Join me in today's video as I discuss a little bit about how I got to the point of being proud of my childfree choice and how it impacted parts of my life.
Im proud that more childfree women are speaking up like Chelsea handler and brie Larson and Ashley judd and christina Hendricks we shouldn't be shamed for are choice motherhood is not for everyone
Representation is key! And thankfully some recognize the privilege they have to speak out regarding their lifestyle because it should be something considering normal!
In our child-obsessed world, I find it very brave of women to choose to live a child-free life. I don't necessarily feel brave or proud of myself, because I never ever felt maternal towards human children, so if I had had a child, it would simply have been a stupid and wrong move - not that I wouldn't have been a good mom, I actually think I would be quite an awesome mom, but I would have had a hard time with resentment and the grief of the child-free life I should've chosen. And it is so important to be a 'loud' child-free person because women need to hear that this is an option, that you can have an amazing life without children etc. So thanks for this video and your channel. ❤
I can’t imagine! It puts unnecessary pressure onto everyone; especially the child! Growing up with a single mother (as a result of my dad’s choices) was already tough within itself!
Thanks for informing young women (and men!) that they don't need to take the parenthood route like their parents. Just because they think its something, "they have to do" I'm glad that more people are making better decisions about their lives!
I know a woman that was giving birth and the baby was not coming out. It was too late for a C section so the doctor had to break both of her pelvic bones. Don't have to convince me to not give birth.
Adolescence is a time about learning who we are as people and what we want for ourselves outside of what we grew up learning and being told. It’s okay to change what we once formerly thought we wanted! 💖
One of the reasons that I am proud to be Childfree is due to me realizing that I would be one of those deadbeat dads (like the ones who resent Childfree women) who would let all of the child care fall onto my girlfriend. I would get overwhelmed and probably slack on my part in parenting. Out of respect for myself, but especially my girlfriend and non-existent child, I have chosen to be Childfree. And I am proud to not subject my girlfriend to my apathetic co-parenting.
I’m single/unmarried and childfree, best decision I have ever made. You should make a video about your thoughts about adopting or fostering children who already in existence which would be less selfish than having biological children of your own.
not sure if you have to be PROUD of being child free. it is not an achievement or something. I do not judge your decision at all. In the end it is your life! aside from your decision: if all people decided to stay child free, humanity would go extinct in 80 years from now. that is a scary thought imho. I have one child and always wanted to be a father. Only because I really wanted to be an active father, I can put in the effort each day to be there for him, educating, raising, loving him. If you do not want any kids, you better do not get any! Without full commitment you will not be a good parent and children suffer.
41 and child-free. There was a time when I wanted a husband and children. But that time is no more. I worked in daycare for fifteen years, taught preschool for four years. I honestly think that played a part in my decision, as it basically ruined kids for me. But even more so, I think I really just took a long hard look at why I even thought I wanted the marriage and kids thing in the first place. It wasn't because it was what I actually wanted, it was because I thought that was what was expected of me. Find a partner before twenty-five, have kids before you turn thirty. If you don't, you won't fit in with everyone else. The older I have gotten, the less I care about what is supposedly my duty as a woman, and I care more about what will truly make me happy in this one life I have to live. If other people are triggered by this, then sorry but that's not my problem.
It's good that you try to live authentically by your values and not simply live by the values of others. Livng by the values of others destroys you and frustrates you. One thing to point: Self-fufillment is not a value. It is a concomitant of a life lived by rational and authentic values. Those who seek self-fulfillment as an end in itself find themslves quite alienated and lonely. This is why, for example, people who seek to live by what gives them pleasure as an end in itself find that nothing gives them pleasure. Pleasure is also a concomitant.
This, More "child free" people should explore this philosophy, it could give them counter arguments and moral high ground to position of natalistic apologists.
To each their own but I’d feel so lonely if I never got married or have children. Even if I have a partner I feel like we’d get nowhere without making a family of our own. But that’s my personal opinion. To each their own.
I completely understand! The way we as humans experience and find values in different things can be different based on who we talk to as it all depends on a million little scenarios we experience in life. Some people find fulfillment and motivation within raising a family while others could struggle and fall behind.
Im proud that more childfree women are speaking up like Chelsea handler and brie Larson and Ashley judd and christina Hendricks we shouldn't be shamed for are choice motherhood is not for everyone
Representation is key! And thankfully some recognize the privilege they have to speak out regarding their lifestyle because it should be something considering normal!
In our child-obsessed world, I find it very brave of women to choose to live a child-free life. I don't necessarily feel brave or proud of myself, because I never ever felt maternal towards human children, so if I had had a child, it would simply have been a stupid and wrong move - not that I wouldn't have been a good mom, I actually think I would be quite an awesome mom, but I would have had a hard time with resentment and the grief of the child-free life I should've chosen. And it is so important to be a 'loud' child-free person because women need to hear that this is an option, that you can have an amazing life without children etc. So thanks for this video and your channel. ❤
This was very well said.
I agree completely.
Recently subscribed, and gladly childfree! Daily I am ever receiving confirmation that being childfree is right for me.
Can you imagine there are still a whole bunch of low-income or even jobless women choosing to become single mothers. It blows my mind.
Und ercla s people don't know better.
Low IQ + lack of inhibitions = domination of primal instincts
I can’t imagine! It puts unnecessary pressure onto everyone; especially the child! Growing up with a single mother (as a result of my dad’s choices) was already tough within itself!
Thanks for informing young women (and men!) that they don't need to take the parenthood route like their parents. Just because they think its something, "they have to do" I'm glad that more people are making better decisions about their lives!
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I know a woman that was giving birth and the baby was not coming out. It was too late for a C section so the doctor had to break both of her pelvic bones. Don't have to convince me to not give birth.
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That sounds terrifying! I'll add that to my list of 287373 reasons not to have children!
Is she fine now?😢
@@swatisaini6447 She wasn't a friend, just someone I worked with a few years ago so, I can't answer the question.
You literally learn something you didn’t know could have every single day! 😫
Agree with everything you said. I CANNOT believe at one point I wanted kids😂 but better to figure it out now in my early twenties than later 🤷🏾♀️
Adolescence is a time about learning who we are as people and what we want for ourselves outside of what we grew up learning and being told. It’s okay to change what we once formerly thought we wanted! 💖
@@jannealv9969 same!! I’m glad I found out that motherhood is an option instead of an obligation that society makes it out to be.
One of the reasons that I am proud to be Childfree is due to me realizing that I would be one of those deadbeat dads (like the ones who resent Childfree women) who would let all of the child care fall onto my girlfriend. I would get overwhelmed and probably slack on my part in parenting. Out of respect for myself, but especially my girlfriend and non-existent child, I have chosen to be Childfree. And I am proud to not subject my girlfriend to my apathetic co-parenting.
Thanks for sharing!
I’m single/unmarried and childfree, best decision I have ever made. You should make a video about your thoughts about adopting or fostering children who already in existence which would be less selfish than having biological children of your own.
One of your best videos. Very relatable💪
Good for ya'll. And I have kids.....
not sure if you have to be PROUD of being child free. it is not an achievement or something. I do not judge your decision at all. In the end it is your life! aside from your decision: if all people decided to stay child free, humanity would go extinct in 80 years from now. that is a scary thought imho.
I have one child and always wanted to be a father. Only because I really wanted to be an active father, I can put in the effort each day to be there for him, educating, raising, loving him. If you do not want any kids, you better do not get any! Without full commitment you will not be a good parent and children suffer.
41 and child-free. There was a time when I wanted a husband and children. But that time is no more. I worked in daycare for fifteen years, taught preschool for four years. I honestly think that played a part in my decision, as it basically ruined kids for me. But even more so, I think I really just took a long hard look at why I even thought I wanted the marriage and kids thing in the first place. It wasn't because it was what I actually wanted, it was because I thought that was what was expected of me. Find a partner before twenty-five, have kids before you turn thirty. If you don't, you won't fit in with everyone else. The older I have gotten, the less I care about what is supposedly my duty as a woman, and I care more about what will truly make me happy in this one life I have to live. If other people are triggered by this, then sorry but that's not my problem.
It's good that you try to live authentically by your values and not simply live by the values of others. Livng by the values of others destroys you and frustrates you. One thing to point: Self-fufillment is not a value. It is a concomitant of a life lived by rational and authentic values. Those who seek self-fulfillment as an end in itself find themslves quite alienated and lonely. This is why, for example, people who seek to live by what gives them pleasure as an end in itself find that nothing gives them pleasure. Pleasure is also a concomitant.
Make a video on antinatalism
This,
More "child free" people should explore this philosophy, it could give them counter arguments and moral high ground to position of natalistic apologists.
Getting a child is like voting. I wouldn't do it, but I want other smart people to do it
To each their own but I’d feel so lonely if I never got married or have children. Even if I have a partner I feel like we’d get nowhere without making a family of our own. But that’s my personal opinion. To each their own.
I don't think it's set in stone, our priorities change as we go through life.
I completely understand! The way we as humans experience and find values in different things can be different based on who we talk to as it all depends on a million little scenarios we experience in life. Some people find fulfillment and motivation within raising a family while others could struggle and fall behind.
And I speak from experience...don't ever date a single divorced woman with kids. They more often than not need a rescuer.
People who don't have children assert that their genome is removed from the pool. Nothing wrong with that. Childlessness is a self defeating strategy.
Destiny is not a choice.
Desteny is esoteric nonsense.
Grow up
You sure about that?
Says who?
We know not the future, neither we have control ... but for some reason we are confident.