What you said is absolutely true. My wife subscribed to your channel on here in hopes that I would just scroll onto one of your videos. I never saw the first one that would have caught my attention enough to actually watch it. She finally sent me one of your tik toks and I watched it. It was really eye-opening to me, and I realized I've not been a very good husband. When you said, in that particular video, that what women hear when you ask them what they want you to do is actually a confession of not listening in the first place. I haven't been listening to her needs and wants nearly as closely as I should have been. So I just want to say, as a man, thank you for making these videos.
@@JimmyonRelationshipsYOUR VIDEOS mean more than you know TO US! They are Confirming, Healing and Educational 🌹🌿 Thank, you! Thank, you! And fun to watch 😃
Thank you for trying to work on it. The more guys who start trying the more real love comes back to the world. And maybe somebody's son is watching you and sees the difference it makes in your life.
I'm a woman and wish I had the understanding then about what was happening on my relationship But he was a covert narcissist anyway so I just had to recognise things in my own time
I don’t even have a gf but I just want my future partner to actually be a partner for me and me for them so I’m just trying to sort my part of the shit before I find them
Many people, women and men, aren't aware of issues until it's too late. I've seen good, thoughtfull people be in relationships that were slowly breaking apart. Everyone could tell, except them for some reason.
Seeing all the comments here from men and husbands looking to improve the quality of their relationships makes me so happy. I hope that their efforts pan out and their relationships grow deeper and more fulfilling on both sides.
Most of them will end up in divorce and will be paying hefty alimony for the rest of their lives..most of the women are liars and are hell bent on avoiding accountability and blaming men..
I almost lost my husband because of this. It just seemed like he stopped caring. He stopped maintaining the relationship and after years I was falling out of love with him. It took a lot of courage to just go up to him and say, “I’m falling out of love” but I did. Thankfully he instantly got the message and we started working together to figure out what we need to do to maintain our relationship and I’ve never been happier. Some of those early conversations were painful, but it was worth the pain in the long run.
I remember watching this old short from the 50s about how couples should and shouldnt argue. The first example was of a couple who were very loud when they argued, which made it seem they were doing it wrong. However, it showed that they didnt insult each other, they didnt bring up uneccasary stuff, they listened, and once they got to the root of the problem they were willing to compromise and solve the issue. The next example was of a couple who were calm when they argued, but they were mean to each other, they brought up random stuff, and the man was unwilling to compromise and ended up shitting on the woman so much she was left crying while he stormed off. I considered forcing my parents to watch it LMAO
I've been single my whole life. I've never been in a head space where I felt I was comfortable with myself to even be in a relationship and even I'm getting your videos recommended.
when you said the thing about 'all couples fight' not being true, that felt sooooo validating!! my partner and I have been together for around a 1 and a half years and we hardly ever have fights and even if we do, we handle it well, and for some reason, our friends seem to think its weird or unhealthy that we dont fight!! so thank you, i know that we are great but its nice to hear it from an expert (:
My marriage is so much better now than when I got married. And that's because we both put in a lot of work and continue to do so. I really appreciate you giving people solid advice. There's a lot of bad advice on the internet about how many should behave.
A big part of the content is relevant outside both marriage and partnership, so as a single man focusing on improving myself, all of this is a gold mine.
I'm only 19, I don't planned on getting married anytime soon and my S/O and I are fairly good at communicating with one another. I made sure to help both them and me to set boundaries to help since she struggled with diagnosed BPD. We have been doing great and have acknowledged that sometimes space is needed. We haven't gotten into a real fight yet, but despite that I've been watching your videos. Everytime you pop up, I watch the video in full because you either resonate with what I already do with communication or you teach me something new entirely. One thing I've noticed about myself is that while I attempt to practice a lot of healthy communication strategies, I often do feel attacked and belittled even when I shouldn't so I try to be "healthy" in a way that makes me feel better for simply trying instead of feeling better for finding a solution. I wouldn't have noticed that if I didn't watch your videos. Thank you
After coming across one short I subscribed…never went to your page until this video and saw how honest you were about your own relationship. I have a lot more respect for you now and love your videos!
Guys like myself will swipe on you sooooo many times, Until they don’t. And we they don’t, they will consume as much as we can. Get up the work brother.
Dude, you are changing lives for the better. It's so dang real what people forget in communication with each other. You keep doing what you're doing, and maybe everyone will be a bit happier over time
Omg your shirt!!! ❤❤❤ The ex fiancé shattered my heart in St. Augustine where we lived. I used to do human trafficking intervention and related training for LEAs (Clay County, Duval etc) as a survivor-leader all over NE FL. It’s so pretty there, but hate directed at my very sweet and kind trans son (female to male) forced us to leave and get somewhere safer for him. Where he could simply exist. But your shirt brought me tears as I heal from a lot of grief… That ex repeatedly refused to try relationship counseling. Wanted to have me change so much… do all the work to make things work… which of course, I knew would never work… Hard choices to leave a whole life behind and start all over. But worth it! Thanks for all your great content and help. May your marriage continue to be blessed. Keep Creator at the Center of it and the humility and grace that go with God’s love will keep coming into your beautiful family life and marriage
My father is (or was) a narcissist. I haven't spoken to or heard from him since I was 11. I have no interest in ever seeing him again and I don't know if he's still alive or not, I don't care either way. Thank you for trying to get better, narcissists tend to end up alone as everyone they know usually ends up leaving. I don't think anyone with the capacity to change should end up alone, you are doing yourself and those close to you a great service by becoming a better person.
I want you to know that your advice is good for more than just marriages. I live and help my father and so much still applies our relationship and for it to become healthier from problems that have followed us from my childhood into adulthood. So thank you so much for what you do.
I'm so glad I stumbled on your account. I'm in an amazing relationship going on 3 years now, but watching your videos makes me more aware of MY complacency and what I can better do to support my partner. Thank you, from everyone in or looking for love, we all need to learn these lessons and be a little more like you 💖
Honestly, i did that the first few vids of yours i had seen, but after thinking back to my last 2 relationships i gave it a chance and now im seeing the things i didnt do and should have done, so thanks for showing up on my page brother
I'm actually the guy who gets recommended your videos and I'm trying my best to make my relationship as healthy as it can be, and your videos definitely helped! Thank you for putting out these messages to the world, more people need to know how to love properly-- I've seen people grow apart for all the wrong reasons and it's crucial to actively work on understanding each other to prevent such drift.
Completely true, if a man isn’t interested in being a good husband he won't be. He won't change and however kind and honest and real you are he will ignore and refuse to engage. Don't waste your life on a guy that doesn't care about you, you can't love him enough to change him.
It is so vital that you provide these resources for women to be able to share with men in a man's voice. I stumbled across here organically but I had already sought out a lot of the same resources you're sharing. What I found truly galling is learning about how few men even know such resources exist. Reading the comments on your videos is heartbreaking. So thank you so much for doing what you're doing.
As a women, I love your videos not because I feel validated but because you have put into words that I have not had the time to think about how I could put into words. For instance, your video about chores. I work and I come home and clean. Recently my husband has been helping more but we have been together for 19 years and it took me crying and letting him know that I can’t keep doing it on my own because the resentment kept growing. So although I knew resentment was growing I couldn’t put into words why. Not to mention, I feel as ladies we should learn what we can from these videos too to help in our marriage.
Nah, I thank you. I'm an unmarried 24 year old man and your vdios have been great for my learning. Keep up the good work, bruv, cuz even if it doesn't make the married guys aware, it'll still educate us unmarried people on the viewpoint of the opposite side.
Ur videos actually help me learn alot especially about myself as a growing young women. Im glad I came across your channel because it taught me alot of things. I hope to see more people do these kind of thing its greatly appreciated.
I send the videos to him, even the ones about the women side. Whether he watches or not is up to him and also their always there. Plus, I have told him I'm not sending these in spite or out of negative feedback, I'm trying to help our relationship since therapy is scary and costs money. Our relationship was so great and we used to know how to end our fights in a good way and no matter who apologized first or who was in the right we both would apologize for our wrong. We would talk about it in a healthy manner and get things resolved. One thing we have kept going was to never punish the other for past wrongs that were squared away. Never bring up the past, unless someone wasn't quite right with it, then we open that conversation not argument!
I’m in my first healthy relationship and I’m so broken I know I can be frustrating to deal with at times . My man is a good man and you’re helping me understand that sometimes the man isn’t the problem, it’s me and what I’ve been poisoned to think is “normal” so a healthy relationship just feels weird cause I’ve never had one till now . Just scared to lose him as I have just my kids and no family support . He is my peace and safe place and honestly it’s kinda scary lol.
lol, i love the still frame when the vid loads. i see a lot of myself in those eyes. im proud of you for putting the work. i mashed everything up, slowly getting there.
I am a man, enjoy you’re videos very much, watch and like many of them. Thank you very much for the vulnerability and effective way that many important topics are communicated!🎉
I've contributed to the failure of past relationships and I don't want to do that any more. Hopefully, the work I'm doing now will help ensure my next relationship lasts the rest of my life. 😊🙏🏼
I enjoyed the encouragement. I’m grateful for your input. I’m amazed of your willingness to….. I’m trying to figure out how to help others that are not as fortunate as to your honesty and integrity. Please find the answer to help those as you have been. I am grateful for your support. It was after all the damage. Want to protect the future.
Watching your stuff I think “yeah this is all super sensible and has become really obvious over accummulated post-breakup introspections…”. Really hope it helps save anguish in future relationships! Just wish we could actually get these in front of the *other* crowd - y’know, the ones that have their teachers really worried for the future.
I’m a single dude not trying to date and yet I still think the videos on communication are worth watching. Hell some of it applies to roommates too, not just couples
At this point the algorithm is telling me to be in a relationship with you or that my relationship is really bad. your videos pop up for me like 6 times a day.
If you don't think that you're like this, it can be really hard to listen to somebody telling you to change if you don't think you need to change if you don't see the errors.
You’re exactly right and this goes for any situation whether it’s between family friends or even personal growth. No one can force that desire out of you. So what fixed or changed your complacency? I’m with someone who just makes me miserable and I feel like he’s the best I can do... I have tried to constantly talk to him about my feelings.. he says all the right things with never action or follow through.. he’s mostly insulting, degrading and has backstabbed me constantly then shrugs and says idk why I do it but I love you... sometimes I feel like most would just walk away when someone is this careless towards the relationship like I don’t even know how you’d break up this complacency. Nor do I seem to understand that me staying with him is a form of accepting his bs.
I’m a man and me and boyfriend are both in an extremely healthy relationship and we do all the things you make videos on. To anyone question him, don’t. He knows what he’s talking about :)
I kinda just showed up and kept watching. I also watch Cinema Therapy, and I hope I would take all of these sources to help me in any future relationships I may have
I wish i saw his videos a couple months earlier might have saved my 4 year relationship. But maybe i also have to go through this breakup to realize and work on myself so i can do better next time
Another husband here, pretty sure my wife hasn't seen your vids before, but i appreciate the perspective you bring. I filter out a lot of garbage, so only good quality content comes through. You shall pass.
However the problem I have with most relationship videos is it focuses on men being the problems and as one who has been crucified for being open and willing to talk about my issues it can very easily turn into a feeding frenzy if your partner is not willing to be equally as open and jumps on the bandwagon as you are eaten alive during therapy. So stay vigilant for both of your sakes.
What's interesting (and a little scary about a little scary about the algorithm) is that I don't tend to watch videos about relationships and relationship therapy, I do watch a lot of autism and ADHD helpful videos, animal memes, D&D content, etc. I'm also single. I've been working with a lot of councillors and support workers in person lately, mostly trying to deal with relationship and childhood trauma. About a week ago, I had not really a breakthrough but a "holy crap my councillor is actually right and Im as shit as I think I am" moment and had a couple of different people with different levels of mental health training all saying the same thing almost word for word and it hitting me like a mach truck each time. I think it was about 3 days after the last one that the first short for this channel showed up on my feed. Again, not the sort of therapy or advice content as a whole that would normally be on my feed, but there it was and I've been watching for a few days now. The algorithm honestly scares the crap out of me
I send them to my husband, but he just ignores them. Nothing important to me is ever important to him, anything important to him MUST be important to me. 🦋😞💙
This describes everything I am going through except I am the man and this is happening with my significant other female. I'm probably a bit in the minority here. Being a man and it's almost like roll reversal. Where I feel like I need to be heard and always want to have conversations discussing our emotions and feelings. She runs away from that stuff as it's not natural and is foreign. Your feeds always show up on my page Because your content is exactly what I have been looking for. Thank you because now I can share this with her and learn from you.
And even if it did go to his page & he watched it, he wouldn’t be able to understand it or be able to take in the message or apply the message to his life or his relationship with you. And even if you switched the roles & it was a woman who was in this position, it would be the same outcome because no matter the gender, if they can’t comprehend the meaning/message, they won’t understand it or make any changes to their behavior, and the relationship won’t change. And there’s no hope for the relationship until both parties are on the same page and are willing to talk and listen to each other. And that’s what’s so heartbreaking for both parties. One side can expound in detail exactly what happened, and the other has absolutely no clue & was completely shocked.
I new to your channel & love your videos! They allow us to work together to see where both of us can improve. Anytime I see a video of yours that could help us, I share it with him in person and say, " I think we both could be better at this." Relationships are a team exercise. Both parties must work together...Team work makes the dream work! My husband and I are blessed with a great relationship, but even we struggle with communication sometimes. For example: He'll get defensive from a question like... "Are the dishes in the dishwasher clean or dirty," and I'll have to assure him I'm not getting on to him, I just need to know so I can finish our combined tasks. (We thought about getting the magnet, but we both thought we'd forget to use it.😂) I think the reason he gets defensive is because he feels guilty for not completing the entire task, but I'm good and just need information to continue. Do you have any advice?
You can start the convo or question with an affirmation like “thanks for putting the dishes away and may ask are they dirty or clean so i can put them away or finish this task”, key here is using and instead but because we all have a negative connotation towards it and usually it means punishment for us, otherwise just saying thank you more often helps a lot (for both sides), it makes us seen and like the other one notices
Yeah, I would send this to the people who need it if only they understood English. Cuz when I try to do this speech I'm suddenly too cute and can be hurtful and need to look out for what I say.
I love your videos and I watch them all the time. Even around my husband and 💯 right. I would have this video playing, while I'm sitting right next to him, all the way up and he won't hear a word. I know cause I've tried and nothing is taken from it.
I’m not a husband. But I am a boyfriend. I want to go into a marriage with her and I want to be the best man I can be for her. I’ve watched many of your videos and I will do my best to implement every lesson learned
Yeah. Whrn I subbed, I hoped that my boyfriend of 11 years would see some of these videos on the communal living room computer that's signed into my YT Premium account.. but I know he doesn't usually watch most of the things I like to watch on UA-cam and checks out or gets critical when I put them on myself and he's in the room
I was born male, haven't changed that, and have been single für quite a while now, but would like to change that. Given some of the other channels I watch (Anna Akana, Psych2Go, Cinema Therapy) I have no reason to question to question why yours showed up. I think it's high time I subscribe too cause bloody hell don't you have good advice.
For the first time I am hearing what LOVE should look like. Never tasted Love from parents or in-laws or many friends or spouse. Unfortunately all were NPD. Rebirthing my life into the non NPD world and it feels confusing.
Bro I am not even in a relationship (I am 16 lol so that's not gonna happen anytime soon anyway😂😂😂) but my shorts have been filled with his videos and boy have I tried to swipe away but the algorithm just wants me to 'learn how to be in a relationship'😂😂😂
That’s funny, in spite of me adamantly rejecting thousands of tiny house videos, after three years the Overlords are still insisting on sending me more.
Sadly it's not all about, man bad needs to change. I'm not gonna lie, some of the things Jimmy says a man should be doing I am guilty of not doing. I'm the one that works in my home. My husband stays home with the kiddo. He is disabled and has had multiple back surgeries and isn't able to do much most days. I feel like I'm carrying the weight of the world. I could do all the dishes and they could be dry and sitting in the dish strainer ready to be put away and they will be there still when I get home. Smh, we r both the problem. He is constantly asking me if there is anything I want him to do while I'm gone and I want to blow a gasket! But in the same aspect I don't prioritize our marriage because I feel like I have so much on my plate and no help. In most cases, it's a both parties problem
As a 26 year old dude watching and recently found your videos. You hit these right on the head. I can’t tell you how many older men tell me don’t get married or don’t have kids. I still have hope and look forward to having a family of my own one day and I just want to be a good partner. Keep doing what you’re doing! Makes me think about how I communicate a lot more.
The sad truth is most of those men fell into this pattern of behavior and probably don't even realize how they and their partners are contributing to the death of their marriages. Don't get discouraged, you aren't those people. You're here and trying to be a good human who can find their match in another good human.
Hey there, my awesome friends! I hope you're all doing well and enjoying life. Just wanted to take a moment to say hello and remind you all how much I appreciate having you in my life. Let's keep making amazing memories together!
I agree! I am a young woman of 26 and I've heard the same thing many times. Yet seeing there are people like you warms my heart. I congratulate you on your hope and encourage you to keep it alive!! There are many wonderful glorious beautiful people in the world and I hope when you get the opportunity to, you apply all the love and selfless kind and gentle consideration you can!! Bravo and God bless you dear Wolverine.
@TheWolvirine25, you are why I have hope for the younger generation and the cycle breakers. Ignore those old men. You want quality, go for it. You will get quality. Just know those old men wake up miserable everyday and don't care about you, they want you as miserable as they are. Good on you for ignoring them.
What you said is absolutely true. My wife subscribed to your channel on here in hopes that I would just scroll onto one of your videos. I never saw the first one that would have caught my attention enough to actually watch it. She finally sent me one of your tik toks and I watched it. It was really eye-opening to me, and I realized I've not been a very good husband. When you said, in that particular video, that what women hear when you ask them what they want you to do is actually a confession of not listening in the first place. I haven't been listening to her needs and wants nearly as closely as I should have been. So I just want to say, as a man, thank you for making these videos.
This means more than you know to me man
@@JimmyonRelationshipsYOUR VIDEOS mean more than you know TO US! They are Confirming, Healing and Educational 🌹🌿 Thank, you! Thank, you!
And fun to watch 😃
Wow! that’s great to hear. Keep going!
Thank you for trying to work on it.
The more guys who start trying the more real love comes back to the world.
And maybe somebody's son is watching you and sees the difference it makes in your life.
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Shocks me that other men dont seek out resources like this. My relationship is so important to me; I will do anything to make sure it is healthy
your wife is a lucky woman 💙
Thank you!!!
I'm a woman and wish I had the understanding then about what was happening on my relationship
But he was a covert narcissist anyway so I just had to recognise things in my own time
I don’t even have a gf but I just want my future partner to actually be a partner for me and me for them so I’m just trying to sort my part of the shit before I find them
Many people, women and men, aren't aware of issues until it's too late. I've seen good, thoughtfull people be in relationships that were slowly breaking apart. Everyone could tell, except them for some reason.
Seeing all the comments here from men and husbands looking to improve the quality of their relationships makes me so happy. I hope that their efforts pan out and their relationships grow deeper and more fulfilling on both sides.
Most of them will end up in divorce and will be paying hefty alimony for the rest of their lives..most of the women are liars and are hell bent on avoiding accountability and blaming men..
@@manukris23that's why I say to forgo relationships
I almost lost my husband because of this. It just seemed like he stopped caring. He stopped maintaining the relationship and after years I was falling out of love with him. It took a lot of courage to just go up to him and say, “I’m falling out of love” but I did. Thankfully he instantly got the message and we started working together to figure out what we need to do to maintain our relationship and I’ve never been happier. Some of those early conversations were painful, but it was worth the pain in the long run.
Nice! I've told my wife I feel like we are just roommates a few times. Nothing has changed.
As a teenage guy this channel has been one of the best resources for self reflection and seeking help with being able to set boundaries
I remember watching this old short from the 50s about how couples should and shouldnt argue. The first example was of a couple who were very loud when they argued, which made it seem they were doing it wrong. However, it showed that they didnt insult each other, they didnt bring up uneccasary stuff, they listened, and once they got to the root of the problem they were willing to compromise and solve the issue.
The next example was of a couple who were calm when they argued, but they were mean to each other, they brought up random stuff, and the man was unwilling to compromise and ended up shitting on the woman so much she was left crying while he stormed off.
I considered forcing my parents to watch it LMAO
3 years and he finally said “I’m sorry I’ve been neglecting you” 😭😭 this channel helped me learn different ways to talk to him about my frustrations
You seem like a very nice man
Do you wanna be friends?
Your not Wrong. Thanks for the Transparency.
I may have some re-balancing to do.
Not sure how I got here given that I'm single and never been in a relationship, but writing notes rn so that I know what to do when I get into one.
I've been single my whole life. I've never been in a head space where I felt I was comfortable with myself to even be in a relationship and even I'm getting your videos recommended.
You seem like a very nice man
Do you wanna be friends?
when you said the thing about 'all couples fight' not being true, that felt sooooo validating!! my partner and I have been together for around a 1 and a half years and we hardly ever have fights and even if we do, we handle it well, and for some reason, our friends seem to think its weird or unhealthy that we dont fight!! so thank you, i know that we are great but its nice to hear it from an expert (:
I am in my first relationship at 43 where there hasn't been a single fight in the year we have been together we just click so perfectly.
My marriage is so much better now than when I got married. And that's because we both put in a lot of work and continue to do so. I really appreciate you giving people solid advice. There's a lot of bad advice on the internet about how many should behave.
A big part of the content is relevant outside both marriage and partnership, so as a single man focusing on improving myself, all of this is a gold mine.
I'm only 19, I don't planned on getting married anytime soon and my S/O and I are fairly good at communicating with one another. I made sure to help both them and me to set boundaries to help since she struggled with diagnosed BPD. We have been doing great and have acknowledged that sometimes space is needed.
We haven't gotten into a real fight yet, but despite that I've been watching your videos. Everytime you pop up, I watch the video in full because you either resonate with what I already do with communication or you teach me something new entirely.
One thing I've noticed about myself is that while I attempt to practice a lot of healthy communication strategies, I often do feel attacked and belittled even when I shouldn't so I try to be "healthy" in a way that makes me feel better for simply trying instead of feeling better for finding a solution. I wouldn't have noticed that if I didn't watch your videos.
Thank you
After coming across one short I subscribed…never went to your page until this video and saw how honest you were about your own relationship. I have a lot more respect for you now and love your videos!
Guys like myself will swipe on you sooooo many times, Until they don’t. And we they don’t, they will consume as much as we can.
Get up the work brother.
This means alot to me Bobby
You seem like a very nice man
Do you wanna be friends?
Dude, you are changing lives for the better. It's so dang real what people forget in communication with each other. You keep doing what you're doing, and maybe everyone will be a bit happier over time
Omg your shirt!!! ❤❤❤
The ex fiancé shattered my heart in St. Augustine where we lived. I used to do human trafficking intervention and related training for LEAs (Clay County, Duval etc) as a survivor-leader all over NE FL. It’s so pretty there, but hate directed at my very sweet and kind trans son (female to male) forced us to leave and get somewhere safer for him. Where he could simply exist.
But your shirt brought me tears as I heal from a lot of grief…
That ex repeatedly refused to try relationship counseling. Wanted to have me change so much… do all the work to make things work… which of course, I knew would never work…
Hard choices to leave a whole life behind and start all over.
But worth it!
Thanks for all your great content and help. May your marriage continue to be blessed. Keep Creator at the Center of it and the humility and grace that go with God’s love will keep coming into your beautiful family life and marriage
Bro I’m finding your channel about 3-4 years too late as of three weeks ago, but this is all resonating with me in a REAL way.
I’m a narcissist and I want to change your advice helps me understand myself better
My mother has NPD, thank you for trying and doing the work.
My father is (or was) a narcissist. I haven't spoken to or heard from him since I was 11. I have no interest in ever seeing him again and I don't know if he's still alive or not, I don't care either way. Thank you for trying to get better, narcissists tend to end up alone as everyone they know usually ends up leaving. I don't think anyone with the capacity to change should end up alone, you are doing yourself and those close to you a great service by becoming a better person.
I want you to know that your advice is good for more than just marriages. I live and help my father and so much still applies our relationship and for it to become healthier from problems that have followed us from my childhood into adulthood. So thank you so much for what you do.
I'm so glad I stumbled on your account. I'm in an amazing relationship going on 3 years now, but watching your videos makes me more aware of MY complacency and what I can better do to support my partner. Thank you, from everyone in or looking for love, we all need to learn these lessons and be a little more like you 💖
Honestly, i did that the first few vids of yours i had seen, but after thinking back to my last 2 relationships i gave it a chance and now im seeing the things i didnt do and should have done, so thanks for showing up on my page brother
I'm actually the guy who gets recommended your videos and I'm trying my best to make my relationship as healthy as it can be, and your videos definitely helped!
Thank you for putting out these messages to the world, more people need to know how to love properly-- I've seen people grow apart for all the wrong reasons and it's crucial to actively work on understanding each other to prevent such drift.
Completely true, if a man isn’t interested in being a good husband he won't be. He won't change and however kind and honest and real you are he will ignore and refuse to engage. Don't waste your life on a guy that doesn't care about you, you can't love him enough to change him.
It is so vital that you provide these resources for women to be able to share with men in a man's voice. I stumbled across here organically but I had already sought out a lot of the same resources you're sharing. What I found truly galling is learning about how few men even know such resources exist. Reading the comments on your videos is heartbreaking. So thank you so much for doing what you're doing.
As a women, I love your videos not because I feel validated but because you have put into words that I have not had the time to think about how I could put into words. For instance, your video about chores. I work and I come home and clean. Recently my husband has been helping more but we have been together for 19 years and it took me crying and letting him know that I can’t keep doing it on my own because the resentment kept growing. So although I knew resentment was growing I couldn’t put into words why. Not to mention, I feel as ladies we should learn what we can from these videos too to help in our marriage.
Nah, I thank you. I'm an unmarried 24 year old man and your vdios have been great for my learning. Keep up the good work, bruv, cuz even if it doesn't make the married guys aware, it'll still educate us unmarried people on the viewpoint of the opposite side.
Ur videos actually help me learn alot especially about myself as a growing young women. Im glad I came across your channel because it taught me alot of things. I hope to see more people do these kind of thing its greatly appreciated.
I send the videos to him, even the ones about the women side. Whether he watches or not is up to him and also their always there. Plus, I have told him I'm not sending these in spite or out of negative feedback, I'm trying to help our relationship since therapy is scary and costs money. Our relationship was so great and we used to know how to end our fights in a good way and no matter who apologized first or who was in the right we both would apologize for our wrong. We would talk about it in a healthy manner and get things resolved. One thing we have kept going was to never punish the other for past wrongs that were squared away. Never bring up the past, unless someone wasn't quite right with it, then we open that conversation not argument!
I’m in my first healthy relationship and I’m so broken I know I can be frustrating to deal with at times . My man is a good man and you’re helping me understand that sometimes the man isn’t the problem, it’s me and what I’ve been poisoned to think is “normal” so a healthy relationship just feels weird cause I’ve never had one till now . Just scared to lose him as I have just my kids and no family support . He is my peace and safe place and honestly it’s kinda scary lol.
lol, i love the still frame when the vid loads. i see a lot of myself in those eyes.
im proud of you for putting the work. i mashed everything up, slowly getting there.
I am a man, enjoy you’re videos very much, watch and like many of them. Thank you very much for the vulnerability and effective way that many important topics are communicated!🎉
I found your videos first and me and my partner now watch your videos together to help us both realise the others prospective from an outside pov
I've contributed to the failure of past relationships and I don't want to do that any more. Hopefully, the work I'm doing now will help ensure my next relationship lasts the rest of my life. 😊🙏🏼
I am a single man who watches your videos all the time. No one sent me anything. They naturally show up on my feed.
Lesbian here, i was raised with a very masculine worldview and these have been helpful with my relationship with myself
Thank you friend
I enjoyed the encouragement. I’m grateful for your input. I’m amazed of your willingness to….. I’m trying to figure out how to help others that are not as fortunate as to your honesty and integrity. Please find the answer to help those as you have been. I am grateful for your support. It was after all the damage. Want to protect the future.
I'm here I'm glad I found your page.
I just send them to him. We are doing pretty well but there is always room for improvement.
I did loose my relationship. I wish i found you sooner. Alot of therapy and self learning. I wish I had these tools before.
Watching your stuff I think “yeah this is all super sensible and has become really obvious over accummulated post-breakup introspections…”.
Really hope it helps save anguish in future relationships! Just wish we could actually get these in front of the *other* crowd - y’know, the ones that have their teachers really worried for the future.
I’m a single dude not trying to date and yet I still think the videos on communication are worth watching. Hell some of it applies to roommates too, not just couples
Thank you so much for this video. Your work and heart is so needed in this world.
Its really true the ones who need these videos are not the ones watching them
At this point the algorithm is telling me to be in a relationship with you or that my relationship is really bad. your videos pop up for me like 6 times a day.
Thank you. Prioritize the growth of our relationship ❤😅
If you don't think that you're like this, it can be really hard to listen to somebody telling you to change if you don't think you need to change if you don't see the errors.
Your work is really important. You are so brave. Thank you ❤
Facts. I even send him videos and that's not even a guarantee that he'll watch it.
I'm a man and I appreciate and watch this channel. 😊
You’re exactly right and this goes for any situation whether it’s between family friends or even personal growth. No one can force that desire out of you. So what fixed or changed your complacency? I’m with someone who just makes me miserable and I feel like he’s the best I can do... I have tried to constantly talk to him about my feelings.. he says all the right things with never action or follow through.. he’s mostly insulting, degrading and has backstabbed me constantly then shrugs and says idk why I do it but I love you... sometimes I feel like most would just walk away when someone is this careless towards the relationship like I don’t even know how you’d break up this complacency. Nor do I seem to understand that me staying with him is a form of accepting his bs.
I’m a man and me and boyfriend are both in an extremely healthy relationship and we do all the things you make videos on. To anyone question him, don’t. He knows what he’s talking about :)
I do. Men has to take big steps towards mental health and relationships. Especially the communication about it.
I’m watching ALL your videos. 🎉
I kinda just showed up and kept watching. I also watch Cinema Therapy, and I hope I would take all of these sources to help me in any future relationships I may have
I wish i saw his videos a couple months earlier might have saved my 4 year relationship. But maybe i also have to go through this breakup to realize and work on myself so i can do better next time
Me watching this knowing full well I haven’t spoken to a woman in three years 🤯🤯
I’m a 21 year old lifelong bachelor and I still get recommended these lol
Another husband here, pretty sure my wife hasn't seen your vids before, but i appreciate the perspective you bring.
I filter out a lot of garbage, so only good quality content comes through.
You shall pass.
However the problem I have with most relationship videos is it focuses on men being the problems and as one who has been crucified for being open and willing to talk about my issues it can very easily turn into a feeding frenzy if your partner is not willing to be equally as open and jumps on the bandwagon as you are eaten alive during therapy. So stay vigilant for both of your sakes.
Lol! I thought this was a video to help me cope with the female I'm in a relationship with.
Still great content man!
He's the male role model that all young men need.
What's interesting (and a little scary about a little scary about the algorithm) is that I don't tend to watch videos about relationships and relationship therapy, I do watch a lot of autism and ADHD helpful videos, animal memes, D&D content, etc. I'm also single. I've been working with a lot of councillors and support workers in person lately, mostly trying to deal with relationship and childhood trauma. About a week ago, I had not really a breakthrough but a "holy crap my councillor is actually right and Im as shit as I think I am" moment and had a couple of different people with different levels of mental health training all saying the same thing almost word for word and it hitting me like a mach truck each time. I think it was about 3 days after the last one that the first short for this channel showed up on my feed. Again, not the sort of therapy or advice content as a whole that would normally be on my feed, but there it was and I've been watching for a few days now. The algorithm honestly scares the crap out of me
I send them to my husband, but he just ignores them.
Nothing important to me is ever important to him, anything important to him MUST be important to me. 🦋😞💙
All the men here supporting him I am in awe and honestly it sounds surreal but ok guys you actually increased my standards
This makes a lot of sense My baby mama is a total narcissist and this is why this is popping up on my page
I could not laugh harder. It was so much funny. I love it. Did keep on keep on making videos
This describes everything I am going through except I am the man and this is happening with my significant other female. I'm probably a bit in the minority here. Being a man and it's almost like roll reversal. Where I feel like I need to be heard and always want to have conversations discussing our emotions and feelings. She runs away from that stuff as it's not natural and is foreign. Your feeds always show up on my page Because your content is exactly what I have been looking for. Thank you because now I can share this with her and learn from you.
Incredibly creepy how much this guy doesn't blink.
I'm the one who feels distance, my gf is one who doesn't think there is a problem.
I got caught up in my comfort zone, and now I'm hoping I'm not too late.
And even if it did go to his page & he watched it, he wouldn’t be able to understand it or be able to take in the message or apply the message to his life or his relationship with you. And even if you switched the roles & it was a woman who was in this position, it would be the same outcome because no matter the gender, if they can’t comprehend the meaning/message, they won’t understand it or make any changes to their behavior, and the relationship won’t change. And there’s no hope for the relationship until both parties are on the same page and are willing to talk and listen to each other. And that’s what’s so heartbreaking for both parties. One side can expound in detail exactly what happened, and the other has absolutely no clue & was completely shocked.
I new to your channel & love your videos! They allow us to work together to see where both of us can improve. Anytime I see a video of yours that could help us, I share it with him in person and say, " I think we both could be better at this." Relationships are a team exercise. Both parties must work together...Team work makes the dream work!
My husband and I are blessed with a great relationship, but even we struggle with communication sometimes.
For example:
He'll get defensive from a question like... "Are the dishes in the dishwasher clean or dirty," and I'll have to assure him I'm not getting on to him, I just need to know so I can finish our combined tasks. (We thought about getting the magnet, but we both thought we'd forget to use it.😂)
I think the reason he gets defensive is because he feels guilty for not completing the entire task, but I'm good and just need information to continue.
Do you have any advice?
You can start the convo or question with an affirmation like “thanks for putting the dishes away and may ask are they dirty or clean so i can put them away or finish this task”, key here is using and instead but because we all have a negative connotation towards it and usually it means punishment for us, otherwise just saying thank you more often helps a lot (for both sides), it makes us seen and like the other one notices
Yeah, I would send this to the people who need it if only they understood English. Cuz when I try to do this speech I'm suddenly too cute and can be hurtful and need to look out for what I say.
I love your videos and I watch them all the time. Even around my husband and 💯 right. I would have this video playing, while I'm sitting right next to him, all the way up and he won't hear a word. I know cause I've tried and nothing is taken from it.
34 year old guy here. Love the vids
Right on. brother!
I’m not a husband. But I am a boyfriend. I want to go into a marriage with her and I want to be the best man I can be for her. I’ve watched many of your videos and I will do my best to implement every lesson learned
Yeah. Whrn I subbed, I hoped that my boyfriend of 11 years would see some of these videos on the communal living room computer that's signed into my YT Premium account.. but I know he doesn't usually watch most of the things I like to watch on UA-cam and checks out or gets critical when I put them on myself and he's in the room
I was born male, haven't changed that, and have been single für quite a while now, but would like to change that. Given some of the other channels I watch (Anna Akana, Psych2Go, Cinema Therapy) I have no reason to question to question why yours showed up. I think it's high time I subscribe too cause bloody hell don't you have good advice.
Hard truth!
I love your page!
As a 17 year old male who hasnt been in a real relationship hes absolutely right
Imperfect boyfriend here, it landed on my page. I'm trying to learn now 😅
Great Advice!!!!
That's very sad that "it's a desire problem." People don't feel like putting in the work. The alternative, is much worse.
Well this shows up on my page.. but yeah, i have a desire to grow and build even healthier relationships
I'm a single guy, relationship maxximg
For the first time I am hearing what LOVE should look like.
Never tasted Love from parents or in-laws or many friends or spouse.
Unfortunately all were NPD.
Rebirthing my life into the non NPD world and it feels confusing.
Bro I am not even in a relationship (I am 16 lol so that's not gonna happen anytime soon anyway😂😂😂) but my shorts have been filled with his videos and boy have I tried to swipe away but the algorithm just wants me to 'learn how to be in a relationship'😂😂😂
That’s funny, in spite of me adamantly rejecting thousands of tiny house videos, after three years the Overlords are still insisting on sending me more.
YT only recommended me your videos after i broke up
if they don't support best to walk away from someone not willing to grow
No, trust me, I watch it 😂
Sadly it's not all about, man bad needs to change. I'm not gonna lie, some of the things Jimmy says a man should be doing I am guilty of not doing. I'm the one that works in my home. My husband stays home with the kiddo. He is disabled and has had multiple back surgeries and isn't able to do much most days. I feel like I'm carrying the weight of the world. I could do all the dishes and they could be dry and sitting in the dish strainer ready to be put away and they will be there still when I get home. Smh, we r both the problem. He is constantly asking me if there is anything I want him to do while I'm gone and I want to blow a gasket! But in the same aspect I don't prioritize our marriage because I feel like I have so much on my plate and no help. In most cases, it's a both parties problem
Me, a single man watching these videos trying to salvage my future marriage
Understood.
Im gonna suscribe to this channel in his phone 😆 🤫
As a 26 year old dude watching and recently found your videos. You hit these right on the head. I can’t tell you how many older men tell me don’t get married or don’t have kids.
I still have hope and look forward to having a family of my own one day and I just want to be a good partner. Keep doing what you’re doing! Makes me think about how I communicate a lot more.
That's sad.
The woman of your dreams is out there...just be patient.
The sad truth is most of those men fell into this pattern of behavior and probably don't even realize how they and their partners are contributing to the death of their marriages. Don't get discouraged, you aren't those people. You're here and trying to be a good human who can find their match in another good human.
Hey there, my awesome friends! I hope you're all doing well and enjoying life. Just wanted to take a moment to say hello and remind you all how much I appreciate having you in my life. Let's keep making amazing memories together!
I agree!
I am a young woman of 26 and I've heard the same thing many times. Yet seeing there are people like you warms my heart. I congratulate you on your hope and encourage you to keep it alive!! There are many wonderful glorious beautiful people in the world and I hope when you get the opportunity to, you apply all the love and selfless kind and gentle consideration you can!! Bravo and God bless you dear Wolverine.
@TheWolvirine25, you are why I have hope for the younger generation and the cycle breakers. Ignore those old men. You want quality, go for it. You will get quality. Just know those old men wake up miserable everyday and don't care about you, they want you as miserable as they are. Good on you for ignoring them.