Thanks Brad I'm in the clear so far, I don't beg my ex to come back, send gifts or anything like that, I don't text him either instead I'm focused on myself and self improvement too. I do text him back though, keep it light hearted, flirting a little but nothing too obvious either and been trying to build that emotional connection again with him.
My ex hang outs with guy friends and even dances with them and what not. She says she’s free to do whatever she wants and that fixing things isn’t her priority. But I want her back but I’m not okay with the whole guy thing and she doesn’t care. How should I feel about this ? Am I dumb for wanting her back after those things she does ???
Awesome! Yes, you're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Does no contact work with a person who is a serial rebounder? My ex almost always immediately jumps into a new relationship simply so she doesn’t have to face the pain or be lonely. I think she’s already done it to me here.
Tough situation. Sorry to hear. I’m going to be blunt… serial rebounders are generally not worth pursuing. Could No Contact work? For sure. It would be my recommendation for you without a doubt. But I would also advise you to think about whether you want to be in this position again in a few months or years down the road. Unfortunately, that is likely to happen if you get back together (assuming your ex has a long history of never being single and always lining up a “replacement” relationship before breaking up). People can change, but most “serial rebounders” are simply always suffering from Grass Is Greener Syndrome. Are you sure it’s worth it? Engage in No Contact regardless of your answer to that question. 🙂. Good luck!
Hi Brad i hope you notice me coz i need an advice badly. Because i accidentally read the conversation of my boyfriend to his ex girlfriend that there planning to their future without me knowing. We are 3 years together in 3 years we arguing everytime i caught him chatting with his exe's yeah exe's because he has a lot of girl friend b4 we meet. But i end up forgive him because i love him so much and i dont know what to do if we break up. I want to fight for our relationship to stay strong and longer but i can't do it alone. B4 pandemic we have a lot of plans in our future and now his planning there future to his ex gf its like my bf just using me while his ex are taken and now his ex broke up to her fiance she want my boyfriend back to her😥 i dont know what to do,its hurt me so much im scared i know sooner his going to tell me his plan and break up with me. I know if i beg him to stay with me its not gonna happen😭coz he love his ex gf than me and i feel it.😥 why my loved and cared are not enough for him im protecting him from his scammer exes. I did'nt ask anything to him coz im not a materialistic person. I want him to be healthy and safe. Im single and focus for him to take care of him but instead he want to be with his ex that had a kids already with different father. He told me that we can't afford to have a baby but he can afford to support others man kids😥 So please advice me😥 i can't ask advise to my friend coz she's heart broken too😢
I’m a client of Brads. No I do not have my ex back…….yet. I’ve also accepted that I may not get her back. This is about looking at yourself. Amazing how tunnel vision distorts reality. So easy to miss the elephant in the room, ME😂😂 Carry on and good luck.
Thanks Dave, you’re 100% right…. And I’m glad you’re benefiting from our conversations even if we haven’t achieved the primary goal yet. (Don’t forget to come back and edit your comment here once you are eventually back together… 😉)
@@BradBrowning 😂😂 As you say, people aren’t math problems! Time will tell and it’s not been as long as I thought! You’ll see in my message. If I do not reunite, it will be no fault of yours.
I did some mistakes in the begining, but now 3 weeks after the breakup with sporadic time together after the first week I have finally moved out, ready to begin no contact. I did also manage to use the meeting during my moving day to show that I am okay with moving on, and that I don’t see friendship as a natural stage between us after the break up.
Looking good so far! Just make sure to employ the full 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ua-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/v-deo.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ua-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/v-deo.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
I didn’t beg and my ex rn is in a rebound with my friend xD she is very happy and all. And I don’t even plan on taking her back or winning her back. Just watching Brad’s video makes me feel good.
Knowing your worth and self love is key when it comes to an ex running off to someone else. You did the right thing focusing on yourself. Good job! And thanks for dropping by! :-)
Hi Brad! My boyfriend broke up with me 10 days ago - I used the no contact and he messeged me last Friday. He told me he is sorry, that this happened and that the worst thing for him is that he has nobody to talk to about this so he messeged me, because I am the only one he can tell this to. I replied that i am sorry to hear this and if he wants to talk about this - he said he is sorry for bothering me and shouldnt dm me. I typed “ok”. He broke up with me because he lost his romantic feelings - he has been lying to me for past month telling me he loves me. This year was super hard for me by mental side. I was exhausted from school.. Our relationship was perfect - no arguments, spending time together, supporting each other. I was super shocked he told me he has been losing his feelings for past month. We were together for 3.5 years.. He told me he has special feelings for me and he wants me in his life - but no in romantic way. I am still sticking in no contact for last 10 days. He even messeged me 2 days ago he wishes me best of luck with school since I have my finals. Is there any chance he will come back? Thank you for being here with us, Brad. Helping people with broken heart❤️
Just remember, a key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
Hey Brad, yesterday my boyfriend broke up with me for the final time and i’ve acted completely irrationally. I threw his phone and have been begging and pleading for him back, that was until i saw your youtube channel and i’ve been watching your videos all day. I’m 16 and I have been in this relationship for almost 5 months. We did argue at times and we both handled things extremely wrong, i begged him to stay with me and he did multiple times but yesterday he told me he “doesn’t want us to work out” and that he won’t want to be in a relationship with years. I have been trying to look at the situation logically and see that he obviously does love and want to be with me it’s just not the right time for him right now. He’s coming over to my house in about twenty minutes to talk to me and I am going to tell him to take the space he needs and that i won’t be reaching out until he’s ready. I have also done a bunch of begging and apologizing but i’m sure they were more annoying messages because i was beating up myself rather than seeing his feelings. When he arrives im going to say something similar to your text message suggestions: “ im so sorry about how i acted, i wasn’t myself and i had been battling other things outside of our relationship and i took it out on you and you didn’t deserve it” then, im going to explain that he can have space and im going to try initiating the no contact rule. this is where im going to have the hardest time but im hoping i can follow the rule. Now, I watched multiple videos but i’ m still not sure what to do to win him back after all of this. I don’t have money to pay for the program so i understand if you can’t provide any other help but if you can, it would be greatly appreciated as I really really love him and I want to win him back. Thank you so much, i hope to hear back from you. -Destiny
Try to take control of your own emotions instead of letting it control you. That should be your aim, whatever happens and however this turns out. However, that kind of mindset takes practice and grows well over time. Life is also or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
Hi Brad. Hope you're doing well. I've been watching your videos for a while now and they've helped me a lot. But I have a different and a very tough scenario now. You see, my partner suffers from Retroactive Jealousy since the beginning of our relationship and he used to doubt me alot of having a promiscuous past. I always denied it because I thought it's better if he never finds out. I stayed loyal with him and cut off everybody else. But eventually, he dug into my past and found out everything. He was furious and left me. I gave him time and space and finally he came back because he said that he loves me too much and that he knows I'm a different person now I don't run after every other guy to get physical with him. Even though our relationship wasn't healthy, but it was getting better day by day. His trust was building. There was just one thing I never told him that when we became friends and he was developing feelings for me, I was with someone else and I not only had a make out with him, but also with his friend on the same day. After that, I left that guy and my current relationship started and I devoted myself to him and him only. I forgave myself for the mistakes I made and started becoming a better person for him. Now recently, I don't know how but he found out about this one time with two guys. And his feelings completely shattered. He says that I cheated on him and that he had forgiven and forgotten my past but this is unbearable that I was with two other guys at the same time we were getting involved. He probably hates me now. I honestly hate myself too for being such a person who never stayed with a single man until I met him and he made me become a better person. I really don't want to lose him. I've been having panic attacks, I can't stop crying and I honestly don't know what am I supposed to do now. I can't let him go. Please help me. 😔
I think it's the lies that haunt him somehow. However, if he has no reason to be really suspicious of you, then his jealousy is unwarranted. It's not fair to use your past against you but you're still not in the clear for lying to him. You're both messing this up really so there's no real culprit here but the ghost of the past. Give yourselves time to think clearly and calm down especially since he has some serious trust issues he needs to sort out within himself first. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html
@@lordfeeda9627 Yeah but if a woman can change herself and put her past behind her, doesn't mean that people should start digging it up. And if God can forgive me for my sins, why can't men do?
I just watched your video about when not to use no contact. My girl after two days has already messaged me twice about wanting to get back together. The caveat, I broke up with her. She committed the damage. A lot of this seems to be tailored for the dumpee versus the dumper. I don’t want her back yet, the damage is still stinging. I would sleep with her, but I feel like that would most likely be very swallow to do. So I have been No Contacting, so I don’t make an error. But also still have a chance for a good lay in the future, or maybe another try if she has changed her ways. It just worries me because her messages keep stating she “f’ed up and that we should talk since we’re both hurting, and we’re each others best friends.” My only fear of no contacting is she’ll take it as betrayal on my end, and there will be no chance to hookup in the future, or a chance to take her back in if I forgive her. It may be selfish, let me know if it is, but having her as an option seems good. Maybe it’s because it’s fresh.
Yes, it is for the dumpees, but a few for the dumpers as well. This really depends though. What changes have you asked of your ex? Basically asking to change their core personality won't work and will only build resentment, which will eventually doom the relationship to failure anyway. No amount of breaking up can resolve that. So try to see if what you're asking your ex is realistic and that you aren't being selfish (I'm not saying you are, but there's a possibility again, depending on what you asked, depending on what change you demand from your partner) or if it's necessary because it's for the betterment of your relationship, you, and for your ex and if your ex is willing to change this time around. This video is for you and should help: ua-cam.com/video/PJHf-s_VwKk/v-deo.html
I don't want him back again ,he came back talked as friends for a year .But after that it was on n off connection between us , later when we blocked each other again. I found out that his accounts are linked with that girl who he cheated me for. Apparently it didn't hurt me because i migrated to another city ,also he said come visit me many times but universe never wanted that . Moreover a man should take a step towards woman ,old sayings are true that defines true love.He manipulated me alot for 7 years but i got rid off him...focus on your career people ❤️ thank you Brad 👑 your an angel...
It looks like you've done the right thing and you certainly didn't deserve to be an option or him hiding someone else behind your back. His actions aren't your fault though, it's his choice. Good job moving on from this despite what you've been through together. Stay strong!
Thanks Brad . It would be interesting to make a video about your ex leaving you because she is having a mid-life crisis. I have seen a drastic change in her behavior with me. Yet, a few months before, she told me she was lucky to be with the best man in the world. I noticed that she was suddenly distant with me for no reason and when I read on her phone some naughty exchanges with men where they said that it was time for her to enjoy her life, otherwise it would be too late for her because she would be getting older, I then understood that the midlife crisis was at the origin of our separation. It is very sad for me after 15 years of happy marriage that things turn bad suddenly.
Sorry to hear that. It could be that or depression. There's a fine line between those two and it's best to consult with someone qualified on that for best results, especially if it was a sudden occurrence. Anyway while I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU
hey brad. i recently commented on one of your more recent videos and got a reply back and watched this video as well as the others. in the first three days of our breakup i begged and tried to change his mind. i apologized because it was dumb of me. he accepted it and i agreed to give him space. it has almost been 2 weeks since our breakup. and this is going to be like the first real week of us no communicating? our relationship was so healthy. do you believe that i messed it up? even if i made those mistakes the first couple days after our breakup?
Hi, I did no contact, and I've been waiting for her to start the conversation. She's been really cold with short texts. She says she loves me, (I don't say it first). We dated for 3 months, broke up a month and a half now. When should I reach out to her? 6 days strong so far. Like I said no contact already came and she broke it.
Try to reach out after 2 weeks with zero contact between you and her. Don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Best of luck!
Really sorry to hear that. My payment merchants are Clickbank and Paypal and I'm afraid they have their own restrictions that are well outside my control, sorry. Try to figure it out with your bank, maybe? In the meantime, you should be able to find lots of information on how to get your ex back by doing all the right steps on my channel here, so check out my other videos as well. They're completely free and comes at no cost to you. Lots of people have found success with it, maybe you can, too. You can also leave me a brief description of what you're going through. I always respond to comments. Just keep it concise as I try to answer to as many comments as I can. Good luck!
I begged and pleaded at the beginning. Then I tried no contact. Lasted 2 weeks. Then I broke no contact and told her how I’m working on myself. Now I’ve been in no contact for about 40 days. I haven’t heard a thing from her. At what point do I reach out and say something? I feel like no contact isn’t working. I haven’t heard a peep from her.
Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact on your end, however, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Also don't forget to watch my other vids so you'll know what to do after the "no contact" phase, especially if you're not getting my Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!
Hey Brad I was with somebody for 6 years and we finally planned to move in together. We had a fight and I broke off things due to lack of giving communication on her end (and she was always exhausted). I still care about her and I haven't been very understanding and didn't give her much space. She didn't block me but was mad I wasn't understanding to give her space. (Now I understand after watching your videos.) She has been cold and slightly rude to me when we talk. She told me she isn't interested in a relationship with me ever or with anyone for that matter. We had an argument not long ago because I felt hurt from her rude behavior saying hurtful things and she told me she is even losing interest in being a friend to me which hurt. She clearly tells me she needed space but I made mistakes of thinking we could still spend some time together and it was her birthday yesterday. I told her I was sorry for being rude and not understanding and I told her I will give her as much space as she needs and I won't bother her anymore. I told her if she wants to talk whether it would be friends or by some miracle a relationship, I told her my door is always open. I'm thinking I should start NC, what would be your advice Brad?
Give her time to think/figure out her feelings for you as well as miss you. As this vid suggested, you can't go wrong with giving her space. Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi Brad! My boyfriend and I broke up 11 days ago. He has removed all traces of me on social media but does still follow me but will not view my stories on any content I post. There have been times where he now avoids places that I go so he doesn’t run in to me from what I’ve heard from mutual friends. Is this a bad sign that no contact will not work?
The "no contact" rule usually comes naturally to the dumpers and all that kind of behaviour you've just described. Learn the 3 basic phases I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. It helps to learn the basics of my 3R system here first, so you'll have an idea on how to go about it on your end: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
Hello Mr Brad, my girlfriend has not been talking to me for about three days now. though we had misunderstanding and we've settled. i was chatting with her last night and i told her that i have missed her, she replied that "she has been thinking about her projects and can't think of other things right now" that she hopes i understand. I'm a bit scared cause before she broke up with me last time, it seems similar with this. Please what do I do?
What was the last time like? She got busy and put you aside? Try to work out a solution where you won't feel that way especially if that leads to fights which can be sorted out by having a simple, mature conversation. You're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad,I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago,The guilty is killing me,I have been trying to forgive myself sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't, I almost done all the 3 mistakes you've mentioned,but I think it is time to let him go in peace, I'm now focusing on changing myself to be the better version of me in every aspect,Though I have missed him a lot,I've tried my best but there is no more I could do
I'm sure you've done your best and yes, give yourself that much needed rest. Regardless of whether you're trying to get an ex back or simply move on, it should be your top priority to heal and rest as much as you need. You matter too. Over time, you'd also naturally gain clarity whether the relationship is worth saving or not, so don't rush it. You're on the right path. Take care!
Hi Brad, I sent her I miss you and I’m always there for you a week or two after breakup (she broke up with me) because she started to talk to someone new I think I messed up already just on emotion any way to salvage it? She kept saying she’s probably making the worst mistake but she has to remove herself because she didn’t want to hurt me
Begin No Contact ASAP. For at least 2-3 weeks. You need to let her know you’re moving on and thriving without her to add urgency to the situation. Go do some fun, interesting shit with some friends or take up a cool new hobby or something while you’re in No Contact. Make her think she’s quickly losing the opportunity to change her mind about breaking up by acting like you give zero fucks about her and are living an awesome life without her. She’ll reach out sooner than later and you can slowly re-build her attraction from there. Play it cool, make sure every interaction you have Is enjoyable for her once you begin talking again. String her along and act like you don’t care about the breakup anymore. Good luck!
Im 16 and he’s 17. He’s tired and stressed out with work. We broke up less than 24 hours ago. I didn’t lash out or anything, he gave me concrete reason on why we broke up. I’m needy, insecure, always assuming the worst and manipulative (love-bombing instead of fixing things). He feels unheard. Him and I need time and I’m optimistic that we could get back together because surprisingly I’m the best gf he had. I want to be a better woman for him and I want to be less stressed and more confident in myself. Advice? Update: he came back to me after 4 days. We’re high schoolers. Young and dumb but we still love each other.
Give yourself time to do the necessary changes. And yes, for a relationship to work, it needs for you both to cooperate so it's a win-win situation and nobody feels unheard or left out. Your situation is too vague for me to deduct what exactly you're not agreeing on, but giving each other space should help out a bit if the differences isn't that big. However, life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
It’s been 31 days now she contacted me after like 3 weeks and asked ”how have you been” i answered we talked a little and then she ignored me and we haven’t talked since that what should i do… should i just wait for her to contact me again or should i contact her? Someone pls help me and answer to this..
Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
Hey Brad I just started watching your videos and honestly right now my relationship went down the hill pretty bad and to be honest I ended up doing those 3 things. He confessed to me he came back with me for this past month just because he felt bad and that when we were on break he was talking to someone at work but stopped once we tried for that one month. He is colder and just yesterday he confessed to me that he doesn’t know what he wants and is very confused. Also says he doesn’t love me anymore 😞 we dated for 3 years. Is there any hope at that point?
Sorry to hear that. If you ask about your chances, it's hard to really say. Take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz and answer as honestly as possible. However, what's important is that you realize that the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and the golden rules here: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
Dear Brad, my boyfriend broke up with me a week ago after 4 years together because he can no longer see a future with me. I really want us to get back together because I do see a future with him, even though he broke up with me because we’re too different as individuals. I’m on the 3rd day of no contact. He has repeatedly told me (in a kind way) that we will never get back together, the worst part is that he’ll be flying off to a different country for a year in 2 months. Is this relationship worth saving after the no contact phase? We’re both in our early 20s in University. We’ve had a rocky relationship these past few years, but was very happy with each other on good days. Please help me, I’m very desperate. I can hardly focus on anything and have anxiety leaving the house fearing that I might see him.
It may not be, especially with the (upcoming) distance and his blatant lack of interest. Set him free for now and work on yourself. It can't work if only one of you thinks there's a future in your relationship. So let him come to that conclusion himself, yeah? See, you both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ua-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/v-deo.html Good luck!
Hey ! Brad my girlfriend broke up with me saying that she doesn't love me anymore . We have been doing long distance for 2-3 months . This is the second time she has broken up with me last time she was the one who reconciled with me . I am applying 30 day no contact rule as you have said in lots of videos . I am also worried that she may find someone else during this period .How should I proceed to get her back ? ( Please help me 🙏)
Sorry to hear that. The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi, Brad. Hope you are doing well. My ex met a major accident. I went to meet her too. She seemed very low confident. Next day she called me too. But do you think i should call her once in a blue moon to keep a check on her health?
Just text her to check up on her but you should limit it to once or twice in the entirety of the "no contact" rule. Take time to accept the breakup. Remember, you're no longer her boyfriend... and you both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ua-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/v-deo.html Good luck!
Hey,Brad! I 'hve watched your many vedios.... My ex left me cause he thinks that i've slept with somebody else....its not true.....i pleaded him like anything...through texts ,call by meeting.....by crying in front of him like anything.....i just pleaded him for last 1 month....but he is very clear for breakup and left me.... And he is in anothers relationship .....and he is so happy with her I love him very much I did all the mistakes........will he comeback? I hope u'll understand
Looks like he's projecting on you and accusing you of sleeping with someone else when he's the one doing that to you. Consider moving on from this. He needs to grow up and take accountability.
The 30-day "no contact" rule can work for you in the following ways: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Your ex is diverting his/her attention to someone else, which is the easiest thing to do and is really just his/her way of coping. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/v-deo.html So that's what you ought to be doing too. Here, watch this: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html so try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/TBtb34gy6zw/v-deo.html Now lastly, keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though they try to cover it up. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA
What they want is, money, power, control, status, ego and all their game is base on these 5 factor, leave you also this 5 factor, come back also these 5 factor
Hi brad, My girlfriend of 5 years left me 3 weeks ago. Shes been ringing me upset for 2 weeks after that but she had no intention of getting back together. Last week i started no contact but shes been going out everyweekend clubbing and dancing with guys. Im 21 and shes 20. Any advice?
What was she ringing you for when she has already dumped you? As long as it wasn't about something important, you did the right thing by ignoring it. Here's this to consider: ua-cam.com/video/xbDPq23YaNE/v-deo.html so take the free quiz if you wanna know what your chances are, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz However, that kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
Hey Brad I have a question. Me and my girlfriend broke up 3 months ago. The problem is she lives with me. I want her back but she wants to get her own place and she claims she doesn't want a relationship right know. But it's killing me she claims she is trying to get a place. I have given her space I let her do her thing! But her being at my place and is not being together has been really hard! So do you have so advice for me on how to handle this and try to get us back on the same page. Thanks
Apply the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/thVReUI9Vzs/v-deo.html However, don't try to change her mind if she is really wanting to live alone for whatever reason because that is well within her rights to do so, no matter how painful it is for you. You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ua-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/v-deo.html Good luck!
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/v-deo.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and the golden rules here: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
I have cheated on my boyfriend with another man, and he found out and broke up with me obviously. I apologized several times and then we met one day. But the same thing triggered him again and things got even worse. I really want him back in my life. Please help me. I really won't repeat my mistakes again. But i need him please help me out
If you're sure you want to fix the relationship, the best thing to do right now is to take responsibility and admit to your ex that you've effed up and try to be patient and sympathetic with what your ex is going through and just disappear from your ex's life for a while, because right now, you are a constant reminder of the pain and your ex needs to heal from that first. And saying sorry is not gonna fix that right away, it takes time. By cheating, you're automatically putting the ball in your ex's court and have lost privilege to take your power back in all this. It's up to your ex now and how soon they can forgive you and move on from the incident, not necessarily from the relationship although some people do that. With that in mind, these may help: ua-cam.com/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/v-deo.html Whatever you do, make sure you avoid doing the stuff here that will only push your ex further away: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo
BTW the cause of the break was her being unfaithful and she decided to end things although everyone said I should move on for some reason I think we were meant to be
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
I developed the free quiz for this purpose. I suggest you give it a try at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz and answer as honestly as you can to get the most accurate results. As to your question, I can if I have the time, but my coaching clients take first priority always, understandably. Take care!
The 30-day "no contact" rule can work for you in the following ways: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Your ex is diverting his attention to someone else, which is the easiest thing to do and is really just his way of coping. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/v-deo.html So that's what you ought to be doing too. Here, watch this: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html so try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/TBtb34gy6zw/v-deo.html Now lastly, keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though they try to cover it up. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA
she blocked me from everywhere and blocked my friends and family also..so she can't see my improvement anyhow. there is no chance Brad.plz recommend somthing better..is there still i have a chance to get her back???
And why are you so dependent on her seeing the improvements? Don't do that to yourself, man. If you do have to make some changes, then do it for yourself and never for anyone else, okay? See, making changes for the sake of someone is considered seeking validation, and that's an unattractive trait in and of itself… so it naturally won't do anything to rebuild the attraction necessary to get your ex back in the long run. On the other hand, if these are changes that you know within yourself that you need to make, then it's important to take time so be sure you aren’t rushing it because permanent, lasting changes don't happen overnight and your ex can actually see through it. Also, pain (that's why your ex dumped you) is a very good teacher and motivator not to mention a huge catalyst, so making these changes within yourself in order for the possibility to come back together stronger and better is what you can expect and you will be able to use this progress if not for your ex, then with someone new. Does that make sense? With that in mind, watch this vid to subtly show these changes to your ex: ua-cam.com/video/bZ1KetALZrc/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, my ex is open to trying again after ending it 2 months ago, but is wanting space to himself after we lived together for 3 years over the pandemic so it was intense. He moved out 2 days ago. I already did no contact at the beginning of the break up, then we decided we will try to work on it. Even though he wants space, he also wants to meet up once a week to hang out (not as friends with benefits) to see if the feeling comes back over time. He's promised that he won't get involved with other women whilst we work on this. We still message each other everyday but just in a friendly way. The problem is he has no idea how long this will take, which I understand. In the process I know the uncertainty will hurt me a lot. I'm not sure if what we are doing is a good thing of trying to get him back? :(
It won't come back by meeting up every once in a while. You both need some solid space first where you get to think clearly first. This early on, a key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning Thanks again Brad. I already did the No Contact at the beginning of the breakup in February. After this we decided we will try again but starting off as friends first. Do I have to do no contact again?
Brad i need help. So i bought two tickets for a concert for me and my ex like a month ago, and she agreed to come with me even though we weren't together because we still kept contact. But now i engaged in "no contact" and the concert is next week and idk if i should break no contact so that i could ask her if she still wants to go (sorry for bad english)
You're still broken up though, right? The decision is up to you but if you ask me, it's still important to put the full 30-day straight "no contact" rule into priority because if you've been in touch after the breakup too soon, then you BOTH aren't taking the time needed to process the breakup and been acting like it hadn't happened. Here's how not contacting your ex can help you a lot: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Burying the problems which had caused the breakup in the first place is a surefire way towards a doomed relationship, if you get your ex back. Make sense now? You ought to teach your ex these very important lessons: ua-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/v-deo.html On the other hand, you can work on the issues together but you have to make sure you're on the same page and you aren't being manipulated and/or strung along. Are you seeing any progress? Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed and so I can guide accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hyy.. Brad… I’m in a relationship for 3 years. Recently my gf said we will break up because of my anger, harsh words on her…. But now I realise my faults and I’m can’t imagine my life without her… I don’t know weather she is in a another relationship or not… but I know clearly she is having huge angry on me her parents too… what should y ????
Uh oh... practice how you can be less angry especially if you know it's destroying your relationships. Take anger management classes in your area, perhaps. This takes time to change, though, so definitely work on yourself first and that aspect first, okay? Try not to blame yourself too much though. Nobody's perfect but what's important is you do something about it to become better, yeah? Good luck!
@@BradBrowning sure sir .. I’m working on it… now completely alright now.. but my gf is not with me.. I need her back… I can’t imagine my life without her.. we r is physical relationship also… but don’t know how she forgets that and moves on…. Tell me what should I do now???
@@BradBrowning especially we were in a long distance relationship for 3 years… I can’t spend my time with her properly that causes this breakup too.. I need to get her back to me sir… now she and her parents also angry on me… it’s very very hard situation I’m facing now… but if she comes back I’ll never do mistakes again … she blocked me everywhere on social media and now I’m in no contact rule…. I can do whatever to get her back!!!! Help me out!……
Hi, Jane, I have no idea what's going on and maybe it's too late for the relationship but for the sake of argument, it's never too late for yourself. Never give up on yourself! Whether you decide to move on or try to fix the relationship, it always starts with self love. Best of luck!
Hi, Brad i am waiting for your response. I have already requested for one to one coaching sessions. It says i need to wait 72 hours after booking.. I need your help ASAP. I have been watching all your videos. It's the 7th month of break up, i have been begging and pleading till i watched your videos. now i am in no contact period for more than 45 days.. I need her in my life, 9yrs i lived only for her and vise versa. No matter how long, how hard.. I will wait for her until she gets back to me. My case is extremely unique. I almost lost myself I need your help, Please help me ASAP
Good. You've already made the right move by signing up. Try to be patient and don't panic because I need to review your situation thoroughly and have to cater the others (coaching clients) who came before you. The timeframe is within 48 to 72 hours from when you submitted the coaching form. Thanks for your understanding and talk soon!
Hi Brad. Is it wrong to answer an exes call right after 30 days of no contact? My ex called me and right on the last day of the no contact I've been doing. He made a lowsy call to tell me which currency pairs to trade today because he knows I trade (guess he was trying to be helpful)? Does this mean he still cares? I tried to stay as reserved as possible when answering him. Is answering him after 30 days no contact hurtful for my plan to get him back?
Not at all especially if it was an important call. Besides, you're already at the end of the "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, you should be fine. As to whether he still cares or not, some if not most exes do care despite the breakup but apparently not enough to be back in a relationship with you. Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and again assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
Hey brad. Got broken up with about 2 weeks ago now. I started no contact with her but straight away after a couple of days she was spamming me and asking where I was and she said she was worried about me. I told her I am fine and then I said nothing else. She told me after that she might be regretting the breakup but as it was only a couple of days after, I told her that she needs to be 100% about it all. Few days after that she said maybe it was right to breakup. Since then which was exactly a week ago I've been in no contact. Have I and am I doing the right thing by staying in NC? Thanks
You're right. Your ex needs to be confident and sure about her decision to want to get back together. Otherwise, it will just create more unnecessary pain especially on your part. You did the right thing. That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
Hey brad, I've asked my ex for another chance. I wasn't really begging. The next day I've told her that I had problems with my family and that breaking up is the right decision. Do I have to send her the clean slate message or nah.
No need to. However, asking her for another chance is really considered negotiating or bargaining and is still somewhat a type of begging. Show her you respect her decision instead and cut off contact for the time being.
Hey brad, Me and my girlfriend broke up like 2 months ago.. and i applied the NC rule.. but she looks always very happy on her new pictures and she is always hanging around with her best friend who I hated... so I apologized to her best friend for those rough times and now I hope she will talk good about me.. was it a smart move?
That was unnecessary. The best friend's alliance will always be with your ex, so I doubt that would really do anything. Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ua-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/v-deo.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ua-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/v-deo.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
Hey Brad, my gf broke up with me about 2 months ago. I meet her everyday at my workplace.After following 30 days of no contact rule she started behaving with me well and started light conversation with me when I am around but again after 10-12 days she stepped back and started ignoring me again so... what should I do now?
If you've done the 30-day "no contact" rule correctly, this is a pretty common theme as well, unfortunately. It could also mean that you came off too strong to the point where your ex felt pressured. However, don’t destroy the progress you’ve made up to this point. Watch this to gain some insight on what to do: ua-cam.com/video/cC54YU-qU5Q/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/MK7NDfJTbDc/v-deo.html But if your ex is worth it and as long as you aren't being manipulated, and you still really wanna give it your best shot, then I'll be more than happy to put my focus on your situation. Sign up to my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
She's confused, so give her space. Also life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
Hey Brad, my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me a few days ago, claiming we’re on different paths in life, she’s about to graduate college and I’m not just yet. Anyways, we’ve both have been taking this hard, as we both still love each other, and have agreed to no contact. Of course, I broke it once, then she broke it the next time, and now we’re still trying to do this together. She says I bring up a lot of good points on why we should work together, but her gut is saying not right now. So when we both break it, and there aren’t hard feelings? Is that a good sign? I know im not going to break it again until our desired talking time of next week, but what If she does ?
Be the bigger man and give her time and space. Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning hey, so it’s been a week now and we just talked today, I asserted myself and acted very confident and it felt very fulfilling. I told her what was up and why what she was doing didn’t make sense, but that I wasn’t begging for her to come back because that isn’t my decision and I don’t want to. I told her I still love her, and that of course I want this to work. But I was firm of how she was wrong in a few ways of her reasoning, she had like puppy dog eyes at me the entire time, compare to the previous times we talked where I was the upset one and she was calm, I was calm this time and she was crying. She didn’t think the convo would do anything but we both agreed it was good and we had to a lot to think about. She reciprocated a long hug and kiss, but of course said she still needed time. I texted her thank you she said of course and she agreed and now I haven’t contacted her because that is what she wished originally, is this just a waiting game now?
hey Brad sometimes I talk normally with my ex but she semmes not that interested reply lately once she replied to my story then again if I reply she don't see texts fot long. what to do?
This really depends. How long has it been since the breakup and have you cut off contact for 30 days yet? If you haven't cut off contact yet for at least 30 days, then you should prioritize that instead of interacting with your ex. On the other hand, IF you have already cut off contact, then you're on the right track. There's no need to redo the no contact just because it didn't exactly went well the first time or you're not getting the response you anticipated. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html and be guided accordingly based on the phases of what needs to happen, here: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, my ex has a new boyfriend so I did no contact for a month, she kept reaching out during no contact but i didn’t give in, I gave it a month then I finally spoke to her, it didn’t work and we are where we were before no contact… is this it or is there anything I can do now to salvage this or has she gone for good? She’s going away for a weekend with her new partner this weekend, they’ve been together 3 months but I think I have to realise she never coming back now
How do you mean it didn't work? If you mean your ex is still dealing with someone else, that is actually your ex's choice, so try to choose to love yourself instead and distance completely. With that I mean wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ua-cam.com/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/v-deo.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in UA-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
i have a situation brad.i was in a relationship for 5 months and its a long distance relationship.we been good all these months.i was just stressed in family situation here and in that rage and stress i threw up mean words on her.i didnt mean to...but idk how i said that to my girl.she just dont want a relationship with me because i disrespected her with mean words.she dumped me a month ago.i couldnt hold on this one month and i have been contacting her till yesterday.in this situation,no contact will work?she is kinda stubborn with her self respect things.she can forgive someone but cant forget things that happened to her..will no contact help?to forget all negative things of me?
Yeah, that was some misplaced anger there all right. It's very important to give it time to let whatever anger and hurt there is between you two, especially from your ex's side, subside. Sometimes it takes a month but oftentimes it takes longer or shorter depending on the situation. You simply cannot rush this. An apology is in order, too. These may help: ua-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning in the last conversation,she said that she trusts me as friend and told me not to treat any other woman disrespectfully.but she said she had enough of relationship.what is she upto?
Sorry to hear that. I know it must've been a shock to you but do your best to heal from this, okay? Try to put your focus elsewhere (best to put focus back to yourself) because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/v-deo.html Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/TBtb34gy6zw/v-deo.html This should hopefully get you back on track with what you ought to be doing during this time: ua-cam.com/video/obBIttQSak4/v-deo.html
Keep going bro your not alone just focus on yourself even tho it’s extremely difficult just keep reminding yourself your not the only one going thru this because we all are
Hi Brad, When you in the first week of no contact & my ex text to ask you something like a favor to do that is out of her control. What should I do say yes or keep on ignoring her??
What kind of favor? And under whose control is it exactly? Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
Hey Brad, Just broke up suddenly and he doesn’t seem affected by it. He is an emotional person but this hasn’t seen to affect him. I think that he thinks his depression is from the relationship, and I feel like if I let him return to his neutral state I think he’ll realize he made a mistake and start to miss me. Then I think I’ll reach out to him and start from beginning a new spark with him. Does this sound like it would be effective?
Sorry to hear that but yes, sounds like a plan. Right now employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ua-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/v-deo.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ua-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/v-deo.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
If being disconnected and not attending to her feelings and needs for yrs. Is the reason for her leaving. Is the no contact good for this senerio? Married 17yrs. 47yrs old. No kids together.
If you mean you somehow neglected her? She could just be tired of dealing with that, especially if this went on for long. Is she still open to working things out though? While I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU
Brad.. My ex bf chat with me like a friend in a positive way now after completing 1 month no contact.. Yesterday he viewed my story when i go out with my friends.. He asked where i have gone. I told i wento to my frnd's house. Then later he asked in which of all places visited with friends like beach, malls... I then asked you want to know everything from me?? He then said No. I replied Ok.. That's the end of our last chat... Is this good move from my side to get him back???? Pls reply
That was a bit sarcastic. It could've been done better. Anyway ty to keep it lighthearted next time. Remember, the aim is to build positive rapport with your ex, not spark needless drama, yeah? :-)
Hey i have a question??My ex and i had lots of fights during our relationship, he said I hurt him so much by turning cold and insecure, he talked to be about this for 4 months and I was immature and didn’t listen. Now we have broken up for a week and first he was said he didn’t love me anymore and then became hot and cold towards me and took me back and broke up right after two times, then I got so hurt because he downloaded tinder “and he had previously said that he just wanted to be for himself and not date anyone” and as I was going thorough the heartbreak of my life I unfriended him on social media and told him that I never wanted to see him again, that hurt him a lot and he absolutely didn’t wanna talk to me. Then I tried to make things right and asked if we at least could be friends again, and he agreed and it actually seemed fine for once but then I saw him on tinder for myself and lashed out on him and was rude and everything, saying that he can do whatever the fuck he wants and bla bla and I tried to even take him back the day after, but he just cursed at me and said that he doesn’t wanna try again after I insulted him and told me if I write to him again he will block me. Is my chances with him screwed, or can I still fix it by waiting? I’m so confused and actually can’t believe he moved on
Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ua-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/v-deo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ua-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/v-deo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
Whats ur advice on an ex that has blocked you via text and social media ? is that totally over? Nothing overly crazy even occurred but ill admit ive sent a lot of the long paragraph emotional texts to her explaining why I care about her and reminiscing on old memories. Whats your advice?
You really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you and/or provoking a response or sending an emotional text will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: ua-cam.com/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/v-deo.html
So Brad, just out of curiosity. If my ex left me because she thought I cheated (I didn't) though admittedly I'd spent way more time single than in relationships and I definitely should have adjusted my language accordingly. Should I still apply the no contact rule?
Try to clear the misunderstanding first to the best of your ability, granted your ex is still willing to hear it. If not, then yes, give each other space first.
Brad please help me i cheated on my girl with my freinds girlfreind then she showed up after 2 weeks with my freind who i slept with his girl they both hated on me and got to gether my ex told me last night that she wanted to reveng but now she is in the trap and fell in love with him cause he makes her happy and fixes her heart and she still talks with me about their relationship to make me jealous but in other hand she told me she want to meet me as a freind cause she doesnt want her boyfreind to be worried . Man my situation god damn complex please help
If you're sure you want to fix the relationship, the best thing to do right now is to take responsibility and admit to your ex that you've effed up and try to be patient and sympathetic with what your ex is going through and just disappear from your ex's life for a while, because right now, you are a constant reminder of the pain and your ex needs to heal from that first. And saying sorry is not gonna fix that right away, it takes time. By cheating, you're automatically putting the ball in your ex's court and have lost privilege to take your power back in all this. It's up to your ex now and how soon they can forgive you and move on from the incident, not necessarily from the relationship although some people do that. With that in mind, these may help: ua-cam.com/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/v-deo.html Whatever you do, make sure you avoid doing the stuff here that will only push your ex further away: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo
I and my girlfriend was in a relationship of 3 years, from last year november our long distance relationship started, and suddenly from February she started kinda ignoring me, and ignoring my calls to some level, and then from mid april, she stopped replying my messages and calls, I tried contacting her through her friend and different means but nothing worked, then finally we somehow met last week. In that last meet, I asked her everything, and she finally ended up saying she can't continue this relationship because of family problems, she feel since she has to hide this from her family, so she feel she is doing wrong with her family and feeling very suffocated and so she said that this was it, it's over and she can reply to my messages in future but only as a friend and asked me not to expect anything regarding relationship. Now, in this week, we have talked twice or thrice but just like friends and I feel hurt. What should I do, please help. PS - there is a birthday party of our mutual friends next week, wheŕe I have to go and she also might come.
You absolutely need to heal first and shift your source of happiness from her and this relationship... to something else. Find your passion again and get a new hobby. The distance may or may not have played a role in the ending but without knowing your situation well, I can't really say for sure. Whatever the case may be, you really ought to give her space. Otherwise, she is only guaranteed to hurt you further. Respect her decision to break up, okay? Apply the tips here too: ua-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/v-deo.html
Hey Brad. I was doing no contact at the beginning of the month when my ex and I decided to wait 2 weeks to see each other again. She reached out a couple times during the wait…we hung out and cooked dinner this past Wednesday like we planned. Nothing was really discussed about us or the relationship but it was a perfect night…we set up another night in 2 weeks again. Plus she already planned something for us to do for my birthday coming up in May in the same text after leaving Thursday morning to set up our next night on the 27th. Should I go back into no contact and wait for her to reach out til then, or is it safe to start reaching out myself now? Really would help me out, thank you!
I'm not sure what you're both trying to do here. Are you guys just taking a break or has she totally dumped you? If you're not sure, then a key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
Hello brad ,I finished the 30 days of no contact with my ex, I was able to text him once with a good reason, and now I'm thinking if I should chat with him every day ?, plsss help me with this.
Pace yourself and make sure you keep busy on other things in your life. You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Try not to worry too much about it. Unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ua-cam.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/v-deo.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html Good luck!
You're welcome. Don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Best of luck!
Hey Brad. We still live together with my GF, 4 days ago she has another boyfriend. She said to me that she doesn't love me anymore. We didn't say that we're breaking up. I was shock that she has a new boyfriend already. 2 days ago, After she said YES to her new boyfriend, we talk. She apologize for not saying to me that she is in love with someone else. And she said a lot that can hurt my feelings. She said that I dont have time for her because I always play instrument. So she decide to left me. I know its my fault. Every night her boyfriend went to our house to picked her up for their date. She still talk to me like a friend. She share her experience about her new boyfriend every time she go home. I can saw in her face that she is really inlove with the guy. It really hurts. We still sleep together, eat together, etc. What should I do? I hope you noticed me.
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
Hello, I am really confused now. My gf lost interest in me because I was too dominating, we had much quarrel etc. Then she left me. It's been 7 days we are still talking over whatsapp. She sees my whatsapp status and replies to my stories. Sometimes she says she misses me and sometimes she gives me a compliment that I'm a handsome man. Last night she told that it would be painful for me to see you leave this city, as I m going to move to some other city for job purpose. I simply replied "Don't think much". Next day she saw my message and didn't reply. Was that rude for her? How should I reply to her in this situation? Should I need to ignore her or should I talk to her like a caring partner like before ? Or should I stop contacting her? I'm very much confused at this stage before doing anything I really need to know.
This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/RSKJi8VK2g8/v-deo.html But were you actually too controlling? It might be time to change that. It's either that OR she's making up excuses to justify the breakup. Only you would know. Either way it's best to give each other time and space. Keeping contact with her means you disrespected her decision and you might be viewed as controlling which is not really what you'd be aiming for. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html
Hi Brad..My bf breakup withme on 22nd nov 2022.I have done 30 days no contact.. And he texted me on 24th day... Now we are chatting like friends... No daily texts... Sometimes only in a positive interaction..... What i have to do now?
Try to follow my texting tips as much as possible and learn to discern which best suits your situation or just minimize your confusion and get my Ex Factor Guide as that offers step-by-step instruction on how to go about things, at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Anyway from what little information you've told me, it looks like you're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Just curious me and my ex ended on good terms and we got back in contact with each other and then 2 weeks after started talking. She started being rude to me and lying about me and my family even though me and my family has done nothing to her but she is making up lies about us. What's the reason?
She doesn't want to take responsibility for her actions and is shifting the blame on you. Does she have a victim mentality? My ex fianceé is the same way.
It's because one or both of you have been rushing to talk. Two weeks isn't enough. That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
@@lexicon4u not that I know of she never blame anyone else before, unless it was her brother but that make sense but other than that no. So idk what she's doing
Hello Brad, we are in 3 years relationship, and 10 days ago he wanted a break because he feel unhappy in our relationship. He said he wants to explore options, meet new people, and he wants to find himself again. He s confused and don’t know what to do in his life. We fight a lot but we also spend great time together. However, I broke his trust back in December, I did not cheat, but to him it was cheating. His trust has been loosen since, but I really want him back. He said it will be a 3 months break, but he won’t promise anything even though he still cares for me a lot. What can I do in this scenario?
How is he acting recently? Give yourselves time first. If your ex has the "Grass is Greener" Syndrome, realize and accept that this is outside your control and really the best you can do is becoming the best version of yourself and vibrate higher, which means NOT taking less than what you deserve and not settling to just becoming an option, especially if this used to be a stable relationship between you two. He's likely taken you for granted, so you don't really need that in your life. Use the law of attraction. You deserve love and worth of love, so you can only attract love. If he goes away from it, then you repelled him and will only attract him back if he vibrates as high as you. Otherwise, be open to new people that's on your level. Be strong!
@@BradBrowning Now we officialy broke, he said he is confused of where he is in life and is suffering to find his own happiness. For now he only rely to party as his source of temporarily happiness. He said he still love and care for me a lot, and he said time will answer and trust its process. He also mentioned to focus on improving ourselves, and wishes the best for me, he said we can still be friend
It's up to you both really but if you have a choice and your ex isn't asking for her stuff back right away, I suggest to wait at least 30 days, so until after the no contact rule where you've given yourself time to calm down and accept things and heal a bit. Good luck!
Hii coach , my ex said she needed a break as she was not doing mentally better 3 months ago and asked me to wait , i waited with hopes she would come back to me , and we occasionaly texted also and some flirting was also there , she was busy with her work so i waited , right now after 3 months , she is saying she is not ready for a realtionship , as we both have our competitive exams and other stuff going on , but she says that we shall be good friends also , what should i do coach , should i do the no contact rule ??is there any hopes for me
That's a bad idea as that will absolutely lead you nowhere. Don't do it, man. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
Hey Brad can i ask your for an advice so my ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago and i really want jer back but the problem is that she is falling on love with Someone else and i don't know if she Will every come back to me Also there is another problem and that problem is that she has DID (identity disored) and i don't know what to do i am trying my best with the no contact strategy but i am not sure Will it work and advice please
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
@@BradBrowning thanks you for the respons i Will try my best and who knows if anything good happens i Will let you knwo or maybe sign up for your program but anyways thanks for responding
My ex is confused about her feelings. She left me because she started liking her friend and now she said that they are friends only. What should I do ?
She sounds really confused. It's best to keep your distance from her and give her space. Life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
I thought from my gut it was the right time for me to text her about the one actual problem(didn’t expect anything from her which I wasn’t being desperate and still focusing on my schedule even after receiving her reply). And she said she was sorry to hear the situation and hopefully it works out and said that’s horrible to hear that’s happen to me. But I don’t know what to reply after and Im curious why she saved the text afterwards.
This really depends. How long has it been since the breakup and have you cut off contact for 30 days yet? If you haven't cut off contact yet for at least 30 days, then you should prioritize that instead of interacting with your ex. On the other hand, IF you have already cut off contact, then you're on the right track. There's no need to redo the no contact just because it didn't exactly went well the first time or you're not getting the response you anticipated. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html and be guided accordingly based on the phases of what needs to happen, here: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html and check out my other vids for more guidance. Best of luck!
hey Brad! i have been in a long distance relationship for 3 years and i suddenly felt that my ex is losing feelings. I asked him if something's wrong and he told me he isn't stable to be in a relationship right now and left me by saying he still loves me. I'm very confused on what to do in this situation. Please help :))
This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/YxWY57XCouo/v-deo.html The distance will always be a major culprit though. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
The no contact rule isn't the magic bullet to resolve things. If it were that easy, then everybody will be back with their exes in no time. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/RzfIsEAAxdg/v-deo.html
Hi Brad my girlfriend said she don't wanna be in relationship with me when i asked for a reason she didn't had one and she hadn't take admission ko clg and me either Bcoz we were trying to qualify a exam and maybe she and her family blames me somewhere for that mad my be i m somewhere responsible she wished me 28th months anniversary 15days ago but things aren't going good may be its breakup or maybe not what should i do i m already on no contact but 3 days only please tell what to do after no contact and how long no contact should be she is the love of my life in beginning when her behaviour changed i begged her but now i m felling good and i have control over my emotions please tell please i request you ❤️🙏
Sorry to hear that. The bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and the golden rules here: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
Hi Brad actually I have been in relationship for 6 years and 6 days ago we decided to have a break because he just don't respect me and always says that go away I don't want to talk to you and much more so I watched your video and started no contact and it's been only 6 days yesterday I had his 25 misscalls I rejected all the calls but at last I picked up , he said that why you are not picking the call . Block me up I can't resist calling you . I asked if anything is important then he said no nothing. Then I said okk but I don't want to talk . Bye and disconnected the call. Is my behaviour okay or what should I doo????? Please please give me the answer please
Yes, you played your cards right since your ex is very well confused. Keep it up and give him the space and time he really needs. Here's this to consider: ua-cam.com/video/xbDPq23YaNE/v-deo.html so take the free quiz if you wanna know what your chances are, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz However, that kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
My ex chased me before but he pulled away, because he knew I had someone new, but when he stops chasing me, I felt that I want him back again, what should I do?
Depends on your choice and whether you want to rekindle stuff with your ex. How long has it been since the breakup and have you cut off contact for 30 days yet? If you haven't cut off contact yet for at least 30 days, then you should prioritize that instead of interacting with your ex. On the other hand, IF you have already cut off contact, then you're on the right track. There's no need to redo the no contact just because it didn't exactly went well the first time or you're not getting the response you anticipated. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html and be guided accordingly based on the phases of what needs to happen, here: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
I did not make the no contact rule. We broke up last January 27, then after 2 days of the break up I chased him, and after one month of chasing him, I stopped, then he started chasing me when I let him go, but when he knew I have someone new, he pulled away. And it’s already clear to us that he’s let me go. But, I want him to chase me again. I want him back
Yes, it is. All is fair in love and war, so they say. But it's time to take a look at the bigger picture here. It doesn't really matter what your ex is doing. Chances are your ex is rebounding anyway but the point is you shouldn't be focused on that right now. That's all out of your control. Focus on yourself instead and show (NOT tell) your ex you accept her decision to break up. If you do, you'll accept that you're both single and therefore you'd stop overanalyzing every little stuff. All right? Here are the basics to getting an ex back: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and you can see that the 30-day "no contact" rule is an absolute must. I also suggest that you read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, etc. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy
Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ua-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/v-deo.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ua-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/v-deo.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
Hy Brad it has been 2months since we break with my Ex I tryed calling her last night asking her about my goods she didn't picked up then later in the mng she called me back and I answered I told her I'm going to send someone to pick it for me And she like ouk she is very come and she talks to me Later she taxed me and asked me for something also and she Sayed that she wants to meet with me and pick it she is replying me immediately bt me I take longer to reply back bro wat can I do
Switch to texting. Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
Me and my ex broke up 3 months ago and we have been in contact with one another, a little more now than previously. But no reconciliation, should I do the 30 no contact or is it too late ?
I'd still suggest to give the "no contact" rule a shot because that's still really your best bet, which will work in a sense where you BOTH will get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with each other when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Makes sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? Sometimes it does, but other times (especially if your situation is unique) it won't, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html There's also a risk of you being strung along if you don't cut off contact and give each other that much needed space and while it's beneficial for your ex, it's really detrimental to the dumpee in the end, so be careful. I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: ua-cam.com/video/obBIttQSak4/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning thank you so much , yes I would hate to be led on. He’s invited me for dinner a few times and he’s been to my house for dinner as well, but no intimacy. It’s a little odd we have decent conversations over FaceTime but everything is still at a standstill … so yesterday was my first day of NO CONTACT ( but he was lurking on my Facebook) …. Wish me luck
Hi brad, im just broke up on 6 april, and i started the no contacts on 11 april which is monday. And last tuesday i saw her Instagram story, its about song that she want be the only one in someone arms and i assume thats me. What should i do?
If it's you, then all she has to do is ask for you back. Don't torture yourself with overthinking. cut off contact first and this means cutting off unnecessary communication with your ex in any way, shape or form for at least 30 days. It also means ignoring unimportant or random messages from your ex for at least 30 days straight. This also involves NOT looking at any of your ex's online profiles so you won't overthink things. In other words, the "no contact" period is a time where you fully focus on yourself and take time to heal. Take care!
Below is the text my ex sent to my friend when she tried to plead with him to reconsider the break up the sad thing is I didn't know I was being toxic and I really need help. What do I do? First off Divine asked for a break up with hopes that as usual I will beg her, unfortunately I was also fed up and I was relived to see it all end. I know I owe you no explanation whatsoever but I will indulge you anyway. I know everyone thinks we had something good and I just decided to ruin it but no, It wasn't good for me, it was fucking hell from day 1. I do not remember a moment where I was genuinely happy except the first few days. Every day after that was me struggling to not get on Divine's nerves because I had to do everything she wanted else I would have to deal with her being sad until I eventually give in. I'm sorry I let y'all believe it was good but it wasn't Do I love her? Yes but love doesn't automatically cancel out toxic. That doesn't matter at all right now. This is almost like you asking your friend to stay in a relationship where she is getting beat up just because he loves him and he has changed. Has she changed? Probably, Am I willing to find out? No fucking way
How long have you been together with her? It sounds heartfelt especially if you've only been with her for a short while. Sometimes it does get toxic or is way too toxic from the start and it's not worth the save because you two just don't match. Nothing wrong with that, this is why you learn and try to do better next time, yeah? Best of luck in your future endeavour!
Unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ua-cam.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/v-deo.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html Good luck!
Hey I'm confused . Is this considered the same method for someone Engaged Still living together Have A Child together . Yes we still communicate and sleep on same Bed And Also Spend Time Together . . I am in a very Confusing Conflict My Spouse Says she is not with me because I pushed her away . I am trying to give her as much Space Possible . But it's impossible due to what I mentioned . Idk is this is Temporary or I'm not sure what to think . Yes I am definitely working on my Self and trying to be positive and show her I Take Full Responsibility for my ACTIONS
How are you pushing her away though? And it's a different set of rules if you live together. If you still live with your ex, then do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk AND y2u.be/GTjEAGJWTuA I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
I answer these comments usually in the order that I receive them So I will most likely answer your comment soon if I haven’t already. But if your situation is really that urgent, then the best way to get a hold of me is via coaching, sign up at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching so I can factor in all the events in place and therefore be more qualified to guide you. I do need to communicate with my clients on a regular basis to see if we're on the same page. Make sense? Thanks for your understanding!
My ex dumped me and blocked me on Facebook, a week afterwards she unblocked me and I thought we were making progress. I sent her a clean slate message apologising for being a dick and all the pleading and that. Then last night I find out she's blocked me again after like a week and like a fucking idiot I texted her asking why and she sent me a message basically saying she was never messaging me again and that in order to heal she needs to not contact me. I need to try to move on.
As I've mentioned in a ton of my vids, you really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: ua-cam.com/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/v-deo.html
Brad my relationship is in 5½ month recently we had a break up , nearly 1½ month is over I call but she blocks my number and also Instagram. She sead at the time of brake up like you not caring and you not understanding me ect ect ...then I sead please give me last chance, she not giveing any chance. She tooks 5 numbers to beat me at the time of brake up. She sead don't Love me again, your is yours, Brad my brake up was do too aggel. Pls what to do now Brad I need she me
Don't call. Oftentimes that will catch your ex off guard or vice versa, not to mention it's intrusive because you'll come off too strong, especially if you don't know what you're doing, which is a recipe for disaster. Start with a text first. This vid is for you so I really suggest you watch it from start to end: ua-cam.com/video/jka4S6syZPs/v-deo.html
His reaction is, I should say... predictable. I've warned my female viewers about this tendency to happen. Watch these first: ua-cam.com/video/qoEZiPn9EH0/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/pXKPxAXaunc/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, I lost my girlfriend in January after she just chose another guy after me, did no contact and she kept reaching out adding me on socials blocking and unblocking, telling me she misses me so I did a month of no contact and reached out and she says she going to Paris for a weekend with him already it’s been 2 months, why is there relationship moving so fast? She also even admitted she misses me to her new boyfriend… Also because she told me she misses me I made the mistake of telling her how I feel, now she’s blocked me completely and have no idea what to do, so lost right now and broken
Her actions towards you alone should be enough to give you the courage to start moving on. It's total disrespect and you shouldn't tolerate that. Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ua-cam.com/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/v-deo.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in UA-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Hey Brad my ex broke up with me after 4 years relationship and he had cheated me more than 2 times in the 4-year relationship what is time he say he liked nadica and he threw me away but after brickhouse still be in contact with me for last 2 months and I went to visit him and after that he broke up with me I don't know what I supposed do. He said he liked me but he can be with me because he cannot love me the way he used to love.please give me some ny advice and I'm from Asia so are there any ways to buy the book.
I take it he's with someone new now? At best, chances are he's confused. At worst, he's chosen another woman over you and I know none of this sounds good and I'm really sorry to hear that. Being cheated on is truly one of the biggest heartaches you could ever experience, relating closely and coming second to grieving for the dead. There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and/or making a solid effort to get back together after giving each other some time and space apart. While the situation is truly painful for you, it gives you the most growth as well so take that time to rediscover yourself and your own strength in getting through this. So really, my suggestion is to heal from this and be open to new possibilities. You ought to apply the tips here but it's really up to your ex to learn: ua-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/v-deo.html if you want to find out what your chances are, however, then feel free to take the free quiz on my website at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
@@BradBrowning he is regretting and say I felt like did a mistake it all happened when I talk to him, he said he missed me so should I ghost him or how sir I need to advice please
Hey brad my ex and I broke a while back about 5 months ago she has this new guy in her life but we still talk daily she even called me last night and reminiscing on the good times we had and spend with each other however he told her to stop talking to me but she still do what does all of this means I know for sure she isn't confused anymore but I wish I knew what was going on in her head does she want me back does she still have feelings for me I don't know but one thing for sure I know is she still cares about me so i don't know if that's my shot in the long run
I hope I'm wrong but it looks like she wants to have her cake and eat it too, and you are being an option, which is really bad for you. Ironically if she cares about you, she will leave you alone and/or not string you along like that because she clearly has someone else and is her choice. It's up to you now to play your cards right though. Watch this first in case you missed it: ua-cam.com/video/35Pxw6ZuD_M/v-deo.html
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Thanks Brad I'm in the clear so far, I don't beg my ex to come back, send gifts or anything like that, I don't text him either instead I'm focused on myself and self improvement too. I do text him back though, keep it light hearted, flirting a little but nothing too obvious either and been trying to build that emotional connection again with him.
My ex hang outs with guy friends and even dances with them and what not. She says she’s free to do whatever she wants and that fixing things isn’t her priority. But I want her back but I’m not okay with the whole guy thing and she doesn’t care. How should I feel about this ? Am I dumb for wanting her back after those things she does ???
Awesome! Yes, you're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Does no contact work with a person who is a serial rebounder? My ex almost always immediately jumps into a new relationship simply so she doesn’t have to face the pain or be lonely. I think she’s already done it to me here.
Tough situation. Sorry to hear.
I’m going to be blunt… serial rebounders are generally not worth pursuing. Could No Contact work? For sure. It would be my recommendation for you without a doubt. But I would also advise you to think about whether you want to be in this position again in a few months or years down the road. Unfortunately, that is likely to happen if you get back together (assuming your ex has a long history of never being single and always lining up a “replacement” relationship before breaking up). People can change, but most “serial rebounders” are simply always suffering from Grass Is Greener Syndrome. Are you sure it’s worth it?
Engage in No Contact regardless of your answer to that question. 🙂. Good luck!
Hi Brad i hope you notice me coz i need an advice badly. Because i accidentally read the conversation of my boyfriend to his ex girlfriend that there planning to their future without me knowing. We are 3 years together in 3 years we arguing everytime i caught him chatting with his exe's yeah exe's because he has a lot of girl friend b4 we meet. But i end up forgive him because i love him so much and i dont know what to do if we break up. I want to fight for our relationship to stay strong and longer but i can't do it alone. B4 pandemic we have a lot of plans in our future and now his planning there future to his ex gf its like my bf just using me while his ex are taken and now his ex broke up to her fiance she want my boyfriend back to her😥 i dont know what to do,its hurt me so much im scared i know sooner his going to tell me his plan and break up with me. I know if i beg him to stay with me its not gonna happen😭coz he love his ex gf than me and i feel it.😥 why my loved and cared are not enough for him im protecting him from his scammer exes. I did'nt ask anything to him coz im not a materialistic person. I want him to be healthy and safe. Im single and focus for him to take care of him but instead he want to be with his ex that had a kids already with different father. He told me that we can't afford to have a baby but he can afford to support others man kids😥 So please advice me😥 i can't ask advise to my friend coz she's heart broken too😢
I’m a client of Brads.
No I do not have my ex back…….yet.
I’ve also accepted that I may not get her back.
This is about looking at yourself. Amazing how tunnel vision distorts reality. So easy to miss the elephant in the room, ME😂😂
Carry on and good luck.
Thanks Dave, you’re 100% right…. And I’m glad you’re benefiting from our conversations even if we haven’t achieved the primary goal yet.
(Don’t forget to come back and edit your comment here once you are eventually back together… 😉)
@@BradBrowning 😂😂
As you say, people aren’t math problems!
Time will tell and it’s not been as long as I thought! You’ll see in my message.
If I do not reunite, it will be no fault of yours.
I did some mistakes in the begining, but now 3 weeks after the breakup with sporadic time together after the first week I have finally moved out, ready to begin no contact. I did also manage to use the meeting during my moving day to show that I am okay with moving on, and that I don’t see friendship as a natural stage between us after the break up.
Looking good so far! Just make sure to employ the full 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ua-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/v-deo.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ua-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/v-deo.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
I didn’t beg and my ex rn is in a rebound with my friend xD she is very happy and all. And I don’t even plan on taking her back or winning her back. Just watching Brad’s video makes me feel good.
Knowing your worth and self love is key when it comes to an ex running off to someone else. You did the right thing focusing on yourself. Good job! And thanks for dropping by! :-)
Really good video. I've made many of these mistakes unfortunately but this is really helping me to move on.
Thanks! And yes, not all relationships can be salvaged or are meant to be salvaged. It does help to know when to draw the line. Take care!
Hi Brad! My boyfriend broke up with me 10 days ago - I used the no contact and he messeged me last Friday. He told me he is sorry, that this happened and that the worst thing for him is that he has nobody to talk to about this so he messeged me, because I am the only one he can tell this to. I replied that i am sorry to hear this and if he wants to talk about this - he said he is sorry for bothering me and shouldnt dm me. I typed “ok”. He broke up with me because he lost his romantic feelings - he has been lying to me for past month telling me he loves me. This year was super hard for me by mental side. I was exhausted from school.. Our relationship was perfect - no arguments, spending time together, supporting each other. I was super shocked he told me he has been losing his feelings for past month. We were together for 3.5 years.. He told me he has special feelings for me and he wants me in his life - but no in romantic way. I am still sticking in no contact for last 10 days. He even messeged me 2 days ago he wishes me best of luck with school since I have my finals. Is there any chance he will come back? Thank you for being here with us, Brad. Helping people with broken heart❤️
Just remember, a key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning Thank you so much!
Hey Brad, yesterday my boyfriend broke up with me for the final time and i’ve acted completely irrationally. I threw his phone and have been begging and pleading for him back, that was until i saw your youtube channel and i’ve been watching your videos all day. I’m 16 and I have been in this relationship for almost 5 months. We did argue at times and we both handled things extremely wrong, i begged him to stay with me and he did multiple times but yesterday he told me he “doesn’t want us to work out” and that he won’t want to be in a relationship with years. I have been trying to look at the situation logically and see that he obviously does love and want to be with me it’s just not the right time for him right now. He’s coming over to my house in about twenty minutes to talk to me and I am going to tell him to take the space he needs and that i won’t be reaching out until he’s ready. I have also done a bunch of begging and apologizing but i’m sure they were more annoying messages because i was beating up myself rather than seeing his feelings.
When he arrives im going to say something similar to your text message suggestions: “ im so sorry about how i acted, i wasn’t myself and i had been battling other things outside of our relationship and i took it out on you and you didn’t deserve it”
then, im going to explain that he can have space and im going to try initiating the no contact rule. this is where im going to have the hardest time but im hoping i can follow the rule. Now, I watched multiple videos but i’ m still not sure what to do to win him back after all of this. I don’t have money to pay for the program so i understand if you can’t provide any other help but if you can, it would be greatly appreciated as I really really love him and I want to win him back.
Thank you so much, i hope to hear back from you.
-Destiny
Try to take control of your own emotions instead of letting it control you. That should be your aim, whatever happens and however this turns out. However, that kind of mindset takes practice and grows well over time. Life is also or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
Hi Brad.
Hope you're doing well.
I've been watching your videos for a while now and they've helped me a lot. But I have a different and a very tough scenario now.
You see, my partner suffers from Retroactive Jealousy since the beginning of our relationship and he used to doubt me alot of having a promiscuous past. I always denied it because I thought it's better if he never finds out. I stayed loyal with him and cut off everybody else.
But eventually, he dug into my past and found out everything. He was furious and left me. I gave him time and space and finally he came back because he said that he loves me too much and that he knows I'm a different person now I don't run after every other guy to get physical with him.
Even though our relationship wasn't healthy, but it was getting better day by day. His trust was building. There was just one thing I never told him that when we became friends and he was developing feelings for me, I was with someone else and I not only had a make out with him, but also with his friend on the same day. After that, I left that guy and my current relationship started and I devoted myself to him and him only. I forgave myself for the mistakes I made and started becoming a better person for him.
Now recently, I don't know how but he found out about this one time with two guys. And his feelings completely shattered. He says that I cheated on him and that he had forgiven and forgotten my past but this is unbearable that I was with two other guys at the same time we were getting involved. He probably hates me now. I honestly hate myself too for being such a person who never stayed with a single man until I met him and he made me become a better person.
I really don't want to lose him. I've been having panic attacks, I can't stop crying and I honestly don't know what am I supposed to do now. I can't let him go. Please help me. 😔
I think it's the lies that haunt him somehow. However, if he has no reason to be really suspicious of you, then his jealousy is unwarranted. It's not fair to use your past against you but you're still not in the clear for lying to him. You're both messing this up really so there's no real culprit here but the ghost of the past. Give yourselves time to think clearly and calm down especially since he has some serious trust issues he needs to sort out within himself first. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html
Girls should learn from you that sleeping with lota of guys hás permanent consequences
@@lordfeeda9627 Yeah but if a woman can change herself and put her past behind her, doesn't mean that people should start digging it up. And if God can forgive me for my sins, why can't men do?
I just watched your video about when not to use no contact. My girl after two days has already messaged me twice about wanting to get back together. The caveat, I broke up with her. She committed the damage. A lot of this seems to be tailored for the dumpee versus the dumper. I don’t want her back yet, the damage is still stinging. I would sleep with her, but I feel like that would most likely be very swallow to do. So I have been No Contacting, so I don’t make an error. But also still have a chance for a good lay in the future, or maybe another try if she has changed her ways. It just worries me because her messages keep stating she “f’ed up and that we should talk since we’re both hurting, and we’re each others best friends.” My only fear of no contacting is she’ll take it as betrayal on my end, and there will be no chance to hookup in the future, or a chance to take her back in if I forgive her. It may be selfish, let me know if it is, but having her as an option seems good. Maybe it’s because it’s fresh.
Yes, it is for the dumpees, but a few for the dumpers as well. This really depends though. What changes have you asked of your ex? Basically asking to change their core personality won't work and will only build resentment, which will eventually doom the relationship to failure anyway. No amount of breaking up can resolve that. So try to see if what you're asking your ex is realistic and that you aren't being selfish (I'm not saying you are, but there's a possibility again, depending on what you asked, depending on what change you demand from your partner) or if it's necessary because it's for the betterment of your relationship, you, and for your ex and if your ex is willing to change this time around. This video is for you and should help:
ua-cam.com/video/PJHf-s_VwKk/v-deo.html
I don't want him back again ,he came back talked as friends for a year .But after that it was on n off connection between us , later when we blocked each other again. I found out that his accounts are linked with that girl who he cheated me for. Apparently it didn't hurt me because i migrated to another city ,also he said come visit me many times but universe never wanted that . Moreover a man should take a step towards woman ,old sayings are true that defines true love.He manipulated me alot for 7 years but i got rid off him...focus on your career people ❤️ thank you Brad 👑 your an angel...
His social media accounts were linked with that girl who he cheated me for ,can u believe that . people always be extra careful going back to them...
It looks like you've done the right thing and you certainly didn't deserve to be an option or him hiding someone else behind your back. His actions aren't your fault though, it's his choice. Good job moving on from this despite what you've been through together. Stay strong!
Thanks Brad
. It would be interesting to make a video about your ex leaving you because she is having a mid-life crisis. I have seen a drastic change in her behavior with me. Yet, a few months before, she told me she was lucky to be with the best man in the world. I noticed that she was suddenly distant with me for no reason and when I read on her phone some naughty exchanges with men where they said that it was time for her to enjoy her life, otherwise it would be too late for her because she would be getting older, I then understood that the midlife crisis was at the origin of our separation. It is very sad for me after 15 years of happy marriage that things turn bad suddenly.
Sorry to hear that. It could be that or depression. There's a fine line between those two and it's best to consult with someone qualified on that for best results, especially if it was a sudden occurrence. Anyway while I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU
hey brad. i recently commented on one of your more recent videos and got a reply back and watched this video as well as the others. in the first three days of our breakup i begged and tried to change his mind. i apologized because it was dumb of me. he accepted it and i agreed to give him space. it has almost been 2 weeks since our breakup. and this is going to be like the first real week of us no communicating? our relationship was so healthy. do you believe that i messed it up? even if i made those mistakes the first couple days after our breakup?
Hi, I did no contact, and I've been waiting for her to start the conversation. She's been really cold with short texts. She says she loves me, (I don't say it first). We dated for 3 months, broke up a month and a half now. When should I reach out to her? 6 days strong so far. Like I said no contact already came and she broke it.
Try to reach out after 2 weeks with zero contact between you and her. Don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Best of luck!
hi my boyfriend blocked me because he told me I didn't respect him..it's no contact will work for this situation? thank you
Hey Brad I am from India, Some how the payment is getting declined in your exfactor course and I am not able to purchase it! Please help!
Really sorry to hear that. My payment merchants are Clickbank and Paypal and I'm afraid they have their own restrictions that are well outside my control, sorry. Try to figure it out with your bank, maybe? In the meantime, you should be able to find lots of information on how to get your ex back by doing all the right steps on my channel here, so check out my other videos as well. They're completely free and comes at no cost to you. Lots of people have found success with it, maybe you can, too. You can also leave me a brief description of what you're going through. I always respond to comments. Just keep it concise as I try to answer to as many comments as I can. Good luck!
I begged and pleaded at the beginning. Then I tried no contact. Lasted 2 weeks. Then I broke no contact and told her how I’m working on myself. Now I’ve been in no contact for about 40 days. I haven’t heard a thing from her. At what point do I reach out and say something? I feel like no contact isn’t working. I haven’t heard a peep from her.
Average time is 30 days but can go anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks in usual cases. If there's been some endless begging and/or refusing to cut off contact on your end, however, I usually suggest to give it more time, around 2 months or even more. Cheating instances are different if you've cheated, could be longer or shorter depending on how your ex reacts. Do take note that in some instances where the dumpee just couldn't take the hint and continually bugs their ex for months, there comes a time where the ex reaches a "breaking point" and confirms it's the right decision to break up and becomes hellbent in moving on from you. So the bottom line is the "no contact" rule is best applied when the breakup is still fresh. Discussed the importance of silence here: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Also don't forget to watch my other vids so you'll know what to do after the "no contact" phase, especially if you're not getting my Ex Factor Guide. Good luck!
Hey Brad I was with somebody for 6 years and we finally planned to move in together. We had a fight and I broke off things due to lack of giving communication on her end (and she was always exhausted). I still care about her and I haven't been very understanding and didn't give her much space. She didn't block me but was mad I wasn't understanding to give her space. (Now I understand after watching your videos.) She has been cold and slightly rude to me when we talk. She told me she isn't interested in a relationship with me ever or with anyone for that matter.
We had an argument not long ago because I felt hurt from her rude behavior saying hurtful things and she told me she is even losing interest in being a friend to me which hurt. She clearly tells me she needed space but I made mistakes of thinking we could still spend some time together and it was her birthday yesterday.
I told her I was sorry for being rude and not understanding and I told her I will give her as much space as she needs and I won't bother her anymore. I told her if she wants to talk whether it would be friends or by some miracle a relationship, I told her my door is always open.
I'm thinking I should start NC, what would be your advice Brad?
Give her time to think/figure out her feelings for you as well as miss you. As this vid suggested, you can't go wrong with giving her space. Feel free to check out my other vids as well, especially this which should give you an idea on how to go about this: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html For a complete, step-by-step procedure though, consider getting my Ex Factor Guide at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi Brad! My boyfriend and I broke up 11 days ago. He has removed all traces of me on social media but does still follow me but will not view my stories on any content I post. There have been times where he now avoids places that I go so he doesn’t run in to me from what I’ve heard from mutual friends. Is this a bad sign that no contact will not work?
The "no contact" rule usually comes naturally to the dumpers and all that kind of behaviour you've just described. Learn the 3 basic phases I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. It helps to learn the basics of my 3R system here first, so you'll have an idea on how to go about it on your end: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
Hello Mr Brad, my girlfriend has not been talking to me for about three days now. though we had misunderstanding and we've settled. i was chatting with her last night and i told her that i have missed her, she replied that "she has been thinking about her projects and can't think of other things right now" that she hopes i understand. I'm a bit scared cause before she broke up with me last time, it seems similar with this. Please what do I do?
What was the last time like? She got busy and put you aside? Try to work out a solution where you won't feel that way especially if that leads to fights which can be sorted out by having a simple, mature conversation. You're also welcome to sign up for my coaching program if you're unsure how to go about this or you're planning to do something but not sure if it's a good idea or not, etc. but I would have to look a the situation as a whole in order to give solid advice, at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi Brad,I broke up with my boyfriend 2 months ago,The guilty is killing me,I have been trying to forgive myself sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't, I almost done all the 3 mistakes you've mentioned,but I think it is time to let him go in peace, I'm now focusing on changing myself to be the better version of me in every aspect,Though I have missed him a lot,I've tried my best but there is no more I could do
I'm sure you've done your best and yes, give yourself that much needed rest. Regardless of whether you're trying to get an ex back or simply move on, it should be your top priority to heal and rest as much as you need. You matter too. Over time, you'd also naturally gain clarity whether the relationship is worth saving or not, so don't rush it. You're on the right path. Take care!
Hi Brad, I sent her I miss you and I’m always there for you a week or two after breakup (she broke up with me) because she started to talk to someone new I think I messed up already just on emotion any way to salvage it? She kept saying she’s probably making the worst mistake but she has to remove herself because she didn’t want to hurt me
Begin No Contact ASAP. For at least 2-3 weeks. You need to let her know you’re moving on and thriving without her to add urgency to the situation. Go do some fun, interesting shit with some friends or take up a cool new hobby or something while you’re in No Contact.
Make her think she’s quickly losing the opportunity to change her mind about breaking up by acting like you give zero fucks about her and are living an awesome life without her. She’ll reach out sooner than later and you can slowly re-build her attraction from there. Play it cool, make sure every interaction you have Is enjoyable for her once you begin talking again. String her along and act like you don’t care about the breakup anymore.
Good luck!
Im 16 and he’s 17. He’s tired and stressed out with work. We broke up less than 24 hours ago. I didn’t lash out or anything, he gave me concrete reason on why we broke up. I’m needy, insecure, always assuming the worst and manipulative (love-bombing instead of fixing things). He feels unheard. Him and I need time and I’m optimistic that we could get back together because surprisingly I’m the best gf he had. I want to be a better woman for him and I want to be less stressed and more confident in myself. Advice?
Update: he came back to me after 4 days. We’re high schoolers. Young and dumb but we still love each other.
Give yourself time to do the necessary changes. And yes, for a relationship to work, it needs for you both to cooperate so it's a win-win situation and nobody feels unheard or left out. Your situation is too vague for me to deduct what exactly you're not agreeing on, but giving each other space should help out a bit if the differences isn't that big. However, life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
It’s been 31 days now she contacted me after like 3 weeks and asked ”how have you been” i answered we talked a little and then she ignored me and we haven’t talked since that what should i do… should i just wait for her to contact me again or should i contact her? Someone pls help me and answer to this..
Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
Hey Brad I just started watching your videos and honestly right now my relationship went down the hill pretty bad and to be honest I ended up doing those 3 things. He confessed to me he came back with me for this past month just because he felt bad and that when we were on break he was talking to someone at work but stopped once we tried for that one month. He is colder and just yesterday he confessed to me that he doesn’t know what he wants and is very confused. Also says he doesn’t love me anymore 😞 we dated for 3 years. Is there any hope at that point?
Sorry to hear that. If you ask about your chances, it's hard to really say. Take the free quiz at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz and answer as honestly as possible. However, what's important is that you realize that the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and the golden rules here: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
Dear Brad, my boyfriend broke up with me a week ago after 4 years together because he can no longer see a future with me. I really want us to get back together because I do see a future with him, even though he broke up with me because we’re too different as individuals.
I’m on the 3rd day of no contact. He has repeatedly told me (in a kind way) that we will never get back together, the worst part is that he’ll be flying off to a different country for a year in 2 months. Is this relationship worth saving after the no contact phase? We’re both in our early 20s in University. We’ve had a rocky relationship these past few years, but was very happy with each other on good days.
Please help me, I’m very desperate. I can hardly focus on anything and have anxiety leaving the house fearing that I might see him.
It may not be, especially with the (upcoming) distance and his blatant lack of interest. Set him free for now and work on yourself. It can't work if only one of you thinks there's a future in your relationship. So let him come to that conclusion himself, yeah? See, you both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ua-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/v-deo.html Good luck!
Hey ! Brad my girlfriend broke up with me saying that she doesn't love me anymore .
We have been doing long distance for 2-3 months . This is the second time she has broken up with me last time she was the one who reconciled with me .
I am applying 30 day no contact rule as you have said in lots of videos . I am also worried that she may find someone else during this period .How should I proceed to get her back ? ( Please help me 🙏)
Sorry to hear that. The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hi, Brad.
Hope you are doing well.
My ex met a major accident. I went to meet her too. She seemed very low confident. Next day she called me too.
But do you think i should call her once in a blue moon to keep a check on her health?
Just text her to check up on her but you should limit it to once or twice in the entirety of the
"no contact" rule. Take time to accept the breakup. Remember, you're no longer her boyfriend... and you both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ua-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/v-deo.html Good luck!
Thank you so much, Brad. You have been my go to person on UA-cam. Will get in touch with you soon.
Hey,Brad!
I 'hve watched your many vedios....
My ex left me cause he thinks that i've slept with somebody else....its not true.....i pleaded him like anything...through texts ,call by meeting.....by crying in front of him like anything.....i just pleaded him for last 1 month....but he is very clear for breakup and left me....
And he is in anothers relationship .....and he is so happy with her
I love him very much
I did all the mistakes........will he comeback?
I hope u'll understand
Looks like he's projecting on you and accusing you of sleeping with someone else when he's the one doing that to you. Consider moving on from this. He needs to grow up and take accountability.
@@BradBrowning will he comeback?
hi boyfriend blocked me because he told me I didn't respect him .if I do no contact it will work for this situation
The 30-day "no contact" rule can work for you in the following ways: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Your ex is diverting his/her attention to someone else, which is the easiest thing to do and is really just his/her way of coping. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/v-deo.html So that's what you ought to be doing too. Here, watch this: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html so try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/TBtb34gy6zw/v-deo.html Now lastly, keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though they try to cover it up. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA
What they want is, money, power, control, status, ego and all their game is base on these 5 factor, leave you also this 5 factor, come back also these 5 factor
Hi brad, My girlfriend of 5 years left me 3 weeks ago. Shes been ringing me upset for 2 weeks after that but she had no intention of getting back together. Last week i started no contact but shes been going out everyweekend clubbing and dancing with guys. Im 21 and shes 20. Any advice?
What was she ringing you for when she has already dumped you? As long as it wasn't about something important, you did the right thing by ignoring it. Here's this to consider: ua-cam.com/video/xbDPq23YaNE/v-deo.html so take the free quiz if you wanna know what your chances are, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz However, that kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
Hey Brad I have a question. Me and my girlfriend broke up 3 months ago. The problem is she lives with me. I want her back but she wants to get her own place and she claims she doesn't want a relationship right know. But it's killing me she claims she is trying to get a place. I have given her space I let her do her thing! But her being at my place and is not being together has been really hard! So do you have so advice for me on how to handle this and try to get us back on the same page. Thanks
Apply the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/thVReUI9Vzs/v-deo.html However, don't try to change her mind if she is really wanting to live alone for whatever reason because that is well within her rights to do so, no matter how painful it is for you. You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new (thus the old relationship be considered as over) relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ua-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/v-deo.html Good luck!
My ex said he is focusing on his career and doesn’t want a girlfriend.. I did try to beg for him to come back but he got mean and cold
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/v-deo.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and the golden rules here: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
I have cheated on my boyfriend with another man, and he found out and broke up with me obviously. I apologized several times and then we met one day. But the same thing triggered him again and things got even worse. I really want him back in my life. Please help me. I really won't repeat my mistakes again. But i need him please help me out
If you're sure you want to fix the relationship, the best thing to do right now is to take responsibility and admit to your ex that you've effed up and try to be patient and sympathetic with what your ex is going through and just disappear from your ex's life for a while, because right now, you are a constant reminder of the pain and your ex needs to heal from that first. And saying sorry is not gonna fix that right away, it takes time. By cheating, you're automatically putting the ball in your ex's court and have lost privilege to take your power back in all this. It's up to your ex now and how soon they can forgive you and move on from the incident, not necessarily from the relationship although some people do that. With that in mind, these may help: ua-cam.com/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/v-deo.html Whatever you do, make sure you avoid doing the stuff here that will only push your ex further away: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo
BTW the cause of the break was her being unfaithful and she decided to end things although everyone said I should move on for some reason I think we were meant to be
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
Do you respond to emails just telling you the situation asking if your course will work for it?
I developed the free quiz for this purpose. I suggest you give it a try at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz and answer as honestly as you can to get the most accurate results. As to your question, I can if I have the time, but my coaching clients take first priority always, understandably. Take care!
Brad.. m just following no contact rule but he has already moved onn with some other gal. What do i do nw?
The 30-day "no contact" rule can work for you in the following ways: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Your ex is diverting his attention to someone else, which is the easiest thing to do and is really just his way of coping. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/v-deo.html So that's what you ought to be doing too. Here, watch this: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html so try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/TBtb34gy6zw/v-deo.html Now lastly, keep in mind that your ex is suffering too, even though they try to cover it up. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA
she blocked me from everywhere and blocked my friends and family also..so she can't see my improvement anyhow. there is no chance Brad.plz recommend somthing better..is there still i have a chance to get her back???
And why are you so dependent on her seeing the improvements? Don't do that to yourself, man. If you do have to make some changes, then do it for yourself and never for anyone else, okay? See, making changes for the sake of someone is considered seeking validation, and that's an unattractive trait in and of itself… so it naturally won't do anything to rebuild the attraction necessary to get your ex back in the long run. On the other hand, if these are changes that you know within yourself that you need to make, then it's important to take time so be sure you aren’t rushing it because permanent, lasting changes don't happen overnight and your ex can actually see through it. Also, pain (that's why your ex dumped you) is a very good teacher and motivator not to mention a huge catalyst, so making these changes within yourself in order for the possibility to come back together stronger and better is what you can expect and you will be able to use this progress if not for your ex, then with someone new. Does that make sense? With that in mind, watch this vid to subtly show these changes to your ex: ua-cam.com/video/bZ1KetALZrc/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, my ex is open to trying again after ending it 2 months ago, but is wanting space to himself after we lived together for 3 years over the pandemic so it was intense. He moved out 2 days ago. I already did no contact at the beginning of the break up, then we decided we will try to work on it.
Even though he wants space, he also wants to meet up once a week to hang out (not as friends with benefits) to see if the feeling comes back over time. He's promised that he won't get involved with other women whilst we work on this. We still message each other everyday but just in a friendly way. The problem is he has no idea how long this will take, which I understand. In the process I know the uncertainty will hurt me a lot.
I'm not sure if what we are doing is a good thing of trying to get him back? :(
It won't come back by meeting up every once in a while. You both need some solid space first where you get to think clearly first. This early on, a key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: the 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning Thanks again Brad. I already did the No Contact at the beginning of the breakup in February. After this we decided we will try again but starting off as friends first. Do I have to do no contact again?
Brad i need help. So i bought two tickets for a concert for me and my ex like a month ago, and she agreed to come with me even though we weren't together because we still kept contact. But now i engaged in "no contact" and the concert is next week and idk if i should break no contact so that i could ask her if she still wants to go (sorry for bad english)
I started the no contact period last week
You're still broken up though, right? The decision is up to you but if you ask me, it's still important to put the full 30-day straight "no contact" rule into priority because if you've been in touch after the breakup too soon, then you BOTH aren't taking the time needed to process the breakup and been acting like it hadn't happened. Here's how not contacting your ex can help you a lot: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html Burying the problems which had caused the breakup in the first place is a surefire way towards a doomed relationship, if you get your ex back. Make sense now? You ought to teach your ex these very important lessons: ua-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/v-deo.html On the other hand, you can work on the issues together but you have to make sure you're on the same page and you aren't being manipulated and/or strung along. Are you seeing any progress? Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed and so I can guide accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
Hyy.. Brad… I’m in a relationship for 3 years. Recently my gf said we will break up because of my anger, harsh words on her…. But now I realise my faults and I’m can’t imagine my life without her… I don’t know weather she is in a another relationship or not… but I know clearly she is having huge angry on me her parents too… what should y ????
Uh oh... practice how you can be less angry especially if you know it's destroying your relationships. Take anger management classes in your area, perhaps. This takes time to change, though, so definitely work on yourself first and that aspect first, okay? Try not to blame yourself too much though. Nobody's perfect but what's important is you do something about it to become better, yeah? Good luck!
@@BradBrowning sure sir .. I’m working on it… now completely alright now.. but my gf is not with me.. I need her back… I can’t imagine my life without her.. we r is physical relationship also… but don’t know how she forgets that and moves on…. Tell me what should I do now???
@@BradBrowning especially we were in a long distance relationship for 3 years… I can’t spend my time with her properly that causes this breakup too.. I need to get her back to me sir… now she and her parents also angry on me… it’s very very hard situation I’m facing now… but if she comes back I’ll never do mistakes again … she blocked me everywhere on social media and now I’m in no contact rule…. I can do whatever to get her back!!!! Help me out!……
Lol I tried your how to improve your day method but I realized that we already broke up and it was to late
Hi, Jane, I have no idea what's going on and maybe it's too late for the relationship but for the sake of argument, it's never too late for yourself. Never give up on yourself! Whether you decide to move on or try to fix the relationship, it always starts with self love. Best of luck!
Hi, Brad i am waiting for your response. I have already requested for one to one coaching sessions. It says i need to wait 72 hours after booking.. I need your help ASAP. I have been watching all your videos. It's the 7th month of break up, i have been begging and pleading till i watched your videos. now i am in no contact period for more than 45 days.. I need her in my life, 9yrs i lived only for her and vise versa. No matter how long, how hard.. I will wait for her until she gets back to me. My case is extremely unique. I almost lost myself I need your help, Please help me ASAP
Good. You've already made the right move by signing up. Try to be patient and don't panic because I need to review your situation thoroughly and have to cater the others (coaching clients) who came before you. The timeframe is within 48 to 72 hours from when you submitted the coaching form. Thanks for your understanding and talk soon!
Hi Brad. Is it wrong to answer an exes call right after 30 days of no contact? My ex called me and right on the last day of the no contact I've been doing. He made a lowsy call to tell me which currency pairs to trade today because he knows I trade (guess he was trying to be helpful)? Does this mean he still cares? I tried to stay as reserved as possible when answering him. Is answering him after 30 days no contact hurtful for my plan to get him back?
Not at all especially if it was an important call. Besides, you're already at the end of the "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, you should be fine. As to whether he still cares or not, some if not most exes do care despite the breakup but apparently not enough to be back in a relationship with you. Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and again assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
Thank you. I will be following your guidance closely. I'm praying for the best
Hey brad. Got broken up with about 2 weeks ago now. I started no contact with her but straight away after a couple of days she was spamming me and asking where I was and she said she was worried about me. I told her I am fine and then I said nothing else. She told me after that she might be regretting the breakup but as it was only a couple of days after, I told her that she needs to be 100% about it all. Few days after that she said maybe it was right to breakup. Since then which was exactly a week ago I've been in no contact. Have I and am I doing the right thing by staying in NC? Thanks
You're right. Your ex needs to be confident and sure about her decision to want to get back together. Otherwise, it will just create more unnecessary pain especially on your part. You did the right thing. That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
Hey brad, I've asked my ex for another chance. I wasn't really begging. The next day I've told her that I had problems with my family and that breaking up is the right decision. Do I have to send her the clean slate message or nah.
No need to. However, asking her for another chance is really considered negotiating or bargaining and is still somewhat a type of begging. Show her you respect her decision instead and cut off contact for the time being.
Hey brad, Me and my girlfriend broke up like 2 months ago.. and i applied the NC rule.. but she looks always very happy on her new pictures and she is always hanging around with her best friend who I hated... so I apologized to her best friend for those rough times and now I hope she will talk good about me.. was it a smart move?
That was unnecessary. The best friend's alliance will always be with your ex, so I doubt that would really do anything. Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ua-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/v-deo.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ua-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/v-deo.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
Hey Brad, my gf broke up with me about 2 months ago. I meet her everyday at my workplace.After following 30 days of no contact rule she started behaving with me well and started light conversation with me when I am around but again after 10-12 days she stepped back and started ignoring me again so...
what should I do now?
If you've done the 30-day "no contact" rule correctly, this is a pretty common theme as well, unfortunately. It could also mean that you came off too strong to the point where your ex felt pressured. However, don’t destroy the progress you’ve made up to this point. Watch this to gain some insight on what to do: ua-cam.com/video/cC54YU-qU5Q/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/MK7NDfJTbDc/v-deo.html But if your ex is worth it and as long as you aren't being manipulated, and you still really wanna give it your best shot, then I'll be more than happy to put my focus on your situation. Sign up to my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
My gf first accepted my proposal and then told that we can't continue this I'm of 15 years and my gf is 14 years plzz tell what to do
She's confused, so give her space. Also life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
Hey Brad, my girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me a few days ago, claiming we’re on different paths in life, she’s about to graduate college and I’m not just yet. Anyways, we’ve both have been taking this hard, as we both still love each other, and have agreed to no contact. Of course, I broke it once, then she broke it the next time, and now we’re still trying to do this together. She says I bring up a lot of good points on why we should work together, but her gut is saying not right now. So when we both break it, and there aren’t hard feelings? Is that a good sign? I know im not going to break it again until our desired talking time of next week, but what If she does ?
Be the bigger man and give her time and space. Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning hey, so it’s been a week now and we just talked today, I asserted myself and acted very confident and it felt very fulfilling. I told her what was up and why what she was doing didn’t make sense, but that I wasn’t begging for her to come back because that isn’t my decision and I don’t want to. I told her I still love her, and that of course I want this to work. But I was firm of how she was wrong in a few ways of her reasoning, she had like puppy dog eyes at me the entire time, compare to the previous times we talked where I was the upset one and she was calm, I was calm this time and she was crying. She didn’t think the convo would do anything but we both agreed it was good and we had to a lot to think about. She reciprocated a long hug and kiss, but of course said she still needed time. I texted her thank you she said of course and she agreed and now I haven’t contacted her because that is what she wished originally, is this just a waiting game now?
hey Brad sometimes I talk normally with my ex but she semmes not that interested reply lately once she replied to my story then again if I reply she don't see texts fot long. what to do?
This really depends. How long has it been since the breakup and have you cut off contact for 30 days yet? If you haven't cut off contact yet for at least 30 days, then you should prioritize that instead of interacting with your ex. On the other hand, IF you have already cut off contact, then you're on the right track. There's no need to redo the no contact just because it didn't exactly went well the first time or you're not getting the response you anticipated. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html and be guided accordingly based on the phases of what needs to happen, here: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, my ex has a new boyfriend so I did no contact for a month, she kept reaching out during no contact but i didn’t give in, I gave it a month then I finally spoke to her, it didn’t work and we are where we were before no contact… is this it or is there anything I can do now to salvage this or has she gone for good? She’s going away for a weekend with her new partner this weekend, they’ve been together 3 months but I think I have to realise she never coming back now
How do you mean it didn't work? If you mean your ex is still dealing with someone else, that is actually your ex's choice, so try to choose to love yourself instead and distance completely. With that I mean wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ua-cam.com/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/v-deo.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in UA-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
i have a situation brad.i was in a relationship for 5 months and its a long distance relationship.we been good all these months.i was just stressed in family situation here and in that rage and stress i threw up mean words on her.i didnt mean to...but idk how i said that to my girl.she just dont want a relationship with me because i disrespected her with mean words.she dumped me a month ago.i couldnt hold on this one month and i have been contacting her till yesterday.in this situation,no contact will work?she is kinda stubborn with her self respect things.she can forgive someone but cant forget things that happened to her..will no contact help?to forget all negative things of me?
Yeah, that was some misplaced anger there all right. It's very important to give it time to let whatever anger and hurt there is between you two, especially from your ex's side, subside. Sometimes it takes a month but oftentimes it takes longer or shorter depending on the situation. You simply cannot rush this. An apology is in order, too. These may help: ua-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning in the last conversation,she said that she trusts me as friend and told me not to treat any other woman disrespectfully.but she said she had enough of relationship.what is she upto?
I live with my ex and she’s seeing someone within 4 days of us breaking up, I am torn to shreds and I have absolutely no idea how to cope
Sorry to hear that. I know it must've been a shock to you but do your best to heal from this, okay? Try to put your focus elsewhere (best to put focus back to yourself) because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/7KE6nb4-ndA/v-deo.html Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/TBtb34gy6zw/v-deo.html This should hopefully get you back on track with what you ought to be doing during this time: ua-cam.com/video/obBIttQSak4/v-deo.html
Keep going bro your not alone just focus on yourself even tho it’s extremely difficult just keep reminding yourself your not the only one going thru this because we all are
Hi Brad, When you in the first week of no contact & my ex text to ask you something like a favor to do that is out of her control. What should I do say yes or keep on ignoring her??
What kind of favor? And under whose control is it exactly? Unless your situation falls under one or more of the scenarios here: ua-cam.com/video/ek_4wpkV66c/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/W7iC-gHmZ2A/v-deo.html it's best you ignore contact from your ex. If your ex continues to reach out to you, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. The only exception is if your ex asks for you back and is sincere about it. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. Discussed that in full detail here: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html So if your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/v-deo.html
Hey Brad, Just broke up suddenly and he doesn’t seem affected by it. He is an emotional person but this hasn’t seen to affect him. I think that he thinks his depression is from the relationship, and I feel like if I let him return to his neutral state I think he’ll realize he made a mistake and start to miss me. Then I think I’ll reach out to him and start from beginning a new spark with him. Does this sound like it would be effective?
After watching this video and realize I’ve messed up on a few things, I’ve love bombed trying to change his mind. Thanks for the advice
Sorry to hear that but yes, sounds like a plan. Right now employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ua-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/v-deo.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ua-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/v-deo.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
If being disconnected and not attending to her feelings and needs for yrs. Is the reason for her leaving. Is the no contact good for this senerio? Married 17yrs. 47yrs old. No kids together.
If you mean you somehow neglected her? She could just be tired of dealing with that, especially if this went on for long. Is she still open to working things out though? While I certainly need more information to know what's going on between you two for sure, I suggest you check out more marriage-saving tips which you may find useful, check out this new channel I've dedicated solely for this purpose. Here's the link: y2u.be/dr2JTi_bCRU
Brad.. My ex bf chat with me like a friend in a positive way now after completing 1 month no contact.. Yesterday he viewed my story when i go out with my friends.. He asked where i have gone. I told i wento to my frnd's house. Then later he asked in which of all places visited with friends like beach, malls... I then asked you want to know everything from me?? He then said No. I replied Ok.. That's the end of our last chat... Is this good move from my side to get him back???? Pls reply
That was a bit sarcastic. It could've been done better. Anyway ty to keep it lighthearted next time. Remember, the aim is to build positive rapport with your ex, not spark needless drama, yeah? :-)
Hey i have a question??My ex and i had lots of fights during our relationship, he said I hurt him so much by turning cold and insecure, he talked to be about this for 4 months and I was immature and didn’t listen. Now we have broken up for a week and first he was said he didn’t love me anymore and then became hot and cold towards me and took me back and broke up right after two times, then I got so hurt because he downloaded tinder “and he had previously said that he just wanted to be for himself and not date anyone” and as I was going thorough the heartbreak of my life I unfriended him on social media and told him that I never wanted to see him again, that hurt him a lot and he absolutely didn’t wanna talk to me. Then I tried to make things right and asked if we at least could be friends again, and he agreed and it actually seemed fine for once but then I saw him on tinder for myself and lashed out on him and was rude and everything, saying that he can do whatever the fuck he wants and bla bla and I tried to even take him back the day after, but he just cursed at me and said that he doesn’t wanna try again after I insulted him and told me if I write to him again he will block me.
Is my chances with him screwed, or can I still fix it by waiting? I’m so confused and actually can’t believe he moved on
Fighting is often unavoidable, but when it becomes too much, it’s time to nip the problem in the bud if you still can. So it's either that or you go on a break and discuss the logistics as well as how it should go and how long it should be. What were you two fighting or arguing about? It's best to consider the relationship overall first, so watch this: ua-cam.com/video/XuJFf5Kch5o/v-deo.html Anyways it's best to give it time because all this arguing had taken a toll in your relationship. This may help: ua-cam.com/video/BBEhaY3gLIw/v-deo.html Perhaps you've both argued more than you had a good time with each other? It could also be you're too incompatible or stubborn to meet each other halfway. If the negatives outweigh the positives in the relationship, that's when an imbalance happens and the relationship will keel over wherein one or both people will likely abandon ship, as the case with your ex. It's time to reset things. Start with the 30-day "no contact" rule to get your ex into a psychological neutral. Here's how it can help you: y2u.be/zw0ChuXCEmw
Whats ur advice on an ex that has blocked you via text and social media ? is that totally over? Nothing overly crazy even occurred but ill admit ive sent a lot of the long paragraph emotional texts to her explaining why I care about her and reminiscing on old memories. Whats your advice?
You really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you and/or provoking a response or sending an emotional text will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: ua-cam.com/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/v-deo.html
So Brad, just out of curiosity. If my ex left me because she thought I cheated (I didn't) though admittedly I'd spent way more time single than in relationships and I definitely should have adjusted my language accordingly.
Should I still apply the no contact rule?
Try to clear the misunderstanding first to the best of your ability, granted your ex is still willing to hear it. If not, then yes, give each other space first.
Brad please help me i cheated on my girl with my freinds girlfreind then she showed up after 2 weeks with my freind who i slept with his girl they both hated on me and got to gether my ex told me last night that she wanted to reveng but now she is in the trap and fell in love with him cause he makes her happy and fixes her heart and she still talks with me about their relationship to make me jealous but in other hand she told me she want to meet me as a freind cause she doesnt want her boyfreind to be worried . Man my situation god damn complex please help
If you're sure you want to fix the relationship, the best thing to do right now is to take responsibility and admit to your ex that you've effed up and try to be patient and sympathetic with what your ex is going through and just disappear from your ex's life for a while, because right now, you are a constant reminder of the pain and your ex needs to heal from that first. And saying sorry is not gonna fix that right away, it takes time. By cheating, you're automatically putting the ball in your ex's court and have lost privilege to take your power back in all this. It's up to your ex now and how soon they can forgive you and move on from the incident, not necessarily from the relationship although some people do that. With that in mind, these may help: ua-cam.com/video/f0F8q2IIgtE/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/qnE192fUKxI/v-deo.html Whatever you do, make sure you avoid doing the stuff here that will only push your ex further away: y2u.be/jikW4YYC9yo
I and my girlfriend was in a relationship of 3 years, from last year november our long distance relationship started, and suddenly from February she started kinda ignoring me, and ignoring my calls to some level, and then from mid april, she stopped replying my messages and calls, I tried contacting her through her friend and different means but nothing worked, then finally we somehow met last week.
In that last meet, I asked her everything, and she finally ended up saying she can't continue this relationship because of family problems, she feel since she has to hide this from her family, so she feel she is doing wrong with her family and feeling very suffocated and so she said that this was it, it's over and she can reply to my messages in future but only as a friend and asked me not to expect anything regarding relationship. Now, in this week, we have talked twice or thrice but just like friends and I feel hurt.
What should I do, please help.
PS - there is a birthday party of our mutual friends next week, wheŕe I have to go and she also might come.
You absolutely need to heal first and shift your source of happiness from her and this relationship... to something else. Find your passion again and get a new hobby. The distance may or may not have played a role in the ending but without knowing your situation well, I can't really say for sure. Whatever the case may be, you really ought to give her space. Otherwise, she is only guaranteed to hurt you further. Respect her decision to break up, okay? Apply the tips here too: ua-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/v-deo.html
Hey Brad. I was doing no contact at the beginning of the month when my ex and I decided to wait 2 weeks to see each other again. She reached out a couple times during the wait…we hung out and cooked dinner this past Wednesday like we planned. Nothing was really discussed about us or the relationship but it was a perfect night…we set up another night in 2 weeks again. Plus she already planned something for us to do for my birthday coming up in May in the same text after leaving Thursday morning to set up our next night on the 27th. Should I go back into no contact and wait for her to reach out til then, or is it safe to start reaching out myself now? Really would help me out, thank you!
I'm not sure what you're both trying to do here. Are you guys just taking a break or has she totally dumped you? If you're not sure, then a key component is to avoid small talk as much as possible, especially during the most critical stage: 30-day "no contact" rule because there's a huge chance your ex may be slowly easing herself away from you. If anything, your ex is suffering, too, even though it may not seem like it. Discussed that here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let her feel what it's like not to have you in her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? Here's how it can help you: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important or is sincerely asking you to get back together. Understand that you risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
Hello brad ,I finished the 30 days of no contact with my ex, I was able to text him once with a good reason, and now I'm thinking if I should chat with him every day ?, plsss help me with this.
Pace yourself and make sure you keep busy on other things in your life. You're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
My boyfriend say his going to block me and delete my number but still he didn't do it, what will I do please help
Try not to worry too much about it. Unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ua-cam.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/v-deo.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html Good luck!
Thanks brother from india
You're welcome. Don't forget to check out my other videos if you're not getting my guide so you'll know what to do next after the 30-day "no contact" period, to contacting your ex down to re-attracting, and what to do in between those phases and how to transition to actually getting your ex back. Here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Best of luck!
Hey Brad. We still live together with my GF, 4 days ago she has another boyfriend. She said to me that she doesn't love me anymore. We didn't say that we're breaking up. I was shock that she has a new boyfriend already. 2 days ago, After she said YES to her new boyfriend, we talk. She apologize for not saying to me that she is in love with someone else. And she said a lot that can hurt my feelings. She said that I dont have time for her because I always play instrument. So she decide to left me. I know its my fault. Every night her boyfriend went to our house to picked her up for their date. She still talk to me like a friend. She share her experience about her new boyfriend every time she go home. I can saw in her face that she is really inlove with the guy. It really hurts. We still sleep together, eat together, etc. What should I do? I hope you noticed me.
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
Hello,
I am really confused now. My gf lost interest in me
because I was too dominating, we had much quarrel
etc. Then she left me.
It's been 7 days we are still talking over whatsapp.
She sees my whatsapp status and replies to my
stories. Sometimes she says she misses me and
sometimes she gives me a compliment that I'm a
handsome man.
Last night she told that it would be painful for me to
see you leave this city, as I m going to move to some
other city for job purpose. I simply replied "Don't think
much". Next day she saw my message and didn't
reply. Was that rude for her?
How should I reply to her in this situation? Should I
need to ignore her or should I talk to her like a caring
partner like before ?
Or should I stop contacting her?
I'm very much confused at this stage before doing anything I really need to know.
This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/RSKJi8VK2g8/v-deo.html But were you actually too controlling? It might be time to change that. It's either that OR she's making up excuses to justify the breakup. Only you would know. Either way it's best to give each other time and space. Keeping contact with her means you disrespected her decision and you might be viewed as controlling which is not really what you'd be aiming for. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html
Hi Brad..My bf breakup withme on 22nd nov 2022.I have done 30 days no contact.. And he texted me on 24th day... Now we are chatting like friends... No daily texts... Sometimes only in a positive interaction..... What i have to do now?
Try to follow my texting tips as much as possible and learn to discern which best suits your situation or just minimize your confusion and get my Ex Factor Guide as that offers step-by-step instruction on how to go about things, at www.breakupbrad.com/fbuy Anyway from what little information you've told me, it looks like you're on the right track, assuming you've done the first phase (30-day "no contact" rule) correctly and basically had set the stage for this second part. Be sure to check out my other videos for more tips on how to go about this, especially this: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM Since you've only recently reconnected, then don't expect your ex to warm up easily. Getting an ex back is a process. Here's a short infograph to guide you in each process: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html Look out for the signs that your ex has moved on, though: y2u.be/TnZzeEIPEik But evaluate things, too. Are you sure you're not trying to rush it? Setting a deadline is a good way to fail when it comes to exes, so I highly discourage it. What steps have you taken to get your ex back? It's time to re-assess those and see what's working versus what's not working. Sometimes, getting an ex back is like trying to fit a square into a circle, but oftentimes, chances are you're letting emotion dictate you and therefore end up making the wrong choices. Have you checked out my guide yet? It’s ultimately up to you to act (or not act, depending on which phase you’re in) on getting your ex back, but it helps if you read it to ensure that you’re on the right track. Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Just curious me and my ex ended on good terms and we got back in contact with each other and then 2 weeks after started talking. She started being rude to me and lying about me and my family even though me and my family has done nothing to her but she is making up lies about us. What's the reason?
She doesn't want to take responsibility for her actions and is shifting the blame on you. Does she have a victim mentality? My ex fianceé is the same way.
It's because one or both of you have been rushing to talk. Two weeks isn't enough. That kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a fresh/recent breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
@@lexicon4u not that I know of she never blame anyone else before, unless it was her brother but that make sense but other than that no. So idk what she's doing
Hello Brad, we are in 3 years relationship, and 10 days ago he wanted a break because he feel unhappy in our relationship. He said he wants to explore options, meet new people, and he wants to find himself again. He s confused and don’t know what to do in his life. We fight a lot but we also spend great time together. However, I broke his trust back in December, I did not cheat, but to him it was cheating. His trust has been loosen since, but I really want him back. He said it will be a 3 months break, but he won’t promise anything even though he still cares for me a lot. What can I do in this scenario?
How is he acting recently? Give yourselves time first. If your ex has the "Grass is Greener" Syndrome, realize and accept that this is outside your control and really the best you can do is becoming the best version of yourself and vibrate higher, which means NOT taking less than what you deserve and not settling to just becoming an option, especially if this used to be a stable relationship between you two. He's likely taken you for granted, so you don't really need that in your life. Use the law of attraction. You deserve love and worth of love, so you can only attract love. If he goes away from it, then you repelled him and will only attract him back if he vibrates as high as you. Otherwise, be open to new people that's on your level. Be strong!
@@BradBrowning Now we officialy broke, he said he is confused of where he is in life and is suffering to find his own happiness. For now he only rely to party as his source of temporarily happiness. He said he still love and care for me a lot, and he said time will answer and trust its process. He also mentioned to focus on improving ourselves, and wishes the best for me, he said we can still be friend
When should one mail back ones belongings?
After no contact. /mid?
It's up to you both really but if you have a choice and your ex isn't asking for her stuff back right away, I suggest to wait at least 30 days, so until after the no contact rule where you've given yourself time to calm down and accept things and heal a bit. Good luck!
Hii coach , my ex said she needed a break as she was not doing mentally better 3 months ago and asked me to wait , i waited with hopes she would come back to me , and we occasionaly texted also and some flirting was also there , she was busy with her work so i waited , right now after 3 months , she is saying she is not ready for a realtionship , as we both have our competitive exams and other stuff going on , but she says that we shall be good friends also , what should i do coach , should i do the no contact rule ??is there any hopes for me
That's a bad idea as that will absolutely lead you nowhere. Don't do it, man. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You ought to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
Hey Brad can i ask your for an advice so my ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago and i really want jer back but the problem is that she is falling on love with Someone else and i don't know if she Will every come back to me Also there is another problem and that problem is that she has DID (identity disored) and i don't know what to do i am trying my best with the no contact strategy but i am not sure Will it work and advice please
Sorry, man, but chances are your girl has been at least emotionally cheating on you. Discussed that in depth here: y2u.be/7KE6nb4-ndA There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and asking to get back together. Most of the time, a lot of people would move on, but a few would still fight for the relationship, so this all depends which side you're on and what your views are. But take into consideration about what I’ve mentioned here, too: ua-cam.com/video/m27TLeyUmwg/v-deo.html There is no right or wrong answer here because it is your relationship and it's personal to you. Make sense? Anyway men and women cheat for different reasons, but if you think your ex is worth it and if there's been a genuine connection between you two before the cheating happened, then try to see the roles that you BOTH played that led to all this mess and see once and for all if it can be resolved or not, okay? Whatever the case, it's important you forgive yourself because no one's perfect, and forgive your ex too. Really take your time before deciding though and be sure not to make any hasty decisions from an emotional place but never force things with her if you can see she no longer wants to try. Take care!
@@BradBrowning thanks you for the respons i Will try my best and who knows if anything good happens i Will let you knwo or maybe sign up for your program but anyways thanks for responding
My ex is confused about her feelings. She left me because she started liking her friend and now she said that they are friends only. What should I do ?
She sounds really confused. It's best to keep your distance from her and give her space. Life is or will be taking you in two different directions at this stage. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/2CakOOSwIiY/v-deo.html&lc=Ugw4Ce3x9APUrYfz29N4AaABAg So whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously for now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
I thought from my gut it was the right time for me to text her about the one actual problem(didn’t expect anything from her which I wasn’t being desperate and still focusing on my schedule even after receiving her reply). And she said she was sorry to hear the situation and hopefully it works out and said that’s horrible to hear that’s happen to me. But I don’t know what to reply after and Im curious why she saved the text afterwards.
This really depends. How long has it been since the breakup and have you cut off contact for 30 days yet? If you haven't cut off contact yet for at least 30 days, then you should prioritize that instead of interacting with your ex. On the other hand, IF you have already cut off contact, then you're on the right track. There's no need to redo the no contact just because it didn't exactly went well the first time or you're not getting the response you anticipated. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html and be guided accordingly based on the phases of what needs to happen, here: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html and check out my other vids for more guidance. Best of luck!
hey Brad! i have been in a long distance relationship for 3 years and i suddenly felt that my ex is losing feelings. I asked him if something's wrong and he told me he isn't stable to be in a relationship right now and left me by saying he still loves me. I'm very confused on what to do in this situation. Please help :))
This vid is for you: ua-cam.com/video/YxWY57XCouo/v-deo.html The distance will always be a major culprit though. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then may be as good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html However, if you believe your situation is unique and there may still be a chance between you two, then let's take a look at your situation in-depth via my one-on-one coaching session at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
No contact didn't work for me instead l lost him completely
The no contact rule isn't the magic bullet to resolve things. If it were that easy, then everybody will be back with their exes in no time. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/RzfIsEAAxdg/v-deo.html
Hi Brad my girlfriend said she don't wanna be in relationship with me when i asked for a reason she didn't had one and she hadn't take admission ko clg and me either Bcoz we were trying to qualify a exam and maybe she and her family blames me somewhere for that mad my be i m somewhere responsible she wished me 28th months anniversary 15days ago but things aren't going good may be its breakup or maybe not what should i do i m already on no contact but 3 days only please tell what to do after no contact and how long no contact should be she is the love of my life in beginning when her behaviour changed i begged her but now i m felling good and i have control over my emotions please tell please i request you ❤️🙏
Sorry to hear that. The bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and the golden rules here: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
Hi Brad actually I have been in relationship for 6 years and 6 days ago we decided to have a break because he just don't respect me and always says that go away I don't want to talk to you and much more so I watched your video and started no contact and it's been only 6 days yesterday I had his 25 misscalls I rejected all the calls but at last I picked up , he said that why you are not picking the call . Block me up I can't resist calling you . I asked if anything is important then he said no nothing. Then I said okk but I don't want to talk . Bye and disconnected the call. Is my behaviour okay or what should I doo????? Please please give me the answer please
Yes, you played your cards right since your ex is very well confused. Keep it up and give him the space and time he really needs. Here's this to consider: ua-cam.com/video/xbDPq23YaNE/v-deo.html so take the free quiz if you wanna know what your chances are, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz However, that kind of behaviour coming from your ex is somewhat expected after a breakup. That's why you ought to give it enough time where there's totally no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed or weird signals. Watch this: y2u.be/siApAVtx8zE This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning thankss soo much Brad you replied to my query . Thanks a lot 🥺❤️ may god bless you
My ex chased me before but he pulled away, because he knew I had someone new, but when he stops chasing me, I felt that I want him back again, what should I do?
Depends on your choice and whether you want to rekindle stuff with your ex. How long has it been since the breakup and have you cut off contact for 30 days yet? If you haven't cut off contact yet for at least 30 days, then you should prioritize that instead of interacting with your ex. On the other hand, IF you have already cut off contact, then you're on the right track. There's no need to redo the no contact just because it didn't exactly went well the first time or you're not getting the response you anticipated. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html and be guided accordingly based on the phases of what needs to happen, here: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
I did not make the no contact rule. We broke up last January 27, then after 2 days of the break up I chased him, and after one month of chasing him, I stopped, then he started chasing me when I let him go, but when he knew I have someone new, he pulled away. And it’s already clear to us that he’s let me go. But, I want him to chase me again. I want him back
Hi Brad is it normal for a rebound to go on a 3 day holiday after being together for 2 months?
Yes, it is. All is fair in love and war, so they say. But it's time to take a look at the bigger picture here. It doesn't really matter what your ex is doing. Chances are your ex is rebounding anyway but the point is you shouldn't be focused on that right now. That's all out of your control. Focus on yourself instead and show (NOT tell) your ex you accept her decision to break up. If you do, you'll accept that you're both single and therefore you'd stop overanalyzing every little stuff. All right? Here are the basics to getting an ex back: y2u.be/aeGNPBdpnsI and you can see that the 30-day "no contact" rule is an absolute must. I also suggest that you read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total and the "no contact" rule is only the first), including what to say, do or not do, etc. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com/mbuy
@@BradBrowning cheers man appreciate it 🙏🏼
My girl put me out after Vday. I want her back so bad
Employ the 30-day "no contact" rule first. Here's how you can tell it's starting to work: ua-cam.com/video/T4Sz6DiWRsQ/v-deo.html Though make sure you follow the tips here as well: ua-cam.com/video/xgR03RcU8mw/v-deo.html AND some recent tips here: y2u.be/FLeP1eRCkCk Lots of folks seem to be oblivious about it, so here goes: the 30-day "no contact" rule, once COMPLETED, is just the first phase for most people (unless your ex sincerely wanted you back and it's shown in their actions). This would also help guide you on what to do after the "no contact" rule: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html Anyway there are two more phases to go through if you want an ex back, and the third is to rekindle/rebuild the attraction with an ex. Learn the basics here: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw
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Brad it has been 2months since we break with my Ex I tryed calling her last night asking her about my goods she didn't picked up then later in the mng she called me back and I answered I told her I'm going to send someone to pick it for me
And she like ouk she is very come and she talks to me
Later she taxed me and asked me for something also and she Sayed that she wants to meet with me and pick it she is replying me immediately bt me I take longer to reply back bro wat can I do
Switch to texting. Assuming you've done the first phase properly, which is the 30-day "no contact" rule, then you should be in a position to be ready to test the waters with your ex. Here's how you can tell you're doing it correctly: y2u.be/f7zuXk-sVsI You may want to tick off the checklist here as well: y2u.be/BAhMrmw3Sms Now once you're positive you've done all that's mentioned, you can proceed to contact your ex. Start with the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/KMMv9ljdrkk/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure to check out my other vids for more texting tips you can send your ex or get my guide for the complete step-by-step details on how to go about it. Best of luck!
Avoid relationships altogether? I like this concept. Women have really turn relationships into a game and I’ll pass.
Not all, I supposed. There's a ton of decent ones out there. Just observe first. Good luck!
Me and my ex broke up 3 months ago and we have been in contact with one another, a little more now than previously. But no reconciliation, should I do the 30 no contact or is it too late ?
I'd still suggest to give the "no contact" rule a shot because that's still really your best bet, which will work in a sense where you BOTH will get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with each other when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Makes sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? Sometimes it does, but other times (especially if your situation is unique) it won't, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html There's also a risk of you being strung along if you don't cut off contact and give each other that much needed space and while it's beneficial for your ex, it's really detrimental to the dumpee in the end, so be careful. I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: ua-cam.com/video/obBIttQSak4/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning thank you so much , yes I would hate to be led on. He’s invited me for dinner a few times and he’s been to my house for dinner as well, but no intimacy. It’s a little odd we have decent conversations over FaceTime but everything is still at a standstill … so yesterday was my first day of NO CONTACT ( but he was lurking on my Facebook) …. Wish me luck
Hi brad, im just broke up on 6 april, and i started the no contacts on 11 april which is monday. And last tuesday i saw her Instagram story, its about song that she want be the only one in someone arms and i assume thats me. What should i do?
Im from Malaysia and sorry for the bad english
And i am a male
If it's you, then all she has to do is ask for you back. Don't torture yourself with overthinking. cut off contact first and this means cutting off unnecessary communication with your ex in any way, shape or form for at least 30 days. It also means ignoring unimportant or random messages from your ex for at least 30 days straight. This also involves NOT looking at any of your ex's online profiles so you won't overthink things. In other words, the "no contact" period is a time where you fully focus on yourself and take time to heal. Take care!
Below is the text my ex sent to my friend when she tried to plead with him to reconsider the break up the sad thing is I didn't know I was being toxic and I really need help. What do I do?
First off Divine asked for a break up with hopes that as usual I will beg her, unfortunately I was also fed up and I was relived to see it all end.
I know I owe you no explanation whatsoever but I will indulge you anyway.
I know everyone thinks we had something good and I just decided to ruin it but no,
It wasn't good for me, it was fucking hell from day 1.
I do not remember a moment where I was genuinely happy except the first few days.
Every day after that was me struggling to not get on Divine's nerves because I had to do everything she wanted else I would have to deal with her being sad until I eventually give in.
I'm sorry I let y'all believe it was good but it wasn't
Do I love her?
Yes but love doesn't automatically cancel out toxic.
That doesn't matter at all right now.
This is almost like you asking your friend to stay in a relationship where she is getting beat up just because he loves him and he has changed.
Has she changed? Probably,
Am I willing to find out? No fucking way
How long have you been together with her? It sounds heartfelt especially if you've only been with her for a short while. Sometimes it does get toxic or is way too toxic from the start and it's not worth the save because you two just don't match. Nothing wrong with that, this is why you learn and try to do better next time, yeah? Best of luck in your future endeavour!
@@BradBrowning can it be saved? After pleading and begging? Can the no contact work? Oh and she said she had already forgiven me
My ex blocked me almost everywhere, last week she apologized to me and idk what to do. Any advice or tips?
Unless you've done something really epic to mess things up or really hurt your ex, there's no reason to worry as much, really, because it could be due to the top 3 reasons I've stated on this vid: y2u.be/fjtv90o9bkI Blocking you could just be your ex’s way of coping so I wouldn’t worry too much about it if I were you, at least not initially. So give it time. If you stay blocked after months though, then that’s another story, especially if you have no other means of communication or have no mutual friends. More about that on here: ua-cam.com/video/5UT92IB5ugs/v-deo.html Anyway social media should be the least of your concerns. Focus on all three phases and your ex may naturally unblock you, in time, as you learn to rebuild that attraction and re-attract this ex back to your life.. Here are the basics of all three phases to getting an ex back: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and social-media wise, here (but then again, don't let it become your sole focus) : ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thanks brad!
Hey I'm confused . Is this considered the same method for someone Engaged Still living together Have A Child together . Yes we still communicate and sleep on same Bed And Also Spend Time Together . . I am in a very Confusing Conflict My Spouse Says she is not with me because I pushed her away . I am trying to give her as much Space Possible . But it's impossible due to what I mentioned . Idk is this is Temporary or I'm not sure what to think .
Yes I am definitely working on my Self and trying to be positive and show her I Take Full Responsibility for my ACTIONS
How are you pushing her away though? And it's a different set of rules if you live together. If you still live with your ex, then do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk AND y2u.be/GTjEAGJWTuA I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
I had completed no contact process 1 month. Dear Sir can i call or text anything to ex? Please suggest what i am saying.
Sir Brad, please suggest anything
Once you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
Hello how are you? We discuss on how to make your ex back topic and I write to you but you didn’t replay me pls replay I’m still waiting pls!
I answer these comments usually in the order that I receive them So I will most likely answer your comment soon if I haven’t already. But if your situation is really that urgent, then the best way to get a hold of me is via coaching, sign up at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching so I can factor in all the events in place and therefore be more qualified to guide you. I do need to communicate with my clients on a regular basis to see if we're on the same page. Make sense? Thanks for your understanding!
My ex dumped me and blocked me on Facebook, a week afterwards she unblocked me and I thought we were making progress. I sent her a clean slate message apologising for being a dick and all the pleading and that.
Then last night I find out she's blocked me again after like a week and like a fucking idiot I texted her asking why and she sent me a message basically saying she was never messaging me again and that in order to heal she needs to not contact me.
I need to try to move on.
As I've mentioned in a ton of my vids, you really need to stop all contact for at least 30 days and not push it. Being needy or too forceful for your ex to talk to you will only alienate them further. Here's what may going through your ex's mind and they seem they want nothing to do with you: ua-cam.com/video/sd2Lx8uEni8/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowning yeah I fucked up I get it.
Brad my relationship is in 5½ month recently we had a break up , nearly 1½ month is over I call but she blocks my number and also Instagram. She sead at the time of brake up like you not caring and you not understanding me ect ect ...then I sead please give me last chance, she not giveing any chance.
She tooks 5 numbers to beat me at the time of brake up. She sead don't Love me again, your is yours, Brad my brake up was do too aggel.
Pls what to do now Brad
I need she me
Don't call. Oftentimes that will catch your ex off guard or vice versa, not to mention it's intrusive because you'll come off too strong, especially if you don't know what you're doing, which is a recipe for disaster. Start with a text first. This vid is for you so I really suggest you watch it from start to end: ua-cam.com/video/jka4S6syZPs/v-deo.html
@@BradBrowningJust now is blocked me in all instagram now she blocks in all no chance to chat what to do
how to behave with my ex-boyfriend if we had sex? he texts me that it was nice but we shouldn't have done this.
His reaction is, I should say... predictable. I've warned my female viewers about this tendency to happen. Watch these first: ua-cam.com/video/qoEZiPn9EH0/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/pXKPxAXaunc/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, I lost my girlfriend in January after she just chose another guy after me, did no contact and she kept reaching out adding me on socials blocking and unblocking, telling me she misses me so I did a month of no contact and reached out and she says she going to Paris for a weekend with him already it’s been 2 months, why is there relationship moving so fast? She also even admitted she misses me to her new boyfriend… Also because she told me she misses me I made the mistake of telling her how I feel, now she’s blocked me completely and have no idea what to do, so lost right now and broken
Her actions towards you alone should be enough to give you the courage to start moving on. It's total disrespect and you shouldn't tolerate that. Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: y2u.be/ZyJRphwDca4 and this should help guide you on what to do for the time being: y2u.be/hlikXIfMYN8 However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND ua-cam.com/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/v-deo.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in UA-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Hey Brad my ex broke up with me after 4 years relationship and he had cheated me more than 2 times in the 4-year relationship what is time he say he liked nadica and he threw me away but after brickhouse still be in contact with me for last 2 months and I went to visit him and after that he broke up with me I don't know what I supposed do. He said he liked me but he can be with me because he cannot love me the way he used to love.please give me some ny advice and I'm from Asia so are there any ways to buy the book.
I take it he's with someone new now? At best, chances are he's confused. At worst, he's chosen another woman over you and I know none of this sounds good and I'm really sorry to hear that. Being cheated on is truly one of the biggest heartaches you could ever experience, relating closely and coming second to grieving for the dead. There's no easy way to say this but the answer is is to move on, especially if your ex doesn't seem to be regretting their actions and/or making a solid effort to get back together after giving each other some time and space apart. While the situation is truly painful for you, it gives you the most growth as well so take that time to rediscover yourself and your own strength in getting through this. So really, my suggestion is to heal from this and be open to new possibilities. You ought to apply the tips here but it's really up to your ex to learn: ua-cam.com/video/4Qe-4A-CpVY/v-deo.html if you want to find out what your chances are, however, then feel free to take the free quiz on my website at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
@@BradBrowning he is regretting and say I felt like did a mistake it all happened when I talk to him, he said he missed me so should I ghost him or how sir I need to advice please
Hey brad my ex and I broke a while back about 5 months ago she has this new guy in her life but we still talk daily she even called me last night and reminiscing on the good times we had and spend with each other however he told her to stop talking to me but she still do what does all of this means I know for sure she isn't confused anymore but I wish I knew what was going on in her head does she want me back does she still have feelings for me I don't know but one thing for sure I know is she still cares about me so i don't know if that's my shot in the long run
I hope I'm wrong but it looks like she wants to have her cake and eat it too, and you are being an option, which is really bad for you. Ironically if she cares about you, she will leave you alone and/or not string you along like that because she clearly has someone else and is her choice. It's up to you now to play your cards right though. Watch this first in case you missed it: ua-cam.com/video/35Pxw6ZuD_M/v-deo.html
Thanks very much for video
You're welcome! Hey, you never know who else can use some help, so if it’s not too much to ask and if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it!