How a very difficult time changed my life forever
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- Опубліковано 22 жов 2023
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This is the sort of content most viewers are crying out for; original, artistic, honest, but still simple. Not, overselling, stock footage, buy my product or else, “believe what I say or else”! So thank you for making your videos.
Thank you so so much. Love hearing this. 🙏❤️😁
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I am so lucky to have you as a dad.
OMG that is so sweet. Love you so much. ❤️
@@BeneaththeSurfaceYT Really enjoying watching both of your journeys as it was Nathaniel's channel that led to me subscribing and following this one. It takes a great deal of courage to engage with what you did and to a degree surrender to the process and you can see the wisdom accrued as a result. Thank you for sharing as it's valuable for everyone, but specifically males to see and hear about relinquishing the narratives and characters we forge from a mental health perspective. You both have an openness and honesty that really resonates.
Yes you are Nathaniel. Yes you are.
@@Pr0vokativThank you for your lovely words. 🙏❤️
You are a wonderful son to your parents. I can see how much you love them and anyone would be over joyed to have a son like you.
I like how your videos feel like a deep and meaningful conversation with a friend. That's so different than most of the videos out there.
So appreciate your words. Thank you so much. 🙏❤️
My life path led me to live alone, after a few relationships that did me more harm than good. Over the last 13 years I've learned this and I'm finally happy. No more compromises, no more secrets and free in my decisions - simply wonderful
I can't agree more with you. Each of us only get one chance at life and we should live it as we please as long as we do no harm to others. I can be myself and do what I enjoy to do. Like you said, no more compromises. Simply wonderful!!
love listening to this from my new home in the south of France as i clean my harvested mushrooms!
Nice! 😁
Beautiful share of self-acceptance and self-kindness without external pressures (and programming) we put on ourselves. Some of our personal growth is certainly smoother than others. 🙂 And shadow work can feel so scary... but it absolutely liberates us... and isn't usually as scary as we think. It is often this simple: We get triggered, then we usually avoid the feeling. BUT we need to do the exact opposite. Sit with the FEELING (not the story around it, not the memory, not the meaning or interpretation of it), just make ourselves feel the feeling... cry or scream or whatever comes up, it reaches a peak feeling, and then it drops -- surprisingly quickly. BOOM. We just healed some of the pain! The NOT feeling all of it at the time is what locked it up and allowed us to be triggered later. Triggers are opportunities for us to heal. This simple technique has changed my life. 💜
Absolutely. So well put!
I so appreciate your honesty about vulnerable topics. ❤Having ADHD and a genetic predisposition to depression has caused similar crises many times in my life. I'm profoundly grateful for the introspective nature and innate interest in self-growth that have helped me learn from such setbacks. Those are gifts not everyone has naturally, and I see them in you, Cecelia, and Nathaniel. A lovely family legacy!
Thank you so much!
Very powerful and raw honesty. Huge self-respect to him.
Thank you, Sir. 🙏
You have a wonderfully eloquent way of sharing your life experiences. Sharing your humanity confirms for me that we are all more alike than different, that we are not as unique as we perceive ourselves to be. I find comfort in that.
I agree stepping into the unknown is frightening but nessasary at time's. it allows you to see things from different angles and a ables you to make better decisions for yourself and your life ❤
So incredibly beautiful and brave that you are being totally revealed with all of us. I am a Psychotherapist, doing IFS Therapy in Wisconsin, USA. I find so many people are living in a reality where they believe they can not fully be their authentic self, and that the world would not want them to be. . Still so run by the external expectation that then melds into and becomes their own inner expectation of themselves. You have unlocked the door to your soul. So very happy for you. There are many struggling to find their way into this same journey. Your candid words will help many. Thank you for such a blessing gift to the world.
Thank you kindly 🙏
Waves from WI. :). I am discovering more of myself after divorce and after 50, and lucky to have friends who appreciate the real me. It’s definitely a journey!
😃😁 Here in Wisconsin also. Hello 🙋♀️😊
You're a courageous man, to be admired. Your family must be very proud of you.
“The discomfort of being around my family” that one line, one second resonated with me the most. I hope I get through it as you have.
Excellent as always, l look forward to your posts.
Thank you so much
I love this father & son relationship I can see you both writing a book on your talents ,especially edit & storytelling.
Thank you. 🙏 Great idea. 😁
I related to a lot of what you spoke about in this video.
Hats off to you for having the courage and the humility to embark on a journey of self-discovery at this age. To do the difficult work.
My parents just refuse to 'grow up', are unwilling to do the emotional work (introspection, reflection, questioning, etc.) and thus I have decided to cut off all ties with them since their presence would just drain me emotionally and mentally.
Your sons and your spouse should be extremely proud of you! And so should you!
Thoroughly enjoying your videos.
Greetings from Delhi, India...
Thank you so much, my friend. Yes, we are all definitely at different stages in life and we do what we do. I consider myself lucky to even care about some of these things!
So glad you did this video! Another awesome "visit."
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So beautifully written, and delivered, bravo!🎉
Thank you, Wendy! :)
Your generosity and courage to reveal internal struggles is a kindness to your audience. An invitation to discomfort, once accepted, releases unexpected treasures. Thank you for sharing a precious gift ❤️
Not many people look for the cause of their discomfort within themselves , their own ego. I just had a small conflict with a family member and remembered to do this. I am so grateful I did. I felt so much better. Did I remember your video ? I don’t know but you certainly set an example . Thank you ! ❤
Good for you! :)
Nice to see you post! Eager to see the next house chapter.
Your video resonated deeply with me. It made me understand the feelings I had eight years ago when I lost my v stressful and high power job after a restructure. I’d worked since I was 18 in various office jobs and, being a bit of a perfectionist, always put 110% into whatever I was doing. Your video helped me to understand that what happened left me with a loss of identity and it dented my ego. I was 64 … what would I do? It took me a while to let go of that feeling of loss. Thankfully, I had saved for all those years and have been able to travel, to take up art after its absence in my life for a long while, to reconnect with people and to make new friends. It took me about 3 years before I was comfortable being “retired”. Thanks again for putting what I was feeling into words.😎
Awesome to hear. 😊🙏
You are an inspiration! Thank you for sharing your evolutionary life-experiences with us.
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I am so speechless. Brutal honesty and what a journey to self discovery. Very inspirational - Thank you for sharing and Congrats !
Thank you, my friend! 🙏😁
Your videos are so motivating for me! I'm currently on a trip to Spain, my first time ever to Europe, as my family and I are considering moving here. I've had lots of uncomfortable moments, wondering if I can really do this, but you're right--there's a lot to learn and overcome by facing discomfort. I need to keep remembering this.
Indeed. Don’t give up!
How amazing it would be to be able to travel to Europe or the States or Australia. I hope to travel myself in the future ❤
I find your videos so inspiring. We are of a similar age and i have gone through lots of the things you talk about. Thank you for sharing
Thank you 🙏
Beautiful video. Also, I’m happy to see your sweet little dog having a wonderful stable place to be home. Looking forward to videos of your home renovation/organization. ❤
Thank you and coming soon. 😁
Wow...thank you for being so authentic, honest and real.....You have deeply inspired me as I am in the midst of emerging from a dark tunnel of life circumstances which have affected me so deeply and so similarly to what you shared...I have always been a very strong person but life has pounded me these past few years and deconstructed me...Your warmth and words of wisdom came at the exact moment when I needed them the most...thank you. So happy for you, your wife and your family...sending you love and gratitude.
Thank you so much, and wishing you all the best. Hang in there. You will come out the other side all the better. ❤️
Simply wonderful vid about your internal journey, thanks for being so open and honest. I'm a 74 y/o Latina who has learned and faced these opportunities that life gives us and all that's left is how we grow and enrich our lives as well as our relationships. Wishing you y Cecilia light, love in France. 🎉❤
Thank you so much, and all the very best to you!
I absolutely love all your videos... you have no idea of how much they can help other people. Thank you very much.
And by the way, I am a Spanish and English teacher and use your videos for conversation classes. Pure gold.
Thank you so much. Love to hear that. 🙏❤️
@@user-ii2zr2ho3hJust now seeing this. How cool! 😁
Thx for being so open, honest and vulnerable. I love how you say that one should dance with their fears rather than run away from them.
Don't be too hard on yourself about your past though. Your crisis point also came at a pivotal midlife point, where we have so many hormonal changes happening, it's almost like a second puberty and can really mess with our abilities. I did a video the other day on the male menopause, it's a real thing and can temporarily affect men the same as it affects women.
I love your positive and beautifully shot videos. It shows that midlife is an amazing time, full of adventures and possibilities. It's not about having a midlife crisis but rather continuing to grow. And if you have the most amazing life partner on your side (like you do, your wife is awesome) personal growth is even bigger and better ❤
Thank you for your most lovely words. 🙏😁
Hello 👋🏽, I’m currently « stuck » I was laid off from my job. It was tough to process and it’s been hard to realize that I placed such an importance on working but now that’s gone. Lesson learned: always have something else to focus on, developing more meaningful experiences. Thank you for this video.
Great lesson to learn. All the best to you and thanks for the support. 🙏❤️
Thank you for your honesty, it’s appreciated. My husband and I are about to take a big step outside of our comfort zone. We will be closing on a property in France next month. This is scary at ages 67 and 70 but, it’s also a chance for personal growth. We know that there will be challenges ahead, some positive, some negative, it’s all part of growing.
Because we are also from the Pacific Northwest, I would be interested to know what shipping company you used for your move? 🇫🇷
One heck of a video, man. I always learn a lot! Thank you for sharing your story!
Thank you! 🙏
Your videos have a lasting effect . Thank you for sharing your discovery , transformation, healing and all in such beautiful words . You have to know yourself first before knowing others . Your needs , your wants , your vulnerabilities , your fears , the things that keep you prisoner inside you ( shame, guilt ,…) . When you face them head on , you come out the other side a lighter , more free , bendable with challenges , less stiff , more understanding and grounded person . The real you shines bright .
I applaud you for sharing your raw self . 🙏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙏🏼👏🏼👍🏼
So beautifully put. Thank you!
I appreciate the honesty. I'm in that "stuck" mode currently - in between therapists - and wallowing in thick pity party. I know it won't last forever, but I also know it's up to me to become unstuck. I have to do the work - myself, alone. It's frustrating to say the least. Your vlog gives me hope. Cheers!
Hang in there. You can do this!
To be able to articulate such an intensely important and massively changing journey is truly a gift. We, everyone here, are so fortunate to be the recipients of what you have to share. I cannot thank you enough. But I will just leave you with my gratitude and total appreciation. This is a real treasure.
Very beautiful and moving video. ❤
I went through an existential crisis too and oh boy was it painful. I do relate. But in the end, it made me realize that the saying was true: the light comes in through the cracks. It changed me for the better too.
My best wishes to you and your family.
So lovely to hear. Thank you so much. 😁🙏
oh God, i missed your videos! very inspiring and sincere. thank you so much 🤍
Thank you!!
Wow! You persevered and grew internally. Most of us don't take that leap and stay stuck in life. Congrats on your growth and willingness to take a leap ad discover new areas in your life. Continued success in your life as I see in the next video, in France.
Thanks!
Wow! Your powerful video offers much to contemplate. Thank you for sharing.
And thank you right back :)
What an incredibly honest and vulnerable video. So helpful to see this kind of truth spoken aloud for all of us to learn from. Thank you for this intelligent video
Thank you so much. 🙏❤️
What a revelation to the whole world, poor, sick man, needs a serious therapy for sure, long term one 😢
It's rare for someone to be so vulnerable on camera. I had already seen the video that your son made with you about this painful time for all of you. Thank you for sharing.
By the way, keep doing your videos, you are very good in how to communicate who you are and also the quality and the esthetic of your videos is so good.
Bueno, mi inglés es fatal pero habéis entendido mi propósito. Un saludo.
Para nada. ¡Genial tu inglés! En fin, muchísimas gracias por tus comentarios y por todo tu apoyo. 🙏❤️
Thank you for continuing to share your journey with us. I feel so much resonance in your and Ceci's experiences. My husband and I always watch your stories together. It's nice to know there are others traveling the same roads. Continued love and good fortune to you both.
Thank you, and all the same right back to you! I love hearing when couples comment that they watch together. Puts a smile on my face. 🙂❤️
Well my friend as I sit here in Brittany ( for my second life in France ) ( came for 9 yrs went back to uk for 6 and now been back in France for 7 ) by my log burner sipping a glass of wonderful red and listening to your very brave and honest thoughts I can totally see your journey , I am a little older and a little bit further down the track at 61 ,, I am convinced now that what you are describing is what most Men of a certain bent go through and I am going to simplify what has happened to you , me and I have no doubt to countless other Men ,, it’s called “ Growing up “ some men mature ,some men never do and for some of us it happens late on in life as we have lived incredible lives stayed very young at heart and it is a bit of a shock , it’s another challenge ,, but there is light at the end of the proverbial , and when it becomes bright this light is the brightest of our crazy lives , enjoy being you now you deserve it . X
Appreciate your words and the way you described it. Thanks for the support!
"You really do reap what you sow"
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I appreciate your honesty. I didn’t grow up learning how to sit with pain and discomfort. It’s a relatively new concept for me. I had a similar experience in 2018 that shook me, and I’ve heard from others that this happened to them, around the same time, as well. It seems like a collective consciousness thing, if you believe in that. I do. Anyway, so happy to finally face my own bs. Would be interested in what books inspire you and your wife. ☮️
Interesting observation. As far as books, I’ll have to put a list together! Thank you so much for your support.
Wow, groth...Thank you for being so honest and open.
I wonder what you will be up to now that you have settled in.
I don't think you will be resting.
Love from Germany (only 500 km away ;-)
Thank you. Rest is sometimes hard to come by, believe it or not, but I try. Cecilia though is unstoppable and is working hard to get this house to an amazing place, and we will start revealing that real soon. Always something to stay busy with… Thanks for your support!
Looking forward to seeing what she’s done. I truly enjoy your transparency and sending us down your path in learning and growing and most importantly being true to yourself. Thank you. 👏👏
Your video came at incredible timing, as I’m going through a period now where I’ve outrun myself and now I need to face my fears and anxieties. It’s so wonderful to hear it from another perspective and feel less alone. Thank you!
It’s so wonderful to see your transparency, Josh. We have been talking off and on for a while now, as we are both Portlander’s making a new life in France. Two weeks ago, I launched a free ten-week program on Insta about finding joy, and spending the next few weeks into 2024 feeling more center, happy, and focused. I agree that life as an immigrant gives the opportunity to have a greater relationship with the journey of joy and fulfillment in life. Wishing all of your beautiful family a wonderful year ahead. I hope to see you on the streets of Paris soon. Bisous!
Thank you, and best of luck with everything! :)
Beautiful. 100% Relatable. Wash, rinse, repeat....
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Thanks for sharing this. I'm around the age of you and Cecilia, and I wonder if this is so relatable to me because of being a similar age, or our generation, or something else. But I'm going through something like this right now and it's wonderful to have this encouragement from the other side. So much hard-won wisdom here. Thanks again.
Thank you 🙏
Having passed through a searing and revelatory period myself in my early fifties, I deeply appreciate what you shared. We do indeed reap what we sow!
Your videos are the truist deepest voice of the soul. Thank you for speaking from your heart and sharing your heroic journey.❤
Thank you so much 🙏
Beautiful video!! Thank you for your honesty! We can all find a bit of ourselves in this story!
Seek discomfort. Love over fear. ~Yes theory.
You did it!
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This is everything. Thank you so much for sharing. I needed this, right now.
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Thank you so much for sharing your experiences ✨ They are profoundly helpful ✨
Thank you!
Your videos definatly make me think deeply about what life is realky about.
Love hearing that 😁❤️
Thank you for sharing this with us. Your video came at the perfect time for me as I am learning how to shed my ego and a version of myself that is no longer serving me. Can’t wait for the next one!
Keep at it. Wishing you all the best. :)
Just saw your video about Portugal a year ago, and went on your channel to know if you had found a place… I was about to tell you to try the other European countries around the Mediterranean because we share the villages style and way of life with others. It s challenging in my country, and now yours with the weather. I hope you re safe.
You ll know how the community around you can be be supportive though in hardships like natural disasters (I live myself in a rural area).
Your story makes me think of « Eat, Pray, Love ». I hope you re on the other side of this journey and will just enjoy the little things while wandering a local market on a sunny morning . Stay safe, you and your family… and have a great life in my country, as imperfect as it is. :)
I love your channel. So honest and reflective. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you for sharing all theses personal challenges ! I love your voice your storytelling.
We all go through struggles…
Have a wonderful day !!!
It takes a strong person to admit weakness or vulnerability and you shared so much and with class, sincerity and love for your family. (And love for yourself which is a tremendous step too!) Hugely commendable! Solid family!❤ 🌹
Thanks for sharing. Happy for you and your lovely family that you have seen the benefits of your efforts, keep doing you!
Profound in every sense. Watching your videos is always a great learning experience.
Thank you, my friend. :)
Though my circumstances/challenges are different, my conclusions are the same. Thank you for so eloquently voicing these ideas!
Thank you 🙏
I admire your courage and creativity for changing your life at an advanced age. I totally understand the fear you are facing during such radical changes in your life!! Even though I have a tiny audience comparing to your channel, I can understand how hard it must have been for you, especially working with your son. I just admire you more while watch this video. I hope I can be as good a parent as you are!!
Such a great channel and wisdom. Thank you! 😊🙏🏽
Beautiful video.
Thank you so so much 🙏
What a beautiful, vulnerable video. My very favorite so far. What a message Sir. Simply beautiful!!!
Thank you!
How amazingly open and frank and so refreshing. I am so happy for you, through your journey both physical and mentally you are at such a wonderful point. Regardless of how you felt about yourself, you have to own the absolute smoothness of creating a vlog/ film as honest as it was your talent seeps through it all. Don't deny yourself that. What do they say...it's not always the journey but the destination but in your case it was interwoven to the outcome :)))) what a wonderful, supportive family you also have, their love shines through as corny as that might sound, you can't but help see this, even in the very comment of this vlog. Hugs and continued love of life to you and your family
Thank you for sharing. This was a great motivational video. Raw and real. I needed to hear this today as I too am re-defining myself. Cheers!
Thanks! 😊
Thank you for this video. Your words somehow inspire, so beside all the agony you've felt, your recount kind of puts many things into the proper light and a real perspective of how to deal with fear, pain and the challenges I am sure we all have had to face.
Thank you 🙏
Beautiful video. Thank you. 🙏
And you as well 😊🙏
Beautiful share of self awareness and growth ❤. I am going though a similar journey myself and therapy has played such an important part in this.
Thank you and great to hear about your progress. Wishing you all the best 🙏❤️
Beautifully expressed…thank you!
Absolutely brilliant. This vlog, as all your vlogs seem to be … are raw, real and refreshingly honest. Such a stark comparison to all others. Bravo!
Thank you so much! 🙏❤️😁
Life experiences expressed with so much wisdom, introspection and authenticity, among others. Your videos always leaves a lot of lessons to your viewers. Thank you very much for sharing.
Your vulnerability helps me open up inside myself. Thank you for sharing so openly.
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Sensory delight , I love your choice of words and I look forward to your thought provoking videos. ❤️🌷🥰
I find your channel informative, unique and refreshing. Looking forward to hearing more your perspective in your new life. Thank you for sharing.
Thanks!
You make outstanding videos. Appreciate hearing about your process of getting to a better place.
Thank you so much 🙏
Beautiful and authentic! Thank you for sharing your experiences ❤
Thanks! 😁
Wow, this was Great, and Kust what I needed to hear today!! Thank you...❤
Great to hear 😁
❤ Thank you 🙏
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Cada video es mejor que el anterior 🙌 Llegó justo cuando lo necesitaba y me dio una gran lección ❤
Me encanta. 😁❤️
Great video Josh!
Thank you Debi. 🙏😁
Wow, I actually went through a very similar experience recently at my last workplace, so to say that I resonate with this video is an understatement. I feel I'm still in that phase of emotional blur to be honest, but I'm so glad to see you've found a light at the end of the tunnel and that you've rediscovered your sense of identity. Your video helped to renovate my hopes and give me more energy to keep going and remind myself that no matter what, I'm gonna be ok. Thank you!
Lovely comment. Thank you, and all the very best to you. 😁❤️
Wow. Something real and captivating.
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Thank you for doing the meaningful work 🙏🏼✨😊
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Glad to see this, you gives hopes with your story that are unique, but still tell's an inside work "formula/example" about the possibility of a better quality in life.
I believe in the ripple effect ✨
Thanks! :)
I've been watching your videos for a while now and I'm very impressed. Life blessed me with not one but two amazing fathers. Sadly they are now both gone but I still long for their guidance and wisdom. Since watching your videos I feel like I've in a since found that wisdom that I've been searching for. I have son now of my own and strave to be the type of person that I see in you, for him and myself. Thank for your channel and your inspiration.
Thank you so much 🙏❤️
We love your youtube. Happy France and Congratulations. So happy, I discovered your show by accident. So many Blessings to you and your wife. Your USA Family.
I am so happy to hear that I and my husband are not alone in feeling this way. I do still have ‘friends’ but I can only spend short periods of time with them. My husband is also my best friend. We did meet some neighbors a few years ago that lived a couple of houses down from us. They were a French and Dutch couple. We became the kind of deep friends you talk about. The friendship was easy and the discussions over meals was meaningful, deep but also had a lightness and ease about them. Unfortunately when they retired they moved to France. We are in contact daily through FB and What’s App but it’s not the same of course. I wonder if you will find more people, now that you are in France, that are interested in the very special type of friendship you talk about. When one does find such friends it is truly a wonderful gift! PS I also enjoy your son’s channel👍
Fairly new subscriber> I have been following your journey from leaving the US to your new life in France - What a gem of a channel it is - Hugs to both of you from Canada 🇨🇦
Thank you so much 🙏
Thank you so much for your insightful videos. They resonate and evoke an appealing feeling of familiarity to my life❤
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So beautiful & touching. Thank you for your vulnerability.
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Thank you for your meaningful videos. I haven't been here for a while, so happy to see you continue creating.
Thank you so much 🙏😁