Life Lessons - Profound Comments by Sixty and Me Sisters
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- Опубліковано 14 жов 2024
- I asked our Sixty and Me community what life lessons they had learned in 2023 and thier answers took my breath away. Honestly we could write a book on the comments people left. So let's continue the conversation. What is one life lesson you learned last year? What would you like to share with younger women who visit our Sixty and Me site! Little do they know what is coming!! How wonderful and challenging it will be!
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I've learned that grown children don't understand me or where I'm at right now. I'm lucky to have a long-distance friend and we can text each other. Maybe only another senior understands a senior.💜
Where would we be without phone friends?
Sadly they cannot. They haven’t lived your experiences and are too busy trying to manage their own.
So many of the younger generation feel no value in the generation before.
But I believe. We are partially responsible for that - we encouraged them more than previous generations - to be there own people.
There are grown adult children, that want to run their mother’s life. That is where I stand.
SAME HERE. ❤
I agree, they’re also busy with their own lives and families. They love us but don’t have time to talk or see how we view life at this age.
This 90 year old introvert great-great grandmother loves the description "energy sucking vampire(s)". They are everywhere!! God bless... and try not to be one of them.
After going on a ten day cruise I learned that there is no place like your own home. I am so grateful I have my own home.
Wow SO true! As a top fashion model in the 80’s I lived in Milan for 9 years and traveled the world and worked at the top. At 72 I have never been more content being home in the palace I bought in 2003. It’s a cooperative so there are people around if I feel the need of company but home comforts me like no other place.
I've learned that i enjoy my own company and living alone on my old family homestead. My grown children would come help me if I needed them. As they know i would seldom ask anything of them as i remain proud of being independent.
Don’t be afraid of the things you think will happen. They won’t happen. Other things will happen.
I watched the actress Valerie Bertonelli yesterday and she said, when someone says something negative to you. DONT ACCEPT IT. Its not about YOU Its about them, and you DONT have to accept it. ❤🎉 This really helped me when it comes to my relatives.
I learned that it's OK to get rid of 'stuff' I don't use, like or need. Decluttering my home is also the decluttering of my life and my brain. Hanging on to things for the famous 'just because', or 'I might need it someday', doesn't bring freedom. If I haven't used or appreciated it in over a year, why keep it? Time to let go of things from my past and make room for better things in my future.
I'm gradually learning this too....
@@marybaker4710I’m also learning this the hard way😢 I am downsizing my home and it is so very difficult to throw out the things from my past and things inherited from my dear late mother.
I've found how freeing it is to get rid of "stuff" too!
It warms my heart that the people who come here are exactly like me . . .
It is a comfort to know that I am not the only one feeling like this
SO TRUE! I FEEL THE SAME WAY.
All these messages show me I'm not alone, thanks so much!
So much truth here, Margaret. People say they are there for you, but, when you need them, they're not. Family estrangement is a terrible struggle. I try to be as independent as possible, even when I'm having chronic pain. Thank you so much, and big hugs to you, Margaret. You are truly a blessing. Rosemarie ❤
I have finally come to understand "contentment". So much more valuable and long lasting than "happiness".
Wow you make me think
I became medically disabled from a 40 year career and it took me 6 months to find a hobby that gives me satisfaction and joy. I learned to quilt and sew and am having fun making gifts for family and friends and even my doctor ! Every day I binge on sewing videos to get ideas and instruction on how to sew this and that, how to quilt and even how to store fabrics which I am slowly beginning to accumulate when I find it on sale. I need to avoid stress and this is a non stressful hobby. I’m also planning to learn how to paint mandala designs once I invest in the tools. I’m so grateful for UA-cam videos ! Especially yours. Thank you for all you do for this community.
I learned to quilt when I was young and it’s brought me joy all my life. I’m glad you found such a wonderful hobby.
@@PlantPerson58 Thank you Janet. I remember making clothing as a child, my mother taught me. I did sew off and on throughout my adulthood but focused more on career and parenting. If I had been more consistent with sewing I might have become more skilled. I’m a neophyte now, I have a lot to learn! Which is OK, because I have a lot of time on my hands (no grandchildren yet).
I learned not to take people for granted, show them how much you care and have more compassion because one day they might not be there anymore!
I’ve learned to accept the people that leave my life - as they are - and not mourn what I hoped for - but cherish what was - and then move on
Agree very well
I wish I could....
@@roseyc.5846 Me too.
Was estranged from my son from June 2021 until we were called to the icu where he was already intubated and his eyes were taped closed. His sister and I had one hour to say goodbye. He and hos wife had lived in a shared psychosis during/after Covid. He passed away the next morning from multiple organ failure - severe alcoholism - we didn’t know where they even lived. I found you during that time and will be forever grateful. He was 35 and we still have no answers. I’m almost 66 and have spent the last year grieving and feeling guilt - someone who understands alcoholism/addiction said if you’re stuck in the guilt - you can’t really grieve - so I’m trying. I have a good life and need to live it with intention and purpose which for me are the elderly and animals. I talk to my boy every day and hope he can hear me. Thank you Margaret - there is some solace in knowing I’m not alone with theses feelings.❤
Learning to not take things so personal has been a big help to me. Its reduced my anxiety and I feel more at peace with myself.
I am grateful to have this community and appreciate all that you do here.
Please do this again Margaret
It does help to hear from others about these things
And that we are not alone in our thoughts, feelings, and experiences
Love to all and a great big HUG!
I needed the hug too🤗
Agree
Here’s a hug coming your way 🤗
Here's a virtual HUG.
Will do - thank you Cindy! I’ll
I agree. Was good to listen to this ❤
I’ve learned that procrastinating is a thief of a courageous and peaceful life.
In 2023, I examined myself and who and what I want in my life. There were difficult decisions. I’ve accepted that my adult children made their choices and they would no longer be allowed to hurt me in my vulnerability. I knowhow much I love and provided for them. Therefore I am grateful for my years and, my life. I’m celebrating the journey and planning new paths for me. Mostly, I have learned to say no more in 2024 to anything or anyone who takes away my peace and my joy. I am thankful to God for His faithfulness. I am at peace.
❤️ Yes, indeed time to give the love and care we gave our children etc. And start giving that love n care to ourselves. 🌺🕊️
I have experienced something similar, having given my all which l don't regret as a mother and grandmother only to be disrespected...many days sad/lonely and I can honestly say..God has given me the grace and strength to cope.🙏❤️ thank you for sharing ❤
I've learned. Don't let things that don't matter, matter too much
Thank you for this Margaret. So much of what these women said resonates with me. Having given so much of my life to others I’m now left to cope with problems on my own. It is so true that the only person who really cares about you and can look after you, is yourself. It made me feel better to know so many of us older women have these feelings. Thank you for sharing ❤
My mothers a narcissist. She never really matured past being a teenager. She is also jelous of any accomplishments that i achieve. At this stage of life, I'm learning to appreciate friendships other than family. God, I'm so happy the holidays are over😮❤🎉😊!!!!
You are looking beautiful in your purple today, Margaret! I am learning about who I truly am after becoming a widow several months ago. It's definitely going to be a process after looking after others for so many decades. I am not sure who I am or what I truly want for myself in the coming decade.❤
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I LOVE this site. I learn so much. Margaret you dont realize it, but this is a very innovative and supportive site. It trully enriches my daily life. Thankyou all and Margaret.
Thankyou Margaret, I’ve only recently found you and so very happy that I have! I’ve just turned 68. 2023 was a hard but huge learning year for me with a very positive outcome.
For the first time in my life I’ve finally learned that it’s ok to say no, enough, setting up new boundaries for my own health physically, mentally and emotionally. So many of the comments you shared with us here in this video resonate with me and inspired me…… thankyou again!
After loosing my son in a car accident I have learned self nourishment, self love, inner peace and treasuring my family
I am so sorry you lost your son to a car accident. I hope as time passes, you can experience a peace and some joy again.
Sending my love ❤️🌺
So very sorry ❤
Sending you hugs ❤
I'm so very sorry for your loss ❤
I started crying after you read the first comment. This was beautiful. Thank you, all the ladies ❤
Finding my own joy. My joy is doing mission trips to bring school supplies to children in different countries.
Love this!!!!
It’s winter and I’ve been spending more time indoors. My husband had left complete knee replacement surgery, his recovery went extremely well and six weeks into it we had a car accident where we were on a main road and a car from a side street didn’t yield. It set back my husband’s recovery and now he’s in pain. The doctor thinks it’s soft tissue inflammation and won’t do X-rays for another 3 weeks. On top of this we have my 92year old mother who always lived with us and now she has some dementia and keeps asking or repeating things. I have to be so mindful so I can always treat her right. Life can be stressful and my outlet is just to lie down and watch tv which probably makes me feel worse. It’s hard to concentrate on yourself when you have to take care of others. I’m seventy and my husband is seventy eight. Hopefully things will get better if my husband improves, he always helps me with my mother.
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❤🤗 I feel your pain and can identify with your situation. Here's a hug for you!
I understand caretaking Many times I just lie down and listen to a UA-cam video and close my eyes for an hour . Feels good.
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Beautiful thoughts!
It’s time to take care of me. We can still help others and be kind but in the end we have to live our lives to.
I like what one woman said, don’t look back, you’re not going that way!
So true!
Thank you for sharing all these wonderful thoughts!
It’s nice to belong to a group to share our feelings as we get older.
The people who are living it understand it best.🙏❤️🕊️🌸
Love your purple top! Also your necklace! Good color for you!
Last year I decided to let go of all the one-sided relationships I had. All those people I reached out to but who never reached out to me, gone, including some relatives. I am much happier without them. I also started a “me first” attitude. I put my happiness and health first. After working hard all my life and giving so much to others, I deserve some happiness. It’s wonderful.
🌺Congrats...I too am ready to ride the train you speak of... sending love, light n peace 💖🙏✨
Love the comments thanks for sharing ❤
I have finally realized that it is good❤ 😊👍 and necessary to put myself first 🎉2024.
In thus year of 2024 I plan to look forward & not back…and listen & learn from all these comments ❤️
I'm grateful for every day. Appreciate the good people in your life at whatever level you/they are comfortable with. If you have a child/children, who really sees/respect you not just as a mom but as a person? Nothing compares to that. Be grateful, give thanks to your God/god at the start of your day and decide to be happy. Keep it simple..........
I've struck a balance between being informed about the news & obsessing over current events. My husband went through a major health crisis. This put everything into perspective. Current events don't stress me out anymore. My own life, & those I love & who love me back are what matters.
True. What is the point of stressing about world events that you cannot change? Time to realize that each generation has to face the world that they inherit, just the way we had to. My attitude is I wish everybody well but at this point I don't have a dog in this fight or a horse in this race!!!! Not too much time left and I want that time to be happy..............
What I find very helpful is that I’m a feminist 😮. (Divorced, lovely adult daughter). Gives me strength to rely only on myself & be my best friend. We’ve got to look outward not inward (navel gazing, poor me). Women power 💪. Have a good day, Margaret - you help many people.
Yes, I agree. In my life I have had to be my own best friend. I need to be independent and I’m hoping for the long haul
Ive found you on UA-cam a bit late so i get to go back to listen to things ive missed. That is wonderful for me, especially when im feeling blue 😊 . Ive learned that isolating is NOT good for me. I have toake sure i get out of the house (not every day) to keep happy.
Welcome back!
Hi Margaret, lovely, lovely channel, so many beautiful people adding their valued expressions what a following you have. Please don't go anywhere,just stay and support and energise is all.
Thank you for being you
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Surprises come even after the age of 66. 😳 How you RECEIVE them … AFFECTS the rest of your days on earth. Your internal strength completes your journey with hope✨& truth✨
Love your comments ❤️
Margaret purple 💜 looks very nice on you. Love your look today
Margaret read us more! These lessons are so helpful! Thank you.
I'm so glad!
I am surprised by the fact that many have experienced the same situations as I have regarding relationships with others who are abusive. I think it was something that I had brushed over when I was busy and working, but hit me full force with the treatment and insults hurled at me by a “friend?” I let her go for it for several years, which was good for me to determine who she really was. Showing me who she really was, was her gift to me. I no longer contact her or respond when she contacts me. And have learned much about narcissism.
I had to remove my only sister from my life. She is a bully and contributed nothing but hurt and rejection in my life. I feel so much better now. She won't change so I did.
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Unfortunately l have experienced the same, only with my eldest daughter...no respect for her mother.l tell myself what doesn't kill me, will cure me.. thank you for sharing.❤
😍 Beautiful purple top and necklace , purple is my favorite color .
I learned how to do Qigong and it has helped with so much with my anxiety. I am sleeping like I did when I was much younger and generally feel better. I am also allowing myself alone time and NOT feeling guilty. Rather than telling myself "they don't like me." or "what's wrong with me," when someone is rude or dismissive I just tell myself this is a place where I am not going to be heard and move on. Not taking it personal anymore. And when negative thoughts pop in my head I remind myself they are rarely true and not helping me move forward...😊and push them away.
A time of true joy as we celebrate the birth of Christ and pray for peace on the earth for all mankind.
MANkind?
@@traceytrotter9934 Hu”man” kind, of course
That bothers you, and you have to correct her Christmas wish and prayer, complaining about traditional language that is understood to include women and children??
Meanwhile : Jesus Christ revolutionized attitudes toward women. If that is your passion study the gospels , the book of Acts. You can compare to other religions that never gave women such love, purpose nor freedom.
@@lindaanderson1016 And the ignorance continues...
Great comments Margaret. I’ve learned it is ok to spend a bit of money on myself to upgrade my comfort and convenience.
Margaret you may want to consider changing your channel title to be “Sixty and Beyond” :)
Great video! Thank you Margaret.
Number one. Forgiveness. With that I became happy within myself. And accept eveyone as they are.and much independence since becoming a widow. 😊
I’m so glad you made this video. Thank you 🙏
You are so welcome!
Thank you for sharing these nuggets of wisdom from your viewers. One sentence can be inspirational and be just the words I have been waiting to hear. 💕 Elaine
So beautiful! Thanks
Great video and advice!
Walking on eggshells with my 32 year old daughter who can be verbally abusive has effective my emotional and physical health long enough. I'm 60 and need to love on me! Sad thing is she has my only Grandchild who is turning one but I don't deserve to be treated meanly by anyone!!!
💯 agree with your comments!
Hurts even more when grandchildren are involved whom l just love but will not except being treated disrespectful...
Hi Margaret. Greetings from South Africa. I am enjoying watching your videos. I have just come across your channel. Thank you for the great content, so relatable.
This video is a true treasure. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you Margaret!! Helps so much!!♥️♥️♥️
What is that uplifting eyeshadow please? It's so full of light!
These were great‼️Thank for sharing them. ❤
Loved this Margaret. Such heartwarming and uplifting comments. Thank you for sharing. ❣️🇨🇦
This was great! Most of the comments you were reading I have already done or I'm doing now. I've learned so much in my soon to be 62 years. I am enjoying my life one day at a time. Each day that I look back over the day I can say that today was good! 🌹
Glad it was helpful!
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Wow. Life is a challenge
I have four children. One is estranged. Guess thats better than dead..theres still hope
.been eight yrs. Love her still. But not sure how i would respond if she came bk into my Life. Think i would embrace her..but i could never endure the pain of it all again
It has robbed me of her children. It has caused me such emotional upset i feel chest pain..i know the pain has almost killed me
.something has died within my soul..i know i have to go on. Be loving
Find my strength
My orher children deserve me to be my best
.but it very hard to endure the loss
.i wonder is she mentally ill
Is her spouse driving this
Yet in hindsight i know she felt slighted. Middle child syndrome
Raised her as i was raised
Tough love
.i see error in my ways too late. I pray for God to put me in her view
.nothing is perfect for most of us
How do u abandon your whole family
When she didnt come home for her grandmothers funeral i was so exapirated w her
Some say she'll be sorry
I say i dont want her to be sorry
I want her in my life. I fear she will siffer the same consequence she has laid on me
.its just so ssd and unneccessry. Life is too short..
luv.........
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Was estranged from my son from June 2021 until we were called to the icu where he was already intubated and his eyes were taped closed. His sister and I had one hour to say goodbye. He and hos wife had lived in a shared psychosis during/after Covid. He passed away the next morning from multiple organ failure - severe alcoholism - we didn’t know where they even lived. I found you during that time and will be forever grateful. He was 35 and we still have no answers. I’m almost 66 and have spent the last year grieving and feeling guilt - someone who understands alcoholism/addiction said if you’re stuck in the guilt - you can’t really grieve - so I’m trying. I have a good life and need to live it with intention and purpose which for me are the elderly and animals. I talk to my boy every day and hope he can hear me. Thank you Margaret - there is some solace in knowing I’m not alone with theses feelings.❤
Thank you so much Carol for sharing your story. What a heartbreaking situation you had to go through. My heart goes out to you. I really hope that you can find a way forward in your life and not blame yourself in anyway for what happened. It is such a challenging thing to go through. I wish you well. Take care.