I would like have seen this before yesterday,my ex came back but i still have fears and anger. We fought by phone. He didnt want to talk yo mee anymore. 5Years of relationship .
When you get to the point of being comfortable in your own skin after a break-up, not afraid to spend time alone and not having to prove to the world that you can only be happy if you're in a relationship, then you've made it. Being in a relationship is great but you want to be in a relationship with someone who also has gotten to that point. It seems too many people can't for whatever reason be alone.
Victoria is correct . I knew my ex wasn’t good for Me . After He left me again ! I was convinced I was in love . After going no contact I’ve done a lot of thinking . I don’t like Him at all . As for Love , maybe once . I see things more clearly now . I don’t want any guy who isn’t sure about Me
Hi Craig & Victoria, I have been watching your videos almost every night before sleep. I have been in no contact with my ex about 2 months after I begged him for 3 weeks. I have realized since I dissapear from his life, including not posting anything, not watchig his instas story, he started to text me more about house chores etc. I’m moving out from his apartment and he offered me to help the moving. I see some good signs but I don’t want to put a high hope for now. Let’s see what will happen next
I said this before on an older video, but it bears repeating; it is so important to do the work. I went no contact the first time that we split. She did end up reaching out to me, but when she did I was the exact same as I was before and hadn't worked on any solutions to what the problem was in the first place (long distance relationship). We are in no contact again, but this time I'm coming up with possible solutions, so that if she does reach out, I'm ready.
Very helpful episode. Thank you. I became secure over 1,5years from being anxious. I analyze every interaction with people on a daily basis specifically with people that are anxious 😅 and act accordingly.
I have exes that I have missed as friends but once the attraction is lost, I have never been able to get it back even if I really want to. If I tell an ex I lost attraction but that I miss them, it does not mean I will ever want them back romantically (I won't), but more so that I am open to the possibility of being friends of some kind.
Wow this video is great but came a month to late. I’m in a break up and did NC and had my ex watch my stories on IG till she got fed up and unfollowed me. Now I’m here hurting and my anxiety is terrible.
This is literally what happened to me... I moved out of my ex's house but I didn't lose my job I still work with my ex which made the break up harder. I took her for granted b/c I knew how much she loved me. I have regret but I learned from my mistakes.
This sounds like the same exact situation I’m in, except I’m further along. We’re no longer living together and I took her for granted. It’s like my third attempt for no contact. I’m hoping she comes back so we can begin working on the relationship, but honestly I don’t know 😔 wish me luck
What if you did take them for granted? She did an indirect direct approach that I didn’t know about. Just stayed in NC (4 months) been working on myself. I have a feeling like I should reach out but I’m not going to even though I love her. She broke it, she fixes it if she wants it. I can’t shake her, literally her path keeps crossing mine. Thanks for the videos.
It’s a complicated game the all the psychology hurts your brain, I’m there too. We’re told that strong NC is the only way if they dumped you, but sometimes I wonder. Depending on your situation with your ex(obviously that can be hard to measure) I never begged, but over 2 months reached out a few times for things: picking stuff up and an accountability message. You said you took them for granted? I did too, among other things that after the breakup were left unsaid. 2 weeks after, I had some therapy and reflected and realised all my mistakes, just anxious attachment stuff - I sent an accountability message, because why would she ever consider me again if she thought I was in denial about my mistakes? Plus, I’m making steps to grow and be more aware. I sent it and she was moved, she was impressed that I had taken ownership of my behaviours and the fact that I validated and empathised with her feelings meant a lot to her. So that had a positive impact. She even replied with things she got wrong, she was conflict avoidant so was big for her and she wanted to share the blame - then back into NC. After about 2 months we meet at a mutual friend’s dinner and it was fine, casual and friendly. I played it cool, projected confidence. Afterwards we had a short chat by the cars, she stood close and gave intense eye contact, said I seemed really good and she’s been “up and down” and we left. But I saw a change. Again, I hadn’t stuck to solid NC, 2 months maybe a message every few weeks about something, but no neediness. Also picked my stuff up and had a good, brief chat. After seeing that there was attraction(her eye contact reminded me of when we were first dating) I reached out again, a week after that. She was heading back to the UK for a month, I was supposed to be going too but clearly we broke up. I reached out because I couldn’t find my grandfathers ring and thought she might have it(actually true and did want it back), she didn’t have it but expressed how emotional and sad she was feeling leaving without me. I reflected this saying I was feeling a bit sad about it too(I probably gave too much emotion but🤷♂️) I asked if she’d want to meet up and re-connect and she said she would. Big success. But she had 2 days to pack and a lot of work to finish so we never did. She was very clear to say that she really did want to meet up and wanted to when she got back, “Safe to say i’ll be thinking of you” she said. So it’s been a month and she’ll be home any day now, so we’ll see if she reaches out… I have done ALL the reaching out so far with pretty encouraging results. I haven’t been needy even though all these coaches say that reaching out in itself is a needy move… at the same time I’m not sure if she’ll try friend zone me, I saw all that attraction so maybe not… if I don’t reach out now will she to say she wants to do this meet up? This is my problem now. But anyway, I’m not convinced NC is always the best way, you have to judge your situation. Good luck.
Craig Help!my ex 2 mo’s gets a Therapist She broke up next day. after me being in no contact for a week i broke it w/a couple mild texts. She said she understood my surprise/disappointment she was dealing with issues she was hoping to fix(including the passing of her daughter 1 year anniversary) but wanted to know why i perceived she needed space. I didn’t answer right away and within 3 days then she blocked me. I did one call 6 weeks no response and nothing communication wise on either side since .Fyi I’m on no Social Media of any kind. She maybe probably thinks I’ll show up to talk it out 10 minutes away i wont! I’m no fool. Need Help! It’s not easy its getting a little better but i still care!
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Would be great if they actually did come back. Yea show that you changed. One thing that is easy to do is say that we did something when we haven't actually done so.
Best relationship related channel on the tube 🤙 Oh man, Victoria 🥵 😆 🤣 I absolutely love how genuine you both seem to be. Not just all the words of wisdom, but the authenticity in that you guys stand. I've been following this channel for many years and it really did and still does change my life in the way of how I handle relationships nowadays. Don't get me wrong, I still make mistakes every once in awhile, but these reminders and wisdom always help me keep my eyes on the prize aka the constant drive and dedication to personal growth. Thank you both for being you. R.I.P Margeret (I still go back to older videos just to hear her reminders too).
I did reach out to her after 1,5 months to apologize for the mistakes I did which I realized after reflecting on the relationship. Like putting her on a pedestal, being to needy and smothering her. She responded that I'am not the only one to blame. We then had a 1,5h call were we talked about some daily life things and also further about what went wrong. There are some things we both can't answer. We don't know how we managed to fck it up. Biggest problem was a communication issue that came in (which never was a problem before). We ended the call with me telling her that I still have feelings for her and that I think we could fix it. She said she's over it and doesn't want to leave any cracks in the door. How over is it really?
If she doesn't come back she will regret it later in life. Honesty is a rare quality and you were honest with her about your mistakes and lingering feelings. If that isn't admirable, I don't know what is. Never change 😊
Never reach out again, bud. Telling a woman how you feel about her means absolutely nothing to her unless she's already very attracted to you or you're initiating contact with a woman you're romantically interested in to see if she feels the same way. If you already simped for this girl, the absolute last thing you ever want to do is tell her how you feel again. Man to man, the best thing you can do is grow your balls back and never let yourself become submissive to a woman again.
I seen on the news where the woman saying that about woman test men but...I mean how else can we know we don't kno until we do test I mean weather we're going to raped or threatened or killed or loved I meeeeean
This video goes into a lot of details! I highly recommend you watch the entire thing!
Hi coach I would love to share my break up story with you how will I be able to do that with you. I love your channel by the way
I would like have seen this before yesterday,my ex came back but i still have fears and anger. We fought by phone. He didnt want to talk yo mee anymore. 5Years of relationship .
When you get to the point of being comfortable in your own skin after a break-up, not afraid to spend time alone and not having to prove to the world that you can only be happy if you're in a relationship, then you've made it. Being in a relationship is great but you want to be in a relationship with someone who also has gotten to that point. It seems too many people can't for whatever reason be alone.
Victoria is correct . I knew my ex wasn’t good for Me . After He left me again ! I was convinced I was in love . After going no contact I’ve done a lot of thinking . I don’t like Him at all . As for Love , maybe once . I see things more clearly now . I don’t want any guy who isn’t sure about Me
My guy left me (again) about 10 days ago. I already am not liking him much.
We’re never meant to make it alone. Life is about the connections we make with others and changing lives however we can
Not exactly true if you’re an INFJ personality type! Look it up. Being around other people and social situations is often draining…
Your opinion
Hi Craig & Victoria, I have been watching your videos almost every night before sleep. I have been in no contact with my ex about 2 months after I begged him for 3 weeks. I have realized since I dissapear from his life, including not posting anything, not watchig his instas story, he started to text me more about house chores etc. I’m moving out from his apartment and he offered me to help the moving. I see some good signs but I don’t want to put a high hope for now. Let’s see what will happen next
any update?
I said this before on an older video, but it bears repeating; it is so important to do the work. I went no contact the first time that we split. She did end up reaching out to me, but when she did I was the exact same as I was before and hadn't worked on any solutions to what the problem was in the first place (long distance relationship). We are in no contact again, but this time I'm coming up with possible solutions, so that if she does reach out, I'm ready.
Do you think she will reach out again?
@@jane2947-f6j I sure hope so. But this time it seems more unlikely 😔
I feel hopeless and doubtful but your videos help soothe the pain at times. Thank you. I hope I can continue to stay motivated.
Very helpful episode. Thank you. I became secure over 1,5years from being anxious. I analyze every interaction with people on a daily basis specifically with people that are anxious 😅 and act accordingly.
I have exes that I have missed as friends but once the attraction is lost, I have never been able to get it back even if I really want to. If I tell an ex I lost attraction but that I miss them, it does not mean I will ever want them back romantically (I won't), but more so that I am open to the possibility of being friends of some kind.
Wow this video is great but came a month to late. I’m in a break up and did NC and had my ex watch my stories on IG till she got fed up and unfollowed me. Now I’m here hurting and my anxiety is terrible.
This is literally what happened to me... I moved out of my ex's house but I didn't lose my job I still work with my ex which made the break up harder. I took her for granted b/c I knew how much she loved me. I have regret but I learned from my mistakes.
7 YEARS SOBER NOW MYSELF .... TO GOD BE ALL THE GLORY .. SALUTE 🫡 👍🏾 💯
This sounds like the same exact situation I’m in, except I’m further along. We’re no longer living together and I took her for granted. It’s like my third attempt for no contact. I’m hoping she comes back so we can begin working on the relationship, but honestly I don’t know 😔 wish me luck
What if you did take them for granted?
She did an indirect direct approach that I didn’t know about. Just stayed in NC (4 months) been working on myself. I have a feeling like I should reach out but I’m not going to even though I love her. She broke it, she fixes it if she wants it. I can’t shake her, literally her path keeps crossing mine. Thanks for the videos.
Amen brother she broke it she fixes it!
It’s a complicated game the all the psychology hurts your brain, I’m there too. We’re told that strong NC is the only way if they dumped you, but sometimes I wonder.
Depending on your situation with your ex(obviously that can be hard to measure) I never begged, but over 2 months reached out a few times for things: picking stuff up and an accountability message.
You said you took them for granted? I did too, among other things that after the breakup were left unsaid. 2 weeks after, I had some therapy and reflected and realised all my mistakes, just anxious attachment stuff - I sent an accountability message, because why would she ever consider me again if she thought I was in denial about my mistakes? Plus, I’m making steps to grow and be more aware. I sent it and she was moved, she was impressed that I had taken ownership of my behaviours and the fact that I validated and empathised with her feelings meant a lot to her. So that had a positive impact. She even replied with things she got wrong, she was conflict avoidant so was big for her and she wanted to share the blame - then back into NC.
After about 2 months we meet at a mutual friend’s dinner and it was fine, casual and friendly. I played it cool, projected confidence. Afterwards we had a short chat by the cars, she stood close and gave intense eye contact, said I seemed really good and she’s been “up and down” and we left. But I saw a change. Again, I hadn’t stuck to solid NC, 2 months maybe a message every few weeks about something, but no neediness. Also picked my stuff up and had a good, brief chat.
After seeing that there was attraction(her eye contact reminded me of when we were first dating) I reached out again, a week after that.
She was heading back to the UK for a month, I was supposed to be going too but clearly we broke up. I reached out because I couldn’t find my grandfathers ring and thought she might have it(actually true and did want it back), she didn’t have it but expressed how emotional and sad she was feeling leaving without me. I reflected this saying I was feeling a bit sad about it too(I probably gave too much emotion but🤷♂️) I asked if she’d want to meet up and re-connect and she said she would. Big success. But she had 2 days to pack and a lot of work to finish so we never did. She was very clear to say that she really did want to meet up and wanted to when she got back, “Safe to say i’ll be thinking of you” she said.
So it’s been a month and she’ll be home any day now, so we’ll see if she reaches out… I have done ALL the reaching out so far with pretty encouraging results. I haven’t been needy even though all these coaches say that reaching out in itself is a needy move… at the same time I’m not sure if she’ll try friend zone me, I saw all that attraction so maybe not… if I don’t reach out now will she to say she wants to do this meet up? This is my problem now. But anyway, I’m not convinced NC is always the best way, you have to judge your situation. Good luck.
This basically describes me and 8 year relationship
Thank you for sharing again. Respect
Craig Help!my ex 2 mo’s gets a Therapist She broke up next day. after me being in no contact for a week i broke it w/a couple mild texts. She said she understood my surprise/disappointment she was dealing with issues she was hoping to fix(including the passing of her daughter 1 year anniversary) but wanted to know why i perceived she needed space. I didn’t answer right away and within 3 days then she blocked me. I did one call 6 weeks no response and nothing communication wise on either side since .Fyi I’m on no Social Media of any kind. She maybe probably thinks I’ll show up to talk it out 10 minutes away i wont! I’m no fool. Need Help! It’s not easy its getting a little better but i still care!
No calls or texts for 6 weeks now…..the struggle is real😕
@@JimNewman-cc5gh 15 weeks here 😅.. does it get better with time? Hell no..
Why is it you only read emails from the younger couples? You need to target older couples with relationships problems also!
I take them randomly from email coachings. Age isn’t even a consideration when choosing a topic. Sign up for an email coaching if you’d like one to be considered
Would be great if they actually did come back.
Yea show that you changed. One thing that is easy to do is say that we did something when we haven't actually done so.
Best relationship related channel on the tube 🤙
Oh man, Victoria 🥵 😆 🤣
I absolutely love how genuine you both seem to be. Not just all the words of wisdom, but the authenticity in that you guys stand. I've been following this channel for many years and it really did and still does change my life in the way of how I handle relationships nowadays. Don't get me wrong, I still make mistakes every once in awhile, but these reminders and wisdom always help me keep my eyes on the prize aka the constant drive and dedication to personal growth. Thank you both for being you. R.I.P Margeret (I still go back to older videos just to hear her reminders too).
I did reach out to her after 1,5 months to apologize for the mistakes I did which I realized after reflecting on the relationship. Like putting her on a pedestal, being to needy and smothering her. She responded that I'am not the only one to blame. We then had a 1,5h call were we talked about some daily life things and also further about what went wrong. There are some things we both can't answer. We don't know how we managed to fck it up. Biggest problem was a communication issue that came in (which never was a problem before). We ended the call with me telling her that I still have feelings for her and that I think we could fix it. She said she's over it and doesn't want to leave any cracks in the door. How over is it really?
She’ll only come back if her other options didn’t work.
If she doesn't come back she will regret it later in life. Honesty is a rare quality and you were honest with her about your mistakes and lingering feelings. If that isn't admirable, I don't know what is. Never change 😊
@@rel0302 thank you, thats nice to hear :)
Never reach out again, bud. Telling a woman how you feel about her means absolutely nothing to her unless she's already very attracted to you or you're initiating contact with a woman you're romantically interested in to see if she feels the same way.
If you already simped for this girl, the absolute last thing you ever want to do is tell her how you feel again.
Man to man, the best thing you can do is grow your balls back and never let yourself become submissive to a woman again.
I seen on the news where the woman saying that about woman test men but...I mean how else can we know we don't kno until we do test I mean weather we're going to raped or threatened or killed or loved I meeeeean
bro what? lol holy shit thats extreme
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