5 signs of complex PTSD that most people miss
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- Опубліковано 30 чер 2024
- Have you ever heard of Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD)? The World Health Organization Department of Mental Health and Substance Abuse conducted a study in 2016 that discovered the distinction between PTSD and C-PTSD. People with complex PTSD tend to notice feelings of trauma coming up more often, have more difficulty controlling emotions, are more likely to dissociate, you feel physical symptoms related to your past trauma, are more sensitive to triggers. Watch this video to see if you relate to some of these signs.
Disclaimer: If you recognize yourself relating to some of these signs, we hope that you use the knowledge towards your mental health journey and getting professional support.
#cptsd
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If you have Complex PTSD you may be particularly likely to experience what some people call an 'emotional flashback', in which you have intense feelings that you originally felt during the trauma, such as fear, shame, sadness, or despair. You might react to events in the present as if they are causing these feelings, without realizing that you are having a flashback.
Usually a similar trigger to the one in the past where you felt those emotions.
Yes! Often I get flashbacks where im so terrified, im scared to keep living, because the uncertain future scares the shit out of me (That's how I felt im the past). Those are moments im afraid i'll harm myself
Other characteristics (there are over sixty and counting probably) of complex trauma:
depression
anxiety
shame (but the shame is false)
sense of guilt (but the that's false, too)
dissociation (when you check out of reality to deal with your past traumas)
paranoia
hyper-vigilant (because you always suffer from a sense of doom and gloom and something's about to happen anytime)
addiction (drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, what have you)
self-harm
self-sabotage
self-loathing with absolutely zero sense of self-worth, self-esteem, self-respect (because the narcissistic abusers took all that away from you and NEVER made you felt wanted or valued)
anger and rage, lots of rage and many times you end up abusing others.
Childhood abuse, neglect and trauma, when not resolved, totally messes up your adult life because no one ever taught you how to "adult" and lead a healthy, fulfilled life. So f'ing sad.
@@olgakim4848 what do you mean by false in shame and sense of guilt?
@@hsanchezisidora My best guess is that you feel ashamed and guilty, but know that it's false and you have nothing to be ashamed or guilty of. That doesn't stop the feeling, though.
I was diagnosed with CPTSD almost a year ago. I am a victim of abuse with my dad, sexually assaulted in high school, bullied through most of my school life, had an awful relationship with my ex and discovered a loved one dead. I am still struggling. I still have irregular emotions, flashbacks, hypervilgence, and a slew of other symptoms. Its a terrible thing to deal with. I really hope we raise more awareness of this new disorder. Since I learned how new it is.
Thank you so much for the kind words! Means alot to me. Also glad to be able to show that you are not alone with these internal battles.
I really hope you can get the help you need through trauma psychotherapy (if it is financially feasible) 🙏 good luck in your healing journey ❤️
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So sorry to hear what you have been through… it’s hell on earth battling evil demons that pretend to be humans!! I hope you heal and are able to move forward from your trauma
The awareness is essential, and can seem to be long time coming after one starts investigating. Awareness helps, but then finding ways to recover and heal, part B., can seem elusive and hard to track down.
Bessel van der Kolk's book, The Body Keeps the Score, is one good place to start. The last chapters have documented recovery approaches.
The message was "It will be ok" and honestly, that's all I needed to hear 😢❤
that was my guess, but I couldn't really focus on it as I feel like I'm disassociated right now or maybe just really need a nap.
I’ve had CPTSD (and depression, anxiety, OCD, mysophonia) for 30 years. The things I’ve seen, survived, and lived through in my childhood and then surviving the war and living through that… the complex, multiple and long term trauma… it has almost destroyed me completely. I am just now starting to feel my body and brain slowly reconnect, but I am yet to FEEL safe - truly safe. It’s a deep wounding of the soul and it can take decades to heal. For all the people that have lived through horrors of life… I understand your suffering. 🙏🙏🙏
I've had C-PTSD for 76 years starting on the day of my birth.
what do you do for a living? I can't even work
🤍
Stay in Gods armor Stay strong like you are! ❤️🙏
That is pretty inspiring!
"IT WILL BE OK."
My PTSD mostly comes from being raised by an alcoholic mother, but it also partially comes from another traumatic experience that seems to mostly happen to women even though it can happen to men as well.
I know the quote does not help. My comment won't probably help, but when someone says that, even though they may not understand the suffering you've been through, they're technically letting you know that it's all in the past and what is most important is that you're alive and hopefully safe compared to those moments back then. That they're glad that something much worse did not happen to you and hopefully you can move forward and use your experience to help comfort others and hopefully find some form of peace in the middle of your storm. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I don’t know your life story or the details of any trauma you've been through, but wherever and whoever you are, I wish you the best in life. Don't let your dark past control the outcome of your future. Try your best to work on yourself and have peace in mind. You matter, everyone matters and you are not alone in this world. Everyone has to work together through any problems. Stick to your loved ones and I hope all is good for you. Don't get upset at others for saying that. They may not know any better and I know that from experience. I've had to technically be the sacrificial piece of venting material and all the problems other's tell me, I sometimes don't know what to say myself. I just try to reassure them that they'll hopefully have some good coming their way and that although I can't give any advice, I can listen and just be by one's side. It's tough when you don't understand the pain of others, but it happens. You can't blame others unless they say that with the wrong intentions
Same
I hope you are okay. Don't force yourself to every be okay for the sake of other people
PTSD is for military people that have seen COMBAT, you had a bad childhood, stop feeling sorry for yourself
@@swolfe9668 talk to a therapist. They’ll explain that ptsd isn’t just for combat. Infact even look it up :) instead of making yourself looking stupid and ignorant.
Timestamps!
1:26 - 1: Frequent feelings of trauma
2:25 - 2: Difficulty controlling your emotions
3:12 - 3: Were you saying something?
4:08 - 4: Physical symptoms when reminded of past trauma
4:56 - 5: Avoiding your trauma triggers
I hope everyone is doing well. If not, remember that you're not alone. I'm so proud of you for being here today, whether it was just getting out of bed, or simply waking up. I'm here for you, even though we may not know each other.
@LynnBowz Thankyou for timestamps and your message. 😊
@@jchur7128 No problem! Hope you have a good day/evening!
I need to constantly remind myself these videos are not a supplement for professional help. Even when a release like this is 100% a component of my personal experience.
*AMONG US!!1!!1*
The secret phrase (don't scroll unless you gave up finding/solving it or you already solved it right away):
"It will be ok"
I already guessed that this is the phrase when I'm still in "It wil" or I knew the phrase until I'm on the fifth letter
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, dr.porass. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is dr.porass.
I was diagnosed with cptsd since my teenage, spent my whole life fighting cptsd. Also suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. This is something that really need to be use globally to help people with similar health challenges.
YES very sure of Dr.alishrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Ive done shrooms last month in my house. It taught me how severely traumatized I was from alcohol. I healed from many mental traumas from my past and was able to forgive, let go. Shrooms to me is a remedy not a vice. I even felt more refreshed the morning after. So no hangovers. No depression mood for days. No anxiety.I now have a more calm mind
How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta
Yes he's Dr.alishrooms. Shrooms to me is a natrual healer. I know a guy who has used mushrooms in the same way and they have really helped him. mah dudes have safe trips all.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Actually, Acute Stress Disorder is what you have when you have symptoms within 1 month of the event that go away. Regular PTSD can still bother you years later. It doesn't have to be categorized as C-PTSD. --Clinical Mental Health Counselor
I was thinking that defining ptsd as a one time event the way it was done here sounds false. The way the video portrays this information it makes it sound as it true ptsd almost doesn’t even exist or that it is a short time period of symptoms. That’s simply not true, I know people that have a ptsd diagnoses and have struggled with those symptoms off and on throughout their lives.
That. I'm honestly upset that they single-handedly are "teaching" that ptsd is c-ptsd.
How can they do this ....
Cptsd has as cause repetitive or long trauma. Yes it can have some different symptoms, and it is far more chaotic, as you don't know where the heck which reaction is coming from sometimes. Sometimes you get triggered in two of the traumas simultaneously. Can't continue describing. People can get informed online. Just, sadly, not here, apparently ...
@@memyselfi2005 remember that the people who run this channel are not licensed psychologists. so take what they post with a grain of salt
Yes, this video was hard to listen to because it was not the most accurate. 😂
I was diagnosed with CPTSD from "relationship trauma" I had no idea what was happening. One month post escape of the relationship, the symptoms just flooded in all at once! Insomnia, racing thoughts, night terrors, cold sweats, brain fog, panic attacks, anxiety, loud noises, car horns
I have some of this too, an accumulation over years. Hope it gets better for you.
Retroactive jelousy is what haunts me more
I experience car horns all the time, so I feel you there homie.
I am much better today, CPTSD diagnosis was over s year ago and I've treated with therapy, medication and self care. Some symptoms still linger like loud noises, car horns, high anxiety periodically, panic attacks and blank out at times.
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Don’t stop what you do. You’ve made such a huge impact on my life because of this channel
Same
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“IT WILL BE OK.”
…One of these days, I will get this dealt with. Your videos make me understand so much about myself and how badly things really are. If anything the soft tone voice also makes me feel calm in researching and learning mental illnesses.
…sorry if this comment is phasing randomly, I sometimes find it hard to think, but that’s also probably due to the fact I might have ADHD, but yeah.
Hard to think how? I hope you don’t me asking but I have my own struggles in thinking and completing thoughts let alone putting them into words so I want to know what your situation is like exactly.
"How bad things really are"
Thats not the way to think about it, think about like wow im still here, im learning and im getting better, use your energy for good thoughts only, force your brain to think differently, talk to yourself like you would talk to a loved one
Omg i was so confused because I’m so used to spelling ok as okay 🤣🤣🤣
Do you know what's worse? People who leave you because they don't understand or even if they know the reason for your behavior, they leave you because they can't stand your behavior anymore. So you may be working to hide your symptoms and feeling so lonely that no one understands you but yourself.
Knowing how much it hurts my parents to know I'm not okay forces me to hide it all away. I can't tell them, because they'll get worried, they won't understand, and, the worst case of all, they'll just shrug it all off as something simple, "just me being attention-seeking". I just wonder when will that "attention-seeking" will turn into attention-needing.
...at this point I wonder when will it be too late for any kind of attention for the matter...
Don't hide the symptoms. We have to be accepted for who we are, not try and cover up for things we cannot control. A massive part of relationships is communication and understanding. I fell in love with someone that has a few mental health battles. We're learning how to be with each other - how to give support and space when needed. It isn't easy, but it is possible! Good luck xx
I do the opposite, I don't think I have any type of PTSD but as someone who has weird anxiety, I push away my friends because I think my own behavior is annoying and I don't want to be a burden to them -
I have a lot of dissociation around them when we're supposed to be having fun, but I just can't - I'm always on Fight of Flight mode so I just leave instead of just sitting there quietly
This comment kind of reminds me of my bf to be honest. I’ve had the feeling for the past 6 months that he's been avoiding me because first of all, on our last date, he was rushing and lied that his mother was calling him for an emergency. Later on, he was skipping school and always rushing home because he was too busy. Then he comes with the "we need space because I'm not doing well in school" and then his mother calls me to blame me for all his school problems even though I haven't been with him whatsoever. After that, I find out he would leave me voluntarily because supposedly he was the best guy for any job anyone needed and he could never turn down a favor. After graduation, he promised we'd have more time and here I am being the world's most patient woman with a guy who can't even say goodmorning to his soon to be ex girlfriend. You know, I think relationships are just part of a life experience. I'm not sure if I'll get into one in the future. It's all too complicated when one deals with others. I gotta constantly give gifts, pay so much in order to meet a family's expectations, and their's always a problem with the other side of the family. I don't think I'll ever get into relationship drama again. But yeah this comment reminded me of that situation because he's mentioned that he has another side of the story, but he keeps getting exposed either by me or his family members. Other times, he says I don't understand, but I always know what's going on when someone spills it to me. It's like there’s two sides of the story and I've only dated a guy hiding behind a mask to have a good appearance. He didn't want to lose me, but he didn't want to keep me either. Kinda sad really. I hope he finds someone who can be more patient than I am. That's why they're relationships and not marriages
@@dr.thunder1567 i can somewhat relate to you. I don't really have friends, but I do feel as if my behavior is annoying and I try to avoid others because I'm usually labled as an outcast and I'd rather just not hear someone ruin my self esteem by calling me weird. I'd rather stay quiet and only talk when I feel is necessary. I can still make good bonds with others though and have a good laugh if I trust them enough, but my social skills suck overall.
I recently started getting therapy and made an instant breakthrough when my therapist asked if I experienced any trauma. I never gave much thought to it, but I have PTSD.
I was bullied a lot as a kid. But the worst part was a teacher was bullying me. She was my language arts teacher and I was having a hard time. She didn’t make it better she just kept reprimanding me, even taking me to talk to the principal a few times. I then had to go to tutoring (which I’m just now realizing it was probably considered remedial classes) and the kids made fun of me for it.
My parents had enough and pulled me out before the last couple weeks when I told them what my teacher said. She stood up in front of the class and said, “You all did really well this year. Where *my name* ’s future in language arts is yet to be determined.”
Knowing I have PTSD from my time in that school explains so much now. My anxieties. Making presentations all the way through college (only getting worse each time). My anger when I mess something up. My tendency to go “auto-pilot” when doing things like driving (disassociation). Meeting new people, making new friends and finding a girlfriend. It was only made worse with the lockdowns, I lost all my friends because we lost touch.
All my anxiety, depression, irritability, loneliness, and pain stems from one old bag who is probably dead now. And now I’m 27 trying to treat something I didn’t even know I had since I was 12. It sucks.
The principal told my mom that “A lot of students that had trouble with her came back to thank her.” I’d sh!t on that woman’s grave if I knew where it was. She was awful.
"I’d sh!t on that woman’s grave if I knew where it was." That is funny and just sad.
I had a similar experiences with yours, I get your pain it awful. the treatment that I got was different than the others, I always thought that something is wrong with me, that is why I avoided alot of things because I was too scared to fail, when I remember these stuff I start crying it was horrible. I started talking medicine for anxiety, now I’m a 23 trying to avoid any triggers and a girl who doesn’t know what to do anymore. but on the bright side I found a great recipe for cookies.
A side from that I’m happy that you are trying to fix your self, and furious about that woman and the things she did to you. I hope that you become a great person ( and I think you are :) ) and find a great ppl that will always love you and sport you ^^ .
This sounds identical to my experience except he was a math teacher in hs
So glad I’m not the only one who’s 27 struggling with CPTSD! Except, instead of your teacher being the bully my parents WERE the bullies. Them, and people I met along the way growing up (“friends,” coworkers, bosses, etc.) added more fuel to the fire. It’s sad how the people you expect to take care of you or help you do the opposite, like playing both the ally and enemy at the same time. People suck
I have quite similar experiences from my younger school years when many of the teachers openly despised me for not being as the other kids and one of them even told me I was too wierd to make friends. I have been lonely and feeling inferior to others my entitre life because of that. Something is severely wrong with soceity when school ruins so many people's life and that is a thing not talked about as trauma enough, I think 😭
complex ptsd has completely changed my life especially over the last few years. it sucks that there's so little social awareness about it. i was always called a 'psycho' simply for expressing my emotions that i couldn't hold much longer. im only human too and people need to see that; especially when i do things i regret and hurt the people i love. i've gotten very bad social anxiety which only seems to increase. it feels like there's 500 voices in my head telling me what to do with my life and idk where to start. all i know is there's a difference between interests and passions. and life is too short to not follow your passions. at the end of the day we all reach the same fate.
it's just life, it'll be over before we know it
It’s quite hypocritical for folks to say “we’re inclusive” “we’re gonna spread awareness” yet they’ll judge, ignore, and stare at us when we’re going through so much. Plus they’ll try to normalize just to shut us up.
I didn’t know about the dissociation until now!! Nor did I even know I was going thro that with my ptsd!! This is something I’ll definitely be talking about with my trauma therapist when I see her next!! Thx soooo much Psych2go! U’re really changing the world and educating others around the world!! Props to u!! 😊
Ok, sad warning, when you work on dissociation you loose that tool. You can not withdraw for protection. I have developed new tools, but there have been a few traumatic events after therapy that I wish I could forget.
I disassociate so much...my therapist told me to keep pen and paper handy, to track the episodes. I had to stop that because it became terrifying, how much time I "lost." Now when I know I've been in that state, I play detective afterwards, trying to see what I did. "Oh, I ate. Oh, I changed clothes. I wonder why I did that" etc. I also have agoraphobia, in part because it terrifies me to dissociate in public, not knowing where I went, who I spoke to.
I love this channel and i feel really calm with her voice.
Also for people who can't solved the secret message or something, the secret message says.
"It will be ok" :)
Thank you! ^o^
no problem :)
Thanks!👌😎
Awwww :D
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I view the difference between PTSD and C-PTSD as having one versus dozens of traumatic events. I was getting a new trauma every week at one point. I also don’t experience dissociation like that. It’s just being blank, emotionally numb, and in observation mode. I’m not losing time like that.
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you got this!
That's exactly my experience with dissociation aswell.
If that is what dissociation is then yes
I used to have depersonalisation when I went to the bathroom, even at work, that I would worry I was actually still at my desk and wetting myself, when I was actually using the bathroom. It took me a while to realise that its because some of my trauma happened in the bathroom at home. I even now feel safer using the bathroom with the door open at home (never in public) because I can see where any threat is coming from.
TL;DR SAd in a bathroom a few times, and now I have weird dissociation issues and coping mechanisms when it comes to bathrooms.
I have dissociation a lot, and it's honestly really freaky for me. Sometimes I just blank out, and other times it's like an out of body experience
Does everything slow down around you and get foggy/misty/tunnel vision/TV static looking, and you get confused and kinda wander around aimlessly or stand in place sort of stunned? Everything gets quieter but it's unpleasant, like you're not real? I'm asking because this has happened to me several times.
@@AgonySoup hmm to me yeah sometimes used to tho but now it occurs on random time like throughout the day
I had a disassociation a few weeks ago, after dealing with my sister. I was sitting in my living room, in my chair, when all my old, horrible, not wanted by anyone/family members feelings came back. I was in my 57 year old body. but inside I was that sickly, scared, asthmatic girl who felt like no one wanted me, or cared. I put pen to paper, & started writing. I had to get it out. It was horrible.
My dissociation is always just blanking out and not being able to remember doing something evwn though I know I've done it
Like driving home I can randomly dissociate and be home within what feels like minutes even though it's a 20 minute drive and I don't remember most of the trip. I don't know if I have a trauma relating to cars for sure or not (most of my younger childhood is just gone from my mind. I know there was tons of abuse but I can hardly recall)
I grew up in a horrible environment. Our “home” was a war zone where nothing was stable. I would watch my mother be degraded and beaten. On top of that, I was neglected but also physically and verbally abused.
I deal with cptsd still at 28, but its gotten a lot better. Teenage years and early 20s I had the flashbacks everyday, the nightmares often where i wake up crying, and the dissociation episodes were very scary and would last hours at times. I could not control my anger around people who loved me, and this wasn’t fair to them. I felt like a piece of trash unworthy of love for a very long time.
Personally, the more I learned about toxic parents and how they affect us, the more it helped me heal. Its been constant work for years as I’ve continued to get help, try different interventions, and generally keep researching but it has made my quality of life much better.
Don’t give up. What happened to you IS horrible and you did NOT deserve it. You are worthy of love.
It's been like this since I was 6. I'm 30 now. As early as age 9, I used to dissociate so hard I'd forget who I was, while my body fought my classmates for me. By the time I tuned back in mentally, I'd be in the middle of a lecture for something I didn't remember doing wrong.
The most insidious part of c-PTSD is that it affects me even when I'm _not triggered._ My attention span and memory seem to be permanently damaged, and that's cost me every job I've ever tried to work. When I get stressed, I have seizures that I stay conscious for. This means that even when I work 100% as hard as I can, I still screw up all the time. It's obliterated my confidence.
I get self-conscious talking about my past, because there's so many gory details, some people assume I'm making it up. I thought everyone had stories like that. I never thought of my life as uniquely awful, because the good days are _so good_ and I love my friends _so much._ But the fact is, I've seen some shit that a lot of people haven't.
Reading your comment here made me feel as though I was writing my own history. Thank you so much for sharing here! I already feel less alone. I know I don't have much ability to help besides thanking you, but I'll light a candle for you and hope you find some healing and access to care if you haven't been able to yet. 💜
@@taiskye1849 The compassion makes all the difference. I've been venting about this...pretty much everywhere, as I come to terms with it, and it's nice to feel seen and validated.
I hope you get some relief too. If the good is as intense for you as it is for me, I hope we both get the chance to bask in it.
Thank you for sharing
Hi, how are you now? And what is an advice for me to help out my 26 year old girlfriend who is having CPTSD from sexual trauma? Will she ever be okay?
@@austin3347 I wanna emphasize first thing: _financial turmoil_ is the main thing that's hurting me right now. When my family was financially stable, it was much easier to focus on my recovery. It just hurts to fight for my life through years of domestic abuse, _and then_ have to fight my stupid workplaces for a living wage when I thought my life was saved. _Before_ the financial BS...recovery started to feel very manageable. After being abused at 6, I had an abusive relationship when I was 14-16, and I was more or less 'normal' by 23. It's just that becoming homeless at 26 after my stepdad died slam-dunked me back to rock bottom.
Trauma teaches us a lot of false, toxic lessons, such as, "I deserve to be hurt if I talk back." If I try and chart major breakthroughs, it might look something like...
1) Learn that getting punished doesn't fix anything. I used to beg my exes to beat me for making mistakes, and that terrified them because they were good people. Most people aren't sadistic like that, and those who are, are not good people. Nobody's impressed by my ability to take a beating, just saddened and frightened.
2) Learn that there is nothing I can do to 'deserve' abuse. I used to apologize for 'my part' in my fights with my ex. But there's nothing that I can do -- no amount of back-sass, no amount of being cringy or annoying -- to justify what he did to me. Conversely, somebody who mistreats me _absolutely deserves_ to be stopped by self-defense, if necessary.
3) Learn that my worth doesn't come from romantic/sexual relationships. Anyone worth my time loves me for my humanity, not for anything I _do_ for them. I'm not being graded on a pass/fail scale. Also, 'losing my V card' does not diminish my value as a human. Simultaneously...
4) Learn that romantic/sexual engagements can be soft and kind. A good partner will be okay with me stopping, even if we're in the middle of something explicit, and won't be bitter or try to emotionally twist my arm. My safety is more important than any bodily pleasure. I deserve to check in with myself and make sure that I feel safe.
In the course of this lesson, I also found out that I'm asexual, but this also applies generally -- _human relationships_ should be respectful of boundaries and consent, not just in the bedroom.
5) Learn that I was pressuring myself in 5 outta 6 of my relationships. The first one was toxic and abusive as hell, but in all the others, _I was the one who didn't let me say no._ My other 5 exes were, as established, all good people who would've been fine with me saying no, and that's what a relationship should look like.
6) Learn that it's safe to talk to other people. I withdrew hardcore after the abuse. Writing essays in class and posting my thoughts online helped me find my voice, but working customer service _brought me out of my shell._ I realized I can chat with most people without them posing a threat to my safety. When I got my first job, I was so terrified I could scarcely _mouth greetings_ to customers. Over the years, though, I learned how to show interest in other people's lives and get them to open up as much as they're comfortable.
Even now, in the grips of my current crisis, I believe that the majority of people are fundamentally good and civil; the traitors who use and abuse others are a glitch in that matrix. But I had to meet dozens of good people, in order to arrive at that conclusion. A support system is so necessary; it takes a village.
7) Learn that I don't belong to anybody else, and nobody else belongs to me. There is never a point where I 'have to' do what somebody else wants me to, and there's never a point where anybody else does, either. I can save us all a lot of heartache if I ask my loved ones, 'Hey, are you able to help me with x right now?' rather than jumping into their arms assuming they're free to drop everything and care for me right this minute. And that's okay. I want them to be here _because they want to be here,_ rather than because they feel like they have to.
Relatedly, nobody else _can fix me,_ but they can keep me company while I _get fixed._ It's bigger than any one person.
8) Learn how to love myself. I find that it's easier for survivors to love and empathize with other people, than with ourselves. We're intensely self-critical and willing to take mistreatment, but if we see it happen to someone else, we go into protective overdrive.
There's a point where we realize: we are also 'other people' -- I had to imagine seeing a gangly 14 year old British kid who's been beaten to hell, without the lens of self-hatred, and realize how much I would love and care for and protect that kid. Then realize that kid was me, and still is. If I wouldn't tell another survivor that they're stupid or worthless, why would I say it to that child? That would be pointlessly cruel.
My therapist also taught me a coping mechanism to lower stress, called a butterfly hug. The way it works is, you cross your arms over your chest like a mummy. Then with your fingertips, you pet, tap, or scritch at the opposing collarbone, alternating left and right. Because of our brains' weird left-right wiring, this allows a person to give physical affection to themselves in a way that's just as satisfying as affection from another person. This got me thinking about other ways that I can literally show affection to myself, such as stroking my cheek, playing with my own hair/petting my scalp, etc.
This teaches us that we're not helplessly waiting for _another person_ to give us love, but instead have the power to give it to ourselves.
...That's a lengthy list. Let me know if it's helpful lol
I'm sure you know we're all different; some of the toxic lessons I learned might be the same as your girlfriend's, and some of them might be different. Most of these _healing_ lessons are shown, not told; we need a life environment that's safe enough that these things become clear. Just reading it isn't enough.
You're a good person, doing the research and reaching out for some way to help her. I wanna emphasize again: you cannot reach in and fix her. Not even trained professionals can do that. That took me ages to understand. But you can give her a nudge here or there, or stand at her back to keep her steady. Keep her company. Navigate life together. I see this distinction as a hopeful thing. Her life absolutely can get better, especially if she has people like you in her corner.
I have C-PTSD and though I've mostly recovered from it, there's always that doubt--planted by all the gaslighting and dismissive comments over the years--that my experiences were "all in my head" and that what I think is reality is completely fake/imagined. This video helps so much to confirm my reality that I definitely had/have it. Thank you so much.
Mmm yeah. There’s no cure to this. It can only be managed.
@@americanbookdragon Exactly.
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Gaslighting and discrediting your experience or disbelieving has it affects. I can tell you what I know, it’s not your fault. ua-cam.com/video/ZQht2yOX9Js/v-deo.html
I'm at start after abuse whole life
This video makes me feel like someone understands me. CPTSD is so hard to explain to others and videos like this really help. Thanks for making this.
I am in the midst of recalling trauma from 37 years ago, at my mother's and maternal grandmother's hands.
They changed my entire personality. One of the most noticeable things was what is deemed "Compulsive Compliance," by Bessel Van der Kolk's book The Body Keeps The Score. I became completely incapable of making my own decisions or of deciding with whom to associate. I could no longer say 'no' without an intense fear of losing someone (even if they were awful people, I still clung to them). I concerned myself only with others' needs, believing that I did not even have needs. I lost the ability to truly feel happiness. I was taught that I was not allowed to be happy, joyful, sad, upset, or anything but serene compliance. I was on the verge of an emotional (angry) outburst at all times.
I am reading through the book and working on publishing a memoir. I feel my story needs to be told.
God's blessings on you all for your recovery work!
Incapable of making decisions...as if my lifetime was never given to me..I never did future,I had no future,incapable of envisioning future, zero personal concept of future .
This hits way too close to home for me. Add on the fact that idk if the person could even function without me and you hit the mark.
hello reader!
I just wanna say..
it's all gonna be ok. I promise..
you're doing so well! and I'm so proud of you..and I love you!
I promise you that everything is gonna be ok. I know I've probably never met you.. but I care about you ok? remember that Im proud of you ok?
- Me 💚
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Thanks Jay.
We’re talking about mental health a lot more today than we were 40 years ago, but we’re still not doing much of anything to beat it.
I was bullied in middle school for 3 years straight and it was an almost daily occurrence that I was bullied. People made fun of me, poked around at me, and generally did as much as they could to make my day miserable. Add the fact I grew up in a household with double standards, my step brother always got away with things, but I would always get worse punishments over things. My parents never helped me talk to the school about the bullying, and constantly told me to just stand up for myself and fight them if I have to. I am not a fighter, I don’t want to hurt anyone, so I just kept telling staff to help me, almost daily. They said they’d help but they never did.
Finally in 7th grade, I got so fed up with anger from being bullied that I said things I didn’t mean, and it got me emergency expelled. My bullies, still continue to get away with everything. I was punished and nobody even cared to hear me, I went to a therapist with my dad for a few months because they school told him to. My bullies then began manipulating my words that day and using them to get school security to search my bag, slander my name, and ruin my life. It never seemed to end, finally in 8th grade, on my last day, I finally snapped and fought my bully, but still afraid of punishment, I stopped because I never wanted to fight. I got punished again, and my bully manipulated the fight against me on social media and made my reputation even worse.
Finally in high school, I was finally rid of my bullying, but then I would be left alone for the entire 4 years. Nobody ever talked to me, listened to me, or cared about me. I had no friends, no girlfriends, no proms, no dances, nothing. I was ostracized for 4 years, and here I am at 21 years old.
My mental health had only worsened since graduating, with no real friends to speak of and no future plans, I began to feel constantly depressed. I sometimes even questioned if the world would be better with me never existing. I had started going to therapy, but i finally had a dissociative episode that caused me to scare my family. My step mom has completely stopped talking to me, and I have had only support in my mental struggles from my older brother and my dad. I found out only 2 days ago that my therapist had diagnosed me with C-PTSD. Honestly, I continue to question why nobody ever helped me, and just let me suffer in school.
I am so sorry for what you went through...my child exactly experienced very similar adversity. Please don't underestimate the role of CBT, DIALECTIC Behavioural therapy and Trauma focused CBT and compassion therapy, exercise and meditation. With the right treatment you will overcome all the symptoms by the time. Indeed,it will take a bit time. Ask your doctor for art clubs and leisure activities....they all involve in fixing the areas of your brain which have been damaged due to the trauma you went through. The good news is you are still under 25 and your brain still develops. 😊😊😊so, if you focus on positive thoughts and forgiveness and regular talk therapies that I recommended you will become much stronger than before. Please don't ignore what I wrote.
My mum took her life nearly 5 years ago, and I found her and had to do cpr even though she was gone and the image is fresh in my mind I still have night terrors to this day. I can’t think about it or her for too long at once because it feels like it’s happening right there and then. And the saddest part is, my whole childhood is a massive blank, can’t remember any good memories with her before the event happened even though I know we were best friends like we were bonded more than just mother and daughter, I can’t remember any fond memory. Our brains are funny things hey
I am so sorry that you've had go through so much darkness. But remember, there is beautiful light waiting for you. I have a close friend with similar traumatic experiences. Have you ever considered EMDR therapy? Please look into it. It was extremely helpful for my friend to move forward with her life and helped lessen (and I believe now, they are very rare) the flashbacks of these past events.
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I understand you, my best friend did it too but in this case, the body was destroyed because of the fall, so I have never seen her corpse. I don't know how I feel about that because in part it's good to just remember her alive but it also feels like it never happened and my memories of her are vanishing and I don't want them to disappear because I loved her so much and it was just two months ago. Sometimes I think that if I saw her in the funeral, that impact would have been so intense that I would never forget it and I would have understand what happened because it feels so irreal.
Omg I feel for you... I also walked in on my mom dead I was also there for alot of people and animals dying. My friends horse died as well like the same day I went to just visit her...
I am so sorry for your experience. Do you have photos to remind you of the good times? Places you can revisit that you went together? Food you cooked together?I I divorced out of verbal and psychological trauma abuse and don’t remember many good quality times while my little girls grew up and I was under abuse and drugs. This Mom sends a big hug🤗
The most intense insane for me is the "dissociation".
We went driving to a sea and when we came there to the parking lot, I just couldnt remember any meter of the drive, not a single one.
I was diagnosed recently I was physically assaulted by my dentist from the ages of 4-8 and had a hard time going to doctors or dentists because I felt like I couldn’t trust them years later when I was starting my senior year of high school I was shot in a school shooting and I was more scared if the doctors than I was the shooter I was taken to the hospital and rushed into emergency surgery where I suffered from anesthesia awareness I could feel the breathing tube in my throat and the initial stab from the surgeon until I blacked out from pain now I fear so many things and still feel physical pain I’m training to be a nurse but I can’t work in ORs or really anything to do with surgery because the setting brings on the most horrible flashbacks and panic attacks
Be strong brother. U will recover.
Those sound like very traumatic experiences. Brave of you to intend to work in a medical setting. I hope you can start feeling that it is not the setting that is evil/dangerous but acknowledge there is evil and danger in this world, but also good.
Wow, I'm so sorry! I was physically assaulted by both my parents and I know what it feels like to be more fearful of them then the pain from something else.
Does being in hospitals stimulate any fear or anxiety ? You mention that it seem to be OR rooms that make you triggered? And youre studying nursing
@@altruex hospitals are fine but not surgical wards or the sound of ventilators I’m working with my therapists on the ventilators but surgical settings are just too much for me
A close friend of mine who was diagnosed with C-PTSD told me about it a few years ago. When I read about what it was, how it happens, and potential triggers, I started crying because I had finally found a term for something I now realize I've been feeling for most of my life.
I had been working with a therapist for a while as a soldier (A soldier with mental health issues? Shocking! 😱) and he helped teach me how to process old traumas. I keep going further back in my life identifying and dealing with them. It's hard going, but worth it.
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Can you ask them if how they got a diagnosis please? Thank you
cool!
How to deal with old traumas?
Please share this video to those who might need it! Also, if you did the challenge in the video, let us know what the answer was. :)
Hii!
The secret phrase is "It will be ok"
It will be ok
it will be ok
The answer is "It will be ok"
This video and the other one on the channel about complex PTSD hit so close to home I'm in a flood of tears. The feelings of guilt and shame. Not knowing some of these things were and are a problem for so long... Ultimately the feeling of not being enough.
i really struggle to explain this kind of thing to people
a lot of the time i can figure out a way to explain it to people but i always struggle more when explaining it to my gf
when i cant figure out how to explain, ive started showing her your videos because you explain it so much better then i can and it gives me a second to breathe and think about what to say
thank you so much for making these!!!
My wife has C-PTSD and I can confirm that she hits all of these signs... 😭
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you got this! best of luck to you and your wife
Hi, how is she doing right now? My girlfriend has CPTSD as well 😭😭
@@austin3347 When it comes to the C-PTSD, she is doing better every day, but you really have to take every teeny tiny progress as a huge leap forward as it's really difficult for her to see past some of her C-PTSD would make her believe about certain situations.
An example is that while she might instinctively not trust me because I'm a guy, but I'm her husband too, so some times she literally has to re-think how she formulates her sentences because she realizes some prejudice comes in her way before rational thinking.
These moments are worth celebrating 😁
"It will be ok" is the hidden phrase, I hope everyone will be ok and still be happy even after a traumatic event, your happiness can matter to many people
I was a victim of severe bullying and neglect from staff in elementary school (age 9-12), it's a horrible trauma that's prevented me from feeling safe while driving certain routes, taking tests, being near scoops or school busses, and even getting a job. You'd be surprised how many mundane things happen to tie back to those two and a half years of hell. I've bounced from therapist to therapist, and nothing ever seemed to truly work, EMDR therapy is the closest I've gotten to true relief but even then, it can sometimes do more harm than help.
The trauma I've faced has completely uprooted my entire life. It's hard trying to rebuild it; my coping mechanisms have led me to destroying my body and everyday tasks are now incredibly difficult. C-PTSD is a fate I'd never wish upon any innocent soul. To all of my C-PTSD friends out there, stay strong. 💪
I’m fighting this now.
The VA keeps saying I have depression because they say I don’t have PTSD because it wasn’t tied to one specific event it was my entire life until about 30 and the military had a big role to play in it.
Sexually and physically assaulted in the military, recalled after being out, sent to a combat zone, then sent home with almost zero notice of any of it.
12 days to go from civilian to in the Marines again
Big mess getting over there.
Literally told “grab your stuff we leave in 2 hours” when we returned to the US. Then from a combat zone to discharged. My second dd214 in hand and back home in less than 9 days.
Return home to an employer who all but accused me of making it all up, forging federal documents just to take a few months off.
Zero help from anyone when I returned.
Then called names and made fun of by everyone when I started having issues.
Homeless most of my 20s, looked sickly, barely ate.
I am male by the way and yes I was sexually assaulted in front of over 100 people
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Ay but at least now a random stranger on the internet believe in you.
Those damned people invalidate you
I believe in you
have a spectacular day
Think of the biggest, warmest, bear hug ever and times that by 10. A gift…for you.
I'm currently serving in the military, and I'm afraid I may have this. I've lost a lot of close people in a very short span of time, held someone's hand as they passed, watched someone die in motorcycle accident and was the one to stop and call 911, seen the aftermath of a friend taking his own life in a gruesome manner, recently been sexually assaulted on several occasions, even at work. I experience night terrors, disassociate constantly, have a temper that I didn't used to have and that I can't keep in check, and I'm regularly plagued by intrusive thoughts of those moments. It's destroyed several close personal relationships including my last romantic one, but I'm afraid to get help with this, afraid it could end my career, and I'm not at a point where that's an option, I'd have nowhere to go, no source of income. Like what do I do? I feel helpless, and despite the fact that after that friend took his own life I swore I'd never inflict that same pain on the ones I care about, I can't help but wish I could. How did you manage cause at this point I'm desperate for a course of action before I totally lose it
@@Aurora-Hex if you are still active GET IT ON RECORD!!
Not to yell but it’s a very hard battle with the VA if you cannot prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that any event happened, be it PTSD or a physical injury.
The VA is disgusting.
I just came home from the “psych ward” yesterday.
They were doing their absolute best to push Suboxone on me.
Ignoring my obvious fairly major injuries I have, not giving me any kind of pain meds but treat me like a junky.
I had to really go off on them before they finally stopped.
Sorry to say but don’t expect much from the VA, especially without a fight.
Good luck I hope you find the peace you deserve.
I have CPTSD and I am afraid of every mental health professional because they didn't believe me that I was abused
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The reframing of abuse as “have you considered they weren’t trying to hurt you?” by-possibly- well-intentioned, but poorly trained, and very uneducated, medical professionals can be absolutely infuriating when experienced by emotionally destroyed and exhausted victims. We are already confused, and going through a process of self blame and shame as it is. Reframing an experience that has been scary, confusing, and harmful as potentially positive just so we can ‘think positively’ to make everyone outside of us feel more comfortable, I guess, isn’t what victims or survivors of abuse need.
Medical professionals contributed to my traumas. I have big problems getting the health care I need because of them. Many medics are abusive. It's awful.
Love to you.
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@@callmekerrigan What you said about making others outside of ourselves comfortable...That resonates with me so much. Very well articulated.
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I’m so happy you used car accidents as an example. I’ve been told to just get over for years. It goes away but when you get told “oh I know what that’s like I got rear ended once” yes you had issues. I 100% understand you don’t mean to be insensitive. That day the fear of losing my mother, pets, life, and new home were horrible. Even after the accident, physical and mental issues follow me. Hell typing this im getting back pain. So that rear ending in a car you had, that you fixed in a quick trip to the mechanic is different. Not one is worse, but they are different and so I how everyone handles it. So thank you for doing car accidents and showing what can happen from it. It’s either brushed off or “oh I’ve done that I know what it’s like”
I feel exactly like the person shown in this video! Whenever my friends or my family mension a vocation or trip in the car, I start to feel very anxious and even sick. I am still learning how to calm myself down and overcome the fear of being in the car, but I feel like I just can’t controll the stress and I even cancel events. Thank you for showing this to me! I feel less confused about my fear now and I don’t feel that alone.
"It. Will. Be. Ok."
guys stay strong
also I realized that what I thought was traditional PTSD was actually CPTSD oop
we all learn sometimes and thank you to everyone and Psych2Go for spreading awareness and support for so many people.
Have a beautiful day you amazing people!
Enjoy the summer solstice!
(I smell a pun somewhere but I can't exactly find it)
You are probably correct about what PTSD is. The video has the definition completely wrong, which is upsetting me.
@@theveryfirstlostgirl4593 can you elaborate?
@@hmmmmmnmmmmmm I wrote several paragraphs explaining in a direct comment on the vid; if you can’t find it lmk and I’ll copy/paste here
yup!
@@Psych2go Eww, you can´t even correct yourself?
The hidden phrase was “ it will be okay”!
No more trauma 😞
There isnt help for us. We just have to exist with it. The treatment doesnt work. Its horrble. I dont think i can go on any longer. I just want God to come and bring me Home 😮💨😔😪
I hear you brother or sister
Same, I want out of here asap. I've asked for help from God and he turns a deaf ear
Unfortunately there are no gods. Primitive superstitions have never solved anything.Look towards nature for help,if you love the natural world It will love you right back.😎
Me 2
I’ve had PTSD now for 5 years. I feel trapped. I can’t trust anyone, I fear being in a vulnerable position. I hate being touched, being approached too quickly and I’m constantly checking doors and windows/ people around me to try and judge their intentions and behaviours. I’ve mentally given up. 😢
This makes so much sense. I've always wondered why I did this. I feel better having something that actually explains my issues correctly
This helped me a lot. I was originally diagnosed with PTSD and then it got changed to CPTSD and watching this video helped explain the difference. It also helps me understand why my friends and family with PTSD fail to understand my struggles.
Never wanted to admit I have C-PTSD, but most of my symptoms involved being R’ed by a ex-friend of mine. They put me through months of sexual abuse and my reason for not leaving right away was because I was already used to abuse. I grew up with my biological dad abusing my mom, my first bf pressured me into unprotected sex, and emotionally abused me to the point I wanted to off myself.
I recovered for the most part from being R’ed while drunk, but my biological dad still makes me feel betrayed. Most importantly, I’m still reminding myself that I’m safe from my first bf now
you are a wonderful and strong person who deserves the best in life, I hope you'll find your peace and happiness, I'm very proud of you for not giving up on you.
take care
Look up ☝️☝️that handle, he’s got the best tips and helps. I’ve microdosed shrooms for about 6 months now and it has really helped my CPTSD, anxiety and depression and I’ll recommend it for anyone.🙏🏻🙏
I've lost my son's father his 2 cousins a close friend of mines and suffer from domestic abuse also my mother attempted suicide during the pandemic from fear.... I needed to hear this.....I definitely need help and be evaluated....I've been so depressed lately....thanks for sharing I know I'm not alone...peace and love to everyone ❤️🙏🏻🌹
Hey i hope you're doing good!
Reading your comment made me feel really sorry for you and i wish the best 'cause you totally deserves it💗
@@otamatone4741 thank you hunnie peace and love to you 🙏🏻❤️🌹
Glad you’re staying strong up to this day. Wishing you the best and hoping you can find the peace and closure from everything you’re going through 🙏🏾
@@LifeandtimesofJ thank you blessings to you ❤️🙏🏻😌
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I have CPTSD and disassociative disorder. Caused by childhood abuse, bullying, and domestic abuse.
My family victim shamed me, called me toxic, unstable and disowned me. Despite their own behaviour perpetuated the abuse.
Others dont comprehend the challenges people with CPTSD have
My dog died a year ago and if a memory pops up I start feeling sad but not always cry. I cry more easily and sometimes I just cry and I don't even know why. And because of you, I started to understand more about myself. Thank you for all of these videos. You are the best and I feel like we will be the bestest friends even on earth. Again, thank you.
Love, Hedge-Draw 🦔
I found the hidden phrase! "It will be ok"
I have C-PTSD from narcissistic abuse and I'm trying to learn how to be more compassionate towards myself and acknowledge the impact the abuse has had on me, as well as other trauma related to the pandemic and other triggering things that all happened around the same time, which was right around the same time that I became an adult and was expected to know what to do with my life and be self-sufficient but currently lack the capacity to do because of my current mental/psychological state. I feel like people don't understand how my trauma still lingers or try to cancel my emotions by telling me that I shouldn't be feeling the way I do because my abuser's gone now, or that I'm using my abuser as an excuse to feel or act a certain way
I can relate. I haven't been diagnosed to be fair. I have a lot of difficulty asking for help. Your comment made me feel like I wasn't alone. Thank you.
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I do shrooms to help with my issues as well. Golden teacher is one strain I haven't tried but heard good things about it.
I can relate too
You described how my life is. I live with c-ptsd, form multiple traumatic situations. But I don’t have so much off memory flashbacks, but more of emotional flashbacks. So everyday things can trigger me into the fear, stress and dread feeling I had at the time of some of the trauma happened. And I struggle a lot with sensory triggers and overloads, it can be really hard to be around people sometimes. But even if things are really hard, I try to except myself for needing time to heal, and I know it’s not my fault.
Similar here. My things are fight or flight then toxic shame for about 1.5 weeks. My spirals are long.
I have emotional flashbacks when I show Vulnerable emotions to my parents. It makes me Panic and feel like something is wrong and I don't know why
I have ADHD and suspected cptsd due to undiagnosed til 30 and previous sexual traumas. It's hard to differentiate between the two, but for sure learning more about cptsd as noticing it more ♥️ and as anybody working through in it in therapy.
Despite anything, I hope just like myself we learn to pull through our triggers, become our own safe space and hopefully find some form of home in others ♥️♥️.
Thank you for this video, it's validating and informative and a reminder of the reality of what happens x x
I constantly am on alert but rarely engage in violent behavior. However, if I'm messed with I'll react the same, whether lover, friend, or family.
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i was diagnosed with CPTSD and decided to see what was in this video...for me personally' every single one of these was spot on and i have them all...
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THANK YOU for talking about Complex PTSD. It gets so forgotten - most of my videos are about this.
This makes sense. I’ve had numerous traumatic experiences over time that just keep going. It’s been 20yrs since the last event and it effects me every single day still.
Yikes, I may have this.
Was sexually assaulted at a young age and saw a loved one die right in front of me mixed with being constantly bullied.
I’m not sharing my triggers because I will break down in a panic attack if I think of them.
But yeah, my therapist has seen the trauma take a huge effect of my life.
So uh, yeah.
I feel everything in this video at a personal level.
It’s just the norm.
I’m just a stranger on the Internet, but your comment made me want to cry. I wish I could give you a hug. Be proud of yourself for seeking help and bring brave enough to tally about your past traumas. God bless, and take care
Jeez and I thought mine wus bad
Yeah that definitely sounds like a recipe for complex PTSD. I have sevrel tramas myself and it's really effected me. I'll sometimes completely shut down from it
I was diagnosed with C-PTSD several years ago. When I was reading up on it. I found that it is common with childhood trauma. My childhood was not a lot different than yours, and I would recommend that you seek some professional help. I have found that therapy has helped me recognize what was going on with me and help me with strategies in dealing with it. Don't feel that you are alone, because I can tell you that you aren't. I read statistics about 10 years ago that said that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 6 men were sexually assaulted before the age of 18, and they felt that the male numbers were really under reported. The hardest part is the first steps of getting help and starting the process, and I feel so much better now that I have been working on me for the last several years. I wish for you the best in your journey.
you shouldn't publicly list your triggers. I am glad you have found help !!
I love watching your channel, your voice is so calming, and I've realized things that I never would have before
What a smooth and gentle voice... Really calming.
0:00 intro
1:26 1、Frequent feelings of trauma
2:24 2、 Difficulty controlling your emotions
3:11 3、Were you saying something?
4:08 4、 Physical symptoms when reminded of past trauma
4:55 5、 Avoiding your trauma triggers
5:43 outro
*WHAT*
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Ni hao
@@TheShadow14150 😊
"It will be ok " the phrase 🩵🫶🏻
I suffered from true PTSD a few years ago. With treatment and help I’ve over come most of the triggers I had. I’ve had recent traumatic experiences from a narcissistic relationship, and have been diagnosed with c-ptsd.
Learning about it is good for me to know how I can move forward. Because the triggers are different and the initial reaction is different
I got aware and I was suspicious about these signs. Thank you very very much for your wonderful channel.❤❤
THIS IS SO HELPFUL!!
I'm 99% sure I'm juggling both cptsd and ptsd. I've been in a lot of executive shutdown and can't get myself back to working my business effectively. But my autonomy right now is very low, and I'm dealing with chronic physical pain too. I just don't know what to do because my therapist triggered me hard too, and I can't word right to them. I just want to be safe again. Thank you for this video. Much love yall.
Hi! Sounds like a lot is going on. I hope you find peace and comfort from within you, that’s what matters.
Not sure if you were looking for comfort or suggestions. So, I’ll share what’s helped me?
I went through 3 traumas in one week and also felt I lost my autonomy and motivation to do my business. I drank, self destructed ect for longer than I’m proud to admit.
Recently I hit a turnigg by point and it was all based in self love. I learned about affirmations that I can do things.
My best metaphor is thinking that negative influence is like a parasite living inside of me. It’s eating my potential and if I feed it h the parasite will take over. This goes for toxic habits like drinking or plying games on my phone to dissociate from reality or negative relationships that enable these behaviors ect. Starve that parasite, I hope you can love yourself and feel ok soon!
One last thought- sometimes I ask myself if I were my own kid what parental advice would I tell them? Defiantly not to drink my pins away, rather self love, take a walk, draw a picture or talk ect.
Hope this helps. Felt the urge in my heart to specifically comment on yours. I never comment on UA-cam so this is rare and comes from a soft place in my heart. Much love.
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Thank you for sharing
@@sarahkesler5894 oh! Thank you very much for sharing this with me, and I do hope things have been improving for ypu lately. I was sharing for the sake of doing so, but I am working toward a safe way to get going again. Been doing physical therapy, and working on the safety thing, but there's a lot of moving parts. Trying to get myself through assessments soon so at least I can know what is and isn't going on internally. The toxicity around me definitely does affect things that is for sure agree. I gotta be careful and patient at the moment. I really appreciate you commenting to me, wishin you the best too.
@@Psych2go ah np, thank you for your channel, it is essential stuff!
It's ok not to be ok .
You are loved and always will be loved
❤ I love you my daughter ❤
The lost of parents, and enslaved in my own family, like the fact I was told not to say no and have no rights to my own as they claim I was helpless and never able to help myself, feels like drowning in the ocean which seems to effects me for a bit and still effects a lot so I have my animals as service ones, which helps my stress. But knowing how much others neglected me when I needed help, I feel nothing a lot just so it don't hurt but I space into time stressing from which makes my ears ring with hurt coming for 20 to 50 seconds which is why it's hard to sleep and make me scream.
After struggling with my mental health for most of my teen and adult life (I’m in my 30’s now), I think I’ve come to realize that I have c-ptsd stemming from my childhood. I was born with a birth defect, making it very difficult for me to speak properly. No one except for my mom could really understand me. I had surgery to correct my birth defect, and I can talk normally now but the whole medical surgery and learning to properly communicate later in my childhood life really left a deeper impact in me than I thought! I am terribly frightened of anything medical related (especially my teeth/mouth, which I have recurring nightmares about) I was also diagnosed being on the autism spectrum, and I suffer from health anxiety and of course depression. I stay in my bedroom a lot and I can’t do much without my mom’s help. I depend on her a lot, even as an adult because subconsciously I don’t think I can handle/being understood without her with me. I’m seeing a new psychologist soon to discuss this with them! I hope to put the final missing piece together.
I was diagnosed as having C-PTSD last month. I already "knew" it, but it was a relief to get that validation. Trying to set up EMDR sessions to see if that will help, but I don't think I'll ever feel or be the person I once was. It's wild how it can make you feel as if all or a majority of you has just disappeared or died. Feels like you're trying to live with a stranger in a body that used to belong to your former self.
You will never be the person you once were unfortunately. You can try stuff like age regression or healthy coping mechanisms but you will truely never return to what you were before hand.
I have had dissociation problems and I feel your pain about feeling like you aren't real or out of your body. Also just remeber that there are a bunch of therapies to use for a complex issue like complex ptsd and I belive a mixture of every kind of therapy would be beneficial just to know what will work best for you.
Just remeber to stay true to yourself ❤️
i was diagnosed with CPTSD but mine is a lot different then seen in these videos. CPTSD has caused me to.. not really remember my traumatic events. my trauma was over years of suffering and confusion as a kid. i don’t remember ANYTHING as a kid, and if i do it’s things that caused me overwhelming joy. my doctor said this is because my brain is blocking out those memories so i don’t have a chance to remember them and start an episode. so i still have these memories but there all clouded and i can’t remember them at the moment. that is until something exactly like the traumatic thing happened. then i’ll get a flashback. i’ll remember the memory instantly and i’ll start to feel every emotion i did when i was a kid. makes me feel very childish in the moment as they are very kid feelings but they are horrifying to experience. so if you don’t remember literally anything from your childhood it might also be a sign of CPTSD
The same happened to me, even tho I slowly started to recall everything! You might have dissociative amnesia :)
I'm going to have to look more into disassociative amnesia. Cause after a certain point I couldn't remember anything about my childhood.
I feel like I experience both ends of the spectrum, blocked out memories and full on ptsd flashbacks. Thank you for sharing this. You have helped me put out the words I couldn't figure it myself
@@user-ng8gm9pb4v thank you for this, i’ll look into it more as that sounds a LOT like me and i might have been misdiagnosed.. i’m definitely curious on this now, i’ll talk to my therapist about it as well!
this example hit me hard.
I got in my first crash getting on a highway exit and ever since then, I have had to avoid highways at all costs. Just the thought of getting on a highway en route to where I have to be is very overwhelming. One time, my roommate asked me to bring him Subway while he was at work and I missed the usual turn I take to his work. The next thing I knew the only other way to his work was on a highway. the entire time I was on the highway for the next three exits I was in a state of panic. hyperventilating, feeling like at any second the car would lose control, and it didn't make it easier for me with it raining. I finally got off the highway and just as I was taking the left at the light and I saw his work, I realized, in my panicked state, I was on the wrong side of the road and there was a blocker preventing me to get back on the right side of the road. I just kept crying and saying out loud, "I'm sorry! I'm sorry! I'm sorry!" while making sure I was driving as far left as I could so traffic could go around me.
Not too much time later I finally made the turn to the parking lot of his work, parked, and cried for another 5 min. and after I thought I was done and got control again, I entered the store to deliver his food. only for him to ask me if I was okay, making me immediately start uncontrollably crying again.
I deployed to the middle east 2 years ago and didn't see combat but I still haven't felt the same since leaving. It's a very strange feeling even though I know plenty that had it much worse than me. Not sure if I have CPTSD or anything of the sort but this video is pretty relatable. Everyone keep your heads up and keep it pushing, you got this!
It's hard to control your emotions where others around you aren't either.
Hey,
Thanks for bringing up this topic.
I'd like to recommend Pete Walker's book about cPTSD. He talks about physical flashbacks that may occur besides emotional flashbacks. Was a huge eye-opener for me!
These would be “somatic flashbacks”. I experience these often… I’ll feel the physical pain or other sensations that occurred during a trauma. If it happens by itself, it’s hard for me to recognize I’m having this type of flashback. If I have an “emotional flashback”, or series of flashbacks in combination with the physical pain or sensations (i.e. somatic flashbacks)…? It’s a BIT easier to recognize I’m having one than without the emotional context.
I was finally diagnosed 3 years back. Leaving a long narcisstic marriage only to be hit head first with working the pandemic in healthcare had left me with all these symptoms and more. Intense counseling has been a life saver.
Thank you for showing me the differences between PTSD and C-PTSD. I wasn't knowing what makes them different from each other.
For myself back when I was 3-7 I was ignored, isolated, and degraded by teachers and students. Eventually there was a time when the teachers themselves would strangle me, lock me in the principals office or yell at me for certain things. This lead to me having an intense trigger of anyone touching my neck, my friends have done it sometimes as a joke. This lead to me grabbing and clawing at their hand until they stopped, mostly ending in me completely freaked out and torn up skin. These days I have realized I do need professional help, it’s not easy since alone with this I have 9 other disorders (maybe more)
This is the first time I ve been able to do this, I was bullied at school x my home life was chaotic. I used to escape by switching off to have a teacher asking me a question so I would quickly have to work out what wad going on first, it even affected my speech.
56 and still not quite climbed that mountain.
Thank you all for sharing x making me realise I m not on my own ❤
Thank you for sharing
Wonderful video. Learned a lot!
It will b ok. Thank you so much I have been struggling to figure out me and my symptoms. I appreciate it completely
These signs apply just as well to PTSD without the C. The difference between the two is that PTSD is caused by one or few events whereas CPTSD is formed over a longer period, such as over one's childhood.
You confused PTSD and CPTSD.
Complex PTSD is not triggered by a car accident. It is caused by repeated cycles of trauma during childhood such as abandonment, neglect, abuse (physical or psychological).
Missed opportunity to explain.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. Your feedback helps us improve our further scripts. If we were to talk about CPTSD in future videos, it might be a better idea to use prolonged childhood trauma as an example in the video. We will keep that in mind.
[EDIT] To clarify, it doesn't HAVE to be since childhood. While repetitive trauma can take its toll on the individual which causes more severe emotional response, any other traumatic experiences can potentially cause these CPTSD symptoms to manifest too.
@@Psych2go The vast majority of CPTSD experiences are from childhood. Indeed the ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences Survey) is recognised as the premier measures available to the wider public.
@@Psych2go I left 12 years of physical and psychological abuse every day all day for 12 years, I have high level cptsd, I cant even work. Age was 30-42 years old. I never had no problem in my childhood, I was happy child. It is not truth what he say. YOU are right. Trauma can happen at any age.
Thank for sharing! Valuable information! TLC ❤
thank you psych2go! i have extreme ptsd with screaming and yelling. i originally thought it was traditional ptsd, but after watching this video and consulting with a therapist, it came out that it's complex. thank you so much for this :)
"It Will Be Ok"
#Psych2Go I like this video. I myself have CPTSD from being bullied from Gr. 1 - Gr. 11. Please do a video on trauma and non-epiletic seizures. Not alot of people know about it and I myself suffer from it every once in awhile due to past childhood trauma. I'm sure educating more people about it will raise awareness about it! Thanks for all you do!!
Thank you for sharing
Thank you for making the difference between PTSD and CPDSD. Too many people are diagnosed with PTSD so I don't usually give a crap I was as well. There are young people out there who feel very confused and I think this is very educational so thank you 🧡
This video is extremely inaccurate and confuses PTSD with acute stress disorder. C-PTSD has additional symptoms that aren’t touched on in this video-they’re just describing PTSD.
I was diagnosed with C-PTSD yesterday. I’ve been in two very toxic relationships before, one of which was with a narcissist. But three months ago I broke up with my boyfriend who cheated on me with a prostitute 1 month after I had his baby via emergency c-section.
It’s been 3 months with therapy, yet sometimes flashbacks happen that feel like I’m back to the day he told me or back on the OR table.
EMDR has been helping tremendously! Videos like this go a long way as well because now I can research how to help myself outside of therapy.
To anyone experiencing this kind of PTSD, this won’t last forever. Every day is an opportunity to heal. You are loved, you deserve happiness. It gets better ♥️
For myself it was a series of traumatic deaths, each alone was damaging but recoverable.
I had depression and anxiety issues for many years but was "coping"
The sudden passing of my remaining parent and only elder figure I had left changed things.
Its like it linked everything together so each traumatic memory reinforced the others.
Four years on and I can't say if anything has changed in a positive way. A car accident would be easier to explain to people rather than a 30 year story summarised as, "everyone around me seems to die or leave"
Such is life?
Take care yourself . I have notice when i have share my pain with others that has help me a lot. I hope that you find strength to carry on with your life.
What a coincidence, I was actually just doing sum curiosity-research on cPTSD and then you guys happened to do a video on it-! I hope to talk to my therapist about these symptoms sometime cuz I happen to have quite a few of them =(
All my life i never really felt like i knew myself even when i thought i did and this feeling got especially worse around when i was about 13 because i made a huge life changing mistake i can never take back and i’ve been in a spiral since.
These videos though make me feel like i can get a little closer to understanding who i am and why i am the way that i am and nothing i say or do can express my gratitude
I suffer from ptsd.. and every day does get somewhat better, other days, ill cry.. and lose hope, like today, it was raining when i had a flashback.. i bawled my eyes out.. looks up said "im sorry.." and an unbelievable event occured.. the rain stopped and the sun came out, to anyone suffering, it really will be okay, if you don't think so, i understand, but i Believe in you, keep your head up, please
I’ve been bullied for over 10 years, wished death upon by a teacher and abused by a therapist.
I relate to all of these traits and it’s somewhat very hard to live in the world
C has destroyed my life. Pointers there pointers here pointers everywhere.
“I will be ok” is the hidden phrase, and I am planning to have family watch this cuz it explains it so well.
My old therapist diagnosed me with this and I find it sad because I haven't told her anything about my actual life. I just talk a little about how I feel about everyday life being a never-ending loop of old horrible memories replaying themselves , mental and physical. how the days seem to drag on going nowhere but to the destruction of my own mind. It got to the point where everyone I have ever know broke my trust and now I'm trying to learn that I am not my trauma
I FINALLY got someone to listen to me and diagnose my PTSD. I've always known I had CPTSD but unfortunately it's not "officially" a separate dx yet, so I just have a PTSD dx. I hate to use the word bullying because of the judgements around it being "normal". I was severely physically abused and mentally tortured by my peers for 13 straight years of public school and either ignored or blamed by the adults tasked with caring for me. Unfortunately, avoiding my triggers means avoiding people, which has turned me into an agoraphobic mess because people are EVERYWHERE. Unfortunately extended isolation has made me realize that I'm actually an extrovert (or at least an ambivert) and having no social life was killing me. I'm trying to get better at going out, but it's hard since there isn't any real help for me. Anti anxiety meds are sedatives and even at the lowest dose, I immediately need to sleep. This makes it necessary to leave immediately and go home. I need help being able to manage an anxiety attack and STAY out. I can run away from anxiety on my own without meds.
The ICD-11 is officially recognized since January and has CPTSD in it.
@@AMK650 Unfortunately the DSM-5 doesn't recognize it. Veterans Affairs in the US recognizes it though, so I guess it's a step in the right direction.
@@KaitLynnHt That is really sad. I sorry for you.
@@KaitLynnHt you and I should try to do that and get a psychologist from that area
Also the WHO has recognized Complex PTSD as its own Dx
What is someone has C-PTSD and keeps coming back to the triggers on purpose
If the trigger is a person, then theres probably some attachment issues there, but honestly idk
An emotional masochist
Your phrase is "it will be ok"....
And as someone who probably has CPTSD... thank you for making it more obvious that people just don't understand. Thank you.