Hi Brad! Great video as always:) I had a question regarding my ex who split with me a week ago, we dated for two years. I've engaged in no contact and for me prom is soon coming up, I was wondering if getting a date and a dance would be a good idea to get my ex back? Or if I should just be with my group of friends and continue no contact. Also do friends play a large role in my ex's decision making?
Yeah, get a date but only when you're ready, including how to act if you choose to go that route. No, friends have zero influence in your ex's decision but the younger your ex is, the more they'll be likely to be influenced. In both cases though there's nothing productive you can do about it, so try to focus on yourself.
Hi Brad, I discovered your channel this week and I am loving the content already. So, my ex has been a big part of my life. We had a very deep friendship for about 2years before we started dating. She asked for a break 4days ago which to me sounded like a breakup. It's not been easy for me to get a job and that was her reason of breaking up with me(Independence). she still has the next 2years to complete her advocates training program now that she is yet to graduate from law school and all I was asking from her was patience and support during this dark period. She said that I don't really take initiative enough(which I do) and if she was in my shoes she would have handled the matter differently. I am going through a tough time with the job search but I am working on myself constantly to make things better for me and be independent. She says she really loves me as romantically and as her best friend also but we could still work things out as friends and nothing changes and that she will continue to support me. I asked if I did anything else wrong but she said all clean. I have really been patient with her in so many other things. The thing is, I really love her genuinely as a friend and want to stand by her side. I love her romantically and want to be a better version and would love to be together again. She is a good girl that I wouldn't want to loses. The no contact has been hard because she texts me in the morning and evening but just normal texts to check up or wish me well(though sounds cold to me). My fear is if I go on no contact she might lose interest completely. Also knowing our past bond as friends and willingness to support her. What can I do in my circumstance.
Hi, welcome to my channel! I understand how you feel however, at this point, it's best to give her space and respect her decision. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Your big fan and long-term fan here, Brad. I watched all of your videos. I have a question. I know your audiences are usually the dumpees, so you talk for them mainly. But could you please do a video about how a dumper could get their ex back? I broke up with my ex, and I tried so hard to go back to him. But he rejected me harshly, blocked me on everything, and moved on to another woman. I know I deserved it, but I still want to know how to fix it. Other coaches online don't really cover the dumper part enough. I know you must have some very good insights, and your help would be very much appreciated. Thanks! :)
thanks brad your the best breakup coach ever!! ❤️, My Ex broke up with me after 1,5 year, (long distance) because I cheated on her, I apologized, beg, plead 3 times genuinely I did no contact for full 30 days and exercise I reached out with another account to show her my changes she was very mad and said she's with another guy and reblocked me, after that every week I used to show off my body and swimming skills and the good things I'm doing on social media, after 18 days she unblocked me to ask me about an anime we used to watch I kept it cool and answered her positively she reblocked me again 🙂, I reached out after 2 weeks and she tried to make me jealous by trying to miss with my best friend that she don't know and say things on social media, and showing me a text messages between her and a different guy then blocked me again, I didn't react at all and after a week she deleted the messages And reblocked me and said she misses me in her social media for 5 days, still no react from me and after that she deleted the whole missing messages, WTF is that 😂??? and what should I do?
You're welcome! When there's cheating involved, you usually have to give it more than 30 days of space, especially if your ex is clearly not ready to forgive/talk to you. Give it more time but also be prepared to move on if your ex can't find it in her to truly forgive you or be attracted enough to you again to want to restart your relationship.
Thanks for the reply Brad! Would it hurt if I extend No Contact past 30 days? I'm working my way through the Ex Factor Guide, and want to make sure I finish it before I initiate contact with her.
Hey Brad, i had a question. So me and my Ex are in an LDR, we broke up 6 months ago but we still talk to each other until now. Then there's one time I haven't talked to her for 1 in a half week because I was busy on doing something at school and when I came back to talk to her, she said she missed me and she also said that she loves me. Does that mean that me and my ex had a huge chance to be together again? What should I do?
A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
If it's a new person and have no history with each other, yes, the time being friends is spent in getting to know each other before getting into a relationship and you certainly can't go wrong with that. However, if it's an ex, being friends is a bad idea since you're already through that part already during the course of your relationship!
Brad, My Ex broke up with me because I excessively blew up her from a calling app number that wasn't in her contacts, because she was ignoring my text messages by leaving me on Read and I got upset. She says I "broke her trust" as I lied about the calls being from me and I had blew up her phone prior to this for the same reason. She also said she's not getting back together me. Right now I'm engaging in No Contact, but would the strategies in the Ex Factor Guide help me get her back, or is there a different strategy I should be doing for this situation?.
If there's still a chance, the Ex Factor Guide can help you. But if you've been repeatedly been making the same mistakes, that is a huge factor as well that you might have to consider moving on. Try taking the free quiz here: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Hey brad. I shared with you my relationship story and you suggested me to watch your video entitled: what does a break from a relationship mean, do's and dont's.... However, it's been almost 2months and more than we've had a break and he prolly used the break to initiate the breakup. He broke off with me last month after the break ended. We were supposed to think our relationship over but it didn't happen. Do suggest and make a detailed video on what to do and what not to when a break has already taken the shape of a breakup. Looking forward to you. Do help!
If that's the case then it's likely he's looking forward to breakup rather than have that break with you. So act accordingly. A healthy sense of optimism is needed indeed along with viewing the situation for what it is so as not to look at it with rose coloured glasses. This means you ought to have a balanced approach but cutting off contact will naturally help you with that, so try to stick to that rule for 30 days. One way to go about this is to not get too caught up with getting your ex back so you will allow for stuff to play naturally while playing your cards right , which is what my videos and/or my Ex Factor Guide is for. If you still can't help it, go ahead and sign up for my coaching program so I can guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching but really try to have that sense of independence without your ex first. You need to be able to rely on yourself before you're in a position to get an ex back. Apply the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/v-deo.html but this is the overview of what needs to happen, it helps to review it: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw Good luck!
Im glad Im not in friendzone. Brad , thank you for everything . 3 weeks ago I asked my ex to go out with me (our 4th date) she said shes sick and on sick leave, so we couldnt (I know this is just an act but , yea..) . You told me to not rush and I didnt , I did texted a couple of times just to let her know I think about her . After 10 days of her sick leave , 4 days I didnt texted her , and last friday she sent some meme on IG and I reacted with a heart and left at that. Later that night she called me to see if Im home if she can come over or to go for a coffe . When she came home we texted and she said she wants to see me again . Next morning she texted me "Hey whats up , how you doin ? " and we texted then she said , maybe when I finish my stuff today we can go out tonight , and we did , drove in a car , went to the drive trough, later had a coffee on gas station and else.. She acttualy called me "love" for a couple of times. Helped me to pack my things as I was going to Austria next morning . Im still on my vacation. Should I call her on a date when I come back ? Thank you so much ...
This all actually depends on the progress and without knowing the full details, it's tough to say at this point whether or not you should suggest a meetup. In general, try to build consistent positive rapport first before asking to meet. In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I HOPE YOU REPLAY ON THIS ONE... Hi brad ...i was in relationship four years ago and she convinced her love to me ..and i liked her but i needed more time and we broke up and after 2 years i wanted to win her back ( we talked several time between the 2 years gab) And after the 2 years i told her that i love her and i want things to get right between us...and she was confused because she was in a relationship not going well with her ...and i understood that because she need time ..but i kept my life going ... while that time going i was posting on social media with my freinds and she was so geluse and kept tolde that she can't see me with other girl...but still dont know if she want to get back together and she kept on that way for a year almost ..and i had enough with her because she kept doing this to me ...and i ended at all with her ...after that i started dating my freind and we kept dating about a month and a half ...and after that month i get a massage from my ex and she tolde that we belong together ...and was waiting from the bottom of my heart this word ..i loved her so much but i couldn't trust her anymore after what she did in the past couple of month ...and i was really happy with this new girlfriend and i couldnt break her heart and leave her ...so when my ex knew that iam in a relationship she told me to block her because she cant ...and didnt want to block her because i didnt want any hard felling ..the day after i woke up and found out that she blocked me ....and after 5 weeks from that the new girl dumped me because she didn't love ass much ass i did ...and we decided to still a freinds and i was ok with that and after that i foucesd on my self for 5 month i started a new job ,get healthier and things was going great for me....the thing is ...2 weeks ago i had a call from my ex mom ..iam a freind to her family ...and told me that she need a help to find a jop..and i said that i will help her out ...in the same day she texted me at 11:00pm Then she called me and we kept talking for an hour ..and the phone call was so joyful we kept lauphing whill the call was going at the end of the call shel told to remind her sending me her c.v Ididnt talk to her after that at all ...after 2 days she voice recorded me at night that she will sent me the c.v tomorrow... After a week i meet her and we just walked...the day after we meet in a caffe for work stuff...and now i dont know what to do ... Maybe she still have felling for me ...and I fell that way too..but iam scared to tell her that and the loop go all over again ...i want to give her a chance ...to give us a chance but i dont know how and the right way to tell her that...and i dont know if she just messing around ...or really want to get back to her .... please tell what to do..or what is going on with her mind ... Thanks brad a lot i watch your videos all the time.
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad, I'm in a tough situation right now. So me and my ex have been dating for 4 years. However, at the end of the following year in December. We had plans on getting married. We were both excited. We ended up buying the engagement rings and wedding band. However, I would get into fights with her about petty things such as on her off days, she would not text me for around 4-6 hours or even a call(attention thing I guess), She has these guys who flirt with her and I get upset with her because she never told them to cut it out(however, she did bring me up in their conversation, but they ignored it), and more things happened. This one time, we got into a terrible fight and out of anger we both agreed we aren't going to get married at the end of this year and to hold off it. From what I was told, she was in shambles and later on she told me she was crying every night for a month straight about it. I told her I still wanted to get married to her, but we would have to take things slower. I ended up postponing the engagement before the nasty fight and she got upset because she really wanted this. I did too, but I realized it's going to be a lot different than being the usual boyfriend/girlfriend thing. Not until recently, at the end of May we accomplished 4 years together and two days later she broke up with me. She told me she was fed up with me and never wanted to see me ever again and other terrible things she told me such as we will never be a couple again. Until recently, I learned there was another guy involved. I guess around the time we got into this fight, she was talking to this guy who currently is 40 and she's 22(I'm 22 as well), and I guess she became a secretive. She would leave my presence when we were together and take her phone with her. I noticed this strange behavior, but I didn't think it was something major. After the day of the break up, I noticed from friends the guy posted this thing where her and the guy went out to see a Disney show together at night. At this point, I didn't know about the 30 day no contact rule, so I confront her and give her back the engagement rings and mention to her "Did you really break with up with me because you wanted to be with this guy?" and she said "No, we are not a thing. He was just comforting me because of our break up." And after that she left. During this time(it's been a month already), we would have small talk and she mentioned we can become friends and nothing else. I declined because after 4 years, becoming friends could become a difficult thing for me. However, I've been told that they're going out for lunch every day, they go out to places such as the beach, events, etc. when she has the time. She posts pictures of him on her snapchat.( I removed her from social media) Friends that have her added would show me these things, and say they're probably dating, however, won't make it public. He posts that she's with him watching movies or going out to places. At this point, can I even do anything? It's been exactly 4 weeks today she broke up with me and she already moved on to her "friend". A lot of people don't like her decision because it seemed off and a lot of people found out the truth behind our breakup because of all the social media thing and putting things together so there's a lot of this going around our work area. (We work together, however, we were dating way back before we even started working there, but in different departments) Any advise would be appreciated. Thank you.
How do you mean more things happened? Has she cheated? If she has crossed the line, then postponing the wedding was a good call! I'm sorry, I could be way off... but there’s lots of missing pieces here for me to deduct anything concrete, so consider signing up for my coaching program instead so I can look into your situation more clearly and figure out what's going on, then guide you on a regular basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
It's bad and a serious demotion. A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
Hey Brad, my ex really loved me at some point and we had great plans. But at some point they started seeing how stubborn, somewhat aggressive and somewhat boring I become when dealing with teaching (when I tried to teach them a language), work, business or playing games. I just take all those things too serious. I think my ex has a negative image of me because of that. How do I fix this? Will they just forget that after enough time and after they constantly see me being positive? We live in different countries but we run into each other a few times a week in virtual reality where we hear each other's voice, see body movements, the setting is usually in games or just chilling and talking with mutual friends!
Hi Brad, thank you for the video, really helpful as always. I have a question though..I did NC for 30 days and recently reconnected with my ex, he seemed receptive and was he was answering positively when I was sharing some memories (although I haven't talked much with him and I haven't seen him). But today I shared another memory but this time he didn't reply...I didn't give a lot of context it was more like 'I just remembered about how nice it was when...' so not sure if it's because of how I said it or he doesn't care anymore?.. what should I do? Also, when I text him because of a specific reason he replies, but not when I send a meme or something without a reason behind... I just want to tell him that I love him and miss him.. can I do that? I also wonder whether since I'm just pretending that I'm not texting because of us.. what if he thinks he is the one being friend zoned? Thank you so much in advance
You're welcome! You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi brad just wanna ask some questions. My ex gf and i broke up it will be 2months next week. What does it mean if she already deleted our pictures in twitter those that mean she is really over me? And she said it is not good if we meet this early in our break up. She needed space that's way i give it to her by applying the no contact. I really miss her but I'm coping still doing my thing here focusing on myself
She is trying to move forward but this has nothing to do with whether or not your relationship is over for good. If you really wanna know, here's what to be on the lookout for: ua-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/v-deo.html but definitely don't rush meeting up. Focus on texting and try not to meet up when one of you or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
Brad it didn't work my ex just called me 5 minutes ago to get her things back and she said that she has completely lost feelings for me and i am not her type, i completely lost it and i started begging i know i shouldn't have done that but i did and i am truly broken right now, i think it's over between me and my ex , but i really wanted to thank you for everything brad your videos made me feel better, but guys if the no contact didn't work for me it doesn't mean it won't work for you, just try it it's the best way to get your ex back, there is alot of people who did it and worked for them
Begging or trying to force things does have an impact on your chances. Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hey Brad it's just 1 day my girl brokeup with me but i tried to convince her so many times but she doesn't wants to listen any words from me she just our 3 year relationship was just a lie i don't know what should I do i am really missing her so badly we even planned our future together but she left me please help me
Sorry to hear that. You ought to understand and accept that those plans are null and void right now. Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hey brad me and my girl were dating for around 5 years and we just split up like 2 months ago, since then I’ve been in the friend zone and every time I try to get back with her it doesn’t work out. How can I apply the no contact rule so she can miss me, without her getting mad??
You can apply it by starting to do it. Love and respect yourself first and put yourself first. Stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html
Hi, Brad. Thanks for the video. I have questions. After break up with my bf, I have been his best friends for 1 months and half and now I decided to stop talking and not be friend with him anymore cuz it hurt how he acted like I am really his friend. Do you think it’s too late to use no contact rule and get him back again? Thank you!
A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
Hi Brad ; recently I was jamming with other girls and my ex thought I Cheated on her ; we tried to have a new start but I kept on saying sorry for old shits and shs thought it's not gonna work ; our relationship was known to our families and we both were each one's first love ; there was also great sort of misunderstandings between us caused by third persons and now she hates me . Please help me
Third parties on your end or on her end? If you cheated on her and she catches you with other folks, that's not gonna bode well. I'm sorry, I could be way off... but there’s lots of missing pieces here for me to deduct anything concrete, so consider signing up for my coaching program instead so I can look into your situation more clearly and figure out what's going on, then guide you on a regular basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
8 year relationship. Two prior breakups. Both I went NC immediately. Once was 4 months, the other for eight. Both he came back. He broke it off about three weeks ago. Sobbing. Said he loved me but we don’t have what it takes for forever. Asked for friendship bc he didn’t want to lose his “best friend”. I declined. Told him I wanted to work things out, but if he left again it’s permanent this time, but gave him the breakup. Now I’m heartbroken and confused. I was blindsided as he was supposed to move in and we were engaged. He kept using the word friend. Made me feel friendzoned. I do want him back.
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad thanks for the vid, recently my gf hasn’t communicated with me at all and just yesterday told me she wants to be good friends, I obviously have feelings for her and don’t want to be stuck in this situation, what should I do to get her back in a situation where we can be together again?
This really depends. How long has it been since the breakup and have you cut off contact for 30 days yet? If you haven't cut off contact yet for at least 30 days, then you should prioritize that instead of interacting with your ex. On the other hand, IF you have already cut off contact, then you're on the right track. There's no need to redo the no contact just because it didn't exactly went well the first time or you're not getting the response you anticipated. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html and be guided accordingly based on the phases of what needs to happen, here: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning Today I messed up real bad, I met her because she wanted to and she didn’t talk once about the breakup and just seemed fine, I told her at the end that it wasn’t working just being friend-zoned and I just feel really bad on myself and upset, what should I do know that I feel like I’ve completely messed up?
Hi Brad, I love all your videos!! I’m a bit lost at the moment as my ex kind of started a no contact phase by telling me he needs time and we can see each other in 2 months. I texted with him after the break up for two weeks and then I started no contact two weeks after the break up, but he doesn’t text/call me at all and now I’m unsure if I should do no contact for the whole two months? I’m afraid he’s just getting over me… would be so great to get some advice from you!
Respect his decision to break up. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Hey brad my gf and I broke up just over 2 weeks ago and i made a few mistakes but I've been in no contact for about 10 days now but before we stopped talking she said she wouldn't want to meet in person because we'd both be too emotionally compromised but that she wishes me the best in all that's to come and said to reach out anytime I wanted to have "random banter" should I continue no contact or reach out
Definitely cut off contact. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Hi Brad, as per your advice I started no contact and exactly after a month my EX sent me a text saying "Hi how are you; just wanted to know if you are doing ok". My response for this was "HI, am fine. Hope you are doing well too". Since she has reached me out a week has passed with no further contact from both sides. Bro, I just want know if I am on the right track, Btw, I have still continue the no contact. Any advise?
You're on the right track and even luckier than most since your ex initiated contact. Although you shouldn't be making a big deal out of it, your ex reaching out is a good sign. Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
Hey Brad... The guy i was dating for few weeks... He started planning future for us and i also liked him a lot. We both kinda checked eachother's list regarding finding a good partner. I am in early 30s and he is in late 30s. So i told him few relevant things about my part if in case something is deal breaker for him. He said everything is good and remained same... planning and discussing future for next two weeks... saying all promising things. But after 2 weeks, he suddenly admits that he can't let go my past and its better we stay away from each other or at least take a break for now. I can't breathe...he is so mature...why did he led me on for two more weeks...in my mind i was thinking we have overcome all the obstacles and we were ready to be in this future together. One part of me wants him to call me...tell me he can't live without me. Other part just thinks that he is unreliable, unsure and coward type. I can't trust him. Even if he comes back...i can't see my future with him. But a part of me can't seem to let go. Please suggest something.
In this case, it's best it ended early on rather than months or worse, down the line and he ditched that info on you, yeah? He's not what you think he is and it's best to take off your rose coloured glasses, yeah? Make space for someone new. Good luck!
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after bring separated for 3months All thanks to mr Willson whom held me to get back my ex again I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 4days.
Hey brad I had a breakup and it was a 2.5 years relationship It's a long story but when i found her she was sucidal and if i wasn't there for her she would have been dead Today and i have helped her mentally. But a guy came between us and he started a dispute between us and he asked very inappropriate questions to her about he getting comfertable with her with his sexual touches and all and it was kinda getting into sex chats category and this was the reason she broke up but ik this very well That guy will just use her and throw. Can you please tell me how can i get her back it's been a month we haven't talked.
If your ex has serious mental issues, it's best to let her family know about it and encourage her to get help. As to the new guy entering the picture, it has to be her choice. Try to stay out of it.
Hey brad My ex broke up with me now 3 months ago and he wants to be friends while he’s talking to someone else but yet contacts me everyday and asks why I haven’t answered his phone calls or text messages Asks about my day and who I talk to who I’m hanging out with but yet still wants to move on
That's what I call the "check-in" and "validation-seeking" text, respectively, and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ua-cam.com/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/v-deo.html
Hi brad, ty for awnsering my first question but here i have another short question If i deactivated my social media (facebook) for 10 days, not contacting there, if i reactivate the account but will not initiate conversation will that be ok ? Or if i already deactivated social media i should just leaves it ?
You can reactivate or deactivate as you please. Like I said, there's no need to do all that anyway. You just have to have enough self discipline not to reach out which is incredibly hard to do but totally doable.
The things is my ex and I, had recently broken up like a week ago and I might have trouble of getting her back because she said that she needs need to work on her self more and I know that she has commitment issues, she love studying and she has work but when we broke up I was really sad on what happened, still can't believe it happened. But I kinda new it was going to happened but for her it was harder for her too, to break up with me because I know that she still likes me without a doubt but like I said before she has commitment issues and in the beginning she told me that, she has commitment issues and that she didn't want to hurt me if we dated and she told that she love her alone time and she is very independent and i want to get her back because i know that i was the very first boyfriend that she said i love you to and i am the best boyfriend she had. And now i have talked to her ever since the break up. So what can I do to get her back?
If she has commitment issues, then I doubt she'd get into a relationship with you in the first place. Watch this vid first: ua-cam.com/video/YxWY57XCouo/v-deo.html I suggest you back off and give her space. Stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html
Recently broke up with my ex we had 6 months apart been together 12 years she told me she had been on a few dates messaging diff guys i said thats fine we were single . I said if you continue to message them theres a problem sge said i am as im not putting all my eggs in one basket . I left and said were done few days later i got a txt asking if i was out my baby mood . Around a month later i got a " i never said we were together or getting back together" text which went on to say i dont wanna end on bad terms and she still wants me in her life i politeley declined then i was told i needed to grow up and she wont be civil again . 3 weeks later i got a happy b day message i said thank you that was nearly 3week ago . I wont be waiting around till she finds something she likes and me been expected to be loyal in the meantime
Sorry to hear that. If your ex has the "Grass is Greener" Syndrome, realize and accept that this is outside your control and really the best you can do is becoming the best version of yourself and vibrate higher, which means NOT taking less than what you deserve and not settling to just becoming an option, especially if this used to be a stable relationship between you two. She's likely taken you for granted, so you don't really need that in your life. Use the law of attraction. You deserve love and worth of love, so you can only attract love. If she goes away from it, then you repelled her and will most likely attract her back if she vibrates as high as you. Otherwise, be open to new people that's on your level. Be strong!
@@BradBrowning hi brad yes good thanks i gym more i went to the dark place and just dralt with it spent 3 maybe 4 days on my own and thought of the things you try not to im getting stronger every day i look great well to me anyway and i feel at peace . I just dont get why she would want me in her life if shes ready to move on it can only be to keep me as an option and stop me progressing
Whats up brad quick question what does she mean half of the times when she’s with me she sees if we’re boyfriend and girlfriend and sometimes she sees me as just a friend when we hang out is that also a meaning of her putting me on a friendzone? By the way this was like 2-3weeks ago I’m just curious thanks brad yet again.
How do you know how she "sees" you as though? Do you ask all the time? Because that would be a mistake. Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hello coach Today was my 36 days of nc but I broke it and send an apology text to ex bf , I said.. "I apologize for all the disrespectful words and things I ever said to you . I was very toxic and pushy I pushed you to do things you're not comfortable with. I forced myself on you . This is not love , this is sickness I gave you anxiety and stress instead of peace ,comfort and love . You were so kind , gentle, caring and loving boyfriend. I wish you all the peace and love in your life and I hope you will find the woman who can appreciate you. And thank you for all the memories. " And he answered me an hour later (which was very good) "Don't blame yourself it's ok I. Apoligise for everything too thanks for good memories" I don't know what to do next 😞
Give it more time and the next time you reach out, make sure it's already on a positive/lighter note and none of that heavy stuff. Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
Hello brad thanks for the video My ex boyfriend that i still love and i was the one who broke up with him wants to get back together he was all the periode of the breakup trying to get my attention and making me jealous and treating me nicely he is so gentle with me i dont know what to do i want to get back together but i want to keep him forever until we get married bcs i truly love him
Hey Brad! I texted my ex after after the no contact. She replied happy back although she was a bit short in the text and said she was hoping i was really good and so.. She did not ask any questions. I tried being funny and write some. In the last message i sent i did a good reminder text but also told her she was right about breaking up and that is was for the best. Maybe i did someting wrong here? She did not answer on that text and unfriended med on fb. Do you have any tips how to move on? Start a new NC before trying to reach out again? I did not get the chance to tell her to meet up as friends as i read in your book. We said before that we was going to do this when time was right. I Do not know if she blocked me or just unfriended on fb. Do you think this is it? What to tell her if i reach out again further away?
Lovely video. My ex Girlfriend thinks she doesn't want to rush something right away and suggests to slowly try to meet more often and see if we can work together. Not sure how it will work tbh....
Do you trust her? And is she not seeing someone else? As long as you take the reigns from time to time on when you two meet up, it should be okay. But this can only go on for so long really. It's a double-edge sword really because there's a chance this could work, but there's also a chance your ex is only trying to ease off you to let you down easy. If you need my help to focus in on this one, consider signing up at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Any advice on this situation when you have a kid? I'm actually kinda over my ex at this point, but this was a major stumbling block when I did try to get her back. I found I just sort of became her go-to for any and all problems she had. And I wanted to help, because I figure a happy mum is a happy kid. And that's all well and good, but we got in this weird situation where I was her friend. But she wasn't my friend. I was getting nothing out of the friendship. Worse I was losing things haha. But she was getting pretty much everything she would have gotten were we to actually be together. I always considered just outright saying "look, I don't want to be friend." but it always seemed like a shitty thing to do.
It's an uphill battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning oh it was certainly an uphill battle. But I am not still trying to get her back. It took a ridiculous amount of time to realise it, but it wasn't the relationship I was missing. It was what I hoped the relationship might be. Although I will fully admit. If I had found out about your channel right when it happened I have no doubt I would have gotten her back. I just sort of expected that that we would get back together. So I would see her constantly because of our son and we would get on great. And every six months or so I would ruin it all by trying to explain something about the breakup or the past. Hahaha. Then rinse and repeat until I realised the juice really wasn't worth the squeeze.
I can but there's really no relationship advice that can replace firsthand experience at your age. My suggestion is to go date, have fun and make all the mistakes you can make and learn from it. You still have a lot of things to learn and growth to do. It's all part of the process so enjoy it, yeah? :-) Take care!
Hey Brad, ty for making these video to help me doing the right thing to get my ex back and stay calm during no contact, just a question that i've been getting a new job and have been in no contact for 8 days, but for some reason my ex decided to apply for the same job as me and now will be my college, what should i do in this situation, does this mean i gotta quit no contact ?, and what if she'll just be in the work place for a day ?
Hey you're welcome! Wow is this some sort of coincidence that you end up in the same job together? If she doesn't already work there, then you should be good. Otherwise it will seem like you're stalking her which is creepy. Anyway do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
Fading fast and therefore the need to act fast means to play your cards right from the get-go and not mess things up further, basically. Here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/v-deo.html It's time to find a more positive outlet for your emotions. It's totally okay to cry your eyes out (just NOT in front of your ex and definitely not in social media), this is healthy, but try to balance it with other stuff. So keep your mind occupied, get busy with a lot of stuff like hobbies, work, etc. focus on what makes you feel good and take time to heal as well. Also read my Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
My ex has a history of dumping me when our relationship gets hard/rocky. On & off for 4 years but we officially started dating in 2021. He would leave me then come back a few months later🤦🏾♀️ he’s been doing this for 3 years. he dumped me June 1st because I always accuse him of cheating when he isn’t…i have major trust issues from a past relationship & I brung my baggage to our relationship. “We can’t be together if you don’t trust me. I don’t want a relationship right now. It’s been stressing me out” he said. 😥 He said we can be together again when I heal. But idk if I would want him back by then😞 I broke no contact on the 14th & started over now. I blocked him to keep myself from texting him. Im tired of him leaving me everytime when things get tough. Im afraid if we date again he’ll keep dumping me. I already feel like a clown for letting him back in so many times after he leaves me. I feel like he has too much power & control over what happens & how it ends in our relationship What should I do?
When you heal from the pain he's caused? Has he taken accountability though or has he just basically left you out in the cold and then expect you to be ready when he comes back? These are things you ought to look for. Raise your standards and don't settle for less. An on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
@@Tahjmonae That's really not a good thing. Looks like you set the tone that he can come and go as he pleases. You need to change that dynamic because this is a bit toxic for you. Consider signing up so we can talk about it at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad thanks for useful videos I broke up with my ex 3 weeks ago but we still see eachother I go to her place watching TV,cooking together,going for a walk etc but she don't let me approach her in a romantic way I'm confused how to act or move what does all mean is there any chance she will come back to me in the future?
Hi brad. My ex dumped me 2 motnhs ago, after being together for 3 years, in a serious relationship. We still talk daily, he said he is not seeing someone else and he has not forgotten me. He also said he wants to stay on his own, but doesn't know what will happen in the future. Maybe he could change his mind. We have seen each other twice after the breakup. What should I do? I feel like I gave him too much importance. He thinks I will wait for him to change his mind and I am really willing to do that. I don't know what to do. I thought about starting no contact but I am scared he will forget me and find someone else, If I start no contact. Please, help. I am really sad, can't even study for the exams I have this week.
Although you're willing to do (wait for him) that, it's best you don't make it obvious. A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
Hi brad, I’m going through this rn, me and my girl have been together for 2 years. We gone a break since a 31st of May, and last night she broke up with me. Yet said that we can still be friends and that she wants to find someone new “to just have new feelings and experience new things.” But to me in my opinion I just feel like she wants to be in one to ease the pain and have that rebound relationship. We both talked to her mom about it, and said it works both ways about getting back together which is true. I rlly rlly miss her and all I want is her :(..We still say I love you and we ft as well. She even said it herself maybe ima couple of months we can get back together. I even told her if she does find someone new I would still love her and express them to her but she wouldn’t cut me off then. I seen her Saturday and wrote out these letters and on Sunday she wanted to get back together come to find out she said that she must’ve been happy. It’s like she got my hopes up of us being together. She’s already talking to someone yet we still say I love you and I miss you. Then she realized how much in denial she was and she would eventually be ready to continue us again. So it’s like I’m confused I just want answers and some hope.
Maybe that's a lesson for you. Words don't really hold any bearing if there aren't any actions taken on her part, especially if she clearly chose someone else over you. Observe a bit more though and try not to jump into conclusions. This vid may help: ua-cam.com/video/DD22EJVvLwY/v-deo.html
Hey Brad so I used no contact before and got back with my ex as we have kids however a year has passed and it’s happened again . I can’t bare the idea of not waking up and seeing my daughter everyday so we thought we could try co parenting but if we do that how can I get her back and do no contact?
What to do if he did not text me after i used the no contact technique ?should i text him? Or wait a little bit more until he text me? And if he is a person who controls his feelings what should i do ?
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
@@BradBrowning Thank u sooo muchhhhhhhhhhhhhh.I will check on those videos.I had to send some notes to him yesterday that he asked me along ago.But i was not able to send those because of the breakup .So i had the text him back.I he did not reply or i don't know if he saw those because he has off read receipts.But he has remove his profile and posts in ig.Is it okk to start the no contact period again ?
The only reservation I have with refusing to be friends, is that if they do then say they want you back after you give them a refusal on friendship, how much faith can you have in their desire to actually be in the relationship with you and that they won’t build resentment because they thought they had to be in a relationship in order to have you in their life? Particularly if they do still care for you, hence their offer of friendship. Wouldn’t it be better to agree to be friends and rebuild the emotional connection, so that if they then decide they want to come back to you, you can be confident that it’s coming from a place of genuine feelings rather than emotional blackmail? And how do you refuse to be friends without ruining any future chance at reconciliation?
If they've just dumped you, 99.9% this usually means they want a break ties with you which includes breaking that emotional tie, ergo, being friends is a bad idea as you'd likely be dragged along having false hopes instead of spending that time accepting what happened and trying to rebuild your life without this person. It's that or you'll be waiting a long time or even see them date someone else, which is really the last thing you need right now. They can change their mind, yes, but most, if not all the time, this is after you've left them alone and let your presence be missed. This is the answer to your last question: ua-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/v-deo.html Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thanks Brad. In my case, this was said after a period of no contact and two weeks after reconnecting. However, at the time I didn’t know really what no contact was all about so was “flying blind”. Now I know more about it, it’s too late as we’re 4.5 months into a weird limbo “friends with sometimes benefits” scenario. Not what I want at all, but hoping it will rebuild the connection. I’m more than a “booty call” as we also hang out and go to movies etc with no sex involved. No commitment for a reconciliation due to his circumstances but I’d hate to lose what we have now even though it’s far from enough for me.
It's okay but not necessary... especially since you can actually leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html
Hya Brad, I broke up with my girlfriend after 7 years 1-2 weeks ago, I caught her sleeping with a co worker that she said she wanted to hide from me and is nothing “serious” as it was her way of trying to move on. With having two kids we speak often and have since seen each other and chilled together once the kids have been in bed. Slight flirting has occurred, touches, hugging when I leave,footsie play, but no kissing etc, I still love her and I’m hurt by her sleeping with someone else after I moved out 1 week ago
Sorry to hear that, man. Only interact when it's about the kids. Set some strong boundaries though. One way of showing that is to stand up for yourself and to cut off contact. Never ever chase and don't take any bs from your ex, yeah? Because if the connection is not genuine or if you got back together out of your ex being rejected by someone else, it will still end again sooner or later if you chase. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Your ex has to learn lessons first but until then, it's pointless to fight for it, so let it go, and move forward until your ex proves themselves to you.
So I was initially friend zoned but started to work my way out of it then everything feel apart again. Ever since then we talked like 4 separate times and I decided to shut down all communication because the conversations weren’t going anywhere I wanted them to. It’s been somewhere around 3 months since I talked to her last and in those 3 months I’ve been in the gym and actively searching for a new job to better my life. Now my question is since it’s been a long time how do I go about contacting her again?
Keep your options open. I can't get a good grasp about your situation. It's either she really doesn't see a future with your OR you're not going about it the right way either with texting or you're being quite impatient. Only you would know that for sure. Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/v-deo.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
hey brad, she suggested that we should be friends when we were over but i pleaded and she blocked me, ive been doing no contact for 3 months now, but today i decided to check her account and now she's with someone else, what should i do?
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ua-cam.com/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/v-deo.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in UA-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Brad, I feel my ex has no interest. I tried most of the things you teach in your channel. She texted me first only once since I tried to rekindle. Clear sign things are bad! Maybe covert jealousy is my only hope. My case is Impossible.
Never wait around for anyone. Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
I figured there’s no use if she already went through grief before we even broke up for awhile. I didn’t give her enough attention so she blindsided me. Goodbye 8 years, I’ll take all summer and more to move on.
Sorry to hear that. Complacency is a major killer indeed. Try to do the opposite and see if she's still receptive to contact. Otherwise it may be best to move on for good and learn from this.
My ex broke up with me last night- we'd been arguing a lot over stupid shit and he's emotionally exhausted- he made it clear he didn't want this and hasn't lost feelings for me, but I'm scared he won't give me another chance, right now I've started no contact after explaining I understand how he feels and don't resent him, we have a very strong relationship, any advice?
Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ua-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/v-deo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ua-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/v-deo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
Hey Brad I am emotionally broken, my ex wanted to frndzone me we were in long distance relationship after getting job he said i am the trouble maker i torture him so that's why he don't loves me anymore. I tried begging tried giving space for week we had intimated as well but in last he told me that he hates me alot he doesn't want to talk to me, he messages me because he thinks that i will end my life without him that's why he texts me.. he is confused with the love, he is jeleous of my pictures and also he don't want to be in relationship now it's over but we haven't blocked each other, i love him I don't know what should i do now? Help mw
I'll help you help yourself because the bottom line is, you have to be the one doing the work. I can only guide you. For starters, this vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Brad i have a question, after 4 days of no contact with my ex she blocked me on Facebook and deleted her Instagram account, i really don't know what to do, i am stressing alot after what happened, should i contact her or continue the no contact?
Hey Brad ! I have broken up for one month and I've used the " no contact rule " after that I've used the techniques in your videos and we managed to have a meetup ! But I kind of messed things up from here.Is there any way that I still can get her back?
Uh oh...that was totally the wrong approach and I've talked about that here: ua-cam.com/video/juhamVEwsxU/v-deo.html You ought to review this first: ua-cam.com/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/v-deo.html and in fact, apply the tips here first instead of taking the shortcut: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad, great videos but I can’t seem to find one that addresses my problem. I broke up with my ex 5 months ago. Recently I reached out and really laid it on hard that I wanted to get back together with her. She agreed to meet for dinner but I probably broke every rule when we did. She ultimately said we could be friends and I could show her how I’ve changed and maybe she’d be open to giving me another chance. Would the no contact even work at this point? Or what strategy would you recommend or did I shoot myself in the foot and it’s just time to move on?
If you do have to make some changes, then do it for yourself and never for anyone else, okay? See, making changes for the sake of someone is considered seeking validation, and that's an unattractive trait in and of itself… so it naturally won't do anything to rebuild the attraction necessary to get your ex back in the long run. On the other hand, if these are changes that you know within yourself that you need to make, then it's important to take time so be sure you aren’t rushing it because permanent, lasting changes don't happen overnight and your ex can actually see through it. Also, pain (that's why your ex dumped you) is a very good teacher and motivator not to mention a huge catalyst, so making these changes within yourself in order for the possibility to come back together stronger and better is what you can expect and you will be able to use this progress if not for your ex, then with someone new. Does that make sense? With that in mind, watch this vid to subtly show these changes to your ex: ua-cam.com/video/bZ1KetALZrc/v-deo.html
That's really not necessary. Use it as last resort though if you think you can't stop yourself from reaching out but as much as possible, try to get your balance back and have some self discipline. You can actually leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html
Hello brad, Yesterday my ex broke up with me. I applied you no contact rule. But about 6-7 months ago he had broken up with me and I had used your techniques, it helped me to take him back. Will this no contact rule help again? This is a long distance relationship.
Apply the same tips, yes. However, an on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Hey brad i really need your advice i hope you answer, i am out of town and My gf of 3 years dumped me 3 days ago on phone. i want to apply no contact of 30 days but she called me day at 1 and told me she really want to meet up one last time to explain herself in person in 1 to 3 weeks from now when i am at home (then i will leave town for a month again) i said ok first but i know it will destroy no contact. Should i deny her request?
Closures are overrated anyway. I suggest to skip it. However, if you're thinking twice about my advice, I suggest you assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: ua-cam.com/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/v-deo.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: ua-cam.com/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/v-deo.html Best of luck!
Hey Brad , so my gf of 1 year dumped me back in January. Went into no contact , she reached out in April then disappeared after we made plans to hang out . Went back into no contact . 2 days ago , she reached out again and calls me , I pick up and we talk on the phone for about 30 minutes, she said her and her rebound broke up, she said she was sorry , she said she was interested in talking again , and she wanted to hang out next week , she unblocked me on Instagram and Snapchat, and she sounded excited and interested in talking to me while on the phone , we were texting back and forth all day . She said her and her guy broke up about a week ago . She said she wanted to hang out next week so we made plans to hang out next week. We were texting yesterday but she just stopped texting me and hasn’t responded to my last text yet and it’s been almost 24 hours now . Im confused and don’t know what to do . Why would she do this ??? What should I do ??? I don’t want her to disappear again, I was starting to move on from her but I still like her and still have feelings for her . What should I do ?? Thanks fro your help!
You're the backup plan it seems since she's very flaky towards you and she's likely torn between you and her more recent ex if she hasn't gotten back together with him already. Next time she asks, since you're dealing with an ex here, don't be too available. Make sure you have other things going in your life other than waiting for a text from her.
Sir i need one help.. i had a break up 10months ago after the break up i beg, request everything done even during this time our frnd also involved.... But after 3 months i started no contact... Now after 9-10 month i found she unblocked me... But during this no contact time also i always used to see her since we are from same college..... She tried to be friend i think but i declined........ Now what can i do ? Plz guide me
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/v-deo.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
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Help please anyone my ex broke up with me 6 weeks ago I’ve done everything wrong pleading begging crying, and I know now that’s wrong but we’ve had a chat and I tried to get her to get back with me but it’s a no it honestly still feels like where together we have 2 kids together and currently still life together, I brought it to her attention what it feels like and she’s also not changed her relationship status on Facebook or her profile picture of the both of us and I’ve mentioned this to her but she still hasn’t changed it can anyone advise please
Sorry to hear that. I know it's tough especially since you're in the same house and the changes happened suddenly but try to be strong, okay? Try to get your composure back as well. It's a different set of rules if you live together. Do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Question Brad, my ex and I split up 4 weeks ago after being together for a year and 3 months and she got with a guy a week after we split so I’m guessing it a rebound. Anyways I started the no contact 2 weeks ago and the last few days she messages me sometimes saying she still cared about me and asking if I had a new girlfriend and I say no then she continues to do her thing. Should I just ignore her when she messages me? She done this about 3 times within the last week. She probably think I’m still available for her if anything happens between her and her rebound. What should I do?
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
Definitely not anytime soon. Let it happen as naturally as possible, by organically rebuilding attraction. This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/v-deo.html
Hey brad My bf broke up with me in 2020 bcoz of my falts but after months He messaged to me but as a friend . Those days he still had some feelings for me, We talked sexual things but he told everytime ,i was only friend ... Now we r still together but as friends.. in addiction he dont have feelings for me...wht i do 🌚??
Being friends with exes isn't really a good idea especially if you use it as means to get back together or if you're not fully over that person yet. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html I suggest to stop clinging to him and go live your life first. Be independent. Really sorry, but given your situation, it looks like your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/v-deo.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
@@BradBrowning mm actually in 2020, i begged him for to be with me but he ignored me aftr that i decided to move on... Then i cut off all contacts with him..i focused on my life but still sad.. After 2 months he tried to contact me.. but didnt reply him he was upset ...Next i reply to him but he always care about me as a friend 😂This is suck..Every time I get out of this and stay relaxed he contacts me .. idk seriously wht is this .. He's been texting me lately ... he's telling me a lot of things .......... a girl likes him now ... ex sends me their messages 😂 but he told me he does not like that girl.. Thank u brad..I'm focus on my life now
Hey Brad, is it okay if I tried to chat with her after breakup, not about our relationship but her response was rare and sometimes ignoring and now I decided to do no contact term for about 3 weeks and after that i am hoping to start communicating with her again by folowing your advices, but the only thing wich i a afraid of that she will stil ignor me
You definitely ought to stick to at least 30 days straight without contact especially since you've been trying to talk to her right after. Take note of the mistake most people make here so you won't be making them: ua-cam.com/video/1cBpNrDDHnw/v-deo.html and you're right, there's no guarantee you'll get a response from her after this period however I guarantee that these are the proven tips to work so try to follow them as much as possible and check out my other vids for more tips. Good luck!
Hey Brad ! I've been in a relationship for about 3 years. Our relationship ended one and half month ago. At that time I did not know anything about the No Contact Rule. I've done every wrong thing , begging, pleading, crying at first .I kept in touch with my ex-boyfriend. Now he is in a different relationship.he wants me as a friend now. he tells me he loves me but doesn't want to come in a relationship. And he will not be able to get out of her new relationship for certain reasons.But I really love him so much . He is still jealous when I talk to my other male friends. He give me mixed signals . But when I see him with the new girl , it is very hard to control my emotions. Please help me Brad . What do I do now ?
Let him go until he makes up his mind. You ought to learn to give him space so you can heal and love yourself first as well as take time to accept things. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
@@BradBrowning 4 days ago I applied no contact rule,then he texted me saying he was waiting for me but I was ignoring him. It doesn't matter to me if this relationship breaks up. I am very confused Brad. Please answer still should I apply no contact or not ?
Hey brad! Love ur videos by the way ;) I just had a quick question to help me with my situation with my ex. Could no contact ever make things worse? I started about a week ago and I also was wondering if no contact includes in person because I had to talk to her since she’s my partner in many classes. I really want to get her back and I want to make sure I’m doing the right thing right now. Thanks, Charles.
Well I want help figuring out no contact and everything I need to do. I am working things out personally and I’m trying to be the best person I can be. So not really I don’t need any help. Thanks for asking thpugh
No, it can never make things worse unless your partner is trying to talk to you about something truly important and you're avoiding it, like all the time. It's best this is discussed when you're both calm. For exes though, no, the relationship is over, so it doesn't ever hurt to give each other space. This vid is for you, too: studio.ua-cam.com/users/videoWVB0_l60SpM/analytics/tab-overview/period-default
@Benjamin Bala I’m doing fine. I started no contact a little while ago and I’m just praying to the Lord to guide me on my journey. Thanks for asking though
Hi Brad, quick question. My ex unfollowed me on instagram yet he watched all my stories. Doing no contact as of now. Did I upset my ex? No drama post anyway.
I'm not sure what you posted but most likely, it's just your ex's way of coping and it looks like she's trying to stop stalking your page. This doesn't mean it's good or bad, it's just part of the process when a relationship ends, so don't overthink.
Hey Brad, my ex broke up with me two weeks ago after a relationship for 2 years. While I took my stuff at her place, we agreed that we could be friends or just doing normal together after a period where we don't have contact. It was her idea to cut of the lines at first. We didn't had contact since (one week into no contact). Do I have to reach out and send a message that I don't want to be friends with her? Or just stay into no contact?
Stay in no contact for a few more weeks but if she keeps insisting you two to become friends, watch my other vid on how to escape the friendzone. The important thing is self confidence and how much you value yourself. Know what you deserve and don't deserve. Play your cards right and you'd either attract your ex back to you or find someone much better. Best of luck!
My ex said that she still wanted to send streaks on snapchat we don't have any conversations or anything and I'm applying the no contact rule but idk if it would be better to continue sending the streaks as she requested or stop sending them during the no contact rule???
Apply the no contact rule. No contact means cutting off unnecessary communication with your ex in any way, shape or form for at least 30 days. It also means ignoring unimportant or random messages from your ex for at least 30 days straight. This also involves NOT looking at any of your ex's online profiles so you won't overthink things. In other words, the "no contact" period is a time where you fully focus on yourself and take time to heal.
@@BradBrowning I understand what you’re going through but you should give her the space to miss you dear. She needs to miss you but you’re not letting her to. You need to stop replying unimportant messages from her. Go no contact and try to figure out what you didn’t do or what you did that led to the breakup and try to work on yourself. You need to let her miss you and she won’t miss you if you’re always at her reach
That's a bad idea. Don't do it, man. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
Hey brad me and my boyfriend (ex now) in Long distance relationship. ( We bieng in friendship for a year and more and then we started dating for 5 months) We were in argument n he disrespected me( the first time ) so i told him m leaving n then closed my accounts for day i reopen but .. we never spoke and we unfollow each other after 4 days after that problem after a week i texted him telling him that i had loved him but i accept that it's over and i thanked him for that relationship he was so cold replying with" it's ok " now it has been 24 days since break up i no contact him at all is there a chance to get back ? Will no contact rules work here?
This really depends on how things progress. The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
What does my ex listening to sad romantic songs mean? Example: the night we met/I love you so/up "Olly Murs"/heatwaves/dandelions/save your tears/happier than ever Hint: she is the one that broke up with me
It's all part of the process. A breakup hurts both people regardless of who ended the relationship. This may help, too: ua-cam.com/video/m9A_EPRkZYI/v-deo.html
Hi coach, After 4 months of no contact my ex started speaking with me.i can find she have some sort of feeling on me.but something is not allowing her to speak with me. Some time she is fine and sometimes she is very rude and asking like why the hell i should speak to you and share my feelings.."iam not loving you"...if i got the kind of the feelings she will leave me alone itseems..saying that we can be friends.i dono hw to handle her now what should i need to get her back and how to dig the possitive memories and make her to realise.
Try to play it cool and not give in to the drama. You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
How long has it been since the breakup? If it's within the 30-day period, you can safely ignore it as you'd likely get false hopes anyway and your healing is back to square one. After that, you can try to play it cool. When it comes to communication, other than your ex expressing he wants to get back together should NOT be overnalayzed. Watch my other vids for more tips. Best of luck!
Hey Brad I'm in a relationship which is too complicated. We have known each other since 1 year and in 1 year we came into relationship but due to several reasons we had to breakup but then we again came close to each other. The thing now is that he says that i don't want relationship neither with u nor with anybody. But he says i love you but i don't want relationship cause he creates a toxicity in himself and starts to overthink. In return i said that it's ok i understood but why are you creating a mess in between in bond whenever the thing has to happen between us it will happen. Let time decide. Brad is my thinking right and what should we do now???
My gf cheated on me and havent even apologies, i had to even use my brain for her to tell me the truth by telling her no matter what happen i will forgive her because no one is perfect and then she told me she had sex with a guy i even know 2 times and then she be like let her know what is the next move if we are going to work things out or move on... i said things like this can't be work out and she blocked me on everything its 5 days ago and i lost 5lbs....i immediately go no contact is that the right thing to do??
It's the right thing for you since your ex is basically lost and needs to rethink things. Be sure to cut off contact for at least 30 days or more for this but try to never wait around for anyone. Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning Thnaks yea I’m on a 31 day no contact right now…. But she text me and I just to a short reply saying I talk and that’s it… not reaching out to her!!
I had very ugly breakup after the breakup I was begging pleading and reaching out to her best friend so that she can help me patch up and lot's of crazy stuff and she got pissed and blocked me and said she never wanted to see my face and blocked me after that I realised that that was a very very bad. So I said sorry for what I've applied no contact for almost more than one and a half month and then recently she unblocked me in social media platforms and contacted me and asked like "how are you" Even though she told me that she never wanted to see my face she didn't wanted to talk message or anything but now she texted me I don't know what to do now I don't know what is it like I'm confused about she's reaching out to me or just checking up on me cause she has been moved onon I don't know oh and her best friend had also texted me .. Now what should I do next is it the time to break the no contact I'm confused about if she's really reaching out to me indirectly or just checking up on me!!!
That's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ua-cam.com/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/v-deo.html
Hey Brad....My ex-boyfriend messaged to tell me that he has got a new girlfriend. When I asked me who is she, he said he is not going to reveal her identity and that it is a secret. Why did he do this?Do u think he is lying?
Errr.... that kind of conversation coming from him serves no purpose, unless you've been trying to reach out to him? If you did, that could mean he doesn't want to mess up his new relationship and your best course of action may be to move on. Take care!
Hi Brad to day I want to thank you from the Bottom of my heart what you thought me. Yours advice helps me to pass through break up well. To day I reached out my Ex by asking him if he can remember me the medecine of influence he bought for me in the past. He call me immediately by asking how am I, and he found I've been changing immediately. I am focusing on my studies, and driving lecence. Etc and he have been interested he beg me to give him my photos of me now and I send shoot photos I made after broking up with him. And he found I am really beautiful right now. For sure thank you. I made all of this Becouse of yours advices. U can't imagine how amazing has found am I right now. Let me trust time I will found If we will be back together or I move on for good. Anyway yours tricks works. You are really expert 👍🤜♥️
That's awesome! You're very much welcome. Make sure to check out my other vids for more help or better yet, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide for a step-by-step process on how to go about it. Good luck either way! :-)
Heyy! Plz I need somebody's help... I'm so confused now idk what to do. I and my ex broke up 8 months ago, we decided to stay frnds but we reduced communication thinking it would not ruin our frndship and we will be able talk as usual. But after some months I felt like he was being very impatient with me, being angry on me whenever I talk about making a new start. I felt like he was moving on and thinking me as less attractive than before. After like 6 months I came to know about no contact. I applied it for 2 months and he reached out for like 7 times during this no contact. I kept it casual but didn't talk that much. Then yesterday I thought I should also initiate so I contacted him and talked. But while talking I revealed a secret that he should not hear, after knowing that he became angry and thought I've changed alot and this change isn't good for me. After giving me advice on that topic he said to talk on call, then we talked on video call but it seemed like he wasn't that interested that much. I should not have talk about being in relationship but I desperately did then he denies saying we don't have future so it doesn't matter. After that he also said now he doesn't feel same for me, feelings have changed, he doesn't miss me that much.after hearing all these I was devastated and was losing all hopes. He still wants to stay frnds. I'm now totally confused should I be frnd to be around him or leave him which is very hard for me now ? I have used no contact for 2 months but after no contact I don't feel like situation have been better ☹️
It won't. Decide first if you want your ex back as a "friend" or a boyfriend. It can't be both at the same time at this point. And I doubt the friendship between you two will be the same anyway, considering how you've both crossed that proverbial line but give it time for you both to heal first. That is always key. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html
Hi Brad! Great video as always:) I had a question regarding my ex who split with me a week ago, we dated for two years. I've engaged in no contact and for me prom is soon coming up, I was wondering if getting a date and a dance would be a good idea to get my ex back? Or if I should just be with my group of friends and continue no contact. Also do friends play a large role in my ex's decision making?
Yeah, get a date but only when you're ready, including how to act if you choose to go that route. No, friends have zero influence in your ex's decision but the younger your ex is, the more they'll be likely to be influenced. In both cases though there's nothing productive you can do about it, so try to focus on yourself.
Hi Brad, I discovered your channel this week and I am loving the content already. So, my ex has been a big part of my life. We had a very deep friendship for about 2years before we started dating. She asked for a break 4days ago which to me sounded like a breakup. It's not been easy for me to get a job and that was her reason of breaking up with me(Independence). she still has the next 2years to complete her advocates training program now that she is yet to graduate from law school and all I was asking from her was patience and support during this dark period. She said that I don't really take initiative enough(which I do) and if she was in my shoes she would have handled the matter differently. I am going through a tough time with the job search but I am working on myself constantly to make things better for me and be independent. She says she really loves me as romantically and as her best friend also but we could still work things out as friends and nothing changes and that she will continue to support me. I asked if I did anything else wrong but she said all clean. I have really been patient with her in so many other things. The thing is, I really love her genuinely as a friend and want to stand by her side. I love her romantically and want to be a better version and would love to be together again. She is a good girl that I wouldn't want to loses. The no contact has been hard because she texts me in the morning and evening but just normal texts to check up or wish me well(though sounds cold to me). My fear is if I go on no contact she might lose interest completely. Also knowing our past bond as friends and willingness to support her. What can I do in my circumstance.
Hi, welcome to my channel! I understand how you feel however, at this point, it's best to give her space and respect her decision. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Your big fan and long-term fan here, Brad. I watched all of your videos.
I have a question. I know your audiences are usually the dumpees, so you talk for them mainly. But could you please do a video about how a dumper could get their ex back?
I broke up with my ex, and I tried so hard to go back to him. But he rejected me harshly, blocked me on everything, and moved on to another woman. I know I deserved it, but I still want to know how to fix it.
Other coaches online don't really cover the dumper part enough. I know you must have some very good insights, and your help would be very much appreciated. Thanks! :)
I actually did a couple of videos for the dumpers. Here's one you can follow: ua-cam.com/video/IhGnPtpJTbM/v-deo.html Good luck!
thanks brad your the best breakup coach ever!! ❤️, My Ex broke up with me after 1,5 year, (long distance) because I cheated on her, I apologized, beg, plead 3 times genuinely I did no contact for full 30 days and exercise I reached out with another account to show her my changes she was very mad and said she's with another guy and reblocked me, after that every week I used to show off my body and swimming skills and the good things I'm doing on social media, after 18 days she unblocked me to ask me about an anime we used to watch I kept it cool and answered her positively she reblocked me again 🙂, I reached out after 2 weeks and she tried to make me jealous by trying to miss with my best friend that she don't know and say things on social media, and showing me a text messages between her and a different guy then blocked me again, I didn't react at all and after a week she deleted the messages And reblocked me and said she misses me in her social media for 5 days, still no react from me and after that she deleted the whole missing messages, WTF is that 😂??? and what should I do?
You're welcome! When there's cheating involved, you usually have to give it more than 30 days of space, especially if your ex is clearly not ready to forgive/talk to you. Give it more time but also be prepared to move on if your ex can't find it in her to truly forgive you or be attracted enough to you again to want to restart your relationship.
i put myself in the friendzone with her (because im dumb lol) so now im gonna get out of is slowly but fast. Thank you Brad :)
You're welcome! Glad I was able to help.
Thanks for the reply Brad! Would it hurt if I extend No Contact past 30 days? I'm working my way through the Ex Factor Guide, and want to make sure I finish it before I initiate contact with her.
You can definitely take your time. Average is 4-6 weeks really in most cases. And yes, follow the guide to a tee. Best of luck!
Hey Brad, i had a question. So me and my Ex are in an LDR, we broke up 6 months ago but we still talk to each other until now. Then there's one time I haven't talked to her for 1 in a half week because I was busy on doing something at school and when I came back to talk to her, she said she missed me and she also said that she loves me. Does that mean that me and my ex had a huge chance to be together again? What should I do?
A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
Most couples started from being friends.
If it's a new person and have no history with each other, yes, the time being friends is spent in getting to know each other before getting into a relationship and you certainly can't go wrong with that. However, if it's an ex, being friends is a bad idea since you're already through that part already during the course of your relationship!
Brad, My Ex broke up with me because I excessively blew up her from a calling app number that wasn't in her contacts, because she was ignoring my text messages by leaving me on Read and I got upset. She says I "broke her trust" as I lied about the calls being from me and I had blew up her phone prior to this for the same reason. She also said she's not getting back together me. Right now I'm engaging in No Contact, but would the strategies in the Ex Factor Guide help me get her back, or is there a different strategy I should be doing for this situation?.
If there's still a chance, the Ex Factor Guide can help you. But if you've been repeatedly been making the same mistakes, that is a huge factor as well that you might have to consider moving on. Try taking the free quiz here: www.breakupbrad.com/quiz
Thanks brad, this was really helpful.
You're welcome! Thanks for the support… please like and subscribe if you haven’t already: ua-cam.com/users/bradbrowning”
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Hey brad. I shared with you my relationship story and you suggested me to watch your video entitled: what does a break from a relationship mean, do's and dont's.... However, it's been almost 2months and more than we've had a break and he prolly used the break to initiate the breakup. He broke off with me last month after the break ended. We were supposed to think our relationship over but it didn't happen. Do suggest and make a detailed video on what to do and what not to when a break has already taken the shape of a breakup.
Looking forward to you. Do help!
If that's the case then it's likely he's looking forward to breakup rather than have that break with you. So act accordingly. A healthy sense of optimism is needed indeed along with viewing the situation for what it is so as not to look at it with rose coloured glasses. This means you ought to have a balanced approach but cutting off contact will naturally help you with that, so try to stick to that rule for 30 days. One way to go about this is to not get too caught up with getting your ex back so you will allow for stuff to play naturally while playing your cards right , which is what my videos and/or my Ex Factor Guide is for. If you still can't help it, go ahead and sign up for my coaching program so I can guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching but really try to have that sense of independence without your ex first. You need to be able to rely on yourself before you're in a position to get an ex back. Apply the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/v-deo.html but this is the overview of what needs to happen, it helps to review it: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw Good luck!
Im glad Im not in friendzone. Brad , thank you for everything . 3 weeks ago I asked my ex to go out with me (our 4th date) she said shes sick and on sick leave, so we couldnt (I know this is just an act but , yea..) . You told me to not rush and I didnt , I did texted a couple of times just to let her know I think about her . After 10 days of her sick leave , 4 days I didnt texted her , and last friday she sent some meme on IG and I reacted with a heart and left at that. Later that night she called me to see if Im home if she can come over or to go for a coffe . When she came home we texted and she said she wants to see me again . Next morning she texted me "Hey whats up , how you doin ? " and we texted then she said , maybe when I finish my stuff today we can go out tonight , and we did , drove in a car , went to the drive trough, later had a coffee on gas station and else.. She acttualy called me "love" for a couple of times. Helped me to pack my things as I was going to Austria next morning . Im still on my vacation. Should I call her on a date when I come back ? Thank you so much ...
This all actually depends on the progress and without knowing the full details, it's tough to say at this point whether or not you should suggest a meetup. In general, try to build consistent positive rapport first before asking to meet. In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I HOPE YOU REPLAY ON THIS ONE...
Hi brad ...i was in relationship four years ago and she convinced her love to me ..and i liked her but i needed more time and we broke up and after 2 years i wanted to win her back ( we talked several time between the 2 years gab)
And after the 2 years i told her that i love her and i want things to get right between us...and she was confused because she was in a relationship not going well with her ...and i understood that because she need time ..but i kept my life going ... while that time going i was posting on social media with my freinds and she was so geluse and kept tolde that she can't see me with other girl...but still dont know if she want to get back together and she kept on that way for a year almost ..and i had enough with her because she kept doing this to me ...and i ended at all with her ...after that i started dating my freind and we kept dating about a month and a half ...and after that month i get a massage from my ex and she tolde that we belong together ...and was waiting from the bottom of my heart this word ..i loved her so much but i couldn't trust her anymore after what she did in the past couple of month ...and i was really happy with this new girlfriend and i couldnt break her heart and leave her ...so when my ex knew that iam in a relationship she told me to block her because she cant ...and didnt want to block her because i didnt want any hard felling ..the day after i woke up and found out that she blocked me ....and after 5 weeks from that the new girl dumped me because she didn't love ass much ass i did ...and we decided to still a freinds and i was ok with that and after that i foucesd on my self for 5 month i started a new job ,get healthier and things was going great for me....the thing is ...2 weeks ago i had a call from my ex mom ..iam a freind to her family ...and told me that she need a help to find a jop..and i said that i will help her out ...in the same day she texted me at 11:00pm
Then she called me and we kept talking for an hour ..and the phone call was so joyful we kept lauphing whill the call was going at the end of the call shel told to remind her sending me her c.v
Ididnt talk to her after that at all ...after 2 days she voice recorded me at night that she will sent me the c.v tomorrow...
After a week i meet her and we just walked...the day after we meet in a caffe for work stuff...and now i dont know what to do ... Maybe she still have felling for me ...and I fell that way too..but iam scared to tell her that and the loop go all over again ...i want to give her a chance ...to give us a chance but i dont know how and the right way to tell her that...and i dont know if she just messing around ...or really want to get back to her .... please tell what to do..or what is going on with her mind ...
Thanks brad a lot i watch your videos all the time.
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey Brad,
I'm in a tough situation right now. So me and my ex have been dating for 4 years. However, at the end of the following year in December. We had plans on getting married. We were both excited. We ended up buying the engagement rings and wedding band. However, I would get into fights with her about petty things such as on her off days, she would not text me for around 4-6 hours or even a call(attention thing I guess), She has these guys who flirt with her and I get upset with her because she never told them to cut it out(however, she did bring me up in their conversation, but they ignored it), and more things happened. This one time, we got into a terrible fight and out of anger we both agreed we aren't going to get married at the end of this year and to hold off it. From what I was told, she was in shambles and later on she told me she was crying every night for a month straight about it. I told her I still wanted to get married to her, but we would have to take things slower. I ended up postponing the engagement before the nasty fight and she got upset because she really wanted this. I did too, but I realized it's going to be a lot different than being the usual boyfriend/girlfriend thing. Not until recently, at the end of May we accomplished 4 years together and two days later she broke up with me. She told me she was fed up with me and never wanted to see me ever again and other terrible things she told me such as we will never be a couple again. Until recently, I learned there was another guy involved. I guess around the time we got into this fight, she was talking to this guy who currently is 40 and she's 22(I'm 22 as well), and I guess she became a secretive. She would leave my presence when we were together and take her phone with her. I noticed this strange behavior, but I didn't think it was something major. After the day of the break up, I noticed from friends the guy posted this thing where her and the guy went out to see a Disney show together at night. At this point, I didn't know about the 30 day no contact rule, so I confront her and give her back the engagement rings and mention to her "Did you really break with up with me because you wanted to be with this guy?" and she said "No, we are not a thing. He was just comforting me because of our break up." And after that she left. During this time(it's been a month already), we would have small talk and she mentioned we can become friends and nothing else. I declined because after 4 years, becoming friends could become a difficult thing for me. However, I've been told that they're going out for lunch every day, they go out to places such as the beach, events, etc. when she has the time. She posts pictures of him on her snapchat.( I removed her from social media) Friends that have her added would show me these things, and say they're probably dating, however, won't make it public. He posts that she's with him watching movies or going out to places. At this point, can I even do anything? It's been exactly 4 weeks today she broke up with me and she already moved on to her "friend". A lot of people don't like her decision because it seemed off and a lot of people found out the truth behind our breakup because of all the social media thing and putting things together so there's a lot of this going around our work area. (We work together, however, we were dating way back before we even started working there, but in different departments) Any advise would be appreciated. Thank you.
How do you mean more things happened? Has she cheated? If she has crossed the line, then postponing the wedding was a good call! I'm sorry, I could be way off... but there’s lots of missing pieces here for me to deduct anything concrete, so consider signing up for my coaching program instead so I can look into your situation more clearly and figure out what's going on, then guide you on a regular basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hey brad! we both broke up but she chose me to be her friends with benefit because she still wanted to feel "loved" is this a good or bad thing?
It's bad and a serious demotion. A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
Hey Brad, my ex really loved me at some point and we had great plans. But at some point they started seeing how stubborn, somewhat aggressive and somewhat boring I become when dealing with teaching (when I tried to teach them a language), work, business or playing games. I just take all those things too serious. I think my ex has a negative image of me because of that. How do I fix this? Will they just forget that after enough time and after they constantly see me being positive? We live in different countries but we run into each other a few times a week in virtual reality where we hear each other's voice, see body movements, the setting is usually in games or just chilling and talking with mutual friends!
Yeah you need to chill out a bit. Try to apply the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/7t2fqkGVInI/v-deo.html
we are kinda in the same situation
Being friends with your ex is not a bad thing and there's no problem with that I'm friends with my ex on messenger
Discussed about friendship and all that here: ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, thank you for the video, really helpful as always. I have a question though..I did NC for 30 days and recently reconnected with my ex, he seemed receptive and was he was answering positively when I was sharing some memories (although I haven't talked much with him and I haven't seen him). But today I shared another memory but this time he didn't reply...I didn't give a lot of context it was more like 'I just remembered about how nice it was when...' so not sure if it's because of how I said it or he doesn't care anymore?.. what should I do? Also, when I text him because of a specific reason he replies, but not when I send a meme or something without a reason behind... I just want to tell him that I love him and miss him.. can I do that? I also wonder whether since I'm just pretending that I'm not texting because of us.. what if he thinks he is the one being friend zoned? Thank you so much in advance
You're welcome! You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi brad just wanna ask some questions. My ex gf and i broke up it will be 2months next week. What does it mean if she already deleted our pictures in twitter those that mean she is really over me? And she said it is not good if we meet this early in our break up. She needed space that's way i give it to her by applying the no contact. I really miss her but I'm coping still doing my thing here focusing on myself
She is trying to move forward but this has nothing to do with whether or not your relationship is over for good. If you really wanna know, here's what to be on the lookout for: ua-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/v-deo.html but definitely don't rush meeting up. Focus on texting and try not to meet up when one of you or both of you aren't ready yet. The phase you're on is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's a quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're both ready. Good luck!
Brad it didn't work my ex just called me 5 minutes ago to get her things back and she said that she has completely lost feelings for me and i am not her type, i completely lost it and i started begging i know i shouldn't have done that but i did and i am truly broken right now, i think it's over between me and my ex , but i really wanted to thank you for everything brad your videos made me feel better, but guys if the no contact didn't work for me it doesn't mean it won't work for you, just try it it's the best way to get your ex back, there is alot of people who did it and worked for them
No i kinda gave up thanks
Begging or trying to force things does have an impact on your chances. Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Ok brad but she said at the end that i am not her type after 5 months of dating, and doesn't see a future together
Hey Brad it's just 1 day my girl brokeup with me but i tried to convince her so many times but she doesn't wants to listen any words from me she just our 3 year relationship was just a lie i don't know what should I do i am really missing her so badly we even planned our future together but she left me please help me
Sorry to hear that. You ought to understand and accept that those plans are null and void right now. Redo the "no contact" rule and make sure you stick to it this time. But watch this first to help manage your expectations: ua-cam.com/video/OzVymYnQFTk/v-deo.html Here's how you can tell you're doing the "no contact" rule properly: ua-cam.com/video/f7zuXk-sVsI/v-deo.html It may help to make use of the clean slate template, which is a free version from a piece of my Ex Factor Guide. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/6K3xufEwEFg/v-deo.html The main goal is to bring your ex into an emotional neutral state by employing the 30-day “no contact” rule -- let your ex miss you and don't rush it. But in order to fully understand how this concept works, watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hey brad me and my girl were dating for around 5 years and we just split up like 2 months ago, since then I’ve been in the friend zone and every time I try to get back with her it doesn’t work out. How can I apply the no contact rule so she can miss me, without her getting mad??
You can apply it by starting to do it. Love and respect yourself first and put yourself first. Stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html
Hi, Brad. Thanks for the video. I have questions. After break up with my bf, I have been his best friends for 1 months and half and now I decided to stop talking and not be friend with him anymore cuz it hurt how he acted like I am really his friend. Do you think it’s too late to use no contact rule and get him back again? Thank you!
A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
Hi Brad ; recently I was jamming with other girls and my ex thought I Cheated on her ; we tried to have a new start but I kept on saying sorry for old shits and shs thought it's not gonna work ; our relationship was known to our families and we both were each one's first love ; there was also great sort of misunderstandings between us caused by third persons and now she hates me . Please help me
Third parties on your end or on her end? If you cheated on her and she catches you with other folks, that's not gonna bode well. I'm sorry, I could be way off... but there’s lots of missing pieces here for me to deduct anything concrete, so consider signing up for my coaching program instead so I can look into your situation more clearly and figure out what's going on, then guide you on a regular basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
8 year relationship. Two prior breakups. Both I went NC immediately. Once was 4 months, the other for eight. Both he came back. He broke it off about three weeks ago. Sobbing. Said he loved me but we don’t have what it takes for forever. Asked for friendship bc he didn’t want to lose his “best friend”. I declined. Told him I wanted to work things out, but if he left again it’s permanent this time, but gave him the breakup. Now I’m heartbroken and confused. I was blindsided as he was supposed to move in and we were engaged. He kept using the word friend. Made me feel friendzoned. I do want him back.
Also, we did not argue and had a good relationship with many good memories. Our children referred to one another as brother and sister. Ugh
Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad thanks for the vid, recently my gf hasn’t communicated with me at all and just yesterday told me she wants to be good friends, I obviously have feelings for her and don’t want to be stuck in this situation, what should I do to get her back in a situation where we can be together again?
This really depends. How long has it been since the breakup and have you cut off contact for 30 days yet? If you haven't cut off contact yet for at least 30 days, then you should prioritize that instead of interacting with your ex. On the other hand, IF you have already cut off contact, then you're on the right track. There's no need to redo the no contact just because it didn't exactly went well the first time or you're not getting the response you anticipated. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html and be guided accordingly based on the phases of what needs to happen, here: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning Today I messed up real bad, I met her because she wanted to and she didn’t talk once about the breakup and just seemed fine, I told her at the end that it wasn’t working just being friend-zoned and I just feel really bad on myself and upset, what should I do know that I feel like I’ve completely messed up?
Hi Brad, I love all your videos!! I’m a bit lost at the moment as my ex kind of started a no contact phase by telling me he needs time and we can see each other in 2 months. I texted with him after the break up for two weeks and then I started no contact two weeks after the break up, but he doesn’t text/call me at all and now I’m unsure if I should do no contact for the whole two months? I’m afraid he’s just getting over me… would be so great to get some advice from you!
Respect his decision to break up. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Hey brad my gf and I broke up just over 2 weeks ago and i made a few mistakes but I've been in no contact for about 10 days now but before we stopped talking she said she wouldn't want to meet in person because we'd both be too emotionally compromised but that she wishes me the best in all that's to come and said to reach out anytime I wanted to have "random banter" should I continue no contact or reach out
Definitely cut off contact. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Hi Brad, as per your advice I started no contact and exactly after a month my EX sent me a text saying "Hi how are you; just wanted to know if you are doing ok". My response for this was "HI, am fine. Hope you are doing well too". Since she has reached me out a week has passed with no further contact from both sides. Bro, I just want know if I am on the right track, Btw, I have still continue the no contact. Any advise?
You're on the right track and even luckier than most since your ex initiated contact. Although you shouldn't be making a big deal out of it, your ex reaching out is a good sign. Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
Hey Brad... The guy i was dating for few weeks... He started planning future for us and i also liked him a lot. We both kinda checked eachother's list regarding finding a good partner. I am in early 30s and he is in late 30s.
So i told him few relevant things about my part if in case something is deal breaker for him. He said everything is good and remained same... planning and discussing future for next two weeks... saying all promising things.
But after 2 weeks, he suddenly admits that he can't let go my past and its better we stay away from each other or at least take a break for now.
I can't breathe...he is so mature...why did he led me on for two more weeks...in my mind i was thinking we have overcome all the obstacles and we were ready to be in this future together.
One part of me wants him to call me...tell me he can't live without me. Other part just thinks that he is unreliable, unsure and coward type. I can't trust him.
Even if he comes back...i can't see my future with him.
But a part of me can't seem to let go.
Please suggest something.
In this case, it's best it ended early on rather than months or worse, down the line and he ditched that info on you, yeah? He's not what you think he is and it's best to take off your rose coloured glasses, yeah? Make space for someone new. Good luck!
I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after bring separated for 3months All thanks to mr Willson whom held me to get back my ex again I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 4days.
Hey brad
I had a breakup and it was a 2.5 years relationship
It's a long story but when i found her she was sucidal and if i wasn't there for her she would have been dead Today and i have helped her mentally.
But a guy came between us and he started a dispute between us and he asked very inappropriate questions to her about he getting comfertable with her with his sexual touches and all and it was kinda getting into sex chats category and this was the reason she broke up but ik this very well
That guy will just use her and throw.
Can you please tell me how can i get her back it's been a month we haven't talked.
If your ex has serious mental issues, it's best to let her family know about it and encourage her to get help. As to the new guy entering the picture, it has to be her choice. Try to stay out of it.
Hey brad
My ex broke up with me now 3 months ago and he wants to be friends while he’s talking to someone else but yet contacts me everyday and asks why I haven’t answered his phone calls or text messages
Asks about my day and who I talk to who I’m hanging out with but yet still wants to move on
That's what I call the "check-in" and "validation-seeking" text, respectively, and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ua-cam.com/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/v-deo.html
Hi brad, ty for awnsering my first question but here i have another short question
If i deactivated my social media (facebook) for 10 days, not contacting there, if i reactivate the account but will not initiate conversation will that be ok ? Or if i already deactivated social media i should just leaves it ?
You can reactivate or deactivate as you please. Like I said, there's no need to do all that anyway. You just have to have enough self discipline not to reach out which is incredibly hard to do but totally doable.
The things is my ex and I, had recently broken up like a week ago and I might have trouble of getting her back because she said that she needs need to work on her self more and I know that she has commitment issues, she love studying and she has work but when we broke up I was really sad on what happened, still can't believe it happened. But I kinda new it was going to happened but for her it was harder for her too, to break up with me because I know that she still likes me without a doubt but like I said before she has commitment issues and in the beginning she told me that, she has commitment issues and that she didn't want to hurt me if we dated and she told that she love her alone time and she is very independent and i want to get her back because i know that i was the very first boyfriend that she said i love you to and i am the best boyfriend she had. And now i have talked to her ever since the break up.
So what can I do to get her back?
If she has commitment issues, then I doubt she'd get into a relationship with you in the first place. Watch this vid first: ua-cam.com/video/YxWY57XCouo/v-deo.html I suggest you back off and give her space. Stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html
Recently broke up with my ex we had 6 months apart been together 12 years she told me she had been on a few dates messaging diff guys i said thats fine we were single . I said if you continue to message them theres a problem sge said i am as im not putting all my eggs in one basket . I left and said were done few days later i got a txt asking if i was out my baby mood . Around a month later i got a " i never said we were together or getting back together" text which went on to say i dont wanna end on bad terms and she still wants me in her life i politeley declined then i was told i needed to grow up and she wont be civil again . 3 weeks later i got a happy b day message i said thank you that was nearly 3week ago .
I wont be waiting around till she finds something she likes and me been expected to be loyal in the meantime
Sorry to hear that. If your ex has the "Grass is Greener" Syndrome, realize and accept that this is outside your control and really the best you can do is becoming the best version of yourself and vibrate higher, which means NOT taking less than what you deserve and not settling to just becoming an option, especially if this used to be a stable relationship between you two. She's likely taken you for granted, so you don't really need that in your life. Use the law of attraction. You deserve love and worth of love, so you can only attract love. If she goes away from it, then you repelled her and will most likely attract her back if she vibrates as high as you. Otherwise, be open to new people that's on your level. Be strong!
@@BradBrowning hi brad yes good thanks i gym more i went to the dark place and just dralt with it spent 3 maybe 4 days on my own and thought of the things you try not to im getting stronger every day i look great well to me anyway and i feel at peace . I just dont get why she would want me in her life if shes ready to move on it can only be to keep me as an option and stop me progressing
Whats up brad quick question what does she mean half of the times when she’s with me she sees if we’re boyfriend and girlfriend and sometimes she sees me as just a friend when we hang out is that also a meaning of her putting me on a friendzone? By the way this was like 2-3weeks ago I’m just curious thanks brad yet again.
How do you know how she "sees" you as though? Do you ask all the time? Because that would be a mistake. Sorry, this is a bit too complex for me to properly respond here… please consider signing up for coaching if you want to talk at length about your situation: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hello coach
Today was my 36 days of nc but I broke it and send an apology text to ex bf , I said..
"I apologize for all the disrespectful words and things I ever said to you .
I was very toxic and pushy I pushed you to do things you're not comfortable with.
I forced myself on you .
This is not love , this is sickness
I gave you anxiety and stress instead of peace ,comfort and love .
You were so kind , gentle, caring and loving boyfriend.
I wish you all the peace and love in your life and I hope you will find the woman who can appreciate you.
And thank you for all the memories. "
And he answered me an hour later (which was very good)
"Don't blame yourself it's ok I. Apoligise for everything too thanks for good memories"
I don't know what to do next 😞
Give it more time and the next time you reach out, make sure it's already on a positive/lighter note and none of that heavy stuff. Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
Hello brad thanks for the video
My ex boyfriend that i still love and i was the one who broke up with him wants to get back together he was all the periode of the breakup trying to get my attention and making me jealous and treating me nicely he is so gentle with me i dont know what to do i want to get back together but i want to keep him forever until we get married bcs i truly love him
Did you think the breakup was a mistake? If so, apply the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/IhGnPtpJTbM/v-deo.html
Hey Brad! I texted my ex after after the no contact. She replied happy back although she was a bit short in the text and said she was hoping i was really good and so.. She did not ask any questions. I tried being funny and write some. In the last message i sent i did a good reminder text but also told her she was right about breaking up and that is was for the best. Maybe i did someting wrong here? She did not answer on that text and unfriended med on fb. Do you have any tips how to move on? Start a new NC before trying to reach out again? I did not get the chance to tell her to meet up as friends as i read in your book. We said before that we was going to do this when time was right. I Do not know if she blocked me or just unfriended on fb. Do you think this is it? What to tell her if i reach out again further away?
Give it a couple more weeks and this time, try to apply the texting tips here: ua-cam.com/video/jka4S6syZPs/v-deo.html
Lovely video. My ex Girlfriend thinks she doesn't want to rush something right away and suggests to slowly try to meet more often and see if we can work together. Not sure how it will work tbh....
Do you trust her? And is she not seeing someone else? As long as you take the reigns from time to time on when you two meet up, it should be okay. But this can only go on for so long really. It's a double-edge sword really because there's a chance this could work, but there's also a chance your ex is only trying to ease off you to let you down easy. If you need my help to focus in on this one, consider signing up at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Any advice on this situation when you have a kid? I'm actually kinda over my ex at this point, but this was a major stumbling block when I did try to get her back.
I found I just sort of became her go-to for any and all problems she had. And I wanted to help, because I figure a happy mum is a happy kid.
And that's all well and good, but we got in this weird situation where I was her friend. But she wasn't my friend. I was getting nothing out of the friendship. Worse I was losing things haha. But she was getting pretty much everything she would have gotten were we to actually be together.
I always considered just outright saying "look, I don't want to be friend." but it always seemed like a shitty thing to do.
It's an uphill battle for sure with kid/s involved and/or usually other responsibilities still tied to your ex, but it's best you do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. Prepare for things to be tough but if you play your cards right and depending on the extent of damage done, it can actually still be salvaged. Try to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be by applying the tips here as much as possible: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning oh it was certainly an uphill battle.
But I am not still trying to get her back. It took a ridiculous amount of time to realise it, but it wasn't the relationship I was missing. It was what I hoped the relationship might be.
Although I will fully admit. If I had found out about your channel right when it happened I have no doubt I would have gotten her back.
I just sort of expected that that we would get back together. So I would see her constantly because of our son and we would get on great. And every six months or so I would ruin it all by trying to explain something about the breakup or the past. Hahaha.
Then rinse and repeat until I realised the juice really wasn't worth the squeeze.
can you please do a video targeting your younger audience? E.g., Im 16 and so is he. thanks x
I can but there's really no relationship advice that can replace firsthand experience at your age. My suggestion is to go date, have fun and make all the mistakes you can make and learn from it. You still have a lot of things to learn and growth to do. It's all part of the process so enjoy it, yeah? :-) Take care!
his names brad because he do be rad
You bet! :-)
Hey Brad, ty for making these video to help me doing the right thing to get my ex back and stay calm during no contact, just a question that i've been getting a new job and have been in no contact for 8 days, but for some reason my ex decided to apply for the same job as me and now will be my college, what should i do in this situation, does this mean i gotta quit no contact ?, and what if she'll just be in the work place for a day ?
Hey you're welcome! Wow is this some sort of coincidence that you end up in the same job together? If she doesn't already work there, then you should be good. Otherwise it will seem like you're stalking her which is creepy. Anyway do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
What do I need to do if I got a 70 on your test I really want her back?
Fading fast and therefore the need to act fast means to play your cards right from the get-go and not mess things up further, basically. Here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/v-deo.html It's time to find a more positive outlet for your emotions. It's totally okay to cry your eyes out (just NOT in front of your ex and definitely not in social media), this is healthy, but try to balance it with other stuff. So keep your mind occupied, get busy with a lot of stuff like hobbies, work, etc. focus on what makes you feel good and take time to heal as well. Also read my Ex Factor Guide, which covers commonly possible ‘what if’ scenario and will give you pretty much everything you need to know, so read it many times over until you master it. The aim of the guide is basically to put you in the best position to get your ex back...and to avoid the pitfalls to increase your chances altogether. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
My ex has a history of dumping me when our relationship gets hard/rocky. On & off for 4 years but we officially started dating in 2021. He would leave me then come back a few months later🤦🏾♀️ he’s been doing this for 3 years. he dumped me June 1st because I always accuse him of cheating when he isn’t…i have major trust issues from a past relationship & I brung my baggage to our relationship.
“We can’t be together if you don’t trust me. I don’t want a relationship right now. It’s been stressing me out” he said. 😥 He said we can be together again when I heal.
But idk if I would want him back by then😞 I broke no contact on the 14th & started over now. I blocked him to keep myself from texting him. Im tired of him leaving me everytime when things get tough. Im afraid if we date again he’ll keep dumping me. I already feel like a clown for letting him back in so many times after he leaves me. I feel like he has too much power & control over what happens & how it ends in our relationship What should I do?
When you heal from the pain he's caused? Has he taken accountability though or has he just basically left you out in the cold and then expect you to be ready when he comes back? These are things you ought to look for. Raise your standards and don't settle for less. An on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
@@BradBrowning yes he takes accountability & he does expect me to be ready when he comes back.
@@Tahjmonae That's really not a good thing. Looks like you set the tone that he can come and go as he pleases. You need to change that dynamic because this is a bit toxic for you. Consider signing up so we can talk about it at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
@@BradBrowning I wish I could. I can’t afford $100 a month at the moment. But I will soon! Thank you
Hi Brad thanks for useful videos I broke up with my ex 3 weeks ago but we still see eachother I go to her place watching TV,cooking together,going for a walk etc but she don't let me approach her in a romantic way I'm confused how to act or move what does all mean is there any chance she will come back to me in the future?
Hi brad. My ex dumped me 2 motnhs ago, after being together for 3 years, in a serious relationship. We still talk daily, he said he is not seeing someone else and he has not forgotten me. He also said he wants to stay on his own, but doesn't know what will happen in the future. Maybe he could change his mind. We have seen each other twice after the breakup. What should I do? I feel like I gave him too much importance. He thinks I will wait for him to change his mind and I am really willing to do that. I don't know what to do. I thought about starting no contact but I am scared he will forget me and find someone else, If I start no contact. Please, help. I am really sad, can't even study for the exams I have this week.
Although you're willing to do (wait for him) that, it's best you don't make it obvious. A key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
Hi brad, I’m going through this rn, me and my girl have been together for 2 years. We gone a break since a 31st of May, and last night she broke up with me. Yet said that we can still be friends and that she wants to find someone new “to just have new feelings and experience new things.” But to me in my opinion I just feel like she wants to be in one to ease the pain and have that rebound relationship. We both talked to her mom about it, and said it works both ways about getting back together which is true. I rlly rlly miss her and all I want is her :(..We still say I love you and we ft as well. She even said it herself maybe ima couple of months we can get back together. I even told her if she does find someone new I would still love her and express them to her but she wouldn’t cut me off then. I seen her Saturday and wrote out these letters and on Sunday she wanted to get back together come to find out she said that she must’ve been happy. It’s like she got my hopes up of us being together. She’s already talking to someone yet we still say I love you and I miss you. Then she realized how much in denial she was and she would eventually be ready to continue us again. So it’s like I’m confused I just want answers and some hope.
Maybe that's a lesson for you. Words don't really hold any bearing if there aren't any actions taken on her part, especially if she clearly chose someone else over you. Observe a bit more though and try not to jump into conclusions. This vid may help: ua-cam.com/video/DD22EJVvLwY/v-deo.html
Hey Brad so I used no contact before and got back with my ex as we have kids however a year has passed and it’s happened again . I can’t bare the idea of not waking up and seeing my daughter everyday so we thought we could try co parenting but if we do that how can I get her back and do no contact?
What to do if he did not text me after i used the no contact technique ?should i text him? Or wait a little bit more until he text me? And if he is a person who controls his feelings what should i do ?
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
@@BradBrowning Thank u sooo muchhhhhhhhhhhhhh.I will check on those videos.I had to send some notes to him yesterday that he asked me along ago.But i was not able to send those because of the breakup .So i had the text him back.I he did not reply or i don't know if he saw those because he has off read receipts.But he has remove his profile and posts in ig.Is it okk to start the no contact period again ?
The only reservation I have with refusing to be friends, is that if they do then say they want you back after you give them a refusal on friendship, how much faith can you have in their desire to actually be in the relationship with you and that they won’t build resentment because they thought they had to be in a relationship in order to have you in their life? Particularly if they do still care for you, hence their offer of friendship. Wouldn’t it be better to agree to be friends and rebuild the emotional connection, so that if they then decide they want to come back to you, you can be confident that it’s coming from a place of genuine feelings rather than emotional blackmail? And how do you refuse to be friends without ruining any future chance at reconciliation?
If they've just dumped you, 99.9% this usually means they want a break ties with you which includes breaking that emotional tie, ergo, being friends is a bad idea as you'd likely be dragged along having false hopes instead of spending that time accepting what happened and trying to rebuild your life without this person. It's that or you'll be waiting a long time or even see them date someone else, which is really the last thing you need right now. They can change their mind, yes, but most, if not all the time, this is after you've left them alone and let your presence be missed. This is the answer to your last question: ua-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/v-deo.html Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thanks Brad. In my case, this was said after a period of no contact and two weeks after reconnecting. However, at the time I didn’t know really what no contact was all about so was “flying blind”. Now I know more about it, it’s too late as we’re 4.5 months into a weird limbo “friends with sometimes benefits” scenario. Not what I want at all, but hoping it will rebuild the connection. I’m more than a “booty call” as we also hang out and go to movies etc with no sex involved. No commitment for a reconciliation due to his circumstances but I’d hate to lose what we have now even though it’s far from enough for me.
@@Jo-gf6ii have you guys hooked up
At all?
Hey Brad
Quick question that if is it ok to deactivate ur social media account to do no contact ?
It's okay but not necessary... especially since you can actually leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html
Hya Brad, I broke up with my girlfriend after 7 years 1-2 weeks ago, I caught her sleeping with a co worker that she said she wanted to hide from me and is nothing “serious” as it was her way of trying to move on.
With having two kids we speak often and have since seen each other and chilled together once the kids have been in bed. Slight flirting has occurred, touches, hugging when I leave,footsie play, but no kissing etc, I still love her and I’m hurt by her sleeping with someone else after I moved out 1 week ago
Sorry to hear that, man. Only interact when it's about the kids. Set some strong boundaries though. One way of showing that is to stand up for yourself and to cut off contact. Never ever chase and don't take any bs from your ex, yeah? Because if the connection is not genuine or if you got back together out of your ex being rejected by someone else, it will still end again sooner or later if you chase. Watch this:
ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Your ex has to learn lessons first but until then, it's pointless to fight for it, so let it go, and move forward until your ex proves themselves to you.
@@BradBrowning thank you, you have no idea how helpful your videos are 🙏
So I was initially friend zoned but started to work my way out of it then everything feel apart again. Ever since then we talked like 4 separate times and I decided to shut down all communication because the conversations weren’t going anywhere I wanted them to. It’s been somewhere around 3 months since I talked to her last and in those 3 months I’ve been in the gym and actively searching for a new job to better my life. Now my question is since it’s been a long time how do I go about contacting her again?
Keep your options open. I can't get a good grasp about your situation. It's either she really doesn't see a future with your OR you're not going about it the right way either with texting or you're being quite impatient. Only you would know that for sure. Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/v-deo.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
hey brad, she suggested that we should be friends when we were over but i pleaded and she blocked me, ive been doing no contact for 3 months now, but today i decided to check her account and now she's with someone else, what should i do?
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ua-cam.com/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/v-deo.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in UA-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Brad, I feel my ex has no interest. I tried most of the things you teach in your channel. She texted me first only once since I tried to rekindle. Clear sign things are bad!
Maybe covert jealousy is my only hope.
My case is Impossible.
Never wait around for anyone. Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
I figured there’s no use if she already went through grief before we even broke up for awhile. I didn’t give her enough attention so she blindsided me. Goodbye 8 years, I’ll take all summer and more to move on.
Sorry to hear that. Complacency is a major killer indeed. Try to do the opposite and see if she's still receptive to contact. Otherwise it may be best to move on for good and learn from this.
My ex broke up with me last night- we'd been arguing a lot over stupid shit and he's emotionally exhausted- he made it clear he didn't want this and hasn't lost feelings for me, but I'm scared he won't give me another chance, right now I've started no contact after explaining I understand how he feels and don't resent him, we have a very strong relationship, any advice?
Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ua-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/v-deo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ua-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/v-deo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
Hey Brad I am emotionally broken, my ex wanted to frndzone me we were in long distance relationship after getting job he said i am the trouble maker i torture him so that's why he don't loves me anymore. I tried begging tried giving space for week we had intimated as well but in last he told me that he hates me alot he doesn't want to talk to me, he messages me because he thinks that i will end my life without him that's why he texts me.. he is confused with the love, he is jeleous of my pictures and also he don't want to be in relationship now it's over but we haven't blocked each other, i love him I don't know what should i do now? Help mw
I'll help you help yourself because the bottom line is, you have to be the one doing the work. I can only guide you. For starters, this vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
Would no contact rule work on my ex girlfriend basically she's out in the world dating a new guy
Brad i have a question, after 4 days of no contact with my ex she blocked me on Facebook and deleted her Instagram account, i really don't know what to do, i am stressing alot after what happened, should i contact her or continue the no contact?
And i wasn't posting anything after the break up
Go AT LEAST 30 days without contact. Try not to stalk her online profiles as well. I know it's tempting but for your sake, stop doing that.
@@BradBrowning I don't go to my ex profile and on Instagram no I don't I do not want to be nosey
Hey Brad ! I have broken up for one month and I've used the " no contact rule " after that I've used the techniques in your videos and we managed to have a meetup ! But I kind of messed things up from here.Is there any way that I still can get her back?
Uh oh...that was totally the wrong approach and I've talked about that here: ua-cam.com/video/juhamVEwsxU/v-deo.html You ought to review this first: ua-cam.com/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/v-deo.html and in fact, apply the tips here first instead of taking the shortcut: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html In the future, if you're still not sure about what you're doing, I really suggest you sign up for my coaching program so I can assess your situation properly and guide you accordingly at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad, great videos but I can’t seem to find one that addresses my problem. I broke up with my ex 5 months ago. Recently I reached out and really laid it on hard that I wanted to get back together with her. She agreed to meet for dinner but I probably broke every rule when we did. She ultimately said we could be friends and I could show her how I’ve changed and maybe she’d be open to giving me another chance. Would the no contact even work at this point? Or what strategy would you recommend or did I shoot myself in the foot and it’s just time to move on?
If you do have to make some changes, then do it for yourself and never for anyone else, okay? See, making changes for the sake of someone is considered seeking validation, and that's an unattractive trait in and of itself… so it naturally won't do anything to rebuild the attraction necessary to get your ex back in the long run. On the other hand, if these are changes that you know within yourself that you need to make, then it's important to take time so be sure you aren’t rushing it because permanent, lasting changes don't happen overnight and your ex can actually see through it. Also, pain (that's why your ex dumped you) is a very good teacher and motivator not to mention a huge catalyst, so making these changes within yourself in order for the possibility to come back together stronger and better is what you can expect and you will be able to use this progress if not for your ex, then with someone new. Does that make sense? With that in mind, watch this vid to subtly show these changes to your ex: ua-cam.com/video/bZ1KetALZrc/v-deo.html
Hi brad. should deactivating social media a good way to avoid contact?
That's really not necessary. Use it as last resort though if you think you can't stop yourself from reaching out but as much as possible, try to get your balance back and have some self discipline. You can actually leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning does no contact rule still applies if we broke up 3mos ago yet we still have communication but not frequent?
Hello brad,
Yesterday my ex broke up with me. I applied you no contact rule. But about 6-7 months ago he had broken up with me and I had used your techniques, it helped me to take him back. Will this no contact rule help again? This is a long distance relationship.
Apply the same tips, yes. However, an on-and-off relationship often signifies underlying issues which have been left unaddressed for quite some time. Read this first to know what to expect when you have this kind of dynamic in your relationship: bit.ly/1HjcagC But if you're interested in making this your last breakup, sign up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching especially if there's an available spot!
Hi Brad,
What should I do if my ex is giving hot and cold replies? I have completed no contact
You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Hey brad i really need your advice i hope you answer, i am out of town and My gf of 3 years dumped me 3 days ago on phone. i want to apply no contact of 30 days but she called me day at 1 and told me she really want to meet up one last time to explain herself in person in 1 to 3 weeks from now when i am at home (then i will leave town for a month again) i said ok first but i know it will destroy no contact. Should i deny her request?
Closures are overrated anyway. I suggest to skip it. However, if you're thinking twice about my advice, I suggest you assess the risks first if it's all worth it. Remember, meeting up when you're both not ready will only alienate your ex further, and that's best case scenario. Worst case scenario will land you a spot in the dreaded friendzone. Watch this first: ua-cam.com/video/Jzb18j7ZMPE/v-deo.html but if you're both ready, watch this video on how to tell as well as how tips for you on tipping the odds to your favor: ua-cam.com/video/eJPGrkuQnm0/v-deo.html Best of luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you
Hey Brad , so my gf of 1 year dumped me back in January. Went into no contact , she reached out in April then disappeared after we made plans to hang out . Went back into no contact . 2 days ago , she reached out again and calls me , I pick up and we talk on the phone for about 30 minutes, she said her and her rebound broke up, she said she was sorry , she said she was interested in talking again , and she wanted to hang out next week , she unblocked me on Instagram and Snapchat, and she sounded excited and interested in talking to me while on the phone , we were texting back and forth all day . She said her and her guy broke up about a week ago . She said she wanted to hang out next week so we made plans to hang out next week. We were texting yesterday but she just stopped texting me and hasn’t responded to my last text yet and it’s been almost 24 hours now . Im confused and don’t know what to do . Why would she do this ??? What should I do ??? I don’t want her to disappear again, I was starting to move on from her but I still like her and still have feelings for her . What should I do ?? Thanks fro your help!
You're the backup plan it seems since she's very flaky towards you and she's likely torn between you and her more recent ex if she hasn't gotten back together with him already. Next time she asks, since you're dealing with an ex here, don't be too available. Make sure you have other things going in your life other than waiting for a text from her.
@@BradBrowning so we made plans for tomorrow, but she hasn’t texted me in 2 days. Should I cancel on her tomorrow?
Sir i need one help.. i had a break up 10months ago after the break up i beg, request everything done even during this time our frnd also involved.... But after 3 months i started no contact... Now after 9-10 month i found she unblocked me... But during this no contact time also i always used to see her since we are from same college..... She tried to be friend i think but i declined........
Now what can i do ? Plz guide me
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Do you think you're ready to give it a try? Watch this first to help set your expectations: y2u.be/82uUJ7kPXhE and look out for the signs that your ex has moved on: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik If you see only one or zero signs, then this vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/v-deo.html If the conditions are right, then make sure you tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms It's important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working ONCE things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and the golden rules here: y2u.be/1kJ1ybuFIHE
Hi, is one to one coaching is still available?
Please check availability as it changes from time to time by the time you sign in. Here's the link to check and/or sign up: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Help please anyone my ex broke up with me 6 weeks ago I’ve done everything wrong pleading begging crying, and I know now that’s wrong but we’ve had a chat and I tried to get her to get back with me but it’s a no it honestly still feels like where together we have 2 kids together and currently still life together, I brought it to her attention what it feels like and she’s also not changed her relationship status on Facebook or her profile picture of the both of us and I’ve mentioned this to her but she still hasn’t changed it can anyone advise please
Sorry to hear that. I know it's tough especially since you're in the same house and the changes happened suddenly but try to be strong, okay? Try to get your composure back as well. It's a different set of rules if you live together. Do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/thVReUI9Vzs AND y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Question Brad, my ex and I split up 4 weeks ago after being together for a year and 3 months and she got with a guy a week after we split so I’m guessing it a rebound. Anyways I started the no contact 2 weeks ago and the last few days she messages me sometimes saying she still cared about me and asking if I had a new girlfriend and I say no then she continues to do her thing. Should I just ignore her when she messages me? She done this about 3 times within the last week. She probably think I’m still available for her if anything happens between her and her rebound. What should I do?
Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you during the no contact stage, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses their power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
When is the right time to confess or to say to your ex that you want them back after no contact?
Definitely not anytime soon. Let it happen as naturally as possible, by organically rebuilding attraction. This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/L0hxYTCJ2hU/v-deo.html
Hey brad
My bf broke up with me in 2020 bcoz of my falts but after months He messaged to me but as a friend . Those days he still had some feelings for me, We talked sexual things but he told everytime ,i was only friend ...
Now we r still together but as friends.. in addiction he dont have feelings for me...wht i do 🌚??
Being friends with exes isn't really a good idea especially if you use it as means to get back together or if you're not fully over that person yet. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html I suggest to stop clinging to him and go live your life first. Be independent. Really sorry, but given your situation, it looks like your window of opportunity may have already passed. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/e3l5KWEpIpw/v-deo.html and especially if you see the signs here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
@@BradBrowning mm actually in 2020, i begged him for to be with me but he ignored me aftr that i decided to move on... Then i cut off all contacts with him..i focused on my life but still sad..
After 2 months he tried to contact me.. but didnt reply him he was upset ...Next i reply to him but he always care about me as a friend 😂This is suck..Every time I get out of this and stay relaxed he contacts me .. idk seriously wht is this .. He's been texting me lately ... he's telling me a lot of things .......... a girl likes him now ... ex sends me their messages 😂 but he told me he does not like that girl..
Thank u brad..I'm focus on my life now
Hey Brad, is it okay if I tried to chat with her after breakup, not about our relationship but her response was rare and sometimes ignoring and now I decided to do no contact term for about 3 weeks and after that i am hoping to start communicating with her again by folowing your advices, but the only thing wich i a afraid of that she will stil ignor me
You definitely ought to stick to at least 30 days straight without contact especially since you've been trying to talk to her right after. Take note of the mistake most people make here so you won't be making them: ua-cam.com/video/1cBpNrDDHnw/v-deo.html and you're right, there's no guarantee you'll get a response from her after this period however I guarantee that these are the proven tips to work so try to follow them as much as possible and check out my other vids for more tips. Good luck!
Hey Brad ! I've been in a relationship for about 3 years. Our relationship ended one and half month ago. At that time I did not know anything about the No Contact Rule. I've done every wrong thing , begging, pleading, crying at first .I kept in touch with my ex-boyfriend. Now he is in a different relationship.he wants me as a friend now. he tells me he loves me but doesn't want to come in a relationship. And he will not be able to get out of her new relationship for certain reasons.But I really love him so much . He is still jealous when I talk to my other male friends. He give me mixed signals . But when I see him with the new girl , it is very hard to control my emotions. Please help me Brad . What do I do now ?
Let him go until he makes up his mind. You ought to learn to give him space so you can heal and love yourself first as well as take time to accept things. This vid should hopefully help you see things clearly about the importance of the "no contact" rule as well as the common challenges and how to overcome them: ua-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/v-deo.html Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com Good luck!
@@BradBrowning 4 days ago I applied no contact rule,then he texted me saying he was waiting for me but I was ignoring him. It doesn't matter to me if this relationship breaks up. I am very confused Brad. Please answer still should I apply no contact or not ?
Hey brad! Love ur videos by the way ;) I just had a quick question to help me with my situation with my ex. Could no contact ever make things worse? I started about a week ago and I also was wondering if no contact includes in person because I had to talk to her since she’s my partner in many classes. I really want to get her back and I want to make sure I’m doing the right thing right now. Thanks, Charles.
And I also watched your videos about when not to use no contact and I don’t apply to any of those scenarios
Well I want help figuring out no contact and everything I need to do. I am working things out personally and I’m trying to be the best person I can be. So not really I don’t need any help. Thanks for asking thpugh
No, it can never make things worse unless your partner is trying to talk to you about something truly important and you're avoiding it, like all the time. It's best this is discussed when you're both calm. For exes though, no, the relationship is over, so it doesn't ever hurt to give each other space. This vid is for you, too: studio.ua-cam.com/users/videoWVB0_l60SpM/analytics/tab-overview/period-default
@Benjamin Bala I’m doing fine. I started no contact a little while ago and I’m just praying to the Lord to guide me on my journey. Thanks for asking though
Hi Brad, quick question. My ex unfollowed me on instagram yet he watched all my stories. Doing no contact as of now. Did I upset my ex? No drama post anyway.
I'm not sure what you posted but most likely, it's just your ex's way of coping and it looks like she's trying to stop stalking your page. This doesn't mean it's good or bad, it's just part of the process when a relationship ends, so don't overthink.
@@BradBrowning If it is not good or bad, then what is it? Thanks Brad.
Hey Brad, my ex broke up with me two weeks ago after a relationship for 2 years. While I took my stuff at her place, we agreed that we could be friends or just doing normal together after a period where we don't have contact. It was her idea to cut of the lines at first. We didn't had contact since (one week into no contact). Do I have to reach out and send a message that I don't want to be friends with her? Or just stay into no contact?
Stay in no contact for a few more weeks but if she keeps insisting you two to become friends, watch my other vid on how to escape the friendzone. The important thing is self confidence and how much you value yourself. Know what you deserve and don't deserve. Play your cards right and you'd either attract your ex back to you or find someone much better. Best of luck!
My ex said that she still wanted to send streaks on snapchat we don't have any conversations or anything and I'm applying the no contact rule but idk if it would be better to continue sending the streaks as she requested or stop sending them during the no contact rule???
Apply the no contact rule. No contact means cutting off unnecessary communication with your ex in any way, shape or form for at least 30 days. It also means ignoring unimportant or random messages from your ex for at least 30 days straight. This also involves NOT looking at any of your ex's online profiles so you won't overthink things. In other words, the "no contact" period is a time where you fully focus on yourself and take time to heal.
@@BradBrowning yeah I understand but she's the one who broke it off and wanted to continue our snap streak which is weird in my opinion
@@BradBrowning I understand what you’re going through but you should give her the space to miss you dear. She needs to miss you but you’re not letting her to. You need to stop replying unimportant messages from her. Go no contact and try to figure out what you didn’t do or what you did that led to the breakup and try to work on yourself. You need to let her miss you and she won’t miss you if you’re always at her reach
How should i respond if im doing the no contact rule and my ex put me in the friend zone and asks to jang out?
That's a bad idea. Don't do it, man. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
What should i do when my ex wants to stay friends and we have classes together. No contact is not posible
This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
Hey brad me and my boyfriend (ex now) in Long distance relationship. ( We bieng in friendship for a year and more and then we started dating for 5 months)
We were in argument n he disrespected me( the first time ) so i told him m leaving n then closed my accounts for day i reopen but .. we never spoke and we unfollow each other after 4 days after that problem after a week i texted him telling him that i had loved him but i accept that it's over and i thanked him for that relationship he was so cold replying with" it's ok " now it has been 24 days since break up i no contact him at all is there a chance to get back ? Will no contact rules work here?
This really depends on how things progress. The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
What does my ex listening to sad romantic songs mean?
Example: the night we met/I love you so/up "Olly Murs"/heatwaves/dandelions/save your tears/happier than ever
Hint: she is the one that broke up with me
It's all part of the process. A breakup hurts both people regardless of who ended the relationship. This may help, too: ua-cam.com/video/m9A_EPRkZYI/v-deo.html
Hi coach,
After 4 months of no contact my ex started speaking with me.i can find she have some sort of feeling on me.but something is not allowing her to speak with me. Some time she is fine and sometimes she is very rude and asking like why the hell i should speak to you and share my feelings.."iam not loving you"...if i got the kind of the feelings she will leave me alone itseems..saying that we can be friends.i dono hw to handle her now what should i need to get her back and how to dig the possitive memories and make her to realise.
Try to play it cool and not give in to the drama. You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Hey brad...My ex messaged me out of the blue asking "thinking about me?". Why did he do this? ...Kindly answer
How long has it been since the breakup? If it's within the 30-day period, you can safely ignore it as you'd likely get false hopes anyway and your healing is back to square one. After that, you can try to play it cool. When it comes to communication, other than your ex expressing he wants to get back together should NOT be overnalayzed. Watch my other vids for more tips. Best of luck!
Hey Brad
I'm in a relationship which is too complicated. We have known each other since 1 year and in 1 year we came into relationship but due to several reasons we had to breakup but then we again came close to each other. The thing now is that he says that i don't want relationship neither with u nor with anybody. But he says i love you but i don't want relationship cause he creates a toxicity in himself and starts to overthink. In return i said that it's ok i understood but why are you creating a mess in between in bond whenever the thing has to happen between us it will happen. Let time decide.
Brad is my thinking right and what should we do now???
You may want to watch what I mentioned here first as it may relate to your situation: ua-cam.com/video/YxWY57XCouo/v-deo.html
I had told my ex I wanted limited contact to heal. I did not say for how long. But now I want no contact. What should I do?
Just cut off contact straight. Go cold turkey.
My gf cheated on me and havent even apologies, i had to even use my brain for her to tell me the truth by telling her no matter what happen i will forgive her because no one is perfect and then she told me she had sex with a guy i even know 2 times and then she be like let her know what is the next move if we are going to work things out or move on... i said things like this can't be work out and she blocked me on everything its 5 days ago and i lost 5lbs....i immediately go no contact is that the right thing to do??
It's the right thing for you since your ex is basically lost and needs to rethink things. Be sure to cut off contact for at least 30 days or more for this but try to never wait around for anyone. Give each other space, yes, but put some boundaries up especially as to when and how long you'd try but also don't rush it. It's complicated to explain it all in one go but my Ex Factor Guide should give you a step-by-step process on how to go about it. In the meantime, here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
Do things change if they had a bad childhood and need to self grow and self healing?! Still don’t be friends ?
Definitely don't be friends. Otherwise you're automatically used as an emotional crutch.
@@BradBrowning Thnaks yea I’m on a 31 day no contact right now…. But she text me and I just to a short reply saying I talk and that’s it… not reaching out to her!!
I had very ugly breakup after the breakup I was begging pleading and reaching out to her best friend so that she can help me patch up and lot's of crazy stuff and she got pissed and blocked me and said she never wanted to see my face and blocked me after that I realised that that was a very very bad. So I said sorry for what I've applied no contact for almost more than one and a half month and then recently she unblocked me in social media platforms and contacted me and asked like "how are you" Even though she told me that she never wanted to see my face she didn't wanted to talk message or anything but now she texted me I don't know what to do now I don't know what is it like I'm confused about she's reaching out to me or just checking up on me cause she has been moved onon I don't know oh and her best friend had also texted me .. Now what should I do next is it the time to break the no contact I'm confused about if she's really reaching out to me indirectly or just checking up on me!!!
That's what I call the "check-in" text and your ex is somewhat expected to send one or more of these sooner or later and I've got just the vid for that. Discussed that in one of the vids, including how to handle that kind of message, here: ua-cam.com/video/VMAHVJ6tvSM/v-deo.html
What do i do if i found out my ex gw the guy who i was always suspicious about and who she dated before us
Leave her alone and consider moving on from this.
Me.and my ex still do big people stuff and we Been broken up
😳 boy am I ever in the friendzone! Met up w him this past wkend and all the above were chked ....shitty place to be 😔
It happens. Sorry to hear that.
Hey Brad....My ex-boyfriend messaged to tell me that he has got a new girlfriend. When I asked me who is she, he said he is not going to reveal her identity and that it is a secret. Why did he do this?Do u think he is lying?
Errr.... that kind of conversation coming from him serves no purpose, unless you've been trying to reach out to him? If you did, that could mean he doesn't want to mess up his new relationship and your best course of action may be to move on. Take care!
Hi Brad to day I want to thank you from the Bottom of my heart what you thought me. Yours advice helps me to pass through break up well. To day I reached out my Ex by asking him if he can remember me the medecine of influence he bought for me in the past. He call me immediately by asking how am I, and he found I've been changing immediately. I am focusing on my studies, and driving lecence. Etc and he have been interested he beg me to give him my photos of me now and I send shoot photos I made after broking up with him. And he found I am really beautiful right now. For sure thank you. I made all of this Becouse of yours advices. U can't imagine how amazing has found am I right now.
Let me trust time I will found If we will be back together or I move on for good.
Anyway yours tricks works. You are really expert 👍🤜♥️
That's awesome! You're very much welcome. Make sure to check out my other vids for more help or better yet, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide for a step-by-step process on how to go about it. Good luck either way! :-)
Thank you kindly
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Heyy! Plz I need somebody's help... I'm so confused now idk what to do. I and my ex broke up 8 months ago, we decided to stay frnds but we reduced communication thinking it would not ruin our frndship and we will be able talk as usual. But after some months I felt like he was being very impatient with me, being angry on me whenever I talk about making a new start. I felt like he was moving on and thinking me as less attractive than before. After like 6 months I came to know about no contact. I applied it for 2 months and he reached out for like 7 times during this no contact. I kept it casual but didn't talk that much. Then yesterday I thought I should also initiate so I contacted him and talked. But while talking I revealed a secret that he should not hear, after knowing that he became angry and thought I've changed alot and this change isn't good for me. After giving me advice on that topic he said to talk on call, then we talked on video call but it seemed like he wasn't that interested that much. I should not have talk about being in relationship but I desperately did then he denies saying we don't have future so it doesn't matter. After that he also said now he doesn't feel same for me, feelings have changed, he doesn't miss me that much.after hearing all these I was devastated and was losing all hopes. He still wants to stay frnds. I'm now totally confused should I be frnd to be around him or leave him which is very hard for me now ? I have used no contact for 2 months but after no contact I don't feel like situation have been better ☹️
It won't. Decide first if you want your ex back as a "friend" or a boyfriend. It can't be both at the same time at this point. And I doubt the friendship between you two will be the same anyway, considering how you've both crossed that proverbial line but give it time for you both to heal first. That is always key. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html