I grew up with frugal parents - 7 valuable lessons they taught me about saving money.
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- Jumble Sales, Home Cooking, Gardening & Catching Crabs at the beach. My parents were teaching me lessons without realising it.
Frugal Queen in France
We are a British couple living in Brittany on a budget.
Frugal recipes, days out, home renovations and day to day making do in France.
We’ll give you hints, tips, advice and an insight into our life in France.
Website www.frugalqueeninfrance.com/
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I loved this video. My parents were thrifty, but my grandmother was even more frugal. She cooked everything from scratch, canned, grew a huge vegetable garden, sewed beautifully, knew how to upholster and quilt. Truly, a skilled woman! She sewed some of my winter coats! They were gorgeous! Now, in my 60s, I have just recently learned to can, to make bread, and grow vegetables. I love it! I have always sewn, and still enjoy it as well.
I'm just putting into practice some skills I learned years ago
Your grandma was a powerhouse. She just made it happen. ❤❤❤❤❤
WATCHING FROM MELBOURNE AUSTRALIA AND FIRST TIME WATCHING YOUR VLOG AND BECOME YOUR SUBSCRIBER . I DON'T PUT MONEY IN DIFFERENT JARS FOR DIFFERENT PURPOSE BUT INSTEAD , I PUT ALL OUR INCOME INTO A ONE BANK ACCOUNT THAT PAY OFF OUR INVESTMENTS HOMELOANS IN THAT WAY WE WERE ABLE TO PAY OFF OUR INVESTMENT PROPERTIES QUICKLY . AND OF COURSE I LOVE COOKING AND AT 62 , I ALWAYS GO SHOPPING AT THE OPEN MARKET AN HOUR BEFORE CLOSING TO BUY 1/2 PRICES FOR A QUALITY FRUITS AND VEGGIES. WE ARE SELF EMPLOYED AT OUR AGE OF 55 AND 65 WE ARE MORTGAGE FREE WITH A FEW RENTAL PROPERTIES. WE EAT OUT ON SPECIAL OCCASIONS AND GO FOR HOLIDAY A FEW TIMES A YEAR BEING FRUGAL IN SOME THINGS , WHAT YOU SAVE CAN BE SPEND ON OTHER THING.
My Grandmother was very much like yours too.
I was brought up by a mother who didn't have a clue and she never worked, i can still remember having to hide behind the sofa when the " ticky " man called and i vowed and declared i would never be like that. I am debt and mortgage free and thats down to not wanting a life like my childhood. Now i live frugally and have a great life, i never had a huge house or a posh car but i made sure they were paid for unlike a lot in todays society who just want to impress their friends and family, great video once again, thank you.
Thanks, I was aware growing up that I had sensible parents.!
Yup, that was my upbringing. Be grateful for what we had. Even today I can hardly bear to throw anything out until it’s been worn to pieces.
It's a never forgotten lesson
I went through the pantry last week to use things up and finally tossed a shirt that was 10 plus years old and too thin for the rag bag! I really hate food waste, especially!
I am so grateful for the way I was raised! My mother canned fruit, pickles, tomatoes, beans, tomato sauce, ...She sewed, mended, ...We lived frugally. We had hand me downs from cousins, we went to rummage sales,...We were rich in love!
Wonderful!
I was a kid in the 80s and 90s and did not grow up this way at all. My parents worked full time, and although they were good with money, never deliberately taught me anything about budgets etc so i had to learn the hard way. You have helped me so much, and I'm doing my best to teach my children to be frugal like i am now.
Thanks so much, I was never taught, I just saw what they did
I grew up with 7 siblings. If I wanted something special I had to earn the money babysitting or doing paper rounds. To this day I value every penny I make and I would never buy something if I don't have the money for it. My husband and I are mortgage and debt free and managed to save 64 % of our combined wages in 2023 🎉
That's a great achievement, good for you
I just hope you are enjoying your life and not feeling deprived.
Wow!!!🎉 Way to go!!!
My parents were both post depression/WW2 kids, so being frugal was very much part of my upbringing. The word "No" was part of my parent's vocabulary.
These day it seems that the kids don't know the word , No. I have a coworker , who is a teenage dad, who was bragging about how he is going to buy a gamer system that costs over 1,000 dollars. Yet, he can not afford to support his family, rent an apartment, or buy a used vehicle. I gently reminded him that now that he was a Dad, those days of buying things on a whim are over and that his family/child needs need to come first. We talked about budgeting for those extras/wants, so that he can have those things at some time, but not now. He said that no one had taught him how to manage money or budget.
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That’s so nice that you had that talk with him about finances.
There is a great book called The Millionaire Next Door by Cotter Smith - he might enjoy reading that
I grew up on the coast in Ireland and we were raised on Winkles, Crab, Pollack and also a fish called Gunard which I actually preferred to Pollack. Also seaweed which we picked and dried and which now costs a fortune in Health food shops. We didn't realise at the time how healthy our diets were.
Very healthy indeed
We grew up knowing our parents worked hard but money was tight. We knew not to ask for things our parents couldn’t afford. We didn’t want them to feel bad. We learned if we wanted anything to get it ourselves, I did a paper round then a Saturday job.
Now retired I can live well on a small budget with something tucked away for a rainy day.
It's good training
As a child I would have understood "going without" better if they had communicated more. They taught me nothing about budgeting, but everything about what the British call "make do and mend." Canning, gardening, foraging, home repair, sewing, cleaning, mending, bartering, and putting a good face on everything to disguise any damage or difficulty. My mother was a skilled seamstress, and my inexpensive clothes were beautiful, and my dolls always had matching outfits.
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Ahhh..isn't that just lovely..made with love..my Mother also made my dresses....
My parents grew up during the depression. My mother was driven to become educated. She was born into a one room shack on the Osage Indian reservation. I remember stories that if they did not grow it, catch it or find it they did not eat. It was very difficult times back then.
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grew up in the Pacific Northwest (upper left corner) of the USA in the 70s/80s and had a very similar upbringing: berry picking, hand-me-downs, making do and mending, homemade fun. In fact, after my dad died and we relocated to the other side of the country, we were welcomed with open arms by a new community. People didn't have much money, but the ladies at church literally culled their furnishings at home, reupholstered everything, and had their husbands stain and repair bedframes, side tables, and china hutch for us. Then they pooled their money to buy us 2 new lamps for the sitting room. My mother had 4 children under age 13 and was over the moon! She wept openly about the blessing. It was simply the era of thrift. Community spirit was common. We didn't have a lot of money, but we had everything we needed. I'm honestly grateful for having been raised during an era when life was less consumption driven and ordering every new thing from the "interwebz." It teaches resiliency and gratitude.
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I can certainly relate. When I was a child we lived with our grandmother who lived through the Great Depression. She could squeeze 6 pennies out of a nickle.
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Cornish pasties! YEAH!!! My family's comfort food.
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Same here Jane. I was raised as an only child and despite never going without much, I was always taught to look after things and not to waste. Like you Jane, I have never forgotten what my parents did to make ends meet, which has stayed with me to this day. Thank you both again for sharing this video. 🤗
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I remember when I was 3 years old my Daddy always told me that there would be things I wanted that he wouldn't be able to get me but I would always have any food I wanted and he would not let me go hungry .So one day Mama and Daddy and I was driving down the highway and a pretty new car passed us. I was standing in the seat between them and Mama said that sure was a pretty car.I looked at her and said I bet they ate a bolognese sandwich for supper and I ate a rib steak! I believe they couldn't afford any thing else because all their money went to pay off the car.Daddy always said it easy to get in debt but hard to get out of debt. He said wait until you have enough money to pay in cash .That's why I'm frugal. I got my wood stove put in just before Christmas. It took me 2 years to save enough money for everything. But I have it now. I'm 67 years old debt and mortgage free and very happy .Love watching you keep up the good work. Kathy from Missouri in the USA.
Thanks for sharing Kathy
My parents were frugal but didn't talk to us kids much about it. I don't think they wanted us to feel poor. I wish they had talked more.😊
My parents didn't either. I only appreciated they were being smart when I was older.
I was so fortunate. My Mum taught me how to cook. Just basic stuff, stews, pies, desserts, bread nothing fancy, mind it was 79's/80's, but I still love cooking to this day. Also showed me how to stitch and sew, how to iron clothes and my Dad showed me how to paint, wallpaper, putting a plug on. Proper life skills that I still use today, that have saved me a fortune. We didn't have much and went without many times, but the whole family understood that we only had so much money coming in. So long as you have food, heat and a roof over your head that is all you need.
Thanks for sharing
I’m on my 40’s now and thank my lucky stars for my parents and grandparents teaching me home skills and thriftiness.
That is awesome!
Bless your parents for being so wise.💖
My parents grew up in the affluent 60’s and don’t know much about frugal living but I am fast becoming my grandmother who survived the 40’s and 50’s!
Loved this! I am a little older and brought up in the Northeast of England but it all resonated with me. I am laughing because it reminded me of the time I came home from a friend's birthday tea so amazed and excited because there had been "bought" biscuits.I even remember what they were, Cadbury's Chocolate Fingers! Mam also sat down on a Friday and in her words," sorted the money out"' Thanks for reminding me of the good lessons learnt from wonderful parents.
Thanks for sharing!!
Just loved this video. The majority of the kids coming up now are not being told “no”. Their parents are doing them a great disservice. My grandchildren are being raised this way. Entitled. 😢
Sorry to hear that
I seem to have to reiterate “NO, means no” to my grandchildren. I feel that I cannot change my mind if they come up with a persuasive argument once I say “no”, which makes me sad.
Im not the one entitling them. Their parents are…….when i say “no “ Im made to be the bad guy by their parents
I would give this 10 likes if I could and couldn't agree with you more about teaching your children how to cook real food! Everything you shared was valuable and very happy you still have your parents with you!
Thank you so much!
What a pleasure it was to hear your stories of thrift and hard work. I grew up in a rental apartment in the northern U S about 10 years before you. My mom was handicapped and my dad was an alcoholic. Needless to say there was seldom enough money left for our family so the lights sometimes got shut off and we did without proper food. In thee midst of that situation Luckily, I had one brother who was an ace hunter who brought home a deer each season. We cut it up on our kitchen table and the meat was pretty tasty. We also got treated to partridges and rabbits through the cold season, , and in summer we used to sometimes have wild trout. The blackberries you spoke of jwere our lot too. We got big buckets of them every year. But it was not an easy lifestyle. We often went without the basics. My clothes too came from my cousins, and eventually I learned to make my own. I just want to say that you truly seem to have received a strongly- frugal education from your dear parents. There are few things in life more precious!
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While visiting relatives my three year old was out with my aunt, she was admiring a doll and aunt asked would she like it. Shocked my daughter said but that costs paper money,so at that young age she new what things cost
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This is so relatable, my gran went to a day centre where they taught the knitting machine, we were never without fair isle jumpers and cardies, she taught me how to crochet too, the patience she must have had,, I think your dad needs his own youtube channel, lol ,
best wishes, Lisa
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Jane you were lucky to have such wise and resourceful parents. I grew up knowing that we didn't have lots of money or spare money. But I learnt to budget myself.
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There are many good lessons in your video today. I would add two from my childhood, if I may. For being a civil engineer who built many logging roads, my dad was not particularly handy unless something needed pruning, chopped down, dug, etc. The one thing I remember him doing that I have always thought was out of character for him was that he would change the oil in the vehicles. Anything more complicated than that would be done in a garage. My parents both grew up during the Great Depression, so their ways were frugal, which I thought of as normal. They were older when I was born, so many friends' parents were much younger and weren't raised first hand by Depression parents as we were. I could tell by the toys and processed foods they had in their homes. It never bothered me, rather, I felt sorry that they didn't have homemade jams and the like to eat, but inferior store bought stuff in a jar. ❤ 😊
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Yes, my parents had me late in life and had lived through the second world war. It did make a difference in my upbringing, for the better I think. Was nice reading your story. 🤗
Wishing you a Happy New Year! May it be a joy-filled and contented year. My mother as a young widow was very intentional about teaching me her frugal ways including cooking from scratch and using leftovers when I could barely reach the counter top to intentional budgeting sessions when I was a teenager. I am very grateful for all she taught me.
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My upbringing was similar. I remember my mother’s pantry , full of bottled fruit and home made jam. She made our clothes too.
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I was very blessed to have a mom who sewed many of my skirts and dresses. My aunt also shared hand-me-downs of clothes she had outgrown!
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Yep, that's how I grew up in the late 60s and 70s. We always ate meals made from scratch and produce from the garden. It was my Gran who did the jams and chutneys and my grandpa grew the veg. My mum and aunt knitted and sewed all our clothes. We had loads of hand me downs from cousins and yep we wasted nothing.
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I grew up in the 70s with very frugal parents and I loved the story about your dad -- mine was the same!
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Jane, I love this video! And how can we not value people like you and your parents who honor life with intelligence, common sense, and enjoying work no matter how much effort has to be made. ❤️ from 🇦🇷
Thank you so much!
Beautiful memories from your childhood. Life truly was simple and wholesome back then. I recall my parents and grandparents doing the same.
Thanks for sharing!
Thank you for the good memories. my Mum and Dad were like this as were their parents who got through the great slump (uk depression) They grew fruit and veg and kept chickens and rabbits. Grandad even had a spinning wheel and he and my Grandmother made some lovely things for their daughters. Mum used to take me to jumble sales and taught me to look out for clothing with good zips and buttons to reuse.
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Love that, The Yellow Sticker Man! A badge of honour for your Dad
Jane, this was such an enjoyable video. I loved your childhood stories. What great and valuable lessons and practices that have largely been lost. Thank you for sharing!
Glad you enjoyed it!
I will still purchase second hand sweaters and take them apart to knit something new. I have gotten some lovely yarn this way.
Wonderful!
Thanks for sharing your lovely memories of your parents and how they took good care of you and your siblings.
Our pleasure!
Had a very similar upbringing. Everything was used, nothing wasted. Being the youngest of three girls I think maybe I was a little spoilt growing up in the late 60’s/70’s but still forage, grow, make do and mend, create and reuse as much as possible. Thank you for your videos, they remind me how I am not how I’m expected to be 😊
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I grew up constantly hearing the phrase "I want doesn't get "
Oh I heard that one too.
I taught my kids no very early and later when they were teens. They did not like it at the time but they all thank me now. None of them have a problem with money. It was very hard to do at the time because we could have given them every thing they wanted.
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You were very wise!
@@ivoryesther5576 thank you!
Parents are required to care for their children and help them find joy and happiness
My childhood was the same - I am twenty years older than you and my parents did not even have a fridge until the late 1960’s. Everything was homemade, we walked everywhere, and had a stone hot water bottle in the winter. I still remember the thud as it hit the Lino if accidentally kicked out of bed during the night. When I was married in 1967 the only new thing in our tiny rented cottage was the bed,everything else was hand me downs from relatives. And we went without, if the money ran out before payday. We quickly learnt about budgeting for the unexpected, as there were no credit cards or rich parents to help us out.
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Lov your story about your child hood thrifty parents .what a wonderful mum and dad 👨 mum u have .bless them with joy peace ✌ and happy ness.always take care good old days❤❤❤❤
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That sounds like a lovely childhood❤
Great video. My parents and grandparents were the same way. My husband and I were talking this morning of how happy we are when we get things for free or very low price. We have never changed over our 46 years of marriage, we are still as frugal as when we were kids. It's a way of life and we find pleasure in it. Keep up the great content. Very enjoyable. Say Hello to the yellow sticker man from us.
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I also loved this video, brought back many memories of my nan, who was from a very poor working class background, a real budgeting queen and who taught me so much, and also my dad. My dad did all the DIY and mending in the house, including plumbing and electrics. He was also excellent at sewing and making clothes, a skill he must have inherited from his mum, my grandma. She was from a large family and grew up in a tenement area in Battersea, but was a gifted needlewoman, became a milliner and worked in some of the exclusive shops in London (where she met my grandad). I don't know the full story, but my dad's grandad clawed his way up, eventually owning a building firm and some properties, but the depression and a conman left him bankrupt. I think this is what made my dad - and his dad before him - so very careful with every penny. When my parents bought their first home, a 1920s bungalow, and where I grew up , the builder constructing the back extension had family troubles and left the job incomplete. My dad took up where he left off, sourcing the cheapest materials he could and finishing the single-storey extension on evenings after work and during the weekends. He went on to convert the attic and build two sheds (not the wooden type!) He gardened and taught me a lot of what I know about growing vegetables. He loved blackberries, so we used to go off on our bikes after school and at weekends and bring home tubs and tubs (in ice cream containers saved by my mum) Growing up, I remember there not being a lot of money, I would say we were just about comfortable, but mainly because we didn't have new cars, expensive holidays, new clothes were gifts for birthdays and Christmas. And I definitely remember "No." My brother used to write epic Christmas lists and my mum used to tell him that he needed to think responsibly, highlight just one or two things he would really like to receive and "she would see." I am lucky in that my teen son isn't one to want a lot and knows the value of things. He is a teen so obviously likes to fit in, but also knows that comes at a price and requires work and patience. He is also very socially aware, so if he wants too much, reminds himself how fortunate he is.; I am pleased to say that I don't need to remind him now, having taught him the lessons that were given to me growing up. I had better stop, could go on for ages!
Thanks so much for sharing your story and experience
I grew up in the ‘50s and ‘60s. My dad was a steelworker and mom stayed home with us kids. I was about 11 or 12, and I had a friend, Kathy. Her dad was a car salesman. One day I asked my dad why I couldn’t have a sweater like Kathy’s. His answer to me was, “Because your dad doesn’t work in an office”! Guess what? I made sure I prepared myself for ‘a job in an office’! 😅
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For some grades in school, home economics was mandatory. I never liked those classes because I didn't think a teacher could tell me anything better than what I learned at home as far as cooking, sewing, knitting, etc. Now, I think home economics isn't even taught at school and parents are out at work and don't have time to do a lot of these activities. So I guess the kids today just don't learn it. 😐
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So heart warming to hear your past stories and also to read the comments on how people used to live. Our first video player lasted over 20 years and so did my washing machine, unfortunately today things are so disposable and yet people go on about the planet. Make things to last then! Glass bottles were returned and we got to keep the deposits. Milk bottles weren't plastic, fruits and veg weren't polythened wrapped either, everything was lobbed into one bag or baskets, although I never heard anything about saving the planet, it came naturally! I'm not saying for one moment everything was golden, things were very tight, but my childhood I wouldn't swap for the youngsters of today! Lovely video, thank you.
Thanks so much for your reply
We were well off, but my dad taught us that frugality was how you got there. The young people with fancy houses and cars aren’t the millionaires, it’s the ones like my grandparents that went to yard sales and always made the rounds on trash day (not that they were millionaires) and never drove anything newer than 10 years old.
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Lovely video! It makes me think of my mother-in-law, who lived a life of joyful frugality. She didn’t grumble about her choices to repair clothing, eat every scrap of leftovers, go without extras. In fact, her frugality over years allowed her to be generous to her family later on in life.
Thanks for sharing!
Evening Jane and Mike cracking video lots of my memories there - good Sunday video this one
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Jane, thank you very much for this video that reminds us of the importance of sharing the example of home management with children. I had the same simple and frugal childhood as you and many people in your community. Thanks to this, I was able to cope with periods of mass unemployment, without being hungry or cold or feeling unsafe, because I adapted my needs to my income. Like you, I never envied those who had more or better because even as a child, I did not define myself according to my economic profile but according to the right person I wanted to be for myself and for those I loved.
Thanks so much for sharing
I really enjoyed this video. Your parents way of life would have been very rewarding if hard work and you can see how proud of them you are. I would love to be more self sufficient and at times saying no to myself is hard, but it’s a work in progress. As for crab sandwiches on fresh home made bread…. Sounds like heaven!
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I think you really hit the nail on the head with this one Jane. My generation, and the previous ones only worked with cash. You queued for your pay every Friday and were handed a packet which contained your earning which was the wherewithal to cope financially in the coming week. That's missing from life now. What looks like a generous amount of money goes into your bank account in a lump sum to last a month, and we've lost that personal connection with knowing all our various outgoings, so that it's much easier to think there's a pot of spare cash. There usually isn't! And the other thing was the famous saying to "sort your wants from your needs" with obvious priority given to needs! And there are so many things which, without thinking it through, will end up on our 'needs' list, when they are only 'wants'. One of my early childhood memories was the pigswill sack. It hung on a nail on a high panelled fence in the back garden. Into it went peelings, and unusable outer leaves of things, and even food scraps. The Min. of Health would have a fit now, but that sack came down from its nail every week and my dad and I would walk the mile or so to an allotment where one of his friends always reared a pig. We handed over the swill and when it was time for piggy to be dispatched, we'd receive a share of the meaty goodies. We always had a good roast pork Sunday dinner on that week!
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I was cooking by the age of 12.
So was I too
Mother was Strong Anchor. Widowed mom.little sister 4months old .4 girls.....Never for get her life teachings even today...good and bad....she pulled us through tough times.🎉
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That's what I can't get hold of these days - damsons! We used to have damson and apple trees when I was little
That's a shame. Sloes grow everywhere here, I make sloe gin and jelly
I had a different upbringing. My parents were very comfortable financially, but they wanted to spend their money where it would show them to best advantage. They wanted a nice house and a nice car, but decent medical care for their children was an unnecessary expense, even though they had good health insurance. They told relatives how hard it was to have two children in college, while not contributing anything at all to college expenses. (We don't live in the UK.) It took me a while after I grew up to get my head straight about money. Now I think of being frugal just as how I live my life. But I also understand that money is sometimes to be used to do something kind or to help another person, ideas which would have been incomprehensible to my parents.
Thanks so much for sharing
jankarel6454 It's great you now have the insight to see this.
You are right - acts of kindness to others keep us from spending all our money on ourselves. The happiest people are those who are generous with their resources and care for those in need. This helps to prevent children from growing up thinking the world revolves around them.
My parents were well off (75 years ago had a car when there weren't so many about.) But to them money was for doing good, and not simply for indulging themselves and us children. After the deaths of each of our parents we received letters from people saying how much they had helped during times of great need. We were unaware of many of these acts of kindness as they were not done publicly for the praise of others.
These values have influenced us and our children and blessed us with happy family lives.
@@ivoryesther5576 You definitely had amazing parents. ❤
Nice stories Jane..lovely times...
Thanks for listening
I enjoy all of your videos but this was a favorite! Thanks for sharing=)
I'm so glad!
We have so many things to thank our parents for.
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I was raised in a similar way. My father mended our shoes and did all the home repairs. My mother could make meals from inexpensive ingredients. We picked blackberries and other fruit. We went to jumble sales and passed clothing on to others as well as being recipients of hand me downs from friends and family.
That is awesome!
Jane our clothes were from a shop called new to you I thought it was a real shop until I found out it was a local jumble sale now I understand how poor we were now but at the time we were as well dressed as all our classmates
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My parents were paid in cash each week and I saw physical, actual coins and notes being spread around. I don't think my grandchildren have a real concept of what money really is and where it comes from. They just see goodies being acquired with the click of a mouse or the flash of a piece of plastic.
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I liked this video! One of your best! Thanks for doing it! It sounds like I'm a lot like you, same age, similar background, retired teacher. Your point about learning to cook properly, from scratch, really resonated with me. But have you noticed the odd trend that cooking, and frugality, are making a comeback? Quite trendy now, around here (Nova Scotia) anyways. But the odd thing is that it's the wealthy, well-educated, people who are doing it. Or at least it seems that way to me. I've always cooked and been frugal, but I realize that I'm not as poor as I often think I am...
I loved that "free firewood" story too, I was doing that today. I'm quite achy now...
My parents were poor so had no choice, the economy is dire so again, people have no
So much sense spoken. Thanks Jane
You're so welcome!
My mom was raised in the Depression and a teen during WWII and its rationing. She did a lot of sewing our clothes, canning and freezing food, baking bread and deserts. I never was a good seamstress, but did learn all the food preserving and home cooking from scratch.
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Youre so blessed to still have your parents. Enjoy each and everyday with them. Love your channel.
I was born and raised in Trinidad. We’ve went without and taught not to compare ourselves. I believed I had a good childhood.
I never really understood my dad being frugal except for cooking meals for us. He taught me how to cook, as well as being forced to when he was working and my brother burnt out dinner! 😂
We also grew up eating veggie meals and having meat was only special occasions. He also has his own garden. We had a lot of fruit trees in our yard and neighbours were not stingy with theirs either.
As I became independent as an adult, and living alone in the USA, taught me I don’t need much and I live that way to this day.
My dad would laugh at me how I shop, my siblings called me cheap and my daughter adopted some of me frugal habits (sometimes it’s scary to watch lol)
I am the yellow sticker lady, the free stuff lady and the repurposed stuff lady. Lol
Sale is my friend!
Great video Jane. My Mum and Dad took good care of their shoes which were soled and heeled and polished until they shone. They also took time to steam and brush coats and suits to keep them fresh. There was always an emphasis on looking smart.
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I clicked like before even watching, because I knew this video would be full of common sense.
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Im 56 now in the 1970s I had hand me down & even some homemade sewn clothes!😊 when my children were young my girls wphappily wore home made dresses, a few had been mine!😊 my aEX was horrified,I made my maternitynjumpers, until one sat. Afternoon, a lady in the fabric store asked my where I purchased the msternitynjumper .i was wearing, Insaid its name of pattern company, walked her over& showed her the pattern I had used,she whipped out her phone to call her daughter( expecting 1st grand baby) needing clotheing for work,& home! Sfter that my EX never compkained sbout myhome sewn clothing! Im still laughing, thst baby is now 30 yesrs old.😊
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It sounds as if we had similar experiences of parents being frugal, probably partly a result of them being kids through the war and living their formative years on rationing, when everything counted. We didn't live on the coast, but did live near orchards and went round after the pickers had been, gathering loads of apples and pears. In the autumn, I used to head out for walks with a wicker basket and the dog. We picked wild mushrooms and blackberries. The dog never picked a blackberry that wasn't ripe, and she was so gentle in her picking. It never occurred to us that you ate out, food was made at home, and I continue with that most of the time. Meat was something that there was just a little of on our plates. When I visit my elderly mum these days I take her out for lunch, mostly to get her out and about and let her try new things that she hadn't tasted thus far. Sometimes we look at menus and say that the servings of meat that are given to one person in some items would have fed the whole family.
Growing up with very little has meant that I can now do my own thing and enjoy simple pleasures. Just tonight, I have melted down candle ends to make new candles for the cost of just the wick. I know candle are a luxury, but I keep the wax going until it is all gone. Sometimes, friends give me their candle ends to use too, which is a bonus.
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I truly enjoyed this video… and it made me think of what frugal lessons I took from my family home - something, believe it or not, I have never thought before. Thank you Jane and Mike!
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What a lovely, inspiring video!! Thank you for sharing. I’m going to work harder on not wasting anything! 😁👍🏼
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When you were talking of your parents mending everything, I remember that kitchen pots would screws in the bottom to mend a hole. Can’t see that being done today.
My parents have always had a no BS attitude about money as well. That's what we need: sensibility and a practical performance overall. Too many expectations kill many dreams and that's too common nowadays. Thank you for the video and all the best to both, sweetheart!!!!🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤
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God bless you and your parents that you can hear their voices, I wish I can because they are both on the orher side. Thanks for your amazing videos ❤
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Oh yes I remember unpacking jumpers, winding it round my spread hands into hanks ready to be washed both to clean it & take the kinks out, before being re knitted or crocheted into new garments. Mum even made me a knitted dess, with a dropped waist & front zip (honestly it was VERY trendy) & later crocheting a pearlised wool lacy dress I wore to discos.. I skirts & dresses being lengthened by ropping the hem & disguising where the.fold had been by adding a line of "ric rac" braid or ribbon or by inserting a panel of other material, also used to trim sleeves or collars basically making it into a 'nee' dress (or converting it to a skirt & blouse - mum was a very good seamstress, a neighbour who was a tailoress taught her lots of extra techniques too. T.
Great memories
Where I live, when groceries get close to the expiry date or " use by date ", they are marked down. My wife kept her eyes peeled for a bargain like your father. Our two boys used to go shopping with her and learnt this valuable lesson. The jokingly called her " Mrs. Use by. "
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Hi, laughed about sticker man, a wise man. Very good lessons. Thank you, Jane and Mike and Puppies.
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Hi welcome back 🙏. Lov your videos 📹 budget envelope system .chats are great 👍 👌. Lovebyour talks frugal queen voice of a angle 👏 heart of gold❤☀️🌝🌙🌟⭐🌈❄
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Sometimes there was food, a lot of times there wasn’t. We lived in a house with a mortgage but frequently my dad drank the grocery money, the electric money and got into the mortgage money. My mom wasn’t allowed to say anything and had to turn her earnings over to my dad. We went to school with holes in our shoes and had to wear wet socks and shoes in school if it rained because we walked to school. We got a lot of rain. It was so cold, I would shake with it and it woke me up. I would take my blanket and pillow into the tiny bathroom and curl up on top of the heat vent to warm up. I had to be careful to get up before my father woke up or I would be in trouble. Good girls stay in their bed. All of us kids were frequently sick, I also had anemia a lot. My sister only has 60% hearing in one ear and 40% in the other. At 63, I have chronic bronchitis and frequent pneumonia because of then. My mother was super thrifty. She worked a full time job and 2 part time jobs for years, in the end she worked herself to death. I wish she had made better decisions and not married my father. But as she used to say, “If wishes were horses, beggars would ride.”
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@@FrugalQueeninFrance we live and learn. I learn I can get what I want with patience and sacrifice.
I remember when the Dutch Elm disease hit in the States. It was a sad day when all the elm trees surrounding my grandfather's yard and down the street were all cut down. My grandparents' and parents were all thrifty. The skills they had provided the things we needed and our lives better.
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I grew up in Goa & my mum had a farm . So we always had abundance of good organic meat & veg & fruit . And everything was made at home from scratch.
Coming to Britain & having to buy everything was a shock .
My mum stitched our clothes exactly like your mum, opening my cousin clothes from abroad . Everything she made was absolutely beautiful.
I adopted everything that she taught us .
Thank you so much .
Maria
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Hi i was bought up with parents who were reckless with money spend spend spend but i could see how they were wasting soooooo much money i used to say to them about it but they didnt want ti hear it. I am totaly opposite as i didnt want to b like them my husband calls me scrooge 😂😂and my mum says im so tight . I say to her may be but we hav everything we want and in no dept like she was constantly. Are ur siblings careful with money.
Everyone in my family is a sensible character
❤ our children knew the word NO and they had to buy their own extras. When our oldest boy was about 8 he wanted a PlayStation 1 that had just come out. Well we explained that it was $100 and we could not afford it but he could save his money and when he had enough money daddy would take him to the store and he could buy it. Well he did everything he could to earn money from neighbors, family and even requested money for his birthday instead of gifts. It took him almost a year but one day he came out of his room with his bank and asked his dad to take him to the store to buy the game console! God bless that cashier as she patiently counted every coin as he stood there so proud telling her how he saved all the money all by himself. Even the customers behind him were patient and congratulated him on a job well done. You know to this day he still has it and tells everyone how he saved really hard to buy it himself. Parents who buy their kids every thing are stealing away a chance to allow the kids to proudly earn their own way and a positive learning experience.
As a child of the 60s and 70s I can certainly appreciate your stories, it's like we were neighbors lol.
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This is a great video! I enjoyed watching this video. Thank you Jane & Mike. 😊
Our pleasure!
Loved this video, and it warmed my ❤ thinking about my childhood and the lessons I learned from my parents .
So glad!
I love reading about things older people did that were a way of life and that we would now consider "being frugal". At NZ Money Karma I am all about trying to live as frugally as possible so that we can bank the extra cash we have to do more enjoyable things!
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My parents were very thrifty too, probably due to going through WW2. This meant we children could never complain about food as they had gone without during those years, This was
a valuable lesson. My parents kept rabbits for food, not as pets. My mum sewed & knitted most of our clothes. As for eating out, that never happened. These habits have
largely stayed with me & I brought my children up not to be fussy about food & not to want what everyone else apparently had. I am so glad that I know how to cook, sew, knit, quilt & make jam.
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I enjoyed this video very much. Thank you.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Fab video jane and Mike. Happy new year.
Same to you!
You are so right. Especially re: going without.
Thank you