3 Instantly Calming CBT Techniques For Anxiety

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  • Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) has taken a bit of a bad rap recently with meta-analytical research showing it seems to be getting increasingly less effective in the treatment of depression.
    And neuroscience is showing that strong emotions often precede thoughts, so changing thoughts may do little for extreme conditions like Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and addictions.
    So in this video I seek to give you a sense of the true values and limitations of CBT, and I share 3 CBT techniques for anxiety.
    If you are struggling with anxiety, my Overcome Fear and Anxiety session will help you relax, breathe, and soothe anxiety:
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    0:00 Introduction: Aurelius was wrong on this
    2:14 The shaky theory of changing thoughts to change feelings
    3:40 3 simple CBT techniques for anxiety
    3:53 CBT Technique 1: Focus on how the feelings will change
    5:48 CBT Technique 2: Chew it over, and act normal
    8:25 CBT Technique 3: Catch the underlying assumption and chase down logical conclusions
    10:08 Summary
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    ++About Mark Tyrrell++
    Psychology is my passion. I've been a psychotherapist trainer since 1998, specializing in brief, solution focused approaches. I now teach practitioners all over the world via our online courses.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 934

  • @benmurphy5022
    @benmurphy5022 4 роки тому +1293

    "Anxiety is a survival response not an illness" very well put.

    • @marcelrey9533
      @marcelrey9533 4 роки тому +64

      For those who suffer from depression and anxiety- it’s a DIBILITATING ILLNESS! Obviously you don’t have it!

    • @savedandblessed79
      @savedandblessed79 4 роки тому +17

      I used to think it was a made up thing until I suffered a severe onset of complex Ptsd that in hand led to high functioning hidden severe depression and anxiety and its hard to live with. I crash every now and again but it's definately a severe disability and terrifying at times to life with. Deadly also at times. Treatment on NHS for severe problems is only available if you literally beg for your life and I have had to do so in the past to get the help and proper diagnosis I needed that GPS dangerously throw ssri tablets at. Its a disgrace tbh whilst government ministers spend hundreds on lunch. Be prepared for palm offs and misdiagnosis along the way. Which is another cluster fuck when they give you tablets that send you insane. But have hope you eventually balance out and find a sweet spot. Cbt over 6 months had limited success for me. Its handy for grounding yourself when inside your head gets too much at times.

    • @cowboyanimal6700
      @cowboyanimal6700 4 роки тому +1

      @@savedandblessed79 even if you are put off, listen from 17:35 - Chaos is NOT natural but you are. I hope it helps .

    • @medilabhealth1265
      @medilabhealth1265 4 роки тому +17

      Yes. Anxiety is an adoptive response to a stressful situation. Bt excessive stress is pathological

    • @Alzenaish
      @Alzenaish 3 роки тому +16

      Yes... But what's troubling is, there is no actual threat. I think thats when it becomes a problem.

  • @TheFabricTeapot1
    @TheFabricTeapot1 5 років тому +796

    Just because we have a thought, it doesn`t mean it's true.

    • @bbuc7762
      @bbuc7762 4 роки тому +23

      Absolutely. Let ALL the thoughts in, they aren't you anyway. Seeing the thought allows you to choose not to identify or accept them. I believe all the spiritual or wisdom traditions allude to this point. Absolutely liberating :)

    • @thekatie3079
      @thekatie3079 4 роки тому +13

      I’m sat crying like an idiot at this comment. Thank you, I really needed to hear that :)

    • @loves2sing
      @loves2sing 4 роки тому +10

      Thank you for this. I have also heard the quote, "Don't believe everything that you think." This was also helpful.

    • @TheFabricTeapot1
      @TheFabricTeapot1 4 роки тому +3

      @@loves2sing
      Yes I love that one....that's new to me. I will remember it. Thank you and have a good day.

    • @TheFabricTeapot1
      @TheFabricTeapot1 4 роки тому +1

      @@thekatie3079
      I hope you're ok and keeping safe 🙋🏼‍♀️💐

  • @thewisdomtherapist
    @thewisdomtherapist 3 роки тому +482

    CBT saved my life. After that I became a CBT therapist and CBT wisdom promotor to help as many people as possible.

    • @chimmychuck
      @chimmychuck 3 роки тому +15

      kek

    • @SN-qu2gz
      @SN-qu2gz 3 роки тому +3

      That's awesome. What issues were you having? Anxiety?

    • @bharanikarthikeyan4922
      @bharanikarthikeyan4922 3 роки тому +7

      Hi I am also suffering from anxiety disorder can you help me

    • @samiazaffar7096
      @samiazaffar7096 3 роки тому +2

      Where did you do your CBT training if you dong mind asking me?

    • @chimmychuck
      @chimmychuck 3 роки тому +21

      @@samiazaffar7096 in my house with a ball stretcher

  • @Brett.1984
    @Brett.1984 5 років тому +23

    Positive self talk really helped me I noticed I started calling myself stupid and "piece of shit" that was programmed in me when I was young. Depression and anxiety work hand in hand. Saying "its ok your safe" out loud really helps reassure me.

    • @ricoender8020
      @ricoender8020 2 роки тому +2

      For me it was always making mistakes and getting criticized for it and me trying harder and harder yet failing and making more mistakes because of it. Now 30 some years later I've come to accept myself as who I am and my imperfections and accept myself for me. Guess what? I am now thriving in the past few weeks I have been doing things I have never been able to do with my past mindset. A coupled with diet and exercise feels like I am on top of the world.
      Will I have relapses? Yes we will. But as long as we're pressing little by little 1% at a time as I say to myself in the morning and in the evening I'm better by 1%.

    • @jesusbermudez6775
      @jesusbermudez6775 Рік тому +3

      I agree with you that talking to your body is an excellent way to overcome anxiety. If one explains to the body how one is going to handle a situation that's ahead then the body realizes that one has it under control and calms down.

    • @winonafrog
      @winonafrog Місяць тому +1

      Glad to hear. I know it’s hard. Cannot believe how often I label myself “a st**** f****** id*** r*****” because of how my relatives raised me. Peace to all enduring & healing the same.

  • @emotionalfish1181
    @emotionalfish1181 4 роки тому +56

    It's scary when you feel like your mind is betraying you. I'm not suicidal but I can understand the link between the two. Thanks for making this video. I'm going to try these techniques.

  • @graceangelica9020
    @graceangelica9020 5 років тому +215

    Thank you sir! I have been battling dentist fears my whole life , I mean phobia, dread, all this lead to years of chronic infection !I watched many videos but your video helped me keep my dental appointment today...2 teeth extracted, 6 roots extracted and 2 bone grafts. I did it today by following the 3 written steps. Bless you. Thank you it really helped me.

    • @kalenaglory2483
      @kalenaglory2483 5 років тому +5

      Grace Angelica Awesome! I know you must be so relieved!

    • @graceangelica9020
      @graceangelica9020 5 років тому +2

      @Jasmin irani nope it's the truth you jealous!

    • @mrprosperity1
      @mrprosperity1 4 роки тому +3

      i have dental phobia at moment. good to hear you got to dentist

    • @ash12317
      @ash12317 4 роки тому +6

      I'm really happy for you.

    • @mascara1777
      @mascara1777 3 роки тому +4

      I understand, I had horrible dental fear for years. Exposure therapy helped and now I have no fear thank God! I started talking more to my dentist and being very clear that I was very afraid. I found a dentist that was very sweet and had a great bedside manner. Also, you can find sedation dentists that specifically treat anxious patients.

  • @joethecounselor
    @joethecounselor 5 років тому +241

    Why are there only 82 likes here?! This is therapy gold! So many anxious people around the world need this wisdom.

    • @minidocstv3339
      @minidocstv3339 5 років тому +1

      Joseph De Vries probably because this type of therapy didn’t pop up a while back “when I did a search” about anxiety so a lot of ppl must have no idea how amazing this is.

    • @n.mourad2848
      @n.mourad2848 4 роки тому +4

      Uhhh, huh?? There are 7.5 thousand likes ? 😂😁👍I am that time traveler and am here to tell you that more people will feel better about this in the near future

    • @classicentertainment2416
      @classicentertainment2416 3 роки тому +1

      @@n.mourad2848 I'm also a time traveler from November, 2020 and there are 17,000 likes now and more people are being helped 😀

    • @venix2256
      @venix2256 3 роки тому

      because most of us came here by searching cbt

    • @steffc8611
      @steffc8611 2 роки тому +1

      So before covid this video had 82 likes.. now during covid it has 22k. Makes sense

  • @meditentacion-peacefulretr9439
    @meditentacion-peacefulretr9439 3 роки тому +58

    To the 1% of you guys that are reading this, remember you are beautiful and unstoppable. I really love this video. It helped me through very rough times in my life and inspired me to start an own channel to help more people out there suffering on mental diseases.
    Stay safe everybody. 🌻

    • @kathyalexander1984
      @kathyalexander1984 2 роки тому

      I have it really bad

    • @ilupillu4915
      @ilupillu4915 2 роки тому

      @@kathyalexander1984 i will give u a solution which will really help ur depression right from its roots...ur life will change tremendously .i have done it my self and i know from my own experience..do Surely go for it..give it a try its life changing..

    • @ilupillu4915
      @ilupillu4915 2 роки тому

      @@kathyalexander1984 there are many vipassana meditation centers around the world find one near your area and apply for a 10 day vipassana course

    • @ilupillu4915
      @ilupillu4915 2 роки тому +1

      @@kathyalexander1984 type vipassana meditation on the internet and their website will come

    • @conslateowuor5962
      @conslateowuor5962 2 роки тому

      I have panic disorder help plz

  • @FURBjr
    @FURBjr 2 роки тому +91

    My daughter was having an episode where she was having a lot of anxiety. We watched this video together and talked about ways she can regain control of herself. Many topics covered were review, but this video helped to remind us of tactics we can use to overcome some crippling anxiety. Thank you.

    • @Ohhhthatsnot-
      @Ohhhthatsnot- 2 роки тому +4

      Great mother. I feel as though if I brought up my anxiety to my parents, they would think I’m sick and that it’s nothinf

    • @georgen9755
      @georgen9755 Рік тому

      My daughter is capable enough to drive out stress and anxiety ......... If your daughter has an anxiety disorders don't blame me or some else's daughter .........
      Anxiety is survival need and not immoral ways to awaken moods ..... ...... It is long ...long ..... way how .......people are capable of pronouncing such ariels which bring ill-luck.......and ....disturbing bouts of depression for various reasons . On the whole some sections of the society have attained some form of superiority .... so in which case they are capable ...to ...do anything and everything .....with pot lucks ... Why do they need .....your neighbours dairy , neighbours utensils , invariably the most imminent things will be missing when needed .. even the footware similarities , hand writing similarities , similar rubber stamps .....notary public ... So no need to utilise my mailing account to send trash ...and crap about me ........

  • @kolibogi6951
    @kolibogi6951 4 роки тому +58

    His voice calmed me down.

    • @Awjikis
      @Awjikis 3 роки тому

      Right 😂 he’s helped me through a lot I think of him as my second dad🥰

    • @Sith-LordTobi
      @Sith-LordTobi 2 роки тому

      I agree his talk was very relaxing. I was feel very anxious when I searched this up. Definitely feel a little bit free from my anxiety after that video and his tip for coping with this struggle I have, right now.

  • @meditationzone780
    @meditationzone780 4 роки тому +27

    Anxiety may lead to difficulty sleeping
    Tip: Your whole mind and body has to be relaxed. Listening to music in the background while in bed will help tremendously

  • @sydneyhollebone2603
    @sydneyhollebone2603 Рік тому +5

    Emotions happen before thoughts was one of the most helpful things my counselor ever told me, love that it's now a common tip

  • @torisasmrandenergyhealing
    @torisasmrandenergyhealing 5 років тому +459

    3:54 technique 1 focus on how you will feel when it passes
    5:48 technique 2 choose over and act as you wouldn't it an actual emergency.....
    8:26 technique 3 catch the assumption and I'm chase down the logical conclusions

    • @missmaxinerussell
      @missmaxinerussell 5 років тому +5

      thank you!😊

    • @torisasmrandenergyhealing
      @torisasmrandenergyhealing 5 років тому +2

      @@missmaxinerussell you're welcome 🙂

    • @Brian.001
      @Brian.001 5 років тому +19

      Tori Caldwell : Just wondering how this would look written in English?

    • @robmullan4395
      @robmullan4395 5 років тому +12

      Yeah that makes zero sense... Not in English anyways

    • @fredjones2541
      @fredjones2541 5 років тому +51

      Technique 1: focus on how you will feel when the terrible feelings inevitably pass (because they always do)
      Technique 2: Choose to act as if you weren't in an emergency situation (smile/laugh, breathe well, salivate)
      Technique 3: Challenge the illogical and irrational assumptions that have you so worried in the first place

  • @copesafewithsb4940
    @copesafewithsb4940 4 роки тому +32

    Thank you so much for acknowledging the fact that we cannot turn off cortisol and adrenalin simply by thinking positive! Not to say there isn't some good purpose in challenging/acknowledging our core or irrational beliefs, but certainly it doesn't erase the entire problem and we must also deal with the body. Big big thanks!

  • @anasalhaj3246
    @anasalhaj3246 5 років тому +38

    These 12 minutes are the best I’ve ever heard on anxiety

  • @36duboy
    @36duboy 5 років тому +66

    Anxiety is a fear of not having control of your future .
    You cannot control the thoughts that enter your mind but you can manage the emotions

    • @TheIcebon
      @TheIcebon 4 роки тому +2

      36duboy your emotions all stem from your thoughts

    • @radar0412
      @radar0412 4 роки тому

      In my case, anxiety is the fear of the Past

    • @36duboy
      @36duboy 4 роки тому +2

      @@radar0412 is it the fear of it happening again

    • @radar0412
      @radar0412 4 роки тому

      @@36duboy It's the fear that the events from My past that I wasn't responsible for, will effect my present and future relationships. I guess I have to give you credit for being half right. Lol..

    • @36duboy
      @36duboy 4 роки тому

      @@radar0412 radical Acceptance.

  • @graemercaesar5094
    @graemercaesar5094 4 роки тому +44

    Very enlightening. As a CBT practitioner it is good to see that knowledgeable people are pushing the established boundaries.

    • @RockDove5212
      @RockDove5212 Рік тому +1

      They definitely need pushing! Thank you for thinking along those lines .This man has great and intuitive emotional intelligence. So many practitioners don't.

  • @newflame9334
    @newflame9334 3 роки тому +15

    I recently have come to terms with the fact that I have severe magical ocd. I’ve had it since I was very little and felt overwhelmed at the thought of seeking help because I feel there’s no one that would truly understand. But I’ve come across this video and I now have a glimpse of hope that it can be cured. Thank you for sharing your gift for those of us who can’t really afford sessions or who struggle with opening up to strangers and would rather look for self help. Videos like these help so much and thank you.

    • @user-ou8iv5ms1i
      @user-ou8iv5ms1i 2 роки тому

      Hello my friend. I would like to tell you some about OCD because i have ocd too. The best treatment for OCD is a method called ERP (Exposure and response prevention). It is by far the most effective and it might be slightly different from CBT if your therapist is not specialized in ERP. ERP though comes from CBT but there are differences. Just check it if you want on the internet. I hope you the best

  • @hinamuzzaffar2849
    @hinamuzzaffar2849 4 роки тому +151

    1. Focus on how the feelings will change. Remember that feelings will always shift.
    2. Chew it over and act normal. Thanks but you are not needed right now. Chew gum etc
    3. Catch the underlying assumption and chase logical conclusions. What’s the consequence?

    • @hawk8898
      @hawk8898 3 роки тому

      1. Put on the testicle cuff

  • @susanbishop2611
    @susanbishop2611 5 років тому +47

    I cant believe the wealth of information available through this gentleman!!

    • @loves2sing
      @loves2sing 4 роки тому +2

      Susan Bishop I totally agree with you!! I have TRULY felt privileged and blessed to have come across his channel!! He is gifted and skilled at what he does!

  • @MrTransam1987
    @MrTransam1987 5 років тому +42

    Good techniques. Something that was interesting was that anxiety is a survival mechanism, not an illness.

  • @sobrejornalismo
    @sobrejornalismo 4 роки тому +38

    It's true not always emotions are preceded by thoughts, but they can be rooted in beliefs, which is also cognition and cbt looks into. Thank you for the tips! :)

  • @brianhyland4140
    @brianhyland4140 4 роки тому +38

    I’ve used CBT for anxiety and other emotional issues, worked brilliantly for me though it does require homework and a genuine belief in the technique, after 5 sessions I wasn’t seeing any results but one session later I noticed big improvements, that was 5 years ago- it works for some and not for others but plenty of options out there!

    • @mawz7553
      @mawz7553 2 роки тому +2

      But when do you know how to stop having CBT sessions ?

  • @elle-be3lz
    @elle-be3lz 5 років тому +20

    I have been following your excellent, groundbreaking analysis and work in the field of therapy and your practical, real life examples and dynamic videos... best stuff out there!

  • @Drvinnieboombatts
    @Drvinnieboombatts 2 роки тому +7

    As a cognitive behavioral therapist this is awesome and you make a great point strong emotional feelings come first usually in activating events, before cognitions and beliefs are set

  • @NeObliviscaris3663
    @NeObliviscaris3663 4 роки тому +19

    This 12min video has answered a lot of questions I've been asking myself over the last 10 years. I was diagnosed with ptsd after serving 10 years in the British Army, and have been on sertraline for around a year.

    • @iriswaterford8881
      @iriswaterford8881 2 роки тому +6

      Thank you for your service. I trust in time you will be a healthier and more content person in time.

  • @87048
    @87048 5 років тому +20

    thank you for your video. i watched it because i suffer from chronic anxiety. this helps a lot!...time well spent!

  • @TheKingBJ
    @TheKingBJ 4 роки тому +295

    5:48
    So the second CBT technique is
    BALL STRETCHER

    • @lovetrain188
      @lovetrain188 4 роки тому +7

      @mémdíler damn it you and like 10 other people beat me to it

    • @peppefrasca5179
      @peppefrasca5179 4 роки тому +9

      0:41 HUMBLE(R)

  • @margarytterry254
    @margarytterry254 3 роки тому +3

    It’s so kind and generous to share this Mark. Thank You!

  • @50hellkat2
    @50hellkat2 2 роки тому +5

    I love your channel. When anxiety rears it's head with me one of my analogies is treat it like a buzzing fly and swat it away. My go to challenge to the anxiety is i ask myself....What is the crisis? is the roof caving in?, does anybody have a gun to my head? and of course the answer is No and then I say to myself "There is no crisis, you are having anxiety and this means you need to relax". While I am doing this dialogue in my head I initiate relaxation techniques....uncross my legs, relaxation breathing techniques. This disengages me somewhat from the fight or flight triggers and I can do it anywhere. Even in a boardroom with tense situations going on. Nobody notices.

  • @plasticpunko
    @plasticpunko Рік тому +4

    I don’t like to comment on videos but I needed to tell you how much this helped me. I was so overwhelmed and afraid I didn’t think I would be able to get through it, I can’t believe that this one video made such an impact on me. Thank you for uploading this

  • @johnrpomeroy
    @johnrpomeroy 3 роки тому +10

    Thanks MarK. Just listening to your voice is calming! And I didn’t even feel anxious when I started listening.

  • @rolandtours8404
    @rolandtours8404 4 роки тому +10

    As an anxiety patient 20 years ago, I was never comfortable with the CBT dogma that thoughts always precede feelings.

    • @yoya4766
      @yoya4766 3 роки тому +4

      Me too but its peddled by every psychologist. I think its nonsense. If its a grey day everything looks grey. Turning on lights everywhere doesn't help.

    • @geraldvaughn8403
      @geraldvaughn8403 2 роки тому +1

      I had severe social anxiety for years. It’s absolutely true thoughts precede feelings. Negative thoughts are so automatic you don’t realize you have them. Sometimes a therapist is required to find them.

  • @Kev80ification
    @Kev80ification 5 років тому +23

    This is fantastic! I have started to read your book on re-framing and it's a big help.

  • @mcsmama
    @mcsmama 4 роки тому +26

    1) @3:52 Focus on the way you expect your feelings will have changed for the better, once the current awful feelings have passed. (Write them down.)
    2) @5:47 Consider the circumstances, & then behave as if all is well... just because you feel fear, doesn't mean you actually ARE in danger. Your mind will take cues from your body, that all is well.
    3) @8:25 Identify the underlying assumptions that are triggering the bad feelings, then chase down the logical conclusions of each step of the built up bug-a-boo, in order to dispel it, by thinking how we would survive (even thrive), even if the worse were to occur.
    [Hmmm, I need to mull this over... not sure I agree with all he says, but I see some merit in it.]

    • @naturalnikki8675
      @naturalnikki8675 4 роки тому +1

      Thanks so much!!

    • @jq6120
      @jq6120 Рік тому +2

      Same, 1 and 2 are helpful for me. But #3 is a great way to start ruminating and probably will make my anxiety worse.

    • @jyotidubey4890
      @jyotidubey4890 Рік тому +1

      Thank you!

  • @Vincisomething
    @Vincisomething 5 років тому +11

    I've been doing the second method without realizing it. People would also say I seem so calm

  • @Dylvente
    @Dylvente 5 років тому +17

    I like the respect paid to the emotions. It is easy--if following CBT simplistically--to chalk up emotions to faulty thoughts and thus create a vicious cycle.

  • @pondering-princess
    @pondering-princess 5 років тому +24

    What a wonderful video with profound insights on managing anxiety. There are so many videos on youtube about social anxiety but all of them are motivational videos. This video dives right away to the techniques. Wonderful.

  • @createone100
    @createone100 3 роки тому +16

    A whole lot of anxiety isn't about a specific perceived threat or situation. It is so often generalized and with no specific target. Hard to use CBT in these situations.

  • @gabbiefulton8604
    @gabbiefulton8604 5 років тому +12

    Thank you for creating this wonderful video!

  • @jessicalt4121
    @jessicalt4121 5 років тому +7

    Good that you gave an example of what u would say to yourself. Examples are always needed but most people speak in generalities. Thanks!

  • @chiefseattle9158
    @chiefseattle9158 4 роки тому +6

    Correct. CBT cannot help severe chronic anxiety (GAD). I don't feel only nervous. I am extremely nervous, anxious, terrified, suicidal.

    • @chantellejohnston3008
      @chantellejohnston3008 4 роки тому +1

      Matthew 11:28-29 King James Version (KJV)
      28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
      29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
      John 10:10 King James Version (KJV)
      10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.
      ua-cam.com/video/qvKloE5S99I/v-deo.html

    • @Lotus52833
      @Lotus52833 4 роки тому

      Same

  • @GuntherSnaps
    @GuntherSnaps 3 роки тому +11

    my fear is death. The consequence of that is death. I want to live, those two things remain at odds in me during a panic attack.

    • @maryann9578
      @maryann9578 3 роки тому +1

      Me too

    • @MalaEstrella
      @MalaEstrella 2 роки тому +2

      Maybe you would like Epicurus more than Marcus Aurelius?

  • @bethbrafford1752
    @bethbrafford1752 3 роки тому +4

    I became very anxious listening to this

    • @tnt01
      @tnt01 3 роки тому

      why?

  • @mindyvaughn8217
    @mindyvaughn8217 4 роки тому +11

    Thank you Mark for helping me deal with my anxiety. It has been making me miserable for a long time. I didn’t want to live anymore but you are helping me look at it differently and deal with it in a cognitive way which is a relief. 💖

    • @Stephen_Strange
      @Stephen_Strange 6 місяців тому

      How are you doing these days? Hoping you are safe and well.

  • @amandaellen444
    @amandaellen444 3 роки тому +4

    This is probably the best advice I have heard on panic attacks. Thank you!

    • @earthsucks9555
      @earthsucks9555 2 роки тому +1

      It’s been a year since your comment was posted
      Does it still work?
      Feeling better?

  • @k.mihalic8945
    @k.mihalic8945 3 роки тому +2

    His voice calmed me most. You could easily hypnotize me. That’s a compliment promise!

  • @Zoydian
    @Zoydian 3 роки тому +2

    Your voice and posture is very reassuring and calming on its own. While watching the video, I focussed on those aspects and it really helped, thank you!!

  • @c7eye
    @c7eye 5 років тому +58

    I’m going to make sure I have gum on hand and try it out. Just imagining using these techniques seemed to work. Thanks. I hit subscribe and the bell notification. In a world of fluff and hype it’s refreshing to get simple straight forward tools to improve my life . I’m going to share this with some friends. Thanks from Arizona 👍😁❤️

  • @lovetrain188
    @lovetrain188 4 роки тому +37

    Section 2: ball stretcher is pretty calming

    • @perseusofmacedon6918
      @perseusofmacedon6918 4 роки тому

      @Your Loneliness haha

    • @vickihollaway5595
      @vickihollaway5595 3 роки тому +5

      What is this ball stretcher everyone keeps referring to?
      Edit: No one is answering this question.

    • @vickihollaway5595
      @vickihollaway5595 3 роки тому +1

      @Nando Garcia But now my curiosity is killing me!

    • @vickihollaway5595
      @vickihollaway5595 3 роки тому +1

      @Nando Garcia Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. How does that relate to balls?

  • @citizendirectypsilanti9644
    @citizendirectypsilanti9644 3 роки тому +2

    This advice I feel is so life changing. Thank goodness for you - THANK YOU!

  • @lisaanderson3221
    @lisaanderson3221 Рік тому +1

    This video changed the way I live my life. Mark is an amazing human being ❤

  • @franciscanishagomes3944
    @franciscanishagomes3944 5 років тому +4

    Great way of explaining sir.Thank you for your valuable information.

  • @rabmc
    @rabmc 3 роки тому +3

    I fear death, not existing and so on, have since I was a kid, going through it right now and stopped drinking to try and square myself up, I have bouts of pure panic resulting in being sick, and so on. Horrible, comes and goes but was drinking a lot recently and hoping it’s going to ease off and get better. I just can’t make peace with it.

  • @eastside0434
    @eastside0434 Рік тому +1

    My anxiety makes me blush and I need therapy to help me accept this and to stop the cycle of embarrassment, I go threw this fear daily and do not understand why it happens and what I need to do to relieve the stress and overcome why this happens to me.

  • @victor7530
    @victor7530 5 років тому +2

    Thanks Mark! Invaluable information.

  • @dorel1312
    @dorel1312 3 роки тому +12

    Thank you for this insightful video. I agree that emotions come first, it makes perfect sense and it aligns well with our brain evolution. Off course, we live in our brain most of the time and negative thoughts are pesting us which in turn affects our emotions. I guess that for us is important to be aware what influences our emotions so that we can learn how to team up with them.

  • @dr.seliaservin-eischen6639
    @dr.seliaservin-eischen6639 5 років тому +3

    This was very helpful! Thank you!

  • @sarahstrong7174
    @sarahstrong7174 5 років тому +1

    Thankyou for this video, it made me feel calmer just watching it.

  • @rogerparker4468
    @rogerparker4468 2 роки тому +1

    When I learnt CBT in my postgrad years at uni , was very skeptical of its approach. This is so much better and makes more sense. The traditional approach goes against the grain, swims against the tide and as mentioned is not sustainable longer term. Excellent

  • @hopeisfree1208
    @hopeisfree1208 4 роки тому +3

    Totally awesome, simultaneously, valuable! Thank you, sir!

  • @jaz1331
    @jaz1331 5 років тому +5

    Your a god send! Thank you 🙏

  • @unclephil440
    @unclephil440 5 років тому +2

    I enjoyed the video very much. Very helpful. Thanks for posting

  • @tsongtze
    @tsongtze 2 роки тому +2

    How does the 3rd technique work when the assumption / fear is "... that I'll die"?

  • @Yue_mariin00
    @Yue_mariin00 4 роки тому +3

    This was amazingly informative and helpful, thank you!!

  • @tinap2126
    @tinap2126 5 років тому +4

    Thank you for sharing this. You have no idea... I can breathe after all day curled up in bed tired and exhausted.

    • @madelinelozada3403
      @madelinelozada3403 4 роки тому +1

      Christina Jibi so sorry you are going through this... so am I...

  • @shylajagat8647
    @shylajagat8647 Рік тому

    Thank you so much, Sir. Not only is your video helpful, your speech itself is calming and soothing.

  • @lethanhlong1575
    @lethanhlong1575 3 роки тому

    Warmly thank Mr. Tyrrell for the precious guides. These guides help me so muchh 🥰😍 ❤

  • @NettiGaming
    @NettiGaming 3 роки тому +6

    "Thanks but you are not needed right now"
    Telling my angry dog anxiety this really helps.

  • @GeorgeSweet
    @GeorgeSweet 5 років тому +3

    Thank you man. Seriously thanks.

  • @LelasMum
    @LelasMum 3 роки тому +2

    That was incredibly insightful and helpful for me personally. Thank you!

  • @satchrules101
    @satchrules101 3 роки тому +2

    I have mad Anxiety and I know it’s all from being raised by dysfunctional parents and being abused when I was a child , the other day I was driving on the highway, which I don’t drive much and my anxiety kicked inn full of fear like I was going to die my mind wanted me to stop in the middle of the highway, I have never had that feeling before, it was scary like hell .. the lord was with me and pushed me through the fear ! I know all my anxiety has to do with being beat up and verbally abused by my mom .. my dad was just as bad . I have to go get help these repressed memories are hitting strong, all the sudden these memories come at age 45 years old,

  • @treydavis3745
    @treydavis3745 4 роки тому +3

    This was so helpful and it was broken down step by step. Great video absolutely love it

  • @pulykamell
    @pulykamell 3 роки тому +4

    Interesting watch. For me REBT/CBT styles of psychotherapy have been an absolute godsend, but it's interesting to hear about other approaches and/or refinements to paint a more complete and nuanced picture of the interconnection of cognition, emotion, and behavior.

  • @igavinwood
    @igavinwood 2 роки тому +2

    2 years later and comment 900. Thank you for providing these helpful techniques. In the current climate of such widespread and far reaching insecurities it has become very difficult for people to find or access real help. This video giving helpful techniques along with your explanation is a great help for an awful lot of people.

    • @yoya4766
      @yoya4766 Рік тому

      or a lot of awful people. lol

  • @corcaighrebel
    @corcaighrebel 2 роки тому

    Outstanding. Have had a very rough two months with anxiety, will practice what has been recommended to try to alleviate the suffering.

  • @butterflymagicwithhottea9291
    @butterflymagicwithhottea9291 4 роки тому +3

    Just found you and YAY for that. Subscribed.

  • @emilywong7425
    @emilywong7425 5 років тому +9

    He reminds me of Arthur Pendragon's father in the Merlin TV series

  • @Dr.Pepper001
    @Dr.Pepper001 Рік тому

    Thank you for this. It was very helpful. I'm plowing my way through some really difficult situations that are leaving me with anxiety and mild panic. I'll be watching many more of your videos.

  • @soundiramallesureshkumar2908
    @soundiramallesureshkumar2908 2 роки тому +1

    What a simple and wonderful way of explaining how to overcome anxiety. Loved all that you said.

    • @TherapyToThePoint
      @TherapyToThePoint 2 роки тому

      Yes! CBT is a wonderful modality to manage Anxiety.

  • @duariweiss7188
    @duariweiss7188 5 років тому +147

    Good info. However these examples are for rational anxiety. Fear of social situations or upcoming events. What about anxiety for seemingly no rational purpose?

    • @tommytom4291
      @tommytom4291 5 років тому +93

      Anxiety or fear that seems to be for no rational reason is actually fear of the anxious feelings or state itself. We fear the feeling because it has become so loathsome. The irrational thought that begins the cycle is, "What if I become anxious?" If we are already anxious, the thought is typically, "What if this anxiety gets worse or won't go away?" The answer is this: If I'm not afraid of the thought, I won't have any anxiety. I do not have to be afraid of the thought. I can ignore it and go on. I can laugh at it. A good thought to keep in on-hand might be, "We are not afraid of fear here." I hope this helps...

    • @remon563
      @remon563 5 років тому +17

      @@tommytom4291 thank you Tom. Anxiety has destroyed my life since a little kid.

    • @duariweiss7188
      @duariweiss7188 5 років тому +34

      TommyTom well if only it was simple. I truly wish it was. I have to disagree that all irrational anxiety is based on fear of anxiety. I do however think it is the way our brains are conditioned. I had crazy childhood trauma. I think my brain truly cannot tell the difference between a huge deal and a bit of an issue. I think at the first sign of what might make the average person slightly nervous and my brain decides it should act like it is a life or death situation. It isn’t rational anxiety nor fear of anxiety. It is however pure hell. “laugh at it”? Have you had anxiety?!?! Have you had a panic attack?!? “We are not afraid of fear”? That doesn’t even make a tiny bit of sense. It is like telling yourself fire isn’t hot. Who does this work for?

    • @remon563
      @remon563 5 років тому +5

      @@duariweiss7188 I believe both of you make a fair point. I am in a similar situation as you @Duari Weiss in that my brain sees almost any stressor as a major one. Ironically this blunts your feelings for "actual" major problems, with reason as this apathy is a form of self protection for a brain that cannot tolerate the stress. My brain goes to cycles of fear, anxiety, depression and apathy since I was a kid. For me I found out it is also due to PTSD. Chronic lyme disease also plays a role in many of these cases since it invades the nervous system and make you extremely sensitive to emotions/stimuli.

    • @tommytom4291
      @tommytom4291 5 років тому +8

      @@remon563 I tried to summarize what I discovered through a rational approach with a good CBT therapist. I have a disease that attacks and sensitizes the nervous system as well. It has led to serious bouts of anxiety, obsessive thoughts and depression. In my case, my main fear was fear that anxiety would lead to depression again. It became obvious that, if I did not fear the anxiety, I would reduce it. One of the hardest things I ever did was face the monster of fear and tell it I was not going to fear it. With practice, and with much prayer I was able to do it. It takes time and sometimes medicine because as was said our nervous system is hyped up. My therapist encouraged me but at the same time would not let me cave in to thinking I was not the ultimate source of my worst anxiety. Her method, called Rational Living Therapy, guides the patient in seeing his irrational thinking that causes troubling emotions and changing to rational thinking.

  • @kasmanhadiyanto4036
    @kasmanhadiyanto4036 3 роки тому +14

    Bruhh i was mad trippin when I thought about the other CBT

  • @angel.heart007
    @angel.heart007 5 місяців тому +1

    It’s been 11 yrs of anxiety for me. Still a struggle. Thank you for the CBT techniques. I have anxiety that when every little thing in my body has a symptom, I have almost an instant fear of dying. (Not sure if this is actual health anxiety) A headache, an arm pain, stomach pain, numbing in my arm or leg, especially palpitations… any of those I tend to hyper fixate on that symptom and it snowballs in seconds. MRI’s, scans and lab work doesn’t matter. I feel something is going on with all my organs. I’m also on edge when I go out. I feel overwhelmed in the grocery store or malls. I already imagine me passing out and who will help me. I’m constantly catastrophyzing every single thing. It’s a vicious cycle. I’ve had some CBT therapy but I’m still struggling.😔

  • @genuinehearts8247
    @genuinehearts8247 3 роки тому

    If only more people with anxiety would subscribe to this honest model! It has helped me so much in life with mine!

  • @adrianmefford9030
    @adrianmefford9030 5 років тому +4

    Your voice alone is already soothing. Thank you for the helpful tips, too!

  • @frankreiserm.s.8039
    @frankreiserm.s.8039 3 роки тому +6

    I am 52 years old and have generalized anxiety disorder, which means that I get anxiety when everything is fine. However, now I have a criminal record and no company will hire me. I live with my mother, who is 79, and I take good care of her. I have anxiety and worry about what is going to happen to me when she dies. i will not inherit much, and I am worried about becoming possibly homeless. But I am a Christian. I believe that my anxiety about my future is ignorant because I am actually worried that God is not going to get my future right. How silly to worry. We think that the worst thing that is going to happen to us is death. But, when we die, and have accepted through faith Jesus Christ as our savior, we are going to wonderful Heaven and not Hell forever. So, when I worry, I think of that.
    I had a secular course in high school on the world religions and the reason why I chose to become a Christian is because Christianity is the only major world religion that says that we needed a perfect, sinless sacrifice to die for our sins. An animal will not do it, for when Satan fell, all of creation fell with him (life is survival of the fittest, animals eating other animals, decay and death in life). God came down to earth in human form (God incarnate), healed people, talked about love and God, and was executed by foolish mankind. God, on the cross, said "forgive them for they know not what they do." Then he died, and descended into Hell, but rose from the dead and entered Heaven, conquering death so that whoever believes in this and puts his faith in Jesus to forgive them of their sins will be forgiven by God. God is perfect, so He has to judge sin, which is eternal separation from Himself--Hell. As a Christian, I will still sin because the Bible says that "the spirit is strong but the flesh is weak." It is only after I die that I will receive a glorified, ever-living angelic body. So, remember all of this when you feel anxious.

  • @ZenGuitarShred
    @ZenGuitarShred 2 роки тому

    "Cascade of anxiety" great wording. I had never heard the world cascade used with an anxiety attack. Well-put!!

  • @PotatoWiz
    @PotatoWiz 5 років тому +2

    Thank you for this amazing video!

  • @Lina126y
    @Lina126y 4 роки тому +3

    What about if you developed a physical symptoms that causes that anxiety? Trapped in not knowing how to resolve this issue also causes anxiety and exhaustion feeling trapped.

  • @peaceatlast8768
    @peaceatlast8768 5 років тому +10

    I am feeling stressed when it goes away i feel not blocked

  • @thewatcher4294
    @thewatcher4294 5 років тому

    Outstanding! Very helpful. I may follow up after I give this to the client I have in mind.

  • @kristinejulian6819
    @kristinejulian6819 5 років тому +2

    Thank you for this ❤️❤️❤️ Quite helpful

  • @yosefyohans6410
    @yosefyohans6410 4 роки тому +4

    The only proven strategy to treat anxiety is to uncover the trauma or the distressing situation that is repressed and is manifested in anxiety. Anxiety is a symptom of repressed traumatic memories. Just as in physical illness, you treat the bacteria or virus that causes the illness rather than the symptoms. The symptom disappears when the cause is treated. Although your intention to help people suffering from anxiety is commendable, It is important that the people understand that your advice provides neither temporary nor lasting relief. The only relief from anxiety is brought about by uncovering the traumatic event/events as a result of which the patients emotions have been overwhelmed and he/she reacts to every situation with the same fear they reacted to the trauma most probably during childhood. Any other way would be too superficial to bring about any significant change in the level of anxiety.

  • @trillstina
    @trillstina 4 роки тому +15

    I feel like I’d have to use my thoughts to change emotions. It’s only possible to think one thought at a time,Switching focus onto taking a some deep breaths helps me to calm panic and breaking racing thought patterns. it’s easier to, then, rationalize and gain higher perspectives. I think I might have a confused concept of emotions .
    I was freaking out because I had to kill a very large spider ( I live alone) I found in my bathroom and Afterwards i was in the middle on my living room jumping and screaming feeling like I was crawling with spiders ... even having mild visual hallucinations. This video made a huge difference
    dbt and cbt were forced on me twice as a teen. At the time I felt it was boring And seemed like I was leaning juvenile and obvious concepts. Now, at 28, I have many areas of my life that have improved and that I can accredit to things I learned from those teachings

  • @MrCabimero
    @MrCabimero 3 роки тому

    Thank you sir. Very helpful and concise. I have been a proponent of CBT for years.

  • @caseynewman2810
    @caseynewman2810 4 роки тому +1

    This video really helped me today , thankyou.

  • @jeffreysheldrake3243
    @jeffreysheldrake3243 4 роки тому +2

    I still find I have to consciously remember to practice CBT and Mindfulness just to keep it polished incase I need it . But I don't make it my whole life which helps

  • @anagomes4422
    @anagomes4422 3 роки тому +8

    Loved your content, subscribed. A note: thoughts do come before feelings. You see, in the first step, for me to change the feeling of anxiety I need to first think on how I will feel when the anxiety is gone to start feeling better. The feeling of anxiety comes when the mind (first) identifies a thread. There's no feelings here yet.

  • @deewira7436
    @deewira7436 3 роки тому +1

    Love people that have the knowledge to help you grow as a person💪💪💪💪