENCE
Am I the only INTP trying to seduce oneself
People: *seeking tips on how to seduce INTPs*
Me: *seeking ways to avoid being seduced for the incredibly unlikely chance that it may happen*
as a female intp. i am rlly attracted to smart and socially intelligent guys. a person who can start conversations and keep them going and most importantly, a person who is curious to know me, asks me questions and is willing to listen to me talk about my interests. Also, people who know what they're doing and have lots of knowledge so i can learn from them. Sharing the same sense of humor is rlly important bc mine is rlly dark and can offend ppl lmao.
INTROVERT: "We want to be alone..., but not by our self." - Patrice O'Neal
The fact that there's some ENTJ in the comments who profess a romantic interest in us, female INTPs, gives me hope that the idea of pairing me with one is possible.
Any luck?
INTP female with an ENTJ boyfriend of almost 4 years. He honestly talks my ear off too often -_-
True that. They're making me shift towards them instead of my usual types who are Fe-users for a bit.
An ENTJ guy asked me out on a date recently
-Get the intp talking about what really interests them. Due to their fe, they will probably politely stay at any boring topic, unable to change the subject. A good, deep conversation means a lot.
-Have confidence to do the first step but DONT be too eager or annoy them. Let them do the second.
-Balance their weaknesses. Ti ist extremely nihilistic, so have a strong moral compass and empathy. Socially skilled. Able to make desicions.
-Take them on adventures. They spend too much time in their head, so getting their adrenaline pumping is a great way of seducing them.
Looked at the title and was going to hop in assuming I could say "This won't work", but.. to be fair, I've never met anyone who can do these three things combined yet. Let alone even 1 of them for any extended period of time. I'd probably fall flat on my face for someone who could do all three for even a day. Okay, probably not, but I'd give them the benefit of the doubt a little longer than I do most others.
I'm an INTP. I get along with more outgoing, intelligent people who have quite a dark/offensive sense of humour - so mostly XNTJs. I like people who will listen to me and have long conversations with me about things I find interesting. I don't show it much but I also like hugs/physical touch, even though I'm rarely the one to initiate it.
When trying to impress an INTP with your intellect, just remember it's a catch-22. They want to be inside their own head problem-solving, and don't have a lot of spare energy for debating/talking. Intellectually challenging content is everywhere and easily accessed online - it's a "dime a dozen," cheap. I'm with an ESTJ and he admits he feigned interest in the topics I talked incessantly about on our first dates, and honestly, his tolerance for that was enough for me.
He was funny, highly social, and put me at ease. He LOVES that he can go hang out with his friends whenever he wants and I don't make a scene or care about it - I'm busy doing my own thing every day. We spend our quality time cooking and eating meals together, joking and laughing at our inside jokes, and snuggling up to watch a series together if he can find one that interests me. Otherwise, he watches what he likes while I do my own thing... together, foot rubs and all.
Which brings me to the caveat emptor of choosing an INTP... I'm basically having an open affair with my laptop and I will wear headphones to focus on what I'm doing if he's making noise doing something I have no interest in. But he also challenges me to come out of my comfort zone and focus more on health and fitness, and to attend the odd social event here and there, which while a little unpleasant (or a lot), helps me feel like my life is more balanced and healthy.
If you want to really BE with an INTP, offer them something of REAL PRACTICAL VALUE while challenging them to come out of their shell here and there. My ESTJ runs a tight ship at home, and every time I enter a room I'm charmed by his attention to all the mundane details of life. The car always gets its oil changed on time, there is always food in the fridge, and I never run out of clean socks and underwear... etc. It makes me never want to be without him.
@@NathanJGlass Thanks for the invitation, Nathan! I will consider it :)
As an intp girl/woman as cliche as it sounds I get attracted to intelligent People instantly ,like I hear someone talking about a complex subject in a detailed manner and also starting their sources and I just fall for them 😭
Same as an INTP Female
INTP here im trying to lowkey see if enyone is making their play
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I'm just here to reconfirm if I am indeed an INTP again, while also examining if MBTI is even valid
@@schuylerpablico8300 Not 100% valid.
Absolutely! Any time I don’t have to package my thoughts for someone, it is SO much more enjoyable to talk with them and exchange of ideas flows so much more naturally
1:19 I’m thinking of making an autobiography titled “no time to think”. This is how you can immediately tell if you’re dealing with an intp. If they’re in a stressful situation and they say “let me think”, intp 100%.
2:18 I’ve always imagined myself being much better in the role of advisor than the role of decision maker.
Edit: this is why I suck at timed chess
Well, I generally avoid anything having to do with intimacy, but I can confirm this to be true as an INTP.
This is good, Nathan. I’d love to see seducing the types extended. Especially, for INTP and INFJ.
Noted!
Be direct in your advances. Leave no room for doubt, because we will.
Felt like the video was just getting good when it ended. Left wanting more.
INTP here! This was so relaxing to listen to. I love the way you articulated these suggestions, and I agree with your advice!
What I have gained from the points
Point 1) one of my favorite songs is “sat in silence” by before you exit
Point 2) as an ENTP young teen I was learning to develop 🕵🏻♀️👩🏻💻Ti....my mom was an Se dominant 🤣
Point 3) when you said just listen...it reminded me of how many domineering people in society have their way with expressing their opinions, yet refuse other, more passive aggressive people’s opinions.
You got it in 1, chuckle chin. Which is to say, I was just telling Mom earlier today that I am not a person who always needs to be alone. I like to have the promise of people, without the actual people. Or, for them to at least be in another room doing their own thing, sometimes.
This makes me miss listening to the insights of my INTP friend. I think INTP’s heart is in their brain.
As an intp yup ,if I'm rambling about my newest interest /topic like for eg AI and really going into detail that just means I'm comftarble with you and that I feel safe enough to be myself :)
I’m an ENTP crushing hard on an INTP. Thankfully all my siblings are pretty introverted individuals, so I have some idea of “ how to win over an Introvert “ . Honestly though, I’ve been trying out these points and my crush has definitely opened up to me more. I just can’t tell if he’s actually into me or thinks of me as a friend.
Yeah like Nathan says you have to make your intentions known eventually but I'd also add it's a good idea to do these points for a while to build attraction first before asking if they feel the same way.
I mean, you could just ask how they feel. Them being a male and an INTP increases the possibility that they will be oblivious to your cues, or nervous to approach you, so it would probably be helpful to him if you just asked him if he dug you too. And if he does, he'll not only be overjoyed that you share his interest, he will respect and value your honesty.
I can confirm as an INTP what the others replied to you. Took her a direct approach for me to 100% know she was interested. I would not show that I was. ;)
Fear of rejection and overthinking make me just want to chat and ask not related stuffs that hide inside knowledge to learn more about her. Then, she just asked me after all the intellectual clues.
It turned out that he didn’t like me hahaha 😅. Anyways, life goes on! Thanks all for your inputs, I think I’ll tell the next introvert guy a lot sooner, so I don’t waste so much time.
Well, as an INTP, I like people who respects my thoughts I spilled to them, at the same time giving honest feedbacks, not truths for them, but opinions. If the conclusion is still unclear, then we’d just come up with “we never know”...
"...doesn't need to actually be alone, just needs to feel...unbothered...by you" Best description ever.
''INTP doesn't necessarily need to be alone, they just need to feel unbothered by you!'' Spot on! I want to print this and hang it on my wall!
02:00 "Give them some fair warning so they can... completely overthing it" 😂
For anyone wanting to understand generalized INTPs better, I'd like to note that it's not uncommon for us to enjoy some areas that have a sort of controlled chaos. No joke, one of my greatest pleasures in life is experiencing the mosh pit at a heavy metal show; for others it might be driving fast cars skillfully on a track, the stock market, or a study of war tactics
I'm a female intp and I must say this...
Back when I was younger I don't really remember what specific time but my classmate confessed his "feelings" to me, right in the middle of a DISCUSSION..
Of course I was literally taking notes...and I was pretty interested in the topic then so I rejected him literally while I'm taking notes..
Of course, I was not trying to be rude so I told him "I don't see you that way, I'm sorry...But I can offer you friendship?"..
That's not the exact words but yeah..👍👍 and he accepted it even though he acted hurt..
Than for a few days he kept bugging me, and spread rumors about how he was courting me..
Of course I was denying all the allegations...
When after a while I finally had enough when I heard from a classmate that he was telling everyone that I was his girlfriend, and was just too shy to admit it...
Like what?!, I was just peacefully trying to study and living my highschool life than what??..
I admit I was pretty harsh when I confronted him Infront of our classmates...
But I really had enough, and I don't know what had gotten into me...
I must admit I have a pretty low patience, and Sometimes I'm pretty blunt with my words and I was already Tolerating him, talked to him before the "incident", to please stop spreading rumors...
But all he did was apologize and told me he would stop doing it until the next day I hear another rumor😖...
So yeah that's the story of how I humiliated him, which I was regreting a lot now😖😩
This succinctly explains how to get along with this INTP. Not sure I would be seduced by it, but it is a bare minimum start. I appreciate your distinction between interaction and imposition. Basically "interact with me, just don't be dumb".
@@NathanJGlass Great piece regardless of the title. :-)
haha, INTP with developed Se go BRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
(fun fact, i got mistyped as an ISTP. only when i actually learned the functions and stuff have i realised that the tests are sort of bullshit.)
„Make sure they have the time to overthink it.“
Oh boy, I’m so good at overthinking.
Pls catch me on that fine line between „I can’t, because I have not thought about it enough“ and „I can’t, I’m currently having an anxiety attack from thinking to much.“
You made this harder than it has to be. Blunt honesty is probably the best way. Anything where no subtext reading or hint gathering about how you feel or what you want is required.
If we're talking 'seduction', two quiet introverts might be nice, but Ne wants what Ne wants. Which is lots of new ideas and patterns. Si wants to take away the good things and store them forever for happy feelings about those wonderful new experiences (through Ti of course - this works!... this is crap!). The last thing it wants is to loop. Its comfy, for sure. And we can do it to the very end of days, but its the new things that fire us up; the stuff we didnt account for in our former Ti-Si loop. INTPs want to be dragged (kicking and screaming) out of our comfort zone. But on exactly our terms. So for seduction, just plant the seed and let it germinate. I remember my INFJ friend dropping in snowboarding at random for our holiday one year instead of some random city (hong kong - id already done the 'tour' of it with a former gf - si looping: ive done this before, it was enjoyable, i can do this again and also add information to my companions = Fe).
You can bet once the gag-reflex abated (every intp's response to anything new), i started reading up on it (give it time and every single intp will think 'was i being a bit hasty), got excited, bought the gear, then a few weeks before the trip went out of my way to check it out on a nearby slope on my own and with absolutely no skill determined to teach myself. I bruised my ass and could barely walk for for those two weeks. What i learned was garbage (apparently, like swimming, a manual (youtube vids) doesnt help all that much), still, i had that valuable Fe info about bruising your coxxyc and how to help my friends avoid it.
But by the time of the trip i was super stoked. I was completely seduced not only by the idea of the great tricks i would definitely pull off if i didnt have this terrible rental, but also by the person who put that thought in my head and seemed to be inside my head. How did she know? Next thing you know im a mod on an international winter-sports website and fully invested myself in the most expensive hobby known to humanity writing guides on snowboard tech (until i realised i was pretty crap at ACTUALY snowboarding, and it hurt too much attempting progression... though i know that if i picked it up ten years earlier (mid 30s), i would definitely have nailed this thing - classic intp)). But i still remember how easily she tweaked my buttons and i absolutely love her for it.
But i know what youre thinking: why this memory (si)?
A) She introduced something entirely new.
B) She didnt push it.
C) It set in motion an obsession that lasted over ten years.
D) When i get hyped about a Jake Blauvelt video, i still think about that one moment over 15 years ago and the person who set this whole train in motion.
E) She could read me like a book. And i really admire that. The amount of chaff your standard INTP sprays is formidable. If you still see them through it, they'll never forget you (Ti-Si looping).
F) So we will never forget you. And if you ever find yourself in trouble at any point in your life, if you gave something unique and beautiful to an INTP they will always be there for you if and when you need them. And it doesnt remotely matter if i) we're sexually attracted to you or ii) if we havent (and LIKELY havent) talked to you in 14 years. The second you are in trouble, an intp you befriended way back when will be in your corner. Time doesnt exist in the Si child universe.
I mean, if you're talking seduction... eternal loyalty from a (built up though apparently) fleeting moment 3 decades ago probably hits the spot.
Now, if we're talking physical seduction: Just show you can see through our bullshit. Because we can, and maybe not at the time (emotions are a train wreck to an intp - every time an emotion strongly imposes itself upon us, we are sure it must be correct because why would we feel this way if it wasnt), but upon reflection we hate ourselves for it (Fe once again). If you fell for it, you didnt make the cut. If you called us out for our manipulation... you better believe a few days later and in the cold light of day, we're going to start thinking you're perhaps the one person that can actually fix whatever the hell this is and obsess over you. Sorry... its not entirely good news. But its an avenue i suppose.
My husband is an INTP, from trial and error, I can confirm this is pretty accurate advise
I can be quite spontaneous, cause if I think, "I want to do this," I know I won't stop wanting to do it until I do it. Like haircuts lol or going somewhere fun. However, when it comes to serious decisions, I can never decide.
Another thing to add is humor. I can't stand people who are super serious, so also have humor and don't take things so seriously.
But yeah these are spot on, be interested in what we like and don't be exhausting.
I think this video just made me realise why I hate when strangers are blunt with their "flirting" ie "you're beautiful" or "can i take you out" or "can i have your number" from people i don't know or am not comfortable with. It feels imposing or entitled to me.
Meanwhile I much prefer and need the people I'm close with to be as blunt as possible with me. Whether we're dating or not.
Talk psychology and/or philosophy with me. That gets me feeling some type of way 👀
Nathan Glass
Yeah. Theres just something about a girl who can quote Nietzche or Sartre or give her opinion about the ideas of Søren Kirkegard...
Exactly!
The trick to seducing a male INTP in my experience is to just go for it. For example, male INTP shows interest in you. This is more subtle than more, and is usually just done by giving you attention. You don't need to say anything just pounce. If you don't want to pounce, get naked. Or maybe take their hand to a private space and then get naked. Just be direct, they won't make the first move usually.
Just be there not expecting much from us, and we'll give you everything
Don't talk about things we don't understand and we can't learn, instead you can talk about interesting topics and see how we can turn it into a interesting situation (if we don't, we don't wanna talk to you)
And the most important DON'T try to shut down what we want to say or think, if we want to share someting with you that means we think you can be interested and that's someting really unusual, if you shut us up we'll instantly loose interest as we start realizing we didn't have a conection of that level, in most cases INTPs can feel that no one is interested in what we want to say and feel totally apart from a world we don't completely understand and doesn't wanna understand us
We can be seem rude in the outside but it's really easy for us to feel lonely, the best you can do? Don't let us feel that way
Interestingly, all of these applied to me, an INFP, but then I do behave like an INTP in lots of ways. What am I
INFPs are very similar to INTPs, dun worry.
It could mean that you go half and half with T and F part of your personality like I do! Even I do lean more to INTP my result it was only by 3%, so I do show traits of both of them.
@@funmi8929 This is actually true of me as well. It is very interesting to have that balance between F and T
TheHollyestHolly yeah like for me I notice that I have a better understanding of my feelings but I use logic to understand how other people feel
Funmi Oh my, I’M NOT THE ONLY ONE IN THAT STUPID SITUATION!! FINALLY SOMEONE ELSE XD
Nope , even most introverts won't handle the introvert nature in the INTP's , the 3 rules you mention it only fit in one person , that person live inside INTP's head , also that theoretical character will be the most loving - loyal - trusted from anyone in the external world , anyone else come after :D
I'm not INTP tho , my brother is , I'm ENTP.
I bet INFJs will do
the first part is very true. I have always said my ideal partner is 1. someone I can have an intellectual conversation with and 2. someone I can sit quietly in a room with. Somehow this is very hard to find.
1. Be very, very interesting
2. Let INTP come to you
3. Let INTP c- ;)
Aw, the listening part reminds me of NT Support. I feel they frequently talked over or at least didn't leave enough room for the INTP, which I found mildly offensive.
"feel free, to blame yourself" so true,
-INTP
Why am I watching this when I already know all this and it works for me, I guess I just wanted to be sure 100% lol
- INFJ
Seduce me by having passionate hobbies and completely ignoring me.
I have once again come to the conclusion that I'm an INTP... but I'll probably start rethinking that decision in a couple of days.
Give them food and like their logic. If they look grumpy leave them alone.
both me and my girlfriend are intp. good thing we're still together lol
Dont be too clingy, compliment the way we talk,walk, say or type things. Because most of are really awkward and feel so much more different than the rest. If an INTP feels like they're bothering you they will never text you again. Physical touch is so attractive 🥴😌
Honestly I'm not even here for the seduction. I just figured that the info in this video could potentially help me develope stronger friendships with INTP's
same
oh shit! that was short and sweet.
That is more relationship advice rather than getting their interest for the first time.
As INTPs we'd like to be understood, but that's hard. Some can get in our headspace easier than others; that's just the way life is.
For actually catching an INTP; we are like puppies, and knowledge is like a bacon strip, figure out his favorite flavor.
Just be a genius and able to keep up with their minecraft. Sold.
As an INTP, I can say full heartedly, games only exhaust me. I have a heart of gold, and it comes on strong when I like you. So if you are only attracted to those who pretend they don't want you is not an endeavor I will embark on.
I will not wait 3 days to text you if I like you, I will not abstain from showing you the real me right off the bat.
I'm a complete mystery until the moment I know I like you, and then I'm an open book.
If you want to keep the mystery, don't talk to me and don't seduce me.
I offer boundless mental energy, and physical affection. What I don't offer is restraint or a game of tag.
If that's not ok with you, leave me alone.
Couldn't agree more. Games are just so exhausting, and I think for us it is particularly so. We're not strong with our emotions, and we can already be oblivious to these kinds of cues, so to make a game out of something we already don't have a stable handle on is brutal, and then we look like we're not interested in someone that likes us when we do like them, we're just lost as to how we were intended to react. Then we risk driving them away, as they get the idea we're not into them.
And games implying a lot of dishonesty, or at the very least a hiding of truths. If someone likes me, it would be nice if they just told me, instead of saying coy things once a week to see if a spark lights in my eyes. For males, it's already up to us in a dating scenario to make the move with a woman, so making the road to that destination full of obstacles or confusing games that can be confused with red herrings is frustrating. It would be wonderful if women just came up to us, shook us by the shoulders, confessed their feelings and asked if we felt the same too. But the world sadly isn't like that.
Why are people trying to _seduce_ me..can you not?! Lol
@M Rod haha no i meant it more that the word is so funny and weird to me.. i think its more about matching humour, attraction etc.. but still a good explanation to what this type would response to.. & im not annoyed when someone is trying to get to know me or anything haha 😄
Perfect information for roommates, teammates, and coworkers, too!
May I have some suggestions on how to show my INTP mentor respect and appreciation? My verbal appreciation and compliments, while genuine, make him noticeably uncomfortable.
Well I can definitely see why those things would make them uncomfortable but that doesn't necessarily mean they don't enjoy getting compliments nonetheless. I think a really good thing to convey to them is that the advice they have given actually worked in reality and made a difference to the outcome. Essentially it's about validating their logic and their ideas! ~ Nathan
@@lovewhoAwesome advice! His logic is always helpful. I agree that focusing on that is a better idea than my usual pouring my ENFJ syrup everywhere. lol Thank you for the help! 🙂☀️
Great one Nathan. I guess you don't have to make longer vids, even though they'd be much appreciated.
At your ease INTPs.
Insights are like jewels, a little is still a lot, because they're precious.
@@NathanJGlass I was refering to your insightfull jewels of course.
@@NathanJGlass True; but I'm sure a bunch, if not bunches, will enjoy a longer, fifteenish, overview; Especially with your great use of titled subdivisions.
Ti users are usually sceptical of mbti, but once on board, they can see a lot.
You’re really funny and informative!😂❤️
My husband is an INTP. He married me because I was the one woman he didn't mind having around him for extended periods of time.
Seducing INTP
*me as an INTP: YOU CAN'T
"Be there but be quiet"... Perfectly said! 👍
"If these don't work for you and don't work on the INTP in your life that you're trying to seduce, then feel free to blame......yourself :P"
I had such a hard time in the past getting into a relationship. A lot of people told me I should just try it and try it with someone who was interested in me at that time. And about 99% of the time, I had absolutely no interest in the person whatsoever! I didn’t want to get into a relationship I KNEW would go no where! And I tried really, really hard to like some of these guys. You know, see their good points.... but I just couldn’t. At one point, I was scared I was going to end up alone... that maybe this is what relationships are supposed to be... this is what compromise is supposed to be! I was that friend that gave relationship advices without ever being in one. I just didn’t understand.
I felt bad.... but all these guys... they were just all... dumb, sorry to say lol they cared about the things I thought were meaningless... put value on things that quickly come and go. When we would talk, I would always want to go deeper, think deeper, dive deeper! But these empty headed dudes didn’t care about any of those things! They wanted fun and tried to impress me with meaningless stuff which mostly ended up with me becoming even more uninterested in them. Their replies were superficial and lacked thoughtfulness... and only answering what others would answer without reason and simply because the majority believed it. Boring, unpassionated airheads. No way I could get into a relationship with these idiots!!!! (Sorry...)
I have a 7 yr boyfriend now who is an INFJ and thankfully we can converse about many things intellectually but most of the time it’s me bluntly putting his ideas down. Sorry 😅 I never meant to be haughty, but I just couldn’t allow myself to be with someone who I couldn’t even have a decent conversation with!
Yep. You are pretty much right about all of it, and I like your little mention that life doesn’t cater to any specific type and what the reality of minimizing Se things for an INTP looks like.
the intro, haha yes " yes be there but be quiet" is my motto i love it when my partner or anyone lets me do stuff quietly while they there , just admire me work or they also do their own stuff while we are in the same room
too lazy to fix my typo
You remind me so much of an ENTP friend I had. I wish I knew another in real life. You guys appear to be pretty uncommon. Sadness. -ENFP
Edwin Ortiz I thought he said he’s an ISTP...or at least according to the Objective Personality people. Does he say he’s an ENTP? I haven’t taken the time to see beyond him being an NT. I don’t see the Se.
@@junior10199 yup, he identifies with ENTP
“Feel free to blame..yourself” Hmm, I like this guy ^o^
poke that inferior Fe, make them feel needed, show you are happy with their presence, try to act impressed with their knowledge 😂
Yes..that's exactly it. Trying to "act intelligent" around intps is like acting like 'another female friend' if you're a guy and interested in seducing a (typical) girl...They will perceive you as being too similar to them, which triggers the friendzone more than anything else. The total opposite (Fe) behaviour is what makes them feel attracted. INTP's feel attracted to people who act exactly as you described
@@PowerRedBullTypology oh fuck. is that why ive been friendzoned?? ive been trying to attract people by trying to be similar to them?? oh fuck
Act??! You'll be busted
@@hawk6143 I meant 'act'as in "overly display" intelligence, as in trying to impress them with intelligence.
@@PowerRedBullTypology ✌ ok... Great strategy,quite relevant
That intro! Liked and subscribed! Keep up the amazing work! You approach everything in such a level-headed way it's so easy to binge all your videos regardless of what type is the focus.
Me an INTP: "You hate Communism too???
When extroverts like me, I went mad (when being with them). I like quiet person but they never initiate, neither do I...... This never ends. Sad
first?
Be prepared to be broken up with at least 10 times before you .can move forward with the INTP