Of all the Channels about autism this is the only one that doesn’t give me anxiety about my son’s diagnosis. Actually it gives so much hope and make absolutely comfortable of listening all this information. I just wanted you to know That the day I find you was the same day that I started to accept and embrace autism . Every time I feel lost or scare about it I am going back to see your videos
I just came across this video on my recommended and I want to share my experience as an autistic person and hopefully help some families. I want to preface this by saying, no child is the same, autistic or not. And having "normal" speech should never be the goal. Everyone communicates differently and some of us (autistic) people have no interest in verbally speaking or we are unable. This does not mean we don't understand you. It just means that we do not communicate in the same way as you. I understand it's difficult, but consider it as a language barrier. There are ways around it such as figuring out hand signals or using devices where the child can either type, write or select things that will speak for us. I know a lot of parents want their child to have an easy life and getting your child to interact in a way that you deem acceptable is understandable. But from our end, what you're saying is that the way we are isn't good enough, that we have to put on an act (masking) and perform for you. There are absolutely times where your kid will need to mask, and that's okay. But if they are put in a situation where they have to mask constantly, it is incredibly draining and will leave your kid burnt out. From there it's so easy to spiral into depression, you lose your sense of identity, you essentially become the mask. Please be wary of your sources, there is always a bias and misinformation is so widespread through the autistic community. Please listen to us when we say Autism Speaks is a hate group. They perpetuate the idea that autism is a disease, something to be cured. They promote ABA therapy (yes, it can work for some individuals but the therapy more often than not uses abusive tactics to force us to mask and "appear normal"). ASAN is an organisation made for autistics by autistics, please consider listening to them over Autism Speaks. Another thing I ask people to keep in mind is that autistic people very often have something called emotion blindness. To describe it, it's like being very overwhelmed with an emotion but you have no idea what it is. It's intense and very hard to deal with, sometimes leading to a meltdown. We want to figure out what it is just as much as you do, but sometimes it's best to just find a way to help us cope with it first. Techniques will work differently for everyone but things that help me are; removing myself from a situation and going somewhere quiet, dark or softly lit, having a toy to stim with, watching a funny youtube video, listening to music or wrapping myself in a soft fuzzy blanket. The goal should never be making your kid "normal". It should be about finding ways to help them navigate life in their own way. We are never going to be like a neurotypical person and that's okay. Please listen to us. Please understand we do love you, we do appreciate everything you do for us. We just might not show it in the way you expect. My way of telling my mom that I love her is showing her things that I love and bring me joy, giving her little gifts of things I made, cooking her favourite things. I struggle a lot with speaking and physical touch so I generally can't offer her hugs, but I do try to tell her in my own way. Please be patient and understanding with your kids. It's hard for us too.
I know your answer is 7 months old but I only came yet across this video and your answer. To be honest, autism is new for me.Here in germany there is an "autism therapy" which helps parents to understand their children and helps the children to live whit autism. The goal of this therapy is to help the family to live whit it and not to chnge the kid or make them "healthy" and thats good. But as you said every kid is different and yes, I have communication issue´s whit my kid but its cause he can´t speak. Like, when hes hungry he doesn´t say "Im hungry" insead it is like a eating-sound he would make. I think its alright, but the speech therapy said I should at least once correct him. Like "Darling, that means 'I´m hungry' and he would speak after me. Dont know if thats wrong but I give my best for him... Sorry its a long text and what I really meant whit it was: Your post was really helpful und hopefully I cane give my son what its best for him =D
Autistic person, practitioner, advocate, and mom of kids on spectrums here. I completely feel ya and sometimes I just forgive neurotypicals who don’t understand the true meaning behinds “neurodiversity” and they are actually part of the diversity, that’s what the words is about. Not you vs me or try to fix the other side of the group.
@Dr Yuching Lee I'm glad you are happier but ASD is a literal difference in brain structure. Herbs aren't going to change that. Please do not spread information like this, it's harmful and misleading. Autism is not something that can be "cured" and its not something that should be. We just run on a different operating system. Like windows vs Mac os.
I am a mum of 2 autistic daughters...one non verbal...thanks fr this message...lots of love to you...your mum is very lucky to have u...what u show as love for her, is really precious.....tk cr
My triplets are 6 this year, and yes they are diagnosed with autism at the age of 2 1/2 years old, we spend thousand on speech therapy, sensory, and i myself been taking courses , and i still waiting for them to call me mom...😢 ,
Give them lots of love and attention and with the passage of time and patience, "Mommy" will come. My 5 year old son still echoes most everything we say, but he says, "Mommy" and we know that he loves his family... Hang in there... It's a tough journey and one you are strong enough to manage.
Hi Tara, hi everyone...I would like to share my experience, just to give some ideas....my son was non verbal at 2, a lot of words but non verbal, the Speech therapist gave me a list of the most useful verbs that a kid use, with a lot lot lot of repetition he started using verbs in 6 months... I use songs a lot... for the things that I want him learn I found a song... I got them in a usb in the car and we sing a lot...helps a lot.... For all the mothers that the kids are older and don't speak yet...I want to say them ...Don't give up...they will do...have hope...they just need some more time....We need to have hope
@@winifredbukola4530 Hi, all the Super Simple Songs and Cocomelon songs... for the socks I used to sing " open wide come inside" from the australian Playschool
@@winifredbukola4530 you can change the words according to what you want to say....for example one song says " do you have a dog?" , you can say also " do you have a ...truck? ...a sister??... a bike???....
Our son is almost 7 with ASD 3. He doesn't speak. However, he has begun to babble. I believe he will speak normally but nobody else in our family does. He is saying mama and dadda and deedee and many other words. He is goinf to speak. Im so happy. He is extremely intelligent. Sometimes I wonder if this is the problem. He memorizes videos after one viewing. I can repeat a joke he heard yesterday, and immediately he laughs. Not in response to my laughter, because I dont laugh to see if he does. Our children can do this!
My son is 15 Yo. He was diagnosed Autism two year ago. He has difficulty responding to people, and not willing or unable to engage eye contact with the person who is talking tho him. Recently he was asked to leave Burger King when he finished his breakfast there and sate there reading his novels. He simply followed the order and quietly left. Since he didn’t bring his cell phone, and we agreed to pick him up in two hours, as a result he stood in the baking sun for two hours outside Burger King! I seeked out the employee who asked him out. This employee said he went over to my son to say hi to him, my son didn’t talk to him, he went over there again to see if he needed anything, my son was quiet, not said a word to him. I guess this employee then became furious and took thing in his own hand to chase my son out. I just want the society to have more awareness of autism, otherwise they can be easily misunderstood and mistreated. My son also had leukemia at age 4, this kid suffered too much and it is brutal for me to see how he suffered and mistreated.
God bless you this was nice i learned many things I'm also a mum with autism kid thank you i will tell every mum whom are going through what we are going through let us try our best And Almighty God will help us 💓🙏
Finally some tips for parents to start connecting to your child! I swear my wife and i kept asking al the therapists and such "What can we do at home to help work with the problem?" but we always got the same answer "You're doing great!!" Very frustrating, we want help to understand and help our child, not pats on the back or smoke up the.....well ya know. :D
I appreciate your honesty, sincere & openness. You are clearly interested in providing helpful information. It’s particularly important given the fact that there is so much misinformation about autism.
Ive never been around anyone that has Autism no one in my family had it, so ive never really understood what it was. I'm 25 witha soon be 2yr old((my first an only child)) I noticed some different behavior in my daughter the last 9months or so.. Well a few months back i came across a video while on social media about a child with autism an thats when i knew that this must be what my daughter has.. I'm trying to work with her as much as I can ive been reading up on it.. But it's hard tho cause its like she doesn't understand me at all an when I call her name she well not respond to me in anyway an she can not keep eye contact an sometimes its hard cause I feel like I did something wrong but my husband keeps telling me "its not anyone's fault especially mine & that she will get better its just gonna take her time an when she's ready to talk she well", cause there are things that she does that shocks the heck out of us cause she'll be so smart about things.... But this video made me feel good to know that if I keep working with her she well soon have a few words in her vocab....... Cause its even harder when your family keeps constantly asking "why cant she talk yet" or "oh i see she still not talking huh" or " how old is she, she should be talking already" like it hurts me cause I'm trying my best to teach her so I just stay strong an believe everything will be okay
My kid is 7 years old and non verbal. He does give kinda grunt noise but no words. My friend give me a great Idea to use a karaoke machine with disco lights to have some fun with him. Every time he makes a sound the lights strobe. It's a fun way to interact and get him making sounds
I noticed something in my daughter at 1 and everyone in my family kept saying she will speak she’s a late speaker but I didn’t listen when you’re the mother you just know she went right into early intervention which helped her sooooo much to the point she response to her name now and understands everything she’s honestly acting like a kid without Autism and a lot of her “red flags” kinda went away we were just waiting for her to talk......then a Covid happen and I feel like she’s regressing I’m trying not to put that in the atmosphere but I can see it. She’s trying to walk on her tip toes here and there not all the time, when I do learning sessions there isn’t a lot of eye contact when answering questions I have to use ABA skills like give her a fruit snack every time she does what I ask but only when she’s giving eye contact. I remember seeing her teacher use a light up ball that she wanted but she had to say mama and dada. Today I made sure to take her outside to the backyard to play for an hour and we had a lesson in the afternoon I thought it was a good day until nighttime we did our routine and I said goodnight gave her a kiss close the door and I saw her in her bed on camera crying n screaming and hitting her Minnie Mouse like crazy for a good 5 min straight and I’ve noticed 3 times already when she wakes up in the morning she does the same thing like I opened her dorm and she started screaming and hitting me and I just started giving her a sensory massage to calm her down. It’s very heartbreaking because she was progressing so well but I feel there’s a little regression since Covid
Your such a inspiration ..my daughter is 2 just diagnosed with autism..she doesnt understand even simple instructions how to get her understand and follow instructions please.
Am happy to find your channel. I have two lovely boys both of them diagnose with Autism it take times to prosses. But when i see strong woman like you it gives me strength feeling am not alone. Sorry for my english God bless your family.
my son have autism, when he is 3 years old he go to the therapies for 2 years only, because here in phillipines its very expensive, i pay all the time, its not free in therapy.. the goverment not helping if you have an austism child... now he is 13 year old. its very hard to teach if you dont have anthing. we are very poor person. i always cry for my child i dont know what to do.. im afraid if i die younger who will keep im child, who will feed im child, who will care for my child.. im sorry my english is bad.. ok. ty
As an autism parent, I think the best way to communicate with them is to have a balance between being with them and letting them have their lone time. If autistic kids are left alone, their symtoms grow. The more we communicate, the more they develop trust and the more they communicate back.
Good question . Let me know when you find it and let me know 😉 ... I do find music very helpful and calming in our house . I put it on softly in the back classical mainly and this does actually help x
Thank you so much. This helps me get through it all easier. Your videos are very informative. And they have helped me. Please keep up the videos. There will be new parents just like me who will come across your videos and find help.
Thank you for posting this video I promise since I been watching you videos they have been so helpful to me and family so glade there is a mother like you speaking out thank you ❤️🙌🏽
When my twins were pre-verbal we began with pecs (simple pictures) to help keep basic needs, praised them everytime they picked something. we used two word sentences then three word sentences. A lot of humour and nose stealing. They don't shut the hell up now. Im autistic too.
How long did it take from them using the pecs and speaking. My son is 6 and we are using the pec he has been picking items he needs from them and i immediately give him what he asked for but when does speech comes?
My little sister she’s 9 years old and autistic, she communicate with us with a few words , and the main problem is she repeats the words we say in the same tone , like if we ask her you “do you want the blue juice or the orange one?” She responds “ orange “ but in the the the same questioning tone , we just want her to start make her own sentences.
it saddens me that I'm here, I was in denial for so long when I noticed my son wouldn't really understand me and was being different from the other children for example my niece turned 2, she's climbing stuff on her own drinking out of cups, can sit still and watch a movie even speak a little bit. my son on the other hand can't climb things on his own, he drinks from cups but spills alot, he'll watch a movie but gets excited and starts jumping around and getting in front of the TV screen, he's 4 now and still doesn't speak as much. he hasn't been diagnosed autistic but I believe he has it. he responds well to his name he can look me in my eyes no problem he can do things by himself but has no sense of direction, he lacks a bit of common Sense as to what's trash and what's not when to do things and when not to, what's bad and what's good, and heavy smells don't bother him, he's scared to play with other or doesn't know how to play at all. idk it's tough since no one in my family has ever been diagnosed with autism at all and yet he came out this way, I still love him but it's sad that he can't physically and mentally live a better childhood with other kids
Same here , I wish someone can give a good advice . I love this channel since my have developmental delay and he’s not tested for autism yet . I hope for the best
Hi Tara, Can you make a video explaining if he regressed after 1.5 years and gained around 3-4 years… or was he late talker??? What kind of issue he had while learning to talk???? Did he mixed pro nouns and preposition??? I wanted to actually say this aloud….. I seen huge (progress)jump in his posture and attitude and attention ….. in the latest video when he was answering and …. I am not just talking about his speech only… he was verbal In other videos too….. but his way .. also his pitch…. Kind of very normal ( Neuro typical) …. It was very nice to see that….. do you think it’s cos of his age progress or change in medicine???? On bases of that video he looks very typical…. 😊😊😊I meant this in very good way….. My daughter is very similar to Dylan and 10 years old….. bit too loud and too dramatic….. but man…. She asked questions like I never thought….. how does jellyfish change colour??? Or how does starfish poop??? Can worm snail swim???? Can giraffe swim???? You know I never thought of this…
My autistic daughter started talking at 4.5 years - I had to use ABA. Speech therapy doesn’t really work on non- verbal kids as it doesn’t use motivation like ABA does. Speech therapy is more useful once the child is verbal. She is 5.5 years old now and speaks in 2 and 3 word phrases at home, not much speech progression at school though - but they are not trained in how to interact with children that have communication difficulties ( she’s in mainstream school).
@@BALJITKAUR-jz5xg Applied Behavioural Analysis (ABA) is a type of therapy that is mostly used for autistic children. It works on motivating the child to communicate and develop other skills. It has been very effective for my child and many others.
It really doesn't matter at what age your child starts speaking. It is not a competition. Every autistic child is different, so it does not make sense to compare your child with others. I don't understand why NT parents insist on doing this to autistic children. Your child is not normal, and trying to make them normal is an unrealistic goal that can only lead to grief on all sides. Accept that and learn to live with it, and you will both be much happier for doing so. Even autistic adults - including myself - who are very loquacious at times may struggle with speech at other times. Speech is great because it is convenient for you, but it is not the ultimate be-all and end-all. Ensuring that your child has the tools they need to communicate effectively in a way that is comfortable for them is what is important. If that is PECS, typing, writing, sign language, or speech, the mode doesn't matter. You would not force a deaf child to use speech, so don't get hung up on speech being the primary mode of communication for your child.
Love this Channel, ♡ and your home is Amazing 😍 are you in England? Your advices and tips really do calm me down with my Autistic sons. :) It is not easy but we are doing well.
Please try prioritizing outdoor time in sun where your children can synthesize vitamin D from the uva and uvb rays of the sun. This enables your child’s cells to align and sets his/her circadian rythm.
Hello!! I am a new subscriber and I am absolutely in LOVE with your channel!! I’m an aspiring speech therapist and this video was amazing. Thank you for using your knowledge about autism and spreading awareness about it. Even though I’ve studied autism in school, I have also learned a lot from you. Much love!♥️
I would love to implement some of these techniques, and definitely some you have used in other videos however i feel my nephew wouldn't understand pictures, is this common? And doesn't engage with us to respond to prompts, almost like he doesn't hear us. Do you have any tips for this?
the pecs pictures do work it just takes time. he has to want to communicate with you so find something he really really wants. For dylan it was ipad and we put it up high and i started by giving him the picture of the ipad and he had to give it to me to get it . build up slowly from here. hope this helps x
Thank you for posting this! I really appreciate this as I have been struggling with my 2 year old who isn’t diagnosed with anything yet as we are still doing tests, but I need help with helping her feed herself and also with talking and walking! It’s very tough but can someone recommend anything for me to get to help my daughter hold items in her hand? She won’t grip anything or hold :(
hi, thanks so much , i love your videos they are very helpful, i have just found out that my 4 year old boy is Autistic and i am having really hard time right now because not sure which school is the right for him? can you please please, talk about next video which school do u take your child and which school is the best? and is it the best choice my a child to go to special need school?.. i am very confused and scared to take wrong decision , effect my child in the future. can you please tell us which school is the best to choose for my child? thanks so much..
Do you have any problems with what is called Sundowners syndrome here in America. I just learned they have it and it actually is common in some Autistic children. If so, how do you handle it? I love your family. You are doing an amazing job.
Hi 👋 I am from iraq i have tow children the biggest one is 3 years old and 8 months suffering from autism and the second one 2 years have no trouble, please 🙏🏻 help me to find the right road to help my baby to get him out of autism i am waiting with all respect for your opinion and advices 🙏🏻
Most of the time I carry a string of wooden beads with me (I have a lot of them, of different lengths that I can wear around my wrist or around my neck for convenience). They are inexpensive and relatively unobtrusive. I also love chew toys. Not toys, but my weighted vest and a beanbag that I can wear around the back of my neck are great.
Hi, I’m new to your channel and coming to term that my 2yo has all the signs for autism . I’m on the waitlist for an evaluation ... so how did you get your son to start communicating verbally ? Is this the only techniques from this therapist that you used?
How’s your son doing? Same with my 2 year old. Waiting for evaluation. What signs did you see? He say his first word yet? We’re still waiting for first words
Ibrahim Elmi our evaluation is next month. He started showing signs of regression on couple weeks before his second birthday. He stopped responding to his name , he used to say mama then he stopped, his eye contact was less he was walking on his tip toe . He was not engaged as he used to .. he was withdrawn. So at 2 years and 3 months he is still not talking.
Empress0722 sounds like my son minus any words. My son withdrew and became very hyperactive around 21 months. He’s sleeping is so bad. Wakes up 1 am-5am almost every night. Our evaluation is early September. I look at this 2 year old and sometimes wonder how it’s going to be at 5, 8, or 10 and just don’t know.
Ibrahim Elmi the unknown is frightening and heartbreaking .. you May want to checkout this therapist on UA-cam “ Mary Barbera” she offers online courses to help kids communicate .. a lot of parents have had lots of success with it. I brought her program and using it with my son.. it’s taking my son a bit longer to show improvement with it.
Can you maby also make a video for autistic teens/adults who became nonverbal at a later age also because autism? I have this problem and there are not many recourses for people like me.
hey heyni just want to say to u milady I LOVE U AND DILAN i love all u all as a family❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤💋💋💖💖My son as mild autism i know the real struggles.I watch your videos . AM sending love from jamaica .
Hi! please respond! me and my husband want to have more children our first child was diagnosed autism he's 3 going on 4 we want a lot more children but unfortunately were scared to have more. our son is going to have genetic testing. so we will wait.
Priscilla Jimenez hey there please watch my video on questions vaccines and more children . I answer in depth why I wanted more children . Don’t let the autism scare you having luca and naia was the best thing I ever did for me and for dylan x
I have twin 6yr old boys who have autism and are non verbal, and also have a 5 yr old girl who is a regular 5 yr old. So if more kids are on the cards go for it.
Hello my daughter is non verbal 2 years - 5 years nothing would help my daughter speech I think her brain is Damage or something she only have like 10 words :( ----until we do oral chelation and vitamin e and fish oil and phosphatidylycholine then a miracles happens to my daughter now she she is talking In sentence:) i Aslo did 20 rounds for the oxygen chamber therapy to increased oxygen to the brain most autism kids have low oxygen in their brain oxygen and get rid of sensory disorder and calm down their nerve system no more stimming and hyperactivity
My daughter is 10 and cannot conversate at all. She is intelligent in a primally instinctive way. I've tried all this commenting, letting her do her own thing.. all she does is lock herself in a bathroom and howl like an animal. She doesn't process language, only repeats in the same way Koko the gorilla was trained in English. It sucks! Why are so many other peoples' children also autistic? This seems to be increasing worldwide.
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(Autistic person here). Your child locking herself in the bathroom and howling "like an animal" (ugh- is it really necessary to compare your child to an animal???), and echolalia, IS communication. If she is doing that it is because she is overwhelmed and frustrated. That frustration is a combination of many factors: it could be sensory; it could be frustration at the pressure from you to get her to communicate the way you want her to; it could be her own frustration at your not understanding her. These stresses all build up. Chances are that she does process language, it's just that she doesn't outwardly show it in a neurotypical way. I know an autistic 17-year-old young woman who is completely non-verbal, but understands three languages. If one learns to try to understand the way she communicates, then communication with her is possible. Have you tried providing her with non-verbal options for communication like PECS or typing? Try to see things from her perspective. Instead of seeing her as an animal, see her as a person who experiences and interprets the world differently to the way you do. Consider the restrictions that she faces in the same way as someone who is paraplegic trying to move around in a world where other people walk, or a deaf person navigating a world of speech and music. Many autistic people have written about echolalia and meltdowns: find out why these things happen from our perspective, and learn to see her intelligence not as "animal" but as human consciousness on a different plane. Yes, it sucks, and it's hard for you. Believe me, it sucks even more for her that you are not making an effort to understand and accept her.
After posting my previous reply I am still distressed by your comparing your child to an animal several times in your post. I want you to know that we do hear and understand what you say, even if we are non-verbal or don't experience the world according to what you believe is normal and "human". Your daughter hears that language and internalises it: how do you think that makes her feel? In 20 years' time, she will remember her parent comparing her to a gorilla. Cringe. Your frustration and anger that your daughter is not normal are perfectly understandable, but please be conscious that the words you are choosing are hurtful and demeaning. I know you don't intend to offend anyone by using that type of language, but it is offensive. Autistic people are people, we have feelings; we are not lesser beings, we are just different. You have a right to freedom of speech and a right to express your anger. You do not have a right to insult vulnerable people, especially those who do not have the language to defend themselves. Doing so makes you abject. Please watch your language, for your daughter's sake.
Hey there that’s great he is saying mama keep working on that. What’s your sons diet like? Is he a good eater? If he is I would only recommend a good probiotic and if he is fussy a good all round multivitamin. X
I think parents might get cptsd from raising autistic children, I know my mental abilities have suffered greatly. Not a lot that can be done. Making changes for me is like putting my kinds on a limb. Very uncertain about 'the system' of help.
My son is 1 years old and he’s is none verbal he speaks a little like dada ma and small words but it’s so hard for him to actually speak like with his cup he can’t point or say juice or things of that nature he has tantrums and he also spins in circles and loves Elmo and the pop it’s
He’s my first kid so this is all new to me when I first noticed signs I told his pediatrician and he’s seeing a speech therapist and someone who’s helping him learn to play with other kids and things of that nature
I have a daughter she is 7 years old, She is Austic Spectrum, She knows H 2 talk, But she will not talk 2 none of her teachers, Speech Therapist, Occupational therapist, @ all. She does not talk 2 no one in her Dance School, She has 2 friends that she plays with but she will not talk 2 there Moms or there siblings @ all!!!! I'm so frustrated with her there is times she dnt talk 2 me or my husband, Shevis not potty trained, I dnt why she won't go 2 the bathroom.....I hve a son tht is non Verbal hes goes 2 the bathroom......I'm so frustrated wth it all....
So my sister is 8 years old, she's autism and can't talk properly she does not have any problems (she's not deaf or mute) plz tell me some ways to teach her 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤
Alternative communication methods. At 8 she should be able to start writing or typing if her proprioception is good. PECS is also an option, and Spelling To Communicate. Forcing autistic children to speak is counterproductive, and she will only learn to speak if she wants to. She may end up never speaking, and that is also OK, so long has she has some way of communicating that is supported and understood.
My girlfriend had flash cards all over her house, everything was labeled. Even the sink! 🤗 Her son started out pointing and then she’d make him say “milk please” as he pointed to the milk card. She had categories of food with pockets on the wall of the kitchen. (You could put the card that has the glass of milk on it in there) so, he could dig in and hand her pictures of what he wanted. If something was labeled, he’d learn it. Velcro, magnets..she had it all. There was a reward system too. Like a setup in elementary school. The green, yellow, red system representing behavior for the day. (No kid wants a sad face or red card) It seemed to work well with her. I personally used happy/sad faces with my daughter starting at five, it seemed effective. 😝
My son also called me amma means mom but not particular to me and making eye contact. But still am happy that he started to blabber I hope he vil change.
@@sowbhagyalakshmihl I understand that it hurts if your child does not communicate the way you expect him to, but that does not mean he does not love you. There are things that are a lot more important: is he happy? Are his sensory needs being met? Making eye contact is difficult for most autistic people. I still struggle with it in my 40s and have learned how to fake it. You need to understand that eye contact is physically painful for us: it is hard work, especially for a 3 year-old child. You can't expect him to make that effort at that age, especially when he does not even understand that there may be a reason to do so. Would you stick needles in your fingers because the people around you expect you to do it when they talk to each other, because that is just what they do, without understanding the reason why? Making eye contact is the same as that for us. It is only when we are older that we come to understand that it is behaviour that other people expect, and that we have to do it if we want to be accepted in their world. He will not ever not be autistic, so you have to change your expectations. Maybe one day he will call you mama, and maybe he never will. If you accept that, then you can move forward and provide him with the best you can.
Why would you want to? It sounds like sensory/self-soothing behaviour to me (I sang non-stop, mostly nonsense, at that age until I was about 6). You could try redirecting with other sensory inputs like fidgets or chew toys if it becomes too disruptive for other family members, but there should be compromises. If he needs to babble, then those around him need to accept and respect that need. If babbling is not causing him any distress, then stopping him from doing it is not "helping him", it is forcing him to mask, which is detrimental. When it comes to volume, he probably does not realise that it is loud, so you could perhaps try to persuade him to do it more quietly by explaining the logical reasons why he should.
@@higgsri1 He has dtop 95% because it was a brain chemistry issue. Also, he regressed at 3.5 years old, he talked and met all his milestones until last year. Good news, OAT from Great Plains Lab shows that he has a very high bacteria called HPHPA that causes autism, depression, speech impairment, hyperactivity and schizophrenia. So soon he will be on treatment hopefully it is not too late. Either way, his behaviors will improve and learn better
Hi so i went to my gp about this matter, and he said that it is only to be used in a severe case... like a treatment to soove a life threatening disability or disorder or illness... not for Autism... so thats where im left with that. Please let me know if you get any other information.
Nicki Snyder many families have to wait months if not years to meet with a speech therapist so I thought by doing this video it would arm parents with some things they can do at home. All I’m trying to do is to help others with their children. I never videoed dylan when he was younger because I was so busy trying to do all of these things and it was so full on I Didn’t think to pick up a camera and put it my Childs face when he was struggling. But what I can do is give my advise on what worked for us and what helped Dylan speak.
Of all the Channels about autism this is the only one that doesn’t give me anxiety about my son’s diagnosis. Actually it gives so much hope and make absolutely comfortable of listening all this information. I just wanted you to know
That the day I find you was the same day that I started to accept and embrace autism . Every time I feel lost or scare about it I am going back to see your videos
Thank you xox
I just came across this video on my recommended and I want to share my experience as an autistic person and hopefully help some families. I want to preface this by saying, no child is the same, autistic or not. And having "normal" speech should never be the goal. Everyone communicates differently and some of us (autistic) people have no interest in verbally speaking or we are unable. This does not mean we don't understand you. It just means that we do not communicate in the same way as you. I understand it's difficult, but consider it as a language barrier. There are ways around it such as figuring out hand signals or using devices where the child can either type, write or select things that will speak for us.
I know a lot of parents want their child to have an easy life and getting your child to interact in a way that you deem acceptable is understandable. But from our end, what you're saying is that the way we are isn't good enough, that we have to put on an act (masking) and perform for you. There are absolutely times where your kid will need to mask, and that's okay. But if they are put in a situation where they have to mask constantly, it is incredibly draining and will leave your kid burnt out. From there it's so easy to spiral into depression, you lose your sense of identity, you essentially become the mask.
Please be wary of your sources, there is always a bias and misinformation is so widespread through the autistic community. Please listen to us when we say Autism Speaks is a hate group. They perpetuate the idea that autism is a disease, something to be cured. They promote ABA therapy (yes, it can work for some individuals but the therapy more often than not uses abusive tactics to force us to mask and "appear normal"). ASAN is an organisation made for autistics by autistics, please consider listening to them over Autism Speaks.
Another thing I ask people to keep in mind is that autistic people very often have something called emotion blindness. To describe it, it's like being very overwhelmed with an emotion but you have no idea what it is. It's intense and very hard to deal with, sometimes leading to a meltdown. We want to figure out what it is just as much as you do, but sometimes it's best to just find a way to help us cope with it first. Techniques will work differently for everyone but things that help me are; removing myself from a situation and going somewhere quiet, dark or softly lit, having a toy to stim with, watching a funny youtube video, listening to music or wrapping myself in a soft fuzzy blanket.
The goal should never be making your kid "normal". It should be about finding ways to help them navigate life in their own way. We are never going to be like a neurotypical person and that's okay. Please listen to us. Please understand we do love you, we do appreciate everything you do for us. We just might not show it in the way you expect. My way of telling my mom that I love her is showing her things that I love and bring me joy, giving her little gifts of things I made, cooking her favourite things. I struggle a lot with speaking and physical touch so I generally can't offer her hugs, but I do try to tell her in my own way. Please be patient and understanding with your kids. It's hard for us too.
I know your answer is 7 months old but I only came yet across this video and your answer. To be honest, autism is new for me.Here in germany there is an "autism therapy" which helps parents to understand their children and helps the children to live whit autism. The goal of this therapy is to help the family to live whit it and not to chnge the kid or make them "healthy" and thats good.
But as you said every kid is different and yes, I have communication issue´s whit my kid but its cause he can´t speak. Like, when hes hungry he doesn´t say "Im hungry" insead it is like a eating-sound he would make. I think its alright, but the speech therapy said I should at least once correct him. Like "Darling, that means 'I´m hungry' and he would speak after me. Dont know if thats wrong but I give my best for him...
Sorry its a long text and what I really meant whit it was: Your post was really helpful und hopefully I cane give my son what its best for him =D
Autistic person, practitioner, advocate, and mom of kids on spectrums here. I completely feel ya and sometimes I just forgive neurotypicals who don’t understand the true meaning behinds “neurodiversity” and they are actually part of the diversity, that’s what the words is about. Not you vs me or try to fix the other side of the group.
@Dr Yuching Lee I'm glad you are happier but ASD is a literal difference in brain structure. Herbs aren't going to change that. Please do not spread information like this, it's harmful and misleading. Autism is not something that can be "cured" and its not something that should be. We just run on a different operating system. Like windows vs Mac os.
I am a mum of 2 autistic daughters...one non verbal...thanks fr this message...lots of love to you...your mum is very lucky to have u...what u show as love for her, is really precious.....tk cr
I love you ❤️
My triplets are 6 this year, and yes they are diagnosed with autism at the age of 2 1/2 years old, we spend thousand on speech therapy, sensory, and i myself been taking courses , and i still waiting for them to call me mom...😢 ,
My prayers and wishes to you, Nazirah! Keep being strong. Your children will do well with an amazing mom like you who tries so much!
My tooooo i am waiting for my daugther to call me mum
Give them lots of love and attention and with the passage of time and patience, "Mommy" will come. My 5 year old son still echoes most everything we say, but he says, "Mommy" and we know that he loves his family... Hang in there... It's a tough journey and one you are strong enough to manage.
I'm so sorry to hear that I wish you and your family the best
Sorry to hear. Still waiting for my son to say his first word.
Hi Tara, hi everyone...I would like to share my experience, just to give some ideas....my son was non verbal at 2, a lot of words but non verbal, the Speech therapist gave me a list of the most useful verbs that a kid use, with a lot lot lot of repetition he started using verbs in 6 months... I use songs a lot... for the things that I want him learn I found a song... I got them in a usb in the car and we sing a lot...helps a lot.... For all the mothers that the kids are older and don't speak yet...I want to say them ...Don't give up...they will do...have hope...they just need some more time....We need to have hope
Hi Elsa, can you please help with songs you used for your son.
@@winifredbukola4530 Hi, all the Super Simple Songs and Cocomelon songs... for the socks I used to sing " open wide come inside" from the australian Playschool
@@winifredbukola4530 you can change the words according to what you want to say....for example one song says " do you have a dog?" , you can say also " do you have a ...truck? ...a sister??... a bike???....
Thank you so much Elsa 😊
Our son is almost 7 with ASD 3. He doesn't speak. However, he has begun to babble. I believe he will speak normally but nobody else in our family does. He is saying mama and dadda and deedee and many other words. He is goinf to speak. Im so happy. He is extremely intelligent. Sometimes I wonder if this is the problem. He memorizes videos after one viewing. I can repeat a joke he heard yesterday, and immediately he laughs. Not in response to my laughter, because I dont laugh to see if he does. Our children can do this!
Thank you so much for this info! I just love what your doing with this channel! Just know you are appreciated!
Britney Watts you have no idea how much I appreciate this thank you xox
@Dr Yuching Lee can u share what kind of herbs please ?
My son is 15 Yo. He was diagnosed Autism two year ago. He has difficulty responding to people, and not willing or unable to engage eye contact with the person who is talking tho him. Recently he was asked to leave Burger King when he finished his breakfast there and sate there reading his novels. He simply followed the order and quietly left. Since he didn’t bring his cell phone, and we agreed to pick him up in two hours, as a result he stood in the baking sun for two hours outside Burger King! I seeked out the employee who asked him out. This employee said he went over to my son to say hi to him, my son didn’t talk to him, he went over there again to see if he needed anything, my son was quiet, not said a word to him. I guess this employee then became furious and took thing in his own hand to chase my son out. I just want the society to have more awareness of autism, otherwise they can be easily misunderstood and mistreated. My son also had leukemia at age 4, this kid suffered too much and it is brutal for me to see how he suffered and mistreated.
I am so thankful I came across your channel. My 6 year old is completely nonverbal and it’s such a struggle. This helped a lot.
Thank you so much. I cried by the end of this. You really help with showing how to not feel guilty but to be responsible
sending you so much love you got this
Well said
God bless you this was nice i learned many things I'm also a mum with autism kid thank you i will tell every mum whom are going through what we are going through let us try our best And Almighty God will help us 💓🙏
Finally some tips for parents to start connecting to your child!
I swear my wife and i kept asking al the therapists and such "What can we do at home to help work with the problem?" but we always got the same answer "You're doing great!!"
Very frustrating, we want help to understand and help our child, not pats on the back or smoke up the.....well ya know. :D
Really great tips! I'm currently trying to teach my daughter to talk. She will be 3 in October and got her autism diagnosed early this year. ❤️
Hi. How is your daughter now?
Hi how is your daughter now it’s she talking now?❤❤
I appreciate your honesty, sincere & openness. You are clearly interested in providing helpful information. It’s particularly important given the fact that there is so much misinformation about autism.
Thank you so much for your comment really means a lot to me x
Ive never been around anyone that has Autism no one in my family had it, so ive never really understood what it was. I'm 25 witha soon be 2yr old((my first an only child)) I noticed some different behavior in my daughter the last 9months or so.. Well a few months back i came across a video while on social media about a child with autism an thats when i knew that this must be what my daughter has.. I'm trying to work with her as much as I can ive been reading up on it.. But it's hard tho cause its like she doesn't understand me at all an when I call her name she well not respond to me in anyway an she can not keep eye contact an sometimes its hard cause I feel like I did something wrong but my husband keeps telling me "its not anyone's fault especially mine & that she will get better its just gonna take her time an when she's ready to talk she well", cause there are things that she does that shocks the heck out of us cause she'll be so smart about things.... But this video made me feel good to know that if I keep working with her she well soon have a few words in her vocab....... Cause its even harder when your family keeps constantly asking "why cant she talk yet" or "oh i see she still not talking huh" or " how old is she, she should be talking already" like it hurts me cause I'm trying my best to teach her so I just stay strong an believe everything will be okay
RISSA 94 sending you lots of love. Sorry I missed this comment before x
Everything will be ok keep working on the speech therapy x
How’s your daughter doing? Still waiting for my 2 year to say his first word. He has autism too
Am in your shoes. Having the same challengesI know it will turn out perfect at the end so keep strong
@@ibrahim8870 we’re waiting for that first word still🤞 but rn she’s gotten a temper tantrums going on a lot....
My kid is 7 years old and non verbal. He does give kinda grunt noise but no words. My friend give me a great Idea to use a karaoke machine with disco lights to have some fun with him. Every time he makes a sound the lights strobe. It's a fun way to interact and get him making sounds
This is the best vdo I hv ever seen on Speech Helping tips ...Thank You so much
I noticed something in my daughter at 1 and everyone in my family kept saying she will speak she’s a late speaker but I didn’t listen when you’re the mother you just know she went right into early intervention which helped her sooooo much to the point she response to her name now and understands everything she’s honestly acting like a kid without Autism and a lot of her “red flags” kinda went away we were just waiting for her to talk......then a Covid happen and I feel like she’s regressing I’m trying not to put that in the atmosphere but I can see it. She’s trying to walk on her tip toes here and there not all the time, when I do learning sessions there isn’t a lot of eye contact when answering questions I have to use ABA skills like give her a fruit snack every time she does what I ask but only when she’s giving eye contact. I remember seeing her teacher use a light up ball that she wanted but she had to say mama and dada. Today I made sure to take her outside to the backyard to play for an hour and we had a lesson in the afternoon I thought it was a good day until nighttime we did our routine and I said goodnight gave her a kiss close the door and I saw her in her bed on camera crying n screaming and hitting her Minnie Mouse like crazy for a good 5 min straight and I’ve noticed 3 times already when she wakes up in the morning she does the same thing like I opened her dorm and she started screaming and hitting me and I just started giving her a sensory massage to calm her down. It’s very heartbreaking because she was progressing so well but I feel there’s a little regression since Covid
I’m sending you a big hug xo
Your such a inspiration ..my daughter is 2 just diagnosed with autism..she doesnt understand even simple instructions how to get her understand and follow instructions please.
Thanks for this video! My daughter is almost 4 and nonverbal.
How is your daughter now? Mine nearly 3 and not talking yet🥺🥺
Thank you for the video that was helpful my son is 4 years old and non verbal
Am happy to find your channel. I have two lovely boys both of them diagnose with Autism it take times to prosses. But when i see strong woman like you it gives me strength feeling am not alone. Sorry for my english God bless your family.
sending you a big hug and know that you are not alone x
Hi Netsanet please in box me your number, your not alone, i have 3 year old son who is authentic
You have been so helpful and taken so much worry out of the situation. Thank you so much!! 💗💗💗💗💗
You’re so welcome x
my son have autism, when he is 3 years old he go to the therapies for 2 years only, because here in phillipines its very expensive, i pay all the time, its not free in therapy.. the goverment not helping if you have an austism child... now he is 13 year old. its very hard to teach if you dont have anthing. we are very poor person. i always cry for my child i dont know what to do.. im afraid if i die younger who will keep im child, who will feed im child, who will care for my child.. im sorry my english is bad.. ok. ty
how much is the therapy?
Thank you for sharing. My child is 12 and faced with the same. I’m here to learn also.
Hi Rochelle Fernando, I am Hilde, living in New Jersey -where are you from in the Philippines?
Also I forgot put your son if you can....on dait...gluten and dairy free ...it helps a lot for autism children...good luck.
As an autism parent, I think the best way to communicate with them is to have a balance between being with them and letting them have their lone time. If autistic kids are left alone, their symtoms grow. The more we communicate, the more they develop trust and the more they communicate back.
Lovely background music! Short, to the point and light hearted on a topic that can be long and difficult. Thanks!
Jen Alexander thank you so much xox
Thank you so much...this will help me to help my son better ..again thank you
The calm music is amazing
Thank you for your advice ❤️🇩🇪
Heike Hollas we all need a bit of calm in our lives right 😉❤️
@@ComingHometoAutism definitely, but when?
Good question . Let me know when you find it and let me know 😉 ... I do find music very helpful and calming in our house . I put it on softly in the back classical mainly and this does actually help x
@@ComingHometoAutism In the past I played yoga music for the child but no
Did not touch him az all
So far
Definitely going to start a project for my niece to speak 🗣! Thank you for this video ❤️
Thank you so much. This helps me get through it all easier. Your videos are very informative. And they have helped me. Please keep up the videos. There will be new parents just like me who will come across your videos and find help.
thank you so much sending you a big hug x
Hi! I'm a speech therapist. I make videos on how to help your child talk. Check out my recent video
How old was your son when he started to speak? Thank you for shearing you experinced!
Thank you for posting this video I promise since I been watching you videos they have been so helpful to me and family so glade there is a mother like you speaking out thank you ❤️🙌🏽
honestly thank you so much for your kind words xox
Great video! You are so informative in your videos, love it!
thank you my friend x
Thank you for uploading this, very helpful
sending you a big hug x
Thanks for sharing this experiences!! You help a lot!!
My pleasure!
This was an amazing video thank you so much for uploading it’s very helpful I’m definitely gonna subscribe
Awesome! Thank you!
When my twins were pre-verbal we began with pecs (simple pictures) to help keep basic needs, praised them everytime they picked something.
we used two word sentences then three word sentences. A lot of humour and nose stealing.
They don't shut the hell up now.
Im autistic too.
thats brilliant thank you so much for sharing x
Please I need your help. My twins boys 18months old no speech yet .what should I do
How long did it take from them using the pecs and speaking. My son is 6 and we are using the pec he has been picking items he needs from them and i immediately give him what he asked for but when does speech comes?
@@pamelaodion9898 how's the progress?
@@inthahous87 one of the twins has really improved. We Are starting speech therapy by August .
My little sister she’s 9 years old and autistic, she communicate with us with a few words , and the main problem is she repeats the words we say in the same tone , like if we ask her you “do you want the blue juice or the orange one?” She responds “ orange “ but in the the the same questioning tone , we just want her to start make her own sentences.
You have to model the answer. You have to say I want the orange juice after she says orange. You literally have to teach her how to answer.
it saddens me that I'm here, I was in denial for so long when I noticed my son wouldn't really understand me and was being different from the other children for example my niece turned 2, she's climbing stuff on her own drinking out of cups, can sit still and watch a movie even speak a little bit. my son on the other hand can't climb things on his own, he drinks from cups but spills alot, he'll watch a movie but gets excited and starts jumping around and getting in front of the TV screen, he's 4 now and still doesn't speak as much. he hasn't been diagnosed autistic but I believe he has it. he responds well to his name he can look me in my eyes no problem he can do things by himself but has no sense of direction, he lacks a bit of common Sense as to what's trash and what's not when to do things and when not to, what's bad and what's good, and heavy smells don't bother him, he's scared to play with other or doesn't know how to play at all. idk it's tough since no one in my family has ever been diagnosed with autism at all and yet he came out this way, I still love him but it's sad that he can't physically and mentally live a better childhood with other kids
Same here , I wish someone can give a good advice . I love this channel since my have developmental delay and he’s not tested for autism yet . I hope for the best
Hi Tara,
Can you make a video explaining if he regressed after 1.5 years and gained around 3-4 years… or was he late talker??? What kind of issue he had while learning to talk???? Did he mixed pro nouns and preposition???
I wanted to actually say this aloud….. I seen huge (progress)jump in his posture and attitude and attention ….. in the latest video when he was answering and …. I am not just talking about his speech only… he was verbal In other videos too….. but his way .. also his pitch…. Kind of very normal ( Neuro typical) …. It was very nice to see that….. do you think it’s cos of his age progress or change in medicine????
On bases of that video he looks very typical…. 😊😊😊I meant this in very good way…..
My daughter is very similar to Dylan and 10 years old….. bit too loud and too dramatic….. but man…. She asked questions like I never thought….. how does jellyfish change colour??? Or how does starfish poop??? Can worm snail swim???? Can giraffe swim???? You know I never thought of this…
Knowledge is power ♥️
My autistic daughter started talking at 4.5 years - I had to use ABA. Speech therapy doesn’t really work on non- verbal kids as it doesn’t use motivation like ABA does. Speech therapy is more useful once the child is verbal. She is 5.5 years old now and speaks in 2 and 3 word phrases at home, not much speech progression at school though - but they are not trained in how to interact with children that have communication difficulties ( she’s in mainstream school).
Miss what is ABA
@@BALJITKAUR-jz5xg Applied Behavioural Analysis (ABA) is a type of therapy that is mostly used for autistic children. It works on motivating the child to communicate and develop other skills. It has been very effective for my child and many others.
At what age did Dylan start speaking? My son is 3 years old and has about 3 words at this time. Love your videos!
Isabel Zamora hey there dylan didn’t start until he was about 5/6 with some words but the speech has come on a lot the last few years x
Hi can you make video about language please ?
IM DYLAN
Hi! I'm a speech therapist. There are so many fun ways and strategies to make our children speak. Head over to my channel for more information
It really doesn't matter at what age your child starts speaking. It is not a competition. Every autistic child is different, so it does not make sense to compare your child with others. I don't understand why NT parents insist on doing this to autistic children. Your child is not normal, and trying to make them normal is an unrealistic goal that can only lead to grief on all sides. Accept that and learn to live with it, and you will both be much happier for doing so.
Even autistic adults - including myself - who are very loquacious at times may struggle with speech at other times. Speech is great because it is convenient for you, but it is not the ultimate be-all and end-all.
Ensuring that your child has the tools they need to communicate effectively in a way that is comfortable for them is what is important. If that is PECS, typing, writing, sign language, or speech, the mode doesn't matter. You would not force a deaf child to use speech, so don't get hung up on speech being the primary mode of communication for your child.
Very interesting.
Love this Channel, ♡ and your home is Amazing 😍 are you in England?
Your advices and tips really do calm me down with my Autistic sons. :) It is not easy but we are doing well.
Seebz M hey there yes we are in England. Thank you for the lovely comment xox
Please try prioritizing outdoor time in sun where your children can synthesize vitamin D from the uva and uvb rays of the sun. This enables your child’s cells to align and sets his/her circadian rythm.
Hello!! I am a new subscriber and I am absolutely in LOVE with your channel!! I’m an aspiring speech therapist and this video was amazing. Thank you for using your knowledge about autism and spreading awareness about it. Even though I’ve studied autism in school, I have also learned a lot from you. Much love!♥️
Thank you so much for your lovely message it really means a lot to me I’m so pleased you have found my channel interesting x
I would love to implement some of these techniques, and definitely some you have used in other videos however i feel my nephew wouldn't understand pictures, is this common? And doesn't engage with us to respond to prompts, almost like he doesn't hear us. Do you have any tips for this?
the pecs pictures do work it just takes time. he has to want to communicate with you so find something he really really wants. For dylan it was ipad and we put it up high and i started by giving him the picture of the ipad and he had to give it to me to get it . build up slowly from here. hope this helps x
Thank you for posting this! I really appreciate this as I have been struggling with my 2 year old who isn’t diagnosed with anything yet as we are still doing tests, but I need help with helping her feed herself and also with talking and walking! It’s very tough but can someone recommend anything for me to get to help my daughter hold items in her hand? She won’t grip anything or hold :(
hey there an Occupation therapist will help her with this. I fed dylan until he was 6 so dont give up x
hi, thanks so much , i love your videos they are very helpful, i have just found out that my 4 year old boy is Autistic and i am having really hard time right now because not sure which school is the right for him? can you please please, talk about next video which school do u take your child and which school is the best? and is it the best choice my a child to go to special need school?.. i am very confused and scared to take wrong decision , effect my child in the future. can you please tell us which school is the best to choose for my child? thanks so much..
very informative
Do you have any problems with what is called Sundowners syndrome here in America. I just learned they have it and it actually is common in some Autistic children. If so, how do you handle it? I love your family. You are doing an amazing job.
We didn’t get a medical diagnosis of autism until my son was 15!
Hi Just found this channel - can I ask if you had any of your childeren have gone to speak from ring non verbal and how
A great mom and dad ❣️❣️❣️
thank you from the bottom of my heart x
Woah you need more subs! whats going on! Keep up this fantastic content!
Thank you so so much
This is really informative thankyou
This is pretty great video.
Thank you so much 💛
You’re welcome 😊
Hi 👋
I am from iraq i have tow children the biggest one is 3 years old and 8 months suffering from autism and the second one 2 years have no trouble, please 🙏🏻 help me to find the right road to help my baby to get him out of autism i am waiting with all respect for your opinion and advices 🙏🏻
Hi. I hope your children are much better. Dr. Ahmed Abdelhaleg, whom you can find on youtube, will be very helpful. I wish you good health
Can someone post what their favorite sensory toys are??
Most of the time I carry a string of wooden beads with me (I have a lot of them, of different lengths that I can wear around my wrist or around my neck for convenience). They are inexpensive and relatively unobtrusive. I also love chew toys.
Not toys, but my weighted vest and a beanbag that I can wear around the back of my neck are great.
Hi, I’m new to your channel and coming to term that my 2yo has all the signs for autism . I’m on the waitlist for an evaluation ... so how did you get your son to start communicating verbally ? Is this the only techniques from this therapist that you used?
How’s your son doing? Same with my 2 year old. Waiting for evaluation. What signs did you see? He say his first word yet? We’re still waiting for first words
Ibrahim Elmi our evaluation is next month. He started showing signs of regression on couple weeks before his second birthday. He stopped responding to his name , he used to say mama then he stopped, his eye contact was less he was walking on his tip toe . He was not engaged as he used to .. he was withdrawn. So at 2 years and 3 months he is still not talking.
Empress0722 sounds like my son minus any words. My son withdrew and became very hyperactive around 21 months. He’s sleeping is so bad. Wakes up 1 am-5am almost every night. Our evaluation is early September. I look at this 2 year old and sometimes wonder how it’s going to be at 5, 8, or 10 and just don’t know.
Ibrahim Elmi the unknown is frightening and heartbreaking .. you May want to checkout this therapist on UA-cam “ Mary Barbera” she offers online courses to help kids communicate .. a lot of parents have had lots of success with it. I brought her program and using it with my son.. it’s taking my son a bit longer to show improvement with it.
My son is Severe Autistic is there any thing on how to help him when he gets very aggressive
Can you maby also make a video for autistic teens/adults who became nonverbal at a later age also because autism? I have this problem and there are not many recourses for people like me.
Of course I will look in to this for you x
I just subscribed!
Thank you for this video
hey heyni just want to say to u milady I LOVE U AND DILAN i love all u all as a family❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤💋💋💖💖My son as mild autism i know the real struggles.I watch your videos . AM sending love from jamaica .
big love to you mama and thank you so much for all the support x
Hi! please respond! me and my husband want to have more children our first child was diagnosed autism he's 3 going on 4 we want a lot more children but unfortunately were scared to have more. our son is going to have genetic testing. so we will wait.
Priscilla Jimenez hey there please watch my video on questions vaccines and more children . I answer in depth why I wanted more children . Don’t let the autism scare you having luca and naia was the best thing I ever did for me and for dylan x
I have twin 6yr old boys who have autism and are non verbal, and also have a 5 yr old girl who is a regular 5 yr old. So if more kids are on the cards go for it.
Having one child with autism doesn’t necessarily mean that the next child you have will also be diagnosed with autism.
Hello my daughter is non verbal 2 years - 5 years nothing would help my daughter speech I think her brain is Damage or something she only have like 10 words :( ----until we do oral chelation and vitamin e and fish oil and phosphatidylycholine then a miracles happens to my daughter now she she is talking In sentence:) i Aslo did 20 rounds for the oxygen chamber therapy to increased oxygen to the brain most autism kids have low oxygen in their brain oxygen and get rid of sensory disorder and calm down their nerve system no more stimming and hyperactivity
What is your “ oral chelation “ method?
Where did you go for this treatment? Will greatly appreciate the information
Great video
Thanks!
My daughter is 10 and cannot conversate at all. She is intelligent in a primally instinctive way. I've tried all this commenting, letting her do her own thing.. all she does is lock herself in a bathroom and howl like an animal. She doesn't process language, only repeats in the same way Koko the gorilla was trained in English. It sucks! Why are so many other peoples' children also autistic? This seems to be increasing worldwide.
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(Autistic person here). Your child locking herself in the bathroom and howling "like an animal" (ugh- is it really necessary to compare your child to an animal???), and echolalia, IS communication. If she is doing that it is because she is overwhelmed and frustrated. That frustration is a combination of many factors: it could be sensory; it could be frustration at the pressure from you to get her to communicate the way you want her to; it could be her own frustration at your not understanding her. These stresses all build up. Chances are that she does process language, it's just that she doesn't outwardly show it in a neurotypical way. I know an autistic 17-year-old young woman who is completely non-verbal, but understands three languages. If one learns to try to understand the way she communicates, then communication with her is possible.
Have you tried providing her with non-verbal options for communication like PECS or typing?
Try to see things from her perspective. Instead of seeing her as an animal, see her as a person who experiences and interprets the world differently to the way you do. Consider the restrictions that she faces in the same way as someone who is paraplegic trying to move around in a world where other people walk, or a deaf person navigating a world of speech and music. Many autistic people have written about echolalia and meltdowns: find out why these things happen from our perspective, and learn to see her intelligence not as "animal" but as human consciousness on a different plane.
Yes, it sucks, and it's hard for you. Believe me, it sucks even more for her that you are not making an effort to understand and accept her.
After posting my previous reply I am still distressed by your comparing your child to an animal several times in your post.
I want you to know that we do hear and understand what you say, even if we are non-verbal or don't experience the world according to what you believe is normal and "human". Your daughter hears that language and internalises it: how do you think that makes her feel? In 20 years' time, she will remember her parent comparing her to a gorilla. Cringe.
Your frustration and anger that your daughter is not normal are perfectly understandable, but please be conscious that the words you are choosing are hurtful and demeaning. I know you don't intend to offend anyone by using that type of language, but it is offensive. Autistic people are people, we have feelings; we are not lesser beings, we are just different.
You have a right to freedom of speech and a right to express your anger. You do not have a right to insult vulnerable people, especially those who do not have the language to defend themselves. Doing so makes you abject. Please watch your language, for your daughter's sake.
1:45 LOOK She came running for a juice. ❤️
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thank you for the comment x
Which vitamins are good for two year old autism nonverbal he says sometimes mama papa
Hey there that’s great he is saying mama keep working on that. What’s your sons diet like? Is he a good eater? If he is I would only recommend a good probiotic and if he is fussy a good all round multivitamin. X
@@ComingHometoAutism he likes smoothie and he's on gaps diet
I am the complete opposite I have high functioning Aspergers and I have always been verbal.
I think parents might get cptsd from raising autistic children, I know my mental abilities have suffered greatly. Not a lot that can be done. Making changes for me is like putting my kinds on a limb. Very uncertain about 'the system' of help.
My son is 1 years old and he’s is none verbal he speaks a little like dada ma and small words but it’s so hard for him to actually speak like with his cup he can’t point or say juice or things of that nature he has tantrums and he also spins in circles and loves Elmo and the pop it’s
He’s my first kid so this is all new to me when I first noticed signs I told his pediatrician and he’s seeing a speech therapist and someone who’s helping him learn to play with other kids and things of that nature
Any actual physical examples..one on one examples perhaphs
I have a daughter she is 7 years old, She is Austic Spectrum, She knows H 2 talk, But she will not talk 2 none of her teachers, Speech Therapist, Occupational therapist, @ all. She does not talk 2 no one in her Dance School, She has 2 friends that she plays with but she will not talk 2 there Moms or there siblings @ all!!!! I'm so frustrated with her there is times she dnt talk 2 me or my husband, Shevis not potty trained, I dnt why she won't go 2 the bathroom.....I hve a son tht is non Verbal hes goes 2 the bathroom......I'm so frustrated wth it all....
So my sister is 8 years old, she's autism and can't talk properly she does not have any problems (she's not deaf or mute) plz tell me some ways to teach her 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤
Alternative communication methods. At 8 she should be able to start writing or typing if her proprioception is good. PECS is also an option, and Spelling To Communicate. Forcing autistic children to speak is counterproductive, and she will only learn to speak if she wants to. She may end up never speaking, and that is also OK, so long has she has some way of communicating that is supported and understood.
My child is still non-verbal he says a word a couple of times then stops saying it. How to make him not lose those words he gains
Shes so cute, lol!! What a sweetheart. Sounds like "diff- free- en- tree- ate" :^)
Very help
My girlfriend had flash cards all over her house, everything was labeled. Even the sink! 🤗 Her son started out pointing and then she’d make him say “milk please” as he pointed to the milk card. She had categories of food with pockets on the wall of the kitchen. (You could put the card that has the glass of milk on it in there) so, he could dig in and hand her pictures of what he wanted. If something was labeled, he’d learn it. Velcro, magnets..she had it all. There was a reward system too. Like a setup in elementary school. The green, yellow, red system representing behavior for the day. (No kid wants a sad face or red card) It seemed to work well with her. I personally used happy/sad faces with my daughter starting at five, it seemed effective. 😝
your girlfriend sounds amazing x
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My son is 3 years old n he is autistic n has sensory issues. He doesn't even call me mama.Am really hurt n broken
I was called bob for 3 years . finally he Called me mama x
My son also called me amma means mom but not particular to me and making eye contact. But still am happy that he started to blabber I hope he vil change.
@@sowbhagyalakshmihl I understand that it hurts if your child does not communicate the way you expect him to, but that does not mean he does not love you. There are things that are a lot more important: is he happy? Are his sensory needs being met?
Making eye contact is difficult for most autistic people. I still struggle with it in my 40s and have learned how to fake it. You need to understand that eye contact is physically painful for us: it is hard work, especially for a 3 year-old child. You can't expect him to make that effort at that age, especially when he does not even understand that there may be a reason to do so. Would you stick needles in your fingers because the people around you expect you to do it when they talk to each other, because that is just what they do, without understanding the reason why? Making eye contact is the same as that for us. It is only when we are older that we come to understand that it is behaviour that other people expect, and that we have to do it if we want to be accepted in their world.
He will not ever not be autistic, so you have to change your expectations. Maybe one day he will call you mama, and maybe he never will. If you accept that, then you can move forward and provide him with the best you can.
Why don't you learn their language?
How do I help my 3.5 years old son to stop talking to himself all day? ( in nonsense language) and loud
Why would you want to?
It sounds like sensory/self-soothing behaviour to me (I sang non-stop, mostly nonsense, at that age until I was about 6). You could try redirecting with other sensory inputs like fidgets or chew toys if it becomes too disruptive for other family members, but there should be compromises. If he needs to babble, then those around him need to accept and respect that need. If babbling is not causing him any distress, then stopping him from doing it is not "helping him", it is forcing him to mask, which is detrimental. When it comes to volume, he probably does not realise that it is loud, so you could perhaps try to persuade him to do it more quietly by explaining the logical reasons why he should.
@@higgsri1 He has dtop 95% because it was a brain chemistry issue.
Also, he regressed at 3.5 years old, he talked and met all his milestones until last year.
Good news, OAT from Great Plains Lab shows that he has a very high bacteria called HPHPA that causes autism, depression, speech impairment, hyperactivity and schizophrenia.
So soon he will be on treatment hopefully it is not too late.
Either way, his behaviors will improve and learn better
My kid only speak in terms of rhymes
my son is 11years old still he is nonverbal
Hi, thank you very much for this video, what do you think about this CBD oil, I read positive comments 😍😍
Just started using small amount with son. Looking for any changes.
Hi so i went to my gp about this matter, and he said that it is only to be used in a severe case... like a treatment to soove a life threatening disability or disorder or illness... not for Autism... so thats where im left with that.
Please let me know if you get any other information.
hey there iam still doing research in to it at the moment. its on my radar though x
Seriously she was sooo bored in speech therapy only ten words in1 years oral chelation give her like 5000 words lol
What kind of chelation?
My son is 8 and his vocabulary is minimal.
That conference looked so sad. Majority were women attendees. One wonders where weremany of the men?
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yak yak yak....everything except video of DOING it!!
Nicki Snyder many families have to wait months if not years to meet with a speech therapist so I thought by doing this video it would arm parents with some things they can do at home. All I’m trying to do is to help others with their children. I never videoed dylan when he was younger because I was so busy trying to do all of these things and it was so full on I Didn’t think to pick up a camera and put it my Childs face when he was struggling. But what I can do is give my advise on what worked for us and what helped Dylan speak.
Thanks so much so helpful 🙏❤
You're so welcome!