ASMR | Gossip/Story Time! | My First Marriage (Soft Spoken)
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In this video, we'll be taking about my first marriage and the situation that caused it to come about. I hope you enjoy it. :)
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I'm sorry if I misspoke about my age in the pictures with my uncle. They were taken about 30 years ago. I was not 30 years old in the pictures.
I was thinking wow you were looking amazing at 30, so young! Hope this is ok to say Mary 😊
Beautiful ,honest and inspiring ❤ you have no idea how much this has resignated with myself. Thanks Mary ❤️
may i ask how old you were? you look so pretty!
Thanks for sharing! Do you still have family still involved with the church?
I believed it without question, because every time I see you on camera I think you're about 10-15 years younger than you say you are lol Mary with the fountain of youth on here!
Julieta ASMR shared one of your dollar store organization videos on TikTok and it has 4 million views and very positive comments!! People love you! ❤
At first I was all excited, but then realized she took her content and posted the entire video onntiktok to garner all those views.
@@jillianvest7254I don’t think she posted the whole thing plus her channel is not that popular this isn’t a TikTok famous person so it doesn’t make sense to post her videos for clout
@@jillianvest7254not at all, julieta kindve has certain weeks (usually called ‘theme’ of the week, where all of her asmr content for that week is based off of the theme chosen) or days where she uploads specific content and one of those is ‘throwback thursday’, where she uploads a video thats a little older and has helped her sleep/relax in the past. she gave southernsounds full credit in her caption and in the video!! in no way did she ever claim it was hers or try to upload it for her own personal gain, more-so as a recommendation for other asmr enjoyers 😊
almost 5 million now!
“If you’re going through it right now in life, remember it can’t rain forever”. I love that saying, and needed to hear it in this moment. Thank you. Sometimes when we’re in it, it’s so hard to see past it. I appreciate you Mary. You’re a kind soul.
love you both rach and mary ❤
Two of my favorite ASMRtists thank you both for the peace and relaxation you bring me 💕
it honestly made me cry. i needed to hear it now more than ever 😭♥️
He proposed over the phone …. Mary.. girl.. you deserve soo much better❤
lucky he proposed at all.
@@YuriGoofov wtf ?
My dad proposed to my mom over the phone on Halloween and told her to be quiet so he could do it; they are still together 44 years later.
My second marriage was most definitely a "what was I on for 8 entire years" moment. You are not alone. I remember the day I realized I didn't have to put up with that waste of air space anymore, it was so liberating! I made him file and when they served my papers to me at work I ran up and hugged the man, I told him he made my whole day!
Oh, mine too! I'm so glad I finally woke the h**l up! Amen!
If you are having issues with men you are most likely the problem, you are attracting those type of men in your life cause you are probably a nutcase yourself
This needs to be a Netflix series
Lifetime 😂
She deserves it and it wouldn’t surprise me, she’s done well
Yes, !'m invested and this is my favorite video. I would love to hear more about the cult.
@@stylishranchgirlif you go to her river road playlist, it’s the story of the cult she was in. it’s a really good book! :)
True 😂
You remind me of Phoebe from friends, and she is my favorite character 😂 She is so sweet, kind, she has unique experiences that make her her. And you honestly resemble her too!
I just thought the same thing!
I've been watching her for years and I've always thought the same thing 🥺
Me too love you’re comment she reminds me so much of Phoebe
Mary is a pioneer in the ASMR community! Shelf organization content is her thing
I love listening to mature/older women talk about their life and sharing their wealth of experience ♥️ society is so negative towards women over 40, but in reality they carry all of us on their shoulders and have so much wisdom.
You made a splash on TikTok with a viral video, and the comments were all big Mary fans!
yes she did! 😁❤️ Julieta ASMR is who I saw post it!! so sweet
would you mind linking the tiktok? I would love to watch it!
Yess i saw it too. Repping mary woo
@@Kammy_-ez8jx I’ve tried linking it three times and UA-cam keeps deleting the comment
@@lesliphelps aww that's ok. Thx for trying:) YT can be so annoying sometimes
I’m 16 years old and I’ve been here since I was 8. Trust me as someone who has grown up on this channel I can safely say that you will love it here ❤
"Be careful who you marry," it is so sad that it needs to be said! Whether you're marrying someone in a rush for religious reasons, or you're just naive enough to think you can KNOW someone is your soulmate after just a few months... there is literally zero harm in waiting. If the relationship is gonna last, it will not matter if you're married in 5 years or not, because you'll be together. If it's not gonna last, then you're gonna be really happy you're NOT married in 5 years.
No if you believe the person you'll marry won't last it probably won't, your words and thoughts are powerful , you folks hurt yourselves
@@terrifier-7 sure that is also a factor... But most people go into marriage with the best of intentions, truly believing it will work out. But it takes time to discover if someone is compatible.
my sister and my brother in law got married like a few months in their relationship back in 2010ish. and they’re still holding strong. everyone and their marriage is different but of course, always think about what you’re putting yourself into
i’m especially conscious of this after i watched that whole “who tf did i marry” story on tiktok…ts was a mess 😭😭😭
@@QueenJess2k05 you never know. Like I said, in 5 years if you're still together it's not gonna matter that you didn't get married 5 years ago. But if in 5 years you're broken up, you'll regret it if you were married. So waiting would not have hurt their relationship. But I'm glad it worked out.
I genuinely thought the picture of you in the thumbnail was from a movie/tv show! You looked (and still do look) stunning!!
Me too!!
I thought the same thing.
The “picture the most obnoxious devious person” took me out 😂 can totally relate to that one!
Fellow long-time watchers of this channel might remember "Danny" as the "Wicked Witch of the East." I know you've shared some of this story before, but hearing it all put together was a wild ride! I'm always amazed and inspired at your resiliency through all of the crazy times life's thrown at you and very happy to have you here sharing it all with us! I'm also not on TikTok, so I had no idea you'd gone viral on there, but welcome to all the new Mary fans from TikTok!
“He died in prison I was very happy to hear it” 😂😂😂
my lord 😭 I haven't watched the video yet but dang😂😂
Im only getting to the watch the video now but reading that quote I can’t wait for the tea☕️🫖😂😂😂
omg the tea i love it 🤭
My first and only marriage, I actually cried when I was walking back down the aisle. Everyone thought it was because I was happy and overwhelmed but it was because I realized “What have I done?!!”. Stayed faaaar too long.
good for you for saving yourself ! we only have our own backs at the end of the day right ?! I hope you have inner peace now my friend ☮️
I had the exact same experience! And my photographer got a pic of me hugging my father and crying. From the outside I’m sure it appeared to be tears of joy but every time I see that photo I remember the panic and dread I was feeling at that moment.
What made you come into realization the day of?
Im sorry but you people hurt yourselves cause you want too
@@terrifier-7 you could learn proper spelling and grammar if you wanted to, too.
Omggg them pics when you were younger!! You’ve always been beautiful❤
Thank you so much!!
She looked like J Law! What a cutie pie!
My face when you said a woman from the church was given a key to YOUR home 😮 I’m so glad you’re in a safe space now ❤️ love you and your videos! Xxxxxx
You made a beautiful bride on your wedding day tho ! Thanks for sharing your photos with us
Thank you!! 😊
"🥺the whole time?🥺"
"😨the whole time???😨"
"😡THE WHOLE TIME???!!!!😡"
-Sally Field
😂😂😂😂😂
That's about the way it was!
One of my favorite lines in a movie, EVER.
This story is absolutely buckwild! I was NOT expecting this when I clicked the video.
I’m marrying my fiancé in three weeks time! We actually first met in primary school when we were about 5 or 6 years old. But then my best friend married my fiancés best friend, and we reconnected at their wedding. We’ve been together almost two years now, and he’s my absolute best friend and I couldn’t be luckier to have him.
congratulations! best of luck to you both ! 🩷☀️
@@glittergirl333 Thank you so much! I’ve already started referring to him as my husband, as it’s going to take a while to get used to saying it!
I watch you for 5 years. You make my life so easier! Greetings from Serbia ❤
Омиљена од свих 🥰
Mary! This video scratched the biggest itch in my brain. I’d LOVE a full story of your life!!
As someone who left a cult, thanks for sharing your story it took me running away to realize that’s what it was. And even then it took me a long time to fully grasp it. But it’s so much better on the other side.
this was the most insane story ever. so glad you made it out of there and are now here telling the story so far away from all of that chaos.
I love Mary lore!!! My favorite kind of storytelling ASMR!
Second marriage story time next, please!
Yes
She doesn't share much from that marriage to protect her children 💓
I’ve been a subscriber of yours for years, but I did see that Julietta ASMR had posted one of your videos so I believe this is where the new subs may have come from!!🫶🏼
at this point Mary is not a youtuber for me,,,, she is more like our bestfriend
Genuinely Mary your resilience, grace, sense of humor, and whole outlook on life is such an inspiration to me. You continue to inspire me to live more authentically, what a gem you are ❤
Wow Mary, you have been through a real tragedy, that was hell! Honestly this story was very scary, at the beginning of the video I would have never imagined you would have talked about something like that. I feel like those evil people exploited your naïvity and youth and I feel like you have encounterd a lot of evil in your life. I am so happy you successfully overcomed all of this ❤
Been here for at least 6 years, and you so deserve any and all new POSITIVE attention. Here for the growth just like I was here for the teeny tiny community we were then. Nobody else could make me watch organizing shelves and have me on the hook the whole time. Go Mary go!!
I'm so excited your channel is getting more subs!! You're one of the best ASMRtists on the internet, in my opinion. Love you Mary! ❤
“It can’t rain all the time.” Iconic line from The Crow. It still resonates.
I love you that movie so much!🖤🤍🥀🐦⬛
this story time was literally insane. you should definitely do more. I would love to hear about anything you’d like to share. I love asmr and this was perfect to listen while I did my homework.
The person who recommended your channel is Julieta ASMR and she's on UA-cam too! I was happy to see you recommended on my fyp because you really deserve the recognition 💗💗
Wow....I've been watching your channel for a few years now. Knew you were in a "cult" back in the day but always wondered what it was all about. I realize that was very personal but thank you for sharing. It was VERY interesting. You are a worldly woman who has obviously experienced so much. Kudos to you!!! Again, thank you for sharing that story.
You lived a million crazy lives Mary and now you're here whispering to us about makeup products and whatnot lol love that. Queen behavior
i will never understand people who abuse others and minors yet have the gall to chastise other people over things that they probably don’t even believe in themselves. i am so glad you escaped and are living your best life, mary! ❤️
Control
please do more of these, you're only person who's stories I actually like listening to. I've been watching your videos for years and enjoy them immensely and enjoyed listening to this in the background
I don’t think I’ll ever get married.
And before anyone says I will I genuinely don’t want to 😂
The thought of sharing my bed long term with someone and not having my own space actually makes me feel sick. I value my alone time, feel like it doesn’t get normalised enough. Nothing wrong with being alone especially if it makes you happier than being with someone.
I’m with you! I’m not ruling out marriage altogether, but I’d have to meet someone really amazing for me to give up my personal space.
You're not alone! Being single is such a lovely way to go through life. So much more time for friends, hobbies, community, and precious alone time
Until you feel like you love someone. I just broke up with my girlfriend 3 days ago and I really miss waking up in bed with her. When she fell asleep with her head on my chest and her arm on me was the best and went straight to my heart every time. For someone to sleep so soundly like that made me feel so good like I made her feel so comfortable. Especially she has had trouble sleeping for a long time but every time I'm with her when it was time to sleep she had no problem. To me those things are what I miss. This was my first weekend alone and I feel lost and alone. I go into stores and I see couples walking around picking things out and laughing and I miss it. I feel like I don't have a purpose now.
Same here! I love having my own space! People spend sooo much money on weddings too 😮 I know a few people who were still paying for the wedding when they were getting divorced!
I don’t blame you 😅 I struggle to sleep with another person/my husband in the bed sometimes
As someone about to get married for the first time very soon, I clicked so fast!! I look to you for fun and sincere advice so often! I love your life stories and advice videos. ❤
this came at the perfect time for me too. Congratulations !!!! Best of luck to you and health and happiness in your futures ☺️
Congrats!! My husband and I got married 10 months ago and marriage is truly the BEST! It will challenge you and grow you so much but just depend on the Lord and stay strong and fight for each other. Get wisdom from wise married friends. Marriage is truly such a sweet gift!!!
Congratulations! 💖😊 sending my blessing as a married person as well!🥰
Mary I ABSOLUTELY LOVE these story times!!! I am begging for more! 💕💕
Mary, I feel you on being in bad relationships and feel dumb looking back. You excuse a lot of red flags when you're "in love" sometimes. Im older and wiser now, I can't live in regret for my poor choices as a teenager/young adult then, but I sure as hell can not allow it to happen again.
Oh my goodness this could be a Netflix special, Mary! What an experience, Im glad you got out of the cult. Im gonna be buying your book because this was just fascinating. Thanks for sharing your story with us.
yes I want to read her book now too!!!
there is a Netflix series based on her cult. the leader is called Warren Jeffs
Mary: "Picture the most obnoxious person ever"
Instantly picturing my ex husband 🤷
I love the bitterness from women commenting 😂
😂
@@X12-g4jthey don't realize they are the problem
Thank you, Mary, for letting us in on a part of your past. I was glued! I love your story telling. Thank God you unloaded all of that!
I loved! River Road. I listened to you read it. It was a novel that the characters stay with you for a while. Well done! BRAVA!
I need to get that!
I had wondered for a long time if you and ‘Glenda’ were still together or just good friends. I think it’s lovely you have found three balance that makes it work for you all. ❤
“So done” is such a frustrating and freeing feeling at the same time. Thank you for sharing your story!❤️
This was so nice! I love these longer chat videos for Sundays. Your videos are the best company when I'm home alone.
Omg! I had a terrible relationship when I was 19 years old and sounds similar to this. We weren’t married but he was always wanting me to buy him things, he had no job, lost his car, in trouble with police. I feel like I use to be a very helpful caring person and felt bad for people. I’m 30 now and there’s no way I’d be a babysitter to someone again 😂
me too!!!! from when i was 16-20… and he was TWO years older than me but he treated me like i was his mommy. and i cant believe i allowed it for so long. i could have been saving my money😡
I’ve watched this video 4 times but kept falling asleep, so I kept rewatching to finish the story. I love this type of content from you Mary, just sitting down for a story time, it’s so relaxing to listen to, wether I’m sleeping or getting ready in the morning. Please do more videos like this, perhaps talking about your second and third marriage. 😃
I love my mother so much but you have such a calm demeanor and way of giving advice that I wish I had grown up with.
Mary I am definitely buying a copy of the first book. After hearing your story I'm so intrigued to know more.
I’m going through a divorce right now! I’m 28 been in a 8 year relationship. I feel so disappointed in myself for marrying this person & felt like I made the biggest mistake of my life.. literally beat myself up about it daily 😢.. Thank you for this video you really lifted me up and made me feel better. This process has been so hard but you made me feel more positive about going through this Phase. Thank you so much ❤
Better now than never! Keep moving forward, you're doing the best you can and that's more than enough. Wishing you all the best on your journey ❤
Wishing you strength and happiness ❤️
i just want to say how brave and patient you were with life. you really deserve the world 💘
wow!! what a story!! you are so strong for getting through that. ❤️
side note- the sound of your bracelet is divine 😍
We need a part 2 and 3 of the wedding tales! Will also be looking into your book, heading about this church is very fascinating!
55:09 Mary you had me DYING LAUGHING!! Partly because it’s so REAL it’s FUNNY. I just left my useless ex in November and it’s such a long story that I’ll probably have to make my own video on it. 10 years I was in a relationship with a mentally abusive, unemployed, drug addicted, nasty sob. His favorite saying was “it’s the wife’s job to cook and clean.” It’s just ALOT. Now I need to hear about your 2 marriage 😂
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oh, wow, mary. every video you upload just makes me respect you even more. you are so strong, and the fact that you're able to look back on such a situation and see the humour only cements that further. as a young woman myself, having someone who uploads videos that are real, candid and advice that is so so useful! I've been watching your channel for a few years and just wanted to thank you ❤
Just popped up in my feed for the first time. Lovely tone of voice. Glad you’re doing your own thing. I can’t handle the fake quiet whispering. No one speaks like that normally. It hurts my brain. I like a natural soft voice. Thank you!
i absolutely love your strength and your very "i do what i like!" attitude. it is always so inspiring to me. im only 19 but as i get older i realize that's a good attitude to have. do what you like, do it well, and don't try to impress others by doing what is popular. much love to you mary ^_^
yay for mary lore! i watch your other channel sometimes and i enjoy listening to you rant about life. :)
It’s so cool to learn so much more about your past after being such a long time follower!!
You and your younger son look just a like! Thank you for this video! Been following you since maybe 2017 and i love hearing more about your life. Your videos and chats have gotten me through a lot! You’re amazing Mary! Thanks for all you do! ❤
That viral TIk Tok gave you the exposure you deserve!! 🌸 I’ve been a long time subscriber for many years!
“his credit score by now has to be in the single digits” 😭😭😭😭😭
We all have a story (or two). I’m glad you made it through.
Thank you so much for sharing and showing the pictures! I loved the video :)
This made me go back and look to see how long I've been following you... 8 years!! Almost since the beginning! Love the vibes and the Southern accent, makes me homesick for North Carolina (lived there for a few years back in the day). You do you, Mary!
what’s your skin care routine?? your skin looks AMAZING!!
Can’t wait to listen to this while doing my Sunday chores! 😊
Long time subscriber...I've heard parts of this story from your other videos, but hearing the whole thing-- this is WILD. My goodness. So glad you got away.
The car bit made me gasp...the audacity he had to try to sell your car like that! 😨
Mesmerising. Thank you so much Mary. I literally cannot wait for the sequels. The stories of marriages TWO and THREE. PLEASE!
I won't be talking about marriage two. Not much fun stuff to talk about there.
I haven’t watched one of your videos in years, but I’m so glad you popped up on my feed. I am currently going through a divorce, 6 months down in the required year of separation in NC. You give me so much hope! You are so strong and wise and I love how you can look back now and laugh. I so needed this today.
I wanna hear more about your current relationship! I love the transparency on that situation and how y’all were able to continue relationship after ending your marriage. That’s honestly really beautiful
It’s no shock you went viral on there; your videos are awesome! Just got off work and looking forward to watching this video.
Aw, thank you! How's your job going?
@@SouthernASMRSoundsOf course! And my job is going well. I love it. I never thought I’d love a job, but this one has been amazing.
been watching you for almost 4 years now - i don't usually leave a comment - but i just wanted to say you deserve all the recognition you get and will continue getting!
I love your authenticity especially in this video… thank you for the baller content, Mary!
I found you on TikTok from Julieta’s Asmr’s channel also I watched this while crocheting and It’s soooo relaxing
Mary please make this a series! ❤
Six years for me,enjoying you.I rembember how I found you,trying to sleep and you were mixing some juice powder in watter bottles,different flavours...I was immediately hooked and then getting to know the amazing woman you are has been a pleasure❤❤❤❤
I came from Tiktok!! Julieta ASMR posted you :)
“Everyone Wanted To Hear Me Talk”- Mary
It appears we still do😂
Wow! You are a captivating storyteller.
i’m going through an extremely messy breakup right now and seeing this makes me feel a lot better about the situation.. thank you mary❤️
I read/listened to you read River Road and it has seriously stuck with me, even years later. It’s truly one of my favorite books
Hanging out in bed with my roommate (lol) listening to these videos is a guilty pleasure. You helped me knock out the dishes earlier and I love listening to you on the way to to the farm.
Blessings always!
There are people who are just naturally gifted to do ASMR, and you're def one of them, just subscribed!
I love ASMR with speaking rather than whispering. Thank you! This was wonderful
Love you Mary for saying that things get better. I had the worst panic attack ever today, I really needed this.
I hope the rest of the day goes better! ❤️
Mary, I think you are my favorite person on this planet. Going through all of that in your early life, having the courage to leave, and still having such a large heart and be full of joy...😁
... And I'm reading Mary's book as a consequence to watching this video!! More stories, pleeeeaase! ❤
I really enjoyed watching this video - so interesting. Congratulations on your new subscribers - well deserved. I love the originality of your channel.
Oh I am so interested in watching this, especially after reading River Road!