To those saying this is more like BPD / Bi-polar Disorder: it shares some similarities, but ADHD is more focused on reactional impulsivity and sensitivity rather than exaggerated, unpredictable ups and downs associated with those other disorders.
At one point my psychiatrist thought I had Bipolar disorder but then realized I had depression and ADHD together. My mood changed quickly but it was from rejection situations.
I have soo much mood swings that I sometimes wonder if I have BPD and not ADHD (or possibly both), but the thing is ... I always have a REASON to feel bad ... I'm never unreasonably sad... its always a reaction to something... but it can be soo extreme... my boyfriend giving me an angry look because because I didn't do the dishes sends me into fantasies about suicide... one hour later and i'm fine ... I got distracted by garden work that needed to be done... like wtf???
Bipolar and borderline are not the same. Both can involve labile mood. Emotional dysregulatjon is a listed symptom in Dyspraxia/DCD too. I was thinking about how you said it was like living in a film and getting philosophical... that's the exact classic words how official talk and Dodie talk about DP/DR (depersonalisation/derealization). Anyway suffice to say that I and I think professionals have struggled to get an idea/take me seriously because I relate to all this. I'm waiting for assessment for autism. Have SpLDs.
I blow up over the smallest things then I get angry at myself for reacting like that and find myself apologising to everyone once I've calmed down and thought about it. Makes me feel so stupid and causes a lot of problems in my life. I'm not a bad person but sometimes I feel like a monster for the stress I put my family through, they always feel like they're walking on eggshells around me which just causes my depression to get worse. I wish I could analyse the situation first as much I analyse everything that hasn't happened yet but the rage is so intense I can't stop it. Sometimes I really hate my life
@@DJSyKoh wow, it feels like you're describing me! It can be so confusing at times. When family members (my mother mainly) have told me they felt like walking on eggshells around me I was SO surprised - I genuinely was completely unaware and couldn't understand why. I still find my emotions very confusing.
Maybe you shouldn't associate with your thoughts and let go of the belief that you're those thoughts... You can try affirmations! Positive affirmations work great! Its all about programming your mind a little bit every day. If you dont work on programming it yourself, it will program itself on its own and you wont be liking the path that it takes. Self mastery is lifes journey.
My dad died and my ex cheated all in the same week November 2017 ..its 2020 and I've found it so hard keeping a job..I've taken a step back to realise I have adhd and that 2017 changed who I was..my ex now has a new guy, all my family moved away and I I havnt moved on from anything really..
I'm horrible about holding grudges. My coworker started an argument with me one morning 3 years ago. We got extremely irate with each other. I felt horrible about it and apologized to him later that day even though I wasn't the one who started the argument. He never apologized to me once and I'm still pissed about that even though we've gotten along just fine ever since the argument ended.
The "you become the music, and it intertwines within your soul" part is... wow. I could never express that intense feeling I got like the notes were running in my veins like adrenaline, and it's exactly that. I never knew this was an ADHD thing
I am glad you connected, I am not ADHD but music is the same. This is why it is a valuable therapy tool. We can also be aware that it can be a negative impact also and we can see that in people who listen to angry, outward action music it tends to pop out in the listeners real life and views. Same with something like K-love which is positive music, even if you ignore the God bit the positive impact on our brains is valuable. What we expose ourselves to greatly impacts our brains.
For me, the worst thing is forever experiencing emotions on a "rollercoaster teenage level" and constantly feeling way too self-absorbed because of being hyper aware of it. I'm 37 now and still feel like the most immature person in every room. If I had had a dollar for every time someone told me to "not get worked up about this"... Glad I found your channel.
I am undiagnosed but I've been researching this past month I am certain I have ADHD. All the stuff you discussed in this video I've been dealing with for as long as I can remember. Thanks for making this video
Sub Titles Same (in between rewinding this video several time because im also in the comments) The cost of an evaluation is the only thing that has kept me from getting one. Ive watched and read countless sources of information on the subject and its crazy how 90% of the symptoms are always relatable and so specific in nature that it’s clear as day that I am. These videos help me feel "normal" .
There are many more of us out here than you think! Welcome to the club 😁 I only self-diagnosed myself just over a week ago but I've already had it confirmed privately by a psychiatrist. Trust your gut instinct - no-one knows you better than you do.
I am in the same boat. I was always told I was too sensitive, a drama queen, that I get overly excited or overly sad at anything... in conclusion, that I am TOO REACTIVE. I never knew there was a name for it all, and that in fact is not me being "dumb" to not figure what's going on, but rather that's part of how my brain functions and is ok to be this way. Because of this, I can remember minutia from when I was around 2yo, because I can recall anything through my emotions (even what a person is wearing based on how it made me feel). I think we have to embrace more ourselves and consider the gifts that also come in addition to these things.
I always feel like I’m living in a movie and the music I listen to is the soundtrack to my life. I get so wrapped up in the lyrics and sounds and just completely dive in to the song. People think I’m so weird for hearing two notes and get so overwhelmed I have to pause the song before continuing. I’ve always been this way so I don’t know how else to be, and tbh I kinda like it.
Yo the "hearing two notes and getting so overwhelmed I have to pause the song before continuing" part really stuck out to me, I thought that only I felt that! Maybe I do have ADHD...but because I'm a younger girl I feel more unsure about the possibility of it idk
I wasn't diagnosed until this year and I'm 35. For a long time I had convinced myself that I wasn't an emotional or empathetic person and I really believed it. But the truth is that I am so sensitive that I learned really young to repress the emotions to protect myself. That gave me social anxiety and panic attacks, which I struggled with for 17 yrs. I was called a drama queen when I was a kid and I guess I really took that personally and felt shame because I didn't want to be seen as weirder than I already felt I was. But I was still a slave to the emotions because the repression was damaging to me. I love how you explained the emotional connection with music or movies. I always wondered why I could spend hours on a road trip looking out the window daydreaming with my music on and feel like I'd just gone through real experiences. Almost like, I was one person that morning and by the end of the day I had been to a different planet and I'm not the same. Makes sense why I get legit hurt feelings when people don't like or understand the same music as me because it feels like a rejection of me. This kind of 'intertwining' you talked about is so real, but it feels like being dramatic so it's hard to admit. I wanted so badly to be a stoic INTP you know? Like somehow that would make me a better person. At times I am still out of touch with my feelings because I'm unfocused. But most of the time, especially now that I take meds for my ADHD, I'm back in touch with them. I don't feel as afraid to feel or show them because I'm in control now. Sorry I wrote a book here, but thanks for the video. This is not talked about enough.
Lucky you..at least you're taking medics for me 44 years old and just trying to understand myself as an ADHD person..all those years of suffering and not understanding the WHY ...good luck 4 u
@@nonatop2481 I just got diagnosed this week and I'm 38. About to start on some meds in a few days so my journey is just beginning. Like you, now that I understand I have adhd suddenly it explains my life.
I feel you on all of this. I have had mild anxiety attacks since i was a kid. Dizzy spells would come over me when I would worry about anything. I was raised by my Dad that crying at every little thing was ridiculous. I have repressed a lot of my emotions at least at the level they would be at. A friend of mine is so concerned at times why I don't cry in front of people. So, he got me to watch an anime that always made me cry in the past. This time it didn't work, I was a little worried myself then. He's still determined to see me shed tears at a movie. Anger and happiness still overwhelm me, and sometimes I feel almost nothing. I do get these random moments where I feel sad and inadequate and my friends will leave me. Strange moments like that. I don't understand it. I'm 23 and I'm still trying to figure this out. ADHD has always been a part of me, but I'm confused about how my mind is changing, because I feel like it's expanding in a weird way. I can feel sensations of excessive thoughts in my head, but I don't always hear or know what they pertain to, but they are forming more like visuals rather than words in my head. Maybe I created a way to cope with the thoughts and visualizing worked? I'm lost on that part. Anyway, you're string for speaking about this and you keep going. I have a feeling you'll influence the world in a very interesting way one day, maybe you already are. Stay awesome.
I do not have ADHD but I am married to someone with ADHD and I work with ADHD. Although it’s challenging, I wouldn’t want to be around anyone else. ADHD can be a gift. Just because the world doesn’t get it. Doesn’t mean you don’t have something special.
Oh my gosh, YES!!!!! Diagnosed at almost 17 (Asperger's) and almost 18 (ADHD), I tried meds a couple different times (once in 4th grade when quasi-unofficially diagnosed with ADD by someone we ended up thinking we couldn't trust, once when officially diagnosed but had to stop them very soon after because they made me unable to sleep, even on micro doses - I remember thinking the effect was like caffeine on steroids, so stimulant to the extreme), but now I'm wondering whether it was a matter of not being on the right med (at the time I didn't know there was more than one ADHD med), so I'm looking to restart and try as many different ones as it takes until we (hopefully) find one that works for me that helps me take advantage of my strengths but still dampens the extreme weaknesses that just work against me (that's just my personal decision - everyone is different). Can't remember what differences I saw when on vs. off (other than the difficulty sleeping the second time - it was just too long ago), but I can totally relate to the alien feeling, especially around a bunch of neurotypicals who have no idea what I'm going through (and who likely never need to know).
If I had this level of control, I'm sure these would help. But I react quicker than thought. I chose solitude instead. Hard to upset people or be rejected by them if you choose to be alone instead.
Sounds like you need more dedication to the practice, it’s taken me 2 years of daily practice to get as self aware as i am today and I’m still learning new things and having moments of reaction but it’s 85% less than it use to. It takes a while to reprogram your brain be gentle with yourself.
@@The_Kirk_Lazarus I read a book called Transcending the levels of consciousness David r Hawkins and I have to say I am a happier person now, I understand why I react a certain way sometimes now
ADHD, borderline personality disorder, C-PTSD, PTSD, anxiety, and depression. Sometimes it can be a living hell. But sometimes there's a feeling of Hope. Occasionally, things are ok. Once in a blue moon, I experience genuine happiness. even if only for a very brief time.....it's important to remember this during the hellish times.
We cherish the positives no matter how small they are because they are so fleeting we can’t let them go. We also find joy in the tiniest things *squeaks dog toy*
OH my god thank you! You are literally saving my life right now. I feel like I come from another fricken planet. No one seems to understand what the heck I'm going through. Now I feel just a bit more normal. At least I know that my symptoms are typical. Thank you a thousand times.
I'm crying right now. I thought me being overly sensitive to like noises oder smells from people I can't stand would be a symptom of my social anxiety and a simple stress response. A few minutes ago a parent told me, I should probably work on that and I thought. It's so good to hear, that it might be just normal for me to react that way Thank you so much!
Could be adhd or asd or both . Personally I’m both ... solved sound by mucians earplugs especially made for me which has exchangable filters for diffrent decibel levels normally wear 15 or 25 ( costs about 250 dollars for a Quick solution swimmers earplugs 15 dollars perhaps but not as good in sound quality at all ) and suddenly I can go to parties, movies, loud cafés and both hear what people say and not be overwhelmed also learning how to lipread has been a thing as people with neuropsyk diagnosisis especially if dyslexic often hear in mono not stereo or get overwhelmed by diffrent sounds in diffrent places which means you hear well enough but the sounds gets mixed up so it’s very stressful to identify what people are actually saying. Ie was really important to learn to lipread ( there are courses on the internet on how to do it) Also get polarizing glasses with anti glare I prefer brown tint but try several they just put them into frame without prescription makes a huge diffrence both in stress but also in focus because one less sense which is screwed up to volume 12 out of 10...so actually turns down the volume on everything.else as well personally I didn’t really realize how much it effected me. For smell I’m extremely taste and smell concious but I’ve made it Work for me so I’ve trained myself to hold chocolate, tea and wine and whisky tastings ( When I was a kid used to when I went past a Very nice perfume boutique guess what people wore ... got pretty good but still can’t stay to long in soap and washing powder isle withou a headache) what you can do for yourself for smell is Change all smelly soap, skin haircare products etc to non scented and if you want to use 1 product at a time which has any smell not more ! makes a supprising amount of diffrence and remove all smelling laundrydetergent and sothener from the clothes. Ps painting, music and walks are really good emotional outlets for me and omega 3 4000 mg to 6000 mg a day plus magnesium citrate 500 has done a lot to help as well to calm things down , get more focus for me as well .
I never stop to comment on videos but dude, you are spot on with this. I turned 34 this year and you're the first person that has ever said anything that makes any sense about this in my entire life. Everyone has always just told me that I'm just fucked up or too intense or too sensitive - this has me chasing extremes all over the map. Thank you.
Best ADHD Channel. I love how you go straight to the point. Thank you for making videos. You don’t know how much you’re helping right now. Such a life changer!
ADHD Management - Yes! Thank you! I really don’t need or want to go through a whole intro on “what is ADHD?” before they ever get to the subject in the video title. No one’s got time for that! 😆
This was so helpful. I'm 31 years old and was never diagnosed but was always called lazy, too sensitive, over reactive, not focused enough. It wasn't till my wife of 5 years told me to start looking into it that I realized I have ADHD. This video was so helpful to me, thank you.
I was diagnosed with ADHD since my teenage, spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.
Ive done shrooms last month in my house. It taught me how severely traumatized I was from alcohol. I healed from many mental traumas from my past and was able to forgive, let go. Shrooms to me is a remedy not a vice. I even felt more refreshed the morning after. So no hangovers. No depression mood for days. No anxiety.I now have a more calm mind
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
It feels good to see that I'm not alone with my ADHD problem of dealing with frustration. I always felt so misunderstood by my parents because for them "ADHD was just making her less attentive in class and it should be FIXED by now because she doesn't need meds to be attentive anymore". So now as an adult, when I get frustrated I manage to walk away from the situation to calm myself but I get this horrible "resting B face" and I get scolded for acting rude because I walk away and say nothing. They never understood how much ADHD affected me beyond just attention problem, but if I try to bring it up, it's seen as an excuse. They continue to make me feel so lonely even to this day by proudly saying to their friends "oh yeah she had no friends growing up" not realizing how much it fucking hurts to be reminded how alone I felt and just brushing it off as if that shit didn't change me forever
35 years of my life Before i realized that i have adhd. The deeper I go, the more I realize that this has affected me in every aspect of my life. Thanks for helping me catch up with myself.
This makes me feel validated 😩 I’ve always felt emotionally unpredictable, and a trigger can result in a spiraling that can last for one hour to several weeks. The trigger usually never warrants the intense reaction I have and previously it made me feel emotionally immature and, quirky frankly, it made me feel crazy lol
You're really opening my eyes - I didn't know a lot of this stuff was a result of the ADHD I feel I have...I just thought my personality kinda sucked (getting annoyed about stuff that doesn't really matter, etc)
I've been confused for the longest time, because even tho emotional sensitivity in relationships and towards happenings in your life, is somewhat talked in the community, i haven't seen mentioned how it can affect your feelings towards other things too, such as art, for example. I've always been very affected by music, movies and series. The feelings I experience while watching/listening become so huge and so overwhelming it's almost like for a moment, that movie or song is now... your life. Almost like my life priorizes things wrong and makes the small things seem like something life altering. Things I enjoy and things I consume touch me so deep and fill my whole life for a while, fill my emotional capacity for a while, and it's very hard to let go on that. I know its WAY easier to experience normal every day feelings than moarn over fictional character's death for a month, but some drama junkie part of my brain also finds it deathly boring. So letting go is not only hard, but I also refuse to do it. Thank you for talkig about this side of the coin, I feel oncen again, a bit more understood. Great video!
Olga Burke You cherish your feelings, your kingdom of emotions, right? I can relate to that *very much* . As far as music is concerned, as well as nature ( their sounds, their visual impressions) - I also dive into them. They are so .... - I cannot find words. They fill my soul. My "hyper"sensitivity, my feeling the love for life of tiny bugs/ creatures like snails* ( and thus avoiding to hurt or step on them), my in a nano second feeling empatically with a crying person as well with happily laughing out loud people, - this is ME and in the recent years I started to say: "I am EMOTIONS on legs" . I n e v e r felt bad about it. * As a child after rain when the rain worms (had to flee the big amount of water in their territory underground and thus ) came up onto the ground or snails were gliding ssslllooowwwlllyyy and graciously, so tender ... with their feelers/ antennae with the eyes on top - I saved them from being trotted on by passers -by.... and even if I cannot pick up all if there are too many- I always continued that. Being ( "hyper")sensitive is t h e BEST in my life. I cry ( I get wet eyes, I mean) with strangers who get wet eyes, I laugh ( in myself, not out loud!) with giggling people, smile when I see happy couples .... WHAT IS T H E VERY SERIOUS, SAD "THING" IS THE STATE ( ecosystem, vanishing big and tiny animals, rainforest areas - due to voracious, greedy , destructive capitalism, making everything into money..) *of our hurt, poisoned, diminished beautiful unique* PLANET. And let us not forget all the thousands and thousands of innocent political, environmental prisoners in DICTATORSHIPS, lonely in their cells, suffering ... T H A T TO BEAR ......... !!! So, - let us n o t forget - also in this CO- SUFFERING ^ - being COLD, or COOL - - - would you really prefer this ?!?!???? Best greetings to our community, from Berlin 🇩🇪
C. BL1986 Yes, things I even remotely like just fill my soul, as you said. I've always had trouble explaining that to others and felt like no one feels the feelings the same way. It always just dives deeper, lights up stronger... "Normal" emotions feel like "nothing" to me, and my therapist often tells me "but clearly you were happy in that situation" and in those moments I go "oh... That's the level you consider actually... happiness?". It's weird, almost like I see a color others can't see, and I'm trying to explain it. I can explain its mixture of this and this color but they never see the actual color, just the colors they can see, next to eachother. And it can be awesome. I mean I see horse galloping or hear the waves of the ocean and I feel... like I'm in balance. Everything feels so peaceful and joyful and simply great. I once pet this young horse that then put it's head on my shoulder, and I, with no ability to hold it, started crying because I simply felt like in that little moment... life just won. Everything felt so worth it and like I was supposed to be here. Everything had purpose and not at the same time and I didn't even care. But as said, sadness, pain, despair, all hurts differently. People often see me as avoidant what it comes to negative feelings, but they don't seem to understand I avoid those for a reason. If I actively put myself in emotional situation, it's straight foward torture. I feel negative feelings SO STRONGLY it aches my body and I can feel the weight of the world just about the smallest mishappenings and whenever something major happens I find myself totally CRUSHED. My brain goes numb, world becomes so chaotic, I'm not able to talk, function or anything, days go by in this weird mist and I find myself screaming to my pillows because I have no idea how to handle this feeling. And all this becomes new reality, new normal. All those feelings fill my brain so much it seems like there is nothing else. And it's been like this ALWAYS. It's the most painful yet beautiful thing in my life. But at least this way; you actually see more beauty in the world and you can, as said, save your own day simply by watching something you love. Emotions easily turn into the whole world for me, but luckily I usually can also save that world
I'm 42 and I've just figured this out. All my life I've known I'm different, and been struggling with this. And like the comment below says, to hear someone else talk about the same issues and feelings I have, helps so much. Especially to finally know I'm not alone and I'm not imagining what I'm going thorough. Thank you so much for these videos, you are helping so many so much.
@Jeff London you are not imagining it and you are most certainly not alone. I've only just found out I have and I'm 38 and suddenly it explains my whole life. My struggle is just as real only now that I'm aware it's like I'm hyper-aware of what I'm experiencing every day and I am feeling overwhelmed. Being aware doesn't make it any easier - in my experience even if you tell people they still won't understand. I'm just hoping that meds will help...
@@tara34952 I’m in the same boat, 8 months later. Well, I’m 43. I have been overwhelmed by the dx even though I was pretty sure in myself what it was. I feel disoriented. Like you were 8 months ago, I am starting meds in a few days. So much hope and fear.
@@Muting_all_advice Well, I tried Elvanse and for the first couple of days it was amazing, but as the days went by I couldn't tell if the meds were working any more or not. So then I tried not taking them for one day just to see, and I felt absolutely awful, so I went back on them again. Basically they really messed me up; I got really weird side-effects including literally losing my appetite entirely (so lost a ton of weight in a short space of time), and the other side effects I experienced I don't really know how describe other than they made me feel kind of stoned? I also had some other bad reaction, like it caused me to have really bad and unpredictable PMT (I don't normally get pmt that badly), and several breakdowns/ crying episodes. So yeah. I stopped taking them! With the agreement of my doctor though. I have not tried anything else so am currently not taking any meds. I don't know where I go from here really. I also take an antidepressant (SSRI) and a mood stabiliser, so any new med I take has to be ok to take alongside them. Please don't let me scare you though because everyone reacts differently to different drugs. (Ps I think Elvanse might be another name for Vyvanse).
It hard when i feel sad but .... there is one thing I found that triggers me out of sad and it is when I need to help someone or I think I need to help someone
I think part of the reason we indulge in emotional responses is because, in a way, it feels good to have your brain focused on just one topic. Like it’s an item to hyperfocus on, and no other random thoughts bumping around distracting you. So we indulge, even though it’s often not healthy and often not productive.
Id been convinced I also had borderline personality disorder and when I was discussing it with my psychiatrist and describing what I felt he literally stopped our session, told me to go read up on RSD, and come back in an hour for the last half of our appointment after reading. I got two sentences into the first article before bursting into tears at reading exactly how I’d always felt and knowing it wasn’t just me. My whole life any time I’d finish saying ANYTHING my brain would be telling me how stupid I was, how no one cared about what I was talking about, that everyone wished I would just shut up and leave already...I wasn’t even discussing those thoughts with him that day, just about my sudden anger Especially at my grandma that would cause me to scream at her but feel awful the second I walked away knowing she didn’t deserve it. Even without a cure knowing the name of something like RSD and that you’re not alone is a huge weight off your chest. And I’d brought it up to my friend who I had just found out also had ADHD and turns out he also had felt the same his whole life and was equally relieved to know there was a name. Thank you for making a video about it this will help so many people, short as it is ❤️
I’ve just been diagnosed ( I’m 27) and finally all becomes clear. I still hate the fact that I have it but I hope someday I can just “embrace” it. I am a lawyer and I feel really unhappy in my job due to the inconveniences of ADHD. These videos are a true help for understanding Many thanks!
dude.... you are so damn good at summarising and simplifying what to me feels too complex to quantify. Thank you so much for this. I daresay I am going to annoy the shit out of everyone I know linking this to them now and making emphatic finger-pointing gestures at myself lol
Thank you 🙏 It puts me in a really hopeless place when my emotions take over in the wrong time, wrong place. When this outbursts happens I have suicidal thoughts over and over. I do everything right, i mean everything. But somehow I have this outbursts 😔 I never learned to express myself.
I just got diagnosed and watched many channels and man evryone of these channels have an amazing sense of humor and a kind of amazing tone to them. I guess all of us have an amazing sense of humor.
I just got diagnosed today. I thought I was on the spectrum due to poor emotional regulation & experiencing everything you explained in this video. Thank you.
I'm a parent of a kid that has ADHD, and I have to say after watching this video it's an eye opener, to know that the meltdowns and everything else you described are so familiar, and to be honest I was super worried that it was due to something else, maybe a different diagnosis but now I know, it is what it is and I will keep doing my best to support and understand my child. Thanks so much for sharing this video and the very helpful tips! 🤗
As a teenager with ADHD, I want to let you know that your child will be very happy to know that you're taking the time to try and understand them. ADHD is a very difficult thing to deal with because the majority of the population considers it to be the "hyperactive little boy" disorder. I was diagnosed when I was 8 (I was lucky; many girls don't get diagnosed until much later), and it took until I was 14 to learn that ADHD effects more than just my attention and my ability to sit still. I was stunned to discover that the reason I can never seem to finish things, even things that I love, is not because I am defective, but because the lack of dopamine in my brain causes me to need frequent changes in stimulation. I was shocked to realize that my procrastination at school is not because I'm lazy, but because my brain is not wired to handle deadlines. My biggest piece of advice for you is that if your child tells you that they can't do something because they don't want to, they might really mean it. Of course they're physically able to do their homework, or to study for the driver's test. But when we aren't interested in something, it's next to impossible to do it. Trust me, we're just as frustrated with it as you might be (in fact, we're probably more frustrated, because it's our life we can't seem to get together). Another thing is that reward/punishment systems aren't always an effective way to manage the above problem. To the ADHD brain, nothing is real but the here and now. We have a skewed concept of time and we have a difficult time registering possible consequences to our actions. It's not real until it's happening. I'd recommend the channel How to ADHD. It's another great channel like this one for information on ADHD.
@@lindseysquire8417 thank you so much for taking the time in replying. I 100% agree with you and will make sure to follow your great advice. All the best to you dear!
It's an uphill fight, but your a better person than most just by having that attitude. Give extra attention around puberty, kuz it's gets wild for a year or 2 , and just try your best to recognize the signs they show before being overwhelmed or overstimulated, like sounds , textures, smells , upset stomachs , moments of rage or other low feelings, but I wish you the best of luck to your and your child.
I haven’t been diagnosed with adhd however for the past few years I have always felt like I have it. I really relate to it. I have been using methods and techniques that people diagnosed with this disorder use to relieve their symptoms. They work! Lately I really feel the need to go to a professional and see if I have it or not. There are things I do that are starting to affect me living a normal life. Just wanted to post this on here to let out some feelings because I have to cut off all friends that aren’t actually my friends. So yeah this year is tough but major healing and growth has been happening. Everythings gonna be okay Kate.
I hate how literally everyone in my life is telling me i dont have add and that im imagining it and then coming to videos like this and relate 100% to the content
I just recently got diagnosed w ADHD and I had no idea this was connected to it. It makes a lot of sense now. Thanks for explaining it so well, helps me feel better :)
If you suffer from this, you can’t imagine how tough it is to deal with someone with this. It’s so draining. I can’t blame those who wants to stay away from an interaction with someone with this.
My god..... I am SO glad I found you. EVERYTHING you described, I go through. I shouted YESSSSS when you said you feel like your life is a movie... I've ALWAYS felt like that but never told anyone. The MUSIC THING... oh my goodness.... this is me completely... I get SO SO SO wrapped up when I hear certain chords, harmonies, even this morning, I was watching someone play a Super Mario song on the piano and I was so blown away I nearly cried. I "over react" to everything, criticism I find really really hard to deal with, always called a "Drama Queen"... I never saw anything wrong with that but it's literally something I've always been called, but thought it was just because I'm loud....... gosh I've gone on so much I need to go back and watch the second half of your video, cos I had to stop and write this as you were talking... otherwise I'd forget..... cos..ADHD. *rolls eyes* ANYWAY... thank you for your amazing content! SUBSCRIBED!
Constant songs just pop into your head out of nowhere however I don’t mind that symptom as an amateur singer, ballroom dancer, and actress who would love to be professional it helps creatively. I used to play piano many years ago can still read music and dabble a bit. Hope to practice more to improve.
This guy is pure gold ... insightful, articulate and a very real human being. His deeply relatable observations are immensely validating and restore lost self-worth at a meaningful level. Suffering drives us to greatness - and ADHD Management is fantastic proof of that. Wales delivering yet again - the country is a literal gold-mine !
I am skeptical about ADHD being a problem with the working memory. I find it much more useful too see it as a result of a hyper creative and intelligent mind and it’s more interesting what’s going on inside rather than what’s going on outside. As for the emotional problem, I find the best ways to get over that is through practice and developing wisdom and finding your own reasonings and ways to “trick yourself” finding supportive people to be around is also a good help.
I come from an era when no one was looking at girls for this AT ALL. I have never known a female who was diagnosed. I was actually looking into this because I'm on mood stabilizers and anti depressants (for yrs now) but still having issues. I want to go back to school and I know I cannot until I address my memory and emotions. I appreciate all the valuable information you give that has cost $. You have helped me understand so much.
Thank you for your channel! This is very useful and great tips for managing emotions. I am 29 and only just starting to understand why I am the way I am. By accident I stumbled on information about inattentive adhd when researching about autism for my daughter who is diagnosed. I relate with all of this . And yes I have been called a Drama queen my whole life , clumsy , a ditzy girl and a Day dreamer, as well as made to feel like a bimbo . I spent a lot of my 20s in tears or very hurt by people easily and feeling inadequate at work. Unfortunately it’s been blamed on female hormones which isn’t helpful really.
Thanks for sharing the tips! When I first read about rsd, it mentioned that you can sometimes feel physical pain from negative emotions. I thought this was a normal thing. On the flip-side, I also feel physical...good things when something good happens.
Giving up on things to quickly has been something I've been tackling. Try to remind myself that something's require a longer period to receive the results. I also try to remind myself of my WHY! Thanks for this video. It's super helpful and educational
bahahha the reaction with the metal music is exactly me my whole life lmao. Thanks for the CBT tips and examples. I've known that I need to do something like that and I actually will work on it now.
Here b/c my biggest problem, still unanswered, is why my emotions can shut me down entirely. If a "bad" emotion hits me, I don't feel like doing anything. It may last for years. Also, I'm insanely worried about rejection from even the smallest thing, like calling my bank about my account balance! I'll put it off rather than engage with the unknown.
Dude! Thank you for tying together emotional disregulation with that awful tendency to get too emotional about movies and that awesome feeling of getting sucked down into a song.
Those puppy dog eyes captured my heart instantly :) But really, even seeing a beautiful dance performance is enough to make me cry, it can stir so much emotion it becomes unbearable, but still beautiful. I feel relieved that it's not just me.
I just discovered this video. I was recently diagnosed and I've realized that I've been struggling with thoughts and emotions that I can't seem to control. This video really helped me feel like I'm not actually crazy, and I'm glad to hear there is a logical explanation for this.
Lack of emotional regulation has affected every part of my life. Thank you for this video, it helps me to understand that I dont have to be a slave to my emotions and with some work I might be able to be less reactive.
To those saying this is more like BPD / Bi-polar Disorder: it shares some similarities, but ADHD is more focused on reactional impulsivity and sensitivity rather than exaggerated, unpredictable ups and downs associated with those other disorders.
At one point my psychiatrist thought I had Bipolar disorder but then realized I had depression and ADHD together. My mood changed quickly but it was from rejection situations.
ADHD is close friends with several other disorders/mental illnesses. Thank you for putting this feeling in words!
Cool thing is when you have both:BPD and ADHD 🙄
I have soo much mood swings that I sometimes wonder if I have BPD and not ADHD (or possibly both), but the thing is ... I always have a REASON to feel bad ... I'm never unreasonably sad... its always a reaction to something... but it can be soo extreme... my boyfriend giving me an angry look because because I didn't do the dishes sends me into fantasies about suicide... one hour later and i'm fine ... I got distracted by garden work that needed to be done... like wtf???
Bipolar and borderline are not the same. Both can involve labile mood. Emotional dysregulatjon is a listed symptom in Dyspraxia/DCD too.
I was thinking about how you said it was like living in a film and getting philosophical... that's the exact classic words how official talk and Dodie talk about DP/DR (depersonalisation/derealization). Anyway suffice to say that I and I think professionals have struggled to get an idea/take me seriously because I relate to all this. I'm waiting for assessment for autism. Have SpLDs.
sometimes adhd makes me feel insane for just the level of anger I feel for myself and the smallest things.
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ugh this!
When I d something wrong I literally feel like throwing something and screaming
I blow up over the smallest things then I get angry at myself for reacting like that and find myself apologising to everyone once I've calmed down and thought about it. Makes me feel so stupid and causes a lot of problems in my life. I'm not a bad person but sometimes I feel like a monster for the stress I put my family through, they always feel like they're walking on eggshells around me which just causes my depression to get worse. I wish I could analyse the situation first as much I analyse everything that hasn't happened yet but the rage is so intense I can't stop it. Sometimes I really hate my life
@@DJSyKoh wow, it feels like you're describing me! It can be so confusing at times. When family members (my mother mainly) have told me they felt like walking on eggshells around me I was SO surprised - I genuinely was completely unaware and couldn't understand why. I still find my emotions very confusing.
Maybe you shouldn't associate with your thoughts and let go of the belief that you're those thoughts... You can try affirmations! Positive affirmations work great! Its all about programming your mind a little bit every day. If you dont work on programming it yourself, it will program itself on its own and you wont be liking the path that it takes. Self mastery is lifes journey.
Hearing someone else talk about what I go through myself makes me feel more "normal", thanks for the videos man
I feel comfortable and a feeling of not being alone
Totally!!!
I agree this one made me cry.
this made me cry
Makes me want to give this guy a big hug!
Having ADHD while being an Empath is one of the hardest emotional experiences to even begin to describe..
Yeah, like you're not on the same emotional "frequency" as everybody else
Being ADHD is a empath! Or at least thats how I feel.
@@vanessaheston6857 Interesting.
@@tristanreynolds5135 actually ppl with ADHD are not. Don't have to agree. It's a fact.
@@vanessaheston6857 well that's good news
What I noticed is not only do I react intensely to small things, I also tend to under-react to actual issues
THIS! And I hear "Wow, you're so calm, I wanna be like that!"
If you only knew...
I find it so hard to let go of things. Even when the event is long passed
My dad died and my ex cheated all in the same week November 2017 ..its 2020 and I've found it so hard keeping a job..I've taken a step back to realise I have adhd and that 2017 changed who I was..my ex now has a new guy, all my family moved away and I I havnt moved on from anything really..
@@danuk2136 I feel you..
@@danuk2136 me too. My life turned upside down and has never been the same since. (From a female in the UK)
@@danuk2136 life will improve soon for you brother, stay strong!
I'm horrible about holding grudges. My coworker started an argument with me one morning 3 years ago. We got extremely irate with each other. I felt horrible about it and apologized to him later that day even though I wasn't the one who started the argument. He never apologized to me once and I'm still pissed about that even though we've gotten along just fine ever since the argument ended.
The "you become the music, and it intertwines within your soul" part is... wow.
I could never express that intense feeling I got like the notes were running in my veins like adrenaline, and it's exactly that.
I never knew this was an ADHD thing
I am glad you connected, I am not ADHD but music is the same. This is why it is a valuable therapy tool. We can also be aware that it can be a negative impact also and we can see that in people who listen to angry, outward action music it tends to pop out in the listeners real life and views. Same with something like K-love which is positive music, even if you ignore the God bit the positive impact on our brains is valuable. What we expose ourselves to greatly impacts our brains.
For me, the worst thing is forever experiencing emotions on a "rollercoaster teenage level" and constantly feeling way too self-absorbed because of being hyper aware of it. I'm 37 now and still feel like the most immature person in every room. If I had had a dollar for every time someone told me to "not get worked up about this"...
Glad I found your channel.
I am undiagnosed but I've been researching this past month I am certain I have ADHD. All the stuff you discussed in this video I've been dealing with for as long as I can remember. Thanks for making this video
Sub Titles Same (in between rewinding this video several time because im also in the comments) The cost of an evaluation is the only thing that has kept me from getting one. Ive watched and read countless sources of information on the subject and its crazy how 90% of the symptoms are always relatable and so specific in nature that it’s clear as day that I am. These videos help me feel "normal" .
There are many more of us out here than you think! Welcome to the club 😁 I only self-diagnosed myself just over a week ago but I've already had it confirmed privately by a psychiatrist. Trust your gut instinct - no-one knows you better than you do.
Same here
Same here
I am in the same boat. I was always told I was too sensitive, a drama queen, that I get overly excited or overly sad at anything... in conclusion, that I am TOO REACTIVE. I never knew there was a name for it all, and that in fact is not me being "dumb" to not figure what's going on, but rather that's part of how my brain functions and is ok to be this way. Because of this, I can remember minutia from when I was around 2yo, because I can recall anything through my emotions (even what a person is wearing based on how it made me feel). I think we have to embrace more ourselves and consider the gifts that also come in addition to these things.
'Analyse the sh1t out of everything' - I LOL'd at that because that's exactly what I do! hahaaaaa (I had no idea it was the ADHD which caused it)
Yep same 😂 i think too much
LMAO i thought analyzing was normal xD
...until my friend told me it's not. She said I tend to overanalyze things.
I couldn't help doing it 😂
I always feel like I’m living in a movie and the music I listen to is the soundtrack to my life. I get so wrapped up in the lyrics and sounds and just completely dive in to the song. People think I’m so weird for hearing two notes and get so overwhelmed I have to pause the song before continuing. I’ve always been this way so I don’t know how else to be, and tbh I kinda like it.
My experience through and through
Yo the "hearing two notes and getting so overwhelmed I have to pause the song before continuing" part really stuck out to me, I thought that only I felt that! Maybe I do have ADHD...but because I'm a younger girl I feel more unsure about the possibility of it idk
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I feel like my life is a movie but it kind of makes it more interesting sometimes I think.
In case nobody has told you recently, you are gorgeous 😅 those cheekbones and dimples 🥰
-sincerely, a stranger you’ll never meet 😂
ADD is exhausting 😩...it's like an emotional roller coaster ride.....that doesn't end !!
I wasn't diagnosed until this year and I'm 35. For a long time I had convinced myself that I wasn't an emotional or empathetic person and I really believed it. But the truth is that I am so sensitive that I learned really young to repress the emotions to protect myself. That gave me social anxiety and panic attacks, which I struggled with for 17 yrs. I was called a drama queen when I was a kid and I guess I really took that personally and felt shame because I didn't want to be seen as weirder than I already felt I was. But I was still a slave to the emotions because the repression was damaging to me. I love how you explained the emotional connection with music or movies. I always wondered why I could spend hours on a road trip looking out the window daydreaming with my music on and feel like I'd just gone through real experiences. Almost like, I was one person that morning and by the end of the day I had been to a different planet and I'm not the same. Makes sense why I get legit hurt feelings when people don't like or understand the same music as me because it feels like a rejection of me. This kind of 'intertwining' you talked about is so real, but it feels like being dramatic so it's hard to admit. I wanted so badly to be a stoic INTP you know? Like somehow that would make me a better person. At times I am still out of touch with my feelings because I'm unfocused. But most of the time, especially now that I take meds for my ADHD, I'm back in touch with them. I don't feel as afraid to feel or show them because I'm in control now. Sorry I wrote a book here, but thanks for the video. This is not talked about enough.
Lucky you..at least you're taking medics for me 44 years old and just trying to understand myself as an ADHD person..all those years of suffering and not understanding the WHY ...good luck 4 u
@@nonatop2481 I just got diagnosed this week and I'm 38. About to start on some meds in a few days so my journey is just beginning. Like you, now that I understand I have adhd suddenly it explains my life.
I feel you on all of this. I have had mild anxiety attacks since i was a kid. Dizzy spells would come over me when I would worry about anything. I was raised by my Dad that crying at every little thing was ridiculous. I have repressed a lot of my emotions at least at the level they would be at. A friend of mine is so concerned at times why I don't cry in front of people. So, he got me to watch an anime that always made me cry in the past. This time it didn't work, I was a little worried myself then. He's still determined to see me shed tears at a movie. Anger and happiness still overwhelm me, and sometimes I feel almost nothing. I do get these random moments where I feel sad and inadequate and my friends will leave me. Strange moments like that. I don't understand it. I'm 23 and I'm still trying to figure this out. ADHD has always been a part of me, but I'm confused about how my mind is changing, because I feel like it's expanding in a weird way. I can feel sensations of excessive thoughts in my head, but I don't always hear or know what they pertain to, but they are forming more like visuals rather than words in my head. Maybe I created a way to cope with the thoughts and visualizing worked? I'm lost on that part. Anyway, you're string for speaking about this and you keep going. I have a feeling you'll influence the world in a very interesting way one day, maybe you already are. Stay awesome.
Same experience with emotions
Damn this describes me perfectly haha
The struggle is real. Mix ADHD with Aspergers. I feel like an alien, like I'm less human than everyone else.
I just have adhd, but I feel like you're probably more human than the normals out there. But ya the struggle is super real.
I do not have ADHD but I am married to someone with ADHD and I work with ADHD. Although it’s challenging, I wouldn’t want to be around anyone else. ADHD can be a gift. Just because the world doesn’t get it. Doesn’t mean you don’t have something special.
Struggling is very human
Oh my gosh, YES!!!!! Diagnosed at almost 17 (Asperger's) and almost 18 (ADHD), I tried meds a couple different times (once in 4th grade when quasi-unofficially diagnosed with ADD by someone we ended up thinking we couldn't trust, once when officially diagnosed but had to stop them very soon after because they made me unable to sleep, even on micro doses - I remember thinking the effect was like caffeine on steroids, so stimulant to the extreme), but now I'm wondering whether it was a matter of not being on the right med (at the time I didn't know there was more than one ADHD med), so I'm looking to restart and try as many different ones as it takes until we (hopefully) find one that works for me that helps me take advantage of my strengths but still dampens the extreme weaknesses that just work against me (that's just my personal decision - everyone is different). Can't remember what differences I saw when on vs. off (other than the difficulty sleeping the second time - it was just too long ago), but I can totally relate to the alien feeling, especially around a bunch of neurotypicals who have no idea what I'm going through (and who likely never need to know).
I have both. Late diagnosed Aspergers 23 and ADHD Inattentive at 40
If I had this level of control, I'm sure these would help.
But I react quicker than thought.
I chose solitude instead.
Hard to upset people or be rejected by them if you choose to be alone instead.
Transcendental meditation has helped me immensely with this.
Sounds like you need more dedication to the practice, it’s taken me 2 years of daily practice to get as self aware as i am today and I’m still learning new things and having moments of reaction but it’s 85% less than it use to. It takes a while to reprogram your brain be gentle with yourself.
That's exactly what I do, I can just avoid a very close relation just not to cause an emotional havoc
And then I feel nobody likes me
@@The_Kirk_Lazarus I read a book called Transcending the levels of consciousness David r Hawkins and I have to say I am a happier person now, I understand why I react a certain way sometimes now
Growth mindset ;0
ADHD, borderline personality disorder, C-PTSD, PTSD, anxiety, and depression. Sometimes it can be a living hell. But sometimes there's a feeling of Hope. Occasionally, things are ok. Once in a blue moon, I experience genuine happiness. even if only for a very brief time.....it's important to remember this during the hellish times.
We cherish the positives no matter how small they are because they are so fleeting we can’t let them go. We also find joy in the tiniest things *squeaks dog toy*
I have a hard time putting my thoughts about what I experience in to words but you’ve just made it all make sense so thank you
Exactly yet you could sing a song or dance to a piece of music that would express your emotions perfectly
At least I find that’s the case I’m a singer, dancer and actress who wants to go professional but isn’t at the moment
OH my god thank you! You are literally saving my life right now. I feel like I come from another fricken planet. No one seems to understand what the heck I'm going through. Now I feel just a bit more normal. At least I know that my symptoms are typical. Thank you a thousand times.
Same here ❤️
literally same. I have always felt like im not from this planet and that is how I was treated especially before I was diagnosed and got meds.
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Same here.
I'm crying right now. I thought me being overly sensitive to like noises oder smells from people I can't stand would be a symptom of my social anxiety and a simple stress response. A few minutes ago a parent told me, I should probably work on that and I thought.
It's so good to hear, that it might be just normal for me to react that way Thank you so much!
You might also want to look at HSP
@@Iaremoosable Thanks. But with HSP is it not usual to be sensitive to everything? Like any too much perfume, loud noises etc?
@@Uhraya No, not necessarily. I think that's Sensory Processing Disorder. HSP's are often sensitive to a few senses.
@@Iaremoosable Oh ok... then I should look into this. Thank you very much!
Could be adhd or asd or both . Personally I’m both ... solved sound by mucians earplugs especially made for me which has exchangable filters for diffrent decibel levels normally wear 15 or 25 ( costs about 250 dollars for a Quick solution swimmers earplugs 15 dollars perhaps but not as good in sound quality at all ) and suddenly I can go to parties, movies, loud cafés and both hear what people say and not be overwhelmed also learning how to lipread has been a thing as people with neuropsyk diagnosisis especially if dyslexic often hear in mono not stereo or get overwhelmed by diffrent sounds in diffrent places which means you hear well enough but the sounds gets mixed up so it’s very stressful to identify what people are actually saying. Ie was really important to learn to lipread ( there are courses on the internet on how to do it) Also get polarizing glasses with anti glare I prefer brown tint but try several they just put them into frame without prescription makes a huge diffrence both in stress but also in focus because one less sense which is screwed up to volume 12 out of 10...so actually turns down the volume on everything.else as well personally I didn’t really realize how much it effected me. For smell I’m extremely taste and smell concious but I’ve made it Work for me so I’ve trained myself to hold chocolate, tea and wine and whisky tastings ( When I was a kid used to when I went past a Very nice perfume boutique guess what people wore ... got pretty good but still can’t stay to long in soap and washing powder isle withou a headache) what you can do for yourself for smell is Change all smelly soap, skin haircare products etc to non scented and if you want to use 1 product at a time which has any smell not more ! makes a supprising amount of diffrence and remove all smelling laundrydetergent and sothener from the clothes. Ps painting, music and walks are really good emotional outlets for me and omega 3 4000 mg to 6000 mg a day plus magnesium citrate 500 has done a lot to help as well to calm things down , get more focus for me as well .
I never stop to comment on videos but dude, you are spot on with this. I turned 34 this year and you're the first person that has ever said anything that makes any sense about this in my entire life. Everyone has always just told me that I'm just fucked up or too intense or too sensitive - this has me chasing extremes all over the map. Thank you.
I'm glad I can help you relate. It's comments like yours that confirm that I'm doing something right and to keep going. Thanks.
"sometimes my life feels as though I'm living in a movie" hit me like a cement truck
Best ADHD Channel. I love how you go straight to the point. Thank you for making videos. You don’t know how much you’re helping right now. Such a life changer!
Thanks! Yep, I get straight to the point because I know that's what us ADHD'ers want/need 😅
ADHD Management - Yes! Thank you! I really don’t need or want to go through a whole intro on “what is ADHD?” before they ever get to the subject in the video title. No one’s got time for that! 😆
Isn't he great!? LOL Honestly this channel is so refreshing and personally validating for many.
This was so helpful. I'm 31 years old and was never diagnosed but was always called lazy, too sensitive, over reactive, not focused enough. It wasn't till my wife of 5 years told me to start looking into it that I realized I have ADHD. This video was so helpful to me, thank you.
I was diagnosed with ADHD since my teenage, spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them.
Ive done shrooms last month in my house. It taught me how severely traumatized I was from alcohol. I healed from many mental traumas from my past and was able to forgive, let go. Shrooms to me is a remedy not a vice. I even felt more refreshed the
morning after. So no hangovers. No
depression mood for days. No anxiety.I now
have a more calm mind
How do i reach out to him? Is he on Instagram
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
“Is this emotion serving me positively?” Wow! That’s powerful. Love it. Thank you. That’s life-changing. Also, “It’s only a feeling...fleeting.”
I'm 23 and was just diagnosed... this explains so much
How do you feel, now that’s been one year since your diagnosis ?
I was diagnosed BPD by a counselor then when I finally saw a psychiatrist he said no, you have adhd. Damn this makes sense now you’ve nailed it all 💯
When you said “slave to my emotions” my jaw dropped. I’ve thought of myself in the exact same way for ages
It feels good to see that I'm not alone with my ADHD problem of dealing with frustration. I always felt so misunderstood by my parents because for them "ADHD was just making her less attentive in class and it should be FIXED by now because she doesn't need meds to be attentive anymore". So now as an adult, when I get frustrated I manage to walk away from the situation to calm myself but I get this horrible "resting B face" and I get scolded for acting rude because I walk away and say nothing. They never understood how much ADHD affected me beyond just attention problem, but if I try to bring it up, it's seen as an excuse. They continue to make me feel so lonely even to this day by proudly saying to their friends "oh yeah she had no friends growing up" not realizing how much it fucking hurts to be reminded how alone I felt and just brushing it off as if that shit didn't change me forever
35 years of my life Before i realized that i have adhd. The deeper I go, the more I realize that this has affected me in every aspect of my life. Thanks for helping me catch up with myself.
This makes me feel validated 😩 I’ve always felt emotionally unpredictable, and a trigger can result in a spiraling that can last for one hour to several weeks. The trigger usually never warrants the intense reaction I have and previously it made me feel emotionally immature and, quirky frankly, it made me feel crazy lol
You're really opening my eyes - I didn't know a lot of this stuff was a result of the ADHD I feel I have...I just thought my personality kinda sucked (getting annoyed about stuff that doesn't really matter, etc)
Emotional disregulation is the most frustrating aspect of adhd for me.
It sucks sometimes, because i feel like I’m a freak, im so happy i can find people and information about ADHD ❤️
Same 💗🙏🏼
Right when I was starting to think I'm just a fucked up person, I realize that I have ADHD at the age of 23. Thank you so much for this.
"I become the music!" What you are saying is EXACTLY what I go through every day!
I've been confused for the longest time, because even tho emotional sensitivity in relationships and towards happenings in your life, is somewhat talked in the community, i haven't seen mentioned how it can affect your feelings towards other things too, such as art, for example.
I've always been very affected by music, movies and series. The feelings I experience while watching/listening become so huge and so overwhelming it's almost like for a moment, that movie or song is now... your life. Almost like my life priorizes things wrong and makes the small things seem like something life altering. Things I enjoy and things I consume touch me so deep and fill my whole life for a while, fill my emotional capacity for a while, and it's very hard to let go on that. I know its WAY easier to experience normal every day feelings than moarn over fictional character's death for a month, but some drama junkie part of my brain also finds it deathly boring. So letting go is not only hard, but I also refuse to do it.
Thank you for talkig about this side of the coin, I feel oncen again, a bit more understood. Great video!
Olga Burke
You cherish your feelings, your kingdom of emotions, right? I can relate to that *very much* .
As far as music is concerned, as well as nature ( their sounds, their visual impressions) - I also dive into them. They are so .... - I cannot find words. They fill my soul.
My "hyper"sensitivity, my feeling the love for life of tiny bugs/ creatures like snails* ( and thus avoiding to hurt or step on them), my in a nano second feeling empatically with a crying person as well with happily laughing out loud people, - this is ME and in the recent years I started to say: "I am EMOTIONS on legs" . I n e v e r felt bad about it.
* As a child after rain when the rain worms (had to flee the big amount of water in their territory underground and thus ) came up onto the ground or snails were gliding ssslllooowwwlllyyy and graciously, so tender ... with their feelers/ antennae with the eyes on top - I saved them from being trotted on by passers -by.... and even if I cannot pick up all if there are too many- I always continued that.
Being ( "hyper")sensitive is t h e BEST in my life. I cry ( I get wet eyes, I mean) with strangers who get wet eyes, I laugh ( in myself, not out loud!) with giggling people, smile when I see happy couples ....
WHAT IS T H E VERY SERIOUS, SAD "THING" IS THE STATE ( ecosystem, vanishing big and tiny animals, rainforest areas - due to voracious, greedy , destructive capitalism, making everything into money..) *of our hurt, poisoned, diminished beautiful unique* PLANET.
And let us not forget all the thousands and thousands of innocent political, environmental prisoners in DICTATORSHIPS, lonely in their cells, suffering ...
T H A T TO BEAR ......... !!!
So, - let us n o t forget - also in this CO- SUFFERING ^ - being COLD, or COOL - - - would you really prefer this ?!?!????
Best greetings to our community, from Berlin 🇩🇪
C. BL1986 Yes, things I even remotely like just fill my soul, as you said. I've always had trouble explaining that to others and felt like no one feels the feelings the same way. It always just dives deeper, lights up stronger... "Normal" emotions feel like "nothing" to me, and my therapist often tells me "but clearly you were happy in that situation" and in those moments I go "oh... That's the level you consider actually... happiness?". It's weird, almost like I see a color others can't see, and I'm trying to explain it. I can explain its mixture of this and this color but they never see the actual color, just the colors they can see, next to eachother.
And it can be awesome. I mean I see horse galloping or hear the waves of the ocean and I feel... like I'm in balance. Everything feels so peaceful and joyful and simply great. I once pet this young horse that then put it's head on my shoulder, and I, with no ability to hold it, started crying because I simply felt like in that little moment... life just won. Everything felt so worth it and like I was supposed to be here. Everything had purpose and not at the same time and I didn't even care.
But as said, sadness, pain, despair, all hurts differently. People often see me as avoidant what it comes to negative feelings, but they don't seem to understand I avoid those for a reason. If I actively put myself in emotional situation, it's straight foward torture. I feel negative feelings SO STRONGLY it aches my body and I can feel the weight of the world just about the smallest mishappenings and whenever something major happens I find myself totally CRUSHED. My brain goes numb, world becomes so chaotic, I'm not able to talk, function or anything, days go by in this weird mist and I find myself screaming to my pillows because I have no idea how to handle this feeling. And all this becomes new reality, new normal. All those feelings fill my brain so much it seems like there is nothing else. And it's been like this ALWAYS.
It's the most painful yet beautiful thing in my life. But at least this way; you actually see more beauty in the world and you can, as said, save your own day simply by watching something you love. Emotions easily turn into the whole world for me, but luckily I usually can also save that world
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I'm 42 and I've just figured this out. All my life I've known I'm different, and been struggling with this. And like the comment below says, to hear someone else talk about the same issues and feelings I have, helps so much. Especially to finally know I'm not alone and I'm not imagining what I'm going thorough. Thank you so much for these videos, you are helping so many so much.
@Jeff London you are not imagining it and you are most certainly not alone. I've only just found out I have and I'm 38 and suddenly it explains my whole life. My struggle is just as real only now that I'm aware it's like I'm hyper-aware of what I'm experiencing every day and I am feeling overwhelmed. Being aware doesn't make it any easier - in my experience even if you tell people they still won't understand. I'm just hoping that meds will help...
@@tara34952 I’m in the same boat, 8 months later. Well, I’m 43. I have been overwhelmed by the dx even though I was pretty sure in myself what it was. I feel disoriented. Like you were 8 months ago, I am starting meds in a few days. So much hope and fear.
@@Muting_all_advice Will you keep us updated on your progress?
@@tara34952 Thank you, yes. Did your meds help?
@@Muting_all_advice Well, I tried Elvanse and for the first couple of days it was amazing, but as the days went by I couldn't tell if the meds were working any more or not. So then I tried not taking them for one day just to see, and I felt absolutely awful, so I went back on them again. Basically they really messed me up; I got really weird side-effects including literally losing my appetite entirely (so lost a ton of weight in a short space of time), and the other side effects I experienced I don't really know how describe other than they made me feel kind of stoned? I also had some other bad reaction, like it caused me to have really bad and unpredictable PMT (I don't normally get pmt that badly), and several breakdowns/ crying episodes.
So yeah. I stopped taking them! With the agreement of my doctor though.
I have not tried anything else so am currently not taking any meds. I don't know where I go from here really. I also take an antidepressant (SSRI) and a mood stabiliser, so any new med I take has to be ok to take alongside them.
Please don't let me scare you though because everyone reacts differently to different drugs. (Ps I think Elvanse might be another name for Vyvanse).
I feel emotionally dysregulated listening to you describe the past 40 years of my life. Actual tears😭
It hard when i feel sad but .... there is one thing I found that triggers me out of sad and it is when I need to help someone or I think I need to help someone
I love that. Me too
@@DrLoNoel That sounds like we need to help a lot jjajaj but help ourselves more than anything
that's wonderful
I think part of the reason we indulge in emotional responses is because, in a way, it feels good to have your brain focused on just one topic. Like it’s an item to hyperfocus on, and no other random thoughts bumping around distracting you. So we indulge, even though it’s often not healthy and often not productive.
Almost lost everything but I'm aware what's wrong now and I'm fixing it 🙌
Good attitude 👍
Id been convinced I also had borderline personality disorder and when I was discussing it with my psychiatrist and describing what I felt he literally stopped our session, told me to go read up on RSD, and come back in an hour for the last half of our appointment after reading. I got two sentences into the first article before bursting into tears at reading exactly how I’d always felt and knowing it wasn’t just me. My whole life any time I’d finish saying ANYTHING my brain would be telling me how stupid I was, how no one cared about what I was talking about, that everyone wished I would just shut up and leave already...I wasn’t even discussing those thoughts with him that day, just about my sudden anger Especially at my grandma that would cause me to scream at her but feel awful the second I walked away knowing she didn’t deserve it. Even without a cure knowing the name of something like RSD and that you’re not alone is a huge weight off your chest. And I’d brought it up to my friend who I had just found out also had ADHD and turns out he also had felt the same his whole life and was equally relieved to know there was a name. Thank you for making a video about it this will help so many people, short as it is ❤️
For all my life I always felt like a crazy bitch... My parents called me hysterical, and it always made me feel so bad, thank you so much for this...
It’s cool to see somebody breakdown things I go through. I felt your anger on the unjust part too 😂
All my life I thought it was everyone else that was broken and once I got on the proper medication I realized it was me all along. 🥺
I’ve just been diagnosed ( I’m 27) and finally all becomes clear. I still hate the fact that I have it but I hope someday I can just “embrace” it. I am a lawyer and I feel really unhappy in my job due to the inconveniences of ADHD.
These videos are a true help for understanding Many thanks!
Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria is one of the hardest emotions to deal with in ADHD
Thank you for sharing your tips. I can’t afford therapy right now so this really does help 💛
I'm literally crying this happens to me all of the time thank you
Stop reading the comments and focus on the video
Stop calling us out haha
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That gave me the lol 😂
dude.... you are so damn good at summarising and simplifying what to me feels too complex to quantify. Thank you so much for this. I daresay I am going to annoy the shit out of everyone I know linking this to them now and making emphatic finger-pointing gestures at myself lol
I'm glad when more people start advocating for out ADHD community so we don't feel alone. THANKS!
I'm glad I'm not alone in all this. Thanks for making this video
Thank you 🙏
It puts me in a really hopeless place when my emotions take over in the wrong time, wrong place.
When this outbursts happens I have suicidal thoughts over and over.
I do everything right, i mean everything. But somehow I have this outbursts 😔
I never learned to express myself.
I just got diagnosed and watched many channels and man evryone of these channels have an amazing sense of humor and a kind of amazing tone to them. I guess all of us have an amazing sense of humor.
I just got diagnosed today. I thought I was on the spectrum due to poor emotional regulation & experiencing everything you explained in this video. Thank you.
I’ve been feeling these ways for the longest time and to finally hear someone put into context and break it down make me feel so much less crazy.
I'm a parent of a kid that has ADHD, and I have to say after watching this video it's an eye opener, to know that the meltdowns and everything else you described are so familiar, and to be honest I was super worried that it was due to something else, maybe a different diagnosis but now I know, it is what it is and I will keep doing my best to support and understand my child. Thanks so much for sharing this video and the very helpful tips! 🤗
As a teenager with ADHD, I want to let you know that your child will be very happy to know that you're taking the time to try and understand them. ADHD is a very difficult thing to deal with because the majority of the population considers it to be the "hyperactive little boy" disorder. I was diagnosed when I was 8 (I was lucky; many girls don't get diagnosed until much later), and it took until I was 14 to learn that ADHD effects more than just my attention and my ability to sit still. I was stunned to discover that the reason I can never seem to finish things, even things that I love, is not because I am defective, but because the lack of dopamine in my brain causes me to need frequent changes in stimulation. I was shocked to realize that my procrastination at school is not because I'm lazy, but because my brain is not wired to handle deadlines.
My biggest piece of advice for you is that if your child tells you that they can't do something because they don't want to, they might really mean it. Of course they're physically able to do their homework, or to study for the driver's test. But when we aren't interested in something, it's next to impossible to do it. Trust me, we're just as frustrated with it as you might be (in fact, we're probably more frustrated, because it's our life we can't seem to get together).
Another thing is that reward/punishment systems aren't always an effective way to manage the above problem. To the ADHD brain, nothing is real but the here and now. We have a skewed concept of time and we have a difficult time registering possible consequences to our actions. It's not real until it's happening.
I'd recommend the channel How to ADHD. It's another great channel like this one for information on ADHD.
@@lindseysquire8417 thank you so much for taking the time in replying. I 100% agree with you and will make sure to follow your great advice. All the best to you dear!
@@mrsmcavoy6380 Time Management and Organisational Skills suffer with it too
@@Dancestar1981 oh absolutely! It's so so hard.
It's an uphill fight, but your a better person than most just by having that attitude. Give extra attention around puberty, kuz it's gets wild for a year or 2 , and just try your best to recognize the signs they show before being overwhelmed or overstimulated, like sounds , textures, smells , upset stomachs , moments of rage or other low feelings, but I wish you the best of luck to your and your child.
This has actually helped me because it’s hard for me at college with my anger and behaviour
I haven’t been diagnosed with adhd however for the past few years I have always felt like I have it. I really relate to it. I have been using methods and techniques that people diagnosed with this disorder use to relieve their symptoms. They work! Lately I really feel the need to go to a professional and see if I have it or not. There are things I do that are starting to affect me living a normal life. Just wanted to post this on here to let out some feelings because I have to cut off all friends that aren’t actually my friends. So yeah this year is tough but major healing and growth has been happening. Everythings gonna be okay Kate.
I hate how literally everyone in my life is telling me i dont have add and that im imagining it and then coming to videos like this and relate 100% to the content
Thank you for doing this man. Its nice to know that I'm not the only one that goes through this.
this is one of the most validating videos I've ever watched wow I need to go to a doctor
I just recently got diagnosed w ADHD and I had no idea this was connected to it. It makes a lot of sense now. Thanks for explaining it so well, helps me feel better :)
If you suffer from this, you can’t imagine how tough it is to deal with someone with this. It’s so draining. I can’t blame those who wants to stay away from an interaction with someone with this.
My god..... I am SO glad I found you. EVERYTHING you described, I go through. I shouted YESSSSS when you said you feel like your life is a movie... I've ALWAYS felt like that but never told anyone. The MUSIC THING... oh my goodness.... this is me completely... I get SO SO SO wrapped up when I hear certain chords, harmonies, even this morning, I was watching someone play a Super Mario song on the piano and I was so blown away I nearly cried. I "over react" to everything, criticism I find really really hard to deal with, always called a "Drama Queen"... I never saw anything wrong with that but it's literally something I've always been called, but thought it was just because I'm loud....... gosh I've gone on so much I need to go back and watch the second half of your video, cos I had to stop and write this as you were talking... otherwise I'd forget..... cos..ADHD. *rolls eyes* ANYWAY... thank you for your amazing content! SUBSCRIBED!
Constant songs just pop into your head out of nowhere however I don’t mind that symptom as an amateur singer, ballroom dancer, and actress who would love to be professional it helps creatively. I used to play piano many years ago can still read music and dabble a bit. Hope to practice more to improve.
@@Dancestar1981 keep it up!! I'm teaching myself piano at the moment too and really enjoy it. Music is life!
This guy is pure gold ... insightful, articulate and a very real human being.
His deeply relatable observations are immensely validating and restore lost self-worth at a meaningful level.
Suffering drives us to greatness - and ADHD Management is fantastic proof of that.
Wales delivering yet again - the country is a literal gold-mine !
I am skeptical about ADHD being a problem with the working memory. I find it much more useful too see it as a result of a hyper creative and intelligent mind and it’s more interesting what’s going on inside rather than what’s going on outside. As for the emotional problem, I find the best ways to get over that is through practice and developing wisdom and finding your own reasonings and ways to “trick yourself” finding supportive people to be around is also a good help.
My whole life explained what's going on with me thank you
I come from an era when no one was looking at girls for this AT ALL. I have never known a female who was diagnosed. I was actually looking into this because I'm on mood stabilizers and anti depressants (for yrs now) but still having issues. I want to go back to school and I know I cannot until I address my memory and emotions. I appreciate all the valuable information you give that has cost $. You have helped me understand so much.
Yes!!! My therapist thinks I have anxiety disorder because I’m so hypersensitive. But I don’t normally fear much of anything without good reason.
Thank you for your channel! This is very useful and great tips for managing emotions.
I am 29 and only just starting to understand why I am the way I am.
By accident I stumbled on information about inattentive adhd when researching about autism for my daughter who is diagnosed.
I relate with all of this . And yes I have been called a Drama queen my whole life , clumsy , a ditzy girl and a Day dreamer, as well as made to feel like a bimbo . I spent a lot of my 20s in tears or very hurt by people easily and feeling inadequate at work. Unfortunately it’s been blamed on female hormones which isn’t helpful really.
Actually female hormones just make the adhd symptoms worse if they’re out of kilter
Negative Emotions are incredibly exhausting I try so hard to stay zen
Thanks for sharing the tips!
When I first read about rsd, it mentioned that you can sometimes feel physical pain from negative emotions. I thought this was a normal thing. On the flip-side, I also feel physical...good things when something good happens.
It is so awesome to hear someone else talk about my exact type of experience with music. Everything he says is me.
Great video i can definately resonate as i have autism aspergers.
Practicing stoicism has been one of the best lifestyles to adopt, to counter my adhd.
Shit it's so true. I feel everything x10. My boyfriend doesnt understand so he gets annoyed with me.. sorry 😵
I’ve never really understood how other people perceive the world, this video is exactly what I experience everyday
When you say " sometimes I feel like my life is just living in a movie" pfff I stopped the video. I feel literally the same it's crazy.
same mate
Having this video exist and knowing I'm not alone is such a blessing
Omg this hits home...I was just diagnosed with adult ADHD and this is exactly how I am too!!
Giving up on things to quickly has been something I've been tackling. Try to remind myself that something's require a longer period to receive the results. I also try to remind myself of my WHY! Thanks for this video. It's super helpful and educational
bahahha the reaction with the metal music is exactly me my whole life lmao. Thanks for the CBT tips and examples. I've known that I need to do something like that and I actually will work on it now.
That stop and recognise advice... Is a really, really, really kick ass tip! Genuinely usefull stuff. Thanks.
Here b/c my biggest problem, still unanswered, is why my emotions can shut me down entirely. If a "bad" emotion hits me, I don't feel like doing anything. It may last for years. Also, I'm insanely worried about rejection from even the smallest thing, like calling my bank about my account balance! I'll put it off rather than engage with the unknown.
I know right! It's so scary and it makes me so anxious😭 When I'm mad I tend to bottle up
Dude! Thank you for tying together emotional disregulation with that awful tendency to get too emotional about movies and that awesome feeling of getting sucked down into a song.
This is very identical to BPD. DBT could benefit people with ADHD. It looks like the areas in the brain that control emotion have similar defects.
Becoming the music and having it intertwine with your soul really resonated with me. I can get into some deep DEEP moods listening to music.
Good video, good points, good effort. Keep it coming!
I have struggled with this my whole life, especially when it comes to anger. Finally made an appointment for an ADHD Evaluation.
Lol I’m such a big baby I take everything personally but I wish I didn’t
Those puppy dog eyes captured my heart instantly :)
But really, even seeing a beautiful dance performance is enough to make me cry, it can stir so much emotion it becomes unbearable, but still beautiful. I feel relieved that it's not just me.
I just discovered this video. I was recently diagnosed and I've realized that I've been struggling with thoughts and emotions that I can't seem to control. This video really helped me feel like I'm not actually crazy, and I'm glad to hear there is a logical explanation for this.
I have internal dialogues in my mind before things happen and this leaves me not wanting to confront a situation.
That CBT Technique Will Come In Handy With Narcissists. Thank You
i've been trying so hard to work on my emotional outbursts. i often feel like a slave to my emotions. thank you so much for this video!
Lack of emotional regulation has affected every part of my life. Thank you for this video, it helps me to understand that I dont have to be a slave to my emotions and with some work I might be able to be less reactive.
And here I thought it was just about being unable to focus. I am discovering that it’s every single aspect of me that I find troublesome.