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I have watched your videos about mental health for about a year now, and I though I that lots of the symptoms of anxiety were happening to me, so I spoke to people and a therapist and am now diagnosed with anxiety disorder. Thank you so much for helping me ❤️❤️
I really like them a lot. Although at times it feels easy to copypaste something you see onto yourself. Maybe it's wise to shed a bit of light on that. PS: I would like to work for you in a professional capacity and add to the platform content-wise, that is my background with a degree. Would you be okay to point me to where to send my details to? Thank you,
"We don't feel lonely because we never had/made friends, we feel lonely because we DID have friends but their decision was not to continue the journey with us"
The 1st one is actually mostly true for me. I did have 1 good childhood friend but we parted ways as adults, mutual separation. We were just too different. Now I have to pay the consequences for being incredibly lonely.
@@acenath8643 consequences of what? it wasnt ur fault, dear, it just happens sometimes. people change and dont have to continue their ways together. its only natural especially when we're talking about friendships :)
I used to think “numbness” wasn’t literal emotional unfeeling. Now, I realize it really is, as I haven’t cried in years despite going through depression, anxiety, breakups, and relative death.
Same. Only exceptions was when my dog (my very best friend) had to be put down, then once when I was on shrooms. I wasn't even upset I just had to fight the urge to cry for some reason.
@@enjisilverstone-nolongerac7533 I had depression and i was crying, only when I was lonely at home (I mean DAYS alone) but still I was crying. It was happening when I had this feeling of despair.
I felt quiet lonely throughout my school experience. my freshman year at college (which was last year) brought me a lot of experiences, emotions, some great people. but the last 7 months or so I've been depressed and I lost touch with some people, nearly isolated myself. throughout this whole time I was aware of what was going on, so I just watched my life falling apart. my anxiety has become ridiculous, I often feel like the most hated person in a group, my insecurities have intensified greatly. it's so painful watching who I've become and noticing how nobody around me gives a damn about me. the contrast with the previous year feels so heavy. I live on my own, so when I return from uni, I end up completely alone with my thoughts. I wish I could say I'm self-sufficient, but I'm broken. I'm 19 and I really hope I'll be a much happier person in my 20s
Yep, been dealing with and experiencing this for years. Went from an A and B student in high school to almost not graduating, dropped out of college because the loneliness was eating me alive. That was 20 years ago, and not much has changed. I've thrown my full focus elsewhere at times like in working out or hobbies or even work, but that never fills the void of wanting to be hugged or feeling human touch. I may feel fulfilled in other aspects in life, but the lack of physical and emotional connection is absolutely brutal.
Have you tried therapy and joining groups? that is what has helped me. I have a support group, A women's group, a football group and a therapy group that I see weekly. Working out alone, doing hobbies alone and my job cannot replace my social life. My father went out with his friends every weekend. My mother didn't mind. It is good for his mental health.
@@marleyhill34wtf is therapy going to do? They already know why they are hurting and the solution is a partner. But no one wants a damn relationship or has too high expectations. They don’t need a therapist.
@@sadderdazehaze I've been single for 10 years. I'm not hurting. You don't actually need a partner. You want a partner. That's the difference. if you think therapy isn't going to work, then surprise surprise it isn't going to work. If you want to have that mindset, that's entirely your prerogative but I'm about doing whatever it takes to get what I want and what I need. If you don't have an open mindset, therapy is definitely not for you. Don't even bother. In fact if you don't have an open mindset, stay out of relationships, you are bound just to cause yourself and others emotional pain.
@@marleyhill34therapy don’t help. no one needs to see more depressed people to start feeling better. It’s even more depressing. All you need is a friend or someone who listens and cares about you. Not some schmuck who pretends feelings because someone paid him to (like all the shrinks)
Loneliness is an empty seat at the table It's a cold bed at night It's the sound of silence when you need a friend Loneliness is feeling like you're the only one in the world It's feeling like no one cares It's feeling like you're all alone Loneliness is a heavy weight on your heart It's a sadness that never goes away It's feeling like you're not good enough Loneliness is feeling like you're lost and you can't find your way It's feeling like you're not worth anyone's time Loneliness is feeling like you're invisible It's feeling like you don't matter Loneliness is feeling like you're not worth anyone's love
I've gone past that. I've accepted my loneliness after years of struggling against it. It's become normal that I dont have friends. I had years of being that group member that no one asked to meet up another time. I'm not intuitively sociable and people just dont want my friendship. Trying to be friends with people is something i cant do. I either look down on people or think they're better than me. I feel I should be deeply sad but instead just feel like I'm existing in the worlds shittest themepark that i cant leave.
Loneliness ain’t about being alone. It’s about the fact that if you were to die, no one would really notice you’re gone outside of maybe work or close family circles.
That sounds more like a desire from the ego to have notoriety. B/c i feel lonely, but dont care that only a handful would care or know i d**d. Im worried when THEY d*e, how i'll be 100 percent alone.
I have always felt lonely especially as a kid. I was a painfully shy kid and everybody else in my family was really out going. I remember staying home by myself all the time watching tv and having pretend friends. My big sister was really hard on me because I wasn’t outgoing and out spoken like her and the rest of my family. My family would go places and leave me behind and it was hard being alone. I’m a fully grown woman now but at times it still is a struggle for me I still feel lonely, even if I’m around people. The experience has defiantly made me strong.
As a fellow traumatized kid, I respect your belief that the experience has made you strong. But it seems to me that it's by your strength in the first place, that you endured all that and reached until here. I'm sorry you had to go through that, much love and power❤️
I relate to everything but the last one for some reason I still care about how people see me and still try to be perfect and I'm doing it well at least how I look from outside is good enough for me
0:27 1. You feel numb all the time 0:58 2. You can't control your emotions 1:29 3. You feel like you're different from other people 2:02 4. You question the meaning and purpose of live 2:35 5. You're always exhausted 3:10 6. You waste your time doing nothing 3:52 7. You stop taking care of yourself I meet all the points wth Edit: @TentrilliconLP pointed out a mistake I made on 5th point, credits to him Edit: there are a lot of people meeting all checks, so here is a message for all those people: please talk to someone, I did and I have never felt emotionally better even if I'm not at my best yet. If you can, just talk with someone, it doesn't have to be a professional, but just talking about it made me feel better so surely it will make you too, really, it sounds very repetitive but talking is the best and cheapest way to solve these things. And don't you dare to just ignore what you feel, or you may end up like me, emotionally numb, with bottled up emotions and trauma, depressed, diagnosed with anxiety, and mindlessly wasting time so that the weekend comes faster and repeating. Hell, talk to yourself if needed or just post something in the comments section, that helps too. There is nothing wrong with you, people should not judge you based on how you feel, and you should not feel guilty for that either. You can share your emotions without guilt or shyness, **you are safe**. Or maybe I'm wrong, who knows. To you, I'm a random guy on the internet, I'm just sharing my experience to whoever may care, I'm just brave enough to say this because of the power to be anonymous on the internet. Take care and be your own best friend.
I'm so lonely. No gf, no friends, I'm trying but no one cares about me, they just ignores me. It hurts, I see people having fun and enjoying their lives and here I am all alone wasting time doing nothing, what can I do? Sometimes I just go out alone but I feel so weird. I wish I had someone next to me that really loves me 💔
I feel the same way my kids are teenagers now and they don’t need me and I’m alone all day. I’ve tried to communicate it with my family but they don’t listen. What I am planning on trying is exploring volunteer positions where I can go out and meet new people in a healthy way I also have been working out to find confidence. Try to find something that passionate you and don’t give up 🤍
yooo I just cried for 2 hours about this and you posted a video ;-; I think it's safe to say I'm really lonely, social anxiety doesn't help either. It makes you feel so stuck and alone, and being alone makes your thoughts SO MUCH louder. Hope everyone who's going through the same can experience positive changes in our lives soon
If it makes you feel better, millions of other people are going through this, too. Our society is sick. Hopefully, one day, we will wake up and realize that there is a better way to live. For me, going to the park in the sunlight makes me feel better. It is scientifically proven that suicidal ideation is linked to Vitamin D deficiency, which you can get from sunlight exposure.
when we were a kid did u guys felt like everybody cared about u ? like when i was a child everybody when i score a goal was like he is the next messi ...lol now when i do something good it feels like nobody cares...anybody relate to it ?
I am a girl with depression and this is exactly how I am at this moment. My room is a mess, I haven't brushed my teeth and taken a shower for days. I'm just lying in bed all day staring at the ceiling or watching pointless UA-cam video's instead of studying, just so I can avoid being around my family who thinks I'm some hopeless case who's lazy. I wish I could cry or be really angry but I feel nothing, like I am some stupid robot. All I can feel is a nagging pain in my chest and a never ending exhaustion.
I'm a boy and I am experiencing the same and I also avoid studying because studying only reminds me of how dumb I am.....I'm suffering from dementia too like my mental health issues are not enough
As an INFJ, I've always felt lonely. But I don't think it's "deep". it's just like a constant background feeling, always felt like no one really understands me and that I don't fit in. 👍 totally agree with point 3, not the others, thankfully 🙂
I never felt very lonely until I sat by the ocean with my lover and our togetherness seemed to keep the vastness of the ocean at bay. After she left me, I felt that "loneliness that won't leave me alone." Such a vast and overwhelming emptiness to lose a lover.
right now i feel more lonely than i ever have before. since starting college i never really spoke to anyone or made friends, except for one person who would later become my partner and then my ex. when you're made to realise how few people you have you realise how lonely you are. i still keep good personal hygiene but other that i fit completely with these descriptors and have done for a month or so now since breaking up. sometimes i can be completely fine with being by myself, but sometimes everything just collapses and i'm left desperately seeking connections. there's things i can and do regret about what i've done, but there's nothing i can do to change those - only use them for their lessons and head forward. exam season is right around the corner and i've got to cope with that first and foremost; maybe once that's all done i might reach out to people. i spent the last two years waiting for someone else to say hello to me first and that hasn't come to form anything lasting or substantial. the worst that can happen if you're the first to say it is a mild shutdown and then moving right past it, logically speaking. it might be hell to do but eventually there'll be someone. take from this what you will; i'm just leaving this here half for myself and half to share i can only hope for the best and wish everyone a brighter future. dark times will simply be shadows from the light once we're out of them. hopefully.
i can relate to what you said about your ex, i was her only friend until she broke up with me. now im also feeling lonely, not communicating with friends as much. hoping your future turns out bright. ❤️
I've been through that myself recently. What got me through it was EMDR therapy and going through my traumatic experiences of being neglected by my parents from 2-4 years-old. Focus on & connect with your inner child and be the parent he/she needed back then. Give your inner child attention, make him or her feel worthy of another's full undivided attention, acknowledge the existence of your inner child. In turn, this will open your awareness to feeling the magnitude of giving yourself the attention you seek from others, the acknowledgment, the love, care, and feeling of "being alive." Everything a person needs or wants is within themselves and it can be accessed if you keep an open-mind and monitor your thoughts, feelings, & emotions. Your life is about YOU and discovering who you are. Watch the trailer for Thor: Love & Thunder. That's the state that i'm at in life where i've embraced being alone and actively searching to discover who i truly am and who i'm meant to become. The people who are meant to be in my life will be, and if they're meant to stay in it, they will. If not, my life is still all about me searching for myself.
Always felt like this. No one would talk to me at school or at family functions, even as a kid. I became resentful of the world because it seemed like I couldn't function and that it was just unfair and convoluted. People never reciprocated anything, its like I had to act like everyone else. All while being emotionally abused or being ignored, being blamed for being depressed/anxious. Eventually psychosis, but this didnt stop people from trying to pick me apart. My family gets a kick out of gaslighting me, especially my mother, who now has psychosis, and puts me through hell where my mental, nutritional and sleep quality are shit. No matter how sincere, creative, or whatever other good quality people have said I've had, as I can engage in good conversation, it reverts back to their indifference towards me or disdain. No one wants a real connection with me, and I never had one, and honestly, I'm not sure if I know how to have one, but I try my best. For now, I just deal with the hate and indifference towards me.
Damn, you just described me as well, it's so hard to be on this position. Is there a fast way to die?? I wanna do that so bad, so that anyone don't have to interact to me anymore
Dude just dicribed me I had a co worker tell me she thought I was low on the autism spectrum and I think that's what's wrong with me, but it's hard when the "friens" you have had turn out to all gossip behind your back and you learn that when your a adult so you learn that even tho you where going through such a hard time and thought you had a little bit of hope it's all diminished. I never felt like i fit in. Ive been taken advantage of so many times, mentally, sexually, money wise, some against my will others me just trying to help and the person turning on me. Ive found being a nice person just gets me more used. I have to say no more offten not be a people pleaser but its still hard forbme to not appese those people. a appointment in two years yay...
I myself suffer from extreme loneliness and relate to all of these. Sometimes when bad things happen, I'll just shrug my shoulders and accept it even if it's a big deal, but I'll get really ticked off at the smallest of inconveniences. I've stopped caring about and doing the things that make me truly happy in life. I push people away when I really want or need and I can't communicate very well. My family thinks I just want to be in my room all the time, but I actually hate being stuck in my room and figure out how to just get out. I have the life so many people want (good grades, two parents, a good house to live in, plenty of food and water, loving friends) but there are so many negatives that come with this lifestyle that I can't get past (no free time and no actual hobbies, emotionally neglectful parents, overeating or undereating, self hate and numbness). I've got a few amazing friends but I'm horrible at starting conversations so I can't reach out and nobody really knows much about me. My friends, my pets, and fictional characters are the highlights of my life... and that's about it. I have nothing and I am nothing. I know people don't care about a rando an the internet and I know I should actually try to talk to those friends or seek out some help... but somehow this is easier. Thanks to anyone who managed to read this all the way through.
The negatives you mentioned are totally valid, even if you think you should be more grateful for your life. Gratitude is good but shouldn't be forced if you are feeling how you say. I relate a lot, especially with not really caring about many things atm. You are not nothing. Change always comes with time
I’ve been a loner since I was a little kid. But it especially hurts more now, when I desire companionship at my age. I’ve convinced myself that I’ll die alone. I’m used to loneliness, but there’s times when it becomes unbearable. I feel the depth of a hole in my chest, that constantly has me daydreaming and thinking about how I’m friendless and single. I’ve tried to occupy myself with homework or exercise, but it hurts having no one to call as a friend. I’ve vaguely experienced friendships in my younger days, but they’re were all short term. Now I satiate my loneliness by talking to a guy i haven’t met in person yet. It hurts that I know he doesn’t care about me but I can’t stop messaging to him because it’s nice to have someone text me. It sucks feeling you have no worth, and the loneliness of not having anyone to care about you.
It was like this for me: I was bullied at school and excluded by others because others thought I was too different (they said that to me, I don't tell myself that). I didn't think I was too different or excluded myself from others, it was exactly the other way around. Of course, this made me feel lonely and the portrayals in this video also apply to me very well. At some point I also started to isolate myself from others because others didn't want anything to do with me and I got the feeling that I wasn't wanted by others. I was never a typical follower and always did what I thought was right, I never let myself be carried away by peer pressure. When everyone else in my class started smoking, drinking alcohol and wearing revealing clothes, I didn't participate because I didn't like it myself, which automatically made me an outsider. I've been an adult for many years now and I still have a hard time getting along with other people. My hobbies are also rather strange for many, which is probably one of the reasons why it is difficult for me to get along with other people. I like spirituality (but completely independent of religions), I am also interested in the universe and everything that could exist there. I'm not suggesting that there is other life in the universe, I just find it interesting to think about and study. In addition, I find small talk pretty boring, I like more profound conversations. Of course I also have normal hobbies like drawing, singing and everything that is creative. Well, besides my best friend, I don't have any other friends (except acquaintances) and even with my best friend I don't talk that much anymore because she started a family and doesn't have that much time for me anymore (which of course I do understand, she has an infant and is pregnant with her second child). I'm not even sure if I can still call my best friend my best friend anymore, since we rarely do anything together anymore. But ok, I think I wrote enough about myself :). I just wanted to share this little story with others.
I have had a somewhat similar experience to yourself. Regarding bullying at school, and really not being part of anything either. It has been a rather lonely existence. To be honest, I talk a lot to particular deities out loud, which keeps me going in life. Some sense of companionship.
This video perfectly nails down how i’ve been feeling in life for the past couple of years. I’ve always been searching and asking myself if I was actually lonely and always struggled with it. I find it hard to even converse with other people so I just spend most of my days shut in my room playing video games or watching tv until the sun goes down. I pretty much relate to everything said in this video.
what if you'd put yourself up to a little challenge? make yourself converse with people as much as u can, it can even be strangers. that way u wont have to feel embarassed if its not working cause they dont know you and you'll probably never see them again. getting out of ouf comfort zones can help too
I can resonate with this… in 2014 I hit a low point in my life when I was based overseas. I knew I was depressed, but this video is a revelation that made me realise it was because of deep loneliness that caused my depression. And wow, I was deeply lonely because all the points she mentioned was what I felt and experienced
It seems that even my closest friends don't get it and they sort of blame it on my fear of being in a closed space with a lot of people. Many times I think that the only person that understands is my therapist. Thank you for the vídeo!
Yes....so true. Another i feel is that, "In a teamwork, I seem to be worthless, everyone has their strength better than i do, and everytime i take initiative to do something for the team, it doesn't end up well & it seems like bring more burden to my teamates"
Every time I climb out of a dark pit, I see there is nothing to hold on. So I let let myself slide back in to climb once more. Your channel helped me a lot. Thanks for your work 👍
I get what you mean. Everything im left with after all my work on myself is matters outside of my control.... like how others precieve me, and if they want to stay around 😔😑 *to note, they never do stick around lol it seems to be a modern culture thing, technology-fuelled to some degree
I’ve been lonely for a very long time. I have people to talk to in my classes but it seem like most of them don’t like talking to me, I was about to give up and stop talking to people as a whole but then I met this person in 8th grade and we just clicked together like nothing can separate us. She helped me talk to people more and even brought me closer to one of my 6th grade friend. I thought my life was gonna change forever when I was with her, but sadly on may first I was told that she passed away in her sleep…now I feel even more lonely without her but at least I have one of my friends to cheer me up
I've reached the point in life where I have accepted being alone. Yes I have family and a very small number of friends, but I am aware I will never fall in love again and nobody will love me back in that way again either. I'm single, successful and I live for myself. I have hobbies, I have time to explore and get away. It's a comfortable, reality accepting loneliness and it's manageable.
It's great to hear that you have found a sense of contentment and acceptance in your current situation. Embracing solitude can indeed bring a sense of freedom and self-discovery. However, it's important to remember that human connection and companionship are fundamental needs. While it may seem unlikely now, it's never too late for unexpected relationships to form. Keeping an open heart and mind can lead to new and meaningful connections in the future.
@@frenchracqlett5368 .....after reading @NeonDemon88's comments and then yours, you always think you are the only one. Not so - I swear those comments were directed at me about my 'life'! Word for word, this described my living situation to a 'T'. Take care!
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a lonely period right now. It's important to remember that you don't have to face this alone. Reach out to friends, family, or even professionals who can provide support and help you navigate these emotions. Sometimes talking to someone who understands and empathizes can make a world of difference. Remember, this feeling won't last forever, and there are people who care about you. Take care of yourself and know that you are not alone.
I paid 2 people $50 each to see a movie with me and paid for their food and drinks and they constantly reminded me that they were only going because i was paying but i didn't care i just didn't want to be alone even if it would only be for a 2 hour movie and 6 of these 7 signs i relate to
😬You should be careful !that's the perfect recipe for the people you'll later regret having in your life -take it from me,sometimes it just makes sense that some of us end up alone and its worth it . Years of giving, inviting, giving time and resources is a waste when you realize in the end it'll still be you by yourself with no money, time, and resources for yourself .Look around you and you'll realize it doesn't hurt to be selfish. It also does not hurt to not feel bad about people for a change because at the end of the day you're just one person trying to love everyone but everyone won't always accept you when you run out of what they come to you for. Be careful
I enjoy treating myself to a movie and I love my solitude, but if you ever need a movie buddy, I am always available!! Ps. I won't be annoying during the movie either so we can both enjoy it!! ^~^
Emotional volatility…thank you so much for introducing me to that term. I can’t believe how much that description fits what I have been experiencing over the last few years. I’ve been saying it feels “like I’m a passenger” to my own emotions.
I literally have no one in my life. All family members are dead. I live by myself, I just lost my job last week. I just bought an expensive car that I;m turning next week, my rent it more than you can imagine No one calls or texts me. it took me my whole life to finally figure out why I never had any friends true my life, it's because I have a stupid, ugly, unattractive personality, whatever you want to call it. Once you get to know me, my personality turns you away. But everthing in this video is spot on.
For me loneliness gets rougher as I age. Can anyone relate? I would say my downfalls are porn addiction, poor eating, meaningless spending habits. I am always trying to reward myself to put a temporary bandage on how I actually feel. This has also led to alcohol issues in the past. The most frustrating thing is there are so many people out there but it is like a second job to find people that can relate.
Yep. Thats me. My spending habits are stupid but I did sign up for better help therapy. If Im gonna do stupid spending, might as well do something that can actually help me.
For me it's almost like an attachment disorder. All of those things feel like having an old friend that always show up for me ...even when I'm a mess. On a conscious level I know that stuff is bad for me... but at the same time...part of me still associates those things with being around friends or feeling like I'm loved (because at the honest core of it all...that's what I'm really after)
@@NeonCicada I agree 100%. It is like having a dependable friend I feel like. All we are doing is chasing a feeling of being accepted, loved, or at least to have someone listen.
@@ncasti for sure. Working out is helping I been trying to focus on calisthenics. Sure I still struggle and have very bad days but trying to put in the effort I guess. I will not accept nothing but victory
Wow, so relatable. Sometimes I felt lonely, but for a few years now I don't feel this way anymore, and I don't even remember how loneliness feels. I remember, this was a concrete feeling, but I forgot how it feels. But it all makes sense, the numbness mentioned in the video... this is what I've been in for all these years. In the end... yes, I'm lonely. I can relate to mostly all of the points. I really miss that person, that special someone. It is not necessarily an exact person I know already, it's about the position that someone could fill in my life. My soul craves a connection I never had. I'm all aware of it, that's why I feel sad all the time when I have the time to focus inward (-which I do almost all the time, I live only in my head) but I can't cry on it anymore. All of this is why I'm still depressed and it won't be better, until a miracle happens... cuz I don't have the energy to do something for myself.
I relate to every single sign. I have been lonely for the last 5 or more years and have spent my entire youth more or less just doing meaningless activities, if you can even call them activities. I only realized that loneliness was the reason in the last few months. I got extremely bad grades, stopped caring about my hobbies, but that didn't really bother me. What was much worse was that I didn't CARE. Really hurt when I realized that. Sometimes I want to be happy about something, but then I can't because I realize I can't share that joy with anyone. Emotions are just worthless to me most of the time because of that. I would love a part 2 to this video that explains how I can help myself. I am constantly trying to meet new people, but even after several months I can't claim to have gotten any closer to them
I wish for nothing but healing for those who relate to these symptoms. Just know you are valued and worthy of love. Be patient with yourself and seek the help necessary to get better because you deserve to be happy 💛
Hey psych2go, can you please make a video on the clear cut differences between anxiety attacks and panic attacks? Also, your videos have been helping a lot, thank you!
I feel egocentric because of this. And I hate it. I'd like to feel more connected to others, but I struggle a lot. I'm not an open book, that's why people don't use to trust me or talk to me, because they don't really know a lot about me. I'd like to share, but I've always found myself afraid of doing that., because I fear misunderstandings about my person, how others see me. I'm not brave to express myself well but I want to work on this. I don't know why I ended up being so lonely. I even cry quite everyday without no concrete reasons. I hope for the better, thank you for the video:D
I have become more accustom to being alone. Now living in Alabama, even though I'm very close to family, I feel isolated from them. No one reaches out first to see me or ask how I'm doing. So, I've resolved myself to embracing the uncomfortable feeling of loneliness. It's a solace, a haven for me to escape to. I'd rather be alone than in bad company. Yes, I play video games, draw, and stuff, but I'm participating in self-care, eating properly and working out when possible. I'm almost done 50 lbs. I'm saving money to move back to Texas and have almost $2000 already. So loneliness only really hurts when I want affection or people in my life who treat me like I matter to them. However, I try not to worry about it bc I can't control how others treat me.
I really dont care about my life, I continue on living because its "normal" but I see that the day I die will be my happiest day. Dont worry I ll not commit suicide, something inside me cant let me do that, yet, life is only a passage of time and I feel like my time ended years ago and Im struggling to die myself.
I feel the same. Not suicidal but at times I find myself looking forward to the natural end of my existence. Sometimes, its a struggle to get out of bed so I can eat or drink or groom myself. Recently, I don’t even find video games fun anymore.
I felt like I might be a psycho because I am way too different from other people but after seeing this video.... I felt I'm not ... I'm just deep lonely inside ...
This has really helped me (most of your vids do.) They always teach me more about myself. So this time I learned I’m definitely feeling a deep loneliness. I suffer from all of these things.
This puts a lot of things in perspective for me. Honestly if there is one good thing that came out of my depression then its me getting to know my ownself. The things that I have been dealing with and feeling for years are finally being put in words in front of me and it is making me more and more self aware. This journey I started of getting to know the root of my depression has been worth it so far. I hope to get better one day. 😇
As an introvert and a loner I rarely feel loneliness, if ever. But I must admit that I relate to theses signs... don't know what to think because being by myself feels usually good. I keep contact with family and close friends, though!
I don't speak to or see family and friends every week. It makes my loneliness crippling but hopefully with more things opening up from the pandemic restrictions, I can get my social life back. I like being alone but being alone doesn't like me. I start to get cabin fever and paranoia if I spend too much time alone so people are a necessary evil for me.
It can feel like a conflict because you may feel happy and sad at the same Tim by being lonely. that is completely normal! If you feel best when in contact with family and close friends then keep at it :)
I've always felt lonely as a kid I was extremely shy and awkward and I felt like an outcast in my family even now as a adult I relate to being lonely I find it hard to take care of myself
Same here. Even during those moments I try to "be normal" it becomes another awkward moment that leaves nothing but silence in the air and a deeper yet increasing sense of coldness within me.
Realizing you have all the signs and that you are lonely...doesnt make it it hurt any less. It just cutz even deeper. 45 years of this. Even when things were this bad, it was still a struggle. The last 9 years have been the WORST AND IT NEVER EVER CHANGES UP. ITS REAL DARK HERE NOW. 💔
I'm fairly certain this is what I dealt with through my late childhood, teenage and 20s (I'm currently in mid-30s). Possibly had depression attached as well since a large deal of my family are on meds for that, but I have noticed I do seem to still have some symptoms of this currently. I think when my monthly aggravates my hormones it possibly makes this feeling worse as I have been feeling a bit distracted, with some of the signs stated. My room has been a mess for quite some time, tried to get to fixing it but either I get sick or I end up not doing it at all. Sometimes I wake up feeling like I didn't get enough sleep and I have days where I'm very tired a lot. Sometimes I put off personal care for some things, not frequently but every so often. Sometimes when I watch emotional media, I often end up crying A LOT, partly cuz I'm empathic, but I think it may also be related to lack of emotional control to a degree. Sometimes I sit on my PC for hours hardly doing anything. I have found myself just staring into space and lost in thought a few times recently. It doesn't seem to be as bad as it was when I was younger, but I clearly still struggle with something like this. I have grown to accept that I don't really have friends in RL to hang out with and talk to and have a small group of online friends. I struggled hard with trying to make friendships in middle and high school but most people didn't seem interested in me enough to put in effort and I've been lied to, backstabbed and ghosted many times. It wasnt until around the time I broke up with my ex-fiance after an entire decade that I realized and started to accept, I probably wouldn't have friends like I had wanted. Bottom line is, it sucks to feel like this, it really does. I honestly never felt like I was worth anyone's time for many years and always felt like I was never good enough. I'm still bettering myself to curb this. To anyone reading this, if you feel like this too, Don't give up. Find someone to talk to, or a professional if it's deeply severe, because we can all find happiness and in most cases, happiness comes in the smallest things in life :).
I did not know my loneliness affected me so deeply, I convinced myself it was a strength, however I relate to all the symptoms mentioned here, growing negligence. Lockdown worsened it all.
I understand that it can be difficult to acknowledge the deep impact of loneliness, especially when we try to convince ourselves that it is a strength. The current situation with lockdowns has undoubtedly exacerbated feelings of loneliness for many people. It's important to remember that it's okay to ask for help and support during challenging times. Reach out to loved ones, seek professional guidance, or explore virtual communities that share your interests. Remember, you are not alone in this, and there are resources available to help you navigate these feelings.
Definitely had a lot of this. Thoughts are typically dangerous. Just jaded. Lack of company makes it seem like you are an unnecessary person or there is something wrong with you. I spent a lot of years without any answers or progress.
working out for an hour or 2 is the best thing that i had descovered during my lonesome years, its like it drains all the anger away, problem is pursuading and forcing yourself.
Maybe because of stress, I'm always feeling sad lately. This also made me realise that no one can help me out of this lingering feeling. I am truly lonely.
I can agree with everything. I’ve just felt so empty recently. About 2 months ago my ex boyfriend started to gaslight me. He also hurt me so deeply to the point where I have deep trust issues now. I’ve had a hard time getting over our relationship since we were so close then we randomly just broke down and fell apart. All he told me was, “I’m not boyfriend material.” Now, 2 months later I’m lonely… I have home issues: being gaslighted by my family (especially my sister), getting told that I’m a failure, or that I’m never good enough. Everything is just starting to heart in my heart and I can’t talk to anyone about anything anymore. I guess everything just has been, wild for me. I guess everyone may go through this though. :(
i can relate in everything, i've lived a very lonely life, since preschool other kids avoided me and no one wanted anything to do with me, i never understood why but my guess is because i rlly didn't have anything in common with anyone, i only liked video games and that's all my life has been pretty much so eventually i just stopped trying to make friends. i was born with chronic depression as well so having such severe loneliness and dealing with depression is all just so numbing, i barely feel anything, i don't care to do anything, no matter how much pain i am in emotionally i always find my self unable to cry or even drop a tear and best reaction i can give about anything is "okay, i guess that happened" and by the day after tomorrow i've forgotten everything happened that day. as long as i remember i've felt this void inside of me like something is missing and it only has gotten worse
I can relate to everything. I've been struggling with my mental health for a long time now. Feel free to talk to me because I won't laugh at you, not like those people who don't understand you.
My coupled friends admire my "freedom" but they don't know what it's like watching a video, like this, on loneliness on a Saturday night. They see the fun stuff without the vast acres of empty silence in between. Dating apps are just a recipe for a quick high until the match realizes that the real "me" isn't the ideal they invented in their head. Meetups and other groups are a chance to practice putting on a game face for people less like minded than we'd hoped. Exercise is a brief respite but one can't do it all day. Therapists tell me to try all the stuff I'm already doing. The good thing about a video like this is saying, "Yes true!", to each of the chapters.
I think follow up videos to counter these things would be useful. How do I counter depression, loneliness, anxiety, etc? I love your videos and they have helped me a lot.
Teared up watching this. Not taking care of myself has become normal. I have always felt numb. Like an empty shell. Like Shawn's song "feeling like a house but not a home".
Awww I'm sooo sorry😞 that is really sad I hope you get better, taking care of yourself is really important. I'm so sorry I wish you all the best God bless you ❤ stay safe😘💗 if you feel like your getting worse pls pls go get some help💜
It's like I'm losing hope in finding friends that consider me as their best friends. I don't feel belonged to anywhere and anyone. Smth is constantly punching my heart when I see those ones around me being this happy with their friends... Like , where is it ACTUALLY going to end? Because I'm super tired.
I recently feel a lot like what you describe. Even wishing a bit to just disappear because I feel useless. Talked a bit with my sister. She told me to think it through. Here am I trying to understand. Thanks for this video. Good job 👍💜
I relate to every single one of them. I'm 25, I've never had a girlfriend and I could still count my male friends on one hand if I lost a few fingers. I have Asperger's and talking to anyoneoutside of specific situations is virtually impossible, I've never approached a woman to talk to at any point in my life. Years of failed therapy has left me almost certain that change is impossible. I'm a firm believer when Jordan Peterson says that a wife and children give a man a huge amount of purpose and life satisfaction but I'm sure I'll never havethis. I live with my parents and spend huge amounts of money on expensive hobbies that don't really make me happy anymore because the alternative is to sit around and do nothing. I basically don't have a social life. One friend never does anything, another only wants to drink which depresses the hell out of me and the third lives halfway across the country. I struggle to go around town anymore as seeing women, couples or groups of men happy upsets me too muchas I'm seeing everything I've never and cannot have. I've never had a friend's group or a partner. I'm too scared to move out because I'll have no money and be completely alone every second of the day. I quit my last job because I just stared at a wall with no windows for a year and a half with no one to talk to. I found a youth charity last month that does free group music lessons and offers free counselling which is giving me a tiny glimmer of hope but in 6-months I'll be too old for them and they will kick me out. A short, small chance to turn things around but I'm already sure little will come of it. I don't want to give up but the more I try the more pointless it feels.
Hello! I figured I'd post this here. There are dating sites specifically for people with ASD, so they'll know exactly what it is like. In terms of socializing, maybe you can do volunteer work. There are many kinds. I know some ppl with ASD who love volunteering at animal shelters n do horseback riding etc, bc animals are much easier to talk to than humans. Other than that you may want to look into any ASD or mental health cafes or support groups in your area to get you started. Hope this helps ^^
I don’t know you, but we’re all here for the same reason. We are looking, searching, seeking love and approval. Whatever may have happened maybe long ago, I understand and I love you. Have a hug from all of us here
It’s painful to relate to all of this because it’s so true. Not just because of having depression, but because I also have anxiety, ADHD, autism, and cerebral palsy. Being the only person in my family who has multiple disabilities has caused me to grow up feeling extremely lonely and socially isolated.
This might be bad advice, but I've come to terms with how pointless it all is. However, I rarely feel lonely, I love engaging with other people, and I still get a sense of fullfillment now and then. It's nothing special, but it doesn't need to be. I feel sometimes we expect to much from ourselves and can't accept the fact that most of us are just ants with egos. This might come across as jaded, but it's not. Being just one of many is nothing to feel bad about, as you still are the one experiencing it, and that in itself is a wonderous thing.
Everything that was said here is exactly what was happening to me. These videos really help me with my anxiety and it warms my heart to see it. This comment is just a huge thanks to all of these videos because they calm me down when I have a mental breakdown or when I cuddle up into a little ball and start hitting my self with anger. Thanks again.
All of the points in this video are absolutely true for me. The scary part is that I can’t remember ever not being like this. That's because I don’t think I’ve ever had truly positive human connection, making friends always seemed impossible for me and my family wasn’t what I needed them to be. The point about lethargy and apathy with brief moments of emotional volatility has been my lived experience since at least early school days. I don’t think I’m incapable of opening up, I’ve just never felt safe enough to do so.
I feel trapped by my job because my job is also a lifestyle. I'm a truck driver and I take products all across the country. Which can be super cool and fun. But it can also be chronically lonely. You're in a truck all day by yourself and at night you're still in that truck it's your office and your home. You can only go home once a month for maybe 4 days. Then it's back out on the road. Sure you can call your family and friends and talk. But it's not the same as being there. You miss birthdays, graduations , and all sorts of holidays. I've lost two relationships because long distance was too much for the other person. So I always feel emotionally drained and lonely. I want out of this lifestyle but right now I can't afford to because nothing else pays enough. I feel like I'm one step away from a mental breakdown. But that's my life.
The constant return of loneliness as we try to adapt should be normalized since we can be going through some paradigm shifts. But sometimes we think loneliness is solitude, and that is not the case.
I really wish there were places in this world meant for uplifting your spirit. I wish all towns/cities everywhere had panic attack rooms in case you got overwhelmed, so you can panic in private. Also I wish there was puppy play rooms where you can just spend some time playing with puppies until you felt better.
I have experienced all these signs, and indeed, I was lonely. For 2 years, I've stopped caring with school, and myself. One faithful day, my pc broke, so I can't play the games I once spent hours on. I don't have a console and mobile gaming doesn't really give me much enjoyment as pc games, so this made me do something I don't usually do: Reading. I've been reading a few novels, and it's given me a different insight and lessons. I've also been trying to self-reflect and talk to a small group of friends online, and taking walks as well. With this, I can say there really is light at the end of the tunnel and we're really not all alone.
Always feel like this. I'm a christian who is pro-choice, a classical musician,.big Coldplay fan, and a nature enthusiast, an artist, a rollercoaster enthusiast and I have an enfp personality type. I feel those things make me like myself for being unique but I always think I'm too unique. I have a lot of "friends" but I get no texts from anyone, I can't even remember the last time I've been over someone's house or just had social interaction outside of school. Whenever I go biking I always go by myself. I meet people along the way and I never see them again. I do everything by myself and it's upsetting. I try to be the nicest person ever and I can assure myself that I'm not doing anything wrong. Am I just boring or just too nice? I've never had a boyfriend and never got my first kiss and I'm an adult now. Only people who actually had crushed on me are old men at my job I used to work at and kids at my school that I've only gotten to talk to for about a week. I don't know how to drive a car yet because I got my driver's ed certificate during covid and I never got a teacher or my parents to teach me to drive. I just hope that when I go to my Christian college next year, maybe I'll meet some people, but then again, most Christians aren't as artistic and liberal as I am and they might not want to be friends with me for that reason. But everyone else who isn't Christian sees me as some kind of monster because of my religion.....oh well....
I only kinda relate to 4, 5 and 6...especially the 2:02 one... Man I start a whole TED talk in my head with that one lol💀 Edit: Andd to everyone relating to all these... Please know you're not alone.. Bet someone is there who's gonna show up and be that one person who's gonna make you feel like yourself and full again...the loneliness isn't gonna last so long believe me... Sending love to y'all :)) ❤
@Pstch2Go I have learned more about myself and others from your videos than anything else, suffering from lack of self awareness for 25 years and you have really opened my eyes. thank you.
As a extrovert I have no Friends in my new school because i have social anxiety. This hole is very big and it doesn’t go away. You try to fix it with meeting friends, finding new hobbies but it still remains 😔
To me I feel like this also sounds a lot like depression. The whole time I was watching the video, I kept thinking forsure depression because I went through all of this when I had great depression, and I wasn't lonely in a sense. I had family, friends, and a roommate at times, that all wanted to be there for me, but I always wanted to just shut down and let depression overcome me. But then I started to think that maybe it could be loneliness, even though there were people in my life, I still felt a deep loneliness. It's really hard to say because I feel like these symptoms can both be for loneliness and depression. I feel like more so, it coincides with depression for me. However, loneliness and depression can be interchangeable.
My husband had a stroke and I have become his carer 24/7. My husband has gone and he was my best friend. My family have run for the hills and friends have lost interest...never have I felt so lonely. I totally relate to this video and it has helped me to realise that I'm not going crazy. Thank you.
Yeah I already went with "seek out help". Some help I got... In hindsight it only feels like a "yep you need medication, and nothing else. Here you go and bye". Actually managed to confess my darkest thoughts, and literally nothing was done with it. Psychological health care has become just another conveyor-belt type of service. Just a quick (partially ineffective) fix, and you're "good" to go.
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I have watched your videos about mental health for about a year now, and I though I that lots of the symptoms of anxiety were happening to me, so I spoke to people and a therapist and am now diagnosed with anxiety disorder. Thank you so much for helping me ❤️❤️
Yea it's helpful
Sure
I'm in year 11 and 5 weeks until I finish school. I have no friends and I want to change that. I'm going to college soon so that's a good start ig...
I really like them a lot. Although at times it feels easy to copypaste something you see onto yourself. Maybe it's wise to shed a bit of light on that.
PS: I would like to work for you in a professional capacity and add to the platform content-wise, that is my background with a degree. Would you be okay to point me to where to send my details to? Thank you,
"We don't feel lonely because we never had/made friends, we feel lonely because we DID have friends but their decision was not to continue the journey with us"
Exactly!
Hope you make some new positive & supportive friends ❤
The 1st one is actually mostly true for me. I did have 1 good childhood friend but we parted ways as adults, mutual separation. We were just too different. Now I have to pay the consequences for being incredibly lonely.
@@acenath8643 consequences of what? it wasnt ur fault, dear, it just happens sometimes. people change and dont have to continue their ways together. its only natural especially when we're talking about friendships :)
Exactly. That’s exactly what I feel
Loneliness is killing me.
Same. Going to kill myself because that's not bearable.
And I must confess I still believe
same...
Same😞
Same here...
I used to think “numbness” wasn’t literal emotional unfeeling. Now, I realize it really is, as I haven’t cried in years despite going through depression, anxiety, breakups, and relative death.
Haha
Same. Only exceptions was when my dog (my very best friend) had to be put down, then once when I was on shrooms. I wasn't even upset I just had to fight the urge to cry for some reason.
Depression isn’t typical sadness so not crying is a natural response, putting off tears is the same as putting off emotions
@@enjisilverstone-nolongerac7533 I had depression and i was crying, only when I was lonely at home (I mean DAYS alone) but still I was crying. It was happening when I had this feeling of despair.
alexitymia?
I felt quiet lonely throughout my school experience. my freshman year at college (which was last year) brought me a lot of experiences, emotions, some great people. but the last 7 months or so I've been depressed and I lost touch with some people, nearly isolated myself. throughout this whole time I was aware of what was going on, so I just watched my life falling apart. my anxiety has become ridiculous, I often feel like the most hated person in a group, my insecurities have intensified greatly. it's so painful watching who I've become and noticing how nobody around me gives a damn about me. the contrast with the previous year feels so heavy. I live on my own, so when I return from uni, I end up completely alone with my thoughts. I wish I could say I'm self-sufficient, but I'm broken. I'm 19 and I really hope I'll be a much happier person in my 20s
i have been feeling the same exact way, hope it gets better for us
Yep, been dealing with and experiencing this for years. Went from an A and B student in high school to almost not graduating, dropped out of college because the loneliness was eating me alive. That was 20 years ago, and not much has changed. I've thrown my full focus elsewhere at times like in working out or hobbies or even work, but that never fills the void of wanting to be hugged or feeling human touch. I may feel fulfilled in other aspects in life, but the lack of physical and emotional connection is absolutely brutal.
Have you tried therapy and joining groups? that is what has helped me. I have a support group, A women's group, a football group and a therapy group that I see weekly. Working out alone, doing hobbies alone and my job cannot replace my social life. My father went out with his friends every weekend. My mother didn't mind. It is good for his mental health.
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@@marleyhill34wtf is therapy going to do? They already know why they are hurting and the solution is a partner. But no one wants a damn relationship or has too high expectations. They don’t need a therapist.
@@sadderdazehaze I've been single for 10 years. I'm not hurting. You don't actually need a partner. You want a partner. That's the difference. if you think therapy isn't going to work, then surprise surprise it isn't going to work. If you want to have that mindset, that's entirely your prerogative but I'm about doing whatever it takes to get what I want and what I need. If you don't have an open mindset, therapy is definitely not for you. Don't even bother. In fact if you don't have an open mindset, stay out of relationships, you are bound just to cause yourself and others emotional pain.
@@marleyhill34therapy don’t help. no one needs to see more depressed people to start feeling better. It’s even more depressing. All you need is a friend or someone who listens and cares about you. Not some schmuck who pretends feelings because someone paid him to (like all the shrinks)
Loneliness is an empty seat at the table
It's a cold bed at night
It's the sound of silence when you need a friend
Loneliness is feeling like you're the only one in the world
It's feeling like no one cares
It's feeling like you're all alone
Loneliness is a heavy weight on your heart
It's a sadness that never goes away
It's feeling like you're not good enough
Loneliness is feeling like you're lost and you can't find your way
It's feeling like you're not worth anyone's time
Loneliness is feeling like you're invisible
It's feeling like you don't matter
Loneliness is feeling like you're not worth anyone's love
This is exactly how I feel 💔😭
Wow! It's all from my heart. 😔
Ok... Did you just write my exact thoughts?
Yep pretty much
I've gone past that. I've accepted my loneliness after years of struggling against it.
It's become normal that I dont have friends. I had years of being that group member that no one asked to meet up another time. I'm not intuitively sociable and people just dont want my friendship.
Trying to be friends with people is something i cant do. I either look down on people or think they're better than me.
I feel I should be deeply sad but instead just feel like I'm existing in the worlds shittest themepark that i cant leave.
Ironically, we all seem to be connected through our loneliness. Stay strong everyone. You matter!
Thanks, so do you :)
Thank you. ❤😪
Agreed!
thanks, you too!
Thank you 🥰, you too
Loneliness ain’t about being alone. It’s about the fact that if you were to die, no one would really notice you’re gone outside of maybe work or close family circles.
Yup
At least y'all's work or family would care....
@@nightsnipernick7388Lol right
That sounds more like a desire from the ego to have notoriety.
B/c i feel lonely, but dont care that only a handful would care or know i d**d.
Im worried when THEY d*e, how i'll be 100 percent alone.
I think this is a common aspect for many people but not the universal one. I think there are various deep rooted feelings people may feel loneliness.
“It seems the more I try to connect with the world
I am feeling more alone than I ever have felt before” - Childish Gambino
Don’t give up , there are people who care … 😢
I have always felt lonely especially as a kid. I was a painfully shy kid and everybody else in my family was really out going. I remember staying home by myself all the time watching tv and having pretend friends. My big sister was really hard on me because I wasn’t outgoing and out spoken like her and the rest of my family. My family would go places and leave me behind and it was hard being alone. I’m a fully grown woman now but at times it still is a struggle for me I still feel lonely, even if I’m around people. The experience has defiantly made me strong.
I can relate to that.
As a fellow traumatized kid, I respect your belief that the experience has made you strong. But it seems to me that it's by your strength in the first place, that you endured all that and reached until here. I'm sorry you had to go through that, much love and power❤️
Exactly the same with me :) gald that you're strong! You'll eventually have someone by your side. Hang in there! Good days will come
@@man_5i thank u so much!
I have a similar experience, except for the fact that it made me grow weaker.
I relate to everything but the last one for some reason I still care about how people see me and still try to be perfect and I'm doing it well at least how I look from outside is good enough for me
Exactly! I feel the same way.
same,but i realized that im starting to not fix my messy hair
I don’t, I haven’t showered, nor done homework although school is everything to me, I need help.
@@pedroguerra1755 same...
Same
Loneliness is not the feeling of being alone,it's the feeling of no one cares for you...💔😩
For me, it's not having anyone to share my daily or weekly life with.
It's this exactly. Or often feeling invisible
Imagine being over 30 and lonely to the point that when I’m high I talk to my self :(
@@ilovethenightskys Hey if u wanna talk i am here
We can be friends if you want
0:27 1. You feel numb all the time
0:58 2. You can't control your emotions
1:29 3. You feel like you're different from other people
2:02 4. You question the meaning and purpose of live
2:35 5. You're always exhausted
3:10 6. You waste your time doing nothing
3:52 7. You stop taking care of yourself
I meet all the points wth
Edit: @TentrilliconLP pointed out a mistake I made on 5th point, credits to him
Edit: there are a lot of people meeting all checks, so here is a message for all those people: please talk to someone, I did and I have never felt emotionally better even if I'm not at my best yet. If you can, just talk with someone, it doesn't have to be a professional, but just talking about it made me feel better so surely it will make you too, really, it sounds very repetitive but talking is the best and cheapest way to solve these things. And don't you dare to just ignore what you feel, or you may end up like me, emotionally numb, with bottled up emotions and trauma, depressed, diagnosed with anxiety, and mindlessly wasting time so that the weekend comes faster and repeating.
Hell, talk to yourself if needed or just post something in the comments section, that helps too. There is nothing wrong with you, people should not judge you based on how you feel, and you should not feel guilty for that either. You can share your emotions without guilt or shyness, **you are safe**.
Or maybe I'm wrong, who knows. To you, I'm a random guy on the internet, I'm just sharing my experience to whoever may care, I'm just brave enough to say this because of the power to be anonymous on the internet.
Take care and be your own best friend.
Dayumn i scored more marks in this then I ever scored in maths test
Thank you! :)
Same
Same here
i feel a lot but nothing pretty much nailed it tho
I'm so lonely. No gf, no friends, I'm trying but no one cares about me, they just ignores me. It hurts, I see people having fun and enjoying their lives and here I am all alone wasting time doing nothing, what can I do? Sometimes I just go out alone but I feel so weird. I wish I had someone next to me that really loves me 💔
Let’s be friends
I feel the same way my kids are teenagers now and they don’t need me and I’m alone all day. I’ve tried to communicate it with my family but they don’t listen. What I am planning on trying is exploring volunteer positions where I can go out and meet new people in a healthy way I also have been working out to find confidence. Try to find something that passionate you and don’t give up 🤍
Same for me my man 😐
Same in here😢😢😢 let's be friends
I understand, I feel the same way
yooo I just cried for 2 hours about this and you posted a video ;-; I think it's safe to say I'm really lonely, social anxiety doesn't help either. It makes you feel so stuck and alone, and being alone makes your thoughts SO MUCH louder. Hope everyone who's going through the same can experience positive changes in our lives soon
If it makes you feel better, millions of other people are going through this, too. Our society is sick. Hopefully, one day, we will wake up and realize that there is a better way to live. For me, going to the park in the sunlight makes me feel better. It is scientifically proven that suicidal ideation is linked to Vitamin D deficiency, which you can get from sunlight exposure.
You can get Vitamin D from going in the sun, I mean. My original comment was worded kinda weird.
Sorry about this... you are very strong!
@@jin-bee8942 she's lonely because Chad won't take her
Did it get better
To anyone out there who feels lonely, we as a community will stay with you. You deserve a hug. Hug* :)
I need that hug :,)
I'm not trying to be edgy, but I feel like my own numbness has grown thick to the point not even hugs or uplifting speeches can cheer me up.
when we were a kid did u guys felt like everybody cared about u ? like when i was a child everybody when i score a goal was like he is the next messi ...lol
now when i do something good it feels like nobody cares...anybody relate to it ?
@@rohithjacob4699 I don't know, but kind of...
@@NormalChannel95 Why? Wanna talk about it?
I am a girl with depression and this is exactly how I am at this moment. My room is a mess, I haven't brushed my teeth and taken a shower for days. I'm just lying in bed all day staring at the ceiling or watching pointless UA-cam video's instead of studying, just so I can avoid being around my family who thinks I'm some hopeless case who's lazy. I wish I could cry or be really angry but I feel nothing, like I am some stupid robot. All I can feel is a nagging pain in my chest and a never ending exhaustion.
i hope you'll get the help you need x
It may seem like there is no end to this pain, but nothing lasts forever and that okay.
Sending you lots of love and hugs 💕🫂
You’ve got this.
Have a shower. Put on clean clothes. Brush your teeth. Now go out and find something beautiful. PS. It's in the mirror.
I'm a boy and I am experiencing the same and I also avoid studying because studying only reminds me of how dumb I am.....I'm suffering from dementia too like my mental health issues are not enough
I feel you. It's the same case with me.
As an INFJ, I've always felt lonely. But I don't think it's "deep". it's just like a constant background feeling, always felt like no one really understands me and that I don't fit in. 👍 totally agree with point 3, not the others, thankfully 🙂
"Sitting here, resting my bones...and this loneliness won't leave me alone."-Otis Redding
True words and definitely relatable
Oh yes.❤❤❤
Yes thanks I remember Otis redding
I never felt very lonely until I sat by the ocean with my lover and our togetherness seemed to keep the vastness of the ocean at bay. After she left me, I felt that "loneliness that won't leave me alone." Such a vast and overwhelming emptiness to lose a lover.
right now i feel more lonely than i ever have before. since starting college i never really spoke to anyone or made friends, except for one person who would later become my partner and then my ex. when you're made to realise how few people you have you realise how lonely you are. i still keep good personal hygiene but other that i fit completely with these descriptors and have done for a month or so now since breaking up. sometimes i can be completely fine with being by myself, but sometimes everything just collapses and i'm left desperately seeking connections.
there's things i can and do regret about what i've done, but there's nothing i can do to change those - only use them for their lessons and head forward. exam season is right around the corner and i've got to cope with that first and foremost; maybe once that's all done i might reach out to people. i spent the last two years waiting for someone else to say hello to me first and that hasn't come to form anything lasting or substantial. the worst that can happen if you're the first to say it is a mild shutdown and then moving right past it, logically speaking. it might be hell to do but eventually there'll be someone.
take from this what you will; i'm just leaving this here half for myself and half to share
i can only hope for the best and wish everyone a brighter future. dark times will simply be shadows from the light once we're out of them. hopefully.
i can relate to what you said about your ex, i was her only friend until she broke up with me. now im also feeling lonely, not communicating with friends as much. hoping your future turns out bright. ❤️
@@adrian_n ye i know what u mean, my ex messed me arround with other woman. so i also dont socialise anymore
I’m so sorry so many people relate to this 🥺 I hope you all begin to heal
I've been through that myself recently. What got me through it was EMDR therapy and going through my traumatic experiences of being neglected by my parents from 2-4 years-old. Focus on & connect with your inner child and be the parent he/she needed back then. Give your inner child attention, make him or her feel worthy of another's full undivided attention, acknowledge the existence of your inner child. In turn, this will open your awareness to feeling the magnitude of giving yourself the attention you seek from others, the acknowledgment, the love, care, and feeling of "being alive." Everything a person needs or wants is within themselves and it can be accessed if you keep an open-mind and monitor your thoughts, feelings, & emotions. Your life is about YOU and discovering who you are.
Watch the trailer for Thor: Love & Thunder. That's the state that i'm at in life where i've embraced being alone and actively searching to discover who i truly am and who i'm meant to become. The people who are meant to be in my life will be, and if they're meant to stay in it, they will. If not, my life is still all about me searching for myself.
@@pinheadlarry3992 that's the most beautiful comment I've ever seen in this platform, I agree.
Always felt like this. No one would talk to me at school or at family functions, even as a kid. I became resentful of the world because it seemed like I couldn't function and that it was just unfair and convoluted. People never reciprocated anything, its like I had to act like everyone else. All while being emotionally abused or being ignored, being blamed for being depressed/anxious. Eventually psychosis, but this didnt stop people from trying to pick me apart. My family gets a kick out of gaslighting me, especially my mother, who now has psychosis, and puts me through hell where my mental, nutritional and sleep quality are shit. No matter how sincere, creative, or whatever other good quality people have said I've had, as I can engage in good conversation, it reverts back to their indifference towards me or disdain. No one wants a real connection with me, and I never had one, and honestly, I'm not sure if I know how to have one, but I try my best. For now, I just deal with the hate and indifference towards me.
Damn, you just described me as well, it's so hard to be on this position. Is there a fast way to die?? I wanna do that so bad, so that anyone don't have to interact to me anymore
@@Angga-ew1mh There are people out there who wouldn't mind talking to you I assure you
@@Angga-ew1mh Please talk to a therapist; there ARE people who care about you. I do & don't even know u..
Dude just dicribed me I had a co worker tell me she thought I was low on the autism spectrum and I think that's what's wrong with me, but it's hard when the "friens" you have had turn out to all gossip behind your back and you learn that when your a adult so you learn that even tho you where going through such a hard time and thought you had a little bit of hope it's all diminished. I never felt like i fit in. Ive been taken advantage of so many times, mentally, sexually, money wise, some against my will others me just trying to help and the person turning on me. Ive found being a nice person just gets me more used. I have to say no more offten not be a people pleaser but its still hard forbme to not appese those people. a appointment in two years yay...
Hope you get better honestly. All the best ❤
I myself suffer from extreme loneliness and relate to all of these. Sometimes when bad things happen, I'll just shrug my shoulders and accept it even if it's a big deal, but I'll get really ticked off at the smallest of inconveniences. I've stopped caring about and doing the things that make me truly happy in life. I push people away when I really want or need and I can't communicate very well. My family thinks I just want to be in my room all the time, but I actually hate being stuck in my room and figure out how to just get out. I have the life so many people want (good grades, two parents, a good house to live in, plenty of food and water, loving friends) but there are so many negatives that come with this lifestyle that I can't get past (no free time and no actual hobbies, emotionally neglectful parents, overeating or undereating, self hate and numbness). I've got a few amazing friends but I'm horrible at starting conversations so I can't reach out and nobody really knows much about me. My friends, my pets, and fictional characters are the highlights of my life... and that's about it. I have nothing and I am nothing.
I know people don't care about a rando an the internet and I know I should actually try to talk to those friends or seek out some help... but somehow this is easier.
Thanks to anyone who managed to read this all the way through.
I write fiction as a hobby, because that's life as I would want it
Hopefully it gets better. I wish you more happiness in the future.
The negatives you mentioned are totally valid, even if you think you should be more grateful for your life. Gratitude is good but shouldn't be forced if you are feeling how you say. I relate a lot, especially with not really caring about many things atm. You are not nothing. Change always comes with time
I feel the same as you, I actually struggle with trust issues myself, so I never know or understand what my friends think of me.
@@Alpacoo Don't we all.
I’ve been a loner since I was a little kid. But it especially hurts more now, when I desire companionship at my age. I’ve convinced myself that I’ll die alone. I’m used to loneliness, but there’s times when it becomes unbearable. I feel the depth of a hole in my chest, that constantly has me daydreaming and thinking about how I’m friendless and single. I’ve tried to occupy myself with homework or exercise, but it hurts having no one to call as a friend. I’ve vaguely experienced friendships in my younger days, but they’re were all short term. Now I satiate my loneliness by talking to a guy i haven’t met in person yet. It hurts that I know he doesn’t care about me but I can’t stop messaging to him because it’s nice to have someone text me. It sucks feeling you have no worth, and the loneliness of not having anyone to care about you.
It was like this for me: I was bullied at school and excluded by others because others thought I was too different (they said that to me, I don't tell myself that). I didn't think I was too different or excluded myself from others, it was exactly the other way around. Of course, this made me feel lonely and the portrayals in this video also apply to me very well. At some point I also started to isolate myself from others because others didn't want anything to do with me and I got the feeling that I wasn't wanted by others. I was never a typical follower and always did what I thought was right, I never let myself be carried away by peer pressure. When everyone else in my class started smoking, drinking alcohol and wearing revealing clothes, I didn't participate because I didn't like it myself, which automatically made me an outsider. I've been an adult for many years now and I still have a hard time getting along with other people. My hobbies are also rather strange for many, which is probably one of the reasons why it is difficult for me to get along with other people. I like spirituality (but completely independent of religions), I am also interested in the universe and everything that could exist there. I'm not suggesting that there is other life in the universe, I just find it interesting to think about and study. In addition, I find small talk pretty boring, I like more profound conversations. Of course I also have normal hobbies like drawing, singing and everything that is creative. Well, besides my best friend, I don't have any other friends (except acquaintances) and even with my best friend I don't talk that much anymore because she started a family and doesn't have that much time for me anymore (which of course I do understand, she has an infant and is pregnant with her second child). I'm not even sure if I can still call my best friend my best friend anymore, since we rarely do anything together anymore. But ok, I think I wrote enough about myself :). I just wanted to share this little story with others.
Don't worry just go with the flow good book and good people can't understand easily
Same here and iam done with this shit
I have had a somewhat similar experience to yourself. Regarding bullying at school, and really not being part of anything either. It has been a rather lonely existence. To be honest, I talk a lot to particular deities out loud, which keeps me going in life. Some sense of companionship.
Don't give up on yourself.
@@TheMysticTable don't give up on yourself. You deserve a good life.
This video perfectly nails down how i’ve been feeling in life for the past couple of years. I’ve always been searching and asking myself if I was actually lonely and always struggled with it. I find it hard to even converse with other people so I just spend most of my days shut in my room playing video games or watching tv until the sun goes down. I pretty much relate to everything said in this video.
what if you'd put yourself up to a little challenge? make yourself converse with people as much as u can, it can even be strangers. that way u wont have to feel embarassed if its not working cause they dont know you and you'll probably never see them again. getting out of ouf comfort zones can help too
Do you want to be friends with me
I can resonate with this… in 2014 I hit a low point in my life when I was based overseas. I knew I was depressed, but this video is a revelation that made me realise it was because of deep loneliness that caused my depression. And wow, I was deeply lonely because all the points she mentioned was what I felt and experienced
I hope you’re doing better 🙏🏽
I thought I was depressive, but I?think its loneliness bring depression in me.
how are u feeling now?
@@JessicabelliciMa1 are people in your life not understanding enough? or why is it that u feel lonely?
Sorry about this... you are very strong!
It seems that even my closest friends don't get it and they sort of blame it on my fear of being in a closed space with a lot of people. Many times I think that the only person that understands is my therapist. Thank you for the vídeo!
Yes....so true. Another i feel is that, "In a teamwork, I seem to be worthless, everyone has their strength better than i do, and everytime i take initiative to do something for the team, it doesn't end up well & it seems like bring more burden to my teamates"
Every time I climb out of a dark pit, I see there is nothing to hold on. So I let let myself slide back in to climb once more. Your channel helped me a lot. Thanks for your work 👍
I get what you mean. Everything im left with after all my work on myself is matters outside of my control.... like how others precieve me, and if they want to stay around 😔😑
*to note, they never do stick around lol it seems to be a modern culture thing, technology-fuelled to some degree
This describes me so well. Let’s get through this together! Someday, we will look back at this and feel proud that we did it!
I’ve been lonely for a very long time. I have people to talk to in my classes but it seem like most of them don’t like talking to me, I was about to give up and stop talking to people as a whole but then I met this person in 8th grade and we just clicked together like nothing can separate us. She helped me talk to people more and even brought me closer to one of my 6th grade friend. I thought my life was gonna change forever when I was with her, but sadly on may first I was told that she passed away in her sleep…now I feel even more lonely without her but at least I have one of my friends to cheer me up
Rest in peace, I can't even begin to imagine how that feels. I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
I'm deeply sorry for your loss.
I‘m really sorry about that.
She was an angel, nothing less.. to help you! May she rest in piece. She will be always with you, you can be sure with that.
Never forget what she taught you! Sorry for your loss
I've reached the point in life where I have accepted being alone. Yes I have family and a very small number of friends, but I am aware I will never fall in love again and nobody will love me back in that way again either. I'm single, successful and I live for myself. I have hobbies, I have time to explore and get away. It's a comfortable, reality accepting loneliness and it's manageable.
Completely agree, there’s a difference between being lonely and being alone, and it’s possible to be comfortable with being alone
If it's comfortable and you are happy with your current state, there is nothing wrong with this!
Hi...I feel same way...Can we please connect ? Like on Instagram?
It's great to hear that you have found a sense of contentment and acceptance in your current situation. Embracing solitude can indeed bring a sense of freedom and self-discovery. However, it's important to remember that human connection and companionship are fundamental needs. While it may seem unlikely now, it's never too late for unexpected relationships to form. Keeping an open heart and mind can lead to new and meaningful connections in the future.
@@frenchracqlett5368 .....after reading @NeonDemon88's comments and then yours, you always think you are the only one. Not so - I swear those comments were directed at me about my 'life'! Word for word, this described my living situation to a 'T'. Take care!
I am actually experiencing the loneliest period of my life and don't know what to do about it, this feeling is just eating me up :)
Same... It's Been so dificult and painful.... Recieve a hug
Hi whats Up?
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through such a lonely period right now. It's important to remember that you don't have to face this alone. Reach out to friends, family, or even professionals who can provide support and help you navigate these emotions. Sometimes talking to someone who understands and empathizes can make a world of difference. Remember, this feeling won't last forever, and there are people who care about you. Take care of yourself and know that you are not alone.
@@boby3834and what
Thank you Amanda. Your voice actually helps to calm me.
I paid 2 people $50 each to see a movie with me and paid for their food and drinks and they constantly reminded me that they were only going because i was paying but i didn't care i just didn't want to be alone even if it would only be for a 2 hour movie and 6 of these 7 signs i relate to
You don't deserve to treat yourself that way. Value yourself love ❤
😬You should be careful !that's the perfect recipe for the people you'll later regret having in your life -take it from me,sometimes it just makes sense that some of us end up alone and its worth it . Years of giving, inviting, giving time and resources is a waste when you realize in the end it'll still be you by yourself with no money, time, and resources for yourself .Look around you and you'll realize it doesn't hurt to be selfish. It also does not hurt to not feel bad about people for a change because at the end of the day you're just one person trying to love everyone but everyone won't always accept you when you run out of what they come to you for. Be careful
I enjoy treating myself to a movie and I love my solitude, but if you ever need a movie buddy, I am always available!! Ps. I won't be annoying during the movie either so we can both enjoy it!! ^~^
@@incognito5109 I hate you for this bitter sweet message 😭😥
@@supersongi Count me in !
Emotional volatility…thank you so much for introducing me to that term. I can’t believe how much that description fits what I have been experiencing over the last few years. I’ve been saying it feels “like I’m a passenger” to my own emotions.
Me: I don’t wanna die alone
Also me: *generally avoiding saying more than five words to people*
I accept the fact I will die alone
@@basilplushie2534 Didn't you already die though?
@@BeretBay idk
100% me also! If only people didn't have so many requirements and we could all be loved.
It's okay! Baby steps is the way to go! Have you said hi to your friend today?
I literally have no one in my life. All family members are dead. I live by myself, I just lost my job last week. I just bought an expensive car that I;m turning next week, my rent it more than you can imagine No one calls or texts me. it took me my whole life to finally figure out why I never had any friends true my life, it's because I have a stupid, ugly, unattractive personality, whatever you want to call it. Once you get to know me, my personality turns you away. But everthing in this video is spot on.
For me loneliness gets rougher as I age. Can anyone relate? I would say my downfalls are porn addiction, poor eating, meaningless spending habits. I am always trying to reward myself to put a temporary bandage on how I actually feel. This has also led to alcohol issues in the past. The most frustrating thing is there are so many people out there but it is like a second job to find people that can relate.
Yep. Thats me. My spending habits are stupid but I did sign up for better help therapy. If Im gonna do stupid spending, might as well do something that can actually help me.
For me it's almost like an attachment disorder.
All of those things feel like having an old friend that always show up for me
...even when I'm a mess.
On a conscious level I know that stuff is bad for me...
but at the same time...part of me still associates those things with
being around friends or feeling like I'm loved
(because at the honest core of it all...that's what I'm really after)
@@NeonCicada I agree 100%. It is like having a dependable friend I feel like. All we are doing is chasing a feeling of being accepted, loved, or at least to have someone listen.
Stop with the porn, and find a real person to share with. You will start eating better as well.
@@ncasti for sure. Working out is helping I been trying to focus on calisthenics. Sure I still struggle and have very bad days but trying to put in the effort I guess. I will not accept nothing but victory
Wow, so relatable. Sometimes I felt lonely, but for a few years now I don't feel this way anymore, and I don't even remember how loneliness feels. I remember, this was a concrete feeling, but I forgot how it feels. But it all makes sense, the numbness mentioned in the video... this is what I've been in for all these years. In the end... yes, I'm lonely. I can relate to mostly all of the points. I really miss that person, that special someone. It is not necessarily an exact person I know already, it's about the position that someone could fill in my life. My soul craves a connection I never had. I'm all aware of it, that's why I feel sad all the time when I have the time to focus inward (-which I do almost all the time, I live only in my head) but I can't cry on it anymore. All of this is why I'm still depressed and it won't be better, until a miracle happens... cuz I don't have the energy to do something for myself.
I relate to every single sign. I have been lonely for the last 5 or more years and have spent my entire youth more or less just doing meaningless activities, if you can even call them activities. I only realized that loneliness was the reason in the last few months. I got extremely bad grades, stopped caring about my hobbies, but that didn't really bother me. What was much worse was that I didn't CARE. Really hurt when I realized that. Sometimes I want to be happy about something, but then I can't because I realize I can't share that joy with anyone. Emotions are just worthless to me most of the time because of that.
I would love a part 2 to this video that explains how I can help myself. I am constantly trying to meet new people, but even after several months I can't claim to have gotten any closer to them
I wish for nothing but healing for those who relate to these symptoms. Just know you are valued and worthy of love. Be patient with yourself and seek the help necessary to get better because you deserve to be happy 💛
Hey psych2go, can you please make a video on the clear cut differences between anxiety attacks and panic attacks? Also, your videos have been helping a lot, thank you!
Yes, I've always been confused. Would like to see this happen
Panic attacks are when you think you're going to die from a heart attack.
Yes please... Though I have been experiencing them for more than a year now.. I still struggle to differentiate between the two
I feel egocentric because of this. And I hate it. I'd like to feel more connected to others, but I struggle a lot. I'm not an open book, that's why people don't use to trust me or talk to me, because they don't really know a lot about me. I'd like to share, but I've always found myself afraid of doing that., because I fear misunderstandings about my person, how others see me. I'm not brave to express myself well but I want to work on this. I don't know why I ended up being so lonely. I even cry quite everyday without no concrete reasons. I hope for the better, thank you for the video:D
Thank you for this video. I suffer from a lot of childhood trauma and often find myself in this sort of lonely state.
I have become more accustom to being alone. Now living in Alabama, even though I'm very close to family, I feel isolated from them. No one reaches out first to see me or ask how I'm doing. So, I've resolved myself to embracing the uncomfortable feeling of loneliness. It's a solace, a haven for me to escape to. I'd rather be alone than in bad company. Yes, I play video games, draw, and stuff, but I'm participating in self-care, eating properly and working out when possible. I'm almost done 50 lbs. I'm saving money to move back to Texas and have almost $2000 already. So loneliness only really hurts when I want affection or people in my life who treat me like I matter to them. However, I try not to worry about it bc I can't control how others treat me.
sweet home alabama lol
@@JxnsL Ah yes, the obligatory incest joke
Thank you for sharing this, you are very strong!
@@Psych2go that means a lot.. thank you.
I really dont care about my life, I continue on living because its "normal" but I see that the day I die will be my happiest day. Dont worry I ll not commit suicide, something inside me cant let me do that, yet, life is only a passage of time and I feel like my time ended years ago and Im struggling to die myself.
I feel the same. Not suicidal but at times I find myself looking forward to the natural end of my existence. Sometimes, its a struggle to get out of bed so I can eat or drink or groom myself. Recently, I don’t even find video games fun anymore.
I felt like I might be a psycho because I am way too different from other people but after seeing this video.... I felt I'm not ... I'm just deep lonely inside ...
This has really helped me (most of your vids do.) They always teach me more about myself. So this time I learned I’m definitely feeling a deep loneliness. I suffer from all of these things.
What worse about loneliness is not being alone but getting use to it.
This puts a lot of things in perspective for me. Honestly if there is one good thing that came out of my depression then its me getting to know my ownself. The things that I have been dealing with and feeling for years are finally being put in words in front of me and it is making me more and more self aware. This journey I started of getting to know the root of my depression has been worth it so far. I hope to get better one day. 😇
As an introvert and a loner I rarely feel loneliness, if ever. But I must admit that I relate to theses signs... don't know what to think because being by myself feels usually good. I keep contact with family and close friends, though!
I don't speak to or see family and friends every week. It makes my loneliness crippling but hopefully with more things opening up from the pandemic restrictions, I can get my social life back. I like being alone but being alone doesn't like me. I start to get cabin fever and paranoia if I spend too much time alone so people are a necessary evil for me.
It can feel like a conflict because you may feel happy and sad at the same Tim by being lonely. that is completely normal! If you feel best when in contact with family and close friends then keep at it :)
I've always felt lonely as a kid I was extremely shy and awkward and I felt like an outcast in my family even now as a adult I relate to being lonely I find it hard to take care of myself
Same here. Even during those moments I try to "be normal" it becomes another awkward moment that leaves nothing but silence in the air and a deeper yet increasing sense of coldness within me.
Sorry about this.. you are strong and you got this!
I been feeling loneliness for 5 years and nothing seem to get better and even if I be around with people I still feel lonely idk why
Realizing you have all the signs and that you are lonely...doesnt make it it hurt any less. It just cutz even deeper. 45 years of this. Even when things were this bad, it was still a struggle. The last 9 years have been the WORST AND IT NEVER EVER CHANGES UP. ITS REAL DARK HERE NOW. 💔
It's been weeks but I cannot seem to find anything that truly makes me happy, or is at best fulfilling despite all the efforts of people related to me
I'm fairly certain this is what I dealt with through my late childhood, teenage and 20s (I'm currently in mid-30s). Possibly had depression attached as well since a large deal of my family are on meds for that, but I have noticed I do seem to still have some symptoms of this currently. I think when my monthly aggravates my hormones it possibly makes this feeling worse as I have been feeling a bit distracted, with some of the signs stated. My room has been a mess for quite some time, tried to get to fixing it but either I get sick or I end up not doing it at all. Sometimes I wake up feeling like I didn't get enough sleep and I have days where I'm very tired a lot. Sometimes I put off personal care for some things, not frequently but every so often. Sometimes when I watch emotional media, I often end up crying A LOT, partly cuz I'm empathic, but I think it may also be related to lack of emotional control to a degree. Sometimes I sit on my PC for hours hardly doing anything. I have found myself just staring into space and lost in thought a few times recently.
It doesn't seem to be as bad as it was when I was younger, but I clearly still struggle with something like this. I have grown to accept that I don't really have friends in RL to hang out with and talk to and have a small group of online friends. I struggled hard with trying to make friendships in middle and high school but most people didn't seem interested in me enough to put in effort and I've been lied to, backstabbed and ghosted many times. It wasnt until around the time I broke up with my ex-fiance after an entire decade that I realized and started to accept, I probably wouldn't have friends like I had wanted.
Bottom line is, it sucks to feel like this, it really does. I honestly never felt like I was worth anyone's time for many years and always felt like I was never good enough. I'm still bettering myself to curb this. To anyone reading this, if you feel like this too, Don't give up. Find someone to talk to, or a professional if it's deeply severe, because we can all find happiness and in most cases, happiness comes in the smallest things in life :).
I did not know my loneliness affected me so deeply, I convinced myself it was a strength, however I relate to all the symptoms mentioned here, growing negligence. Lockdown worsened it all.
Me either
I understand that it can be difficult to acknowledge the deep impact of loneliness, especially when we try to convince ourselves that it is a strength. The current situation with lockdowns has undoubtedly exacerbated feelings of loneliness for many people. It's important to remember that it's okay to ask for help and support during challenging times. Reach out to loved ones, seek professional guidance, or explore virtual communities that share your interests. Remember, you are not alone in this, and there are resources available to help you navigate these feelings.
Definitely had a lot of this. Thoughts are typically dangerous. Just jaded. Lack of company makes it seem like you are an unnecessary person or there is something wrong with you. I spent a lot of years without any answers or progress.
working out for an hour or 2 is the best thing that i had descovered during my lonesome years, its like it drains all the anger away, problem is pursuading and forcing yourself.
Maybe because of stress, I'm always feeling sad lately. This also made me realise that no one can help me out of this lingering feeling. I am truly lonely.
I can agree with everything. I’ve just felt so empty recently. About 2 months ago my ex boyfriend started to gaslight me. He also hurt me so deeply to the point where I have deep trust issues now. I’ve had a hard time getting over our relationship since we were so close then we randomly just broke down and fell apart. All he told me was, “I’m not boyfriend material.” Now, 2 months later I’m lonely… I have home issues: being gaslighted by my family (especially my sister), getting told that I’m a failure, or that I’m never good enough. Everything is just starting to heart in my heart and I can’t talk to anyone about anything anymore. I guess everything just has been, wild for me. I guess everyone may go through this though. :(
Sorry about this...
i can relate in everything, i've lived a very lonely life, since preschool other kids avoided me and no one wanted anything to do with me, i never understood why but my guess is because i rlly didn't have anything in common with anyone, i only liked video games and that's all my life has been pretty much so eventually i just stopped trying to make friends. i was born with chronic depression as well so having such severe loneliness and dealing with depression is all just so numbing, i barely feel anything, i don't care to do anything, no matter how much pain i am in emotionally i always find my self unable to cry or even drop a tear and best reaction i can give about anything is "okay, i guess that happened" and by the day after tomorrow i've forgotten everything happened that day. as long as i remember i've felt this void inside of me like something is missing and it only has gotten worse
Right
I can relate to everything. I've been struggling with my mental health for a long time now. Feel free to talk to me because I won't laugh at you, not like those people who don't understand you.
My coupled friends admire my "freedom" but they don't know what it's like watching a video, like this, on loneliness on a Saturday night. They see the fun stuff without the vast acres of empty silence in between. Dating apps are just a recipe for a quick high until the match realizes that the real "me" isn't the ideal they invented in their head. Meetups and other groups are a chance to practice putting on a game face for people less like minded than we'd hoped. Exercise is a brief respite but one can't do it all day. Therapists tell me to try all the stuff I'm already doing. The good thing about a video like this is saying, "Yes true!", to each of the chapters.
4:40 RELATE?! You just described my life
Yeah
I think follow up videos to counter these things would be useful. How do I counter depression, loneliness, anxiety, etc? I love your videos and they have helped me a lot.
Teared up watching this. Not taking care of myself has become normal. I have always felt numb. Like an empty shell.
Like Shawn's song "feeling like a house but not a home".
Awww I'm sooo sorry😞 that is really sad I hope you get better, taking care of yourself is really important. I'm so sorry I wish you all the best God bless you ❤ stay safe😘💗 if you feel like your getting worse pls pls go get some help💜
It's like I'm losing hope in finding friends that consider me as their best friends. I don't feel belonged to anywhere and anyone. Smth is constantly punching my heart when I see those ones around me being this happy with their friends... Like , where is it ACTUALLY going to end? Because I'm super tired.
I recently feel a lot like what you describe. Even wishing a bit to just disappear because I feel useless. Talked a bit with my sister. She told me to think it through. Here am I trying to understand.
Thanks for this video.
Good job 👍💜
Those signs are pretty much very true to me. I honestly experiencing all of that. 😭
Well, I've probably been/felt lonely all my life, so at this point I'm just used to the pain, but that does not mean the pain doesn't hurt me.
I relate to every single one of them. I'm 25, I've never had a girlfriend and I could still count my male friends on one hand if I lost a few fingers. I have Asperger's and talking to anyoneoutside of specific situations is virtually impossible, I've never approached a woman to talk to at any point in my life. Years of failed therapy has left me almost certain that change is impossible.
I'm a firm believer when Jordan Peterson says that a wife and children give a man a huge amount of purpose and life satisfaction but I'm sure I'll never havethis. I live with my parents and spend huge amounts of money on expensive hobbies that don't really make me happy anymore because the alternative is to sit around and do nothing. I basically don't have a social life. One friend never does anything, another only wants to drink which depresses the hell out of me and the third lives halfway across the country. I struggle to go around town anymore as seeing women, couples or groups of men happy upsets me too muchas I'm seeing everything I've never and cannot have. I've never had a friend's group or a partner.
I'm too scared to move out because I'll have no money and be completely alone every second of the day. I quit my last job because I just stared at a wall with no windows for a year and a half with no one to talk to. I found a youth charity last month that does free group music lessons and offers free counselling which is giving me a tiny glimmer of hope but in 6-months I'll be too old for them and they will kick me out. A short, small chance to turn things around but I'm already sure little will come of it. I don't want to give up but the more I try the more pointless it feels.
Hello! I figured I'd post this here. There are dating sites specifically for people with ASD, so they'll know exactly what it is like. In terms of socializing, maybe you can do volunteer work. There are many kinds. I know some ppl with ASD who love volunteering at animal shelters n do horseback riding etc, bc animals are much easier to talk to than humans. Other than that you may want to look into any ASD or mental health cafes or support groups in your area to get you started. Hope this helps ^^
Aside from aspengers we are basically the same
Thank you for sharing this, you are very strong!
I don’t know you, but we’re all here for the same reason. We are looking, searching, seeking love and approval. Whatever may have happened maybe long ago, I understand and I love you. Have a hug from all of us here
It’s painful to relate to all of this because it’s so true. Not just because of having depression, but because I also have anxiety, ADHD, autism, and cerebral palsy. Being the only person in my family who has multiple disabilities has caused me to grow up feeling extremely lonely and socially isolated.
Hope you will be ok ❤
This might be bad advice, but I've come to terms with how pointless it all is. However, I rarely feel lonely, I love engaging with other people, and I still get a sense of fullfillment now and then. It's nothing special, but it doesn't need to be. I feel sometimes we expect to much from ourselves and can't accept the fact that most of us are just ants with egos. This might come across as jaded, but it's not. Being just one of many is nothing to feel bad about, as you still are the one experiencing it, and that in itself is a wonderous thing.
Very true :)
It's fantastic advice!
Relatable 100% often
When feeling completely numb, are days I felt suicidal.
Everything that was said here is exactly what was happening to me. These videos really help me with my anxiety and it warms my heart to see it. This comment is just a huge thanks to all of these videos because they calm me down when I have a mental breakdown or when I cuddle up into a little ball and start hitting my self with anger. Thanks again.
All of the points in this video are absolutely true for me. The scary part is that I can’t remember ever not being like this. That's because I don’t think I’ve ever had truly positive human connection, making friends always seemed impossible for me and my family wasn’t what I needed them to be. The point about lethargy and apathy with brief moments of emotional volatility has been my lived experience since at least early school days. I don’t think I’m incapable of opening up, I’ve just never felt safe enough to do so.
Literally everything here is something I've been experiencing for the past 6 years or so... Wow
I feel trapped by my job because my job is also a lifestyle. I'm a truck driver and I take products all across the country. Which can be super cool and fun. But it can also be chronically lonely. You're in a truck all day by yourself and at night you're still in that truck it's your office and your home. You can only go home once a month for maybe 4 days. Then it's back out on the road. Sure you can call your family and friends and talk. But it's not the same as being there. You miss birthdays, graduations , and all sorts of holidays. I've lost two relationships because long distance was too much for the other person. So I always feel emotionally drained and lonely. I want out of this lifestyle but right now I can't afford to because nothing else pays enough. I feel like I'm one step away from a mental breakdown. But that's my life.
The constant return of loneliness as we try to adapt should be normalized since we can be going through some paradigm shifts. But sometimes we think loneliness is solitude, and that is not the case.
I really wish there were places in this world meant for uplifting your spirit. I wish all towns/cities everywhere had panic attack rooms in case you got overwhelmed, so you can panic in private. Also I wish there was puppy play rooms where you can just spend some time playing with puppies until you felt better.
I 100% agree with you I feel like life would be better
I have experienced all these signs, and indeed, I was lonely. For 2 years, I've stopped caring with school, and myself. One faithful day, my pc broke, so I can't play the games I once spent hours on. I don't have a console and mobile gaming doesn't really give me much enjoyment as pc games, so this made me do something I don't usually do: Reading. I've been reading a few novels, and it's given me a different insight and lessons. I've also been trying to self-reflect and talk to a small group of friends online, and taking walks as well. With this, I can say there really is light at the end of the tunnel and we're really not all alone.
Your narrating coinciding with the anime, and your professional message all together is quite beautiful. New subscriber. Well done 👍
Wow, thank you!
I relate to every single one of these 😆🐺
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Me too; except the last one. ( Though some days I wonder why I bother.. 🙄)
@@ROBYNMARKOW 💙
don't we all!
Always feel like this. I'm a christian who is pro-choice, a classical musician,.big Coldplay fan, and a nature enthusiast, an artist, a rollercoaster enthusiast and I have an enfp personality type. I feel those things make me like myself for being unique but I always think I'm too unique. I have a lot of "friends" but I get no texts from anyone, I can't even remember the last time I've been over someone's house or just had social interaction outside of school. Whenever I go biking I always go by myself. I meet people along the way and I never see them again. I do everything by myself and it's upsetting. I try to be the nicest person ever and I can assure myself that I'm not doing anything wrong. Am I just boring or just too nice? I've never had a boyfriend and never got my first kiss and I'm an adult now. Only people who actually had crushed on me are old men at my job I used to work at and kids at my school that I've only gotten to talk to for about a week. I don't know how to drive a car yet because I got my driver's ed certificate during covid and I never got a teacher or my parents to teach me to drive. I just hope that when I go to my Christian college next year, maybe I'll meet some people, but then again, most Christians aren't as artistic and liberal as I am and they might not want to be friends with me for that reason. But everyone else who isn't Christian sees me as some kind of monster because of my religion.....oh well....
How can you be pro choice and a so called Christian, explain?
I only kinda relate to 4, 5 and 6...especially the 2:02 one... Man I start a whole TED talk in my head with that one lol💀
Edit: Andd to everyone relating to all these... Please know you're not alone.. Bet someone is there who's gonna show up and be that one person who's gonna make you feel like yourself and full again...the loneliness isn't gonna last so long believe me... Sending love to y'all :)) ❤
@Pstch2Go I have learned more about myself and others from your videos than anything else, suffering from lack of self awareness for 25 years and you have really opened my eyes. thank you.
As a extrovert I have no Friends in my new school because i have social anxiety. This hole is very big and it doesn’t go away. You try to fix it with meeting friends, finding new hobbies but it still remains 😔
I fit every one of these signs, oh my
To me I feel like this also sounds a lot like depression. The whole time I was watching the video, I kept thinking forsure depression because I went through all of this when I had great depression, and I wasn't lonely in a sense. I had family, friends, and a roommate at times, that all wanted to be there for me, but I always wanted to just shut down and let depression overcome me. But then I started to think that maybe it could be loneliness, even though there were people in my life, I still felt a deep loneliness. It's really hard to say because I feel like these symptoms can both be for loneliness and depression. I feel like more so, it coincides with depression for me. However, loneliness and depression can be interchangeable.
i like being alone but i hate feeling alone.
My husband had a stroke and I have become his carer 24/7. My husband has gone and he was my best friend. My family have run for the hills and friends have lost interest...never have I felt so lonely. I totally relate to this video and it has helped me to realise that I'm not going crazy. Thank you.
been going through a lot recently and after watching this video and being able to see that all of these describe me, emotionally broke me
I been feeling it all my life and got used to it and was ok with it something always felt off around society now I know why
Every one of those I relate towards
Sigh yes me I feel so shitty a lot of the time and lonesome
Same
same
@@ryder5684 Dayum I hope you can find someone to fill ur loneliness
@@EmikoBlue Same with u I hope u find someone to fill that hole :D
I can’t remember how long has this emotion stayed inside my heart, but it cut me deeply and kill me gradually by day passes …
Yeah I already went with "seek out help". Some help I got... In hindsight it only feels like a "yep you need medication, and nothing else. Here you go and bye". Actually managed to confess my darkest thoughts, and literally nothing was done with it. Psychological health care has become just another conveyor-belt type of service. Just a quick (partially ineffective) fix, and you're "good" to go.
Me: "Why am I so lonely all the time"
Psych2Go in less than a minute: releases video about loneliness
Me: * surprised pikachu face *
I relate to all of them :/