Waiting to get married is the hardest thing in life, specially when you want to stay away from Zinna as much as possible and when you are living in the west when filth is in your face everywhere! Brother and Sisters in Islam, I need your prayers, please make dua for me to find a righteous spouse as soon as possible as I am 30+ and would really like to get married now. I make lots of duas myself and I have faith in Allah. InshaAllah Allah make it easy for all of us who are struggling with this issue to find proper and good spouses. Ameen
Salam aleikum. I am 35 and never married, so I think I have experience in this. I don't think "avoid things that trigger feelings of desire in you" can be emphasized enough. Don't watch sexy movies, shows, listen to suggestive music, or engage in chitchat with your friends about people you find attractive. What you put in your mind is what your mind will dwell on, so fill your mind with learning more about the deen, school work, excelling professionally, etc. Have a regular exercise routine - it serves to keep you healthy and burn off excess physical energy. I can honestly say that it's really not difficult to do, it's simply a matter of exercising self-control. When you keep yourself productively occupied, you leave less room for Shaytan's was was to infiltrate.
@@arianacmoi because Allah has not yet granted that rizq for her. Lets not forget marriage is rizq just like others that can only be provided by only one provider in the entire world n the next🤗
@@TheUislam1 you have to put effort, Anas ibn Malik reported: A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, should I tie my camel and trust in Allah, or should I leave her untied and trust in Allah?” The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Tie her and trust in Allah.” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2517 it goes the same for me and you, we cant just sit here and wait for prince charming/ princess, we have to put in our best efort then make dua and trust allah.
thank you for this video. I hate having those urges especially since I m a woman. It's really hard. I have never done anything haram and I don't want to start now. But my hormones are thinking the opposite. It's so annoying but may Allah help all of us in this situation.
I hope that you will be in shea Allah strong enough to pass this with the help of Allah and also I suggest you to fast. This will help you very much as our prophet has said in hadith. Salam
So glad a Muslim sister is finally speaking about this! Women’s desires especially Muslim women’s desires are brushed under the rug as if they don’t even exist. Which they do. Thanks sis! 👏🏻 May Allah protect us Ameen.
Salaam my beautiful sis. This is a very important and taboo topic that needs to be addressed frequently for educating both men and women out there through guidelines in ISLAM. This duniya is getting dark and we need to save our youth from making sin before they regret it. Thank you for sharing. Love you sis. Allah bless you here and after. 💕💖💕
salamo alikom.thanks for your video.I 'm 50 years old never been married and have never done any haram relation with men ALHAMDOLILAH .I still have the hope to get one day married
james carney that’s rude.. it wasn’t in Allah’s plan for her that’s all. Those who aren’t given a spouse in Dunya will have something so much better that we can’t imagine in Jannah. The reward is so great in Jannah we will all wish that we never married in the dunya. Be patient sister MashaAllah
Oh My Gosh!! I applaud your strength sister! Please do share your tips and how you kept such strength and patience!! I am sure many people like me will be inspired by you!!
Your last argument is SO important. Yes if you are struggling with your sexual desires you can marry someone BUT that doesn't mean it has to be the only reason nor it has to be the only aspect you are looking in this person. I know for a fact men that were getting married just because they were extremely tempted to commit haram and they are now divorced. Because they were not prepared for marriage ,they were just prepared to satisfy their desires!
Jazakallah khair for making this video. It truly was perfect timing for me personally and I'm sure for many other sisters/brothers as well. I feel like as a convert/revert it's even harder only because many of us lived more haram lives (to varying degrees) before coming to Islam and were likely (again to varying degrees) involved in these types of things. In shaa Allah may we all find a spouse that is written for us, that completes our deen, and that brings us happiness in every part of our lives. Ameen. ❤️ (Also I should let you know that at the end of your video I got an ad promoting LGBT, I'm not sure how much you can control the ads on your videos, but I felt that I should let you know)
This subject was very much needed hardly anyone talks about this not sure why not they always talking about brothers having urges but women have the same as well !! macha allah sister Jazaki allahu kir for bringing this up as many single and divorced women are suffering what’s the solution ??? Marriage for a divorced sister isn’t always an option so the question is what’s the solution Is the question ??
Zara story Lowering the gaze and fasting; just like the prophet, may peace and blessings be upon him, taught us. It’s not easy, but one should try their best. If your question is about the divorced sister not having the option to get remarried. That’s a bummer. I still think that she should ask family members for a candidate and letting know and show that she is ready to get remarried. Unfortunately, in a lot of cultures it’s frown upon for women to get remarried. That type of backward thinking is against Islam and it’s hurting our Muslim community.
Sister please don't be scared of getting married, I hate when you said it's not always an option. Yes it's always an option. May Allah grant you a man that you love . Trust me when the right man comes along your whole idea about marriage will change. I am not married or divorced, but my best friend got divorced few years ago, she was in toxic marriage, she used be like you scared of marriage, says all men are same extra. Then a year and half later she started talking to this guy and she fell in love, after a year of getting to know him she got married. They know been together for 3 years, she is sooo in love with her husband, every time I see them together I just get tears in my eyes. I couldn't stop crying on her wedding day, I have never seen her sooo happy and fulfilled especially after going through hard time. They're bond makes me so excited about marriage, please never give up on love. God will bring the right man along when the time is right ❤ wishing you all the best.
Sis your knowledge and the nuur shining from you is so inspiring Barakallah feek. I hope to improve to be a better muslimah and your videos are really helping me
Girl, you are a blessing to the Muslim and non Muslim community. I am a Christian but what you spoke about also applies to our life. Keep preaching. You are touching so many lives. Lots of love from a 46 year old Christian mom
I am a Christian too and even though there are other Christians that speak on this subject I feel she really emphasizes and is a living role model of not sinning and keeping your morals.
Parents have to talk to their children. My husband and I have to talk about desires and temptations to our older two who are early teens because it is an absolute need in this day and age. As for dealing with it as adults this is something that needs to be addressed who h many do not address so may Allah reward you much for discussing it and may it be a help to those who need it.
The first step is we need to stop calling it "sexual desire" and call it "sexual needs" instead! I always was sooooooo confused why I had "desires" when I was single and unmarried. It made me think I was just inheritantly sinful and it really took me into depression. Fasting doesn't cure sexual needs because that's like saying just stop eating and youll eventually stop feeling hungry. This is suchhhhhh a huge issue I'm Islam especially for sisters who get confused about why they have sexual feelings when they don't even want them...
Could not agree more, fasting has never been a solution for a lifetime. This is a real a huge issue in the community, but the solutions are delusional. This is not just about desire, sometimes you cannot focus. My brain goes mad when i think marriage is half dine and in the same time... Rewarding and applausing women because they are still Virgin at 40 and 50 does not feel right honestly. Beyond the desire of fulfilling a need, there is a desire to give birth, build a family and direct a life. Fasting is a temporary solutions, but this issue has to be seriously addressed by scholars.
What we forget is that the machine if not stimulated tends to get lazy and drop. This is not a solution because you are addressing it as if it was a sinful desire, it is not. It is a biological need. I am 38 unmarried with no sexual activity and my body is reminding it with hormonal acne. I eat healthy, pray, fast, practice physical activity but...
Masha Allah great video, I implement a Sunnah Fasting of fasting every Mondays and Thursdays, and it really helps me a lot, these two days are perfectly placed in the week, and fasting them just gives you a lot of benefits, i would recommend if anyone is thinking of Fasting because it is Sunnah.
Pornography is a big problem in the Muslim community, even for married people. my very good friend lost her marriage because her husband was addicted to it! Subhanaallah. In my opinion it’s worse when they’re married. May Allah guide us all ameen
He should have just gotten 4 wives instead of getting a divorce to solve his problem of Pornography addiction. Having 4 wives and variety would help him get his fulfillment instead of disgusting Porn.
@@naffs1069 you seem to know nothing, porn destroys the intimacy between men and women, who are addicted to porn find normal sex boring because they can't reach the fantasy that porn gives them
Assalaamu alaykum sis just wanted to say jazakillaahu khayr for presenting this much needed topic in a thoughtful, mature, dignified and informative manner. This is something the Muslim community really needs. For too long has it been taboo to discuss sex and desire, to the point that we end up seeking knowledge on it from the corrupt and wrong sources and become misguided. May Allaah accept your efforts and protect all the Muslimeen, and bless us with the best of spouses aameen! 🌹
I'm really struggling to wait for marriage, I have very strong desires, please pray for me to get married as I've been waiting to get married since I was 20 and I'm 27 now. Please make Dua I marry a good spouse who will be a good match for me and I will be satisfied and content!!
@@OluchiGusiohaAssalamu alaykoum sis, I'm a 26 yo sister getting married soon inshaAllah, and never done anything or have a haram relationship AlhamdouliLLah, I advise you to be prepared for your marriage insha'Allah, because once your man will enter in your life, it is gonna be hard to wait, chastity when you are alone is something, but chastity when you are two is on another level. Be prepared on your criteria, be prepared on moving to another life quickly because if you delay it youll just suffer
I’m so happy I found this video. I’ve already found myself leaning towards things youve mentioned and was able to find that Ramadan and blocking certain social media was very helpful for me. I’m happy that you talked about this topic because everything you’ve mentioned is something I had to go through on my own and figure out and I wish I had someone telling me this beforehand. Bless my parents, they’re just unequipped to deal with the problems this generation is facing. As I face the problem of marriage now, I believe Allah SWT brought me to this video for guidance. Keep up the good work 🥰 We need more dialogue about these things
Why are mosques not holding marriage events ???? Not once a year but monthly I’m sure a lot of people are asking this question otherwise where else is there to go and find a partner when u don’t have family or friends ?? May Allah reward u tranquillity nafisa Ameen
Another good advice is, I have felt; is to wear loose fitting or not tight dresses/garments also at home :) Because i felt wearing fitting cloths somehow reminds us that we have a body n its got desires. So when we are wearing loose cloths all the time its less easy to get caught up n they are comfortable n also makes us feel comfortable internally :) So i think its good idea :D :)
I've noticed that too. Even if I'm at home and I wear more exposing clothes like tight tops and small shorts, it triggers me to want to masturbate, and I find it so weird and I thought I was weird and abnormal but I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way lol
9 mins in when you say having sexual desires is a good thing, it's about managing it. - very good point. There are people who take intimacy to both extremes, like everything else there needs to be a balance, and control.
I see having sexual desires as a curse. If Allah doesn’t want people committing zina than whats the point in programming the human to have sexual desires in the first place. It would have been better if allah didn’t give us those desires.
@@grizzlybear2702 how else would the human race continue? It isnt a curse at all, theres just a right way to respond to it and a wrong way. Get married and be committed to your partner: halal. Lose yourself in the pit of desires, multiple partners, no commitment or responsibility: haraam. Halal takes you closer to Allah, haram takes you away. Closeness to Allah is the goal of life.
thanks for this video. I am only 13 and I am so scared to commit any sin. may Allah help me. pray for me to have the strength to not give in to temptations.
Your 4th point reminded me of the hadith: " ...Recognize and acknowledge Allah in times of ease and prosperity, and He will remember you in times of adversity..." JazakAllahu khairan sis for this timely and respectful coverage of the topic Alhamdulillah. May Allah bless you for opening this much needed discussion. Ameen
Ngl the struggle is real! 😂🙏 I have been told myself like nah, nah nd alh I managed it but I dun't think I'll be able to manage it now it's out of control but anyway may Allah make it easy for all of us. Amiiin ya Allaah!
Rowan Izadi of course I have more freedom when it comes to sex but for me personally it is useful to know how to manage your desires in order to wait for the right person and not have sex with someone you don't really like just in order to fulfill this desire. Besides I like how she expresses her view on this topic.
Tracie Miller May The Most High be pleased with you and sister Nafisa... I pray He smiles on you both, I pray that you find success and satisfaction in this life as well as the next.
Just want to thank you for making this video. I am young single muslimah in uni. Alh, i have nver committed anything as grave as zinnah. But i find myself struggling to avoid these kind of desires to a point where it is always in my mind. I cant wait to try these tips. IA it will clear my mind a bit to focus on things that are more important. Jzk.
This is a topic that is definitely not talked about in the Muslim community, but it is something every single Muslim faces. Thank you for shedding light on this issue!
I think it isn't spoken about in certain cultures and races. Alhamdulillah the community I am amongst is mostly Caribbean and African and we talk about it because its real and natural to do so. May Allah help us all, it soo important to recognise we are humans and sexual desires is apart of us.
Assalamuallaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu Sister nafeesa was waiting to comment on your fresh video as i came across just a month ago to your channel... Well I Would Like To First Thankkk You Alottttt For Being Real n Honest... U r such a No Nonsense Girl n straight to the point No sugar coating just sharing the Real Islam We Muslimaah Needs More Of The Honest n Real UA-camrs like u unlike "wrapping shawl or turban videos" UA-camrs... Seriously Youth Has Been Misguided Since Long N now Social.Media Has The Power To Destroy Future Generation... Am Worried Abt My Kids n Coming Generation May Allah Azzawajjal Guide The Entire Ummah To The Straight Path.. Aameen Sumameen World needs more of Real Muslimaah Women Like U Jaxa Kallah Hu Khayran For Speaking Out The Truth Be Always Like That... May Allah Azzawajjal Bless U With His Mercy Aameen Sumameen Allahhafiz
Salam Nafisa, I'm glad your health is better. Intimate desires are difficult to manage so be steadfast, stay away from things that trigger them. Stay around people who constantly remind you of Allah,pray to Allah to give you a devoted heart. May Allah help us to obey him and grant those who are single pious spouses, bless those who are married with contentment.
I’m starting to feel bad I have not blessed with a husband I’m almost 40 trying to stay strong... I’m disabled so maybe that’s why I can’t find a husband
Aminah A - asallam sister keep up with ur salah and say ur dua in sujud insha Allah ur dream will come true or otherwise Allah will reward in hereafter.
Nafisa I want to thank you , heart from the bottom of my heart fpr talking about this cey much needed subject.I have always wondered why no one talks about a Muslim woman desires only men. We too have desires and it's a struggle to keep it together and not falter, I have been blessed by Allah That I live alone yet I have no opportunities to mingle with men my age so the chance for zina is greatly reduced, but I still struggle from watching indecent things online but I made up my mind to cut it out inshallah and Allah has been helping me greatly
Oh my gosh, Alhamdulillah im SO GLAD i came across this video!! Honestly thank you so so much for making this and addressing this because I've been struggling with these desires for a about a year or so now and i have no one to talk about it to really. I feel like I'm going to be judged and I've never really heard a Muslim sister talk about it. So thank you it really helped me and was very refreshing to hear
Thank you for this video! I feel like we tend to pretend this problem doesn't exist. I would also love to hear your thoughts on how you deal with hijab struggles. Recently I have been having trouble finding purpose in wearing the hijab and would really appreciate your input on this subject.
It isn't about the hijab it's about your Eman. Don't focus on the outwards, focus on the inwards 1st only then can the outwards follow suit May Allah S.W.A make it easy for you, Ameen.
Subhana'Allah, Sis this great topic wallahi I really had to hear this especially for a fellow muslimah. And please yes we really need a reminder like this I tell you considering how the world has become. I can't wait for part 2 😄. Jazaka'Allahu khair for sharing this video May ALLAH SWT reward you and bless you with the husband who will be of benefit to you in this world and the next Ameen,
You deserve a medal sister. There’s nothing bad, rude or shameful talking about any topic when your goal is to educate the people. Education comes in many forms and you can say anything really although, many people who consider themselves being religious they find it difficult to be open enough to talk about relationships, sex and marital problems. Thank you Nafisa you are great 👍
Salaam sis could u do a video on how to have a wedding reception that is free from the haraams where people always have dance and music in mixed gatherings - unfortunately every wedding I've been to has been a place where i felt shaitaan would have loved the most
@@sluddhu8262 You do not have to cut family ties. you can visit them after the ceremony and give them a present. My mom did this with a close friend and she did not get upset. You can't live your life for others. If it makes you uncomfortable don't do it and find a compromise. You can still be in touch with them even if you never attend a wedding.
I really need this for me to know how my wedding will look like in 3 months in shaa Allah. Otherwise, I am confused about how I can make my wedding enjoyable to my guests and family ( who aren't Muslim at all). Any advice from a Muslim perspective?
Thank you for saying this! Don't be afraid that you are crossing lines you shouldn't cross! You are a hundred percent entitled to address this as is everyone else. We do not shy away from truth.
Allahuma ameen and for you too regarding that good dua at the end there. Assalamu alaikum, it's been ages since I've said hello and that's a very good topic you touched upon!
Assalaamu 'Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh to all, Sister Nafisa I’m so grateful that you made this video. I’m a single muslimah, and an convert to Islam. So I can definitely relate to this issue. But I know in time with Persistence and Prayer. Allah (SWT) will bless all of us single muslimahs with righteous, practicing husbands having knowledge of the Qur’an and Sunnah, knowing his duties as an husband & providing them, being a kind, helpful, loving, husband as well as father Insha’allah. Shukran, for discussing difficult but Realistic issues that we face in our Ummah. And also the beneficial knowledge about Islam that you provide on your Channel. Jazakallah Khair❤️
It’s not only single women who deal with this.., a lot of married women are stuck in dissatisfying marriages with men who don’t see their wives’s needs important enough to seek any treatment for their shortcomings. May Allah protect us all. The carnal fire is truly very testing.
This is why it should never be just about “getting married” It should be about “choosing the right person to share your life with” Because most men don’t care about the women they have under their control. So a woman should take more control of herself so she can choose the right person. I know looks are important but the inner beauty of a per will NEVER change. Outside can always change. You either live for yourself and let life naturally fall into place and the right man comes for you. Or you give up to your needs and accept any garbage out their and live in misery for the rest of your life because by that time. You would even feel like having any desires when you are depressed and miserable.
MasyaAllah sister thank you for this! I needed this. I'm in my 30s and still single. But recently I've been triggered with curiousity from an internet ads. Which I'm late for a few seconds to close it. It's soooo frustrating cuz it's keep looping in my head.
You are so beautiful. I'm amazed no man has snapped you up. You're also very brainy with common sense. Who ever does marry you will be a very lucky blessed man.
The way I see it my few moments of pleasure is nothing in comparison compared to giving my lord pleasure in terms of knowing I can sin but I didn't do it for his pleasure. if you can do that trust me how your life changes
Salaam Sis...Jazak Allah khair...I had to smile bcz I tell my son all the time to look for a partner that will be good for him AND good to him...you've affirmed my advice...thank u 4 sharing...God bless and enjoy!!
Ameen. Haha, there really is a difference and we should always ask Allah for both because as some people may be good for you they may not be good to you so we seek refuge in Allah from such trials.
I am a Christian and have been single now for 6 years and it is so hard as our bodies have a mind of their own. I appreciate your advice on fasting. I pray for God to take away desires and I agree I need to fast and pray to God. Blessings to you
Alhamdulilahi many years ago i got married as a virgin as well to a virgin spouse. The watch word is self discipline and determination with a lot of specifically directed prayer about it. Its worth waiting for. Both of us don't get to compare each other with anyone, much peace. Also keeping the right company, very helpful.
Sister thank you for talking about this topic. No one discusses these things in our Muslim communities, whether when we are getting married or are not married.
Seriously I won't deny not having the desire. UA-cam is like one ways the desire is triggered. May Allah forgive us and make us amongst those that remember him in times like this and always
The only solution is getting married n no other way, 30 years ago marriage was so easy n cheap while zinaa was very very hard, but these days marriage is so difficult n to commit zinaa is very easy.
Salamualikum dear sis I'm new to your channel and I love your videos.i change my career after watching your video I wanted to be a nurse but now wanted to be a teacher so I can educate children on Islam because in my country Islam is not that strong.i can do that easier when I'm a teacher. U become my role model.jkl
When choosing a life partner or before getting married; one can have these few thoughts that can be beneficial. Think about the future. Think about your life (what kind of a life is she going to live - Brother NAK) Think if this person is going to be a good parent or not. Like is this person social, cheerful, looks quite commited/dedicated, and so. Even ask the person whether he likes kids or not; and to what extent does he like. No one is born perfect; but made perfect by the journey of life. Its never possible to find someone with carved personalities for marriage. And this is not my point. But just having some light of these personalities can help us to start this new journey of life while being quite well grounded. Or at least if we have the truely right intention before getting married; and that is for the worship of Allah SWT :) This is indeed the Best and a whole packaged way to start a marriage. To live for God and to utelize our lives in His Service in order to go to Paradise, Insha Allah :D We can also think about what kind of a life we would like to give our children/where do we want to raise them, and how do we want to raise them. So the point is to think a bit about the future. Because when we choose to do this we are automatically putting our mind in a logical and realistic frame, while thinking about making a decision. Oh please note: Please certainly don't forget to consider this: If you feel any attraction/compatibility/pleased to some extent by the apperaence of your prospective partner :) Make sure you do :) And if you don't like him at all then you have a good reason not to consider. Because attraction and compatibility; these are also important factors that can help build a strong/good marriage. So here u go :) I try to do the same 4 myself so was just trying to share whatever i could! Lol Jazak Allah Khairan :) :D
Thank you so much sister. I remember l come across a video talk about this. She talk about it deeply to be away from this acts. What should do better and we should replace with hobbies. Turn to Allah and ask forgiveness.
Ameen ya Rabb to what you said last. I struggle with this so much. I’ve made some mistakes. There were times when I became a bit resentful that marriage is the only means to fulfil this. But I know that nothing Allah legislates is bad for us, rather it is just for the protection of our hearts and Iman. Jazakillah Khair sis for your informative videos. 🌹❤️
but when I have any satanic whispers to do any sin I always think " whoever fears their lord will have 2 gardens" that makes you become more aware of Allah and you control yourself for his pleasure.
Thank you for talking about this topic , as there is no shame in din ( i'm not sure if it's the right translation as i'm arab, but that means that there's no taboo topics when it comes to learning our din( i would love to see you make a serie about this where you talk about other similar topics or just share your experiences and advices , like the topic of masturbation, relationships with men as friends or at work/school, how you manage to avoid triggers living in a non-muslim environnement ( actually even in muslim environnement there's triggers because of media and mondialisation :/ May Allah bless you, baraka allahou fiki ❤
The noor on your face, Masha'Allah tabarak Allah! Jazak'Allah Khayran sis for this video, go and watch nemo 😂😂 one of the best cartoon movies lol. This video helped encourage me to continue doing what I'm doing and reassure me that I am making the right decision to wait for the right person instead of marrying a brother to fulfil my desires. It's hard though because a lot of brothers just seem like the just want to get it on more than anything else
This is amazing. This issue has to be addressed as this world is getting even worse and worse and we realise that the only way we can deal with the filth of this world is to do what Allah has told us to because it is the righteous thing to do and Allah said there wil be no problems, and we do not want to deal with more problems as this world is already full of problems. Please do make a part 2 of this topic as this is a serious issue.
Salam Aleikoum Nafisa, I like that you break the taboo and talk about these things because it is very much needed. I like that the information is coming trom a woman and it is also directed to women. Sis, you are doing a great job ma sha Allah, keep it up! Xx
Just want to say that your lectures are very good and informative, however, personally, I would like to see more creativity in your presentations. Nevertheless, may Allah bless you for your hard work and content. You are my sister and I pray Allah to reward you with the best. Lastly, I would like to say that although age is just a number; still I would like to hear more about mature women whose children are have left the nest and we live alone and continue to work. Is it possible to hear more about the lifestyle of women whose age is no longer divulged but is a number that we are grateful to Allah to have been blessed to reach, AllahuAkbar?
MashaAllah sister may Allah reward you for being so real and honest, all the while being compassionate for your fellow muslims. Sending prayers your way.
Jazakallah Khairan I love you so much for the sake of Allah. May He grant you the highest most honourable Palace in Jannah. You have saved many souls, trust me
Assalamu alaikum. I'm 18 years and never married. I experience this so much. It's so hard for me to lower my gaze and I want to get married as I know it'll help me lower my gaze. My desires are over the roof. Please make dua for me that Allaah grants me a spouse that has a kind and compassionate heart a righteous spouse. Jazakallahu khaiyran for the video!
Assalamualaykum sister Nafisa. You are one down to earth sister who keeps it real everytime. May Allah swt bless you. Ameen. The topic is on point and you give good advice underpinned by hadith and Qur'an Alhamdulillah. The struggle is real however after hardship there is ease so we must remain patient.
Nafisa, may Allah bless you and reward you for this video regarding about getting married. Advising muslims umma to stay away from harams things type of women like you to think in this way very rear. Out of 100% is just 2% of women and men will think this way especially in these generation
Your face is so full of noor mashaAllah
ich bin ich ikr MashaAllah 😍💕
Stimmt mashallah
Very educational talk.Love fr S. Africa.
Mashaallah
Subhan’Allah I was about to say that. Allahuma Barik 😍
Waiting to get married is the hardest thing in life, specially when you want to stay away from Zinna as much as possible and when you are living in the west when filth is in your face everywhere! Brother and Sisters in Islam, I need your prayers, please make dua for me to find a righteous spouse as soon as possible as I am 30+ and would really like to get married now. I make lots of duas myself and I have faith in Allah. InshaAllah Allah make it easy for all of us who are struggling with this issue to find proper and good spouses. Ameen
Are you married now?
@@razer0072073 Yes Alhumdulilah! I got married earlier this year!! SubhanAllah
@@Regina-Phalange MashAllah
@@Regina-Phalange Congratulations ! Mashallah the duaa of people helped! May Allah bless your marriage!
Regina Phalange im so happy for u mashaAllah I just made dua for u but i saw this. May Allah protect u n ur husband from evil ayn
Salam aleikum. I am 35 and never married, so I think I have experience in this. I don't think "avoid things that trigger feelings of desire in you" can be emphasized enough. Don't watch sexy movies, shows, listen to suggestive music, or engage in chitchat with your friends about people you find attractive. What you put in your mind is what your mind will dwell on, so fill your mind with learning more about the deen, school work, excelling professionally, etc. Have a regular exercise routine - it serves to keep you healthy and burn off excess physical energy. I can honestly say that it's really not difficult to do, it's simply a matter of exercising self-control. When you keep yourself productively occupied, you leave less room for Shaytan's was was to infiltrate.
Salam3leikoum, why have you never been married ? Thanks for the tips ! May Allah protect you
Thanks sis your really amazing
Salam Y'all you’re old sis. Enjoy your life before it’s late.
@@arianacmoi because Allah has not yet granted that rizq for her. Lets not forget marriage is rizq just like others that can only be provided by only one provider in the entire world n the next🤗
@@TheUislam1 you have to put effort, Anas ibn Malik reported: A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, should I tie my camel and trust in Allah, or should I leave her untied and trust in Allah?” The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Tie her and trust in Allah.”
Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2517
it goes the same for me and you, we cant just sit here and wait for prince charming/ princess, we have to put in our best efort then make dua and trust allah.
thank you for this video. I hate having those urges especially since I m a woman. It's really hard. I have never done anything haram and I don't want to start now. But my hormones are thinking the opposite. It's so annoying but may Allah help all of us in this situation.
Yea sis dont hate it though. Its a natural feeling Allah gave us ad in shaa allah he gives you a halaal alternative soon sis 💠
I hope that you will be in shea Allah strong enough to pass this with the help of Allah and also I suggest you to fast. This will help you very much as our prophet has said in hadith. Salam
Not worth it. Sex is overrated .
Intimate Touch IS not however
Sister, pls get married as soon as you see the right person. May Allah help you through
So glad a Muslim sister is finally speaking about this! Women’s desires especially Muslim women’s desires are brushed under the rug as if they don’t even exist. Which they do. Thanks sis! 👏🏻 May Allah protect us Ameen.
Praying night prayer and Quran strengthens the nafs
You mean weakens the nafs?
And fasting!! Volunteering fasting, that helps to control sexual desires!
Salaam my beautiful sis. This is a very important and taboo topic that needs to be addressed frequently for educating both men and women out there through guidelines in ISLAM. This duniya is getting dark and we need to save our youth from making sin before they regret it. Thank you for sharing. Love you sis. Allah bless you here and after. 💕💖💕
Ameen
Ameen. May Allah reward you too
Nafisa's Pearlz can I message you privately? Somewhere?
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Ameen
I am 20 years old
I feel that i want to get marry
Please pray for me so that i In'shaa'Allah get a religious, kind, sweet and respectful spoius
I can wait to see you get married I feel like is coming very soon InshaAllah 🌹🌹
This is a beautiful and wonderful sister. Yes she is ready, may Allah bless her with a pious husband soon!
Ameen!
Lilly Rose Ameen🤩
Ameen
Ameen☺️
salamo alikom.thanks for your video.I 'm 50 years old never been married and have never done any haram relation with men ALHAMDOLILAH .I still have the hope to get one day married
MashaAllah you're such an inspiration ❤
May Allah grant you a righteous spouse inshallah
james carney that’s rude.. it wasn’t in Allah’s plan for her that’s all. Those who aren’t given a spouse in Dunya will have something so much better that we can’t imagine in Jannah. The reward is so great in Jannah we will all wish that we never married in the dunya. Be patient sister MashaAllah
@james carney you probably talk to your mum an sisters like that .have some respect for people you bully
Oh My Gosh!! I applaud your strength sister! Please do share your tips and how you kept such strength and patience!! I am sure many people like me will be inspired by you!!
Hi am not Muslim but am your sister I just want to say thank-you for doing this video.
Your last argument is SO important. Yes if you are struggling with your sexual desires you can marry someone BUT that doesn't mean it has to be the only reason nor it has to be the only aspect you are looking in this person. I know for a fact men that were getting married just because they were extremely tempted to commit haram and they are now divorced. Because they were not prepared for marriage ,they were just prepared to satisfy their desires!
Couldn't agree more, this is very true for SOME people. May Allah save us all from such.
Jazakallah khair for making this video. It truly was perfect timing for me personally and I'm sure for many other sisters/brothers as well. I feel like as a convert/revert it's even harder only because many of us lived more haram lives (to varying degrees) before coming to Islam and were likely (again to varying degrees) involved in these types of things. In shaa Allah may we all find a spouse that is written for us, that completes our deen, and that brings us happiness in every part of our lives. Ameen. ❤️
(Also I should let you know that at the end of your video I got an ad promoting LGBT, I'm not sure how much you can control the ads on your videos, but I felt that I should let you know)
As a revert who is also very young, I find this comment quite true.
Heidi H she doesn’t choose the ads hun x they are randomly selected by UA-cam!
This subject was very much needed hardly anyone talks about this not sure why not they always talking about brothers having urges but women have the same as well !! macha allah sister Jazaki allahu kir for bringing this up as many single and divorced women are suffering what’s the solution ??? Marriage for a divorced sister isn’t always an option so the question is what’s the solution Is the question ??
Hmm, will have to think about that inshallah.
Zara story Lowering the gaze and fasting; just like the prophet, may peace and blessings be upon him, taught us. It’s not easy, but one should try their best.
If your question is about the divorced sister not having the option to get remarried. That’s a bummer. I still think that she should ask family members for a candidate and letting know and show that she is ready to get remarried. Unfortunately, in a lot of cultures it’s frown upon for women to get remarried. That type of backward thinking is against Islam and it’s hurting our Muslim community.
Sister please don't be scared of getting married, I hate when you said it's not always an option. Yes it's always an option. May Allah grant you a man that you love . Trust me when the right man comes along your whole idea about marriage will change. I am not married or divorced, but my best friend got divorced few years ago, she was in toxic marriage, she used be like you scared of marriage, says all men are same extra. Then a year and half later she started talking to this guy and she fell in love, after a year of getting to know him she got married. They know been together for 3 years, she is sooo in love with her husband, every time I see them together I just get tears in my eyes. I couldn't stop crying on her wedding day, I have never seen her sooo happy and fulfilled especially after going through hard time. They're bond makes me so excited about marriage, please never give up on love. God will bring the right man along when the time is right ❤ wishing you all the best.
Sis your knowledge and the nuur shining from you is so inspiring Barakallah feek. I hope to improve to be a better muslimah and your videos are really helping me
Ameen, may Allah help us all to improve. jzk
You have earned a special place in Jannah 🕋🕌 please keep up the good works
In shaa Allah! Remember me 😊
Girl, you are a blessing to the Muslim and non Muslim community. I am a Christian but what you spoke about also applies to our life. Keep preaching. You are touching so many lives. Lots of love from a 46 year old Christian mom
I am a Christian too and even though there are other Christians that speak on this subject I feel she really emphasizes and is a living role model of not sinning and keeping your morals.
You are so brave to talk about this issue mashaAllah, it should be more of this.
Parents have to talk to their children. My husband and I have to talk about desires and temptations to our older two who are early teens because it is an absolute need in this day and age. As for dealing with it as adults this is something that needs to be addressed who h many do not address so may Allah reward you much for discussing it and may it be a help to those who need it.
I also want to get married with a righteous spouse.Please pray for me people so that I could refrain myself from mental zina😭.
this is an interesting topic that no one tells you about in particular for adolescents where hormones pop up.congratulations for the partnership
@pink girl i know , that is why i said "in particular"
pink girl exactly
Thank you
May Allah bless us with righteous spouses...May we stay strong n not fall into our desires that can lead us to the hellfire 🥺😢
Ameen ya Rabb
Ameen..
Ameen
Ameen ❤️❤️
Aameen ya rab
The first step is we need to stop calling it "sexual desire" and call it "sexual needs" instead! I always was sooooooo confused why I had "desires" when I was single and unmarried. It made me think I was just inheritantly sinful and it really took me into depression. Fasting doesn't cure sexual needs because that's like saying just stop eating and youll eventually stop feeling hungry. This is suchhhhhh a huge issue I'm Islam especially for sisters who get confused about why they have sexual feelings when they don't even want them...
Agreed. It's a need not a desire.
But it does. It helps you control it much better and it lessens because the body now cares about staying alive not reproducing.
Could not agree more, fasting has never been a solution for a lifetime. This is a real a huge issue in the community, but the solutions are delusional. This is not just about desire, sometimes you cannot focus. My brain goes mad when i think marriage is half dine and in the same time...
Rewarding and applausing women because they are still Virgin at 40 and 50 does not feel right honestly. Beyond the desire of fulfilling a need, there is a desire to give birth, build a family and direct a life. Fasting is a temporary solutions, but this issue has to be seriously addressed by scholars.
What we forget is that the machine if not stimulated tends to get lazy and drop. This is not a solution because you are addressing it as if it was a sinful desire, it is not. It is a biological need. I am 38 unmarried with no sexual activity and my body is reminding it with hormonal acne. I eat healthy, pray, fast, practice physical activity but...
Masha Allah great video, I implement a Sunnah Fasting of fasting every Mondays and Thursdays, and it really helps me a lot, these two days are perfectly placed in the week, and fasting them just gives you a lot of benefits, i would recommend if anyone is thinking of Fasting because it is Sunnah.
Pornography is a big problem in the Muslim community, even for married people. my very good friend lost her marriage because her husband was addicted to it! Subhanaallah. In my opinion it’s worse when they’re married. May Allah guide us all ameen
Most men suffer from porn usage. It's a cancer in today's society.
Men should have not watch them
Khan A.j yeah.. but most of them are men
He should have just gotten 4 wives instead of getting a divorce to solve his problem of Pornography addiction. Having 4 wives and variety would help him get his fulfillment instead of disgusting Porn.
@@naffs1069 you seem to know nothing, porn destroys the intimacy between men and women, who are addicted to porn find normal sex boring because they can't reach the fantasy that porn gives them
Assalaamu alaykum sis just wanted to say jazakillaahu khayr for presenting this much needed topic in a thoughtful, mature, dignified and informative manner. This is something the Muslim community really needs. For too long has it been taboo to discuss sex and desire, to the point that we end up seeking knowledge on it from the corrupt and wrong sources and become misguided. May Allaah accept your efforts and protect all the Muslimeen, and bless us with the best of spouses aameen! 🌹
Walaikumsalam, Ameen. May Allah continue to guide us all and thank you for watching.
I'm really struggling to wait for marriage, I have very strong desires, please pray for me to get married as I've been waiting to get married since I was 20 and I'm 27 now. Please make Dua I marry a good spouse who will be a good match for me and I will be satisfied and content!!
Plus am asking for help,did you do it before you got to 27
@@OluchiGusiohaAssalamu alaykoum sis, I'm a 26 yo sister getting married soon inshaAllah, and never done anything or have a haram relationship AlhamdouliLLah, I advise you to be prepared for your marriage insha'Allah, because once your man will enter in your life, it is gonna be hard to wait, chastity when you are alone is something, but chastity when you are two is on another level. Be prepared on your criteria, be prepared on moving to another life quickly because if you delay it youll just suffer
I’m so happy I found this video. I’ve already found myself leaning towards things youve mentioned and was able to find that Ramadan and blocking certain social media was very helpful for me. I’m happy that you talked about this topic because everything you’ve mentioned is something I had to go through on my own and figure out and I wish I had someone telling me this beforehand. Bless my parents, they’re just unequipped to deal with the problems this generation is facing. As I face the problem of marriage now, I believe Allah SWT brought me to this video for guidance. Keep up the good work 🥰 We need more dialogue about these things
Why are mosques not holding marriage events ???? Not once a year but monthly I’m sure a lot of people are asking this question otherwise where else is there to go and find a partner when u don’t have family or friends ?? May Allah reward u tranquillity nafisa Ameen
have a matchmaker show you pictures, the *Asian tinder method* 😅
@@InshasChoice Where do we find these matchmakers though 🤔
@@diruholic an Asian auntie might have links. I'm unsure as my family mainly has arranged marriages within the family.
Absolutely right :)
Mosques should also be solution centres for muslim families and communities :D
In Malaysia, lots still holding their nikah in the mosques
Another good advice is, I have felt; is to wear loose fitting or not tight dresses/garments also at home :)
Because i felt wearing fitting cloths somehow reminds us that we have a body n its got desires. So when we are wearing loose cloths all the time its less easy to get caught up n they are comfortable n also makes us feel comfortable internally :)
So i think its good idea :D :)
Yes please wear loose clothing for us men
I've noticed that too. Even if I'm at home and I wear more exposing clothes like tight tops and small shorts, it triggers me to want to masturbate, and I find it so weird and I thought I was weird and abnormal but I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way lol
9 mins in when you say having sexual desires is a good thing, it's about managing it. - very good point. There are people who take intimacy to both extremes, like everything else there needs to be a balance, and control.
I have my way with my wife every night
@@razer0072073 Well as long as it's consensual, good for you.
I see having sexual desires as a curse. If Allah doesn’t want people committing zina than whats the point in programming the human to have sexual desires in the first place. It would have been better if allah didn’t give us those desires.
@@grizzlybear2702 how else would the human race continue? It isnt a curse at all, theres just a right way to respond to it and a wrong way. Get married and be committed to your partner: halal.
Lose yourself in the pit of desires, multiple partners, no commitment or responsibility: haraam.
Halal takes you closer to Allah, haram takes you away. Closeness to Allah is the goal of life.
low level desires. All about training the heart and mind. If one has fear and love of Allah swt everything becomes easy Ameen
So true! El hamdulilah
thanks for this video. I am only 13 and I am so scared to commit any sin. may Allah help me. pray for me to have the strength to not give in to temptations.
Your 4th point reminded me of the hadith: " ...Recognize and acknowledge Allah in times of ease and prosperity, and He will remember you in times of adversity..."
JazakAllahu khairan sis for this timely and respectful coverage of the topic Alhamdulillah.
May Allah bless you for opening this much needed discussion. Ameen
Ngl the struggle is real! 😂🙏 I have been told myself like nah, nah nd alh I managed it but I dun't think I'll be able to manage it now it's out of control but anyway may Allah make it easy for all of us. Amiiin ya Allaah!
May Allah reward you for your help and inspiration sister,Ameen
Ameen. Jzk
@@NafisasPearlz ❤
Good idea. Our mosque made a website for arranging couples together...but no response for 2 months. Maybe not run properally 😂
I'm not muslim, still this video was wonderful
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Rowan Izadi of course I have more freedom when it comes to sex but for me personally it is useful to know how to manage your desires in order to wait for the right person and not have sex with someone you don't really like just in order to fulfill this desire. Besides I like how she expresses her view on this topic.
Tracie Miller May The Most High be pleased with you and sister Nafisa... I pray He smiles on you both, I pray that you find success and satisfaction in this life as well as the next.
Just want to thank you for making this video. I am young single muslimah in uni. Alh, i have nver committed anything as grave as zinnah. But i find myself struggling to avoid these kind of desires to a point where it is always in my mind. I cant wait to try these tips. IA it will clear my mind a bit to focus on things that are more important. Jzk.
This is a topic that is definitely not talked about in the Muslim community, but it is something every single Muslim faces. Thank you for shedding light on this issue!
I think it isn't spoken about in certain cultures and races. Alhamdulillah the community I am amongst is mostly Caribbean and African and we talk about it because its real and natural to do so. May Allah help us all, it soo important to recognise we are humans and sexual desires is apart of us.
Assalamuallaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu Sister nafeesa
was waiting to comment on your fresh video as i came across just a month ago to your channel...
Well I Would Like To First Thankkk You Alottttt For Being Real n Honest...
U r such a No Nonsense Girl n straight to the point
No sugar coating just sharing the Real Islam
We Muslimaah Needs More Of The Honest n Real UA-camrs like u unlike "wrapping shawl or turban videos" UA-camrs...
Seriously Youth Has Been Misguided Since Long N now Social.Media Has The Power To Destroy Future Generation...
Am Worried Abt My Kids n Coming Generation
May Allah Azzawajjal Guide The Entire Ummah To The Straight Path..
Aameen Sumameen
World needs more of Real Muslimaah Women Like U
Jaxa Kallah Hu Khayran For Speaking Out The Truth
Be Always Like That...
May Allah Azzawajjal Bless U With His Mercy
Aameen Sumameen
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Walaikumsalam. Thank you and welcome to the Pearlz family. May Allah make your connection to this channel, a means of good for you. Ameen.
You are full of positive energy that I am smiley now, when I was crying again about the corruption of the world few minutes ago! ...
Salam Nafisa, I'm glad your health is better. Intimate desires are difficult to manage so be steadfast, stay away from things that trigger them. Stay around people who constantly remind you of Allah,pray to Allah to give you a devoted heart. May Allah help us to obey him and grant those who are single pious spouses, bless those who are married with contentment.
I didn't have this type of conversation with my mother , but I will surely have it with my future children, thank you for this video
@@afroman4035 _You good? Chill mate_
@@levifan1477 sorry 😐
I’m starting to feel bad I have not blessed with a husband I’m almost 40 trying to stay strong... I’m disabled so maybe that’s why I can’t find a husband
may Allah help you always
muslimah _ ameen
Aminah A - asallam sister keep up with ur salah and say ur dua in sujud insha Allah ur dream will come true or otherwise Allah will reward in hereafter.
Look up the website called "Half Our Deen" they partner with Muhsen to help differently abled Muslims get married too!
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Nafisa I want to thank you , heart from the bottom of my heart fpr talking about this cey much needed subject.I have always wondered why no one talks about a Muslim woman desires only men. We too have desires and it's a struggle to keep it together and not falter, I have been blessed by Allah That I live alone yet I have no opportunities to mingle with men my age so the chance for zina is greatly reduced, but I still struggle from watching indecent things online but I made up my mind to cut it out inshallah and Allah has been helping me greatly
May Allah help you sis, just remember not expose your sin
Mandinko23 May Allah swt make it easy for you Ameen💗
Star Sighting she isn’t. she’s just sharing that everyone goes through it and theres hope for a way out.
It's porn addiction, get some help
Solution?-
Cover the evil deed with a good deed!
Not single person in dunia that doesn't sin..
Oh my gosh, Alhamdulillah im SO GLAD i came across this video!! Honestly thank you so so much for making this and addressing this because I've been struggling with these desires for a about a year or so now and i have no one to talk about it to really. I feel like I'm going to be judged and I've never really heard a Muslim sister talk about it. So thank you it really helped me and was very refreshing to hear
Thank you for this video! I feel like we tend to pretend this problem doesn't exist. I would also love to hear your thoughts on how you deal with hijab struggles. Recently I have been having trouble finding purpose in wearing the hijab and would really appreciate your input on this subject.
It isn't about the hijab it's about your Eman. Don't focus on the outwards, focus on the inwards 1st only then can the outwards follow suit May Allah S.W.A make it easy for you, Ameen.
Subhana'Allah, Sis this great topic wallahi I really had to hear this especially for a fellow muslimah.
And please yes we really need a reminder like this I tell you considering how the world has become. I can't wait for part 2 😄. Jazaka'Allahu khair for sharing this video May ALLAH SWT reward you and bless you with the husband who will be of benefit to you in this world and the next Ameen,
Ameen and the same for you, thank you sis
It's not so easy...it's the biggest test...hamdulillah I have been married for 8 years now...but I got married at a later age
@Blueend End ... don't worry sister. Allah's plan is the best. Your time will come soon.
Asselamu alejkum from Bosnia and Herzegovina.. Thank you for every single video that you put up. May Allah give you barakat in your work. 💗
as a single Muslim yes it's difficult and yes I need to get married IN SHALL AH WHEN ALLAH WILLS IT
My dear,nobody's words have calmed me and made me motivated than yours.....Thank you.I hope you reach Jannah.
You deserve a medal sister. There’s nothing bad, rude or shameful talking about any topic when your goal is to educate the people. Education comes in many forms and you can say anything really although, many people who consider themselves being religious they find it difficult to be open enough to talk about relationships, sex and marital problems. Thank you Nafisa you are great 👍
This was so special, and much needed. This world needs more people like you❤️❤️
Salaam sis could u do a video on how to have a wedding reception that is free from the haraams where people always have dance and music in mixed gatherings - unfortunately every wedding I've been to has been a place where i felt shaitaan would have loved the most
Wa salaam, yes i agree, Please Nafisa do a halal wedding vid xx
iram khan avoid going
@@changinglifestyle6675 thats not always possible if it is your close family. They would get very upset and its wrong to cut off ties with family
@@sluddhu8262 You do not have to cut family ties. you can visit them after the ceremony and give them a present. My mom did this with a close friend and she did not get upset. You can't live your life for others. If it makes you uncomfortable don't do it and find a compromise. You can still be in touch with them even if you never attend a wedding.
I really need this for me to know how my wedding will look like in 3 months in shaa Allah. Otherwise, I am confused about how I can make my wedding enjoyable to my guests and family ( who aren't Muslim at all). Any advice from a Muslim perspective?
Thank you for saying this! Don't be afraid that you are crossing lines you shouldn't cross! You are a hundred percent entitled to address this as is everyone else. We do not shy away from truth.
Allahuma ameen and for you too regarding that good dua at the end there. Assalamu alaikum, it's been ages since I've said hello and that's a very good topic you touched upon!
Assalaamu 'Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuh to all, Sister Nafisa I’m so grateful that you made this video. I’m a single muslimah, and an convert to Islam. So I can definitely relate to this issue. But I know in time with Persistence and Prayer. Allah (SWT) will bless all of us single muslimahs with righteous, practicing husbands having knowledge of the Qur’an and Sunnah, knowing his duties as an husband & providing them, being a kind, helpful, loving, husband as well as father Insha’allah. Shukran, for discussing difficult but Realistic issues that we face in our Ummah. And also the beneficial knowledge about Islam that you provide on your Channel. Jazakallah Khair❤️
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It’s not only single women who deal with this.., a lot of married women are stuck in dissatisfying marriages with men who don’t see their wives’s needs important enough to seek any treatment for their shortcomings.
May Allah protect us all. The carnal fire is truly very testing.
This is why it should never be just about “getting married”
It should be about “choosing the right person to share your life with”
Because most men don’t care about the women they have under their control.
So a woman should take more control of herself so she can choose the right person. I know looks are important but the inner beauty of a per will NEVER change. Outside can always change.
You either live for yourself and let life naturally fall into place and the right man comes for you.
Or you give up to your needs and accept any garbage out their and live in misery for the rest of your life because by that time. You would even feel like having any desires when you are depressed and miserable.
Assalamualaikum sister! Thank you for being so brave. ❤May Allah grant Jannah to all of us
Walaikumsalam. Ameen
MasyaAllah sister thank you for this! I needed this. I'm in my 30s and still single. But recently I've been triggered with curiousity from an internet ads. Which I'm late for a few seconds to close it. It's soooo frustrating cuz it's keep looping in my head.
You are so beautiful. I'm amazed no man has snapped you up. You're also very brainy with common sense. Who ever does marry you will be a very lucky blessed man.
The way I see it my few moments of pleasure is nothing in comparison compared to giving my lord pleasure in terms of knowing I can sin but I didn't do it for his pleasure.
if you can do that trust me how your life changes
thats so true. but subhan Allah it requires a lot of sacrifice
OMG! you are the loveliest' person !
Thanks for treating such an important topic of our religion that is tooo underated
May Allah protect you sis 🥰🤗
Salaam Sis...Jazak Allah khair...I had to smile bcz I tell my son all the time to look for a partner that will be good for him AND good to him...you've affirmed my advice...thank u 4 sharing...God bless and enjoy!!
Ameen. Haha, there really is a difference and we should always ask Allah for both because as some people may be good for you they may not be good to you so we seek refuge in Allah from such trials.
MashaAllah you have beautiful eyes ❤️ great advice sister xx
Definitely great subject Marsha Allah you look so beautiful/glowing 😍😍
"Go and watch Finding Nemo" lol I was actually looking for that movie the other day. May Allah bless you sister for your beautiful advice.
I am a Christian and have been single now for 6 years and it is so hard as our bodies have a mind of their own. I appreciate your advice on fasting. I pray for God to take away desires and I agree I need to fast and pray to God. Blessings to you
Alhamdulilahi many years ago i got married as a virgin as well to a virgin spouse. The watch word is self discipline and determination with a lot of specifically directed prayer about it. Its worth waiting for. Both of us don't get to compare each other with anyone, much peace. Also keeping the right company, very helpful.
Are yoy happy
Sister thank you for talking about this topic. No one discusses these things in our Muslim communities, whether when we are getting married or are not married.
Nafisa, you are always glowing MashAllah! :)
Seriously I won't deny not having the desire. UA-cam is like one ways the desire is triggered. May Allah forgive us and make us amongst those that remember him in times like this and always
The only solution is getting married n no other way, 30 years ago marriage was so easy n cheap while zinaa was very very hard, but these days marriage is so difficult n to commit zinaa is very easy.
30years? Try 100 years ago. 30 years back was only the 90s
it was still easier@@grizzlybear2702
Salamualikum dear sis I'm new to your channel and I love your videos.i change my career after watching your video I wanted to be a nurse but now wanted to be a teacher so I can educate children on Islam because in my country Islam is not that strong.i can do that easier when I'm a teacher. U become my role model.jkl
In Surat Al-Muminoon the first 6 to 7 ayats are very useful to help and guide one in this issue. I find it very useful.
When choosing a life partner or before getting married; one can have these few thoughts that can be beneficial.
Think about the future.
Think about your life (what kind of a life is she going to live - Brother NAK)
Think if this person is going to be a good parent or not. Like is this person social, cheerful, looks quite commited/dedicated, and so. Even ask the person whether he likes kids or not; and to what extent does he like. No one is born perfect; but made perfect by the journey of life. Its never possible to find someone with carved personalities for marriage. And this is not my point. But just having some light of these personalities can help us to start this new journey of life while being quite well grounded.
Or at least if we have the truely right intention before getting married; and that is for the worship of Allah SWT :)
This is indeed the Best and a whole packaged way to start a marriage. To live for God and to utelize our lives in His Service in order to go to Paradise, Insha Allah :D
We can also think about what kind of a life we would like to give our children/where do we want to raise them, and how do we want to raise them.
So the point is to think a bit about the future. Because when we choose to do this we are automatically putting our mind in a logical and realistic frame, while thinking about making a decision.
Oh please note: Please certainly don't forget to consider this:
If you feel any attraction/compatibility/pleased to some extent by the apperaence of your prospective partner :)
Make sure you do :)
And if you don't like him at all then you have a good reason not to consider. Because attraction and compatibility; these are also important factors that can help build a strong/good marriage.
So here u go :)
I try to do the same 4 myself so was just trying to share whatever i could! Lol
Jazak Allah Khairan :) :D
@Alina Del Rey May Allah SWT Make things easy for u dear Sis dont worry :) ♡♡♡
Great content sister... I'd definitely want to see a part two of this video..
Thank you so much sister. I remember l come across a video talk about this. She talk about it deeply to be away from this acts. What should do better and we should replace with hobbies. Turn to Allah and ask forgiveness.
Ameen ya Rabb to what you said last. I struggle with this so much. I’ve made some mistakes. There were times when I became a bit resentful that marriage is the only means to fulfil this. But I know that nothing Allah legislates is bad for us, rather it is just for the protection of our hearts and Iman. Jazakillah Khair sis for your informative videos. 🌹❤️
That’s powerful
Atagfuriolllah
Last part was amazing ❤️ ..may Allah bless all of us with righteous spouse aameen sumaameen
but when I have any satanic whispers to do any sin I always think " whoever fears their lord will have 2 gardens" that makes you become more aware of Allah and you control yourself for his pleasure.
Thank you for talking about this topic , as there is no shame in din ( i'm not sure if it's the right translation as i'm arab, but that means that there's no taboo topics when it comes to learning our din( i would love to see you make a serie about this where you talk about other similar topics or just share your experiences and advices , like the topic of masturbation, relationships with men as friends or at work/school, how you manage to avoid triggers living in a non-muslim environnement ( actually even in muslim environnement there's triggers because of media and mondialisation :/
May Allah bless you, baraka allahou fiki ❤
Thank you Nafisa, this was beautifully illustrated and formally spoken about. May Allah bless you and your family.
Thank you for this video ♥️ May Allah bless you and guide us and help everybody who is struggling with this 🤲🏽
Whoop whoop real talk!!!!!
For women it’s such a taboo topic 🤦🏻♀️ everyone expects them to keep their desires to themselves some think women do not have sexual desires!
The noor on your face, Masha'Allah tabarak Allah!
Jazak'Allah Khayran sis for this video, go and watch nemo 😂😂 one of the best cartoon movies lol. This video helped encourage me to continue doing what I'm doing and reassure me that I am making the right decision to wait for the right person instead of marrying a brother to fulfil my desires. It's hard though because a lot of brothers just seem like the just want to get it on more than anything else
This is amazing. This issue has to be addressed as this world is getting even worse and worse and we realise that the only way we can deal with the filth of this world is to do what Allah has told us to because it is the righteous thing to do and Allah said there wil be no problems, and we do not want to deal with more problems as this world is already full of problems. Please do make a part 2 of this topic as this is a serious issue.
Salam Aleikoum Nafisa, I like that you break the taboo and talk about these things because it is very much needed. I like that the information is coming trom a woman and it is also directed to women. Sis, you are doing a great job ma sha Allah, keep it up! Xx
Thank you sis, I will do inshallah.
Exactly sister, that is why Islam is a way of life. Islam has answers for every issue.
indeed'
Just want to say that your lectures are very good and informative, however, personally, I would like to see more creativity in your presentations. Nevertheless, may Allah bless you for your hard work and content. You are my sister and I pray Allah to reward you with the best. Lastly, I would like to say that although age is just a number; still I would like to hear more about mature women whose children are have left the nest and we live alone and continue to work. Is it possible to hear more about the lifestyle of women whose age is no longer divulged but is a number that we are grateful to Allah to have been blessed to reach, AllahuAkbar?
MashaAllah sister may Allah reward you for being so real and honest, all the while being compassionate for your fellow muslims. Sending prayers your way.
Jazakallah Khairan I love you so much for the sake of Allah. May He grant you the highest most honourable Palace in Jannah. You have saved many souls, trust me
Keep inspiring sister❤🙏 always enjoy your video and it teaches us lessons about the religion 👌❤🙏
Assalamu alaikum. I'm 18 years and never married. I experience this so much. It's so hard for me to lower my gaze and I want to get married as I know it'll help me lower my gaze. My desires are over the roof. Please make dua for me that Allaah grants me a spouse that has a kind and compassionate heart a righteous spouse. Jazakallahu khaiyran for the video!
Assalamualaykum sister Nafisa. You are one down to earth sister who keeps it real everytime. May Allah swt bless you. Ameen. The topic is on point and you give good advice underpinned by hadith and Qur'an Alhamdulillah. The struggle is real however after hardship there is ease so we must remain patient.
*with hardship comes ease
Nafisa, may Allah bless you and reward you for this video regarding about getting married. Advising muslims umma to stay away from harams things type of women like you to think in this way very rear. Out of 100% is just 2% of women and men will think this way especially in these generation
Thank you
I’m so thankful to have you on UA-cam. You’re such an inspiration Allahuma barek ❤️