the DARK side of being a flight attendant | former singapore airlines cabin crew

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  • in this video, I am sharing my take on the darker aspects of flying as a flight attendant, based on my time working as a flight stewardess with Singapore Airlines (SIA/SQ).
    the purpose of this video is to share insights (from my perspective of course) that are not commonly known, especially for those outside the industry. the goal is to help you understand the ins and outs of the flying life.
    I hope you find this video useful! please give it a thumbs up and consider subscribing to follow along :) x thanks for being here!
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    00:00 intro
    01:13 point one
    03:57 point two
    05:10 point three
    06:45 point four
    07:44 point five
    09:02 point six
    10:04 recap
    10:30 question for you :)
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 139

  • @reezevlog
    @reezevlog 3 місяці тому +17

    i once witnessed a senior female crew having a go at a junior female FA in the galley (i was in First Class of a 747 Malaysia Airline, flight from LA to KL via Taipei).. i was just waking up, n over heard the quarell (as my seat was at the back,near the galley). then i paged n asked for some water, the junior came n can tell she had watery eyes, but still managed to put a smile. she took my order n gave me my water. after we touched down n taxi at Taipei airport, before i left while waiting for the dooor to open, i told her (in front of her senior), “ dont stop smilling, coz u have a very beautiful face and a beautiful heart”…. i saw the senior’s face like black even though she was smilling n i ignored her when she said “thank u see u again”… that senior has an attitude problem, cannot be an example to the juniors. this was back in 2003….

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  3 місяці тому +3

      thanks for sharing! that sounds terrible but it was really sweet of you to offer some positivity and words of encouragement :) honestly, I can only imagine how things must have been way worse back then vs now...

    • @zulhilmi9685
      @zulhilmi9685 5 днів тому

      You should write ✍️ proper compliment letter to MAS management to support her.
      That evil 😠 supervisor should be ashamed. 😊

  • @lucaenglishteacher4059
    @lucaenglishteacher4059 2 місяці тому +7

    Former flight attendant here (20 years) … you’re SO accurate in your description of the job!
    I’m impressed! 😬 xx

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  2 місяці тому +1

      OMG 20 years?! which airline did you work for if you’re open to sharing? I hope you did enjoy the perks of the job despite the downsides that come with it. yes, a lot of people seems to echo the sentiment, which is unfortunate…

    • @lucaenglishteacher4059
      @lucaenglishteacher4059 2 місяці тому

      @@febbylyan 😂 can you believe it? And I’m still alive! It was British Airways (Heathrow base). Very fun at first, but unbearably challenging in my final years. 🙂

  • @MICPG9
    @MICPG9 4 місяці тому +15

    Hi
    Febby
    I am a F/A my biggest surprise for me was despite all the travel, all the people you get to meet and all the things you get to see and do, it can be a very lonely life
    Thank You 🙏

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  4 місяці тому

      hi! I appreciate you sharing your thoughts and I can relate to what you said. being surrounded by so many people yet still feeling lonely is a tough one to navigate 😥 wishing you safe travels always :)

  • @mriz7258
    @mriz7258 5 місяців тому +18

    Now I finally understand why so many cabin crew resigned from their jobs. Like legit my place has a lot of ex Cabin Crew working here.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому +1

      I see - ya I'm sure everyone has their own reasons but I think a lot of what I talk about is a pretty universal experience unfortunately

  • @Summeramennnnn
    @Summeramennnnn 5 місяців тому +20

    your story is amazing ! bullying in workplace is not acceptable, I hope you are stronger now and have a good mental health :)

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому +2

      I am glad you found this useful! thanks for the kind words and well wishes :)

  • @ninetosixhuman
    @ninetosixhuman 5 місяців тому +30

    You’re such a good public speaker, the way you tell your story is way too much different to others. Best of luck in your next journey.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому

      thank you SO much for your kind words and well wishes! I pay a lot of attention to my storytelling, so I am glad you found it engaging :)

    • @alyonapetrova694
      @alyonapetrova694 4 місяці тому +1

      Yes, I concur. Your delivery of the English language keeps me captivated. You’re missing your calling. Have you considered moving to the USA? Multi-National corporations would be dying to get you on board with them.

    • @CLXH
      @CLXH 3 місяці тому

      The purpose was you remembered for life the lessons learnt on your that second flight. That's why you can still tell your story today. It toughened you up for your future challenges in life. It shouldn't be classified as a dark episode. Personally, I have had a worse experience working as an intern in the construction industry full of rough and tough men. I faced Gordan Ramseys everywhere and everyday. I saw past 'bullying' for the invaluable trade lessons learnt from those experienced and hardworking men.

    • @vbrandi7928
      @vbrandi7928 3 місяці тому +1

      You have a very analytical perspective which I haven’t seen from other UA-camrs. Enjoyed your comments and feel you will be very successful in your professional life

  • @davidchan5424
    @davidchan5424 5 місяців тому +6

    Tq tq for these great info. Appreciate your frank approach and did not "sugar-coat" any issues raised . Congratulations to pursuing your MBA.Best regards from David, Kampar,Perak.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому

      thank you so much David! I appreciate the kind words and I am so glad you found this video informative :)

  • @duomax100
    @duomax100 3 місяці тому

    Thanks for the sharing. 😮, i felt surprised listened from your story regarding SQ.

  • @ryankrishnanboongkannanmbs7791
    @ryankrishnanboongkannanmbs7791 5 місяців тому +3

    Nice microphone and you sound so soothing talking about flight attendant life

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому

      my mic is pretty good yes! and I appreciate the kind words :) hope you enjoyed this video!

  • @Sensational_one
    @Sensational_one 4 місяці тому +11

    I came across your video today and I have to say well said. I was an ex crew member as well from that same particular airline. I’m usually very vocal I would say and I if I do see some form of bullying I would usually help my fss out no matter what the rank. But what I’ll never forget was, a flight where I was dead tired and I had to arrange the carts in the galley, and a senior crew member saw me all tired and said this exact words. ‘ my name, do you regret not studying hard enough’ at that moment I was like what… and I was so pissed. I’m not gonna reveal my education qualifications here but when I went back to the other galley the other stewardesses saw that anger in my face , and asked what happened and felt disgusted. Well jokes on him, I’m a pilot today. 👍🏼

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  4 місяці тому +1

      oh my... that's so uncalled for, but I am not surprised 🫠 kudos to you for working your way to where you are today! that's amazing - safe travels always :)

    • @serenelim1957
      @serenelim1957 Місяць тому +1

      Am disgusted too reading this , what an asshole seriously to insult people like this , I was on a flight I heard a stewardess telling a steward off I was like wth 🤦🏼‍♀️

  • @gerardgilmartin4394
    @gerardgilmartin4394 7 днів тому

    It saddens me to learn this, I really enjoyed my journey from the UK to Australia with Singapore Airlines.I think Many of the things you highlight are common in any job to be fair.I hope and pray for your colleagues injured in the recent incident.Best wishes x

  • @flyingkr7
    @flyingkr7 3 дні тому

    As a one of ex middle east major airline crew. I totally agree about your opinion. As I heard SQ has strict seniority that most of asia airlines have. My previous airline has black lists for those crew that bully many junior crew. Actually, they think thay are empowered when they become supervisor. My previous airline also has reporting system which has been misusing and crew can report each other. But there are still some nice supervisors exist.
    From my perspective, airlines which has high reputation has more pressures to maintain the high rank about the service and quality. My ex airline ceo always wants to get best airline award but SQ always took it as I heard.

  • @amodernpoet
    @amodernpoet 3 місяці тому +1

    SIA and it's pilots/flight attendants are seen as a symbol of Singapore...interesting to hear about the experience of someone who has worked in the company....thank you for sharing and wish you well 🙏🏼

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  3 місяці тому +1

      I would agree that SIA crew definitely is part of the country’s branding. thanks for watching and the well wishes :)

  • @alyonapetrova694
    @alyonapetrova694 4 місяці тому

    In NYC, several crew members told me SQ pays for a building in the East Village for ALL SQ crew once they land/layover. Is that correct?

  • @intanjuwita21
    @intanjuwita21 5 місяців тому +4

    Will this be the new series of the dark side of crew lyfe?? More tea please.. You looked more relaxed talking to us❤

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому

      oh that might be cool - let me think about it :) and I'm glad it came across that way!

  • @henryshen5445
    @henryshen5445 3 місяці тому +1

    I work in the airline industry. In my previous job, I was managing the airline call center in SG, and wow, we hire really good-looking call consultants. The supervisor said, "yeah, most of them were ex-cabin crew." What I realised most of cabin crew couldn't find a proper job after decided to come on the ground, and some had to settle for call center.

  • @joannepereira6143
    @joannepereira6143 3 дні тому

    Yes, 20 years ago I was an Sq crew and I was zapped.. I only flew for 2 years and I left. Not to mention night stops where stewards tried on the stewardess.. it is horrible

  • @rikokojima
    @rikokojima 4 місяці тому +1

    Your experience reminds me so much of my trainee days at a major hospital

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  4 місяці тому

      oh no … I didn’t know this would happen in the healthcare industry as well. did you go through the training in SG as well?

  • @AhmadAfifIsa
    @AhmadAfifIsa 4 місяці тому +1

    I kind of believe whatever that you are saying exists at every industry, every organisations. Although I don't condone such behaviour, but I also believe that we need to brace with it and adapt. thank you for sharing.

  • @fahminorazman2186
    @fahminorazman2186 4 місяці тому

    I done my medical check up on november 2023, until now i still waiting for SQ to call me up .. what should i do ?

  • @ymtoh7350
    @ymtoh7350 5 місяців тому +7

    Ironically the things you said you were encouraged to do in your MBA class at the exact things you are meant to do as part of good CRM. Witness the number of fatal accidents that occurred when a junior member knew something was not right but failed to speak up because of the culture of “whatever the senior person says goes”. From a human factors standpoint that is extremely dangerous.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому +1

      I’d say “what the senior says goes” would be applicable to the daily non-life threatening situations. when it comes to potentially fatal accidents, that's a different story. goal would always be to help address the situation. sadly most of the time, if the issue doesn't impact others, the injured crew members themselves choose to keep quiet cuz they don’t want to be grounded and take a pay cut.
      overall, agreed with you that everyone needs to feel safe to speak up regardless of how big or small the situation is. thanks for watching!

  • @Joeyt24
    @Joeyt24 5 місяців тому +1

    Love your new haircut 😍

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому

      lol I knew it! thanks girlie ❤

  • @jkt7774
    @jkt7774 13 днів тому

    After graduated from the Uni, i really wanted to work as air crew to see the world before i work in the normal corporate world (or work as management trainee at some airlines) I applied to Garuda Indonesia, SQ, Emirates, Lufthansa, KLM, Air France, to name a view. I got rejected from all of airlines that i applied for ( and keep all the rejected letters until today). I was so sad, but so grateful now to learn about the culture in an airline industry could be that toxic. And i realized later that it was not my path in life, instead i was accepted as management trainee in an oil company, then have a change to travel around the world as passenger in business class for more than 20 years now. So yeah, i learned not to be discouraged, there are other pathways that suit us better.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 днів тому

      thank you for sharing your story! honestly, it is so true... many times, rejection is redirection to better things. I am glad you found a path that suits you better and in the end, you still got to travel the world, but as a business class passenger, which is even better!

  • @hbsgroup
    @hbsgroup 5 місяців тому

    Hi Febby. Did you manage to take the jump seat for Takeoff &/or Landing on your SNY flights?

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому +1

      I did actually! I sat in the cockpit for takeoff/landing on my first SNY flight :)

    • @hbsgroup
      @hbsgroup 5 місяців тому

      @@febbylyan 100 ... check, V1, Rotation, Positive climb, Gear up. /
      Approaching minimum, Minimum, .... 100, 50, 30 .10 ..., Retard, Retard.

  • @4bl250
    @4bl250 5 місяців тому +1

    Hello there, thank you for this video !! my boyfriend is currently now in training. I really2 hope that it wont change him and our dynamic cus just by the observation, it drained tf outta him. Can you share your opinions on those crews who are in rs and the culture of mile high club ? is that a real thing here :/ thank you !

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому +1

      I am glad you found this useful! I think for this one it all depends on the individual and how they honour their own commitment. I've heard (and seen) both good and bad things. I personally was already in a relationship before I started flying. now, a couple years after I quit, we are still together :)

  • @trainattendant5810
    @trainattendant5810 14 днів тому

    I'm a train attendant in the USA aboard long haul passenger trains. All of your points I have personally been subjected to. The bullying, gaslighting, gossip, physically & emotionally demanding work load! Another dark reality I will chime in is the absolutely un supportive management/supervisors. We are just a number to the company. Virtually zero appreciation & recognition for what we do.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 днів тому

      OMG I am so sorry to hear... I wasn't aware and it makes me wonder if these issues are somewhat common in the service industry. I hope you are holding up well and taking care of yourself!

  • @gosikh
    @gosikh 3 місяці тому +2

    Great honest video.
    Was married to a FA. It is one of the most underpaid jobs in the planet

    • @rajendran8202
      @rajendran8202 Місяць тому

      True, sadly in our current world, people in senior management only care about lining their own pockets more rather than sharing more of the profits with their employees on the ground. When profits are low, staff are cut off or bonuses removed, but when profits skyrocket, management pockets more shares and bonuses.

  • @Liza-mn2vc
    @Liza-mn2vc 4 місяці тому +1

    One thing I noticed during my cabin crew interview in Mumbai Indian that was HR team was good no doubt but they were very particular and only chose the girls who were skinny mind you they were okay to select girls who were low on bmi was they were skinny but still didn’t select girls who looked medium size or little chubby even though they were extremely healthy and were under bmi requirements. So yaa with my own first hand experience i can singapore airlines is one the airline promoting extreme beauty standards.

  • @wazx8420
    @wazx8420 5 місяців тому

    Hi, may I know why you waited for 7 months until you went for the training and what process made it longer for your training to start?

    • @wazx8420
      @wazx8420 5 місяців тому

      And can you please make a video about the paid please is it a good paid job or not i’m joining soon , thank you .

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому +1

      hi! it’s because I had to do some follow-ups for my first medical check up. as for the pay, let me think about it - not sure how much meat there is on this topic. perhaps you can google to get a ballpark and see if it’s in line with your expectations? also, all the best!

  • @kernow9324
    @kernow9324 4 місяці тому +3

    I remember being shocked by the way a Singapore Airlines stewardess spoke to me. She was serving coffee and I tried twice to take the cup off the tray she was holding, not realising that she had to give the cup to me. She snapped at me and kept moving the tray away. I get it, she was trying to minimise the risk of me being burned by hot coffee, but her manner wasn't good at all. Out of all the stewardesses in the economy cabin that flight, she was the least smiley. She didn't seem happy to be there. I don't know if she was in training, but she changed my opinion of Singapore Girls.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  4 місяці тому +2

      I am sorry to hear… I hope the next time round you travel with the airline, you’ll have a better experience!

  • @Pandaeyedninja
    @Pandaeyedninja Місяць тому

    It’s not just SIA, my brother works as an engineer for SIA Engineering, they have the same toxic culture, when he first started, he got bullied by his seniors. Good thing he pushed through and has been with them for over 8 years.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  Місяць тому +1

      that's great that your bro managed to make lemonade out of lemons - kudos to him! I can imagine how tough it must have been when he just started out

    • @Pandaeyedninja
      @Pandaeyedninja Місяць тому

      @@febbylyan yes indeed! Yeah he almost wanted to quit at one time, luckily he had us to support him haha.

  • @Potomacstud
    @Potomacstud 5 місяців тому

    Thank you , i appreciate your video
    Crew members put on smiling face lol

  • @khairulazan6310
    @khairulazan6310 3 місяці тому

    I always dream to become a cabin crew, and currently i am working as a Customer Service Representative for 4 years and still counting in Airlines. When i was junior 20 years old, I remember i was crying because i failed about 2 times for XX Product Knowledge. My senior keep bulying me like I need to be fast, I need to remember this & that, write that, been asked and get scold when I cannot answer the question. Now I finally became a senior, and I dont do that to people because I knew how hard it is to be felt when I was young in Airline Industry. Im not saying im strict, but I teach people well those who really show effort to learn. Reading your journey as Ex- Cabin crew, sometimes this might be the answer why God still not give me my dream job. But anyway, I believe, everyone have different journey, different characters, and lets however be nice to people around. Thanks, I give you like for the video.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  3 місяці тому

      thanks for sharing your journey. it's great that you were able to help break the negative cycle and took others' bad behaviour as an example of what NOT to be. the workplace needs more people like you :) all the best to you as well!

  • @Aisha_Nasrin
    @Aisha_Nasrin 8 днів тому

    How long did you stay with SIA?

  • @sngs9565
    @sngs9565 5 місяців тому +9

    Bullying happens in most service industry, especially in Hospitality industries such as Hotels, Restaurants and also, airlines! Terrible things! Karma is watching!

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому

      you made a good point! it’s unfortunate that it’s normalized 😞

  • @rg5806
    @rg5806 3 місяці тому +1

    Asian passengers rate the flight attendant job similar to waiter / waiteress & does not visualize the pressures on the job to take care of the passengers . I being a frequent flier can immediately figure out a new & an experinecd flight attendant by the intial responses.

  • @yiyifan
    @yiyifan 5 місяців тому +2

    my colleague was also a SIA flight attendant, she also said senior crew bully junior crew......

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому

      ugh ya... it's so unfortunate that it is something experienced by many others

  • @OG21020
    @OG21020 3 місяці тому +3

    I don't know about point one. It sounds more like impatience than bullying. If she kept picking / referring to your mistakes, using hurtful words / actions etc every time she saw you, then that is bullying.
    I remember when I was in Pri 2, the teacher asked me to fold some papers because I was in the front row and close to her. My family hardly use English (this was back in the 70s). It was always Hokkien so I had not the slightest idea what the heck was "fold the papers". I sat there dumb and didn't move. Seeing that I didn't do anything, the teacher yelled impatiently. "Fold! Fold! Like this! You understand or not? Simple thing like folding." She then pushed the papers to my desk mate and told her to do it.
    No prizes for guessing how I felt then. I didn't cry though.

    • @mishallemon3847
      @mishallemon3847 Місяць тому

      I don't think you get to decide what bullying means for someone though 😬😬 getting berated by a senior just because you handed them a drink from your hands instead of offering the whole tray kind of sounds like needless picking to me.. which is bullying 🤷‍♀️

  • @Laksh13
    @Laksh13 4 місяці тому

    Do they provide accommodation and cab during duty?

    • @marvelerth6168
      @marvelerth6168 2 місяці тому

      SIA will never give a accomodation to their cabin crew unlike the middle eastern five star airlines, SIA do not care about their employees. You will see when you travel with SQ, when you look at the cabin crew, you will see stress and unhappiness on their faces in spite of smiling at you, totally different that the vibes you got from Emirates, Qatar and Etihad cabin crew. SIA cabin crew wear the fake smile. Based on my experiences.

  • @michaelbgn13
    @michaelbgn13 Місяць тому

    I can agree on every single point except point number 5, there is a reason why airlines in asia mostly in top 10 of world’s best cabin crew. Because those stunt you mentioned really matter. Especially for asian people.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  Місяць тому

      thanks for watching! I think you made a good point and you are right. it does make a difference to a certain extent

  • @jeon.recitals2576
    @jeon.recitals2576 5 місяців тому

    Hey Febby. Love this video. Is it TRUE that only fair skin people have chances to be a cabin crew at Singapore airlines??

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому

      hey! thanks for watching this video :) i don’t think so - they may have policies around race/nationality, but not necessarily skin colours

  • @freeagent8225
    @freeagent8225 3 місяці тому

    Why should people tell us if we don't ask?

  • @ridzwanwahid5424
    @ridzwanwahid5424 3 місяці тому

    Same goes with MAS.

  • @KokoKrunchs
    @KokoKrunchs 3 місяці тому

    I didnt know there are so much bullying in this industry.😮 On april 2024, i will do my very first training as flight attendant. Omg now im worried tbh

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  3 місяці тому

      which airline are you joining? I think cultures will vary depending on which airline you are joining. that said, I'm sure you will learn how to navigate the environment and tackle any challenge that comes your way :) all the best with your training!

    • @KokoKrunchs
      @KokoKrunchs 3 місяці тому

      @@febbylyan it’s Jetstar airline. Thank you for the encouragement :)

  • @Schrottkralle
    @Schrottkralle 4 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for this insight into the work culture of SIA.
    As a former flight attendant with Lufthansa German Airlines I am a little shocked how deeply Asian mentality impacts the way of how to interact with each other.
    I was a senior myself for many decades, but our company's culture was entirely different. We always appreciated the fresh input juniors can provide, new ideas of the juniors combined with the senior's experience, that is Lufthansa's cabin crew policy. And we all had to work 'according to the book', seniors and juniors alike.
    Another example: if I was granted a trip to Singapore (many flight hours, popular destination, longer rest time after returning home) I requested for January, and if I requested the same trip again next month, but a junior did not get that trip in January, the junior would be next in February.
    And btw.: the uniforms are all the same, except for the pursers, they have more stripes on the sleeves of their uniform.
    After 33 years of working as a flight attendant with Lufthansa, now I am enjoying my retirement and look back to all the pros and cons, not entirely without sentimentality 🙂😢

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  4 місяці тому

      thank you for sharing - this is so insightful and helps me learn about the culture in other airlines. I am glad to hear you enjoyed your time with Lufthansa and are now enjoying your retirement :) honestly, 33 years of flying sounds like an incredible ride!

  • @Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG
    @Callsign-Blade_RunnerSG 5 місяців тому +3

    Personally I observed that Workplace Bullying seemed to be the Norm in Singapore’s work environments. Not just in the Airlines.
    Doesn’t help that the Unions there are basically for window dressings or simply just another COVERT HR department representing the companies’ interests instead.
    Alot of toxic work environment over there with no authentic protection for employees.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому +1

      OMG that is so unfortunate... it sounds like this might be more common in the unionized environment? I do hope it's not the norm across workplaces!

  • @user-cq9oh7db4w
    @user-cq9oh7db4w 5 місяців тому

    Now Do you do SQ crew?

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому

      I left before COVID - if that's what you are asking :)

  • @wrd980
    @wrd980 3 місяці тому

    It didn’t sound so dark to me. All these points you would have known already very soon on either applying or training for the job. However your thumbnail is good click bait.

  • @yeowchongong5608
    @yeowchongong5608 5 місяців тому +3

    No wonder SQ service not that great anymore

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому +1

      sorry to hear your experience with the airline wasn't that great. I honestly think what I experience had been going on for a while - I hope the work environment has improved

  • @melsdesignerdiaries
    @melsdesignerdiaries 4 місяці тому +1

    Probably that senior who yelled at you got bullied when she was a junior so she's just taking her revenge now when she's in the same position. Disgusting behaviour. If I knew a sia stewardess was like that I would complain to the sq and not want to be served by this type of horrible person.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  4 місяці тому

      that is a valid assumption. I think that is also how this kind of behaviour is bred and normalized 🫠

  • @dbsfun2923
    @dbsfun2923 5 місяців тому

    Hi Febby 🙋
    I hope you are doing well.
    I got the video interview opportunity on Singapore Airlines.
    Could you please tell us the social media policy of the airline.
    I have a youtube channel where I post my art videos and daily lifestyle.
    Can we do vlogging along with the Cabin Crew job in Singapore Airlines??

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому

      hey! I know SQ is pretty strict when it comes to posting on social media while you are in uniform, but I don't remember the entire policy in detail. I think it will be stated in your contract when you receive an offer to join the company. good luck with your interview :)

    • @dbsfun2923
      @dbsfun2923 5 місяців тому

      @@febbylyan Thanks for sharing.
      I am not interested in posting videos in uniform of SIA. I just want to make art vlogs regarding my art and lifestyle.
      Is it allowed if someone does vlogging in their personal life apart from serving the company?

  • @patrickchun1558
    @patrickchun1558 5 місяців тому

    Great storytelling! I volunteer for an NGO called 'World Civility Index' helping young people to have better "people skills". Your firsthand experience would be a great addition to what this group does.

  • @whyh
    @whyh 3 місяці тому

    What you'd describe is common in any company run by Singaporeans.

  • @reneecollin8825
    @reneecollin8825 Місяць тому

    I'm so sorry that you had to exp the bullying & foolishness - you seem like a nice young woman. I was an FA for 12 yrs with a major (U.S.) carrier, and I witnessed alot of crap! So after 12 yrs, I resigned and went back to school and got my Masters in healthcare - nest decision ever. Although I loved (and still do) Aviation, I do NOT miss the ignorance, scheduling, the $$ or lack of, and the competitiveness - smh. I'd take an "irate" pax anyday, than work with some of my crew mates.. Not everyone was awful - I've met very nice /cool folks, and I've seen alot of cool places! It was a wonderful experience, but I wouldn't do it again!! and I would recommend every young woman or man, to just do your research , and don't just want the job because of the "glamour". Take care & best wishes 🌸.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  Місяць тому +1

      thanks for sharing your experience and well-balanced perspective. I echo the sentiment. also, it sounds like there are some similarities in our trajectory which I find fascinating! all the best to you as well ✨

    • @reneecollin8825
      @reneecollin8825 Місяць тому

      @@febbylyan I know right !😊 what a coincidence !

  • @g_ia
    @g_ia 5 місяців тому

    Totally unrelated .. but girl your skin is glowing ❤
    What's the secret

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому +1

      aw thank you so much! honestly, nothing special lol I am just generally pretty good with my cleansing and basic skincare routine. maybe I'll make a video about it one day in case it might be helpful :)

  • @praystation
    @praystation Місяць тому

    Id have fought the bully right on. Right then and there. Id make a commotion to let the bully know I will not be bullied/ take it lying down. There are right and not right ways to be an example / to mentor your fellow coworkers. You handed her the drink from the standpoint of one coworker to another. If she wanted to be a client then be a client and stop pretending to be a flight attendant. Id have raised hell to the point of that plane requiring to land somewhere as emergency landing. Id have made headlines as IDGAF. I do not give a f*ck. Come mess with me and find out. I work at SFO airport and I was bullied by the Security / TSA agent and I argued with the guy in front of all to see. He tried that again another time and I got him reprimanded.

  • @josephyeo6966
    @josephyeo6966 3 місяці тому

    Disgusting. SIA tolerates bullying. This is really bad Karma and sounds like toxic culture. Having said that, a smart organisation will see your value in good HR management. The point I am making here is even big organisations like SIA failed to realise that HR managers should be sensitive and alert to these issues and make corrections before it becomes toxic.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  3 місяці тому

      unfortunately, I feel like some of these cultures have already been ingrained for decades so they are normalized. I am hopeful that with more and more of the younger generation who is typically more outspoken joining the workforce, things would somehow improve for the better eventually

  • @Evolutiontweaked
    @Evolutiontweaked Місяць тому

    Toxic people ruin the whole dynamics of a good team she needs to be fired. She needs to work in a profession that not team oriented

  • @dankoneko
    @dankoneko 2 місяці тому

    Bullying and seniority system in this video surprised me because I thought those do exist only in Japan and Singapore Airlines is the company more open and westernized organization ...

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  2 місяці тому +1

      I am not sure what the culture is like in Japanese airlines but I’ve heard similar stories from people working for other huge Asian airlines, so I am guessing the cultures might be similar

  • @ManlyHK1
    @ManlyHK1 3 місяці тому

    When you gossip about other passengers make sure someone is not recording lol 😂

  • @user-pg5up4go5h
    @user-pg5up4go5h 4 місяці тому

    I think the most hurt part for newly joined crew members are from senior crew members’ bully 😂

    • @Livinginthephils65
      @Livinginthephils65 4 місяці тому

      Lack of Emotional Maturity... Sadly, many adults haven't mastered this and it all boils down to being sensitive towards one another.

  • @brentoy
    @brentoy 16 днів тому

    ~ Blue is very submissive; Green sucks-up to Red, Red sucks-up to Purple, BUT Purple has fun with Blue, (in my experience).
    It's imperative for Juniors (all crew really) to keep account (evidence/witnesses) with full-names and d.o.b of any crew who bullies them!
    Although it is encouraged, typically, unfortunately not many crew report bullying due to "lack of time", "waste of time" and being scared. 🙄
    🔥I/WE ALL KNOW WHAT HAPPENS BEHIND THE CURTAINS!!! 🤡
    ***TIP*** if you see a senior roll-up to control with an amount of Rimowa, and carrying an LV 'Keepall 45/50', KEEP AWAY FROM THEM!!!☠

  • @rajendran8202
    @rajendran8202 Місяць тому

    I was expecting something specific to the Flight Attendant job itself, but most of the points you mentioned (with the exception of the physical demands) are generic things that people would encounter at just about any workplace. And given that the things you mentioned are very human-centric.. it'll be unique to each individual's experiences.. when you title it as "the DARK side of being a flight attendant" it's misleading, like you're speaking on behalf of the entire airline industry. It would be better if you titled it something along the lines of your own experiences as a flight attendant 🤔

  • @ellykwan444
    @ellykwan444 5 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @firdausazaliabuhassan6970
    @firdausazaliabuhassan6970 3 місяці тому +1

    and the work as cabin crew will never get as many praises, appreciation or as good enough. This constant nagging puts us and forces our mind to work in the cabin galley as basic rank flight attendants until we retire just so as to be appreciated . We cant expand our mind and knowledge if we are bombardment with these sort of nagging endlessly, non - stop. Please correct me if I am wrong @febbylyan

  • @blinoldluv
    @blinoldluv 5 місяців тому +1

    How about the free sex life among the flight attendants and the pilots?

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  5 місяців тому +2

      I think because of the work environment, having flings and affairs become easier than in other industries so these do exist, but at the end of the day, it's a personal choice and there are definitely many folks who honour their relationships and do not play the game

    • @blinoldluv
      @blinoldluv 5 місяців тому +1

      @@febbylyanWhat environtment? You please those pilots but you put down yourselves at the same time. What have you got from them? They don't want you. They just need sex and that's very disrespectful.
      My close friend who used to be a flight attendant said, having sex with pilots were so so very common among them.

  • @primeartifacts6467
    @primeartifacts6467 5 місяців тому

    It’s amazing how you have masked the Canadian accent

  • @Humorousguy64
    @Humorousguy64 4 місяці тому

    Well.is a job anyway ...finished the contract and go ...for good 😅

  • @simonez9197
    @simonez9197 3 місяці тому

    No bright side?

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  3 місяці тому

      of course there is :) I am a big believer there are always two sides to a coin! I've talked about why one should consider joining the airline which covers the bright side - you can check it out here ua-cam.com/video/GQ6OA8pKMaA/v-deo.html

  • @bennysamuelkoh9463
    @bennysamuelkoh9463 3 місяці тому

    Just for publicity

  • @visittavee7773
    @visittavee7773 3 місяці тому

    Look good but work hard .

  • @sukhdeepsingh7322
    @sukhdeepsingh7322 3 місяці тому

    I know many F/A that love their job. One man meat is another man’s poison. I do agree that somehow we do get home sick. I have notice that cabin crew eating their meals standing in the gallery. Then again whatever happened in Rome stays in Rome. From the passengers point of view we do understand your predicament. I always thanks the crew for the excellent service they provide. Maybe it’s not a job to your liking but there are others that adores the freedom and the lifestyle. The rewards are plenty as a package including high bonus. Think about all the money you have made to be able to study and the exposure to be independent. I wish you well in the cooperate world. Equally stressful and if not more demanding.

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  3 місяці тому +1

      thanks for watching and sharing your perspective! I get what you mean. I am honestly forever grateful for this chapter of my life as it has shaped me into who I am today and helped propel my life forward. these are the downsides as no job is perfect but to your point, there are the upsides as well. I’ve shared about my flying experience from different angles in my other videos - they are in the “flying journey” playlist :)

  • @shiro.maruchizu
    @shiro.maruchizu Місяць тому

    Although it’s somewhat true, just a reminder that point ① zapping doesn’t only happen in SIA. In real world, any industry, any country, when we’re still new, it’s pretty common. I DON’T condone bullying, it’s just that sometimes we “live in a lala land” thinking that everybody is supposed to be nice to us. Any job, there will be good days & bad days. Just enjoy the ride & stay positive. Speaking as ex SIA crew here :)

    • @febbylyan
      @febbylyan  Місяць тому +1

      I get what you mean and I am with you conceptually. that said, before I joined the airline and after I left, I personally have never experienced point 1 to the same extent like I did when I was flying. I think it also has something to do with both the industry & company cultures which dictates what is normalized/acceptable. anyways, hope you are enjoying your time on ground after leaving the airline :)

  • @takanna
    @takanna Місяць тому

    this video is really full of negative vibe and crying for being chided really screams strawberry

    • @mishallemon3847
      @mishallemon3847 Місяць тому

      She is just reminding people to be good and decent human beings to each other because once upon a time we were all new to something. Doesn't give people the excuse to be mean. If bullying is the norm culture then maybe ask yourself why it has to be. You could use a reminder too 😅

  • @paradisekohchangstyle2150
    @paradisekohchangstyle2150 25 днів тому

    Are you American?