Escaping Porn Addiction | Eli Nash | TEDxFortWayne
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- Опубліковано 23 чер 2019
- Sharing our hardships moves us through shame and into healing Eli Nash is the CEO of JEG & Sons Inc. and the Co-Founder of MicDrop. Eli founded JEG & Sons in 2006 to bring no contract and unlocked phones to US e-tailers and retailers. Under his guidance, JEG grew from a startup to over $200M in revenue, servicing retail giants such as Walmart, Amazon, Best Buy, Target and many others.
In addition to his business accomplishments, Eli has taken active role in the non-profit world - sitting on the Board of Lamplighters Yeshivah (a Jewish Day school), JCW (a leading organization in the fight against child sexual abuse) and in an advisory role with Urban Promise Miami (an after-school program servicing little Havana).
As Eli held the details of his own abuse secret for many years, he is now passionate about empowering others to speak up and to use their voice to be an agent of change in their communities. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
You never really know you’re addicted until you try to quit...
You're right!
Deadhead89 Amen
@Mgtow Psycho you need to eat it's not addictive unless you eat more than you need
@@daxtrow (the joke)
(your head)
@@bran2355 .... WHAT?
Sometimes I wish I would have never seen it in the first place.
John Fazzio I do all the time
No sometimes brother. Always. Get real.
Sometimes I wish technology never existed
True
The problem is when you relapse and remember some of the videos you have watched, especially the ones you liked most.
I would like to acknowlege the bravery and courage of this man standing in front of a group of strangers and talked about his addition publicly.
Bricked up listening to your comment ngl
@Zesty Nathaniel B Cousin, listening??
@@severetiredamage6754 damn bruh I got text to speech what's wrong with it question mark
I also struggle with addition 😢
@@storming. I struggle with subtraction sadly
A week clean here. Prayers to all of you struggling with this. We can kick this habit!
go strong dude
How's it going
Yes we can!!!
I been in this addiction for 3 years, I’m tired of it I have gotten better though I use to do it almost every day now for the past year I been doing it every 1-2 weeks. But I still have not quit it’s so hard I’m trying my best, today is day 1 for me on a new journey to quit this addiction once and for all.
Hope you’re still going strong. But there’s no judgement from anyone that’s on this comment board. Only support.
Friends, lets pray for each other and quit it for good.
100th comment
I agree
Im a 13 year old but im addicted i really wanna escape this 😶
Yes please. I would greatly appreciate your prayer. Everything the man spoke of is a 100% relatable to myself. Even the way he was introduced to filth, the older boy. Of course not in the same exact manner but I too was a victim. And now after 11 years I am struggling to get rid of this lust.
Amen
This popped up on my recommendations... my FBI agent has my back
John B 😂😂😂😂😂😂
OnG😂😂😂😂
lol
🐐🐐🐐🐐🐐
😂😂😂
You can sense the nervousness in his voice. I'm sure over 80% of people especially young men may be suffering from this, but its like a shameful thing that not everyone has the courage to talk about. Thank you man.
@@crimsonstripes No thanks. Stop spamming for a religion not everybody is part of.
@@pdxcorgidad do you believe in afterlife?
@@ryanflanagan9624 No. No I do not.
@@pdxcorgidad why is that?
@@ryanflanagan9624 Because I don't.
My question: did I ask you for this conversation in a comment section of a video unrelated to religion?
“When you see the problem but you can’t find the solution, you’re the problem” hits very hard on a lot of levels
It's not a bad addiction it's good
@@DamndDaue no
It’s actually the worst.
@@DamndDaueYou're Wrong, it's actual torture to be attracted to something you KNOW is ruining you
True
I think the biggest problem is easy access.
tfw ur an artist and no form of governamental intervention can stop u
Thats true I had a wet dream does that mean I broke it ?
No wet dreams don’t count you still have your streak
Daniel Dahlhausen thanks for replying appreciate it :)
boyd nicol Osama*** 😬
Its honestly disturbing how easy it is to access especially as a child.
Yeah I started when I was 7 and im 15 and its gotten worse and its because the phone
@@epicfighter7653 7
@@epicfighter7653 7??!!!
Ya its really hard to eacape
@@epicfighter7653 hey there buddy. I know it can be hard but i want you to know that its possible. You have to really want it. Just like everything else. Take it from me. I was addicted since i was 12. Im almost 29 now but gosh... so much shame it brought. Dont live life in regret. Take that from me. Break the chains and be in control of your life. It will make you soo proud. It sounds corny, but trust me it will defy you as a human at my age. You dont wanna drag shame with you. It will eat you alive.
What makes this addiction so crippling is how lonely it makes me feel. It's difficult to openly talk about it because the guilt and shame is just too overwhelming.
said a prayer for you. hope you've made progress. how ever often you've fallen, there's always hope.
Yeah.. 4 years in, 3 years trying to quit and no progress. 18 and never even had a girlfriend yet, im scared. I think it’s the reason im depressed too. I wish I had the gut to talk about it
Let me give you simple, definitely not easy, advice: talk to someone, maybe psychologist. And you'll find that it's becoming easier to openly talk about it and ask for help and advice. Hope you'll find person that will help you through this
Shame is the glue in this. I identify completely with your dilemma. Sharing this is the start
Exactly, i wanna quit so bad but im too scared to tell anyone
Day 0 for me. But starting now I will fight my hardest to fight this horrible addiction.
You got this ! You can do this !
@@lupedelacruz957 thanks , ive failed mamy time since u wrote this but im still trying one day a time
Same bro I did it today and told myself this is it
It’s been 1 month! How are you doing?
Remember, we’re human. We will fail. It is inevitable. But how we respond to our failures is what matters. If today is day 0 again, get back up, fight harder, and seek help.
God Bless
@Crumbs & Cookies o man thank you for this message I needed it. I have failed once again and once again day 0 but I will continue to keep fighting. Blessings
Fun fact: I SEARCHED for this video
me too aha
Me 3! 😅
Me too!
I didn't, but as soon I saw it, I clicked
ME TWO MAN IM STOPPIN TODAY IDGAF
The worst thing about this addiction is that most suffer alone and in silence, most often unknowingly.
Yeah exactly like me basically
And me
Same with me
It’s true.
It's rough when your caught doing it
I can confidently say that I am in one of the darkest points of my life. And its been that way for a very long time. Your talk gives me so much strength, eli. Thank you.
It’s gonna be ok man. We are here for you and just remember you are valued and that you, and people like us, are always in my prayers. Be strong
Consider this replies section a safe space. People like us have very less of those. I hope we can be there for you like most of us want someone to be there for us.
Thanks for sharing your struggle. Remember what Eli said: Don't allow shame to cause you to hide. Talk to someone. Seek help. The moment you do, the shame will start weakening and giving way to healing.
Read the book EASY PEASY METHOD
Sometimes when you're in a dark place you think you've been buried but actually you've been planted.
Been addicted since 9 and I’m 25 years old now! I’m going to break this curse. There’s no full happiness that comes from it , psychologically not physically, and important relationships are at risk. Happy lifestyle is at risk I hope everyone stays strong and gets through this dark cloud!
How’s it goin
I am 26 , out of fuel
I wasn't an addict but I watch it from 17 until 35 I'm also breaking it now!
I’m trying myself and I will pull through this I’m on thin ice and it’s just hard really hard
@@naadan_ruchi3190 I believe in you bro!
Its not all about willpower, its helped me to seek help from others and a therapist!
Dopamine lasts a moment
Greatness lasts forever
why should we be ashamed for doing what nature intended for us ?what so unnatural about reaching orgasm
Andreas Ras unnatural when you bring yourself to orgasm as a part of your routine
@@andreas3850 unnatural if that no longer is a part of your life but your life is a part of that small pleasure.
Orgasm should be enjoyed- nothing more than that. Addiction is bad cause it hinders your decisions and by the time you realise this you've already lost a lot of time
Dopamine is what pushed human race further.
Don't shame it lol
@@hairyputter5363 Dopamine can be reached by far more than orgasms, and 'nature' intended for those orgasms only to further recreation.
Fun fact: if you got this recommended to you, that incognito tab that you used last night did not work
What kind of pussies use incognito mode??? Lol
@@christophersurnname9967 lmao
Lmao!
😂
so was my tor browser :p
I just can’t believe it’s not a recognized addiction or psychological problem even. It’s sad to hear it be so invalidated. But props to this man for speaking up & sharing his story.
I quitted it after 12 years of addiction with willpower. On my 330 days, proud of myself.
How did you do?
I’m quitting, starting today.
Thomas Fuell hope you’re doing well man
Me too
I lied to myself why.
How far guys
Me too
Lot of people don’t accept its an addiction.
Leads to:
1. Low Self Confidence.
2. Anxiety, Depression.
3. Irritation.
Thanks for Spreading Awareness.
But surely it is personal. Not all people who watch photography have negative feelings.
It's an escape from no.2, it's sad when you don't fit in.
That's because it isn't 🤷
@@yacovlk7924 Depends how much you are doing it and how much you do to improve your good habits!
@@kubauhlir1730 it is
I've been an addict for almost 11 years. I've been suffering from it for so long, and it escalated greatly. The thing I hate the most is the desensitization of it, and you begin viewing things you despise yet the shock factor helps you get off. I put my life in danger several times to try to get laid as a teenager, and my behavior got so out of control. I'm 22 and still an addict, but I'm working hard to fight this, and do social activities every day. To all my fellow people who suffer from this, you got this. You're not alone.
Rely on Jesus, He's the only way to conquer this for good. Even going back to it once a year is not freedom from addiction. We have to completely rewire our brains and "be transformed through the renewing of our minds" (Romans 12:2). It's only through Christ that strengthens us can we conquer this and we overcome it once we realize how much God loves us. Only then will we want to put off the old and put on the new and pursue righteousness in Him alone. Praying for you and you can overcome this through Christ
@@crimsonstripes Your support is much appreciated. I'm not interested in converting to religion, and I never will be. But I will no doubt beat my addiction and treat myself with love and kindness. For me, myself, my family and friends is all I need. Be well friend.
Amen 🙏
There aren’t many options in regards to breaking the addiction. The urge is just too strong. But instead of viewing it as a long shot, just take it one day at a time. It may take years since it took years to develop the addiction in the first place. But if you NEVER give up the fight, you’ll get further than most.
I’ve never heard it worded like that and you hit the nail on the head. “Despise it yet the shock factor gets you off”
I was an addict since the age 11 for years, but by the power of God I have been sober for about 8 years.
Many times I have come close to falling back in because of lies of just “I will just look for a minute, or I am just curious about something”
But there is no freer feeling being able to sit at a computer and get some work done without crushing guilt and fear that you will do something you hate doing. That freedom is out there guys.
Man the “I will just look for a minute, or I am just curious about something” is always what gets me.
The fact that this video has over a million views proves that there are so many people out there battling this demon, that nobody talks about.
All people are prone to that no matter men or women, Christian or Muslim, everyone
Or maybe it was recommended by UA-cam? It just popped up for me
Not everyone struggles with it....
Coomer nation
@@davida6146 ok?? And your point is..
I went back to it after 2 years, the guilt almost killed me.. then a voice inside me said.. you beat the habit for two years.. you can do it again.. I set myself a new goal, I am clean going 6 years. You can do it. We got this.
Amen! I hope to do the same. Thanks for your testimony.
@@madethisaccounttocommentlo8498 Pray.
@@madethisaccounttocommentlo8498 Praying for you, king. Ave Maria!
sorry about your relapse. In the last few years, I went 9 months and 5 months without using or playing with myself. Relapses are tough.
@@Ether-pb5gb You did great. You can do it again. We can lose wars, let's be focused on the battle. No one is perfect.
I remember watching this video a homeless man in New York a year ago. Seeing this brought tears to my eyes as how much better my life is now and this video is still here. Never give up in life. No condition is permanent
Good luck!
I am now 1 year and 1 month free from this horrible addiction and I have never been happier it was a years fight and i fell more than 50 times but i kept on getting up. Dont give up. Ill be praying for all people who suffer from this.
Do you feel any change on your brain effectiveness?
After watching this video, I've decided to quit as well.
Wish me luck.
The first week is the hardest
You never know that you’re addicted until you try to quit. I learned that the hard way at 14
🚫Strive 21🚫
Is your way out
It s free
How you holding up mate?
Yeah man how's it going now?
I’m 6 months strong and I haven’t felt better. I wish someone would take down those websites for everyone
nice m8 keep going I'm on day 29 today
Hii, could you tell me what the advantages are?
Strive 21
Is your way out
It s free
I'm on day 3..... my wish Is to never look back. Let us stay strong brothers.
@@mr.stealyourgrill1190 did you cross day 3?
I am astounded by Eli's courage.
To face the eyes of judgement from your peers, friends and family! I cannot imagine a worse thing to admit to.
This is a real man. Fullest respect Eli!
The moment I couldn’t get “ready” for a woman who was a knockout 10/10, I knew I had a serious problem. This addiction is as destructive to your daily life and relationships just as any other one is.
Little did 10 year old me hiding under the covers watching that filth out curiousity for the first time know that i would be igniting the flame that would destroy me for the next 10 years of my life...
Goddd...ikr😭💔
Same here I've been an addict for over 13 years
Not your fault bro
I am so grateful that I found this video soon enough 1 year of addiction now done
Ruined my mental well-being for the next dozen years . Emotions are rare but scarred and random . Each relapse causes major changes to mentality
This guy is one of the bravest person I have ever seen
Truly amazing guy God bless him
Check out videos of Terry Crews.....try being a famous person doing that
This guy has balls
Strive 21
Is your way out
It s free
Theogy of the body by Pope John Paul 2 MUST CURE YOU all from this curse. Come on let's dive deeeep into the sanctity of the human body.
Guaranteed you will never look again the same way to your body or hers.
Take care brothers
He's really brave honestly. God bless him and all of you trying to escape this problem.
God bless you too! have you been born again? born of The Spirit and of water (different from baptism)
@@ryanflanagan9624 I don't understand what you mean?
@@delaware12pwner Jesus said you must be born again to enter God's Kingdom, born of The Spirit and of water (different from baptism). this will show you why, do you remember the encounter between Jesus and the rich young ruler?
@@ryanflanagan9624 no not really
@@delaware12pwner ok, stay with me for this will show you why you must be born again as Jesus said. the rich young ruler asked Jesus, good Master what shall i do to inherit eternal life?
how would you answer that question?
If only i could tell you how much you just did for me!
You help, therefore you are truly achieved.
I promise to spread this idea where I find it fitting.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Been clean for months, just keep yourself busy and find a purpose or cause that keeps you going. Make friends. Loneliness and sadness make you addicted, just like it does for any other drug.
but being with friends can become like an addiction too? not everyone can surround themselves with friends all the time as in most of the time. besides i don't think replacing your addiction with 'being with friends' is a good idea.... just imo.
It's not a drug, and obsessions/fixations/habitations are not true parallels to chemical addiction.
I HAVE to “take care of business” every night or I can’t sleep. It’s not an addiction it’s a mandatory thing.
@@angelgjr1999 not an addiction if it doesnt mess with your everyday life
yall sleep asf
This man has been living his entire life in post nut clarity
You aren’t wrong
First you laugh then you think about it and.. Well
@Soisauce321 care to explain? I just didn't get it...
Soisauce321 lmaooo facts
😅😂🤣😅😂🤣😅
I’m so glad your subordinate talked you out of the talk…or should I say , got you to do this TedX instead. I needed this.
How are things going for you?
“My story is not only something not to be ashamed of; it might just be something to be proud of.” I’ve recently realized this truth in my struggle with a serious mental health condition, and it has changed my life. I used to be ashamed of who I am, how much help I need, and how much downtime I need. Now I feel like it is the story that makes me a man, and that I should live my life without a thought in my head about what others might think about it. Sometimes the most courageous people are the ones who responsibly handle the nastiest diseases, in the shadows where no one can see them. Heroes who rarely receive the credit they earn every single day. Thank you for stepping out of the darkness and sharing the most vulnerable part of you. You say it is the way to start healing and you are absolutely right 🙏🏻
Conquering a struggle is a part of what we call nobility! Proud of you dude!!
Fibromyalgia Warrior here, and this just puts a pep in my step. " Sometimes the most courageous people are the ones who responsibly handle the nastiest diseases, in the shadows where no one can see them. "
God bless you for saying that.
Nowadays with it being a click away at any given time, it can be tremendously difficult. 14 days nofap and I'm gonna beat this
Day 16 yet?
Ronald Vasquez yessir
You can do it brother!
Still in this
Good luck g
this comment section passes the vibe check. everyone supporting everyone is great to see
I know!! It's so great and gives me so much hope
H O P E
It’s especially amazing to see people supporting, and being a kind to each other no matter who the other person is. And with there being so much hate, and sin, and shame, and regrets in the world; we need to support each other. In places such as addiction support is such an important thing. Because if you don’t have that support from other or the reassurance from others you can’t accomplish any form of sobriety. So I would 100% agree that they have passes the vibe check. And I pray that we can learn to see more of these sorts of comment sections all over SM.
Hopium
Real talk!
I watched this 15-12-2022.I commit myself to stop this addiction. I will share story 10 years later.
I will update everyone after a week that is on 22.
Starting 16/12/22 see you then
@@sterlingkocher454 All the best.
Starting 17/12/22 i wish everyone the best of luck, i have been struggling severely i need tips
Starting 12/17/22. I will not watch it again
Praying for all addicted ❤ you got this!! You are LOVED AND WORTHY ❤
Το έχεις!!
This is one of the worst addictions for people
wallahi it is
its way too accessible now too. its literally one click away
me : im gonna quit right now im never gonna watch it again
Me a couple of minutes after : damn itttt
@@astroboy1147 im still trying, although I'm not doing the action, I've still been watching😔
@@shaunladon4359 I've tried so many times
30+ days nofap and I can honestly say that there is a tremendous change in me. Confidence, Happiness and Calmness, comes back to me altogether.
許祐群 while you were addicted did you loose body weight significantly compared to when you never masturbated ????? Cause iam loosing a lot of weight and my bone joints are getting weaker ????? So I have decided to stop
Nothing wrong with fabbing. If you do it all day everyday then it's a proble.
How do you do it?
@@DerDoenerInMir I started this journey in 2016, it's already 3 years and I've learned a lot of lessons during this.
許祐群 Would you mind talking about what you’ve learned?
I admit that after 26 years, I'm leaving this addiction forever. Started at 15, now I'm 41.
May god bless you
You'll overcome it..
41 still addicted I think I can beat it now, I hoped having a partner would stop me but it didn't help 😢
I am going there. Start at 13, now in 35 getting worst....
U got it brother
Been fighting it for so long now… I think it’s time to be more vocal about this addiction and get out of my comfort zone more. Awareness is a key factor in helping us end this terrible addiction.
Keep fighting brother!
Mans got balls, especially to talk about it with his wife in front of him
Aye, That's true.
Well, he probably told her about it years ago.
Come on, you can't keep something so big from someone you care about. I told my girlfriend(well, later turned out to be ex) about it like 5-6 months in our relationship. She was very supportive.
Its not like he cheating
Maybe she put him up to it
And on tedx ffs he's amazing
I appreciate him coming up to speak on this. I’m having trouble with it too. I’m 21 and I just want to quit. It’s been altering the way I look at people and it’s legitimately disturbing me.
I will pray for you. May the lord give you will power and strength and fill you with his peace and grace. You can do this. God bless!
Hey, my best friend told me today he is addicted of it... And I want to help him. Can you recommend me any books you read about it or other information which could be helpful? Thank you very much"
No More-me also.
I know what you mean at looking at people differently. Same thing happened to me. Good news is that after being clean for a while, those thoughts started tapering off and I feel free from that disturbing point of view. It's a very liberating feeling. Best of luck, my friend!
Good luck man. Do Nofap.
I started when I was 10 or 11, I’m 20 now. Thank you for having the courage to speak when I can’t.
I wish you strength and willpower to overcome your bad habit. Use great ideas to build yourself into a man of strength and character, a man of your word, skilful and with a purpose that serves the ones around you as well.
If you enjoy ideas about masculinity and mastery, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel.
Challenge yourself with some concepts about manhood, explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
I have been addicted since I was 12, I’m now 23 and heartbroken and just distraught over the fact that I can’t overcome it. I’ve tried so hard and even told my mother and sister. Praying and trying always.
go to gym and do some yoga brother.....it will help a lot in overcoming your addiction....
@Nini a couple notes
1). Your forcing your religion on someone who you don’t even know how he feels on the topic
2). For someone that said Christ is the only way, where was that mentality when you said male suicide has to increase, that your supposedly tired of these pricks
3). IF you wanted to share your religion, at least relate to his problem a bit and then say how Christ helps
@@tentiona8145 this a gold comment man but i can’t stand people like that so have a good day for me G
Yoga and meditation bro it can help you out of this
You HAVE to set yourself up for success. Someone on the verge of health crisis cant have junk food in the house. Same!
Only watch boring things: asmr (grocery shelf straitening, or painting, cooking on youtube), listen to UA-cam while you work(keep the chatter busy), workout, walk with friends etc etc.
Pg 13 to rated R movies are triggers(unless it's like Spiderman or something). Stay away from movies like this and just watch family friendly things.
Know your triggers!
1. Uninstall Instagram
2. Work out everyday for atleast 15 minutes
3. Keep yourself busy
( You can work out as long as you want. This 15 minutes is the least you could do.)
Instagrams deadly
Lol what a 15 min workout lol. That’s how long it takes to rack up a machine and un rack it when finished
@@benjaminfranklin4760 push ups, pull ups, crunches, squats and jumping jack doesn't require any machines. Yours response is just another excuse for yourself of not doing it.
@@peedjar2231 lol I work out 5 days a week buddy. 5’10 190lbs shredded.
@@peedjar2231 plus I wasn’t trying to diss you I was just saying in my opinion
I feel disgusted with myself most times after I do it. Sometimes it isn't even as satisfying as I want it to be. But still I continue on and keep doing it.
And the worst things I stray you cannot help it
we've been there.. stay strong brother.. u can make a better change
Same here but things are gonna be better
It gets better, keep going. We are stronger than this thing.
Me too at this point it’s not even for pleasure it’s just a habit now
To everyone that doesn't see this as the problem it is ..
I knew that it was bad and that I was addicted, but never really gave my all to fight it, or look for help or talked about it. And finally, it took losing the love of my life for me to finally seek help.
To late to save my relationship. The damage is done. But not to late to get over this addiction once and for all.
Stay strong
Exactly at a somewhat similar situation,i ended a dead relationship of 4 years,she said that she was feeling alone in this relationship and the major problem was that i was always thirsty for sex,i did not care for her other needs.
I’m trying to save mine 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Bro, you don’t realize how universal and shared this issue is. Don’t feel alone man.
Thousands struggle with this and thousands have gotten over it like this video explains. You will do it too. Give it patience.
"Shame is the single biggest cause of most of our psychological problems."
I want to explore this statement.
Yes, that is a very big statement. Count me in the conversation!
So... Shame is the fear of rejection. Agree?
Let’s make a group chat about it
Let's make a school project about it
Count me in i guess
A lot of balls you have. Respect
Or you could say....blue balls
You really had to mention them... ?
Hey Master Yoda
max_payne listen up guys this is important
Max_Payne mhmmmm, ketamine i need
Started from 2015 , almost 7 years and i am still trying to stop watching. It's so hard to quit but i will 💪💪💪
How are you doing bruv?
Oh my God! When you said "share" I instantly realized what I have never done in my entire life including with my wife of 33 and 1/2 years. Share. I've never shared anything with anybody. Thank you Eli for sharing your story with us.
I’ve been clean for 4 years after 10+ years of being addicted.
Well done!
Do you observe any physical changes apart from confidence , anxiety
please, any advice? book that talks about this addiction?
How different are you feeling?
Good job
If you fail, don’t let the shame lead you back into it. Realize that everyone fails at some point. “It’s not about how many times you fall down, but how many times you get back up” -Abraham Lincoln
Strive 21
Is your way out
It s free
Theogy of the body by Pope John Paul 2 MUST CURE YOU all from this curse. Come on let's dive deeeep into the sanctity of the human body.
Guaranteed you will never look again the same way to your body or hers.
Take care brothers
I was 7 days strong than slipped up now I’m having a hard time stopping again 🤦♂️
@@bestrong1854
Can you please stop posting comments like those?
I'm a Christian as well, but that's not the way to speak against this.
@@bestrong1854
Do you realize how many atheists have this problem as well?
Someone reads your comments and thinks "oh so this is just some Christian thing cause they're afraid of sin
You're so brave to talk publicly. I can just talk to my wife and God at most.
Bro can I know yr age .?
Eli Nash, we thank you for sharing your story, touching hearts, and changing lives forever.
And you feel sense of guilt when you done watching it that you don't feel when you start.
Facts 💯💯
it goes away after you do it enough times
@@KlebersPhone I been doing it for like 6 years and I still feel guilty
The question you should ask yourself is why you feel guilty. There are different possible reasons for it.....
It's because it's wrong and we all know it. Our nature tells us when things aren't good, which is why almost everyone will universally agree murder is wrong.
Sadly, this is a problem that plagues so many young men. It's an extremely hard habit to kick.
Interesting choice of words
Stuke yeah if your an antisocial dummy who doesn’t realize theirs more to life than just satisfying yourself
@@prettyflygamer what's wrong with a little pud pullin'?
HC1024 G I’m far from an antisocial person and yet I still struggled greatly with this. Even though I have a gf. It can affect ANYONE man
@@samanimations2002 Something intriguing about it. Maybe it touches on the voyeuristic side of us
Thanks for sharing Eli. Thanks for referencing Brene Brown and shame research. Sharing the struggle kills shame. We can all take this lesson to heart.
One of the bravest videos I have ever seen. Thank you so much for showing that it is possible to confront this addiction and thank you for sharing your incredible story
Just now I understand why I'm such a miserable person. I'm 18 and I'm not diagnosed with anything but I feel anxiety a lot, I am very shy and anti social unless it's my closest friends or family. I get angry so much every single day. I always lash out at my girlfriend verbally. I really don't like myself. I really want to be happy. I am happy throughout the day at some points but.... I'm not happy. I can't find any motivation within myself. I feel dull. I'm unhealthy, I stopped working out and dieting last year. I always feel tired and weak. This isn't a life to live. I want to get better. I want to improve in every way and find my own definition of success. Please pray for me. I hope that anyone else that's struggling like me eventually finds a way out. Stay strong, this addiction is a killer. We have to kill it.
God bless you and help you in this situation. Whenever you feel empty, pray to Jesus and try to be in close with him. He will help you in your struggle. And when the struggle is over. And you are happy again, don't forget Jesus help you.
I am 19 years old, a guy. I stand with you. You’re not alone in this. We’ll beat it together. I believe in you, and although I barely know you, I care about you. I truly want you to succeed and overcome this.
I will personally pray for you. You are not alone in battling this demon. Don’t give up.
Same thing is happening to me.we can beat this addiction together.
In the 7 years of my addiction, the most I ever went without self pleasure was 10 days and that's cause I was in a summer camp and I was really busy all the time. Guess we just have to keep busy. I'll be really glad if I break my record and although it's a really short amount of time I'll still feel good and more capable
Seeing how many teenagers and even kids as young as 13 are trying to escape this addiction just breaks my heart. My message to you is: keep fighting it no matter how hard it is, no matter how many times you will fail. With every fail to quit it you will understand how strong your addiction is and you will get more and more scared to realize how it is taking control over your life. I encourage you to read my whole comment.
I have an example of a man I knew a while ago. He had struggled with alcohol addiction for decades, this addiction took everything from him: he lost his job, his wife left him, he was carried out by friends every night dead drunk till no one would do that anymore and he would just lay on the street with vomit and pee on his pants. He lost his reputation, his self-esteem, literally everything. I don't know what his revelation was because I met him as a church cantor. But from the moment I saw him singing a chant named "Forgive me, Father" I knew this was a converted man. I never saw someone displaying so much repent on their faces. And every single time he was singing this chant, he had the same expression and tears in his eyes. The most profound sorrow one could ever imagine. I asked my grandma what his story was and she told me that he used to be that heavy drinker that everyone would despise.
After a couple of years I had the chance to sit at the same table with him. Everyone was drinking wine, but he alone was drinking water. I knew his story, but I pretended I didn't. I guess it was just curiosity to see if he would confess his old addiction, how he sees that now etc. So I asked him just like nothing: "But aren't you up for a glass of wine, sir?" He looked at me with a look that I will never forget. It was a mix of profound sorrow and determination, then he looked at my glass of wine as detached as we could look at something that doesn't belong to our world anymore and told me with a firm voice: "That was my biggest enemy for years. I will never surrender to my enemy again. I am the happiest man on Earth that I can have this glass of water today here, Miss." And that moment I understood something that I will always use to fight my own addictions and to help others fight with theirs: you will never overcome your addiction until you look at it as an ENEMY. A monstrous, hideous enemy right there, in front of you. As long as you will play it soft, you won't be able to escape it. Unless you are not really an addict and doesn't take a lot of effort to quit. If that man who was so low and completely owned by his addiction could escape it, I think everyone can. It doesn't have to be this extreme like in the case I presented to destroy your life. The thing with addictions is that you don't know how bad and how fast can it evolve and control you without you even realizing it. The sooner you can get rid of it, the easier will be your fight.
And although everyone needs encouragement on their path on quitting, please remember that until the moment when you reach absolute and complete detachment from your addiction, your fight didn't end. Your enemy is still there, hidden, waiting for you to be vulnerable....waiting for you to fall again. KEEP FIGHTING!
thank you so much. 17 years of age and fighting. Your words will not be forgotten.
Your story will stay in my mind forever. Thank you.
The last part got me, I myself thought I beat it but after 3 months of clear mind I gave in it started with 1 video and not fapping then here I am now trying to find ways again and u just gave me the key to this whole puzzle. This addiction is my ENEMY.
Thanks so much am 16 years of age and am fighting to overcome this addiction plz if u see this pray for me ....
@@solankesanchez1823 I will. Don't give up praying, don't give up fighting. May we all receive the grace to see the evil's true face.
Dating someone with this addiction is really hard. It feels like you’re never enough and he always wants more. I just pray the lord can get me through this! I don’t feel like I can help when I’m loosing myself 😢
You are worthy. I pray your man finds healing that will also be a healing for you too.
how is it going ?
This is exactly how I feel. It’s a lonely road.
@@rebeccaowen287You should both join r/LoveAfterPrn! They have support and resources
Damn and the way you are so pretty. I pray he recovers from it
perfect well executed, there is no shame in making way for the healing of countless others, thanks for being a real man in exposing the darkness, respect for you went through the roof.
A piece of advice: when you feel the urge to do it, try and find a physically tiring activity to replace that. Just my two cents.
I went for a walk but it didn’t help. But Thank you for the advice.
@@liguania sometimes a short walk isn’t enough, a good workout and a good sweat will literally get you high and help retire the brain quicker. Prepare the mind as well and watch people like Les Brown or David Goggins, or shoot I grew up watching the terminator and now I watch Arnold videos for motivation. Light the fire within and keep trying, win every battle you can!! Hope this helps Anna
@@liguania rewire the brain*. Autocorrect wants to retire the brain it appears lol
keep yourself busy.
@@liguania But the Scriptures declare that we are all prisoners of sin, so we receive God’s promise of freedom only by believing in Jesus Christ.
Galatians 3:22-23
I completed 117 days of nofap and I continue nofap and now it doesn’t feel like a challenge it’s just the way I live now and I never look back, best decision I ever made was giving up PMO
How did you do it?
Kunta Kinte whenever I got an urge I kept on repeating myself saying “addiction sadness” over and over until the urge went away but everyone has their different strategies that was just my way to get over urges, the urges went away after day 30
I'll come back 117 days later to share the same message with everyone
I wish you luck bro find something to make yourself exhausted and busy ,please support me l made a video QAND A :boys vs girls buy laptops check out the channel for some cool videos do not forget to subscribe
Nice tip ll try
Thank you for speaking up! Confession is healing!
This subject should be spoken about way more than it is! Real plauge of 21st century
I watch it at least twice a day and feel horrible for it, may God help me on this journey to become clean
twice a day isn't even bad bro lol, it's not really that unhealthy. I think a lot of people are wrongly classifying themselves as "addicted" because it's come up that this is an addiction now.
Phil Johnson You can kick it, man!!!
I’m with you and I lapse every single day but we’ve got to keep the fire burning. We can kick it!!!! It might take us longer than others but we will get there.
Dont give up
@@thatrespectablehuman1884 sounds like somthing a cumbrain would say
@@johnathons1789 I'm right though.
I'm at my 39 day. For many days I had the feeling of being overwhelmed by the urge to look again ... Now, the weight and the desire to look have diminished, but the mind begins to tell me that I can look again and stop anytime, but I keep following ignoring my mind. To you, who are also trying to get over it, I say, YOU WILL WIN! BE STRONG!
Tallysson Borges Thanks man
Get a girlfriend or boyfriend
@@ryandonnelly2661 It wont help him.
And how did it help you?
😭😭😭
I was 31 days clean and last night I relapsed.
I hate the empty feeling i get, it lasts for so long lately, when it happens i feel shame, guilt, emptiness and sadness for 24 to 72 hrs.
when Im back at 1 week i start feeling a little back on track and after 2-3 weeks it feels good.
and then I relapse again and the cycle continues, it is crazy how bad it is for your mental health and for your soul.
So frustrating.
Same here ,after one month relapsed today. feel guilty.
It's really astonishing how you lot are sad for achieving over a month, I mean some of us barely make a day without it... Stay strong brothers we got this.
What triggered you to relapse after 30 days? what part of your commitment changed? What lead you to rationalize watching again ?
Been 20 days, still going strong 💪
Well done brother Jesus loves you :)
How’s it going?
I’m a addict too. A majority of addicts are men so when people here it coming from a woman they really look down on me. It’s aggravating to hear just stop watching it. It’s definitely not that easy. I’m proud of you for standing up and saying it. I needed this video as a support because I don’t have anyone to talk to and hearing this today made me feel like I was finally with someone who understands.
I'm here for you! ❤
Hope you get someone in you life you can speak freely and who can help you with the addiction when its difficult
I am here for you Crystal! you got this, we are all here together. peace
not sure how affective it is but i’ve heard cold showers lower urges
good luck
I actually cried listening to this tedtalk.
I've always been ashamed of my struggle with this. I realized only today that it was an addiction. I never talked about it with anybody because of shame. Especially since I'm a woman. And I'm known by people around me as a religious woman. I personally haven't met anyone who was a girl and admitted to struggling with this like me.
I'm 21 now and I've been hooked on this since I was 10. Its so validating and comforting to have someone speak out about the struggle with this and the desire to end it.
hi, you're not alone. I sobbed watching this. I'm a woman who struggles with this and am also religious. just wanted you to know you are definitely not the only woman that struggles with this, let alone religious woman, but I know how isolating and shameful it can feel ❤️
I am hugely religious too and constantly battling this. Constant relapses make you feel horrible and guilty. Bottom line is always keep trying, never give up. You are not worth any less because of these mistakes. You are not any less religious or spiritual because of it either.
@@BethThereseReacts Thank you so much! 💗 I hope we overcome this for good! God bless you always!
@@williamverdine5294 Thank you for the encouragement! Relapses are the worst. When you feel like you were already doing great for so long then fall right back into it. I hope we break free completely! God bless you! :))
@@BethThereseReacts tell all this situation to your parents . Believe me I try this and talked about this to my parents and now I fell very much comfortable.
Amen I pray for everyone coming out of addiction
Thanks for sharing, that was such a brave act to come in front of strangers in a room (and on yt) and talk about a own personal problem/addiction, so inspiring.
NoFap GANG WHERE YOU AT LETS GO
Clean in 2021 💪
@@austins.2495 im having a hard time in 2021 i cant last more then 2 days
@@genericname2893 you will for sure this addiction is your enemy nothing else go and see another comment on this video from apetrei raluca or something it is very usefull
@Ted Rocka Yes
We got this boys
Please pray for me I’m a Christian and this is something I’ve been struggling with for the past few years and ik this sin is the one that’s keeping me from really furthering my relationship from God.
I'm praying for you man.
We love u bro
I prayed for you! Remember who you are in Christ !you are not your actions you are a new creation in Christ Jesus! And also seek out someone you can trust to talk about it, like a counselor.. we are not to walk through our struggles alone but with one another!
Amen brother hope you are still going strong🙏🏽
It will surely give you a lot more clarity and closeness to god even if it is not sin. Hope you made it
Exposing your addiction openly to allow yourself to be than open and vulnerable is true bravery. Shame is a very powerful tool. I should know, I grew up in a Catholic household. Alcoholic abusive childhood full of shame pounded on me. Screwed my mind up, but I’m trying and fighting to get better at not letting the scars of my past define who I am. Proud of you Eli.
The message in the last moment he gave is really very straight and gallant. I appreciate his thinking about shame. That's really appreciating.
You will never look back in life and say "I wish I would have watched more"
true
King
How do you know that?
@@redloopy it doesn't take that long!
There's plenty of time left to visit and make the world better.
It works for one day too. You'll never say, I wish I watched more yesterday
I applaud people who are trying quit this addiction...👏👏👏 you can do it 💪💪
Thanks
I don’t know you, but thank you
im gunna stop today. but the thing is theres no help for teenagers who r addicted only adults
@@lumbago9379 check out nofap for teens on Reddit
I dont know why they call it an addiction. it's satisfying an urge. everyone eats 3 times a day but they dont say you are addicted to food.
Eli, thank you for being there. You have help me so much. God bless.
Warm greetings from Australia 🦘 A truly heart wrenching and moving testimony. Thank you Eli Nash. 😊❤
Watched this video around 2 years ago for the first time. Finally quit for good 15 months ago. Never give up.
Thanks for this. It gave me hope.
.Strive 21
Is your way out
It s free
wow 15 months thats amazing! any tips?
thank you. I am 2 weeks. Hopefully I can reach that
I am gonna cut it whatever it takes.
This is such a bad/ addictive habit. I know from experience. I’m praying for all in the chat. We can overcome this 🙏🏻
Amen 🙏 praying for you bro
.Strive 21
Is your way out
It s free
@It’z Velly I do. It takes a change of mindset. You have to fill your time with other positive things instead of hanging around in your room, where most of us know we’re prone to engage in that. For example, read books/ the Bible, pray, go to the gym/ for a run, etc. to fill your time with something positive in order to REPLACE the bad habit with good habits.
@It’z Velly It’s not enough to just resist it. It has to be replaced with something else so the time you have to engage in it lessens. I’m praying for you 🙏🏻
why is it so bad tho
Thankful for Eli’s courage in sharing his story
Excellent, well-articulated, heartfelt talk. Wishing you the best as you continue to walk forward in life - sharing your message, continuing your own healing, and inspiring healing in others.
I started when I was 14, I’m 22 now and all I feel is this dark cloud of shame on my back eating me. I’m too scared to ask for help, and it feels like I’m repeating the same thing everyday. Especially because of the pandemic. I wish the best of luck for all of you, day 1 here we go!
Just don’t watch it I really don’t understand you weak minded fools
@@yaboiluffy2833 Such a weak minded thing to say
Every human needs help dont we ?
when you go to bed put your phone away from your reach, so you aren't tempted.
when bored go exercise.
if possible spend most of you time near other people.
@@killgaet6253 reading book is also something u can do, do anything productive
Day 5 bois, wish me luck
Edit: I relapsed in 2020 , stopped beating my junk after Christmas , haven’t relapsed ever since which is one of my goals for 21’
Don't count your days. It becomes a competition. Take one hour, one day at a time.
Ayo you're still on your clean streak?
Still going bios , it’s a way of life .....
x plicit poop bro how do u do it, I just can’t off a 9 day streak I’m pissed
Came”
Congratulations on your recovery and thank you for willingness to be vulnerable.
Nofap has improved my life in many many ways....
Keep strong guys..
I just hit day 60 for the first time..
It wasn't easy...
I failed 93 before I hit the first 60 days... it was the same streak that hit the first 4 days as well..
Before that the max was just 3 days...
But I was surprised I could do it.. that too out of the blue exceed day 3 one day.. and hit till 60..
Keep constent guys..
Don't feel bad if you relapse..
You got this.🙌❣