7 Effects of Growing Up with a Single Parent
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- Опубліковано 25 чер 2024
- Did you grow up in a household where you had a single parent? A single mom or a single dad? Although having two parents in the picture is definitely beneficial for kids growing up, it’s not always the case. There are many children today who are going through life with just a single parent, and when they reach adulthood, many of them become highly successful, happy individuals. Both negative and positive psychological effects of having a single parent have been studied extensively. In this video, we cover some of those positive and negative consequences. This topic was also highly requested by many of Psych2Go's Community member.
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Did you grow up from a single parent household? How was life for you? Feel free to open up and share about your experiences.
Psych2Go *I have had my mum and dad, however, I had a rough childhood*
Psych2Go I did, it was pretty strange but I survived. I missed my dad soo much and I didn’t see him for years, then one day he called me at school and asked if I wanted to catch up on the weekend, I waited until I got home and asked my mum, she told me not to and to block him from my phone. I still don’t know why and it’s been 7 years since he rung me.
Sometimes it feels like my mom is a single parent, but she's not, my dad just doesn't really do much, one time somewhat recently, my mom had to go somewhere and she specifically told my dad to have the kids clean the house before she got back, and fully expected my dad to help, (she was gone for a few hours), when she got home she started crying because it looked like not a single person cleaned anything, and that's pretty much all she does, clean a house with 11 occupants, and take care of the kids who aren't able to go to school yet.
I grew up with no parents turns out I’m one of the must successful in the family, it helps me to view life with toll different eyes because I was able to see an opportunity on difficulties, however I live with a deep depression as a result of my loneliness so everyday has become a challenge for me.
@@BongoBon360 I'm sorry to hear.. Are you planning to reach out to him anyways at some point?
I learned very young I would rather see my parents happy apart then miserable together...sad but it was my coping mechanism
I felt the same way abt my parents. But they’re still together and still miserable
You are a very strong individual to think what's best for your parents. I'm sure they appreciate that. How are you doing now?
I felt exactly the same way as a young child. Today my parents divorced and it wasn’t easy but at the end they are happier than ever before and me and my siblings as well.
@@glenyscica5845Glad for you, you were lucky it happened. My parents almost divorced when i was 14. But in the last minute they decided to "stay together for the kids" 😐😑 . I had since then a lot of suicidal thoughts and depression.
Me too! You're not alone❤hope you're okay and be kind to yourself❤❤❤
I've noticed that in most of the examples it's because the parents have divorced. I think that the death of one parent should also be in mind.
Definitely. This isn't just about divorced parents either, but there are definitely more single parents caused by a divorce than by death.
I'm a single parent because my husband passed away. My current boyfriend is an asshole and doesn't want to spend time with us. I'm looking for someone else to love us💔
@@brendakrieger7000 drop that asshole and focus on yourself and the little one. Be very protective on your family and who you let in. Since I know it is important to have a male role model for my child, I ask my male friends to fulfill the role as uncle. Having them be an uncle is beneficial than going through various relationships. Whenever you feel you found the right person to add to the family take it slow
Yeah, I mean there are also single parent families which weren't caused by divorce or death, but just because a man or woman was a garbage person and just left the other with a child alone (in the case I am speaking about it was either during dating or because it was one night stand and the other person just didn't want to be involved in the child's life whatsoever, so no marriage involved). So that also should be included.
Yes as I child with a single parent due to death, I have grown so much closer with my dad and my siblings. I have 3 other siblings and we don't have any mental illnesses as far as we know and I think that our family is just as happy as a family with 2 parents. I don't know if these are specifically effects but I thought these facts could be interesting haha.
Growing up in a single parent household seemed far more positive for me than if I had both. My biological father was a pretty garbage person, and my mother is fantastic. She influenced me to finish school, go to college, and follow my dreams. I am very greatful for how my Mom raised me, and she means the world to me.
Sound like you had a really wonderful mother who knew how to make her decisions. =]
Me too
Not me, my mom was pure garbage. I love my dad ❤
Cheyenne Kemper I agree with this 100% this me as well, my father wants me to visit him for a month and I told him hell no
@@therisingrainbow251 , I think that is a smart choice. I personally believe it's best to leave toxic people alone.
When your young they don’t want you
But when you’re an successful person they call u their “son/daughter “
What if you commit death
I wish this happens to me
@@yosrbenmousa7344 are you well?
@CO - 10DM 685174 Castlebrooke SS yes
Hala madrid
Don’t see many people commenting with single fathers. Guess it’s even rarer than I thought.
It’s just been me and my dad since my mum passed away when I was thirteen. My grandparents had passed away when I was young too so it really was just the two of us, but we’re really close and we’re pretty happy muddling through life together
Oxymoronic Ray i’m here lmao
Same here, mom passed when I was 10 from cancer, and my family is in Scotland and the East Coast. I don't really remember my mom, but my dad's done a damned good job raising my brother and I. Though, I did grow up fast when reality set in, so I didn't have much of a childhood after age 7, since my mom started to get more sick then.
Oxymoronic Ray yeah in a divorce unless the mother is not qualified to be a parent then the mother usually gets the child
And also I’m very sorry about your mother
Agreed.. more people have single mothers because of divorce, myself however, has a single father as my mum also passed...
I get that being with a single parent can lead to a strong bond, but when your parent is a narcissist, it really flips the view.
Good on you for figuring that out not many do
I was raised by my mom. I have no memory of my father as I was very small when he left. I havent spoken him or seen. I feel so depressed and lonely sometimes to feel that the fathers love is not there but I am strong even though my mum keeps me company and making me strong to achieve my goals with her love. but someday I will like to meet my dad.
sonali jaya single mom’s mostly play a role in divorce situations and you’ll realize it when you grow older
Thank you!
Yes thanks for understanding
do you think you could do a video about social isolation, the effects of it, and how to start being more social after? I’d really like to learn more about this
Same, especially since I experienced it.
That's an important topic. We're doing one on loneliness soon. Stay tune!
Psych2Go Yay 😁!!!Thanks for responding!
Yup i need this since all my friends dissappeared after i entered to college and it seems that i can't make any friends there
:(
@@Psych2go oh thank goodness! I really need that one
I live with a single mother, it has its ups and downs, but I'm happy with my mom
Glad you have such a loving mother! The bonds get stronger.
Yeah I try to be happy about my relationship with mine. Since my father has been out of the picture since birth. She never wanted to have a bf in the picture take care of me. And she had been struggling her whole adult life to realize not only was she gay but also a masculine women.
Same
im glad that you have mom i wish i can be with my mom again .......
Star ship most single moms have narcissistic tendencies due to the father not being there
My mom is a single parent. I thank God for her! 🥰
How are you doing?
In the black community about 80% of children are born out of wedlock . It's a huge contributing factor to the dysfunction. Broken families, broken community.
GodsWordSaves 7 it’s just so sad and yet we go to church every Sunday
Well I'm a single parent and love it lifes simple and 4.0 kid getn college letters so stop the press.good comes out
Mine too
i literally cried earlier cuz i wished my dad was in my life more
Man, i wish that too. I can see how much it changed me living without my dad.
Yeah same
Same👍
I cried whishing i had at least one parent...
Are you appreciative of your mom and everyone she does though?
There is single Fathers in the world.. I'm the daddy the mommy teacher, coach you name. so far my girls are doing just fine with just me.
Project Pat I have a single dad :0
Keep your head up man, good on ya!
Project Pat Films Weldone dad,Keep it up,God bless your girls for you
Sftu. They're probably suffering 🙄
@@aikolia3144 hey you shouldn't say that 😐 that's rude your not in their life
I grew up with a single mother. They coparented for awhile but eventually it was just my mom raising me and my dad was just a babysitter. My mom worked hard to give me the best life she could. I had so much fun with her, and I have a very strong and special bond with my mom. Some people are jealous of the relationship my mom and I have. I love her to death and shes pushed me through anxiety and depression in the best way, has been there for me and supported me through everything. Shes a very strong person and shes been through quite a lot yet she was able to raise me and be a fucking kickass mother.
I'm the first kid she raised, so now that I'm graduating highschool in less than two months shes becoming excited for it. She said shes gonna cry her eyes out and shes gonna be a mess.
I'm happy knowing that no matter what she has my back and will be there for me when I need it, but she will be blunt and honest about any mistakes I make.
I'm grateful to have a mother like her
nice life and im sorry about your dad my dad and my mom split up too when i was a little kid and i dont understand whats going on but now i know it im with my dad now and i miss her very much and i love her same as my dad i also cry when i think about our memories and my friends saying 'my mom' anyways im a girl im just using my grandpa's tablet .........
have a good life god bless you what ever your name is it...
I hope to see something like this shit me one day from my son although he tells me I'm the best already. I just worry in screwing him up because it does get hard.
Sounds like she made you her emotional husband. It's called emotional incest. Not a nice word but basically I've seen this before.
Love bombing and control, parental alienation
Grew up with a single mom in my grandparents' home. My bond with them is like no other. Without my grandparents my life would have been completely different.
@Yee Haw Cherish every moment with them and make as many memories as possible. When they are gone it is the hardest thing you will ever go through. ❤
Grew up with neither my parents. Both my parents left me when I was a baby and left me with my grandparents.
Me tooo
Your mom is a failure at life according to your short comment. Regardless of circumstances she had a child with a unstable partner and on top of that she was not finiancially stable either yet still decided to have you. I’m happy and praise god you were born and I hope u had and are having a great life but ur mother is a poor decision maker and hopefully your grandparents thought u better. U were their second chance to do it right. Facts are facts.
Your mum wasn't a true single parent. She had co-parents (your grandparents)
My mom is a single parent because my dad sucks, and I love my mom ❤️
Also hi Psych2Go! I love your videos ❤️
That's amazing of you. To support your mom more, because of what happened. I feel that coming from a single parent household, we come to appreciate our parents a lot more.
I don't love her, both suck in their own ways but I do love my grandma.. she raised me basically, she's my real mom
Kurt Waters that's cool sorry you don't like either.😐
@@Esmeralda-rd9hf That's great you have someone who cares about you even if it's not your parents.=]
Same for me!😊
“Make a stronger relationship with the grandparents”
Me: Jokes on you my grandparents are toxic
same my grandma yells at me o.o
Mine are racist, I’m mixed btw.
I've always seen single parenting more stressful. That parent might work more, struggle to take care of their children and when it gets stressful they may depend on the child too much, or get frustrated with them. I'd definitely prefer parents fighting or depending on eachother rather than one taking out their frustration on their children or depending way too much on them. However, this is only my experience.
I agree with you. My mother is too much connected with me and she gets depressed every time I leave home.
@@artemisfowl4399 Same here
I rather have a single parent than to live with my dad.
@@milky8471 what? you know that single parent also mean single dad?
you're real
No dad. No clue what happened to him. I don't really feel like I'm missing anything and I don't feel that sadness (amongst other emotions) knowing your parents split up or that one of them isn't home often enough to connect with.
I hate when people say my problems come from not having a "male figure"...
I'm almost perfectly fine and I love my mother.
Almost everything wrong with me happened when she wasn't around and she's helps me deal with those things, even if they're just emotional problems.
SAME!
Same my dad left me with my 3 siblings.
Same. I never grew up with a father or knew who he was. I don't feel like I missed anything.
I always wondered if mine. Just never wanted to be a parent? It wouldn't had made him a terrorible person but the reality is most men. Can't really see themselves rasing childern who are either biologically theirs or another man's own child.
I never knew my father actually. He died from lymphoma when I was 6 months old. I only knew him by my mom’s stories.
My Mum is a single parent and has raised me and my 2 other sisters since I was a year old. I'm currently 14.
We were diagnosed with Autism, Asperger and ADHD.
In which I only had Autism and ADHD and my sisters had Asperger and ADHD.
I am living just fine without having a man in my life. Yeah, I'd like to have one. But it doesn't effect me negatively.
My social skills are decent, my grades are above average, my mental health is recovering and my satisfaction with life is high.
I don't find anything negative about it.
Nice to hear that. My mom is also a single parent, I'm very grateful for her continuous support.
❤️
I think men suffer mostly
What example you are, god bless you.
ur mom is a hero
Me and my dad were super close and had a good bond, but one day he packed his things and left and that day I learned that he never loved me, and no one ever will.
"Girls are at a higher risk for teen pregnency"
*Laughs in lesbian*
Oh hey! I've found my people!
Same here
Sameee
*laughs in Asexual*
The facts though lol
My mom is a single parent, our relationship is really strong, she raised me alongside my grandma and it was a home full of feminine energy. There was lots of love.
Living with a single parent isnt quiet. You are bullshitting me. My mother is one angry lady. We all suffer from traumatic memories. Ohhh trust me I wish it was peace and quiet
I have to put up with the way my mom handles herself. She came from a toxic marriage and her father was verbally abusive and often hit her. Even as an adult she can say some mean things out of line at me and keeps apologizing. It's tiring as hell to keep forgiving her. My grandmother was code dependent on her 4 husbands when she couldn't feel valitated by her own father for anything she like to do,
My dad abandoned me as a toddler and I can kind of relate to you guys, my mum treated me forever like a burden and always made sure to make me realise that I'm a baggage and the biggedt mistake of her life even when I haven't done anything but try my best at everything. My mum's mum is even worse, I feel so tired sometime but I'm working hard to get into pre med, once I'm able to, I'll be free hopefully. Parents are suppose to be supportive but mine just made me wish I didn't even exist
As a single father, im left with many questions. Since the mass majority of what you said is relatable only to single mothers not for single fathers. Maybe you should changw the title of this vid to single mothers.i gotta say. Im gunna have to dislike the vid because of that
I also want to hear more about single fathers. There are so many single dads out there but they're invisible. They need better resources and support.
Absolutely! In my teen years my parents got divorced so my brother and I stayed with our father. It's been really hard at first, but now I'm thankful for how the things worked out - my dad is the absolutely best! As a girl I needed a mom to share some girly stuff but instead I've been sharing it with him and it's great. So big thumb up for the good job, single dads ❤
I agree, i got ridiculed at halmark the other day when i wanted a mothersday card for a dad. My mom didnt want me and made that clear to me as a child and my dad was at every event every conference every meeting, he even quit his job so could see him at night before bed, he was my hero and i saw how everyone looked at him. Like he must have been the problem when my mom is the bad one.
Single dads are the hero that looks like a villain, even though they never do anything to perpetuate that.
I have to agree. I too am a single father raising a wonderful 5 year old boy, this video is rather biased towards mothers, which I get is more common, but a bit more representation would be nice.
Jonathan Torres I’m sorry, you’re not alone. I’m a girl and I am raised by my father
am i the only one who have only mom??
No.. the founder himself is as well.. Where are you from?
@@Psych2go finland lol
@@butterflykisses4you I only had a mom too.
nah me 2
@@Psych2go aww sorry to hear it :(
Sometimes single parent (especially mother) has more negative effects than both parents for example when parent works too much
That's true!
Moses Slippers big facts
Grew up with a single mother who worked full time to support us, so yeah, stress was high, barely felt like we had any attention (3 children, including me) bills were a constant stress, and I feel like it has effected me severely psychologically. I'm depressed, have anxiety, not a whole lot of self confidence and lacking direction in my life..
@@FractalNinja this is why we need more support for single parents. Those babies need a parent too!
@@kcoker9189 Then you get to 18 and expected to know everything when no one taught you anything
My dad's a single parent and everyone thinks he's an epic dad, especially me and my brother, but my dad thinks he's not the best, but he's really great
❤
I live in a single-parent home, and I feel like it makes you more independent.
Sara- Nova absolutely!
i grew up with a single dad who was also emotionally absent as well so it honestly was like growing up without any parents lol
Im a bit late 😅, but im just like you, my parents divorced when i was 11 , i grew up with my dad, after my mother literally left me behind (she tried to take me with her just to make my dad angry in some type of revenge) before that she barely gave me any atention (i learned to cook since 8 because of that) , she left me at my sister's home after asking her money for a plane ticket to leave the country, she left without even saying goodbye to me. After that my father raised me while he had to pay a lot of debt left by mother, and barely worked himself to death, so we barely had time together back then, so, i most likely grew up alone, in a country House far from any city or village, all of this while dealing with bullying at school and highschool, since then, It feels like i lost a part of who i am and cant remember what It was, like a numb sensation on my chest, its hard for me to feel joy , and to make bonds with others, most of the time i prefer to be alone because leading with people stresses me TF out, but at the same time i miss having that joy and happiness i had as the extroverted kid i was. But now i dont feel like i can open up to people anymore, It makes me feel frustated and a bit sad.
*I was very happy when my parents divorced...*
Even tho it left my dad completely ruined and miserable. They were very toxic for each other.
myrrh curie much love bro!
Same. I didn't have hate towards my mom. Just hate towards my dad because he was highly strict.
I’m in that boat right now, boyfriend is completely devastated but we are toxic with each other arguing in front of the kids; him yelling and calling me names in front of them. I’ve had peace these last few days without him, but I feel guilty he has no home
Ikr
Yeah I too was happy when my parents divorced. They've been fighting for 20years.
My mom raised me, and my other 4 siblings. We r doing just fine.♥️ she is indeed our angel
Your mom is amazing. Super mom!
I was eighth when my dad died
The last food he made me was a bowl of fried okra
And the last words he said were over the phone since I was at my grandmas
"I love you Autumn"
When I woke up the next morning
My mom was next to me with bad 0news
"Autumn . your dad is.... Dead ...in sorry"
I was traumatized
Confused
And hurt
I wanted to cry and throw up
The night after his funeral I forgot he died and waited for him to come home from work . he never did
I said " mom where's dad?"
She began to cry
"He's nowhere but in heaven
dear..."
After starting fourth grade public school I was shy and didn't talk to anyone
I was weird
And an outcast
My birth defect in my eyes didn't make it any better
Fifth grade cane and I was worse
I got bad grades and didn't pay attention
I had to repeat it
I got better grades and good friends
And I am still with them in the 6th grade at the moment
Thank you for listening to my story
Sorry for your loss
I hope that you look at the option of seeking counseling to help you with your loss and feelings that traumatized you.
@@septiawoman2911 I have actually
Every other Friday I am going to talk to a counselor
@ The Loud Comedian: that IS progress. Never give up in yourself. My best to you.
@@septiawoman2911 fricken thank you dude, that means alot
My mom's a single parent and one thing for sure is she is never relaxed cause she has us to argue with
Same
I hate when people say “I hate my dad” or “I hate my parents” like be grateful you r dad is still around or your parents are still together. You have a big advantage if you have both parents in your life and don’t take it for granted
Your life can still be rough if you have more than others. Gratitude goes a long way but so does empathy and compassion
Please Stop to spread that thought around. I grew Up with an overly aggressive father, who traumatized me in my childhood and pre teenage years. I am struggling hard because of this, mentall Illness can literally lead to death. I am pretty Sure, that its better to have No father and a maybe more balanced mom, then to have an unfit, Bad one who can affect the whole household.
This only addresses mother who are single because of divorce. It doesn’t address single fathers. It also doesn’t address the situation where there was never a second parent in the picture (like if a person with a uterus decides on IVF, or if a person adopts with the intention of being a single parent).
It also ignores the fact that there are two parent households without a man.
There are also two parent households without any women as parents.
Thank you for pointing this out. That's exactly what was running in my head when I watched this video. I didn't find it comprehensive either. It just doesn't give a complete picture. When inaccurate or incomplete data is fed into the minds of people, it leads to contamination of society and culture..
They identified the parental situation they were discussing. It wasn't intended to mislead. It isn't their fault that they can't responsibly discuss data that doesn't exist or is insufficient.
I feel like single fathers are less common, but I am living with my dad. Mom died when I was 10 from brain cancer and I had to grow up real quick. My family is in Scotland and the east coast, so we don't see them much. My dad did try to date again, but it ended very badly. Anyway, he raised my brother and I well, and I'm happy he tried his hardest to do what we want and to make us happy❤❤ now I'm nearly done w/ HS and planning to go to college after I graduate in 2020~
Allison Smith i’m so sorry for your loss. I also live with my dad and my little sister. I have the best father ever and he loves us so much. It’s nice to know I am not alone :)
Finally, someone else with a single dad, single mom's usually get all the attention. Sorry for your loss, my parents are just divorced
I am a single father and it's hard
Well, family courts favor women more than men in most states. So single mothers are going to be more common, of course
I'm a single girl child living with my dad.. my mom and dad didn't gets divorced but there are being separate because of some conflicts.. it's been 7 yrs since I met my mom.. I'm very frustrated cuz I'm an introvert so there is no one for me to share my feelings 🥲
Just for anyone watching this who grew up in a single parent house hold and thinking they’ll amount to nothing, I did and I’m now in my last year of my phd and would say I’m on track to a “successful” happy life, your beginning doesn’t determine your end 💗 also just a side note to any single parents I know it’s hard but your doing amazing and we appreciate you even if we don’t show it 🥰
Thank you for such kind words. I am not a single mother, but I admire such open, moving, humble response :)
I grew up with only my mom too, It wasn't always easy but I'm very grateful for for continuous support throughout my life. I'm 19 and in college now.
What were some early challenges you faced and how did you overcome them?
Honestly, my mom is not single but my dad is always give for his work.
I never really felt like I missed something... It's just the way it is.
But I can imagine that for single parents it can be annoying, especially financially.
Thanks for sharing your story. There are definitely financial stress with being a single parent, but glad your dad supported your mom through his work.
am i the only one whose parents have abandoned them both and they grew up with their grandma/grandpa til they died and now they live with their parents again taking care of themself financially, mentally, and emotionally?
This animation style is so adorable and I cannot deal.
Thanks for the positive comment. We will let Natasha know :)
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I had a single parent. It was pretty great until it was no longer a SINGLE PARENT and now i hate life.
Parents need love as well..
Deepa D'cruz
yeah but if they're a shit head to the kid and they parent doesn't care that's bad. Your kids should always come first not your love life. You had kids they didn't ask to come here.
wait till you have an emotionally hurt mum who u also need to care for, plus ur already too stressed out urself, then its worse than that in some ways
@caprice.t uhhh that was over a year ago XD thank you though, and sorry that what I said back then may of seemed mean lol
I grew up in a single parent home and had a positive experience, and my mum was a great role model. My mum and I are very close and, although it wasn't as common to see single parent families when I was a kid, I never felt like I was missing out.
Another positive is that I think it made me more independent. I could cook meals, do ironing, etc at a young age, because I had to fend for myself when Mum got sick.
It would be interesting to see if there's much difference between only-children or multiple children with single parents. Also, I imagine that whether it's a single dad or mum with a boy or a girl would be different too.
Why always single moms ?! I grew up with a single dad and I'm not the only one
Hi Hailee, we agree that there are many people who have grown up with a single dad, we just tend to not hear about them as often. How was your experience growing up with a single dad?
Yay! Single dads! My dad had to raise 2 kids on his own and used to rarely get child support. My dad's a single parent and people always compliment him on raising me and my brother, he's like, "I don't know how that happened, I had a lot of help" because we live with our grandma and his best friend helps him financially sometimes
Same. Im broken 💔
Video: spend time with grandparents.
Me: aight, let’s head to the graveyard.
Oof
They raised me but i can't even talk with them properly, I feel like am little screwed up in my mind. Plus having a lot of relationship problems, I don't know where am I going wrong in life
My dad passed away 7 years ago, I was 13 back then. Spent all my teenage years without a father and I noticed that my bond with my mother and my brother has become intensely close, due to the fact we're missing someone in our family. In our household, it's all about teamwork... Of course, we have our differences and struggles, but we always work it out together.
I grew up with a single mother, and lots of stepfathers. At night I used to cry myself to sleep and ask myself, « why would he leave me? Did he not love me? ». I just wonder what would my life be if I had a dad.
(Don’t mind my comment I just had to get this out)
How r u feeling?
Do u think of your dad often? Were u forced to be the father of yourself?
Tbh its not about u, its about him. Maybe your dad has personal issues of his own thats why he left. Remember that you are enough and you are loved by other people.
What she didn’t mention in the negatives is that that those negatives have only been found when raised by a single mom not a single dad
My single mother is kinda toxic and I'm to distant to her. Life sucks.
I grew up with only a single mother until she got married in 2009. Once she got married, my mom and her husband were constantly fighting with one another, to the point that she said that the relationship was abusive. Compared to living with a single mother, living in a two-parent household messed me up worse.
Sorry to hear that your mom didn't find someone suitable. Sometimes, being remarried can be more harmful for the child than being raised by a single parent. How are coping now?
@@Psych2go Well, things are better now, especially since he stopped drinking, but a part of me has not yet forgiven him for making me feel in danger in my own home or my mother for taking him back, even after kicking him out of the house more than once. I myself got issues out of the situation, but I'll admit that I don't know where his influence ended and other factors began. Overall, things are better, but I'm still skeptical of the situation. Does that make sense?
On the last example, don't forget about the cool uncles and aunts out there! Grandparents won't always have the energy to really let a kid be a kid.
I grew up without my father and long time I didn't even know who he is. I day dreamed about my father wondered how it is to have one. I often cried because I was sad that he wasn't there.
I'm an adult now and I can tell, I don't want my future children to grow up without a father. I think it's horrible.
My dad left me at 2 years old, and now my son’s dad left him at 2 and it breaks my heart. 💔
I truly hope your doing fine. May God bless you
That person is a piece of shit and he doesn't deserve you girl
My boyfriend has a single mother and they are an amazing team. He wouldn’t change it for anything and is really grateful
That's so encouraging to hear. I'd love to hear more about his story and how he fostered the relationship.
Psych2Go well..the father hasn’t been in the picture since he was a baby and his mom never remarried - so for over 20 years it was always the two of them. His mom always worked hard and supports him with going to college etc. I think it was important to her to never give him the feeling of having a disadvantage...
And honestly, in some ways, I envy him. They are an even smaller family than I have, but they make the absolute best out of it. His grandma is also in the picture...
I think growing up like this he knew that his mom sacrificed a lot to give him everything he needed and more and he never took it for granted. Therefore he became someone who never complains and even when he was a teenager I think he never acted out. He’s a people pleaser and doesn’t like too much attention or craziness. He’s very kind and has stronger connections with his female friends than his male friends. I think he can’t really open up with them. He is also very conscious about money...he therefore is very minimalistic and likes to save. For this reason, he takes his studies very serious - because he wants to make sure everything was worth it in the end and tries to become a teacher. I think he’ll be perfect for that job, because he’s great at explaining, very smart and good with most people. Definitely more patient than me.
Meeting his mom for the first time was special to me - because I instantly noticed the parallels. And after all, yes he’s insecure and an introvert in some regards, but he’s perfect for me. I hate men that are overly dominant or act like somehow, working constantly makes up for zero emotional connection. My father is like that and I always knew I didn’t want that in a partner. I wanted someone who is kind and empathetic - and my boyfriend in many ways developed in a healthier way than I did, even if (or maybe even because) his father was a dick.
Amen.
I agree! One parent is better than two stressfull parents!
Do you think the financial stress of being a single parent has the same negative impact as two stressful parents?
@@PFULMTL May be true. But we had financial stress anyways, even with two parents. And if my parents would have splitted, my mother would have gotten financial aid from our country.
my mom, single parent: *constant yelling 24/7, throwing stuff around*
I'm an only child with an only parent as my father died from a heart attack months before I was born..
I have a good life, but feels a missing thing that I should be taught about.
I grew up with only a mother, no father.
Up until now, I never knew what having a dad felt like. My mom found someone she loves, and having a father figure here with me is the best, I now also have a baby sister. ^^
My dad passed away when I was 7, growing up without a father is difficult for me, whenever i am taking in a group and when someone says something about their dad then they all stars taking about their dads, but i.... I stay silent and keep a fake smile on my face. But when someone asks something about my dad then i feel soo good after talking about my dad, i just love to talk about my dad but i barely have any memories but whenever my siblings talk about my dad i get soooo happy. I wish i had my dad for a little more time i don't even remember his voice, but i can't do anything except trying to be happy. I love you Abbu 😭
I would think the child could also become more independent in single household. No one to do things for you, so you do it yourself.
Yes, that's what mostly happens with daughters. They become more independent quicker.
Xochiltepetzala Ilhuicamina well said
I wonder if those studies took into account the income of the parent(s) as a factor. Because most single mothers have to struggle financially and this most definitely has an effect on children. And this also happens in two parent households but not as severe as with a single mother because theres two incomes.
I went through my pregnancy alone and now I’m continuing on being a single mom. And yes, our bond is stronger and we are closer than most. She’s loving and affectionate all round a very happy child. If her father had stayed I don’t think this would’ve happened coz he straight up told me he has no empathy, and that my pregnancy was a mistake. Some kids are indeed better off if the parent is toxic.
I'm a pregnant single, my ex left me for other girl he just met... and accused me it's not his baby... I know I'll be a good mother. Thank you for sharing your story; it gives me hope.
@@hopenewman1902 as a single father I’m so sorry u have to go threw this there are still some good men out here in this world
I grew up in a single parent home and admit that in the beginning it was good. However, as I got older things became more strained and my father became an angry man, often blaming us for things he chose to do. One day I had enough and told him to stop putting the blame on us for decisions he made. He sort of got the message. Moreover, he relied on us so much that rather than letting go as most parents do once children reach adulthood, he became more controlling and possessive to the point I literally ran away from home to live in peace. Eventually, I cut off contact with him. It wasn't until my sister gave him an ultimatum that he realised what he had been doing and finally apologised for how he had acted with us. After that, our relationship improved until he passed away.
Note: I had cut off contact with my mother at a young age because of how toxic she was. The lies, deception and betrayal were too much for me to bear at a young age, so cutting her out of my life was my only option.
My parents got divorced when I was 8, but dad leaving home was the best thing for my mother. She became very independent and confident and had more freedom. Not everything mentioned in the video was a match for me, but I can say that after my parents' divorce, I saw my grandfather on mom's side as my father figure, since my father never really spent quallity time with me and my sister.
What was worse in the situation is the fact that mom could not find someone to trully care about her, because she was too indepedent.
It's interesting how single parenthood has become the norm today. Married or not, people should really think about this possibility if they decide to have children.
I have both of my parents and they have been married for almost 37 years now; I am very grateful for that and lucky. I couldn't imagine living with only one of them as a child...
That's just it, they don't think about what it takes to raise healthy kids, before they decide to reproduce.
If we all live in fear of being a single parent then no one will reproduce
@@miselw
Not everyone is it seems (according to stories in the comments), so more power to them.
It's a rational fear though, and we'll be okay if some people decide not to reproduce because of it. We're already overpopulated as it is.
Grew up with a single mom, couldn't be happier in my life. I don't really miss my father and actually thank God that we don't live together. But well, maybe that's just me because when I was born they were already separated, so I'm used to only having my mom with me. I think that the problem that most affect kids tough is parents divorcing, and bad parents, not the single parenting by itself. Oh, and also having to BE the single parent is a problem, it's much harder to raise a child if there's only one person taking the responsibilities.
You do know people change over time or your spouse can cheat right? Even some can show their true colors after birth. It’s not their fault that their spouse is a sociopath/psychopath or a terrible human being.
The fact that after every few seconds the views for this video increases makes me so happy! Your channel has helped me a lot in understanding humans! Tks so much❤️❤️
Thank you! Let's hope it reaches more people within the end of his week.
I am a single parent and I found this video so right on. I am much closer with my children and we do rely on each other. I am aware of the risks so we discuss many of these issues. It was very unhealthy when we lived with their father and I had to remove them. They are much calmer and although they dealt with trauma we are all much happier. My kids also have a SUPER close relationship with both sets of grandparents. Thanks for this video!! I discuss some of these things on my own channel as I am also a recovering addict. I can say my kids and I, although we don't have everything we would want in life, we are extremely close, loving, affectionate, and I wouldn't want it any other way! 💜💜
im a male 19 year old and my dad left at birth... its weird to think that my upbringing would've been different if i had two parents, my mother is disabled so my upbringing was slow. my sister who was 4 years older than me had a teenage pregnancy and after having the child decided to move away and leave me and my mum to raise her, its weird because now shes growing up i am her father figure which brings me joy because i am able to provide her with the thing i was never able to have. i am a very resilient person but everything that has happened in my life has caused depression and loneliness but i keep my chin and and smile
the thing i like to think is that although its been hard, it couldve been harder, my mother has always tried the best she possibly can to allow me to move on in life, and my only goal is to make her proud and to provide for her and my niece
thank you for listening
I’d like to see a video specifically about the effects of young girls growing up without any female influence in their life. I never had a mom growing up, I was adopted and raised by my single grandfather
Similarly I would like to see a video on the effects of young girls growing up without any male models/figures in their life and how this affects building and maintaining healthy romantic relationships
@Nova you’re a man of course lol
@Nova how? can you tell me why
I'm a full time single father..some great points here.🤗
Yes! This is the one I wanted. Thank you so much for this
My older cousin and auntie told me my mom left when u was 3 months old while my dad is here but doesn't have emotional connection for me:)
I had a friend whose dad died when he was really young
His mom was really "broken"
His home life was really bad, he hated his home and his mom
Some of his friends were people he hated and he was deeply depressed
I was lucky enough to find out after my own experience with depression
I did my best to help him and temporarily I managed that, but...
It was too late...he needed psychiatric help but couldn't and didn't want to get it...
I miss my dad 🥺
My mum passed a couple of years back... I haven’t had a great relationship with my family, I often feel awkward talking to my dad and I fight with my brother a lot (but that’s just normal sibling behaviour) my grandparents live on the other side of the world so I don’t often keep in contact with them... however overall, I’ve made friends and I’m ok... I think...
I've spent time with my mother. Everytime she isn't with me at home or not talking to me, doing other things, I just feel sad and worried. Thank you so much for all the sacrifices you've done for me. I love my mom
Why does everyone always talk about single mothers? Single fathers exist, too..
Definitely..
Shut up loser
@@cheesypasta8766 ??
@@cheesypasta8766 So you call me a "loser", because I wrote that single fathers exist? That's an interesting logic
I’m watching this to learn how I can be better as a single mom 🥰
All the very best to you♥️💞
Ne too
**Girls are at a higher risk of Teen Pregnancy**
Me: **nervously sweats** *wHaT?*
*oh wait, I'm gay lmao*
I grew up with my dad. And I am so proud that he supports me in my hobbies in music and arts. He's cool. He's a former vocalist btw, growing up in your dad as a girl is not that simple. But atleast it teaches me how to stand up and be independent as a young lady.
I had one mom and many dads. It has not always been easy but I think that's what made me stronger and better.
"Girls are more likely to have teen pregnancy"
Me, a lesbian who grew up with a single mother since I was like 5: wElL aCtUaLy
I lost my mum to cancer this yr in Jan.
My dad was never there for us even till this day.
It’s a painful thing to go through knowing you lost the only parent you loved and that loved you back.
Im so sorry for u.My mom has cancer and my dad doesent care abt me and my sis
strong fear of abandonment is very present in single parent home!
"Kids with a single parent might end up having a stronger relationship with that parent"
Me, having a toxic mom : *are you sure about that*
Its a constant battle isn't it!! I have this push and pull relationship with my mum.. Even though we are "close" but I have built up a lot of resentment towards her growing up because she was soo controlling over my life ( i know she just wants the best for me but still) Not until i moved out of home did i realise how toxic it really was. I struggled with expressing my emotions and speak my mind.. I didnt even know who I was.. Did you ever experience how having a single parent affects building healthy romantic relationships?
@@belkimhoang I'm 18 and didn't have and serious relationship for now but I think it's just because I'm young (maybe I'm wrong though) but I know it's really hard for me to fall in love or literally just have a crush on someone.
I relate so much to what you said, it's incredible.
@@ilonaparaveman609 Ahh thanks for sharing! I struggled a lot when I was 18 I think I was craving for that male figure and seek more male friends (it was even difficult since I went to an all girls school too). I would get attached easily when I dated maybe I was just curious and filling a void. Whereas my younger sister might be like you where she didn't have that many crushes or dated much maybe cos of the fear as she was quite guarded.
Where do you seek to learn how to communicate or interact with males in your life? I found myself binge watching a lot of dramas and movies to compensate for the lack of "healthy" male figures in my life (even then they were quite idealism). Do you think you would you benefit if there was something out there that would coach how to date/form healthy relationships especially growing up with a single parent? I wish there was something that taught me how to be treated and not put up with things etc
@@belkimhoang I have a lot of trouble interacting with males in general. It makes me really anxious and almost always uncomfortable. I don't have many male friends and we're not even this close. However I get attached to male fictional characters and male singers easily, I look up to them and see some of them as role models.
I don't know if a coach or something like that would really help me, but if I have the possibility to know one, well why not.
I recently found my self with a lot of self sadness, after some thought and a talk from my mom about my recent changes I came to the realization that a large part of it is likely from growing up with 3 sisters and my mom. I build up anger with no way to vent it and never got the proper guidance from a man (Although my father is still present but divorced from my mother). Growing up small made it hard for me to continue sports into highschool, as a result of this I spent my highschool years hanging out with friends and playing lots of videogames, this only furthered my anger and removed a major way to vent anger through sports. It is only now that I am realizing this and really just want to ask for some help, I need to put all my anger somewhere.
Why are you mad in the first place? And why blame your mom and sisters? They are not at fault for you being born shorter or smaller then most men. Not their fault for your school rejecting you. Not their fault for you choosing to play video games and not just choose running as your sport. Not their fault for you not reading your Bible and becoming a great Christian by obedient to Jesus commandments. Not their fault you didn't take psychology to understand your own mind and emotions which can be found on UA-cam by typing in how to handle your emotions or anger. Not their fault. You have choices.
Dad is pretty much my beacon of hope and has always tried his best to be there for his two kids (my sister and myself) since mom lost everything to mental illness
It's just us three versus the world
Channels like this one have really helped me through some of our toughest situations
grew up with my dad my whole life since he has 100 percent custody and i still vist my mom since my dad told the court it's better that i at least see her every 15 days
I grew up in a chaotic two parent household, I believe that I would have been better off if I had grown up in a single parent home.
My mom left when I was about 5 and I never got to do anything my friends or other kids got to do (Vacations, traveling out of State, getting help on school work, going to friends houses, help getting over my problems, etc.) You always hear about single mother childhoods but it seems single father homes are overlooked.
I come from a single parent family. When my parents got divorced, we moved into my moms parents (my grandparents). After watching this video, I can second the fact that growing a close bond with grandparents really does make a world of difference socially
Even worse, growing up with a single parent as an only child. Loneliest world ever
I also suggest changing the title to single mothers. We clearly have some single fathers here, and they don't seem satisfied with this. But I mean, I guess single mother homes have more research going on for them than single father homes; they still deserve recognition tho
Can you do a video on growing up with no parents
We can do one on absent parents soon. Do you personally have experiences with that?
@@Psych2go What about kids who are placed for adoption as babies and never get adopted. So they grow up in the foster system and are kicked to the streets when they become adults.
just watch naruto fam
Psych2Go I don’t honestly but my parents passed away when I was young, and it’s honestly a lot I have have a small video on how I think I tuned out but I still feel like I have anxiety because of it
lived with my mom for 13 years, because my dad was deported when i was very young, unfortunately she died of cancer last year, i remember she prayed every night for my dad to come back, but he never did till after she passed.... :(
I was raised in a single household along side my little brother (were 7 years apart). We had a lot of trials growing up and i do agree with a lot of these things but i see a clear destinction between us. I remember when my parents were together and how abusive it was before they separated while my brother was born around the end of it. I see a big difference in personality between my brother and i.
I only live with my dad but literally the only thing I relate to in this video is having mental illnesses🤷
I like having only one parent .
And kids with two parents can or so be meassed up .
How has your experience been like?
two parents is worse.
dad lives in basement.
mom upstairs.
I'm the messenger
dad covert narcissist Emotionally absent dismissive
mom co dependant aggressively helpful guilt-tripping no boundries
I live with my mother only but the thing is growing up they took turns taking care of me, Like one day i'd go over to my dad's house say hi to my siblings and go back home. Now that i'm older that doesn't happen to often but it doesn't mean I don't love my father just as much as my mom. But me and my mom are more closer and I wouldn't want to live any other way i'm just glad that both of my parents are happy.
I grew up with a single dad. It was very stressful, emotionally stunting, psychologically damaging, socially lacking, I could go on and on.
Sorry to hear. It must be very tough for you. Would you like to share how your experience has been like?
My dad was an alcoholic who believed that men shouldn't show emotion and berated me every time I cried. He would yell a lot, and since we lived in a secluded area, I was home alone when not in school. He would be home at night, but he would drink and I would have to get his beer because he was too lazy to go the fridge himself. I was forced to hide my emotions so I never got to experience them properly and as such I have a hard time controlling my anger and developed deep depression, high anxiety as well as social, non existent self esteem and self confidence, a very negative inner voice, and when things way too stressful I literally beat myself up. So thanks for screwing me up, dad.