Help A Client Manage Their Toxic Mother
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- Опубліковано 2 лют 2019
- Toxic people can be scattered across our paths in life - but what happens when the toxic person in a client's life is their own mother?
In this video Mark Tyrrell shares 3 tips he uses to handle the toxic mother which you can use to help set your clients on to a more enjoyable way of life.
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Narcissist mom's are way more common then is thought,most would never talk about it. Get away and stay away.
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I have exactly the same problem with my 92-year old mother-in-law. Now that she has come to live with us for ever, I really need all the advice I can get to retain my sanity.
I often have clients who could use my help in this way, thank you for this. I myself was the child of two deeply narcissistic parents and now I'm having the opportunity to help others.
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that is why people do no contact. and it is a wonderful thing. I wanted a loving mom. but realised that she doesn't have love to give. and I tried to see if I can be with her knowing she cant ever give me any love and even give me hate,.... I saw no why should I be in touch with a toxic useless etc etc etc stranger?
no contact is blessing. many people do .. I was in train and spoke with a woman. she said her son doesn't talk to her 11 years ... :D
Terrific way of gently setting boundaries and limits with toxic behavior.
Thank you Mark. A happy reminder. This is reminding me of how gentle I need to continue to be on myself and also with my children - all of us frequently exposed to toxic behaviour and treatment. My parents feel so sorry for themselves, it is mindblowing. Yet I don't think we've ever had a conversation about me. My likes, my dislikes, etc etc. Well - not since I was in early school. If at all. Isn't it great to know that we can stop looking for what is not there! And that I can meet my own needs. I love Marisa Peer for this - she says the most powerful praise is our own, and the most important love to receive is our own as well. Would you agree I wonder?! Also, would you ever advise cutting off altogether? I have refrained from this because I think the ties to family are just so important - for my children and for myself. Despite everything. Thanks again, and thank you for the years of advice and the downloads we are still using to this day. I appreciate you and the whole company so very much. I might email if I don't hear back. Thank Ewe :)
Starting now. I have made the decision. I am fully and completly alive. I feel all my feelings and discharge them safely , for myself and for others. No Matter what happens no matter what anyone else say,does,thinks or feels, I am safe. I trust myself. I set boundaries and enforce them. I like myself, I love myself. I am happy.
Some really really great tips there! Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us 🙂
Great boundary setting and role playing is very invaluable
4:36 Thank you. I did find this [very] useful and helpful!
Boundaries. Setting them and enforcing them bring freedom. Great video!
I am currently dealing with a mother in-law who is explosive. She's very mentally abusive and my wife is afraid to confront her about it. It's a constant guilt and shame game with my mother in law and it's only gotten worse since our daughter was born. We don't know what to do anymore. what can I do? I don't want to tell my wife what to do but rather help her figure it out on her own. My wife knows there is a problem but is seemingly helpless to do anything about. The mother in law is threatening our marriage with outright lies, guilt, and shame. Please, we need help desperately. Where can we go to get help?
Hello yeah, I don't know if this will help, but if you visit Mark's site (the person in this video) he has a bunch of therapists (along with himself) who will do very affordable sessions online. I have struggled with low finances for years, but even I managed to get a few in with one of his colleagues. Maybe go without takeaway for a month :) Anyway, my apologies if this is at all presumptous - perhaps you can afford it - but I just wanted to pipe in as I too found myself desperate for help. Lots of people online, although I do suggest going with people like Mark who have such a good record of helping this kind of situation! I'm sure you'd find your wife would respond extremely well to him or to a colleague. They're very good with people. :)
No doubt Toxic Mothers exist but so do Toxic Father's of course; is there a talk on him too?!
Noreen O'Driscoll yes ..and what about Toxic adult children ??
I guess similar principles ? Reduce contact to bare minimum
Same
@@kikihowe4799 Except toxic adult children ARE A SYMPTOM of the DYSFUNCTIONAL AND ABUSIVE PARENTS, who should be hauled into court and ORDERED to pay recompense financially to the adults who will now need therapy and rehab because mummy and daddy are THE ACTUAL PROBLEM. You sound guilty to me.
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I've noticed it's become very fashionable to have a toxic or narcissistic mother so you're bang on trend Mark.
What about youth that live with a BPD mom?
Why is it a disorder. Aren't these so called narcissists or toxic people merely "tough people", outspoken, "full of personality", "winners of society" or "tough negotiators"?
Comes a time when you stop blaming- even if your mother is toxic - perhaps her mother was toxic so on and so forth-
Your mother is your mother - she thinks she’s good so waiting for her to change - it may never happen - cut the apron strings - stop being so co dependent- so borderline personality
Grow up - become your own parent give your inner child love and attention
Healing your own wounds -forgive your mother and move on -
Stop being pretentious in front of your mother - when you venomously hate her - only use and abuse her -
You say she’s useless- yet you’ll take her useless money at the end of her life
Can you help me with my ungrateful toxic adult children ..?
Don't see anything.
You raised them. You instilled it in them.
@KiKi Howe wats wring with them? 🤔 and are you sure your not the problem? self reflection is best before dealings outwardly.. especially when it comes to your children