5 Tips to Beat Inferiority Complex

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  • @n.e5354
    @n.e5354 5 років тому +753

    I struggle with comparing myself to others from the moment I wake up.

    • @furreedhiba3572
      @furreedhiba3572 5 років тому +50

      😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😷 same here. I want to cry ...endlessly

    • @anthonyholley2796
      @anthonyholley2796 5 років тому +66

      The moment that you wake up , just think about that for a moment , I am up and alive. While others are bed ridden with illness and some have no beds at all sleeping on the floor. Start being Grateful fo the air , water and the sun ,in which you could not live on Planet Earth without. Then finally , ask yourself "why was i born" , to compare myself with the next, what a waste of life. Only God can answer that question for you , ask him to reveal it to you.

    • @anthonyholley2796
      @anthonyholley2796 5 років тому

      @@furreedhiba3572 Hiba go back to the view reply and read my comments.

    • @stevienguyen2047
      @stevienguyen2047 5 років тому +13

      Anthony Holley. I 100% whole heartedly agree with you in the part about being grateful and practicing humility, but saying “only god” the way you did, it only implies that you are assuming that everyone else also believes in a “god”-which is ironically a very “un-humble” thing to say. We all have the right to believe whatever we choose, by 2019 standards that is a bit of bad taste don’t you agree?

    • @anthonyholley2796
      @anthonyholley2796 5 років тому +13

      @@stevienguyen2047
      Stevie Nguyen , there is over 7 billion people that exist on earth today and still growing. When i think about one cell from a sperm seed meeting a egg that is responsible for the 7 billion , i marvel and in a state of awe. The mind and brain alone is unfathomable in what it can achieve and with that mind , every human being have the right to choose. Like millions of people, who express and demonstrate their opinions and experiences ,so do i.
      I chose to say" Only God" and the individual has every right to make a conscious choice to believe or disbelieve. How can you make a choice , if you not presented with choices.

  • @ozzy.8413
    @ozzy.8413 2 роки тому +94

    My inferiority complex is so bad I was even afraid to tell my old therapist about it. The very idea that someone else would know about how inferior I feel gave me a massive wave of shame and embarrassment.

  • @ill8485
    @ill8485 3 роки тому +97

    Even worse when you feel extremely inferior to your best friends

    • @angelaortiz8619
      @angelaortiz8619 3 роки тому +3

      This happens to me

    • @rafaelguasp1141
      @rafaelguasp1141 3 роки тому

      I'm trying to figure out what it means and I still cant understand it. Can you give me a simple definition?

    • @wheatbread1606
      @wheatbread1606 6 місяців тому

      @@rafaelguasp1141 your friends are better than you.

    • @anukrititripathi152
      @anukrititripathi152 3 місяці тому +2

      ​​@@rafaelguasp1141 it's the feeling that you are incapable of doing things/any task. U constantly keep bashing urself in mind criticizing urself ,comparing, it makes u mentally paralyzed, guilty, shame,regret. U think u don't deserve anything . It all starts with comparison and the cause of it lies in ur childhood and parenting where u are controlled or too much bashing , bullying, fear of failure and intense desperation to prove urself
      The key is to first change ur mindset and accept yourself, stop criticizing bashing urself. Be calm

    • @anukrititripathi152
      @anukrititripathi152 3 місяці тому

      ​@@angelaortiz8619yeah even worse when u fall prey to narcissist

  • @rahmaali4045
    @rahmaali4045 5 років тому +74

    Feeling inferiority can only be done through comparison. Feeling inferior is different from objectively knowing we might be inferior to someone in a particular way. It’s about being emotional about it. Intrinsic to low
    Self-esteem. Not a cognitive thing, but emotional thing.
    We should always be on our own side. We can only b x y and z in comparison to others. If we relax our expectations as to how we should be.
    1) Deal with emotional memories. Helping people examine their own thoughts can be valuable and effective.
    2) Drop the mine. Be yourself, everyone is always taken. Being inspired by someone is trying to assimilate someone’s admirable traits into who you are and not being an identical replica of them.
    3) Get specific. Are you being too busy as to being selective as to who you are comparing yourself too?
    4) Dare to be different. Your life can only be lived by you. Explore what you want to do as opposed as to what you should do.
    5) oust the Utopian assumptions. Utopian is the assumption of what if thinking etc. if only I was twenty pounds lighter I would be happier. Deeper needs and until those deeper needs are met we may have an aching disconnect as to what we actually need and what we think we need.
    See differences in others not in terms of better or worse but just as differences.
    I will never be a plastic copy as to what other people expect

    • @Cyallaire
      @Cyallaire 3 роки тому +2

      The Oscar Wilde quote is "Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken." That's a correction to (2) above. One thing that helped me was a quote from a James Taylor song: "The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time." It's a way of feeling contented to remind yourself of that - and not worry who is better and who is worse by whatever criterion.

  • @bigol7169
    @bigol7169 2 роки тому +4

    This man is changing my life video by video

  • @paramitacdewi
    @paramitacdewi Рік тому +6

    I’ve been to therapy for years for depression, perfectionism, anxiety, yet this is the term I feel sums every problem I have in my life. How can I not realize this sooner.
    The first sentence struck me so deeply “Feeling like I’m never good enough despite my achievements” and constant comparison really ruins my life since I was still a kid. It robs my happiness, relationships, and even time, I’ve lived >10 years of my life not doing or pursuing goals that I want, but simply avoiding feeling inadequate, replaceable, and a loser in any community I’m in. Be it about education, career, physical attractiveness, popularity, and others - I am never satisfied. Makes me almost always unhappy.
    The worst part is, I’m never pushed by anyone. It’s just me and my head.
    Thank you so much for the video, it means a lot to know the specific problem I’m facing and making me feel understood

  • @leroux-p
    @leroux-p 4 роки тому +140

    Tips:
    1. Deal with emotional memories (effect bridge technique) 8:38
    2. Drop the mime 10:47
    3. Get specific (What have u being feeling sad about?) 12:16
    4. Dare to be different 13:38
    5.Oust the Utopian Assumptions 15:33

  • @carlosbravo2971
    @carlosbravo2971 5 років тому +255

    Really good video, I’ve had an inferiority complex for a great part of my life, even though I’ve had no real reason. It all comes down to bad moments during my childhood and constantly comparing myself to others. I have felt as if I do not deserve success and I have ignored my passions for too long. I’ll try to get to the root of the problem and try to feel my emotions and let them go, evolving and living my “own” life, not the one that is promised.

    • @StartContaversy1
      @StartContaversy1 5 років тому +1

      @Daniel Leslie I know you're feeling my dude...

    • @XAE_A_Xii
      @XAE_A_Xii 4 роки тому +4

      @Daniel Leslie i never pay attention to words said by drunk/angry/stupid/bad mannered/racist/mentally disillusioned people. So you should do the same. I don't need to be the minority to be insulted, you can insult everyone if you want to.

    • @Gypsy2211
      @Gypsy2211 4 роки тому +5

      David Leslie happy well adjusted people don’t make racist comments. That means there’s something unsettled within them so you should take that into account when you see that kind of stuff. Normal white ppl look down on racist white people.

    • @souljacem
      @souljacem 4 роки тому +1

      I feel really happy for you. I hope I‘ll get to heal as soon as possible aswell.

    • @JohnthePixelizedGuy
      @JohnthePixelizedGuy 4 роки тому

      Good for you man!

  • @roughryder5
    @roughryder5 3 роки тому +66

    I think Social Media is really messing me up. The second I wake up, I'm immediately checking Instagram and seeing other people living their lives. Knowing that someone had a wild Friday/Saturday night and seeing their pictures really fucks me up because I know I was just laying in bed or playing video games with strangers online all day.

    • @gecs-sg3rc
      @gecs-sg3rc 3 роки тому +1

      ngl, that sounds kinda good. I don't even have that much time while being drowned in homework

    • @goodenough4399
      @goodenough4399 3 роки тому +7

      FB is just a way for people to highlight the best parts of their lives, and then further embellish that, in order to win the dick measuring contest. No one ever posts their money, family, health, or legal problems. I left all social media (except YT and LI) and have gained a lot of inner peace just from that.

    • @enzu8247
      @enzu8247 3 роки тому

      You are so me.

    • @enzu8247
      @enzu8247 3 роки тому +1

      I play games because thats the only thing where i feel like im strong. Lmao 😂

    • @kerryviens7049
      @kerryviens7049 3 роки тому +1

      Fomo. It's real. I always feel like I should be somewhere else. I never feel present.

  • @ramaken254
    @ramaken254 5 років тому +164

    This was amazing. New subscriber.
    I would add a quote by Jordan Peterson which says , "Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today."

    • @brain0nfire
      @brain0nfire 4 роки тому +1

      Good luck getting a job that way.

    • @somerandomvertebrate9262
      @somerandomvertebrate9262 4 роки тому +3

      Is that really good advice? Wouldn't it just remind you how stupid you were and have you constantly cringe at yourself?

    • @TravelingPhilosopher
      @TravelingPhilosopher 4 роки тому +7

      It'll make you grateful for the fact that you have improved immensely & if you have improved so far, you can definitely improve in the future

    • @clairejohnson7809
      @clairejohnson7809 3 роки тому +5

      @@brain0nfire accepting yourself does not mean you dont study or apply for courses to improve skills. Hating yourself does not suddenly propel you to success over others.

    • @clairejohnson7809
      @clairejohnson7809 3 роки тому

      @@somerandomvertebrate9262 no, doesnt with me. You need to reframe your perspective

  • @Nouno470
    @Nouno470 4 роки тому +39

    I give up so easily because I already know that I'll fail.

    • @jjjj-x9g
      @jjjj-x9g 3 роки тому +3

      do more animations homie

    • @goodenough4399
      @goodenough4399 3 роки тому

      We all worry about failing. Rather than worrying about failing, look forward to knowing that you’ll learn something that will make you better (even if its not readily apparent at the time).

    • @RammingSpeed-lk8kk
      @RammingSpeed-lk8kk 4 дні тому

      Rather than thinking of life in terms of success or failure...why not just do what you "feel" like?...if that makes sense

  • @ishitachandel8662
    @ishitachandel8662 3 роки тому +149

    I was humiliated by my physics teacher so bad . He insulted me in front of my classmates and compared me to my brother that how good was he and look at yourself. This humiliation has stuck with me ever since. I always feel as if i am not intelligent enough and dumb girl although i am a topper .

    • @nh4811
      @nh4811 3 роки тому +23

      I'm so sorry for what your teacher did to you. He was probably projecting his own insecurities on to you, which is not right.

    • @Cyallaire
      @Cyallaire 3 роки тому +7

      That you could be in the physics class to begin with means you'd already accomplished a lot and you're pretty smart. Don't let a fool who'd tell you otherwise plague you. It doesn't matter if your brother was a shining star in class. That's OK. You're bright enough.

    • @Stepintothenature
      @Stepintothenature 3 роки тому +2

      I had the same experience my teacher did the same thing and the worse part was that it happened for a whole year and I was so helpless I couldn’t do anything and I couldn’t even figure it out how to help myself .

    • @Stepintothenature
      @Stepintothenature 3 роки тому +5

      Once I gave myself attention and self love that helped and changed my situation 😊and started to have positive thoughts.

    • @rohitmathur9669
      @rohitmathur9669 3 роки тому +3

      I have gone through the exact same incident and it has somehow made me feel very underconfident at most critical times of life. Been 14 years of that incident but it still haunts me time and again. I am just commenting this to 'speak this thought' and have my closure. Thank you, I hope we all get better soon.

  • @rockchick0367
    @rockchick0367 4 роки тому +40

    Great calm and soothing explanations. Tammy is lucky she’s had such a proactive mom who observed and got her help! Took me almost 43 yrs to figure all this stuff out by myself. Could have saved a lot of time and pain if someone (my parents) actually cared about me. They strongly favored my brother and it left me with some deep emotional scares. But moving forward!

    • @tengkufaizzuan3679
      @tengkufaizzuan3679 4 роки тому +3

      Wherever you are,
      May your life be better each day,💛

    • @ohfreud3981
      @ohfreud3981 3 роки тому +1

      dont be so sure your brother didnt suffer in his own unique way

  • @ArjunAchyutha
    @ArjunAchyutha 6 місяців тому +10

    I feel inferior to everyone on this planet , every minute is a struggle to live , bevoz of my complexes , i skip most of my classes , n resort to staying at home, n hence became lazy n put weight , this os only continuing endlessly , I'm ashamed of myself , to even live ;(

  • @iffatabbas3359
    @iffatabbas3359 4 роки тому +18

    Sometimes insensitive crass comments made by your own extended family can lead to life long inferiority complex especially if you happen to be sensitive. Your video was incredibly helpful. Thank you.

    • @antidepressant11
      @antidepressant11 3 роки тому

      Yes. That resonates. We have to live with what our family members think of us. Even if it is inaccurate.

    • @Maru-oz8sp
      @Maru-oz8sp 4 місяці тому

      ​@@antidepressant11this is really just sad

  • @trudibarraclough478
    @trudibarraclough478 2 місяці тому +2

    Most of my old friends think they are better than me. Said it openly! Once I moved on from them I improved a lot.

  • @flamingrobin5957
    @flamingrobin5957 5 років тому +94

    my parents were narcissistic shame based and projected onto me and gaslighted me. locked in double binds and shame for years keeps me to this day from succeeding. much of the emotional struggles interere with task and relationships

    • @naemasufi
      @naemasufi 5 років тому +7

      Very sad. Keep moving forwards x

    • @SC-oi9wp
      @SC-oi9wp 5 років тому +11

      Omg same. God forbid I was happy for a moment. Still going on.

    • @Tinky456
      @Tinky456 4 роки тому +1

      ACA can help. Daylight out of Darkness on youtube is good too. There is hope. I'm from similar i totally get you. Takes time to recover.

    • @joshjohnston9580
      @joshjohnston9580 4 роки тому +8

      Bro I feel you, me too I was shamed. I was shamed for being shy, my parents compared me to others, I am being reproached for not working rn being 18 years old. I discovered that I was highly sensitive and now I got to reframe all the self hatred that I have and past traumas

    • @rafaeterna1081
      @rafaeterna1081 4 роки тому +4

      one thing to kept yourself from turning into a narcissist is by improving despite what they did

  • @flamingrobin5957
    @flamingrobin5957 5 років тому +63

    grief in mid life has me stuck to the point that my heart hurts all the time

  • @Princesslaya90
    @Princesslaya90 4 роки тому +7

    Wow this man knows my heart and my mind, it’s crazy how a stranger can give me so much comfort and understanding 🙏🏻 thank you 💜

  • @bighiu-tofanchris717
    @bighiu-tofanchris717 3 роки тому +10

    I was mistreated and emotionally abused as a child and now i feel inferior to other people even know i know my value. I just feel as though people will never see my worth no matter what i do.

  • @annadourbal973
    @annadourbal973 5 років тому +14

    The idea that we are imperfectly perfect as we are is so natural but so lost in this world. Thanks for this

  • @varovaro1967
    @varovaro1967 5 років тому +34

    Two words: THANK YOU

  • @airohernandez9906
    @airohernandez9906 3 роки тому +3

    So I was broken up with as a child in elementary. The reson I was given as to as why I was being broken up with was ; " because you're ugly. I believe that till today and I'm 35....

  • @beneditamontenegro1404
    @beneditamontenegro1404 4 роки тому +9

    1. Deal with emotional memories (effect bridge technique);
    2. Drop the mime;
    3. Get specific (What have u being feeling sad about?);
    4. Dare to be different;
    5.Oust the Utopian Assumptions

  • @annon7179
    @annon7179 4 роки тому +11

    I tell myself my beauty/wits/intelligence etc is a resource not an identity. I use these things as an advantage to get what I want but I disassociate myself with the identity.
    I don't live to impress others to live up to their expectations. I'm just thankful for being alive and grateful to have the resources I have and use it the best I can to make it through this life happy.

    • @nawal8155
      @nawal8155 3 роки тому

      how do u disassociate it to it

    • @annon7179
      @annon7179 3 роки тому +3

      @@nawal8155 well think of it as a tool.... u either have it or u don't. it's like having a new toy as a kid or owning the latest technology as an adult...u can use it to ur advantage to show it off, make new friends, etc ..but eventually that toy will get old and it may lose its value. Eventually we will die and what we have physically in this life will be gone. Its great when u have it and u should take advantage of it if u do. But keep in mind even if u don't have certain tools that may be valuable to some ppl, u have other tools that can help u get through life and still bring u happiness. Think of beauty/wits/intelligence as something u have. Everyone has their own strengths and weakness so just make the most of ur own opportunities. What you value is a choice and if you stop caring so much about self identity and start valuing your happiness and see through those tools as opportunities that serve you, then you'll be able to disassociate. All it takes is a shift in perspective.

    • @zjoseb
      @zjoseb Рік тому

      This...this is the right mindset to have. Through out my 43 years(hopefully more years to come) on this earth, i never allowed the words and opinions of many to affect me. We only have 1 life to live. Live full and be happy for who you are. Remember, what we see in media and outside is manufactured...you too can manufacture the life you want with hard work. All it takes is a step 😁

  • @SouthParkStudio
    @SouthParkStudio 4 роки тому +2

    I love that the problems are met with solutions half way through the video. It goes to show how well balanced and educated this man is with what he teaches.

  • @Eskenazi2000
    @Eskenazi2000 4 роки тому +15

    Thank you for this. You're a kind soul, and this is exactly what I'm struggling with.

  • @thenightismyrefuge
    @thenightismyrefuge 4 роки тому +6

    I love your delivery, it's like straight out of a psychology textbook. Very well formulated, thank you!

  • @laboremjudex1457
    @laboremjudex1457 4 роки тому +3

    thank you sir.. you help a lot of people... God Speed all the time..

  • @CynthMzannar
    @CynthMzannar 4 роки тому +35

    Back when I was in school (in my case a French school), I was constantly being compared to my classmates. I always sucked at science-based subjects such as math and physics, whereas my close friends thrived in them. Add to that a bit of yelling from my mom if I didn't get a good grade and you get a combo of inferiority complex and a loss of self confidence. lol

    • @J7Noj
      @J7Noj 3 роки тому +8

      For me it’s being bad at games, trash at socializing and just feeling stuck... how’s it going for you right now?

    • @CynthMzannar
      @CynthMzannar 3 роки тому +5

      @@J7Noj I understand you! It's getting better given that I'm working on myself everyday! You should too, it'll get better for sure :)

    • @J7Noj
      @J7Noj 3 роки тому +4

      @@CynthMzannar I’m going to start working out on it today because I figured out this specifically held me back a noticeable amount. And nice! Keep it going!

  • @HenSt-gz7qj
    @HenSt-gz7qj 3 роки тому +5

    i remember often being compared to other kids by my mother when I was a child.
    i remember that i've never been praised for whatever i achieved.
    i also remember that i've always felt inferior toward my big brother and sisters (i'm the youngest).
    i think it started to became apparent in middle school, for 3 years in a row, i keep raising my grades but i never been able to even reach top-10 in class, i started thinking that whatever i do, i can never be better.
    my mom being a big racist also played some role , i remember how she often scolded me when i invited a friend home, saying that i shouldn't make friend with them because they are different from us. Making me feel that i have no right to even make friends... i also became introverted since.
    since then, i've always felt more welcomed, more at home, when i was at my best friend's home. i only have a few friends, but they are dear to me. Whenever i go to their house, i felt more at home than at my own family's. Because there's no one comparing me to other, no one scolding me for whatever things i do...
    i'm 36 this year... and i still feel unworthy, insecure, and worthless... but i'm going to do my best if it's for my friends. I just can't motivate myself if it's for MYSELF...

  • @yongrupan8825
    @yongrupan8825 4 роки тому +12

    although this is more like an instruction for the professional to help their clients, it helps me a lot

  • @nataliashein
    @nataliashein Рік тому

    The last words of Tammy just made me cry. Such a great video and you are amazing.

  • @AmirGTR
    @AmirGTR 5 років тому +9

    Wow. I'm tearing up man. Turns out I was almost there anyway, but this definitely validated me.
    Jordan Peterson is toxic as fuck. This is what I needed all along.

    • @AmirGTR
      @AmirGTR 3 роки тому +1

      @emilyemble Same here. You really have to watch a lot of his videos to get his true beliefs. His speeches are often designed to make a specific point or further an agenda, leaving out important details, which distorts our perception of his views. In reality he's more or less a normal psychologist with rational views and a higly eccentric expression.

    • @antidepressant11
      @antidepressant11 3 роки тому

      @emilyemble I am not as big a fan of JP as I was. Still I can't help think his point of view deserves respect. In the end , he tried too much to be father figure, with hyper self discipline. He couldn't live up to his own standards and had a mental breakdown. Which proves possibly he needed to be less bombastic and more chilled. More easygoing. He needed a gentler approach to life. And we all do. Sometimes we need a kick up the butt. But not every day. Not relentlessly. We need kindness and understanding much more. That's what the whole world needs and is always in short supply.

  • @esther4482
    @esther4482 3 роки тому +4

    Im not sure where my inferiority complex has come from tho. As far as I know, i havent had any trauma...that or I’ve hid them so deep in my subconscious I’ve forgot them...I used to mistake my complex for my anxiety, but noticed I adopted toxic mindsets and behaviours like avoiding ppl because I didn’t think i deserved to be acknowledged by them, perfectionism, my inability to accept nice things and just adopted the belief i am the least “valuable” person. Thanks for this video

  • @doreengayer5723
    @doreengayer5723 5 років тому +6

    I love your thoughtful intelligent guidance! You understand the emotions that create mental distress and how to help people overcome and discover themselves to live a more fulfilling life!

  • @christinabrasilevsky1342
    @christinabrasilevsky1342 4 роки тому +4

    Thank you, thank you, thank you, spot on brilliance, you hit it all on the head, and help me understand. I am unlearning and learning.
    I am beauitful, I am capable, I am worth my own love, I am a success.
    Trust me you have helped me such today, thank you, thank you,thank you 🙏😁

  • @geetanair3207
    @geetanair3207 5 років тому +6

    Thank you so much for giving insights into self esteem issues. I am dealing with it every day and having anxiety on account of that. Happy to listen to this.

  • @corycastleman6351
    @corycastleman6351 4 роки тому +7

    I fall into the categorie of going to great lengths and accomplishing a great deal for my age. Though it only feels good for a limited time, i often feel undeserving of my achievments, which eventually manifests in the form of am imposter syndrome

  • @wintrywinter
    @wintrywinter Рік тому +1

    Very helpful video and also comments.
    Starting to think back to memories, I recall teachers shaming me in class about 'failings'.
    Homework i struggled to complete, being horrendously bad at mathematics, or physics, or chemistry. Just making gentle fun of me in biology (a topic I liked), has left lasting memories to this day about me 'sometimes' understanding a topic.
    I struggled with Latin too, and my mother being a Latin teacher made it even worse, as she was ashamed of my poor results, and telling me so.
    I was often told how much shame I caused by being a poor student.
    In addition, I was compared to my younger sister, favoured by my father, for being cleverer or less awkward than me.
    I developed self deprecating humour about all this, admitting to my shortcomings, laughing with others about it.
    That includes my looks too.
    But think i feel shame too, leading to constant low self esteem and confidence.
    I always recall negative events, where I said something stupid, or performed badly.
    And I minimise achievements.
    It is so bad that I think I deserve to be treated badly by employers, as I could not cope with workload, or certain tasks.
    I got burnt out, and work more or less dismissed me.
    A long time ago, a helpful friend told me to be the best me I can possibly be. But I am not sure what I am really good at, or how to explore this.
    I don't trust my own thinking.
    I feel flawed and useless, leading to depression and anxiety. And no longer really enjoying anything.
    Now trying hard to unravel all this and find a new way forward.
    Would like to find a way to unlearn these early childhood memories, but there are a lot of them.
    Thanks for reading, and responding if this resonates with you.
    Sending love and courage with your own efforts

  • @leilaw8331
    @leilaw8331 4 роки тому +6

    Dear Mark, you’re literally amazing. Simply explaining all the sufferings and mental health issues someone could carry over a long period of time. God bless you✝️🙏

  • @TuNguyen-ec9tl
    @TuNguyen-ec9tl 3 роки тому +6

    I love the suggestion of going back into memories & recall the experiences that build that foundation for that inferiority & console oneself in that moment. Great exercise to dissolve stuck memories & feeling so we can understand our causes more & learn to accept ourselves as it is not our faults...and build a better relationship with ourselves by changing our perceptions of ourselves. Thank you. I will try this out muself

  • @CarisaRae
    @CarisaRae 2 роки тому +1

    Oh, I have this... It keeps me from socializing...

  • @stanleyaloh5590
    @stanleyaloh5590 4 роки тому +2

    I think I found out my problem. I subconsciously compare myself and work too much. I now know where to look to tackle my problems. Haunted me alot in my coding skill. Thanks

  • @pepperpitz3291
    @pepperpitz3291 3 роки тому +1

    I was never the same after failing college.
    What do you like about yourself? Your accomplishments? Your appearance? What you can give to the world?
    That’s how I know I’m a worm. I have no success, no money, no prospects and as time goes on I’m only getting uglier and slower and less convinced anything can change.

  • @sandjune2753
    @sandjune2753 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this video. My Brother has superiority complex I think, hes narcissistic, spiteful, uncaring, rang me up when I was assaulted to call me stupid, and it was my own fault i was attacked. Even when I got an ovarian mass he said so your ringing to tell me to just get pity. Hes younger than me spoilt, given loads of money by my aunty so he could buy his house with cash, and go to university ( i wasnt given anything, my aunty made it clear he was her favourite) and now a high achiever at a top Firm, obsessed with status and power, and looks down his nose at his sister. Turned up on my birthday at a restaurant with a card and one chocolate sweet you get from a petrol station. He couldn't even be bothered to get me a present. Even so arrogant enough to say one day I was younger than him even though I am older because I was not married. I said thats not possible .Only now I realise he is TOXIC and cut all ties. His constant belittling ways and treatment effected my mental health and gave me a complex that I am not good enough because I feel so hated by my own brother.

  • @cjennings6179
    @cjennings6179 5 років тому +3

    We matter just as much as anyone else! We are just as beautiful as anybody!!!

    • @razielthesniper9241
      @razielthesniper9241 5 років тому +1

      no thats a comforting lie, you need to accept the fact that some people are more important than others, lets say for example a heart surgeon compared to a real estate agent, and also beauty is objective trust me, you dont see any joe accepted in modeling for a reason. keep going by that mindset and you'll never get over the inferiority complex state.

  • @ifanbenmedz
    @ifanbenmedz 3 роки тому +4

    I always feel like this all of my life, i didn't even know this has a name.
    Growing up my parent always compared me to our neighbor, or family and friend. I think this effect my self esteem, and make me feel inferior compared to other. to all parents, please don't compare your kids to other kids, there's a better way to motivate or push your kids.

  • @josephinepapin8858
    @josephinepapin8858 4 роки тому +1

    This video is exactly what I needed. I am 19 and I feel so much like Tammy. I will work on your tips, thank you so much for this.

  • @thatoneguy7792
    @thatoneguy7792 2 роки тому +1

    I know I’m objectively worse than most people and that’s why I’m sad

  • @francismausley7239
    @francismausley7239 4 роки тому +3

    Good tips... Know that you are a spiritual being... "Dost thou reckon thyself only a puny form When within thee the universe is folded?" ~ The Iman Ali quoted By Baha'u'llah, The Seven Valleys, Baha'i Faith

  • @50subsfornezukovids4
    @50subsfornezukovids4 4 роки тому +1

    I'm really greatful for this,you just made my life a hundred times better

  • @mghtwehtwemg8674
    @mghtwehtwemg8674 Місяць тому

    Thank you very much for Very Helpful Insight. Your advice or opinion as regards to the Subject is always on my mind and apply and practice in my day to day life. Thanks again and May God Bless you with Good Health, Happiness and Peaceful Life.

  • @aladinfox4098
    @aladinfox4098 3 роки тому

    I have always felt inferior, it's surprising how much comedy is based on this emotion. I have accepted the probability I'll always feel melancholy which I find amusing some of the time, I sometimes think a sense of humour is the only thing that's saved me from putting an end to it all.
    Thanks to people like Mark Tyrrell here, a lot of people with mental problems can gain a clearer insight into themseves.Keep up the good work👍

  • @Winter-nn1zh
    @Winter-nn1zh 3 роки тому

    I watched your video from beginning to end, i even took notes. I can't Thank you enough

  • @d.s.28
    @d.s.28 9 місяців тому

    I love the “If only I had” theory.Very helpful

  • @LaraCroft-t5d
    @LaraCroft-t5d 5 місяців тому +1

    I'm an adopted child. Eventhough my adoptive family is nice to me, I still feel I don't have a family. Specially during reunions. And in school coz I'm using my biological parent's surname. It's so painful and hard to answer questions like "why is your surname different?"
    My adoptive family is quite well-known. And I can't feel that I really belong to them coz everyone knows my surname is different.
    That makes me feel alone and shy to talk to anyone. Coz I want to avoid questions about my real family.
    I feel like I don't have a right. I need to avoid conflicts because I know they look down at me coz my real parents abandoned me. It's hard

  • @ryanchiang9587
    @ryanchiang9587 4 роки тому +2

    i have confidence in sunshine, i have confience in rain, i have confience in confience alone,...etc.. i am goo enough, i am goo, tdoo, an i am good at mathematics.
    and now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but thegreatest of these is charity. 1 corinthians 13:13

  • @aoc_creativee24
    @aoc_creativee24 Рік тому

    This was really helpful. I’m more of a perfectionist, wanting everything to be 100% and this is really a big deal for me as it’s affecting me in all spenders, even in relationship but I hope to get better

  • @manurajkatare8922
    @manurajkatare8922 4 роки тому +4

    Well it's definitely me looking at this at 1 midnight after social media 😌

  • @codacreator6162
    @codacreator6162 4 роки тому +2

    There is a disparity between what I've accomplished, my capabilities, and my own assessment of their product. I can only be proud of certain things for a very short time. Earning a Master's degree, for instance, provided me little satisfaction. And even less when it appeared to have little value for the rest of the world.

  • @gawrgurafan1257
    @gawrgurafan1257 3 роки тому +2

    The thing is, I'm statistically above average at a handful of things, and I'm statistically and technically better than others at a lot of things, but I struggle with thoughts like "people are always going to be better than me what's the point of even trying". These thoughts are way more prevalent when I do things I enjoy but don't really see any progress.
    I've been playing guitar for years, and I will say I am not good. Technically, I am at an intermediate point, but I literally can't help but think I am genuinely terrible and it doesn't make me want to go on.
    I think these thoughts came in sometime this year, but I've probably had them for at least 2 years and this is the toughest thing I've ever dealt with. Instead of making me want to get better, I don't want to get better. I don't want to do anything at all. I won't amount to anything.
    Thank you

  • @NbaLive4ever
    @NbaLive4ever 2 роки тому +1

    This helped me a lot. Thank you soooooo much!!!!

  • @blabla7652
    @blabla7652 2 роки тому +1

    I have felt this way forever but never really paid attention to it. I just recognized this feeling and started googling it. I have especially felt less than with people older than me. I am 23 y/o. For example, when I'm at the hairdressers, I just feel like I don't deserve being there. That I am not worthy of being treated like a respected customer. Or at work, whenever I work with older, more experienced people I just feel so much less, even though I am not. I really want to stop feeling this way. I even have it when going to a bakery f.e. and buying some sweets, and the woman selling the cakes is older than me. I just feel like a child doing all these things, and I almost feel ashamed of doing these things. Makes me even want to avoid doing it.

  • @melodyneedham9051
    @melodyneedham9051 3 роки тому

    Wow. I identify with Tammy on every point except one. I feel all the same things. And would answer everything the way she did, only I have never inflicted self harm. I really hope I can start myself on a new path.

  • @nurarifah3109
    @nurarifah3109 5 років тому +6

    Thank u for making this video! It's mean so much for me!!

  • @salar9871
    @salar9871 5 років тому +2

    Too good, makes me emotional and teary. Thank you for the video.

  • @marleyofficialmedia
    @marleyofficialmedia 7 місяців тому

    Very insightful. Thank you. ❤

  • @lessandra602
    @lessandra602 5 років тому +3

    Thank you very much for your time and effort into this video. Very helpful

  • @gerlindebrixus2505
    @gerlindebrixus2505 3 роки тому

    Very well compiled session. Would like to add that the corporate environment, especially in the US, equals social media pressure. The weekly/monthly/annual performance evaluations can be excrutiating for any individual with undigested childhood trauma, when facing a strong trigger (such as line manager, project lead etc). Hopefully, this video gets thru to those who need to hear, moves them into awareness and frees their souls...The workplace will be better for it! Thank you.

  • @hafizfirdausabdulgafar2786
    @hafizfirdausabdulgafar2786 3 роки тому

    Thanks a lots, Mr. Mark
    I thoughts i'm the worst of making decision and trap in it, which you barely cut open the ways that all of i had think is already been made in, actually. i'm glad to feeling this relief again.
    #acknowlegded

  • @lalalanding234
    @lalalanding234 2 роки тому

    Clarity is actually so important, and so few actually have it. It's a pity, even i don't. I too am heavily edited

  • @maceyr.6583
    @maceyr.6583 2 роки тому

    I also hurt myself because I feel like i'm not good enough. People always give me compliments about how I carry myself but deep inside I'm inferior towards other people. I don't use social media anymore but I'm still pressured to look a certain way.
    Thank you so much! 🥺

  • @kenzie9501
    @kenzie9501 4 роки тому +1

    Great video! Helped so much in raising my own self awareness and understanding myself better. Especially with the particular example you use with Tammy was very very helpful, thank you for being so compassionate and gentle as you are speaking.

  • @francismausley7239
    @francismausley7239 5 років тому +3

    A thought to remember is - "O Son of Being! Thou art My lamp and My light is in thee. Get thou from it thy radiance and seek none other than Me. For I have created thee rich and have bountifully shed My favor upon thee." ~ Baha'u'llah, The Hidden Words. Baha'i Faith

  • @ziggy8253
    @ziggy8253 4 місяці тому

    I’m comparing myself to this guy in the video right now: “He has so much more wisdom than I do.” 😔

  • @nina.sauvage
    @nina.sauvage 3 роки тому

    Thank you for this video. You speak so clearly and your message is so efficient. It definetly made me feel better.

  • @davidfrison4372
    @davidfrison4372 5 років тому +2

    It took a long time to get over it especially during adolescent years it took so long time to be comfortable with David and not emulate someone who I thought took everything in stride..but it can be very dangerous because you can end up in fairytale land and combined with substances like Valium can ensure an identity crisis and you'll push your family further and further away because one visit with them can burst the fairytale bubble...by the time I got out of my 20s I accepted myself for who I am ... and in doing so it allowed me to return to the truths and memories of a previous life ... and I had to accept that yes I was that person in my previous life...but it's just as important for me to understand the previous life and what mark I'm to leave on the world whether big or small it doesn't matter.. and part of it was to not use your children vicariously... and that you don't use your children to full fill your political asperations and Im being punished accordingly with a spiritual forse keeping me away from my children... And that money isn't everything in my life and it never will be a factor in this life.. my sentence is almost over though and I'll have clean karma for the next life...but most people who emulate others... they are usually old souls and certain personalities they emulate is the heart yearning to be the same as they were in their previous life... It's like looking into a broken mirror ...

  • @nickdrury8609
    @nickdrury8609 2 роки тому +1

    I mainly feel inferior to my friends who all have careers and high paying salaries. I also feel it’s expected of me to have a high paying job as well.

  • @charicerbas7723
    @charicerbas7723 4 роки тому

    I'm actually self-diagnosing myself of inferiority complex, and hearing what you said really helps a lot. Now I have at least a bit knowledge on how to beat this. Thank you! Looking forward to hearing and seeing about other amazing psychological and mental health awareness from your channel.

  • @nicholas70paul
    @nicholas70paul 4 місяці тому

    No one is inferior or superior, sometimes people with low self esteem need to make someone feel that they are inferior, about what and for what is just that, no one is any different than anyone.

  • @21willyx21
    @21willyx21 2 роки тому

    Hi, thank you for the video. I have an inferiority complex that got worse after a woman I love changed me for a taller, richer and more handsome guy. I have a problem with tip #1. When I try to think of a time I felt good, I must think of time spent with her. But I cannot feel good about it, as I also know that those times are gone and I am only left alone.

  • @امةًوسطًا-ظ1ع
    @امةًوسطًا-ظ1ع 3 роки тому

    This is profound!!!!!
    Thank you very much

  • @garrethangelonavarro8831
    @garrethangelonavarro8831 3 роки тому

    This was so useful sir. Thank you so much I will bring these tips with in every situation I encounter. Thank you

  • @gykg3202
    @gykg3202 2 роки тому

    This is exactly what I have. I suffer from this and I wish I would get out of it.

  • @Tinky456
    @Tinky456 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you really helpful and down to earth, easy to understand.

  • @aerodylluk2543
    @aerodylluk2543 3 роки тому

    Thanks so much for these videos. The helping hand technique is really useful. Even just learning about it now I couldn't help reviewing some older memories and was surprised how effective it was.

  • @villanessa
    @villanessa 4 роки тому +1

    Parents have a huge part in this

  • @PartnerTube
    @PartnerTube 3 роки тому

    Awesome video help me lot.....
    Just got out of my depression going from2 than two weeks

  • @binod413
    @binod413 4 роки тому

    Your videos are great source of great knowledge for all we budding therapist and common people. Love from India🙏

  • @chii_lisa
    @chii_lisa 4 роки тому +1

    very educational! i learned at lot of techniques

  • @kite5110
    @kite5110 3 роки тому

    I wish I found this sooner, thanks bro

  • @jaytaylor9232
    @jaytaylor9232 Рік тому

    Thank you for this video.

  • @ShruthiLakshminarayana
    @ShruthiLakshminarayana 2 роки тому

    Thank you very much, very much relaxed

  • @somerandomvertebrate9262
    @somerandomvertebrate9262 4 роки тому +1

    Feeling inferior is one thing, being inferior is another. I'm 50 years old by now and realize why I wasted all of it in feelings of inadequacy and depression. It was not due to feelings, but objective reality. In short, considering the circumstances I couldn't have made it much better in any case, but probably a bit worse. So in consequence, I didn't do anything wrong in particular. Sometimes, it's just that the gods send a soul to Earth so inadequately equipped for life it's just a reason for them to laugh at it.

    • @andrewortiz5797
      @andrewortiz5797 2 роки тому +1

      That's your perspective. Change your perspective and your outlook and situations will cbange. It's never too late to start over even at 50. You still got another half to live.

  • @gopabose4042
    @gopabose4042 Рік тому

    Comparing is the thief of joy

  • @joshmcbrayer5870
    @joshmcbrayer5870 3 роки тому

    "She will never be a plastic copy to what other people expect." That hit home.

  • @georginajovanovic
    @georginajovanovic 4 роки тому

    Also some social small talk training would help her so she can interact better and get good feedback and build self esteem that way from feeling good about herself from being so skilled and making people's day and consequently her day better rather than just guided hypnosis.

  • @pH-nc8zi
    @pH-nc8zi 3 роки тому +1

    Honestly to say.. i have inferiority complex since school since childhood.. n one of the reasons is my mom.. she had always made feel very low n also body shamed me always with every part of my body

  • @Drvinnieboombatts
    @Drvinnieboombatts 11 місяців тому +1

    I wonder as a black man how my inferiority complex came into play where we’ve been made to believe we weren’t good enough for basically being alive