MUSLIMAHS: OBEY YOUR HUSBANDS OR GO TO HELL?

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  • @psychedelicate
    @psychedelicate 6 років тому +191

    i have recently been thinking about converting to Islam and have therefore been doing a lot of research into it. a Muslim man came into my life and was taking advantage of my lack of knowledge about Islam... lots of things that were half truths to justify his behaviors in his favour. the last straw was him telling me to wear a hijab FOR HIM... he seems to not understand why women wear the hijab. thanku for this video. i'm still finding my way and your videos are verrrrry informative.

    • @naimaadan1263
      @naimaadan1263 6 років тому +19

      May Allah make it easy sister..

    • @babylove15cute
      @babylove15cute 6 років тому +1

      perrywinx Masha’Allah

    • @Footieblox
      @Footieblox 6 років тому +33

      Unfortunately some evil men take advantage of new Muslim women and treat them badly. Dont become a victim of domestic violence sis, its far too common. A woman deserves respect from a man and it is her right from Allah.

    • @girlwithajournal9375
      @girlwithajournal9375 6 років тому +2

      Assalamualaikum sister. May Allah make it easy for you. I run an Islamic blog www.treasuresoftheummah.wordpress.com and would love to help you out if you need it. You can email me on sumayyaessackbusiness@gmail.com if you'd like

    • @Rh3kr
      @Rh3kr 6 років тому +7

      perrywinx May Allah open your heart to islam sis, unfortunately some Muslims are not representing Islam the way they should so never see Islam through the eyes of Muslim but rather research and read about islam from to the correct resources, one being the Quran.. if you need any help regarding this you can contact me via instagram @ r.kf_

  • @fardowsaabdulle4896
    @fardowsaabdulle4896 6 років тому +155

    I'm so happy I found your channel , Every time I watch your channel I learn something new, may Allah grant you paradise. I'm so happy I started praying again and I pray Sunnah.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  6 років тому +14

      Alhamdulilah. I'm so happy to hear that. May Allah continue to guide us all. Ameen.

    • @rayna5561
      @rayna5561 6 років тому +1

      fardowsa abdulle Masha Allah sis ❤️

    • @Madde58982
      @Madde58982 6 років тому +1

      Awesome wow

  • @Tta112
    @Tta112 6 років тому +139

    Another reason for sisters to stop marrying brothers that are still confusing religion and culture. Make sure your potential mate is practising shura!!!

  • @zahraqauomi4943
    @zahraqauomi4943 6 років тому +96

    Salaam sis and mashallah Noor is glowing all over your face. Allah punish those men who abuse women in any form such as physical or verbal abuse, especially in the third world countries, it really breaks my heart. Love you sis and keep going inshallah. 💕💖💕

  • @worshipthecreator9081
    @worshipthecreator9081 5 років тому +63

    There is also a Hadith which says the best of man is he who IS THE BEST TO HIS WIFE....Tirmidhi 1162

    • @void6752
      @void6752 4 роки тому +2

      @pink girl okay if he’s treating you bad obvs dotn obey him but treats her best means fulfill her rights so if he’s providing for her he’s done his rights and has a right to be obeyed and if she’s obeying he should be best or his wife

    • @void6752
      @void6752 4 роки тому +3

      And this hadith doesn’t punish those who aren’t the best to their wives it jsut syas that the best are the ones who are the best I to their wives vice versa as well doesnt cusnge the fact that it is obligatory to obey your husband if he’s being a BAD husband obviously divorce him or don’t obey him

    • @nabilataha2913
      @nabilataha2913 2 роки тому +1

      @@void6752 wdym by bad husband. Did you mean jus not fulfilling her rights makes him a bad husband? If you meant that ur totally wrong. Men have to treat the wife with love n affection, not just provide for her n thats it. Or the relationship will become a living hell if there is no love

    • @AC-mp7cx
      @AC-mp7cx 2 роки тому +3

      doesnt change the fact that a wife has to obey

  • @sadafahmed3387
    @sadafahmed3387 6 років тому +45

    Salam walaikum sister, way to go.
    This is especially amongst south asians some pakistanis & indian men.
    Yes do discuss more of women issues.

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  6 років тому +17

      It's an issue around the world even here in the West. Jzk for watching.

    • @catsandmusic4635
      @catsandmusic4635 6 років тому +8

      As a Pakistani, I agree that these issues are absolutely major problems in my community. May Allah guide everyone and bring us upon the path of Muhammad (SAW)

  • @InshasChoice
    @InshasChoice 6 років тому +26

    It will make life more enjoyable if the husband is a great man. I pray that all of us have a joyous experience here and in the life hereafter, Ameen. Thank you Nafisa, you're a blessing 😉
    Btw, the story of Asiya gives me chills. My grandma says that pharaohs corpse is still being punished by Allah SWT.

  • @Hannah-xj1dz
    @Hannah-xj1dz 6 років тому +74

    According to tafsir and hadiths ( please correct me if I am wrong!), men may beat the disobedient wife with a small stick in order to correct her persistent flawed behavior when there is no other resort after trying to communicate with her and boycotting her conjugal right. Beating with a stick is literally symbolic as it wouldn’t hurt even a child. The problem is that a lot of ignorant pigs have their own definition of disobedience and beat their wives for no reason and with violence.. may Allah swt guide us all, may He reward sisters who suffer from injustice and may He grant our muslim brothers who protect and respect their wives Jannat Firdaws!!

    • @xSunnyDaysx
      @xSunnyDaysx 6 років тому +43

      Hannah From what i know. That ayaah was send to regulate the beating of women. It was send to set a limit. It was not brought to make it a law. It is not recommended but it’s allowed since men in those days used to beat women badly like the beating of a workhorse. Or even worse.
      The stick is the size of a siwaak.
      And these rules are only to use when the wife is breaking an Islamic law. Men these days get upset if the dinner does not have the right temperature. Men like that know nothing of the deen.
      Women are sensitive beings. Even a gentle slap from a friend would upset me.

    • @Hannah-xj1dz
      @Hannah-xj1dz 6 років тому +3

      QQ AA you are absolutely right sister!

    • @Amy_omer
      @Amy_omer 6 років тому +1

      Here is a link will make you understand this point
      abuaminaelias.com/does-the-quran-let-muslims-beat-their-wives/

    • @annaartemis4359
      @annaartemis4359 5 років тому +3

      Lol the Quran simply says “strike them” after the two steps. The regulations came after women were beaten like hell. And then it is however violence and disrespect

    • @SD-yf9hw
      @SD-yf9hw 5 років тому

      Habeebah Muse quran 4:16 is beating i think. And the rest is true aswell from jay Matthews

  • @dominiquepowell-saidykhan2916
    @dominiquepowell-saidykhan2916 6 років тому +19

    I understand how these instances of wives wanting to remove their scarf for the husbands... the way some cultures are placing such emphasis and importance on marriage, stifling sex education, and making women feel their importance is based on how pleased their husbands are with them, it’s creating a culture of desperation and normalcy for this. May Allah protect us from these behaviors and mentalities that place his creation and this world before him. Ameen.

  • @elifchousein2205
    @elifchousein2205 6 років тому +22

    salam alaikum sister, thank you for making this video i find it very bad that men actually want their wives to take off their hijabs like the women do it for allah and not for anyone else.

    • @mariejcm8379
      @mariejcm8379 5 років тому +3

      I'm from Europe and I recently went to a "muslim country" and to my surprise, in the people I met there, I was the only one wearing hijab! They even talked about drinking alcohol, smoking and one person also said she took off her hijab because her husband asked her to. Not what I expected going to that country!

    • @elifchousein2205
      @elifchousein2205 5 років тому +1

      @@mariejcm8379 that´s terrible may allah s.w.t guide them

  • @FerryDzaack
    @FerryDzaack 2 роки тому +4

    masyallah this sister is amazing. I am a muslim man and realized the suffering my wife has gone through due to my covert narcissistic personality disorder. I feel grateful I even was able to realize this because most narcissist can't. I wish i was born normal, and I wish it can be cured. But I think your videos make it easier for people how to handle a sick person like us. May Allah make the test of those who handle a narcissist easier and may Allah make it easier for us narcissists to handle this sickness of the heart ourselves. If you can I'd like to see a video how a narcissist should handle or control his impulsive actions and himself because we can't think realistically.

    • @purplelove3666
      @purplelove3666 10 місяців тому

      I don't know why a lot of women seem to take abuse from men,imagine beating an animal and they are still there.

  • @amala1874
    @amala1874 6 років тому +95

    Them mums need to start teaching boys about their RESPONSIBILITIES towards women real early on, dunno where they get their ideas of being entitled to authority by God 😁

    • @jonathanjones5554
      @jonathanjones5554 5 років тому +3

      Them dads need to start teaching girls about their RESPONSIBILITIES towards men early on, or dunno where they get their ideas of being entitled to authority by God 😁

    • @Ihavemadeit999
      @Ihavemadeit999 5 років тому +6

      Jonathan Jones nope.
      She Said guys.u r guilty Huh?

    • @jonathanjones5554
      @jonathanjones5554 5 років тому +1

      @@Ihavemadeit999
      Nope but I think you are. Get your shithole liberal agenda out of my religion, now go read some hadiths of rights husband have over wife and the other way around. You Ms. Self-proclaimed feminist 😁

    • @Ihavemadeit999
      @Ihavemadeit999 5 років тому +8

      Jonathan Jones Yes exaclty just like i Said.U are insecure because u are actually trash haha.
      *I Saw your ego coming out When u Said go Read the rights of husband over you.Just to let u know,women Have More Rights than men,so study Them u Little **boy.One** Day When u man Up,Them start speaking up.Kiddo*

    • @jonathanjones5554
      @jonathanjones5554 5 років тому +2

      @@radiyahm6318
      And I hate girls like you who know nothing about respecting their husband and obeying after all he is spending his money to shelter you, clothe you, be grateful for his sacrifices. Go read the hadith mentioned by Prophet Muhammad pbuh mentioning the rights husbands have over wives and wives over husbands before hollering at me like an uneducated stupid feminazi. Woman up

  • @farihaahmed7966
    @farihaahmed7966 6 років тому +24

    Love your videos sis May Allah increase you in abundance

    • @NafisasPearlz
      @NafisasPearlz  6 років тому

      Ameen. May Allah increase you in abundance too.

  • @alexanderv7702
    @alexanderv7702 3 роки тому +1

    "replace him with someone who is better"!
    Nafisatu: advice is one thing; PROMISES are something else, something beyond your remit!

  • @hozizprettyaimer4896
    @hozizprettyaimer4896 6 років тому +17

    It's always so great to see ur shining face sistar😍, masha allah.
    What a powerful and geat topic.

  • @UA-ki1vg
    @UA-ki1vg 6 років тому +15

    Salam, just a thought which would be of grrat benefit to all us muslimahs. Can you do a video on masculine and feminine polarity and how the deen and sunnah enforce this so we can have the most fulfilling relationships. Nowadays women are living in their masculine energy all the time not knowing that with thier spouses they need to be feminine and that is empowering, inshallah.

    • @zhirabibi5884
      @zhirabibi5884 6 років тому +3

      Ulfah Ali well said, i completely agree

    • @coolcat6341
      @coolcat6341 6 років тому +4

      Yes but most these women live hard life, rough life,,, if women don't feel safe and cared for she can't let her feminity show...

    • @purplelove3666
      @purplelove3666 10 місяців тому

      Worry about the men who want to stay on toddler mode,Instead of worrying about women who are in their masculine energy, would you describe working women , masculine? What's so masculine about women of these days? Don't act like a lot of you men are walking like perfect beings, and a lot of you act like toddlers, don't even know basic life skills ,and attach femininity to that,

  • @rebatravelagent7606
    @rebatravelagent7606 4 роки тому +2

    Maa shaa Allah. Alhamdulliah. Beautifully well said♥️🙏🤲

  • @salmajacob8988
    @salmajacob8988 6 років тому +3

    Your smile at the beginning tho! 😍
    May Allah keep you smiling.

  • @mimjkh82
    @mimjkh82 6 років тому +3

    Mashallah sister you're absolutly right ! JazakAllah khayran for this powerful reminder ❤️

  • @zainabbourdouane4856
    @zainabbourdouane4856 6 років тому +3

    Jazak'Allah Khair for this video sister❤

  • @nimoali4478
    @nimoali4478 6 років тому +9

    Really beneficial jazakallah sister ❤️

  • @YoungRiaz
    @YoungRiaz Рік тому

    Nafisa i am a non traditional British Pakistani guy but your points are informative and i wish you the best of luck

  • @UA-ki1vg
    @UA-ki1vg 6 років тому +8

    Salam sister had a mini hear attack when I saw your instastory. 😂😂 Jazakallah for educating us sisters from ignorance.

  • @yacinediallo6502
    @yacinediallo6502 6 років тому +3

    thank you Nafissa! May Allah bless you for the knowlegde that you teach. i love the topic as a muslima and a feminist and i think that you speak very well about it, so thank you for that....

    • @xSunnyDaysx
      @xSunnyDaysx 6 років тому

      yacine diallo Being a feminist means going against allot of the rulings of Allah. Being a feminist means treating men and women equally when Islam tells you that a mother has 3 times more right over a father. Same when the messenger tells you that raising 3,2 or 1 upright daughter(s) will give you default acces to Jannah. Feminist will tell you that a father and mother are equal. Feminist will tell you that raising a son and daughter will give you the same rewards.
      Plz consider your ways.

  • @_Shockthemoonx3
    @_Shockthemoonx3 6 років тому +3

    Mashallah ! Really powerful message, keep it up IA!

  • @nabamambureh6363
    @nabamambureh6363 6 років тому +1

    Ma shaa Allah! Well said, may Allah bless you.

  • @maramsalkini
    @maramsalkini 6 років тому +8

    Unfortunately I married a man who’s too tied up with his culture.. violence is always his answer every time we argue, he never have sabr with me when I have too much for him, sometimes I just want to give up and tell I’m regretting marrying him, I know Islam prohibits violence against women but my husband stands with his belief that men are power over women and I deserve such punishment even if I have never done anything major against him. Mind you he’s following the way of Salaf but I don’t see that on him honestly. He’s good showing everyone that he’s a straight follower of our dear Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) but the four walls of our house contradicts it, it has witnessed the worse and the abuse I’ve gone through almost every single day, whether verbally, physically and emotionally. He always says Allah will make Hisab on me for not obeying him when that’s all I do all the time, he sees the small things I’ve done wrong (like over cooking something or forgetting something) as if I’ve committed adultery when I’ve been trying hard to be the best faithful wife for him. He even threatens me of marrying another women he desires because he said I lack effort of being the perfect wife, he never see the effort I’ve made to fix our problems even though I have never done anything wrong I just don’t know what else I should do

    • @latifamohammed5906
      @latifamohammed5906 6 років тому +7

      We will remember you in our prayers!
      Put ALLAH first my dear,and you are very well worthy much better than that.

    • @maramsalkini
      @maramsalkini 6 років тому

      ⵜⴰⵏⵉⵔⵉ Kiki I’m actually pregnant right now and I don’t know if I should stay being abused this way, Allah knows every tears I shed for my husband but he’s too ungreatful to understand. We’re currently here residing In Sudan, I’m a Filipino and he’s Syrian.

    • @faiza1701
      @faiza1701 6 років тому +4

      SlumberBunny This is literally abuse, the longer it goes on the worse it gets. Please think about your child and their future! Do you want them to grow up in a violent household where violence is the normal?

    • @maramsalkini
      @maramsalkini 6 років тому

      Fizz I don’t want it for our child but I don’t know how what I should do. He won’t divorce me, he once said to me “no, I will not talaq you but instead I will marry another woman and she will show you how being a good wife is..”
      I really don’t know to who I can ask help, most Sudanese ladies doesn’t speak English so communicating with anyone to seek help is so hard for me, I’m scared of my husband to be honest

    • @maramsalkini
      @maramsalkini 6 років тому

      ⵜⴰⵏⵉⵔⵉ Kiki here in Sudan

  • @h.a6151
    @h.a6151 6 років тому +10

    You nailed it sister! 😎😘

  • @bangs896
    @bangs896 6 років тому +1

    Ma Shaa Allah sister...May Allah reward you for this such messages

  • @far0862
    @far0862 6 років тому +1

    Jazak Allah khair... Stay blessed, Nafisa..🌷

  • @leyla4283
    @leyla4283 3 роки тому +4

    What to do if you sometimes don't feel heard and the husband says he is the final decision maker? It really frustrates me and makes me mad. He is the one who gets his way often even in the smallest things because I have to obey. He got to decide about big things about our children like which school and vaccinating. Its really frustrating for me. He also makes comprises which he by himself conceived. So I dont call it a good compromise. Were is the limit of obeying if its not a haram case? How to handle in a situation of two different opinions?

    • @purplelove3666
      @purplelove3666 10 місяців тому

      Did you discuss things like this with your husband before marrying him? And also are you working?

  • @ghensab5428
    @ghensab5428 6 років тому +2

    Thank you very much my sister! I always watch your videos and I love them so much 😍😍. I hope that you'll read my comment because I want to ask something of you. I would really like to hear more from you about the hadith that says: " Had it been permissible that a person may prostate himself before another, I would have ordered that a wife should prostate herself before her hisband." This hadith was narrated by Abu Hurayrah and it is Al-Tirmithi Hadith number 285. I would love to know more about your understanding of this hadith and what you think we as women should take away from it. Thank you!! 💕💕

  • @juanahalsafi1363
    @juanahalsafi1363 6 років тому +4

    You're the best Nafisah!!! Your content is excellent

  • @inesita365
    @inesita365 6 років тому +5

    MashaAllah sister. I love the way you explain everything 🌼

  • @ladysafk7810
    @ladysafk7810 6 років тому +2

    May Allah continue to increase your wisdom and knowledge Ameen. Thanks sister u are one of my inspiration. x

  • @lintiimintii
    @lintiimintii 6 років тому +2

    You’re legit a ray of sunshine - the noor around makes you such a strong & beautiful role model mashallah 💗🙌🏼💗 May Allah bless you for all you do, Jazakallah for clarifying such an important issue. Your point of empowering ourselves through education is the key to living our deen & dunya to the fullest inshallah 🙌🏼 May Allah guide each women of every background/race/religion to empower herself through education and helping others inshallah 💕💕💕💕

  • @themuslimah2864
    @themuslimah2864 6 років тому +3

    MashAllah, "The way you say health and emaan" is so cute... i always say that in my mind before you even say it... lov u sis 😍💕

  • @العلمنور-و3د4ط
    @العلمنور-و3د4ط 6 років тому +1

    So good thank you Nafisa you're doing one of the best things in the world to sharing knowledge of Islam I like the video

  • @mahsiffarnaz2297
    @mahsiffarnaz2297 2 роки тому +1

    Salaams sis, love your videos! So I've been looking and couldn't find exactly what does it refer to when we are asked to be obedient towards our husbands? I always felt uncomfortable with this cz it seems like I'm not allowed to have opinions but like you said that's not true isA. So what exactly am I supposed to obedient about? No one specifies it :( would you please be kind enough to do so isA? Jak for the video and Jak in advance. Hope you read and respond isA :)

  • @diaz6636
    @diaz6636 3 роки тому +1

    May Allah keep you happy and blessed ❤️

  • @mariamaceesay8173
    @mariamaceesay8173 8 місяців тому

    Masha ALLAH Allahumma Barik my sister by ALLAH i love you so much ❤️❤️

  • @madiha.g
    @madiha.g 4 роки тому +1

    Alhumdolilah beautiful video as always ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @aborgeshonorato
    @aborgeshonorato 6 років тому +2

    Thanks again for the great video!!

  • @dreamsurfergirl
    @dreamsurfergirl 6 років тому +10

    The situation might get even trickier when other 3 wives manipulate the man to abuse the least favourite wife... Some women can really make other women's life hell on earth...

    • @adamshalalfoodtruck
      @adamshalalfoodtruck 6 років тому +12

      Nata Tiffunny if he is abusing, then leave him. He isnt doing justice between all 4. If he is doing this, then he doesnt know the values of marriage and most likely just having multiple wives for his own selfish reasons

    • @dreamsurfergirl
      @dreamsurfergirl 6 років тому +3

      @@adamshalalfoodtruck Alhamdulilla it's not about me))) My point was that it's not always a man's fault. Sometimes there can be very hard relationships between different wives...

    • @adamshalalfoodtruck
      @adamshalalfoodtruck 6 років тому +10

      Dont blame the other wife. Its his life and he is responsibile for dealing with then justly and maturely.

    • @dreamsurfergirl
      @dreamsurfergirl 6 років тому +1

      @@adamshalalfoodtruck I don't blame anyone. Just sayin, life can be different, not everything is black n white.

  • @rebeccaimanscott2011
    @rebeccaimanscott2011 6 років тому

    Assalamu alaykum Sister Jazak Allahu Khairun taking time explaining...

  • @Naayaah.s1471
    @Naayaah.s1471 6 років тому

    👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽, Mashallah. Could not have said it better.

  • @fantakoi1606
    @fantakoi1606 6 років тому +1

    Thank you sister Nafisa. May Allah reward you.

  • @mllelounalouna4114
    @mllelounalouna4114 6 років тому +8

    hello brothers and sisters. I'm born in a muslim family but i 've started taking religion seriously and be consistent with my salat last year . I felt good and peaceful and i had built a strong bond with islam and allah . Unfortunately, recently about two weeks ago my imaan started fading and i stopped praying. I really try to make salat again but with my busy schedule I end up with having to pray all the salats in the evening and that makes me lazy so i end up not praying at all . I'm lost I don't know what to do please help me .

    • @worshipthecreator9081
      @worshipthecreator9081 6 років тому +6

      Pray your fard where ever u can. May Allah swt make it easy for you aameen

    • @latifahnapier8311
      @latifahnapier8311 6 років тому +5

      Bismillah. I feel your concern. Sometimes being obedient in our worship to Allah Most High May seem like a task. May Allah All Knowing forgive us and increase us in understanding our relationship and responsibilities to Him, Amin. Sister, try your best in all your busyness to read or listen to Quran so that you can be reminded of the rewards Allah Most Great gives to those who believe and those who make sacrifices for Him and this beautiful religion. Please listen seriously and several times daily, reminders online about Allah and the Prophet (May Allah’s Peace and Blessings be upon him) in hopes that these reminders will strengthen your iman and cause you to worship responsibly. And to do so, not only to have a level of fear of Allah but because you LOVE HIM and that you can NEVER count the many blessings and favors Allah has given you. Been a revert since 2004;and with all the challenges faced with being a working married woman and attending school part time while keeping up all forms of worship does has it challenges. HOWEVER, when one ponders on the Hereafter with the understanding that we are only here in this world temporarily and the next life is our real home and eternity (May Allah grant us high levels in Jennah for our sacrifices and His Mercy, Amin), then the hardships and challenges that come along in this life doesn’t seem so difficult. May Allah Al Qadir make it easy for you and us all to understand our duties to Him and Him Alone, increase us in iman (faith and devotion), steadfastness and joy in our ibaadah (worship/actions/deeds) that will win His Pleasure, Mercy and Good for ourselves in this life as well as the next, Amin. Be well my fellow believer in Islam, may Allah Most High, keep you strong and able, Amin!

    • @aishahprastowo9423
      @aishahprastowo9423 6 років тому +3

      Just my 2cents, just do the best you can, if you can't do all 5 prayers then doing 1 is better than nothing and then you can gradually increase it.. masha Allah I admire the fact that you admit your mistakes and are willing to be a better person. May Allah guide you and all of us aameen.

    • @drmaryamazam36
      @drmaryamazam36 6 років тому

      Allah

    • @mariejcm8379
      @mariejcm8379 5 років тому +2

      I can relate to that. What I find helps is making duaa and asking Allah to help me keep going. Also, I find that having to catch up all 5 prayers in the evening also helps, even though it might seem ridiculous to do that because the point of it is to have 5 moments in the day where you take time for yourself to be with Allah. It helps because after a while I get so frustrated having to do that that it pushes me to find a way of praying during the day. Even if it means sitting on a bench in a park, but at least taking the time out, because it's really annoying to have to do it all at once in the evening. It also helps to be around people who pray, but I understand it's not always possible at work. Find all the ways you can to remember Allah during the day. Just keep going, even if you have ups and downs, just keep trying and slowly you'll start managing it better. It's all about intention, so just keep trying and know that we all have ups and downs, it's pretty normal :-) May Allah help you in your efforts.

  • @samsensation786
    @samsensation786 6 років тому +1

    The content of the video is👌🏼 mashAllah thank you

    • @samsensation786
      @samsensation786 6 років тому +1

      can you make a video about living on our own/moving out of parents house as an unmarried muslimah.

  • @zeek4749
    @zeek4749 6 років тому +2

    Salaam sister first time watching your video. Nicely explained thank you. I am Muslim woman and I believe the only book we should fallow is the Quran. Men use all these hadeed just get what they want lol. Women with no education falls for it lol. Believing any other book is a sheerk

    • @bigbee3289
      @bigbee3289 5 років тому

      the quran literally says to follow hadith sis, there's a nouman ali khan video on this topic that really helped me understand this.

  • @EnjoytheMents
    @EnjoytheMents Рік тому

    Selam alaikum sister. Thank you for confirming that a women should obey her husband unless its haram. Do some cooking in sha Allah. Bismillah

  • @blackcristal128
    @blackcristal128 6 років тому +1

    As salaamu alaikum Sister Nafisa. May Allah bless you with the best of dunya and akhirah. Ameen. MashaAllah you are so articulate. I enjoy watching you. You are a great life coach, please keep doing what you’re doing. You’re helping a lot of Muslimah out there. Just a suggestion: please keep your full hijab on your thumbnail. Jazakumullahu khairan!

  • @shaguftakhadeer9610
    @shaguftakhadeer9610 6 років тому

    Waalaikumassalam Sister Nafeesa..
    Shades of green 👌👌
    Mashaa Allah You are glowing day by day....
    Now coming to the video...
    Atlast Someone Spoke Out The Truth...
    I Always Admire U For Speaking Out The Truth..Thank u for being Honest Everytime....
    By The Way Allah Azzawajjal Has Blessed Us With Hadeeth And Qur'an So That We Can Act Upon It not to quote on eachother and win an arguements....
    A true Practising Muslim/Muslimaah Will Never Quote Allah's Book Just To Win An Arguement...
    Seriously These Days Everyone Wants To Be A Winner so what if it is just an Argurment..
    Simply Backout guys..
    stay away from islamic arguements even if u r right...
    let Allah Azzawajjal Decide Whats Right And Whats Wrong
    we are not qualified enough to quote Allah's Book..We r human beings lets behave like one...we r nowhere near to Angels or sahabas To quote Allah's Book
    And Sister Nafeesa Thanks for this video
    😗😗

  • @anisap8764
    @anisap8764 6 років тому +1

    Thx sis.. mashallah your hijab is beautiful and so are you I love the way you talk and explain everything take care salams to all.

  • @ladymundawdrammeh3323
    @ladymundawdrammeh3323 6 років тому

    Salam, jazakAllah khairah...wonderful reminder dear

  • @lilrr1431
    @lilrr1431 6 років тому +2

    You are so articulate mashallah💖

  • @maryamnalumwale4118
    @maryamnalumwale4118 6 років тому +1

    Ssalamu sis, Subhana'Allah beautifully explained Sis. Jazaka'Allahu khair for sharing this video, knowledge is indeed key to success, and you really are doing a great job Nana May ALLAH SWT reward you and bless you with all goodness in this life and the next Ameen love you so much ya Habib

  • @SalamatuAdams-u2l
    @SalamatuAdams-u2l Рік тому

    Sister please kindly consider doing a video on Muslim women in politics. Our African Muslim women are suffering because of politics😢

  • @Sib751
    @Sib751 6 років тому +1

    Esselamu alejkum. May Allah reward you for all videos that u've made with the best gifts on dunya and on hereafter. ❤🌸🌷 I was watching your videos before I put my hijab on,in this September ❤🤗 Elhamdulillah 😌🌷

  • @mariamimi8497
    @mariamimi8497 Рік тому

    Thank you ❤ this gave me clarity

  • @nemesiskiller8x8x41
    @nemesiskiller8x8x41 4 роки тому +4

    I really wanna know from a women who practices religion so well MashaAllah, are women allowed to work like become a scientist or a biologist because I'm a student and I'm losing interest in studies because if I'm not even going to practice what I learn what difference does it make anyway

    • @ezazahmed8379
      @ezazahmed8379 4 роки тому +3

      Hope you’re doing well in studies. And yes women can work. But keep in mind that work in which your body is exploited like dancing, prostitution etc is haram. Also follow modesty

    • @ZM-et7zt
      @ZM-et7zt 2 роки тому +1

      I'm a muslim and work in a genetics lab. Do you know the modern scientific method came out of Islam and early muslims? All knowledge is knowledge of God. If you are seeking the pleasure of Allah through your work, then do it because it is ibadah. Allah is pleased with seeking knowledge, being productive and positively contributing to society. And if you choose to give it up to be a mother in the end, then do it to please Allah. You are choosing to please Allah, these life decisions are simply the means. There is no conflict when your goal is the pleasure of your Rabb ❤

  • @maanali3680
    @maanali3680 6 років тому +1

    MashaAllah You are a good girl I am support You keep going My sister

  • @runakonagessar9070
    @runakonagessar9070 6 років тому +1

    Asalamu alaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuh... i love ur vids keep up the good job n may Allah grant u janna tul firdos ameen

  • @munziramane4937
    @munziramane4937 6 років тому +1

    Barakallahu fihi sister.

  • @zarahhussain2881
    @zarahhussain2881 6 років тому +1

    I love her videos!

  • @valf156115
    @valf156115 6 років тому +1

    Sis your content is always amazing! JazakAllah kheir i wish some of the brothers on UA-cam would take your example on how to discuss issues abt the opposite sex. You are an example in class!

  • @amalmua7899
    @amalmua7899 6 років тому +1

    I love you my sister ! Your so smart en nice to watch ❤

  • @an-nisamoon
    @an-nisamoon 6 років тому +1

    Thank you for your efforts in spreading the good and beneficial knowledge. May Allah grant you (and the ummah) success in this life and the next. Ameen

  • @ajadindingfatty591
    @ajadindingfatty591 6 років тому

    Assalamu alaikum sister nafisa's
    Ma sha Allah Jazakhallahu khairan For ur videos very beneficial to me
    Alhamdulilah for founding your videos u are really doing great for the Ummah may Allah SWT reward you...
    Love from Gambia

  • @oumsoumaya4050
    @oumsoumaya4050 6 років тому +1

    Salamou3aleykoum sister ! Jazakillahokheir for this beautiful reminder 🌷🌷🌷 may Allah reward you . Just one thing , there is too much advertising in this video so Can you put less in your next videos ? jazakillahokheir

  • @FreeFalastine733
    @FreeFalastine733 5 років тому +3

    Salam sister, what about asking husband for permission before leaving the house? Apparently it’s a must... even to visit parents... I’m having a very hard time accepting that as a truth... how can such a just and equitable God allow that especially since there’s so much abuse out there towards women... please advise

    • @CathyKitson
      @CathyKitson 4 роки тому +1

      God is perfect. If He's perfect, He can't be sexist. You have to remember that the Bible was written by men for men. It's a reflection of its time, when women's rights were not important. God is timeless. He's perfect, so He loves and respects you as much as any man. He doesn't want you to be an unhappy doormat.

    • @ismailmounsif1109
      @ismailmounsif1109 2 роки тому

      @@CathyKitson sexist is a made up word that was made by the west there is no concept of sexism in Islam

    • @CathyKitson
      @CathyKitson 2 роки тому +1

      @@ismailmounsif1109 That's like saying love is a made-up word, or anger or hate. These things EXIST. Even if you don't have a word for them, even if you deny them. Maybe Westerners were the first to talk about it but it has always existed. Just because you have no concept of it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

    • @ahabarhossain773
      @ahabarhossain773 7 місяців тому

      Yes a woman must ask her husband to leave the house. With that being said, this does not give the husband the right to torture his wife. Allah tells Muslims to live a marriage based on love and mercy. Usually, reasonable husbands give their wife general permission to leave the house and this is fine. Also, as far as I know, the wife has a right to visit her parents at least once a week.

    • @ahabarhossain773
      @ahabarhossain773 7 місяців тому

      The main reason for the husband's permission is in order to protect the wife. A husband is responsible for his wife's safety as he is her maintainer and protector. It is going to be very hard to do that if his wife just goes to random places without letting him know.

  • @amarzizzy6466
    @amarzizzy6466 3 роки тому

    great message overall. but the part about disagreeing with your husband is a bit unclear. yes you should communicate your opinion and there should be compassionate discussion. but if your husband disagrees and makes a decision, you should obey your husband and accept his authority (as long as he is not telling you to disobey Allah). and this does not mean you’re less than, just part of a successful good marriage

  • @jaraibah2055
    @jaraibah2055 6 років тому +3

    Mashallah, thank you

  • @fatimahussain8359
    @fatimahussain8359 6 років тому

    Masha Allah❤Barakhallahu Fiik!

  • @SalamatuAdams-u2l
    @SalamatuAdams-u2l Рік тому

    My husband is divorcing be on one of his reasons of feeding his father even though he warned me not to do that because he wasn't on good terms with his father😢

  • @almiraalmira1451
    @almiraalmira1451 6 років тому +2

    I’m not trying to be ignorant but I read the translation of Quran several times but never actually saw specifically Allah saying woman should cover their hair. Could you make a video on why Hijab is required? Thank you

    • @adamshalalfoodtruck
      @adamshalalfoodtruck 6 років тому +1

      When Reading in english there is a lot of things left out during translation. Dont rely on translation for accuracy

    • @Amy_omer
      @Amy_omer 6 років тому +1

      the Quran is clearly saying to cover your head , neck etc .. Allah SWT said in Surat an-Nur
      وليضربن *بخمرهن* على جيوبهن
      ("wal yaDribna bi *khumurihin-na* 'Alaa juyuubihin") ..
      if you know Arabic you will understand that khumurihin means covering the head as stated below 👇
      Imam ibn Kathir:
      *"Khumur is the plural of khimar which means something that covers, and is what is used to (cover the head). This is what is known among the people as a khimar."*
      The dictionary of classical Arabic, Aqrab al-Mawarid:
      *"[The word khimar refers to] all such pieces of cloth which are used to cover the head. It is a piece of cloth which is used by a woman to cover her head."*
      Sheikh Mohammed ibn munajjid said :
      *"Khimaar comes from the word khamr, the root meaning of which is to cover. For example, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Khammiru aaniyatakum (cover your vessels).” Everything that covers something else is called its khimaar. But in common usage khimaar has come to be used as a name for the garment with which a woman covers her head; in some cases this does not go against the linguistic meaning of khimaar. Some of the fuqahaa’ have defined it as that which covers the head, the temples and the neck.*
      Tafsir of verse 24:31
      Imam ibn Kathir:
      *"'Draw their khumur to cover their bosoms' means that they should wear the khimar in such a way that they cover their chests so that they will be different from the women of the jahiliyyah who did not do that but would pass in front of men with their chests uncovered and with their necks, hair and earrings uncovered."*
      From the above we can see that the khimar means to cover the hair, ears, neck, and upper chest and Allah SWT commanded the women to draw their khimars to cover their bosoms, head, ears, necks, and upper chests...
      So saying that Allah didn't command women to cover their hair is 100% wrong !

    • @latifahnapier8311
      @latifahnapier8311 6 років тому +2

      Saraa Omer LOVE your response. VERY well explained; may Allah reward you for your efforts in elaborating in your naseehah, Amin!

  • @lifewithzee8807
    @lifewithzee8807 6 років тому

    Assalamu alaikum sis! 😊 💕 Watching from Hongkong!

  • @alexanderv7702
    @alexanderv7702 3 роки тому +1

    As-Salāmu alaykum
    What if your husband demands that you wear a niqāb; something you have never worn, and which he was aware of before your Nikah? Ameen

  • @jamilamohamed4161
    @jamilamohamed4161 6 років тому +1

    MashAllha thank's sister may ALLAH bless u u ar the best i wish others were like u💖💖💖💖💖💖🌹👍👍👍👍👍👍

  • @macthanaftae8305
    @macthanaftae8305 6 років тому

    Asalaamu Aleykum. MASHA'ALLAH Tabaraka ALLAH! Sister if you don't mind me asking? Do you live in the United States or United Kingdom?

  • @proudcitizen4883
    @proudcitizen4883 6 років тому +1

    Is there’s a chapter saying
    same to the husband .
    Cuz someone I know needs it100%

  • @Amrinjannatul
    @Amrinjannatul Рік тому

    Assalamualaikum sister. I had a question that has been in my mind for some months. If you want to work but your husband doesn't want me to work outside what should i do? Should i follow him or not??? Please answer 🙏🙏

    • @malint886
      @malint886 9 місяців тому

      Yep you should obey him

  • @R.RS.S
    @R.RS.S Рік тому

    Asalamualykum sister
    My husband don't allow me to post Islamic content on insta he allows only on WhatsApp status...but i want to post on insta too....please help me what should I do.? Should I follow him or not?

  • @paulinejohn5139
    @paulinejohn5139 6 років тому

    As salaam alaykum sister well said

  • @tatianaawel3712
    @tatianaawel3712 6 років тому +2

    We obey rabbl Alamin NOT men

  • @annaartemis4359
    @annaartemis4359 5 років тому +3

    The prophet said “if I had to make someone prostrate to someone else but Allah I would make women prostrate to their husbands”. Yes you should not obey your husband if he asks you to do something not Islamic, but beside that obeying him is a religious duty. A woman can’t refuse to have sex with his husband as Muhammad said “if he asks her (for intimacy) she should obey him even if she is on her camel saddle” he continues “No woman can fulfill her right to Allah until she fulfils her rights toward her husband”. Obeying your husband is more important than obeying your parents and/or fulfil other duties. Other hadiths report the prophet said “ look at you how you are with him, for he is your paradise and your hell” - he is the cause of your entrance to paradise if you obey him and to hell if you don’t. Obeying the husband is more important than taking care of your sick mother, unless he gives her permission (sharh muntaha al-iraadaat). When to the prophet was asked “who has more rights towards the woman?” he said “her husband” so what are you talking about?

    • @CathyKitson
      @CathyKitson 4 роки тому +5

      You are talking such rubbish.

  • @khantayesha
    @khantayesha 6 років тому +4

    Wonderfully explained, sister!💕 Much love and prayers 🙌
    Next, could you explain the verses of the Qur'an that give men the permission to "beat their wives" if they're in the wrong. I'm sorry if I have wrongly worded anything.

    • @Hannah-xj1dz
      @Hannah-xj1dz 6 років тому +2

      Ayesha Tabassum beat the disobedient wife with a small stick in order to correct her persistent flawed behavior when there is no other resort after trying to communicate with her and boycotting her conjugal right. Beating with a stick is literally symbolic as it wouldn’t hurt even a child. The problem is that a lot of ignorant pigs have their own definition of disobedience.. may Allah swt guide us all and reward sisters who suffer from injustice.

    • @Amy_omer
      @Amy_omer 6 років тому +1

      Here is a link will make you understand this point
      abuaminaelias.com/does-the-quran-let-muslims-beat-their-wives/

    • @coolcat6341
      @coolcat6341 6 років тому +1

      The small stick is swak, the one used to clean teeth

  • @shakuralove
    @shakuralove 6 років тому +1

    Mash'Allah

  • @ahmadkarim1006
    @ahmadkarim1006 5 років тому +1

    Amazing story may Allah bless you sister

  • @aishahnakanwagi9784
    @aishahnakanwagi9784 6 років тому

    Asalaam Aleikum Warahumatulahi Wabarakatu brothers and sisters

  • @aminaadenrele
    @aminaadenrele 6 років тому

    Salamualaikum
    I know am late
    Skin goals🔥👌

  • @gamesfootballnieuwstv1289
    @gamesfootballnieuwstv1289 6 років тому

    Masha allaha sis

  • @aleemdarr1008
    @aleemdarr1008 3 роки тому

    Bless you

  • @vinithaaziz4572
    @vinithaaziz4572 6 років тому

    Wa alaikumassalam Sister

  • @YoungRiaz
    @YoungRiaz Рік тому

    Subhanallah

  • @rayna5561
    @rayna5561 6 років тому +1

    You look so cute Masha Allah ❤️

  • @lindatyler3372
    @lindatyler3372 3 роки тому

    My husband wants to take me to a club that has a music band, and I don't know if I can or not. He isn't a Muslim. what should I say?

    • @serine.r4746
      @serine.r4746 3 роки тому

      If you're Muslim you can't marry a non Muslim
      So step 1 divorce him or tell him to convert
      Step two : avoid places with music as much as you can sister
      May God make it easy for you

  • @drtubanayyar5036
    @drtubanayyar5036 5 років тому +1

    I wear niquab . But potential marriage candidates keep on rejecting me bcz of this. Now my parents are reluctant about it. Plz pray for me.

  • @aichadoukoure7281
    @aichadoukoure7281 6 років тому

    Masha Allah 👍👏😍

  • @daness621
    @daness621 3 роки тому +3

    You forgot to mention to the sisters out there that despite their disagreements with their husbands, at the end of the day as long as it’s halal she has to obey him. Because the husband has a degree above the wife in the relationship. Very convenient to leave that out.