Lonely? Or Just Alone?

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  • @connieboylan9159
    @connieboylan9159 Рік тому +7

    72yo...living alone with my dogs...get lonesome but also enjoy the simplicity and lack of drama in my life..take care of my health ...get out in nature with my dogs...drink coffee at 3am...it ain't all bad!

  • @minniec.9127
    @minniec.9127 Рік тому +60

    I am alone, but not lonely. I love my solitude and freedom, very content.
    Happy Holidays to you, Margaret. Stay happy and healthy! 💕💕🙏

  • @cynthiahurlburt2819
    @cynthiahurlburt2819 Рік тому +47

    One can be in a home full of people and be alone and lonely.
    Our hearts desire to be respected and loved.
    Season of loneliness can be a great time of reflection and setting new goals.
    I was married ,but alone . GIVING WITHOUT RETURN IS PAINFUL AND LONELY.
    New day arrived,put my boots on, and started to live, accepting what it is, and only I can change .
    Being alone now has wonderful benefits .when loneliness creeps in, I deep breath and know this will pass. Having private space to be myself is a gift.❤

    • @Cindy-bee
      @Cindy-bee Рік тому +8

      Cynthia that is so true. I never felt as lonely as when I was in a loveless marriage I spend time in one room and him in another. Very little communication between us. That is when I knew I had to leave the marriage even though i had two small children. It was a difficult decision but one that saved me from severe depression.

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому +3

      @@Cindy-bee I applaud you Cindy and your courage. Best wishes for now and the future.

    • @Cindy-bee
      @Cindy-bee Рік тому +2

      @@doloresaquines1529 Thank you so much. It was not easy but 25 years later I look back and know it was the right decision. Best Wishes to you also.

  • @sdm54
    @sdm54 Рік тому +60

    I’ve lived alone for about 13 years and I do love not answering to anyone, but there are times when I feel lonely and wonder how I got to this place in my life. More times than not, I’m perfectly content on my own

    • @joan7562
      @joan7562 Рік тому +3

      maybe more bored than lonely?

    • @DVB1848
      @DVB1848 Рік тому +4

      Boredom plays tricks on our brain, but getting bored with our life or routine is normal. I change my routine slightly or do something different that I have been putting off. That helps.

    • @OhComeOn88
      @OhComeOn88 11 місяців тому

      Preach! Turn on the music, get cozy with a good book, or dance like the good ol' days.

  • @roseyc.5846
    @roseyc.5846 Рік тому +45

    Alone and extremely lonely, Margaret. I never planned or expected to end up this way. When I became widowed in my early forties, there were plenty of opportunities. Unfortunately, I did not play my cards well, and, now it's too late, truly. No men notice a woman of 73. I have so many regrets and feel now that I've outlived my usefulness on this planet. Thank you so much for addressing such a relevant topic, as ALWAYS. Love and hugs to you. Stay safe and well! Rosemarie ❤

    • @bonniebeck4068
      @bonniebeck4068 Рік тому +12

      I feel the same way..I’m sorry for both of us😢

    • @wendysullivan1909
      @wendysullivan1909 Рік тому +24

      No no please . Women you are beautiful. You have made it to your wonderful age embrace yourself. Men will notice when you notice yourself. You are lovely don't let anyone say different. And if they don't men it's your loss. Ladies we must love our ages I feel we beat all odds and made it here and now. Love, peace, happiness. A big hug to you 🤗.

    • @lw5592
      @lw5592 Рік тому +13

      Yep, I feel similarly. I left my last relationship about 8 years ago because it wasn't fulfilling in any way and have only had a handful of dates since then. I'm not sorry but I wonder about some of the choices I've made in the past. It makes me sad to think that this is the end of the road for me romantically. You can fill up your days with girlfriends and events and all of that's great...but sometimes it also makes you keenly aware of why you're trying so hard to fill up your days.

    • @roseyc.5846
      @roseyc.5846 Рік тому +17

      Absolutely NOTHING seems to fill the void. I miss love in my life. And, no...men do not consider it "their loss". They happily fill their days with MUCH younger women. 😞

    • @bonniebeck4068
      @bonniebeck4068 Рік тому

      @@roseyc.5846 so true😔

  • @veronicwbrennan4002
    @veronicwbrennan4002 Рік тому +7

    One of the worst things is to be alone in a crowd.

  • @janetstonerook4552
    @janetstonerook4552 Рік тому +3

    I'm 76 and live alone. I usually am not lonely but do get tired of trying to manage my big house and land by myself. I've been so busy that I have let a lot of my social life slip away over these past few years. Still I am grateful for all I have including my independence and my children and grandchildren. Best wishes this Season!❤
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  • @jennywren8937
    @jennywren8937 Рік тому +6

    Only yesterday a friend sat at our kitchen table relating the grim prospect of yet another year partying with the in-laws over the Christmas period.

  • @buffycat4641
    @buffycat4641 11 місяців тому +3

    I will be 80 in another 6 months, and I can honestly say I have never been lonely in my entire life. Perhaps that is because I have always been single, learned how do manage on my own. Travel on my own, manage my finances and purchases on my own. Friends come and go, I lost one of my oldest friends last year to pancreatic cancer, she was 10 years younger. I do have family close by, but I do not see them daily. I still travel as much as possible and enjoy doing that solo to, although I have in the past 5 years transitioned to tours to make it easier to get from point A to B. I have many interests and do not have enough hours in the day. I sometimes wonder how I ever fit a 9-5 job in my life. Learn to enjoy your life and your "me" time.

  • @jilldowding-walker8066
    @jilldowding-walker8066 Рік тому +16

    I live alone, with my adult daughter 55 miles away. I really enjoy my own company for the vast majority of my time. I cherish it! I know who I can contact or visit when I want to be with family or friends! Later life is joyful to me! ❤

  • @zanpsimer7685
    @zanpsimer7685 Рік тому +14

    Sometimes I get sad when I don’t have as many plans with people as I used to during the holidays. Then I remind myself I had those together times that happy contented younger people get to experience if they’re lucky.
    I love being able to do what I want when I want. I’m fortunate I have people checking in with me and that level of care for me in their busy lives is appreciated.

  • @TheKayaklover
    @TheKayaklover Рік тому +7

    The so called 'holidays' is just the same to me as with any other time or days of the year. If you fully know yourself and don't follow the masses and social pressure that you must be with someone and especially shop , shop, and shop, you will be 100% OK !! Again, it is just part of the 365 days of the year, nothing else and nothing more. And remember many times the M in masses is silent !!!

  • @susanmarie2231
    @susanmarie2231 Рік тому +9

    Alone, not lonely. I love living alone. I have family, friends, groups, and church community in my life that I cherish.

  • @rosieE121
    @rosieE121 Рік тому +7

    Hearing and seeing our families means the world in preventing loneliness. I notice that the worse my hearing, eyesight, and mobility are, the less I can get out, and the more I miss having family around.

  • @eileencarlson4276
    @eileencarlson4276 Рік тому +23

    My husband died two years ago this coming January and at 70 years old I found myself living alone for the first time in my life. I do not like it maybe because it’s not by choice. There are times I am so lonely. Not how I expected to end up.

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому +5

      Eileen. You expressed It exactly!! Yes!

    • @anneard1674
      @anneard1674 Рік тому +8

      I am widowed after 55 yrs... two years ago like you...haven't got it together yet

    • @roseyc.5846
      @roseyc.5846 Рік тому +7

      I've been widowed since age 43..I'm both alone and lonely. 😞

    • @marnasorensen988
      @marnasorensen988 Рік тому +4

      It is so hard to accept. Sending you a hug.

    • @everydaylivingwithmysterio9707
      @everydaylivingwithmysterio9707 Рік тому +3

      I have been a widow for 4 years now I don't like it at 63 it hard❤

  • @andreaedwards8644
    @andreaedwards8644 Рік тому +5

    Love you too Margaret....really. You are such a Sweetheart caring for us all the way you do and wanting only the best for us. You are so appreciated. ❤

  • @Rett-qv7ti
    @Rett-qv7ti 8 місяців тому +1

    Faith in God, prayer and meditation, chatting often with positive people, all help to not feel lonely.

  • @beverlymiller3215
    @beverlymiller3215 Рік тому +7

    Thank you for addressing loneliness and being alone. I think we need to also address that it is lonely for some of us because due to poor health we do not have the income to go and follow what the others are doing. Even in a coffee group that I joined, I am the one without the ability to take trips etc. It is quite hard.

  • @sweetypatnett6123
    @sweetypatnett6123 Рік тому +16

    I have never lived alone, but do get lonely and depressed at times. By the way, I have two adult children living with me.
    My soul mate died a few years ago. Things are so much different now that he's gone. Thanks for sharing this video!❤

  • @Cindy-bee
    @Cindy-bee Рік тому +15

    I have lived alone for over 5 years now and love it. There certainly have been times when I felt lonely, especially around special holidays if I am not seeing any family or friends. But with all the social media and group apps it's much easier to stay in touch with everyone everywhere. I am lucky to have a great group of friends who group text often so we stay in contact and get updates on our lives. We also get together for birthdays and holidays and just for fun. My family is not far so I see them also. I think I am very lucky and loved. Thank you Margaret and Merry Christmas.

    • @rosieE121
      @rosieE121 Рік тому +3

      I feel similarly and just wish family were close by and I could see them all. There never seems to be enough time to get everything done that I would love to do and aging slows me down. So far as relationships go, I went through a difficult divorce from a difficult and lengthy marriage 30 years ago and haven't been interested since! I've better and more interesting things to do in the last phases of my life.

  • @debfincher1741
    @debfincher1741 Рік тому +2

    I guess I am the odd one out. My husband retires today and I am dreading him encroaching into my space. As I made my life around the family, they've well and truly left the nest I had to adapt to being alone, not having to worry about telling anyone what my day would be, when or where I intended to go. No not looking forward to sharing my space.

  • @minkyann8132
    @minkyann8132 Рік тому +5

    I think everyone's circumstances are different. I was married for 15 years (not so happy, in fact miserable) and now divorced for 16 years. I can happily say I am alone but not lonely. In fact, I feel great. I no longer have anxiety, resentment or anger. I've travelled alone so many times to Africa, Asia and South/Central America. I can save more money, plan my days, meet up with few of my dear friends and my siblings/family. I love my job and I always look forward to my next mission trip. Life has been wonderful.

  • @wendysullivan1909
    @wendysullivan1909 Рік тому +9

    I find at times I can be lonely, but I do like my freedom a new widow after 42 years. I find myself Always comming and going so the days go fast. And yes I am alone,not lonely.😊😊😊😊 merry Christmas to you and all happy holidays. Wherever you are .😊

  • @utubenumberone
    @utubenumberone Рік тому +13

    I loved this video. When I need a warm hug I watch your video! I live alone and do love it. I wouldn't mind having a few extra contacts but I am so busy I have to make sure and exercise outside because it helps my mind set and I'm also trying to move more around my studio apartment. I have been married 2x's and have no desire to ever get involved again. I am healing from past traumas and learning who I am and it's been a journey. So happy to run onto your podcasts!

    • @jennywren8937
      @jennywren8937 Рік тому +2

      You are a true inspiration, making it happen, rather than waiting for someone to do it for you. ❤ May your future be filled with joy.

    • @utubenumberone
      @utubenumberone Рік тому +2

      Thank you for responding that is awesome thank you!

  • @jeanmeierbachtol6154
    @jeanmeierbachtol6154 Рік тому +4

    I have been a widow for going on 12 years I was more lonely when I was married. I lived alone for about 6 years due to my daughter’s health issues she and her husband moved in with me. I do enjoy having them here. But they had to move I could deal with it just fine. I like being alone. I have friends I get together with either in person or on zoom on a regular basis and stay busy with my animals and hobbies so to me life is good

  • @sweetypatnett6123
    @sweetypatnett6123 Рік тому +7

    Hello Margaret, it's nice hearing from you again. Just listening to you makes me feel better. I hope you are having a wonderful day!😊😊

  • @gardenroom65
    @gardenroom65 Рік тому +2

    Alone, looking forward to spending 3 months in Spain from January 8. Have goals and targets.

    • @sixtyandme
      @sixtyandme  Рік тому +1

      Where in Spain? It is such a beautiful country!! Enjoy

    • @miguelfernandes6722
      @miguelfernandes6722 Рік тому +1

      I live in Portugal, next to Cascais. It’s Nice to visit during spring March-June.

  • @piligarcia4771
    @piligarcia4771 Рік тому +3

    Lonely and exausted

  • @lindatrem275
    @lindatrem275 Рік тому +6

    Most of the time, I am alone and fine with it. Only child, never married, no kids so I have lots of experience. But sometimes.. its very tough. No friends nearby and no family, so holidays are always solo. I never have been good with relationships.. friends, family or romance.. I make acquaintances fine.. it just anything deeper seems to elude me

    • @judybeck8313
      @judybeck8313 Рік тому +5

      Your comment really touched me. I wish you the best during this holiday season.

  • @dianparrotta2118
    @dianparrotta2118 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for being there!!

  • @lw5592
    @lw5592 Рік тому +16

    I'm lonely. Full stop. I've lived alone for a long time and I know how to do it well. Even if I found someone special, which I hope to, I don't think I'd want to live with anyone. I like doing what I like, having my own schedule, and not having to compromise my space. But I miss having a companion, someone special who cares for me and vice versa. I prefer being coupled and I'm concerned that won't happen for me, because most men of this age are already married.... but if that is what The Universe has in store for me, I'll deal with it. :-) Finding female friends is harder as we age, as well. I don't go to church, I don't care for book clubs, and I'm not particularly interested in volunteering. I guess we'll see how I end up. :-)

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому +3

      Lw. I hear you! And nothing better than sharing one's Life with another. That does not mean having to answer to someone, to ask permission, or Any of that negative stuff. I married an adult man, not an employer, or a boss. I LOVE my alone time, of course, as Any healthy person would, but so glad there is that someone to share. I have yet to meet a woman Who said to me, boo-hoo, Jack wouldn't let me hang that picture in the hall!

    • @jennywren8937
      @jennywren8937 Рік тому +1

      ​@@doloresaquines1529My neighbour down the hill drives a digger. She says she married so she could do as she likes.😊

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому +3

      @@jennywren8937 Good for her! She sounds very mentally and emotionally Sound. Why would anyone want to marry an "employer", a controller, or a 10 year old child! One marries a partner, an adult, someone Who is pulling the cart with you side by side.

    • @roseyc.5846
      @roseyc.5846 Рік тому +1

      Same here. ❤

    • @bonniebeck4068
      @bonniebeck4068 Рік тому +1

      You sound exactly like me😢

  • @kata5182
    @kata5182 Рік тому +3

    Thank you for addressing and validating these feelings of being lonely. You are lovely and I appreciate your videos so much!

  • @andreavartanian3423
    @andreavartanian3423 Рік тому +5

    Thank you, Margaret. You make my life better.

  • @bonniemullen4990
    @bonniemullen4990 Рік тому +6

    Thank Margret , staying connected is important ❤😊

  • @californiaglo9666
    @californiaglo9666 Рік тому +4

    I am 63 years old and live alone. I feel that lonely is a state of mind that only one can change. We should not put the responsibility on others to make us happy. I recently joined my local senior citizens center for people 55+. The have activities and trips on the calendar.
    I work from home four days a week, so I do miss people.
    There is so much to do out there. Think of the women that are ill and cannot leave their homes. Embrace your blessings. Maybe volunteer and help others less fortunate.
    I send hugs and holiday blessings to all. 🎄🙏❤🎀
    You can be with someone and not be fulfilled.

    • @Rockerlady
      @Rockerlady Рік тому +1

      Social activities are fine. But they can make you feel lonely if single. At least in my experience. Especially this time of year. Couples everywhere of all ages.

    • @lw5592
      @lw5592 Рік тому +1

      @@Rockerlady Agree! I've been doing many things alone for years -- have traveled alone, spent time in hotels alone, gone to the movies, to a Broadway play, taken myself out to breakfast or lunch, etc. It's better than sitting home alone -- usually. Sometimes it's almost painful to see couples around you as you sit there alone. Hard not to feel envious when you have no one to share experiences with.

    • @Rockerlady
      @Rockerlady Рік тому

      Yup. I am 51 and live with my cat. I lived with my parents and took care of them the last years. I have siblings, nieces/nephews and friends. I thought I would be a married mom at this point, but it never happened. I go out a lot and always have. I'd like to think my guy is out there somewhere. Maybe we will find each other. 🤔 Eventually

  • @debbiemcbride916
    @debbiemcbride916 Рік тому +2

    I want to thank you for your encouraging and inspirational talks. Have a wonderful and Merry Christmas. 😁🎄🎁

  • @junethiel632
    @junethiel632 Рік тому +8

    I live in a large retirement community, try to be involved with some social activities. This is easy, since I sing and play the piano, do art and refinish decor items. I also sew. But in 2023, I hardly did anything except for playing for our weekly Sunday service, sang in two concerts. I had misdiagnoses of pain in various spots, which resulted in over-medication and liver issues ! This reduced my studio work hours to such an extent that I am seriously in arrears with my rent - but I will catch up. But I AM finding myself rather lonely, within this community: many folks here do not understand that I HAVE to continue working as this is my only means of income. I love what I do, but it is time-consuming. It is sad that folk can so easily misunderstand a situation. I have a positive and outgoing personality, though, so 2024 will be different - new work opportunities mean fewer hours needed at my desk, so I will be a lot more involved within my community.

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому +3

      June. It is absolutely no one's business whether you work or not, and whether wou decide on a 60 hour week! What is Wrong with those people!!

    • @bonniebeck4068
      @bonniebeck4068 Рік тому +4

      Some people don’t try to understand people’s situations..they go through life unscathed in marriage in health..they don’t know until they walk in your shoes..God Bless

    • @mariarooney6262
      @mariarooney6262 Рік тому +3

      I’m sorry you were misdiagnosed and are suffering the consequences. I understand. I had been misdiagnosed two times and ended up in emergency surgery. I’ve had much experience taking care of Ill people and now myself. After finally coming to the reality that the medical society is there for themselves, with few exceptions, it is a business. The side effects from medicines are horrible. Certain are great for legitimate emergencies, surgery, if necessary. That’s how they make their money, prescriptions that can kill, and have killed many people. I have let go of the illusion that they care, it’s a job. Before tv and all the medical shows starting with dr Kildare, Dr Welby, etc., doctors were considered the lowest of life. I stay as far away from most doctors. I always get worse after going to a regular doctor. Alternative , integrative medicine has helped me greatly in my research and using it. If I have an emergency, I will surely go, otherwise I do everything I can to stay as well as I know how and my health has improved by using all the basics we are told constantly about. It truly is simple. It just takes time to repair any damage. I wish health to all.❤️

    • @junethiel632
      @junethiel632 Рік тому +1

      @bonniebeck4068 I actually had 47 years of a wonderful marriage. But yes, in a!retirement community one unfortunately finds busybodies.

    • @bonniebeck4068
      @bonniebeck4068 Рік тому

      @@junethiel632 yes and I’m not cut out for these busybodies at senior centers and senior communities.. I’m just too young in my mind and heart…even though a lot of them are my age I just don’t fit in to socialize

  • @ClosetLady
    @ClosetLady Рік тому +4

    I am completely inspired by the advanced style women! I love them and they have helped me embrace really expressing myself that feels authentically me with clothing. It is so freeing!

  • @maksudaislam9224
    @maksudaislam9224 Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much Margaret! I liked it so much. I am staying alone in my tiny apartment. Initially my filling was I not be able to handle it. But gradually I adapted some beautiful habits to get rid of all the things. I started gardening, I am a great fan of nature. I started keeping some foods in my window for all the flying birds. Every morning and evening they are coming and enjoying the food. I love it so much. I also enjoyed my morning tea with them. I am really happy with all these!

  • @doloresaquines1529
    @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому +5

    Simplifying. Solitude is a choice; loneliness is imposed, by circumstances, such as bereavement.

    • @jennywren8937
      @jennywren8937 Рік тому +2

      Dolores, I am trying to plan ahead, how life might be in this strange world, wondering where I might fit in, if at all.

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому

      @@jennywren8937 Jenny. We all find our level, one way or another. The future isn't here yet, and no one is clairvoyant. I never fail to be surprised at the extraordinary turns Life can take. One thing is sure, What we do today configures the "tomorrow". And of course What we call "society" differs from continent to continent, and country to country. Wishing you all the vey BEST🙂

    • @jennywren8937
      @jennywren8937 Рік тому +1

      ​@@doloresaquines1529Thanks Dolores, that's the advice I give my husband, in the most convincing tone I can muster. Seasons greetings to you and yours.

    • @bonniebeck4068
      @bonniebeck4068 Рік тому +2

      Or divorce

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому

      @@bonniebeck4068 Yes, which is also a bereavement, with the same after effects as where a decease has ocurred. Grief counselling is likewise advisable where there is a bereavement not related to death.

  • @DVB1848
    @DVB1848 Рік тому +1

    I have been on my own now for 9 years, and I love the peace, freedom to do what I want or do nothing at times except to watch tv.
    We need to learn to enjoy our own company, without becoming selfish. One thing to bear in mind is that living alone doesn’t mean we can let ourselves go health wise. We owe it to ourselves to take great care of our looks, wellness, and health.

  • @LovieNagakannie
    @LovieNagakannie 3 місяці тому

    Thank you for your advice 🙏 i need people to talk to help me

  • @susanstancliff2937
    @susanstancliff2937 11 місяців тому

    Thank you! Very good advice! We don’t have to be the life of the party and always on the go, or be isolated. It’s good to have time alone to pursue the things we want and it’s good to go to lunch or shopping or a walk in the neighborhood! You’re right! A balance is very good! Take care!

    • @sixtyandme
      @sixtyandme  11 місяців тому

      You are so welcome! Take care too!

  • @barbarathomas2471
    @barbarathomas2471 Рік тому +6

    Thank you Margaret I needed to hear this today. And thank you to everyone who has commented. It is so very helpful to read encouragement from everyone. I’m alone, not lonely but this time of year is just hard. God bless each and every one of you!

  • @stevensp73
    @stevensp73 Рік тому +4

    Merry Christmas. I really needed to hear this. Thanks ❤

  • @lightdancer4146
    @lightdancer4146 Рік тому +1

    I’ve been married for 38 years and have no children or family nearby. I’ve never felt as alone as I do now. So sad and will never get better unless I leave him 😞

  • @rcomyns4664
    @rcomyns4664 Рік тому +11

    "Loneliness is not being alone, for then ministering spirits come to sooth and bless. Loneliness is to endure the presence of one who does not understand." -- Elbert Hubbard
    I'm so much happier alone. Merry Christmas, Margaret!

  • @marcijlo
    @marcijlo Рік тому +1

    Margaret I have always said I prize my solitude and owness! I live in a Retirement Village and find it difficult to socialise but am extremely happy on my own. I do wish I could travel though. I have lots to keep me busy. Happy Holidays to you Margaret and friends! Love and blessings ♥️🎄♥️

  • @laurieschwarzrock7724
    @laurieschwarzrock7724 Рік тому +3

    Thank you Margaret

  • @celinebeech5469
    @celinebeech5469 Рік тому +1

    Thanks for responding. I found out several times that not everyone is friend material. It's disappointing. i live in a small community so it's hard to meet new people. I'm going to try to make my new years resolution to go out and find a friend who will listen and want to do things. thank you!!!

  • @artsyladie7
    @artsyladie7 10 місяців тому

    Theres been some pretty wonderful scenic Hallmark movies I have found a d enjoyed on UA-cam lately that are filmed in European cities, settings, and countries. Also several set in beautiful vineyards, etc.

  • @annmariemandiola1897
    @annmariemandiola1897 Рік тому

    I am watching Christmas day. I am 67 still working. My daughter lives with me. Divorced for about 13 years ,not a good marriage. I am a teacher so busy during the week. I have made slot of mistakes in my life that I regret.I have two beautiful grown daughters who are very loving and have great careers. Lately I am very depressed and sad thinking back on life. Probably not a good thing to do. Holidays are the worst. My niece passed away in April and this year my extended family are not going to get together to painful. I guess I just needed to get this out. I will stay strong as usual. Merry Christmas.

  • @sweetypatnett6123
    @sweetypatnett6123 Рік тому +1

    I love traveling too!

  • @sweetypatnett6123
    @sweetypatnett6123 Рік тому +1

    Love you too!

  • @mnop1774
    @mnop1774 Рік тому +1

    You make an excellent point and I agree. I live alone and I love it but it's been a long road. My husband died 14 years ago and we had young kids so I had to completely rebuild a new life. They are wonderful and I'm very fortunate in many ways. Now that I'm an empty-nester I enjoy traveling and feel very content overall.

  • @lindarefinocharbonneau6701
    @lindarefinocharbonneau6701 Рік тому +1

    thank you i need this

  • @zeldadesantiago6974
    @zeldadesantiago6974 Рік тому

    I love hanging out with my husband I can’t imagine not having him by my side sometimes all we do is just hang out no talking just hanging out I’m a reader he isn’t sometimes I’ll read all day long on weekends and he just studies guitar riffs from the greats of the classic rock era but I know he’s my one and only and I’m his

  • @beverlywingate8736
    @beverlywingate8736 10 місяців тому

    I like being alone. Being in control of my situation. Not having to deal with toxic people. I am very busy just taking care of me plenty to do. I have did my duty to society and family now it's my time to love me. I will be finding things to make me happy like hobbies being closer to God, church classes, I am just fine.😊

  • @houndmother2398
    @houndmother2398 Рік тому +5

    I've lived alone for the past 30 years but never had a problem with loneliness until covid. You were right in that the answer is to get busy and get involved. I'm looking at 1 of our nearby church's, some classes I get out in nature as much as I possibly Can. It's a very painful feeling but there are things you can do about it.

  • @juainaar7642
    @juainaar7642 Рік тому

    Happy holidays Margaret !❤

  • @annosullivan1347
    @annosullivan1347 Рік тому

    Happy Christmas 🇮🇪💕.

  • @bonniebeck4068
    @bonniebeck4068 Рік тому +4

    Very lonely and alone my kids aren’t close sometimes I don’t hear from them for hours and days..I could be dead..my husband of 26 years left 7 years ago but I talk to him almost daily.. I know…😮but he cares about me..very lonely is what I am

    • @jeanetteh.9240
      @jeanetteh.9240 Рік тому +1

      Don't hesitate to call your kids, just to say hello and ask what they have been up to. Parents sometimes make the mistake of thinking they are bothering to their kids, but they aren't. Other parents feel like their kids should pay more attention to them, but that road goes both ways. And, maybe you should talk to your ex about remarrying. Maybe he's waiting for you to ask. 🤗

    • @bonniebeck4068
      @bonniebeck4068 Рік тому

      My ex husband wants me to move back with him to Texas.. I love him but have to trust him again..

  • @Ashley-hp2vn
    @Ashley-hp2vn Рік тому +7

    Hi Margaret, you are from London, it would be great, if you could arrange 'get together' for this community in London, I'm sure many people would like to visit London, but don't have the courage to travel alone anymore, how about that?😂

  • @sweetypatnett6123
    @sweetypatnett6123 Рік тому

    I love that analogy.

  • @janethughes9541
    @janethughes9541 Рік тому

    The cruise you talked about is not listed down below as you said it was unfortunately.

    • @sixtyandme
      @sixtyandme  Рік тому

      If you are interested in the cruise, please send me a message to margaret@sixtyand me.com and I will send you all the information

  • @OhComeOn88
    @OhComeOn88 11 місяців тому

    Alone and thriving. Could use a little bass in the room or someone to open the pickle jar . . .

  • @mariamachado3371
    @mariamachado3371 Рік тому +2

    I,m alone not lonely and I feel fine. With 77 years old but still can take care of myself, what can I say, I can,t ask for more. Thank you for share your thoughts, have a very Merry Christmas 🎄

  • @barbaradieckmann9020
    @barbaradieckmann9020 Рік тому +4

    What amazed me the most, after my husband passed away, was how some women who were good friends dropped me like a hot potato. I’m now enjoying friendships with younger people who are coming to my parties and enjoying the holidays with me. I’m loving not having to be a caretaker and just do what I like to do. Sitting by the fireplace and reading a good book with soft background music. That’s now my happy place.

  • @dianparrotta2118
    @dianparrotta2118 Рік тому

    Merry Christmas Margaret! I just planned my Tenerife trip again this year! Los Cristianos is my happy place!

  • @ib4038
    @ib4038 11 місяців тому

    My husband is chronically ill for many years and I feel alone. It is no longer a marriage, but caregiving and I have depression every day. I have a small family, his adult kids who ignore the realities. I know of all the social supports, take anti depressants, have hobbies but the daily life is dependent on me holding everything up. We used to travel, now that is over. Only my dog keeps me going.

    • @sixtyandme
      @sixtyandme  11 місяців тому

      Thanks for sharing. It sounds like you have a very difficult situation right now are you taking advantage of some of the social supports that you mention I think having a ritual for yourself to do things on certain days every week would help. Perhaps short journeys of a few hours would help, I’m not sure what city or town you live in but I hope you can find a way to break the monotony of your day and enjoy your life a little

  • @kittycatmommy2364
    @kittycatmommy2364 Рік тому +1

    It's funny but I always say I'm alone but not lonely. My beloved husband who was my true soulmate passed 5 years ago. We kept to ourselves and we did everything together and loved it. I have a sister nearby but she has family and they do a lot of family-oriented things by themselves which is fine with me. I am a true introvert and I always say I'm alone but I'm not lonely and it's very true. I feel my husband is with me and around me and I talk to him and about him all the time he's still a very much a part of my life. I have my kitties who are my family. I keep busy I walk I eat healthy stay active garden talk to neighbors and friends and have fun browsing the stores. I'm very content with life I feel positive happy and blessed. 😊

  • @susangodfrey7283
    @susangodfrey7283 Рік тому +6

    You can also be extremely lonely in a marriage that isn’t working. I wish I could afford to live alone

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому +1

      That is true Susan. If It is that bad then only one thing I Will say: Life is very short. Each day is precious. Do you want this situatión for the rest of your Life? You deserve better.

  • @debbiejohnson5610
    @debbiejohnson5610 6 місяців тому

    Both at times

  • @karengiangrosso9101
    @karengiangrosso9101 10 місяців тому

    I was single and living happily in my early 60's after a long marriage. Little did I know I would meet the love of my life at 65! Don't think romance is over ladies! It takes putting yourself out there a bit but what else do you have to do with your time?

  • @kambrose1549
    @kambrose1549 Рік тому

    I think it can be a bit more work to stay motivated when you live alone. Everything is now up to you. That includes how you feel and what you are going to do about it. If I feel sad and lonely I find it's best to recognize the problem and take some action. Almost any action will do😉

  • @rebeccal.672
    @rebeccal.672 Рік тому +1

    Could you please let me know how to join your travel cruise? I am interested in the Holland one and could not find the link. I might be having a blind moment. Thanks.

    • @raynidaze1
      @raynidaze1 Рік тому

      I'm interested in this cruise too! Would like more info

  • @laurieschwarzrock7724
    @laurieschwarzrock7724 Рік тому +2

    What about the holidays ? No family to jump up and make plans with or open presents ?

    • @judybaquie5505
      @judybaquie5505 Рік тому +3

      My family of 10 left me 2 years ago totally from all contact due to a mental breakdown. I can't stand the pain all day every day! 😢💔😭🙏

  • @celinebeech5469
    @celinebeech5469 Рік тому +3

    hi I do live alone and I get very lonely at times. My sisters have family and I'm by myself. I go to one of their houses for holidays but when I leave I feel down in the dumps. Holidays are the worse time to be lonely. Yes sometimes I'm ok and Just want to be by myself. It is hard to find friends being 66. Took care of my mother for so long that I wasn't doing anything now I feel it's my turn to live but how do you go out and meet a friend at the age of 66

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому +2

      Aaahh Celine. 60 iis the New 40!!! 66 is Young nowadays. Of course you can get out there? But I advise caution. Not everyone is friend material. Keep your radar Up. You have so many Years to enjoy Life. Best wishes!

  • @rosemundyee6863
    @rosemundyee6863 11 місяців тому

    What the infro for the cruise! I cannot get it?

    • @sixtyandme
      @sixtyandme  11 місяців тому

      Just send me an email to margaret@sixtyandme.com and I'll send all the details - they are also in the description under the video

  • @leslieleslie1284
    @leslieleslie1284 Рік тому +1

    both

  • @CM-sy3to
    @CM-sy3to Рік тому +5

    I grew up lonely, so had a large family. Husband left me after 31 years, half my children estranged 5 years later and I don't see the others very often unless I am paying for us to go somewhere. I feel completely abandoned and with no future at 61.

  • @irmaadams7780
    @irmaadams7780 Рік тому

    Great topic! Thank you!!!! I’ll catch the replay. Have to get ready for church.

  • @nancy12452
    @nancy12452 Рік тому +9

    Hi! I lost my husband a little over a year ago. We were living in Italy, his home country, when he passed. But after his death, I didn't want to remain there alone, so I came back to the states.. I went from a big house, a flock of beloved pet birds, 2 beloved dogs, a flock of pet chickens, and everything we else did to make a house a home. I now live in a rented room, and although I have a son, he and his family live an hour away. And they are always too busy to actually spend any time with me. I see the family on holidays, or special occasions...and I know that's more than many others have. So I don't want to be ungrateful. I am just so lonely. I've lost my husband, my pets, my home, my friends....all within a matter of months. My son is lacking in empathy, as is his wife....nothing new. It was always source of pain for my husband, (not my son's his bio-dad), and myself. I am 72 in January. I am also facing some health issues. And to tell the truth, I am ambivalent as to the outcome. I do have faith in God, and I know life can be hard, but I do believe He holds me up through every trial. Maybe I'm just feeling blue, maybe it's because I feel so alone, and I'm not really feeling well. Probably a combination of everything.

  • @TheCraftsgalore
    @TheCraftsgalore Рік тому +1

    Both

  • @marnasorensen988
    @marnasorensen988 Рік тому +1

    I've been alone for two years and 17 days. I miss my husband, I'm lonely in that regard, but I don't mind being alone. Does that make sense? I'd rather he was here, but don't want the company of a poor substitute.

  • @MsNZgal
    @MsNZgal Рік тому +1

    Hi Margaret merry Christmas. I hope you have a wonderful time over this Christmas season. I have spent a few Christmas on my own and honestly don't mind it. I think this time of the year is lovely with all the decorations, special foods and carols. I love it all, but do feel it has become too commercialised. Christmas to me, is all about remembering the birth of Jesus.

  • @normaraynor9420
    @normaraynor9420 Рік тому

    I've never felt more lonely than during my last marriage.

  • @sonniealba
    @sonniealba Рік тому +2

    I lost my husband 2 1/2 years ago. We were Rving so I had to build a new life. At first I had to keep busy, and now I have settled down. I don’t know what to do with myself

    • @nigella4me
      @nigella4me Рік тому

      I know how you feel. I live alone and keeping busy doesn't always work. It is very difficult sometimes.

  • @LovieNagakannie
    @LovieNagakannie 3 місяці тому

    I 67year i live alone my husband passed away 5year

    • @sixtyandme
      @sixtyandme  3 місяці тому

      Christine, good care of yourself

  • @LORELLism
    @LORELLism Рік тому +1

    Two commercials now!? You Tube is getting ridiculous!

  • @Christine-d2s
    @Christine-d2s Рік тому

    I am 83, am I too old for sixty and me ?

    • @SusanJ-jt5ny
      @SusanJ-jt5ny Рік тому +1

      No

    • @docsmctink
      @docsmctink Рік тому +1

      Definitely not😀

    • @judithmarcus3963
      @judithmarcus3963 Рік тому +1

      I'm 83 and really enjoy Sixty and Me's many offerings, including Faceook, Instagram, emails, etc

  • @Cathy1957
    @Cathy1957 Рік тому +1

    I’ve been married for 40 years to a man that doesn’t talk or is curious about much. It’s worn me down. We should never married. It was a profound mistake. Maybe if we hadn’t we both could have found happiness elsewhere. I don’t blame him he was just brought up in a rather deprived home. He is a good man and provider and I will never leave him. We have one child and two grandchildren all three are the silver lining in a cloud. He is my life mate for better or worse. But it is very lonely. If i see or hear something funny or odd I’ll make to turn to him to share it but will catch myself out of habit and stay mum, simply because he will only say something like oh or hmm. I regret not having someone to reminisce with. It’s like living with a cat.

  • @laurieschwarzrock7724
    @laurieschwarzrock7724 Рік тому +3

    Well I lost my husband 2 yrs ago . I’m 64 and work alone .I have friends and family is small . So I ask God am I ever gonna find a mate ? I’ve had a few male friends but quickly told them I’m not interested because they weren’t attentive. So here I am ❤

    • @juliebutler8241
      @juliebutler8241 Рік тому +3

      I'm 64 also. The guys I meet are either Narcissistic or just medical liabilities with big bellies. I value my girlfriends which are few. I've learned to be content to be by myself, but, I'm still trying to find my tribe.

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому +1

      Laurie. Yes you Will! But not if you try too hard. Gosh, you are Young! Move in the right circles, and stay offline! All the best.

    • @doloresaquines1529
      @doloresaquines1529 Рік тому

      ​@@juliebutler8241Aaahh Julie. You are moving in the wrong circles! There are quality men out there. Just make sure you know exactly What you want, and....stay away from the online stuff.

    • @laurieschwarzrock7724
      @laurieschwarzrock7724 Рік тому

      Thank you 😊

  • @misslinda772
    @misslinda772 Рік тому

    I don’t feel lonely until I’m around couples or attractive single women who get attention from men.

  • @anneard1674
    @anneard1674 Рік тому +3

    or when you get not one gift...nobody cares

    • @juliebutler8241
      @juliebutler8241 Рік тому +2

      I know what you mean....but then I think about the gift of eternal life given by Jesus. That's a biggie. Still....Im still trying to find my tribe.

    • @joan7562
      @joan7562 Рік тому +2

      think back to when you gave or received gifts, complaints, non appreciative receivers, you are free to buy yourself whatever you want/ can afford, right?

    • @jennywren8937
      @jennywren8937 Рік тому +2

      We stopped exchanging gifts a few years back, it doesn't mean we don't care. When I first suggested we just write a letter or send a card, it was met with relief. At home we just buy an item we really need, this year a compressor.😊

    • @anneard1674
      @anneard1674 Рік тому

      it isn't really about the gift just the acknowledgement I exist..
      @@jennywren8937

  • @vallimforth
    @vallimforth Рік тому

    I'm very lonely in my 36 year marriage. My husband seems to have lost interest in me and does his own thing. Has no interest in me or his children and grandchildren. I feel like lm single a d have nothing in common with him anymore. So feeling very isolated at the moment 😢

    • @FiFi-wt9zj
      @FiFi-wt9zj Рік тому

      Same for me…I understand exactly what you mean

  • @bonniebeck4068
    @bonniebeck4068 Рік тому +1

    I’m 70 so it’s not going to happen for me again..people like the younger I believe

    • @roseyc.5846
      @roseyc.5846 Рік тому +2

      Bonnie, you are CORRECT. 😞