INTJ Childhood
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- Опубліковано 13 січ 2020
- Well this is a little glimpse of what its like growing up as an #INTJ #kid
Let me know what it was like growing up as your type down in the comments below. What was your greatest challenge?
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Typing disclaimer: Hi my name is Lindsay, I'm an actual INTJ typed by actual professionals using the scientific method on a 512 scale. I didn't choose this profile, it chose me. Official type is: FM Ni/Te BPSC
Me, a intj: *thinks about past*
Me: *cringe*
Also me: WHY DID I DO THAT? WHY DID I SAY THAT? JUST WHY?
I think everyone does, I am a so called INFJ, but I don't believe personality types are entirely factual or true
as an infp i could relate on that.
@@yogtissue3908 yeah I took the test several times over the years, keep coming back INTJ, but I do feel like an INFJ because I do use feelings over logic in specific circumstance, so it could just be a general archetype and not a hard rule.
@@Cheezus the test arent accurate
"I remember very little of my childhood" may be the most underrated INTJ statement ever.
Right!! I thought it was just me, haha
Hmm maybe, me also INTJ female I remember A LOT of my childhood not only situations but also what I was thinking in się cases. Some people ask me how/why do you remember this or that... Becasuse I care about my memories.
@@ignarmackadingdongjr6590 No I am not.
@@ignarmackadingdongjr6590 INTJ surely. If I was not sure, I would not be talking about it loud.
1. Yes, of course you can make such a thesis based on just one of my comments.
Come on, man. You can suggest me if I am sure. But you cannot say which type I have. You' ve got toooo little info about me. Do this guessing is kind of weird and silly in my eyes.
I get your point about differences between sensor and intuitive person. And ISTJ/INTJ C. Functions. Trust me I know it really well. You have right thoughts and knowledge with bad result of guessing.
However notice that everybody uses (in simplification!) every "letter".
What's more INTJ (also INFJ) has "Si" on the last place. Which make sense af.
But still it doesn't mean that we never use it.
[you could read more "John Beebe 8 f. Model" - (it doesn't metter if you believe in this but it still show some image for this)]
2. I'm closer to ENTJ than ISTJ if you want to know. + I don't think being sentimental can show us that is almost for sure an "XYZQ". By saying I care about my memories I meant - That I am not IGNORANT when it comes to my past. And that I was refreshing good events in my memory in order to not forget them or when they were so good I just was talking about them a lot so I haven't forgotten (didn't forget?? ). And this bad events I was analizing a lot.
It's not that topic but I wanna add it: I have visual memory but it doesn't make me a sure Sensor. A the same time it doesn't mean that i couldn't memorize sth by hearing - it's just harder.
@@ignarmackadingdongjr6590 XD get it. Thanks for your points. I have been oversensitive about this kind of typing since I saw a guy who questioned the type of every commenter under some posts, which was laughable and annoying.
The sad thing about being an INTJ kid that occasionally has to deal with the frustration of incompetent adults - eventually the kid has to grow up and always deal with the frustration of incompetent adults.
True
We live in an Idiocracy.
yeah, but (as adults) we don't have to live with them :)
Amen
Ignorance and stupidity would be tolerable if they only resulted in wacky hijinx. The reality of it is way harsher since ignorance always begets injustice and stupidity promotes further stupidity.
Me as INTJ kid
*Imagines a scenario in my head
*Gives instructions to friends on how to make that scenario happens
*See one friend not following the rules
*Never plays with that friend again
I just cry honestly. I can't forget that time when we are assigned to make a fun ocean diorama thing. I want to make 3D fish because it looks good, easier to do (print cut papercraft), also generally far more superior than drawing them (also biologically acurate). Everyone in my group doesnt want to do that. I kept explaining myself but they kept saying no because kids cant control pride. So I just cried on the spot because I really want this project to look good.
U are family 😭😭
Totally, banished from the realm
I do that as an adult (cough) all the time with people :s doh. Well, doorslam is a thing.
That's so true
The biggest thing I remember as an INTJ kid was yearning to be an adult. Being trapped in a kid's environment felt stifiling.
yeah, i remeber at 3 i rlly wanted to be 15. Then at 15 i wanted to be 3 again lol.
@@iamsomeone8266 Teenaged years suck. You're too old for child things, but too young for adult things.
"Had to learn how to play human better" - exactly! I think that is part of why INTJ's talk to themselves and rehearse speeches with ourselves so much. Thanks for the video
same with me
i get caught doing that all of the time...im a geminin too which is also prone to doing thay...also talking to my self as if talking to another
Just look at Jordan Schlansky on Conan Obrien. I think he is an INTJ. They just use him for laughs. I find it funny, but I think his perceived alienness is actually cool and relatable. I could definitely see how that would suck though. There's a saying: "INTJs are humans pretending to be robots while INTPs are robots pretending to be human". I don't think that it's so much that you're pretending though, I think it's just that your natural thought process throws people off. It's just too self-assured, removed from the situation and logical for most feelers to handle, at least until Fi child throws a fit.
I’m not the only one who does that!
Still do it. Still imagine various outcomes, debate...
I’m a 14 year old intj, and I feel like I can’t fit in at school. I don’t care about being popular, I just want to find a friend who understands me.
You'll get that, and more!! :)
Find the nerdy INTP boys that like to play with gadgets.
Ellz the Cat 16 year old ESFP and i am damn painfully shy. I want to be popular i want to be social and shit but i am so damn shy it actually hurts. I feel that everyone hates me. I’m tryna grow out that shyness
I'm a 14 year old enfp and all my close friends are intjs I love them so much. I wish I could go and adopt you and be your friend
I took me 20 years to find another INJ and it had an incredibly positive impact on my life (he is my closest friend now and probably forever will be), but I was extremely emotionally unaware in my teens, which certainly did not help. In hindsight I didn't really understand who I am and in effect tried to fit in by "wasting" my time with superficial friendships. I guess if you have your Fi well developed and a sufficient amount of Fe you might have an easier time finding your destination and avoiding making an unnecessary amount of enemies. The fact that you are this young and are already aware of personality types is certainly a very good sign. Apropos: the INJ I was referring to is an INFJ and we met each other while doing military service...
My older sister cried when I showed her this. She said, "I'm sorry I didn't understand". Thank you for getting me. We exist.
This hit me right in the Fi. 😭 I’m glad we share the planet together.
Why did she cry from this?
@@CarterWills1 because she may be a person to show emotions
@@InternetLiJo im confused on the inside im an infp but on the outside im an intj. im so confused.
I wish that I understood my older brother when were kids. He was always kidding around but I didn't get it. I was too serious and often still am.
As an INTJ child:
I was always very observant of everything around me. I observed alot and always asked questions to myself. There was (still is) always a big WHY? in my head.
I used to watch and do alot of things that increased my creativity and knowledge. From watching discovery channel to reading encyclopedias, from making art & DIYs to making science projects. Everything that i could that would stimulate my mind.
I was never stubborn in my demands from my parents & never really cried for anything or because of anything. Lol. But i did feel alot & i still feel alot.
People generally associate INTJs with being unsympathetic & unemotional. Even some INTJs aswell. However, i won't say that this is completely true.
I am indeed a very empathatic & emotional person. The only difference between my emotions and a normal person's emotions is that my emotions are very 'logical'. That is why i can't 'Empathise' with people who cry or whine over petty things because i have actually considered the other person's situation very well, by putting myself in his/her shoes & by trying to see things from his/her perspective And this drives me to the conclusion whether the other person's emotions are 'valid' or not and i respond accordingly. That is why most of the times that response of mine is something that the world dose'nt necessarily appreciate because people generally cry over everything either to gain attention & sympathy or to feel less and bad of themselves. But when someone is emotional over actual 'valid' thing, i feel with them very deeply & intensely, sometimes even more than them.
I resonate so much with this. Thank you for sharing your experience Kanica.
Beautifully explained. 👌🏻
This is how I felt too. I am definitely very sensitive but I do not show my emotions unless I think it’s logical but even then I stand by the whole “feelings are subjective” and I like to be objective.
Also, I was obsessed with natural disasters. I loved watching the weather channel instead of cartoons most days, and my narc mom thought it was weird. I was (still am) very quiet and observant but I was (and still am lol) also very blunt. I was the “but why?” kid and I am thankful I had teachers that encouraged my constant questioning, although at home it was a different story.
I’m a mom now and my kids love to ask me questions and I love it! I encourage it, even if they’re questioning me, I think it’s great for their critical thinking skills.
Wow, thanks for putting it out , now I understand how my overwhelming emotions are different than most other people's emotions.
@@Gtjsn Angry, intimidated by these toxic people. I used to be too good to them and hope things would change, but no, it is best to believe that adults do not change. From now on if anyone bullies me, I will straight way say it to their face that they do not need to be so but still are being a bully. In a professional setting, I would try to put a fake smile of pity of my face too and say it would be better if they improve themselves.
An INTJ talking about her childhood? This is sacred.
Are there any other female INTJs who used to play only with boys in their childhood?
I was indifferent then but I really only have guy friends these days
Yes, I preferred their company as I didn't relate to the love of dolls nor the passive-aggressive and gossipy behaviours and backstabbing that other females seemed to engage in. So, I had a few male friends whose home I'd go to and we'd play at being superheoes and I'd play soccer with the boys at our primary school until it got to the stage where the males became uncomfortable playing with a girl.
Yeah, mostly boys. Lol
I am 34 and still have only one girl friend that's not related. She's been my BFF since the first grade. Other than her, all of my friends have been male my entire life.
I have a lot of cousins and always preferred playing with my male cousins.
I am an INTJ at age 20. I really want some INJs in my life. It really gets frustrating when i am not understood by anyone around me.
On top of it all, helicopter parenting messed up a lot of my brain and it wasn't until when i was 17 that i started to understand the big picture.
Psychology and Philosophy have helped a lot in those past few months. The amount of knowledge and understanding i have gained in the past year is exponentially greater than any of the times in my entire life.
So want someone to Te my Ni but everytime I show my real self, INTJ, instead of faking S or F, everyone distances me. I remember my childhood was just a big display of this. I tried to mimic other people's S & F & E in order to feel accepted.
But i realised that i can't take it anymore. It left me dissatisfied all the time along with exhaustion of my introvert battery. I am going to now practice socialising with INTJ on the front.
No more hiding my true self in the fear of being left alone. Although fear of being alone is among the basic 8 fears of humans, nihilism really helps become fearless.
We are here you on the internet!
We have similar experiences.
Yeeep, i can relate with nihilism topic
I am an INTJ and I had a very similar childhood. I would create stories and scenarios and I used my toys as charachters of those stories. I would stay for hours talking to myself and my toys and I always had problems with people because no one understood me. Today I have friends but only 2 of them are my best friends and they are ENTJs.
Yes!! Exactly! Thank you for sharing.
Same
Omg same!! I used to do the same thing when I was a kid , I didn't have any friends as no body understood me , I used to just spend time by myself in my own world and play with my dolls. Now I'm 16 and I still struggle to find someone who understands me and I feel very out of place as if I don't belong here or anywhere so I just see myself as an alien that was born on earth by mistake XD
@@okimimitsuko2735 same here
I created entire worlds in my childhood with my imagination.
I think I need to get good on writing... I could write many adventures books with those stories...
During I teens I felt like I was from another planet too
also my schoolmate used to call me the "the alien" (and I liked it)
@Kei Keishin Im 18 now and I am still very good at writing stories and creating worlds in my mind. Most of people still find me very mysterious and sometimes evil. Only other xNTJs are able to understand me and find me normal.
As a child, I never understood other children. I didn’t know why they simply couldn’t stay put or be quiet, so it always angered me. Also I couldn’t stand being around loud people because it distracted me from my thoughts. I always felt like in order to fit in with the other kids, I had to change myself. I deciphered what was normal in a situation by looking at what the majority of people were doing and trying to follow suite to mainly avoid being bullied. It was extremely tiring though, since all I wanted was to be left alone to my own devices. I developed a subsequent hate for being around other children.
In social situations, I would always gravitate towards the adults in the room. I would stand or sit on the outskirts of their conversations and if it was stimulating, I would stay and listen for hours. If it was simply gossip however, I would escape into my head and think of all the things I wish they were talking about, or develop possible scenarios on how to get my mother to leave the event early.
I also got in a lot of trouble for speaking, “out of line”, while growing up. When a statement was made, that I deemed wrong, I would correct the person, but the manner in which I did it was apparently considered rude. If I got a negative response from someone I tried to correct, I would not speak to them ever again. This happened a lot with adults and consequently there were a lot of adults I hated because they treated me like I knew nothing of what they were speaking about, even though most of the time, I knew a lot more than they did. Children simply classed me as a nerd.
When I figured out that social situations weren’t for me, I started walking around with a bag, filled with things to occupy my precious time. The bag mainly had scientific books, or other non fiction books. Thankfully, my mother had figured that out too and since she had to take me with her to all events, she was more that willing to supply my thirst for knowledge.
I was always at my happiest when I was reading a science book in an empty room.
It always struck me as odd that the nonfiction books in the library had a much smaller section and had almost never been previously checked out.
THIS IS ASPERGERS SYNDROME GO SEE IT. IT IS NOTTTTTTT I REPEAT NOTTTTTTT THE INTJ PERSONALITY. I HAVE ASPERGER SYNDROME. THE LADY THAT MADE THIS VIDEO DOESNT EVEN KNOW SHE PUT A VIDEO OUT ABOUT SYMPTOMS OF ASPERGERS SYNDRONME.
@Faith Guggenheimer, hey thanks for the advice. Now that you say it, it begins to add up. A few years ago, my elder sister told me that based to research, my dad was showing all the symptoms of Asperger's syndrome. It never clicked that I also acted similarly because there was never anything that seemed odd about me since my family was used to such behaviour. What may have thrown everyone off is the language comprehension part of the diagnosis. I dont have issues really in that area, but that can be because, from young my mother saw reading and comprehension skills as being of most important and and would have focused alot of time on me developing those. She made me read everyday and tend to memorize analogies etc, because I can't form them myself. Unbeknownst to her she was helping me? When I can, I will see I psychiatrist thought. Thanks for the advice.
Never felt this understood in my life.
I relate too much with this comment
INTJs live in the future and maybe the present...
INTJs don't like the past.
If an INTJ does tell you about their past; then you know that they trust and love you.
I find all the comments on your videos so interesting though, as you can see the INTJ patterns (Ni/Te):
'When I was young I never really felt like I was understood'.
'I remember having rare emotional episodes'.
'I spent hours alone'
'I read anything I could get my hands on,'
'I also hung out in a box'
'I was alone, imagining things'
'I m INTJ you seem so familiar to me'
Love you INTJ people!
Glad you’re here!
a cheers to INTJ people!
INTJs can be nostalgia addicts if we get stuck in Ni-Fi loops. This type of INTJ is more likely to have a Melancholy-Phlegmatic temperament (generally associated with INFJ) rather than Melancholy-Choleric.
@@judsongaiden9878 I can also relate to nostalgia! I know and understand that there's no point on giving much importance to the past, but I have a high attachment to it mostly because I'm a HSP, and I can see this reflected in my taste, if something gives me nostalgia (like food or music) then I can get really addicted.
@@DianaWanMa Use that Se! A wiser man than myself once said, "As you know, the id wasn't meant to be starved."
My childhood was painful. My parents can't comprehend that there are these fixed personalities that determine how people think. They're incredibly extroverted and really annoying. I've just always had to be a fake, in my teen years I even made a motto for whenever I went back home (I went to a boarding school): "put on your best facade, suck it up, shut the hell up, this is how you're gonna make it through".
I also feel like as I moved into my adolescent years, my INTJness so to speak developed. I became less outgoing, more reserved, more rational, basically more like how I am today. Of course I always did prefer to be left alone, but in my younger years I was also quite content with hanging around others, even strangers, in a way that I can no longer comprehend. Did anyone else have this experience?
I also have problems with my parents ; they don't understand me and they blame me all the time...
Exactly! It’s irritatingly difficult to have privacy when my family (besides my father and I thank him for that) is so obnoxious and they can’t even have a GRASP of how irritating it is. They’re VERY arrogant about it, and quarantine was one of the worst times of my life, with a very deep hole that was hard to get out of nearly by myself. When I was younger, it wasn’t very bad, but adolescence is where everything really develops. It feels as nobody I encounter would understand how I value rationality over everything, analyzing everything to get my outcome, and other common things. I’ve considered many times to just act like most of society, boasting about literal common sense, being highly obnoxious, overstating what suffering is, and much more. However, it’s brought me to such a disregard for socialization where nobody understands me, is that I should just abandon it. It’s so frustrating, but there are still things that I want to do in my lifetime, so I’ll just keep going.
Same experience. Fr :')
Yeah, my INTJ attitude didn't develop until I was 15. I didn't have a tough childhood though. I think since children have more energy, our social batteries lasted longer than then they do now.
I relate to this so much.
I talked to trees also - i’m an INTJ woman. This video is so relatable to my childhood
This makes me happy :)
@@InternetLiJo ditto, said the little girl who protested when they wanted to cut down her climbing
tree.
I ended up with poison ivy on my face because of my tree. Lol Did we all have that tree where we sat for hours and had the best time being quiet and living in our minds?
I talked to bugs, I had no toys.
I have this 2portraits in my room. One is a woman carrying a sword the other is a picture of JFK with artistic figures. I used to talk to them telepathically. If you get what I mean.
I usually panic when someone asks me "what do you read?". I usually feel like they cought me! Quick figure out a normal answer. I can't tell them I read books that have the information I need to learn so I can move on to the next step....
You spoke to my soul.
I always felt I couldn't progress if I didn't start at the first step e.g my reading speed was quite good for my age but I still wants to improve got Speed reading books and applications to help before I could proceed. It was somehow ingrained in me. I couldn't stop or control myself when the most beneficial option was presented. Especially the amount of anxienty when I felt that I WS wasting time e.g watching movies with family. I felt like a prisoner. I want to do my own things.
I'm currently 14 and my reading speed has increased to around 450wpm at first I was reading at 240wpm. I still want to improve.
Same thing here, I read mathematics book becaus ive got a project, but my answer would be: I read some sf and talk briefly about the Asimov i remember.
I got bored one time, I read and finished the Old Testament Bible.
Same!
reading your comment and I saw pictures in my head
Teachers often got on my case for daydreaming. At home, I spent a lot of time in a big cottonwood tree. Just me and my imagination.
Tree life! Glad you’re was actually a tree lol
Teachers would also get on my case for daydreaming throughout high school. I only talked when I needed too or said words. As an adult I love talking a lot about different topics- esp. about philosophy. I would always mindlessly stare at the Sky when I would walk back home from school. And sleep a lot and daydream at home. I'm an INTJ-T
Spent a lot of time in the Jacaranda and Liquidamber trees around the house as a kid. When we moved to a place without trees I figured out how to climb up on the roof lol much the same re daydreaming in school.
@@Robles551 Same
“I just didn’t know how to human with them.” And very limited friends are so me. Yes! Frustration with the inefficientcies of different systems around me, but no one willing to take my advice because kid.
🐱💯
don't let the bastards get you down kid you just keep doing you
Tina Thevarge sameeeee
this is aspergers syndrome. nOt the intj
Asking the kid “why” probably made them feel self conscious and being unable to process their emotions they develop disfavor towards you because no one wants to feel self conscious. Essentially, you killed their vibe.
I kill those Fe vibes for sure
Exactly, I couldn't figure that out for the life of me back then
Can other people not feel self concious all the time? =O
I envy them.
As an INTJ, I made friends easily as a child and even through high school. But the childhood memory that sticks out to me is being alone doing art projects for hours in my house while my Extrovert brother was out on play dates. Also when we would get an art or science project in class I always ended up doing it really different from everyone else
Makes sense!
Saaaaame. All class wrote about a bear and i choosed a girafee. Or my art pieces were really unique, as the teacher said, also my polish teacher always knew what essays were mine because nobody writes the way i do, as she said. I also remember when my teacher from music school showed my essay as the example for others, when we were giving it him. Like i added a photo of person, did editoring stuff, being a kid. Or winning knowledge contest about Chopin being like five years younger than average person there. A lot of things like that happened to me. Sometimes our way of thinking is really outside the box. Think different, Steve Jobs cri
I can relate. I was a pretty creative child. I vividly remember a class exercise where we were cutting and pasting pictures of people in our work book. My Ni sparked up and I made the pictures of people pop up whenever it's turned to that page.
And then the rest of the sheep herd wanted to copy 🤦♀️😆
Ahh me too! I feel a bit better about it reading this haha
I remember my Mom was really frustrated with me because she couldn't ground me. Once, I didn't want to clean my room and I was grounded till I cleaned it. I never did. I just hung out in my room without any means of entertainment and I just played out scenarios in my head or did my home works all over again and again. She never found an effective way to punish me, I always found a way around it.
I never really felt I belonged with my classmates I used to make friends with kids several years older than me. I also didn't understand why others were mean so since then, I've been spending my life trying to understand how people work...
Are you infj?
@@explodifier6021 i'm INTJ, but I'm more emotional than I'm supposed to be. Still, I think emotions what make us irrational and weak
@@juditpapp5665 well emotions dont make people weak its just the problem behind emotions is that people dont understand the deep messages behind emotions and how to deal with them in a healthy manner
@@explodifier6021 And until we learn collectively how to deal with our and other's emotions, they are a liability. So I've been working really hard on understanding emotions. It still doesn't make much sense to me how a lot of people can't put aside their feelings and try to think with a clear head. Well, there's always something to learn.
I understand this quite well. I also love understanding how people work.
INTJ- Rich inner life!!!
How many times have I rolled that phrase through my mind.
"A culture that wasn't really mine." Yes definitely relate to that. I spent a lot of time as a kid playing pretend, acting out scenarios alone, but I did have a best friend who was very similar in that regard. We both wrote stories too. I was lucky to have friends that I knew for years and years, not much turnover, so I didn't have to make new friends a lot. I think friend-making is probably a longer process for most INTJs, us taking time to open up and all. Are you going to do an INTJ teenager video? That would be interesting.
I plan on it yes!
Andrea Greenwood ESFP and i always used to play pretend. Like making stories,acting out scenarios,singing,dancing,playing scenarios from cartoons. I had a very rich vivid imagination
Being INTJ, my school life was HORRIBLE. I was bullied mercilessly. No one understood me, other than my brother (he is ENTJ lol). Teachers would hate me, because I would point out faults in thier lectures, and I always thought that I was helping. I would also question about things non stop, and it would drive people mad. I am so happy now that I am an adult.
That is why i excel at studies. I want those dumb teacher to know im not just saying stuff randomly, im actually good at this
Yes, I'm a 22 year old INTJ guy now. I remember I purchased a book 4 years ago entitled how to make friends and influence people, just to learn how to be good at people. I remember I searched online about the best books on how to improve my relationship skills cause I knew deep inside I'm bad at it. Now, when I'm interacting with people. I just trying to apply the principles I have learned from that book like, smile often, get interested with other people, call then by their names etc. and it somehow helped me.
I learned people because I realized I was inefficient at peopling. Now I'm a great sales person but I still feel like I'm playing human when going through the sales process. I became obsessed with learning behavioral psychology and body language so I could "pretend" better.
Thank you for sharing.
When I was really little I was always so confused because I didn’t like being a kid. I wanted to grow up live by myself and just work, and the thought of that made me happy. But all of the other kids in my grade loved to be young and I never even realized because of how fast I wanted to grow up and how fast I was growing up. When I was in elementary school I had so many friends and then when I got to middle school we all went our separate ways, but by then I didn’t know how to make friends because of how different my brain was from theirs.
THIS IS ASPERGERS SYNDROME I REPEAT ASPERERS SYNDROME NOT THE INTJ PERSONALITY ALMOST EVERYONE WHO CAN RELATE TO THIS VIDEO HAS ASPERGERS SYNDROME.......
I think the reason INTJ’s have a hard time bonding or really fitting in in general is we have a hard time being in the moment, maybe Tantra is the cure.
We do struggle being in the moment. For sure.
NO PEASE LISTEN. ALMOST EVERYONE WHO CAN RELATE TO THIS VIDEO HAS ASPERGERS SYNDROME NOT THE INTJ PERSONALITY................ I HAVE ASPERGERS SYNDROME AND SHE BASICALLY MADE A VIDEO ABOUT SYMPTOMS OF ASPERGERS SYNDROMEEEEEEEEE
@@faithguggenheimer8559 Because all the spectrum of humans need to be classified comparing them with an "standard model" and putting labels and syndromes to the rest, yeah....right... humanity is a far more complex and diverse thing, why there is a default standard model of human?, why is not "the asperger one" the one to be considered standard and the rest deviations? You need to think things through ffs...
To me it’s completely the opposite, as a child I got along pretty well with other children and enjoyed my time so much playing with them. However, once I became a teenager I kinda started isolating myself from others and felt like I don’t belong and became introverted. Nowadays, I have no friends in real life and I spend my time alone in my room and when I go to college (it’s my first year) I don’t interact with other people at all. I do have really close friends on the internet who I text mostly on daily basis, and I believe that’s enough for me. I did the mbti test and the result shows that I am an INTJ, is it possible that as a kid I wasn’t one and after I grew up it changed?
Hey there! Type is the same, its connected to you on a genetic level. I was more isolated as a teen as well. And most of my friends are internet friends too.
@@InternetLiJo I was fortunate to have a friend who was an INTJ who married into the family when I was in middle school ( I am also an INTJ). I have probably less than 5 people i would consider close friends and they are kinda scattered around. But for a while, I did have a lot of online friends that I gained thru playing Call Of Duty mostly and have been friends with them for over 10 years-never met them in real life.
Me too. I played a lot with the other kids.
From 5th grade I think they started to see me as different and didn't really like my personality so I became more introverted.
When I was a child I wasn't afraid to be myself.
Same here. Around the age of 13, I started to isolate myself, because I just felt different (I felt different my whole life) and kinda became a "loner". I'm not lonely, I have 3-4 friends, but I love/prefer to be alone. Although as a little kid I was very social.
@@nt0511 samee
10:35 "I have to play human better"
that part resonate very much in me :)
I would say that during my teens I just studied people trying to understand them and know how to interact with. Sometimes I just play a part in order to get by with people.
Getting to know that other people like me does exists on this planet is helping me to make me feel less alien :)
also I have always wondered why other children were looking for me to play with them when I was perfectly fine alone ...can't you just play alone sometimes?
Thank you for sharing LiJo. I know childhood can be so difficult. Especially for an INTJ. My INTJ friends never usually talk about their past.
It's so hard to remember Dawn! I did the best I could here lol
As a child I truly did not understand why other children did not understand what I was saying. In my mind, my thoughts and solutions were as obvious as stopping at a stop sign. Until I came across typing, I just thought every human was oblivious.
This^
In childhood my parents and teachers were concerned I was lonely and possibly autistic. Nope, I just lived my entire life in my own brain. Spent a lot of time by myself drawing and painting characters and scenarios out of my brain. I spent hours of my childhood making my own websites, learning HTML and CSS... the other children always wanted to go outside to play... I was always an alien! I'm perfectly okay with that though.
As INTJ kid the best that could happen to you is finding an INFP friend. We were both quite misunderstood and living inside our heads with this great imagination which made us partner in crime in our own fantasy world.
As an INTJ, I married my INFP friend.
I've always been very distant and emotionally vacant. There's certainly a breaking point, but I could count on one hand the number of times I've been pushed that far. Other kids would frequently ask why I don't talk to them, and occasionally ask if I'm a robot. I was never comfortable around people, and so became very avoidant, spending most of my time alone playing video games. I even made it a habit to get up early in the morning before anyone else so I would have more time to myself. I still feel like I can't genuinely express anything. It's more like acting, I have to consciously get in character for it, and there's always a thought process in the back of my mind pulling me back to neutral. Almost as though I'm detached from myself, the body being little more than a vehicle with which the mind navigates its environment. Staying grounded in the moment tends to be a struggle.
Yes! Getting detached from one’s self, using “I” is very hard and tend to ruin conversations -_-
I love that you posted this video, Lindsey. I really enjoy hearing the stories and experiences of the other INTJ's.
All throughout my life when I asked about people's childhood, mine was from a different perspective but I had no idea why.
My life was spent with a military family and later I was career military but for six wonderful years we were settled and I had a neighborhood, friends and the same school. This would not always be the case. We/I moved often.
I spent hours alone. I built a nest on the very top shelf of my closet and stashed rations, books, and a flashlight.
I read anything I could get my hands on, including cereal boxes and toothpaste tubes.
My Grandfather had a classic, elegant library and I spent hours reading every book I could reach and then some.
If I went outside and we went outside from dawn to dusk,
I took my medicine bag that Cochise had carried and I had read about and I wandered the woods alone.
I would pick berries and try to look up the leaves, plants, and seeds I found. My soft spot was animals and I was a fierce advocate for the underdog. And frogs, I adored frogs and still do. I had tadpoles in every bowl and once my Mother found my wasp nest when she opened a drawer a few months after I had safely saved it for reference. The wasps were eager to leave that drawer.
I once began a protest on our street with signs and my little sister chained to this tree because
they wanted to tear down my favorite climbing tree, for a sidewalk, sigh.
We played outside and I was always Cat Woman to whoever played BatMan. I never wanted to play house or dolls but I often would consent to being the puppy in the doghouse. with my book.
I was wise somehow. Several times we had an adult take a bit too much interest in us and once I was asked to help someone find a "puppy". Something rang wrong. I always knew who the wrong adults are and that's been a problem.
I stood up for the child who was bullied and my closest friend was always the popular girl. I did not need a lot of friends but I knew who everyone was and I knew a lot about them. Every INTJ has a THING and mine is an interest in people.
I drove my Mother crazy by signing up for classes, lessons, trips et al without permission, only for her to receive the bill one month later. I simply wanted to learn it all. I really wanted to learn to do a few things very well because I knew this was well
received in polite society. I knew what society I intended to keep.
I also knew what I wanted in a husband, the kind of home and all of the things I needed to do in order to have more time later
in life for interesting things. And even back then, I had "The Thing". My poor grandparents lived through the summer of
Glen Campbell and my interest in all things musical. I still can't dance, however. I can dance quite well in my head.
I will stop before I get lost in memories. My memory is very excellent, Li Jo
I remember everything in visuals and I can smell something from my past sometimes when something triggers a memory. We did not have computers and needed our memories.
Thanks, LiJo its so odd to finally hear others share my thoughts, experiences, and patterns of behavior after a lifetime
thinking I was so very different.
And everyone please hit "Like" for your childhood memories whoever they may be.
I relate to a lot of your experiences growing up. I just posted my response to Lindsay's video and you'll find that I, too, didn't relate to those my own age and as a female INTJ I wasn't interested in playing with dolls nor liked the typical passive-aggressive types of behaviours that characterised most other females. Their focus on gossiping and tendency to be verbally very nasty to those who didn't 'fit in' with their cliques wasn't my cup of tea at all. I also spent a lot of time in nature by myself and also loved animals - and still do. Like yourself I had a strong intuition and my senses or feelings about others and situations were accurate. As time has gone on I've become involved in esoteric or paranormal matters and during my years at University gave personal readings at an esoteric bookstore to help me pay for books and the costs of studying. Growing up without computers for the majority of my childhood was a positive thing, in my opinion. Although I did get a pc around age 15-16, it was used by me to play role-playing text adventure games and, later, to type up essays. There was no internet widely available and social media was non-existent. Looking back, I'm very grateful for this. I'd hate my experience being bullied to go into social media and to endure cyberbullying. Plus, between my late father's personal library, the public and school libraries, plus the local bookstore, as a passionate bibliophile I was able to indulge my love of reading, learning and, of course, writing. These days many who grow up with the internet are too fixated on social media and taking "selfies" to post online. This not only has seen an increase in narcissistic behaviour becoming more frequent and deemed somehow acceptable but literacy standards have decreased dramatically and it's now rarer to see people who prize books and reading. I used to spend hours in my father's library and would secretly borrow his books and often read them late at night. Many were involving metaphysical matters which my religiously dogmatic mother disapproved of and I'm glad I had access to these - books she unfortunately destroyed after my dad's passing as being "un-Christian" - since they helped me learn about the esoteric, to focus my intuition, and helped me accept my abilities which my mother's beliefs definitely didn't.
I can relate to spending hours at a time alone and I also loved frogs and at one time put a few I'd found outside in the rain in a bathtub with cool water ☺ My father would set traps for mice - which to this day my mother is terrified of - and I would go about the house after my parents were asleep and use a broom handle to undo these traps: I didn't like the idea of killing mice when cupboards could, I thought, be better secured instead.
Btw, did you also feel you didn't relate to the typical behaviour expected of females growing up?
Anyway, thanks for sharing your experiences as an INTJ. Best wishes, from Australia.
@@Adara007 Australia...I read the book, A Town like Alice, and longed to visit Australia...one day.
I enjoyed your comment and I giggled a bit as I opened 'read more'...
We often have a lot to say and yet here on UA-cam when I "extrovert" people often challenge my INTJness as being too talkative. I was not when I was young but I sure
am now and I see you have a few thoughts yourself, huzzah!
I wish you a happy New Year and a few less dogmatic archetypes in your life.
I understand. sigh
ISTJ childhood was the same but I remember it all 😂
Lmao sounds accurate. I wish I could remember more.
@@InternetLiJo don't worry about it. Who needs all the little sensory details about the kids who didn't understand you? (Spoiler alert: smelly)
Yep you memory istjs freaks lol 😘
@@angelikaporebska8650 my first memory is from when I was like 1 year old, crying at my mom cuz my pajamas were itchy but she didn't understand me because I was, ya know..a baby 😂
For me childhood memories are more in these "symbols" somehow idk, sth about it. Or i remember the most strongly emotional ones
This is seriously so comforting to know I’m not alone in this world and that my childhood wasn’t as weird as I was thinking. I mean, we are weird, INTJs, but I definitely appreciate knowing I spent a lot of my childhood outdoors and climbing trees (one fig tree in particular that wasn’t nearly as big as I’d remember after seeing it as an adult) and not glued to a screen or worrying about social media. Oh and learning how to “human?!” 😂 that hits so close to home it’s incredible. I learn how to do human more nearly every day!
It's hard to say, since I dealt with some abuse as a kid, so I'm unsure if some things are due to abuse or if others are my personality type (INTJ). I definitely was in my head a lot. I was way quieter than most kids and if given a pad and paper or even left alone, I was just in my own little world. Times when I was upset I hated showing my emotions and when I felt things very intensely (such as when my dad left) I didn't know what the hell to do. I've learned to process things much better now but I'm curious about the effects of a healthier childhood on my 'type' so to speak vs. an unhealthy childhood. Not trying to sound ultra depressing, as my life is much better now but, it's just the truth. I did resonate very much with the "being in your head/own world" part
My 7th grade English teacher had us write about a safe place that we like to go to when we want to be alone. Everyone in class named a physical place, I said ‘my mind.’ -INTP (that also grew up with less than ideal things happening)
I was bullied at home and in school. I didn't say much and I was socially anxious. I would be sleeping and daydreaming a lot.
I also wonder about that, but seemed we acquire Ni-Se since birth in their high state, so if anything one of these two has either made it easier or harder for u to deal with abuse, not that those arouse from abuse, try reading about intj and ptsd, ...
Very briefly: As a child, playing, drawing , mechano (mechanical elements) , all alone. Did not really bond with other children/ teens. Always read a lot, science, encyclopaedia , last century books and still have it, metal working, wood working, mechanics always interested me....so far as I completely dismantled my first bicycle, at the age of 4-5 using my dad's tools. Still remember it, my first bike...yellow bike!
School was boring. Loved working on projects alone and getting good marks in return.
The teens years were hard because we moved in the middle of nowhere, but it forged my personality even more into the introvert side.
...basically felt as an alien...and learnt not to be bothered not to be understood.
No regrets though.
Thanks for sharing a piece of your world!
@@InternetLiJo Thank you for sharing also yours...it is nice to see the INTJ family represented in the world. :)
Finding out you were hanging out in a big bush and not a tree is hilarious 😂. The world seems so much larger as a kid.
Lol it does and ... it was actually a very large bush lmao
“Content in a box-by myself” 😂😂😂 i laughed out loud multiple times while watching this video.
Comparison between infp child and intj child:
My intj brother as a kid: notices the thing , does the thing,is actually very good at the thing.
Me infp as a kid: wait there is a thing?!
two eagles lols sooo INFP hahahaha
My sister is a infp, and she is a good listener. I feel like she is my first best friend.
@@denturetechniquetrainingcl5196 are you an intj?
@@nesrine2566 yep
@@denturetechniquetrainingcl5196 was your infp sister lost in a parallel universe as a child too, because I think it's an inxp thing to have a weird relationship with the real world due to their se blind spot.
This really exemplifies similarities between INTJ's and INFJ for me. Thank you for this.
- an INFJ
Glad it provided clarity!
I love to find differences of our F/T with my lovely infj friend. It's like intj "i feel about thinking and my feelings are rational" and you're like infj "basically think about feeling". Or she said it's easier for me to communicate my thoughs and it isn't that easy for her to express herself. Like she's better at recognizing it in others than in herself. I find it very accurate.
Hi Lindsay,
Whatever you talked today aptly described my own childhood. I always felt lonely. I still do. I was feel like an alien robot. It feels so good to know that someone felt the way that I did. Thank you
"I didn't understand how other kids played." Yes. So much yes. I remember being aware that I was small and young, and it was even baffling to me at the time, but I didn't know how to shut off my inner monologue so I could find enjoyment in running around screaming and giggling with my hands in the air while playing tag with all the other kids. I didn't see the point. I couldn't understand where they found that mental freedom and how they found enjoyment in that. I would ask them why it was fun, so maybe I could try to enjoy it too by justifying it or explaining it to my brain somehow, and they would just look at me weird and say "I don't know, it just is."
My parents didn't understand me by any means, but they often parented with the somewhat distant "she will know what's best for her and let us know" attitude, so they didn't force me into a lot of activities that I wasn't down for and it was weird going out into the world/school/camp and finding so many things "for children" that held no appeal whatsoever. I was constantly aware that I was built differently on the inside but I preferred my inner world and being alone so it never make me sad, it just left me with so many questions. I loved this video and hearing about someone else's INTJ childhood! So relatable. Thank you!
No one ever understood me , no one understands me , I dont think anyone will ever understand me , but myself .
Do you care to be understood?
@@InternetLiJo not really , no one ever could anyway , even if they tried to , they cared , they wanted to understand , to feel good about themselves by finally succeeding in understanding me .
I'm an INTJ and as far as I remember I didn't have any friends back when I was 12 because I thought my class was stupid. Most of my classmates were busy with their " weird girly gossips" which is pretty annoying to me, so I was on my own. My class teacher sensed that my friends didn't include me and tried to make me join them in their group discussion which was so irritating and tiring😩 I still prefer working alone tho
Thank you for sharing Lindsay! So glad I found your channel.
Older INTJ here so, longer tale: I was lucky to be raised mostly in the country. A neighbor's field doubled for crops and motorcycle riding and a few acres of woods held a creek to explore and a favorite old tree to climb too. I often felt like an out-of-place alien so, alone time was important. My uncle next door suffered schizophrenia at a time when there was little help but years later, this experience helped me to aid others suffering mental illness when everyone else abandoned them.
Once called into the school office, along with a best friend, we were told our IQ scores. My buddy's was highest but he was likely a more textbook INTJ whereas I also played sports. We both completed several math books our last year in grade school however, it was I that, much to the principal's surprise, fronted a successful multiple-day class revolt against a mean-spirited music class teacher. I had two citizenship awards on display at the school entry at that time too. My terrific science teacher let me alone leave class to watch Apollo 8 circle the moon on a small black and white TV. I was deeply moved and worked up ideas then sent them to NASA. They took me for a teacher and mailed me many brochures throughout the Apollo program... so cool.
My mother was an ISFJ with an uncanny memory and was emotionally attached to things because they had a memory-equal story. I'm still a bit of a kid and have had years-long relationships with ENFP, INTJ, ENFJ, ISFJ and ISFP women ranging from 10 years older to 25 years younger than I... talk about stretching your music library! When appropriate, never stop being a kid, Lindsay. Thanks for your content and for being you!
Apollo 8, black and white tv, Older INTJ and were you also born in the Age of Aquarius?
I found out quickly when I was first typed that our childhood memories are so similar.
Fascinating!
Did you have a crush on Spock, also? lol I
I enjoyed your comment, Randy Caba and I am glad you and I had those creeks to explore during our wonder years.
Side note: You don't fake it till you make it. You make it till you make it. Whatever you're attempting to achieve you simply do your lesser version of it, with effort, until you get better at it without effort.
Thank you, Lindsay, for helping me "make it" better.
I lived most of my life not knowing anyone like me. To hear from other INTJs is very powerful. If i wasnt thinking so much i might actually feel overwhelmed by the feeling.
Even as an ENTJ child, I played a lot by myself as well, I was the youngest and only girl in my family. We didn’t live near other kids and most girls didn’t relate to me either. Used my imagination as well. And not emotional, just like you so other young girls didn’t get me so much. I also only had a couple of friends. I understand the fact that I also had to “pretend” to be more emotional and silly, or just being different in order to have friends and fit in. We are similar.
Thank you so much for sharing your childhood experience, the "Had to learn how to play human better..." literally brought me to tears. As a child growing up, I always thought that there was something wrong/off with myself. My biggest struggle would be constantly doubting myself if I had some sort of personality disorder when attempting to socialize and mix with others, the stuggle persists even now in adulthood. If only knowledge like this were more accessible back in the day, many would probably have gotten a better understanding of themselves and not having to go through as much.
12 year old intj here! I tend to fake emotions since my household is filled with feelers, if i we're use my relaxed face they might see me as ungrateful or sad when I'm neither. It's hard for them to understand me most of the time too, if i we're to expose myself on purpose they still wouldn't get a hint of my perspective. So i try to see things just like them, i forced a mindset of what every "normal" person in my family has. DING! it gave me emotional stress. Tho it's very dangerous to be in social media for someone my age, I don't go talk to strangers, i did once it ended up being akward that someone had to leave so i just play games that every child plays. I have 1 truly great friend who is an enfp she seems to have anxiety which isn't good and it's very hard for me to comfort her most of the time, she said that i have a complicated way of thinking when i tell her my thoughts but she is a great friend and my one and only :)
OMG we were soo alike it's uncomfortable, because I have never met someone like me, and I accepted that I will never do that... and suddely you are telling me everything I thought and did in my childhood
Isn’t it crazy!! This is why I find typology so fascinating.
I remember so little up through High School. Interesting that this might partially be an INTJ thing.
I think it is. We aren’t recalling sensory because we aren’t acknowledging it in the present as it is happening.
@@InternetLiJo This would be an interesting survey - I actually have many very clear memories from a young age and related to so much of the video except the memory part.
I'm an INFJ and I relate. I think the difference would be "what is remembered" vs "who is remembered." Memories are more like impressions that lend to concepts for me. This is also cool because though I cannot alter the past, I can look at it through a new angle or lens.
How I explain it is that I don't remember a lot if it isn't important enough to remember. It's as if I need to make room in my mind for more "important" things to go in.
I don’t remember 90% of what happened yesterday
So happy to find your channel ♡ everything you felt and said speaks directly to my heart!
Holy crow. You just described my childhood! Hearing you talk about your childhood made me feel a lot better about mine. Thank you for sharing this!
I definitely relate to that “just playing alone” although I always used something to project my thoughts on, like a barbie or any other humanoid shaped thing for that matter. As an infj I guess I was very in touch with my fe, I always wanted everyone to be happy, that got bullied out of me pretty quickly though.
Yes. I think that you do just everything to make people better but they don't even get it and don't want it. But we do. We're just seeing it soo clearly thanks to this strategic way of thinking and "seeing" the future by seen patterns. I love you, Infjs 💜
I'm 17 and imagining scenarios and visualizing them in my mind is still my favourite thing to do and imaginary people are soo much fun to talk to - they know exactly what to say 😂 😂😂😂
I would say that for every situation you described I had a very comparable and similar situation in my childhood. It's really quite surprising, and interesting. The inefficiency still drives me crazy. The lack of logical explanations as well - why are you doing that? I think that and the inefficiency are related. Trying to mimic others to fit in to their play and activities, too. Really all of it, thank you for sharing!
You actually have helped me understand so much with this video. I’ve never understood kids who repeatedly ask why and would seek to that them down (kindly) as quick as possible but this gave me ideas on other ways to respond. I guess I tend to forget how genuine little people are.
Hi there. This is Nhoi from Thailand. I want to tell you that I understand everything you said 100% as I am an INTJ too. I understand that it takes you lots of energy to put these videos on just the sake of understanding your self better, making INTJs understand themselves better and non-INTJs to understand us better. Thank you so much for your work.
Very interesting- the way you even talk about the memories is so different than me. You dont bring many specifics but give the generalities.
I wish I could remember more specifics but unless a train of thought triggers something specific I just simply can’t recall it! Ugh.
Thank you. I can't believe how much is starting to make sense to me as I'm learning about my type. I appreciate your work and really get it.
You're welcome! I'm here to help if you have any questions :)
You're awesome! I love listening to you to learn more about INTJs
I don't even know why I'm still so fascinated and in awe when listening to how relatable INTJ stories are it's like I've been stuck in exile from society for so long and now I've found my tribe of peoples that just get me and think like me. Thank you for posting this ❤❤ it is so reassuring forme.
Glad you’re here 🖤
Like you in your tree i used to spend days and days sitting on my swing, listening to music, creating music videos and movies in my head. I loved it. It was my happy place.
At school i did not felt understood and i couldn't really understand the other either. I was social though. I had friends but for some reason i felt lonely and closer to adults. At the same time i really loved being alone and needed to in order to feel good.
Loved you video ! Thank you for sharing !
Oh my goodness you helped me remember!! I loved a swing too!!
I resonate so closely to all of this.
Thank you for this video, feels really good to find others of my kind, who felt like this growing up.
Also sat on my own in the hedge a lot very much happy out. And one friend was enough . Thanks for another great video Lindsay .
My childhood was pretty similar to yours. Being understood/understanding others was definitely a big struggle in my life, which led me to finding about the MBTI and study psychology on my free time. I was also doing personal projects at a very young age, which also involved stop-motion animations, teaching myself how to edit videos, how to use flash and even some coding in order to pull off these ideas I had in my head. It was on these ocassions when I was more comfortable and at my best, which is still true to this day.
I'm an ENFP and I feel like I weirdly relate to certain parts of your headspace, but really appreciate learning about the differences in headspace relative to personality type. Thanks for your videos!
Glad you’re here!
LiJo ESFP and i related especially with scenarios and and having making up stories...I mean i’ve always been a performer and always loved it. Had many friends growing up but i was bullied in elementary and now i am shy but i’m working on it because i miss opportunities due to shyness. Still that performer despite me being shy
I’m so glad I found your channel. I feel like I finally found an area that understands my way of thinking. I have lucky found another INTJ at my school and we are good friends. We have only recently found out that we are both INTJs and it explains a lot about our friendship. Although we have a friendly rivalry when it comes to academics, because we were on such a similar level.
Yay! This is why I’m here! Welcome!
It is fascinating to watch someone else describe my mental struggles during my childhood immensely better than I ever could. Thanks.
As usual, what you say resonates with me.
I have to highlight, I'm 33 and still don't understand, why people (not just kids) are mean to each other when they seemingly have no valid reason to be...
Because people are incapable of often thinking behind the situation and seeing the implications of their actions and words on a greater scale. That’s what I think anyway lol
You're right. Now all I have is annoyance of how many can be so blind. But that's a feeling I have most of the time 😅
If only i knew they were that clueless i would have ridiculously stronger feelings of my self worth. It was the opposite, sadly
Wow I'm an INTJ child/teenager and I relate so much. Thank you !!
Glad it resonated with you!
This is so relatable. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
Thank you for your videos and content! I also love your hair btw.
I am an ENFP and with a INTJ of 6 years. I can imagine he had a similar childhood. I see his heart and he sees my brain. I love learning about what makes people tick especially him because he was my magnetic puzzle when we first met.
I now know why he organizes some of our activities and starts, “ok, now here is what we are going to do...” I find it quite comical but of course always play along 😆
I love you INTJs and you make our lives better.
My parent sort of pushed me to the side. They didn't understand me or how to interact with me. I was different from my siblings. Ultimately, they missed the sexual abuse happening right under their noses. Our relationship is on the mend.
I remember being so scared to go to school and have to human that I would pretend to be sick all the time. Trying to keep up with other kids and how they worked and processed things was just not feasible to me. I was happy quiet, roaming in the school yard, with all of my ideas, whilst they were all chaotic, yelling, bullying, taking things from each other, throwing the strangest fits for the strangest things. I could not relate 😂
Yeah weird life is strange isn’t it?
@@InternetLiJo Yep
This is so relatable. I wasn't scared to go to school but I was always reluctant and anxious about having to socialise every day with these very extroverted people who behave very differently to me. I always felt isolated and misunderstood by everyone
This video exposed me and the entirety of my childhood, human interactions and so on and so forth. Especially the imagination and imaginative environment which holds the contentions of my life and the inability to be understood by my peers due to the difference between how I think and how they think.
@LiJo as a highschooler INTJ I always thought nobody understood me cause I was very different from everyone, but watching your videos made me realized I am not alone and people can understand me too. So thank you very much.
I mostly spent my childhood playing with my siblings and one friend. I also used to play a lot of puzzle pieces and I go outside a lot mostly because I was playing with a friend. My mom would usually scold me to not go outside lol.
Hahah I loved being alone outside without anything but my imagination 💗
Sammie Lovvy my childhood in a nutshell
I observed too, like how to human better💯💯💯
I think, or maybe this is primarily me. But I feel very strongly that as an INTJ, I will always find myself alone. Honestly, everything you said here used to deeply disturb me. The emotional aspect really hit home for me, so did the nature. My version of your box was a spot on a fallen tree that hung over a creek. Another nail on the head video. I love these .
Find ing your channel for the first time. You spoke my life in this one! I will be listening more.
Thanks for coming by :)
I hung out under a honeysuckle bush & had a whole world there. I played endlessly with blocks & liked dolls only as residents of my buildings/city. I did not understand the fascination for Barbie. I played hookie only when I didn't have tests or assignments so my "spontaniety" was planned ( I just realized this 45 years later...)My teachers said of me 'still waters run deep'. I was quiet but showed leadership skills wo being bossy. The running comment by my teachers was "concientious', 'does what is required'. I loved my desk (still do), did what was required neatly & on time ( I did work in school or on the bus so I had all my time to myself when at home) & why would I do more if I didn't have to?
I’m 17, and also an INTJ. about to leave the struggle of childhood behind. I am trying to get into a top university like MIT in order to find a community I can fit into. I’ve never had a girlfriend, let alone a friend group. I have found it downright stupid that the ability to throw a football is valued more and rewarded intensely than the ability to predict the future VERY ACCURATELY(Ni) I’m hoping the reverse is the case if I get in.
You can do the thing!
hey I support you, hope you find that jigsaw puzzle you can fit in to. Me myself feel like a don't belong but I know it's not only me feeling this way. Doing digital art atm but I feel as though I should be doing SEO and affiliate marketing. (Good luck with getting into University!
Wow thanks you two. I should chat with more of you in the comments in the future.
You are not alone on this planet. i am here with you. feel hugged.
i always thought bout myself like an alien. neither kids or adult could understand what i was thinking or the way I was doing it... I'm now 16 and i found MBTI community and I've understand that I'm an INTJ... probably the best thing I've ever learn about. i can finally meet and talk with people who can understand me and this is really a great thing. Your channel is amazing ❤️ thank for sharing these videos with all of us
I don't remember much of my childhood either. Just snapshots like you said. I wonder it that's normal for most people?
Hahaha. Under 12... I didn't like playing with most other children. I can still remember age 3-7 pretty well, and I strongly preferred talking to adults or playing by myself over play time with other children. I remember that other kids couldn't talk very well, so the rare times I made friends with other children, the other kids always had relatively strong language skills.
On the playground, I remember playing basketball coach. Omg. Mortifying. Hahaha.
I can identify with what you're describing so much here.
Glad it was relatable!
Yep, i was the first person ever to learn reading heh
I related to a lot of what you said, particularly the need to be alone and not understanding other people. (Which is most likely because I'm autistic as well as INTJ.) One specific social aspect I never related with other girls on (or kids in general) growing up was gossip, it didn't make sense to me and I saw it as a waste of time. I too hate chaos since I need to have things planned out to feel truly secure. Another great video, thanks for sharing your insight and experiences of having this personality type
Me as an INTJ kid :
- Knows more of my childhood than my peers
- found myself talking to myself, monologue-ing
- playing with my dolls and creating a storyline for them
- daydreaming a lot
- already have a solid plan on how and what I want to become
-deals with adult problems despite being under the age of 13
- tricking other kids to do what I want (now that I think about this it's creepy!)
- I did many things but only where I am interested in
- I always lead when it comes to playing because I don't like or understand how they play.
- i always spout suggestions that they don't understand and then they'd realize they should have followed me.
- really curious, asking so many things that my elders wouldn't know what or how to answer
- when I want something, I'd really want to do it.
- you'll catch me staring mindlessly
I also hung out in a box (or a series of boxes I colored to look like weird random buildings to make up my ‘box world’). Also never had many friends but that’s practically a given with INTJs, especially those of us who didn’t have cable or videogames or anything other kids were constantly talking about. And I definitely relate to being frustrated with inefficient adults
Lol we are just little cats in boxes 📦
I m INTJ you seem so familiar to me
True
Perhaps we know each other in some sensory or non sensory way 🙂
@@InternetLiJo is your expressionless and focused face ... It's clear that you are a very precise and organized person ... even for the way to speak I don't know
you are very good at making videos continue like this 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Im blown away at the similarities. Good video
Great Video LJ. My interest and attention where on what you had to say the whole time as you are such a fascinating person, and I am happy to get to know you a bit better through these videos.
Also I noticed again how, even though your facial expressions are minimalistic, they still express so much (especially your smile really makes me feel like there is this energy and information just shining at me). I assume this is because you are very natural and your expressions just are real and flow from how you really are and what you think.
😭😭🖤 this warmed my heart thank you
I was said by my Infj bestie that my smile is reeeally precious and beautiful to see. And i smile and look deeply into eyes only to people who deserve it, and it's kinda hella true, my circle is carefully choosed