"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." - Robin Williams
1. You can be lonely even if you are around people. 2. You develop strong attachments to inanimate objects. 3. You feel alone even when surrounded by people like friends. 4. You overshare quickly when meeting someone who listens. 5. You desperately hang on to your friends, to the point of freaking them out and pushing them away.
I used to do number 4. I was desperate for anyone to understand me yet didn't realize just how much pressure this put on other people, plus I only wanted people when I could use them. Over 20 years on an I know this is not good behaviour. Most of the time I would scare people off an end up with no one. I blamed them for being lonely. It took me a while to realise that yep, I'm the common denominator in this situation. I'm still lonely, even now. I discovered that unless I actually ' connect ' it's not worth it or fair trauma dumping on others. Strangely enough I'm now having this happen to me. I get to hear the trauma then no one wants to listen back. So I just tend to stay away altogether now. It's so much easier, especially if you already feel lonely when around others. It doesn't really make any difference.
@@morrigan-trontate1758 same man. just lost a friend to that tbh. not because he abandoned me, but because i was so obsessed with him caring for me and scared of losing him, that i took him distancing from me because i made him feel uncomfortable very personally and got insanely mad at him for "leaving me" ... even tho it was my fault all along. this video made me understand tbh ... have been doing that since so many years now. so i think staying away alltogehter and trying to find a nice way to just live alone will be the best for me here c:
I agree. Only cuddling my blanket or standing inside the rays of the sun gives me real warmth. Bundled up in clothing doesn’t give me any real warmth. I’m oversharing though aren’t I?
I wish I could come out to my family members and tell them everything about my true thoughts and feelings, it's so isolating and pushes me further away from them
Dealing with this at 47 is absolutely devastating. It's like trying to learn how to live life all over again. But with the painful knowledge that you are in midlife.
right there with ya, friend, at 46. I've found that it helps me to focus on giving / reaching out to others, not for the sake of forging a friendship or bond for one's self, but for the sake of others who might be lonely.
In my personal experience, to get out of this deep loneliness is to not share about your problem with anyone(yet) because it's easy to overshare and you'll probably regret about the decision and hurt your self esteem. It's best that you keep yourself busy like helping others(not mentally), do charity work, any work that requires you to be there physically and requires teamwork to complete. This will help you break the cycle of loneliness and makes you feel good about your own ability.
Hiding serious trauma doesn't help even with doing voluntary work in addition to a full time job. Made my mental health diagnosis worse..... As no self care.
0:20 The saying is, “Misery loves company”, Not loneliness. 1:40 You start gollum’ing out. 2:42 You feel alone even when you’re not alone. 3:30 You tend to overshare when someone is there to listen. 4:26 You are gollum, your friends are the one ring.
I thought the same thing until I realized in my singleness is when I found exactly what I wanted. Not just a boyfriend, but what I want in a husband. Six months after I believed I would be single till God knows when, I Met my husband. I'm 23 and we've been married for 2 years. You may not be a believer, but God's timing is perfect ✨ keep your head up there's someone for everyone. @Abraham Ambriz
I ride a motorcycle for a reason. If you're not enough of a person on your own, then you won't be "completed" in a relationship. Couples are fine and so is marriage and all... BUT it won't fix anything. When you can be enough as a complete individual, on your own, then you will make a partner probably the luckiest person they can be for finding you. Until then, you have work to do on yourself... As do I at 45 and finding myself happily single... well... with my bike, Miss Suzie... yeah, cornball as it sounds or reads... ;o)
Loneliness hurts so much and I hurt for those who also deal with it too. I fear that I’ll live like this for the rest of my life. I’m 22 years old, turning 23 this year and I’m not living like others my age.
Not being like others is not a bad thing. Be yourself, even if it means that you will be very different from others. You will be quite successful like that.
I truly feel you. I am quite a bit older and have felt the same at different times in my life. I think a lot of it stemmed from childhood trauma that made me feel alienated from the world and caused severe trust issues with authority, leading to social anxiety. I promise you a therapist can help. The right one is not only adept at asking the right questions to get you to unlock the core of the challenge but suggest some constructive steps to help remedy how you feel. Very best to you, loneliness can be extremely tough.
I'm a senior and feel the same way. Lonelyness sucks. And others who are surrounded by family members or other close friends don't understand this concept.
@@johns1159 Seriously feel you John. Everyone tells you to check in with those around you for support or lean on family members or 'get out there more'...well, many seniors don't have anyone around them and for whatever reason can't get out there. It's a serious struggle for sure. It does suck, big time.
I think especially with the pandemic we’ve all felt alone at at least one point in time and it’s nice to see the indicators. Also the adventure time animation is adorable 🥰🥰
Hey Louis, i feel you..its been similar for me. Im think just about forcing myself to go at least a bit working, getting a dog again and meeting new people/friends through apps.
i been lonely before the pandemic if people see you as a outcast they will not want to be friends with you or if you don't have the looks a person likes they don't want to be associated with you i tried to open up to females i like and tried to talk to them but most of them brush me away or told me they have a boyfriend i know some of them lied to me about them having a boyfriend but i guess i got to take rejection as rejection.
I've found that after the pandemic, people keep to themselves more and don't care about others as much anymore. And then to add the higher costs of living, it feels like a trap that we can never escape from.
For humans not to feel lonely they need two things: a one friend and a romantic partner. To not feel isolated they also need regular positive social interaction. Many people cannot obtain any of these.
@@allisond.46 Its a generalisation, agreed. There are some true aromantic people. There are also some that don't need friends, true hermits. But the vast majority of people need a close friend(s) a romantic partner(s), and regular positive social interactions. Sadly, not many have these. Worse, if you suffer with chronic emotional loneliness then even having these things won't stop you feeling lonely - once you've developed that condition it cannot be removed easily if at all.
It goes without saying, lonliness causes anxiety and depression. We’ve been told all of our lives “no one likes a complainer,” but chronic illness, divorce and other major life changes magnifies lonliness. Being told to “get out of your shell, and go meet people” doesn’t help: It only makes a person feel lonelier. Maybe therapy is the answer, as long as one doesn’t hear, “snap out of it!"
Spot on. Brilliant, thank you Denise. That's the best advice on here, especially for young adults, I worry about them the most, as they haven't life experiences yet to reflect back onto. Thanks, I hope everyone reads your comment.
@@louiseskip3488 Thank you for the kind compliment. I, too, worry about the younger generation. I’m 51, and we didn’t grow-up with today’s technology. Both my children are in their 20’s, and communicate with friends through social media, or texting. My best friend’s teenaged daughter attempted suicide during COVID’s distance-learning. I thank God she didn’t succeed, however, she’s now seeing a pediatric psychiatrist. Honestly, I believe this is only the beginning of the mental health crisis, sadly. Hopefully, our children will turn to us one day when they figure-out we do have some wisdom to impart. God bless you and keep you!
I feel like I'm slowly losing my friends. My best friend hasn't talked to me in a year. I know he's very busy, but still, I feel very lonely sometimes.
People change and sometimes we need to move on... Usually, it has nothing to do with you. Sometimes, a toxic partner or career may change them for the worst.
This is what I’m going through currently. I’m either being with people who don’t really care or they’re really just busy. But I’m slowly getting convinced that they don’t care about me… Maybe I really do have a problem? Many don’t reply to my texts in the group chat and ignore it, some other people sound bored and have high expectations from me. One proves that I’m solid cringe and can’t crack a good joke, one of my closest friends no longer talk to the others anymore either. Another one just doesn’t sound like they wanna deal with me anymore. I’m burnt out and now I’m over sharing again.
Im feeling this right now. I used to hang and talk all the time with a group of friends at lunch at school but now I just talk with only one the odd time here and there. Otherwise I just sit on my own in silence. I have found that drawing while listening to music is my new thing I do to forget about life for a bit.
3 and 4 definitely. I’ve always been an outcast, and even being in the break room at work with several coworkers makes me feel even more alone, so I usually take my breaks in my car. On the rare occasion when I do start to make a friend, I do tend to share a little too much about my past, and there was a time in my life when I would tell then lies to impress them out of fear of them finding out that my life is and has been actually quite dull and boring compared to most people.
Same. I tend to overshare a bit sometimes and it turns people off but,, wouldn't you want to get to know someone? I'm not talking about my dark traumas but like, give it some time y'all wtf? They just wanna know a wall, and not a human.
I used to overshare with anyone who would listen. I've overcome that by realizing that not everyone who shows a passing interest in you is your friend. I spend more time listening now and keep personal things personal until I get to know someone. It's better than getting burned. Hey wait. Did I just share too much again? ;-)
1. Ironically, being around people makes me feel _more_ alone, because my mind sees all these people that could potentially like me, but do not. 2. This seems the least true of the list for me, but I do like collecting things, so that's probably where that manifests. 3. Very true. Even in a group of friends, I tend to feel like the odd man out. Been like that my whole life. 4. Yep. If I feel like somebody gets me, even a little, I feel like I can go from antisocial to "talks too much" faster than a Fast& The Furious drag race. 5. I am certain I have lost more than one friendship by being too clingy. So, I'm pretty sure I've been deeply lonely for most of my life.
I think 1. is why I generally dislike group situations, preferring to meet up with people one-on-one. For many people this sounds absurd because meeting up one-on-one you have nowhere to hide, but for me it provides (relative) certainty that the other person does actually like me and isn't just tolerating my presence because it's a group situation where they don't get to dictate who is and is not there
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School makes me feel so lonely because I have no friends and I don’t socialize with any of my peers. I hate being forced to go to school. I’m so glad it’s almost over
Everyday I feel lonely to the point that I spend most of my time locked up in my room. I have friends but they make me feel lonely even though i’m with them. Sometimes I want to reach out and talk to other people but either I lack the social skills to carry a decent conversation or im scared and have a distrust towards the person or stranger.
This message is for someone who needs to hear this and will fully understand it... You are not define by your circumstance or your past. It’s not what happened to you that determines your success in life; it is how you deal with those circumstances that determines your success in life. You are strong, you are capable and practice forgiveness (Forgiveness is for you; forgive your parents or anyone whom we have chosen to hurt us, to begin the process of healing and freedom. Remember: Forgiveness is for you to be freed, healed and happy. It’s a RESET BUTTON) and practice gratitude everyday. This will change the course of your life forever. Love you always and I believe in you wholeheartedly no matter what ✨❤️ - Nat
Worth a mention that forgiveness does NOT imply brain damage or "forgetfulness". I've been accused of not forgiving someone for some trespass or another. To whit I simply retort, "You're still breathing, ain't you? That's my forgiveness for you." ...AND it's all the hell more forgiveness I give. "Once bitten, twice shy." and all that... I'm not trying to be toxic or anything. I'm just pointing it out in all honesty. We don't owe anyone more. That is the course to healing and freedom... AND it's worth mention because too often people try to impress us with the ideal of "going back to how things used to be" in regards to before the trespass or abuse happened... AND that's impossible. I already know the person who mistreated me is capable of mistreating me, so I'm GOING to guard against that possibility, and I'd be a FOOL not to. I'm nobody's fool. I'm not brain damaged. I actually LEARN from my mistakes... and if that's a problem between me and any particular other person, then the other person needs NOT to associate with me. ;o)
@@marleygee2023 I'd suspect a lot more than just us two,... BUT too many submit to self loathing for their lack of forgetting and that simply isn't fair. I hope we reach (maybe) others and let them know that it's okay to forgive and NOT forget. In any case,. spread the word. I know you got the message. ;o)
How deeply it explains me. It's just so relatable. Constantly feeling abandoned and isolated and rejected and discarded and being treated as disposable. I just wish I die soon enough.
This is accurate. When I am around people that I know, I still get lonely. I feel this emptiness inside and I feel like I'm missing something, but I don't know what.
The materialism thing, I can definitely relate. I can spend hours “window shopping” online. The process of checking out, waiting for the item to arrive and finally unboxing it, definitely fills the void for a bit. I get excited and super proud for owning the item I bought. Though it wouldn’t take long for me to wanna shop again. A lot of stuff in my room are boxes with stuff I’ve bought and I have so space for. I go through hundreds every month on stuff I really don’t need.
I relate to the third one a lot! I have a friend group but I don't like talking about my problems and feel disengaged. I feel kind of lonely and have an underlying feeling that no one likes me and that everyone hates me.
Goodness gracious that is exactly how I feel! Not on the hate part, but feeling like anytime I speak I say the wrong thing and that they think of me as the unmature baby, when I’m really not.
That third one hurts the most, thinking you're around people you think will actually fill that lonely void but they only make it deeper just because you feel as if they can't relate, alleviate, or at least make you forget about it for a split second. Es okay tho, we're still healing beautiful souls, so good luck to all those that are in this same mental battle. 🖤
I live alone. What's left of my family lives 3,000 miles away. None of them seem to understand the concept of loneliness since they are always around others.
@@johns1159 you must still be an old soul that values the company of another. So though in solitude away from your family, I still wish that you'll be okay. 🖤
Being around other lonely ppl doesn’t help…it’s like a bunch of ppl fighting for the last life preserver while bobbing in the ocean. What sux too is being around ‘normal’ (ie happy, well-adjusted, etc) is even worse bc u feel like they can’t possibly even remotely relate to ur grab-bag of feels-envy, resentment, longing for understanding-basically we feel shitty not feeling as ‘ok’ as they **appear**. But even the most popular ppl feel lonely at times too.
I've dealt with loneliness all the time and still am. Most times I would have to keep myself busy with my hobbies just so that my mind wouldn't have to ponder on my loneliness. It's good on some days and other days it does get to you so it's like a up and down feeling of being lonely
I've always experienced loneliness on and off since childhood. I'd feel it in elementary school from having no friends, then once I made some it simmered down. Yet I'd still feel moments of loneliness, and I think I felt it more a couple years ago from having a hard time making friendships for some odd reason. I realized my loneliness came from not being my authentic self around others, because Id feel like no one TRULY knows me except for any romantic partners I'd have. I've always felt like they have more than anyone and that would simmer down the loneliness more, yet because I still don't have any friends, I'd still experience a bit of loneliness. I've been putting myself out there to make more of an effort for meaningful connections, hoping it can bring me the right people in my life one day.
I'm sorry your feeling so alone*I hjave been alone since my husband passed away, we were together 40 years. But Even when he was alive he left me alone alot* I hope you find peace and friends* God bless You
You missed a point with possessions. The inclination to anthropomorphize inanimate objects and give them “personalities” to have “friends” or “companions.”
I hate this feeling I have of total isolation despite having a partner and great friends who care about me. I just feel... existentially tired. Like living itself is taking a mental toll, despite being physically rested. It certainly doesn't help that I'm trying to get away from controlling parents who refuse to let me be my own person, and I'm going through therapy and medication that still haven't helped after years of trying. Sorry to whatever random UA-cam commenter I happen to dump this on, but I just need to rant into the void right now.
Yeah...that opening up thing. Did it once a small slip as testing ice with them, never again. Even when it didn't impact them, it showed how damaging it CAN be. So from now on I'll sign my apathy to deal with my emotional matters, since he's so good at it and is always there for me. Love him.
On one hand, I want you to elaborate (like the story behind the comment), but on the other, as a person who's loose tounge led to trouble multiple times in the past, I feel like I'm asking too much
@@TheMCzorro It's okay to ask. For some context; I'm about 10 years younger than my friend here and he has a family, while I was single. We have known each other for a year. We were on a week long trip at big ski resort. One night we were wandering rest of the ski-resort by going bars and restaurants all night, enjoying music, good food and drinks. As we went rounds in bars and nightclubs, my friend picked up that I wasn't interested in hitting girls even when he pointed out couple to me and asked if I was okay. I said that "I was just enjoying my time there and I was a bit tired." When we finally had enough drinking and came back to our hotel at midnight, we took a hit to relax and talked about our relationships. Somewhere there I accidentally slipped that "I didn't really care about hitting girls, *because I don't feel anything at all and nothing really matters to me*." I could see that shock in his face for a moment as he asked "This trip doesn't matter to you at all?". I laughed that hit really made my head spin and made me talk nonsense, reassuring that I loved being there with him. I really was enjoying our trip there, because I rarely travel far away. My slip there was pure honesty to that topic and I was fully aware what I was saying, luckily I managed to save my huge screw up. I could've gone way deeper, if I didn't hold myself back for his sake. This taught me that normal people aren't comfortable at all dealing with these extremes and made me super careful navigating topics about feelings. I want others be comfortable around me and not being therapists for me, that's not their job or issue to handle.
Lonliness is the feeling of alienation that we carry with us on this journey of life. It has been exacerbated due to the pandemic, and just seems to linger no matter how hard we try to get back to the old normal. It is the latent strain and major barrier to finding true happiness again and will require on all of our parts a resiliency to want to connect with others on a deeper level! \🕶/
I have been there for sure. I hope that everyone going through this knows that they can turn to online friends if they don't have anyone in real life. My online friends have done so much for me to help me through hard times. I love them dearly.
Being lonely is hurtful. Go places & put yourself out there* Don't be afraid* You'll meet people & some will like you some won't . Don't give the last ones a second thought* God Bless You
Loneliness is something I’ve dealt with for god knows how long. I’ve been used to it to the point it no longer makes me feel sad and envious of others. It actually makes me happier, yet empty. It’s hard to explain 😅 I just read books, do my best in school, and play video games, it’s pretty chill.
Sometimes we need a break in our relationships and it's not because we want to be with someone else, but maybe due to needing that personal time for ourselves. There's many reasons! Making assumptions about your partner wanting to only take a break to be with someone else, will probably keep them away permanently! 💙UA-camr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationship
We'll all find someone eventually. Someone who is lonely will find someone else who feels lonely. No worries bois and girls, we'll be happy in the end if we try enough
My loneliness is an indicator that I am doing all I can to protect myself from the cruelty, lies, hypocrisy, abuse, of others. Most people are not true friends. If I am lonely, I have none of them in my life. Loneliness is a powerful indicator of how well I am doing to avoid the abuse of others.
I definitely saw all these signs within myself. Although I am a grown up boy,I am still attracted to one of my toys I used to play. When I was just walking alone,I noticed a very little boy(ig he is 4 years old) sitting all alone. I asked him why he was sitting alone. He said that no wants to be friends with him. He feels lonely,bored. Seeing this,I felt sad because he was going through that phase I have been going through since childhood. I felt that no one has to experience that haunting feeling of being alone especially not at such a young age. So I decided to play with him. This made his day. I am happy for him.
the worst thing is that I still forever want to be with my friends who makes me lonely. I don't wanna replace them but.. I dont know what to do, i want to be their friend. I dont wanna lose them. But sadly they don't probably think about me deeply like this...
Robin Williams is right about loneliness being with people who make you feel like that is despairing find people that make you feel genuine for who you are.
I have ptsd from a bombing and have been pretty much isolated since 2018. I can definitely relate to the over-sharing part. And I’ve definitely become attached to inanimate objects. And I hate to be a downer but the mental health system in America was broken before the pandemic, and it’s barely functioning now. I’m on two waiting lists for a therapist because mine quit without notice. I had to go a week without my mood stabilizer because the pharmacy didnt have any. This isn’t getting better. We need to acknowledge the reality of our situation instead of finding ways to just cope with it. In the last 13 months two of my friends have committed suicide. It’s really not good out here.
I’m sad to read you had a bombing experience. How terrible for you. You write very lucidly and I feel sure that other people would sympathise if they knew. Our mental health system in the U.K. isn’t that great but there are some wonderful counsellors on both sides of the pond. I do hope you find one to help you get back to the way you want to feel. I find inefficiency in others makes me mad but we’ve had months and months of poor supplies and slow service because the work ethic has been broken globally. You aren’t alone in the way you feel right now but hopefully things will improve in the next few months as the pandemic effect recedes. Best wishes.
1, 3, and 4 for me... I knew I was lonely but I never knew it was a deep loneliness. I never knew deep loneliness existed. "I hate to be different but I hate to be normal", "I don't want to be this person, but I can't be myself" and "I'm my own poison" are 3 things I'd use to describe it. "I'm my own poison" comes from wanting to be alone but not wanting to be alone at the same time. I want to be understood but I won't let anyone understand me in fear of getting hurt. "I don't want to be this person, but I can't be myself" is just the pain of absolutely hating everything about "normal" but you don't want to be an outcast. I don't want to be an outcast due to insecurities but I hate everything about "normal". When was the last time I could just be myself and not get made fun of for it? And "I hate to be different but I hate to be normal" is self-explanatory. It's a battle between being me and following my dreams and fitting in with everyone else. This all explains what I couldn't explain to my mom.
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The only thing that got me out of this is my old roommate had some of these traits, and I was starting to do the same thing. And it made me realize I didn't want a life like that. I am sill sad but I know I don't want to go in that direction again. And she is about 58 years old. It made me realize if I continue that same path I would end up like her, and that is much more scarier then not doing a thing about it.
one of the the biggest problems with people today, is that they only wanna keep you around for when they're lonely or wanna have fun but don't care about you.
I can relate to most of the points. Sometimes I’ll go (restaurant for example) with people and after 5 minutes I feel like I wanna be alone why can’t they just disappear… Few months ago I bought a small camping tent. I’ll start solo camping!
I can totally relate to the last sign, I used to be obsessed with one friend at a time, but I could never understand why. Now, I no longer have friends and I'm afraid of unconsciously oversharing when I meet someone new, so I hold back, therefore, no one ever gets to know me.
I have a great life, a great family and great friends, but I’m feeling more miserable by the day to the point where I dream of having someone there for me. There’s nothing really “wrong” but something’s missing. All I need now is a person who gets me, who can make me happy. Just one text every few mornings can make my entire week.
My personal experience: 1. I feel lonely even though I know many people, and spend time around them. 2. I feel as if I can’t connect with anyone, no matter what I do. 3. I don’t think anybody could ever like or think highly of me. 4. I’ve developed a deep sense of distrust for people. People who I actually got close enough to ended up leaving, so I’ve decided to stop even trying. 5. People who I’ve hung out with before have drifted away. I’ve tried to make plans only for them to say they’re busy, and then go out with other people to hang out. 6. I no longer actively seek companionship, and have no desire to contact anyone I have known after I go out into the world. 7. I have no confidence in myself or my abilities. 8. I’ve developed deep senses of resentment for those who do have the social confidence and social life that I don’t have, but I don’t want to feel this way 9. Anybody who does show an interest in me, I usually end up pushing away because I’m afraid of what could happen, and don’t believe myself to be deserving of social connections. 10. I hate people telling me that it’s temporary or that I’m being over emotional. I’ve felt this way since 3rd grade, and I’m almost off to college. It’s not temporary for me, and it never will be. These are my personal experiences, and I don’t plan on trying to make friends or build meaningful relationships in the future.
I checked 4/5 on this video. It kind of puts into perspective how much loneliness has been a part of my life from childhood till now and reminds me of my dad apologizing and expressing regret for me growing up so isolated.
I had these problems for a while, I was isolated by my mom and I started hoarding craft stuff and plushies, and when I finally had a chance to make friends I had a hard time making any because I didn't realize I was being overly clingy and over sharing
Once again, I learn more about myself in just a few minutes! Question: Do you think you could do a video on rejection sensitive dysphoria? RSD is something I recently heard about, and I want to know more :) it gets tough digesting advanced psychology papers and stuff lol
When you feel Lonely and your excited that you made a friend thinking that you won’t be lonely anymore and then that friend isn’t a friend at all but an awful person then you feel even lonelier than ever before.
The worst thing in a group conversation is ... even when you open up they say things like ' we all people are with you , why are you so negetive even after that' And when you are around a lot of people they either make fun of your eating habits or whimpyness or they just keep talking to each other making you feel left out . Damn , that hurts man ! ....
Love your vids so much, I use these to relate to and even if I don't actually use the tactics to help in a video, it still helps to realize my own habits and make my own ways to counteract it, thank you so much for your help with everything, yall are so amazing!!
At 67 I live alone and I’m lonely. No friends ever visit or call. I always send a card or cards and gifts remembering their birthdays and other milestones for what friends I have. However, I’ve never received a card for my birthday or any holiday. My children think of me as the “First Bank of Father” and whenever they communicate it is always a request for something but never preference with questions about me or my health. Unfortunately my children and grandchildren found out I came into some real money and now all of the ass kissing pisses me off! They all seem so insincere and greedy. Many times I’ve been mistaken for being one of my children, my daughter’s boyfriend or brother, etc. so I don’t look my age. Whenever I ask for my senior discount I’m asked for an ID. I do not color my hair and make zero attempts to look or dress in younger men’s clothing. But I couldn’t find a date in a whorehouse with a fist full of hundred dollar bills. It’s been at least twenty years since I’ve been kissed or touched by a woman. Thank goodness for diners that still have counter seating or I’d never eat out at a restaurant. Nighttime’s are the worst as the evenings drag out and I wish the clock would speed up so I could go to bed (without waking up at 4:00am). I can say with the utmost confidence that old age really isn’t a blessing when yours lonely.
Feeling lonely in a group of people around you is something more than just lonelyness. This situation takes lonelyness to a whole new level. Really terrible feeling.
Finally, only got 4 of 5. No friends means I can never feel lonely. Learned that one from my mother who always told me "you don't want "so and so" as a friend".
Hi. I just want to say, that I really appreciate the videos you guys make. I've been feeling a bit empty for like half a year now and this channal really helps.
Remember People are mean. So If you're in a friendship or any relationship with a mean person. Who is just that. You're worth more. IF YOU EVEN THINK oh well I can deal. It's better than being by myself. . !!, KNOW YOUR ACTUALLY WORSE THAN BEING ALONE!!! YOU ALREADY ARE ! ! YOU DESERVE BETTER!! 💜
The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.Two possibilities exist: either we are alone in the Universe or we are not. Both are equally terrifying.
When I was experiencing loneliness: My mind suddenly thought about God being our greatest friend who is always with us, one to share our thoughts and heart. After thinking about it, I smiled and teared a bit because it is true. Remember when God created Adam, God saw it was not good for him to be ALONE so he created Eve to accompany him. I hope this comment can encourage you, God is our Friend ❤️. Peace and May God bless you. 🕊️✝️✌️
@@MG-bq2gf Where can I meet a young lady? They're all married or taken. Others consider me too old or awkward. I've also tried so many dating apps and have not met anyone except women who were either horrible or old enough to be my mother. I don't know what to do anymore. No one looks at me anymore because of my age and all my friends have moved on with their lives. I'm just thinking this is it. The only things I have to look forward to in the future are health problems and death. I get jealous and feel a little heartbroken when I see couples and people with kids. But what can I do?
@@1legend517Hello Fudgrigar! It pains me to know everything that you've been through and this must've been so hard for you. But I want to say with Joy that God loves you, God is near the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18) and He hears the cries and pains of your heart, cry it out to Him, tell Him everything. He knows everything about you and what you're going through. Surrender it to Him and let Him take control. God also says that it is not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18) so I pray that you wait on Him, love Him and obey Him. He has a plan for you, a wonderful plan for you and your life. I hope this helps! God bless!
I’ve been talking to other people who also have STPD. They’ve helped a lot surprisingly. 3 major parts of the condition are loneliness, avoidance, & paranoia. I’ve been avoiding it for a long time because I didn’t want to think about it too much. But the older I get the harder to manage it is & I don’t have all the things I need yet. Basically I began grasping at straws. I am very careful though as sometimes misery loving company makes everyone spiral. But for me at least it’s helped a lot & I’ve met some really neat people in the process
it's so me... i was extremely lonely as a kid. things improved since then, but still, spending most of my life as an extremely lonely person made a deep mark on me. especially two things are significant - hording and oversharing, that were totally misunderstood by everyone around. I had a tendency to collect photos, mostly of fave musicians. I would put them around myself, sometimes just talking to them. No, that wasn't craziness. That was a way to have this feeling of presence of someone else around. The more the better. Over time i was lucky to meet one of those people personally. That led to series of misunderstandings from this small group of friends that i actually had at the time. You see - for me meeting this "photo companion" was such a cool feeling. Being able to talk to him and sometimes to have a drink was a dream come true, no romantic feelings involved. But people around saw it differently - "why do you chase this guy! you should give up! he has a girlfriend! you are so obsessed! we know you love him so much, you have so many photos of him!!!". I don't collect photos anymore, however i sometimes miss them. You see, this is a kind of "lonely person hobby" that is difficult to explain to someone who finds the pile of photos. Another thing that people misunderstand is oversharing. You get an easy label of being the one who "only talks about themselves". yeah - people take some things for granted. You went shopping, got some nice stuff? saw a nice movie that moved you? got in trouble and need to get things off your chest? what do you do! talk to friends or someone! Unless you don't have anyone to talk to, so you just keep everything inside of you. Until you meet someone who is willing to listen, but they are unaware of the fact that you have someone to talk to once in a blue moon. Then it explodes inside of you. You let out weeks, months or even years of thoughts that were cumulated in your head.. and then you end up with a label of "this nasty person who always talks about themselves". and that's how life goes. Looking back i understand why people thought about me like this, but the same people had hundreds of friends and have never been lonely, so they could never get in a lonely person's shoes. I can control myself now, but years of having the label of "being selfish" made me even more reserved. seems that's my fate :/
i relate to everything and it made me quite sad. as someone who barely goes out and spends time on social media more than making friends outside, this really hits home. i will try and improve myself though and hopefully my social anxiety will be better since it's really becoming worse after schools closed.
Awesome animation! Damn, this hits home. Felt like I am 16 again, I was a horrible teen but my friends are still here and I am not forcefuly keeping them. Though I still feel lonely at times, such as today.
I'm so in my head I couldn't see the beautiful truths and I believe every negative thought pass my mind by and reject the good ones.. too much time with myself... 😞
I did number 4 to a girl i like. Tbf She did start sharing first. Anyways got rejected badly. Never again will I share to anyone. Never again will i hurt myself and put myself in a vulnerable situation
@@1legend517 you shouldnt really be vulnerable with a woman your interested in until you know that she likes and cares about you back. Most people that aren’t interested in someone dont care to get to know anyone so deeply.
Iv been depressive alot with over sharing trying to make people understand my plight with it I pushed everyone way im sorry about that what I really want is to smile more I want to be a positive light and mabye help others shine bright......... Space might be mostly dark and empty but its filled with light like your smile it radiates warmth that can be reflected within someones memory and heart the gravity of your smile can help hold them together while they are falling apart dont forget to smile especially when it's dark it can mean a lot to somone who is tearing apart they might only need your positive spark to give warmth there negatively charged heart
Both my best friend and boyfriend will be leaving soon; military….literally the only two people I spend most of my time with - gone. So yeah, I’d say I’m fairly lonely.
@@Psych2go I tried a lot of different churches. I finally found one that is socially active, but I'm new and shy. I'm supposed to meet with them Saturday for a party, and I'm so nervous.
Happy Pride Month! We also have a new animator, Mara for this project. What do you think of her? Do you like it?
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Happy pride month to you as well
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Happy pride month!
She’s amazing! ✨❤️
"I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone." - Robin Williams
Wow this was deep
Damm
I work with that kinda guy and it's horrible, he's mean and distant
I miss robin Williams it just shows you all the fame in the world don't change anything anyone from all backgrounds can suffer from depression
A funny and wise man, the world is darker without him
1. You can be lonely even if you are around people.
2. You develop strong attachments to inanimate objects.
3. You feel alone even when surrounded by people like friends.
4. You overshare quickly when meeting someone who listens.
5. You desperately hang on to your friends, to the point of freaking them out and pushing them away.
Why do I have all
Especially the number 2
ok yeah im lonely 😭
I used to do number 4. I was desperate for anyone to understand me yet didn't realize just how much pressure this put on other people, plus I only wanted people when I could use them. Over 20 years on an I know this is not good behaviour. Most of the time I would scare people off an end up with no one. I blamed them for being lonely. It took me a while to realise that yep, I'm the common denominator in this situation. I'm still lonely, even now. I discovered that unless I actually ' connect ' it's not worth it or fair trauma dumping on others. Strangely enough I'm now having this happen to me. I get to hear the trauma then no one wants to listen back. So I just tend to stay away altogether now. It's so much easier, especially if you already feel lonely when around others. It doesn't really make any difference.
Well f***, I have it all. ☹️
@@morrigan-trontate1758 same man. just lost a friend to that tbh. not because he abandoned me, but because i was so obsessed with him caring for me and scared of losing him, that i took him distancing from me because i made him feel uncomfortable very personally and got insanely mad at him for "leaving me" ... even tho it was my fault all along. this video made me understand tbh ... have been doing that since so many years now. so i think staying away alltogehter and trying to find a nice way to just live alone will be the best for me here c:
Sometimes, loneliness is not being alone, but that sad feeling that no one loves you and cares about you.
More people care then you realize*
Some of us really do have nobody to rely on. Especially if no family or real friends.
@@Gellybeanb1974I have no one who cares about me.
@@mcjs8640Then you'll have to care about yourself.
I agree. Only cuddling my blanket or standing inside the rays of the sun gives me real warmth. Bundled up in clothing doesn’t give me any real warmth. I’m oversharing though aren’t I?
The worst type of loneliness is that when you feel it around the loving ones
:')
I wish I could come out to my family members and tell them everything about my true thoughts and feelings, it's so isolating and pushes me further away from them
Dealing with this at 47 is absolutely devastating. It's like trying to learn how to live life all over again. But with the painful knowledge that you are in midlife.
If you think it's devastating at 47, try dealing with this as a senior?
This is why many people look for hobbies as it's a way to connect with people while doing something you like
right there with ya, friend, at 46. I've found that it helps me to focus on giving / reaching out to others, not for the sake of forging a friendship or bond for one's self, but for the sake of others who might be lonely.
@@johns1159 That was my thought.
Sam here...47 and dealing with it after my best friend passed away little over a year ago
In my personal experience, to get out of this deep loneliness is to not share about your problem with anyone(yet) because it's easy to overshare and you'll probably regret about the decision and hurt your self esteem.
It's best that you keep yourself busy like helping others(not mentally), do charity work, any work that requires you to be there physically and requires teamwork to complete.
This will help you break the cycle of loneliness and makes you feel good about your own ability.
exactly...
Hiding serious trauma doesn't help even with doing voluntary work in addition to a full time job. Made my mental health diagnosis worse..... As no self care.
It's too late...I've already over shared too much
@@serenaslattery3631Very true.
0:20 The saying is, “Misery loves company”, Not loneliness.
1:40 You start gollum’ing out.
2:42 You feel alone even when you’re not alone.
3:30 You tend to overshare when someone is there to listen.
4:26 You are gollum, your friends are the one ring.
Thank you!
Thank you ☺️
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As an introvert, we’re always afraid well say something wrong so we usually keep to ourselves.
I'm pretty sure that's social anxiety, not so much introvertedness
It's so true! I, myself is an introvert. Sometimes I keep my thoughts to myself as I am afraid of speaking up. You're not alone! - Cindy
True.
that´s not what being introverted means, but I really hope you can feel better about yourself
I'm an introvert too and really shy/maybe bordering on social anxiety, and I'd say the fear of saying something wrong is in the second group.
The only sense of loneliness I feel is not having a lover, like being single hurts a lot for me despite still living in my youth.
I feel your pain.😔😪
I thought the same thing until I realized in my singleness is when I found exactly what I wanted. Not just a boyfriend, but what I want in a husband. Six months after I believed I would be single till God knows when, I Met my husband. I'm 23 and we've been married for 2 years. You may not be a believer, but God's timing is perfect ✨ keep your head up there's someone for everyone. @Abraham Ambriz
@@BrownFam1225 Thanks a lot. ^u^
@@BrownFam1225 The universe and god has a hell of a sense of humor, don’t you think?
I ride a motorcycle for a reason.
If you're not enough of a person on your own, then you won't be "completed" in a relationship. Couples are fine and so is marriage and all... BUT it won't fix anything.
When you can be enough as a complete individual, on your own, then you will make a partner probably the luckiest person they can be for finding you. Until then, you have work to do on yourself...
As do I at 45 and finding myself happily single... well... with my bike, Miss Suzie... yeah, cornball as it sounds or reads... ;o)
Loneliness hurts so much and I hurt for those who also deal with it too. I fear that I’ll live like this for the rest of my life. I’m 22 years old, turning 23 this year and I’m not living like others my age.
Not being like others is not a bad thing. Be yourself, even if it means that you will be very different from others. You will be quite successful like that.
Same i turn 21 this year and everyone tells me im not like anybody my age
I truly feel you. I am quite a bit older and have felt the same at different times in my life. I think a lot of it stemmed from childhood trauma that made me feel alienated from the world and caused severe trust issues with authority, leading to social anxiety. I promise you a therapist can help. The right one is not only adept at asking the right questions to get you to unlock the core of the challenge but suggest some constructive steps to help remedy how you feel. Very best to you, loneliness can be extremely tough.
I'm a senior and feel the same way. Lonelyness sucks. And others who are surrounded by family members or other close friends don't understand this concept.
@@johns1159 Seriously feel you John. Everyone tells you to check in with those around you for support or lean on family members or 'get out there more'...well, many seniors don't have anyone around them and for whatever reason can't get out there. It's a serious struggle for sure. It does suck, big time.
I think especially with the pandemic we’ve all felt alone at at least one point in time and it’s nice to see the indicators. Also the adventure time animation is adorable 🥰🥰
Thanks for sharing!
People with disabilities have been feeling this for years
Hey Louis, i feel you..its been similar for me. Im think just about forcing myself to go at least a bit working, getting a dog again and meeting new people/friends through apps.
i been lonely before the pandemic if people see you as a outcast they will not want to be friends with you or if you don't have the looks a person likes they don't want to be associated with you i tried to open up to females i like and tried to talk to them but most of them brush me away or told me they have a boyfriend i know some of them lied to me about them having a boyfriend but i guess i got to take rejection as rejection.
I've found that after the pandemic, people keep to themselves more and don't care about others as much anymore. And then to add the higher costs of living, it feels like a trap that we can never escape from.
For humans not to feel lonely they need two things: a one friend and a romantic partner. To not feel isolated they also need regular positive social interaction. Many people cannot obtain any of these.
Correct. I have not obtained any of those things and am suffering because of it.
@@1legend517 Sorry, but yes.
Some people don’t need romantic partners, but yes.
@@allisond.46 Its a generalisation, agreed. There are some true aromantic people. There are also some that don't need friends, true hermits. But the vast majority of people need a close friend(s) a romantic partner(s), and regular positive social interactions. Sadly, not many have these. Worse, if you suffer with chronic emotional loneliness then even having these things won't stop you feeling lonely - once you've developed that condition it cannot be removed easily if at all.
It goes without saying, lonliness causes anxiety and depression. We’ve been told all of our lives “no one likes a complainer,” but chronic illness, divorce and other major life changes magnifies lonliness. Being told to “get out of your shell, and go meet people” doesn’t help: It only makes a person feel lonelier. Maybe therapy is the answer, as long as one doesn’t hear, “snap out of it!"
Spot on. Brilliant, thank you Denise. That's the best advice on here, especially for young adults, I worry about them the most, as they haven't life experiences yet to reflect back onto. Thanks, I hope everyone reads your comment.
@@louiseskip3488 Thank you for the kind compliment. I, too, worry about the younger generation. I’m 51, and we didn’t grow-up with today’s technology. Both my children are in their 20’s, and communicate with friends through social media, or texting. My best friend’s teenaged daughter attempted suicide during COVID’s distance-learning. I thank God she didn’t succeed, however, she’s now seeing a pediatric psychiatrist. Honestly, I believe this is only the beginning of the mental health crisis, sadly. Hopefully, our children will turn to us one day when they figure-out we do have some wisdom to impart. God bless you and keep you!
Sometimes I watch these videos even if nothing applies to me it’s still interesting getting a peek into others thoughts.
For sure! It's all about understanding different topics and being aware about them. Thanks for your support! - Cindy
same, i also watch them to see if people i care about are experiencing the video topic, and to write psychologically accurate characters!
Same
I feel like I'm slowly losing my friends. My best friend hasn't talked to me in a year. I know he's very busy, but still, I feel very lonely sometimes.
I’m so sorry, I’m losing friends too so I feel what you feel. :[
People change and sometimes we need to move on... Usually, it has nothing to do with you. Sometimes, a toxic partner or career may change them for the worst.
He's been having a tough time at school. But, throwing away 9 years. Ot will take me some time to process. But thanks for your words
This is what I’m going through currently. I’m either being with people who don’t really care or they’re really just busy. But I’m slowly getting convinced that they don’t care about me…
Maybe I really do have a problem?
Many don’t reply to my texts in the group chat and ignore it, some other people sound bored and have high expectations from me. One proves that I’m solid cringe and can’t crack a good joke, one of my closest friends no longer talk to the others anymore either. Another one just doesn’t sound like they wanna deal with me anymore. I’m burnt out and now I’m over sharing again.
Im feeling this right now. I used to hang and talk all the time with a group of friends at lunch at school but now I just talk with only one the odd time here and there. Otherwise I just sit on my own in silence. I have found that drawing while listening to music is my new thing I do to forget about life for a bit.
3 and 4 definitely. I’ve always been an outcast, and even being in the break room at work with several coworkers makes me feel even more alone, so I usually take my breaks in my car. On the rare occasion when I do start to make a friend, I do tend to share a little too much about my past, and there was a time in my life when I would tell then lies to impress them out of fear of them finding out that my life is and has been actually quite dull and boring compared to most people.
I relate a little too much
This is too real
Same. I tend to overshare a bit sometimes and it turns people off but,, wouldn't you want to get to know someone? I'm not talking about my dark traumas but like, give it some time y'all wtf? They just wanna know a wall, and not a human.
I used to overshare with anyone who would listen. I've overcome that by realizing that not everyone who shows a passing interest in you is your friend. I spend more time listening now and keep personal things personal until I get to know someone. It's better than getting burned.
Hey wait. Did I just share too much again? ;-)
Many of us feel the same way.
1. Ironically, being around people makes me feel _more_ alone, because my mind sees all these people that could potentially like me, but do not.
2. This seems the least true of the list for me, but I do like collecting things, so that's probably where that manifests.
3. Very true. Even in a group of friends, I tend to feel like the odd man out. Been like that my whole life.
4. Yep. If I feel like somebody gets me, even a little, I feel like I can go from antisocial to "talks too much" faster than a Fast& The Furious drag race.
5. I am certain I have lost more than one friendship by being too clingy.
So, I'm pretty sure I've been deeply lonely for most of my life.
💕
I think 1. is why I generally dislike group situations, preferring to meet up with people one-on-one. For many people this sounds absurd because meeting up one-on-one you have nowhere to hide, but for me it provides (relative) certainty that the other person does actually like me and isn't just tolerating my presence because it's a group situation where they don't get to dictate who is and is not there
You really need to drop the self doubt* Others will not feel sorry for you* Be the best you can be*
But just one person is enough to defy all these points. Maybe they are nearby after all
You and me both. 100% agree with all these points.
After this pandemic I’m guranteed everyone has felt it
For sure, do you think it's something that will get easier with time?
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I felt lonely long before the pandemic I e felt alone many times
School makes me feel so lonely because I have no friends and I don’t socialize with any of my peers. I hate being forced to go to school. I’m so glad it’s almost over
Everyday I feel lonely to the point that I spend most of my time locked up in my room. I have friends but they make me feel lonely even though i’m with them. Sometimes I want to reach out and talk to other people but either I lack the social skills to carry a decent conversation or im scared and have a distrust towards the person or stranger.
I think you have to branch out with new and different activities, not focusing on people, but people will come.
Same.
Silver* REACH* God Bless You
This message is for someone who needs to hear this and will fully understand it... You are not define by your circumstance or your past. It’s not what happened to you that determines your success in life; it is how you deal with those circumstances that determines your success in life. You are strong, you are capable and practice forgiveness (Forgiveness is for you; forgive your parents or anyone whom we have chosen to hurt us, to begin the process of healing and freedom. Remember: Forgiveness is for you to be freed, healed and happy. It’s a RESET BUTTON) and practice gratitude everyday. This will change the course of your life forever. Love you always and I believe in you wholeheartedly no matter what ✨❤️ - Nat
Worth a mention that forgiveness does NOT imply brain damage or "forgetfulness".
I've been accused of not forgiving someone for some trespass or another. To whit I simply retort, "You're still breathing, ain't you? That's my forgiveness for you."
...AND it's all the hell more forgiveness I give. "Once bitten, twice shy." and all that...
I'm not trying to be toxic or anything. I'm just pointing it out in all honesty. We don't owe anyone more. That is the course to healing and freedom... AND it's worth mention because too often people try to impress us with the ideal of "going back to how things used to be" in regards to before the trespass or abuse happened... AND that's impossible. I already know the person who mistreated me is capable of mistreating me, so I'm GOING to guard against that possibility, and I'd be a FOOL not to. I'm nobody's fool. I'm not brain damaged. I actually LEARN from my mistakes... and if that's a problem between me and any particular other person, then the other person needs NOT to associate with me. ;o)
@@gnarthdarkanen7464 that makes the two of us...
@@marleygee2023 I'd suspect a lot more than just us two,... BUT too many submit to self loathing for their lack of forgetting and that simply isn't fair.
I hope we reach (maybe) others and let them know that it's okay to forgive and NOT forget.
In any case,. spread the word. I know you got the message. ;o)
Thank you! I appreciate that❣️
Thank yall for the kind a thoughtful words
How deeply it explains me. It's just so relatable.
Constantly feeling abandoned and isolated and rejected and discarded and being treated as disposable.
I just wish I die soon enough.
This is accurate. When I am around people that I know, I still get lonely. I feel this emptiness inside and I feel like I'm missing something, but I don't know what.
The materialism thing, I can definitely relate. I can spend hours “window shopping” online. The process of checking out, waiting for the item to arrive and finally unboxing it, definitely fills the void for a bit. I get excited and super proud for owning the item I bought. Though it wouldn’t take long for me to wanna shop again. A lot of stuff in my room are boxes with stuff I’ve bought and I have so space for. I go through hundreds every month on stuff I really don’t need.
I relate to the third one a lot! I have a friend group but I don't like talking about my problems and feel disengaged. I feel kind of lonely and have an underlying feeling that no one likes me and that everyone hates me.
Probably not hate, but maybe you should gradually shuffle away from that group.
@@robertmadison1205 ah ok thank you
Same
Goodness gracious that is exactly how I feel! Not on the hate part, but feeling like anytime I speak I say the wrong thing and that they think of me as the unmature baby, when I’m really not.
@@emeraldocean7885 oh, thanks for describing this even deeper, it has touched me deep
That third one hurts the most, thinking you're around people you think will actually fill that lonely void but they only make it deeper just because you feel as if they can't relate, alleviate, or at least make you forget about it for a split second. Es okay tho, we're still healing beautiful souls, so good luck to all those that are in this same mental battle. 🖤
I live alone. What's left of my family lives 3,000 miles away. None of them seem to understand the concept of loneliness since they are always around others.
@@johns1159 you must still be an old soul that values the company of another. So though in solitude away from your family, I still wish that you'll be okay. 🖤
Being around other lonely ppl doesn’t help…it’s like a bunch of ppl fighting for the last life preserver while bobbing in the ocean. What sux too is being around ‘normal’ (ie happy, well-adjusted, etc) is even worse bc u feel like they can’t possibly even remotely relate to ur grab-bag of feels-envy, resentment, longing for understanding-basically we feel shitty not feeling as ‘ok’ as they **appear**. But even the most popular ppl feel lonely at times too.
thanks for sharing
I've dealt with loneliness all the time and still am. Most times I would have to keep myself busy with my hobbies just so that my mind wouldn't have to ponder on my loneliness. It's good on some days and other days it does get to you so it's like a up and down feeling of being lonely
Exactly the same for me.
Maybe joining a church, or working might help you to meet others your age*
you got this!
I've always experienced loneliness on and off since childhood. I'd feel it in elementary school from having no friends, then once I made some it simmered down. Yet I'd still feel moments of loneliness, and I think I felt it more a couple years ago from having a hard time making friendships for some odd reason. I realized my loneliness came from not being my authentic self around others, because Id feel like no one TRULY knows me except for any romantic partners I'd have. I've always felt like they have more than anyone and that would simmer down the loneliness more, yet because I still don't have any friends, I'd still experience a bit of loneliness. I've been putting myself out there to make more of an effort for meaningful connections, hoping it can bring me the right people in my life one day.
I'm sorry your feeling so alone*I hjave been alone since my husband passed away, we were together 40 years. But Even when he was alive he left me alone alot* I hope you find peace and friends* God bless You
Thank you for sharing!
You missed a point with possessions. The inclination to anthropomorphize inanimate objects and give them “personalities” to have “friends” or “companions.”
I hate this feeling I have of total isolation despite having a partner and great friends who care about me. I just feel... existentially tired. Like living itself is taking a mental toll, despite being physically rested.
It certainly doesn't help that I'm trying to get away from controlling parents who refuse to let me be my own person, and I'm going through therapy and medication that still haven't helped after years of trying.
Sorry to whatever random UA-cam commenter I happen to dump this on, but I just need to rant into the void right now.
Yeah...that opening up thing.
Did it once a small slip as testing ice with them, never again.
Even when it didn't impact them, it showed how damaging it CAN be. So from now on I'll sign my apathy to deal with my emotional matters, since he's so good at it and is always there for me. Love him.
On one hand, I want you to elaborate (like the story behind the comment), but on the other, as a person who's loose tounge led to trouble multiple times in the past, I feel like I'm asking too much
@@TheMCzorro It's okay to ask. For some context; I'm about 10 years younger than my friend here and he has a family, while I was single. We have known each other for a year.
We were on a week long trip at big ski resort. One night we were wandering rest of the ski-resort by going bars and restaurants all night, enjoying music, good food and drinks. As we went rounds in bars and nightclubs, my friend picked up that I wasn't interested in hitting girls even when he pointed out couple to me and asked if I was okay. I said that "I was just enjoying my time there and I was a bit tired."
When we finally had enough drinking and came back to our hotel at midnight, we took a hit to relax and talked about our relationships. Somewhere there I accidentally slipped that "I didn't really care about hitting girls, *because I don't feel anything at all and nothing really matters to me*."
I could see that shock in his face for a moment as he asked "This trip doesn't matter to you at all?". I laughed that hit really made my head spin and made me talk nonsense, reassuring that I loved being there with him.
I really was enjoying our trip there, because I rarely travel far away. My slip there was pure honesty to that topic and I was fully aware what I was saying, luckily I managed to save my huge screw up. I could've gone way deeper, if I didn't hold myself back for his sake. This taught me that normal people aren't comfortable at all dealing with these extremes and made me super careful navigating topics about feelings. I want others be comfortable around me and not being therapists for me, that's not their job or issue to handle.
@@Sami-gc3ti Okay, at least it didn't go horribly wrong
thanks for sharing
Lonliness is the feeling of alienation that we carry with us on this journey of life. It has been exacerbated due to the pandemic, and just seems to linger no matter how hard we try to get back to the old normal. It is the latent strain and major barrier to finding true happiness again and will require on all of our parts a resiliency to want to connect with others on a deeper level! \🕶/
Sometimes this loneliness almost make me experience actual physical pain or the feeling of drowning/suffocating.
Sometimes I just stare at the ceiling at think “I deserved so much more”
Yeah, same here.
you do deserve much more!
There's a HUGE DIFFERENCE between "Being Alone" and "Loneliness"!
Having both isn't great though.
@@flyingrancidm00nfish7
You're preaching to the choir.
tbh I feel like one hurts while the other literally destroys you.
true!
About the material ones: A talk with a friend is always free.
...usually free
true.
Loneliness is one thing but loneliness with zero friends feels like torture
I have been there for sure. I hope that everyone going through this knows that they can turn to online friends if they don't have anyone in real life. My online friends have done so much for me to help me through hard times. I love them dearly.
thanks for making this video! i kinda have been feeling lonely and was worried i was being dramatic, but this helped me realize i was not
What made you feel you were being dramatic?
Being lonely is hurtful. Go places & put yourself out there* Don't be afraid* You'll meet people & some will like you some won't . Don't give the last ones a second thought* God Bless You
Loneliness is something I’ve dealt with for god knows how long. I’ve been used to it to the point it no longer makes me feel sad and envious of others. It actually makes me happier, yet empty. It’s hard to explain 😅
I just read books, do my best in school, and play video games, it’s pretty chill.
Sometimes we need a break in our relationships and it's not because we want to be with someone else, but maybe due to needing that personal time for ourselves. There's many reasons! Making assumptions about your partner wanting to only take a break to be with someone else, will probably keep them away permanently!
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Man these animations are too accurate and too good.
They, almost fully, represent the topic being discussed in a great detail.
yay!
It gets worse with age, I feel like I am the lonelinest person in the world most of the time.
We'll all find someone eventually. Someone who is lonely will find someone else who feels lonely. No worries bois and girls, we'll be happy in the end if we try enough
True pain always hides in our hearts
My loneliness is an indicator that I am doing all I can to protect myself from the cruelty, lies, hypocrisy, abuse, of others. Most people are not true friends. If I am lonely, I have none of them in my life. Loneliness is a powerful indicator of how well I am doing to avoid the abuse of others.
I definitely saw all these signs within myself. Although I am a grown up boy,I am still attracted to one of my toys I used to play. When I was just walking alone,I noticed a very little boy(ig he is 4 years old) sitting all alone. I asked him why he was sitting alone. He said that no wants to be friends with him. He feels lonely,bored. Seeing this,I felt sad because he was going through that phase I have been going through since childhood. I felt that no one has to experience that haunting feeling of being alone especially not at such a young age. So I decided to play with him. This made his day. I am happy for him.
thanks for sharing
the worst thing is that I still forever want to be with my friends who makes me lonely. I don't wanna replace them but.. I dont know what to do, i want to be their friend. I dont wanna lose them. But sadly they don't probably think about me deeply like this...
I've been this way for the past ten years. The COVID quarantine felt just like any other day in my life. And my life still drags on......
I've also felt this way for around 12 years and I just want it to be over. It hurts a lot and is starting to take a toll on me.
i guess it time to reunite wiht my imaginary friend
Your videos always help me figure things out and that makes me happy that there are people out there that understand.
I also hope that everyone that sees this has an amazing day!
Your*
Robin Williams is right about loneliness being with people who make you feel like that is despairing find people that make you feel genuine for who you are.
I have ptsd from a bombing and have been pretty much isolated since 2018. I can definitely relate to the over-sharing part. And I’ve definitely become attached to inanimate objects. And I hate to be a downer but the mental health system in America was broken before the pandemic, and it’s barely functioning now. I’m on two waiting lists for a therapist because mine quit without notice. I had to go a week without my mood stabilizer because the pharmacy didnt have any.
This isn’t getting better. We need to acknowledge the reality of our situation instead of finding ways to just cope with it. In the last 13 months two of my friends have committed suicide. It’s really not good out here.
@ DJ: You are absolutely right about the mental health system! Completely broken long before the pandemic!👍👏🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝🤝
I’m sad to read you had a bombing experience. How terrible for you. You write very lucidly and I feel sure that other people would sympathise if they knew. Our mental health system in the U.K. isn’t that great but there are some wonderful counsellors on both sides of the pond. I do hope you find one to help you get back to the way you want to feel. I find inefficiency in others makes me mad but we’ve had months and months of poor supplies and slow service because the work ethic has been broken globally. You aren’t alone in the way you feel right now but hopefully things will improve in the next few months as the pandemic effect recedes. Best wishes.
I do often feel lonely especially that I have social anxiety
Like I want to conect to people so badly but I can't
1, 3, and 4 for me... I knew I was lonely but I never knew it was a deep loneliness. I never knew deep loneliness existed. "I hate to be different but I hate to be normal", "I don't want to be this person, but I can't be myself" and "I'm my own poison" are 3 things I'd use to describe it. "I'm my own poison" comes from wanting to be alone but not wanting to be alone at the same time. I want to be understood but I won't let anyone understand me in fear of getting hurt.
"I don't want to be this person, but I can't be myself" is just the pain of absolutely hating everything about "normal" but you don't want to be an outcast. I don't want to be an outcast due to insecurities but I hate everything about "normal". When was the last time I could just be myself and not get made fun of for it?
And "I hate to be different but I hate to be normal" is self-explanatory. It's a battle between being me and following my dreams and fitting in with everyone else. This all explains what I couldn't explain to my mom.
Did...did you just post this on the exact day I experienced obsession with wanting to be around my friends?
Realizing how lonely, I truly am. It sucks. I just want to vent and just pull everything out right now, but I don’t. I’m born to be alone.
Why is this channel so relatable?
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The only thing that got me out of this is my old roommate had some of these traits, and I was starting to do the same thing. And it made me realize I didn't want a life like that. I am sill sad but I know I don't want to go in that direction again. And she is about 58 years old. It made me realize if I continue that same path I would end up like her, and that is much more scarier then not doing a thing about it.
Going to the gym and blasting Hardstyle solved all my problems. I 100% recommend anyone going through these troubles
one of the the biggest problems with people today, is that they only wanna keep you around for when they're lonely or wanna have fun but don't care about you.
I can relate to most of the points. Sometimes I’ll go (restaurant for example) with people and after 5 minutes I feel like I wanna be alone why can’t they just disappear…
Few months ago I bought a small camping tent. I’ll start solo camping!
I can totally relate to the last sign, I used to be obsessed with one friend at a time, but I could never understand why. Now, I no longer have friends and I'm afraid of unconsciously oversharing when I meet someone new, so I hold back, therefore, no one ever gets to know me.
thanks for sharing
I have a great life, a great family and great friends, but I’m feeling more miserable by the day to the point where I dream of having someone there for me. There’s nothing really “wrong” but something’s missing. All I need now is a person who gets me, who can make me happy. Just one text every few mornings can make my entire week.
My personal experience:
1. I feel lonely even though I know many people, and spend time around them.
2. I feel as if I can’t connect with anyone, no matter what I do.
3. I don’t think anybody could ever like or think highly of me.
4. I’ve developed a deep sense of distrust for people. People who I actually got close enough to ended up leaving, so I’ve decided to stop even trying.
5. People who I’ve hung out with before have drifted away. I’ve tried to make plans only for them to say they’re busy, and then go out with other people to hang out.
6. I no longer actively seek companionship, and have no desire to contact anyone I have known after I go out into the world.
7. I have no confidence in myself or my abilities.
8. I’ve developed deep senses of resentment for those who do have the social confidence and social life that I don’t have, but I don’t want to feel this way
9. Anybody who does show an interest in me, I usually end up pushing away because I’m afraid of what could happen, and don’t believe myself to be deserving of social connections.
10. I hate people telling me that it’s temporary or that I’m being over emotional. I’ve felt this way since 3rd grade, and I’m almost off to college. It’s not temporary for me, and it never will be.
These are my personal experiences, and I don’t plan on trying to make friends or build meaningful relationships in the future.
I swear psych2go knows me better than anyone -_-
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Just what I needed.
How did you feel about the points in the video?
I’ve felt this way for so long that I’ve completely forgotten what I used to feel like
I'm sorry that you feel alone. It's really hard. But you are loved and you will get through this. 💕
I checked 4/5 on this video. It kind of puts into perspective how much loneliness has been a part of my life from childhood till now and reminds me of my dad apologizing and expressing regret for me growing up so isolated.
I had these problems for a while, I was isolated by my mom and I started hoarding craft stuff and plushies, and when I finally had a chance to make friends I had a hard time making any because I didn't realize I was being overly clingy and over sharing
Once again, I learn more about myself in just a few minutes! Question: Do you think you could do a video on rejection sensitive dysphoria? RSD is something I recently heard about, and I want to know more :) it gets tough digesting advanced psychology papers and stuff lol
Absolutely!
@@Psych2go thank you so much!!
When you feel Lonely and your excited that you made a friend thinking that you won’t be lonely anymore and then that friend isn’t a friend at all but an awful person then you feel even lonelier than ever before.
The worst thing in a group conversation is ... even when you open up they say things like
' we all people are with you , why are you so negetive even after that'
And when you are around a lot of people they either make fun of your eating habits or whimpyness or they just keep talking to each other making you feel left out .
Damn , that hurts man ! ....
Love your vids so much, I use these to relate to and even if I don't actually use the tactics to help in a video, it still helps to realize my own habits and make my own ways to counteract it, thank you so much for your help with everything, yall are so amazing!!
Glad you like them!
At 67 I live alone and I’m lonely. No friends ever visit or call. I always send a card or cards and gifts remembering their birthdays and other milestones for what friends I have. However, I’ve never received a card for my birthday or any holiday. My children think of me as the “First Bank of Father” and whenever they communicate it is always a request for something but never preference with questions about me or my health. Unfortunately my children and grandchildren found out I came into some real money and now all of the ass kissing pisses me off! They all seem so insincere and greedy.
Many times I’ve been mistaken for being one of my children, my daughter’s boyfriend or brother, etc. so I don’t look my age. Whenever I ask for my senior discount I’m asked for an ID. I do not color my hair and make zero attempts to look or dress in younger men’s clothing. But I couldn’t find a date in a whorehouse with a fist full of hundred dollar bills. It’s been at least twenty years since I’ve been kissed or touched by a woman. Thank goodness for diners that still have counter seating or I’d never eat out at a restaurant. Nighttime’s are the worst as the evenings drag out and I wish the clock would speed up so I could go to bed (without waking up at 4:00am). I can say with the utmost confidence that old age really isn’t a blessing when yours lonely.
Feeling lonely in a group of people around you is something more than just lonelyness. This situation takes lonelyness to a whole new level. Really terrible feeling.
Finally, only got 4 of 5. No friends means I can never feel lonely. Learned that one from my mother who always told me "you don't want "so and so" as a friend".
9 minutes and almost 500 likes. I wish I could say hi and smile at some of my other lonely friends. Hello there
Hi! :)
Hi. I just want to say, that I really appreciate the videos you guys make. I've been feeling a bit empty for like half a year now and this channal really helps.
you got this@
@@Psych2go thanks
Remember People are mean. So If you're in a friendship or any relationship with a mean person. Who is just that. You're worth more. IF YOU EVEN THINK oh well I can deal. It's better than being by myself. . !!, KNOW YOUR ACTUALLY WORSE THAN BEING ALONE!!! YOU ALREADY ARE ! ! YOU DESERVE BETTER!! 💜
The loneliest moment in someone’s life is when they are watching their whole world fall apart, and all they can do is stare blankly.Two possibilities exist: either we are alone in the Universe or we are not. Both are equally terrifying.
When I was experiencing loneliness:
My mind suddenly thought about God being our greatest friend who is always with us, one to share our thoughts and heart. After thinking about it, I smiled and teared a bit because it is true.
Remember when God created Adam, God saw it was not good for him to be ALONE so he created Eve to accompany him.
I hope this comment can encourage you,
God is our Friend ❤️.
Peace and May God bless you. 🕊️✝️✌️
So why then are we so many single guys in loneliness who cannot find our Eve? Is this also destined by God?
@@1legend517 you will find your Eve in God's perfect timing. We can't rush it and don't rush it, His perfect time and will is always worth it.
@@MG-bq2gf Where can I meet a young lady? They're all married or taken. Others consider me too old or awkward. I've also tried so many dating apps and have not met anyone except women who were either horrible or old enough to be my mother. I don't know what to do anymore. No one looks at me anymore because of my age and all my friends have moved on with their lives. I'm just thinking this is it. The only things I have to look forward to in the future are health problems and death. I get jealous and feel a little heartbroken when I see couples and people with kids. But what can I do?
@@MG-bq2gf I'm nearly 37. I cant find anyone young enough to have a family with. They all consider me "too old". God doesn't care about me.
@@1legend517Hello Fudgrigar! It pains me to know everything that you've been through and this must've been so hard for you. But I want to say with Joy that God loves you, God is near the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18) and He hears the cries and pains of your heart, cry it out to Him, tell Him everything. He knows everything about you and what you're going through. Surrender it to Him and let Him take control.
God also says that it is not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18) so I pray that you wait on Him, love Him and obey Him. He has a plan for you, a wonderful plan for you and your life. I hope this helps! God bless!
I’ve been talking to other people who also have STPD. They’ve helped a lot surprisingly. 3 major parts of the condition are loneliness, avoidance, & paranoia. I’ve been avoiding it for a long time because I didn’t want to think about it too much. But the older I get the harder to manage it is & I don’t have all the things I need yet. Basically I began grasping at straws. I am very careful though as sometimes misery loving company makes everyone spiral. But for me at least it’s helped a lot & I’ve met some really neat people in the process
The heck is STPD?
it's so me... i was extremely lonely as a kid. things improved since then, but still, spending most of my life as an extremely lonely person made a deep mark on me. especially two things are significant - hording and oversharing, that were totally misunderstood by everyone around. I had a tendency to collect photos, mostly of fave musicians. I would put them around myself, sometimes just talking to them. No, that wasn't craziness. That was a way to have this feeling of presence of someone else around. The more the better. Over time i was lucky to meet one of those people personally. That led to series of misunderstandings from this small group of friends that i actually had at the time. You see - for me meeting this "photo companion" was such a cool feeling. Being able to talk to him and sometimes to have a drink was a dream come true, no romantic feelings involved. But people around saw it differently - "why do you chase this guy! you should give up! he has a girlfriend! you are so obsessed! we know you love him so much, you have so many photos of him!!!". I don't collect photos anymore, however i sometimes miss them. You see, this is a kind of "lonely person hobby" that is difficult to explain to someone who finds the pile of photos. Another thing that people misunderstand is oversharing. You get an easy label of being the one who "only talks about themselves". yeah - people take some things for granted. You went shopping, got some nice stuff? saw a nice movie that moved you? got in trouble and need to get things off your chest? what do you do! talk to friends or someone! Unless you don't have anyone to talk to, so you just keep everything inside of you. Until you meet someone who is willing to listen, but they are unaware of the fact that you have someone to talk to once in a blue moon. Then it explodes inside of you. You let out weeks, months or even years of thoughts that were cumulated in your head.. and then you end up with a label of "this nasty person who always talks about themselves". and that's how life goes. Looking back i understand why people thought about me like this, but the same people had hundreds of friends and have never been lonely, so they could never get in a lonely person's shoes. I can control myself now, but years of having the label of "being selfish" made me even more reserved. seems that's my fate :/
i relate to everything and it made me quite sad. as someone who barely goes out and spends time on social media more than making friends outside, this really hits home. i will try and improve myself though and hopefully my social anxiety will be better since it's really becoming worse after schools closed.
It's my birthday and NOT ONE of my friends asked what I was doing today 😭 I'm feeling like a nobody or a ghost
Happy Belated Birthday!!!
Thank you . This video really helped me 😊
Hopefully! How are you feeling lately?
@@Psych2go I'm bottling up my emotions and idk how to let everything out again . Thanks for asking 😊
Awesome animation!
Damn, this hits home. Felt like I am 16 again, I was a horrible teen but my friends are still here and I am not forcefuly keeping them. Though I still feel lonely at times, such as today.
I'm so in my head I couldn't see the beautiful truths and I believe every negative thought pass my mind by and reject the good ones.. too much time with myself... 😞
I did number 4 to a girl i like. Tbf She did start sharing first. Anyways got rejected badly. Never again will I share to anyone. Never again will i hurt myself and put myself in a vulnerable situation
Sorry about what happened. Sending love and encouragement ❤️.
I feel you. I've done the same with women and ended up ghosted. I feel like I can never really be vulnerable with anybody.
@@1legend517 you shouldnt really be vulnerable with a woman your interested in until you know that she likes and cares about you back. Most people that aren’t interested in someone dont care to get to know anyone so deeply.
@@TheBlobablob You are 100% correct. I agree. It just sucks how we can't be honest about who we are and to have somebody accept us for it.
POV: ur looking in the comments for that one nice person who summarized the entire video for u 😊
Well this was conveniently timed
Iv been depressive alot with over sharing trying to make people understand my plight with it I pushed everyone way im sorry about that what I really want is to smile more I want to be a positive light and mabye help others shine bright.........
Space might be mostly dark and empty but its filled with light like your smile it radiates warmth that can be reflected within someones memory and heart the gravity of your smile can help hold them together while they are falling apart dont forget to smile especially when it's dark it can mean a lot to somone who is tearing apart they might only need your positive spark to give warmth there negatively charged heart
Uh, deep sadness, depressive inability to relate to other people...think I got this one covered.
My case is that I still feel lonely even though I'm surrounded by many friends...
With all my friends and family getting into relationships it's left me so lonely. 😞
Same
When the video speaks to you more than anyone else is... even though it was released on your birthday
i hope one day i never feel this way again
Both my best friend and boyfriend will be leaving soon; military….literally the only two people I spend most of my time with - gone. So yeah, I’d say I’m fairly lonely.
Write lots of letters in the other time go places where people your age hang out* Bless you*
It's even hard to find someone at church.
Do you often go to the same church?
@@Psych2go I tried a lot of different churches. I finally found one that is socially active, but I'm new and shy. I'm supposed to meet with them Saturday for a party, and I'm so nervous.