The title to this video is literally what I experienced this weekend. She finally reached out after 3 years. Stay in no contact guys and keep working to on personal growth and mental health.
I'll never forget Margaret, her words helped me after a breakup with my avoidant ex 7 years ago. 💜 I'm not in a relationship but I've found contentment since. I'm just here because these videos are comforting, and I like the case study to further my understanding. I've helped a number of people recognize their anxious / avoidant attachment styles since, all thanks to this channel :). Forever indebted.
I watch those videos for exact same reason 😊 and this channel helped me a lot a few years ago when I was going through a breakup, back then I was is a lot of pain, thought I will die😢 I didn't die , I worked on myself and today I'm healthier than I've ever been in my life. When I think of my ex I smile, no hard feelings at all, I'm actually glad it happened to me because I get on with my family and friends a lot better, I like my life, I'm content 😊 I'm ok being single for now.
Gotta be clear with what you want. Don't jump the gun. Relax. Count to 10. You'll have a much better outcome. I wouldnt know cause no one has come back but it's working in my professional life.
He dodged a bullet for sure and its now her loss if someone is keeping you a secret you dont really exist you're in a relationshit they are ashamed of what you have together dont stick it out end the relationshit.
What's with the calculation of the age difference? You said she was in her late 20s and the guy in his early 50s. Even if the girl was 30 and the guy 51, there is a good 20-year difference, not 15. Also, the guy sounds toxic; good for her if she has moved on. She has daddy issues...
Sounds like me. Th only difference the father was not in it. I was insecure and did this with my ex and she eventually left. She was in a relationship with another girl. And I broke no contact a few times and she told me she was happy. I was hurt and I got block . Y’all are amazing for figuring things out.
It’ll be 6 months this Saturday and It’s just as hard to stay in no contact as when I began, just in the last 12 hours I have been fighting a war not to reach out, hard to imagine I’ll ever get over this, makes it harder that she’s starting to begin light contact with my friends but not myself, a crumb of a breadcrumb…
@Coach Craig can you please make a video to help me out my now ex boyfriend pushed me to leave him because he still wasn't sure about us then when i seen him to bring back my car he apologised he knew how bad my mental state was after getting fired from my job caused by a difficult client plus more.he still made things hard by being extremely negative not very supportive when i asked him if he was just resolving the issue to have christmas together and sex because he was trying to make moves the night after so i felt rage and suggested that he sleeps on the couch because of my rage and not wanting to talk to him he took off and now is treating break up like he broke it off and would be happy if i was to find someone else should i do no contact? please no replies only unless you are any of the coaches for this channel
Been 6 yrs. She broke up with. Me. 3. Yrs of no contact. I saw her in the grocery store a few weeks ago back. When she saw me she looked nervous. I felt more confident talking to another woman while she was around. Stay in no. Guys
I have dated Muslim girls too.. they can be in their twenties or in their thirties in my experience and still hide every bit of Truth about their life from their toxically controlling manipulative and invasive families of origin.. ironically even though I'm from New York my family is also that way but at least now I can see it and I don't tolerate a bit of it anymore.. sometimes a major breakup can lead to a great awakening
I disagree….I wanted my ex back so badly but rejected her because she wanted to work it out on HER terms. Nope. You broke it, you can fix it and she was unwilling to put in any work.
Is there a video on whether an ex dumper will come back if you (dumpee) were the red flag? Like it was my first relationship and I didn't know how to communicate properly.
sure, plenty of people not only stay in terribly abusive and dangerous relationships but they even beg to have them back when the abuser is too busy abusing other people.. do the workbooks and your relationships will be much more natural and wonderful.. for real.
If you messed up or made a mistake that caused it you must send one text on how you messed up and recognize their feelings and reaction as a response to that red flag. Ask for a chance and let them know how you are making it right. And if they say no, you say we'll I wish you the best if you change your mind let me know take care. Problem solved
Questions about affairs. 1 Is it turth that Not every affair involves sex. ARE still affair or do people need sex for affair or cheating to happen ur not 2 can people have affair or Cheat on someone without having no sex 3 .If i was dating Morgan i starting seeing my ex boyfriend Stephen start to make emotional attachment to Stephen i when i know him from school to college by texting him and meeting up and talking to Stephen on phone and thinking about him and watching films with him without never never having no sex ? Is it emotional cheating
Yes, it looks like you answered your own question.. I also call it emotional cheating. I remember I had a wonderful connection with a woman and yet she turned out to be married.. we didn't kiss and we didn't have sex but she eventually really wanted to.. but I would not let it become physical if she was married.. she was still cheating on her husbands emotionally with me.. her husband does not treat her like a human being.. she stays with him because he is super wealthy.. I mean mega rich.. another married woman was getting physical with me and it turned out that she was a Muslim girl and she was arranged married at an unspeakably young age.. she has been through many terrible things.. but yes it does not have to be physical to be cheating.. a connection is a connection.. but people can have friendships.. friendship is not cheating but you never know what may develop.. actually the first woman I mentioned was also arranged married.. but from India.. we were working together and the chemistry was very natural and wonderful.. I hope all is well with her.. of course I will always care but I needed to move on for my own mental health. it was one of the most difficult things I ever did.
after those two I wound up dating another Muslim girl who was actually already arranged to marry ☠️ .. of course I don't date these women knowing this.. they lie to me and tell me that they're single.. Life has been interesting 😭
the whole thing of keeping secrets from the controlling toxic dad reminds me of the muslim girls I've dated.. it seems to be common in their culture and the women are so textbook avoidant.. it's very sad
try to tell an avoidant how you feel.. lol.. perhaps you have heard of the term "ghosting".. avoidants avoid their own feelings so guess what they will do when other people want to talk about THEIR feelings.. I BELIEVE THEY EVEN INVALIDATE THEIR OWN FEELINGS, NEEDS AND WANTS because they think that it shows weakness or perhaps they were just hurt so badly in their formative years every time they tried to express a need or want.. so then when their partner tries to express any feelings.. they get punished.. ouch.. I'm still hurting to this day
I respect you guys but why are you advising people, specially men, to act towards reconciliation after people have had intimate relationships with othet people. That never works. Its in detriment of your mental health. You cant address men psychologically the same way as women. About time to stop being afraid of hurting people's feelings. Thats where "psychologists" today have failed.
avoidants be like I need to go to college full-time and work 20 jobs just so I have an excuse to never connect with anything except for money,, those lonely people that claim they are so happy to be independent and yet you can see right through their bullshit.
how about let's let the avoidants be as avoidant as they want to be and do the work so you can find a healthier partner to have a healthier relationship without all of the horse snot.. Life is really too short for all of this nonsensical game playing
she's in the armed forces?! lmfao well I guess that's a good excuse to keep busy with too besides school and all the other jobs.. what a routine. Good grief!!
The title to this video is literally what I experienced this weekend. She finally reached out after 3 years.
Stay in no contact guys and keep working to on personal growth and mental health.
I'll never forget Margaret, her words helped me after a breakup with my avoidant ex 7 years ago. 💜 I'm not in a relationship but I've found contentment since. I'm just here because these videos are comforting, and I like the case study to further my understanding. I've helped a number of people recognize their anxious / avoidant attachment styles since, all thanks to this channel :). Forever indebted.
I watch those videos for exact same reason 😊 and this channel helped me a lot a few years ago when I was going through a breakup, back then I was is a lot of pain, thought I will die😢 I didn't die , I worked on myself and today I'm healthier than I've ever been in my life. When I think of my ex I smile, no hard feelings at all, I'm actually glad it happened to me because I get on with my family and friends a lot better, I like my life, I'm content 😊 I'm ok being single for now.
Gotta be clear with what you want. Don't jump the gun. Relax. Count to 10. You'll have a much better outcome. I wouldnt know cause no one has come back but it's working in my professional life.
The age gap is around 25 years which substantial.
He dodged a bullet for sure and its now her loss if someone is keeping you a secret you dont really exist you're in a relationshit they are ashamed of what you have together dont stick it out end the relationshit.
A vital part they both missed is he started acting like her father.
What's with the calculation of the age difference? You said she was in her late 20s and the guy in his early 50s. Even if the girl was 30 and the guy 51, there is a good 20-year difference, not 15. Also, the guy sounds toxic; good for her if she has moved on. She has daddy issues...
Man.....this dude was exhausting....damn
Sounds like me. Th only difference the father was not in it. I was insecure and did this with my ex and she eventually left. She was in a relationship with another girl. And I broke no contact a few times and she told me she was happy. I was hurt and I got block . Y’all are amazing for figuring things out.
It’ll be 6 months this Saturday and It’s just as hard to stay in no contact as when I began, just in the last 12 hours I have been fighting a war not to reach out, hard to imagine I’ll ever get over this, makes it harder that she’s starting to begin light contact with my friends but not myself, a crumb of a breadcrumb…
If she’s contacting friends hang in there.. do not break. If they really want to talk to YOU they will text you.
Stay strong don't break no contact don't reach out she has work to do to straighten out this situation.
@Coach Craig can you please make a video to help me out
my now ex boyfriend pushed me to leave him because he
still wasn't sure about us then when i seen him to bring back my
car he apologised he knew how bad my mental state was
after getting fired from my job caused by a difficult client
plus more.he still made things hard by being extremely
negative not very supportive when i asked him if he was just
resolving the issue to have christmas together and sex because
he was trying to make moves the night after so i felt rage
and suggested that he sleeps on the couch because of my
rage and not wanting to talk to him he took off and now is
treating break up like he broke it off and would be happy
if i was to find someone else should i do no contact?
please no replies only unless you are any of the coaches
for this channel
Been 6 yrs. She broke up with. Me. 3. Yrs of no contact. I saw her in the grocery store a few weeks ago back. When she saw me she looked nervous. I felt more confident talking to another woman while she was around. Stay in no. Guys
I have dated Muslim girls too.. they can be in their twenties or in their thirties in my experience and still hide every bit of Truth about their life from their toxically controlling manipulative and invasive families of origin.. ironically even though I'm from New York my family is also that way but at least now I can see it and I don't tolerate a bit of it anymore.. sometimes a major breakup can lead to a great awakening
My ex dumped me 10 days ago and today, on my birthday, a friend sent me a screenshot of her on dating apps......
I disagree….I wanted my ex back so badly but rejected her because she wanted to work it out on HER terms. Nope. You broke it, you can fix it and she was unwilling to put in any work.
This dude sounds like a super avoidant!
Is there a video on whether an ex dumper will come back if you (dumpee) were the red flag? Like it was my first relationship and I didn't know how to communicate properly.
sure, plenty of people not only stay in terribly abusive and dangerous relationships but they even beg to have them back when the abuser is too busy abusing other people.. do the workbooks and your relationships will be much more natural and wonderful.. for real.
If you messed up or made a mistake that caused it you must send one text on how you messed up and recognize their feelings and reaction as a response to that red flag. Ask for a chance and let them know how you are making it right. And if they say no, you say we'll I wish you the best if you change your mind let me know take care. Problem solved
@@ApostleThe344 should I break no contact to say that
Questions about affairs.
1 Is it turth that Not every affair involves sex. ARE still affair or do people need sex for affair or cheating to happen ur not
2 can people have affair or Cheat on someone without having no sex
3 .If i was dating Morgan i starting seeing my ex boyfriend Stephen start to make emotional attachment to Stephen i when i know him from school to college by texting him and meeting up and talking to Stephen on phone and thinking about him and watching films with him without never never having no sex ? Is it emotional cheating
Yes, it looks like you answered your own question.. I also call it emotional cheating. I remember I had a wonderful connection with a woman and yet she turned out to be married.. we didn't kiss and we didn't have sex but she eventually really wanted to.. but I would not let it become physical if she was married.. she was still cheating on her husbands emotionally with me.. her husband does not treat her like a human being.. she stays with him because he is super wealthy.. I mean mega rich.. another married woman was getting physical with me and it turned out that she was a Muslim girl and she was arranged married at an unspeakably young age.. she has been through many terrible things.. but yes it does not have to be physical to be cheating.. a connection is a connection.. but people can have friendships.. friendship is not cheating but you never know what may develop.. actually the first woman I mentioned was also arranged married.. but from India.. we were working together and the chemistry was very natural and wonderful.. I hope all is well with her.. of course I will always care but I needed to move on for my own mental health. it was one of the most difficult things I ever did.
after those two I wound up dating another Muslim girl who was actually already arranged to marry ☠️ .. of course I don't date these women knowing this.. they lie to me and tell me that they're single.. Life has been interesting 😭
the whole thing of keeping secrets from the controlling toxic dad reminds me of the muslim girls I've dated.. it seems to be common in their culture and the women are so textbook avoidant.. it's very sad
try to tell an avoidant how you feel.. lol.. perhaps you have heard of the term "ghosting".. avoidants avoid their own feelings so guess what they will do when other people want to talk about THEIR feelings.. I BELIEVE THEY EVEN INVALIDATE THEIR OWN FEELINGS, NEEDS AND WANTS because they think that it shows weakness or perhaps they were just hurt so badly in their formative years every time they tried to express a need or want.. so then when their partner tries to express any feelings.. they get punished.. ouch.. I'm still hurting to this day
sounds like a pretty toxic power struggle going on with this situation.. it takes two to tango.. yikes.
When your ex uses the "F" word, "Friends," when referring to you, you're toast. It's over.
I respect you guys but why are you advising people, specially men, to act towards reconciliation after people have had intimate relationships with othet people. That never works. Its in detriment of your mental health. You cant address men psychologically the same way as women. About time to stop being afraid of hurting people's feelings. Thats where "psychologists" today have failed.
avoidants be like I need to go to college full-time and work 20 jobs just so I have an excuse to never connect with anything except for money,, those lonely people that claim they are so happy to be independent and yet you can see right through their bullshit.
how about let's let the avoidants be as avoidant as they want to be and do the work so you can find a healthier partner to have a healthier relationship without all of the horse snot.. Life is really too short for all of this nonsensical game playing
she's in the armed forces?! lmfao well I guess that's a good excuse to keep busy with too besides school and all the other jobs.. what a routine. Good grief!!