6 Habits that Can Make People Dislike You
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- Опубліковано 8 тра 2024
- So, what are the most annoying habits others have that ticks you off? Whether you like it or not, there are also things that you do that make people dislike you. The problem is that we aren’t always aware of the things that we do that make people dislike us. See if you can spot your behavior on the list we provided in this video. Psych2Go presents to you, 10 habits that make people dislike you.
#annoyinghabits #badhabits
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What are some of your bad habits that you want to get rid of? Comment below. My is sleeping really at abnormal times.
Going On My Phone To Much
Sleeping at abnormal times.
Sometimes sleeping not at all.
Sometimes sleeping all the time.
Overeating
No idea. I'd love to get out of the house more and interact with people, but I don't have the means to do so, and I'm socially awkward/anxious.
agreeing with everything even if i don't agree with some people
my conclusion to this: people are too picky and too judgemental
💯👍💖
Yes.
Exactly
Whomever these other people are, they have established a pattern, if I am to survive here, best to figure it out and be swift and discrete. I don't like it any more than you do, Believe me.
Yup
I've met people who disliked me and avoided me only because I was "too quiet" and that apparently "annoyed" them. 😑
Chaotic Improviser Same here 😞
you're annoying when you talk, annoying when you don't. Can't fucking win
Some people take silence as an insult when you’re just minding your own business
Dude, sorry but if they called you too quiet then that most likely means they were trying to start a conversation with you. They took the time to get to know you and you most likely didn't seem interested or just didn't want to. See how rude that can seem? Like,
"hey how are you!"
"Good."
"...oh ok, I'm glad, so what did you do today?"
"Homework, watched some t.v."
"Oh ok..."
"..."
*awkward silence*
That person gets the memo that you don't like them so they never approach you again. Since you're quiet and never made an effort to strike up a conversation with them after that encounter, that left them feeling like they were the annoying ones, they resent you after that because humans are dumb and we only like people that like us back.
Just like my teacher lol
I don't wanna live in a world where being "too nice" makes you unattractive.
Me either.
i lost so many people because too nice, i can see the interest vanish and me became boring until i really means nothing ngl
@@MarvoldX same, I was treated like I never existed using jokes to cheer myself up. Glad I'm not alone!
same…
SOOO FR
I'm one of those "quiet kids" that never changes their facial expression, never talks, etc. People at my school are so judgmental and get irritated by the littlest things so easily, even when I've done nothing wrong, to the point where they take pictures of me and my "unexpressive face" (which i developed due to personal trauma) and then look at them and laugh about it. Some people also throw things at me to try to get me to say something or even so much as raise an eyebrow. They add to the issues, really.
That’s awful.
You have my condolences.
Same
Bro same, the majority of the time i have an unexpresive face, but the weirdos end up bullyng me saying that i look like an npc
i'm quiet, my face is almost expressionless, i'm "the smarttest of the class" and i'm related to some teachers so you should know where I'm going.
They told me that they were my friends and cared forme, but behind my back they sabotaged my school life and used me for their own benefit.
I was sad everyday about that and even went to the psychologist, but now I really think they envied me. I mean, I literally didn't anything bad to them to hate me, all I did was help them and be a good friend.
Same except I get teased about being too tomboyish 😢
Me: does nothing
My brain: they hate you
Ifeel you. It happends to me offten but i ignore my brain and encouraging myself.
Very relatable tbh.....
Me: Gives weak-ass handshake
People: “...”
Me: Gives a STRONG handshake
People: “Jerk”
.....
Me: does something
My Brain: Now they hate you even more
Did you know doing nothing is offensive too?
people: be yourself
me: *actually being myself
people: i hate u
I feel this.
Sadly true
Omg 💯
I dont hate you, and not everyone is this way. You are amazing, be yourself because people do love and care about you. Some people just what you to be 'perfect' when everyone has their flaws, most people are jealous on how others can express their feelings when they feel they can't do it themselves so they feel as though people should know how they feel, this is usually how bullying happens, which can lead to self harm and further down the line, suicide. People dont realise these things until it's too late.. so be yourself and love yourself whatever the odds. I hope you have a great day/night, love ya
@@xxjessicaxx1755 0_0 he is a stranger
Time lines
Acting to nice. 0:57
Asking to many questions. 1:32
Dropping a personal bomb 2:08
You often hide your emotions 2:49
Acting like you don’t like someone 3:31
Giving a weak handshake 4:02
Thank you for reading I hope you have a good day / night :)
Thank you!
Some people don’t know how to spell “too”.
That's sweet💗
Thank you
7. Spellchecking a person's posts. 😆
I get told by people that I'm too nice or too polite too many times that now hearing those words, even as compliments, feels off putting, which makes me sad because there are values I'd like to uphold and being nice is something I personally see as a core value. People questioning that value in me make me question myself in a way. It's weird how people can feel so hostile towards something like this.
Its not u. Its them. Keep up ur thing bro.Ppl r weird these days, they r irritated by anything and everything,kinda judgemental as well.Being nice and sweet is ur superpower and u own it. NEVER EVER FEEL ASHAMED OF IT. VERY PROUD OF U, BEING NICE AND CARING, DONT STOP. VERY PROUD OF YA!!!!!
~A RANDOM STRANGER ON THE INTERNET 🤪
You know when people like you?
When they need you.
Yeah
yasss most underrated comment
Doesn't mean its wrong. Chances are you do that too
When they want you use you for their own gain
Bruh who hurt u
Repeat and understand as needed: You can’t please everyone.
*"You can't please anyone"*
I got u to 100 likes
Thank me later
And you don’t need to.
understood that the hard way but thank you for reminding me
It was exactly 900 likes when I got here :P
I dislike people who have verbal diarrhea. They talk over you. They never ask how you or your family are doing. It’s all about them.
I have that and trust me it's hard to control and i dislike myself for it too
@@lyn-oc1ik same
I fn h8 disruptive ppl. Well more like my hubby and his fam. You should hear them get together. It's like lawd, I swear it's like a whole entire army off a.d.d. ers. Everybody's getting cut off and No one's listening! & im not even trying to be funny. The great gma, Idk if word got around ... & this is her trying but she's like if you can get the worm out, tell my daughter I think I have it... like 😑. Right bc these ppl def listen to me... to begin with.. they r all the worst w/ planning, time, being of their word, & throwing in unnecessary bs into the mix. Or throwing u off ur ish. But I dont have these same problems so it's kind of hard to truly understand. They're like what's his face? The law & order guy. Well, his daughter & mom doing looney things. They have that type energy. I'm really not saying things out of spite but I'll be feeling kind of dumb founded at a lost for words... & I def usually want to run my mouths to them. But other xs when I'm like f wasting energy, it's just like 😦 uh, your obliviousnessness is like straight up bizarre. I told my hubby today he's so stupid he's like beyond comprehensible. His brain prob really does look like spongebob. Holy, & not that kind either. Although now I feel even a little more guilty or think way too much if other ppl disrupt me or I do it back. Bc I'll be thinking maybe somexs I sound angry. I don't mean to but it's triggering 🙄
I just dumped a guy because of this. He would not just shut up. Every time we were together it was an onslaught of verbal diarrhea. If I'd try to get a word in he'd interrupt or talk over me. If I changed the subject he'd change it back. And don't get me started on whenever I had the "audacity" of not agreeing with him or his opinion. I brought this to his attention twice and he refused to acknowledge it (even though he told me that others have told him the exact same thing, but according to him, they were "envious"). So one evening we were having a beer and he was on one of his word vomit spells, and something snapped. I got up, told him to f himself and left. That was over a month ago and I refuse to speak to him again.
what i learned throughout my life: If your personality/attitude is very different from a group of ppl youre with, 99% youre definitely gonna get hated no matter what you do.
Also if your hobbies and stuff you like is at the different ends compared to them this will happen too. You will be the 'awkward' person in the group and when you try too hard on a wrong direction its gonna make you look annoying.
To find out whether you need to change certain bad habit that makes ppl feel uncomfortable or just being with a wrong group of ppl, you just need to think about all the people youve met. Were they perfectly fine with you? Or somehow there are more ppl who dislike you than ppl who dont? Because I've seen ppl with terrible attitude blamed others for distancing themselves, and also ppl who just happen to be in a wrong group.
Btw what i meant by terrible attitude isnt just rude or whatnot. It could be bad habits listed in this video, or stuff like: couldnt read the room at all, no knowledge in other ppl's emotional privacy, too self centered in a topic when chatting etc.
Took me years to find out there are so many stuff that will make ppl uncomfortable and therefore dislikes you. No one ever teaches you how to be likeable, or at least dont annoy ppl unintentionally. Because its a natural thing ppl does without effort, but Im still learning after 8 years since i got bullied. To me, the saying of 'you cant please everyone' 'just be yourself' 'why care about others' opinion about you' only applies to ppl who dont have social issues and just purely met the wrong people.
I also have this weird trait where I chuckle when I feel third hand embarassment in real life. Long story short this definitely cause misunderstandings and made my life harsher.
1. Acting too nice
alright, well there's goes my personality
Me too😭
Same TwT
Acting too nice, and keeping my emotions hidden is literally my whole life. Who am I supposed to talk to about private things??? Definitely not family, cause of family problems.
@@aquivalry4100 I'm so sorry to hear that, but there are people who can help or meet new people it might help.
Just be yourself! I'm also that type of person, some times I act like a different person just to be liked. Why should we hide our personality? We won't be liked by everyone and that's okay, sometimes we need to look carefully to see that there are people that love us just the way we are and we don't notice. You are perfect the way you are😊
1. Acting too nice
2. Asking too many questions
3. Dropping a personal bond
4. You often hide your emotions
5. Acting like you dont like someone
6. Giving a weak handshake
No need to thank me lol
Thank you.....although I should not have said that ...cause it makes me look too nice . Ooops
Lol give me robux noob
Thanks
I'm nice and pleasant, smiling and helping everyone , even though I can be screaming and very unhappy inside.
People would never know how I'm really feeling.
I hate that I would sometimes do this to please others to stop them disliking me....
But alot of times they dont realise. So part of the video is questioning...
People actually love people pleasers
Fredee Moon i ask too many questions, trust me. You don’t wanna talk with me if you hate curious people
Every time you try to do something different people judge you for that "new" you. What a lovely world huh? 💔🥺☺️
Don't worry about them
That's why you gotta be yourself and don't pay too much mind on people and things that aren't worth your time
If somebody doesn't like you ,so what? Not everyone likes everyone and that's completely normal
If you try to please everyone you won't be happy ,you will exhaust yourself and there will always be that somebody who won't approve of you or something you are doing .
Know what you mean. But generally if you just try to be respectful and mindful of where they are in life and treat them how you'd want to be treated they'll come around and accept whatever changes.
My bad habits that I may want to get rid of are being too nice, asking too much questions, dropping a personal bomb and that is that.
Me: *gives weak handshake*
Other person : so you have chosen *DEATH*
I dont like the new hand shake
I'm 11
What is wrong with you? I hate weak handshakes
@Cindi Thomas that’s just sad
Cake for me thanks
Me: exists
Ppl: a billion miles on one breath. Not even a moment long enough to blink
Society: be yourself
Me: being myself
Society: not like that
And who is society to tell me how to act or feel ,IM HUMAN TOO NOT A ROBOT ,i can only act like myself ,i don't say they have to like me but i won't let them harm me in any way because i will fight back! I won't let them change me ! I like me for me and that's the most important thing for me.I don't care about their opinion cuz they are no one.
Don’t care about them. There are so many people on the planet that WILL like who you are
@@white_sakura846 Yes queen,stay strong!!😆😙🥰
xXLazy PancakeXx We need more people like you, I honestly don’t care about what other people think anymore. Never give up on yourself and who you are.
Society: be yourself
Me: ok (proceeds to hide bodies)
Society: I-
Nobody is perfect, let people talk about you. They’re just jealous that they can’t be like you. You are awesome the way you are, because we are all unique
Doesn’t matter what you do in life…you could be the chillest most honest hard working person and someone will just hate you for it…no reason because they just like to hate
Then the hater goes to a group to vent, and that group sides with them…who cares?
Be yourself because what others think of you…doesn’t define you
What the title says: "6 Habits that Can Make People Dislike You"
What I see: "6 Ways People are Judgemental AF"
This says it all, lmao.
@Ethan the Evil Fecker well, ok. *unzips pants*
@Ethan the Evil Fecker so...wanna take this out back or..
Yup :)
True!
Me: Talks about my feelings
People: Don't do that
Me: Bottle my sentiments
People: *Don't do that*
And I'm like, "Which is it? Talk about it or not? Make up your fucking mind."
@@ToonMageChannel talk some thing in common with others without be so talkative. If they gave some interest, keep on. when that person knows you more, open your feelings, because you trust that person. If the other thing wont work, then dont open it, they will feel wierd and ignore you... i think this the way to do or not to do
@@jordano.6075 Thanks for the advice. I'll try doing that.
@@ToonMageChannel its ok, its all about pacing at what to talk and when to feel close for a more emotional opening. Close your feelings when they not show any care to you
Renu 0730 it’s why I’m a social recluse.
0:57-Acting too nice
1:30-Asking too much questions especially when you are the only one asking questions
2:07-Dropping Personal Bombs Very Early
2:48-Hiding Your Emotions-Instead understand them and then clearly explain them
3:31-Acting you don't like Someone:Reciprocity of life that is if you act like you like someone then they will probably like you
4:15-Don't have weak handshake
I am sick and tired of trying so hard to change myself, my habits, etc to make people like. Then I think "just be yourself." But turns out people don't like the real me. What am I doing wrong? I literally joined a new school in September 2022 and it was going good for 1 month and a half. It's not the worst experience but it's got to the point where people that don't even know me have the odacity to make fun of me and I only look forward to seeing my favourite teacher. So I simply don't talk to people unless they come to me.
Still be yourself. If you’d rather being fake, then fine, but I’m sure that you’d feel much better being yourself. If people don’t like you for who YOU are, that’s their problem. Not yours. Like a cartoon said, “I’d rather be me, not who I pretend to be. “ - Star the forces of evil
@@lastingblueberry2649 I think we all inherently want to belong, so where's the middle ground of trying to have people accept you and being yourself
@Just Cas
I totally get you. I entered HS excited ( but of course nervous 😅). Everything was good for the first few months. People came up to me, I made new ‘friends’ and i made myself friends with the teacher. Now I am ignored ( but people still stare at me and a bunch of boys have a crush on me 😂) and I even see people that I knew since childhood and they don’t really like me no matter how many times they try to hide it… I noticed it. The only ‘real’ friendships I have are from back in 8th grade. They too are going there own ways. I have even gotten to overthink if I am ok and if I’m doing something wrong. Till later on I learned that it was because I was really being who I am . I am an SDA Christian and a daughter of God. Ever since people found out that I was a Christian they all have dispersed and it’s kinda awful to see as a girl who was used to big groups. Don’t get me wrong I wasn’t being annoying or anything. I am a huge social butterfly. I need to interact with someone everyday. But I have done what you said… only talk with others when they talk to you. It’s really hard though since at this age of life one typically cares about what others think and always wants to impress😅. But I definitely relate to you Siss. Remember that u are Loved and that you not alone ❤ God is With Us!
I feel the same, I just can’t understand people and it’s usually hard not to hate them and myself, when I was younger they liked me for who I was but I don’t know what happened and after that almost no one talked to me, today I have no friends (like yes, some people “accept” me and we text once a month or so but that far from a friend), I just talk with my sisters. I wouldn’t be able to live without them. I’m so lonely, but I just can’t trust people and no one wants to talk to me for who I’m neither for who I try to be.
“Stop being shy. You need to talk or go out more.”
“You talk too much.”
“You need to lose weight.”
“You’re such a good friend who understands me.”
BRUH, LIFE JUST DOESN’T MAKE SENSE NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY OR DO.
I am in the middle of talking to much and being shy help
LOL you just sayed it all
I feel useless
Just a Birb me too
First part describes an introvert perfectly. They tend to keep to themselves and are usually shy, but when they find something in common or want to get something off their shoulder they'll be having a long conversation... I'm an introvert who's extremely shy, but when I trust someone that's my friend I'll have deep conversations with them, short conversations are awkward.
no matter what we do, we will always be the villain in someone’s story
im the villain in a 20 person's story. Im nice. Im not. I talk ab my self. I dont. I talk ab them. I dont. I stop talking. I talk.
THEY DONT LIKE ANYTHING
But, being the villain is more fun and less boring. Also, you can gaslight by saying that you are doing this bad stuff for the greater good, using advertisements for your propaganda to make your goals acceptable.
@@MetalSStar196 This is the worst phrase I've ever seen in my life
@@horudapuresu2603 Welcome to the real world.
@@MetalSStar196 that isn't the real world, that's just promoting manipulation u donut
I remember my childhood “bully”, who now somehow resurfaced as a toxic friend, openly admitting to everyone she didn’t like me because I was “too nice”. She said shit behind my back because apparently I was “sensitive” “clingy” and “annoying” :( But, I’ve met so many sweet people, and so many of them have complimented me on how kind they are!! Not to brag or anything, but I’ve even been called an angel a few times >< I couldn’t be happier!! I even have a girlfriend now who says I’m an amazing person, even though I constantly disagree with them- ^^”
The point of the story is, while being “too nice” may be a “problem” for some, many people adore and appreciate it, so always go out of your way to be kind to others! You never know what someone is going through and it could always really help :D
1. Acting too nice
2. Asking too many questions
3. Dropping a personal bomb
4. You often hide your emotions
5. Acting like you don't like someone
6. Giving a weak handshake
BUT THERE IS THIS GAME IN CLASS WE PLAY WHERE THE MURDERER GIVES A STRONG HANDSHAKE AND THE REST GIVES A WEAK ONE, IF YOU GIVE A HANDSHAKE WITH T HE MURDERER U DIE. im never the murderer, in the game.
Having a weak handshake could sometimes be due to injuries or health issues, such as arthritis.
THANK YOUUU THEY TALK SO MUCH IN THE VIDEO AND NEVER GET STRAIGHT TO THE POINT
@@kpopclown8538 what does that have to do with this no offense
@@030wh
The user name of the one who commented this is a moa but i just delete it bcs it's unnecessary
Feel like they should have added “being too bossy”
Ariel Boggs you can start the lists of more
Acting smart when obviously they aren't 🙃
Talking way too much
Extreme selfishness
Cockiness
Not being able to read social cues is a big one. If someone sends body language signal to leave them alone, ignoring it and invading their personal space is a guaranteed way to make them dislike you. Also observing social conventions like greeting a friend when you see them on the street, or offering to get them something if they bump into you in a line at a restaurant or coffee shop goes a long way to making people like you. Ignoring these could be seen as a sign you don't care for the other person or don't see them as deserving of kindness or respect.
I really like these videos. They speak to my level. Simple, concise, and short. Here's my problem. I've been fortunate to have experienced many things in this life that most people have not. So, naturally, I know a lot about many subjects. This is not to brag, it's just the way it is. So, when somebody else is talking about one of these subjects, without realizing it at the time, I tend to one-up what the person is saying. I think of it as just connecting with the person, but it actually makes me seem like a know-it-all. My mother used to say that I have eye (I) problems. I'm always saying I, I, I. I did the same thing, and here's my experience. Too much about me and not enough about the other. Good call, Psych2Go, you nailed it. Thanx.
Honestly if a person reacts to my niceness with the thought "jeez, they're so nice they make me look like a jerk", then odds are, they ARE a jerk and I don't want anything to do with them anyway. That's such a weird reason to not like someone.
Ikr? Like, they need to stop complaining about your niceness! I feel the same way, btw.
thank you for taking the words out..this is exactly how i feel
A friend and I were just discussing the other day about our nice classmate. We have a strong fondness for her. I think in that case it’s either people being jerks and feeling guilty, or they’re paranoid.
When people are *too nice* you just sound like you’re trying too hard.
Geonic Publico well most people feel unsettled by some trying hard to get someone to like them because they question why they would want something like that so bad in the first place or that they might have some underlying motive similarly another reason is that they think all their kindnesses in general is isn’t genuine and they’re trying to get something out of them or get them to do something they normally wouldn’t do for someone they didn’t know very well
“Dropping the personal bomb” *pfffft shh bs* * sweats nervously *
Are you.... role playing right now?
once I slept with twelve different g- oh OH shit sorry man-
Did I tell you about that one time that's gross and you really dont want to know about? Ok! Here you go!
Did I tell you already about my love life and the weirdest and the most disgusting things about me?
@@JesusChrist-mu3lr no Jesus tell me
I had a colleague who always thought she knew everything about any topic that was discussed, always cut us off, talked loudly, didn’t want to listen and then continued an endless talk until one of us had to make an excuse and leave.
I always end the "relationship" if someone stirbs me in a deeper conversation (I end with the person I've been takling to). I can not get over it as I see the relationship as not blessed by Heaven. Thank You!!
Wow, sad living in a world where being "too nice" is a negative
Its a harsh world ;-;
Maybe Mars will be better
What’s extremely sad about it is the reason it’s disliked.
Others feel like you’re not being real.
Others feel like they’re not as nice as you are and hate the comparison.
Others feel like you have ulterior reasons for being nice.
Essentially; they don’t trust you or they hate you for being nice.
THAT’s how F’d up society is.
People who are "too nice" are usually not being genuine. They want something from you. Too nice is another way of saying fake. They are not showing you their true self. Nobody is nice 24/7.
Yep
So, that's why everyone in class bullied me for being too nice. What a wonderful world we live in!
Ha! got written up for being too polite to customers. supervisor told me i was weird for being respectful, etc.what a bizarre world. I blame my Mom.
Same:(
Hahaha true
teheheheh! I get bullied for being nice to other people 😄
I’m so sorry 🥺
This video was so helpful, I felt like I am a type of person who gets isolated and disliked by other people a lot in school!💔It caused me to hate myself a lot, cried a lot, even slapped and scratched myself as hard as I could for self-harm...💔I always want to live my life happier and healthier, but there's no way that I could!!! 😭
i shouldn't have to change the good things about myself because it makes others feel bad about themselves. that's them being narcissistic. people should cherish others for the values they lack and want to learn them, not resent them. the world is full of jerks and i wouldn't want to become one of them simply for their validation.
Who cares? People will dislike you one way or the other.
Yoh Voys yeahhh
"You can't please everyone" :P
Yes exactly!!!
Factssss
Life facts 👌
kind people : *breathe*
everyone : *imma end that person's whole career*
mean people : *breathe*
everyone : *a-*
That's because it's a command and it's basically implying that you think you need to tell someone how to behave. It's rude and patronizing- unless you're their Yoga teacher
@@RachelBlomstrom it was meant
Kind person: *breathes*
You libtard
Don't worry I understand you misunderstood it's oke
kind people: *wait, thats not how you play the game*
@@emanueleragno5616 I knew what you meant, but you're wrong. The English language has something called imperatives. That's what you said. "Breathe" = "You breathe" It's a command. No one when upset appreciates being given commands to breathe. It's rude. And "libtard?" Sick burn, bruh.
@@emanueleragno5616 This is an excellent example of why people dislike you.
Wow very eye-opening, especially for those of us who are known as the “nice” people.
And for those who overshare intimate details of themselves too soon, I believe also applies to those who wear these details on t-shirts, bumper stickers, etc.
I recently found out that two of my friends hate me so I tried to find out if it was anything I did or said. I know that this video is not anything serious, but it really helped me! Thank u!
I feel like this is directed at me
😂😂😭😭
Maybe all of us watching this :P If you have no bad habits, you are probably not human Oo
@@Psych2go wow that was surprisingly calming
The snekspeare Your profile picture is a gift to this world
The snekspeare hahaha
My list of the 6 things that can make people dislike you:
- *Bragging* about what you have/do/accomplish
- *Complaining* constantly
- *Being too egocentric* and not giving value to other people.
- *Talking negatively* about others in their backs
- *Being aggressive*
- *Talking too much* and not letting other people speak.
Those are straight out toxic behavior.
This is better than the video.
The last one can be misunderstood,
@@doofenn Maybe, but what I mean is that we should learn when to talk and when to listen. I have met so many people who talk constantly and don't really create a space for you to speak. Usually they are people with (too much) energy and they are draining. They also usually stand very close to you and whenever you try to end the conversation they find new things to say just to keep you there so that they can absorb all your energy lol
@Leilanie Salmeron Well I think being angry is a waste of energy. If somebody wanted to pick a fight with me I would gently deny the request. I don't believe we should give other people the right to piss us off.
I'm overall a very quiet and reserved person, and that's because I'm an introvert with social anxiety. It's not easy for me to speak with people, especially strangers. I only have 1-2 friends, and it's difficult to make new ones. When people speak to me, I completely shut down and don't know what to say. When I do talk, I have difficulty with forming proper sentences so they come out in a stutter and that makes me insecure. In the beginning of the year, my classmates talked to me often because they wanted to get to know me. Me being myself, I was very very nervous and I just answered to their questions. I never asked any questions myself, because on top of this social anxiety I'm also a very very awkward person. Now nobody in my class really speaks to me and to be honest I like that. It does get a bit annoying, but I like it when people leave me alone. Even if they dislike me.
It's quite sad when you think about. I personally am also a too nice person and sometimes I feel like no ones taking me seriously. I'm glad there are other people like me suffering from this.
If you do read this, I only wish you the best and stay strong.
my wish would be to meet all the people that you are talking about, i'm sure that it could prove that you act different than the majority while still being acceptd by peoples around the world
You forgot to add "simply exisiting" and "trying to avoid being gaslit" as points.
PeninsulaCity2024 so true
well hey if you dont like me fcuk you!
If someone doesn’t like you because you are “too nice” and “make them look bad” honestly, I think it’s that person that has the issue, not you.
Edit: Thanks for 1k likes!🤭💗
im always nice to everybody. but there is one girl that kinda hates me for possibly being too nice. idk but her problem, not mine
Agreed
Right on.
Snoi Med I mean, it’s obviously gonna be seen as strange if you are being creepily nice, but if someone doesn’t want you to be nice ‘cause they don’t wanna look bad, then it’s their problem.
if you're too nice you come across as fake and it's a massive red flag. being too nice means that you're hiding your true emotions. people hate that. they hate how nice some people are. if you're super friendly to EVERYONE, people will question the legitimacy of you and your "nice" attitude.
I'm gonna do all of these to be as annoying as possible 😌
🤣🤣😂😂😂 same
Such a successful person you are 😂
@@ravend5006 yes I actually am a successful person and actually I'm am doing well in in case you wanted to use that as a insult dumbass
@@marysanders123 why would I get this as an insult it's an insult to the word successful that you said it from your mouth 😊
XD
Best advice I ever got, be genuine and be yourself. Not everyone is going to like you, get over it and accept that’s just the way it is.😊
I hope people don’t take this too seriously, almost everyone does this, it doesn’t mean you cannot be liked.
The video never said you cannot be liked.
It's only studies, not everyond would believe this and that, it's probably better to just be yourself, but if your insecure like self_ said, then you can do these if you want to, but in my opinion its better just being yourself, but try balancing things
Yeah..many people are like this, and they can end up being the best people ever. If it really bugs someone, they should just politely let them know and ask if they can stop or save it for a more appropriate time.
It depends on how extreme the behavior is tho
I ask ppl about their family sometimes. To an extent... I want ppl to wear their heart on their sleeves. While I only give a brief summary.
*_"Oh, that explains everything"_*
F
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F. me too
*explains everything in my life*
@@yuephoria1583 Same here!
This Chanel had helped me so much! Thank you!
I love this channel! This is a good channel.
I never understood the first one!
Being nice?
Being too nice?
Why?
I heard this my entire life! Yet I was taught to be nice to everyone and to treat people the way I want to be treated!
After fifty years all I have learned is those who are unavailable, rude , mean and standoffish are the most popular and sought after by others.
Sad really
Can't we all just be ourselves? My do we always need labels?
"IN THE END THEY'RE GONNA JUDGE ME,SO WHAT EVER"
-MIN YOONGI
@Prapti Azim yaa 💜💜
Army 💜
@@SANTRA__ 💜💜
@@Saymyname8-1 Now a days Army's are everywhere 😁💜
@@SANTRA__ yeah 😉💜
“Hide your emotions”
Bruh, i Hide my emotions because I’m scared of “your over reacting” “ugh stop being a baby”
I feel you -_-
Yepyep
It's truly confusing, I feel ya
It's funny, because guys hide their emotions all the time. Never get disliked by that. But if girls do it, "Oh yous a bitch.". Huh?
*im the 70th like*
Thanks for explaining this out to me and everyone ,I didn't fully know if some things were agitating my old man (hubby) and yep they were so cheers and g'day from Tasmania
Thanky for your advice❤
"You're so quiet"
Me: *Talks*
"You talk to much"
Me: *Silent*
"You're so quiet"
Me: *i-*
I love you blink,be who you are and don’t listen to others💜
EXACTLY
Gurl same
ky kai das wen we say 𝕚𝕥 𝕚𝕫𝕫 𝕨𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕚𝕥 𝕚𝕫𝕫𝕫
Same..makes me want to shut my mouth forever
Gist:
1. You're acting too nice
2. Asking too many questions
3. Dropping a personal bomb
4. You often hide your emotions
5. Acting like you don't like someone
6. Giving a weak handshake
1. If they're the type that don't like people for being too nice then that just means they're probably not that nice themselves. People get annoyed with others who have qualities that they can't achieve themselves.
2. If they're the type that don't like questions being asked than that just means they got things to hide and that there is not much Integrity to fall back on.
3. I hate Small Talk. They can't handle it, personal bomb, then they're probably just too over-sensitive. So need some soothing emotionally before getting down deep.
4. Pointless to judge somebody and not like them because of that. People hide their emotions because they usually have gone through difficult upbringings that promote them to want to protect themselves.
5. There are some people that take life too seriously. And as much as they would want to be laid-back and funny it is not in their nature. So that doesnt mean that they necessarily hate you.
6. Talk about a pointless mind settings. The only reason a person would think that is because of the stereotype of men having to give strong grips to show their masculinity. Honestly one should refrain from doing such a judgment.
1. It's true that some people who are too nice, do that to hide some darker behaviors and the fact they have second intentions. But that's a quite different thing. Sometimes, people who are too nice, are like this because that's who they are and they don't know any other reality, and sometimes upbringing tends to play an influential role in people's behavior, and too-nice-people aren't the exception to this. So if anyone doesn't like a "too nice" person, well, that's on them, and possibly those people dislike nice ones out of envy, because they're not nice themselves. Society tends to celebrate rude and nasty behaviors, reason why niceness is really frowned upon. I think people need some time to know better somebody else before jumping to conclusions, because you never end to know somebody else. If you ask me, I'd rather meet nice people than meeting people who are anything but that. Judgement is why people who were too nice, get tired of being too nice, because they're being misunderstood for it and they take advantage of their kindness, or maybe because people are really ungrateful and doesn't know how to appreciate it.
2. In this one, I agree. It's really annoying when somebody asks too much, it kinda feels like you're interrogated by an FBI agent haha. I'm not saying that it is wrong to ask, it's not, because that shows interest about something or someone, and also it is good to ask to learn how to proceed in any situation before jumping to impulses. I think what IS wrong is when people ask you so many questions, especially if it is personal questions or things that they're not ready to talk about, and because there are some things that we rather keep privately, and it's like "Dude, wait! What are you? A cop or what?". And I think it's also wrong when somebody dislikes to be asked questions (even if it's only ONE question), either because they have poor social skills, or either because those people have something to hide and lack any kind of moral/ethic integrity. And I also think that you're allowed to ask questions but you must also talk about yourself, it's not fair that someone has to tell you things, but the other doesn't put any effort in allowing people to be met, and it also has to be reciprocrate in the other side.
3. I agree in not to drop a very personal bomb with people you just met, you can save them for another time when you trust each other a little more. But I also think that if the other person is talking about something related about your personal bomb without you saying anything before, it's not innapropiate to drop it. But let's be honest, there are some people who are overly-sensitive to handle a "personal bomb", and out of ignorance and lack of informations, they flee. For example, if you go out with somebody and suggests eating pizza, and you're celiac or have some lactose-intolerance or you're vegan, are you gonna keep it to yourself in order to impress others and neglecting your own personal health? Like seriously, c'mon!
4. Hiding your emotions, doesn't necessarily mean you're bad or unlikable. There's tons of reasons why people do it. Maybe it could be the upbringing, maybe they were bullied in their childhood or teens, maybe they went through something that made them so vulnerable they decided to build a shell on them and they don't express their emotions because that would make them "weaker". That's why I rather not judge without knowing their past and what they've been through. But let's also add 2 more IMPORTANT reasons why people hide their emotions.
First is sexism. Men are socially conditioned to be emotionally unbreakable, because men who show their emotions and speak openly about it, are prone to suffer from unempathetic, sexist and homophobic comments for it, and are perceived as "weak", and are told to "Man up" and that "boys don't cry" and "Men don't cry". That's why many men resort to humor and comedy to express themselves and to cope with their emotions or dark things, or lie about their emotions and tries to hide them. Let's not also forget that "male tears"-meme some women use to downplay and mocking any kind of expression from men, especially when we say something they don't agree with. While a woman is allowed to cry and she express her feelings and people around them show some sympathy towards her, a man's feelings are completely disregarded and he's unable to show it without his gender, manliness or sexuality being questioned or without being victims of the "male tears"-meme, and only a few people are willing to accept that regardless of our genders, we're all human. But that doesn't mean women can't be stigmatized for expressing their feelings, some of them are stigmatized, I'm just saying that it's in general more socially accepted when she cries and when she expresses her feelings than when a man does the same. I'm a really sensitive guy, but let's be honest, I hate crying in front of people, it makes me so embarrassed.
Second is the double standard in the "be yourself"-advice. People constantly tell you to "be yourself", "be authentic", "don't hide yourself" and all that stupid paraphernalia. But at the moment of truth, when you're yourself and YOU'RE NOT HURTING ANYONE WITH WHO YOU ARE, people tend to bully you, put you down, mock you, assault you, belittle you, treat you bad, tell you to be "Not too yourself" and "Be Normal" and try to make you change every single aspect of your life. That shows how lack of personality those people have. And then you're (regardless of your gender) trapped in a crossroad, because if you bottle up your emotions, you're criticized and hated for it, but if you show them, you're criticized and hated for it too. That shows us that people is never gonna be pleased by what you do, so it's better to do what we feel, because we were born alone, and we'll die the same.
Also, even if you express your feelings in an appropiately, calmly and assertive way, you're seen as a bitch anyways and people get mad at you or use that my-way-or-the-highway-asshole-remark. That's why we should stop thinking "WHAT THE HELL DO YOU WANT FROM ME?!" and thinking that people is noncomformist by nature and there's nothing we can do but worrying about ourselves and stop trying to live up to the expectations people set on us.
5. I agree with that. But let's face it, fake or true indifference is something that would make anyone else get away from you or tell you to go f yourself. I mean, if you love/like somebody, just recognize it and show it. But if you don't, treat them nicely but don't try to delve into a conversation or make them believe you like them. But there's also another reality, sometimes when you express your love and care for somebody else, you never know if that person will take it well or give you the same love or sympathy back.
6. I don't know what to think about the weak handshake. Maybe that person doesn't want to hurt the other's hand, I guess? I seriously don't find any relation between how hard your handshake is and how likable you are. Really, what's the relation of it? Maybe that person doesn't want to hurt your hand, maybe that person is really shy, maybe that person doesn't want you to think he wants to "prove his masculinity", it could be a lot of reasons.
Anyway, I think a human being is complex, and while there are some things of them you won't like, there could be some things you can think "Wow, I love it". And like you say, nobody is perfect and we won't be liked by everyone.
Thanks :)
I do hate people that are too nice all I want is to be treated like a person not a kindergartener
The random gamer I personally don’t like offending people. Like fore example I can’t joke around like my other friends and insult them even as a joke because I feel bad.
The Handshake thing: I met someone who was the opposite. He didn't give a weak handshake, he had a vice grip handshake! talk about putting someone off... after he left my shop, my hand joints were aching.
People are too judgemental.
I am one of those nice people that everyone hates because of the reasons that you suggested.
I can't help acting this way because.......
It is part of my personality & my vibe.
I won't change for haters or anyone else.
There are too few nice people left in this world.
They will just have to leave me alone & stop hassling me, antagonising me & trying to find dirt on me.
After all, It is their insecurities that are making me a problem.
gichi gichi ya ya tza tza 🕺🕺
SAME HELLA MOOD
But also
Me: *Is overthinking the hell out of a situation*
People: you're fucking crazy stop overthinking it
Me: *Doesn't care about the situation*
People: you're way too lazy stop underthinking it
MissesKitty exactlyyyyyyy
Yup.
Thankfully there are people who aren’t total planks.
But still
People
Just why?
How the heck are we suppose to be?
“Be yourself”
Five seconds later
“Maybe don’t be like that”
Sorry
Probably got carried away.
Have a nice day :)
Leah People like that are why I would want to move to Mars.
I'm stuck between trying to be nice and being rude-ish. It doesn't seem to make a difference. Even when I try to calmly explain something or whatever, people still look down on me and try to use personal hobbies and traits to insult me. And when I'm rude back, or acts salty, people hate me too. There's no way out. I can't be nice anymore, but being rude makes people attack me...
7: Calling yourself ugly just for attention.
👏👏
So many girls in my class do this, fishing for compliments
keep in mind many fish for compliments because they are insecure and need validation and confirmation, others also have body dysmorphia and think and see their body ass bigger/smaller or their face as pretttier/uglier than it is
well, i am seriusly ugly
My sister does that i hate it
Please continue being too nice! The collective needs this. Only individualistic societies would find this a problem!
Honestly I'm just going to be who I'm going to be and if I have to change that for someone else to like me then I have no interest in getting close with them
Never change yourself for someone you are bueatfiul and amazing just the way you are ❤️
“Which one of these traits do you have?”
Me: yes
Lol Aaron.
Aaron Yu seriously I’m about to cry what the hell youtube
XD
😂😂😂
Yeah kinda ;-;
I sometimes act rude to people who get into my nerves
Honestly if you hate someone because they are trying their best and it "makes you look bad"
The problem is YOU, buddy.
Yesss 💯
This af
Yeah but that YOU is the majority of people
Me included
That's why I try not to let it bother me ✊🏾
Yes
7. Telling the truth.
I was surprised not to see that one on the list.
1. Im just a 50/50 in this one
2. I don't even ask too many questions i just leave them be if they don't want me to ask questions
3. I have trust issues so i dont really talk abt myself
4. I hide my emotions to ppl idk but if i know them well enough and trust them i don't hide it
5. I just seem to be shy but i open up gradually and i actually like ppl who like me
6. My handshakes are soft but not weak and whrn i shake my brothers hands i shake it crazily
1. Acting too nice
2. Asking too many questions
3. Dropping a personal bomb
4. You often hide your emotions
5. Acting like you don’t like someone
6. Giving a weak handshake
Edit: Omg thanks so much for the likes !! Make sure to watch the video for a more in depth explanation as well and I hope you have a good day if you’re reading this :D
MissFanGirl: Oh.. is that what it is.. I thought #6 said "Giving a Tweak milkshake." Bruh.
As ppl say in Reddit... thank you kind stranger
I hide my emotions and the ppl i know like me
Or so i think....
i basically do all of them besides 3, hmm
Oh shiiiiit
"you're too nice"
Me: stays silent
"You're too quiet"
Me: starts talking
"You're too loud"
Me:stops interacting
"You're too boring"
Everyone will always have a problem. Everyone is perfect in their own way! Stay safe everyone ❤️
Sunshine Gacha I’m your 50th like (just thought it was cool)!
@@torinthunder3039 Aww Ty !
*quiet
No, you just have to be balanced ❤️
@@adelinatalpa6971 😂
As someone with a history of trauma and diagnosed Disorganized Attachment, I now do number 5 as my default until I see warmth from other people. It’s a runaway train going down the wrong way, but I can’t stop. It’s almost as if at least I know what the predictable outcome will be, this way. My mental health declined dramatically during the pandemic and the only time I show love safely is when I’m with those I’ve formed relationships with when I was more well. Trying to get help, real help, has been extremely hard. 😢
Many people dislike me because I am "too nice" and they don't trust it, but I am not going to change to be more likeable or to gain acceptance. Those who worth knowing will see me for who I am and those who don't trust my intentions have intentions that cannot be trusted.
being too nice is the reason why I am not that much of a nice person anymore. People always misunderstand me and take advantage of me, now I hate dealing with people
Wow, I didn't expect so many likes! Thanks
I prefer solitude over parties and shiz!😆
Edit: I have changed...I have gotten over the hurt people have caused me because they took advantage of my kindness. How you ask? Because it's partly my fault for even allowing myself to be used in the first place. I also refuse to allow that to change who I am, or project it onto other people. Ever since then I'm so kind, I'm like a beacon of light in the night sky, lighting up people's day!
Being nice is boring.
I pretend to be nice to my teachers and then become evil so if I ever get in trouble I don't get blamed and have a chance.
Facts
I got shat on because of it when I was younger now I’m the one doing the shiting.
Same
I know that I am still too nice, but the anxious kind. I don't want to hurt people because I hate how that feels but I don't try to be outgoing and nice to anyone. I just stay reserved and people come.
Habit number 7: "being yourself"
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Tysm, this helped so much! No wonder nobody really talks to me in school (for being too nice?!)
We can't please everyone with our natural acts and one things to do is to keep the real you! and keep doing good deed.
Me: *tries to talk about my feelings*
Society: *N O*
Me: *bottles up emotions and fake happiness*
Society: *N O*
ResinatedShip11 im sorry but a fake smile is easy to tell
Ya sure do buckaroo, ya sure do.
Ugh tell me about it
Weirdo weirdo
me: *will i ever win?*
society: *yes*
me: wait really?
Society: *NO!*
If my niceness makes other people feel insecure that’s their problem lol
exactly..it's hilarious that the reason was because people feel bad about themselves. ridiculous. im not changing myself.
Alisha kot I know !! Like I’m
Not going to change to make others feel less insecure lol that sounds like their personal problem
well said
@@treett4268 omg same... I -
I hate to admit it but I hate being lonely not alone though. I'm usually alone for a few hours a day and I like that. That's because I think that my friends aren't real "friends". Ughhhh
on a scale of 1(throwing me off a cliff) and 10(giving me the deed to your house for free) how nice are you?
Thanks for your explanation. Have a nice day, and stay safe. God bless.
You know, I've reached an age and a place in my life where I care less about being liked. I make friends easy enough, but the older I get the more I rely on my oldest relationships more than newer ones. I only have a few of them too. For me, those are the ones that count because they've been with me through thick and thin and I in turn have stuck by them through their ups and downs. Nowadays, when I meet someone new I try to be cordial and interested and sometimes I make a new friend, but if they don't like me for whatever reason I simply don't care and move on.
Habits that make people dislike you.;
•Breathing•
Yah
*eating loudly*
**dies*
*Existing*
Yup u got that all right
Everyone: "You're so quiet"
Me: *tries to talk*
Everyone: *ignores me*
And that's my life:, )
I can relate ;_;
True.
relatable
LET’S GO, YOU AWESOME, TALK 💗
SO TRUE ASF
You guys are always making me feel happy
I’m not gonna change the way I look or do things in my daily life just so a few people who I most likely don’t give one thought about would like me, I have friends, I’m happy with them, I found where I belong, who cares if I get bullied for my kindness, my handshake, my thoughts or my looks, they are probably jealous I have real friends and they go round judging people for the friends they don’t have. I like who I am and that isn’t going to change. I’m always gonna be me weather someone likes it or not.
The first point about being "too nice" sounds more like a them problem than a you problem. If a person can't handle the fact that someone may genuinely be a nice person, it may be that they're way too used to toxic people. A sad sign of the world in which we live.
True
I agree!
I agree!
Sadly reality …
Facts
"You don't talk much do you?"
Me : *Talks*
*Gets Interrupted
*Gets Ignored
*"Shut Up"
*"Ugh You Talk Too Much"
omg this is so relatable :((
That's why I talk too much online. It's harder to get interrupted unless you are on discord.
SAME
yes yes
If it's such a relatable thing it means you probably say things like this to other people
Some thoughts on the first one -
the person thinking "they make me look bad" tends to lack confidence or feeling like they aren't as useful or helpful. They could rectify by offering to help or working on themselves to understand just because someone's doing something you're not, doesn't make you less of a person. It's not the altruistic persons fault, why should they change themselves if they're being themself?
The altruistic person can also do too much ofc, and valuing yourself by level of altruism, possibly to your detriment, is dangerous and should be worked on.
Society is becoming more and more about lying and putting on a persona, and SM is perpetuating that. Being real and altruistic I feel is very important for people not to feel so lonely. Saying one shouldn't be so altruistic I think is detrimental on society.
I agree with y’all, we don’t exist to please others. There’s always gonna be someone out there who has an issue, so I think we should be ourselves, I know very cliche.
Not cliche if it's true
Me: *Breaths*
Everyone: Dislikes
Ok
i like uwu
😂😂
Reletable
i act too nice but I also don’t show many emotions
"Don't ask too many questions"
guess I'll never talk again
"Don't be too silent"
What the hell am I supposed to do then?!
@Hamster Pile I feel ya brother. Hey, if it makes you feel better, each person has different expectations of how people are
My entire life story
Well, i used to ask many question to someone that i learn from but not the same questions.
and now theyre asking why im quiet, LMAO FUCK OF UGLIES
"knowing the mistake in the problem is already half way to solving it"
~my math teacher
that I just have so much repect for
I think we all have quirks and some people don’t mind them and others get irritated by them. There is nothing we can do to get everyone to like us. You could doing everything right and still irritate someone. So just be yourself and worry about how you feel about yourself not needing the approval of others. Most people would rather be around a confident person with a few quirks than someone who pretends to be perfect.
"It is better to be hated for what you are...than to be loved for what you are not"
MARINA Or Kurt Cobain?
That's healthier than this video, for sure.
The answer is: become good.
Agreed
"You can't please everyone"
I can't please anyone.
Omg same XD
It's okay fam you'll find good friends
Well, you pleased me with this comment :)
Lol 😂 so I really can’t “Please” anyone (Girls)
@@TMPassion there's these three kids at my school who constantly hate on me, and I'm trying not to slap the absolute [veemo] out of them.
Ty for the vid💙