5 Weird Things Increase Attraction According To Science
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- Опубліковано 21 тра 2024
- Attraction is a complex phenomenon, but did you know that some unexpected factors can actually increase your appeal to others? In this video, we'll be exploring 5 weird things that studies have found to increase attraction, from the scent of your laundry detergent to the way you move your arms. These findings might surprise you, but they're backed by science! So if you're looking to up your game in the dating world or just curious about what makes us tick, this video is for you. Tune in and discover the weird things that increase attraction, and don't forget to like and subscribe for more fascinating insights!
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1. Eat veggies - nice smells
2. Propinquity effect - more time with someone, increases familiarity = ?attraction
3. Adrenaline - misattribution of feelings… an exciting activity induces feelings of attraction due to ⬆️excitability.
4. Right ear - left side of brain responsible for auditory processing and receives input from right ear = more influence in words?
5. Nervousness - evidence of romantic interest and trigger reciprocity?
I’ve also heard familiarity breeds contempt😭
eat veggies no it tastes bad sorry but i skip that one
I have noticed that eating a lot of fruit and vegetables( especially vegetables) makes people not smell bad, I think it is because your body becomes alkaline,when your body is alkaline bacteria can not grow and spread, when you eat unhealthy your body becomes acidic, when your body is acidic bacteria can grow and spread,bacteria causes bad smell.
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@@Owposition In my experience, familiarity just enhances whatever feelings are already there.
Being natural, yourself and not giving a hell is the most attractive thing fr
You go queen!
To an extent, sure
@@mpmedia6735 ofc, behaving like an animal and thinking youre "natural" wouldnt be so attractive...
only if you're good looking, if not people treat you like an npc
@@_archie nah I've seen a bunch of un-physically attractive people have vibrant dating lives cause they're just confident and natural
The Propinquity effect was something I've always thought about, but I didn't know it had its own name. Always eat your green vegetables, folks. Not only would it increase your attractiveness, but you'll like a longer, healthier life
Thank you for your insight! And yes, it's time to start eating more veggies!
Eat your vegetables!
I would amend, eat a COLORFUL diet of fruits and vegetables. Green-only for a vegetable diet won't give you that big variety of nutrients that we omnivores crave, nor are the greens effective at satiating your appetite.
The bridge adrenaline thing it's something I discovered myself when texting or talking to girls after a workout or running session. I was usually way more confident and assertive than when I would just be chilling. So if you feel unsure to what text someone or not confident enough to talk to someone might be useful to go for something that pump you up.
thats prob just testosterone increase nothing to do with adrenaline
Same experience. I always noticed how I am way more confident and extroverted after jogging or something.
The difference is actually insane. So noticeable in fact that I often times do it every time I want to become an extrovert. I do it purposely before going to class or to friends for example because I become about 5 times more talkative without any effort at all.
I don't know why not more people do this. It's so useful.
@user-uz6si1ze6l As always correlation does not always equal causation so more research is needed but I see what you’re saying
@@user-uz6si1ze6lneurology die because testosterone, big bad chemical
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Regarding #1 - I met two women, both from Southeast Asia, many years ago, in the mid 1990s. They both told me that they could smell the odor of people here (in the west) who ate meat (and possibly refined, processed foods but they only said meat).
They both said that the smell is strong and very off putting. It seems to be released from the pores. Yuck! I heard that when I first went plant based and it made me feel much better about my choice! 😂
That's so interesting that they can pick up smells of other people just by their diet.
As for your plant-based diet, could you share with us what effect your plant-based diet had on your mental health? Do you feel like switching to a plant-based diet has improved your overall lifestyle?
@@Psych2go I also have a plant based diet rn :) and idk quite much of it like- meat is so nutritious too and healthy but somehow veggies make me feel more energetic and workaholic i dunno if it's just coincidence tho
@@Psych2go 22+ years not eating animals. Around 13 or so years of that as vegan. The most diffacult part of being vegan mentally is actually seeing how much people I would otherwise respect try and justify animal abuse. Our mental instability and depression stems from being in such a cruelty saturated world. Luckily another world is possible.
Could be diet, but could also be because many East Asians have a mutated ABCC11 gene which greatly reduces the number of odorous sweat glands. It's why those of us who have the mutation don't need deodorant, and we certainly notice the smell of people who don't have the mutation (mostly white, black, Hispanic).
@@iPlayOnSpica You can theorize about it, or better yet you can find out for yourself.
“Do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know the side you are used to is better than the one to come?“ - Rumi.
The next time worry finds you, ask yourself Rumi’s question. Trade anxiety for curiosity. Breathe in. And keep going.
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Who is Rumi?
@@universalalgorithm3263 mevlana he is a turkish mystic poet
I didn't expect to see Rumi quoted here but I love it! Very beautiful and deep poetry! 😊
In high school I used to hangout with the same group of people, mostly girls and a few guys, and we'd always be at my place due to me having the basement to myself and being a safe space for whatever ya wanna do. I was too shy to ever act on any feelings back then, but I know for sure at least a few of the girls were interested in me at various points throughout the years. Not only was there some kind of propinquity effect in play, but also the fact that I had a steady diet of mainly fruit, veggies and nuts as I had home-made smoothies almost every day. The third whammy to the combo is my innate nervousness that persists to this day.
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1). Eat your green vegetables 0:40
2). Propinquity effect 1:24
3). Misattribution of emotions 2:31
4). The right or left ear 4:54
5). Nervousness 5:47
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
0:44 Interesting choice there…
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@@sbplankton_1999 same thing happens to me sometimes
Yeah, But i just being attaction to New video's
@@A55a551n hey should I go to my girlfriend graduation 👨🎓 and surprise my girlfriend
Meeting people is my biggest problem. I own my own company, work alone, do not drink nor have any friends. Depression and anxiety leave me not wanting to be in crowded places, nor do I like any events or activities in my area. Online dating has not worked. After 3 years, I'm at a loss as to how to find someone when any place I'd try to meet someone, wouldn't be my environment in the first place.
Maybe try looking a little bit further away for an event or a small course in something anything. Usually not that crowded in like I don't know, an on-site course in painting ? If you keep following the same pattern then you'll just get more of the same
I know, I'm trying too. There is no judgement.
Don't go with the intention of "meeting someone" there. Go for the hell of it. Just to do something. It's a start
@@PaavocadoIn my spare time, if I'm not gaming or camping in the woods, I'm tinkering in the garage. Unfortunately I dislike events in general and my interests are male dominated areas. Motorbikes, trucks, engines, bushcrafting etc. I'm very introverted and cant think of any social activity I enjoy more than being on my own property. Why meet someone in an environment I'll never be in again? I guess that's my reasoning for not trying, I would never be in "that" environment again, other than looking for someone, thus leading me to believe its a pointless venture.
@@GunfighterAlpha what I accidentally did was join an online community of people who share a similar hobby (e.g. nail art). Yes, it was only females and a few gay guys but I had severe social anxiety and desperately needed a friend. I attended a virtual meet up (Zoom) with people that live in the same city and we all decided to meet in person. I had no desires to date because I was terrified but it was my very first step to feel comfortable with people in general. Once I loved meeting up with them every week, I began desiring a partner besides relying on dating apps. I decided to join a community in my city that’s popular amongst men and women. I joined a swimming class, First Aid/CPR class, sailing club, swimming class and a cooking class. I befriended a few men and kept their contacts. I began seeing them outside of our communities by doing fun activities together (e.g. finding a cool-themed restaurants, bowling, movies). BABY STEPS!!! First focus on establishing friendships then get into environments were you can meet women. They don’t need to be based on a hobby. Learning a skill with classes (e.g. Cooking classes, language classes) are beneficial for everyone so try anything you’re interested to experience
Sounds like you'd have an easier time finding friends rather than a partner. And then one can introduce you to a woman, and suddenly.. life is full of surprises :)
Humans are social creatures. Even introverts. It's difficult it seems because you have socially isolated yourself, but there are many avenues to meet people, none of them easy for you.
Here after i confessed to her, she didnt get mad or weirded out, she was just surprised that i randomly texted her, she kept the letter i gave her as anonymous, tomorrow i hope everything goes well when we see eachother
nothing really happened, kinda sad, but on tuesday i hope things go well
nothing happened, again, F-
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i love how i watch every single video you guys release, and whenever i identify (most of them) i go "huh that's funny" and forget everything in the video 5 minutes later
Thank you so much for watching! We wanted to ask, what do you think we can do to make our videos much more memorable?
@@Psych2go first of all thank you for awnsering, speaking for myself, give some more tips on how to deal with the information that is spoken in the video, as someone who's recently been screened for depression, i can say it's hard to find some good tips, your videos are the best but maybe you could add some extra things, thank you for the support you've given me for the short time i've watched your videos
Nervousness is actually not that surprising, as it shows that they scared they might mess it up in front of someone they care about and don't want to have an awkward relationship with, while being confident on a first date may be somewhat attractive to a certain group of people, but it can be taken to others as if the other person doesn't care much about them and doesn't want a close or caring relationship.
Why do I know all this?
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5 Weird Things Increase Attraction According To Science
1. Eat your green vegetables! 0:40
2. Propinquity effect 1:24
3. Misattribution of emotions 2:31
4. The right/left ear 4:54
5. Nervousness 5:47
Have a great day! 💜💜💜
Tip: don't vape/smoke/that sort of thing. I had a huge crush on a friend of mine right up until she started vaping. Soon as I saw her do it I was as far from turned on as you could possibly be. Still my friend, but vaping and smoking is just really unnatractive
As a never-smoker, I refuse to date anyone who has smoked, vaped, dipped, done weed or any recreational drugs.
As a smoker i have the opposite reaction
@@riderofthepalehorsedeathhi4061makes sense
And yet, closemindedness is a gigantic turn off for me. To each their own.
@iPlayOnSpica even someone that used to but hasn't in 5-10 years?
A idea for a video, which I’m sure you’ve already made but, I think it would be helpful for people to understand what depression is and what just being stressed or tired is because some people always assume that I’m depressed because I wasn’t talking to them in my cheerful manner I just want people to understand that there is a difference between depression and anxiety, stress, sadness, and tiredness
I’ve never been in a relationship for longer than 2 months 🔥🗿
I've never been in a relationship for longer than 0 seconds🔥🗿
@@jigar2238 so how many milliseconds?
@@dragonmage372 0 fermiseconds 😂😭
@@jigar2238what is a "relationship" ?
I haven’t even had my first kiss 💀
Great video! I would love to see a future video that focuses on coping with FOMO. I believe it would be helpful for many viewers. Thank you for your hard work and dedication to creating valuable content!
Thank you for the idea. We wanted to ask, what kind of FOMO are you speaking of? Do you mean specifically in the context of romance or FOMO in general? If we made a video about this, what would you like to see us cover?
@@Psych2go I mean FOMO in general, covering strategies to accept it and cope with it when the feelings arise.
@@Psych2go nowadays the channel is slightly getting into family friendly to 13+ 👀
Referencing Spider-Man 2 definitely increased my attraction to this channel.
According to studies by famous psychologists, referencing Spider-Man 2 in your video can increase subscribers' attraction to your channel
Love is a thing that you can be proud of ❤
Wouldn't the misattribution of feeling go away or change once you find yourself in a similar situation without the same feeling? Or does misattribution first create a connection and individuals look for all signs to confirm or connect to that attribution and therefore develop genuine feelings of attraction? Fun fact: 1973 is when the Exorcist came out, one of the most classic of Horror movies!!
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Somebody please!!!!
Cause I wanna know
I am curious for the answer also.
personally I think it depends on if you already know the person?
@p-smitty9791 To answer first part its not a constant just initial situation as said. Comparison is randomly hitting it off with a stranger the first time. You might be looking forward to second meeting but it might not be as fun second time around. The second part is less about the specific situation and more about the feeling. The fear effect with adrenaline is similar to romance and courting an some times more if catch drift. In those specific situation if you are with some one that makes your heart beat faster and assume it not a negative experience it can be exciting. Its not that different than if you were having a fun exciting date. Our brains can associate this experience as positive and have more interest than normal. The adrenaline can just make people more bold and the dump of the emotion will also make you more calm as the next thing is not as scary compared to what you went through. This of course does not mean every time get scared will experience misattribution. It is just something that can occur and explaining the why. Its also not something can easily manipulate. Doing exciting things can be great but as said if your constantly doing them either get use to sensation and numbs or its too stimulating and its no longer fun. Misattribution isn't a permanent thing its more explains how weird situations can some how lead to connections that wouldn't expect through shared experience.
that has got to be the cutest and most wholesome informational video iv'e seen i n a while, thank you!
Lol besides the very practical and clear tips, LOVED the jokes cracked at the end of each section,
And how in the end of each section; and in the conclusion at the end you string all of those jokes mentioned to creat a story omg that’s so genius and funny 😂😂😂 srsly love this one
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the animation is so adorable and the voice of the narrator so soothing.
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Well, since I've been a vegetarian for many years, by now I must scent like the gardens of Arabia 😅😅😅
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Thank you for the kind words and for being with us for this long!
@@Psych2go Your very welcome ;)
I sat next to a random guy on a plane once, and when we were getting close to landing the plane suddenly dropped a few feet, as if the engines shut off or something. Normally there are little bits of that dropping sensation, but this was different, and TERRIFYING. Multiple people on the plane gasped, some screamed, and the guy and I just instinctually grabbed each other’s hands. And i suddenly realized that this random Joe Schmo I hadn’t spoken to at all on the flight was suddenly super attractive to me?? We started talking and had a lot in common- he was really cool! Unfortunately for me though he already had a girlfriend. But it was still an interesting moment!
I didn't know about propinquity effect until I watched this video. I am a person who is very vulnerable to affection....like if I feel someone is being nice to me, then I immediately start having feelings for them. Now, I think about it...I had several crushes but I never approached them but there was this guy in my college...the universe made us run into each other several times...so much to the extent that we eventually became close friends spending time with each other. And yes, I developed feelings for him within a short span. But, I knew he was in a relationship with a girl from different college...so I just ignored my feelings. We parted ways after the college...yeah, he randomly calls sometimes...but the feelings I had for him wore off. He had broken up with his gf...this might be the right time to confess if my feelings for him were strong. Now, I understand why many long time best friends end up in a relationship.
The illustrations are sooooo beautiful I caaaan't
Yes! :O This all makes so much sense; Thank you for posting this. I value your channel!
And we value your comment! Thank you!
@@Psych2go hey do you have a discord server? tbh I think it would be a great idea since the number of subscribers you guys have, that would be a lot of members and yeah, pretty cool overall to meet ppl who watches the same channel as you do like me
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I hope your seeking help. This channel really helped so many people
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Thank you for this video! 😀🌸
I never knew those! Thank you!
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Thank you so much for the kind words! We hope that you found the video helpful :)
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there might be some truth to the one about scary situations, I recall watching final destination 5 with a female friend once.
And then what happened? Why was it only once?
We were holding hands the whole time.
a very interesting video, thanks!
The adrenaline was surprising to me!
And I knew about the fruit and veggie one but it's more important than I thought! 😂❤ Thank you Psych 2 go!
Glad you liked it!!
I knew about the adrenaline/misattribution of feelings, but not the other ones. It was quite interesting, especially the eating veggies... I'll certainly have to adjust my diet. ;)
One issue, the visuals when you are talking about the right/left ear at 5:28, the left error is show right after that and the brain hemisphere displayed are all reversed. Just thought you'd like to know.
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It could also be because more people are dominant on their right side. When i think about someone putting their head on one of my shoulders id much prefer my right. This is because my right shoulder is stronger, and if they do anything weird ill have a quicker reaction time with more power. I wont have to turn my body if i need to push something away if they are to the right of me.
Its the same theory as if you approach someone from behind versus their front. They're gonna be less wary of you if you approach from a place that doesn't make them feel vulnerable.
I did not need to know this information,
It’s s still useful
Awesome video like always but lots of spider-man references in this one and I love it. Very cute spidey
Man who is this with such a soothing voice, do they have any open socials?
Spider-Man and IT have always been my favorite movies lol, I got kinda excited when she mentioned them
U speak so well we need to see u
The scary movie fact surprised me!
That misattribution one was really eye opening huh 😮 learned something new today!
We're glad you found it interesting! What did you find to be surprising about misattribution?
that is why some people are not interested in "boring" persons or when doing something "boring" together. but most don't realize this effect
Gotta love Sims 4 Grim's cameo there at number three 😂
0:16 the art tho
People say confidence is attractive but now nervousness is too? Which is it???
I expect both need a balance, like with anything in life
Confidence is for executing a plan or to just have courage, nervousness is for moments that you can express feelings or when it is expected feelings from you, a blank face can be unattractive
Timestamp!
1. 0:41 Eat green vegetables
2. 1:25 Propinquity effect
3. 2:31 Misattribution of emotion
4. 4:55 Right or leaft ear
5. 5:47 Nervousness
Loved it❤
I'm starting to believe people are afraid to have a connection with me if they spend time with me.
I didn't even realize it until the ear comment in the intro, but I just figured out that I have a bias towards talking to someone who's on my right side rather than my left, and that when I picture sitting next to someone in any kind of affectionate situation they're always on my right.
I can definitely say this video is my best 1 as now im more open to view afew things at an even more variety of perspectives and yes it did motivate me 2 ask my gf on a date❤ so thank u
oop im second
anyways thanks for this, im just a step away from asking my crush!
I was utterly shocked with that first fact😂. I’ll keep these facts in mind though despite the bizarre nature of them
The human body is weird and complex! 😂
Could you tell us, what did you find bizarre about the first point?
@@Psych2go Definitely veggies equals smelling good, I have never heard of such lunacy😂
I'm here early!!,yay!!
I LOVE THE PROPINQUITY EFFECT
Omg, I needed this videos for SOOOO long, thanks!!!
Thank you for watching! Which part of the video did you find helpful?
@@Psych2go Mostly part about right ear and vegetables, that information was really useful!
sometimes i just want to see the face behind such a calm and soothing voice...
there was a similar video you made like this, one had the ‘be around them more’ but called it the ‘mirror exposure effect.’ What’s the difference between the Propinquity & MEE?
Videos that are amazing I love them
It depends. I was meeting up with someone and he seemed a bit awkward and nervous from the start. But I would love to meet someone maybe also a little sassy, with a burning fire inside and confidence. It's like they aren't on the same level and its getting tired to me.. I would like to meet someone that can match my energy and sweep me off my feet by their behavior. Maybe I just am not attracted or able to love right now, but it did feel strange to me. When I like someone back, I don't mind the nervouseness too much. But here it felt a bit annoying to me. Maybe because I wasn't having the same thoughts or feelings.
This is just so straight to work for me ☠️😂
i love the artstyle, reminds me of older videos
I like the nervousness part it makes me feel better about myself.
You know a weird thing that increases attraction? When the bell rings, you may bump in to someone, drop all of you books and homework, and both of you will feel weirdly attracted to each other! (Especially if the other person helps you clean up and asks you your name.) This is seen as helpful because the next day, you might as well just meet in class, and if you already know each other a bit from yesterday's book fall, it will be less weird and awkward to meet each other again and the other person is less likely to get away from you.
Strange things in girls that can increase my subconscious attraction...
Perceived lustfulness, perceived strenght, perceived brutality and perceived evil streak.
Not from a romantic perspective, it's obvious that I'm well aware those are not que kind of characteristics I should look for. But there are the one that make me subconsciously react the most.
Now the important word was perceived, and it also work for girls who are attracted to a "bad type" of guys, as in, due to various traumas and issues, humans thend to go for what seem the most familiar and the most "real" in the sense of our warped vision of the world.
If a girl enter a bar, and her issue make her believe that all men are supposed to be strong evil brutal pervert, chances are she's going to be instinctively drawn to the only guy in the bar that really fit that description, so that she can fulfill her self prophecy. If she fumble and end up with someone that do not fit her expectations, she will feel uneasy, and may try to push his buttons to see if she can reveal the "true him" hiding under his good person guise, never knowing when to stop until she make him snap like any normal person would.
But those are fantasies about an archetype, they are childishly dichotomous in their perspective, which is why, as I was saying, it doesn't really matter if the person is really strong, really lustful, really brutal or really evil. They just need to look the part enough in their superficial appearance and attitude so that the suffering person can hang their fantasy upon their frame.
Please note that if you believe this apply to you as well, seeking some kind of therapy may lower the symptoms.
The first step is acknowledging that the misfortunes that twisted your childhoods were mostly not your faults. That the person(s) who hurt your view did not do it for this purpose, but rather they were too focused on their own problems. Adults are just old child who struggle knowing what to do. They don't have all the answers just because they are older. And everyone is mostly self focused. So stop blaming yourself for everything that went wrong. Admittedly, maybe you could have done a few things to make things better, but how were you supposed to know them? You were just a kid.
Look inside of you. See this deep hole of suffering and emptiness you constantly try to fill with outside love or outside attention? It will never work. It won't work because it's like trying to fill a bath without plugging the drain. You have to give yourself love, attention, care, compassion, without judgment, for who you are now, but also for who you used to be.
You have to look at those scary or weak parts of you that you cut yourself from, and removed the veil of shadows that made you reject them, to see them for who they are. Important but sad and damaged parts of you, scared or angry child parts of your personality that need to be helped, so they can grow, in a balanced, (not extreme) way, and become assets rather than flaw.
Once you can manage to do that, then you can start rejecting the lies and misinterpretation you cemented your mental core with as you were growing up, replacing them with cold hard truth, but also softer comforting ones, making you that much more resistant because you are more complete and adaptive.
Only then can you try building a genuine, healthy relationship with someone else. It's not magical, it take time and effort, but it's better than heading toward a dark fate due to subconscious self destructive pulsion you don't understand.
Luck and courage to you all.
You really should write more, your words touched me .. :)
@@judyabd8651 Thank you milady. Usually, I get told that I write too much. ^^; Then again, young people on social media nowadays panic after seeing two constructed sentences in a row. XD
I hope that wathever is haunting you, you can find the way to let it go so your focus can be turned toward a brighter future.
Recently, I read someone's idea about how they got better after stopping to consider their parents as such, and instead tryed to view them as they were as kids, trying to understand what they went trough during this delicate period, what damaged them before they damaged the person expressing this idea, which in turn helped remove the childhood guilt they felt about various events that weren't their fault.
It allowed them to feel empathy for these person, and this empathy helped in their process of reparenting their own inner child. I don't know if viewing things this way can help others, but it was somewhat comforting to me.
Have a beautiful day, and take care.
When are you going to do a q and r video?(questions and reaction)
Came in to get more info (which I did) and came out craving pizza.
Hey i always watch your videos but can you make a video how to manage your relationship with others and manage studies at the same tim it's just makes me feel so nervous all the time that i am not giving time to anyone
5:47 when are nervous it will help you find someone that you actually like and probably make them like you back (or like you more) because in a state like this you will do more of a emotional action more than one with logical thought on it, even if you are thinking about all the bad things that could happen it also makes you unable to think clearly and the logical thought you can put on your actions becomes smaller and at the end this makes a more emotional response which for a romantic relationship is just what you need.
How would you know if you really like someone?
Omg thank god for the right side… bc I’m deaf on my right ear, so I always have to be on their right to hear them better 😅
"pizza time"-spider-man
I don’t know why science is so complicated always ..❤❤
I vouch for the fruits and veg point. When my partner and I first started dating, I found that he often smelled really good. He smelled like homemade soup - herbal and comforting. As it turned out, he ate a fairly low-carb, plant-heavy diet. When he'd change up his diet and eat more sweets, his smell would become more like that gross BO smell boys get in high school.
Can confirm, when I was trying to "drop hints" to this guy I liked so I had him watch some horror movies with me. We've been dating for over a year now 😊
That might be a little hard considering that most horror movies are lacking in scare these days 😅
Great point! Do you have any personal favorite horror movies?
@@Psych2go
The 2007 halloween remake 🎃
And writing in general just stinks these days.
Misattributed emotions... Is that why I feel way more attracted to someone who hurts me? Because I feel something and it makes me happy and I bond with them?
didn't know about the eat eggies and right ear, tbh I like things whispered in my left ear :3. Also I'm vegan (with an emphasis on fresh whole foods) so I'm already succeeding at the veggies XD
Hee hee the animation for the propinquity effect is like Bus Stop by the Hollies
Nervousness? Now THAT I can do! 😅
Okay, so you’re telling me, that if I watch a horror movie with a potential love interest, she’s going to be super into me, after watching me quiver in fear and hold my eyes over my eyes and ears? Cool
Just found this few days ago. So cute!❤💞😎☺
Fear and love are perceived the same by the human brain, thats why we can fall in love with someone that we experience scary stuff with
The more I hear about dating the more scared of it I am, at least I'm nowhere near ready for it in this moment so I can avoid messing myself up😅
Attraction is a complex phenomenon that has fascinated scientists for years.
If you go vegan, not only will you be eating veggies but also display an overwhelming kindness to animals 😏 Pepple eat that up (and not the animals lol)
Wow!
you must guard your figurative heart , for it is the source of all your emotions .