Let’s Talk Porn | Maria Ahlin | TEDxGöteborg

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  • Опубліковано 20 чер 2019
  • We have to talk about porn! We have to talk about what message porn is sending and what it teaches our children! More and more extreme content found in mainstream porn, making people less sensitive to sexual aggression. Despite these alarming facts, porn is still one of our biggest taboos. Today, most children are first exposed to pornography at a worryingly young age, in fact, porn is the number one sex educator among young teenagers. Porn is a drug, but why isn’t it treated as an addiction?
    In addition to being a public speaker, author and educator Maria is also head of youth organization 'Changing attitudes'. As an expert on issues concerning pornography and sex-buying she has given more than 400 public talks. In her research, she has met with more than 500 people in prostitution, as well as thousands of sex-offenders. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

КОМЕНТАРІ • 11 тис.

  • @vircervoteksisto5038
    @vircervoteksisto5038 4 роки тому +14836

    "Wanting something without liking it" is the most succinct definition I have ever heard for addiction.

    • @wreathlings
      @wreathlings 4 роки тому +53

      Hart Weber Yes! That was very well said!

    • @daranester5449
      @daranester5449 4 роки тому +90

      In a lot of cases near the end of peoples addiction they tend to not like the life they're living hence what they are doing but cant stop do to addiction...

    • @brucecaldwell6701
      @brucecaldwell6701 4 роки тому +15

      Yep, just to be able to be able to half way function & feel "normal".

    • @owenivins6378
      @owenivins6378 4 роки тому +13

      Jacob Alanheimer and also find a woman that doesn’t judge u by looks or money Which is IMPOSSIBLE!

    • @IKeepItHyper
      @IKeepItHyper 4 роки тому +8

      literally me with the juul.... hate it so much but can't stop craving it... very confusing feeling

  • @kamilsaifi7974
    @kamilsaifi7974 3 роки тому +14986

    U Never really know u r addicted until u try to quit...

  • @MrTskull99
    @MrTskull99 Рік тому +2050

    Jesus how calmly can she talk about a sensitive subject....that's what I call confidence.

    • @carlnestor1476
      @carlnestor1476 Рік тому +50

      Atm is not the money machine 😂

    • @nickpenaranda725
      @nickpenaranda725 Рік тому +20

      You people over compliment bare minimum, just because it comes from a woman🙄🙄🙄

    • @captainmerc2018
      @captainmerc2018 Рік тому +23

      Nah she’s actually a very good speaker her cadence is extremely educated and easy to listen to , especially when it comes to something this sensitive and because it’s a women she deserves more praise because they don’t have the same speaking talents men usually do the aggression and strong tone

    • @krisgopi_8
      @krisgopi_8 Рік тому +3

      So no one has balls to stop this p rn
      Very sickening 🤮

    • @carlnestor1476
      @carlnestor1476 Рік тому +31

      @@nickpenaranda725 do you know what the odds are of a sentence ending intelligently when starting with “you people”?

  • @jaxbarnettprice
    @jaxbarnettprice Рік тому +603

    I know it’s good seeing men talk about this, but seeing a FEMALE talk about this topic makes me even happier. I love it! Because I feel like really no women out there stand up to this and talk about what’s wrong with it. I respect this lady right here!

    • @ivorjones6618
      @ivorjones6618 Рік тому +7

      i wonder how much money she makes to talk rubbish

    • @jjkv2686
      @jjkv2686 Рік тому +29

      @@ivorjones6618 Some people like you just don't understand.

    • @ivorjones6618
      @ivorjones6618 Рік тому +2

      @@jjkv2686 what dont we understand tell me

    • @jjkv2686
      @jjkv2686 Рік тому +14

      @@ivorjones6618Even if you don't appreciate her for what she's doing, don't comment nonsense

    • @ivorjones6618
      @ivorjones6618 Рік тому +3

      @@jjkv2686 not nonsence you need to get a life and do what you want to do not what the bible says you should do

  • @PHARAOHLOVECHILD1
    @PHARAOHLOVECHILD1 3 роки тому +5861

    “When something is free, that means you’re the product”. Your attention and presence should always be properly compensated. Protect your energy kings.

    • @AnaS-hy6kt
      @AnaS-hy6kt 3 роки тому +98

      And Queens

    • @augustrhodes7478
      @augustrhodes7478 3 роки тому +17

      Kings? LULZ HAHAHAA!!

    • @BigZac12
      @BigZac12 3 роки тому +30

      protect your energy worms

    • @st4ne4rmthevill63
      @st4ne4rmthevill63 3 роки тому +30

      This just blew my mind rn. It's so obvious but I've never once thought about it.

    • @GnosticSeeker369
      @GnosticSeeker369 2 роки тому +8

      Kings? Energy- kings ??, that hurt my frontal lobe dude, wtf did your last two words relate to?

  • @kingfckncole9340
    @kingfckncole9340 4 роки тому +9434

    The people in the crowd all deleting their search histories

    • @dereksmith30
      @dereksmith30 4 роки тому +72

      Kingfckn Cole lmao 😂 😂😂😂😂

    • @kunal__pawar
      @kunal__pawar 4 роки тому +31

      😂

    • @avigujar2538
      @avigujar2538 4 роки тому +38

      Get serious. Grow up bro.

    • @bobyu9785
      @bobyu9785 4 роки тому +107

      @@avigujar2538 calm down incel

    • @aliabo6403
      @aliabo6403 4 роки тому +10

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🎯

  • @gabriellafabiyi7399
    @gabriellafabiyi7399 2 роки тому +721

    I love her bravery. It is not easy to talk about it infront of an audience even though the audience was silent.

    • @jimmyolsenschannel6263
      @jimmyolsenschannel6263 Рік тому +8

      She's Swedish, i.e brought up differently than you seem to be.

    • @gabriellafabiyi7399
      @gabriellafabiyi7399 Рік тому +1

      @@jimmyolsenschannel6263 oh...ok

    • @yuppiemobile69
      @yuppiemobile69 Рік тому

      She's making money out of it one way or another. Doesn't seem to be honest or more than all negativist...I'm never eating swedish meatballs again!! Rots the brain!!!!!

    • @gabriellafabiyi7399
      @gabriellafabiyi7399 Рік тому

      @@yuppiemobile69 bot

    • @marvingproductions
      @marvingproductions Рік тому +3

      You know the crowd is very much in tune when they are silent=listen

  • @gargi-thevocalist3634
    @gargi-thevocalist3634 2 роки тому +1707

    I'm 14 , and I'm really happy that I'm getting this education much earlier , and I'm learning to control myself 💜

    • @4651adri
      @4651adri 2 роки тому +40

      I applaud you for this. Your love and s3x life are going to benefit a lot from this effort!

    • @allanfolsom9474
      @allanfolsom9474 Рік тому +14

      Blessings to you. Stay strong.

    • @znlaft
      @znlaft Рік тому +7

      i'am so happy for you

    • @jin6000
      @jin6000 Рік тому +4

      Respect!

    • @noah_75856
      @noah_75856 Рік тому +5

      Never forget

  • @mozesmusik8718
    @mozesmusik8718 3 роки тому +5873

    Leaving your kid alone with a computer without proper restrictions can be just as dangerous as leaving them with a stranger.

    • @hmp01
      @hmp01 3 роки тому +130

      no

    • @EnkiMMXII
      @EnkiMMXII 3 роки тому +70

      True... they may figure out that god isn't real. Lmao. FREAK. Restricted access to information is literally the cause of all the world problems.

    • @korajanel
      @korajanel 3 роки тому +109

      @@EnkiMMXII it's like you didn't even watch the video......

    • @yuu5974
      @yuu5974 3 роки тому +450

      No, restricting your children will only make them become liars and go behind your back. Instead, teach them the bad about it. And talk about it with them. Especially in there teen years.

    • @punkabillybetty6851
      @punkabillybetty6851 3 роки тому +49

      It's not just about kids... This applies to adults too.

  • @bvanbanan
    @bvanbanan 3 роки тому +7932

    Watching random youtube videos is the same addiction. We don’t realise this problem at all.

    • @nishal0073
      @nishal0073 3 роки тому +828

      Reading random comments is another 😵

    • @ethancohen12
      @ethancohen12 3 роки тому +413

      We just gotta toss our phones away man

    • @ThatGuyyy1
      @ThatGuyyy1 3 роки тому +134

      @@ethancohen12 My friend calls it the misery rectangle

    • @dustinpriest5111
      @dustinpriest5111 3 роки тому +65

      How do I quit yt?

    • @flyme2themoon720
      @flyme2themoon720 3 роки тому +16

      Your right on that

  • @kingvirgo5624
    @kingvirgo5624 2 роки тому +424

    This should be talked about in schools

    • @mwamsonge
      @mwamsonge 2 роки тому +14

      We also need to talk about the dangers of marriage too where half of your assets can be seized by the gynocentrism

    • @philipyates3194
      @philipyates3194 2 роки тому +42

      No, it should be talked about by parents. Why does everyone think schools should be raising children, their job is to educate them in primarily academic subjects.

    • @alexgrubb1057
      @alexgrubb1057 2 роки тому +4

      @@philipyates3194 Absolutely damn right

    • @piermarcosechi8054
      @piermarcosechi8054 Рік тому +4

      @@philipyates3194 i agree with you but you cannot make sure every family Is doing a good job or Is teaching these things.
      Having It teached in schools May Be a safer way for many people to have access to this kind of education

    • @robertwilber1909
      @robertwilber1909 Рік тому +1

      School is no place to discuss these matters. Home is where this belongs.

  • @ebenezeronuche9536
    @ebenezeronuche9536 Рік тому +205

    This is a very sensitive topic. It takes great courage to be able to carry out this kind of research (without getting addicted to it yourself) and give this kind of presentation publicly. Welldone.. keep up the good work. Your work will transform countless lives positively...

    • @rachelgoodkind6545
      @rachelgoodkind6545 Місяць тому +2

      Right on brother. And women deserve to be respected and elevated for the queens we are. And men should be protectors, not perpetrators. peace to you.

    • @luckystoller6171
      @luckystoller6171 Місяць тому +1

      @@rachelgoodkind6545 So true.❤

    • @rachelgoodkind6545
      @rachelgoodkind6545 27 днів тому

      @@luckystoller6171 The world has been manipulated to be backwards. However we all have to work tegether to make a kind loving compassionate world for all.

    • @luckystoller6171
      @luckystoller6171 27 днів тому

      @@rachelgoodkind6545 ❤You are so right!

  • @successzone2024
    @successzone2024 3 роки тому +7795

    To anyone who is fighting this addiction, I hope you succeed. Stay strong and never give up the fight!

  • @danielmoore62
    @danielmoore62 4 роки тому +11956

    Prostitution is illegal unless you film it and sell it.

    • @apuuvah
      @apuuvah 4 роки тому +178

      @@muhammedovezmuradov2910 Nothing, if it's not forced.

    • @SuperSufiSaint
      @SuperSufiSaint 4 роки тому +47

      Muhammed Ovezmuradov shame on you for such comments

    • @hyliahero
      @hyliahero 4 роки тому +272

      The shame is the government regulating people’s bodies and folks shaming people who think differently or feed themselves differently than you.

    • @ThisIsTurnerr
      @ThisIsTurnerr 4 роки тому +35

      Taxation

    • @qossii
      @qossii 4 роки тому +6

      So true....

  • @BlueSky-vb5ih
    @BlueSky-vb5ih 2 роки тому +30

    The most amazing speech ever… I normally don’t write comments unless the speech touches me for its content and has an impact for critical societies unspoken topics. This lady is a gem 💎 for all the globe 🌎. I liked her elaboration on the subject, her confidence and she seemed that she absorbed and understood the topic from the A to Z. As a coach and scientist I understood her very well and understood my coachees who come to ask for help. God bless her

  • @anthonygonzalez5953
    @anthonygonzalez5953 Рік тому +273

    I've seen funerals with a more cheerful audience...but she did a great job addressing such an uncomfortable issue! Although I feel a little sorry for her, since I'm guessing most crowds she talks to are too awkward by the topic to give a laugh at any of her jokes, kind of like this one

    • @seantill9505
      @seantill9505 Рік тому

      unfortunately their faces were that way because most of them probably watch p***

    • @ladyzhenska
      @ladyzhenska Рік тому +6

      I have a guess why this happened. I am living myself in Gothenburg for a few years now and have to admit that Scandinavian audience is a bit cold. Not because they don’t enjoy it but that’s a part of mentality 😊 They less expressive.

    • @Xarfax321
      @Xarfax321 Рік тому +1

      What is funny here?

    • @arpudli8962
      @arpudli8962 Рік тому +1

      Sweedish are good listeners, love göteborg 😊

    • @alex2jz140
      @alex2jz140 7 місяців тому +1

      To be fair it’s very surface level and boring (porn=bad) Everyone understands and knows all of this already.

  • @Resanessa
    @Resanessa 3 роки тому +2323

    "Chains of habits are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken"

  • @vazeerkhan4838
    @vazeerkhan4838 3 роки тому +5231

    Me : why is this in my recommendation?
    UA-cam : hmm wonder how that happened?
    google search history : I told them everything.

    • @elite_mittens9483
      @elite_mittens9483 3 роки тому +76

      That why you delete your history😂

    • @W42P
      @W42P 3 роки тому +110

      @@elite_mittens9483 that literally does nothing

    • @twilight8475
      @twilight8475 3 роки тому +90

      Your FBI agent is trying to tell u something

    • @tiagosilv248
      @tiagosilv248 3 роки тому +7

      Damn ! Lol

    • @pkandrew22
      @pkandrew22 3 роки тому +27

      It’s all coming together now

  • @sarah-dq5rl
    @sarah-dq5rl Рік тому +63

    this is so eye-opening. I didn't realize how normalized all of this is becoming until she pointed it out

  • @aungphyooo3584
    @aungphyooo3584 Рік тому +14

    Brilliant talks about this major hidden issues. It’s a quick quit for sure. Everything is about mentality and how strong you can divert your focus to other positive things like healthy hobbies. Thank you, Maria x

  • @Alienbrain23
    @Alienbrain23 3 роки тому +5614

    Uhhh here’s a solution, stop giving your kids tablets and smartphones at age 2

    • @alcik_palcik
      @alcik_palcik 3 роки тому +59

      I'm just wondering why you're comenting that twice

    • @huh5087
      @huh5087 3 роки тому +172

      Fax tho, i seen a 5yr old kid w the newest iphone

    • @codydembo4257
      @codydembo4257 3 роки тому +131

      I agree, kids need to read more books fr

    • @enlightenmentdoesntcomeeas5337
      @enlightenmentdoesntcomeeas5337 3 роки тому +108

      If I ever have kids I actually plan on giving them a playstation or an Xbox to keep them distracted from the internet or phones.

    • @expressyourselfab6285
      @expressyourselfab6285 3 роки тому +56

      Read more books? Lol.
      I say more life experience.
      You’re disconnected from reality when you got an iPad shoved up your face.

  • @halibuthero
    @halibuthero 4 роки тому +9551

    How do you explain Ass2Mouth to a room-full of people with a straight face...

    • @SoupBrigade
      @SoupBrigade 4 роки тому +409

      Start with explaining how it is not an ATM so you don't have to touch it

    • @TheChadPad
      @TheChadPad 4 роки тому +122

      I mean, 3:56 says it all xD

    • @danielvanemmerik9823
      @danielvanemmerik9823 4 роки тому +72

      On stage demo !

    • @healthdios
      @healthdios 4 роки тому +157

      How about DP or choking...? and not even a peep from the audience...

    • @deng1188
      @deng1188 4 роки тому +31

      😂🤣😂🤣

  • @kingsleyudeagha
    @kingsleyudeagha Рік тому +52

    This delivery is Topclass.

  • @martinc6987
    @martinc6987 2 роки тому +57

    thanks for showing that its possible to actually talk about it in front of others without feeling embarassed !If a woman talks about it its much different than when a man tries to do so !

  • @ericalmao7051
    @ericalmao7051 4 роки тому +4811

    its actually sad the amount of people that will laugh this off because they themselves are addicted

    • @danjokic860
      @danjokic860 4 роки тому +236

      and aren't able to admit it

    • @fn9681
      @fn9681 4 роки тому +211

      The first part is admitting that you are addicted. I used to give any reason other than addiction for quitting, I then used to say that I was kind of addicted but not that bad but now I am strong enough say that I am addicted. 10 days without so far.

    • @mshbeatbox
      @mshbeatbox 4 роки тому +62

      @@fn9681 Stay my brother. We both know you got this!

    • @fn9681
      @fn9681 4 роки тому +40

      @@mshbeatbox thanks bro. You gave me that little extra strength I needed to get through this evening
      Will sub you too

    • @mshbeatbox
      @mshbeatbox 4 роки тому +48

      @@fn9681 No subs needed. Just understand that you are better than this addiction!

  • @a1autobuild112
    @a1autobuild112 3 роки тому +2545

    6 years old wtf I’m so glad I grew up before internet

    • @danielfecklessness2796
      @danielfecklessness2796 3 роки тому +15

      Same, fam.

    • @akrammakmouk6795
      @akrammakmouk6795 3 роки тому +42

      Same. Though I was born in 2000 I live in lebanon. We didn't know about the internet until 2008. And it didn't get popular until 2012

    • @knowledgeman86
      @knowledgeman86 3 роки тому +17

      I think alot of this has to do with your up bringing and what u expose yourself too.. im 34 n some of the things she is talking about is new to me..🤷🏾‍♂️ don't get me wrong I've herd of some but, she taught me something new..

    • @a1autobuild112
      @a1autobuild112 3 роки тому +19

      Donald Ford absolutely but it’s just crazy to see what the future generation will evolve to and what’s the norm and what’s not. Especially this online fans page thing, girls go online to get donations from their viewers and these viewers actually pay. They don’t know how to interact with one another in real life but online there’s no boundaries.

    • @adaon2282
      @adaon2282 3 роки тому +5

      Haha 8 for me :)

  • @cattleprods911
    @cattleprods911 Рік тому +8

    This is excellent, this video needs to go viral. God bless the presenter and her work.

  • @bjorn3847
    @bjorn3847 2 роки тому +42

    “Wanting something with out liking it” a great definition of addiction when you want to stop. Doesn’t work so well for addicts that don’t see a problem with their addiction and both like it and want it.

    • @gatanegra8815
      @gatanegra8815 Рік тому +2

      If they are happy and not harming anybody, there is no problem.

  • @marvinmandela948
    @marvinmandela948 3 роки тому +3612

    I stopped a few years ago. Best decision ever made. My social life improved 100%.

  • @stevenconnors9198
    @stevenconnors9198 3 роки тому +3386

    It's hilarious how uncomfortable the audience looks.

    • @podvig
      @podvig 3 роки тому +26

      Side splitting...

    • @geoffoakland
      @geoffoakland 3 роки тому +129

      well, the audience is Swedish in general they are reserved and shy in public spaces, unless they've had a few drinks! Skal!

    • @zan3zan344
      @zan3zan344 3 роки тому +72

      It's also hilarious how she's oblivious to it all.

    • @GH-do9ke
      @GH-do9ke 3 роки тому +16

      🤣🤣🤣 kills me everytime

    • @melkor3496
      @melkor3496 3 роки тому +2

      Mjolnir G. Skål

  • @nealschieberl9601
    @nealschieberl9601 2 роки тому +22

    I love you for exposing the truth about this subject! I have tried and tried for years. Having no science or anything to back me up. Just the innate knowledge that it was causing problems and on a downward spiral. Thank you so much 😉

  • @central3425
    @central3425 2 роки тому +221

    Glad to see more people talking about this.
    Young men are being taught this is normal to do but it is slowly changing how they act and treat women.

  • @yeee3602
    @yeee3602 4 роки тому +9164

    In my recommended list? lol I guess incognito mode has failed me

  • @noahtabacchi3451
    @noahtabacchi3451 3 роки тому +3701

    Notice how expressionless the audience is. You know they were uncomfortable, and they knew exactly what she was talking about. It's not always easy to be called out.

    • @anshik.k.t
      @anshik.k.t 3 роки тому +39

      What do you expect from them man?

    • @christianwood8328
      @christianwood8328 2 роки тому +15

      @@anshik.k.t what do you expect from them?

    • @anshik.k.t
      @anshik.k.t 2 роки тому +64

      @@christianwood8328 i expect that silence that they are having.

    • @meenakshi.v7385
      @meenakshi.v7385 2 роки тому +63

      @@anshik.k.t I must say that some of the things she said were worthy of applause or sign of acknowledgement at the least. They, as you can see, are as cold as ice.

    • @anshik.k.t
      @anshik.k.t 2 роки тому +7

      @@meenakshi.v7385 it's confirmation. Initially it was awkward, then no one gathered courage to start it. Nothing to bother.

  • @SweetChick10101
    @SweetChick10101 Рік тому +9

    Great to see these discussions happening and so many positive comments.

  • @hamhead2765
    @hamhead2765 Рік тому +38

    We also need to stop the insanity of sexualizing women. It's all over social media and advertising.

  • @jaredjensen4558
    @jaredjensen4558 3 роки тому +4643

    Currently on day 68 going strong! Feeling better then ever!

    • @sarcastictamalito4316
      @sarcastictamalito4316 3 роки тому +123

      keep it up!!

    • @harshaljadhav4338
      @harshaljadhav4338 3 роки тому +66

      Keep going

    • @TheGerminator350
      @TheGerminator350 3 роки тому +83

      Congrats! I'm hoping to get there soon too. Keep up the good fight. You got this!

    • @kyleisom962
      @kyleisom962 3 роки тому +24

      How long did it take to notice a change?

    • @jaredjensen4558
      @jaredjensen4558 3 роки тому +97

      @@kyleisom962 For me personally around day 7 I started to feel a bit better then around day 20 I could really start to feel a difference and then day after day continued to feel better some days not always but yeah definitely worth it.

  • @mrdondada1
    @mrdondada1 4 роки тому +3592

    I knew this comment section was going to be lit

  • @bigo_637
    @bigo_637 Рік тому +10

    Thank you for the details. You opened my eyes as a parent and the potentials of what my kids have seen. This needs to be discussed.

  • @abdelrahmanmohsen8184
    @abdelrahmanmohsen8184 10 місяців тому +4

    That was spectacular. Massively important topic. I hope all people and especially teenagers get to watch it!

  • @mathsdebater
    @mathsdebater 3 роки тому +5389

    0.5 seconds clean. Wish me luck.

  • @dhaninel7902
    @dhaninel7902 3 роки тому +4319

    I’m so glad more people are starting to talk about this. She did a fantastic job.

    • @joelraphael4838
      @joelraphael4838 3 роки тому +46

      @@gedazcrew Not the focus of the video...

    • @brendanfloyd4033
      @brendanfloyd4033 3 роки тому +18

      @@gedazcrew yes she is a beautiful person, but that’s not what you should’ve gotten out of this video.

    • @austriandeathmachine8829
      @austriandeathmachine8829 2 роки тому +1

      Yeah I fapped with this video.

    • @muhammadisaac07
      @muhammadisaac07 Рік тому

      Absolutely

    • @epaminon6196
      @epaminon6196 Рік тому +8

      I'm sure she could perform a fantastic job elsewhere as well. One where she won't have to talk so much but should still moisten her lips regularly.
      She could be a great flute player in a Grand Band.

  • @ZazooEel57
    @ZazooEel57 Рік тому +10

    I enjoyed this. Much needed talk. It's too normalized and affects us only in a negative way.

  • @adrianaslund8605
    @adrianaslund8605 2 роки тому +12

    If a coping mechanism causes you great harm or make you do or feel things under its influence that are contrary to your own sense of decency then that is a problem.
    If you get caught up in the coping mechanism when you should be doing something else and this causes you to miss out on life then that is an issue.
    And you shouldn't let go of those feelings just because society tells you to.

  • @Clutterlicious
    @Clutterlicious 4 роки тому +3300

    A whole audience of people acting like this is the first time they've heard of these things :p

    • @georgehouston6327
      @georgehouston6327 4 роки тому +63

      Clutterlicious; keep in mind that this was in Sweden and for many in the audience English may be there second or third language

    • @prajupraju3312
      @prajupraju3312 4 роки тому +1

      Thanks

    • @luminous6969
      @luminous6969 4 роки тому +44

      You'd be surprised. There are still people out there that wince if they hear an F bomb.

    • @georgehouston6327
      @georgehouston6327 4 роки тому +12

      @@luminous6969 True, depends on your upbringing/environment in my opinion.

    • @entertain7us148
      @entertain7us148 4 роки тому +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣💀

  • @masongregory2
    @masongregory2 3 роки тому +2063

    First step to overcoming addiction is realizing you have a problem 💪🏽

    • @gameplaykingz9545
      @gameplaykingz9545 3 роки тому +5

      Preach sir

    • @thenextbondvillainklaussch3266
      @thenextbondvillainklaussch3266 3 роки тому +19

      So.... a massive bicep on one arm ? 🤷 😉
      Thats why you included that emoji right? lol

    • @kevc21
      @kevc21 3 роки тому +7

      I love it. No problem. Can't get a disease with it. Can't impregnate a chick. Saves time and money. I love it.

    • @fabmc8816
      @fabmc8816 3 роки тому

      I have a problem

    • @crashraynor
      @crashraynor 3 роки тому +5

      ...technically the first step to overcoming addiction is becoming addicted

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare Рік тому +32

    Educating the younger generation is key. Welldone Sis. Interesting insights

  • @tugumisirizechrispas4116
    @tugumisirizechrispas4116 Рік тому +62

    The that someone always gets after quitting the addiction is always awesome . Thank you and I pray we all overcome it🙏🙏🙏

  • @ZhenRizen
    @ZhenRizen 4 роки тому +4885

    Girls locker room : this vid
    Boys locker room : the comment section

  • @newtonbridges2574
    @newtonbridges2574 3 роки тому +2078

    i was an everyday "consumer" for about 12 years. i was able to stop and been off it now for almost 4 years.

    • @WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu
      @WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu 3 роки тому +15

      Nice

    • @WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu
      @WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu 3 роки тому +32

      How'd you do it?

    • @iandres2394
      @iandres2394 3 роки тому +8

      @Newton Bridges noticed any change?

    • @newtonbridges2574
      @newtonbridges2574 3 роки тому +250

      @@iandres2394 Yes. Tons of changes. I stopped lusting over women. I Felt calmer all around. I slept better. I had more time because I didn't have to do that every single night for an hour after work. I loved having that extra hour! I used that hour for meditation and exercise instead. Thank you for your comment.

    • @newtonbridges2574
      @newtonbridges2574 3 роки тому +136

      @@WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu Honestly, sometimes, I don't know. I wouldn't recommend this but I happened to move states. From California to Colorado. Maybe it was the mountain air although the air quality actually is not that good after all in Colorado. I got here and on my first night here pulled up my laptop per the usual but just decided at the moment not to. Then decided the next day I would continue trying that. In a way I believe it to be some type of spiritual experience. Ever since that day I have not returned to it.

  • @user-ys5ve3mw8k
    @user-ys5ve3mw8k Місяць тому +1

    You're really making a wave as regards this... this lecture is gradually upscaling my social life fr🎉

  • @divingdeepinthought7609
    @divingdeepinthought7609 2 роки тому +6

    Amazing presentation touching on some sensitive topics!! Thanks heaps 👏👏👏

  • @youngsuit
    @youngsuit 3 роки тому +6286

    My brain: this is decently informative.
    My other brain: she's so pretty!

    • @nishantrajpoot1866
      @nishantrajpoot1866 3 роки тому +264

      TitusMatTurbo you’re toxic Bro 🤣🤣🤣

    • @architverma3304
      @architverma3304 3 роки тому +484

      Objectifying someone who is fighting objectification

    • @elchuzalongo4339
      @elchuzalongo4339 3 роки тому +242

      My brain: how do these people have two brains? Tf

    • @markobozovic3971
      @markobozovic3971 3 роки тому +83

      I_am_sme11y two heads equals two brains, think about it

    • @codecobra
      @codecobra 3 роки тому +10

      😂😂😂

  • @IOxyrinchus
    @IOxyrinchus 4 роки тому +1409

    The fact that this was on my recommended feed scares me

    • @zephilde
      @zephilde 4 роки тому +73

      Do you think Google Chrome Incognito mode is hiding you?

    • @hellamv
      @hellamv 4 роки тому +1

      Xddd same

    • @kennethvekima
      @kennethvekima 4 роки тому +1

      Back Country Pastimes the NSA got your back...just trying to help you get better..

    • @marksr8784
      @marksr8784 4 роки тому

      Oh oh

    • @bestof4227
      @bestof4227 4 роки тому +3

      Probably because you have watched self improvement videos or other Ted talk vids

  • @nitishkshirasagar6416
    @nitishkshirasagar6416 Рік тому +8

    Thank to this girl for talking one of the most bad addiction courageously

  • @Javashtv
    @Javashtv Рік тому +3

    This woman has got to be the best speaker of an uncomfortable topic in history. 😄…Great Job‼️

  • @spencernelson1560
    @spencernelson1560 4 роки тому +5158

    All the guys in the audience be sweating just like the Key and Peal skit

  • @ladragodamultus6815
    @ladragodamultus6815 4 роки тому +1365

    You never really know you are addicted until you try to quit
    And then the relapses kills you

    • @AO-qv5hl
      @AO-qv5hl 4 роки тому +42

      When they addict a customer, they have a customer for life.

    • @Anonymous-uw4sr
      @Anonymous-uw4sr 4 роки тому +15

      @@AO-qv5hl NO

    • @AO-qv5hl
      @AO-qv5hl 4 роки тому +4

      @@Anonymous-uw4sr yes

    • @ladragodamultus6815
      @ladragodamultus6815 4 роки тому +34

      @thegrandfinale2 if it was as easy as that people wouldn't be struggling.
      Everyone has their Q you have to find yours maybe going to gym or maybe reading novels, going to church etc

    • @khustlin34
      @khustlin34 4 роки тому +3

      🤣🤣

  • @iftstv9814
    @iftstv9814 2 роки тому +2

    She is such a positive energy to be around.

  • @timtravasos2742
    @timtravasos2742 2 роки тому +25

    I agree. I've never been comfortable with those acts. It is dangerous and damaging to men, but more so, for women.

  • @72151
    @72151 3 роки тому +2213

    She speaks about a serious issue with the expectations of intimacy, or I should say the sacrifice of intimacy between people. I applaud her for her efforts.

  • @tessascarlett5367
    @tessascarlett5367 3 роки тому +1504

    majority of these comments prove her point.. props to the men/women speaking out and acknowledging this issue.

    • @scooby6147
      @scooby6147 3 роки тому +24

      comments are jokes mostly dont take it too seriously :)

    • @tessascarlett5367
      @tessascarlett5367 3 роки тому +76

      @@scooby6147 not all comments are jokes.. and this isn’t something to be joked about anyways.

    • @johnsilver8480
      @johnsilver8480 3 роки тому +15

      @@scooby6147 need to say it- the most people making jokes about that I know working for a motel.
      Coincedence?
      I am sad that those people do not think about their own daughter. This problem is somethning every girl and woman face eaxh day - and the big majority of their husbands, brothers and and fathers just looking the other direction.
      Dont joke. Blame the joker. Let them feel what tjey give their girls.
      That is the only way this will not happen to your own daughter or granddaughter.

    • @DS-lk3tx
      @DS-lk3tx 3 роки тому +6

      Nice rack.

    • @afrodrummajors4lovepeacech508
      @afrodrummajors4lovepeacech508 3 роки тому +8

      Your pic is apart of the problem

  • @jisooya7878
    @jisooya7878 Рік тому +3

    we are really lucky to be able to hear these kinds of conversations for free, Time to Change!!

  • @user-uy2os5gj7x
    @user-uy2os5gj7x 2 місяці тому +2

    I really surprised her confidence, even she talked about the most sensitive subject in front of the audience
    Well done lady ❤

  • @jagadishgospat2548
    @jagadishgospat2548 3 роки тому +781

    *Openly admitting you got a problem is the first step to recovery.*
    -Gumball waterson

    • @mikefin8847
      @mikefin8847 3 роки тому +20

      Why gumball lmfao

    • @jagadishgospat2548
      @jagadishgospat2548 3 роки тому +12

      @@mikefin8847 watch the Darwin potato episode

    • @Doomemdtrader
      @Doomemdtrader 3 роки тому +9

      I have a problem. I just can't help myself doing it over and over again. I just can't stop eating food. Each time when I stop, I get that craving inside, that it wants food again. I can't resist it.

    • @jagadishgospat2548
      @jagadishgospat2548 3 роки тому +7

      @@Doomemdtrader firstly if you can try to have a mirror in the kitchen. Second, it's not only the taste that we're after but also full tummy feeling and the process of eating itself. So find out which one you're after and do this.
      Taste: try eating some candy or some very small alternative.
      Eating: chewing gum.
      Full tummy: soup or drink or something in those lines.
      All of these are just quick fixes, but if you want to stop eating more, try a 24 hrs fasting your stomach will shrink and eating one plate feels full and be more discipline you know? . Tell your friends that you're eating less. And please avoid junk food, fast food, they numb your brain making you feel dizzy ALL THE TIME. this should get you through.

    • @crashraynor
      @crashraynor 3 роки тому +6

      ...the first step to getting out of a hole is being in a hole
      -Crash Raynor

  • @shamanthkashyap4805
    @shamanthkashyap4805 3 роки тому +1572

    The balls u have to have to explain atm and gagging to an auditorium

    • @saftschubse9575
      @saftschubse9575 3 роки тому +17

      Hahahahah true

    • @d33bo67
      @d33bo67 2 роки тому +25

      I was trying to focus the whole time she was talking lol

    • @alilrooj
      @alilrooj 2 роки тому +29

      right? kudos to her

    • @GnosticSeeker369
      @GnosticSeeker369 2 роки тому +12

      I know
      I love this chick man

    • @SAAD-hy7oe
      @SAAD-hy7oe 2 роки тому +16

      she don't hav balls actually

  • @davidtoledo2323
    @davidtoledo2323 Місяць тому

    Great topic. Class in session! TY FOR EDUCATING!👏🏽❤️

  • @xXKittyDollXx
    @xXKittyDollXx Рік тому

    She is such a role model in the way she speaks and approaches this topic.

  • @OneTrueEmotion
    @OneTrueEmotion 4 роки тому +1871

    Thank you for speaking on this very important and heavily normalized issue. This is incredibly brave because a lot of people don't take it seriously. I support your work and I loved this talk. :)

    • @beswron
      @beswron 4 роки тому +4

      So did I

    • @DiasDenny
      @DiasDenny 4 роки тому +10

      Well why should we quit

    • @DiasDenny
      @DiasDenny 4 роки тому +11

      It's not affecting us financially

    • @kyledettmers3057
      @kyledettmers3057 4 роки тому +5

      You call this work?

    • @joshuaragon6676
      @joshuaragon6676 3 роки тому +18

      Because most people don’t realize that it’s the new drug. The brain becomes addicted the exact same way as alcohol and illegal drugs.

  • @youtubingbabs
    @youtubingbabs 3 роки тому +2013

    Anybody gonna mention every title says stepmom, stepbrother, dad, etc... It's like what in the actual...????

    • @limitedquantitysufiyyahexp3913
      @limitedquantitysufiyyahexp3913 3 роки тому +61

      You bad boy

    • @styler19721
      @styler19721 3 роки тому +162

      when i read the statistics on that i was disgusted.. it wasnt like that 10 years ago.

    • @youtubingbabs
      @youtubingbabs 3 роки тому +11

      @@limitedquantitysufiyyahexp3913 who's a bad boy?

    • @dankay7982
      @dankay7982 3 роки тому +16

      Right? But without a valid passport to prove it's legit it's all nothing and just blah.

    • @jazz4dayz543
      @jazz4dayz543 3 роки тому +90

      What are you doing stepbro?!

  • @sumatinair
    @sumatinair Рік тому +1

    Comparison to touch on cheek is just superb.. Beautiful talk..

  • @michelleruizcalle
    @michelleruizcalle Рік тому +1

    i´m 15 and i´m so thankful for this informational video, also I try to watch another ones to educate myself of what I don´t have to do, and how I can overcome that thoughts.

  • @LookAroundMore
    @LookAroundMore 3 роки тому +451

    It's heartening to see so many men in the comments addressing this addiction in their own life. I'm sure it's not easy but I hope that this addiction will be replaced with joyous and fulfilling relationships in your life with real partners. I'm nobody to you, but for what it's worth, and in case no one else says it, I'M PROUD OF YOU. ✌🙌👏

    • @alvingardner7943
      @alvingardner7943 3 роки тому +6

      Thank you!!!

    • @darielrowe1324
      @darielrowe1324 3 роки тому +1

      I hope you know those boys are cap. 🤭🤭🤭

    • @LookAroundMore
      @LookAroundMore 3 роки тому

      @@darielrowe1324 cap?

    • @CC-hi9fh
      @CC-hi9fh 3 роки тому +1

      @@LookAroundMore means they're lying

    • @tracyavent-costanza346
      @tracyavent-costanza346 3 роки тому +1

      what if you have all of those other trappings and you are not satsified. What if that is really nobody's fault.

  • @deeluvsu4l
    @deeluvsu4l 3 роки тому +3321

    I'm stopping on the 1st of October. wish me luck.

    • @nitishroy153
      @nitishroy153 3 роки тому +108

      Good luck brother

    • @Dani-lk3ed
      @Dani-lk3ed 3 роки тому +52

      Same

    • @nonasenpai
      @nonasenpai 3 роки тому +52

      Good luck mah dude (not meant in a sarcastic way, will be hard for me to stop completely too tbh)

    • @deeluvsu4l
      @deeluvsu4l 3 роки тому +238

      I'm doing good so far boys. I'm craving it but i can control it and divert that energy into other things

    • @nitishroy153
      @nitishroy153 3 роки тому +14

      @@deeluvsu4l great

  • @hichammed1886
    @hichammed1886 2 роки тому +18

    This educational show could be a great aid for people who are addictive to strike this dangerous habit. It's very helpful and brave to talk about it and make people aware that is necessary to deal with without shame.

  • @AbhishekRai-qo2fj
    @AbhishekRai-qo2fj Рік тому +2

    This is a great initiative for everyone especially youngsters

  • @codacreator6162
    @codacreator6162 4 роки тому +2708

    Sounds like she's done plenty of research.

    • @insertname7750
      @insertname7750 4 роки тому +110

      coda creator lol haven’t we all 😏

    • @jacobandrews2663
      @jacobandrews2663 4 роки тому +9

      🤣🤣

    • @Lala_15666
      @Lala_15666 4 роки тому +47

      coda creator she’s really has, lol 10 years of experience

    • @williamhunter8773
      @williamhunter8773 4 роки тому +61

      Sounds like her research is a bunch of junk science

    • @CelestialSapien703
      @CelestialSapien703 4 роки тому

      coda creator this comment right here 😂🤣

  • @Iconiquemusique
    @Iconiquemusique 3 роки тому +891

    I started when I was 9. I am 23 now and I stopped counting my No cap Streak. I stopped sometime last year. I Will not relapse I strongly believe. From Nigeria.

    • @Luke-xt6jr
      @Luke-xt6jr 3 роки тому +18

      I’m proud

    • @nicolosari4912
      @nicolosari4912 3 роки тому +9

      Stay strong my friend

    • @JohnFlessas
      @JohnFlessas 3 роки тому +10

      9???

    • @Marc-wj3sx
      @Marc-wj3sx 3 роки тому +10

      Hey man, I don't understand the topic completely. It's about stop watching it, not stopping to mast*rb*te?

    • @crusher6589
      @crusher6589 3 роки тому +4

      @@JohnFlessas i started at 7

  • @jamesb687
    @jamesb687 2 роки тому +5

    I will continue to watch Ted talks about how to over come it, because it would help me recover better, it would motivate me to feel the urge less

  • @suhaibalazzeh3255
    @suhaibalazzeh3255 Місяць тому +1

    Good job spreading the awareness to the people, thank you .

  • @reubenbroussard6955
    @reubenbroussard6955 3 роки тому +271

    That part “no longer contributing to an offensive and obnoxious industry” hit hard.

    • @tommiethrash
      @tommiethrash 3 роки тому +1

      Sarcasm?

    • @simonphoenix3789
      @simonphoenix3789 3 роки тому +2

      that rammed the point home?

    • @justbecause9645
      @justbecause9645 2 роки тому +1

      religion?

    • @NoFretBrettCSSMBFF
      @NoFretBrettCSSMBFF 2 роки тому

      16:00... but listen well before so that you get the context better...

    • @user-du4kw9tt3f
      @user-du4kw9tt3f 2 роки тому +4

      I find it both silly and morally wrong to pay for people to be pretending and prostituting their bodies - all the while plentiful amateurs are eager to share online their much more normal (physically and psychologically) adventures.

  • @YG-zx6tv
    @YG-zx6tv 4 роки тому +1288

    daily reminder you're only watching this because there's a comment section...

  • @MOHDFAISAL-qw8mz
    @MOHDFAISAL-qw8mz 2 роки тому

    she and ran gavrieli changed my mindset. Thanks to you guys and special thanks to TEDx.

  • @adrianac.mariespejo
    @adrianac.mariespejo 2 роки тому +3

    Amazing speech. Thank you for this.

  • @shereeh175
    @shereeh175 3 роки тому +523

    I feel like the industry is going to get even bigger with the internet being our only connection to be with people

    • @eviljesus6111
      @eviljesus6111 3 роки тому +34

      That's what they want

    • @dddila
      @dddila 3 роки тому +48

      Its horrifying

    • @eviljesus6111
      @eviljesus6111 3 роки тому +8

      @@hopewonder why would anyone consider it charity
      it ain't a necessity
      At the same time it can be your best friend and an enemy

    • @christien6230
      @christien6230 3 роки тому +23

      It will get worse with virtual reality and the new gadgets there making

    • @Ad-Ac
      @Ad-Ac 3 роки тому +3

      @@hopewonder It wasn't free acess, it was free acces to *premium content* . Normally, this site is free access all the time.

  • @Pastorella_COD_Mobile
    @Pastorella_COD_Mobile 3 роки тому +1270

    I am seriously stopping tomorrow. Wish me luck.

  • @bluspirit5456
    @bluspirit5456 2 роки тому +1

    Amazing speaker, amazing message and really important aswell.

  • @lukebercel6492
    @lukebercel6492 2 роки тому +2

    The analogy to smoking just really makes you realize how bad it is.

  • @johnbarrick4836
    @johnbarrick4836 4 роки тому +543

    I like how she’s giving definitions like these people need it.

    • @SomeGal
      @SomeGal 4 роки тому +12

      Oh, so EVERYONE knows what those acts are?

    • @shawnyoung5960
      @shawnyoung5960 4 роки тому +50

      @@SomeGal I know I didn't. I've only known ATM to be a machine to get money from. And I've done my share of "research" though the years,...LOL

    • @burneracc2567
      @burneracc2567 4 роки тому +19

      I didn't know bout ATM

    • @paigedygert7051
      @paigedygert7051 2 роки тому +4

      A lot of people do not know this stuff.

    • @ivorjones6618
      @ivorjones6618 Рік тому +1

      @@paigedygert7051 thats because it does not matter

  • @satoshigerbil8789
    @satoshigerbil8789 3 роки тому +549

    I wonder if there is an audience member sitting next to their parents

  • @pierrejoubert7195
    @pierrejoubert7195 Рік тому +1

    Very important that this message becomes more wide spread! So true.

  • @asifislam4276
    @asifislam4276 Рік тому +4

    one of the finest ted talks.

  • @Romeox1994
    @Romeox1994 4 роки тому +682

    Good talk. Not to be rude or anything, but here's a tip for the other viewers : this video still manages to sound quite fine with 1.25x speed

    • @rajadhirajmaharaj
      @rajadhirajmaharaj 4 роки тому +27

      it sounds normal with 2x

    • @Ondulado.
      @Ondulado. 4 роки тому +53

      Too bad i read this with 1 minute left

    • @georgemeadows6951
      @georgemeadows6951 4 роки тому +5

      Yes double time still wasn't fast enough it's like an intentional stretching of the information

    • @bakh91
      @bakh91 4 роки тому +9

      Man, you're very respectful

    • @kasekuchentv7282
      @kasekuchentv7282 4 роки тому +2

      thegrandfinale2 you tip on the video, on the upper right corner are 3 dots, you tip on them

  • @chernetayalew
    @chernetayalew 3 роки тому +1269

    we need more kids like you in this generation.

    • @patooeyspit
      @patooeyspit 3 роки тому +3

      Agreed

    • @iamsammybe
      @iamsammybe 3 роки тому +80

      You clearly don't actually know or understand our generation. You only think that this is rare because you believe in the media portrayal of us.

    • @tractorback76
      @tractorback76 3 роки тому +16

      Then they created only fans...

    • @kevin15776
      @kevin15776 3 роки тому

      Why?

    • @ncxymj8182
      @ncxymj8182 3 роки тому

      Yess

  • @emekaosuji1255
    @emekaosuji1255 Рік тому +6

    This a conversation that needs to be talked about more. Thank you!

  • @amirhosseinesmaeilpour7214
    @amirhosseinesmaeilpour7214 10 місяців тому +1

    How awesome that we are having this great education and learning and how bad for me that I have just met this after years but its so much better than nothing or never. but unfortunately in third world countries and poor both cultural and economic logics, the References are so less and no one even care about this sicknesses and addictions. one of our only recourses is this channels and the educated people that we can find who can talk about this stuff. I wish more and more people see at least these videos and those who see like me, notice others and as time goes on we get that confidence to talk and make conversations about it. thanks again.

  • @emanandchill
    @emanandchill 3 роки тому +457

    That was a good ted talk with good examples. And the more she spoke about it the more you come to understand how serious this issue is.

  • @divyeshkatariya4951
    @divyeshkatariya4951 3 роки тому +676

    I can give a great speech but being so honest, brutal and confident on stage for this topic (being a woman) makes me shiver to my core and give blessing to this woman to make some lives better who understand what this means!

    • @noahstegane6582
      @noahstegane6582 3 роки тому +36

      @Alex Burch He was just being nice, Mr. Big Balls

    • @tapratalkies6115
      @tapratalkies6115 3 роки тому

      WONDERFUL .... 2021

    • @luca7675
      @luca7675 3 роки тому +12

      what does being a woman have to do with that? Either you are confident or you are not. The subject doesnt matter i feel.

    • @user.1743
      @user.1743 Рік тому

      siden
      “Being a woman…” wtf??? She is from a civilized world…. Not like you moren…

  • @jbapparel10
    @jbapparel10 Рік тому +2

    Great talk, We need more awareness like this....

  • @greenxintet1651
    @greenxintet1651 4 роки тому +226

    I like how shes able to keep complete composure talking about these acts.

    • @burneracc2567
      @burneracc2567 4 роки тому +12

      She's got experience

    • @jonnybgoode7742
      @jonnybgoode7742 4 роки тому +1

      @@laurisaarinen1126 the less smart 😂😂 no just no...

    • @tyronebiggums69
      @tyronebiggums69 4 роки тому

      @@laurisaarinen1126 you not telling a joke shows your comment is not true.

    • @Silvermoonscorpion
      @Silvermoonscorpion Рік тому

      What other composure should she have?