My grandfather could only have conversations with people if he went on a walk with them. He rarely made eye contact with anyone. He taught me how to calm down by counting trees. My great uncle did the same thing. At family reunions we quite often spent a lot of time together counting fish in the pond. I count anything when I’m in shutdown. Sometimes I go to the restroom and count floor tiles. Piano is cool because it requires counting.
There NEEDS to be a video about haranging a person in shutdown, in their face DEMANDING communication, berating them, calling them names, attacking their ASD, abusing them of " using" their ASD to hide their "cowardice"
@alishaoverbay There is nothing wrong with you. I'm glad I could make you feel less alone. I've been taking really good care of myself, working out, yoga, bedtime and wake up routine, and walking my dogs every day no matter how I feel so I get out in nature. It's not always easy, but that on top of stimming and Journaling, while also working to drop my mask is honestly helping so much. It's a lot I know, but it's mostly little things that don't take much time. My favorite is the bedtime routine, it tells my brain to slow down so I can relax and actually sleep
I initially had meltdowns and shutdowns categorised as panic attacks. I’m definitely a counter, back in school a friend and I used to use books and double numbers, I still do this at 30 😂 we both went on to graduate with mathematics degrees though so it helped 😂
I often carry a "worry stone" (a polished, very smooth rock) in my pocket. When I start getting those symptoms, or those of anxiety, I will take it out and rub the stone, focusing my concentration on the repetitive motion, how smooth the surface is against my thumb/fingers, etc. and that often seems to help me!
Usually I love having my cats near me and on me. Usually I love their biscuit making. But sometimes I can't handle having anyone near me and definitely not touching me. I just need to be left alone at those times. And I get really cranky if I'm not. I never realized that these are autism shutdowns. I guess they are. I'm almost 47 and just self diagnosed this year. So I have a lot still to learn.
@@acogedoralunadulce7066 I feel that way too sometimes. When sounds that I usually love are irritating to me. And other sounds that I can usually tolerate just push me over the edge. Hopefully your love of bird song will return when you've had a mental rest.
I have numerous nervous shutdowns and how I cope is bringing a calm bag wherever I go that anytime I am nervous I am calming myself to bring myself out of the shutdowns
Well, I just realised I used to have a shutdown every day after coming home from school. I used to count too and I find it really calming and entertaining. My dad was actually the one who introduced me to it (he had Asperger’s too, like me) and he told me one day in the car when I was really bored to count to a million. After that, I used to do it every time I was alone at school and it really helped. Also, thank you Dan, for making these videos. They have really helped me learn about myself and the things that I’ve always done but never knew why, since I was only recently diagnosed. So thanks.
I was diagnosed last year at the age of 40 after spending my whole life just thinking I was weird. I am just learning more about shutdowns. This is making so much sense and explaining so many things for me. I also have experienced depression at several points in my life so I mostly thought it was a case of good days/bad days etc. As a child if I felt overwhelmed I would retreat into myself. The best way I can describe it is like being a turtle hiding in its shell. It literally felt like my person shrunk inside my body and my body became just a shell to protect me. I would sort of run on autopilot if there was anything I was supposed to be doing but I wouldn't communicate or react to anything emotionally because I was hiding inside my shell. All of this is helping me to understand so many things and times in my life. Sometimes I just want to shut the curtains, shut out the entire world and pretend it doesn't exist for a while.
Counting is the first tool in my kit to fall asleep, anxiety and spiraling thoughts can keep me awake but counting to a set number and then back to the beginning repeatedly drags my mind into calm focus.
If you know more than 1 language, counting in a language that is not your native language can take up even more of your brain. I can count in 4 languages. :)
I was diagnosed with autism when I was 8, but because of my parents, they never followed through with testing. I'm almost 40, (this Sunday) and I have a therapist who wants to do more testing. Thank you for your channel. I never felt more ok with me, until now. I realize now, I'm not stupid, I'm special. Thank you.
I understand this so much. As a youth I asked both parents (div) if something was wrong with me because Ialways felt off. It was never followed up. It feels so good to know I'm ok, you're ok!!! Much Love 💕
Yes to counting! I count my breathing: in (4) hold (4) out (8) hold (4). Both the breath control and the counting are designed to calm you down... I also do the clench and release exercise :)
Wow really helpful I was recently diagnosed and didn’t realise I was having shutdowns often, thanks for sharing ! I’m actually having one right now atm and didn’t even realise took some time off from people and feeling more energy. Thank u !
I love to listen to podcasts that require me to listen and that calms my mind down. Even if I'm not fully taking in all the information it help a lot. Thanks for this video Dan :).
I’ve yet to find anything for in public situations other than to try and sneak off somewhere to be alone (for as long as I can without worrying ppl or drawing attention to it)
Yep, bathroom / get a drink / phone "got a message" breaks are a lifesaver! 😂 When in the supermarket I usually hide by the ale/craft beers as hardly anyone goes there too! Whatever works for you, just carry on 🙂
Really fabulous explanation and coping mechanism. I never thought about counting. I often shut down if someone is yelling or demanding some kind of response from me. It makes me lose concentration and break eye contact. Focusing on breathing or going on autopilot and considering the other person's feelings rather then their words has also (somewhat, atleast on the surface haha) helped the situation in the past for me.
At 61, I was diagnosed as autistic. So much of what I’ve done and gone through in my life is seen from such a different light now. I wish I’d known sooner. Still not sure the difference between autistic shut down, burnout, meltdown… But at least now I know where to begin to look for help. Thank you for your transparency, and for your making these videos to help people like me trying to figure out how to make sense of my own experience.
I am absolutely a counter, I have very vivid memories of sitting on the floor in school corridors counting the tiles on the ceiling. I also really like ordering stuff, like making playlists and sorting pencils and pens in rainbow order. Playing games with lots of fetch quests and stuff are good to because they’re easy to understand and are often repetitive. Also, if you can, hang out with animals. Animals won’t ask question but they’re still a living thing your sharing the problem with and if they’re the kind you can stroke they’ll also fulfil the repetitive motion thing.
Thank you for the informational video! I have autism and been diagnosed for several years, but just recently discovered that these things happening that my doctors thought were seizures are actually autistic shutdowns. Being new to finding ways to deal with it, your video helps! Thanks again.
I have a coloring app on my phone I love. I count the cells of a color as I fill them in. Also, if I can, I take a nap. Go in to a quiet, calming room and lay down.
I had plenty of shutdowns in my day. I kind of still do. First one *sometimes* works. I tend to get ghosted a lot though. Second one I tend to do a bit differently than yours. It’s more of me trying to put puzzle pieces together trying to determine what someone else is saying. (Not that that excuses neurotypicals to use the puzzle piece as our symbol because it’s not) The third one is new to me. I usually have to try and squeeze my head instead of my hand. And even that doesn’t always work. Thanks for the video Dan.
I haven't had one in a while because I try to avoid stressful situations. I'm pretty much a hermit. I have social workers that come to see me three times a week but often it gets too much and I need to take a break from even that.
Counting seems like a stim. I’m not a maths head. I’m a visual thinker and can build visual connections for concepts in my head. GUIs for applications are my best way of administering them, command line or scripting = no chance without an insane amount of very slow learning.
I'd really love if you do a video on sensitivity to sound. If there's some kind of annoying background sound, I can't focus. If I hear someone singing, it grates me to no end! Even the distant humming of electrical wires gets to me. How I usually cope is to instantly put in earbuds and listen to something else before I get agitated. Anyway, love your videos, great tips!
I have shut downs and meltdowns, not very often but when I do I won’t even speak . I have dyslexia dyspraxia and count always have when it’s too much I count backwards from 100
Go lay in the dark. Just... Go lay in the dark. Click to a special interest. Go eat something. Focus on your breathing (unless you're like me and hate the sound of breathing). Put some white noise or familiar music on.
I'm always having autism shut downs. Have them at least 3 to 4 times a day. And they last from 10 minutes to a couple of hours. Find it really hard and stressful to deal with 😥
I'm glad to know someone who counts. I count everything, I also make lists of how many raspberries I harvest,.. Or anything. I have to count the steps since I was little, when I go upstairs or down stairs. If I really feel desperately bad, I count books, then how many pages, then the sentences on a page, then the letters on a sentence. I wrote them and make math to know the amount of letters in a pile of books, and I reagent them. It really soothes me. How many minutes or seconds before January for example . If I'm outside I count how many people are talking on the phone while riding, or tiles in a house... Sometimes I get very excited to know that book has x letters and I want to tell everybody. I don't know why people doesn't find that magic and beautiful.
Counting helps me get through running/exercise but not in daily life - I need to find more stim outlets to calm me and help me get through daily life. Knitting is my primary stim but can't really knit while doing what I need to do
First day of college I new no one there felt like a shutdown the hole day felt so isolated and anxious but talking to people don't help I always prefer to be by myself I missed the summer of no shut downs but collge is important
I have ADHD. Never even thought about autism. And when he began talking about what an autism shutdown feels like, I starting crying. I think, I think this is me
I found breathing exercises help with my 13yr old A.S.D daughter. Changing her focus after removing her from a certain situation. Her sensory sock helps sooth her after a huge day out and about.
im not sure whether its the counting itself or the repetitiveness in my head.. that doesnt make sense but i understand what youare saying and yes it helps much.
Dan I give you a thumbs up because I love good content, like you have, not necessarily because I relate to the topic you are talking about, but I do relate to over 90% of your content. 🙂🤓
Hi, great video, however I work with ASD kids and one is 6 years old and I am not sure he is aware of this shutdown coming on. Do you have any strategies for young kid?
WOW. I just saw my first video of you yesterday on ASD. I have watched many more since then. I always felt something different. I feel strongly that I might be/have ASD. I also just found out I have NF.
I am new to this diagnoses. I thought I was melting down but what I was going through is a shutdown. Can you shutdown and just cry and want to run away or hide and bury yourself away from everyone? I had an episode at work and just wanted to go under the desk and hide but just sat there staring off and cried. Finally came out of it and ran out of the room. People asked me all these questions like are you ok? Whats wrong? I couldn’t answer them and all I wanted was them to just leave me alone.
I had shutdowns in my mock exams where I was so scared and anxious of being in the room with the invigilators who I didn't know. I would end up just sat there staring into space and tapping my chair. The same happens with any new changes.
I have shut down as many often when I'm around a lot of people and it causes me to be very stressed out a lot of stuff as I just said I feel my underwear whatever Duke just call myself down sometimes I just put on foreign language that's listening to try to come and talk down or just not look at it
I'm probably going to get fired because I'm about to shutdown/meltdown at work (higher management is visiting & doesn't care their stressing everyone out- looking for any reason to fire people... Fired someone for reaching out & trying to find someone to cover their shift ahead of their shift).
Well I know I’m heading for a shut down I will stop what I’m doing and I’m having more trouble trying to concentrate I will head back to the bedroom when I’m at home and lay down but when I’m heading into a meltdown or shut down even out in public or anywhere I literally grab a steaming toy I just focus entirely on that and ignore everything and everyone around me because sound sensitivity goes up and my light sensitivity goes up as well
Is it possible that complete shutdowns don’t happen? I experience something quite similar but it just becomes really difficult to communicate but, ultimately, can still manage to do it. I feel withdrawn and foggy but haven’t completely shut off before.
I've noticed that I tend to nap a lot. Especially in winter or when I'm just feeling so drained because so much has happened in the day. Would that be considered a shut down? I like napping because it requires no energy and I can just shut myself off from the world for a while. Even if its not a shut down, naps are the best aha!
Always have shut downs or tics or Stims... or panic attacks from my autism or seizures.... also my boyfriend/kids father help me with everything and I have a 10% weighted blanket I count and when I forget things I flap my hands and I squeeze my hand but it makes it worst for me....
@@kaylascott3539 glad to hear your partner is supportive :) Have you tried doing a mood, food and activity journal to work out your triggers? Vitamins and exercise/cleaning have really helped me. (I'm sensory avoidant, depressive+Asperger's with an ADHD+sensory seeking son 🥴😂)
I usually "crash" when im in large groups of people. I just clam up and dont say anything and avoid contact with people. I'll be very aware of what everyone is saying in the group by i will just sit there quietly and listen but I wont dive into the conversation.
I have shutdowns at least once a day, usually at my retail job or after social events. One aspect he did not mention is the physical aspect! Personally, my legs will eventually give out and I essentially go catatonic for 10_20 minutes. Does anyone else react physically or is it just me?
Hello. I'm from Brazil. Thank you for your informations. Im trying to understand what is this syndrome, and it's not being easy for me. I have been treated like a have panic attacks but now I get the diagnosis. I'm a aspie. It have been difficult tô me too go out and understand that I'm not feeling the same things that the other people are feeling. I felt I'm lost in my own mind, I'm feeling alone in the world, but o think that your videos could help me. Maybe with some tips and informations it can help me not tô feel alone. I hope that you give me a feedback about what I'm feeling. You speak really fast!!!😂 It's really difficult tô understand you. thank you for share your knowledge about this. You are a really nice guy. My best regards
Sorry for the book but I kind of word vomited here. I'm recently discovering that I fit a lot of the criteria for Aspergers and it's been sort of an epiphany of what the hell was going on my first 31 years of life. I always got the suck it up treatment which pretty much meant torture and depression and extreme anxiety because no one understood. I have become very good at coping and masking which are detrimental to my depression, especially in social situations I've been peer pressured into. I'm very good at mimicking. Voices, accents, other languages, songs on my guitar, hand writing, you name it. So now that I'm being vocal about what I'm figuring out about myself, my family and more Importantly my wife don't understand and say that I'm not on the spectrum, which is kind of soul crushing honestly. I say more importantly my wife because her brother is on the spectrum. A different amalgamation of the spectrum than I believe I am but I digress. So because I don't match him, I'm some how not on the spectrum. Can you do a video covering something like this? There has to be adults in somewhat similar situations and your videos on the different media platforms help quite a bit. Thank You.
Hi Dan. Love all your videos and I share them often with friends and on facebook. Soooooo..... what if you have counting OCD? And you are trying to use ERP to overcome the ritual of counting? Do you think this is a good recommendation for someone believed to be on the spectrum with counting OCD being one of their comorbidities, who is trying to use Exposure and Ritual Prevention to help their OCD? Love to hear your thoughts on this. Thanks in advance. And God bless you for all that you do to raise awareness for kids and adults on the spectrum. Much love. 🙏💕
My grandfather could only have conversations with people if he went on a walk with them. He rarely made eye contact with anyone. He taught me how to calm down by counting trees. My great uncle did the same thing. At family reunions we quite often spent a lot of time together counting fish in the pond. I count anything when I’m in shutdown. Sometimes I go to the restroom and count floor tiles. Piano is cool because it requires counting.
There NEEDS to be a video about haranging a person in shutdown, in their face DEMANDING communication, berating them, calling them names, attacking their ASD, abusing them of " using" their ASD to hide their "cowardice"
I agree
I agree
I've had several shutdowns even before I knew what they were. These tips are going to help a lot. Thanks and great video Dan!
I'm in a shutdown right now. I feel nothing besides bursts of frustration/overwhelm and a general disconnect with society. Trying to get out of it
Wow that's what's happening to me right now, and I kept saying to myself what's wrong with me
@alishaoverbay There is nothing wrong with you. I'm glad I could make you feel less alone. I've been taking really good care of myself, working out, yoga, bedtime and wake up routine, and walking my dogs every day no matter how I feel so I get out in nature. It's not always easy, but that on top of stimming and Journaling, while also working to drop my mask is honestly helping so much. It's a lot I know, but it's mostly little things that don't take much time. My favorite is the bedtime routine, it tells my brain to slow down so I can relax and actually sleep
I initially had meltdowns and shutdowns categorised as panic attacks.
I’m definitely a counter, back in school a friend and I used to use books and double numbers, I still do this at 30 😂 we both went on to graduate with mathematics degrees though so it helped 😂
I often carry a "worry stone" (a polished, very smooth rock) in my pocket. When I start getting those symptoms, or those of anxiety, I will take it out and rub the stone, focusing my concentration on the repetitive motion, how smooth the surface is against my thumb/fingers, etc. and that often seems to help me!
I pet my dog, a velvet shar pei, which feels comforting and grmeltdown. By focusing on the real, physical now rather than the anxiety and meltown.
Usually I love having my cats near me and on me. Usually I love their biscuit making. But sometimes I can't handle having anyone near me and definitely not touching me. I just need to be left alone at those times. And I get really cranky if I'm not. I never realized that these are autism shutdowns. I guess they are.
I'm almost 47 and just self diagnosed this year. So I have a lot still to learn.
I love birds chirping but I have shut down and so can’t deal
@@acogedoralunadulce7066 I feel that way too sometimes. When sounds that I usually love are irritating to me. And other sounds that I can usually tolerate just push me over the edge. Hopefully your love of bird song will return when you've had a mental rest.
@@anyascelticcreations yes of course thank you
I have numerous nervous shutdowns and how I cope is bringing a calm bag wherever I go that anytime I am nervous I am calming myself to bring myself out of the shutdowns
Well, I just realised I used to have a shutdown every day after coming home from school. I used to count too and I find it really calming and entertaining. My dad was actually the one who introduced me to it (he had Asperger’s too, like me) and he told me one day in the car when I was really bored to count to a million. After that, I used to do it every time I was alone at school and it really helped. Also, thank you Dan, for making these videos. They have really helped me learn about myself and the things that I’ve always done but never knew why, since I was only recently diagnosed. So thanks.
🙋♀️I'm a counter too. I catch myself doing it for no reason. I'm also a Christian and run bible verses through my head when I start getting stressed
Oh same
I was diagnosed last year at the age of 40 after spending my whole life just thinking I was weird. I am just learning more about shutdowns. This is making so much sense and explaining so many things for me. I also have experienced depression at several points in my life so I mostly thought it was a case of good days/bad days etc. As a child if I felt overwhelmed I would retreat into myself. The best way I can describe it is like being a turtle hiding in its shell. It literally felt like my person shrunk inside my body and my body became just a shell to protect me. I would sort of run on autopilot if there was anything I was supposed to be doing but I wouldn't communicate or react to anything emotionally because I was hiding inside my shell. All of this is helping me to understand so many things and times in my life. Sometimes I just want to shut the curtains, shut out the entire world and pretend it doesn't exist for a while.
Counting is the first tool in my kit to fall asleep, anxiety and spiraling thoughts can keep me awake but counting to a set number and then back to the beginning repeatedly drags my mind into calm focus.
If you know more than 1 language, counting in a language that is not your native language can take up even more of your brain. I can count in 4 languages. :)
Wow, I also do that! I count in English, French, German and Hebrew.
@@EyalNahal English, French, Spanish and Serbian
I was diagnosed with autism when I was 8, but because of my parents, they never followed through with testing. I'm almost 40, (this Sunday) and I have a therapist who wants to do more testing. Thank you for your channel. I never felt more ok with me, until now. I realize now, I'm not stupid, I'm special. Thank you.
I understand this so much. As a youth I asked both parents (div) if something was wrong with me because Ialways felt off. It was never followed up. It feels so good to know I'm ok, you're ok!!! Much Love 💕
i do this. i shutdown alot. ive been looking to see if this is me and it is. everything youve posted i have alot of the issues. your info is great.
Yes to counting! I count my breathing: in (4) hold (4) out (8) hold (4). Both the breath control and the counting are designed to calm you down... I also do the clench and release exercise :)
I do it any time I get emotionally stressed. Even if there is no actual reason for the emotional stress except my own fears.
Wow really helpful I was recently diagnosed and didn’t realise I was having shutdowns often, thanks for sharing ! I’m actually having one right now atm and didn’t even realise took some time off from people and feeling more energy. Thank u !
I love to listen to podcasts that require me to listen and that calms my mind down. Even if I'm not fully taking in all the information it help a lot. Thanks for this video Dan :).
I’ve yet to find anything for in public situations other than to try and sneak off somewhere to be alone (for as long as I can without worrying ppl or drawing attention to it)
Yep, bathroom / get a drink / phone "got a message" breaks are a lifesaver! 😂 When in the supermarket I usually hide by the ale/craft beers as hardly anyone goes there too! Whatever works for you, just carry
on 🙂
Really fabulous explanation and coping mechanism. I never thought about counting. I often shut down if someone is yelling or demanding some kind of response from me. It makes me lose concentration and break eye contact. Focusing on breathing or going on autopilot and considering the other person's feelings rather then their words has also (somewhat, atleast on the surface haha) helped the situation in the past for me.
I always have shutdowns whenever i have too much stress and anxiety!
At 61, I was diagnosed as autistic. So much of what I’ve done and gone through in my life is seen from such a different light now. I wish I’d known sooner. Still not sure the difference between autistic shut down, burnout, meltdown… But at least now I know where to begin to look for help. Thank you for your transparency, and for your making these videos to help people like me trying to figure out how to make sense of my own experience.
I am absolutely a counter, I have very vivid memories of sitting on the floor in school corridors counting the tiles on the ceiling. I also really like ordering stuff, like making playlists and sorting pencils and pens in rainbow order. Playing games with lots of fetch quests and stuff are good to because they’re easy to understand and are often repetitive. Also, if you can, hang out with animals. Animals won’t ask question but they’re still a living thing your sharing the problem with and if they’re the kind you can stroke they’ll also fulfil the repetitive motion thing.
Thank you for the informational video! I have autism and been diagnosed for several years, but just recently discovered that these things happening that my doctors thought were seizures are actually autistic shutdowns.
Being new to finding ways to deal with it, your video helps! Thanks again.
I have a coloring app on my phone I love. I count the cells of a color as I fill them in.
Also, if I can, I take a nap. Go in to a quiet, calming room and lay down.
I had plenty of shutdowns in my day. I kind of still do.
First one *sometimes* works. I tend to get ghosted a lot though.
Second one I tend to do a bit differently than yours. It’s more of me trying to put puzzle pieces together trying to determine what someone else is saying. (Not that that excuses neurotypicals to use the puzzle piece as our symbol because it’s not)
The third one is new to me. I usually have to try and squeeze my head instead of my hand. And even that doesn’t always work.
Thanks for the video Dan.
Dont ghost the Servant of Gaben Almighty now friend. We have autism to achieve together.
I haven't had one in a while because I try to avoid stressful situations. I'm pretty much a hermit. I have social workers that come to see me three times a week but often it gets too much and I need to take a break from even that.
Hi I'm very much the same but no one visits I have shutdowns after I go to the store and into the world
this was very helpull, thank u. I used hide in my closet when I was younger and it helped me a lot too
Counting seems like a stim. I’m not a maths head. I’m a visual thinker and can build visual connections for concepts in my head. GUIs for applications are my best way of administering them, command line or scripting = no chance without an insane amount of very slow learning.
I'd really love if you do a video on sensitivity to sound. If there's some kind of annoying background sound, I can't focus. If I hear someone singing, it grates me to no end! Even the distant humming of electrical wires gets to me. How I usually cope is to instantly put in earbuds and listen to something else before I get agitated. Anyway, love your videos, great tips!
I've had multiple with my workplace currently so having tips to cope will be brilliant.
I've had a shutdown every single time I've moved & didn't realize that's what it was until I knew I was autistic & learned about shutdowns.
I have shut downs and meltdowns, not very often but when I do I won’t even speak . I have dyslexia dyspraxia and count always have when it’s too much I count backwards from 100
Will be trying those. Wish i knewthem last weekend!
Go lay in the dark. Just... Go lay in the dark. Click to a special interest. Go eat something. Focus on your breathing (unless you're like me and hate the sound of breathing). Put some white noise or familiar music on.
I'm always having autism shut downs. Have them at least 3 to 4 times a day. And they last from 10 minutes to a couple of hours. Find it really hard and stressful to deal with 😥
Thank you helping my friend
I'm glad to know someone who counts. I count everything, I also make lists of how many raspberries I harvest,.. Or anything. I have to count the steps since I was little, when I go upstairs or down stairs. If I really feel desperately bad, I count books, then how many pages, then the sentences on a page, then the letters on a sentence. I wrote them and make math to know the amount of letters in a pile of books, and I reagent them. It really soothes me. How many minutes or seconds before January for example . If I'm outside I count how many people are talking on the phone while riding, or tiles in a house... Sometimes I get very excited to know that book has x letters and I want to tell everybody. I don't know why people doesn't find that magic and beautiful.
I do count, never realized it is calming, but it does! Very Cool! Plus, I grab my crochet hooks and just start working!
Counting helps me get through running/exercise but not in daily life - I need to find more stim outlets to calm me and help me get through daily life. Knitting is my primary stim but can't really knit while doing what I need to do
First day of college I new no one there felt like a shutdown the hole day felt so isolated and anxious but talking to people don't help I always prefer to be by myself I missed the summer of no shut downs but collge is important
Great video..live long and prosper
I have ADHD. Never even thought about autism. And when he began talking about what an autism shutdown feels like, I starting crying. I think, I think this is me
Your my hero these are great I'm trying to figure all this shutdown stuff had it my whole life I just stopped going anywhere
I tend to count in multiples of 9 if I get stressed or feel a shutdown coming on. I also tend to stim.
I thought my shutdowns were due to extreme anxiety, they were but also, autism.
I found breathing exercises help with my 13yr old A.S.D daughter. Changing her focus after removing her from a certain situation. Her sensory sock helps sooth her after a huge day out and about.
Oh ok, that explains a lot. I guess I have shut downs on a regular basis. I'll definitely keep these tips in mind!
im not sure whether its the counting itself or the repetitiveness in my head.. that doesnt make sense but i understand what youare saying and yes it helps much.
Dan I give you a thumbs up because I love good content, like you have, not necessarily because I relate to the topic you are talking about, but I do relate to over 90% of your content. 🙂🤓
I have autism and anxiety 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Brilliant thanks mate
Good job, Dan!
Hi, great video, however I work with ASD kids and one is 6 years old and I am not sure he is aware of this shutdown coming on. Do you have any strategies for young kid?
I currently have shuts downs for most days of the week and hardly snap out of its, just found out that I have autism and adhd
I’m really hoping my insurance clears soon with my new therapist. I’m scared and I don’t know what to do anymore. Nothing works anymore. I can’t cope.
WOW. I just saw my first video of you yesterday on ASD. I have watched many more since then. I always felt something different. I feel strongly that I might be/have ASD. I also just found out I have NF.
I am new to this diagnoses. I thought I was melting down but what I was going through is a shutdown. Can you shutdown and just cry and want to run away or hide and bury yourself away from everyone? I had an episode at work and just wanted to go under the desk and hide but just sat there staring off and cried. Finally came out of it and ran out of the room. People asked me all these questions like are you ok? Whats wrong? I couldn’t answer them and all I wanted was them to just leave me alone.
Nooo, I hate math and counting 😂😂😂
Wow. This helps. Thank you very much! ♥️
Hi, thanks for that video :) How often do you have shutdowns ?
I think I have them before I’m still trying to figure out what the difference between a shutdown and the meltdown
I had shutdowns in my mock exams where I was so scared and anxious of being in the room with the invigilators who I didn't know. I would end up just sat there staring into space and tapping my chair. The same happens with any new changes.
My partner and I got into a fight and he had a meltdown. He has asked for 3 days of no contact , how do I navigate this ?
The fist squeeze sounds like progressive muscle relaxation techniques.
I have shut down as many often when I'm around a lot of people and it causes me to be very stressed out a lot of stuff as I just said I feel my underwear whatever Duke just call myself down sometimes I just put on foreign language that's listening to try to come and talk down or just not look at it
I'm probably going to get fired because I'm about to shutdown/meltdown at work (higher management is visiting & doesn't care their stressing everyone out- looking for any reason to fire people... Fired someone for reaching out & trying to find someone to cover their shift ahead of their shift).
Me: oh, great channel with useful info
Him: if you know what a shutdown is give this video a thumbs up because we have an amazing bond already
Me: 😕
Well I know I’m heading for a shut down I will stop what I’m doing and I’m having more trouble trying to concentrate I will head back to the bedroom when I’m at home and lay down but when I’m heading into a meltdown or shut down even out in public or anywhere I literally grab a steaming toy I just focus entirely on that and ignore everything and everyone around me because sound sensitivity goes up and my light sensitivity goes up as well
Is it possible that complete shutdowns don’t happen? I experience something quite similar but it just becomes really difficult to communicate but, ultimately, can still manage to do it. I feel withdrawn and foggy but haven’t completely shut off before.
I've noticed that I tend to nap a lot. Especially in winter or when I'm just feeling so drained because so much has happened in the day. Would that be considered a shut down? I like napping because it requires no energy and I can just shut myself off from the world for a while. Even if its not a shut down, naps are the best aha!
It's been a really bad wand been so overwhelmed the only thing that has calmed me down is prayer shut down cause me to be exhausted and sleep all day
First haha finally lol thanks fir the help on the same things I also have autism and my son
Always have shut downs or tics or Stims... or panic attacks from my autism or seizures.... also my boyfriend/kids father help me with everything and I have a 10% weighted blanket I count and when I forget things I flap my hands and I squeeze my hand but it makes it worst for me....
@@kaylascott3539 glad to hear your partner is supportive :) Have you tried doing a mood, food and activity journal to work out your triggers? Vitamins and exercise/cleaning have really helped me. (I'm sensory avoidant, depressive+Asperger's with an ADHD+sensory seeking son 🥴😂)
@@HannahRainbow88 no I have not im also food sensory sensitive and stuff and noise sensitive like stroamfoam or plates
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In one right now. Hi! Hoping this video helps
Edit: appreciate the vid, unfortunately didn't take anything away to help. But great preventive tactics!
Would you say that selective mutism is subsequent from shutdowns or are they really just the same thing 🧐
I usually "crash" when im in large groups of people. I just clam up and dont say anything and avoid contact with people. I'll be very aware of what everyone is saying in the group by i will just sit there quietly and listen but I wont dive into the conversation.
Thanks I just had a shutdown.
I have shutdowns at least once a day, usually at my retail job or after social events.
One aspect he did not mention is the physical aspect! Personally, my legs will eventually give out and I essentially go catatonic for 10_20 minutes.
Does anyone else react physically or is it just me?
i get this so much !! it's like my legs are rooted the the floor and wont move :/
Hello. I'm from Brazil. Thank you for your informations. Im trying to understand what is this syndrome, and it's not being easy for me. I have been treated like a have panic attacks but now I get the diagnosis. I'm a aspie. It have been difficult tô me too go out and understand that I'm not feeling the same things that the other people are feeling. I felt I'm lost in my own mind, I'm feeling alone in the world, but o think that your videos could help me. Maybe with some tips and informations it can help me not tô feel alone. I hope that you give me a feedback about what I'm feeling. You speak really fast!!!😂 It's really difficult tô understand you. thank you for share your knowledge about this. You are a really nice guy. My best regards
Not really sure they happen to me.
This happens to me a lot
Sorry for the book but I kind of word vomited here. I'm recently discovering that I fit a lot of the criteria for Aspergers and it's been sort of an epiphany of what the hell was going on my first 31 years of life. I always got the suck it up treatment which pretty much meant torture and depression and extreme anxiety because no one understood. I have become very good at coping and masking which are detrimental to my depression, especially in social situations I've been peer pressured into. I'm very good at mimicking. Voices, accents, other languages, songs on my guitar, hand writing, you name it. So now that I'm being vocal about what I'm figuring out about myself, my family and more Importantly my wife don't understand and say that I'm not on the spectrum, which is kind of soul crushing honestly. I say more importantly my wife because her brother is on the spectrum. A different amalgamation of the spectrum than I believe I am but I digress. So because I don't match him, I'm some how not on the spectrum. Can you do a video covering something like this? There has to be adults in somewhat similar situations and your videos on the different media platforms help quite a bit. Thank You.
Hi Dan. Love all your videos and I share them often with friends and on facebook. Soooooo..... what if you have counting OCD? And you are trying to use ERP to overcome the ritual of counting? Do you think this is a good recommendation for someone believed to be on the spectrum with counting OCD being one of their comorbidities, who is trying to use Exposure and Ritual Prevention to help their OCD? Love to hear your thoughts on this. Thanks in advance. And God bless you for all that you do to raise awareness for kids and adults on the spectrum. Much love. 🙏💕
Is autistic shutdown same as autistic meltdown??
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Dan how do u have such good English
He's English mate
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I liked the vid btw
Dan how do u have such goo English plz I wanna know
He is from the United Kingdom.
Not a scientific proven ideas
I think I have asburgers because I like burgers that taste like a@#
That’s a symptom of autism? Eeek
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@@TheAspieWorld already did :)
Way too much information to help