Breakup Encouragement - You can do this!!
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Dear Rory
I haven’t been needing your channel for three years now but three years ago you have no idea how much your channel means to me. I have to say that everything you said has effect me positively ranging from losing 80 lbs in 6 months, doing Yoga and starting my cooking page on FB.
As time goes by your channel didn’t come up on my UA-cam feed as I was busy with something else like cooking videos and stuff s but today somehow this video came up so I would like to take this opportunity to thank you for helping me dealing with the most hurtful broke up of my life.
Thank you for continuing the work on this channel, you are a savior of broken souls brother.
Cheers
Sarawut
Sarawut, I am SO glad to read your comment! I am proud of you!!
People come into our lives to teach us valuable lessons, both with their love and their leaving. If they choose to leave you, then this person is not right for you. We must let them go, so they can find what they desire. Also when they leave, they are freeing us from the ropes that hold us back, so now we can go and find what we desire too. This concept is really hard to understand immedietly after the breakup, because we become obsessed with our past lover. Give yourself time. Breakup happened for a reason, and sometimes just the fact that they don't love you anymore is enough for a reason - ask yourself, do you really want to be with a person that just doesn't love you? You deserve someone who loves you like crazy, who supports you when needed, who bluntly talks about the problems in the relationship with you. You deserve a great lover, not a mediocre one. And work on yourself to be a great lover too.
Most of the time our ex partner is far from perfect, like us. After the breakup, most anxious people (like me) will only see their flaws and not their ex partner's, and bash themselves over and over. But with time, there will be "aha!" moments that pop up randomly, and show you their flaws too. Then the real dettachment starts, first you will be angry, then you will feel nothing but relaxation, and accept them for who they are. You loved them once, and now they are gone, but it is okay. It is life.
There's no grief on my end. Only revulsion and disgust.
One of the best Rory videos ever.
I was off this channel for maybe 2-3 weeks, and I thought I was recovering, but today I felt something like a relapse. Felt so hard again about the breakup (I got dumped), and it's just that so many memories came rushing through me again, it was a 7 year relationship after all. Almost everything around me reminds me of her and has connection to our memories. But thanks for this video. It did gave me some encouragement, even a little, and as I am right now, every little bit helps.
2 hard months of watching breakup/self-help videos and your videos hadn't popped up once in my searches. Today I googled "is watching too many break-up videos bad for me". I came across a thread and many of the comments said they're just giving you false hope, and keeping you stuck. But so many also said that the only ones they watch, only ones that help is The Love Chat with Rory. I can honestly say that the way you approach and discuss these topics is really helping me today, and keeping be level headed. And i only wish id stumbled apon them sooner, thank you!
2 month NC and its been hard AF not to reach out. But it truly is a win win if you work on yourself. I dont know if she'll ever come back, but if she does, she's going to be coming back to a totally different person.
Yo! You're incredible so underrated channel. Going thru shitty breakup right now, you are like the person i need to talk to. You really know how a mind works during breakup
Thank you friend. Feel better soon!
Hey mate, I’ve been listening to your very sound & helpful advice for 8 months now & this vid came exactly when I needed it. Thank you so much mate!
Once again Rory...You have made this break up a little easier to take. We spoke about my situation and how I was dealing with an avoidant personality. Still feeling it a bit, but as the videos come out, they have been what I've needed to hear. Never had a chance to say anything to her other than text messages, because she broke up with me over a text. Life issues caught up to her and she said that she didn't have the energy for us even though everything is good. Whether if it was a lie or not, it still hits hard either way. I needed this encouragement pep talk though and it's been right on time as usual. Thank you sir for what you do!! Keep telling it like it is....!
I work with my Ex almost every day, and it is killing me. Makes no contact impossible, and I’m just flickering between trying to keep things on good terms, and getting upset and wanting her to leave me alone. She still hasn’t come to collect her things from my house, and is instead just going out every night partying. She told me she didn’t want to be with anyone and needed space to work some things out, but it doesn’t really look like that. She’s going away for a month, so I was going to give her until she comes back to have a proper talk, but I don’t even know if there’s any point in that. Since we broke up a few weeks back I’ve been not drank any alcohol, been back at the gym, began meditating again, and signed up for therapy. I guess I’m doing my best, but it feels like every day is just a other way of dragging me backwards when I see her laughing and looking like she never really cared. Any advice is welcome, because I’m maxed out right now.
Thank you Rory. I really like to watch your videos because it's always direct to the point. Not boring. Also your video is short but full of knowledge. Thank you and more power.
Iam starting to think that i wasnt taking care of my self before i got into a relationship and maybe thats why i made a wrong decision to get into one as i wasnt the best version of my self to to hit the gym be humble and do new thing even though the break up hurts my be its ment to maybe its a sign to say your are better than this so iam join the gym tomorrow my journey start today to a newer better me
Getting over someone you never dated would be a cool video topic
Thank you.
I haven’t been here since 2020. But during those times I paid for 2 coaching sessions with you. You helped me get out of one of the darkest days of my life. I’m still single, but I feel like I’ve been attracting quality over quantity. I like it. Hope you’re doing well Rory, thank you for everything 🫶🏼
I'm so glad to hear things are going well for you! I'm doing awesome - thanks for leaving the comment!!
From one Rory to another, thank you.
Thank you for this.very comforting . ❤️
On the flip side... my ex went back to his previous extremely toxic ex. She's a well known manipulative liar who sees other people's relationships as a challenge to overcome.
She doesn't have friends, she has people who keep her within their social circle so they can monitor what she is up to.
She also makes him feel "safe" because she recreates his childhood dynamic, the inconsistency, chaos, co-dependency etc.
I'm a million times better than her, in every single way.
And there's no way I am going to change who I am to match her negativity, or toxic methods of fulfilling his needs. That would be a serious step down, and not being true to myself.
He was drawn to me because of all those qualities I have. But ran away because they made him feel unsafe.
He'll come back when he realises the differences. Or he wont.
Until then, life goes on. My goal is to heal the pain caused by his actions and rise up stronger and wiser.
Thank you so much.
Great vid Rory. Possible video idea, ADD/ADHD and breakups? (Diagnosed with ADHD and suffering this form is rejection - a breakup - seems to just be 1000% worse than it needs to be)
Sure, i'll think about how to do this thoughtfully
@@TheLoveChat Thanks for the consideration. Might be a bit niche and specialized but might also be more common than we think! Have gained a great deal of value and comfort from watching your content, thanks Rory!
Something I'm struggling with too. Would love to see a video of your thoughts on this
2-3 months … oh my … no, not enough to stop these videos…😅 well, may be the ones focusing on ex back… but not the ones how to work on yourself and move on - not sure when I will be able to keep on my own without this support.
Thank you for the video!
Appreciate this Rory 🙏🏽
He is a player. He was in and out with me. To late realizing I was an option to him. He didn't have a clue how to treat a woman. The one he is with her is because she has money and a big car. He wanted a mother and he got one. I'm doing my thing he is not interested in anything but foolishness. Garage sales junk picking. He will never change. He goes from girl to girl like I change my pants. Thank you my friend.🤠🎵🎶💞❤️
I don't know Rory. Sometimes some break ups happen when there wasn't much either party did wrong (i.e, family disapproval, etc.). Those are tough situations to get over.
Very true, but always good fertilizer for growth
@@TheLoveChat Totally agree. Thanks for looking out for us. Wishing the happiest life for all the good natured people out there.
Thank YoUuuuuuuuuuU!!
I hope to move forward
I really need help, after a few months of promising and unpromising moments in a breakup iv finally decided I need no contact for myself and asked for it, all the while hoping she does come back.
But I'm not tempted at ALL to reach out, like I was lead to believe, I miss her like you wouldn't believe and dream about being back with her and I'm unnerved by this nonchalance, it doesn't make any sense and I can't find any information where someone else is feeling the same.
All I can think of is that the past few months were fraught with such turmoil, and things coming at me where nearly ever text was bad news in its own way, is my mind just relieved it won't be hearing bad news?
I'm genuinely scared because it's a breakup where I feel staying present could have worked, and yet here I am in no contact feeling relieved (only been a week)
I must add we have kids so my mind knows it's going to see her, and have a chance to exhibit positive changes.
Long form ♥️
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