Time stamps: 1.Over sharing on social media 0:42 2. Humblebragging 1:24 3.Not Smiling 2:23 4.Constantly criticising others 3:00 5.Suppressing or faking emotion 3:52 6.Using emoticons in formal writing 4:27
Yes indeed! Especially when it is a family or friend who waffles on about very irrelevant things during dinner and then mentioned something important in the middle of it. As I had stopped paying attention to him, I had missed that information.
But...oomf did that all the time still got so much love starting from the principal to the teachers to the janitors to the seniors to the juniors to the peers till the stray cats..
There are lots of people like that. Purely like to talk about themselves w/o listening to what others want to say. Usual case, my conversation with them won't last long.
I’m socially awkward, so when I first meet people I usually just keep to myself and I choose to open up when I feel comfortable, but for some reason people translate me being quite and shy as me being rude and thinking I’m too good to talk to them. So people usually don’t like me when they first meet me.
People like this make me laugh. It's like they can't relax around introverts unless they know almost everything there is to know about them which is absurd, silly, irrational and to be honest kind of creepy and suspicious to me. It seems like they're just mad and anxious because they won't have a very big story to tell to other people about you.
Me too! And it’s always annoying when they ask the same stupid question “why are you so shy and quiet?” Like how tf am I supposed to answer to this ? If anything it makes me more socially awkward
Same. Because I dont smile they think iam mad, mean, so serious. I like to speak allot and laugh but, i do it all that but alone . Yes i do talk to myself, and laugh at my own jokes
This video seems to be completely oblivious that being authentic could make one appear unlikeable in the first place (family of orgin and childhood experience plays a major role here).
I think people dislike me because I'm generally quiet and private. And I have overshared on social media in the past, because even though i'm private I wish people knew who I really am I deep down. But I decided to let social media go for other reasons. Honestly I don't really care how people view me anymore, I like myself and the majority of people are temporary anyway
Yeah, n sometimes we "over share" on social media cause we're looking for support. Especially if we're in a situation where we literally cannot get out into the real world, such as disabilities. I've learned that it's good to join groups that understand whatever ur going thru. ❤️
Basically you're saying people only like you when you're in a good mood. And i genuinely feel those are the worst people to associate with. They'll never be around when you need them.
I think it's more "at first". For example, you might not start to like a person who is not smilling, is gloomy, when you see it for the first times. When you already make friends, they will be with you even if you are not in a good mood. But to make a friend is a long journey and you have to put effort into it.
@@metalman666ization Maybe you just had bad expierences, because people are social beings and most of them wants to make relationships. And of course people may be put off or get scared if you show too much emotion too soon. Especially if they don't know you too well. That's why it's important to work with your psychology and how you treat other people. They are just like you, some of them are sensitive, some of them have problems or anxiety. And they aren't psychologist to help you with your deepest problems/emotions. People often confuse friends with psychologists. It's not the same and shouldn't be.
Also, a morbid cycle: Being depressed -> being sad, unconfident and insecure in a social setting -> trouble making friends -> no one to talk to -> being depressed (and having low social skills, 'cause practice makes perfect) Of course it's not always like this, but what always pissed me off is the fact that happy, energetic people usually have many friends and they could probably even manage with one or two (real) friends and still be happy with life, whereas depressed, traumatized, anxious people have to (again: not always of course) suffer in loneliness which "snowballs" that cycle above This world is so unfair
You're not a golden coin so that everybody loves you. Best way to live your life is to stop caring about what others think. Workout, build confidence, learn new things, be kind to others without expecting anything, be humble but not spineless, be strict but fair, be nice but not a people pleaser, build and build confidence in yourself and you will eventually achieve all your goals. Do all of these things for you. Don't be a people pleaser, if you want happiness think of yourself but do not abandon people that you love. Keep your mind occupied with goals and don't worry about what others think. At the end of the day, the only one that is going to get your goals done is yourself. I leave this message here if anyone needs reading it.
I really needed to read this. I remember back in middle school & high school I always tried be a people pleaser and act certain way just to get people to laugh and to get approval and all it did was have people treat me badly and not respect me. Still dealing with confidence issues to this day. Thanks for your message. I made sure to screenshot it🔥💯
I wish. So many ppl are very judgemental but then refuse to self reflect. Why ppl with ASD have such a hard time. While ppl that can navigate these situations but are quite horrible objectively get included
“Every situation in life is temporary. So, when life is good, make sure you enjoy and receive it fully. And when life is not so good, remember that it will not last forever and better days are on the way.”
Outside of ferry tails and cartoons, things get worst fast and they keep getting worst. So if you arent in the position to deal whit it, or someone dont help you, your done. And when you are in that much of a problem hearing friends say "It will pass." or " It will sort it self out" translates to " Not my problem".
I always seem to be more comfortable by myself, and even act more like me while I'm alone. For example, if someone else is around, I'm less likely to get up and grab a glass of water. I also avoid crying or singing a lot in front of others. However, when I'm alone I'll cry, sing, talk to myself, work on passion projects, work on problems, come up with ideas, work out, and many other things. I do like playing games with others and talking, but I feel like every moment is more meaningful when I'm alone. Like I don't have to freak out about anything. When I'm with others it's like I'm transported to an alternate dimension, and when they leave, I feel I can be expressive again. I just wanted to vent a little. Have a good day everyone!
Also being a narcissist. When everything is about you and you can care less about others. I was at dinner with a couple friends one night, and one of my girlfriends started sharing a very personal problem she is dealing with at the time. Meanwhile, our other friend was not engaging or listening to her and seemed to not want to be bothered with something that didn't interest her. So she began to look at her phone and watch tik tok videos and started laughing loudly at the table at the videos. Completely oblivious to the other person's pain and feeling the need to talk to a friend and be heard. At that very moment, I decided to slowly let this person go and move on. I have no patience at my age to deal with people like this. Taking selfies at the table, my god.... grow up!
Sharing in the middle of dinner very sensitive issues is also narcissistic since you’re holding everyone hostage! Expecting all adults present to just automatically attend to you at the drop of a hat sounds very immature to me.
@@africanglobalnomad my friend was discussing her mom having dementia and how hard it was to deal with. She rarely opens up like this meanwhile the other friend was drunk on tik tok. Yeah… I made the right choice.
Everytime I get to hang out with more than one friend, it just happens to them to share private things to eachother, and I just always happen to ask "can I also see or hear what you're doing ?" But they are like "oh, just nothing" 😞 it hurts, it feels like I am out of the group
If a person is genuine and doesn't hog or crave the attention I will listen and give them the floor but if your one of those people that need attention and all eyes on you then I would be on my phone too thinking...oh here we go again but it all depends on the person. Some people get my full attention and respect while others get to watch me ignore their cry for attention.
I really admire the fact that you could notice this friends rude behavior and walk away. I would have probably lost respect for that person but still kept contact, but this is a great example of when to let go people that I'll remember. Thanks ❤
I have the feeling that, if you´re different from what people consider "normal", then they don´t like you. If you´re swimming against the stream, instead of with it, people seem to dislike you much faster. If you´re speaking up against things and tell other people that you don´t like this or that, then they dislike you as well. People even tent to dislike you when you suddenly say "no" to certain things you always said "yes" to before. Why can´t they just try to understand each other better? Why don´t they question the reasons for your decisions instead of immediately judging and disliking you? Why do we have to try to be someone else to be liked by others? It´s rare to be able to be yourself around other people because they might tend to dislike you for that.
I just tey not to worry to much about what other people think and just do what I think is good. Some people like me and whoever doesn't I don't worry about. I'm happy how i am and with the friends who do like me. Just be you and people will like you anyway if they are worth it.I've always been different and I am happy that way. Why be normal?
I like your comment it truly resonates with me, when you think differently, you swim against the grain, and when you stand up for yourself people don’t like that. People treat me like shit and it hurts a lot I’ve never fitted in anywhere since l was a kid, people treat me poorly. Like you were saying, you stand up for what’s right, and people treat you like shit. I’ve done that.
Yeess. Thank you for writing this. Totally agree with everything you said. It's funny because I was just talking to someone and found out that a person doesn't like me because I'm weird. But now that I read your message, I feel a lot better. You're right, it would be better if people just talked to us first instead of judging. There is nothing wrong with being different.
My Grandfather gave me a great piece of advice. Be Happy! Find something to laugh about every day. Don't let others interfere with your peace or happiness. And love yourself.
same someone help me with this plz i am 14 and i don’t know why it’s just i feel like i don’t belong with my friends i just feel like i’m alone but the real problem is that i don’t feel that i belong and it bothers me because before i could vibe with them be happy and we would all have a smile in our faces but now they all have a good time and i just feel like i don’t belong
@@fatmaalban7294 but why do people always come up with prepackaged affirmations? It could be that I'll never meet the people who will appreciate me for who I am and I won"t even find love
A piece of advice to all, just be yourself and don’t ever change yourself just to please or wanting people to like you. It’s fine if you want improve yourself but there will always people who going to dislike you with whatever you do. Be with people who love you the way you are not what you are not. 💕
@@DragoSmash it’s okayyy... try to improve yourself slowly to be a better person. But there is a different between improving and changing and people always mistaken by this. You are not horrible, it just you have a different personality than others and that’s make you unique ☺️
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But your complaints are validated and reasonable to me. 2020 and slowly 21 suck sweaty balls. Sorry but those years are bad. Most people hate the truth. I hate the lies and falseness of people. There are people who will always enjoy your honesty and emotional outbursts! Then again, I am a Cancer, so I enjoy folks who express their true selves rather than dealing with their dishonesty. You keep being true.
Smile when you don’t feel like it and keep your opinions to yourself but don’t fake emotions or be inauthentic. Got it. Got it. Neurotypical folk are not okay.
They literally said, smile whenever you feel like it. They didn't say smile when you don't feel like it. Why bring neurotypical-ness into it? I'm on the spectrum and understood what it meant. Perhaps you should try turning the captions on if you feel like you have misheard something?
@@inferiorinferno8859 what if you dont smile much but just so people will like you, you force yourself to smile for everyone else. i know the video said smile whenever you can but that can be a struggle to some. theyre literally saying you have to smile so people like you but be yourself what if myself is someone who doesnt smile especially when i dont want to.
As a nonneurotypical person, I agree beyond 10000%. Then again, I am the type to always smile, that's just my face. 🤷♀️I also share opinions no matter way. I wasn't taught to lie or be fake. My mother stated that if I am placed on a lying detecting machine, the machine would malfunction over being heart broken at how honest and sincere I am. 🥰I am a terrible liar. I just can't. My brain makes an alarm and says only say the truth, because that is always better than the lies.
I would like broader research done on the “ smile more” one. I have met with many people outside of the US and even people within the US where smiling isn’t exactly looked at as a good thing. Turns out, it makes people uncomfortable, even suspicious. I personally think it’s more of a case by case basis and we should just stick with “ don’t fake emotions”.
I think smiling is universally friendly, although you can tell which ones are fake. However, I've never seen someone complain about a genuine smile and I'd be interested to hear what you find. Let us know! :)
"Smile more" "Don't fake your emotions" That's where my problem lies. I hardly smile because I can't smile when I don't feel like it. And that makes me unapproachable. But I'm not complaining. I don't want people around me.
Bro I feel this sm- I hate when people tell me to be happy or smile when I’m not like if I don’t have a reason to them I won’t it’s so frustrating how people always want you to be how they want and when your not it’s a problem this is why is im starting to hate every one around me at this point😪🤷♀
I think it’s weird that not posting at all is preferred over posting. The whole point of social media is to post and it’s so true people don’t like me because I post too much and I get insecure about it and just deactivate all my accounts because no cares about seeing me succeed because I’m not a typical “pretty” girl. Story is people only care about your happiness if you are attractive, rich, or posting something about them.. social media is a sick and twisted game.
Um - no, I will not smile whenever I can. 1. I never want to 2. If I smile whenever I CAN I'd always be smiling, and no one wants that. My fake smile is so obvious
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@@richardmata660 k, I'm not gonna go to some random website someone on UA-cam sends me, I'm not an idiot. And just cause I don't smile doesn't mean I need to contact an adult.
Well, maybe it’s a good idea to practice smiling with the mirror or cute videos of animals and such. Cuz even though it is fine if you don’t usually feel like smiling, it is a good way of leaving a good impression! You also don’t have to smile all the time as well but a smile will help during first meetings and occasionally with closed ones to show your appreciation.
@@feelsbadman7134 Eh, if someone is bothered by me not smiling that's their problem. If they don't like me as much at first cause of a smile then I don't want to know them.
Ah, I see. I just hope you’ll keep this in mind during situations that require social interactions with others, like a polite smile during sales, it certainly helps. I hope you have a nice day!
It's more like we technically live in the past. Basically, our eyes and brain takes a tiny bit of time to process what's happening, so we see the past. Times traveler by a few seconds, but eh.
I would rather people dislike me than like me.If too many people like me,I would feel trapped to always have to be more nice,and it's too much work.Take it or leave it.
It'd be interesting to have a video describing the differences between humblebragging, virtue signalling and genuinely being humble/good/kind/self-confident. For someone with anxiety and depression, I find it difficult to talk about myself or sell myself in interviews because I don't want to come across as arrogant/selfish etc. Especially since humblebragging and virtue signalling are thrown around as insults when people are doing something good, like posting a photo of themselves volunteering, or talking about something they're doing.
I think some level of openly flaunting/bragging should be acceptable... especially when you're proud of something you've accomplished or succeeded in. I personally feel happy for other people when I see they've accomplished something that they're proud of. In moderation, of course. I'm confused 😅...
Yes this is a great idea! I need examples since I tend to find myself overthinking these concepts! Often I see one small example of something and it frames my whole mindset on how to do it, so yeah this is a great idea!
Number 3 hit too close to home. In middle school and some of high school, I was always scowling, because I thought people would think I'm cool if I acted stoic and unemotional. Sometimes I wonder if my life would be better right now if I was friendlier back then.
Funny thing with me is I'm photosensitive which means my eyes are sensitive to light. When I was younger I was always squinting and people would ask me why I'm always mad. I think wearing sunglasses all the time is rude and probably not healthy either though.
I just have a RBF and was shy, smart, clumsy, strong. I think I intimidated a lot of people especially the boys- one time a boy saw a pocket knife in my school bag which I keep for protection since sometimes I went walking home and I think that did it ;-;- ngl kinda glad the school didn't find out-
Also, you'll meet more people in your life, and yes your life would have been different but it would be a good or bad different there is no knowing. And what happened back then is in the past, and I hope you create great friendships.
Naaa.... even if you are the friendly type... people will think you are easy and will abuse you. F*ck humanity! It is filled with ungrateful sh!theads!!!
@@kaito4926 the video also mentions insulting someone's opinion makes you dis likable maybe they have that frame of mind because of personal experiences, I wouldn't care what any one thinks of me if all they have to say about me is something negative.
@@kaito4926 when I give into human nature and try to be likable by caring about others opinions of me I just get depressed because I'm surrounded by negative people, I've been happier since I stopped caring, you can call it hard because it is but it's a very worth it fight, I took years to build my OWN personality instead of projecting human ideals
In 2021, speaking the TRUTH is what makes people not like you. Have the courage to speak truth. At least you’ll like yourself. Most people aren’t going to “like” you unless you can do something for them.
That might be true to some, but please keep the idea that there are others who like you for you and have good intentions. Being honest is good yet people might feel intimidated if you just say everything without filter. Finding another way to phrase things still counts as being honest. People who only like you for favors are toxic but not everyone is the same. I hope this helps.
even though I don't relate to any of these signs (besides the not smiling one) I still feel like I am annoying everyone I know. I've even asked them about it, and they say that I'm not doing anything wrong, yet every time, I feel like they're lying (or sugar-coating it).
Then it might be a more internal thing and issues with your self and self-confidence. I’m like that too but we all have to remind ourselves that at the end of the day, people are more concerned with themselves then they are with other people. And who knows. It also might be that they act a certain way because they too also have internal issues they’re struggling with and like to project it towards others.
Awe. That's awful. Usually the fears we have about what other people think are us just beating ourselves up for nothing. They are usually too busy being scared of what we think of them......😉
you are born a certain way. Not everything is for you. not all rockclimb or paint. or like cars. be yourself. your comfort zone is to protect you. it's who you are. we. are. not. the. same. we should Not try to do everything others do. or be all things. we can't. accept your born limitations. love yourself. do not go with the flow. ignore the crowds. the majority. they are wrong. be you. be kind and find God
+Vengeful Polititron You actually had some good points and some sage advice about being yourself and not compromising on hobbies and interests. Then you went and made one of the worst mistakes anyone could make when giving advice. You brought religion into and tried to convert people. Not everyone believes in god. Not everyone wants or needs to share your faith. Keep it to yourself.
@@razorwindrazor3981 consider that maybe my sage advice is because I'm seeing the world from the other side. I'm spiritually dead now. I failed. you should realize that maybe I included that last bit, because it is sage advice.
You just need to find friends you don't secretly hate or envy. Sound obvious, but sometime we try to be friends with people we are somehow competing against them, and that can't really work out. Real friends, you find caring for them natural and the right thing.
Or that don't secretly hate or envy you! I have had that happen to me in the past. Not very nice at all, and I thought they were my best friend, but I was wrong.
It makes you look at yourself a different way when you realize someone dislikes you. I’ve recently had a lot of my friends ghost me and unadd me and now I can’t look at myself in any good way. I feel like there’s someone wrong with me that’s causing people to not want anything to do with me. I didn’t do anything wrong and I still don’t know why people do this do me 😭. I have TERRIBLE anxiety and I can’t talk to anybody unless they talk to me first. I feel like a mistake and I feel like I have no purpose. I feel like I’m just here for nothing until I breathe my last breath. I have never thought about myself like this until people started disliking me. I’m so depressed 😞
Literally EVERYONE I meet ends up disliking me even if they liked me at first. I genuinely don’t understand why. I’m a bit awkward but besides that idk what it could be. I even feel like I’m OVERLY friendly at times. But everyone ends up drifting away from me. Every. One. I need to know what I’m doing wrong 😞
Phillipians 4:13 Do not be anxious about anything but by prayer and petition, present your request before the Lord, and the peace of God which transcends all understanding shall rest on you.
Alot of people are lost and faking everything, pretending to be better than they are, when you see it this way you wouldn't even care about what you're doing that bothers them because it could be a number of different things and it's more about them than you, alot of people can't get past their judgements and prejudices because they themselves hate themselves and are insecure, good luck to you
I used to not have any close friends and a lot of people used to dislike me in school. But all those experiences made me a better person, taught me to accept my mistakes and made me an open minded person :) I sure do have a long way to go and a lot more to learn, but at least I got till here! I'm proud of myself for who I am today ^^
I always disliked those who think that THEIR successes and failures in life are of supreme importance, and anyone else’s differing paths are “unusual” or “weird”. Personal tastes as well. The world doesn’t revolve around your joys OR your gripes!
I'm really appreciative of this content it throws a lot of light. Many people dislike me for being myself. I feel more comfortable when I'm alone so I really don't like being around people except my immediate family. My social skills are not the best but trying to change seems like a very difficult task.
Something that I've noticed that causes people to possibly not liked is me being self aware. Trying to learn how to be more self aware but it's really difficult
The reason people don't like me mostly in my class is because i am not into trends i dont like anime, I don't like doing makeup, i don't like kpop,i dont like a specific author,i don't like a specific game etc I have tried to change my hobbies so much just to talk to someone and its just not working out everyone calls me childish and annoying.
It ain't humble bragging the person listening is just listening with a jealous heart. A person is literally saying I'm not doing well and all you are getting from it is the person is bragging.
Somewhere there's probably a video titled *"6 Behaviors That Make People Like You and How To Stop It."* 1)Do more social media 2)Start humblebragging 3)Stop smiling 4) Constantly criticize 5) Fake emotions 6) Start using emoji in formal email...
The people who used to praise me mock me,the one who used to respect me jokes about me the girls who used to always talk to me nicely now speak ill to me. I am a loser,a person incapable of doing what I truly want and achieving the thing I want but I have a hope that someone or something will pull this loser up and make me better.
1. I don’t even have social media. 2. I never brag, I’m fact I always avoid it. 3. I find it hard to smile sometimes, but I do when I can. 4. I never criticize people’s decisions, people normally do this to me instead. 5. I normally say what I think, but I play dumb to lighten the mood sometimes. 6. I always add smile emoticons, but not when I am saying something important. I don’t really get why everyone is telling me to shut up all the time, but maybe I’m just too annoying…
I think bragging is a turn off if it’s “disguised” as mentioned in the video or if it’s meant to put others down or if it comes off as arrogance. Idk, I like when my friends openly share their accomplishments. I think people humblebrag because straight up bragging is seen to be rude. Just be open and say you feel proud of yourself. Idk it’s all so nuanced. Sometimes boasting can be positive and infectious, like when a boxer hypes himself up. It’s just nuanced
I really disliked the one about people not liking you for putting any emojis in a formal email. Emails are generally so cold, so detached, so corporate feeling, that I decided to add some emojis to remind myself, and others that I am human, and that they are too. ❤️ What spurred me to search this topic, is me trying to understand why so many viewers on UA-cam do not like me, or my content , enough to subscribe, click like, or leave a positive comment, etc. I have low self esteem when it comes to my UA-cam channel.
I feel like if you don’t like someone because of these reasons you are a control freak. I don’t care how many photos my friends post or if they brag about something. I want good things for them. If that makes them feel good it makes me feel good.
The 6 behaviour:- 0:43 Sharing too much post on social media 1:24 Humblebraging 2:22 Not Smiling 2:58 Constantly criticising others 3:49 Suppressing or faking your emotions 4:26 using emotions in formal writing Have a good day ahead ❣️
This is so weird, everyone around me instantly thinks I'm being rude. I don't smile, I have a poker face sometimes, and I avoid talking to others, I get eye rolls, people glare at me, or even some flip me off. It actually sucks because I'm not trying to look like I don't care :(
“You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time.” - John Lydgate
I had this one girl I was friends with who multiple times lied and criticised others, and she was obsessed with one of my best friends to the point where she’d be asking questions every millisecond and lying about who my best friend was dating and that she was sick and wasn’t at school (even though I literally saw my best friend an hour ago) 😂 This video made me remember her cause most of this is listed with her and how she was treated by people in class
For the 1st point, I'd say it's also likely you need to be careful about 'friends' that would rather you stop posting. They should consider if there are ways to tinker with their feed as well. If you're posting lots of meaningful pictures, thoughts, whatever, things you actually put soul into, then yeah, find friends that support you. But if you're posting just to post, don't be surprised when people get tired of it. For point 3, it's important to remember people's personalities are different. I personally am quite sensitive to forced emotion - it's a bit offputting. I find this point rather contentious since it tries to force people to act 'likeable' rather than act true to themselves. It strikes me as degrading at its core, though well-intentioned. Some people don't smile all the time; pulling your attention away from work and thoughts just to appear more easily approachable is a useful tool, but not a means by which to live. Point 4: People are different. Non-Aggression Principle and The Golden Rule are wise guidelines. Say what you must, but be considerate. Point 5: Authenticity for me means being honest. That means often being disliked. So I have to be inauthentic in order to function in day-to-day life. This is a thought-provoking video, and valuable for that reason. I just felt comfortable enough to add my thoughts.
I have a friend I've been friends with for a few years now. I would call him a good friend. He's doing a lot of personal growth stuff. But for years, no matter what I do he always finds something to pick on in the way I do my things compared to his way. And recently I got really sick of this. Especially when telling him I think of myself as having a positive way of thinking just to be told by him that in his eyes, I don't and that I'm insecure. Scenarios like these happened quite a few times during our friendship. I am really sick of him judging me all the time. Thanks to him I always feel less confident in myself even though before we have talks I always feel better in my skin and then he ruins it. I backed off right now and I feel better to be honest. Can't deal with him right now.
He’s not your friend. He puts you down in order to feel better about himself, that’s why you feel drained after seeing him. Check out emotional vampires. Hope you find better friends.
He sounds toxic. Maybe he’s not really your friend. Or, if you want to try to salvage things, tell him how he makes you feel. How he reacts will reveal whether he’s truly your friend. If he apologizes & changes his behavior, then, he might be a keeper. But, if he defends his actions & doesn’t validate your feelings DUMP HIS SORRY ASS!!!!
He sounds really toxic. He treats you like his "...poor, sad, pathetic friend who constantly needs his wisdom to survive". I had a friend like this once. They sit on their high horse and look down their nose at you so they can feel superior. In reality they are really, really fragile, insecure people. My friend who did this made herself the martyr/saviour of our group of friends to attract attention to herself and hide from the fact that she was trapped in a really toxic, bad marriage and was not dealing with it. Don't listen to him. You're doing just fine.... 😉
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Time stamps:
1.Over sharing on social media 0:42
2. Humblebragging 1:24
3.Not Smiling 2:23
4.Constantly criticising others 3:00
5.Suppressing or faking emotion 3:52
6.Using emoticons in formal writing 4:27
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I cant smile tho..
Why does it say 1 month ago!!!!!! Ahhhhhhhhhhhh
I'm guilty of 2 of these - not smiling and suppressing emotions. Probably why I only have two friends :')
“3. Not smiling”
Ohhh that explains it
I smiled all the time and people hated it :) so don’t worry
Is that why I got bullied in 4th grade? I don't smile much I don't show enough emotions 😔
@@imthicc69 ah don’t worry about it too much mate. Not showing emotion can be a strength in some cases :)
@@slayre1408 Ok 😊
relate
People talking about themselves the whole time without showing interest in others would definitely make people dislike you too.
Yes indeed! Especially when it is a family or friend who waffles on about very irrelevant things during dinner and then mentioned something important in the middle of it. As I had stopped paying attention to him, I had missed that information.
This is why I'm scared to recommend my stuff. Well... Weird thing aside
@@EddyWoon Some people are socially awkward to where they have “irrelevant,” ice breakers, during dinner.
But...oomf did that all the time still got so much love starting from the principal to the teachers to the janitors to the seniors to the juniors to the peers till the stray cats..
There are lots of people like that. Purely like to talk about themselves w/o listening to what others want to say. Usual case, my conversation with them won't last long.
I’m socially awkward, so when I first meet people I usually just keep to myself and I choose to open up when I feel comfortable, but for some reason people translate me being quite and shy as me being rude and thinking I’m too good to talk to them. So people usually don’t like me when they first meet me.
People like this make me laugh. It's like they can't relax around introverts unless they know almost everything there is to know about them which is absurd, silly, irrational and to be honest kind of creepy and suspicious to me. It seems like they're just mad and anxious because they won't have a very big story to tell to other people about you.
Just be yourself and let the people who are meant to be in your life come to you.
Me too! And it’s always annoying when they ask the same stupid question “why are you so shy and quiet?” Like how tf am I supposed to answer to this ? If anything it makes me more socially awkward
literally me
Same. Because I dont smile they think iam mad, mean, so serious. I like to speak allot and laugh but, i do it all that but alone . Yes i do talk to myself, and laugh at my own jokes
This video seems to be completely oblivious that being authentic could make one appear unlikeable in the first place (family of orgin and childhood experience plays a major role here).
I think people dislike me because I'm generally quiet and private. And I have overshared on social media in the past, because even though i'm private I wish people knew who I really am I deep down. But I decided to let social media go for other reasons. Honestly I don't really care how people view me anymore, I like myself and the majority of people are temporary anyway
Good for you
Relatable. Social media is one way for people to know more about me :)
Doesn't this count as social media?
Yeah, n sometimes we "over share" on social media cause we're looking for support. Especially if we're in a situation where we literally cannot get out into the real
world, such as disabilities. I've learned that it's good to join groups that understand whatever ur going thru. ❤️
You’re perfect the way you are!
Basically you're saying people only like you when you're in a good mood. And i genuinely feel those are the worst people to associate with. They'll never be around when you need them.
I think it's more "at first". For example, you might not start to like a person who is not smilling, is gloomy, when you see it for the first times. When you already make friends, they will be with you even if you are not in a good mood. But to make a friend is a long journey and you have to put effort into it.
@@metalman666ization Maybe you just had bad expierences, because people are social beings and most of them wants to make relationships. And of course people may be put off or get scared if you show too much emotion too soon. Especially if they don't know you too well. That's why it's important to work with your psychology and how you treat other people. They are just like you, some of them are sensitive, some of them have problems or anxiety. And they aren't psychologist to help you with your deepest problems/emotions. People often confuse friends with psychologists. It's not the same and shouldn't be.
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@@metalman666ization You’re rightttttt 😄😻
Also, a morbid cycle: Being depressed -> being sad, unconfident and insecure in a social setting -> trouble making friends -> no one to talk to -> being depressed (and having low social skills, 'cause practice makes perfect)
Of course it's not always like this, but what always pissed me off is the fact that happy, energetic people usually have many friends and they could probably even manage with one or two (real) friends and still be happy with life, whereas depressed, traumatized, anxious people have to (again: not always of course) suffer in loneliness which "snowballs" that cycle above
This world is so unfair
I don't know why but this art style is oddly comforting 😌
i know right!
It is aesthetic style :D
Same makes me feel really comfy
Light hues and colors or something like that.
Yes
I tend to not smile at strangers, as it worries me that they might think I'm flirting with them.
You commented this in 2022, and I can relate to that too
This is delusion sorry
@@bellapna I don't think so. There absolutely ARE people who would make that assumption, so it's not exactly "a delusion".
You're not a golden coin so that everybody loves you. Best way to live your life is to stop caring about what others think. Workout, build confidence, learn new things, be kind to others without expecting anything, be humble but not spineless, be strict but fair, be nice but not a people pleaser, build and build confidence in yourself and you will eventually achieve all your goals. Do all of these things for you. Don't be a people pleaser, if you want happiness think of yourself but do not abandon people that you love. Keep your mind occupied with goals and don't worry about what others think. At the end of the day, the only one that is going to get your goals done is yourself. I leave this message here if anyone needs reading it.
Brilliant! I love this channel as much for people's comments as I do the content.
Good god I didn’t know how much I needed to read this comment
Thank you ❤
I really needed to read this. I remember back in middle school & high school I always tried be a people pleaser and act certain way just to get people to laugh and to get approval and all it did was have people treat me badly and not respect me. Still dealing with confidence issues to this day.
Thanks for your message. I made sure to screenshot it🔥💯
Everyone is diffrent, and people shouldn't be hated/disliked because of that! Being diffrent is ok as long as it's not hurting anyone or you
Very true! People forget the golden rule and treating others like you would like to be treated
@Jason Torres that's literally what i was thinking and i'm also on the spectrum.
I wish. So many ppl are very judgemental but then refuse to self reflect. Why ppl with ASD have such a hard time. While ppl that can navigate these situations but are quite horrible objectively get included
My hero of a big sis is on the spectrum too. She'll always be my best friend, even though she sees the world differently than I do.
Yeah. Just be yourself.
“Every situation in life is temporary. So, when life is good, make sure you enjoy and receive it fully. And when life is not so good, remember that it will not last forever and better days are on the way.”
nah
That's bs if it's temporary whys it been like this this long and if it's gonna get better it's taking long enough lol
Thank you ICEcold JT wise words
Outside of ferry tails and cartoons, things get worst fast and they keep getting worst. So if you arent in the position to deal whit it, or someone dont help you, your done. And when you are in that much of a problem hearing friends say "It will pass." or " It will sort it self out" translates to " Not my problem".
This too shall pass
I always seem to be more comfortable by myself, and even act more like me while I'm alone.
For example, if someone else is around, I'm less likely to get up and grab a glass of water. I also avoid crying or singing a lot in front of others. However, when I'm alone I'll cry, sing, talk to myself, work on passion projects, work on problems, come up with ideas, work out, and many other things. I do like playing games with others and talking, but I feel like every moment is more meaningful when I'm alone. Like I don't have to freak out about anything. When I'm with others it's like I'm transported to an alternate dimension, and when they leave, I feel I can be expressive again.
I just wanted to vent a little. Have a good day everyone!
Same
Same
You only grow when you're alone
-Paul Newman
I can relate, you seem like a pretty cool person
@@LifeisaBeautifulting Thank you!
Also being a narcissist. When everything is about you and you can care less about others. I was at dinner with a couple friends one night, and one of my girlfriends started sharing a very personal problem she is dealing with at the time. Meanwhile, our other friend was not engaging or listening to her and seemed to not want to be bothered with something that didn't interest her. So she began to look at her phone and watch tik tok videos and started laughing loudly at the table at the videos. Completely oblivious to the other person's pain and feeling the need to talk to a friend and be heard. At that very moment, I decided to slowly let this person go and move on. I have no patience at my age to deal with people like this. Taking selfies at the table, my god.... grow up!
Sharing in the middle of dinner very sensitive issues is also narcissistic since you’re holding everyone hostage! Expecting all adults present to just automatically attend to you at the drop of a hat sounds very immature to me.
@@africanglobalnomad my friend was discussing her mom having dementia and how hard it was to deal with. She rarely opens up like this meanwhile the other friend was drunk on tik tok. Yeah… I made the right choice.
Everytime I get to hang out with more than one friend, it just happens to them to share private things to eachother, and I just always happen to ask "can I also see or hear what you're doing ?" But they are like "oh, just nothing" 😞 it hurts, it feels like I am out of the group
If a person is genuine and doesn't hog or crave the attention I will listen and give them the floor but if your one of those people that need attention and all eyes on you then I would be on my phone too thinking...oh here we go again but it all depends on the person. Some people get my full attention and respect while others get to watch me ignore their cry for attention.
I really admire the fact that you could notice this friends rude behavior and walk away. I would have probably lost respect for that person but still kept contact, but this is a great example of when to let go people that I'll remember. Thanks ❤
*smiles*
"why are you smiling for no reason"
"why do you smile like that"
"what are you smiling for? theres nothing good happening"
*never again*
CREATE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS
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But that's illegal in my state.
I have the feeling that, if you´re different from what people consider "normal", then they don´t like you.
If you´re swimming against the stream, instead of with it, people seem to dislike you much faster.
If you´re speaking up against things and tell other people that you don´t like this or that, then they dislike you as well.
People even tent to dislike you when you suddenly say "no" to certain things you always said "yes" to before.
Why can´t they just try to understand each other better? Why don´t they question the reasons for your decisions instead of immediately judging and disliking you?
Why do we have to try to be someone else to be liked by others? It´s rare to be able to be yourself around other people because they might tend to dislike you for that.
I just tey not to worry to much about what other people think and just do what I think is good. Some people like me and whoever doesn't I don't worry about. I'm happy how i am and with the friends who do like me. Just be you and people will like you anyway if they are worth it.I've always been different and I am happy that way. Why be normal?
Sounds like you need new friends. "What a friend we have in Jesus".
I like your comment it truly resonates with me, when you think differently, you swim against the grain, and when you stand up for yourself people don’t like that.
People treat me like shit and it hurts a lot
I’ve never fitted in anywhere since l was a kid, people treat me poorly.
Like you were saying, you stand up for what’s right, and people treat you like shit. I’ve done that.
"Normal is what people are before you get to know them."
Michael Bolton
Yeess. Thank you for writing this. Totally agree with everything you said. It's funny because I was just talking to someone and found out that a person doesn't like me because I'm weird. But now that I read your message, I feel a lot better. You're right, it would be better if people just talked to us first instead of judging. There is nothing wrong with being different.
#1: randomly punching people in the face
@@ellah6194 ah, don’t worry it’s a simple and common mistake
@@mr.sheeppeehs4204 yep
Oh, how I wish I could...
@@mr.sheeppeehs4204 😂
Lol - when turning the other cheek won't work!
How in the hell will not smiling make others not like you? If you don't wanna smile that shouldn't be a problem.
FACTS 💯
My Grandfather gave me a great piece of advice. Be Happy! Find something to laugh about every day. Don't let others interfere with your peace or happiness. And love yourself.
Sometimes, I feel like I'm annoying when I hang out with my friends, I feel like it's kinda normal.
I feel the same
Yeah it's normal in a moderate level.
I'm the same way. It's part of why I'm so quiet
Same that's why I left my friend group and became lonely :)
same someone help me with this plz i am 14 and i don’t know why it’s just i feel like i don’t belong with my friends i just feel like i’m alone but the real problem is that i don’t feel that i belong and it bothers me because before i could vibe with them be happy and we would all have a smile in our faces but now they all have a good time and i just feel like i don’t belong
WHY PEOPLE DISLIKE ME
- I'M NOT ATTRACTIVE
- I'M POOR
- I'M NOT COOL
- I DON'T CONFORM TO SOCIAL STANDARDS
Even if that's real in your mind .. u may find people that appreciate u for who u are ...
If u want we can be friend?
@@fatmaalban7294 but why do people always come up with prepackaged affirmations? It could be that I'll never meet the people who will appreciate me for who I am and I won"t even find love
True!!!!
@@TheletterR. 🤔🤔🤔??!
people may dislike you because you’re literally giving them a reason to dislike you, just like now. do NOT complain to anybody about yourself.
A piece of advice to all, just be yourself and don’t ever change yourself just to please or wanting people to like you. It’s fine if you want improve yourself but there will always people who going to dislike you with whatever you do. Be with people who love you the way you are not what you are not. 💕
no
"just be yourself"
i tried it
it was horrible
The BEST comment!
@@DragoSmash it’s okayyy... try to improve yourself slowly to be a better person. But there is a different between improving and changing and people always mistaken by this. You are not horrible, it just you have a different personality than others and that’s make you unique ☺️
you are born a certain way.
Not everything is for you.
not all rockclimb or paint. or like cars.
be yourself.
your comfort zone is to protect you.
it's who you are.
we. are. not. the. same.
we should Not try to do everything others do. or be all things.
we can't.
accept your born limitations.
love yourself.
do not go with the flow.
ignore the crowds. the majority.
they are wrong.
be you. be kind
and find God
My problem is - existing . Simply existing is probably the top reason
I'm so glad I learnt manners and public relations skills early in life. It cannot be stressed enough how important it is in all areas of life.
I think people don't like me because I m loud and talk to much. And since the pandemic I constantly complain about every thing.
@nurulfarhana meow yeees
But your complaints are validated and reasonable to me. 2020 and slowly 21 suck sweaty balls. Sorry but those years are bad. Most people hate the truth. I hate the lies and falseness of people. There are people who will always enjoy your honesty and emotional outbursts! Then again, I am a Cancer, so I enjoy folks who express their true selves rather than dealing with their dishonesty. You keep being true.
I rather enjoy talkative people, I’m an introvert & a good listener, I appreciate people like you
@@LadyCoyKoi Thank you! ❤️
@@Kenna198 Thank you 😊!
Smile when you don’t feel like it and keep your opinions to yourself but don’t fake emotions or be inauthentic. Got it. Got it.
Neurotypical folk are not okay.
Agree its so confusing... so be ourselves and don't be yourself cuz it annoys others.
They literally said, smile whenever you feel like it. They didn't say smile when you don't feel like it. Why bring neurotypical-ness into it? I'm on the spectrum and understood what it meant. Perhaps you should try turning the captions on if you feel like you have misheard something?
@@inferiorinferno8859 what if you dont smile much but just so people will like you, you force yourself to smile for everyone else. i know the video said smile whenever you can but that can be a struggle to some. theyre literally saying you have to smile so people like you but be yourself what if myself is someone who doesnt smile especially when i dont want to.
Yes exactly.... 🤦🏼♀️🤷🏻♀️🙅🏻♀️
As a nonneurotypical person, I agree beyond 10000%. Then again, I am the type to always smile, that's just my face. 🤷♀️I also share opinions no matter way. I wasn't taught to lie or be fake. My mother stated that if I am placed on a lying detecting machine, the machine would malfunction over being heart broken at how honest and sincere I am. 🥰I am a terrible liar. I just can't. My brain makes an alarm and says only say the truth, because that is always better than the lies.
why is this style so CUTEEEE?!
I am cute because I am a qualified lesbian
I would like broader research done on the “ smile more” one. I have met with many people outside of the US and even people within the US where smiling isn’t exactly looked at as a good thing. Turns out, it makes people uncomfortable, even suspicious. I personally think it’s more of a case by case basis and we should just stick with “ don’t fake emotions”.
Fake smiles are creepy! Real ones are good.
Big fake toothy smiles are in style rn.
@@David-eu1ms Sadly. They come across as fake.
I think smiling is universally friendly, although you can tell which ones are fake. However, I've never seen someone complain about a genuine smile and I'd be interested to hear what you find. Let us know! :)
Who cares if people don't like me . I'm not here on this earth to impress people. The only one I've got to impress is myself.
Yet you clicked on this video and just had to comment about it, i don't know if that's the whole story
Who asked plus what does this have to do with the video?
Hey people I can comment anyway I'd like to. Noone asked for your opinions. If you don't like it then shut your holes.
@notbrian2 Noone asked for your comment shut your hole.
@segundaconta. Noone asked for your comment shut your hole.
I've literally been thinking about this subject for months.
This is so needed rn. Thx
Same thoughts🙂
i like psych2go so freaking much, if i havent find this channel i would have a mental breakdown
Oh
Me too!!
How did you post this a month ago?
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"Smile more"
"Don't fake your emotions"
That's where my problem lies. I hardly smile because I can't smile when I don't feel like it. And that makes me unapproachable. But I'm not complaining. I don't want people around me.
Bro I feel this sm- I hate when people tell me to be happy or smile when I’m not like if I don’t have a reason to them I won’t it’s so frustrating how people always want you to be how they want and when your not it’s a problem this is why is im starting to hate every one around me at this point😪🤷♀
Ikr, but the right people will always approach you u know
Women say my smile is gorgeous but 1. I rarely smile because I hate insincere smiles, and 2. I grow my beard which hides my mouth.
I think it’s weird that not posting at all is preferred over posting. The whole point of social media is to post and it’s so true people don’t like me because I post too much and I get insecure about it and just deactivate all my accounts because no cares about seeing me succeed because I’m not a typical “pretty” girl. Story is people only care about your happiness if you are attractive, rich, or posting something about them.. social media is a sick and twisted game.
Who cares what people don’t like, they don’t even like themselves.
exactly!
Yeah right?
Um - no, I will not smile whenever I can. 1. I never want to 2. If I smile whenever I CAN I'd always be smiling, and no one wants that. My fake smile is so obvious
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Leurs états de santé
respectifs les empêchent
de s'approcher trop
près l'un de l'autre.
在整個人類歷史上，強者，
富人和具有狡猾特質的人捕食部落，氏族，城鎮，城市~sae和鄉村中的弱者，無力防守和貧窮成員。
然而，人類的生存意願迫使那些被拒絕，被剝奪或摧毀的基本需求的人們找到了一種生活方式，並繼續將其𝔻𝔸融入不斷發展的人類社會。
說到食物，不要以為那些被拒絕的人只吃垃圾。相反，他們學會了在被忽視的肉類和蔬菜中尋找營養。
他們學會了清潔，切塊，調味和慢燉慢燉的野菜和肉類，在食品市場上被忽略的部分家用蔬菜和肉類，並且學會了使用芳香的木煙（如山核桃，山核桃和豆科灌木）來調味食物煮的時候 1617098707
@@richardmata660 k, I'm not gonna go to some random website someone on UA-cam sends me, I'm not an idiot. And just cause I don't smile doesn't mean I need to contact an adult.
Well, maybe it’s a good idea to practice smiling with the mirror or cute videos of animals and such. Cuz even though it is fine if you don’t usually feel like smiling, it is a good way of leaving a good impression! You also don’t have to smile all the time as well but a smile will help during first meetings and occasionally with closed ones to show your appreciation.
@@feelsbadman7134 Eh, if someone is bothered by me not smiling that's their problem. If they don't like me as much at first cause of a smile then I don't want to know them.
Ah, I see. I just hope you’ll keep this in mind during situations that require social interactions with others, like a polite smile during sales, it certainly helps. I hope you have a nice day!
Funfact: We are all time travellers. Just the boring kind.
Bruh tell me how
Really?
It's more like we technically live in the past.
Basically, our eyes and brain takes a tiny bit of time to process what's happening, so we see the past.
Times traveler by a few seconds, but eh.
Thank you! About time (no pun intended) someone who understands me.
What the f??? You must of been the guy in pursuit of happiness ha ha it's not a time machine geesh
I would rather people dislike me than like me.If too many people like me,I would feel trapped to always have to be more nice,and it's too much work.Take it or leave it.
I’ve found that my blunt honesty is only appreciated by my close friends. Everyone else seems to want me to tell them what they want to hear.
It'd be interesting to have a video describing the differences between humblebragging, virtue signalling and genuinely being humble/good/kind/self-confident. For someone with anxiety and depression, I find it difficult to talk about myself or sell myself in interviews because I don't want to come across as arrogant/selfish etc. Especially since humblebragging and virtue signalling are thrown around as insults when people are doing something good, like posting a photo of themselves volunteering, or talking about something they're doing.
I think some level of openly flaunting/bragging should be acceptable... especially when you're proud of something you've accomplished or succeeded in. I personally feel happy for other people when I see they've accomplished something that they're proud of. In moderation, of course.
I'm confused 😅...
Yes this is a great idea! I need examples since I tend to find myself overthinking these concepts! Often I see one small example of something and it frames my whole mindset on how to do it, so yeah this is a great idea!
Number 3 hit too close to home. In middle school and some of high school, I was always scowling, because I thought people would think I'm cool if I acted stoic and unemotional. Sometimes I wonder if my life would be better right now if I was friendlier back then.
Funny thing with me is I'm photosensitive which means my eyes are sensitive to light. When I was younger I was always squinting and people would ask me why I'm always mad. I think wearing sunglasses all the time is rude and probably not healthy either though.
I just have a RBF and was shy, smart, clumsy, strong. I think I intimidated a lot of people especially the boys- one time a boy saw a pocket knife in my school bag which I keep for protection since sometimes I went walking home and I think that did it ;-;- ngl kinda glad the school didn't find out-
Also, you'll meet more people in your life, and yes your life would have been different but it would be a good or bad different there is no knowing. And what happened back then is in the past, and I hope you create great friendships.
@@mars_taem4537 Thank you, that really helps. I hope you find great friends too.
Naaa.... even if you are the friendly type... people will think you are easy and will abuse you. F*ck humanity! It is filled with ungrateful sh!theads!!!
IDC if people like me or not .. im not born to impress them ..
then don’t watch the video.. why are u here?
The phrase is reasonable
But the phrase is also somewhat stupid
You know were social beings
Even if you do say that
It is hard to do it
@@kaito4926 this person's right, as social beings we care about others and how other perceive us. hard to fight human nature
@@kaito4926 the video also mentions insulting someone's opinion makes you dis likable maybe they have that frame of mind because of personal experiences, I wouldn't care what any one thinks of me if all they have to say about me is something negative.
@@kaito4926 when I give into human nature and try to be likable by caring about others opinions of me I just get depressed because I'm surrounded by negative people, I've been happier since I stopped caring, you can call it hard because it is but it's a very worth it fight, I took years to build my OWN personality instead of projecting human ideals
well I'm autistic so it literally doesn’t matter what I do: People dislike me
Not everybody is gonna like everybody like how everybody doesn’t find the everybody attractive its just life🤷🏽♂️
I'm just a simple Time Traveler saying. Have a good day
Thank you :)
thank u
Me too :)
Hi time travellers
Shouldn’t the joke of you being a time traveler be you’ll have a good day?
In 2021, speaking the TRUTH is what makes people not like you. Have the courage to speak truth. At least you’ll like yourself. Most people aren’t going to “like” you unless you can do something for them.
That might be true to some, but please keep the idea that there are others who like you for you and have good intentions. Being honest is good yet people might feel intimidated if you just say everything without filter. Finding another way to phrase things still counts as being honest.
People who only like you for favors are toxic but not everyone is the same. I hope this helps.
even though I don't relate to any of these signs (besides the not smiling one) I still feel like I am annoying everyone I know. I've even asked them about it, and they say that I'm not doing anything wrong, yet every time, I feel like they're lying (or sugar-coating it).
Yes, I feel the same way.
Then it might be a more internal thing and issues with your self and self-confidence. I’m like that too but we all have to remind ourselves that at the end of the day, people are more concerned with themselves then they are with other people. And who knows. It also might be that they act a certain way because they too also have internal issues they’re struggling with and like to project it towards others.
Awe. That's awful. Usually the fears we have about what other people think are us just beating ourselves up for nothing. They are usually too busy being scared of what we think of them......😉
Thats the difference between you and I. I genuinely dont care about what others think about me. Really, I dont like people enough to care.
i do not follow any of these... yet people naturally just dislike me. I kinda got used to it so its not a big deal anymore
Moral of the story:
*Try to fit in the crowd*
Or you'll be ignore 4ever
Some people are brave enough to stand out!
you are born a certain way.
Not everything is for you.
not all rockclimb or paint. or like cars.
be yourself.
your comfort zone is to protect you.
it's who you are.
we. are. not. the. same.
we should Not try to do everything others do. or be all things.
we can't.
accept your born limitations.
love yourself.
do not go with the flow.
ignore the crowds. the majority.
they are wrong.
be you. be kind
and find God
+Vengeful Polititron
You actually had some good points and some sage advice about being yourself and not compromising on hobbies and interests. Then you went and made one of the worst mistakes anyone could make when giving advice. You brought religion into and tried to convert people. Not everyone believes in god. Not everyone wants or needs to share your faith. Keep it to yourself.
@@razorwindrazor3981
consider that maybe my sage advice is because I'm seeing the world from the other side. I'm spiritually dead now. I failed.
you should realize that maybe I included that last bit, because it is sage advice.
@@razorwindrazor3981 Sage advice isn't negated by religiosity!
0:02 I THOUGHT THAT WAS A GRAVESTONE FOR A SECOND
"suppressing or faking emotions"
That explains a lot.
I know a lot of people with all these issues and still they have so many friends and family members around them all the time
I feel like people always misunderstand me everytime. I just come across as rude no matter what i say.
I hate how people just expect us to be happy all the time.
You just need to find friends you don't secretly hate or envy. Sound obvious, but sometime we try to be friends with people we are somehow competing against them, and that can't really work out.
Real friends, you find caring for them natural and the right thing.
Or that don't secretly hate or envy you! I have had that happen to me in the past. Not very nice at all, and I thought they were my best friend, but I was wrong.
Her voice 🥺 make me calm.
I have learned this over the years 1:06 that not everyone is going to like u and it’s okay
It makes you look at yourself a different way when you realize someone dislikes you. I’ve recently had a lot of my friends ghost me and unadd me and now I can’t look at myself in any good way. I feel like there’s someone wrong with me that’s causing people to not want anything to do with me. I didn’t do anything wrong and I still don’t know why people do this do me 😭. I have TERRIBLE anxiety and I can’t talk to anybody unless they talk to me first. I feel like a mistake and I feel like I have no purpose. I feel like I’m just here for nothing until I breathe my last breath. I have never thought about myself like this until people started disliking me. I’m so depressed 😞
Try to do good things to some people and the right people will be attracted to you😊that's my belief in life
Literally EVERYONE I meet ends up disliking me even if they liked me at first. I genuinely don’t understand why. I’m a bit awkward but besides that idk what it could be. I even feel like I’m OVERLY friendly at times. But everyone ends up drifting away from me. Every. One. I need to know what I’m doing wrong 😞
Fr
Phillipians 4:13
Do not be anxious about anything but by prayer and petition, present your request before the Lord, and the peace of God which transcends all understanding shall rest on you.
Alot of people are lost and faking everything, pretending to be better than they are, when you see it this way you wouldn't even care about what you're doing that bothers them because it could be a number of different things and it's more about them than you, alot of people can't get past their judgements and prejudices because they themselves hate themselves and are insecure, good luck to you
I used to not have any close friends and a lot of people used to dislike me in school. But all those experiences made me a better person, taught me to accept my mistakes and made me an open minded person :) I sure do have a long way to go and a lot more to learn, but at least I got till here! I'm proud of myself for who I am today ^^
I always disliked those who think that THEIR successes and failures in life are of supreme importance, and anyone else’s differing paths are “unusual” or “weird”. Personal tastes as well. The world doesn’t revolve around your joys OR your gripes!
Ppl are not always gonna smile. Nobody's happy all the time.
I'm really appreciative of this content it throws a lot of light. Many people dislike me for being myself. I feel more comfortable when I'm alone so I really don't like being around people except my immediate family. My social skills are not the best but trying to change seems like a very difficult task.
Something that I've noticed that causes people to possibly not liked is me being self aware. Trying to learn how to be more self aware but it's really difficult
Passive aggressive and the victim behavior aspects as a means for bullying are trending these days. My generation is living through it.
At this point, I just don't care at all. Life is too short, you just can't and won't please everybody no matter what you say/do or not say/do.
The reason people don't like me mostly in my class is because i am not into trends i dont like anime, I don't like doing makeup, i don't like kpop,i dont like a specific author,i don't like a specific game etc
I have tried to change my hobbies so much just to talk to someone and its just not working out everyone calls me childish and annoying.
Ur not alone, man. I felt the same way too. Just don't give up and keep living :)
@@SquidwardRulez you want to give up when you have nobody with you and your the only one sitting alone.
It ain't humble bragging the person listening is just listening with a jealous heart. A person is literally saying I'm not doing well and all you are getting from it is the person is bragging.
Somewhere there's probably a video titled *"6 Behaviors That Make People Like You and How To Stop It."*
1)Do more social media
2)Start humblebragging
3)Stop smiling
4) Constantly criticize
5) Fake emotions
6) Start using emoji in formal email...
This lovely art style is back :) It’s one of my favorites.
-A time traveler
it's all well and good to tell people to express their emotions until it bites them in the ass.
The people who used to praise me mock me,the one who used to respect me jokes about me the girls who used to always talk to me nicely now speak ill to me.
I am a loser,a person incapable of doing what I truly want and achieving the thing I want but I have a hope that someone or something will pull this loser up and make me better.
1. I don’t even have social media.
2. I never brag, I’m fact I always avoid it.
3. I find it hard to smile sometimes, but I do when I can.
4. I never criticize people’s decisions, people normally do this to me instead.
5. I normally say what I think, but I play dumb to lighten the mood sometimes.
6. I always add smile emoticons, but not when I am saying something important.
I don’t really get why everyone is telling me to shut up all the time, but maybe I’m just too annoying…
There is so many videos I can time travel to-
The easiest way to get people to not like you, is to try and make them like you. Screw them if they don’t like you.
I don't care if people don't like me anymore
"number 3, not smiling"
Its over for me...
The people around me never smile, even when I smile at them
I also hate when someone laughs at me when I’m clearly being serious. Offensive. Very disrespectful.
Thats so true
"I don't want to be part of a world where being kind is a weakness."
Keanu Reeves
Don't forget to smile guys! With your mask on.
Suppressing or faking emotions: they hate you
Not suppressing or faking emotions: they hate you
True
I think bragging is a turn off if it’s “disguised” as mentioned in the video or if it’s meant to put others down or if it comes off as arrogance. Idk, I like when my friends openly share their accomplishments. I think people humblebrag because straight up bragging is seen to be rude. Just be open and say you feel proud of yourself. Idk it’s all so nuanced. Sometimes boasting can be positive and infectious, like when a boxer hypes himself up. It’s just nuanced
I really disliked the one about people not liking you for putting any emojis in a formal email. Emails are generally so cold, so detached, so corporate feeling, that I decided to add some emojis to remind myself, and others that I am human, and that they are too. ❤️ What spurred me to search this topic, is me trying to understand why so many viewers on UA-cam do not like me, or my content , enough to subscribe, click like, or leave a positive comment, etc. I have low self esteem when it comes to my UA-cam channel.
I feel like if you don’t like someone because of these reasons you are a control freak. I don’t care how many photos my friends post or if they brag about something. I want good things for them. If that makes them feel good it makes me feel good.
I really didn't get the photos and bragging thing either!
#3 not smiling
Face masks: we don't do that here
Put a smiley onto it. Oh wait that makes you unserious. We are doomed.
@@wernerhiemer406 double standards do suck and they're a large reason why there's so much hatred in the world.
I won't wear one. Body language is essential.
#1 suppressing your true nature due to fear of being disliked
“Smile”
“Don’t fake your emotions” how tf do I get through this?
Im one step ahead of yall, everyone hates me just because i exist
The 6 behaviour:-
0:43 Sharing too much post on social media
1:24 Humblebraging
2:22 Not Smiling
2:58 Constantly criticising others
3:49 Suppressing or faking your emotions
4:26 using emotions in formal writing
Have a good day ahead ❣️
i've been told i was outright intimidating to most of my friends before we actually met
it's probably because i never smile
@@peace-ur6ns cool video but i don't have a whole lot of memories to smile about and i certainly don't regret them
Sometimes it can be good to be at least a little intimidating. :)
This is so weird, everyone around me instantly thinks I'm being rude. I don't smile, I have a poker face sometimes, and I avoid talking to others, I get eye rolls, people glare at me, or even some flip me off. It actually sucks because I'm not trying to look like I don't care :(
“You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time.” - John Lydgate
I had this one girl I was friends with who multiple times lied and criticised others, and she was obsessed with one of my best friends to the point where she’d be asking questions every millisecond and lying about who my best friend was dating and that she was sick and wasn’t at school (even though I literally saw my best friend an hour ago) 😂
This video made me remember her cause most of this is listed with her and how she was treated by people in class
For the 1st point, I'd say it's also likely you need to be careful about 'friends' that would rather you stop posting. They should consider if there are ways to tinker with their feed as well.
If you're posting lots of meaningful pictures, thoughts, whatever, things you actually put soul into, then yeah, find friends that support you. But if you're posting just to post, don't be surprised when people get tired of it.
For point 3, it's important to remember people's personalities are different. I personally am quite sensitive to forced emotion - it's a bit offputting. I find this point rather contentious since it tries to force people to act 'likeable' rather than act true to themselves. It strikes me as degrading at its core, though well-intentioned. Some people don't smile all the time; pulling your attention away from work and thoughts just to appear more easily approachable is a useful tool, but not a means by which to live.
Point 4: People are different. Non-Aggression Principle and The Golden Rule are wise guidelines. Say what you must, but be considerate.
Point 5: Authenticity for me means being honest. That means often being disliked. So I have to be inauthentic in order to function in day-to-day life.
This is a thought-provoking video, and valuable for that reason. I just felt comfortable enough to add my thoughts.
I have a friend I've been friends with for a few years now. I would call him a good friend. He's doing a lot of personal growth stuff. But for years, no matter what I do he always finds something to pick on in the way I do my things compared to his way. And recently I got really sick of this. Especially when telling him I think of myself as having a positive way of thinking just to be told by him that in his eyes, I don't and that I'm insecure. Scenarios like these happened quite a few times during our friendship. I am really sick of him judging me all the time. Thanks to him I always feel less confident in myself even though before we have talks I always feel better in my skin and then he ruins it. I backed off right now and I feel better to be honest. Can't deal with him right now.
He’s not your friend. He puts you down in order to feel better about himself, that’s why you feel drained after seeing him. Check out emotional vampires. Hope you find better friends.
Dump him,he’s no friend.
I would just gradually ease him out of your life.
He sounds toxic. Maybe he’s not really your friend. Or, if you want to try to salvage things, tell him how he makes you feel. How he reacts will reveal whether he’s truly your friend. If he apologizes & changes his behavior, then, he might be a keeper. But, if he defends his actions & doesn’t validate your feelings DUMP HIS SORRY ASS!!!!
He sounds really toxic. He treats you like his "...poor, sad, pathetic friend who constantly needs his wisdom to survive". I had a friend like this once. They sit on their high horse and look down their nose at you so they can feel superior. In reality they are really, really fragile, insecure people. My friend who did this made herself the martyr/saviour of our group of friends to attract attention to herself and hide from the fact that she was trapped in a really toxic, bad marriage and was not dealing with it. Don't listen to him. You're doing just fine.... 😉
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"Not smilling" "suppressing emotions"
Welp, ig I'll struggle
We're all flawed human beings, nobody's got everything right all the time it's impossible however we can improve and learn from our mistakes.