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Diary Of The Childfree
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Welcome to the Diary of the Childfree where we share unapologetic laughs, discussions, and content! I am thrilled to have you join this online community. ♡
Here's Why I Won't Be Letting Kids In My House Again
I always look forward to the holiday season, but this past years were truly the final push we needed to change the way we spend and prioritize the season. Having children in your family can be fun, but it can also spell disaster.
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12 Things I Wish Someone Told Me | Childfree By Choice
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In today's video, I share 12 things I wish I knew sooner as childfree woman in honor of my 29th birthday. There is a lot to live and learn when choosing a path less travelled but collectively sharing our voices on childfree lifestyles helps build an incredible community for everyone.
Traveling Childfree - London Vlog (Kind Of)
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Come along with me as I share some bits and pieces from our trip to London this past November while discussing some annoyances and the perks of traveling childfree.
Childfree Coffee Chats - Episode 2
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Welcome to Childfree Coffee Chats, our series where we chat about childfree topics over coffee...or tea, whichever you prefer...drawing topics at random to discuss in the moment and seeing where they lead.
The Ultimate Childfree People In Our Society Pt. 4
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It's time to continue our ever growing list of childfree (by choice/circumstance) individuals in our society that exist and thrive all around us.
The Childfree Truth - Why Some Parents Can't Stand The Childfree Choice
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The Childfree Thought Process - Regrets And What Ifs
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Benefits Of Being Childfree During Natural Disasters
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The Ultimate Childfree People In Our Society Pt. 1
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Childfree Men - My Husband's Take On A Man's Role
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The Importance Of Childfree Communities
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Why I Chose To Be Proud Of My Childfree Choice
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Childfree - A Lifestyle Not A Personality Trait
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Why We Need And Benefit From Childfree Individuals In Society
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My mom hated raising me and I knew it. She once told me that she wished that she could divorce me. I myself knew from an early age knew I wouldn’t enjoy being a mom. I knew my kids wouldn’t be happy. I’m 44 and I’ve never regretted it. If anything, everyday I’m grateful to be childfree. I also never cared about what I’m supposed to do according to society. Who gives a fuck?
Being child free for me is totally ok. No one tells me to have kids and no one cares about weather I had kids or not. That's why I love being child free, it's easy and free. Being child free also gives me more time to spend with Jesus Christ.
It's the opposite. My empty-nester female friend in her early 60s is so lonely and depressed. I'm older than her, childfree-by-choice and crave solitude. I think it's more an introvert/extrovert thing than an adult children vs childfree issue. And I'm not seeing any adult child taking care of their parents. They are busy with their lives and don't have the time or money.
Child free are self centered narcissists, love talking about themselves, think the world revolve around them.
I got twins girls IT s hard a hell of work .... imagine milk / diaper/ change for 1 then the 2nd make them sleep (wash nose in winter) wash the clothes / dispencer / feeding bottle IT took 2h-2h30 The cycle start every 3h30 -4h Doing this during 1 year .... So freaking hard ! They are 3 and now it s prepare clothes / give them milk / make them pee / dress them / bring them to school Go to work come back feed them wash them brush teeth read 2 books make them pee make them sleep wash everything / myself Prepare next day work meeting The time goes SOOOOOOO FAST (already 3years) Don t have time for friend Don t have time to rest Sometimes i don t have time to wash myself lol at the end i took some backview Single life is free and very available (it could be too empty then you ll feel loneliness) In my case i m overbusy ... The routine is heavy but the emotion is like a rollercoaster Many very jouful moment very pain moment (do not listen, trouble maker or other) At the end i don t have the time to go on social media I took time to explain my process no disrespect just my opinion I believe both life have pro and cons but if i compared to my childless time ( spending time on anime / videogames/ go out with friend / play sport) and now ( daddy of 2 kids) i Think that my 2 kids is bringing more joy (and anger / sadness / crazyness / worryness too lol ) than my previous life I think it s worth but it s fucking hard ! Get Prepared well or you ll get overcharged and could be depressed (no time to hang out / the only music you listen is kid / baby music, the only meeting is play date) That s all ^^ Remember your 2 MOST VALUABLE commodity is TIME and HEALTH !
With my issues with mental health (depression and anxiety disorder, ADHD and possible OCD), having a spouse/lover and children would be problematic. I have WAY too many personal issues that would ultimately create an unhealthy environment for a spouse/lover, let alone children.
I would be p1ssed of if my daughter would not want to give grandkids.
The entitlement of parents not teaching them manners is WILD!? Don't sign up for parenthood if you no desire to raise kids this is exactly why alot of restaurants banned kids because the disasters were too much and going to negatively affect their business.
Well said 🤗❤
Picking up the slack is the worst part, and discriminatory.
I'm a parent and I have absolutely no problem with people who are childfree. I believe you should only have children if you really want them. What I do take issue with is the casual insults thrown towards children and bashing of parents lifestyle "oh you must be so miserable being a parent". It's very common. Look at it this way, if I'm a coffee drinker I have no problem with tea drinkers, what I don't like is people telling me how disgusting coffee is. Like, I'm not forcing you to drink it.
I can never be too comfortable when kids are in my house. Especially when eating is involved. The floor ends up covered in food. Which is fine, but I’m constantly worried about them running around with sticky face and fingers touching everything.
The cleanup after is the tricky part. I feel like everything needs to be sterilized. I've had greasy hand prints soak into leather before...it never came out.
Childless people now: 😂😊🎉❤ Childless people 40 years from now when they are alone, cannot afford retirement, and all family members have passed away: 🤐🫥🌚
I beg to differ. Many childfree* individuals prioritize their savings with various investments including retirement funds. In the areas of life that we don't have to spend on we save. I would expect that most of anyones older relatives are going to pass away before them but I would expect that ones siblings and cousins, for the most part, will be around well into old age alongside them as well as nieces and nephews. Anyways, the childfree lifestyle is commonly known to strongly prioritize relationships in life within their family as well as friendships.
@@diaryofthechildfree The statistics beg to differ
@@diaryofthechildfree statistics show that childfree people own around+200$ than families and earn 5K more than families, im not sure thats worth it for the loneliness you will have.
@@Earthball_Productions You may fear loneliness, but some find peace in it. Anyways, as I stated previously, a lot of childfree people prioritize their relationships that build strong and everlasting bonds throughout life with many different people. This includes family and friends. I would love read up on the statistics that you mentioned, granted you actually have a credible source, because the childfree people I know have multiple retirement accounts as well investments.
I'm so glad I won't be living this life! 3/5 of us don't want kids and the other two are too young to really know if they want kids at this point.
I can't even begin to rationalize the idea in general let alone with everything going on in the world recently.
I see many cats in your future.
Cats over incels. Your loss.
My partner died in 2023 and I'm VERY happy we did not have a child... I would have been so miserable raising a child alone.
@@skyeharvest Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry to hear that! The loss of a partner is particularly hard. 😣 That would surely be a difficult situation to be thrown into in so many ways. I can imagine the immense heartache you must have experienced and although it may be considered wishful thinking, I hope everyday gets a little bit easier and that you have plenty of memories to hold onto forever! ❤️
Yes, you are right, parents should look after their children, and they were disrespectful towards you and your husband. Wise decision not to host any more family events. I'm not sure why people have children if they don't want to look after them 24/7. It's common sense, especially while they are toddlers 🤦♀️
It's one thing to obviously still have human needs, to want to have moments to truly unwind, but as with many things, it comes down to a proper time and place.
You are right on target! That debacle displays exactly what is wrong with our society today and why education is ruined. They are all absentee parents, entitled and spoiled; and replacing themselves with the same. No thank you!
I pray one day I can find happiness and not having children at 43 years old maybe it's because I'm not married yet I not completely fulfilled I had an abortion three abortions actually when I was about early twenties and for the past 23 years haven't been able to get pregnant God bless it was nice comments all your guyses comments and gives me some hope for happiness
I pray one day I can find happiness and not having children at 43 years old maybe it's because I'm not married yet I not completely fulfilled I had an abortion three abortions actually when I was about early twenties and for the past 23 years haven't been able to get pregnant God bless it was nice reading all your guyses comments and gives me some hope for happiness
I pray one day i can find happiness childfree maybe its because im 43 not with a husband and childfree not by choice i had abortions in my esrly 20 now for 33 year nothing God bless you all
Who is ever really lonely when you have a bunch of UA-cam videos to watch of people who show you why you are not really in a bad place being alone.
Loneliness is what we make of it. A little easier said than done at times, but it shouldn't be something to look down upon. We have an entire world we can connect with at our fingertips, and plenty of hobbies to embrace that can be excelled at in solitude!
No husband, no kid, no stress. People ask me if I am afraid of dying alone, having no one to take care of me when I am old and sick etc. Guess what, if I die then I die. None of your business. My neighbor is a 78yo man with 2 kids about my age. His wife has dementia and is living in the nursing home, while he is still healthy but of course none of his kid is living with their dad. So I become sort of a daughter to him in a sense, because I make frequent visits and help him with chores. After all of us are alone.
At the end of the day, many of us die alone regardless. It's hard to anticipate when and where so we might as well just focus on the life we choose. All too many people who work in nursing and retirement homes discuss how hardly any family visits. It's once a year if they are lucky. When my husbands father was in palliative care the front desk made a remark about how frequently we were visiting at 3 times per week and that they hardly ever see anyone that regularly. That is so kind of you to do. It goes to show how it's quite less about having children but creating and building a community. We don't have to be related by blood to create bonds with others or make room for them in our hearts.
My husband and I love our pets. I have a 5 year old Great Dane and my husband rescued a stray cat that stays in the shop.
Great Danes are beautiful! That's amazing you rescued a stray cat. I know plenty of us would rescue so many animals if it was feasible.
Well everyone involved in this story just seems like awful, entitled people.
How do the hosts sound like awful entitled people exactly?
I don't think parents etc have changed. I think a section of society was always rude and thoughtless I think ppl are way less tolerant of this nonsence and the internet has just made it easier to talk to other ppl, rather then be shushed, especially about children and how much care/energy it takes to raise them.
The main problem is always the parents. I knew better from a very small age. Parents of bad children are usually parents that aren’t involved in their lives. They regret or resent their children secretly & don’t like em but say they love them. They don’t really talk to them & just keep em busy or shove em away aside from randomly grabbing them & giving them lots of kisses in front of people to seem like they care. But they don’t really speak to them as a person. They are a tiny person in training & u have a responsibility & relationship with them as if u were pursuing a friend & want them in ur lives & want to better them.
Animal abuse is never ok and you absolutely did not overreact. That is psychopath behavior and the parents should be ashamed and concerned!! Good for you for standing your ground.
Not only I can't afford children but I can't afford a spouse/lover. In this economy?????
I knew Massachusetts would be one of the more expensive states to raise a child 😅
Wow it’s ’just stuff’ no. That’s personal property. Carefully selected or gifted by/to the host. People’s things matter to them. It’s also the work of having to clean up. Your family is just disrespectful.
I haven't had my neices & nephews (only my sisters have kids) over my house since they were babies because my nephew launched a toy screwdriver through my little brother's flatscreen TV. My older sister had to pay him back.
Yeah, baby! Kids suck!
Feel free to ignore if advice isn't what you're after right now, but I think everyone involved could have handled things better. Of course it's easy to say in hindsight, but the root of the problem seems to be mismatched expectations. Yes, parenting is unrelenting but also when not on holiday, parents typically go to work and do other social things here and there while the children are watched by the other parent or a babysitter. That of course doesn't give anyone the right to make you a defacto free babysitter though! It really seems like the whole family would benefit from discussing boundaries and ground rules (one of which can be "if we are meeting up it needs to not be in my home") before holiday chaos begins.
For context, I have no children myself, but grew up in a "children all run a little extra wild together on holidays" kind of family. Big family gatherings were some of my fondest childhood memories, but also as an adult I notice now how making sure those childhood moments were safe for all involved often ends up falling on the shoulders of someone who never agreed to it. So I can see all the sides of it, and feel like there's a balance to be found in there.
A child repeatedly kicked their dog after being told to stop it and the parents were only upset that the husband called the behavior---not the child---psychopathic? Oh, hell no. Anybody, child or not, who repeatedly kicks my dog, is no longer welcome in my home nor are the parents who refused to stop that child's behavior. And you know if the poor dog, after being repeatedly harrassed by the child, had so much as growled at the kid in question, those same parents would be throwing a hissy fit about why the "dangerous dog" was allowed anywhere near their precious little one. Speaking of which, parents left two toddlers unsupervised? There were no adults directly associated with those toddlers in the room watching them? Toddlers can do all kinds of things in an instant that could be harmful to them. If their parents aren't concerned about the damage they could do to others' possessions, aren't they at least concerned about the harm they could do to themselves? And no, it's not the responsibility of the hosts to watch every child there. Their parents brought them. They should be responsible for making sure they are being supervised, if not by the parents themselves by someone the parents trust.
I totally understand where you’re coming from, the parents should keep an eye on their children and apologize if something like this happens. However I also think that you could’ve handled the children better. Calling them psychopaths is probably only going to upset them, while telling them why this makes you sad might make them think about their actions. But of course the parents are the one’s to blame and setting this boundary makes sense!
She's a great aunt.
Without kids you end your entire lineage that your ancestors fought and survived to this day !!! But c'mon who cares about family values or lineages over hedonism and narrsicissm !!!
This is how its like when our niece and nephew come over. My nephew used to try to hit our cat with a stick. And we've found items broken after several times, and the parents don't watch them or apologize. It's so stressful and frustrating!
I'm glad you decided not to host holidays anymore, you are not cut out for it. Childproofing is very important for children. Giant glass vase on the table is a no no. On the other hand the parents raised monsters and sound careless. If I was over with my children I would have asked you if it was OK to move the vase and also explain to my children what is off limits. And hitting the dog is a timeout for sure and super serious but your husband shouldn't call children names.
Just get some inflated ballon slides or playroom to keep kids busy playing !!! My parents did those when I was a kid but these days there's hardly any play areas like how it used to be back then !!
It’s totally understandable, it’s a lesson for the children and the parents, you are setting boundaries and consequences, and they learn from early on people is not obligated to deal with their bad behavior. I don’t know why some parents are like this. Personally, I never had problems with my family for this, their children are well behaved. But recently I had an ugly argument with a friend for something similar to your dog situation. I am not inviting unknown children to my home again.
I am one of the most kid-friendly people out there, just to preface. Doors need to be closed, and limits set. Have a discussion with your friends and family about your expectations. If egregious behavior is seen, you need to dismiss that child from your home immediately. Kicking an innocent animal is egregious behavior. I think a better way to help people understand the error or their ways is to address things individually. Let each one know why their children are no longer allowed in your home. Well-behaved children should be welcomed. This way, your loved ones can't just dismiss you as anti-child. It will force them to reflect on their shortcomings.
At 5 years old, with 2 younger sisters, I knew damn well I never wanted to have kids. Fast forward 40 years and I'm still child-free and couldn't be happier about it. Breeders are often the worst. I have no need of their opinions on life 😂
LAZY "parents."
Literally let my sisters kids come over ONCE. Never again or until their brains are fully developed. It was literal hell 😂
I was lucky that my mom early on set this boundary with family and friends' kids: if her child is not allowed to do it in her home, no one's is (acting rowdy, yelling, pushing things, hitting people, etc... all the things we witnessed some of them did). I was pretty active outdoors and I didn't really have need to cause chaos or be disrespectful. Anyone who came to visit and allowed this behavior was not invited again. She always says "we can meet elsewhere". As a childfree adult I appreciate it so much; she is my safe space because to her as well peace is so valuable. I'm so sorry you went trough this chaos, and it's hard to set boundaries especially with family <3
This is a common issue, many parents are WAY too entitled. Believe me, I dealt with it myself many times in the past but children never broke my belongings. Here’s the typical example of what that is…. Parents: “He/she is just a kid, he/she doesn’t know better!!!” Childfree Chad: “Well, it’s your responsibility as the parent to teach him/her better. How do you expect them to learn if you don’t teach them?”
Disrespect that child shows towards someone else's things says a lot about how much disrespect their parents also have towards others. Stg people want kids and not think that it takes teaching manners because they don't have them either!
Exactly! I think the problem in society today is parents don't know how to parent anymore. I think it's also that kids are rude if they see their parents being rude. It's probably how bullies are created. I doubt the kids, most anyway, are born mean. The bullies just witness rude behavior if their parents display it and then they and their parents believe the behavior is normal when it's not.
@@HaleyMary Bullying ended in 2010's you'll know it if your a kid !!!
@@HaleyMarywell it’s better to not have kids then
I definitely think it's okay to set a boundary like this, and it doesn't have to be forever. Once the kids are older and better behaved, you can reevaluate whether you allow them into your home. It seems reasonable to me, especially since something was broken that could have been dangerous, and then they kicked your little dog!